Big Mama's House Podcast

Show: Web of Lies    Network: Investigation DiscoverySeason 1: Episode 6  Farmville HorrorPremiered 2/12/2014https://www.investigationdiscovery.com/tv-shows/web-of-lies/full-episodes/farmville-horrorBay Area suspect allegedly bludgeoned victimshttps://www.sfgate.com/crime/article/Bay-Area-suspect-allegedly-bludgeoned-victims-3217121.phpQuadruple-murder suspect's sister has received death threats over Virginia slayingshttps://www.mercurynews.com/2009/09/25/quadruple-murder-suspects-sister-has-received-death-threats-over-virginia-slayings/  UPDATE: Details emerge about weapons used in Farmville killingswww2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/young_calif._man_indicted_for_farmville_killings/303376/P0/    Services held for Farmville slaying victimshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM041_20091003-222407/297346/Services held for slain Longwood professorhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/article/FARMGAT03_20091003-164201/297261/Father made futile trip in search for slain daughterhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM30_20090929-222402/296385/The unfolding of a cruel crime in Farmville, and a strange onehttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM27_20090926-221606/295789/A timeline of the Farmville killingshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM27G1_20090926-195801/295730/Farmville suspect told of confrontation, cab driver sayshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM26_20090925-222606/295597/Slain W.Va. teenager mourned at servicehttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM26S1_20090925-222201/295585/Suspect told cabbie he confronted girlfriendhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/suspect_told_cabbie_he_confronted_girlfriend_over_text_message/295462/Rapper, suspect's mother provide slayings case detailshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM251_20090924-232001/295416/Slain pastor remembered as gifted and compassionatehttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM251S1_20090924-233803/295422/Services for Farmville slaying victims begin todayhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARMGAT24_20090924-062601/295167/Graveside service scheduled today for slain pastorhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM24S1_20090923-221002/295108/Gruesome music genre becomes subject of scrutinyhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM24_20090923-222604/295120/Police tell of encounters with Farmville suspecthttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM231_20090922-233601/294871/Teen victims were drawn to macabre musichttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/site_elements/tags/tag/farmville+killings/Farmville victims died from blunt force traumahttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/farmville_victims_died_from_head_injuries/294667/Suspect's sister expresses remorse in Farmville slayingshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM221_20090921-235202/294638/Excerpts: Farmville suspect's sister writeshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM22S_20090921-222608/294591/Calif. police raid home of quadruple murder suspecthttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/hearing_for_man_accused_in_farmville_slayings_to_be_held_by_video_conferenc/294463/Appomattox church fondly recalls slain pastorhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM21S1_20090920-223603/294428/Police look at role lyrics may have had in slayingshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/FARM21_20090920-223409/294416/Longwood professor ‘loved her work'https://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/article/FARM20S1_20090919-222405/294216/Suspect may have been in contact via Internet with professor's daughterhttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/state_regional/article/FARM20S2_20090919-222603/294224/Suspect arrested in four Farmville slayingshttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/article/FARMUP_20090919-234403/294271/Quadruple slaying suspect arrested at Richmond airporthttps://web.archive.org/web/20110828131950/http://www2.timesdispatch.com/rtd/news/local/crime/article/four_bodies_found_in_farmville_home/294109/

