Message to My Kids

We're back - from being in action for the last ten months running retreats. In this motivational speech, we'll explore whether embracing darkness is really worth the hype for your personal development and self-improvement goals. Discover if facing your fears and challenges head-on can lead to true growth and success! Where in your world can you embrace the darkness you are facing and lean in? Be sure to like and subscribe on YouTube as we have more content coming your way. Check out our new website www.weforgivetolive.com! 

Today Benjamin shares a heartfelt recounting of his personal journey through a difficult time which caused significant emotional strain. Faced with pressures in relationships, business failures, and deep-seated childhood trauma, he faces it all with genuine honesty and emotion. He emphasizes the constant struggle to save others when he himself was feeling helpless. The speaker's wife, an energy healer, helps him to confront his inner struggles, which uncovers a childhood pattern of repressed anger and feelings of self-loathing. The speaker also highlights his realization of the destructive pattern of trying to save others due to his own feelings of brokenness. By accepting his feelings and experiences, he notes the power of absolute acceptance and self-belief, and the importance of shared journeys in overcoming inner demons. He concludes by reiterating his mission to help others, not by saving them, but by walking side-by-side with them, providing unconditional love and acceptance. 00:06 Introduction 00:06 The Struggles of a Day 00:33 The Calling and the Pressure 01:58 The Impact on Personal Relationships 02:33 The Power of Faith and Hope 03:17 The Turning Point 05:41 The Realization and Uncovering of Darkness 06:39 The Childhood Memories and Emotional Struggles 10:33 The Impact of Emotions on Relationships 11:24 The Revelation and Acceptance 13:31 The Power of Connection and Support 18:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   "Don't Fight the Darkness Alone. Fight Together." 

Thanks for your patience—life's been a whirlwind.   Let me dive into a recent personal journey: completing my third Spartan Ultra at Killington Mountain.   It's been a wild ride, filled with challenges and lessons.   Three years ago, my coach asked what fitness challenge inspired me, and I chose the Spartan Ultra.   Little did I know, it would lead to a deep bond with my friend Franco, as we both supported our wives through breast cancer.   This year's race was intense—cramps, early knee pain, and a fellow racer not playing by the rules.   His behavior triggered me, but I realized it was a mirror reflecting areas where I lacked honor in my own life.   A powerful lesson in self-awareness.   The race continued with strategy changes, a unique downhill running technique, and finally catching up to Franco to finish together.   It marked the end of my obstacle course racing journey.   I'm retiring to focus on spiritual mountains and guiding others through challenges.   The takeaway? Every trigger is an opportunity for self-discovery.   Look within and ask, "What is this person showing me about myself?"   "It is a sin to judge anyone by his post" - Saint Augustine     _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman  

After some time away, we're back with exciting updates. Amid shifts in our Scendancy journey, we've witnessed incredible client transformations. Our approach to sharing our message has evolved, as discussed in this podcast.   A decade ago, Spartan races ignited my warrior spirit. They mirrored my personal growth journey, replacing quitting with resilience.   Overcoming obstacles fueled my confidence, leading to personal development. Fitness became my anchor, battling demons like alcoholism, and reshaping my mindset.   Then the Realization hit: I'm solely responsible for my life.   Blame vanished, empowering me to shape reality.   Takeaway: Embrace your inner warrior, shape your destiny, and expect revelations on your growth journey.   Ever felt stuck despite efforts? Anger won't break the cycle. Rise above negativity, choose action over blame. Free will is power; blaming robs it.    Embrace yourself, move forward, and change your relationship with life.   In relationships, I've seen cycles of struggle. Blaming hampers change. We control our lives more than we think. Shifted my coaching approach to impactful workshops, offering rapid transformation. Also supporting cancer-fighting couples with free seminars.   Take charge of your life. No retreat. No surrender. This is your Spartan law.   “God bestows more consideration on the purity of the intention with which our actions are performed than on the actions themselves.” - Saint Augustine   _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman  

Join me on this insightful episode of  "Message to My Kids the Podcast". In this special interview, I sit down with the remarkable couple, Steve and Kelly Leitch , who have navigated the complexities of blending families, maintaining strong connections, and nurturing their faith.   Steve and Kelly, married for nine years, share their unique journey of bringing together a blended family with six children.   Through the highs and challenges, they've cultivated a powerful connection that revolves around open conversations, understanding each other's love languages, and embracing their imperfections.   Discover the heartwarming traditions that Steve and Kelly have incorporated into their family life, from regular family meals to engaging in meaningful activities that foster deep connections. They delve into their strategies for addressing conflicts, stepping out of comfort zones, and embracing vulnerability in order to strengthen their relationship.   In this episode, you'll also hear about Steve's personal journey in endurance swimming and how it mirrors his approach to life and relationships. Kelly shares her perspective on their life together and how they support each other's growth.   Tune in to gain valuable insights into building lasting connections, facing challenges with faith, and prioritizing growth in your relationships. Whether you're part of a blended family or simply seeking inspiration for your own journey, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom and experiences to apply to your own life.   Stay connected, embrace imperfections, and remember that life's journey is a path of awakening.   “There is no love without hope, no hope without love, and neither love nor hope without faith.” — Saint Augustine     _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman    

Embarking on this podcast episode feels like a heart-to-heart conversation, where I hope my words resonate with you on a personal level.   From the surprising vantage point of Sin City, I'm your Reverend pondering the deeper meaning of this vibrant desert oasis. It's as if every dazzling light and meticulously crafted attraction holds a secret message for us.   Beneath the surface allure of wealth, intimacy, and excitement, there lies a common yearning – a search for fulfillment and purpose. Many of us feel trapped in the darkness, concealing our struggles behind masks of having it all together. But here's the revelation: that darkness isn't our core. There's a light within us, a spark that craves something more meaningful.   This journey to embrace our true selves demands courage. It's about silencing the noise, tuning into the whispers of our inner voice, and taking that bold leap of faith.   Nature holds the key – go, sit, listen.   I'm no preacher; I'm a fellow traveler sharing insights from the heart.   Embrace that first step, and you're on your way to discovering the life you dream of, the connection you crave, and the fulfillment you deserve.   “He who has God has everything; he who has everything but God has nothing.” — Saint Augustine   _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman    

I've been going through a rough patch lately, feeling under the weather and all. But enough about that – today, let's talk about something we've all faced: the feeling of not being good enough.     I've been there – the moments when doubt creeps in and we compare ourselves to others. Sometimes we put on a confident facade, hiding our insecurities. Other times, we let those insecurities keep us isolated, shying away from connections.     But here's the real deal: we don't have to stay in this cycle. I've been through it, and I've discovered that tapping into faith, spirituality, or a deeper purpose can transform everything. It's about shedding the masks, embracing authenticity, and finding confidence from within.     Sure, it's not an instant fix, and it takes stepping out of your comfort zones. But the journey is worth it.    Whether you decide to reach out or not, remember you're not alone in this struggle.    You have the power to change the narrative and live authentically. Stay connected, and let's journey together.   "Desire only God, and your heart will be satisfied." - Saint Augustine     _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman

