Ex•mormon•ology

Developing the ability to trust yourself is a skill, and like any skill, it gets stronger with practice.   This week on The Green Shoe Society, we are talking about why self trust can feel so hard (especially if you have spent years or decades second guessing yourself) and how to start building your trust muscle today. It doesn't have to be complicated or heavy. I want to help you to get to the place in life where you do trust yourself because this builds self confidence. Let's break it down together so you can feel more confident making choices that feel right for you. Bonus ~ I've created a special Spotify playlist to go along with this episode, a little musical boost fo your own trust journey. The Green Shoe Society Podcast Building Your Trusting Yourself Playlist right here..... https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3H6QRHOdJUoc0XHhoTyHXO Ready to dive deeper into this work? Come work with me. amyloganlife.com

This week on the Green Shoe Society, we are slowing things way down, with a trust yourself meditation. As you move through your healing, connecting with your body isn't just helpful, it is essential. So often, we stay in our heads, trying to think our way to peace. However, true healing happens when you learn to feel your way there. Each month, I will be exploring a new theme, and once a month, I will guide you through a meditation to anchor that theme into your body and your nervous system. So, Wildflower, find a soft place. Somewhere you can be alone. Sit up. Be still. Let's reconnect with your body, the one that has been waiting for you to come home.

Think of your amazing brain as a beautiful garden labyrinth. There are moments when you wander through it, discovering new paths and ideas, feeling free and alive. But then, sometimes, you find yourself stuck in a corner, feeling lost, overwhelmed, or tangled in thoughts the seem to loop without end. In this episode, we will explore how it happens when your mind feels like it is trapped in a maze of doubt or worry or confusion. We will talk about common ways we get stuck, whether it is rumination, people pleasing, or just the weight of trying to figure everything out at once. But most importantly I will share with you how you can navigate your way out of the labyrinth in healthy ways. You don't have to stay stuck. Let's explore some practical tools for getting out of the labyrinth and back to creating a life you love.  

Here in The Green Shoe Society, we are learning to feel our feelings so that our emotions do not prevent us from living the life we want to live. This is truly the secret to life. Being willing to feel difficult emotions instead of resisting them, is what will set you free. Often time we delegate our emotional health to those around us, giving all of our power away. As genxers, we have been through a lot. We have see a lot. We have experienced a lot. Now it is time to not let our emotions get in the way of our lives anymore. Let's feel, continue to process, and move on and start living. Hi, I am Amy and I would love to help you learn how to heal through feeling. Come work with me inside The Renegade Sessions. More info over at www.amyloganlife.com  

The Green Shoe Society Anthem At The Green Shoe Society, we own our lives, all of it. We fix what we want to fix and leave the rest behind. We set healthy boundaries, not because we have to, but because we choose to. We go after what we want in life, unapologetically. We are strong in all the best ways and we also let ourselves be soft, vulnerable, and imperfect. We don't beat ourselves up for needing rest. In fact, we take it, guilt-free. We say yes when it feels right, and no when it doesn't, without regret. We seek pleasure and joy, and we leave shame, guilt, and all those invisible ties behind. We stop worrying so much about what others think. We stop giving so many fucks. We learn to listen to our bodies, to trust them, to honor them. We stand tall when we need to, but we're also okay with letting go of the need to take on the world. We focus on our little corner of the world and celebrate the hell out of it. We give ourselves permission to feel all of life the good, the bad, the messy, and the beautiful. We've already busted through so many fucking paradigms, and now? The last one is our own mental cage. We are feminists. We are truth seekers. We are bullshit breakers. We live with passion and playfulness, singing like rock stars in our cars, or on the stage. We love the earth and all she gives us. We are good stewards, honoring her in everything we do. We dance to our record player, we sing with our hairbrush as our microphone, and we let ourselves be free. We are The Green Shoe Society and we're just getting started. What is your green shoe?!  If this anthem speaks to you, then consider me your life coach. If you're ready to stop waiting and start living the life you've been craving, I'd love to work with you one on one in my private coaching program...The Renegade Sessions. Together, we'll break free from what's holding you back and create the life you've been waiting for. Life is short, Wildflower, and you've already waited long enough. It's time to step into your most authentic life. I can't wait to meet you and help you make it happen. Visit me at amyloganlife.com to get started.