Liner NotesHow the pandemic has disrupted our routines, and how the lack of routine impacts children. Listen to episode #1….Jean Twenge websiteMonitoring the Future Survey – websiteThe UnLonely Project - websiteAdam Leventhal – psychologist at USCTo learn more about Internet Safety, go to the START HERE document where you can watch videos, download resources and more. To learn more about joining the Big Mama's House Fan Club go to www.Patreon.com/BigMamasHouse------------------------------------------------------------Episode HighlightsHow the pandemic has impacted time managementLessons learned from the stay at home orderWe are all expendableTime is the only constant in lifeTime is the only currency that mattersAllocating our “time expenses”Dunkin Donuts coffee versus Starbucks coffeeIncreased content consumption because of the pandemicIncreased device time because of the pandemicWhy I can't watch national morning shows anymoreHow news delivery had changed our tolerance for factsThe impact of device time on young brainsChildren born between 1995 and 2012 are the loneliest people on the planetHow loneliness can shorten your life spanRising rates of depression among childrenSocial media use increases rates of depression and anxietyScreen time is linked to diminished mental healthReading on PAPER improves mental health outcomes and improves development and health of physical structures in the brainHow device use impacts sleep among teensImpact of device time on the brain development of preschoolersImpact of device time on long-term development of 8 to 12 year oldsHow smartphone use among adolescents may trigger ADHD like symptoms and changes the brainHow screen-based activities make teens less happyThe Unlonely Project and using creative pursuits and bibliotherapy to improve mental healthTips and tricks for parents to improve the mental health of their childrenTips and tricks for educators to improve the mental health of their student------------------------------------------------------------SourcesHorowitz-Kraus, Tzipi, and John S. Hutton. “Brain Connectivity in Children Is Increased by the Time They Spend Reading Books and Decreased by the Length of Exposure to Screen-Based Media.” Acta Paediatrica, vol. 107, no. 4, 2017, pp. 685–693., doi:10.1111/apa.14176.Hutton, John S., et al. “Associations Between Screen-Based Media Use and Brain White Matter Integrity in Preschool-Aged Children.” JAMA Pediatrics, vol. 174, no. 1, 2020, doi:10.1001/jamapediatrics.2019.3869.Leventhal, Adam M., “Digital Media Use and ADHD Symptoms” JAMA. 2018 12 25; 320(24):2599-2600.Meldrum, Ryan.C, J.C. Barnes, and Carter Hay. “Sleep Deprivation, Low Self-Control, and Delinquency: A Test of the Strength Model of Self-Control.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 44.2 (2013): 465-77.Ryan, Richard M., Deci, Edward L. “Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being,” American Psychologist, January 2000. Schrobsdorff, Susanna. “Anxiety, depression, and the modern adolescent.” Time, November 7, 2016. Tarokh, Leila, Jared M. Saletin, and Mary A. Carskadon. “Sleep in adolescence: Physiology, cognition and mental health.” Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews 70 (2016): 182-88.Telzer, Eva H., Andrew J. Fuligni, Matthew D. Lieberman, and Adriana Galvan, “The effects of poor quality sleep on brain function and risk taking in adolescence.” NeuroImage 71 (2013): 275-283.Twenge, Jean M. IGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood: and What That Means for the Rest of Us. Atria Paperback, 2018.Weinberger, Jesse The Boogeyman Exists: And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket, 2nd ed.OvernightGeek, 2019