These past months, we've been diving into powerful concepts for couples – almost like a spiritual armor that enriches relationships.   It's all about embodying roles: Men holding a shield of unconditional love, a sanctuary of unwavering support in storms of emotion. This shield empowers partners to share and connect, finding solace in the embrace of love's invincibility.   On the other side, women wield a reflective sword, intuitively mirroring their partners' hearts with a strength cultivated through spiritual growth.   Yet, this journey isn't always straightforward.   Sometimes, we're not quite ready to grasp these roles. But here's the thing: there's a path towards growth and connection.   If you're intrigued by these ideas and ready to explore, reach out – our podcast is just the beginning of an exciting conversation.   Let's dive into this journey together, discovering the transformative power of embodying love and reflection.   Thanks for joining me – can't wait to connect!   "The measure of love is to love without measuring." - Saint Augustine     _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman

In today's episode, I wanted to share something personal. The recent podcast episodes have been shorter due to me soaking up the summer moments, just like you.   Let's talk about faith. This morning, thoughts about faith occupied my mind. Faith is believing in the unseen, embracing the promise that something remarkable awaits us. It's standing strong in uncertainty.   Imagine us chatting about the flip side of faith. If faith is trust, then doubt and darkness are its opposites. Here's the thing: faith is universal. It fuels our anticipation for the yet-to-come. It's the hope that lights up when we dream. But where we direct our faith matters. Choosing light means growth and unity, while unknowingly feeding negativity sows doubt.   Think about it: Where's your faith going?   It's an active force, not just an idea. Your choice shapes your journey. As you go about your day, ask:   Where does my faith belong?  To dreams, love, and growth? Or to fear, scarcity, and negativity?   "God does not expect us to submit our faith to him without reason, but the very limits of our reason make faith a necessity." - Saint Augustine.   _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman    

"Mom handles the kids."   "Mom handles their emotional outbursts"   "Mom deals with them when they're being little sh!ts"   "Go talk to your mother if you're upset."   "Go sit in your room until you calm the f#$% down."   "I can't handle you right now - leave me alone."   "I can't stand how you're acting right now."   "I don't deal with the kids - that's her job."   "I'm going to lose my f@$%ing mind right now!"   "You're so emotional - why are you so emotional all the time??"   All of these things I've said at one point in my journey as a father. This is not an exhaustive list. This is not a badge of honor either, night after night of feeling guilty that I'm not creating the relationship I want with my children. With my sons, or my daughters.   And while it might feel good to throw a pity party for yourself in your own head, continuing the way it's always been done, just because, is a path for consistent failure.   You might ignore this post - shrug it off - say "you're a good dad" - say "you're good enough" - say "I don't need someone to tell me how to be a good dad" - say - I know you will, I've done it too.   PRIDE - holds you back from facing the dark secret you harbor in your thoughts late at night…   The TRUTH.   “I've failed as a father.”   “I'm a fucking terrible Dad.”   “I hate seeing the pain in her eyes when I scream at her and I know I shouldn't be.”    “I've created this monster, she sits in her room and doesn't ever come out.”   “This is NOT WHAT I WANT.”    “I'm the BIGGEST F@#$ING FRAUD on the planet.” “I put on this show like I'm a great dad, because inside I know I'm not.”    I've said all these things to myself in my own mind  also on my journey as a father. Hell, even when I still continue to f@#% it all up I find myself saying it to myself.    But the TRUTH listed above about the things we say to ourselves alone, is not the TRUTH.    It is the LIE the DARKNESS wants us to believe.    Because as LONG AS WE BELIEVE we're not a good father…   (listen to the episode for the rest)   _REV. https://linktr.ee/storminreverendnorman

When will you cease using your children as tools of emotional warfare?   It's incredible how many parents completely step over this. You know, life's full of twists and turns, and I've found some pretty eye-opening insights I want to share with you, and if you're unaware of these things, then take heed, especially if you sit inside a divided Kingdom at home right now.   Hard to believe, but only a tiny fraction of people throughout history have escaped the rat race of conflict and struggle. It's a real mess, especially in relationships, and sadly, our kids bear the brunt of it. I say, let's break this cycle. Why do you continue to choose strife? Do you really want to condemn your family to the path your war is setting them on?   Well...this may be tough to read if you're the weaponizer, and if it triggers you then it's striking a chord somewhere, and hopefully, it cuts through the darkness, somewhere deep down inside of you is a kernal of love, choosing to weaponize your kids is choosing to breathe life into war over peace.   Want to hear more, then listen to today's episode, click the link in my bio to be directed to listen on your audio platform of choice.   And for the love of God and his Kingdom...peace be with you today. _Rev.     “God's love is unconditional. Be sure that yours is too!” — Saint Augustine    

In July of 2021, I found myself in a tough spot, feeling the weight of my challenges. Training for a Spartan race, I realized my stress levels were overwhelming. It was a wake-up call to confront the darkness within and make a change. So I embarked on a transformative journey, which I now call "God's challenge." I let go of escapes and embraced new habits. Now, we're launching this challenge with 18 people, offering a 90-day journey to deepen connections to ourselves and God—for free. The kingdom of heaven is within reach, but so is the kingdom of darkness. Join us to confront your challenges and discover the light within. It won't be easy, but the rewards are immeasurable. This is your chance to step into something extraordinary. Listen to the voice urging you to take this chance, and silence the voice of doubt. We'll fight the darkness within and heal the pain of the past. This is your call, your opportunity to join us on this life-changing experience. Click the link, follow your heart's call, and sign up for God's challenge. We believe in you and can't wait to see you on the other side.   "O Holy Spirit, descend plentifully into my heart. Enlighten the dark corners of this neglected dwelling and scatter there Thy cheerful beams." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so.  To sign up for God's Challenge, click this link https://go.scendancy.com/gods-challenge-intake-2 

I want to share something that has had a profound impact on my life over the past five years. It's all about persistence and perseverance—the two essential ingredients for reaching your goals. You see, most people tend to give up when things get tough.  If you truly want to create the life you desire, you have to put in the work. That means facing your inner demons, diving into the darkness, and accepting that it won't be an easy journey. Being a high performer, someone with discipline and structure, isn't for everyone. Most people choose to take the easy way out and settle for mediocrity. They'd rather spend their days on the couch watching football than pursue a life that ignites their passion and fulfills their dreams for their family. So, my friend, it's decision time. Will you settle for mediocrity or rise up and pursue your dreams? The choice is yours, and only you can make it. If you're ready to embark on this journey, reach out to me. Let's have a conversation and figure out the steps you need to take every day to overcome the pain and obstacles that are holding you back. Remember, you have the power to create the life you desire.   " God provides the wind, but man must raise the sails." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so  

