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Real love heals. Narcissistic love destroys. Do you know the difference between true love and narcissistic love? While healthy love is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, narcissistic love is a trap—an illusion designed to control and manipulate you.In this episode I'll unpack how narcissists mimic real love in the beginning, only to shift into cycles of devaluation and emotional abuse. We'll also discuss how true love feels different from love-bombing and trauma bonding, so you can recognise the red flags before getting trapped in a toxic relationship.Inside this episode we discuss:✔ The key differences between healthy love vs. narcissistic love✔ How narcissists manipulate emotions to keep you hooked✔ Red flags that you're in a narcissistic relationship✔ What real love should feel like (without confusion or chaos)✔ How to break free from toxic love and start healing"Love shouldn't feel like a rollercoaster. If it does, it's not love—it's control."

Have you ever lashed out in frustration after relentless emotional torment, only to be told you are the problem? That is reactive abuse, and it is not the same as the calculated, intentional cruelty of narcissistic abuse. They push you until you break—then call you the abuser. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we expose how narcissists provoke emotional reactions and then twist reality to shift blame onto you."They create chaos, then play the victim."Narcissists know exactly how to push your buttons, using manipulation and gaslighting to trigger an outburst. Once they get a reaction, they weaponise it—telling others you are unstable, you are the abuser. It is a classic blame-shifting strategy designed to discredit you and keep you trapped in self-doubt and shame.We break down:What reactive abuse really is—and why it is not actual abuseWhy narcissists provoke reactions—and how they use your response against youHow to break free from their manipulation—so you stop playing their gameOvercoming self-blame—so you can reclaim your truth and healLosing control after endless provocation does not make you the abuser.If you have ever questioned yourself after a toxic argument, this episode will give you clarity, validation, and strategies to stay in control.If this episode resonated with you, please rate and review—it helps others find this podcast. Share your thoughts in the comments! Have you experienced reactive abuse? Let's talk.For more insights and strategies to break free from toxic relationships, grab a copy of my book, Fake Love.If you would like to support the channel, you can buy me a coffee—the link is below. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse   here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Being discarded by a narcissist feels brutal—like you never mattered. One moment, you're their everything. The next, you're replaced, ignored, or worse—mocked. But here's the truth they don't want you to know: narcissists do look back. They do miss the people who once fed their ego. And yes, they often return—but not for the reasons you think.In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the psychology behind the narcissist's discard phase and what really makes them miss you.“Your absence is the biggest statement you'll ever make.”Whether you're reeling from a discard or just trying to understand why they moved on so quickly, this episode is for you. You'll learn:* Why narcissists discard their partners so suddenly* What triggers a narcissist to miss you after they've moved on* The role of new supply and why it's not what it seems“Nothing unsettles a narcissist more than your peace.”This isn't about playing games. It's about understanding how narcissists think—and how to emotionally detach from someone who feeds on your reactions. If you've been discarded and you're stuck in a cycle of rumination, wondering if they'll ever look back or regret their actions, this episode brings you clarity, comfort, and strength.“When you stop chasing, they start wondering.”Let me know your thoughts—has the narcissist ever come back after discarding you? Drop a comment, share this episode, and let's keep the conversation going.Don't forget to rate and review—it helps others discover this podcast and feel less alone.Grab your copy of Fake Love for more insight, strategies, and validation.Want to support the show? Buy me a coffee with the link below—every bit helps me keep this content coming.Nova xx Need Support?www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Buy my book here. https://linktr.ee/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Covert narcissists hide in plain sight, using subtle tactics to break you down.In this second part of our series, we delve deeper into the covert narcissist's manipulative tactics that leave victims feeling invalidated, confused, and emotionally drained. If you've ever felt manipulated or questioned your worth in a relationship, this episode is a must-listen.We continue to unravel the covert narcissist's hidden strategies. From emotional blackmail to narcissistic triangulation, learn how these manipulative narcissists use psychological abuse to control and devalue their victims. In this episode, we reveal five more covert tactics that narcissists use to keep you hooked, create confusion, and isolate you from your support system.What you'll learn:The covert narcissist's ability to invalidate your emotions and make you question your own reality (covert narcissist devalues).How triangulation works to create tension and manipulate relationships (narcissistic triangulation).The emotional blackmail tactics that narcissists use to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries."Breaking free from a covert narcissist requires seeing the manipulation for what it is."If you're struggling to break free from a covert narcissist, this episode offers critical insights and strategies to regain control and start healing. Understanding these tactics will empower you to protect your emotional well-being and rebuild your life, free from narcissistic abuse. Remember to share, comment, and rate this episode! I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. For deeper insights and strategies to heal or escape your toxic relationship, check out my book Fake Love.If you'd like to support the channel, buy me a cup of coffee via the link below.You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website  Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse   here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me, please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Counselling Service, or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.comTo order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

"They don't yell. They don't rage. But they destroy you—quietly."In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 15 subtle but devastating ways the covert narcissist devalues you.From silent treatment and manufactured conflict to jokes that aren't funny and fake concern laced with sabotage, these tactics are designed to break you down while keeping their hands clean.“They make you feel like you're the problem—while they quietly pull the strings.”If you've ever felt confused, manipulated, or constantly walking on eggshells around someone who seems nice on the surface, this one's for you.Press play now and start reclaiming your clarity, confidence, and peace.Need support? Book a Zoom counselling session with Nova at: www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