Just for members of the Big Mama's House Fan Club. Use this link to download the three page cheat sheet made specifically for this episode - including minute-by-minute breakdown of the episode as well as internet safety tips and tricks checklists for both parents and schools.  Episode HighlightsThe impact of the pandemic on schools and educatorsHow schools are accidentally putting children at risk via social mediaBest practices for schools using Facebook and TwitterMental health impact of the pandemic on studentsTips for helping children with their anxietyTwo resources available online related to children, mental health, and the pandemicHow hashtags on school-based social media posts can put children at riskLink between device time and diminished mental healthBOOK: iGen by Jean TwengeBOOK: The Talent Code by Daniel CoyleConnection between device use and neuroplasticity and tech addiction. SOURCESBerinato, Scott. “That Discomfort You're Feeling Is Grief.” Harvard Business Review, 16 Apr. 2020, hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief. Coyle, Daniel. The Talent Code Greatness Isn't Born. It's Grown. Arrow, 2010. Julian, Story by  Kate. “What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic, Atlantic Media Company, 27 Apr. 2020, www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/05/childhood-in-an-anxious-age/609079/. Twenge, Jean M. IGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood: and What That Means for the Rest of Us. Atria Paperback, 2018. REFERENCESFacebook Rant – mentioned in the episodeVideo morning announcements- mentioned in the episodeCOPPA Law – learn more about the FTC's COPPA law hereCIPA Law – learn more about the FCC's CIPA law here To learn more about this Internet Safety Podcast, internet safety and parenting, and more, go to the START HERE document where you can watch videos, download school resources, parent resources, and more. To learn more about joining the Big Mama's House Fan Club go to www.Patreon.com/BigMamasHouse 

Episode HighlightsIn an effort to increase student and community engagement, schools may accidentally be putting student's privacy and data at risk when using social media and livestreaming apps. In this internet safety podcast you will hear the hardest part of travelling all over the US to work as an Internet Safety Speaker for schoolswhy Big Mama thinks that Guidance Counselors are the unsung heroes of all K-12 buildingswhy you're a chump if you buy $100 yoga pantsthe reality of what's happening in schools across this countryan ode to educators everywherehow COPPA and CIPA laws are being accidentally disregardedhow your children are being put at risk as a resultan interview with the amazing Amanda Clapp, Esq – in-house counsel at Neola.com – a firm which specializes in helping navigate, write, and maintain legal school policy for over 1500 school districts in 6 statesBig Mama cries like a giant dork (13:17) Mentioned in the episodeAmanda Clapp, EsqIn-house Counsel Neola.com - - a firm which specializes in helping schools navigate legal policy for over 1,500 school districts in 6 states. NEOLA- 3914 Clock Pointe Trail, Suite 103 - Stow, OH 44224Phone: (330) 926-0514www.neola.com Facebook Rant – mentioned in the episodeVideo morning announcements - mentioned in the episode ReferencesCOPPA Law – learn more about the FTC's COPPA law hereCIPA Law – learn more about the FCC's CIPA law here To learn more about this Internet Safety Podcast, internet safety and parenting, and more, go to the START HERE document where you can watch videos, download school resources, parent resources, and more.To learn more about joining the Big Mama's House Fan Club go to www.Patreon.com/BigMamasHouse

In this episode, we will cover the following: Having THE TALK with your childrenUnderstanding the fact that kids are now starting to watch porn at 8 years old, porn addiction now begins at 11 years old, that children are not allowed to have any social media under the age of 13 per Federal guidelines (COPPA)Child brain development and impulse controlHaving a “good kid” is irrelevantChecklist of questions for parentsInterview with Susan Moran, Esq - Criminal defense attorney - covering juvenile sexting charges and what you need to know as a parentWhat two police officers think about Big Mama's rule: Keep your mouth shut until your attorney arrivesReview of seven recent sexting, sexual predation, sextortion casesIs Teen Vogue really encouraging children to create child pornography?Quick review of six Teen Vogue articles on sextingBig Mama shares data collected from her live presentations including what 2,826 elementary school children have to say about device ownership, sexting, consuming pornography, and what the biggest issue is among their friendsTips for parents to try to prevent sexting in their own homes Remember - Parenting is hard. Be kind