Today, I want to share a personal story that revolves around a topic close to my heart: the pain of our past. It's about those lingering emotions and traumas we've buried deep inside, the ones we haven't fully faced or processed. When faced with challenging situations like heartbreak or traumatic events, our instinct is often to endure and push through. We seek support from our loved ones, coaches, counselors, or therapists. Yet, if we haven't truly released the pain and emotions tied to those experiences, they can hold us back from reaching our fullest potential. They become barriers preventing us from moving forward on our journey of growth and development. However, once we're in that darkness together, speaking more darkness won't serve us. It's time to illuminate our surroundings, to distinguish between light and dark, and to find our footing amidst the pain. Side by side, we work towards banishing the darkness, clearing the path for transformation. It's astonishing how quickly our lives change once we address the root of our pain and release the emotional weight we've carried. So here's the deal, my dear listeners. If you feel stuck in your relationships, be it with your spouse or with yourself, if you're yearning to reach the next level in life, now is the time to reach out to me. Together, we'll enter the arena and fight the darkness as a team. I'll equip you with the necessary tools, systems, processes, and mindset to transform your life completely. When you step into the ring with me, I am by your side, wholeheartedly invested in your progress. Whether it's strengthening your connection with your spouse, improving your parenting skills, or discovering your life's purpose, I'm here to guide you spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally.   "Father, I am seeking: I am hesitant and uncertain, but will you, O God, watch over each step of mine and guide me." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so  

Today, I want to share a message of hope and courage with you. No matter what daunting task or new venture we undertake, whether it's starting a business, pursuing dreams, or rebuilding relationships, we face challenges. But amidst the difficulties, we celebrate every small victory.  Undeniably, the road ahead is challenging and far from easy. Starting something new is never a simple task, and many people give up before taking the first step. Therefore, I want you to honor yourself just for having the courage to begin. Taking that initial step is often the hardest part. But once you do, everything feels fresh, interesting, and exciting. With each step, your momentum grows. Walking turns into jogging, jogging into running, and running into sprinting. Eventually, you find yourself participating in an obstacle course race, fueled by your determination. Stay committed to your vision, never give up, and never compromise your dreams. Always follow your heart. Celebrate every small victory along the way. And if you stumble, remember to pick yourself back up. When you reach your destination, take a moment to kneel and thank God for guiding and carrying you through the tough times. Thank yourself for never quitting on your soul and for fighting against the darkness that attempts to keep you small. Today, darkness has no place within you or your future. Refuse to succumb to doubt, insecurity, and fear. Embrace the light and tell the shadows to step aside.   "God loves each of us as if there were only one of us." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so  

Today, we want to address a trap that the $10 billion self-development industry has set for those on the path of self-improvement. It's time to bypass the cycle of self-limiting beliefs and embrace true transformation. In your quest for personal growth, you've probably encountered countless coaches, consultants, and trainers who promise to help you unearth and overcome your limiting beliefs. And while these resources can be valuable, we've noticed a crucial missing element in many of them that can save you valuable time on your journey. Throughout our own experiences spanning over a decade, we've learned that identifying limiting beliefs is only the first step. Merely convincing ourselves that we are "good enough" or "worthy" is not enough to break free from these beliefs and achieve lasting change. Here's the issue: even after investing in programs and implementing so-called belief overrides, we often find ourselves repeatedly triggered by the same old limiting beliefs. It's frustrating and disheartening. Shouldn't we have moved past these beliefs if we've done the work and know they're not true? The truth is, we've discovered a vital piece of the puzzle that is often overlooked: healing the underlying pain associated with these triggers. By delving into the root cause of our triggers, we can address and heal the wounds from our past. These wounds serve as the breeding ground for limiting beliefs, and until they are healed, the cycle will persist. Don't fall into the trap of stopping at identifying your limiting beliefs without addressing the pain that fuels them. By healing that pain, you'll experience true transformation. When you reach a point of deep healing, there's no need to rely on belief overrides because you'll simply know your inherent truth at your core. As the Oracle said in The Matrix, "You'll know it balls to bone." When you reach this level of self-awareness and healing, you won't need to seek acceptance externally because you'll understand that you are already accepted. Acceptance is your birthright, and you'll feel it in every fiber of your being. If you find yourself trapped in a cycle of oscillating between limiting self-beliefs and temporary overrides, don't worry. We're here to help you break free from this pattern once and for all. Reach out to us, message us, and let's connect. Together, we'll guide you towards lasting transformation that will shape the rest of your life.   "If we live good lives, the times are also good as we are such the times." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples, Men or Women Join our community here for free: forourkingdom.circle.so  

On today's episode Laura and I share a morning ritual we do together that helps us sustain our connection to each other. As You know, one of the keys to finding balance in life is discovering those moments of stillness amidst the chaos.  What I truly appreciate about the work we've done in our relationship is how Laura always holds up a mirror for me to see myself, even when I'm deeply immersed in my own experience. We're embarking on a new path together, following the calling that God has placed on our lives. It involves a lot of hard work and navigating through overwhelming feelings. Laura and I have developed a morning ritual that has become an essential part of our lives. Sometimes, it even extends into the evening, depending on how the day unfolds. This simple ritual, which only takes a minute, makes a tremendous difference. We encourage you to allocate one minute a day for this practice because everyone has at least that much time. So, my dear listeners, let's take the time to nurture our connections and find those moments of stillness amid the chaos. Together, we can create lives filled with light, love, and deep connection. Keep fighting for what you believe in, and remember that you are never alone on this journey.   "Wicked men obey from fear; good men from love." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

