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Most women don't realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That's when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine. In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle. You'll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don't have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful one-on-one coaching conversation with a client who was dreading a weekend trip with her judgmental, high-maintenance mother-in-law. What started as a fear of overdrinking turned into something much deeper—a real-time lesson in emotional ownership, boundaries, and what it means to become unfuckwithable. This episode isn't about family dynamics—it's about taking your power back. If you've ever agreed to something just to avoid conflict and ended up feeling resentful, this is for you. You'll walk away with practical language, new scripts, and the mindset shift that will help you stop outsourcing your emotional well-being to other people's moods.
Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In this raw and relatable conversation, I'm joined by one of my incredible clients, Carley — a driven healthcare professional, mom of two, and former daily drinker who once believed her only two choices were to either quit drinking forever or keep white-knuckling it with shame and regret. Carley opens up about what her drinking looked like behind closed doors and the pressure she put on herself to “keep it together” — until it started to fall apart. She shares how overachieving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing became coping mechanisms, and how alcohol slowly crept in as her off-switch. We talk about the moment she realized her mental math wasn't working anymore, the emotional buildup that led her to finally book a discovery call, and what shifted when she heard someone say: “You don't have to get sober. You just have to feel better.” This is an incredibly powerful episode for anyone who has ever felt stuck between drinking too much and feeling like you can't stop completely. Carley's story is proof that emotional sobriety isn't about rules — it's about freedom. What you'll hear in Part 1: The hidden stressors that led Carley to overdrink (even as a healthcare worker who knew better) The fear of reaching out for help — and what made her finally do it The myth of “just try harder” and why it never works The exact moment she realized she didn't have to choose between chaos and abstinence Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
What comes to mind when you think about surrendering? Do you feel like it's showing weakness? Giving up? Failure? Join Andy Petry, Landing Director for Celebrate Recovery, as he and a CR brother explore this critical component of our recovery.
In today's episode, Colleen unpacks a subtle but powerful mindset that can completely shift how you experience stress, pressure, and time. Whether it's a packed calendar, an airport sprint, or your own inner critic barking about everything you should be doing, the real problem isn't your to-do list—it's your nervous system. This episode explores how urgency is often just emotional dysregulation in disguise, and why “getting everything done” will never create the calm you're actually craving. If you're constantly on the go, juggling work, family, and the secret shame of overdrinking, this one will help you slow down without falling behind—and start practicing emotional sobriety in the way you move through your day.
If you're drinking more than you want to, but every time you try to cut back it feels like one more thing to do… this episode is for you. Today, I'm sharing the real story that kept me stuck in the drinking cycle for years—the one that has nothing to do with alcohol:
Let us know how we're doing, or send us an idea!Caleb's story isn't polished, and that's exactly why it matters. As a high school freshman, he started vaping to fit in. What began as a way to feel cool quickly spiraled into substance abuse he couldn't control. But this episode isn't about rock bottom - it's about what happens when a student finds the courage to say, “I don't want to do this anymore,” and someone is there to listen.Told through the voices of Caleb, his mother and his school social worker, this conversation explores addiction, recovery and what it really looks like when a teenager begins to heal...not because of a punishment, but because of patience, presence and unconditional love. It's raw, emotional and real. And it might just help someone else find their own "day one."
In leadership, the lines can get blurry when it comes to shepherding, loving, and guiding those that God has called us to lead through ups and downs of ministry seasons. In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will guide us through a conversation to help us understand the difference between leadership and guiding people toward the wholeness of health versus enabling codependency. Keeping things in the right order and not getting in the way of what God wants to do is so critical. Listen in and be encouraged.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection on what it means to stay emotionally sober when things are going really well. When the business is booming, the boxes are checked, and it feels like everything is finally clicking. Most of us assume that emotional work is about learning how to handle hard moments—grief, anxiety, cravings, conflict, etc. Though that's true in it's own right, there is still a catch. ----> If your mood is dictated by external wins, then your nervous system is still being hijacked, and the crash that follows might be more subtle—but it can also be just as dysregulating.
In this episode, Colleen breaks down the difference between thinking your feelings and actually feeling them—and why most high-achieving women get stuck in a loop that keeps them stressed, stuck, and searching for answers in the wrong places. You'll learn a simple, body-based skill that helps you shift out of emotional overwhelm and back into clarity, presence, and personal power—without needing to fix, solve, or overexplain anything at all. Whether you're drinking to numb the noise or overthinking your way into burnout, this episode will show you how to interrupt the loop and finally let go—for real.
