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Don't worry - you won't find tears or maudlin goodbyes. But what I do share is how it's important to stay committed to what you enjoy, to stand in purpose, and to not give up on trying new things. Life is experienced throughout creative expression - what is yours to be?What will you lend your heart to? What will bring it joy and peace through turbulent times, and times of quiet?This podcast has been an oasis for me while going through tough times, and while there were times I did want to quit, I never did. I wanted to finish strong, and this is where we are now. It's been a delight to be here with you, and I share my final thoughts in this insightful and invigorating episode. If ANY of the episodes have helped you in any way, please drop a comment with your thoughts and messages. I would love to hear them!Thanks again for everything. Love, PaulTo learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions and to book, you can go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever wonder why we sometimes know what's best for us, but still struggle to do it? In the latest (penultimate!) episode of Seared: Stories From the Stove, I'm exploring this as I reflect on my journey to 14 years of sobriety and the myth of the alcoholic chef. I used to look back with regret, wishing I'd changed sooner. But I've learned that we often go where feels safe, even if it's not serving us. This episode is about appreciating our past selves for getting us through, no matter how bumpy the ride. It's about recognizing the lessons learned and embracing our present, wiser selves. Tune in for a candid conversation with a powerful message for YOU.Also, before Monday April 7th, get the discount code for my Soulful Guidance Sessions - link below. The code is FOOL15 for 15% off!To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions and to book, you can go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever wonder about the difference between a cook and a chef? It's not just about the kitchen, homie! While cooks excel at following recipes and executing tasks, chefs lead, create, and innovate. They do the cheffy things.This distinction goes beyond culinary skills; it's a mindset. A 'cook' mindset in daily life focuses on routine and consistency, while a 'chef' mindset embraces creativity, strategic planning, and adaptability. Think about it: are you just following the recipe of your life, or are you designing your own unique menu? (Gluten-free, if you must)By adopting a 'chef' mindset, you can transform your approach to personal growth. Challenge your routines, set ambitious goals, and embrace change. Shift from passively living to actively designing your life. Cultivate creativity, develop leadership skills, and seek innovative solutions to everyday challenges. Just like a chef elevates ingredients into something that is greater than the sum of the parts, you can elevate your life experiences by using the leadership skills of a chef. Are you ready to step into the role of the chef of your own life? Listen to my latest podcast episode to learn more about this! And of course, I offer coaching around this to help you step into your "inner chef"!To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever been nervous to cook for a chef? In this episode of Seared, I bust the myth of the food snob, revealing that most chefs actually love being cooked for, regardless of the cuisine. I share personal anecdotes and explores the difference between genuine food enthusiasm and judgmental food snobbery, highlighting how the latter often stems from deeper psychological needs related to status, insecurity, and belonging. The conversation delves into the social context of food, examining how it can be used to create hierarchies and exclude others, while also acknowledging the diverse meanings food holds for individuals – from simple sustenance to cherished childhood memories.Beyond the kitchen, the episode explores how snobbery manifests in other areas like music, fashion, and cars, connecting it to the human desire for social validation. I also offer practical tips for cultivating a more inclusive approach to food, emphasizing gratitude, curiosity, and focusing on the shared experience of a meal rather than passing judgment. This episode encourages you to embrace the diverse world of food, appreciate the emotional connections people have with their meals, and celebrate the joy of sharing a table together, no matter what's on the menu.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this latest podcast episode, yours truly dives into the vital role immigrants play in the culinary, hospitality, and tourism industries.  I explore how the influx of diverse cultures enriches our own, challenging us to grow and learn through shared experiences and culinary innovation.  These industries are currently facing a critical staffing shortage, with many businesses struggling to stay afloat due to a lack of domestic workers.  Immigrants are essential to filling this gap, preventing closures and ensuring the continued growth and vibrancy of these sectors.  Beyond economics, I share how working alongside people from different backgrounds fostered a deeper sense of community and connection, for me and my teams, and reminding me that we're humans just trying to human. This episode isn't about political debates about borders and immigration, but focus instead on the undeniable reality of our interconnected global society. I share how the blending of traditions and perspectives strengthens these industries and enriches our lives (and hey, the staff meals are BLESS, ya know?)Join us as we celebrate the contributions of immigrants to the culinary landscape, the hospitality sector, and the tourism industry, and discuss how their presence fosters a more inclusive and dynamic environment for everyone.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I dive deep into the fascinating world of cognitive biases, specifically the Halo and Horns Effects. I share a personal story about how the Halo Effect led me to make some poor hiring decisions in my kitchens. By unconsciously seeking out younger versions of myself, I set unrealistic expectations for my recruits, ultimately leading to their failure.We'll explore how the Halo Effect, which involves forming overly positive impressions based on a single trait or initial impression, can be a dangerous form of snap judgment. We'll also discuss the detrimental impact this bias can have on both the individual being judged and the one making the judgment.Furthermore, I'll delve into the equally harmful Horns Effect, where a single negative trait overshadows all other qualities. I also share my secret in approaching these situations when we recognize these biases within ourselves (hint: it involves grace, respect, and self-awareness!)This episode encourages you fine folks to become more mindful of your own perceptions and judgments, striving for more objective and equitable assessments of others.