When I stop you and give you tidings of the future and say:   "Don't condemn your family tree."   You're probably not aware that is what you are doing...   and you're not just doing it to your immediate family, but your larger extended family—your brothers, sisters, their spouses, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents etc etc who make up your family tree.   This is something I see EVEN INSIDE MY OWN FAMILY TREE and it continues to bother me every single day.    I often don't understand why people have such a blatant disregard for the life experience of the  people on the other side of the condemnation...and I am especially baffled by family members, in the same tree and forest of trees do it as well.    To the point where the family members each would show a stranger on the street more care and comfort than their own family line who they treat with contempt and condemnation.   Want to come face to face with this for real instead of theoretically or conceptually?   Go sit in a graveyard and pretend you're dead in 20 minutes and write a letter to the family member your battling with, and watch what comes up.    The thing is....   When I work with people and help them uncover their struggles, I see a pattern. Deep-rooted pain and unresolved issues from the past keep resurfacing, causing conflicts within relationships. Over time, these unresolved pains can cause division and continue to greatly increase the distance within our extended families.    The truth is, much like you didn't get a choice in the color of the sky, or where you were born...   Family is family, and in my life, there's no bond stronger than that.   Now, maybe you're listening, and you have family members you're not connecting with. Perhaps there's an ongoing conflict that you've been sweeping under the rug for years. Well, let me tell you, it's time to address it. Because every day you delay facing those unresolved issues, you're allowing pain and darkness to seep into your own family tree.   Remember, tolerating darkness within your family means you're likely tolerating it elsewhere in your life too.   Our time on this Earth is limited, and we need to make the most of it.   Let's not leave behind a legacy of broken relationships and pain.   Instead, let's be the ones who bring light into our family, mend the fractures, and restore the love that should flow through our veins.   "It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start." - Mother Teresa   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today, I want to talk to you about discernment.  A few weeks ago, I touched upon this topic in one of our previous episodes, emphasizing the importance of spiritual guidance to distinguish truth from falsehood. Today, I'll take you on a journey, connecting the dots and offering you a breakthrough perspective on life. Let's talk about the power of emotional connection, which often happens through music. We all have those songs that deeply resonate with us, regardless of the genre. They touch our souls with their heartfelt lyrics and profound meaning. It's through these songs that we create connections based on shared emotions. However, we must be cautious when it comes to song lyrics. While they may seem to understand us, they can also trap us in darkness if we lack discernment. If we're in pain and believe we shouldn't take responsibility for our partner's actions, these lyrics might resonate, leading us to blame them entirely. But unfiltered exposure to such lyrics can shape our responses in unintended ways. An immature person lacking self-awareness might adopt a mindset that absolves them of blame and pushes their partner away. This mindset only deepens the divide in their relationship. It's crucial to exercise discernment and not let lyrics dictate our responses.   "Music, that's the science or the sense of proper modulation, is likewise given by God's generosity to mortals having rational souls in order to lead them to higher things." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Wow, it's been seven years since I met my beautiful wife, Laura and she will be joining me again today. I want to share with you a personal journey of self-awareness and growth that I've been on with my beautiful wife, Laura.  It all began with a realization that I had been chasing money, thinking it would bring me happiness and meaning. But I reached a point where I knew there had to be more to life than that. And I made a decision. I said, "I'm done. I'm done chasing money just for the sake of it. It feels empty and meaningless. I want to spend the next 42 years of my life doing what God has called us to do." Laura's battle with breast cancer further reinforced this new direction in our lives. It made us realize the importance of supporting couples and individuals who are facing similar challenges. Going through our own journey again, reliving those difficult moments, was emotionally challenging for both of us. But it also reminded us of the strength and resilience that Laura displayed during that time. It was a wake-up call for me to be more attentive and supportive. We have decided to document our journey and provide guidance to those who need it. Our focus will be on working with couples and individuals going through cancer, offering them hope and healing. We've experienced firsthand the darkness and loneliness that comes with this battle, not just for the patients but also for their families. That's why finding support is crucial.   "Bad times, hard times, this is what people keep saying; but let us live well, and times shall be good. We are the times: Such as we are, such are the times." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

The game we're playing is all about finding that equilibrium between light and dark. I've witnessed it happen to both men and women. We often talk about this eternal dance between the two, like the yin and yang symbol. It represents the constant ebb and flow, the dance we engage in daily with reality. This dance defines our human experience. We navigate through life, relationships, and ourselves, constantly shifting between light and dark. In today's world, being spiritual or expressing our beliefs can be challenging. There's a fear of being judged, labeled, or deemed crazy. People dismiss it as something made up, just figments of our imagination. And that fear has only contributed to our collective slumber. It's astonishing to realize how deeply humanity has been sedated over thousands of years. But here's the truth—I've come to understand that the journey from darkness to light is where transformation happens. It's in the darkness that our pain surfaces, wounds from the past that need healing. By facing and healing that pain, we create space for light to enter. And as we emerge from that dark forest, we step into the light feeling freer, more connected, and deeply in love.   "The entire life of a good Christian is in fact an exercise of Holy desire. You do not yet see what you long for, but the very act of desiring prepares you, so that when he comes, you may see and be utterly satisfied." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