Today's episode is for the woman who's doing everything right—and still feels like she's falling apart. Colleen sits down with Laurie James, somatic coach and author of Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go to talk about what happens when your nervous system hits a breaking point. Laurie ended up in the hospital—twice—after leaving a toxic marriage, raising four daughters, dating again, writing a book, and trying to heal. This is a raw, honest conversation about how success can hide trauma, why “pushing through” is often dissociation in disguise, and how to regulate your nervous system before your body takes matters into its own hands.
Have you ever wondered about the purpose and mission of our one day training conferences? Sometimes we forget that it's more than just gathering information, and it's bigger than just training in our craft in ministry. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, takes the microphone on the road to talk to people just like you at a local training conference. Be encouraged as you listen to some life-change stories and little nuggets of hope .
Most of us see anxiety as a personal flaw—something to fix, medicate, or avoid. But what if anxiety isn't the problem at all? What if it's the invitation? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the two types of anxiety as explained by Dr. Russell Kennedy—foreground alarm and background alarm—and shares a personal story of how unresolved fears and childhood programming were quietly driving Colleen into burnout... even though her mindset looked great on the surface. This isn't just about alcohol. It's about understanding the real source of your stress, shifting from self-bullying to self-trust, and learning how to work with your nervous system instead of against it. Whether you're drinking to deal with anxiety or simply tired of pushing through life at full speed, this episode will help you stop fighting the wrong battle—and start healing what's actually underneath.
In today's episode, Colleen dismantles one of the most common mindset traps she see's in her clients: the belief that anxiety is something to get rid of. If you've ever said, “I'm just an anxious person,” or used alcohol to calm your nerves before a flight, presentation, or party—you're not alone. But what if anxiety itself isn't the problem? She'll walk you through a real client breakthrough where they shifted the focus away from “less anxiety” and toward something far more powerful: a regulated nervous system. You'll learn why trying to “not drink” or “not be anxious” backfires neurologically, and what to focus on instead.
After 10 months of consistent progress, one of my clients recently found herself drinking every day for two weeks. In this episode, I walk you through the private coaching conversation we had—what really caused the setback, how she responded, and why it had nothing to do with alcohol. If you've ever told yourself “I should be farther along by now,” or felt the crushing weight of shame after slipping into old patterns, this episode is a must-listen. You'll learn how to recognize when you're caught in a thinking problem—not a drinking problem—and how to respond in a way that propels you forward instead of holding you back. What You'll Learn: Why over-drinking isn't a sign of failure—but an invitation to go deeper The biological reason why stress makes you revert to old coping habits How thoughts like “I don't have enough time” silently sabotage your behavior Why the perception of failure activates the “kill-switch” for your motivation The power of slowing down, asking for help, and telling yourself the truth Key Insight: You can't change your drinking without changing your thinking. And you can't change your thinking if your body is in a stress response. Emotional sobriety means learning to create enough internal safety that you can question your own thoughts—without collapsing into shame. —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
Honesty is one of the biggest components of a sound, lasting recovery. If the enemy wanted to sabotage my recovery, one of the ways that he would get to me is by convincing me that honesty will lead to destruction in my life. Listen in as Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, interviews two Celebrate Recovery leaders - Andy and Hudson - as they unpack this important topic.
In today's episode, you'll hear a deeply personal story about the night Colleen's college-age kids brought home a big bottle of vodka—and invited her to join them. Years ago, this would've been the moment she feared the most. But something powerful has shifted. You'll hear how self-trust changes everything, how desire—not discipline—is what drives real transformation, and why the solution to alcohol use disorder has nothing to do with drinking. Whether you're still stuck in the "managing it" phase or wondering how to build a life that feels bigger than your nightly glass of wine, this episode will show you how to trade self-protection for self-permission—and how to begin crafting a new kind of evening ritual, one that gives you energy instead of stealing it.
