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Emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse and coercive control destroy lives covertly. In this podcast you will find, concise, empowering advice about navigating, escaping and healing from these insidious forms of psychological abuse from a leading expert and specialist Counsellor - Nova Gibson. Her expertise in identifying behaviors of narcissistic abusers, such as coercive control, gaslighting, and trauma bonding, can be incredibly helpful for those in toxic relationships. If you're struggling with narcissistic abuse or you know someone who is, whether the narcissist is an intimate partner, a friend, a parent, or someone you work with, the information Nova and her guests provide in her podcast will be life changing in your healing journey.Nova is director, founder and principle counselor at Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service. She is also the best-selling author of the globally acclaimed'Fake Love - Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse'. HarperCollins.

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    10 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist (And What They Really Mean)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 20:24 Transcription Available


    Dating a narcissist can feel like a rollercoaster of confusion, self-doubt, and emotional highs and lows. In this powerful episode, we unpack the 10 most common signs you're dating a narcissist—signs that are often disguised as love, charm, or even care. From love bombing and gaslighting to emotional withdrawal and future faking, these patterns are subtle at first but deeply damaging over time.This episode explores how narcissists use manipulation, charm, and psychological tactics to gain control and erode their partner's sense of reality. We take a closer look at the emotional abuse cycles that often go unnoticed in narcissistic relationships, helping listeners recognise the red flags before they escalate. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells, constantly questioning your worth, or doubting your own perception of reality in a relationship, this episode will bring much-needed clarity.Listeners will learn how to identify covert manipulation tactics, why narcissists behave the way they do in romantic relationships, and how emotional dependency is created through trauma bonding. This deep dive reveals not only the surface-level behaviours but the psychological reasons behind them—so you can spot the difference between genuine affection and narcissistic control.This episode is especially relevant for those dealing with a narcissistic partner, wondering if their relationship is toxic, or healing from emotional abuse. It's a must-hear for anyone questioning whether they've been love-bombed, devalued, or discarded by someone who never truly loved them, only controlled them.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    How Narcissists Use Projection to Blame and Confuse You

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2025 17:33


    If you've ever found yourself being accused of things you didn't do, or being labelled with traits that clearly belong to the narcissist themselves, chances are you've experienced this toxic psychological trick firsthand. In this powerful episode, we explore one of the most insidious tactics narcissists use to manipulate and emotionally destabilise their victims – projectionProjection is a defence mechanism that allows narcissists to avoid taking accountability for their actions. Instead of owning up to their own flaws, behaviours, or toxic attitudes, they shift the blame onto you. Suddenly, you're the one who's "too sensitive," "selfish," "lying," or "manipulative." It's a calculated move designed not only to confuse and disarm you, but to make you question your own reality and integrity.We break down exactly how and why narcissists project, with real-world examples drawn from counselling sessions, survivor stories, and lived experiences. You'll learn how this tactic often shows up in narcissistic relationships – from romantic partners and parents to workplace bullies and toxic friends – and the emotional toll it takes on victims.This episode also highlights the emotional confusion and cognitive dissonance that projection creates. Narcissists are masters at using it to gaslight and distort the truth, making it incredibly difficult for victims to identify what's real. We'll talk about the circular arguments, the deflection, and the rage that often accompanies projection when you dare to stand up for yourself or question their narrative.We also unpack why narcissists rely so heavily on projection. Whether it's to preserve their fragile ego, avoid guilt, or maintain their false self-image, projection serves as a smokescreen that keeps the narcissist in control while leaving you doubting yourself.If you've ever felt like you were being punished for someone else's behaviour, made to feel responsible for the narcissist's emotions, or gaslit into silence by relentless accusations, this episode is a must-listen. Understanding projection is a crucial step in unravelling the narcissist's manipulation and reclaiming your voice, clarity, and confidence.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Why Covert Narcissists Sabotage Your Happiness and Special Moments

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 28:58 Transcription Available


    Why do narcissists seem to lash out when you're at your happiest? Why do they ruin birthdays, holidays, family events, or moments of personal success? If you've ever found yourself asking “Why can't they just let me enjoy this?”, this episode is for you.In this deep-dive episode, we unpack the disturbing reality behind why narcissists can't stand your joy. Whether it's your graduation, a promotion, a peaceful family gathering, or simply a quiet moment of contentment, narcissists have a way of inserting chaos, guilt, or drama—ensuring that the spotlight shifts back to them.We'll explore:The narcissist's pathological envy and need to undermine youHow they weaponise special moments to create emotional confusionThe psychological reason your joy feels threatening to themThe difference between support and sabotage in toxic dynamicsCommon tactics: disappearing acts, passive-aggressive comments, arguments out of nowhere“They see your joy as a reminder they can't feel theirs.”Narcissistic sabotage isn't random—it's a patterned behaviour used to reassert control and destabilise you emotionally. These moments of sabotage are often followed by gaslighting, blame-shifting, or false apologies that keep you questioning yourself and walking on eggshells.You'll also hear real-world examples from my counselling practice, helping you identify red flags and understand the deeper emotional manipulation at play.“They won't let you have the moment—unless it serves them.”This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever felt emotionally ambushed during what should've been their happiest moments. I'll help you see through the manipulation and take the first steps toward emotional freedom.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    The Narcissistic Neighbour from Hell: What You Must Know to Protect Your Peace

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 19:54 Transcription Available


    They live right next door—but your life feels like a psychological battleground. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving into one of the most overlooked forms of narcissistic abuse: the narcissistic neighbour from hell.If you've ever had your boundaries trampled, your privacy violated, or your daily peace destroyed by a toxic neighbour, you're not imagining it—this is real, and you're not alone."It's not just petty disputes about fences or noise. A narcissistic neighbour plays a much bigger game—the long game of power, control, and psychological warfare."As a specialist narcissistic abuse counsellor, I sharethe red flags, manipulation tactics, and deeply distressing psychological games these neighbours play—from covert sabotage to blatant intimidation. Whether it's smear campaigns in the street, passive-aggressive “niceness,” or constant efforts to provoke you, this episode gives you both validation and strategy.We'll explore:Why narcissistic neighbours target certain peopleHow they use neighbourhood dynamics to isolate and smear youThe emotional toll of living next to narcissistic chaosWhat NOT to do (and why reacting fuels them)Boundaries, grey rocking, and legal strategies that protect your peace"You don't have to justify your need for peace, safety, or space—especially not to someone who thrives on taking it away."Whether you're dealing with noise complaints used as weapons, creepy surveillance, or subtle community manipulation, this episode will help you reclaim your power and sanity.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Narcissist Baiting and Bashing: How to Protect Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 28:07 Transcription Available


