Inner Bonding

Guilt and shame are emotions many people carry quietly, often without realizing why they feel so painful or persistent. In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul clarifies the essential difference between guilt and shame, and between their healthy and toxic forms. She explains how healthy guilt and shame help guide learning and change, while toxic guilt and shame are rooted in false beliefs about responsibility and self-worth. Gain practical insight into using guilt and shame as inner guidance rather than remaining trapped in self-judgment and repeated patterns. Tune in to the full episode of Understanding Guilt vs. Shame — Healthy vs. Toxic (and How to Heal). Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review! About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. You can learn Inner Bonding now by visiting her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or by emailing her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Dr. Margaret Paul & Dr. Erika Chopich, Co-Creators of Inner Bonding® Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Are you carrying the weight of shame from your past?  In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul addresses how to heal shame rooted in childhood disobedience, rebellion, or bullying, and why these behaviors are expressions of a wounded self rather than evidence of being a bad person. Drawing on the Inner Bonding® process, Dr. Paul explains how hurtful behavior often develops as a way to manage fear, pain, and powerlessness. She explores why feeling shame is actually a sign of conscience and emotional health, and how compassionate self-inquiry enables real healing. Explore the full episode of Healing Shame After Being a Bully or “Mean Child.” About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of twelve books, including “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by God? Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates Inner Bonding Workshops and Intensives, administers the Inner Bonding website, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. You can learn Inner Bonding now by visiting her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or by emailing her at margaret@innerbonding.com. Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/ Books: https://innerbonding.com/list-product/10/books.html Courses: https://innerbonding.com/show-page/159/home-study-courses.html Free Resources: https://innerbonding.com/show-page/160/free-help.html

What does it truly mean to take loving care of yourself without guilt? In this episode, Dr. Margaret Paul explores the profound difference between surface-level self-care and deep emotional self-responsibility. Moving beyond spa days and external fixes, she invites you into a compassionate understanding of emotional self-care—learning to listen inwardly, honor your feelings, and respond to your inner needs with love rather than judgment. Dr. Paul explains how tuning into your feelings allows you to recognize when you're abandoning yourself and how guilt, anxiety, depression, and shame often signal a call for deeper self-attunement. Through the lens of the Inner Bonding® process, she reveals why loving yourself is not selfish, but essential for healthy relationships, emotional fulfillment, and authentic connection with others. Listen to the full episode of How to Take Loving Care of Yourself Without Guilt. About Dr. Margaret Paul Dr. Margaret Paul, PhD, is a bestselling author, relationship expert, and the co-creator of the Inner Bonding® self-healing process. She is the author and co-author of 15 books, including “Lonely No More: The Astonishing Power of Inner Bonding”,  “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?”, “Healing Your Aloneness,” “Inner Bonding,” and "How to Become Strong Enough to Love.” Through her work, Dr. Paul teaches individuals and couples how to take responsibility for their feelings, heal anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges, and develop a deep, loving connection with themselves and their spiritual guidance. She facilitates the Inner Bonding Mastercircle  and Intensives, and works to make the Inner Bonding® process available worldwide through her books, her powerful 30-Day courses, and through the SelfQuest® online self-healing program. You can learn Inner Bonding now by visiting her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course at https://innerbondinghub.com/7-lessons/ or by emailing her at margaret@innerbonding.com.   Connect with Dr. Margaret Paul: Website: https://innerbonding.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/innerbonding1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margaretpaul/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/innerbonding Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ideas/inner-bonding-margaret-paul/923777849815/

Do you experience intense anxiety in social situations? Discover the root cause and how to heal it.

Do you know the difference between fear coming from your own thoughts and when is it coming from real and present danger? Learn to distinguish what fear you can trust and what fear you can't trust. 

Are you waiting for someone to rescue you? Wait no longer for someone else. Instead, learn to become the loving adult that your inner child has been waiting for.

Discover the underlying cause of the cycle of losing and gaining, and what you can do to permanently lose weight. 

Developing self-worth is an inside job – not something someone else's approval can give to you. Others love can help you, but not until you are also loving yourself.

Discover the profound healing that occurs when you learn how to heal the false beliefs of your wounded self and reconnect with your inner child – your true soul self. 

Is true partnership with a beloved important to you? This episode will clarify what erodes partnership and what creates it.

Discover how to take loving care of yourself while caring for a friend, partner, or family member who is ill or emotionally dysregulated.

Every day I hear clients say to me, “I am not good enough." This is core shame. Learn how shame can be a way of attempting to have control over others and God.

Underlying all addictive behavior is the intent to avoid painful feelings. Addictions are a major form a self-abandonment, leading to the aloneness and emptiness that often underlie addictive behavior. Practicing Inner Bonding heals addictions.

No one likes our wounded self, and we don't like others' wounded self, so when we allow our wounded self to be in charge in our relationships, we are not compatible with anyone.

Our society is more violent than ever. It's time to understand where violence comes from and what we can each do about it.

Abandonment wounds from childhood abuse, or from being left or ignored, or from being bullied, ridiculed or teased, can be healed within a relationship. 

Do you trust your intuition and your higher guidance? Learning to trust yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself, and this podcast will help you learn to do this.