Wildflower, Have you spent years buying self help books, listening to podcasts, and trying to improve and heal yourself? Yeah, me too. This week I want to talk about how your desire to improve and heal your pains and trauma is so valid! No one ever taught us how to "figure it out."  If you are listening to this podcast, you are most likely along your own personal healing journey. I want you to look at your healing journey as a quest to find your personal healing recipe. You are looking for the equation that works for you. Your recipe is different from my recipe. Yet, when all the stars align for you, you will find it. Keep searching. Keep seeking to understand yourself. The self help industry has a lot to wade through, but keep trusting yourself to find what you are looking for. Trust this process you find yourself on.   Sign up for my weekly emails over at https://www.amyloganlife.com/ Follow me on my socials... https://www.instagram.com/amyloganlife https://www.tiktok.com/@amyloganlife    

You have heard the term people pleasing, but have you heard the phrase dishonest harmony? I want to share with you how those two words have changed my life and I believe they can change your life too. Dishonest harmony is in the family of people pleasing, yet somehow way more powerful. I have openings for new one on one clients.   amyloganlife.com Also!!!! ---> Join me and 10 other amazing humans for my new online coaching course The Momma Trauma Map. More information here https://www.amyloganlife.com/the-momm... If you struggle with a primary relationship in your life, this group coaching course may just be the missing piece to your healing. Sign up for my weekly newsletter @ amyloganlife.com

Exmormonology lives on. Let's talk about it. Also, Wildflower Weekend is 6 weeks away and I want you to join us. Sharing words from previous Wildflowers who atteneded last years Wildflower Weekend and the exact reason why you should carve out time in your life so you can experience what this healing retreat is all about.

Have you ever had a conversation with a stranger that ignited a sparked your brain? This happened this morning as Jim and I were having breakfast at a cafe in Provo Utah, we happened to have an amazing conversation with someone else who was doing what we were doing, eating. I share that conversation with you today. I invited James to join me today on the podcast because, well, he was there and we ended up having our own several hour conversation that was started by this happenstance meeting today with a stranger. We also discuss what we think is the exmormon echo chamber and the Barbie movie. I would love to hear your thoughts too. amyloganlife.com

Let's dive into religious scrupulosity and the Doug Fabrizio's Radio West Episode last week. Radio West is a Salt Lake City radio/podcast show. I was a bit triggered by a few things said by a guest on last weeks show and I want to talk about it, what it means and what it may mean to you. Working your way out of religious scrupulosity is possible. For many it stops the minute your religious beliefs dissipate, for others it may take years to unravel. Either way, I want to talk about what is happening for those of us who tend towards the scrupulous ways of religiously believing, even when we did not know it was a thing that was happening to and within us. 

Wildflower, you have a life to live and a brain to guide you to whatever it is you desire. On The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, I show you how to do just that, be your own brain guide. While I know that the title of this episode may sound like I want to take on the whole affirmation community (if that is a thing), that is not the case. I do believe there is a missing step in the process of how we have been taught to do affirmations. So, this week, I want to teach you the missing piece and speed up the process of getting you to what you want to believe about yourself. This way you get to where you want to go with your life a whole lot quicker! If nothing else, you get to the beliefs you want to believe in a more holistic, moving way, sustainable way. 