    They poke the bear—then cry victim when the bear roars.In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm pulling back the curtain on one of the most manipulative narcissistic abuse tactics out there—narcissist baiting and bashing. If you've ever been provoked, poked, or pushed to your emotional limit by a narcissist only to have your reaction twisted against you, this episode is for you.We're diving deep into how narcissists bait you, why they do it, and how it connects to their larger smear campaign strategy. I'll walk you through the red flags of baiting—those sly jabs, passive-aggressive comments, and guilt-tripping setups that are meant to elicit a strong emotional reaction. Once you take the bait, the narcissist flips the script, painting you as unstable, aggressive, or even abusive—this is what I call the narcissist's bash phase.“They want you to break—so they can blame you.”In this episode, you'll learn:What narcissistic baiting looks like in romantic, family, workplace, and co-parenting dynamicsThe emotional and reputational damage that occurs when you reactHow baiting is often the first step in a calculated smear campaignWhy staying silent, not stooping, and emotionally detaching is your greatest defenceGrounded strategies to protect your peace and reputationHow to reframe your mindset so you stop reacting and start reclaiming powerWhether you're co-parenting with a narcissist, working with one, or trying to disengage from a toxic ex, knowing how to spot narcissist baiting before you take the hook is essential for your healing and safety.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Narcissistic Victim Syndrome Explained: How to Know If You're a Victim

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2025 23:21 Transcription Available


    Are you constantly second-guessing yourself, walking on eggshells, or feeling like you're going crazy in a relationship? You may be experiencing narcissistic victim syndrome—a deeply damaging psychological response to ongoing emotional and psychological manipulation by a narcissist.In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down exactly what narcissistic Victim syndrome is, how it develops, and the red flags you should never ignore. As a trauma-informed counsellor who specialises in narcissistic abuse recovery, I'll guide you through the real signs of narcissistic abuse and narcissisti  Victim Syndrome, and help you understand the emotional rollercoaster that victims often experience—confusion, anxiety, hypervigilance, low self-worth, and trauma bonding.Whether it's a narcissistic partner, parent, friend, or boss, this episode will help you identify the manipulative tactics narcissists use—like gaslighting, love bombing, intermittent reinforcement, and devaluation—that leave you emotionally drained and psychologically trapped.In this episode, we'll cover:What narcissistic Victim syndrome really isCommon signs you're being emotionally abused by a narcissistHow narcissistic abuse affects your mental health and identityWhy victims stay and how trauma bonding formsSteps to begin healing and reclaiming your sense of selfNarcissistic abuse isn't always obvious—but its effects are long-lasting and real. If you've ever been made to feel like you're the problem, this episode will validate your experience and give you the clarity and language to understand what's really happening.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    How Covert Narcissists Slowly Destroy Your Personality

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 23:50 Transcription Available


    By the time you realise what's happening, you're no longer you.In this eye-opening episode I dive deep into how covert narcissists slowly chip away at, and dismantle your personality, piece by piece.We're talking about the subtle manipulation tactics that don't leave bruises but completely rewrite who you are:Why covert narcissists target your self-esteem and independenceHow they use gaslighting, guilt, and fake concern to erode your confidenceWhat it feels like when your values, beliefs, and even your sense of humour no longer feel like your ownHow survivors often don't recognise themselves anymore“You're not ‘too sensitive'—you're being conditioned to question your reality.”Whether the narcissist is a partner, parent, colleague, or friend, the long-term psychological effects of narcissistic abuse are real—and they're devastating. This episode explores how your core identity is gradually overwritten by a covert narcissist's control.“Their goal isn't to love you—it's to control who you become.”If you've ever felt like a shell of your former self, or like your personality has been “trained out” of you, this episode will help you make sense of the confusion, reclaim your identity, and start the healing process.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    10 Secrets the Covert Narcissist Doesn't Want You to Know

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 23:27 Transcription Available


    What if everything you thought you knew about narcissists was just the tip of the iceberg?In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm revealing 10 of the darkest, most tightly kept secrets narcissists don't want you to uncover—because once you know, their power starts to crumble."A narcissist's greatest fear is exposure. The moment you see through their mask, the game changes."These are the secrets they use to:Manipulate your perception of realityKeep you hooked through cycles of idealisation and devaluationPretend to be the victim while destroying your reputationAnd maintain control long after you've walked awayWhether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, co-worker, or friend, this episode will equip you with the insights you need to see their behaviour for what it really is."They don't want you to heal. They want you to doubt yourself forever."Expect to hear the truth behind:Why they seem so confident (but are actually deeply insecure)How they mirror you to win your trustThe real reason they never take responsibilityWhy their charm is a calculated actAnd how their ‘love' is just another form of control"The moment you stop playing their game, they panic."It's time to take your power back. The more you understand these dark narcissist secrets, the less influence they'll have over your mind, emotions, and future.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Why No One Understands Narcissistic Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 23:32 Transcription Available


    Why can't anyone seem to understand narcissistic abuse — no matter how hard you try to explain it? In this validating episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys,  I break down why victims struggle to put their experience into words and why outsiders often dismiss, minimise, or misunderstand what's really happening.I unpack powerful tactics like gaslighting, love bombing, and covert emotional abuse — all designed by the narcissist to stay hidden from others while destroying you behind closed doors. You'll learn why survivors are left feeling isolated, disbelieved, and even blamed, and how this adds to the trauma.If you've ever felt crazy, exhausted, or alone trying to explain your abuse — this episode will give you clarity, validation, and support. Your pain is real, and it matters.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Inside the Narcissist's Idealise, Devalue, Discard Cycle with Dr Sam Vaknin. Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 96:35


    In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm joined by none other than Dr. Sam Vaknin, the world-renowned expert on narcissistic personality disorder and author of the groundbreaking book Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited. With over 300,000 YouTube subscribers and millions of views, Dr. Vaknin has become one of the most recognised voices globally on narcissism, drawing from decades of research, clinical observation, and personal experience.Together, we take a deep dive into the narcissist's destructive cycle of idealisation, devaluation, and discard — the pattern that leaves victims confused, traumatised, and trapped. Dr. Vaknin explains why narcissists go from love bombing you with intense idealisation, to cruelly tearing you down during the devaluation phase, before abruptly discarding you when they've extracted everything they need. You'll learn the psychology behind this cycle, why it repeats, and most importantly, how to recognise it early and protect yourself from further harm.Dr. Vaknin brings his signature no-nonsense insight, blending clinical knowledge with raw truth that resonates with survivors around the world. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, this conversation will validate your experience and empower you with practical understanding.Please follow Dr Sam Vaknin on his YouTube channel at https://youtube.com/@samvaknin?si=9L6UYK8vr63gfIEgNeed Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    How Does a Narcissist Love?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 33:25 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered how a narcissist loves — or if they're even capable of real love at all? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys  I break down the hard truths about what narcissistic love really looks like in romantic relationships, families, and friendships.You'll learn why narcissists appear so loving and affectionate at first with intense love bombing, only to later devalue and discard you. I explain the difference between real love and narcissistic love, and why narcissists make you feel like you're walking on eggshells, doubting yourself, and constantly trying to win back their affection.We explore how narcissistic parents show conditional love through the golden child and scapegoat dynamic, and why narcissistic partners shift from idealising you to tearing you down with silent treatments, manufactured conflict, and emotional manipulation. I also cover the key signs that you're dealing with narcissistic love — and how to protect your self-worth and reclaim your peace.If you've ever been stuck in the cycle of confusion, asking yourself, Did they ever really love me? this episode will give you the validation and clarity you need to start healingNeed Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    What sort of person is the Covert Narcissist Drawn To?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 25:20 Transcription Available


    Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to become prime targets for covert narcissists? In this revealing episode of Fake Love and  Flying Monkeys I break down exactly what kind of personality traits covert narcissists are drawn to — and why.From the outside, it might seem like bad luck, but I explain the deeper psychological reasons why these manipulators select partners, friends, and even colleagues who display certain appealing traits. Are you overly empathetic? A chronic people-pleaser? High-achieving but secretly struggling with low self-worth? Expect to learn:The top 5 personality traits covert narcissists actively seek outHow your strengths — like kindness and loyalty — can be twisted and weaponised against youWhy boundary issues are often at the core of the narcissist-target dynamicRed flags that signal when your good nature is being exploitedThis episode is packed with insight, validation, and practical strategies to help you recognise the patterns — and break free from them. Whether you're currently stuck in a toxic relationship or reflecting on past encounters, this conversation will empower you to reclaim your self-worth and stop being an easy target."Your empathy is your strength — but without boundaries, it becomes your weakness in the hands of a narcissist."Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Why Covert Narcissists Use Triangulation to Hurt You

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 20:27


    Ever felt like you were suddenly competing for someone's love, attention, or approval—without knowing why? You might have been caught in the toxic game of covert narcissistic triangulation.In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into one of the most painful and manipulative tactics narcissists use: triangulation. Whether it's with an ex, a friend, a sibling, or even your own child, covert narcissists thrive on creating emotional chaos by pulling in third parties to control, confuse, and hurt you.I'll break down what triangulation really looks like, why narcissists do it, how it affects your mental health and self-esteem, and—most importantly—how to recognise it and shut it down. From silent treatment and comparisons to backhanded praise and fake alliances, this episode exposes how narcissists use others to punish you, keep you off balance, and maintain power.You'll hear real-life examples from my counselling practice and learn practical tools to detach from the drama, protect your peace, and heal from the emotional damage this cruel tactic leaves behind.This episode is for you if:You've been compared to others constantlyYou feel like someone's always being used against youThe narcissist in your life brings up their ex way too oftenYou've been turned against someone you once trustedYou're stuck in a toxic triangle that leaves you drained and confused"The narcissist doesn't want peace, they want power—and triangulation gives them both."Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Understanding CPTSD in Narcissistic Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 20:38


    What happens when the abuse doesn't leave bruises—but instead rewires your nervous system?In this episode of Fake Love and Flying I dive deep into the reality of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) as it relates to narcissistic abuse."Narcissistic abuse doesn't just hurt—it conditions you to expect pain as love."Whether you've left the narcissist or are still untangling from the trauma, this episode breaks down the long-term psychological and physiological effects of prolonged exposure to emotional abuse, gaslighting, control, and coercive manipulation. We explore how CPTSD develops differently from PTSD, how the narcissist's cycle of idealise–devalue–discard contributes to emotional injury, and why survivors often feel confused, hypervigilant, or stuck in shame.You'll learn:What CPTSD really is and how it develops from repeated emotional traumaKey symptoms including emotional flashbacks, dysregulation, and shame spiralsHow narcissists create the "perfect storm" for CPTSDWhy healing requires more than just going no contact."CPTSD is not weakness. It's your brain's survival response to ongoing emotional warfare."This episode is for anyone seeking to understand the neurobiological toll of narcissistic abuse, how CPTSD keeps survivors locked in fear and confusion, and—most importantly—what recovery really looks like.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    Should You Forgive the Covert Narcissist? What Survivors Need to Know

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 20:10


    Forgiveness is often misunderstood, especially by those who haven't lived through the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse narcissists inflict. This episode will help you understandShould you forgive the narcissist? It's a question that haunts many survivors of narcissistic abuse—and today, we're unpacking it.In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I explore the loaded topic of forgiveness when it comes to narcissists. You'll learn why the push to “just forgive and move on” can feel invalidating, how toxic positivity can pressure survivors into unsafe situations, and why your healing doesn't have to include reconciliation or even formal forgiveness.We cover:* Why forgiving a narcissist isn't the same as healing* How “forgiveness culture” can retraumatise survivors* What real healing looks like without forced forgiveness* When forgiveness is helpful—and when it's just another trap* How to set boundaries and protect your peace, even without closure Whether you're still in contact with a narcissist or have gone full no-contact, this episode will validate your journey and remind you that your healing path is yours to define.“You don't have to forgive the narcissist to heal—you just have to free yourself from their control.”    Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

    10 Ways the Covert Female Narcissist Manipulates You

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 23:00 Transcription Available


    She seems so sweet—how could she be the problem? That's exactly the mask the covert female narcissist wears while slowly chipping away at your confidence, your voice, and your sense of reality.In today's powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're pulling back the curtain on 10 subtle but deeply damaging ways the covert female narcissist erodes your self-esteem—and often, your entire sense of self. Whether it's your narcissistic mother, sister, partner, friend, boss or even a "mean girl" in your social circle, these women are masters of manipulation, sabotage, and emotional control—but they do it all behind a mask of innocence.We cover:The weaponised “victim” role she plays to guilt youHow she uses backhanded compliments and passive-aggressive digs to keep you second-guessingHow she sets you up to fail, just so she can swoop in as your 'rescuer'The ways she turns people against you subtly, yet deliberatelyAnd much more...Need Support, Extra Resources?   Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here    These aren't just toxic habits—these are narcissistic abuse tactics designed to confuse, isolate, and emotionally paralyse you. But once you learn to spot them, you can begin to heal, reclaim your self-worth, and set powerful boundaries that protect your peace.If you've ever felt like you were walking on eggshells around a woman who “never did anything wrong” but somehow left you feeling drained, anxious, and never good enough—this episode is for you.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    5 Reasons Narcissists Cheat on You

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 25:29 Transcription Available