“They replaced me like I never existed.”If you've ever been discarded by a narcissist only to see them jump straight into a new relationship, this episode is for you.I explain why narcissists move on so fast, how they pre-groom new supply, and why their “perfect new relationship” is just another manipulation tactic. It's not love—it's control.You'll learn:Why narcissists rush into new relationshipsHow they use new supply to punish, provoke, or replace youWhat love bombing looks like for the new partnerWhy their new relationship isn't what it seemsHow to reclaim your self-worth and start healing"It's not about you. It's about their need for constant supply."Whether you're recovering from a breakup with a narcissist, dealing with a toxic co-parent, or trying to break free from emotional abuse, this episode offers validation, clarity, and steps forward.Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for weekly episodes on narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional healing, and surviving smear campaigns and trauma bonds.Need support?Book a Zoom counselling session with Nova at:www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.auBook me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

What Happens When a Narcissist Can't Control You Anymore?Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist loses control over you? The moment you break free from their grip, their true nature is fully exposed. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys I dive deep into the chaotic, desperate, and often dangerous behaviours narcissists display when they can no longer manipulate their victims.Narcissists thrive on control—whether in romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or even the workplace. When their power slips away, they resort to extreme tactics to regain dominance. You might face smear campaigns, relentless hoovering, guilt-tripping, or even outright rage. Some narcissists will play the victim, trying to make you doubt yourself. Others will spread lies, turning mutual friends and family against you to maintain their illusion of superiority.But here's the truth: their reaction isn't about love, regret, or missing you—it's about losing control. I break down the psychological warfare narcissists use post-breakup, helping you understand their mindset and, more importantly, how to protect yourself. Whether you're going no contact, setting firm boundaries, or recovering from their manipulation, this episode will give you the insight and validation you need to stand strong.If you've ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to stay empowered, avoid being reeled back in, and finally reclaim your freedom. Don't let a narcissist dictate your life—take back your power today!Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more expert insights on narcissistic abuse, healing, and recovery. Let's expose their tactics and break free together!To book an online zoom counseling appointment with me please visit my website link below

Protecting Children from Domestic Violence, High-Conflict Divorce, and Coercive Parenting: w/ AJ GajjarChildren are often the hidden victims of domestic violence, high-conflict divorce, and coercive parenting. In this powerful episode I am joined by AJ Gajjar, and we explore the lasting impact these experiences have on children and discuss practical ways to protect their emotional well-being. AJ Gajjar is a mom, Parenting and Trauma Consultant, child development specialist, and children's advocate. She supports professionals within the domestic violence, family law, children's mental health and child protection sectors to recognize the detrimental effects of domestic violence, high-conflict divorce and coercive parenting on children. AJ also supports concerned parents, to best protect and empower their children not only to recover from trauma, but also to develop resilience against future traumas. Having combined her education in Developmental Psychology, over 18 years of experience in early child development and mental health, along with her lived experience, AJ has created Trauma Healing Parenting, a parenting model specifically designed to best support children who experience ongoing relational harm.You can reach AJ at her website: thetraumahealingparent.comSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Narcissists Use Sex as a Weapon to Control YouSex should be a source of connection, intimacy, and mutual pleasure—but in a relationship with a narcissist, it often becomes a tool for control, manipulation, and emotional abuse. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I explore how narcissists weaponise sex to dominate their partners, leaving them confused, emotionally starved, and desperate for validation.Narcissists use sex in different ways depending on their agenda. In the beginning, they may shower you with intense passion, making you feel like the most desired person in the world. This "love bombing" stage creates an addictive high, making you crave their attention and approval. But once they've secured your emotional investment, everything changes. They start withholding affection, making you feel unattractive or unworthy. You may find yourself begging for intimacy, wondering what you did wrong. This is a classic tactic to destabilise you and keep you seeking their validation.Some narcissists use sex to punish and control. They may demand it constantly, disregarding your comfort, emotions, or physical boundaries. Others withhold it entirely, using rejection as a way to make you feel unlovable. They may compare you to others, accuse you of being inadequate, or even engage in affairs to make you feel replaceable. These strategies keep you walking on eggshells, desperate to please them and regain their attention.In this episode, I also discuss how narcissists exploit sex to reinforce trauma bonds, making it even harder for victims to leave. The intense cycles of pleasure and rejection create deep emotional hooks, making you feel like you can't live without them. But here's the truth: this isn't love—it's manipulation.I'll share real-life examples from survivors I've worked with in my counselling practice, detailing how they broke free from this toxic dynamic. I'll also give practical advice on recognising these patterns, setting boundaries, and healing from the emotional damage caused by narcissistic abuse.If you've ever felt controlled, devalued, or emotionally drained in a sexual relationship, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your power and break free from the narcissist's grip.Don't forget to subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, and grab a copy of my best-selling book "Fake Love" for more insights on healing from narcissistic abuse. Follow me on social media for daily support and strategies to rebuild your life after toxic relationships!You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at yoSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