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I delve into the profound impact of social media on the culinary world. I discuss how platforms like TikTok and YouTube have democratized cooking, making it more accessible and engaging for everyone. From showcasing diverse cuisines and techniques to providing a platform for aspiring chefs, social media has undoubtedly enriched our understanding and appreciation of food. While some may lament a decline in traditional fine dining, I believe social media enhances the culinary experience by fostering a vibrant community of food enthusiasts and providing valuable feedback to chefs.Furthermore, I share my personal reflections on the rise of social media and how it could have benefited my own career. I emphasize that anyone can contribute to the culinary conversation, provided they approach it with respect and a genuine love for food. The influx of young, passionate cooks into the industry is a source of immense excitement, and I believe there's always something new to learn, even for seasoned professionals like myself. The positive contributions of social media to the culinary world far outweigh any potential drawbacks.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I dive deep into the power of facing your fears. As per usual, I share a few personal examples of overcoming my own anxieties and the surprising rewards that followed. I also explore how facing your fears impacts our minds, bodies, and spirits. You'll learn how facing your fears can increase resilience, boost self-confidence, and unlock hidden potential. But why do we so readily conquer fears in some areas of our lives (like work) and yet struggle in others (like personal relationships)? I share practical strategies for building that "fear-facing muscle" and applying it to all areas of your life. This episode will inspire you to step outside your comfort zone, embrace the unknown, and live a more fulfilling life.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, we explore the importance of embracing change and stepping outside our comfort zones to achieve new and exciting results. Just as a chef must alter their recipe to create a new dish, we must adapt our approaches to life to break free from repetitive outcomes. We discuss the significance of trying new things, pursuing passions, and embracing a spirit of adventure. The episode emphasizes that we are the architects of our own lives, with the power to reshape our experiences through our actions and intentions. We are reminded that the universe responds to our efforts, rewarding us based on our decisions and the energy we invest in them. It's time to embrace the role of the chef in our own lives and create something truly extraordinary.This episode serves as a powerful reminder that personal growth and fulfillment require us to challenge the status quo. By stepping outside our comfort zones, we open ourselves up to new possibilities, ignite our passions, and unlock our true potential. We are encouraged to embrace the unknown, experiment with different approaches, and cultivate a mindset of continuous improvement. The universe is ready to support our journey, but it's up to us to take the first step and embrace the adventure of creating a life that truly reflects our desires and aspirations.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked mental health struggles within the hospitality industry. Drawing from personal experiences and those shared by others, I explore the unique pressures and challenges that contribute to mental health issues in this demanding field. From long and irregular hours to the constant pressure of customer service, we dissect the factors that can take a toll on individuals' well-being.However, it's crucial to emphasize that these challenges are not exclusive to hospitality. Many industries, with their own unique sets of demands and stressors, can create environments that strain mental health. I offer practical advice on supporting colleagues who may be struggling, fostering a culture of understanding and compassion. Furthermore, I explore personal strategies for navigating difficult times and prioritizing self-care, encouraging listeners to break the stigma surrounding mental health challenges and seek support when needed.Wishing you a happy holidays and new year! See you in 2025, friend. To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Where my multi-passionate homies at??In this episode of Seared, we dive into the fascinating world of multi-potentialites. We explore the unique experiences and challenges of those who possess a wide range of interests and passions. I share the common misconception of needing a single specialty, highlighting the freedom and creativity that comes from embracing multiple passions. We discuss the advantages of being a multi-potentialite, such as increased adaptability, innovation, and a broader perspective. However, we also acknowledge the potential drawbacks, including difficulty in choosing a career path and the pressure to be a "jack of all trades, master of none." By examining the power of both specialization and diversification, we aim to inspire you to embrace yourmultifaceted nature and discover the unique opportunities it presents.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode of Seared, we dive into the nuanced difference between tolerance and acceptance. They can look the same on the surface, but underneath - oof, what a difference!Tolerance, I would argue, is simply enduring a situation, while acceptance involves a deeper level of understanding and embracing. To help you shift from tolerance to acceptance, we share practical tips that can transform your perspective and foster a more positive outlook.To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, we dive deep into the sacred relationship between food and spirituality. We explore how food nourishes not just our bodies but also our souls, connecting us to our communities, cultures, and the very land that sustains us. We delve into the rich traditions of Indigenous cultures, where food is seen as a sacred gift, a way to express gratitude, and a means of fostering strong community bonds. We discuss how food can be both a product and a profound connection to our heritage, drawing from personal experiences to illustrate the transformative power of mindful eating. Whether you're a seasoned foodie or simply curious about the spiritual dimensions of food, this episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of how we can elevate our meals into sacred rituals. To learn more about my Soulful Guidance sessions, you can see the info here on Instagram: LEARN MORE To book a live reading, go HERETo book a remote reading, go HERETo join the wicked email list, go HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever felt ignored?

