Welcome to Do We Fit In, a weekly podcast hosted by Andile and Maggie, interracial best friends from opposite ends of the world who now call LA home. Each week we welcome listeners into our daily lives and sit down for meaningful conversations with inspirational guests who might just have the answers. No topic is off limits when it comes to business, dating, wellness, culture, mental health and pop-culture as we expose the reality that the desire to fit in isn’t real, when everyone is born to stand out. Follow us on Instagram and DM us your favorite topics! @dwfipodcast For collaborations, please email maggie@dowefitin.com
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The girls finally update us on their dating and personal lives as Andile dishes on meeting her celebrity crush. Serenade, anyone? The hosts dive into several topics from listeners, like "Are we moving too quickly because of Covid?", "Are you codependent?", and "What about having sex on the first date?"
This episode, Andile and Maggie invite friend & fellow podcaster Lex Niko--host of pop culture and current events podcast One Last Thing--to dig into the landscape of dating & relationships. Lex has been featured by ABC's The Bachelor, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, and has written for betches.com and CBC Digital, so she is no stranger to opening up and getting real. What happens when three expert conversationalists get together? The answer is an hour of self discovery, connecting the dots, the importance of having a long-term relationship with yourself, rediscovering that Maggie is a romantic at heart (and Andile & Lex are not), but at the end of the day all everyone wants is love and connection.
On this week's episode, Andile and Maggie are joined by DJ Tay James, Justin Bieber's Production Manager, A&R, DJ and Hyphenate Creative to discuss all things love, dating, and relationships all while prioritizing your career and most importantly, yourself. We get Tay to spill the secrets on what successful, driven and genuine guys are looking for in a partner and relationship and why it's not you, it's timing. DJ Tay James is a Baltimore native, LA transplant who started DJ'ing at 12 and by the time he was 15 had signed his first record deal. A business marketing major, Tay has climbed the music ranks and has DJ'd for Chris Brown, Rihanna, and Barack Obama's Inauguration. Tay is currently Justin Bieber's Production Manager, Tour DJ and A&R. Oh, and he's LA's most eligible bachelor.
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In the final episode of Season 1, Andile and Maggie aren't afraid to get vulnerable by exposing their failures, digging into Andile's recent entanglement, and what they're most excited about for Season 2. The girls recount the story of how the podcast started, how they've grown since then, and how they really feel about one another.
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Andile and her best friend Ashley sit down on the eve of Andile's 30th birthday to discuss all the things they learned in their 20s, the things they'd tell their younger selves, and the next chapter ahead. They touch on their careers, personal relationships, and some black girl magic. Londoner, traveler, and branding & endorsement extraordinaire Ashley-Gianna Hallett has advised and directed the futures of the highest-tiers in entertainment and fashion, including Beyoncé, Elite Models, and Burberry.
It's a big week - the 2020 Presidential Election and Andile's 30th birthday. In preparation of Andile's 30th Birthday Special, airing this Sunday, the girls switch it up during this weeks' episode and get deep with listeners through a game of “We're Not Really Strangers”. With questions like "What's a dream you've let go of?" and "Are you lying to yourself about anything?", tune in to hear their real responses to some of their most intimate thoughts.
Marta Pozzan and Yola Roberts, business partners and two creative multi-hyphenates who straddle film, journalism, and fashion join Andile and Maggie for an hour of much-needed dialogue around the importance of mental health. The women touch upon the diagnosis, recovery, and acceptance of mental health and the intersection and effects on our dating, work, and lives.
Andile and Maggie sit down this week to discuss dating quarantine-style. How can we make long distance work in this day and age (or can we?), what it means to introduce your significant other to friends/family, and does the length of time to define relationship status change based on this new normal?
This week, Andile and Maggie share stories about moving forward, balancing personal relationships and careers, and thinking of work as a healthy passion, rather than an addiction. The ladies explore the ins and outs of reputations, what makes a woman “assertive” versus “a bitch”, and how they might charge their souls' rechargeable batteries more like those in their phones.
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With major life updates, Andile and Maggie sit down this week to dissect the stages of a new relationship. From navigating the path from app-to-text, text to FaceTime, date to first kiss, sex, sexting and finally to meeting the friends and family of your special someone, the girls talk through their dos-and-don'ts when it comes to timing. The girls catch us up on their current relationship status', interracial dating, and how to balance work-life balance when it comes to dating.
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Andile and Maggie sit down to talk about something they've been afraid to discuss in the past—how many people is too many to talk to? What about when applied to sex? The girls dig into when it's okay to sleep with an ex, catching feelings and how it happens, and the potential crashes when juggling multiple relationships.
