Sext and the City

For Season 4 Episode 4, What's Sex Got to Do With It, I sat down with Lindsay Metselaar, the Host of We Met at Acme: We have a relationship without sex and sex without a relationship, which had a better shot at survival? Topics include Sex without emotions Taking a friend's partner seriously Is less sex a bad sign in a relationship How SATC handled a topic versus the reboot Follow Lindsey and We Met at Acme  https://www.instagram.com/wemetatacme/  https://www.instagram.com/lindzmetz/  Follow Sam https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 4 Episode 3 “Defining Moments” I spoke with Ilana Dunn, host of the podcast Seeing Other People, and un-SATC fan for ”Carrie's question: “The more words we invent the harder it becomes to define things. In a world where you can date without sex screw without dating and in the end keep most of your sex partners as friends long after the screwing is over, what really defines a relationship?” Topics include:  Being friends with an ex (and the 100 nuances that come with it) Boundaries - how comfortable is too comfortable too soon DTR - DEFINING THE RELATIONSHIP (including lines you can steal to find out about your situationship) Follow Ilana and Seeing Other People at https://www.instagram.com/seeingotherpeople/  https://www.instagram.com/ilana.dunn/ Follow me  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 4 Episode 2 “The Real Me” I spoke with Kornelija Slunjski also known as Koko and Your Boujee Best Friend for Carrie's question: “Why is it that we can see our friends perfectly but when it comes to ourselves no matter how hard we look do we ever see ourselves clearly?” Topics include:  Trying to be someone we're not Lowering standards because no one can meet them How your self-awareness is impacting your confidence Understanding who to accept criticism from High maintenance versus narcissism versus confidence Why do we have trouble seeing ourselves Follow Koko https://www.instagram.com/kokobeaute/?hl=en https://www.tiktok.com/@kokobeaute Follow me https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/

Welcome back! We are kicking off Season 4 Episode 1, “The Agony and the ‘Ex'-tacy,” talking all things soulmates with one of my own soulmates, Bridesmaid for Hire Jen Glantz! Carrie's question of the episode and all the topics we dive into:  If you love someone and it didn't work out, does that mean they weren't your soulmate? And as you move from age box to box and the contestants get fewer and fewer, are your chances of finding your soulmate less and less? Soulmates, reality or torture device? Being in a relationship is the least interesting thing about you Why you shouldn't feel bad for not doing what everyone else is doing WHY are you getting married? Soulmates - from lovers to friends and pets 30 & the decade of decisions Follow Jen Glantz! https://www.instagram.com/jenglantz/ https://jenglantz.com/  Follow me! https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/  https://www.instagram.com/andiwondered_/

Hope you enjoyed Season 3! Stay tuned for Season 4 coming to you in 2022!

For Season 3 Episode 18 “Cock-a-doodle-doo” I spoke with Lori Hardacker Author of Dating, What The F*ck?”Carrie's question: “What if everything isn't the man's fault? After a certain age and a certain number of relationships and it still isn't working and the exes seem to be moving on and we don't, perhaps the problem isn't the last boyfriend or the one before him or even the one before him, could it be that the problem isn't them, is it us?” Topics include:  How men vs women process Setting expectations for what you need The role emotions play for men vs women Differences in communication styles How to make a decision Follow Lori and “Dating, What The F*ck?”: https://datingwhatthefuck.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 17 “What Goes Around Comes Around” I chatted with David Chambers, a dating coach and host of The Authentic Man Podcast on self-sabotage and relationship karma for Carrie's question: “I wondered does a string of bad dates equal one good one? And will treating someone badly in one relationship ensure you'll be treated badly in the next? Does everything that goes around really come back around? And if so, will it come around to bite you in the ass? Is there such a thing as relationship karma?” Topics include:  Why we self-sabotage How to identify self-sabotage If you are actually the problem How your past shapes your present Coincidence or the universe sending a sign Follow David and The Authentic Man Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Book a session with David: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/   

