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We often hear so much about the struggles of the LGBTQ+ community. But on this show, we talk about all of the awesomeness within queer relationships! We're here to de-center the cis, hetero, monogamous relationship escalator- and find out what's working.

Keely Helmick & Melisa De Seguirant


    • Jul 1, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 40m AVG DURATION
    • 104 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from Queer Relationships, Queer Joy

    Goodbye For Now

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2024 39:17


    Transitions are always bittersweet. We're reflecting on the transitions we've experienced over the course of the podcast, the changes we've faced recently, and Melisa's departure from the podcast. You'll hear— (04:00) Melisa's challenges with sharing queer content online (07:26) Keely using ambiamory as a new label (22:17) Melissa's farewell announcement (24:25) Reflecting on the podcast journey (32:16) Queer Joys Connect with Keely:     •    Follow them on Instagram and TikTok     •    Follow Connective Therapy Collective on Instagram and Facebook Connect with Melisa:     •    Follow them on Instagram     •    Follow Therapeutic Ideas on Instagram 

    Queering Sex: Opening Up About Our Sexual Desires

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2024 47:19


    Talking about sex in our own relationships can be difficult and uncomfortable—even for a queer sex therapist with a lot of practice. It's vulnerable to talk to partners about our desires and the changes we feel around sex. That's why we're discussing how to talk to both new and long-term partners about our sexual desires. You'll hear— (09:51) The challenges of talking about sex with our partners (15:47) Societal pressure around orgasms (22:31) How exploring gender and sexual labels can impact your preferences (34:58) TW: sexual assault, domestic violence, skip to (38:34) (39:35) Queer Joys Connect with Keely:     •    Follow them on Instagram and TikTok     •    Follow Connective Therapy Collective on Instagram and Facebook Connect with Melisa:     •    Follow them on Instagram     •    Follow Therapeutic Ideas on Instagram   If you like the show, please leave a rating and review and tell us your thoughts on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy  

    Navigating Polyamorous Relationships in Smaller Communities

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2024 41:01


    In small communities, whether that's a small city or simply being queer and polyamorous, exes and old connections often overlap. We're discussing how to navigate these interactions and collaborate with our partners to establish agreements or guidelines for engaging with others in our social circles. We'll explore topics such as control, comfort and discomfort, preferences and requests vs rules, and ultimatums. These concepts can help us manage our partners' relationships outside of our own while also considering what is possible and ethical. You'll hear— (12:52) How much control do you have over interactions with your exes (16:12) Making requests and ethical boundaries  (24:48) The importance of flexibility and understanding in agreements (31:58) Queer joys Connect with Keely:     •    Follow them on Instagram and TikTok     •    Follow Connective Therapy Collective on Instagram and Facebook   Connect with Melisa:     •    Follow them on Instagram     •    Follow Therapeutic Ideas on Instagram   If you like the show, please leave a rating and review and tell us your thoughts on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy  

    Dating with Mixed Experience Levels in Non-Monogamy

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2024 51:01


    Are you navigating non-monogamy as a newbie, feeling intimidated by those with more experience who have read all the books or had lots of partners? Or maybe you're the one with the experience, rolling your eyes at the fresh faces? We're exploring the nuances of different experience levels in the context of non-monogamy because experience doesn't guarantee a great partner or ethical behavior, just as being new doesn't always lead to disaster. You'll hear— (12:38) The nuances of being experienced or new to non-monogamy (22:15) Having a beginner's mind and staying curious (30:07) Generational differences in non-monogamy (38:37) Going into a relationship with intentionality (42:52) Queer Joys Let us know your experience exploring these dynamics as either a newbie or someone with experience. As always, you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.

    Finding Glimmers of Joy

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2024 36:01


    How do we engage with the world around us and continue some form of activism or social justice while also finding moments of joy? We're exploring this question to bring some optimism and mindfulness when it feels like the world is fire.  You'll hear (5:56) Finding joy in challenging times (8:37) Balancing activism with moments of joy and hope. (13:56) Finding hope and inspiration in small moments, or glimmers  (19:43) Oxytocin and sex (25:23) Meaning, joy, and overstimulation in modern life (28:06) Queer joys Keep up with Melisa on Instagram @therapeutic.ideas and look out for the training on April 20th by Alex Iantaffi on mixed orientation relationships at Eventbrite or connectivetherapycollective.com.