I'm joined today by the love of my life, Laura. We've received so much amazing feedback from our previous episode together. It seems like you guys really resonated with our conversation. It's incredible how God is guiding us through this journey. Today, we want to dive into a topic that's prevalent in relationships: the interplay of light and darkness. We've been discussing this theme in recent episodes because it's such an important aspect of our work with couples. When darkness creeps into a relationship, it affects everything, from communication to parenting. In particular, we want to address a situation where a wife retreats from her husband. It's crucial for men to understand that this is not the time to become defensive. It might seem counterintuitive, but let's explore it further. In summary, retreating may give a false sense of protection, but it only exacerbates the issues and prevents us from experiencing true freedom and authentic connections. Remember, it's not about blame but about recognizing the patterns and working together to create a united, fulfilling relationship.   "Trials and tribulations offer us a chance to make reparation for our past, faults, and sins. On such occasions, the Lord comes to us like a physician to heal the wounds left by our sins. Tribulation is divine medicine." - Saint Augustine of Hippo   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today I talk about the power of unity and standing strong. These past few weeks have been eye-opening and incredibly interesting as I've witnessed the couples we've worked with navigate the challenges we've guided them through. From the very beginning, my wife and I made a decision that we wouldn't face these battles alone but together. We adopted a mantra of sorts: "We don't fight alone, we fight together. We don't go alone, we go together." When we stand united, our home is filled with light, and we can rise above any adversity. But if we choose to fight alone and disengage from our marriage, darkness creeps in, dividing our house and jeopardizing everything we hold dear. Each spouse blames the other for all their problems. The darkness that separates them prevents them from coming together in the light; instead, they remain divided. If anyone claims their life is all rainbows and butterflies, beware. Stepping into their world will reveal the shallowness beneath the surface. Without a deep connection to faith and spirituality, someone lacking faith will struggle to fight back the darkness that tears their family apart. This message is different; it's a declaration of war. I'm not suggesting we create more conflict, but we need to realize that the true war is not against our spouse. If you're listening to this and it resonates with you, consider this as a direct message from God. This is your moment, and if you let it slip away, it will be lost forever. Don't allow your family to be cursed by darkness, and don't let your spouse fight her battles alone. You must stand by her side. That's all I have for you today.   "It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels." - St. Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Don't Fight the Darkness Alone, Fight Together: Couples Join the FREE Facebook group here: https://bit.ly/Couples-Join-for-our-kingdom Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today I want to talk to you about something weighing heavily on my mind. Lately, there has been a noticeable shift in the intensity of the messages we share in public spaces, as well as within my coaching calls and personal life. This intensity stems from the realization of what truly happens within relationships. If only you could see it from my perspective, or better yet, experience it firsthand. It's absolutely chilling how dark forces work against love and unity within families. These forces are destructive and can tear apart the very foundation of a family tree. I know this all too well because I've experienced it multiple times in my own life until I finally became aware of it. It isolated me, pulled me away from my family, and made me retreat even from my beloved children. It's fascinating how this darkness manifests in our lives. Our inner struggles reflect in our external actions, and vice versa. The devil uses this paradox to deceive us. However, this couldn't be further from the truth, as God doesn't make us unlovable or unworthy. We are born into this world from a place of love, and that's who we are.    "My soul is like a house, small for you to enter, but I pray you to enlarge it. It is in ruins, but I ask you to remake it. It contains much that you will not be pleased to see: this I know and do not hide. But who is to rid it of these things? There is no one but you. " - Saint Augustine of Hippo   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today, I want to talk to you about something deeply personal and relatable: the journey of creating safe spaces within ourselves to let our inner struggles and emotions find expression. When I began my own path of self-development, I realized there were aspects of myself that needed attention. These were the parts that, if left unaddressed, would wreak havoc in my life. It wasn't about defeating or eradicating these aspects; it was about finding healthy boundaries and containers for them to exist and be understood. As men, we often embark on a journey to ignite the fire within us, to awaken our true selves. But let me tell you, it's not about suppressing our anger, denying our sadness, or magically fixing everything overnight. It's not about eradicating the darkness within our relationships or expecting life to become a constant parade of rainbows and unicorns. In reality, we often find ourselves trapped in environments that demand a facade of happiness and conformity. Everyone appears to have it together, wearing corporate clothes and plastering smiles on their faces. But deep down, we're all just putting on a show. It's exhausting. If you're listening to this podcast episode, it's time to consider creating your own safe container—a place where you can share what's truly going on within you. As a reverend, I'm committed to getting to the core of the matter, to uncovering the pain hidden beneath the surface. I dig deep beneath the superficial corporate facade that often dominates conversations. I've witnessed men drowning their sorrows in alcohol because they can't face their reality. They're trapped in darkness, and the key to their prison lies in simply speaking the truth about their lives.   "HOPE has two beautiful daughters:  their names are ANGER and COURAGE. Anger at the way things are and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today, I have my amazing wife, Laura Norman, joining me, and we're having a real conversation about life, love, and parenting. Opening up and sharing our experiences isn't easy for me, but I want to talk about something we touched on earlier—being the one who loves more in a relationship. Laura mentioned how it would be wonderful if our partners loved us just as intensely as we love them.  In her past relationships, she often felt like she was the one who loved more. In this episode, we express our desire for a deep connection and equal love from our partners, highlighting the profound impact it has on our happiness and sense of purpose. Our connection inspires us to reciprocate love and make every moment count.  We also discuss the detrimental effects of disconnection, leading to frustration and chaos in our relationship and affecting our children. We emphasize the importance of not going through life alone and the constant effort required to maintain a deep connection. We acknowledge the need to remain connected and reflective, repairing the relationship when conflicts arise. Being married to someone and desiring a deep connection requires constant effort. Nothing is set in stone, and we are only human. Sometimes we need to repair it multiple times a day, even within the same hour. But we can't give up. Choosing to be married means constantly restarting and working towards that connection we desire. For couples struggling in their relationships, you need to hear our story and understand that you can recreate a similar bond by learning from the systems and processes we have put in place over the years. It's about realizing that we can't do it alone and that we don't want to. We want to be together in every aspect of life—business, marriage, parenting—because we genuinely love and enjoy each other's company. Anyone can achieve this feeling; you just need to learn and implement the tools we have developed.   "In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." - Ephesians 5:28   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today I want to share something personal with you. We're diving deep into the challenges of marriage and how it can lead us down a difficult path. This week, our focus is on identifying the darkness within our relationships and recognizing the warning signs before it's too late. Many men, including myself in the past, tend to sleepwalk through their marriages. They're unaware that problems are brewing beneath the surface. I used to brush off my wife's emotions, thinking she was overreacting, and I'd find solace in distractions like video games, cigarettes, and beer. It didn't matter where we lived or what our circumstances were; I always found a way to escape. Being oblivious to the issues, I never imagined myself listening to a podcast like this. I used to blame my ex-wife for everything, believing she was the problem. I would call her crazy and use that as an excuse to disconnect and escape. It was a pattern of avoidance that ultimately pushed us apart. As a result, my wife stopped opening up to me about how she felt. She grew tired of always initiating conversations and trying to connect. If I wasn't careful, I would mistake the absence of arguments or problems as a sign that everything was fine. In reality, our relationship had deteriorated into a transactional, roommate-like existence, devoid of true connection. The purpose of this podcast is to prevent such situations from occurring. We aim to reach couples before they reach this point of no return. Whether you're a wife listening and your husband is in that sleepwalking state, or if you know someone in a similar situation, please share this podcast with them. We're all about transformation and engaging in spiritual warfare, fighting against the forces that seek to divide us.   "If you keep silent, keep silent by love: if you speak, speak by love; if you correct, correct by love; if you pardon, pardon by love; let love be rooted in you, and from the root, nothing but good can grow. Love and do what you will." - Saint Augustine.   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

 Today I want to share a personal and heartfelt message with you. See, when I talk about divorce or separation not being the solution, I'm talking about the darkness that resides within both you and your partner. You might believe that leaving this person, whom you think is toxic, a narcissist, or abusive, will solve everything. Every couple I've worked with starts by venting and unloading all the issues and problems that have accumulated over time. It's hours and hours of pouring out the pain and frustration we've kept inside for far too long. So as you follow along with our journey, know that we are not here to encourage separation or divorce. We're not trying to lead people in that direction. We don't want you to say, "You got divorced, so what you're saying is invalid." No, that's not the case. The truth is your darkness, along with your spouse's darkness, will follow you into every relationship you enter. Changing partners won't solve the underlying issues. You'll wake up one day to find yourself in the same situation as before, feeling lost and wondering why all your relationships have failed. So please understand that divorce and separation won't save you. They will only add to the stack of failures if you're not willing to face the darkness within yourself. Don't be afraid to confront the shadow, open up, and speak the truth. It may seem like you've processed it all with therapists or counselors, but if the same problems keep showing up, it's a clear sign that true healing hasn't occurred. It's not just therapy you need; it's spiritual healing because you've become disconnected from your soul. If you know someone going through a rough time in their relationship, please share this message with them. Whether it's a husband shutting his wife out or a woman struggling in her marriage, they might find the spark they need to fight for their love. I received a message from God on the beach, and it applies not just to me but to all couples out there: "Don't go alone, go together." This is a call to stand united against the forces that seek to divide us from the people we love.   "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." 1 Corinthians 13:4-5   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today I want to share a deeply personal story with you. But before we dive in, I want to take a moment to acknowledge someone very special to me—my wife, Laura. Today is her birthday, June 3, 2023 and I just want to say, happy birthday, Laura! Now, let's talk about relationships and the journey we all go through. You see, there are moments in life that shape us, and for me, one of those moments happened when I was just a young boy attending a powwow. These gatherings were incredible, filled with vibrant dances and a rich cultural atmosphere. It was there that I first felt a spark of curiosity about spirituality and faith, which would stay with me throughout my life. During the powwows, there was a dance called the two-step, where girls would choose the boys to dance with. And that's when I experienced my first love.  We exchanged letters and made occasional phone calls, but the distance between us made things challenging. But things took a sudden turn. She called me one day, explaining that she needed someone physically present for her. Being in a long-distance relationship, I couldn't fulfill that role, and it left me confused and hurt. I tried desperately to reach out to her, but her mom prevented me from contacting her. It felt like the end of our story, and life moved on. Years later, out of the blue, she reappeared in my life through Facebook. I had recently married my ex-wife, and it seemed like a tragic twist of fate. We started talking, and she revealed a painful event from her past that completely changed the truth I had known. It shifted my perspective and made me realize there was so much more to her story. If only she had shared it earlier, things might have been different. That experience had a profound impact on me. It made me believe that I was unworthy of love, and it influenced how I approached relationships afterward. But then, my wife, Laura, entered my life. She has this incredible gift of empathy, a deep understanding of others' emotions. She broke through the walls I had built around myself, awakening a feeling of love that I hadn't experienced in years. She brought me back to life, and I'm forever grateful. Today, on Laura's birthday, I want to honor her. She holds a unique place in my heart, and I don't know where I would be without her. So, if you know her, please join me in wishing her a happy birthday. Laura, you saved my life, and I will always cherish and protect your heart. I love you, and thank you for being my everything.   "Let us love since that is what our hearts were made for." - Saint Therese of Lisieux   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