In this episode, I connected with Caroline Brown of The Crazy Over 40s Life Podcast to wonder over Carrie's question, “If you stay single long enough you're supposed to get wiser about dating - what men to pick, where to meet them. But what really made any of us experts? Wasn't our single status a neon sign that we couldn't get it right? What if all these years in New York have only made us older, more confused or dead?  Are we getting wiser or just older?” Topics include:  Why we really want men with money How men look at you differently once you're married Does dating get easier or harder with getting older and wiser Friendship Follow Caroline at https://www.instagram.com/thecrazyover40slifepodcast/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 15 “Hot Child in the City” I chatted with Kendra of the Crushgasm podcast on middle school insecurities and age appropriateness while wondering: “In today's youth-obsessed culture are the women of my generation growing into mature responsible adults, or are we 34 going on 13?”  Topics include:  What makes you an adult Kids these days Why the SATC characters make us feel immature Nostalgia having a moment Follow Kendra and the Crushgasm Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/crushgasmpodcast/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 14 “Sex and Another City,” I connected with Disha of the podcast But What Will People Say Podcast to talk about FAKES. And social media. Because it's really relevant for Carrie's question:  “When it comes to bags, men and cities, is it really what's outside that counts?” Topics include:  The dangers of social media Judging a book by its cover Portraying a life we don't have Validating your relationship online   Follow Disha and the But What Will People Say Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/disha.mazepa/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/   

For Season 3 Episode 13 “Escape from NY” I talked with Layla, host of The Curious Girl Diaries, about Carrie's concern that:  “I couldn't help but wonder, no matter how far you travel or how much you run from it, can you ever really escape your past?” Topics include:  Time heals all wounds? Putting people in boxes Loving each other equally   Leave Layla a voicemail: https://www.thecuriousgirldiaries.com/  Follow The Curious Girl Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/the_curiousgirldiaries/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 12 “Don't Ask, Don't Tell,” I spoke with  Em of the Sexistentialist podcast on radical honesty in relationships. We tackle Carrie's question of:  “I started thinking about honesty. Maybe the whole idea was overrated maybe coming clean is the ultimate selfish act to absolve yourself by hurting someone who doesn't deserve to be hurt. In a relationship is honesty really the best policy?” Topics include:  Emotional vs physical cheating Gender roles, media & infidelity Communication issues Radical vs selfish honesty Follow Em and the Sexistentialist Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/sexistentialistpod/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/

For Season 3 Episode 11 “Running with Scissors,” Nicole and Sarah and The Homance Chronicles weigh in on CHEATING and Carrie's question of the episode: “Later that night I got to thinking about safe sex, odd how only when our physical life is at risk do we follow certain guidelines to protect ourselves. But what about our emotional lives? Wouldn't it be nice if there was a little pamphlet to warn us what unsafe behavior might be “high risk” or ourselves or our relationships? And even if you take all the precautions and emotionally try to protect yourself, when you crawl in bed with someone, is sex ever safe?” Topics include:  Why people cheat The other woman Listening to doubt Fantasy versus reality Physical health vs emotional health Follow Nicole and Sarah and The Homance Chronicles: https://www.instagram.com/homance_chronicles/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

For Season 3 Episode 10 “All or Nothing,” I chat with Shawn from The Tough Titties Podcast about tough life choices. We attempt to answer Carrie's wonderings on: “Is it possible that we've gotten so spoiled by choices that we've become unable to make one? That a part of us knows that once you choose something, one man, one great apartment, one amazing job, another option goes away. Are we a generation of women who can't choose just one from Column A? Did we have too much to handle or was Samantha right, can we have it all?” Topics include:  Having it all vs having someone to share it with Why wanting a partner isn't enough The problem with dating apps Settling vs compromise Going back to an ex   Follow Shawn and The Tough Titties Podcast:   - https://www.instagram.com/thetoughtittiespodcast/  - https://twitter.com/toughtittiespod - https://www.tiktok.com/@shawn_jacobson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextnthecity/ //  https://www.instagram.com/samnthacity/ 

I connected with Audree Kate Lopez, of Audree Kate Studios and Simply Audree Kate, to chat Season 3, Episode 9, "Easy Come, Easy Go" of Sex and the City. We talked about: Running into exes Living with your ex The head versus the heart Trying to always fix things A tactic to getting what you want You can follow Audree at @simplyaudreekate and SimplyAudreeKate.com

For season 3, episode 8 "The Big Time," I chatted with Kelly of the lifestyle blog Mimosas and Manhattan. For this episode we talked about: Biological time clocks How men are like cabs Getting back with exes Timing is the only thing that matters Having a baby to fix your relationship You can follow Kelly on Instagram at @courtandkelly and check out the latest on the blog at mimosasmanhattan.com Follow the podcast at @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

This week for Season 3 episode 7 "Drama Queens," I caught up with Jordan Scott, founder of the couple's website idk tonight and app Cobble, to talk all about: Relationship ruts Dating as a business Does a relationship need drama Drama versus chemistry Sign up for idk tonight's newsletter here https://idktonight.com/ Download Cobble now on the app store here https://apple.co/35IcrIn You can also follow on IG for date night ideas @idktonight Follow the podcast BTS at @sextnthecity and @smanthacity