Have you ever dreaded having a difficult conversation? Whether it's a tough talk with a coworker, a friend, or a family member, these conversations can be stressful and anxiety-inducing. In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies for navigating these challenging situations with grace and effectiveness. From breaking up with a partner to addressing a sensitive issue with a colleague, we'll discuss how to communicate clearly, empathetically, and assertively. By learning to have these crucial conversations, you can strengthen your relationships, resolve conflicts, and achieve your goals.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

The culinary world, often glamorized, can be a harsh reality. I'll share my experiences with the toxic culture, long hours, and demanding personalities that can wear down even the most passionate chefs. It's easy to get caught up in negativity and cynicism, but I've learned the importance of focusing on the positive. By seeking out inspiring individuals and staying true to our own values, we can break free from the cycle of negativity and create a more fulfilling and meaningful career.However, this isn't exclusive to the culinary world. Many industries can have similar toxic cultures...or at least we have a distorted view of them! I'll discuss how I've seen this in other fields and how important it is to rise above the negativity. Remember, your worth isn't determined by the industry you're in or the people you work with.To join my email list, go here: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/693350/135554289112188035/shareTo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Many of us are told that we should be "passionate" about our jobs. But is that always realistic or even desirable? In this episode, I explore how passion isn't something that you HAVE to have in your job, and why it's okay to have a job that you simply like rather than love. I discuss how your work can provide the resources and freedom to pursue your true passions outside of work hours. Even if your job isn't your dream career, it can still be a valuable stepping stone towards achieving your goals and living a fulfilling life. Let's ditch the pressure to find the perfect job and focus on building a career that supports your overall well-being and happiness, mmmkay??To Join my bombastic email list, please go here: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/693350/135554289112188035/shareTo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Tired of feeling intimidated by technology? Join me for a candid conversation about the common fears people have about new tech, from feeling inadequate to worrying about job security. I'll share my personal journey as a traditionalist who embraced technology and discovered its incredible benefits.Discover how technology can be a powerful tool, not a threat, when used mindfully. Learn how to navigate the changing workplace with confidence and stay connected to your values and principles. Together, let's embrace the future and unlock the potential of technology.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