Today, I want to talk to you about something that hits close to home for many of us couples out there. It's about conquering time and creating the marriage of our dreams. We all know that life has its ups and downs. Just like the sun rises and sets every day, our relationships go through seasons of light and darkness. It's inevitable, and we can't escape it. However, what we can do is prepare for it and train ourselves during the good times so that we're ready to face the darkness when it comes knocking on our door. Sometimes everything seems perfect in a relationship. The connection is strong, our lives are thriving, and we're creating the life we've always wanted. But then, unexpectedly, something happens, and we find ourselves thrown back into darkness. It could be a challenge with our extended family, a crisis with one of our children, or something else entirely. The darkness comes, and we must be prepared to face it. To truly thrive, we need to master time. We need to break free from this cycle of just surviving and start living in the present, appreciating the connection and love between us. I believe that a lack of connection lies at the heart of many struggling relationships. We can't rely solely on logical discussions to foster connection. True connection comes from emotional experiences shared between two people. It's a deep, loving bond that words alone can't describe. We have the power to rewrite our stories and let go of victimhood. We mustn't limit God's ability to heal and transform us.   "Trust the past to God's mercy, the present to God's Love, and the future to God's providence." - Saint Augustine of Hippo   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead  

Today, I want to talk to you about something personal—knowing your true identity.  Eastern traditions like Buddhism, often emphasize finding balance within ourselves. But what happens when we find ourselves trapped in the darkness, lingering there for years? Some people never even make it to this stage; they remain lost and disconnected from the possibility of stepping into the light. These lost souls may appear to be acting in hurtful or disrespectful ways, but what I see is someone who is disconnected from their true selves. This even applies to fathers who haven't been present in their children's lives. It's not that they don't care; it's simply because they don't know who they are.  So, when someone asks you, "Who are you?" take the opportunity to answer in a way that reflects how you want to be perceived. If you find yourself in the darkness, unsure of who you are, it's a chance for exploration and growth. Start by understanding who you are not, and gradually, you will discover your true self. Remember, being a human being means you have the power to change and evolve at any moment. As you uncover your identity, it will shape your beliefs and how you show up in the world.   "God loves each of us as if there were only one of us." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead

I once found myself in darkness. It seemed like my whole world was consumed by shadows, and I couldn't understand how I had ended up there. Everything had been going well in my life - my business, my relationships, everything was in perfect harmony. But then, almost out of nowhere, I woke up in a place of deep darkness. It was a place I didn't want to be, a place that didn't align with the life I had envisioned for myself. In that darkness, I felt alone, disconnected from the people I loved. It was a battle between light and darkness, good and evil, that was taking place within me. And like many others, my first instinct was to seek answers outside of myself. I searched for guidance in churches, books, programs, and therapy. I believed that the light I was seeking could only be found out there in the world. But what I didn't realize then was that the light was already within me. I had the power to illuminate my own path, to find my way back to the light. I just needed to learn how to turn it on. I embarked on a journey of self-discovery, consuming every resource I could find that resonated with me. I immersed myself in teachings, coaching, and personal development. Gradually, my life started to restore itself. I brought heaven to earth through the joy, fulfillment, and deep connections I experienced. It felt like a victory like I had finally reached the place I had been searching for. But just as I had anticipated, the darkness returned, stronger and more evolved than before. You never know what God has in store for you as you listen to this message. I believe you are deeply connected to your faith and spirituality or have been away for a while, making excuses to ignore the truth that you are part of something bigger, something interconnected. Life is a dance between light and dark, and we can never escape either. Perhaps this time, you will find yourself entering someone else's darkness, helping them discover the light within. If that's the case, remember the beginning of this journey where you were searching desperately for anything to guide you out of your own hellish situation. There is a pathway, one of many, that represents a door you can open. It will lead you to a new season of your life, where you will do the necessary work to become a warrior in God's Army of Light. The world needs you right now.   " O Holy Spirit, descend plentifully into my heart. Enlighten the dark corners of this neglected dwelling and scatter there Thy cheerful beams." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: chivalry.scendancy.com 

Today, I want to talk about something that has been on my mind a lot lately, and I believe it's something many of us can relate to. You see, I've been reflecting on a powerful message from the Bible, specifically Matthew 15:13, which says, "Every plant my Heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots." As I've been working with my clients and the people I serve, one topic that keeps resurfacing is the struggle with connection, especially in marriages. It's something I've witnessed and experienced firsthand. You know, when you're carrying a heavy burden, facing challenges in your relationship, it can feel incredibly isolating. You find yourself longing for that deep connection you once had with your spouse, but it seems to have slipped away. For many men I've worked with, this lack of connection extends beyond their marriages. They feel a disconnection within themselves, as if they're drifting through life without any real purpose or grounding. They try to fill the void with distractions, escaping from the pain and difficulties they're facing. Whether it's addiction, running away from their problems, or simply feeling lost and alone, they're desperately seeking a way to navigate through the darkness. It becomes a recurring pattern. We were created in the image of God, with the Holy Spirit within us, but somehow we lose sight of that connection. It's like we're constantly pulled between two opposing forces, constantly dancing between light and dark, good and evil. We can't escape this contrast, and it affects every aspect of our lives. So, if you're in a place where you feel disconnected, know that you're not alone. There is hope for restoration and renewed connection. It starts with acknowledging the need for change, seeking guidance, and embarking on a journey of self-discovery. As we uproot the negative patterns and false beliefs, we can open ourselves up to a deeper connection with God, ourselves, and our loved ones. Remember, this journey is not about reaching a destination where everything is perfect. It's about embracing the contrast. We have the power to break the cycle and not pass on these limiting beliefs to future generations. It starts with us, stepping out of victimhood and embracing a willingness to explore and seek. You have a pathway forward, my friend.   "Faith is to believe what we do not see, and the reward of this faith is to see what we believe. - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Men, join us inside the Free FACEBOOK GROUP Chivalry is NOT Dead here: https://bit.ly/join-chivalry-is-not-dead  