If the solution to alcohol use disorder isn't a behavior, but a feeling— HOW THE HELL DO YOU PRACTICE A FEELING? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the mindset shift that will completely change the way you think about manifestation. Not the toxic, glittery, vision-board version. But the grounded, neuroscience-backed practice of training your body and brain to feel powerful on purpose—so you don't need alcohol to feel that way for you. Colleen explains why "wanting" and "waiting" energy keeps you stuck, why your thoughts aren't facts (even the convincing ones), and how to get off the mental hamster wheel of self-doubt, disappointment, and shame. If you're ready to stop “trying to change” and start experiencing change in real time—this one's for you. Key Takeaways: The solution to alcohol use disorder is a feeling—not a behavior. Thoughts are habits. What you believe isn't always true—it's just familiar. Manifestation isn't magic; it's alignment. Feel like the version of you you want to become. Wanting and waiting energy blocks progress. “What's working now” energy opens the path forward. You can only think how you feel. Change your feeling, and your brain will catch up. Action Step: Get a What's Working Now journal. Start tracking all the tiny signs that your transformation is already happening. Even if you wake up hungover. Especially if you wake up hungover. The more you train your brain to notice wins, the more progress you'll make. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X: @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
How do you stay grounded when someone you love is unraveling? In this powerful episode, Sione and Alana are joined again by Craig Williamson, author of Regarding Substance Abuse & Addiction, who shares what he learned during a 17-year-long journey supporting and loving his son through addiction—a journey that ended with his son's passing at age 29. In this raw and deeply personal conversation, Craig opens up about the emotional toll of loving someone through addiction, and the life-changing lessons he learned about control, setting boundaries, practicing radical self-care, and how to love without losing yourself in the process. Whether you're currently supporting someone through a hard season, or want to deepen your emotional resilience for life's inevitable storms—this episode will move you, ground you, and give you powerful tools to grow forward. In this episode: What it really means to let go of control—and what to do instead The difference between enabling and loving with healthy boudnaries. How to stay grounded when you're walking through chaos or grief The role of expectations in emotional pain—and how to shift them The connection between personal identity and unshakable joy Why self-care isn't selfish—it's your first responsibility Preparing your life's foundation before crisis hits Powerful lessons on grace, compassion, and emotional strength RESOURCES MENTIONED: Craig's Book: Regarding Substance Abuse & Addiction (purchase through this link to support the show at no extra cost to you) Craig's First Podcast Appearance: Understanding Addiction-Ep. 80 Craig's Substack: https://craigawilliamson.substack.com/ ------------------------------------------------------------------ Want to set a foundation for the next 12 months? Check out our Best Year Ever Program to gain clarity and structure around your top priorities, habits, and personal growth goals. ------------------------------------------------------------------ A FEW GOLDEN NUGGETS: Control is an illusion. Responsibility is where your power lives. You can love the person and still reject the behavior The brokenness around you is an opportunity to become your best self. Don't attach your joy to outcomes—anchor it to your identity as a child of God. If you stop taking care of yourself, you become part of the problem. This episode is a must listen for parents, partners, and leaders who want to show up with strength, love, and grace—even when life doesn't go as planned. ------------------------------------------------------------------- Listen now and uncover what losing a son with addiction taught this father about control, boundaries, & self-care. ------------------------------------------------------------------- For our latest insights and things we don't share with the public, become a Sione and Alana Insider. It's free and easy to join: https://recountinglifelessons.com/insider FOLLOW US: ► Like on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sioneandalana ► Our Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sioneandalana ► Alana's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alanauyema ► Sione's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sioneuyema Want to connect with Sione & Alana? ►Website: https://www.recountinglifelessons.com ►Email: sioneandalana@recountinglifelessons.com Have a life lesson to share? Interested in being a guest? We'd love to connect: click here to schedule a time to connect
Send us a textThe walls we build to protect ourselves from trauma can become our prisons. This powerful truth emerges as Dr. Charlie Powell returns to share groundbreaking developments with his "Healing Heroes: No Mind Left Behind" documentary, now evolving from a television series into a theatrical release scheduled for November 11th.Charlie takes us deep into the intricate relationship between PTSD and addiction, revealing how these conditions often share the same root causes. "Most cases of PTSD don't start in adulthood," he explains, sharing his personal revelation that despite decades in military service and trauma medicine, some of his most significant healing came from addressing a childhood near-drowning experience. This perspective shatters conventional understanding of trauma, suggesting that many of our adult struggles trace back to moments where life came at us "too fast, too much, and too soon."The conversation ventures into uncomfortable but vital territory as Charlie and Steve discuss how trauma survivors' silence impacts relationships. "The silence that you put your partner through," Steve notes, "may not seem like verbal abuse or trauma, but it is." Charlie takes this further with a provocative comparison: this withdrawal can be as damaging as infidelity, representing a loss of faith in the partner's ability to handle the truth of your experience.Most powerfully, Charlie shares his initial reluctance and eventual decision to make his personal story central to the documentary. "People think vulnerability is a weakness. It's not. It's a strength," he explains, challenging the stigma that keeps many first responders and veterans from seeking help. This vulnerability has already resonated deeply—the documentary's first trailer garnered an astounding 4 million views in just three and a half days.For anyone struggling with trauma's grip, this conversation offers not just insight but tangible hope. Charlie describes how interventions combining multiple healing modalities helped six veterans and first responders achieve transformative recovery in just ten days—freedom from both PTSD symptoms and associated addictions many had developed to cope. As Charlie puts it: "Challenge anybody out there—imagine the biggest accomplishments you've ever had in life and tell me which one was easy." Perhaps our greatest traumas, properly processed, can lead to our greatest growth.Ready to see trauma recovery differently? Listen now, and watch for the new Healing Heroes trailer dropping this Memorial Day.Here is the trailer for "Healing Heroes: No Mind Left Behind" Season 1: https://youtu.be/16bnQ7eVKKI?si=46VOPpo1fLq_WB9oFreed.ai: We'll Do Your SOAP Notes!Freed AI converts conversations into SOAP note.Use code Steve50 for $50 off the 1st month!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast
Most women assume their drinking habit is a willpower issue. But what if your body is actually sounding an alarm? In today's episode, Colleen sits down with functional medicine expert Dr. Meg Mill to unpack the hidden connection between histamines, hormones, and alcohol. If your wine tolerance has changed, your moods are all over the place, or you're feeling bloated, anxious, or inflamed—this conversation is essential. Dr. Meg explains how histamines affect everything from headaches to anxiety, why your red wine might hit differently depending on the time of month, and what to do if you feel like your body is reacting to everything lately. This isn't about giving up pleasure—it's about understanding what your body is asking for.
