Jagged Little Feels

Christy & Tay wrap up "Season 1" of Jagged Little Feels with a heartfelt episode full of LOL's. They discuss the valuable difference between quitting and resignation, & the importance of being honest with yourself and others about how you're feeling. It's crucial to keep your cup full, Jagged Little Feelers! This is not a goodbye, but a 'see you later'! We are so grateful for every listener, and the incredible love and support we've received throughout this journey. We will see you soon! xoxo 

It really is all mental health, y'all! Sometimes you need a solo pscilocybin trip and sometimes you need a wholesome weekend with your family. Where do you fit in?! 

You love 'em, we love 'em-- it's another mental health check in with ya girls Christy and Tay! Tune in as we get candid about where exactly we stand today in our mental health journey.

This week the girls answer a few questions submitted by listeners. Covered are topics surrounding growing out of a relationship during your self-actualization journey, finding fulfillment in life, keeping up with societal expectations in the music industry, and manifesting abundance!

This week Christy & Tay discuss the concept of boundaries: How to recognize when they've been crossed, what it means to set them, and the importance of maintaining them in order to live your best life. Boundaries: your mental health depends on them!

Christy & Tay interview musician Kimberly Perry on music, her own mental health journey, and what's on the horizon for 2021.

Christy and Tay talk about healing their relationships with food, disordered eating, and learning to listen/love their bodies. 

This week, Christy and Tay bring you a relaxed fit, minisode to get listeners back up to speed with what's been going on this month. Ryan has decided to part ways with the podcast and the girls wish her nothing but the best in her future endeavors.. They explain in this episode, where they've been and what their plans are going forward as a duo. Long live JLF! xo

Happy New Year! The girls are back from a short holiday break and are recapping their roses and thorns of 2020. They discuss their personal resolutions for the new year, and somehow there's always time to address Tay's dating life. No stone left unturned this week for the first episode of 2021! xo

This week's BONUS Christmas episode is a 'Ryan Takeover' with her good friend, coworker and recently-public-as-a-Trans woman, baby girl Ellory Lien! They recount Ellory's journey from the beginning. Starting with her confusing childhood, all the way to her recent empowerment. Ellory explains her thought processes, mental tribulations, fears, body changes through hormone therapy, surgery-aftermath, dating currently, and how to continuously deal with the stigma while living in a conservative state. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING AND MERRY XMAS!

As the holidays are approaching, it's "hello darkness my old friend" with the seasonal depression and this year's whole vibe has many feeling extra anxious. Additionally, so many are dealing with the undeniable grief of having lost so much in 2020. Christy & Tay discuss the grieving process and how to navigate this season with awareness. Also- can we normalize NOT grinding every damn day of the week? Let do that. 

It's the big 30th episode and your girls discuss everything Law of Attraction--- Positivity, begetting positivity, and being worthy NOW. What is the Law of Attraction? How can we practice it? & What's required of us all before the universe is going to bring forth that thing we desire. Turns out it's more involved than one might think but, don't panic- we got this! 

This week we're navigating some new and challenging circumstances, and you know your girls aim to keep it real.. So JLF has brought you another Mental Health Check-In Episode. One thing about us, we're going to be honest; Honest about where we're at mentally and emotionally, & honest about what we're going through, as we're going through it. Let's normalize doing so, shall we? 

This week the girls asked their listeners to choose between a mental health check-in and a conversation surrounding the controversial and sensitive subject of abortion... By a landslide- abortion was chosen. Consider this your trigger warning: This topic is heavy, and for good reason. JLF is here to fulfill their commitment in normalizing & destigmatizing it. Don't be intimidated- there is much to be gained from sharing our stories. Also up for discussion: Contraceptives. (This will be the part where we LOL & lighten the mood) Join us for this tough but necessary talk!

Addiction is f*ckng tough. Almost every one of us has loved someone struggling with addiction. This week, the girls are talking the hard truths about addicts & what it's like being in relationship with them- from every angle; How you can show up for your loved one without self-abandoning & How you can honor their process while also honoring your values. There's no one right path- but with love and compassion, healing can be achieved. This episode aims to normalize the battle with the beast we all know too well. It takes a village, & We're all really in this one together. 

It's Non-Attachment this week, sweetie! The girls are back to talk about what it means to have those jagged, unhealthy little attachments to people, things, and most commonly- attachment to outcomes!! How do you recognize when the attachment has gone left? How do you create/maintain personal peace & autonomy? It's not always easy but the struggle is mutual. The girls discuss what it means to show up authentically and how to really live in your own truth. It's an uphill battle but we out here climbing ok! Let's normalize this convo & keep it going, babies! 