Today, I want to dive into an interesting topic that came up recently thanks to a friend of mine. They shared a quote with me, jokingly asking if it sounded like something I would say in a sermon. As I read it, I couldn't help but see the flawed logic in it. The quote suggested that the moon is more useful than the sun because it gives us light at night when it's dark, while the sun only shines during the day when it's already bright. Well, obviously, I don't agree with that reasoning. The sun is what makes it bright outside in the first place. But as I pondered further, I realized there was a story hidden within those words. As I continue on this journey of delivering my message, I've come to accept that not everyone will connect with it. And that's perfectly fine because the impact of my words on those who do resonate can make a significant difference. While I may not always hear directly from listeners, I've learned that the effects of my message can ripple through unexpected channels, reaching people I never even knew were listening. So, the first lesson here is to keep communicating, even if your message doesn't reach everyone. Embrace the fact that it won't resonate universally and focus on the impact it has on those who truly need to hear it. Remember, the absence of feedback doesn't mean your message isn't making a difference. In my own journey as a parent, I've realized the value of having friends who challenge my perspectives and offer different viewpoints. These friends are like true brothers, and I deeply appreciate their ability to make me see beyond my own limited viewpoint. It's crucial to surround ourselves with people who don't always agree with us but provide us with hard truths and different perspectives. So, as you navigate through life, remember to embrace the diversity of opinions and perspectives around you. Cherish the friendships that offer you new ways of seeing the world. And most importantly, keep sharing your message, even if it doesn't resonate with everyone. The impact you have on those who connect with it is what truly matters.   "There is no better proof of friendship than to help our friends with their burdens." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today I want to have a personal conversation with you about natural talents, gifts, and abilities.  When I first embarked on this journey with the people I work with, we started by assessing their strengths. It was fascinating to see how most individuals, including myself, initially react to the results. We often find ourselves nodding in agreement, recognizing the talents that are already familiar to us. It's comforting to have our existing knowledge validated. It's not uncommon to connect with individuals who share a few common talent areas. And that's great! When we review the results, we focus on the top 10 and bottom 10 talents. It's important to note that we don't invest time in developing talents that fall at the bottom. Why? Because according to strengths-based psychology, dedicating energy to strengthening weaknesses often leads to mediocrity at best. The goal is to transform our talents into elite strengths—performing at a level that surpasses expectations. Anyone attempting to develop a weakness that happens to be a strength for me would struggle to reach the same level of proficiency. They would burn a lot of energy because executing tasks in our areas of weakness requires immense effort. So, today, I invite you to reflect on your own strengths. What are you naturally good at? What comes to you almost effortlessly, as if it's second nature? Take some time to consider these areas and how they contribute to your overall fulfillment. Are you currently utilizing your natural talents enough in your life? Do they bring you joy and satisfaction? If you find that you're not incorporating your natural talents into your life as much as you'd like, it may be time to explore how you can leverage them more. By doing so, you can create a happier and more fulfilling experience in your relationships, career, and personal life.   "Whatever skills I have acquired, whatever I have been given, I place them in your service." - Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today I want to talk about something personal and close to my heart: inheriting limiting beliefs from our parents. First things first, let's talk about my own family background. Unlike some others, I didn't grow up in a broken family. My parents are still happily married, and I didn't witness them arguing or any kind of physical violence. From my father, I inherited something truly valuable: the belief that chivalry is not dead. You know, I recently realized that this message of respect and honor towards women runs deep in our family history. Watching my dad stand by my mom's side, through thick and thin, taught me so much about what it means to be in a loving and committed relationship. His sense of humor, his dedication, and his expertise in sales all shaped my understanding of how to build strong connections with others. He became my role model, and every relationship I've had in my life has been measured against the gold standard he set. On the flip side, I've also witnessed many men who come from broken homes or challenging family backgrounds. Some grew up without a father figure or experienced abuse within their families. It breaks my heart to hear these stories. When we're raised in such environments, it's hard not to inherit the models our parents unknowingly pass on to us. If we haven't put in the work to better ourselves, we might not even realize that we're living by our parents' limiting beliefs. They didn't provide us with an instruction manual on how to navigate relationships or be the best versions of ourselves. We're left to figure it out on our own. And let me tell you, it's not an easy journey. We need to engage in introspection, analyze our beliefs and experiences, and identify anything that doesn't belong within us. Releasing this trapped energy creates space within us, allowing us to create new beliefs aligned with our true selves as intended by God. However, the real challenge arises when we must rewrite the neural pathways in our brains, which have been conditioned to respond in certain ways to specific situations. Dark forces will try to tempt us back into the same destructive lies, convincing us that we are unworthy, unloved, and not accepted. They will tempt us to prove ourselves right by seeking out situations that reinforce these negative beliefs. That's why it's crucial for you, after hearing this message, to take stock of your life. Pay attention to the repetitive patterns and situations that keep occurring. It's a sign that God is trying to show you something, and you need to explore it further.   “I will plant my feet on that step where my parents put me as a child until self-evident truth comes to light.”— Saint Augustine   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today we're going to talk about a topic that hits close to home: providing is not enough. I've seen this struggle in the men I've worked with over the years, and I've personally fallen into the same trap.  Let me take you back to my own experience. I met the love of my life, we built a relationship together, got engaged, and decided to get married. We were starting out, and income was a concern. We didn't have enough to create the life we wanted. In those early stages of marriage, we were focused on building a future together, which meant generating income. Relationships today come in different configurations. It could be the traditional setup where dad is the breadwinner and mom takes care of the kids or works part-time. Or it could be both parents pursuing careers or even a scenario where dad stays at home while mom is the breadwinner. The possibilities are endless. You know, I've come to realize that being self-actualized means being truthful and accepting myself and others exactly as we are. I've learned that I can't convince or change anyone, as people will make their own choices and live with the consequences. It's a hard truth, but it's the reality. Of course, for my loved ones, I offer guidance, care, and share my beliefs to support them on their journey. But when it comes to the rest of the world, I've come to understand that everyone is on their own path, regardless of where they currently stand. For me, I've always felt called to be a great father of humanity. This calling has been with me since before I was born, as my mother wrote me a letter shortly after my birth, recounting how God revealed that I would be a leader of mankind. Discovering this letter a couple of summers ago reaffirmed my purpose and strengthened my resolve. Self-actualization is also about growth and self-discovery. It's about constantly striving for mastery and deeper experiences in relationships with our spouses, with God, and in serving others. It's not about anything external—it's about uncovering what we need to learn to create success, value, and impact as we actively shape the world.   "This is what marriage is all about - Man and woman walking together, wherein the husband helps his wife to become ever more a woman, and wherein the woman has the task of helping her husband to become ever more a man." - Pope Francis   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