How much does character count? In this episode of Seared, I discuss how we tend to measure someone's character, the importance of overcoming limiting beliefs, and the power of strong character in overcoming adversity.I share stories of some of my culinary students who triumphed over challenges thanks to their unwavering character. I also explore the difference between hiring someone with great skills but poor character versus someone with weaker skills but exceptional character. Discover why character is often more valuable than technical ability in the long run.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I emphasize the importance of guarding your energy, particularly during times of global turmoil and natural disasters. Our sensitivity, while a superpower, can be easily overwhelmed by the negative energy surrounding us. It's crucial to prioritize self-care and tend to our own needs. By moving our bodies, engaging in activities that fill our cups, and managing our energy levels, we can avoid getting drained by the world's problems. I share my personal experience of feeling depleted due to neglecting self-care and the impact it had on my physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Remember, we can hold space for others, but we cannot bear the weight of the world. It's essential to manage our own energy and prioritize our well-being.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode of Seared, we dive into the dangers of perfectionism, using the example of a renowned chef Charlie Trotter, who pursued excellence at all costs.While striving for excellence can be beneficial, it's essential to balance it with humility, mental health awareness, and self-care. Perfectionism can lead to significant suffering, impacting relationships, health, and overall well-being. We explore the importance of perspective and how it can help mitigate the negative consequences of perfectionism. By understanding the pitfalls of this mindset, we can strive for excellence while maintaining a healthy and fulfilling life.There's nothing wrong with wanting to excel in what you do and who you are, but it can literally kill you if you don't keep that sinister voice in your head that's telling you that it's not good enough in check. To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode of Seared, we delve into the complexities of celebrity perception and personal expectations. Drawing from my encounters with renowned chefs, I share how my initial judgments were clouded by preconceived notions. We explore the reality behind the public image, acknowledging that even our heroes face personal struggles and disappointments. It's also about understanding how expectation is generally flawed by nature, and that in having expectations of others, we set ourselves up for disappointment. By fostering empathy and understanding, we can shift our perspective and appreciate the human side of those we admire. We can see the difference between standards and expectations, and in this episode, I share THREE POWERFUL ways to manage your expectations so that you can live a cooler, calmer life. And hey - don't forget to check out the You Are Gumbo page - my new YouTube channel with much different type of content that will tickle your fancy!https://www.youtube.com/@youaregumboTo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

In this episode of Seared, I discuss the risks of playing it safe and the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone. Using a restaurant I used to work at as an example, I illustrate how conformity can stifle creativity and uniqueness. The key to avoiding being humdrum is to take small, imperfect actions to attract unexpected opportunities. The universe often meets us halfway, so daring to be different can lead to extraordinary results. By breaking free from personal prisons of regret and embracing bold action, we can challenge the status quo and unlock our full potential.And how to do that, exactly?Well, you'll just have to listen ;) To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Do you have a spicy vocabulary?Told that you swear too much?Does your speech sound like it comes from a Tarantino or Scorsese script?This first episode of Season 2 of Seared is a deep dive into the power of language, specifically swearing. We'll explore how to harness the power of words, including the controversial four-letter ones. While swearing can be a tool for emphasis or connection, it's essential to consider context and company culture. As leaders, our language sets the tone. It's about more than just swearing though; it's about active listening, body language, and personal integrity. Ultimately, while there's nothing inherently wrong with swearing, mastering your vocabulary is key to effective communication. Is that f@cking clear?

It's a stereotype - the chef (and cooks) yelling at the poor servers as they come into the back of the house to do their job. I used to be like that too, until I realized a few things:1) I was being a jerk2) They're doing they're job and deserve to be treated well3) We're all on the same teamIt came down to CHOICE - how I decided to see the situation and how I wanted to comport myself. We ALL have choice in how we see ourselves, our problems, and how our lives unfold. In this episode of Seared, I touch upon the whole FOH-BOH thing and then share how choice has so MUCH POWER in your life. It literally can change your life....so listen up!NOTE: I'll be having a FREE workshop on Tuesday May 7th at 1 pm EDT to help you identify and break out of creative blocks. So if you're an artist stuck on a WIP, or you're in slump at work or in your business, or just feeling BLECH overall, then join me for this powerful workshop! Register here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYlde-qrD0oEtel0IMBgsAIUOWrgak-NX64To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

"Use your words" is something that parents will tell their children when the wee ones struggle to convey their feelings or needs. This is something we can struggle with as adults too. You have a voice, but maybe you struggle to find or use it. You're not alone!Do you have a hard time letting others know what you need?Do you mumble or mutter instead of being loud and clear?Are you playing small and letting your voice reflect that?In this episode of Seared, I look at how you can improve using your voice.  Literally. I give tips on how to find more of that confidence so that you can have more command of those around you (in the best way, of course!) and also increase the feeling of power that you naturally have. You don't have to have a booming chef voice like yours truly to get your message across (although it can help at times ha ha!)Leave a review, subscribe on YouTube, or share with someone who may be hiding their voice ;) To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