You may be developing an obsession, or at minimum a fascination, with things like televangelists or Shiny Happy People. Me too! This week I dive into why that happens, what is happening in your brain when you watch and how this is an important part of your healing. I also address the "script" used by most of the religious people in your life when you share the news that you are leaving your religion. It is the script that show that the indoctrination is working. Let's talk! I have so much to share with you this week. Become my client.  amyloganlife.com

It was the summer of 1990, shortly after I was married, when my husband and I embarked on a journey to Flaming Gorge Lodge (in Utah) where we would work for the summer saving for college tuition. I worked as a waitress at the diner. In this week's episode of The Unorthodox Woman, I recount a remarkable encounter with a charming lady who happened to be working alongside me. While I can't recall her exact age or even remember her name, she appeared to be in her late 60s or maybe even 70s. (as a 20-year-old, she seemed "old" to me at the time.) Little did I know that she would impart a lesson that has stayed with me for over 30 years. It involves coffee, a beverage I was not allowed to drink as an active believing member of my church. I have a feeling this story will help you with whatever you are struggling with, as it has helped me with my own struggles throughout my life.        

Raise your hand if you have ever asked a friend a question that starts with "Is it bad that I...?" Yeah, me too. Yep, I see you! Hello, we have a lot in common. This question is rich for the corners of your conditioning to explore. This week, let's dive into all things guilt and the psychology behind why it may be hard for you to make decisions. Your social, religious, spiritual and familial conditioning comes in hard and fast when the possibility of potential guilt or regret come into play. I want to zoom out and get a big picture of what is going on in your brain when you ask a question like this. So, grab your earbuds and get your brain ready for some critical thinking!  amyloganlife.com

Welcome to this week's episode of The Unorthodox Woman Podcast, where we dive into the fascinating topic of self trust. Get ready for a refreshing perspective on how to navigate decision making and embrace your instincts. We have all heard the phrase “trust issues” tossed around, but let's challenge that narrative and explore why it is time to leave it behind. Join me as we embark on a journey to boost your self trust, empowering you to take the helm of your own life's ship, no matter what others may think, do or say about you. It is time to discover the limitless possibilities that await when you trust yourself. (*plus a snippet on Mary Tyler Moore as an Unorthodox Woman.)

Happy Pride, Wildflowers! June is a special month, filled with vibrant rainbows that illuminate our communities. It's a time when we come together to celebrate and show our unwavering support for our queer friends. However, it's important to acknowledge that not everyone shares the same level of acceptance and love. This reality reinforces the significance of celebrating and uplifting the voices of our queer loved ones. As allies, we have a responsibility to stand beside them, amplifying their experiences and advocating for their rights. It is crucial that we make conscious choices with our resources, ensuring we don't support organizations that oppose equality. One powerful way to become a better ally and understand the struggles faced by the LGBTQIA+ community is through education. By learning about the rich history of the LGBTQ movement in the United States, we gain invaluable insights into the progress that has been made and the challenges that remain. This history is a tapestry woven with the resilience, courage, and determination of countless individuals who fought for their rights and the rights of future generations. In this week's episode, we embark on a journey through time to explore key players and events that have shaped and propelled the fight for equality in the LGBTQIA+ movement in our country. By delving into these stories, we can deepen our understanding of the struggles faced by the community, the milestones achieved, and the ongoing work that lies ahead. Each chapter in this history reveals the strength and spirit of a community that refused to be silenced, pushing boundaries and demanding recognition. From the Stonewall Riots in 1969, where transgender women of color led the charge against police brutality and ignited a global movement, to the activism of Harvey Milk, the first openly gay elected official in California, who championed LGBTQ rights until his tragic assassination - these stories serve as reminders of the power of collective action and the transformative impact it can have. Learning about the LGBTQ movement's history fosters empathy, compassion, and a deeper appreciation for the progress we've made while acknowledging the work that remains. It allows us to challenge prejudice and discrimination, inspiring us to create inclusive spaces where all individuals can live authentically and without fear. By embracing the past, we pave the way for a more equitable future. So let us honor the struggles and celebrate the triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ movement by educating ourselves, elevating diverse voices, and standing alongside our queer friends with unwavering support and love. Happy Pride, Wildflowers!