3 Tactics Covert Narcissists Use to Isolate YouHave you ever felt your world slowly closing in, leaving you disconnected from friends, family, and even yourself? That's no accident—it's a calculated move by a covert narcissist. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm exposing three manipulative tactics covert narcissists use to isolate their victims. Unlike overt narcissists, who are obvious in their control, covert narcissists operate in the shadows, subtly pulling the strings to keep you emotionally, mentally, and even physically dependent.If this resonates, you're not alone. Recognising narcissistic isolation is the first step to breaking free. I'll share real-life cases from my counselling practice and practical strategies to help you reclaim your independence, including:Subtle Smear Campaigns – They plant doubts in your loved ones' minds, making you seem unstable or untrustworthy.Guilt and Obligation Traps – They use emotional blackmail to make you feel responsible for their well-being, discouraging outside connections.Control Through Crisis – They create constant chaos, making you too drained to maintain relationships beyond them.

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Navigating the trauma of domestic abuse and addiction: with Azadeh AtzbergerIn this episode I'm joined by Azadeh Atzberger. Azadeh is a distinguished 3-time Bestselling Author, the esteemed Founder of Finally Free Life, serving as a Transformational Life Coach and Couples Coach. Renowned as the visionary behind "The 12 Steps For Narcissistic Abuse Recovery," she draws from her own journey as a trauma survivor of domestic and sexual abuse and a triumphant conqueror of addiction. Her profound passion lies in empowering individuals to navigate trauma, and find the freedom to manifest the lives they aspire to lead.Here is Azedahs story ♥️ https://finallyfreelife.com/Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Can a Narcissist Change if they go to counseling?Therapy is often the first step for victims of narcissistic abuse—a space where they can untangle years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional trauma. Yet, one striking pattern emerges: while the victims of narcissists seek healing, the narcissist themselves rarely, if ever, steps into a therapist's office.Why is that? If narcissists cause so much harm, wouldn't they benefit from professional help? In this episode, we'll explore why the victims are the ones in therapy rather than the narcissist, and whether true change is possible for someone with narcissistic personality traits.If you've ever wondered why the narcissist in your life never seeks help, never apologises, and never takes responsibility, this episode is for you.Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I'm here to guide you every step of the way.Nova xx You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Unmasking the Narcissistic Family Dynamic: Control, Manipulation, and Emotional AbuseGrowing up in a family should feel safe and supportive—but what happens when narcissism poisons the dynamic? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're uncovering the truth about the narcissistic family system, where control, manipulation, and emotional neglect take centre stage. If you've ever felt like the black sheep of your own family, constantly walking on eggshells, or questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.If you grew up in a family where love felt conditional, where you were constantly made to feel “not good enough,” or where speaking up led to punishment, you are not alone. This episode will validate your experience and help you reclaim your power.Tune in now to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys and don't forget to subscribe for more deep dives into narcissistic abuse, trauma recovery, and breaking free from toxic relationships. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with knowledge—and I'm here to guide you every step of the way.Nova xx You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Narcissistic Abuse victim pays the ultimate price (Trigger Warning): w/ Ali Kessler In this episode I am joined by Ali Kessler. Ali is a writer, marketing professional, passionate parent advocateand founder of Greyson's Choice, a 501(c)(3) created to raise awareness aboutthe risk of domestic abuse on children.Greyson's Choice was founded by AliKessler in memory of her sweet, vibrant,and fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greysonwho was murdered by his biologicalfather in a murder-suicide during anunsupervised, court-approved visit in Ft.Lauderdale, FL, in 2021. This came justhours after her petition for a domesticviolence injunction was denied by aBroward County judge, citing that the'petitioner has failed to allege any overtacts by the respondent which wouldconstitute domestic violence underFlorida Statute,Ali's advocacy efforts culminated insuccessfully passing Greyson's Lawduring the 2023 legislative session. Thisbill now requires the court to considerthreats against ex-partners or spouseswhen making child visitation and custodydeterminations in the court.Here is Ali's story

Flying Monkeys Manipulate you on Behalf of the Narcissist: How do they do it?If you've ever escaped a narcissist, you've likely faced another terrifying reality—their flying monkeys. These enablers, whether knowingly or unknowingly, act as the narcissist's messengers, spies, and attackers, working behind the scenes to manipulate, pressure, and control you. But why do they do it? And how can you protect yourself from their toxic influence?In this episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I'm breaking down the five most common tactics flying monkeys use to manipulate you for the narcissist. From guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail to smear campaigns and outright intimidation, these tactics are designed to keep you trapped in the narcissist's web of control. I'll also be sharing real-life examples from my counselling practice, helping you recognise these toxic behaviours and, most importantly, learn how to shut them down.Expect to hear: ✅ Why flying monkeys get involved – Are they victims too, or just as toxic as the narcissist? ✅ The guilt-trip trap – How flying monkeys make you feel responsible for the narcissist's pain. ✅ Smear campaigns and reputation sabotage – How they destroy your credibility to keep you isolated. ✅ The “forgiveness” pressure tactic – Why they push you to reconcile, even when it's unsafe. ✅ How to set boundaries and protect yourself – Practical strategies to cut off toxic flying monkeys for good.If you've ever been pressured to “just move on” or felt the sting of betrayal from people you once trusted, this episode will give you the clarity and validation you need. Flying monkeys might think they're helping, but in reality, they're doing the narcissist's dirty work—and it's time to take your power back.