    If you've ever been cheated on by a narcissist, you know it's not just betrayal—it's psychological warfare.In this raw and eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm breaking down the top 5 reasons narcissists betray their partners—and trust me, it's not because of anything you did or didn't do. If you've ever been blindsided by infidelity or left questioning your worth after a narcissist moved on like you never existed, this one's for you."Cheating isn't about love for narcissists—it's about power, control, and ego."We're diving deep into the psychology behind narcissistic infidelity. From the compulsive need for validation to the thrill of deception, I'll help you make sense of the chaos they create and the emotional wreckage they leave behind. This episode also explores how narcissists set the stage for cheating long before it happens, often grooming new supply while still in a relationship with you.Need Support, Extra Resources?   Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here    "They don't cheat because you're lacking. They cheat because their ego is never full."What you'll learn in this episode:Why narcissists view relationships as transactional, not emotionalThe role of boredom and entitlement in their infidelityHow cheating fits into the narcissist's cycle of idealise, devalue, and discardWhy they're addicted to the chase and how they sabotage real intimacyThe devastating impact of betrayal on victims—and how to begin healing"To a narcissist, loyalty is a one-way street—and they're always the exception."Whether you're still reeling from a narcissist's betrayal or trying to understand the patterns in your past relationships, this episode will validate your pain and give you the clarity you deserve. It's not about blaming yourself—it's about understanding the calculated cruelty behind their choices and reclaiming your power.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Narcissistic Abuse, Coercive Control and Financial Abuse Explained

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 27:20 Transcription Available


    Feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time, constantly explaining your spending, or having to ask permission for your own money? You might be experiencing coercive control and financial control — one of the most insidious forms of abuse.“It's not about money. It's about power.”Need Support, Extra Resources?   Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here    In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving deep into the devastating trio of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and financial abuse — the silent weapons narcissists use to dominate, isolate, and wear down their victims.I break down how narcissists use money as a weapon — not just to punish, but to own you. From limiting access to joint funds, racking up debt in your name, sabotaging your job, or demanding to see every receipt, these tactics aren't random — they're calculated.You'll learn:✅ What financial abuse looks like in narcissistic relationships✅ How coercive control traps victims in silence and shame✅ Why narcissists use money to dominate and destabilise✔️ The subtle red flags most people overlook⭐ How survivors can begin to reclaim their autonomy and financial safety“Financial abuse keeps you stuck long after the relationship ends.”Whether it's a partner, parent, or even an adult child — narcissists use coercive control to chip away at your independence. I draw from real-life client stories and professional insight to help you recognise the patterns, understand the tactics, and start the journey to empowerment.“If they control the money, they control your choices.”Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Covert vs Overt Narcissists: 5 Toxic Differences You Can't Ignore

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 13, 2025 24:29 Transcription Available


    "Same game. Different masks."Covert and overt narcissists may look like opposites—but don't be fooled. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 5 unmissable differences between covert and overt narcissists, and how each uses toxic tactics to control, confuse and devalue you."Covert narcissists fly under the radar. Overt narcissists want the spotlight."Need Support, Extra Resources?   Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here    Learn how covert narcissists use silent sabotage, guilt-tripping, and false humility to chip away at your confidence—while overt narcissists operate with arrogance, grandiosity, and open manipulation.Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, friend, or boss, this episode will help you clearly identify which type you're up against—and how to protect yourself.I share real-world examples from my counselling work, plus empowering tips to help you break free from the narcissist's manipulation—once and for all.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Do Narcissists know they're hurting you?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 17:14


    They know enough to hide it from others, but do they actually know what they're doing?In this powerful episode, I dive deep into a question almost every survivor of narcissistic abuse asks: Do narcissists actually know they're hurting you? Or are they just so emotionally disconnected that they genuinely believe they're blameless?Need Support, Extra Resources?   Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here    Drawing on my years of experience as a trauma-informed counsellor and Director of  Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service, I break down:✅ The emotional awareness of narcissists (yes, they see your pain) ✅ Why their selective empathy is strategically turned off ✅ How they often weaponise your emotional reactions to make you the villain ✅ The key difference between malignant narcissists and emotionally immature people ✅ What this all means for your healing, boundaries, and freedomA narcissist doesn't need to feel what you feel—they just need to know what hurts you to use it to their advantage You'll leave this episode with clarity, validation, and the tools to stop seeking remorse from someone incapable of offering it.Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show!

    Healthy Love vs Narcissistic Relationship Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 21:30 Transcription Available


    Real love heals. Narcissistic love destroys. Do you know the difference between true love and narcissistic love? While healthy love is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, narcissistic love is a trap—an illusion designed to control and manipulate you.In this episode I'll unpack how narcissists mimic real love in the beginning, only to shift into cycles of devaluation and emotional abuse. We'll also discuss how true love feels different from love-bombing and trauma bonding, so you can recognise the red flags before getting trapped in a toxic relationship.Inside this episode we discuss:✔ The key differences between healthy love vs. narcissistic love✔ How narcissists manipulate emotions to keep you hooked✔ Red flags that you're in a narcissistic relationship✔ What real love should feel like (without confusion or chaos)✔ How to break free from toxic love and start healing"Love shouldn't feel like a rollercoaster. If it does, it's not love—it's control."

    Reactive Abuse Is Not the Same as the Narcissist Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 15:19 Transcription Available


    Have you ever lashed out in frustration after relentless emotional torment, only to be told you are the problem? That is reactive abuse, and it is not the same as the calculated, intentional cruelty of narcissistic abuse. They push you until you break—then call you the abuser. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we expose how narcissists provoke emotional reactions and then twist reality to shift blame onto you."They create chaos, then play the victim."Narcissists know exactly how to push your buttons, using manipulation and gaslighting to trigger an outburst. Once they get a reaction, they weaponise it—telling others you are unstable, you are the abuser. It is a classic blame-shifting strategy designed to discredit you and keep you trapped in self-doubt and shame.We break down:What reactive abuse really is—and why it is not actual abuseWhy narcissists provoke reactions—and how they use your response against youHow to break free from their manipulation—so you stop playing their gameOvercoming self-blame—so you can reclaim your truth and healLosing control after endless provocation does not make you the abuser.If you have ever questioned yourself after a toxic argument, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and strategies to stay in control.If this episode resonated with you, please rate and review—it helps others find this podcast. Share your thoughts in the comments! Have you experienced reactive abuse? Let's talk.For more insights and strategies to break free from toxic relationships, grab a copy of my book, Fake Love.If you would like to support the channel, you can buy me a coffee—the link is below. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse   here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    How do You Make the Narcissist Miss You After Discard?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 17:16 Transcription Available