The girls open the conversation on dirty little secrets, our very own intrusive thoughts. The dark, morbid and sometimes violent things that cross our mind. Some of them shake us so much, we wonder how and why we just thought that. Most of time we tuck them tight away and never speak of them again. Everyone has had them, and this week the girls share some of their own dark thoughts, as well as how to manage them and when to seek help.  PPD HOTLINE 866-260-7224

We are in it, y'all. As if election season in previous years wasn't trying enough on our mental, this election season is the icing on top of the smushed cake that is 2020. Listen as we talk about navigating politics with loved ones and peers who disagree, and ways that you can cope, survive and stay sane in a world that seems set on the great divide. When emotions have been wrapped up into political opinions and identity, where is the middle ground?  Yes, we talk about the taxes. Yup, we dive into Netflix's scary documentary on the Algorithm and how we aren't even cognizant of the power it holds over our minds. Lastly, we cover some basic strategies for de-escalating any argument that will inevitably be helpful to any/every person in the months to come. 

This week your girls burn the midnight oil.. talking about the shit show that is 2020 and how the shame spiral has got to stop, little feelers! Shame cannot survive empathy, and in a day and age where shame is still believed to be an affective tool for keeping people in line- the only thing that can save us now is compassion for one another. Understanding the difference between shame & guilt... deciphering shame from accountability... these are the tools we need in our belts as cancel culture reigns supreme & fear itself has caused even those we love to become full-on Karens. It's called shame resilience, sweetie!! Let's normalize it. 

This week its just Tay & Christy- So the girls decide to have a little "Phone a Friend" episode & check in with a few individuals you may know; Asking them to share one thing they're doing for self-care today. Big thanks to DJ Sober, Abraham Alexander, & Taylor Madison for their valuable time and insight. The concept of "pivoting" is discussed in response to wtf anyone's supposed to be doing right now.. and the ladies share some recent developments and ideas regarding the community and how they plan to navigate through life going forward.

This week, the girls circle back to the basics: good old-fashioned depression and anxiety. Most of us have experienced it, are experiencing it now, or will eventually... and guess what? That's not only okay.. but it's completely normal. What keeps so many from believing this to be true, is a lifetime of conditioning that we're all here to undo- together. Tell your ego to chill for a sec and join us in normalizing and destigmatizing this conversation. We'll discuss grounding techniques and share personal testimonies that just might help you navigate your own jagged little feels. 

My how the turns have tabled! Its Part 2 of The Friend-Zone Episode and you're in for a real, tell-all treat. This week the girls invite Corks in Cowtown's leading man, Barton Fluker, to share with us the male perspective!! After the chambongs... it was on, poppin.. and straight to business! & by business we mean Barton's big CLAP BACK moment! Grab your popcorn, Jagged Little Feelers, this one gets spicy and yet.. so insightful! 

It's called the friend-zone, sweetie! And like it or not, we've all run into it a time or two... okay, or ten.. !! The girls take a deep dive into the female perspective of the friend-zone and where they've encountered it most recently. They discuss its possible origin, its jagged little discomforts, and what kind of behavior can be identified with the classification. We lay it on thick.. but hear us out & rest assured, male-listeners, we have a special representative coming to speak on your behalf next week for a special "Part 2" of the Friend-Zone Episode! 

This week the girls dive into Tay's crazy life story and the history with her own biological father. She discusses her relationship with the dad that raised her as his own and breaks down how the dynamic between the two has translated into her adulthood. We've all got a story.. (some more wild than others) but the more we can learn about the people we came from- the more we can learn about ourselves. 

The girls get together this week remotely and unpack each of their personal stories with their Dad's/Father figures. They discuss how fatherlessness is the most universal wound, how this manifests into adulthood, how the idea of "Daddy Issues" does not necessarily equate to promiscuity alone, and having empathy, because in reality, all parents are just "winging it."

Yup, we are STILL having the conversation. And rightfully so. The girls get together this week and talk about uncomfortable conversations they've had recently, and where they've slipped up. Tay and Ry dig into how white people are conditioned to turn blind eyes towards white fragility amongst friends and family, and the importance of learning how to disagree with people you can't just cut out of your life. Christy expands upon the importance of staying home and what the implications are if you're caught prioritizing a check over public safety in the music community. 

Tay and Ry kick off this week's episode with different modalities of connecting to Source, Creator, God. They almost accurately cited the bible twice so... things get pretty deep. As always, please don't @ them. They speak to opening up your mind, embracing your spiritual gifts, and trying not to "put God in a box". Christy hops on the line to discuss COVID conspiracies and of course, THE ENTANGLEMENT. Find Ryan's Tarot Reader @snowyrodeo on INSTA. 