Are You Trauma Bonded or Codependent with the Narcissist?Have you ever found yourself stuck in a toxic relationship, unable to leave no matter how much pain it causes? You might be wondering—am I trauma bonded, or is this codependency? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're breaking down the difference between trauma bonding and codependency when dealing with a narcissist.Both can feel like an emotional trap, but they come from different places. I'll walk you through the signs of both, explain how narcissists exploit these dynamics, and help you figure out what's really keeping you in the relationship. If you've ever questioned why you stay despite the pain, this episode will give you the clarity you need.Let's untangle the emotional chains and get to the truth—because understanding what's happening is the first step toward reclaiming your power. 

Narcissistic Manipulation: When They Say "You're too Good For Me!"If you've ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have heard them say something like, “You're too good for me” or “You deserve someone better.” On the surface, this might sound like humility or self-awareness, but in reality, these words are often a manipulation tactic.When a narcissist tells you that you're too good for them, it can have a profound psychological impact becaust it creates emotional confusionYou may wonder why someone would push you away while also expecting you to stay. This emotional whiplash can make you question your own reality, keeping you stuck in a cycle of trying to “figure them out.”In this episode, we'll break down why narcissists say this, what they really mean, and how their words affect your emotional state. By understanding the deeper motives behind these statements, you can protect yourself from their toxic influence.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

5 Mind Games of Covert NarcissistsCovert narcissists are masters of mind games, operating behind a mask of charm, vulnerability, or even self-pity. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm diving deep into five of the most insidious mind games covert narcissists play—because once you recognize them, you can take your power back.Unlike overt narcissists, who are loud and in-your-face, covert narcissists manipulate in much more subtle and sneaky ways. They gaslight, guilt-trip, and emotionally drain you without ever raising their voice. One minute, they seem like the perfect partner, friend, or colleague, and the next, you're questioning your own reality. Sound familiar?If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like you're constantly walking on eggshells, this episode is for you. Understanding these mind games is the first step to breaking free from their emotional control.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

Love-Bombing to Discard: The Narcissist's Playbook in all relationships Narcissistic relationships often follow a chillingly predictable pattern. At first, the narcissist sweeps their target off their feet with an overwhelming display of love/ affection/attention —a stage known as love-bombing. But just as quickly as they idolised their partner, they begin to devalue them, leading to the inevitable and devastating discard. This cycle leaves victims confused, heartbroken, and questioning their reality.If you've ever been through this whirlwind of affection/positive attention followed by cruelty, you're not alone. In this episode I break down this manipulative playbook step by step to understand how narcissists operate—and, most importantly, how to protect yourself.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

The Narcissist's Silent  Treatment: Emotional Abuse that destroys you!If you've ever been ignored by a narcissist, you know just how devastating the silent treatment can be. It's not just “being ignored.” It's psychological torture. It makes you feel invisible, worthless, and desperate for validation. It's a passive-aggressive mind game designed to punish and control you, and it's one of the most emotionally painful tactics narcissists use.In this episode, we're diving deep into the narcissist's silent treatment—why they do it, how it affects you, and, most importantly, how you can protect yourself.If you've ever felt the crushing weight of a narcissist's silence, this episode is for you. Tune in now and take the first step toward breaking free.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

The Narcissist's Dog Whistle: How They Manipulate Your ReactionsEver had that moment where a narcissist says something that seems harmless to everyone else, but you know it's a dig meant just for you? That's the narcissistic dog whistle in action—a sneaky, manipulative tactic designed to control, confuse, and undermine you while keeping their hands clean.In this episode, we're diving deep into how narcissists use coded language to gaslight, intimidate, and provoke their targets—all while making sure no one else notices. These remarks may seem harmless or even innocent to outsiders, but to the intended recipient, they carry a deeper, often painful meaning.I explore how narcissists use dog whistles to gaslight, intimidate, and manipulate while maintaining plausible deniability. You'll learn how these tactics are employed in relationships, workplaces, and families, why they are so effective, and how they can leave victims feeling confused, frustrated, and powerless.If you've ever questioned whether you're imagining hidden meanings in a narcissist's words, this episode will validate your experience and equip you with the tools to respond effectively.To book an individual zoom counselling session with me please visit my website link below