    Differentiation in Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2024 35:03


    Differentiation of self is like learning how to be your own person while still being part of a group, or a relationship. We're unpacking this fancy psychological term by Bowen and applying it to dating to help you be connected with your own emotions while also being present for others.  You'll hear— (15:19) What “differentiation of self” is and why Melisa thinks it's a fun term  (18:38) Differentiation in the context of relationships (25:12) How to practice self-awareness in this process (29:47) Queer joys Connect with us over on Instagram @melisa.deseguirant and @queer_therapist_pdx

    Managing Change and Keeping Ourselves Regulated

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2024 38:45


    How do we stay calm and adaptable in the face of life's ups and downs, especially in our relationships? We've talked before about regulating your nervous system, but after you've taken those first steps, let's shift the conversation to building flexibility and adaptability. You'll hear— (12:46) Finding reliability and stability during times of unexpected change (15:31) How to ground yourself to feel a sense of consistency (21:29) Creating relationship rituals (26:56) What to do if you struggle with change or are neurodivergent (32:22) Queer Joys Let us know what you thought of this episode @QueerRelationshipsQueerJoy or email us at info@connectivetherapycollective.com

    From Married Friends to Roommates & Lovers

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2024 44:45


    Raise your hand if you've ever had your queer awakening to your friend moonwalking in the office, the same friend that also officiated your wedding to another man. Anyone? Well luckily, we found that exact couple, Caroline and Amy Bouvin, and they're here to tell you their unconventional but very queer love story.   You'll hear– (02:54) How Amy and Caroline became friends (06:44) Making out with girls while drunk (the signs were there) (10:37) Sobriety and moving in together (18:09) Coming out to family and the grief of divorce (26:41) Joyful moments from the proposal and wedding (37:36) Queer Joys   If you are interested in Amy and Caroline's couples retreat you can check it out here. And let us know what you thought of this episode @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy.

    Rethinking Valentine's Day & Leading With Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2024 37:57


    It's easy to dismiss Valentine's Day as this commericialized holiday full of red roses, hallmark cards, and cupid's arrows. The real meaning of love gets buried under all the marketing hype. That's why we're all about redefining the holiday, making it more about genuine love and connection, as we like to put it, leading with love as we move through our relationships. You'll hear (12:56) What it looks like to lead with love in daily life (18:23) When it's not possible to lead with love (21:05) Balancing love with other challenging emotions (30:26) Queer joys If you want to keep the conversation going, let us know what you think by writing in at info@connectivetherapycollective.com.

    Regulating Your Nervous System

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 26, 2024 41:11


    Everyone feels stressed and anxious from time to time, but high stress leaves an impact on your body, particularly your nervous system. Join us for an overview on understanding how to calm our nervous system and why its important for your relationship health.  You'll hear (15:24) The nuances of anxiety, dysregulation, and sensations in the body (18:59) Coregulating in relationships (21:23) Strategies to regulate stress and strengthen the vagus nerve (36:41) Queer joys   Chat with us more about this topic over on Instagram  

    New Relationship Energy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2024 46:05


    Ah, New Relationship Energy (NRE)–that magical, butterflies-in-your-stomach phase at the start of a new relationship, where everything feels exciting and your new person seems absolutely perfect.  Maybe you're in this phase–love it or hate it–or maybe you're on the outside watching someone else experience this rush. Whichever side you're on, we're discussing how to navigate NRE.   You'll hear (10:23) How we experience NRE and how it impacts others (18:22) NRE in non-monogamous relationships (25:56) Change, jealousy, and trust issues (28:39) Setting boundaries, self-care, and sitting with the unknown  (39:51) Queer Joys   Let us know your thoughts on NRE over on Instagram!

    What to Leave Behind & Bring Into the New Year

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 5, 2024 39:14


    We love the energy of the New Year, especially as a time for embracing new intentions and releasing old patterns. Today, we're sharing how we can slow down to evaluate relationships, trust our intuition over societal expectations, and use the winter season for reflection and leaving behind what no longer serves us.   You'll hear– (11:19) Slowing down & the process of transformation. (13:16) Rest, setting intentions, and personal growth during winter. (21:26) Goal-setting with attunement and awareness. (30:08) Relationship markers, grief, and New Year's “NRE”. (34:39) Queer joys.   Let us know what intentions you have for the new year and connect with us over on Instagram.

