SoberSoul Recovery with Lynn Matti

Lynn shares BUNDLES of episodes categorized for you. "Neuro Nerdy", "Just Starting Out", Skills Building, Society-Culture-Interviews-and "Trauma and Mental Health". With a special message about our times at the end.

In today's Episode, Lynn goes deeper into why we are all feeling so stressed, unhappy and overwhelmed.

Lynn talks about what it takes to get your needs and wants out of life.  Why is it so hard and confusing?

In this episode, Lynn takes a deeper dive into our layers of miscommunication and codependency in relationships.  Find out how to be your most authentic self.

Lynn takes you into the world of codependency in 2022.  What does it look like to be codependent and what can you do today to feel better.

How do we human? Why do we seek pain relief? What are we searching for? What is happiness?  All really good questions. I won't answer them definitively in this podcast, but you will learn how I answered them for myself and how I help others with the common issues we all have today.

Emotions are the commanders of our actions as well as the cause behind mental issues. Resentment is especially intriguing because of its secretive quality, its connection to violent acts and trauma, and its large role in interpersonal relationships.

In this episode Lynn talks about Living Room and Kitchen Dancing along with the many other ways dancing is making it onto the recovery radar screen.

Lynn shares what she has learned about the newest identified trauma response, fawning.

I know it is not fun.  Yet we know the best way to heal is through.  Really that is it.  We must learn a healthy way through.  At least that is my preference, because too many of us don't know to talk about our feelings. Which makes it difficult to know what we need.

Lynn talks about the confusion today regarding what is trauma and do I have some?

Lynn shares the necessary practice of Self Reflection, tips and ways to learn it today.

In this episode we have a ball discussing the joys of sobriety and recovery along with Veronica's Five Pillars of Sobriety and Emotional Sobriety.

Lynn talks about research and practice around EI and ER and how to be more mentally fit and flexible. 

Lynn talks about what she learned about herself over the break and how to focus on what you need in the coming year.

Lynn identifies several of her top episodes to take you into 2022!  See you in January!

Ask yourself things like: Who will be at the party? Is there anyone there who will try to compromise my sobriety? Who can go with me that supports my sobriety? What will I say when someone offers me a drink? What will I order to drink while there? Where is the party? Is it an environment I can handle at this time? How will I get home in the case I feel uncomfortable and need to leave? What are possible relapse triggers? What is my escape plan if I feel a craving or urge come on?

In today's episode Lynn talks about how folks confuse meditation with mindfulness and often take the fun out our being in the present moment. 

Many people aren't sure what to expect when getting sober or entering into Recovery, even with some research. The first days of sobriety are full of challenges and opportunities to strengthen recovery. Getting an idea of what it's like can help you or your loved one navigate this time more successfully.

Lynn takes a neuronerdy dive into one of her favorite recovery resources for information on our brain and how better understand what goes on within it.

Lynn shares her top 6 things that folks are still messing up about addiction, substance use and recovery!

Learn how to set boundaries big and small.

In this episode Lynn share a helpful resource for providing relief from confusion and emotionally suffering that some parents arouse in our early lives.

Lynn shares on what alcohol and other drugs deprive us of, how they work against and not for healthy relaxation and sleep.

Lynn explores why happiness seems so hard to get and how to figure out your own happiness goals. When most people talk about happiness, they might be talking about how they feel in the present moment, or they might be referring to a more general sense of how they feel about life overall.

Today Lynn talks about what most of us who have a problematic relationship with substances want to do, sometimes desperately.  There is a way to experiment with moderation to find out if it's for you.

In this episode Lynn shares the raw pivotal moment during early sobriety when she was faced with a huge block to her own recovery, her pride.  

Lynn shares steps you can take today to improve and heal broken and hurt relationships.

Lynn talks about what to do if you are feeling out of control even just a little bit.

In this episode Lynn discusses why we need both the upstairs and the downstairs brain and why we need them to work together. 

Are you tired much of the time? Getting the proper type of rest requires ID'ing what, exactly, you're missing, especially in early sobriety and recovery.  Learn what you don't know about resting in today's podcast.

We all need breaks, especially summer breaks!  Do you have something planned?  Take a listen to a previous episode and let me know if you want me to cover a specific topic!  xo Lynn

Lynn shares a great research and techniques to dive deeper into self improvement and recovery with your personal strengths. 

Lynn shares up to date information, definitions and solid ways to cope with your particular type of trauma.  

Lynn explores some of the reason we don't do what is good for us even thought we know it is good for us. Learn a really great tool for overcoming this common hurdle.  

With drug or alcohol abuse, the ability to think critically gets overshadowed by impulsive, irrational thinking.  Lynn talks about how to go about changing that. 

Lynn discusses Stephanie Brown's book The Alcoholic Family in Recovery, which gives four distinct stages that the alcoholic and the family surrounding him or her must go through to achieve recovery.

For many people, the first few weeks of sobriety are physically and mentally challenging. Lynn talks about what to expect and strategies for coping.

Get some answers in this episode to this question. It is no secret that misinformation about addiction is rampant in popular media. One particular area of misinformation concerns what language gets used when describing topics related to addiction. 

Psychologist Carl Rogers believed that for a person to "grow", they need an environment that provides them with genuineness (openness and self-disclosure), acceptance (being seen with unconditional positive regard), and empathy (being listened to and understood). How do we get these things?

More from the work of Allen Berger Ph. D.,a popular public speaker and nationally recognized expert on the science of recovery, is the author of 12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, 12 More Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, 12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone, 12 Hidden Rewards of Making Amends and Love Secrets Revealed: What Happy Couples Know About Having Great Sex, Deep Intimacy, and a Lasting Connection. 

In this episode, Lynn pulls from the work of Allen Berger Ph. D.,a popular public speaker and nationally recognized expert on the science of recovery, is the author of 12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, 12 More Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery, 12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone, 12 Hidden Rewards of Making Amends and Love Secrets Revealed: What Happy Couples Know About Having Great Sex, Deep Intimacy, and a Lasting Connection.   

Lynn talks about how those who strive for excellence in a healthy way take genuine pleasure in trying to meet high standards. Perfectionism, on the other hand, results in struggles with self-doubt and fears of disapproval and rejection.

Boredom happens when our mind is unoccupied, and we want to do something but can’t figure out what we want to do. No one is completely untouched by boredom, but some suffer more than others. In this episode Lynn talks about what boredom really is and what you can do about it. 

One's relationship with oneself is crucial to proper development. It's about healthy self-love.“The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world.” (Toni Collette) 

Emotional fitness is the simple idea that our minds need regular exercise and training just as much as our bodies do in order to stay healthy and fit. Lynn talks about what it is and how to get it.

Cognitive therapy is one of the main tools for changing people’s negative thinking and developing healthy coping skills. The effectiveness of cognitive therapy in relapse prevention has been confirmed in numerous studies.

Recovery is a process of personal growth in which each stage has its own risks of relapse and its own developmental tasks to reach the next stage [2]. The stages of recovery are not the same length for each person, but they are a useful way of looking at recovery.

Lynn shares the core principles of learning how to make the necessary plans for prevention of relapse/return to use. The plan includes the four main ideas to address in relapse prevention and the stages of relapse. 

Relapse can bring on some of the most difficult feelings to deal with for both the individual who is addicted – and their loved ones. It may feel as though you did everything right: You completed and graduated from a treatment center, regained control of your life and even put some time under your belt. But is relapse truly a failure Absolutely not.