What do we do when we find ourselves in a dark, hopeless and helpless place? Can change really happen even from the inside of a prison cell? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, interviews Patrick as he shares part of his powerful story from hopelessness in prison to a life full of hope and purpose through Celebrate Recovery Inside and, now, outside. Patrick is a part of Calvary Christian Church in Lynnfield, MA, where Celebrate Recovery meets on Tuesdays at 6:30pm. Childcare provided. Be sure to visit him and his local CR!
In today's episode, Colleen shares a story about a client who unsubscribed from her email list—and how that one glitch almost triggered a cascade of false assumptions, unspoken tension, and missed opportunity. It's a reminder that the smallest emotional reactions (the ones that barely register) are often the most dangerous. Because they go unchecked. Unquestioned. Unchallenged. This episode will help you stop letting your emotions drive blind—and show you how to reroute your thinking so you can create a different future than your past.
In today's episode, Colleen shares the most powerful skill you can develop on your emotional sobriety journey: how you respond to yourself when you slip into old habits. Whether you drank more than you planned or simply feel like you've lost your way again, this episode will rewire how you think about failure—and help you stop reinforcing the very pattern you're trying to break. Colleen walks you through the real moment of change (it's not what you think), why “starting over” is a trap, and the nervous system reset that turns shame into self-trust.
Today's episode is a must-listen for any woman navigating midlife hormonal changes and struggling with overdrinking. Colleen sits down with Bria Gadd—the Period Whisperer—to talk about the real reason so many high-achieving women hit a wall in their 30s and 40s. This is an honest conversation about how to hear your body's whispers before they become screams, and why pushing through your exhaustion puts your body into “health debt.” If you've ever wondered whether your fatigue, mood swings or wine cravings have more to do with stress than weakness, this episode will show you how to shift from survival mode to sustainable wellness.
One of the most lethal ways the enemy might sabotage our recovery is through isolation. But what are some of the specific ways we isolate and what are the costs? How can we be harmed through isolation? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack the ways that isolation can cost us and keep us from living the newfound life in Christ as we celebrate our recovery.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a simple and powerful practice that can shift your energy in seconds—and help you stop carrying what your body is desperate to let go of. If you've ever felt like you should stop drinking, overworking, or people-pleasing—but you keep doing it anyway—this episode will show you why resistance doesn't work, and how to reconnect with the wisdom of your body instead. Plus, Colleen walks you through a one-breath nervous system reset called The Sigh—a technique that helps you release emotional pain, shift mental patterns, and return to a state of balance. No willpower required.
Today's episode is all about emotional flow—how energy moves through your body and what to do when it gets stuck. Colleen explains how your thoughts can block the natural upward movement of desire, inspiration, and curiosity—reversing the flow and creating emotional heaviness, anxiety, and burnout. You'll learn why it's not always necessary to unpack your childhood or analyze every emotion. Sometimes the simplest shift comes from asking: is this thought opening me up, or shutting me down? Whether you're stuck in your career, your relationship, or your relationship with alcohol—this episode will show you how to unclog your energy, reclaim your creativity, and speak your truth into the world.
Medications can sometimes be necessary for overall health, and we should never shame one another for this. Sometimes it can be a necessity for many people struggling with a variety of different mental health and physical complications and struggles in their lives. Consulting and following a doctor's recommendations - along with listening to and knowing your own body is an essential part of our journey. But what do you do when your body is saying it's time to move away from medication? In this episode we will hear from Keith as he takes us through his own journey of moving away from benzos (a common shorthand for benzodiazepines). Listen in as Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, interviews Keith about his life-change story and journey through detox and recovery from benzos.