    End of Year Reflections & Relationship Check Ins

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2023 38:47


    In this end-of-year episode, we're taking a moment to celebrate the past two years of this podcast. It's hard to believe, but we're already at the midpoint of our current season and heading into a well-deserved mid-season break. As we wrap up another year, we're excited to dive into applying these end-of-year reflections to the realm of relationships. You'll hear about Nervous system regulation in dating and relationships Connection and communication challenges in the digital age “Slow burn”, year-end reflections, and setting intentions Stay connected with us over the break @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy, and we'll be back in the new year.

    When to Seek Relationship Counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2023 44:55


    Let's talk about relationship counseling! We've received questions from listeners about when it's time to think about couples counseling and how to make the most out of it. So, we're exploring the nuances of couples therapy, its challenges, and its impact on addressing relationship issues. You'll hear Why you might seek support during transitional periods How to get the most out of couples counseling When to decide it may be time to seek out relationship therapy Be sure to check out Connective Therapy Collective's weekly drop-in group for polyamorous folks and connect with Keely and Melisa on IG.

    Performative Equity in Non-Monogamous Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2023 47:30


    In relationships where multiple partners are involved, we may make gestures to promote fairness and balance. But, is true fairness achievable when certain hierarchies naturally exist in non-monogamous dynamics? We're discussing how to navigate these inherent imbalances. You'll hear How layers of hierarchies subtly exist within polyamorous relationships The importance of intentionality over guilt or obligation in approaching these conversations How to show self-compassion for those impulses to make everything “equal” Come connect with us both on Instagram @Queer_Therapist_PDX  and @licensedwip or our podcast @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Slowing Down and Paying Attention

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2023 42:22


    Slowing down in your relationships gives you the opportunity to make really intentional choices, with who you're connecting, how you're connecting, and what choices you're making especially during a time of pressure. In this episode, we're exploring the dynamics of pacing and intentionality. You'll hear The importance of prioritizing self-care during this holiday season How pacing new relationship energy can lead to a more sustainable connection Why attention and curiosity can revitalize a relationship as you both grow & change A few quick shoutouts Connective Therapy Collective is featured on the website, QueerPsych.com ! For those in Portland, the new CTC building will be having a welcoming early next year, so keep an eye out for an announcement Melisa maintains a mysterious presence on Instagram and is available for individual therapy at therapeuticideas.com

    Relationship Boredom and Spicing Up Connections

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2023 44:57


    Are you feeling bored and wanting more from the relationship(s) you're in? The thrill of the chase fades, routines set in, and suddenly, things feel a bit predictable? In this episode, you'll learn ways to add that zest back into your relationships – and trust us, it's not just about spicing things up in the bedroom. You'll hear Why relationships don't always have to follow a traditional "escalator" trajectory The role overstimulation in modern society plays in relationship boredom How self-reflection and understanding the core of your boredom can pave the way for revitalizing connections We'd love to hear what you're doing to shake up your relationship or if you're thinking about trying a digital detox. Write us over on Instagram or Tiktok.

    Renegotiating Agreements in Non-monogamous Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2023 55:06


    From defining relationship dynamics to navigating multiple connections, agreements ensure that everyone's values and desires are respected and honored. We're joined again by Heather Simpson to talk about polyamory, agreements, and communication. You'll hear about The importance of check-ins and agreements in non-monogamous relationships Having open and explicit conversations about sexual health & sexual preferences Why some relationships could benefit from a written agreement over a verbal one If this episode resonates with you, we'd love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Staying For The Wrong Reasons: Long-term Relationship Dynamics

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2023 47:47


    Relationships should be about developing connections, not just seeking stability. In this episode, we're exploring the idea of being in a long-term relationship for healthy reasons, rather than relying on the other person for stability or other unfruitful reasons. You'll learn How to know when you're at the place where you're ready to leave Why it's important to create explicit agreements and consent in your relationship Where to find the balance between being selfish and selfless as a partner If this episode resonates with you, we'd love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Polyamory, Platonic Relationships & Queer Fashion