This week Tay and Ry call Astrologer, Intuitive Healer, Tarot Reader, and Academia, Britten Larue. We talk about how Astrologers have predicting 2020 for years. And she explains how Astrology is an invitation into the energy at play in The Universe, how accepting this invitation is the highest call to yourself, and how the universe always rewards you if you do so. FInd her on Instagram @BrittenLarue and stream her own podcast Moon To Moon on all platforms.

The girls dive into one of our fav topics this week, GASLIGHTING. We've all done it, and we have all had it done to us. Here's what gaslighting looks like in relation to race and your personal relationships with your partner, boss, family, and friends. Enjoy!  Thank you to our Jagged Little Spills Patreon Members, the proceeds for the next three months are being donated to The George Floyd Memorial fund. Thank you for your contribution! 

This week JLF invites friend, mentor, and Dallas artist: Keite Young of Medicine Man Revival to address the current issues of systemic racism and the #BlackLivesMatter movement, cuz duh. This is a conversation that needs to be had.. if we've ever seen one. Join us! All Proceeds for the Jagged Little Spills Patreon will go to the George Floyd Memorial Fund and Bail Bond Funds in DFW for the next 3 months. To our members, thank you for your donations! Want to help? Here's how.

It's Episode 10 and your girls are popping bottles! This week they talk dating during quarantine as well as their post-quarantine dating predictions. They discuss "accepting arrows", and the do's & don'ts of shooting your shot at the grocery store. There's a new app that determines whether you're healthy enough to leave the house and by the end of this episode, the champagne might have put the girls in the red zone, lol. Find out who is trading pies on the low and who's showing up unannounced to each other's dates this week.

The girls get together this week to discuss one of the most jagged little feels; body dysmorphia and appearance anxiety in women and men alike. They speak to the do's and don'ts of giving a compliment, how plastic surgery doesn't always mean insecurity, champagne problems are still problems, and the surprising effects of binge-watching your favorite shows.

Move aside party-drugs, this week we are delving into what a world would look like if people used substances with intent. The girls interview Gray Ross and his personal experience with Eastern Medicine methods. We discuss his ketamine therapy in LA, coming out to his family, and using prescriptions with the "Batch Tasking" method. He speaks to his month long spiritual journey led by a Shaman in Baja, and how psychedelics and The Spirit Molecule (DMT) can help alleviate past trauma, anxiety, depression, and break chemical addictions when done in safe settings with intention and a professional guide. 

The girls take a "mental health day" to catch up and check-in with each other. They discuss why women fake orgasms, losing their virginity, and take turns roasting each other.  FREE THERAPY PLUG: UT Southwestern: Psychology Program Therapy for $20/session (Pricing may vary!)  

With Christy out for the week Ryan and Taylor sit down with Caroline Kraddick and discuss surviving social media and Validation Culture in a world full of fashion bloggers. She speaks how her "Eat, Pray, Love" journey for entering her thirties didn't quite go as planned, how online dating during COVID-19, her own journey with therapy, and the importance of being vulnerable and un-curated on her social media platforms. Listen to Caroline Kraddick's NEW EP "STRONGER" debuting on all streaming platforms Friday May 1st, 2020! 

With Christy Ray out this week, Ryan & Taylor sit down with Cameron McCloud of Cure for Paranoia, where he speaks to his own diagnoses and what navigating those has looked like for him in years past. We discuss why he went sober for two years and what troubleshooting one's identity looks like in the streets of Deep Ellum. The girls ask questions about living in a household of creatives during quarantine, and what Cam is doing to survive financially and emotionally during these times.  Check out music from Cure For Paranoia on all streaming platforms. Join them every Friday for live-streamed "Couchella" performances on the Cure For Paranoia Facebook Page! New EP "BAMN" Available for private link on Souncloud! To receive private link, donate to: $CureForParanoia on CashApp or @cureforparanoia on Venmo!  

The girls discuss Post-Partum Depression, how no mother is safe from it, the do's and don'ts of talking to pregnant ladies, and eating your own placenta. 

This week the girls are back, two wine glasses deep, discussing Attachment Types. The Anxious, The Secure, and The Avoidant. Why sometimes two good people are bad for each other and we don't know how or why. How you can decipher yours and those around you and use it to your benefit. This will change the way you approach relationships with your family, friends, and people that you date.    