In Season 3 Episode 6 Carrie wonders, "are we sluts?" Me and one of my friends wonder the same thing and discuss: Is romance dead Physical vs emotional connections Slut-shaming Dirty talk How well do you know the person in your bed Follow on IG @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

For Season 3, Episode 5 "No ifs and or butts" we chat Sex and the City with Paige DeSorbo of Summer House on dating dealbreakers including: When it's okay lie Changing for someone Levels of deal breakers Spending to impress Forgetting you have a boyfriend You can follow Paige on Instagram and TikTok @paige_desorbo and @giggly.squad Catch her on Bravo's Summer House Wednesdays and Tuesdays on Amazon Live.

In Season 3 Episode 4 Boy, Girl, Boy, Girl a previous guest comes back and we get into: The power of an outfit Are gender roles a social construct Dating someone in another generation Sexuality Moving in with someone

Season 3 Episode 3 "Attack of the Five Foot Ten Woman is all about the comparison game. In this episode, I speak with Emily Curl, digital host at iHeart Radio, on Instagram versus reality: Seeing your ex without seeing them Comparing ourselves to exes Is even "unfiltered" and "BTS" social media still fake? Things we buy to feel better about ourselves Doing something that scares you Follow Emily at @emcurl and iHeart Radio at @iHeartRadio Follow this podcast BTS and vote on episodes at @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

In Season 3, Episode 2 we talk Politically Erect with Arielle Shnaidman, a mindset and business coach. She offers her tips and insights on: Owing someone - a favor for a favor? Women, politics, and how it's portrayed in media Are there any original ideas left? What if something better comes along? Moving on, and then back Call out culture Follow Arielle on IG at @arielleshnaidman and check out her business and mindset coaching business at arielleshnaidman.com Follow podcast BTS and vote on episodes at @sextnthecity and @samnthacity

No, we aren't talking The Bachelor. We are talking Season 3, Episode 1 of Sex and the City, "Where There's Smoke," with Kate Lindsay of Refinery29. This episode is all about how we try to rescue one another and we get into: Do women want to be rescued then or now? Is "fixing" people a version of rescuing them? Are there different levels of rescuing someone? Dating (judging) people based on where they live The role of fantasies Manifesting Follow Kate at @kathrynfiona and show BTS and vote on episodes at @sextnthecity and @samnthacity 

Season 2 Episode 17, Twenty-Something Girls vs. Thirty-Something Women, takes a wild turn when we turn relationship questions into career questions. I spoke with one of my friends who I really admire for how much she puts herself out there in her career on the following: The millennial stereotype Burning bridges in your network The mentor/mentee relationship Can you lie in a job interview? Good resume = bad employee Office competitiveness

This week, a guest from Season 1 returns to talk about Season 2 Episode 16 "Was it good for you?" This time as a Miranda. We talk: Is society now pansexual Are we graded every time we go to bed with someone How Carrie's dramatics are full-on in this episode Manifesting your desires Self-esteem and validation

For Season 2, Episode 15 "Shortcomings," I sat down with Courtney Seamon of the blog Mimosas and Manhattan and the podcast Relationships Uncensored. We talked about all things: If you date someone are you dating the entire family If "shortcomings" are really a dealbreaker Should a family know about your sex life Breaking up with the family too Can you date someone else in the family if things don't work out Dating someone with kids and divorced Follow Courtney the following ways! Relationships Uncensored itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationships-uncensored/id1473345494 Relationships Uncensored IG: @relationships_uncensored Mimosas and Manhattan IG: @courtandkelly Courtney's personal: @courtseamoney

I turned Season 2 Episode 14, "The Fuck Buddy Essentials," into a drinking game. Listen to me read your answers from Instagram @sextnthecity and if I disagree I have to take a sip.