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2023 45:46


    Join us for a laid back conversation with fellow queer therapist, Heather Simpson as we delve into the world of queer polyamory, platonic relationships, and modern dating. You'll hear about Fashion as a tool for queer self-expression and dopamine dressing Decentering romantic relationships and couples privilege Love is blind and polyamory in dating shows If you'd like to learn more about Heather and her practice, you can visit www.mindfulinquirytherapy.com. And if you're looking for a queer, poly therapist in Portland, Oregon, or you live in California and want to do teletherapy, go to Melisa's website, www.therapeuticideas.com.

    The Green Flags of Healthy Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2023 34:43


    Looking for signs of a healthy and thriving relationship? We're diving into recognizing green flags in your connections–from calmness and effective communication to conflict management and healthy boundaries.   Green flags are something that could be very personal to you, and we're curious to know what you identify as a healthy sign, so write to us at info@connectivetherapycollective.org or hit us up on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Repair and Accountability: Navigating Cancel Culture and Rebuilding Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 51:22


    When you recognize that you've been harmed by a partner or caused harm, and you would like to move forward and reconnect, what does that actually look like? In this episode, we're discussing repair and accountability, in the context of cancel culture and how what is going on in the bigger social sphere affects our relationships and us individually. You'll hear How cancel culture lacks genuine intention in repair Why it's important to practice self-compassion in order to take accountability A callback to Dr. Jen's framework, PEACE talks, for resolving conflict If this episode resonates with you, we'd love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Overcoming Weaponized Therapy Jargon in Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2023 49:01


    Maybe you've heard terms such as "narcissist", "gaslighting", and "toxic" in your own relationship, or when scrolling social media. These terms are overused and even weaponized leading to a breakdown in communication which is why we're exploring the misuse of therapy jargon, differentiating between casual use and actual diagnostic criteria. You'll hear How certain terms, such as "narcissist," are often weaponized in relationships, leading to unproductive conflicts The nuances of trauma and triggers How to communicate boundaries without sounding like an ultimatum What alternative Melisa would use for “gaslighting” We'd love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Navigating Past Trauma to Build Healthier Queer Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2023 47:13


    Being a queer person in today's world is traumatic–shaping us and our relationships in complex ways. We discuss how to address these traumas and build stronger relationships with Dr. Jennifer Towns, a trauma therapist and author of a book on trauma and healing.  You'll hear One tool to keep growth alive in long-term relationships How not addressing shame and guilt in relationships can hinder the process of repair Why it's important to move beyond shared trauma as the sole base of a relationship Check out Jen's book, “Our Deepest Roots: Navigating Past Trauma to Build Healthier Queer Relationships," and find her on Instagram @your.queer.therapist We'd also love to chat with you more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Deepening and Sustaining Queer Relationships: Season 4 Preview

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2023 38:39


    So you've learned how to meet people and start relationships, but like, now what? In this Season 4 kickoff, you'll get a sneak peak at our focus this season of deepening and maintaining your relationships.  You'll hear How Keely has found themself in a relationship anarchy model Two theories on why it's difficult to sustain queer relationships over time And, the lifelong dream that Keely recently fulfilled If you want to read ahead for our interview with an author that writes about healing trauma and improving queer relationships, we'll share the book over on Instagram @Queer_Relationships_Queer_Joy

    Community Compersion: The Power of Shared Joy At Pride

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2023 41:51


    Are you planning on attending a pride event this year? In this episode, we're diving into how to navigate pride differently this year and what community compersion looks like.   We're sharing why communication with your partner(s) is important in preparation for pride, how to set expectations for your pride experience, and three ways you can be a better ally.   Pride events are crucial for celebrating diverse identities and love and we know this episode will prepare you to be present and joyful in these spaces. Chat with us more about this topic over on Instagram @Queer_Therapist_PDX or @ConnectiveTherapyCollective.   And stop by our booth at Portland Pride if you're in the area!