You guys asked, the girls did it. The taboo topic of suicide and unpacking everything that goes with it. Speaking to personal experiences of loved ones, and how we can possibly get better as a society if we all weren't so scared to open the conversation.  Your Hosts: Taylor Nicks, Ryan Nicolaidis, & Christy Ray Connect With Us!  IG: @jaggedlittlefeels Email: jaggedlittlefeels@gmail.com Web: www.jaggedlittlefeels.com Want to donate to the Podcast? Find us on CashApp! We appreciate your support! $jaggedlittlefeels  Episode Notes: Thank you to our Sponsors this week! Jason Burt aka Electrophunck, Hayden Doerr, & Emily Falk "Don't Sleep On Mental Health" with Christy New York Governor Cuomo has called on any/all licensed therapists to band together in offering therapy to New York citizens struggling with mental wellness during the epidemic. We love seeing officials take initiative for mental health on a state level! New York citizens can call 1-844-863-9314 to speak to a licensed mental health professional during crisis and/or time of need. Maintaining Routines/ Self-Care During Quarantine: Stay Connected- Maintain sense of community even while social-distancing via FaceTime, Zoom, etc. Try to keep a schedule that works for you Get outside! Get your Vitamin D! (& wear sunscreen!) Practicing Gratitude every day; Wake up and find at least one thing you're grateful for. Don't beat yourself up! Give yourself some grace. Pro-Tip: When you observe a negative thought or critical self-talk: Try responding by saying the word "Change" out-loud. This will help interrupt the destructive pattern we all subconsciously get stuck in. Tea Time With Tay: Transparency about Self-Realization Taking responsibility & owning-up to mistakes This is a safe space for these things! Pro-Tip: We all need therapy!!  National Suicide Prevention Line 1-800-273-8255 or Text TALK to 741741 for free counseling  The line provides free confidential support 24/7 including non english speakers. A skilled trained professional will answer. Someone that is trained in active listening, and has been assessed as having a calming and non-judgemental qualities. They answer and will not start off by asking a series of questions. You can start the call however you would like. The entire goal is to help you feel supported and safe. Not to get you in trouble or necessarily rescue you. Even in high risk situations crisis workers will do everything they can to work with the caller and come up with a safety plan first without intervention. If you think someone you know is having a suicidal crisis, you might not know how to reach out to them. You may fear saying the wrong thing. You may also call this hotline for advice for this. They find simple ways to help you be a system of support for your friend or family member. University of Indiana Bloomington Case Study Toxic Masculinity as it relates to Males Suicide: Men are 4 times more likely than women to commit suicide. The Indiana University Bloomington did 78 studies with over 20,000 participants. The team concluded that it “It supports and confirms research done in the last 60 years that people who conform to masculinity have poor mental health.” The truth behind this research is teaching our children to “man up” is tearing people down and we have incorporated this as healthy practice. The traits that were most prevalent for an unhealthy mental state were “Winning, emotional control, risk-taking, violence, dominance, playboy, self-reliance, power over women, and disdain for homosexuals.” The top three that stood out more than the rest were in regards to frail mental health were “Sexual promiscuity, self-reliance and power of women.” This study also showed that in men, mental illness is more easily masked. It’s been shown for decades that women are more apt to recognize illness of any sort and get help. The studies concluded that women aren’t any healthier but that some men just repress it. Suicide in Teens/ Role of Social Media Comparison is the thief of joy. Reducing social media time is helpful in mitigating chronic depression Free Help In Dallas/Greater DFW Area: Foundation 45: A Non-Profit foundation offering FREE THERAPY & support groups several times a week that focus on depression, suicide, anxiety, mental health, & chemical dependency. Supervised by licensed counselors who are acquainted with the creative arts community. All meetings are currently being held online until further notice, and are being held at their normal times: Sunday 2PM, Monday 7PM, Thursday 7PM Download the App for your phone or Desktop to join a meeting! Adults 18+ are invited to share their struggles & successes with mental health issues & suicide.   Backline.care Backline Mission: To connect music industry professionals and their family members with a trusted network of mental health and wellness providers In 2019 Backline was created to provide easy access to preventative car3e and crisis management services for the music community In response to COVID-19: Come Together Crisis Initiative- Virtual Mental Health & Wellness support for the music industry: Support Groups, Breathwork, Live Yoga (All Levels), & Meditation If in Crisis: Please Text "TWLOHA" to 741741 to speak w/ a compassionate, trained crisis counselor on their crisis text line: FREE & Available 24/7 If in UK or Canada, Text "TWLOHA" to 686868 Eckhart Tolle on Suicide- how it relates to his book "A New Earth": his self-realization on surrendering to the present moment. "Who you are cannot be defined through thinking or mental labels or definitions. It is the very sense of being, or presence, that is there when you become conscious of the present moment. In essence, you and what we call the present moment are, at the deepest level, one." Inhale/Exhale with Ryan What are you inhaling/exhaling this week? Guided Meditation: Take 2 minutes to rest & be fully present with us! 

The girls introduce themselves and their Jagged Little Feels/ Mental Health Issues. Welcome, we are here to talk about the uncomfortable.  Your Hosts: Taylor Nicks Ryan Nicolaidis Christy Ray Connect With Us!  IG: @jaggedlittlefeels Email: jaggedlittlefeels@gmail.com Web: www.jaggedlittlefeels.com