Going No Contact with Narcissists vs Grey Rock: Which Strategy is Right for You?Narcissistic Abuse survivors often hear the advice to go No Contact or use the Grey Rock method. But which one is right for you? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down both strategies, explaining when and how to use them effectively.Going No Contact means cutting the narcissist out of your life completely—no texts, no calls, no social media, nothing. It's often the best way to heal, but let's be honest, it's not always possible. Maybe you share kids, work together, or have family ties that make it complicated. That's where Grey Rock comes in. This method helps you disengage emotionally, making yourself as boring and unresponsive as possible to avoid feeding their drama.I'll walk you through real-life examples from my counseling practice, sharing how survivors have used these strategies in different situations—whether it's co-parenting with a toxic ex, dealing with a manipulative boss, or managing a narcissistic parent. You'll also learn the biggest mistakes to avoid and how to handle setbacks when the narcissist tries to pull you back in.By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of which approach suits your situation best and feel more confident setting boundaries that protect your peace. If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Narcissistic Abuse and the Red Flags you Missed.Have you ever looked back on a toxic relationship and wondered, How did I not see this coming? You're not alone. Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their conditioning keeps you second-guessing yourself at every turn. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're unpacking why you missed the red flags—and why it's not your fault.Narcissists don't just walk into your life and show their true colours. They carefully groom you through love-bombing, gaslighting, and  emotional manipulation. Over time, they condition you to accept their behaviour, making it harder to recognise the abuse. They twist reality, making you doubt your instincts, and by the time you start seeing the truth, you're already deeply enmeshed. We'll break down how this conditioning works, why smart and self-aware people still fall for it, and how you can start recognising these patterns before they take hold. Whether you're recovering from narcissistic abuse or trying to spot toxic behaviours early, this episode will give you the validation and insight you need.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

The Narcissistic Mother Ruins Your Adult Relationships.If you grew up with a narcissistic parent, you probably already know that childhood wasn't exactly warm, supportive, or predictable. But what happens when you carry that experience into adulthood? How does it shape the way you connect with others, trust people, or even set boundaries? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving deep into the long-term effects of narcissistic parenting and how it influences your relationships later in life.From romantic relationships to friendships and even workplace dynamics, we'll explore the emotional scars left by narcissistic parents and how they can show up in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Find yourself drawn to toxic partners? Fear abandonment or avoid intimacy altogether? Yes, these patterns often have deep roots in childhood conditioning.I'll be breaking down real-life examples from my counselling practice, sharing the struggles survivors face, and—most importantly—how to start breaking free from these unhealthy cycles. Because while your past may shape you, it doesn't have to define your future.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

5 Reasons Narcissists NEVER Give You Closure. Have you ever been stuck waiting for the narcissist to give you the closure you need? Maybe you've hoped for an apology, an explanation, or even a shred of accountability—but all you've gotten is silence, more manipulation, or outright gaslighting. It's exhausting, isn't it?In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we're diving into 5 reasons why narcissists just won't give you closure. Spoiler alert: it's not about you—it's about keeping you stuck in their toxic web. I'll break down the five main reasons they withhold that resolution and share real-life examples from my counselling practice to show just how calculated their behaviour can be.If you're stuck wondering why the narcissist won't just let you move on, this episode will help you see the bigger picture. More importantly, I'll give you tips to take back your power and find your own closure—because you deserve peace, and you'll never get it from them.If you would like to book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

Narcissistic Abuse is "No Ordinary Love" - With Tracy RectorIn this inspirational episode I speak with Tracy Rector. Tracy is an award-winning producer, speaker, author, and survivor, uses her voice to raise awareness of gender-based violence. As an international speaker, she's shared her passion inspiring audiences in the US including Guam, Asia Pacific, and UK.USA Today recognized her film, No Ordinary Love, as one of the “biggest summer movies” of 2021. She served as board chair of the second largest domestic violence agency in Texas, and she is currently part of a research project with national industry leaders to develop a game-changing tool to address domestic violence.Enjoy!Nova

Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With  - Part 2.In this final episode of a 2 part series I   dive deeper into one of the most destructive tools in a narcissist's arsenal: the smear campaign. Why do narcissists go to such great lengths to tarnish your reputation? What motivates them to twist the truth, spread lies, and turn others against you? From protecting their fragile ego to manipulating others into seeing you as the villain, smear campaigns are calculated and cruel—but they don't have to define you.In this episode you will hear more of the top 20 lies narcissists use to smear you with, to help you recognise these toxic behaviours. This 2 part series is a must-listen for anyone who's ever been blindsided by a narcissist's lies. If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Top 20 Lies Narcissists Smear you With - Part 1.In this two part series, I examine 20 lies that narcissists spread to destroy your reputation and punish you.Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their lies can range from subtle distortions of the truth to outright fabrications. In this 2 part series, I break down examples of the specific lies narcissists use to portray you as unstable, abusive, incompetent, or untrustworthy. I uncover how these lies are designed to not only discredit you but to gain sympathy from others and secure their position as the “victim” in the eyes of friends, family, or colleagues.I also delve into the motivations behind these cruel smears. Why do narcissists go to such great lengths to slander their victims? What do they gain from destroying your reputation? With real-life examples,  I  provide a clear understanding of the narcissist's mind and their relentless need to control the narrative.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Understanding Narcissism in Manufactured ConflictIn this episode, we dive into the mind of a narcissist to uncover why they seem to thrive on conflict and chaos. Ever wondered why narcissists can turn the simplest situation into a battlefield? This behaviour isn't random; it's calculated, and today, we're pulling back the curtain to understand what's really driving their need for drama.We explore key tactics narcissists use to create conflict, such as twisting words, exaggerating situations, and outright fabricating stories. For example, they might turn a minor misunderstanding into a full-blown feud, all while playing the victim. Sound familiar?We'll also discuss why this manufactured conflict is essential for their control. Narcissists use conflict to manipulate, distract, and keep people on edge. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, parent, colleague, or friend, understanding this strategy can help you recognise it for what it is and avoid being drawn into their games.Plus, I'll share real-life examples from my counselling practice.By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer picture of why narcissists manufacture conflict and practical tips for protecting your peace. Tune in for strategies to help you step back, stay calm, and see through the chaos.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