Today's episode is all about the practice of being okay no matter what. Colleen shares the mindset shift that changed everything for her—especially while growing her business on TikTok—and how you can apply the same concept to anything in your life. Whether it's tech glitches, traffic, or your partner's tone of voice, there's always an invitation to be bothered—or an opportunity to practice emotional sobriety instead. This episode will show you why true freedom isn't about changing your circumstances; it's about expanding your capacity to stay unbothered in the middle of them.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful mindset shift that can make changing any habit feel easier, faster, and more sustainable: stop trying to "get it right" — just focus on getting it better. Inspired by the concept of the iterative mindset from Dr. Kira Bobinet's research, Colleen explains why the old black-and-white idea of relapse and failure doesn't belong in habit change—and how a simple shift in thinking can remove the shame, accelerate your progress, and help you design a lifestyle that actually fits the life you want to live. Whether you're working on your drinking habits, food habits, or just trying to be more intentional about your day-to-day choices, this episode gives you a fresh, more forgiving way to stay motivated without burning out.
On today's episode, Colleen answers a question from a listener who's successfully changed her own drinking habits—but finds herself frustrated by her husband's drinking. If you've ever felt like someone else's behavior is sabotaging your progress, this episode will help you take back your emotional power. Colleen walks through her framework for emotional ownership and teaches how to release the belief that someone else's choices have to hold you back. You'll learn how to shift the story you're telling yourself, meet your own needs, and define success on your terms.
In today's episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, continues his discussion with Andy regarding the different tactics the enemy uses to try to sabotage our recovery through our relationships. Part 2 of this series takes us deeper into how we can be more aware of the enemy's schemes and how to combat them with Jesus' power.
In this episode, Colleen invites you to take your emotional temperature and ask a powerful question that could change everything: How can I make this fun and easy? Whether you're racing through your day with a nervous system stuck in overdrive or stuck in bed with your to-do list haunting you, the solution isn't more hustle—it's ease. But ease isn't a circumstance. It's an emotional state. And you can learn to choose it on purpose. Key Takeaways: • You can't fix overwhelm with more action—emotional ease has to become the goal, not the reward. • Busyness, burnout, and rushing are often signs that your nervous system is dysregulated, not that you're falling behind. • The faster your brain is moving, the more likely you are to be living in your stress response instead of your power. • Your emotions are your early warning system—when you feel tight, rushed, or tense, that's your body telling you to reset. • Ease is an emotional state you can access by managing your thoughts, regulating your body, and doing one thing at a time. Action Steps: Notice when you're rushing, pushing, or spiraling. Instead of trying to do more or fix the problem faster- Pause and ask yourself: How can I make this moment feel fun and easy? Even just asking the question will start to slow the engine of your brain and bring your body back into the present moment. Ease isn't just a luxury—it's your superpower. And the more you practice it, the more you reclaim your energy, your focus, and your joy. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
In today's episode, Colleen shares a raw and relatable story about frustration, tech fails, and the moment she remembered one of the most powerful tools she teaches: making friends with your feelings. You'll hear how a seemingly small trigger (a broken download link before a long workday) became the perfect opportunity to practice emotional sobriety. She walks you through how to recognize emotional inflammation, catch unhelpful thoughts, and redirect your energy—before it hijacks your day. Because the truth is, your emotions aren't the problem.... They're trying to help you. If you listen, they'll show you exactly where you're giving away your power. Key Takeaways: • What it really means to "make friends with a feeling" • How to recognize emotional inflammation in real time • Why your body is your most accurate bullshit detector • How to flip frustration, helplessness, or resistance into clarity and momentum • A hilariously honest story about tech struggles, pre-coffee rage, and how one shift changed everything Action Steps: Bring awareness to ONE emotional reaction you struggle with—frustration, shame, resentment, overwhelm, etc.—and practice noticing it in the moment. Instead of spiraling into your usual response- Pause. Label the feeling. Then ask yourself "Out-Loud" what your body is trying to tell you. Use the energy of that emotion as fuel to take the smallest next right step. Your feelings are not the enemy. They're the flashlight. Follow the beam and reclaim your power. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
The enemy can be deceiving and very sneaky in finding different ways to try to sabotage our recovery. It's interesting and scary to think about how the enemy might scheme to get us off track from the health and growth of our recovery process through a variety of different means. We're beginning a series talking about different ways the enemy might try to do this. In today's episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, visits with Andy on different tactics of the enemy we need to be aware of and how we can combat them in God's power.