I wanted to share a saying that my grandfather once told me before he passed away. It really struck a chord with me and made me think deeply about its meaning. He said, "I have never met anybody in my life who's had to use the eraser end of the pencil more than you." You see, a pencil has two ends—the writing end and the eraser end. When my grandfather said that I used the eraser end a lot, he wasn't criticizing me. He was actually appreciating my willingness to make mistakes and learn from them. He understood that growth and progress are impossible without encountering failures along the way. I've always been open with my children about the importance of embracing mistakes and not fearing them. Unlike some parents who put immense pressure on their kids to achieve perfect grades, I wanted my children to approach learning with a growth mindset. I didn't want them to associate a wrong answer with personal failure or disappointment from me. So, if you're a dad or anyone listening to this podcast, and you find yourself hesitant to make decisions or paralyzed by overthinking, remember the lesson my grandfather taught me. Don't be afraid to use the eraser end of the pencil. Embrace your mistakes and failures as opportunities to learn and grow. Take bold steps towards your goals, knowing that missteps are part of the journey. So, let's all go out there today with courage and resilience. Let's not be afraid to use the eraser end of the pencil.   "Waste time with your children, so that they can realize that love is always free." - Pope Francis   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

I want to have a heart-to-heart conversation with you today about relationships. The world we live in is filled with complexities surrounding gender, sexual orientation, and personal choices. It can be incredibly confusing, especially if you're a man like me, married to a woman, and finding that your marriage isn't working as you hoped. When we find ourselves in such a situation, it's natural to seek answers and guidance. We might consider therapy, marriage counseling, or exploring various coaching programs and books. The internet offers countless resources, but navigating through it all can be overwhelming. It's as if our marriage is on a troubled path, and we urgently need to change course. I get it—it's frustrating and uncomfortable to feel lost and dependent, constantly seeking answers and solutions. But dwelling in that mindset only drives a bigger wedge between you and your wife. Instead, we must recognize that feminine energy flows differently, often without a clear structure or reason. What works for us as masculine men, seeking processes and logical steps, doesn't necessarily apply to our wives. Remember, it's not about expecting everything to be equal or mirroring workplace dynamics. While women should absolutely have equal opportunities and fair treatment in professional settings, relationships operate differently. Our feminine partners desire a husband who embraces his masculine energy, fights for the relationship every day, and understands that their feminine energy brings unique qualities and perspectives to the partnership. Going to war for her means taking responsibility and initiating acts of repair. It means standing in the ring with her every single day, regardless of how she feels, and loving her unconditionally through it all. I won't lie to you, it's not easy, and it only gets tougher as you progress. Yet, the more you invest in this endeavor, the deeper your connection will grow, as she continues to test your love for her. Your love must be boundless, unbreakable, and unaffected by anything she says or does. Embrace this mindset, and watch as it begins to revitalize your relationship, building a new and brighter future together.   If we want a better world, that would be a peaceful home and not a battlefield, we all need to do a lot more for the dignity of each woman. - Pope Francis   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today I want to have a heart-to-heart with you about what it means to be a modern-day minister. This topic has been on my mind lately as I've been on my own faith journey. I've become acutely aware of something specific that I feel called to work with: men. Yes, I work with dads, husbands, moms, couples, and families too, but my focus has been on helping men navigate their spiritual paths. You see, I've had my own share of struggles and doubts. I used to be deeply involved with the Catholic Church, but I reached a point where I felt disillusioned. What I've come to realize is that the essence of Jesus' message was not about being worshipped as the Son of God. It was about awakening to the fact that we are all children of God. The Holy Spirit resides within each and every one of us, and that includes me and you. I don't consider myself unique or special in this regard. I don't claim false modesty, but rather a deep understanding that we are all vessels of God's Spirit. My journey has brought me to the realization that there is a disconnect between the institutionalized versions of Christianity and the deeper truth of following Jesus. Jesus came to model a life connected to God and the Holy Spirit within us. He challenged the prevailing doctrines and religious practices of his time. I want to emphasize that I'm not here to wage war against the Catholic Church or any other religious organization. I acknowledge the positive aspects and the immense scale of the Catholic Church, which spans across the globe. The most important thing I want you to take away from today's message is that God is within you. You don't have to go searching outside.   “It is better to be a child of God than the king of the whole world.” – St. Aloysius Gonzaga   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today, I want to share a personal story with you. It's about a race I recently participated in, and it taught me some valuable lessons that I believe can apply to various aspects of our lives. So there I was, standing on Killington Mountain, ready to take on the Spartan Ultra race. It was a pivotal moment for me because I had failed to finish this race in the past, and I was determined to change that. As the sun was setting, I made it through the cut off on the side of the mountain, and a surge of disbelief and gratitude filled me. I couldn't believe I was still in the race after thinking I was done. As I continued on the trail, I met another runner who had also been enduring the challenges of the race. We formed a bond, silently supporting each other through the darkness. But as we approached a series of daunting obstacles, my companion expressed doubt about finishing. His words echoed in my mind, tempting me to give up too. However, in that crucial moment, I made a firm decision. I refused to quit. I knew that I had come too far and invested too much effort to back down now. I reached the sandbag carry where my battle buddy and friend were waiting for me. We cheered each other on, and with the obstacles behind me, I climbed the final rig, overcome with emotion and gratitude. Tears streamed down my face as I crossed the finish line, feeling an immense sense of accomplishment. I realized that I had never lost faith throughout the race, and it was this faith that carried me through. Reflecting on this experience, I discussed it with my wife, who had believed in me all along. We acknowledged the power of faith and conviction in our lives, drawing parallels to her own journey battling cancer. The experience reinforced our belief in the strength given to us by God. In a recent turn of events, I faced a significant setback in my career the night before my ordination as a reverend. Despite this challenge, I continue to run and train, holding onto faith and conviction, just as I did during the race. This journey has taught me the power of unwavering belief and trust in God, reminding me that we are all capable of overcoming obstacles when we have faith and conviction in our hearts.   "Never ever give up on hope, never doubt, never tire, and never become discouraged. BE NOT AFRAID." - Pope Saint John Paul II   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month

Today I want to share a personal story with you. It's about my journey with fitness, overcoming obstacles, and finding a deeper connection with God. So let's dive in. Fitness has been such a significant part of my life for the past 12 to 15 years. It all started with my first Spartan Race, the Spartan Sprint, over a decade ago. I remember feeling incredibly nervous before that race. I mean, it was just three miles, but there were obstacles everywhere. I had trained hard, even joined a fitness program to learn the proper techniques for overcoming the various obstacles. We attended multiple training sessions before attempting the race. And let me tell you, it wasn't easy. Over the years, fitness has become a central aspect of my journey. It's not just about staying in shape; it's about striving for high performance in all areas of my life. The lessons I've learned through fitness have had a profound impact on my relationships, my work, and my spiritual connection. There's something special about those long training runs when I feel a deep connection to God, receiving guidance from the Holy Spirit. It's where I find solace and seek counsel for the challenges I face.   Take care of your spiritual life, your relationship with God, because this is the backbone of everything we do and everything we are. - Pope Francis   Blessings on your path,  Rev. Benjamin Norman   Want more training and deep dive on building a connected family and relationship? Check us at www.scendancy.com and to access training for yourself, relationship with your spouse and children, register here: https://bit.ly/a-fresh-start-family for as low as $48/month