We are discussing the finale of season 2 on this week's episode for "Ex and the City." I sit down with Allison, who totally feels Miranda in this episode, to discuss all things friends with an ex. We get into: Do you run when you see an ex Are exes like dresses Can you "tame" people High roads versus low roads Can you be friends with an ex

I chatted with Jenn M. Simpson, LISW-S Clinical Social Worker of Thrive Therapy Inc., to discuss Season 2, Episode 13 "Games People Play." In this episode, we get into: The importance of therapy Tips on creating clarity Healthy vs unhealthy ways to handle a breakup Dating games and why we do them Choosing a partner For more information on Jenn and her work, visit her website www.thrivetherapyinc.com and you can follow her on IG at @thrivetherapycincinnati

In this week's episode for "La Douleur Exquise," season 2 episode 12, it's all about fetishes. I spoke with Christy Haas, a sex and relationship therapist (MA, CPCC, CST) who really broke it down. We discussed: The difference in a fetish and a preference Living out your fetish IRL Meeting your partner's fetish needs Meeting a stranger's fetish needs Carrie and Big's "S&M" relationship Like what you hear on the episode? You can talk with Christy about your personal questions! Find her website for booking here, or follow on IG at @christyhaassextherapist

For this week's episode, I sit down with Caroline Vazzana, frequently referred to as the modern day Carrie Bradshaw. Caroline is an editor, stylist, fashion influencer, and author of Making it in Manhattan. As part of Season 2, Episode 11 titled Evolution, we talk all things: Leaving things at your partners home Pressures on life timelines Getting closure Fashion being more than clothes Thinking like a man Letting go of stereotypes in dating and careers Follow Caroline on Instagram @cvazzana and subscribe to her YouTube channel. You can follow the site Making it in Manhattan at @makingmanhattanofficial. You can check out all the articles and resources she shares on Making it in Manhattan here or buy the book for a full deep dive into Caroline's background and advice!

We are talking all things classless in Season 2 Episode 10, "The Caste System." I interview a Charlotte to talk all things: Dating outside of your socioeconomic standing Are we still biased on who pays Dating someone with no aspirations Jealousy with other people in your partner's life Saying "I love you" for the first time

For Season 2 Episode 9, "Old Dogs, New Dicks," I sit down with Caleb and Levina who started A Sex Journal, which is filled with resources, exercises, and guides to have intimate conversations with your partner following sex. On this episode we discuss: Why communication is so difficult Blaming partners for not being able to read our mind Changing your expectations Is it harder for men to change than women How to show up for your partner Scheduling sex You can pre-order your journal here and follow on social media to stay up-to-date at @asexjounral

This week we are talking about Season 2 Episode 8 titled, "The Man, The Myth, The Viagra." We get into Dating married men or formerly married men Letting your friends meet who you are dating Wealthy women still being gold diggers Is it okay to be a gold digger for certain reasons Bad dates and getting stood up

We are talking Season 2 Episode 7, "The Chicken Dance," where the ladies find themselves at another wedding...which has some special circumstances. I interviewed a Charlotte for this episode and we get into: Being on dates that aren't yours Fast engagements versus fast weddings A case study of a speedy marriage (+celeb case studies!) Is love in first sight real Are soulmates real Red flags to add to your list

This week I sit down with Tom and Tucker of The Undesirables podcast. The podcast takes on dating in a "trial by fire" approach. We talk all things Season 2 Episode 5, "Four Women and a Funeral," including: Picking up people at a funeral Looking like your ex Protocols of being friends with an ex You can check out their podcast here and follow on IG @undesireablespod

I sat down with a friend of mine (a Charlotte) who has dated on the East Coast and now the West Coast. We are addressing stereotypes for the coasts and is the grass actually greener on another one. Listen for: Who is more likely to be late to a date Who has better style Does one coast have a better "quality" dating pool Are there more women than men on one coast Picking a date spot Dating outside your neighborhood

This week we get into cheating curves and sexual identity for episode six of Sex and the City with my friend Ashely. We discussed: Can you ask someone if they are gay? The journey of sexuality Secret relationships Defining cheating Why do you cheat

On this episode, I sit down with Cylla Senii the creator (director/producer/writer/actress) of the web series Situationships that was picked up by BET, and her fellow producer Kar Logan. Situationships as the millennial Sex and the City The definition of a situationship Red flags you are in a situationship Millennial dating in modern times Defining the relationship (situationship) You can catch the show via the below links and follow along on social for more behind the scenes: Watch Situatioships on BET:https://www.bet.com/situationships Watch Situationships on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnXwrGJYj797ldwxmO-2_6w Watch Wingmen on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVoQj-k7A5HgXkkpx279AxQ IG @situationshipNY: https://www.instagram.com/situationshipny/ IG @WingmenWebShow: https://www.instagram.com/wingmenwebshow/  IG @CyllaSenii: https://www.instagram.com/cyllasenii/ IG @KarLogan: https://www.instagram.com/karlogan/