In today's episode, Colleen breaks down how the language you use—especially when it seems neutral or logical—can silently sabotage your ability to change. You'll hear why “I just need to stop drinking” is actually a negative thought (and how it keeps your brain stuck in the problem instead of moving toward the solution). She explains how to recognize these mental error codes, shift into a more empowered mindset, and start generating real momentum—even with something as small as making it to a yoga class. Key Takeaways: Your brain can't solve for what you don't want—it needs clear, positive direction. “Stopping drinking” isn't a goal; it's the absence of a goal. It keeps your nervous system in a stress response. Negative thinking often shows up in normal, subtle ways: “I don't know” “I can't" “What if I don't…” Every time you focus on the negative outcome, You Reinforce It. Instead, swap in positive, do-focused thoughts like: “What I do know is...” "What I can do right now is..." "When I do ____, I'll feel ____." Action Steps: Notice the hidden “negatives” in your self-talk—especially around alcohol, habits, and percieved identity. When you catch one, pause and ask: "What do I want instead? What's the positive version of this thought?" Practice shifting your language in small, daily moments—like going to yoga, packing lunch, or regulating your nervous system. Remind yourself: Your brain is a powerful problem-solver—but only when you feed it the right kind of input. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection she recorded nearly a year ago—but it's just as relevant now, especially if you're feeling stuck, off-balance, or like a hot mess who should be further along by now. This episode isn't about getting it all together—it's about what to do when you don't. You'll hear how she used the exact tools from the program to navigate the emotional chaos of working too much, losing old routines post-divorce, and telling herself the story that she wasn't making any progress. You'll learn how to decode those familiar thoughts, and shift out of judgment into grounded, aligned action. Because stuck is a story. Balance is a feeling. And sometimes the most powerful way to move forward… IS TO STOP TRYING SO HARD! Key Takeaways: These are just thoughts—not facts. They're how we explain our emotional state, not what's actually happening. “I'm stuck,” “I'm out of balance” “I'm not making progress” The real issue isn't imbalance. It's overwhelm. When your output is high but your results are low, you're probably ignoring your body's signals. Emotional sobriety means listening to those signals instead of overriding them. Remember this: Your brain will find evidence for whatever you believe. So if you keep saying “I'm not making progress,” you'll feel more discouraged and stuck. Flip the script by doing one small thing—and call it progress. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
"Stop saying that you want to stay sober or drink in moderation. Because what you really want is to feel calm, capable, and in control." Colleen Freeland Kachmann There are 3 invisible, unmet needs that keep high-achieving women from easily changing their drinking habits: a lack of connection, direction and feedback. If you've ever wondered “Why am I doing this to myself?”—this episode will change the way you think about drinking, self-trust, and your ability to change. I'll explain how alcohol has become both a problem and a solution, and why your brilliant, overthinking brain continues to argue in favor of your bad habits. You'll learn how shame, inconsistency, and an over-emphasis on alcohol undermine your ability to change. And why focusing on how you want to FEEL instead of how much you should or should not drink will set you free. Key Takeaways: Your emotional state drives your behavior. The way you drink is a reflection of how you feel. The first step to feeling better is feeling safe so that you can speak your truth. Which means you need support from a community of people who share your values and vision for the future. —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life. —NEW! Colleen's doing Q&A episodes! Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air! —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube @hangoverwhisperer –Click here to take the QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?
What is the purpose behind Step 3 & Principle 3? Coming to this place of "making a decision" or consciously choosing to commit all of our life to His care and control is a life-changing step for all of us. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, interviews a brother in Christ, Andy, to hear the direct impact of applying this important step of the process to our heart and life. What is the fruit that can come from applying this principle and step to our recovery journey? You'll discover the answer as you hear's Andy's story.
In today's episode, we're flipping the script on what it means to “manifest change” when it comes to your relationship with alcohol. Every habit you have was built through attention, repetition, and belief. You already know how to manifest. You've done it before. The question is: can you do it on purpose? If you've ever told yourself “I know better and won't do that again", but you keep doing it anyway, this episode is a must-listen. You'll learn how shame hijacks your perception, why logic won't get you out of a drinking spiral, and the exact method Colleen uses (and teaches) to help high-achieving women build trust with themselves again—starting with the smallest, most overlooked wins. Key Takeaways Your Brain is Always Manifesting The more you believe it, the more your brain proves it—even if it's outdated. Whispers Matter Thoughts like “I've had enough” or “I could skip it” are seeds of change. You don't need perfection—just awareness. Focus Fuels Change What you pay attention to grows. Focus on control, not brokenness, and your brain will follow. Behavior Builds Belief You don't have to believe in change yet—just act. Repeated small shifts create confidence over time. Use Your Memory Replay your wins and near-wins. Remembering them helps your brain repeat them. Let's STOP trying to figure it out and START feeling our way through. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing
In today's episode, we explore a powerful lightbulb moment from inside the Next Chapter program—one that's helping women actually enjoy the mindful drinking experiment and finally feel real momentum. This is for you if you've meant to try mindful drinking but skipped it, overdid it, or didn't enjoy the process. That's not a failure—it's a sign you were missing one critical piece: community support. The breakthrough? Practicing moderation in real time, with real people. Learning how to feel a buzz without slipping into old habits. Releasing perfectionism. And realizing this is about connection, not control. Key Takeaways: ✨ You can't rewire a drinking habit by yourself Habits form in context—and need to be unlearned in context too. ✨ Mindful drinking is about presence, not perfection When the goal is connection, the whole thing becomes lighter and more doable. ✨ There is a therapeutic dose of alcohol—but you have to feel it Alcohol is biphasic: small amounts relax and uplift, but more than that backfires. Finding your line is everything. ✨ You're not failing—you're under-supported If you've tried and didn't follow through, it's not a personal flaw. You just needed more scaffolding.