"Don't play with your food!" is something you've probably heard as a kid. But playing with your food can be a great thing...when you're a chef. Play is such a HUGE part of creativity and innovation. You don't have to be in the kitchen to play around. You can be in the boardroom, the construction site, the studio, the auto shop, the sales lot...wherever...and use play as a way to build, grow, and create. In this episode of Seared, I share an experience of a chef who blew my mind in terms of how he approached work and cooking. I share with you ways that play can increase productivity, morale, innovation, and yes, even sales. When everyone is in a workplace environment where play and exploration is modeled and encouraged, it becomes greater than the sum of the parts...and it's also a lot more fun!FREE GUIDE: To get your Iginite Your Inner Innovator guide, where I lay out loads of actionable, easy, and approachable ways to invite more creativity into your life,  go here:https://www.therealpaulsilva.com/creative-alchemistTo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

If you're a content creator, you probably dream of going viral, amirite?Here's the deal: it ain't what it's cracked up to be. For realies. Most creators who have gone viral agree - and while the attention can be great for some, for many it's challenging. Trolls. Bots. Skewed Algorithm. Larger, but now disengaged, audience. There is a tug-of-war in many of us between wanting to be seen and NOT being seen. In this (unscripted!) episode of Seared, I look at virality, but then get into this friction of seen/unseen. We examine this and the difference between acknowledgement and recognition and how you can learn to acknowledge yourself and others so that you can become a stronger leader and finer, more content, human being. Of course I will share a few things from the kitchen just to make it land better. We're frying up some goodness on this episode! So join in - review, comment, like, subscribe, share....To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

What are you in denial about, homie?We ALL have those things in our lives where we have a convenient blind spot on.  Whether it's a small thing (denying that you hurt someone's feelings) or something big (denying that you have a substance abuse issue), denial is POWERFUL AF.How do you step away from denial and into more freedom?In this episode of Seared, I share examples of denial in the cheffing world and also in my own personal life. I also walk you through ways YOU can relieve yourself of denial so that you can step into a freer and lighter life!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Regrets...you've had few right?We all have had them - those cringe or painful moments where we feel sadness, guily, disappointment, or other similar feelings about things that have happened (or didn't happen). Regrets are a type of self-directed resentment, and we all know that resentments are like poison to our system. In this episode of Seared, I take a look at how YOU can overcome regrets through the example of the ONE thing that kept hammering at me. When you can see regrets for what they are, and the emotions around them, you can release yourself from their heaviness and live life freer, with more joy and openness. Who wouldn't want that??To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

What do rats and negative self-talk have in common? They're both unwanted intruders. The good news is that you have COMPLETE control over your mind and your thoughts (and maybe not to much control over the rodents!)In this episode, I share with you some kitchen rat tales (tails?) and share how it's so easy to get caught up in negative self-talk.We all do it, right? We beat ourselves up with corrupted thoughts and "evidence" that just aren't true. I'll share with you ways to negate the negative self-talk, so that you can start being happier, more content, and more productive. Squeak squeak, motherf*cker - time to snap the trap on those errant thoughts!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

"I have to work with WHO again?!"If you've ever uttered those words, or just have someone in your circles who you JUST DON'T LIKE, then this episode is for you. How do you handle being around someone you can't stand?  What do you do when you have to breathe the same air as "that" person? You'll hear how it took me TWO years (yes, two years!) to finally figure out why one of my cooks got my blood boiling in milliseconds, and what I learned from that. You'll also get practical tips on how to manage yourself and the situation when you're "stuck" with someone you dislike. To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Are chef's artists? Or are they craftspeople? Does it even matter? But this leads to the discussion of CREATIVITY.Have you ever said that you're not a creative person?I call BS on that! You ARE creative, and in this episode, I debunk the idea that only artists are creative. How you create your day, your life, your work, your relationships...everything is creative. You'll learn the distinction between artistry and creativity, and how YOU can boost your creativity starting TODAY.  You don't have to wield a brush to be creative - you're already doing it and don't even know it!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Oh boy. This was NOT the episode I had planned. The one I did plan fell apart quicker than a used tissue in a hurricane. In this SHORT episode (about 10 minutes), I talk about how I had to let go of a disastrous podcast recording and to just accept that it will NEVER see the light of day. So what do you do when something doesn't go to plan?You forge ahead. Not everything is going to go to plan. And you know what? This ended up being a heartfelt lesson about letting go of expectations. Of surprises. Of letting the Universe guide  you. This is an unscripted, off-the-cuff recording and man, it almost brought me to tears. I hope that it resonates with you. I think it will. To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