yourself. ----------------------------------------Thank you to guest: Susan Moran, EsqCriminal defense attorney in OhioOffice: 440-617-1528Cell: 216-965-5763susanmoranlaw@gmail.com National Center on Sexual Exploitationwww.endsexualexploitation.org To learn more about Internet Safety, go to the START HERE document where you can watch videos, download resources and more. If you're already a member of the Big Mama's House Podcast, go to the channel and grab the fans-only downloadable cheat sheet and checklist document which accompanies this episode. To learn more about joining the Big Mama's House Fan Club go to www.Patreon.com/BigMamasHouse---------------------------------------SourcesCriminal cases mentioned Nov 2019 - Neche, ND man sentenced to 60 years for sexual exploitation of a minor, possession, distribution of child pornographyMarch 2, 2020 - EHT Man Pleads Guilty to Distributing Child PornJuly 2019 – Nanticoke man charged with sexting girl, 11Jan 2020 Ex-teacher arrested on sexting allegationsFebruary 15, 2020 - Fortnite predator exploited Mid-Columbia kids through Xbox. How to protect your childrenMay 1, 2020 - Fontana man, 32, arrested after attempting to meet 10-year-old girl for sex November 2019 - Court document: Man arrested for possessing child porn; reported by SnapChat, Comcast Teen Vogue Articles5/23/11 Can Sexting Get You Arrested? 1/2/14 Yet Another Reason to Think Before You Sext: Pedophile Porn Sites Are Stealing Girls' Pics 4/13/17 How to Sext: The Best Tips and Tricks. Read up. 5/2/19 When Is It Safe to Send a Partner Nude Photos?3/18/20 Dating and Coronavirus: Can You Still Kiss, Have Sex, and Go on Dates During Social Distancing?4/3/20 Everybody's Horny and Thirst Trapping Like There's No Tomorrow Because of the Coronavirus Pandemic--------------------------------------------------Student DataFirst: How many 3rd to 6th graders have a social media account? Out of those 2,826 students, they have a combined total of 5,882 social media accounts – or 2.08 social media accounts per 3rd grade – 253 students have 425 accounts  (these children are EIGHT years old) and that's an average of 1.68 per child4th grade – 341 students have 508 account (these children are NINE years old) and that's an average of 1.49 per child Second: How many 3rd to 6th graders own a smartphone?The overall average phone ownership is 69%3rd graders – 48% 4th graders – 60%5th graders – 61%6th graders – 79% Third: How many 3rd to 6th graders have a Snapchat or TikTok account? Overall average of usage of Snapchat across 3rd to 6th: 40.3% So out of those 2,826 students – 1140 have a SC account3rd grade – 25%4th grade – 28%5th grade – 34%6th grade – 49% Overall average of usage of TikTok across 3rd to 6th: 40.4% exactly the same as SC (which is pretty typical)So out of those 2,826 students – 1144 have a TT account3rd grade – 33%4th grade – 37%5th grade – 38%6th grade – 44% Fourth  How many 3rd to 6th graders promise to stop sexting or promise to cut down on porn consumption? Overall average of kids promising to STOP or CUT DOWN on sexting from  3rd to 6th:  4.6%So out of those 2,826 students – 131 total are promising to stop sextingThat doesn't mean that only 4.6% are doing it, but that 4.6% are promising to stop. 3rd grade – 3%  (7 total kids)4th grade – 5% (16 total kids)5th grade – 4% (34 total kids)6th grade – 5% (74 total kids)Overall average of kids promising to STOP or CUT DOWN on watching porn from  3rd to 6th:  8.8%out of those 2,826 students – 249 total are promising to cutback on porn. Here's the breakdown: 3rd grade – 12%(31 total kids)4th grade – 11% (39 total kids)5th grade – 8% (65 total kids)6th grade – 8% (114 total kids) Fifith: How many 3rd to 6th graders feel that SEXTING is the biggest issue at their school? Overall average of 3rd to 6th graders who chose SEXTING or INAPPROPRIATE CONTENT being shared among their friends as the biggest issue: 20%out of those 2,826 students – 560 total believe that SEXTING is a bigger issue than Cyberbullying, Device Addiction, Increased drama in the school day due to sm, or None. 3rd graders: 36% (90)4th graders: 22% (74)5th graders: 17% (134)6th graders: 18% (262)