    Being discarded by a narcissist feels brutal—like you never mattered. One moment, you're their everything. The next, you're replaced, ignored, or worse—mocked. But here's the truth they don't want you to know: narcissists do look back. They do miss the people who once fed their ego. And yes, they often return—but not for the reasons you think.In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the psychology behind the narcissist's discard phase and what really makes them miss you.“Your absence is the biggest statement you'll ever make.”Whether you're reeling from a discard or just trying to understand why they moved on so quickly, this episode is for you. You'll learn:* Why narcissists discard their partners so suddenly* What triggers a narcissist to miss you after they've moved on* The role of new supply and why it's not what it seems“Nothing unsettles a narcissist more than your peace.”This isn't about playing games. It's about understanding how narcissists think—and how to emotionally detach from someone who feeds on your reactions. If you've been discarded and you're stuck in a cycle of rumination, wondering if they'll ever look back or regret their actions, this episode brings you clarity, comfort, and strength.“When you stop chasing, they start wondering.”Let me know your thoughts—has the narcissist ever come back after discarding you? Drop a comment, share this episode, and let's keep the conversation going.Don't forget to rate and review—it helps others discover this podcast and feel less alone.Grab your copy of Fake Love for more insight, strategies, and validation.Want to support the show? Buy me a coffee with the link below—every bit helps me keep this content coming.Nova xx Need Support?www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Buy my book here. https://linktr.ee/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 23:59


    Covert narcissists hide in plain sight, using subtle tactics to break you down.In this second part of our series, we delve deeper into the covert narcissist's manipulative tactics that leave victims feeling invalidated, confused, and emotionally drained. If you've ever felt manipulated or questioned your worth in a relationship, this episode is a must-listen.We continue to unravel the covert narcissist's hidden strategies. From emotional blackmail to narcissistic triangulation, learn how these manipulative narcissists use psychological abuse to control and devalue their victims. In this episode, we reveal five more covert tactics that narcissists use to keep you hooked, create confusion, and isolate you from your support system.What you'll learn:The covert narcissist's ability to invalidate your emotions and make you question your own reality (covert narcissist devalues).How triangulation works to create tension and manipulate relationships (narcissistic triangulation).The emotional blackmail tactics that narcissists use to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries."Breaking free from a covert narcissist requires seeing the manipulation for what it is."If you're struggling to break free from a covert narcissist, this episode offers critical insights and strategies to regain control and start healing. Understanding these tactics will empower you to protect your emotional well-being and rebuild your life, free from narcissistic abuse. Remember to share, comment, and rate this episode! I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. For deeper insights and strategies to heal or escape your toxic relationship, check out my book Fake Love.If you'd like to support the channel, buy me a cup of coffee via the link below.You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse   here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 23:50 Transcription Available


    "They don't yell. They don't rage. But they destroy you—quietly."In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 15 subtle but devastating ways the covert narcissist devalues you.From silent treatment and manufactured conflict to jokes that aren't funny and fake concern laced with sabotage, these tactics are designed to break you down while keeping their hands clean.“They make you feel like you're the problem—while they quietly pull the strings.”If you've ever felt confused, manipulated, or constantly walking on eggshells around someone who seems nice on the surface, this one's for you.Press play now and start reclaiming your clarity, confidence, and peace.Need support? Book a Zoom counselling session with Nova at: www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Breakup to New Supply: How Narcissists Replace You Overnight

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 22:49 Transcription Available


    “They replaced me like I never existed.”If you've ever been discarded by a narcissist only to see them jump straight into a new relationship, this episode is for you.I explain why narcissists move on so fast, how they pre-groom new supply, and why their “perfect new relationship” is just another manipulation tactic. It's not love—it's control.You'll learn:Why narcissists rush into new relationshipsHow they use new supply to punish, provoke, or replace youWhat love bombing looks like for the new partnerWhy their new relationship isn't what it seemsHow to reclaim your self-worth and start healing"It's not about you. It's about their need for constant supply."Whether you're recovering from a breakup with a narcissist, dealing with a toxic co-parent, or trying to break free from emotional abuse, this episode offers validation, clarity, and steps forward.Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for weekly episodes on narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional healing, and surviving smear campaigns and trauma bonds.Need support?Book a Zoom counselling session with Nova at:www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.auBook me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    What Happens When a Narcissist Can't Control You Anymore?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 19:10 Transcription Available


    What Happens When a Narcissist Can't Control You Anymore?Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist loses control over you? The moment you break free from their grip, their true nature is fully exposed. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I dive deep into the chaotic, desperate, and often dangerous behaviours narcissists display when they can no longer manipulate their victims.Narcissists thrive on control—whether in romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or even the workplace. When their power slips away, they resort to extreme tactics to regain dominance. You might face smear campaigns, relentless hoovering, guilt-tripping, or even outright rage. Some narcissists will play the victim, trying to make you doubt yourself. Others will spread lies, turning mutual friends and family against you to maintain their illusion of superiority.But here's the truth: their reaction isn't about love, regret, or missing you—it's about losing control. I break down the psychological warfare narcissists use post-breakup, helping you understand their mindset and, more importantly, how to protect yourself. Whether you're going no contact, setting firm boundaries, or recovering from their manipulation, this episode will give you the insight and validation you need to stand strong.If you've ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to stay empowered, avoid being reeled back in, and finally reclaim your freedom. Don't let a narcissist dictate your life—take back your power today!Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more expert insights on narcissistic abuse, healing, and recovery. Let's expose their tactics and break free together!To book an online zoom counseling appointment with me please visit my website link below

    Protecting Children from Domestic Violence, High-Conflict Divorce, and Coercive Parenting: w/ AJ Gajjar

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 60:53


    Protecting Children from Domestic Violence, High-Conflict Divorce, and Coercive Parenting: w/ AJ GajjarChildren are often the hidden victims of domestic violence, high-conflict divorce, and coercive parenting. In this powerful episode I am joined by AJ Gajjar, and we explore the lasting impact these experiences have on children and discuss practical ways to protect their emotional well-being. AJ Gajjar is a mom, Parenting and Trauma Consultant, child development specialist, and children's advocate. She supports professionals within the domestic violence, family law, children's mental health and child protection sectors to recognize the detrimental effects of domestic violence, high-conflict divorce and coercive parenting on children. AJ also supports concerned parents, to best protect and empower their children not only to recover from trauma, but also to develop resilience against future traumas. Having combined her education in Developmental Psychology, over 18 years of experience in early child development and mental health, along with her lived experience, AJ has created Trauma Healing Parenting, a parenting model specifically designed to best support children who experience ongoing relational harm.You can reach AJ at her website: thetraumahealingparent.comSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Narcissists use Sex as a Weapon to Control You

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 34:18 Transcription Available