You know the tired trope - the fired up chef, tossing pots and pans everywhere, screaming at people, barking orders, having a mini-meltdown as everyone murmurs "yes chef", "no chef" under their breath. TV shows, movies, and books all glorify the Angry Chef, or at least poke fun at them. It's something that is very real, though, and anyone who has worked in the hospitality industry has either worked for one, or know someone who has. But that begs the question - WHY ARE THEY SO ANGRY? It's a good question, and one that I tackle on this episode. I share what would set ME off back in the day, and common reasons for why chefs may get unhinged. Of course, it's not acceptable, and things are changing - and I share reasons why the industry is turning away from the boring pissy chef. I also share ways that YOU can calm yourself down when you feel like you're about to burst at the seams with anger. These are things I did while on the line (and now in my office and out and about!) that truly WORK. And you know I mean business when I wear MY whites on the show! First time ever. To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever felt trapped in a conversation that's spiraling into a relentless torrent of complaints? Or perhaps you've caught yourself in the throes of a venting session that's just sucking you in? You're not alone! In this episode of Seared, we dive into the challenge of chronic complainers and offer communication tactics that can reshape these draining exchanges into opportunities for insight. You learn how to handle thos chronic complainers in your life. We'll look at what the differences between complaining, venting, and processing are. And you'll learn it through specific examples - something new that I've tried on this episode! It's a longer episode than normal, but we cover a lot of ground with the usual fun, lightheartedness...and depth. And it starts with a Tim Hortons. Most chaos does

Did you know that you're a superhero? Okay, you may not wear a cape, but your courage and bravery show up EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. How amazing is that??In this episode, we explore the nuances of bravery and courage in your daily life. I'll unravel the distinction between bravery and courage, shedding light on the often-overlooked acts of everyday courage that we all possess.You'll be surprised at how you're already showing up in your brave heart on a daily basis! I'll share that, and also how you can continue showing up with courage, with concrete examples to get you going onto the battlefield of life!I also let you know how to step MORE into that courageous spirit of yours, with ways to open yourself up to more acts of courage. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share with friends. Tune in next time as we continue to explore topics that inspire and empower. Until then, stay courageous!And to catch that 1:1 session with yours truly, go HERE. It's $111 USD for a full hour, half my regular rate. There are only 10 spots (actually, 8 as of this writing!) and once they're gone, they're gone! You have until the 29th to pick up the session - and let me tell you, you'd be bonkers not to take it. Your life can change dramatically in that hour!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever had a plan go awry? Like, when you thought you had it all figured out, something comes along and punts you throught goalposts of life? That thing? Well, that's what happened to yours truly, and in this episode, I throw caution to the wind and speak from the heart, sharing stories about the chaotic, beautiful mess that ensues when life laughs at our well-laid plans. You get to watch me move through my own fear (not having a script to work with!)  in REAL TIME. I share show YOU can overcome things when they don't go the way you expected them to. The mindset techniques and ways of seeing things are what I share here so that you can reduce your stress and roll with the punches a LOT easier.  It's a great episode to listen to if you feel like life is landing unexpected blows on you.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Have you ever been told that you're TOO good? In this episode, I unravel the joy and jeopardy of aspiring to be the best—a journey spiced with intense dedication and the sometimes bitter taste of outshining peers. I share how I was once told that I was TOO fast, TOO ambitious...and how that affected me and my performance. We also talk about Tall Poppy Syndrome—the cultural snare that trips overachievers, (especially women). I peel back the layers of this phenomenon and the personal price paid by those who shine brightest. This episode gives you tips and strategies to navigate these treacherous social landscapes. The takeaway? Keep illuminating your talents, nurturing your happiness, and if need be, courageously stepping out of the shadows of an unsupportive environment. Your brilliance is not just necessary; it's worth celebrating. To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Have you ever stood on the precipice of a decision, toes curled over the edge, ready to leap away from all you've worked towards? That's where I found myself, both in the steamy chaos of my early culinary days and during the quiet contemplation of whether my podcast should continue or come to an end. In this episode, I share my near-quits, along with the wisdom that kept me grounded. It's an exploration of how our collective struggle with the urge to throw in the towel binds us, and how, paradoxically, it brings us back to the importance of vision and the pursuit of our goals.Learn how a clear vision can serve as an anchor, preventing you from being swept away by the riptides of burnout and fading passion. I'll reveal the transformative role of setting a vision and how setting measurable goals can lead us to find joy in the mundane, keeping us on course to our North Star. It's a reminder that our paths are paved with more than just the stones of our achievements; they're also lined with the light of our aspirations, guiding us through the darkness of doubt and uncertainty.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever noticed how you feel when someone gives your their complete attention?  In this episode,  I share how giving others that same gift can make a difference in their life...and in yours. I outline steps that can help you make more meaningful connections with others. We'll talk about the art of engagement, from active listening to putting our phones away, and how these simple gestures can deepen our interactions at any time, whether it's with family, or at work. I also talk about the ONE thing in desserts that I just CAN'T STAND. And maybe you'll agree (and even if you don't, we can still be friends). And this is the last episode of 2023, so I wish you a fab holiday season (and a cheers to those working during this time - I see you, hospitality folks!) Looking forward to reconnecting in the new year. Blessings to you all. The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale: Listen HEREPhones - Simon Sinek: Watch HERETo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever wondered why smokers seem to get more breaks at work? Drawing from my experience in the restaurant industry, we dissect this frustrating issue of fairness, offering insights into the often overlooked inequalities between smokers and non-smokers. On a bigger scale, we look at the idea of perceived unfairness, and discuss ways to manage feelings of resentment and find tranquility amidst injustice. You'll learn how altering your perspective can lead to peace and acceptance, even in the face of unfair treatment. This episode is all about encouraging you to take control of your life, build a life of pride, and shift mindsets for a better tomorrow.If you have any comments, please visit the FB group (as I mentioned in the episode) by going HERE --> https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61553675519522To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Have you ever been accused of being 'too nice?' Perhaps you've grappled with the fear of losing people's validation, or felt a constant need to perform for others? On this episode, I pull back the curtain on the 'nice guy' syndrome, a concept popularized by Dr. Robert Glover. Sharing from our personal experiences, I delve into the hidden darkness of this seemingly benign persona - the dishonesty, manipulation, and repressed anger that can surprisingly breed resentment.I then share the counterpoint to this - the good man. Unlike the 'nice guy,' a 'good man' doesn't seek validation from others but operates from a place of self-acceptance, sets boundaries, and acts with integrity. I share some tips on how to step away from the nice guy and into the integrated, healthy man.I also share how support and accountability from fellow men have helped men break free from old patterns. So if you're ready to break free from societal expectations, tune in for an engaging discussion on transforming from 'nice' to 'good.' This is an important episode that needs to be shared with the men in your life. Sign up for the men's group mentioned in the episode: SIGN UP HERE.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