    Season 3 Finale + Bye From Cardinal

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2023 27:26


    We're wrapping up season 3! Join Keely and Melisa as they recap what has happened so far this year and what's happening next. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Desires Worksheet: bit.ly/3MKiTFX Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    A Guide To Throuplehood: Finding Your Match

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2023 39:20


    What are the different intentions behind “finding a third”? What are some tips for unicorns looking to date? How can you create a throuple that is balanced and meets everyone's needs? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. NEW Intimate Desires Worksheet: https://bit.ly/3MKiTFX Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Relationship Spotlight (double feature)! Liana and Elizabeth

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2023 52:45


    Why would someone live alone while in a deeply romantic relationship (or several romantic relationships)? What are some tips for voicing insecurities? What is a brain thought?! Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. This week's guests are Liana Griebsch and Elizabeth Cunningham. Liana Griebsch instagram @lianagriebsch Elizabeth Cunningham instagram @ELZCunningham Love deeper @love._.deeper elizabethanncunningham.com Queer And Poly Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Relationship Spotlight! Tara and Maddie

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2023 57:26


    What's working well in Tara and Maddie's relationship? How have they worked through previous trauma to be able to connect better? How do they address mistakes? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Find Tara on IG @taralsharp @alanafaithchenfoundation @queerpsych_original  Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    When People Talk: How To Deal With Gossip

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2023 42:40


    What do you do when someone thinks you're something you're not? How can we cope with being unable to control other's view of us? Could that be impacting your relationships? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Leave us a voicemail: 503-660-4409 Put QRQJ into action with our Relationship Check-In worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Coming Into Queerness: Dating Advice For Newbies

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2023 44:06


    What is it like to come out later in life? How can we support newly emerging queer folks? How can we all approach a new partner with a beginner's mind? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Put QRQJ into action with our Relationship Check-In worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Accepting Imperfections In Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2023 41:29


    What's the difference between a red flag and a misplaced expectation? Have you ever put someone on a pedestal and then later found out they weren't who you thought they were? What if you don't want to meet your heroes? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Relationdhips, Queer Joy; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Put QRQJ into action with our Relationship Check-In worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Crushing On Your Straight Friend (and other tales of queer longing)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2023 43:23


    What does queer longing mean? Where does it show up in our relationships? How can you heal from that deep, forbidden yearning? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Trans Erotic Embodiments Workshop: bit.ly/TransEroticEmbodiments Lucie Fielding episode: connectivetherapycollective.com/post/62-being-ethically-curious-about-trans-sex  Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Non-Monogamous Relationship Systems: Navigating Your Role

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2023 52:41


    Nothing exists in a vacuum, we are all a part of many systems. What relationship systems do you exist in? Monogamous? Non-monogamous? How do we act with responsibility towards both ourselves and others in our system? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Monthly mental health resource newsletter: connectivetherapycollective.com/sign-up-for-our-newsletter Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Revisiting Relationship Anarchy

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2023 38:19


    In this episode we talk about destabilizing the relationship hierarchy, finding pleasure in unexpected places, and creating community. This is a re-release of our interview with Tuck Malloy on epsidoe 5, season 1 of QRQJ.  Tuck's IG: @intra_sensual Queer Relationships, Queer Joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Balancing Safety And Pleasure (with Doug Braun-Harvey)

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2023 48:01


    What do you do after breaking a relationship agreement? How can we look at sex addiction through a new lens? What's the difference between a “healthy sexuality” and “sexual health”? This week our guest, Doug Braun-Harvey, answers these questions and more about what's working in queer relationships. Leave us a message! 509-660-4409 The Harvey Institute Queer Relationships, Queer Joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    A Beginner's Guide to Sex Therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2023 45:39


    What is sex therapy really about? What do you talk about in sex therapy? How do you prepare for sex therapy? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see the joy in queer relationships. Tell us your queer joy! 503-660-4409 Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Where Size and Sexuality Meet: Celebrating Body Diversity (with Dani Adriana)

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2023 55:41


    What happens when queerness and body size intersect? Can joy and pleasure be found at this intersection? In what ways can we create space for a diversity of bodies and pleasures? Join us as we interview guest Dani Adriana and explore these questions and more. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Leave us a message! 503-660-4409 Find Dani Adriana here linktr.ee/iamdaniadriana Fearing The Black Body by Sabrina Strings: nyupress.org/fearing-the-black-body Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Beyond Trust: Building Integrity In Your Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2023 44:48