    Narcissists Use Sex as a Weapon to Control YouSex should be a source of connection, intimacy, and mutual pleasure—but in a relationship with a narcissist, it often becomes a tool for control, manipulation, and emotional abuse. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I explore how narcissists weaponise sex to dominate their partners, leaving them confused, emotionally starved, and desperate for validation.Narcissists use sex in different ways depending on their agenda. In the beginning, they may shower you with intense passion, making you feel like the most desired person in the world. This "love bombing" stage creates an addictive high, making you crave their attention and approval. But once they've secured your emotional investment, everything changes. They start withholding affection, making you feel unattractive or unworthy. You may find yourself begging for intimacy, wondering what you did wrong. This is a classic tactic to destabilise you and keep you seeking their validation.Some narcissists use sex to punish and control. They may demand it constantly, disregarding your comfort, emotions, or physical boundaries. Others withhold it entirely, using rejection as a way to make you feel unlovable. They may compare you to others, accuse you of being inadequate, or even engage in affairs to make you feel replaceable. These strategies keep you walking on eggshells, desperate to please them and regain their attention.In this episode, I also discuss how narcissists exploit sex to reinforce trauma bonds, making it even harder for victims to leave. The intense cycles of pleasure and rejection create deep emotional hooks, making you feel like you can't live without them. But here's the truth: this isn't love—it's manipulation.I'll share real-life examples from survivors I've worked with in my counselling practice, detailing how they broke free from this toxic dynamic. I'll also give practical advice on recognising these patterns, setting boundaries, and healing from the emotional damage caused by narcissistic abuse.If you've ever felt controlled, devalued, or emotionally drained in a sexual relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your power and break free from the narcissist's grip.Don't forget to subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, and grab a copy of my best-selling book "Fake Love" for more insights on healing from narcissistic abuse. Follow me on social media for daily support and strategies to rebuild your life after toxic relationships!You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at yoSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    3 Tactics Covert Narcissists Use to Isolate You

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 24:26 Transcription Available


    3 Tactics Covert Narcissists Use to Isolate YouHave you ever felt your world slowly closing in, leaving you disconnected from friends, family, and even yourself? That's no accident—it's a calculated move by a covert narcissist. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm exposing three manipulative tactics covert narcissists use to isolate their victims. Unlike overt narcissists, who are obvious in their control, covert narcissists operate in the shadows, subtly pulling the strings to keep you emotionally, mentally, and even physically dependent.If this resonates, you're not alone. Recognising narcissistic isolation is the first step to breaking free. I'll share real-life cases from my counselling practice and practical strategies to help you reclaim your independence, including:Subtle Smear Campaigns – They plant doubts in your loved ones' minds, making you seem unstable or untrustworthy.Guilt and Obligation Traps – They use emotional blackmail to make you feel responsible for their well-being, discouraging outside connections.Control Through Crisis – They create constant chaos, making you too drained to maintain relationships beyond them.

    Navigating the trauma of domestic abuse and addiction: with Azadeh Atzberger

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 62:40


    Navigating the trauma of domestic abuse and addiction: with Azadeh AtzbergerIn this episode I'm joined by Azadeh Atzberger. Azadeh is a distinguished 3-time Bestselling Author, the esteemed Founder of Finally Free Life, serving as a Transformational Life Coach and Couples Coach. Renowned as the visionary behind "The 12 Steps For Narcissistic Abuse Recovery," she draws from her own journey as a trauma survivor of domestic and sexual abuse and a triumphant conqueror of addiction. Her profound passion lies in empowering individuals to navigate trauma, and find the freedom to manifest the lives they aspire to lead.Here is Azedahs story ♥️ https://finallyfreelife.com/Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Can a Narcissist Change if they go to Counseling?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2025 18:22 Transcription Available


    Can a Narcissist Change if they go to counseling?Therapy is often the first step for victims of narcissistic abuse—a space where they can untangle years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional trauma. Yet, one striking pattern emerges: while the victims of narcissists seek healing, the narcissist themselves rarely, if ever, steps into a therapist's office.Why is that? If narcissists cause so much harm, wouldn't they benefit from professional help? In this episode, we'll explore why the victims are the ones in therapy rather than the narcissist, and whether true change is possible for someone with narcissistic personality traits.If you've ever wondered why the narcissist in your life never seeks help, never apologises, and never takes responsibility, this episode is for you.Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I'm here to guide you every step of the way.Nova xx You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Unmasking the Narcissistic Family Dynamic: Control, Manipulation, and Emotional Abuse

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 22:50 Transcription Available


    Unmasking the Narcissistic Family Dynamic: Control, Manipulation, and Emotional AbuseGrowing up in a family should feel safe and supportive—but what happens when narcissism poisons the dynamic? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're uncovering the truth about the narcissistic family system, where control, manipulation, and emotional neglect take centre stage. If you've ever felt like the black sheep of your own family, constantly walking on eggshells, or questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.If you grew up in a family where love felt conditional, where you were constantly made to feel “not good enough,” or where speaking up led to punishment, you are not alone. This episode will validate your experience and help you reclaim your power.Tune in now to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys and don't forget to subscribe for more deep dives into narcissistic abuse, trauma recovery, and breaking free from toxic relationships. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I'm here to guide you every step of the way.Nova xx You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Narcissistic Abuse victim pays the ultimate price (Trigger Warning): w/ Ali Kessler

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2025 60:27


    Narcissistic Abuse victim pays the ultimate price (Trigger Warning): w/ Ali Kessler In this episode I am joined by Ali Kessler. Ali is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocateand founder of Greyson's Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness aboutthe risk of domestic abuse on children.Greyson's Choice was founded by AliKessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant,and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greysonwho was murdered by his biologicalfather in a murder-suicide during anunsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft.Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came justhours after her petition for a domesticviolence injunction was denied by aBroward County judge, citing that the'petitioner has failed to allege any overtacts by the respondent which wouldconstitute domestic violence underFlorida Statute,Ali's advocacy efforts culminated insuccessfully passing Greyson's Lawduring the 2023 legislative session. Thisbill now requires the court to considerthreats against ex-partners or spouseswhen making child visitation and custodydeterminations in the court.Here is Ali's story

    Flying Monkeys Manipulate you on Behalf of the Narcissist: How do they do it?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 20:11 Transcription Available


    Flying Monkeys Manipulate you on Behalf of the Narcissist: How do they do it?If you've ever escaped a narcissist, you've likely faced another terrifying reality—their flying monkeys. These enablers, whether knowingly or unknowingly, act as the narcissist's messengers, spies, and attackers, working behind the scenes to manipulate, pressure, and control you. But why do they do it? And how can you protect yourself from their toxic influence?In this episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I'm breaking down the five most common tactics flying monkeys use to manipulate you for the narcissist. From guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail to smear campaigns and outright intimidation, these tactics are designed to keep you trapped in the narcissist's web of control. I'll also be sharing real-life examples from my counselling practice, helping you recognise these toxic behaviours and, most importantly, learn how to shut them down.Expect to hear: ✅ Why flying monkeys get involved – Are they victims too, or just as toxic as the narcissist? ✅ The guilt-trip trap – How flying monkeys make you feel responsible for the narcissist's pain. ✅ Smear campaigns and reputation sabotage – How they destroy your credibility to keep you isolated. ✅ The “forgiveness” pressure tactic – Why they push you to reconcile, even when it's unsafe. ✅ How to set boundaries and protect yourself – Practical strategies to cut off toxic flying monkeys for good.If you've ever been pressured to “just move on” or felt the sting of betrayal from people you once trusted, this episode will give you the clarity and validation you need. Flying monkeys might think they're helping, but in reality, they're doing the narcissist's dirty work—and it's time to take your power back.