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Andile and Maggie return for a juicy discussion about the art and etiquette of sending nudes, the stigmas and shame surrounding the topic, and how to claim and reclaim power, inside and out. They share examples of what is always and what is never okay, while also striking nerves and striking back against unsolicited d*** pics.
1:32 Angry Black Woman3:13 Pretty And Dumb5:40 Overcoming Labels7:02 People Will Always Have Something To Say7:26 Kylie Didn't Even Say8:16 Only Fans Anthem9:30 Maggie Empowering Women10:30 Andile The Stylish MUA12:04 F**kgirl 10113:45 Andile Is Not A Groupie14:18 Maggie Teases The Next Episode's Guest17:20 Why OnlyFans Blew Up18:43 Sexy Doctors Are Unprofessional?21:20 The IG Archives26:54 Maggie Discovers The True Meaning Of WAP
2:37 Pandora's Box4:47 Technology & Dating8:54 Introducing TJ Taylor of Raya10:07 Dating In Today's Climate11:36 All About Raya And How To Get Accepted13:27 How To Get A Guy's Attention14:58 TJ Rates Our Dating Profiles20:30 First Date Etiquette22:15 Looking For A Sponsor27:28 Being Satisfied In A Relationship28:10 Someone For Everyone?30:58 Dating In LA32:28 Fuckboy Characteristics36:09 XYZ39:55 Have You Ever Had Your Heart Broken?42:12 I Got This43:23 Little Things44:59 No Crying In The Club47:55 Talking To Multiple People51:29 Advice For A Strong Connection
2:01 Shining a light3:33 Growing up online6:40 A different narrative7:26 Is being a chameleon a good thing?8:20 T-shirts at the pool & Cabo for Christmas13:15 To some people, maybe18:20 "Yeah. No."21:21 Opening up22:38 Support systems25:14 Dealing with problems is hard28:00 One size of treatment does not fit all29:53 The person who is me who has anxiety33:33 Stars37:37 Extremely disruptive39:00 Will I be stigmatized for sharing my mental health?41:10 Work, flow, workflow, and routines46:44 New habits48:00 Asking an employer for a mental health day49:49 Access51:45 Why more women talk about mental health than men52:27 Balance55:40 Truth Or Dare **CRISIS SERVICES**Rape Treatment Center Santa Monica UCLA Hospital - 424.259.7208National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 800.273.8255Self-Help Programs for Addictions Alcoholics Anonymous www.aa.orgEating Disorders Anonymous www.eatingdisordersanonymous.com
1:26 What's your type5:21 Do you put yourself out in dating11:39 Have you ever been rejected13:24 What is rejection15:50 Bounce back from rejection or pain17:05 Why people stay in relationships / leaving something good to find something amazing21:30 Right person, wrong time29:40 Doing the rejecting / ghosting culture33:33 Work/ life balance37:27 Scariest part of falling in love39:13 Horoscopes - Scorpios x Geminis41:45 - Truth or dare Follow us on Instagram @dwfipodcast and remember to submit your most burning Truth Or Dare questions into our Truth Or Dare Jar. DM us what you want us to do to be fearless!
0:05 Welcome to the Podcast0:30 Intro to Maggie0:51 Intro to Andile1:10 How we met3:08 What we do for a living4:40 The fears we all face growing up6:30 Iconic interracial female duos7:30 What's happening in the world9:00 What Andile would be doing if fear didn't get in the way12:00 What Maggie would be doing if fear didn't get in the way14:07 Livie Jewelry15:20 What is happening in the world16:23 Andile's wish for the future generation17:24 Maggie's wish for the next generation17:58 Overheard in LA18:26 Maggie's biggest insecurity 18:48 F***boi culture19:17 Andile's phobia19:52 Droppin' gems20:38 Is being happy selfish? 21:15 Looking for that next person22:20 Upcoming guests22:38 Going through the same stuff23:30 Uncomfortable conversations about race25:00 Public speaking and English as a second language25:50 Truth or dare26:20 Maggie's celebrity crush27:00 Andile's celebrity crush28:10 Onto the next Follow us on Instagram @dwfipodcast and remember to submit your most burning Truth Or Dare questions into our Truth Or Dare Jar. DM us what you want us to do to be fearless!Get 30% off at Livie Jewelry with code DWFI30Andile's first language, Ndebele
Welcome to Do We Fit In, a weekly podcast hosted by Andile and Maggie, interracial best friends from opposite ends of the world who now call LA home. Each week they welcome listeners into their daily lives and sit down for meaningful conversations with inspirational guests who might just have the answers. No topic is off limits when it comes to careers, love, relationships, body struggles, and life as they expose the reality that the desire to fit in isn't real, because everyone is born to stand out. New episodes every Wednesday! For advertising opportunities, please email maggie@dowefitin.com