 10 Behaviours of the Ageing Narcissist.As narcissists age, their tactics and behaviours often shift, sometimes becoming more manipulative and harmful. In this episode, I'll walk you through 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist, offering insights into what drives these changes and how they impact those around them.You might notice that their charm no longer works as effectively as it used to, leaving them desperate for validation. Or perhaps they're leaning even more heavily on guilt-tripping to maintain control, especially over family members. I'll share real-life examples from my counselling practice, such as the ageing parent who weaponises their declining health to manipulate their adult children.We'll discuss the ageing narcissist's deep fear of irrelevance, which can drive attention-seeking behaviours, and how their lack of self-awareness makes them even harder to reason with. From their refusal to take responsibility for past mistakes to their tendency to rewrite history to suit their narrative, you'll learn how these behaviours are rooted in their fragile ego and fear of losing control.If you're dealing with an ageing narcissist in your life—whether it's a parent, partner, or colleague—this episode is for you!Tune in to better understand the complexities of the ageing narcissist and take one step closer to reclaiming your peace.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse?If you've ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I've been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you've spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting someone else's needs ahead of your own.In today's episode, we'll break down what boundaries really are (hint: they're not about being selfish, despite what a narcissist might say!) and why they're critical for your recovery. We'll talk about the common struggles survivors face when setting boundaries, like fear of conflict, guilt, or not knowing where to start.I'll share actionable tips for creating healthy boundaries—whether it's with a narcissistic ex, a toxic family member, or even in new relationships—and how to stick to them without backing down. We'll also discuss how to handle the inevitable pushback from a narcissist and why their reaction doesn't define your worth.If you're ready to take your power back, protect your peace, and finally put yourself first, this episode is your guide. Let's dive into the “how” of setting boundaries and start building the life you deserve.If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

20 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for 2025 – Happy New Year!Welcome to a brand-new year and a fresh chapter in your healing journey! In this empowering episode I share 20 transformative tips to help you recover from narcissistic abuse in 2025. Whether you've just left a toxic relationship or are deep in the healing process, these practical strategies will inspire hope and give you the tools you need to thrive.From setting boundaries that stick, to breaking free from trauma bonds, I explain how to prioritise your well-being, rebuild your self-esteem, and create a brighter future. This episode is packed with actionable advice to start the year strong, reminding you that healing is possible and that 2025 can be the year you reclaim your power. So grab a notebook, settle in, and join me for a motivational start to the new year.Listen now to 20 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for 2025 and step confidently into a year of growth and healing!Nova ♥️To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

Your first Christmas No Contact with the Narcissist. In this episode we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of going no contact with a narcissistic family or partner for the first time during Christmas. The first Christmas of no contact can produce a myriad of emotions from sadness to anger to relief and peace. You might be feeling torn perhaps, wondering if you've made the right choice around no-contact and battling feelings of guilt. Maybe you have others (Flying Monkeys) telling you to "be the bigger person", making you feel obligated to attend to keep everyone else happy.  There might even be feelings of loneliness as you think of others celebrating, while you're left questioning what "family" really means.But this isn't just about surviving this Christmas —it's about reclaiming your peace and setting boundaries that protect you. Listen to this episode to understand the situations that typically take place to get you to break no contact,  that your feelings are valid, and the importance of maintaining rock solid boundaries. If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

 "Wolf of Wall Street"s ex wife  Dr Nadine Macaluso, shares her story.In this episode I speak with the inspirational Dr. Nadine Macaluso, known to her patients as Dr. Nae. Dr Nae is the real-life inspiration behind Naomi Belfort's character in "The Wolf of Wall Street." She survived a turbulent eight-year marriage to Jordan Belfort, marked by abuse, greed, and trauma.Following her experiences, Dr. Macaluso relocated to California. Her journey of trauma and healing inspired her to return to school at age 39, where she earned her Master's in counseling and a Ph.D. in somatic psychotherapy. She further specialized with a two-year postdoctoral training in the Neuro-affective Relational Model (NARM).As a therapist, Dr. Macaluso combines her education and personal experiences to help others heal from trauma. Her practice focuses on assisting patients in connecting with their authentic selves, fostering confidence, resilience, and agency. Dr. Macaluso firmly believes in the potential for post-traumatic growth, instilling hope in her patients and guiding them to reach their potential in life and love.Enjoy!If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

The Female Narcissist Abuse Strategies.In this episode I talk about the female narcissist and the toxic abuse strategies she uses. Narcissistic abuse is not gender and female narcissists (Mothers,"Friends", Colleagues and Bosses) can be just as destructive as their male counterpart.Female narcissists and male narcissists share core traits like a lack of empathy, a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and an insatiable need for attention. However, female abusers can often be harder to identify due to societal expectations and stereotypes. The female narcissist knows how to use these stereotypes to her advantage!If you have a female narcissist in your life or you know someone that does,  then you don't want to miss this episode!If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE!  Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!  Nova xxYou can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book  ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse' here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibsonSend us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