ResourcesIf you're a member of the Big Mama's House Fan Club, go to the channel to see an extended version of the episode highlights with a full index of contentsTo learn more about Internet Safety, go to the START HERE document  where you can watch videos, download resources and more.--------------------------------------------------------SourcesVerizon Smart Family AppLive streaming shows mentionedThis Is UsVampire DiariesGilmour GirlsMarie Kondo's Tidying UpAll AmericanOzarkTikTok & US State Dept. banU.S. Military Branches Block Access to TikTok App Amid Pentagon Warning  (read)State Department and DHS ban TikTok from government-issued devices  (read)The Department of Defense Is Warning People Not to Use TikTok Over National Security Concerns (read)--------------------------------------------------------Episode Highlights02:15 Part One : Interview with William22:10 Part Two : Interview with Hailey & Holly46:19 Part three : Interview with Phoebe and Clarice--------------------------------------------------------

Resources - If you're a member of the Big Mama's House Fan Club, go to the channel to download the PDF Cheat Sheet specifically for this episode which includes: a checklist, full transcript, sources, and more To learn more about Internet Safety, go to the START HERE document  where you can watch videos, download resources and more.--------------------------------------------------------SourcesStudent survey responses dataWeinberger, Jesse “Internet Safety & Digital Parenting: Your kids want you to say ‘no' – to them AND to yourself. I have proof” OvernightGeekUniversity.com (2018) Routine and well-beingRead more about Donald Winnicott, psychoanalyst with some excellent advice for parents. “The road to a better society begins in the nursery.”(Kaufman Citation) - Williams, Alice. “By Age 7 the Foundations for Your Child's Adult Brain Are Pretty Much Set.” NewsComAu, News.com.au, 29 Oct. 2016Larsen, Kristy L., "Organized Chaos: Daily Routines as a Potential Mechanism Linking Household Chaos and Child Behavior Problems" (2019). Master's Theses. 627.Fiese, Barbara H., et al. “A Review of 50 Years of Research on Naturally Occurring Family Routines and Rituals: Cause for Celebration?”Journal of Family Psychology, vol. 16, no. 4, 2002, pp. 381–390., doi:10.1037/0893-3200.16.4.381.  Adolescents and sleepWeinberger, Jesse The Boogeyman Exists: And He's In Your Child's Back Pocket, 2nd ed.OvernightGeek, 2019Telzer, Eva H., Andrew J. Fuligni, Matthew D. Lieberman, and Adriana Galvan, “The effects of poor quality sleep on brain function and risk taking in adolescence.” NeuroImage 71 (2013): 275-283.Meldrum, Ryan.C, J.C. Barnes, and Carter Hay. “Sleep Deprivation, Low Self-Control, and Delinquency: A Test of the Strength Model of Self-Control.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 44.2 (2013): 465-77.Tarokh, Leila, Jared M. Saletin, and Mary A. Carskadon. “Sleep in adolescence: Physiology, cognition and mental health.” Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews 70 (2016): 182-88.--------------------------------------------------------Episode Highlights00:57 Why two episodes this week?01:34 Stopping the bleeding – aka parental triage03:07 Humans need structure05:09 Why children in particular require structure, daily routines, and ritual07:05 Why limits matter07:36 What 1,040 students want parents to know about tech use09:00 What all effective digital parenting strategies and tips have in common10:50 Tip 1: Parent Heal Thyself13:00 Tip 2: Geographic Restriction14:10 Tip 3: Drop Dead Device Deadline15:16 Verizon Smart Family App – as an example16:19 Setting limits on gaming time17:56 Poor sleep= damage to adolescents

Episode HighlightsDigital parenting can be overwhelming – it's not just you.How to make an “Anger Smoothie” (spoiler: one kitchen blender + your kid's gaming controller)Why this podcast?Nobody cares what you had for dinner. Put your phone down.  Prevention is better than repair.At what age should I give my kid a smartphone?  You can control what happens in your own house.  The two things that your kids wish that you knew.Over 40-year-old selfies are sad.  Resources & other education. ResourcesTo learn more about this topic go to the START HERE document  where you can watch videos, download resources and more.To learn more about joining the Big Mama's House Fan Club go to www.Patreon.com/BigMamasHouse