Are you ready to take back control of your emotions and the thoughts that keep you up all night, feeling stuck in anxiety or worry or fear or shame? ( just to name a few uncomfortable emotions) Let's talk about they psychology behind your brain and why you think and feel the way you do. I often refer to my coaching as thought work, but it is so much more than that. It is feeling work too. It is "work" because it takes time to rewire your brain and the habitual way you think and feel. No matter if you have left your religion, a relationship or you are working on body image and/or everything in between, the tool I teach in this episode will help you as you continue your healing. Thought work is the beginning of getting curious about all of your swirling thoughts. I will couple this with feeling our feelings in another episode, but this week, let's talk more about your brain and how you can add thought work to your healing journey. amyloganlife.com

It is time to connect with the younger you. Your healing is important. When you slow down and take the time to heal the parts of you that need you, you will be better for it. You will not be as triggered as you may currently be in the corners of your life. Let's dive into why this is so important. The younger you is waiting to hear from you.

Would you like to be in the trailer for The Unorthodox Woman Podcast? Tune in to hear all the details. Time Sensitive ~ You have until June 1st 2023. If you are serious about improving your mental health, you must start with awareness. If you do not see the literal soundtrack your brain plays for you everyday, how will you know what to change or even how to improve? We are not looking for perfection, that is not a thing, but we can make huge changes in our life if we start paying attention to the ticker tape of thoughts you have swirling around in your head. Those thoughts are 100% affecting your day to day life.  The thoughts in your head are laying the ground work to your emotional health. amyloganlife.com  

Welcome to the 1st episode of The Unorthodox Woman! We are a group of heretics, liberals, post religious peeps, smart feminists and passionate about life humans. In this inaugural podcast episode I share with you why the change from Exmormonology to The Unorthodox Woman and the direction and plan I have for the vision of this new chapter. Our collective religious, social and familial conditioning has most likely effected you in ways you may not see yet. I coach you through busing out of the boxes we were metaphorically placed in from the minute we were born. We will be unlearning a lot of what has contributed to a constricted way of thinking and living. You get to create your own personal renaissance and it all starts now! What do you want that to look like? How many iterations of yourself do you want to have fun exploring? What areas of life do you find yourself stuck in even tho you have left a lot of your past ways of thinking and feeling behind? These are all issues we will be discussion on the podcast. If you struggle in any area of your life, as most of us humans do, you are in the right place! 

Experiencing your high demand religion initial shelf break and subsequent faith crisis is so hard! It is emotional, earth shattering and very overwhelming. Just when you think you are starting to get your footing and everything will be okay, you get hit with another shelf break. Deconstructiong mormonism is the first step, quickly you learn that there is another shelf that comes tumbling down. Are you ready for it? Let's dive into this topic this week and talk about how this happens, why this happens and how it is a good thing.

About a month or so ago, a friend, a former Jehovah Witness friend, asked me a really great question, Is Healing An Illusion? I loved this questiong so much that I created a podcast around it. Let's dive into when healing does feel like an illusion and why and what you can do about it so you do not get stuck in the pain of reliving your pain/trauma again and again and again.  There is healing in telling/sharing your story, it can be freeing in just doing that, sharing, telling your story to a therapist or friend. Does your story come out the same way again and again? Do you judge yourself for not having "healed" faster? Is there a time limit on when you are supposed to be healed? In this episode I deep dive into the concept of healing and what we think it should look like and what healing actually looks like AND how you can be an active participant to your own healing, possibly speeding up the process. If you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster of emotions all the time or that your healing is taking way too long, then this episode of Exmormonology is a very important one for you to listen to Wildflower.  

This is part 2 of my conversation wtih Emily Robinette! Enjoy the rest of our convo as we talk about all things post mormon related and how life coaching has helped speed up some of Emily's healing, not just with mormon related topics but also all of LIFE. Tune in as we talk about how unraveling your mormon brain takes time, years actually. What is the strangest place your mormon brain has shown up on this side of life? Seriously post mormon humor is one of my most favorite things. Laughter is really the key piece to your healing. When you get to the place of laughter, you know you are on the right track. You got this wildflower! 