What if I told you that the world isn't just black and white, but a myriad of shades in between? Binary thinking can sour relationships and lead to frustration, and keep you trapped in negativity.Grab your headphones and join us as I debunk the all-or-nothing mindset. In this episode, I'll share advice on how to break out of this pattern, emphasizing the importance of seeing things from others' points of view. And all this insight stemmed from a simple tomato salad.

When was the last time you truly appreciated the humbling beauty of the desert or the majestic flight of a hawk, and pondered over its spiritual significance? Ever wondered how these seemingly simple experiences could open doors to profound self-discovery and personal growth? Join me as I share intriguing tales from my recent Arizona trip, exploring not just the desert landscape but an introspective journey that has shaped my perspective on humility. I also share small stories from a restaurant I worked at that also doubled as a filming locationand  introduced me to the stark contrast in celebrity behaviors - from Mariah Carey's notorious antics to Billy Ray Cyrus's down-to-earth demeanor. These experiences stirred a deep realization about the power of humility. What does it mean to be truly humble? It's not just about being meek; it's about balancing assertiveness with openness, acknowledging your worth without overshadowing others, and understanding that pride and being prideful are not the same. In the pursuit of personal growth, humility is your most loyal companion. It teaches us valuable lessons about gratitude, the importance of listening more than talking, and the courage to accept our mistakes. So, let's peel away the layers of ego, stop worrying about others' perceptions, and learn to embrace humility in our daily lives. Don't forget to hit like, subscribe, and share our podcast so we can reach our goal of 100 subscribers by the end of the month!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Imagine being a staff member or manager going to eat at the restaurant they work in. How would the other staff treat you? Would they love bomb your table, or would they serve your lunch with a cold dish of side eye? In this episode, I share with you such a tale, and what that person had to do the next day after they came in for dinner! It's an example of the Law of Cause and Effect, and how it shows up in your life. I also discuss how to harness the Law of Cause and Effect to your benefit! You'll learn how being mindful and shifting your self-talk from negative to positive can significantly influence your outcomes. I also stress the importance of being aware of the people and environment you surround yourself with. If you want to grow in your life, and get what it is you want, then you'll want to listen up, because YOU get to create your life, and I'm gonna hand you one big tool that you can keep in your back pocket. Bon Appetit.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