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Healing From Narcissistic Abuse - The Benefits of Journaling with Amanda Stern.In this episode, I'm joined by Amanda Stern. Amanda provides amazing insights into healing from narcissistic abuse through journaling. She empowers her clients and community to embrace journaling as a path to self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-love so they can own their worth, find success on their own terms, and write their way to a life they love.We discuss how journaling helps you process those confusing and painful emotions, gain clarity, and rebuild your self-esteem after being entangled in a toxic relationship. Amanda shares practical tips on getting started, even if you've never journaled before, and how to use it to reflect on your experiences and track your growth.You'll learn why journaling isn't just about venting but about reclaiming your voice, uncovering your authentic self, and creating a safe space to express thoughts you may not feel ready to share with others. To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

Does the Narcissist Make You Feel Crazy Intentionally?Have you ever felt like you're losing your mind when dealing with a narcissist? Like no matter what you say or do, somehow, you're the one who's “too sensitive” or “overreacting”? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I discuss one of the most common—and maddening—questions victims of narcissistic abuse ask: Are they doing this on purpose? Spoiler alert: yes, they are.I'll break down the sneaky, calculated tactics narcissists use to make you feel like you're losing your mind using tactics like gaslighting,  projection, deflection and word salad. But most importantly,  this episode will help you to realise that you're NOT “crazy,” and you're definitely not alone.Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

Is it Narcissism, ADHD, or something else my Abuser has? In this episode I tackle a question many victims of abuse find themselves grappling with: "What's driving my abuser's behaviour?" Is it narcissism? Could it be ADHD? Or maybe it's something else entirely? And does putting a label on it even matter when the abuse keeps happening?I talk about the differences and similarities between narcissistic traits and other conditions like ADHD, explaining how these behaviours can sometimes overlap. I break down why this mindset can be both understandable and harmful. I discuss how abusers often use mental health labels as a shield to deflect accountability, leaving victims confused and trapped in cycles of empathy and forgiveness.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website link below

How do you survive Christmas with a narcissist? The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and togetherness, but what happens when a narcissist is part of the family? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the chaos a narcissistic family member can bring to your Christmas celebrations. From subtle manipulations to outright control tactics, narcissists have a knack for making everything about them—and ruining the holiday spirit for everyone else.We'll explore the common games narcissists play during festive gatherings: creating drama, triangulating family members, pulling surprise stunts, and turning the spotlight on themselves. If you've ever dreaded a holiday because of a narcissistic family member, this episode is for you. It's time to take back the joy of Christmas!To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

How do Narcissists get to be the Victim? - DARVO DEMYSTIFIED  DARVO is an insidious tactic narcissists use to flip the script and play the victim. DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a manipulative strategy that leaves victims feeling confused, powerless, and silenced. But what exactly is DARVO, and how can you spot it in real-time?In this Episode we unpack:The tell-tale signs of DARVO in actionWhy narcissists rely on playing the victim to manipulate and control such as....Romantic Relationships. You confront a narcissistic partner about their infidelity. Instead of addressing the betrayal, they lash out, accusing you of being overly controlling or untrusting. Suddenly, the conversation shifts from their wrongdoing to your supposed flaws. Now, instead of holding them accountable, you're defending yourself against baseless accusations. Or....After a breakup, a narcissist may launch a smear campaign, portraying you as the abusive one. They might share selective “evidence” with mutual friends, showing their tears and claiming emotional devastation. Meanwhile, they conveniently leave out their toxic behaviours.Tune in to listen to the full episode!For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.  Nova

How do Narcissists use Triangulation to Pit People against each other?Have you ever found yourself caught in the middle of someone else's drama, unsure how you ended up there? That's triangulation at play. Narcissists thrive on turning people against each other to maintain power, sow confusion, and deflect attention from their behaviour. Whether it's in families, friendships, workplaces, or romantic relationships, this tactic can leave victims feeling isolated, confused, and doubting their own perceptions.In this episode I unpack exactly how narcissists use triangulation to manipulate, breaking down:The subtle ways they pit people against each other.How they create competition, jealousy, and mistrust.The emotional toll triangulation takes on victims and their relationships.Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic parent, partner, or colleague, this episode is packed with insights and tools to help you break free from their manipulation.For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.  Nova

How do You Survive Post Separation Abuse?  - with Sybil CumminLeaving a narcissist should mean freedom, right? Unfortunately, for many, it's just the start of another battle - the cruel and calculated ways narcissists try to maintain control long after the relationship ends, also known as POST SEPARATION ABUSE. In this episode I'm joined by Sybil Cummin, who provides her incredible insights and expertise around the issue of Post Separation Abuse.  Sybil is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence for the last decade, including the child victims in these families. She owns a small group therapy practice in Colorado and after witnessing the constant ethical issues survivors experience in the family court system trying to protect their children she created Rising Beyond Power and Control (often referred to as The Rising Beyond Community).For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.  Nova

4 Ways Covert Narcissists Destroy Your HappinessIn this eye-opening episode I take you on a deep dive into the subtle yet devastating tactics covert narcissists use to chip away at your happiness. While their methods may seem less obvious than those of the overt narcissist, covert narcissists are just as destructive. They operate behind a mask of humility, kindness, or even victimhood, all while strategically eroding any joy in your life. I explore four key ways covert narcissists manipulate and harm, including emotional gaslighting, silent sabotage, and the insidious guilt trips they use to stifle your happines  and realise your worth. Whether you're dealing with a covert narcissist in a romantic relationship, family, workplace, or friendship, this episode offers clarity and validation. 