So, I've had a spiritual experience. Now what? Are Principle 8 and Step 12 just as critical as the other 11 Steps and 7 Principles in the recovery journey? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, walks us through answering the question, “Why should I work these principles?” Is it “busy work” or far more important than we think?
In today's episode, you'll explore one of the most common patterns that keeps high-achieving women stuck: worrying about what other people might think. Colleen breaks down how the fear of being misunderstood, judged, or perceived a certain way can quietly derail your growth, your boundaries, and your goals. You'll learn why managing other people's emotions never works—and what to do instead when your nervous system wants to retreat. Key Takeaways Fear of what others think is a distraction from your purpose When you're focused on being perceived the "right" way, you're no longer rooted in your own truth. This is emotional disconnection in disguise. Trying to manage someone else's emotions doesn't serve either of you When you avoid hard conversations or withhold your real message to protect someone else's feelings, you rob them of the opportunity to grow—and yourself of the opportunity to lead. Projection keeps you stuck in self-doubt What you think others might be thinking is often just a reflection of your own unhealed beliefs. These projections block clarity and reinforce old stories that no longer serve you. Action Steps Pause the next time you find yourself adjusting your behavior to avoid being misunderstood. Notice what you're trying to prevent. Ask: What do I know is true, even if someone else doesn't like it? Take ownership of your decisions. If you're wavering, ask: What choice would I make if I trusted myself fully? Stop waiting to be seen as “nice,” “reasonable,” or “agreeable” before you act. What if clarity and alignment are more important than approval? Speak your truth. Not to convince. Not to control. Just to honor the version of you who's ready to rise. Homework Create the time for Self-Reflection. Once you're there, ask yourself: Where are you hesitating to lead or speak honestly because you're afraid of how it will be received? What would shift if you stopped managing their response—and trusted your own? Listen for your response and acknowledge that awareness.
In this reflective episode, Colleen shares a personal moment from a particularly full chapter in her life—a season of growth, transition, and pushing hard to bring her program to life. What began as a weekend packed with work turned into a deeper realization about brain fog, creative blocks, and the quiet wisdom of the body. If you've ever tried to think your way through exhaustion or override your energy in the name of getting things done, this one's for you. It's a reminder that alignment matters more than output—and that sometimes, the clearest signal you'll get is the moment your mind starts to go fuzzy. Key Takeaways: Brain Fog Isn't the Problem—It's the Message It's not a sign to push harder—it's a signal to pause and re-sync. Your body knows before your brain catches up. Fear and Perfectionism Slow You Down Overplanning, overthinking, and trying to get it “just right” can block creativity. You can reclaim flow by choosing presence over performance. Creative Energy Comes From Connection Movement, nature, and space to feel are where the best ideas come from. The most powerful content is felt, not forced. Ask the Right Questions to Get the Right Answers “How do I want to feel?” “What can I let go of to feel that way?” Let your body lead—and let your brain follow. Homework: Notice where you're overriding your body in service of “getting things done.” What's one task, story, or expectation you can release this week? And what feeling do you want to invite in its place? Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. If you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober (side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking),You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing
Is working these Steps just a bunch of busy work? Why should we live out and practice Step 11 and Principle 7 of the recovery journey? In this episode Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will walk us through some important reasons why this Step and Principle are so essential to the recovery process in Celebrate Recovery.