In this week's episode, Carrie has a meltdown after being plastered on a magazine all over the city as, "Single and Fabulous?" I chatted with Serena Kerrigan, aka SFK, aka Queen of Confidence, on why women should stop feeling ashamed about being single. Topics we address include: Faking orgasms Sex for validation Single women's "armor" The relationship with yourself Dating for all the wrong reasons You can follow Serena and all her confidence tips on @serenakerrigan

Carrie finds herself in a no-win situation when asked to weigh in on a friends relationship. In this episode I sit down with Tony, the podcaster behind "10 Years and Counting...," a podcast about being single for ten years. We talk about: Does being single mean you're the "fun one" Weighing in on a friend's relationship being a no win Can single people give relationship advice Are relationships based on delusion Are there some things better left unsaid in relationships When should you think about getting back together Can you replace human companionship Old school breadcrumbing

In this episode, Carrie decides to compare her relationship success to baseball stats. Turns out, her batting average is pretty bad. I interviewed my friend (a Carrie/Charlotte mix) this week to talk about this and more. We touch on: 18 dates in 2018 Running into an ex Social media and exes What is a breakup in modern times Quantity versus quality dates

In this episode, I sit down with Alex and Callie of The Unwritten Rules, a podcast on all the dating rules we follow but don't talk about. We get into the following...and tell a few crazy stories of our own. Finding someone's crazy ("freak") versus hiding your own Asking questions just to have your feelings hurt If someone's a freak, are their friends First date expectations Is the sex haze real? WTF is a date? Follow Alex and Callie @unwrittenrulesnyc where you can find links to all the places you can check out their podcast!

For this episode I spoke to Dr. Emily Wilson, a clinical psychologist, who has a unique focus on sex therapy. Dr. Wilson is a wealth of knowledge and gave great advice that is applicable to every relationship. We touched on a number of topics from: How to spice your relationship back up when the honeymoon phase is over Attitudes on sex in big cities vs small towns How much sex is "normal" How to communicate better in the bedroom Her top tip for better sex Want more specific? You can book a session (she does Skype!) with her at emilywilsonpsyd@gmail.com. Check out her website here.

When the first line of a book is “I left my fiancé for Sex and the City," you know it’s going to be good. This week I interviewed a Sex and the City expert, Jennifer Keishin Armstrong, author of Sex and the City and Us. The book dives into the makings of the show and how it impacted society. We talked about: All the deets on Candace Bushnell (how she actually afforded Carrie's closet!) What most people get wrong about the show The most surprising thing learned during the research Characters traits and why each is important Where are their families?? Societal problems with the show  You can buy the book in paperback (perfect for a beach read) this week here. For all things pop culture, check out the podcast Jennifer co-hosts Pop Literacy.

A lot of these you may have heard before. Which means maybe finally do them... BUT there is one you have definitely not heard MEN. 

This week I interview a former Samantha and now a badass mother of four for, season 1 episode 10, "The Baby Shower." On it we talk about: What to expect when you're not expecting A mother's instinct Pregnancy sucks. Everyone else is lying Sacrifices you make as a mother How to hold on to yourself as a mother And this mommy is starting her own podcast! Find her at The Unfiltered Mommy. Follow along BTS @sextnthecity

We have Miranda and Samantha again to talk about settling and desperation! In this episode we break down episode 9 of season 1, "The Turtle and the Hare." Sacrificing looks for personality Short-term pain for long-term happiness Signs you really don't care about them Reasons people get married other than love Can we change people Do we all want what we can't have I tell a really embarrassing story

On this episode we talk threesomes. So of course I did a threesome for the episode. As in, you get a Carrie (me), a Samantha, and a Miranda chatting. We discuss: The novelty of threesomes Being the guest star and how to treat them Threesomes with friends Threesomes to save a relationship Social media stalking How well do you know the people you are sleeping with Why women don't leave a bad date Follow behind the scenes IG @sextnthecity

In this episode I interview a Samantha...on monogamy. Does it even exists anymore with all the opportunities and convenience we are afforded in a modern world? On this episode we talk about: "The talk" aka Defining The Relationship Statistics on dating, relationships, and monogamy Does monogamy even exist How we make ourselves look crazy More on red flags

In this episode I interview one of my longtime best friends on secret sex. Carrie wonders how many of us are having great sex with people we are ashamed to admit to our friends? In this episode we discuss: Is secret sex the ultimate form of intimacy or a way we deny feelings and compartmentalize lives Have you ever been the cheese girl Introducing people to your friends What makes for strong friendships Going through people's stuff Fetishes and pleasing your partner Sex on a first date