    Are You Trauma Bonded or Codependent with the Narcissist?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2025 34:07 Transcription Available


    Are You Trauma Bonded or Codependent with the Narcissist?Have you ever found yourself stuck in a toxic relationship, unable to leave no matter how much pain it causes? You might be wondering—am I trauma bonded, or is this codependency? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're breaking down the difference between trauma bonding and codependency when dealing with a narcissist.Both can feel like an emotional trap, but they come from different places. I'll walk you through the signs of both, explain how narcissists exploit these dynamics, and help you figure out what's really keeping you in the relationship. If you've ever questioned why you stay despite the pain, this episode will give you the clarity you need.Let's untangle the emotional chains and get to the truth—because understanding what's happening is the first step toward reclaiming your power. 

    Narcissistic Manipulation: When They Say "You're too Good For Me!"

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 18:56 Transcription Available


    Narcissistic Manipulation: When They Say "You're too Good For Me!"If you've ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have heard them say something like, “You're too good for me” or “You deserve someone better.” On the surface, this might sound like humility or self-awareness, but in reality, these words are often a manipulation tactic.When a narcissist tells you that you're too good for them, it can have a profound psychological impact becaust it creates emotional confusionYou may wonder why someone would push you away while also expecting you to stay. This emotional whiplash can make you question your own reality, keeping you stuck in a cycle of trying to “figure them out.”In this episode, we'll break down why narcissists say this, what they really mean, and how their words affect your emotional state. By understanding the deeper motives behind these statements, you can protect yourself from their toxic influence.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

    5 Mind Games of Covert Narcissists

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2025 22:20 Transcription Available


    5 Mind Games of Covert NarcissistsCovert narcissists are masters of mind games, operating behind a mask of charm, vulnerability, or even self-pity. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm diving deep into five of the most insidious mind games covert narcissists play—because once you recognize them, you can take your power back.Unlike overt narcissists, who are loud and in-your-face, covert narcissists manipulate in much more subtle and sneaky ways. They gaslight, guilt-trip, and emotionally drain you without ever raising their voice. One minute, they seem like the perfect partner, friend, or colleague, and the next, you're questioning your own reality. Sound familiar?If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like you're constantly walking on eggshells, this episode is for you. Understanding these mind games is the first step to breaking free from their emotional control.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

    Love-Bombing to Discard: The Narcissist's Playbook in all relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2025 26:38 Transcription Available


    Love-Bombing to Discard: The Narcissist's Playbook in all relationships Narcissistic relationships often follow a chillingly predictable pattern. At first, the narcissist sweeps their target off their feet with an overwhelming display of love/ affection/attention —a stage known as love-bombing. But just as quickly as they idolised their partner, they begin to devalue them, leading to the inevitable and devastating discard. This cycle leaves victims confused, heartbroken, and questioning their reality.If you've ever been through this whirlwind of affection/positive attention followed by cruelty, you're not alone. In this episode I break down this manipulative playbook step by step to understand how narcissists operate—and, most importantly, how to protect yourself.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    The Narcissist's Silent Treatment: Emotional Abuse that destroys you!

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 17:22 Transcription Available


    The Narcissist's Silent  Treatment: Emotional Abuse that destroys you!If you've ever been ignored by a narcissist, you know just how devastating the silent treatment can be. It's not just “being ignored.” It's psychological torture. It makes you feel invisible, worthless, and desperate for validation. It's a passive-aggressive mind game designed to punish and control you, and it's one of the most emotionally painful tactics narcissists use.In this episode, we're diving deep into the narcissist's silent treatment—why they do it, how it affects you, and, most importantly, how you can protect yourself.If you've ever felt the crushing weight of a narcissist's silence, this episode is for you. Tune in now and take the first step toward breaking free.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

    The Narcissist's Dog Whistle: How They Manipulate Your Reactions

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 9, 2025 18:54 Transcription Available


    The Narcissist's Dog Whistle: How They Manipulate Your ReactionsEver had that moment where a narcissist says something that seems harmless to everyone else, but you know it's a dig meant just for you? That's the narcissistic dog whistle in action—a sneaky, manipulative tactic designed to control, confuse, and undermine you while keeping their hands clean.In this episode, we're diving deep into how narcissists use coded language to gaslight, intimidate, and provoke their targets—all while making sure no one else notices. These remarks may seem harmless or even innocent to outsiders, but to the intended recipient, they carry a deeper, often painful meaning.I explore how narcissists use dog whistles to gaslight, intimidate, and manipulate while maintaining plausible deniability. You'll learn how these tactics are employed in relationships, workplaces, and families, why they are so effective, and how they can leave victims feeling confused, frustrated, and powerless.If you've ever questioned whether you're imagining hidden meanings in a narcissist's words, this episode will validate your experience and equip you with the tools to respond effectively.To book an individual zoom counselling session with me please visit my website link below

    Going No Contact with Narcissists vs Grey Rock: Which Strategy is Right for You?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2025 41:37 Transcription Available


    Going No Contact with Narcissists vs Grey Rock: Which Strategy is Right for You?Narcissistic Abuse survivors often hear the advice to go No Contact or use the Grey Rock method. But which one is right for you? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down both strategies, explaining when and how to use them effectively.Going No Contact means cutting the narcissist out of your life completely—no texts, no calls, no social media, nothing. It's often the best way to heal, but let's be honest, it's not always possible. Maybe you share kids, work together, or have family ties that make it complicated. That's where Grey Rock comes in. This method helps you disengage emotionally, making yourself as boring and unresponsive as possible to avoid feeding their drama.I'll walk you through real-life examples from my counseling practice, sharing how survivors have used these strategies in different situations—whether it's co-parenting with a toxic ex, dealing with a manipulative boss, or managing a narcissistic parent. You'll also learn the biggest mistakes to avoid and how to handle setbacks when the narcissist tries to pull you back in.By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of which approach suits your situation best and feel more confident setting boundaries that protect your peace. If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Narcissistic Abuse and the Red Flags you Missed

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 21:42 Transcription Available


    Narcissistic Abuse and the Red Flags you Missed.Have you ever looked back on a toxic relationship and wondered, How did I not see this coming? You're not alone. Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their conditioning keeps you second-guessing yourself at every turn. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're unpacking why you missed the red flags—and why it's not your fault.Narcissists don't just walk into your life and show their true colours. They carefully groom you through love-bombing, gaslighting, and  emotional manipulation. Over time, they condition you to accept their behaviour, making it harder to recognise the abuse. They twist reality, making you doubt your instincts, and by the time you start seeing the truth, you're already deeply enmeshed. We'll break down how this conditioning works, why smart and self-aware people still fall for it, and how you can start recognising these patterns before they take hold. Whether you're recovering from narcissistic abuse or trying to spot toxic behaviours early, this episode will give you the validation and insight you need.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    The Narcissistic Mother Ruins Your Adult relationships.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 28:14 Transcription Available