What happens when one brave mom listens to the nudge on her heart and starts showing up for others walking the same heartbreaking path? In this episode, I chat with Christie Stutz of Christie's Inspirations, who turned her son's battle with addiction into a faith-based brand that offers real support for moms of children in addiction and recovery. We talked about: Sharing your story with boundaries and purpose Creating resources and a support group for moms Building a mission-driven business while navigating life's hardest seasons What it means to lead with faith, and doing the hard and necessary things, even when it's scary This conversation is raw, real, and so needed. If you or someone you know needs support for moms of addicted children, you'll find encouragement and next steps here; and if you are a female online business owner (or would like to become one), you'll find inspiration from Christie's business journey and entrepreneurial spirit!! CONNECT MORE WITH CHRISTIE STUTZ: Blog/Website: www.christiesinspirations.com Ebook: A Mother's Love: Navigating The Journey Addiction With Hope And Strength Resource: Courageous Mom's Toolkit Support Group: Courageous Moms Circle Podcast: Courageous Moms Podcast (APPLE) (SPOTIFY) Instagram: @christiegstutz RECOMMENDED RESOURCES FROM ASHLEY: Low Ticket Passive Online Business Bundle (podcast listener exclusive!!) [FREE DOWNLOAD] Low-Ticket Funnel Structure Guide Low Ticket Toolkit Method ($17) Brand & Online Business Toolkit ($22) Maverick Society(Ashley's Coaching Membership!) business, entrepreneurship, marketing, online business coaching, passive income online.
In this episode, Colleen reflects on a quote that's been echoing in her mind for weeks: “Yes, I'm full of myself. Who else am I supposed to be full of?” — a line from none other than Matthew McConaughey. It's not just cheeky—it's powerful. Because for so many women, being “full of yourself” has been cast as a flaw, a risk, or something to avoid. Colleen shares how a recent, painful experience of being removed from a coaching community triggered a cascade of old programming: shrink yourself, smooth it over, assume you were too much. But instead of collapsing into shame or over-apologizing, she used the moment as an invitation to reclaim her voice and re-anchor in her purpose. This episode is for the woman who's been playing small to keep others comfortable… the woman who second-guesses herself when she starts to shine… the woman who's done everything "right" and still feels like she's holding back. Key Takeaways: 1. There's Nothing Wrong with Being Full of Yourself Being full of yourself doesn't mean you're selfish. It means you're rooted in your own worth. We've been taught to downplay our confidence so we don't ruffle feathers—but what if your fullness is exactly what's needed? 2. Managing Other People's Emotions Isn't Your Job It's not your job to make everyone feel okay. Your job is to stay connected to your integrity and your purpose. Worrying about how others perceive you steals energy that could be spent building the life you're here to live. 3. Check Your Response Before You Shrink When you feel triggered or called out, ask: Am I abandoning myself right now to make someone else more comfortable? Self-awareness lets you discern between meaningful feedback and misplaced guilt. 4. True Community Is Built on Emotional Responsibility Real belonging doesn't require shrinking. It requires honesty, self-trust, and mutual respect. You can be a safe space for others without taking on their emotional work—and you deserve relationships where that goes both ways. Actionable Steps: ✨ Practice being “full of yourself” today. What would it look like to take up a little more space in your own life? To trust your words, your instincts, your bigness?
In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful fable that illustrates what it really means to rise in the face of difficulty—and why your response to a moment matters more than the moment itself. Whether it's a tech failure, a relapse, a hard conversation, or a sudden life disruption, what defines your trajectory isn't the challenge—it's how you choose to relate to it. Through personal stories of rebuilding her business after major setbacks (including losing everything on Facebook and Instagram overnight), Colleen explains how shifting her perspective became her greatest asset—and how the same principle applies when it comes to changing your relationship with alcohol. If you've ever felt buried by circumstances or stuck in a pattern you can't seem to break, this episode is a reminder that your next version starts with one small shift: how you respond right now. Key Takeaways: 1. Response is Everything The mindset you bring to a problem often determines whether you stay stuck or move forward. It's not about avoiding struggle—it's about how you meet it when it shows up. 2. You Can't Change Your Mind from the Wrong Nervous System State When your body is in fight-or-flight, your thinking will match that frequency. Regulating your nervous system is the gateway to opening your perspective and finding new possibilities. 3. Shame Keeps You Stuck—Connection Sets You Free You don't need to expose your deepest struggles to the whole world, but you do need to be seen somewhere. Healing happens when it feels safe to stop hiding. 4. There's Power in the Pause Before reacting to stress, ask: How do I want to remember responding to this one year from now? That question alone can shift you into a higher version of yourself—one choice at a time. Actionable Steps:
We continue our series answering the question, “Why should I carry out these Principles and Steps?” Step 10 is such a vital part of the recovery journey. It blends beautifully with Principle 7 to help us build and grow some roots to help keep us from going back to what we came from. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will walk us through some important reasons why we should carry out this important Step and Principle of recovery.