 5 Ways to Shut Narcissists Down!Tired of constantly being pulled into arguments and mind games with a narcissist? In this must-listen episode I unpack five ways to shut down a narcissist and protect your peace.I explore the psychology behind the narcissist's need for validation and why your refusal to play their game is the ultimate win.It's time to stop falling into the traps of justifying, arguing, defending, and explaining (aka JADE-ing) yourself to someone who thrives on control and chaos. I explain why these behaviours backfire when dealing with a narcissist, how they exploit your need to clarify or "prove" yourself.To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below

Beating  Narcissists in Court- The Golden Rules!- with my daughter, Courtney Barton.If you're facing a narcissist in your life, whether it's during a breakup, divorce, custody battle, or even in a work-related dispute, one thing is clear—you need a lawyer. Narcissists are experts at manipulation, twisting the truth, and using the legal system as a weapon to control or punish you. In this episode, Courtne  explains why getting legal support is not just a good idea but a necessary step to protect you.You'll learn practical tips for finding the right attorney, what to expect during the process, and how having legal representation can help you stay one step ahead of a narcissist's tactics. Whether you're at the beginning of your legal journey or deep in the trenches, this episode is packed with insight to empower you to take back control.Tune in and arm yourself with the knowledge and tools to protect your rights and your peace of mind!Courtney's website:-https://bartonfamilylaw.com.au/For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.  Nova

Hii leo jaridani tunaangazia ripoti siku ya watoto duniani, na kwa kutambua siku hii tunamulika mikutano yote yanayoendelea kwa ajili ya haki za watoto na vijana, ambao wametoa ujumbe wao kutoka Baku nchini Azerbaijan na Denmark wakiwakilisha nchi zao.Leo ni siku ya watoto duniani maudhui mwaka huu yakiwa "Kila mtoto, kila haki"na katika kuhakikisha sauti zao zinasikika kuhusu mustakbali wa utakao, shirika la Umoja wa Maataifa la kuhudumia watoto duniani UNICEF limewapa fursa ya kuandika barua kwenda kwa watu wazima kote duniani ili kutoa madukuduku yao na kutanabaisha wanachokitaka kwa ajili ya mustakbali wao.Kama ulivyosikia katika taarifa yetu ya kwanza leo ni siku ya watoto duniani ikirejelea tarehe 20 Novemba mwaka 1954 kwa mara ya kwanza kabisa ilipoanzishwa na Umoja wa Mataifa kusongesha umoja na kujitambua miongoni mwa watoto duniani..Makala ikiwa leo ni siku ya watoto duniani, tunakupeleka Baku Azerbaijan katika mkutano wa 29 wa nchi wanachama wa mkataba wa Umoja wa Mataifa wa mabadiliko ya tabianchi, COP29,  ambako Selina Jerobon amefuatilia mkutano wa watoto na vijana inayomulika mchango wao katika kuhakikisha mazingira bora.Mashinani katika kuadhimisha siku ya watoto duniani tunabisha hodi msitu wa Amazoni nchini Peru kwa mtoto Susan akitoa wito kwa dunia kuchukua hatua dhidi ya athari za mabadiliko ya tabianchi kulinda msitu huo kunusuru kizazi cha watoto wa sasa na wa vizazi vijavyo katika taifa hilo.Mwenyeji wako ni Assumpta Massoi, karibu! 

Understanding Narcissistic Future Faking  In the beginning, the narcissist will sweep you away by painting a dazzling picture of your future together—talks of marriage, kids, dream holidays, or maybe that forever home. But then, as time goes on, none of it ever materialises. That's future faking, a manipulative tactic narcissists use to hook you emotionally while avoiding any real commitment.In this episode, I  explain how future faking works and why it's such a powerful tool in the narcissist's playbook. By dangling a "perfect future" just out of reach, they keep you invested and distracted while their behaviour doesn't match their promises. I explore the devastating emotional toll this takes on victims, from shattered dreams to self-doubt and confusion.I explain why and how narcissists use future faking to control their relationships, and how to protect yourself from falling into their traps. Whether you've experienced this in a romantic relationship, a family dynamic, or even at work, this episode is packed with practical advice to help you break free and rebuild your trust in yourself.Tune in for a deep dive into this toxic tactic, and learn how to see through the lies and take back your power!Send us a textThankyou so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse. If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.comTo order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here or simply go directly to AmazonI looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee

15 signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome In this episode, I dive deep into the lesser-talked-about but incredibly important topic of NVS - Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells, questioning your own reality, or stuck in a cycle of self-blame and shame after dealing with a narcissist, this episode is for you.I unpack 15 key signs that indicate you might be experiencing Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. From chronic self-doubt and emotional exhaustion to feeling isolated and self sabotage, I explain each sign in detail and offer insight into why this happens and how it can impact your mental health and relationships.For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.  Nova