This week in Exmormonology Land I have invited Emily Robinette over for a conversation. We talk about all things faith crisis; the freedom we feel post faith crisis and also the rocky road we navigate after we leave the church, ie. high demand religion. You know that Exmormonology is all about helping you heal and work through religious trauma. Healing is not linear. It has ups and downs and joy and pain. Come be a fly on the wall while we discuss it all. Emily had her initial faith crisis in 2019 and has spent the last several years working through the tough issues that we all have to work through in finding our way back to ourselves, after the world as we knew it comes crashing down around us. You, wildflower, are not alone on this journey. Keep going. Keep healing. Keep showing up for yourself. 

Last December I created a podcast 12 days in a row and called it The 12 Days of Post Mormon Christmas. The goal? To help you this time of year. This year, I pulled out the best snippets and put them all in one podcast episode. So, if you are working through a lot of thoughts and feelings about Christmas and Family right now along your own personal post mormonism journey, tune in. I give you specific tools and helps for you so you do not feel consumed with guilt or frustration or anger as you celebrate a holiday that may leave you with a bunch of confusion. You may be in the "The holidays ain't what they used to be" frame of mind, I hear you 100%. Nothing like seeing baby Jesus to bring up your religious trauma. Let's dive in and reclaim a holiday in a way that feels better now that you are on this side of the fence.  

I am excited to share with all y'all wildflowers a conversation I have with my friend and fellow coach Allison Crow. Allison just released her new book Unarmored: Finding Home in the Wild Edges of Being Human. Allison was raised a devout Christian in the south, Texas. Although not raised mormon, Allison has experienced her own faith crisis. I know you will love our discussion and we ebb and flow about life and heartbreak and healing and busting out of the "being a made up woman my religion taught me to be," type of thinking.  Allison Crow, M.Ed, is a Life and Self-Leadership coach for small business owners and executives. She has been leading, teaching, speaking, writing, creating, and coaching in one form or another since the mid-1990s. For years, she was a hard-lined performance and sales coach motivated by outside forces and an excruciating need for approval. Now, instead of being driven by hard financial goals and lifeless quotas, Allison has an unconventional and connected practice where delicious and thought provoking conversations are centered around meeting yourself deeply. She helps her clients compassionately work with emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that are natural but often bypassed parts of our human selves. Allison specializes in IFS-informed coaching, deep inner work, creative expression, and building the skills of courageous emotional presence and self-trust. Allison lives in the hill country outside of Austin, Texas, with her husband of fifteen years and her rescued dogs, Leroy Brown and Clementine. She is often seen with a stack of journals, a paintbrush and watercolors, with her phone in her hand, creating and connecting on social media, or floating in the backyard pool she calls her “church.” WWW.ALLISONCROW.COM https://allisoncrow.com/unarmoredthebook/

The title of this Exmormonology Episode sums up this week's episode, it is a little bit all over the place, but as you listen I have a feeling you will understand. I tap into some pretty tender emotions and I want to share them with you in hopes that you can relate and see and hear what healing sounds like. Healing does not mean you have landed at the top of healing mountain where rainbows and butterflies live forever and ever and you dance around in gleeful joy and you no longer feel grief, pain or heartache. It means that you learn to hold the space for the tender side of healing and you do not make it mean that anything has gone wrong or that you are not healing. Healing ebbs and flows. Healing takes time. Remember wildflower, there is no rush and no race to this process. Just you and all the time you need. Thank you for letting me walk this path with you. Grab a cup a something and a blanket and maybe even a tissue and let's talk, you and me. 

Do you ever take the time to celebrate yourself and your amazingness? I am going to guess that you do not do this enough. This week I want to talk about why this is important and how easy it is to overlook it. You have been through something extraordinary. You have experienced a faith crisis, paradigm shift and you are rethinking most everything in your life. No wonder you are overwhelmed, stressed and feeling stuck. Let's work on shaking it up a bit. Life is good. You are amazing. I offer a homework assignment that may help you in celebrating yourself. Do it, it is good for your mental health. 