    How do you start off new relationships from a place of integrity? What about if you're nonmonogamous? How do you integrate integrity into existing relationships? What is the difference between nondisclosure and dishonestly? Is people pleasing manipulative? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Leave us a voice message at 503-660-4409 Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Finding Sexual Intimacy Amidst Chronic Pain

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2023 47:10


    What are the ways that you can experience pleasure even if you are in pain? How can you explore with yourself within the limitations of your body? What is the connection between disability and sex? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Put QRQJ into action with our Relationship Check-In worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Being Ethically Curious About Trans Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2023 53:52


    What is trans sex? How can we access our body parts in a new way? What is muffing? This week we interview sex educator, Author, and therapist Lucie Fielding. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Trans Sex Workshop with Lucie Fielding: qrcc.me/roln5h5ivd0s Lucie's Website: luciefielding.com Leave us a message! 503-660-4409 Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Breaking (And Rebuilding) The Relationship Escalator

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2023 52:23


    Dating leads to marriage leads to kids. That's how relationships move forward, right? UGH. How do we make progress in relationships outside of what we've been taught? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Relationship Smorgasbord: https://www.connectivetherapycollective.com/post/61-breaking-and-rebuilding-the-relationship-escalator Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Trauma, Healing, and Relationships: Understanding the Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2023 47:44


    Keely and Melisa explore the complexities of how unhealed trauma from past relationships show up in present relationships. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in monogamous, polyamorous, and single queer relationships. Leave us a voicemail at 503-660-4409 Put QRQJ into action with our Relationship Check-In worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Our website: connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Embracing Your Gray Areas: Queering Sex and Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2023 49:34


    There are a LOT of variations and gray areas when you're having queer sex. Pleasure, pain, gender, STI's, vocabulary, bodies, oh my! In this episode of QRQJ, Keely and Melisa clear out shame and discuss the in-between. Text me

    The Big Queer Sex Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2023 46:26


    What are accelerators and brakes? How do you deal with differences in desire types and responses? What even is sex?!?   Hear it all on this episode of Queer Relationships, Queer Joy; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.   Put QRQJ into action with our free 5 question worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet   Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop   FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Refreshing Relationship Intentions for the New Year

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2022 43:53


    Keely and Melisa reflect on their relationships in 2022. Other topics include: breaking up with people during the holidays, where the podcast is going, and how relationships are like cats. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships.   Free relationship check in worksheet: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet   Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop   Connective Therapy Collective website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com   FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Challenges and Opportunities of Neurodiversity in Love and Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2022 40:25


    How does being neurodivergent impact relationships and sexuality? What are some common yucks and yums? How can everybody foster understanding? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists (and guest Taylor Kravitz) explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Free relationship check in worksheet bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Connective Therapy Collective website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com FB & IG: @connectivetherapycollective

    Compulsive Love: Recognizing and Overcoming Love Addiction

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2022 50:42


    When does love addiction become pathological? What's the recipe for addressing love addiction? What's the difference between love addiction and codependency? Who are you when it is just you? Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Put QRQJ into action with our free 5 question worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Connective Therapy Collective website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com FB & IG: @connectivetherapycollective

    Relationship Spotlight! Creating Truly Custom Agreements

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 42:53


    How do you navigate a changing relationship? What if you want it to remain a flexible situation? Michelle and Paul invite us into the special relationship they have made. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. Put QRQJ into action with our free 5 question worksheet. Get it here: bit.ly/QRQJworksheet Shop at As You Like It here: bit.ly/asyoulikeitshop Connective Therapy Collective website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

    Savoring Each Other: Thoughts on the Club Q Tragedy

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2022 36:12


    Grief comes in all forms. This episode is specifically about the Club Q shooting on 11/20/22, but also about introverted and extroverted grieving, navigating queer collective trauma, witnessing your feelings, and finding the joy. Hear it all on this episode of the Queer Joy Podcast; where two relationship therapists explore what it looks like to see joy in queer relationships. CTC Group Therapy: www.connectivetherapycollective.com/group-therapy  Website: www.connectivetherapycollective.com/queer-relationships-queer-joy  FB & IG: @queer_relationships_queer_joy

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