It's intriguing how a simple question can provoke deep thought, and in this episode I ask this very type of question to you. This question has prompted me to contemplate the connections I've built over time, and what this means in how I show up daily. I invite you to do the same. In this birthday episode (53, bitches) I also share about the vital concept of 'impression of increase.' The act of leaving others in a better state than you found them is a potent principle, not about gaining popularity or expecting returns, but about creating a positive ripple effect. Coupled with the law of cause and effect, these principles form the backbone to a life of purposeful impact. Let's breathe into the abundance that surrounds us and show appreciation to those who enrich our lives. Together, we can embrace a life of significant impact, growing in our power to leave an imprint on the world.To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Addiction SUCKS. We all know this, even those who are afflicted with it. But it's hard to tackle, both as the one who suffers, and the ones who love those who are suffering. In the latest episode of Seared Stories from the Stove, we address the pervasiveness of addiction and the unique challenges within the hospitality industry, and ways to help cut down, or even eliminate alcohol and drugs from your life.  I also expose how the hard-living culture, shift work, and proximity to alcohol in the hospitality industry could contribute to substance abuse. I examine the stories we create around drinking, the importance of setting clear objectives, and how to dispute these narratives. Supporting a loved one with an addiction is not easy. This heartfelt conversation includes my personal experiences, tips to support loved ones without blaming oneself, and the significance of focusing on the problem, not the person. We also explore how to set boundaries and the importance of not enabling a loved one's addictive behaviors. If you're feeling lonely or need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to reach out to me. Show notes:You can find Beardo at: https://www.youtube.com/@beardogetsscaredYou can reach me via DM or email me using in the links below.Bon Appetit!PaulTo find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Ever been tempted to take a shortcut? Sure, they can give you a quick hit of dopamine and temporarily magnify efficiency, but beware, they can be a double-edged sword.  Shortcuts not only stunt creativity but also breed bad habits and perpetuate mediocrity. Tune in as we delve into the pros and cons of shortcuts in the kitchen, and elsewhere.And hey,  famous painter Normal Rockwell enters the chat too, as the discussion turns to how to settle into the sometimes painful, but always noble, path of growth...the long way.  So, buckle up, Buckaroo Banzai,  join us on this journey, and let's explore these intriguing concepts together. Don't forget to share your thoughts and help us reach our 1000 subscriber goal for a special chef reveal!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

Accidents happen. Especially in a kitchen. But imagine when you get double-whammied in ways that are so unbelievable that it just can't be a coincidence?That's what happened to yours truly, as I share that tale, and the painful lessons that came from that. (And it wasn't just me that felt that pain!)This was a fun one to record, as you'll see. I have a surprise or two here, so you'll need to listen up!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com

I've received a lot of questions in my time as a chef, even now that I'm retired. In this episode, not only do I share my story of becoming a chef, but I answer a few of those burning questions. Join me as I bare all about the passion-fueled journey, from a wide-eyed novice to a skilled culinarian, and the simultaneous struggle with alcohol addiction that painted this journey with its own shades of struggle and triumph.As we traverse through the labyrinth of my kitchen experiences, I throw light on the vital ingredients that seasoned me into the chef I am today. You'll gain insights into the art of leadership in the fast-paced kitchen environment, the importance of humility and curiosity, and the invaluable lessons learned from my own f*ck ups. Whether you're an aspiring chef or a culinary enthusiast, you'll discover the intricate tapestry of trials and tribulations, intense passion, and relentless hard work that goes into the making of a chef.I also share the VITAL things that chefs look for in new cooks. So if you're looking to get a foothold in a fine kitchen, then you need to listen up!To find out more about working with me, go to the website to find out more about how life and creativity coaching can work for you.You can also find me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and Threads.Watch the episode on YouTube as well! You can drop me a comment or question at: paul@paulsilvacoaching.com