    The Narcissistic Mother Ruins Your Adult Relationships.If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you probably already know that childhood wasn't exactly warm, supportive, or predictable. But what happens when you carry that experience into adulthood? How does it shape the way you connect with others, trust people, or even set boundaries? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving deep into the long-term effects of narcissistic parenting and how it influences your relationships later in life.From romantic relationships to friendships and even workplace dynamics, we'll explore the emotional scars left by narcissistic parents and how they can show up in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Find yourself drawn to toxic partners? Fear abandonment or avoid intimacy altogether? Yes, these patterns often have deep roots in childhood conditioning.I'll be breaking down real-life examples from my counselling practice, sharing the struggles survivors face, and—most importantly—how to start breaking free from these unhealthy cycles. Because while your past may shape you, it doesn't have to define your future.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

    5 Reasons Narcissists NEVER Give You Closure.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 29:24 Transcription Available


    5 Reasons Narcissists NEVER Give You Closure. Have you ever been stuck waiting for the narcissist to give you the closure you need? Maybe you've hoped for an apology, an explanation, or even a shred of accountability—but all you've gotten is silence, more manipulation, or outright gaslighting. It's exhausting, isn't it?In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving into 5 reasons why narcissists just won't give you closure. Spoiler alert: it's not about you—it's about keeping you stuck in their toxic web. I'll break down the five main reasons they withhold that resolution and share real-life examples from my counselling practice to show just how calculated their behaviour can be.If you're stuck wondering why the narcissist won't just let you move on, this episode will help you see the bigger picture. More importantly, I'll give you tips to take back your power and find your own closure—because you deserve peace, and you'll never get it from them.If you would like to book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

    Narcissistic Abuse is "No Ordinary Love" - With Tracy Rector

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 19, 2025 74:04


    Narcissistic Abuse is "No Ordinary Love" - With Tracy RectorIn this inspirational episode I speak with Tracy Rector. Tracy is an award-winning producer, speaker, author, and survivor, uses her voice to raise awareness of gender-based violence. As an international speaker, she's shared her passion inspiring audiences in the US including Guam, Asia Pacific, and UK.USA Today recognized her film, No Ordinary Love, as one of the “biggest summer movies” of 2021. She served as board chair of the second largest domestic violence agency in Texas, and she is currently part of a research project with national industry leaders to develop a game-changing tool to address domestic violence.Enjoy!Nova

    Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2025 31:27 Transcription Available


    Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With  - Part 2.In this final episode of a 2 part series I   dive deeper into one of the most destructive tools in a narcissist's arsenal: the smear campaign. Why do narcissists go to such great lengths to tarnish your reputation? What motivates them to twist the truth, spread lies, and turn others against you? From protecting their fragile ego to manipulating others into seeing you as the villain, smear campaigns are calculated and cruel—but they don't have to define you.In this episode you will hear more of the top 20 lies narcissists use to smear you with, to help you recognise these toxic behaviours. This 2 part series is a must-listen for anyone who's ever been blindsided by a narcissist's lies. If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2025 18:57 Transcription Available


    Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With - Part 1.In this two part series, I examine 20 lies that narcissists spread to destroy your reputation and punish you.Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their lies can range from subtle distortions of the truth to outright fabrications. In this 2 part series, I break down examples of the specific lies narcissists use to portray you as unstable, abusive, incompetent, or untrustworthy. I uncover how these lies are designed to not only discredit you but to gain sympathy from others and secure their position as the “victim” in the eyes of friends, family, or colleagues.I also delve into the motivations behind these cruel smears. Why do narcissists go to such great lengths to slander their victims? What do they gain from destroying your reputation? With real-life examples,  I  provide a clear understanding of the narcissist's mind and their relentless need to control the narrative.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    Understanding Narcissism in Manufactured Conflict

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 26:55 Transcription Available


    Understanding Narcissism in Manufactured ConflictIn this episode, we dive into the mind of a narcissist to uncover why they seem to thrive on conflict and chaos. Ever wondered why narcissists can turn the simplest situation into a battlefield? This behaviour isn't random; it's calculated, and today, we're pulling back the curtain to understand what's really driving their need for drama.We explore key tactics narcissists use to create conflict, such as twisting words, exaggerating situations, and outright fabricating stories. For example, they might turn a minor misunderstanding into a full-blown feud, all while playing the victim. Sound familiar?We'll also discuss why this manufactured conflict is essential for their control. Narcissists use conflict to manipulate, distract, and keep people on edge. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, colleague, or friend, understanding this strategy can help you recognise it for what it is and avoid being drawn into their games.Plus, I'll share real-life examples from my counselling practice.By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer picture of why narcissists manufacture conflict and practical tips for protecting your peace. Tune in for strategies to help you step back, stay calm, and see through the chaos.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    10 Behaviours of the Ageing Narcissist.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2025 19:48 Transcription Available


     10 Behaviours of the Ageing Narcissist.As narcissists age, their tactics and behaviours often shift, sometimes becoming more manipulative and harmful. In this episode, I'll walk you through 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist, offering insights into what drives these changes and how they impact those around them.You might notice that their charm no longer works as effectively as it used to, leaving them desperate for validation. Or perhaps they're leaning even more heavily on guilt-tripping to maintain control, especially over family members. I'll share real-life examples from my counselling practice, such as the ageing parent who weaponises their declining health to manipulate their adult children.We'll discuss the ageing narcissist's deep fear of irrelevance, which can drive attention-seeking behaviours, and how their lack of self-awareness makes them even harder to reason with. From their refusal to take responsibility for past mistakes to their tendency to rewrite history to suit their narrative, you'll learn how these behaviours are rooted in their fragile ego and fear of losing control.If you're dealing with an ageing narcissist in your life—whether it's a parent, partner, or colleague—this episode is for you!Tune in to better understand the complexities of the ageing narcissist and take one step closer to reclaiming your peace.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

    How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 22:05 Transcription Available


    How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?If you've ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I've been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you've spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting someone else's needs ahead of your own.In today's episode, we'll break down what boundaries really are (hint: they're not about being selfish, despite what a narcissist might say!) and why they're critical for your recovery. We'll talk about the common struggles survivors face when setting boundaries, like fear of conflict, guilt, or not knowing where to start.I'll share actionable tips for creating healthy boundaries—whether it's with a narcissistic ex, a toxic family member, or even in new relationships—and how to stick to them without backing down. We'll also discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback from a narcissist and why their reaction doesn't define your worth.If you're ready to take your power back, protect your peace, and finally put yourself first, this episode is your guide. Let's dive into the “how” of setting boundaries and start building the life you deserve.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

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