Our feelings are a powerful source of inner guidance, of intuition, of inner knowing. This is why Step One of Inner Bonding is learning to be present in your body with your feelings.

Prayer is a powerful way of staying centered and connected with yourself and your guidance. Discover the many ways there are to pray and meditate that can being you the fullness of peace, joy, and love. 

Are you an authoritarian or permissive parent? Are you overtly or covertly trying control your children. Discover the false beliefs that lead to trying to control your children, what the consequences are, and how else to parent. 

Dr. Margaret Paul explains that true health and longevity depend on three pillars: eating an organic, ancestral diet, enjoying regular movement, and managing stress through practices like Inner Bonding, which fosters emotional self-care and loving action. By combining these, she remains healthy and vibrant into her eighties, and encourages gradual, enjoyable lifestyle changes and self-kindness to support lasting vitality.

What do you do when you feel powerless over others and events? Do you avoid the feeling with various self-abandoning behaviors, or do you open to learning about what's loving to you when you feel helpless over a person or situation?

If you don't know who you are as a soul, then you are likely identifying yourself as your wounded self, and you are not your wounded self. Learn how to know your own true self and validate your goodness. 

Is the fear of making a mistake or being wrong limiting you and causing your stress?  Discover how to heal a fear of making mistakes.

Do you find yourself looking for a process or modality that will heal you? Healing is an active internal process, not a passive external process, as you will see in this podcast.

In this podcast, I share the two vital choices I made many years ago that completely changed my life, as well as healed me from serious physical illness.

Knowing who you are as a soul changes everything in your life. If everyone knew they are the light, our planet would be loving and peaceful.

Is your past defining your present and your future? Are your false beliefs that you absorbed as you were growing up determining your current feelings and behavior?

What do you do in the face of challenge and uncertainty? Do you get stuck in fear or are you able to see it as an opportunity for growth? We don't have control over the challenges that life throws us, but we do have total control over how we deal with them. 

The word "control" can be confusing. When is it beneficial to control and when is it harmful? How do you try to control in your relationships? Communication problems, lack of intimacy, and sexual problems are often the result of controlling behavior. 

Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? Do you tend to feel trapped in relationships and end up shutting down and withdrawing? Do you want to share love, but find yourself isolating or pulling away or pushing others away? 

Are you a woman who rarely or never thinks about sex? Have you believed that something was wrong with you? Do you love your partner, but sex is missing from your relationship? Discover a common underlying cause of a lack of sexuality in long-term relationships. 

Do you have problems having truly connected friendships? Do you wonder why others have friends and you don't? Learn the secret to creating deep and lasting friendships.

All feelings have vital information for us. Instead of avoiding your feelings with various addictions, why not learn about about the very important information your feelings are telling you?

Do you spend most of your time judging and criticizing yourself and others, or do you focus on uplifting yourself and others? You might be amazed at what wonderfully positive things occur when you focus on uplifting yourself and others.

Discover when it is loving and appropriate to apologize and when apologizing is a form of control. Discover the difference between the guilt that can lead to a controlling apology, and the remorse that can lead to a genuine heart-felt apology and to true change.  

When others are mean or rejecting, do you tend to take their behavior personally? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling? 

Are you having a hard time finding a loving and connected relationship? Are you ready to heal the blocks that may be in the way of attracting your beloved? Discover the essential ingredient to attracting your beloved and creating a loving relationship. 

Are you ready to discover the pathway to happiness? We are a pleasure seeking society, yet this is not leading to happiness. Discover the secrets to achieving the deep and abiding happiness that we all seek. 

Are you jealous and fearful that your partner will find someone he or she finds more attractive, more lovable, more worthy than you? You can heal jealousy! 

Infidelity does not need to lead to the end of a relationship. Discover the deeper issues behind most infidelity, and how to heal yourself and your relationship from infidelity. 

Emotional integrity is being willing to be honest, empathic, and compassion with yourself and others. Are you living in integrity with yourself and others? Are you living in truth with yourself and others? Do you have the courage to be honest with yourself and others even when it's hard? 

Learning to be a loving adult to your inner child is one of the most life-changing choices you can make in your life.

Do you find yourself resistant to learning how to be a loving adult? Discover the false beliefs that might be limiting your freedom, causing emotional dependency rather than physical and emotional freedom.

Are you mystified about how to create meaningful emotional connection with others? Do you yearn to have a deep and connected relationship with loved ones, but this connection is eluding you? Do you often feel disconnected from your partner? Discover what creates this disconnection and how to connect. 

Our health care system in the US is facing a crisis situation with the shortage of competent doctors and the problems created by corporate medicine. It's time to learn to be a strong advocate for your own health and wellbeing.

During this very stressful time on our planet, learning how to lovingly manage stress and being in more peace is a must for both our mental and physical health.

We often hear about the importance of compassion for others, but what about compassion for yourself? Do you know what expressing love to yourself REALLY means? Is there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? 

Do you want emotional connection but can't seem to create it in your relationships? Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person? 

Have you wondered why you may be having a hard time loving and connecting with others? Discover what it takes to create a deep level of love, safety, and connection in your relationships. 

Do you believe that because you may have already done a lot of healing work, your relationship should be easier? Can a relationship be saved or improved if one partner doesn't want to work on it?