Finally, Irreverent Episode 13 is ready! So grab a drink or whatever you prefer and hang with us. Jim and I talk about Praying at Zupas and well just praying anywhere, anytime, temple tchotchke, Mormon women and careers, your "exmo personality," the changes to the For The Strength of The Youth, and so much more. We start out fairly serious and by the end we are straight up giggles, so much so that we just quite literally fade out. A good time was had.          

Another week of healing wildflower. This week's episode is a twofer, maybe a threefer! (is that a word?) A few topics blended together as we head into the holidays. Family. The void. Faith crisis v. awakening. Thoughts and feelings oh my! You have some decisions to make this time of year. Is your brain going off the rails as you brace yourself for family? Should you go? Should you not? Are you ready for a gathering with your mormon family or would some time off be best for you? This week I want to talk about what may be going on in your brain and in your heart as you head into potential family time. 

Hey all of you faith transition/faith crisis wildflower...has this happened to you? You have been through, what you thought was the worst of your faith crisis and then one day something happens and it brings it all back. You breakdown. All the work you thought you had done feels like it is erased and you find yourself in a heap of tears, yet again. Faith crisis, faith transition, and moving on is a life long process. Learning how to let those days of breakdown be a part of life and not take over is a key to healing. Nothing has gone wrong if you have a breakdown. Tune in this week as I take you through one of my many breakdowns post faith crisis. amyloganlife.com

Continuing our conversation about money with Money Mindset Coach Natasha Tekeste. Natasha Tekeste is a money mindset coach for women and people socialized as women who want to earn more money. She works with women who want to shift their beliefs around money and wealth so they can leave the drama behind and focus on actually doing the work that they love to do. She teaches people how to love the money they have, while also loving the process of earning and creating more – because it is possible for money to be easy & fun! Natasha is an Advanced Certified Life Coach. She has a buiness degree from the University of Alberta, a master's degree in Adult Education from the University of Calgary, and a certificate in mediation & negotiation from York University. She is a Chartered Professional in Human Resources with over 10 years of HR work experience. Instagram @natashatekeste natashatekeste.com  

What is your money story? Do you even know that you have one? Have you spent anytime exploring why you think the way you do about money? Or do you just accept the fact (not fact) that you are doomed and it is what it is? One area of your life you may not have connected the dots with, post faith transition, is how your brain thinks about money because of your religious and social conditioning. Today I want to open the door to exploring this topic with you and get to the bottom of why you think the way you to about money. The truth is that you get to think about money any way you want to, so how do YOU think about money?

When your thoughts get on the loose, what do you do? Do you believe those thoughts and go down the self loathing rabbit hole? Grounding tools help you get present and not stuck in the past or future. Here is a little tool to help pull you out of that stuck frame of mind. Also, Wildflower Weekend! We had amazing weekend and I want you there next year. When you plan your life out, do you schedule time for your healing and growth? If not, why? Change that up wildflower. Let's go!

Do not underestimate the power of your brain. All healing starts with you, your brain and your emotions. One of meanest things we can do to ourselves is be our own bully. This week I want to talk to you about actual bullying and self bullying. The thoughts going through your brain are optional. What thoughts take center stage of your own brain? Do you speak kind words to yourself or words you would never say to a friend? Do you even notice? I want you to start paying attention. We cannot change anything in our lives if we are completely unaware. Pay attention to your thought soundtrack wildflower. 

Do you trust yourself? I know that can be a loaded question, but when one grows up in a high demand religion and has been taught to put their trust in a curated higher/church authority, it can be a tricky question to answer. This year at Wildflower Weekend we will be slowing down time and focusing on you and a few of your biggest struggles. I imagine, if you feel stuck in any area of your life, it is becuase you are not trusting your ability to have your own back, no matter what. You are letting the fear of a projected future feeling keep you frozen. After this weekend you will feel more confident to make needed changes in your life and take the steps required to get unstuck with any struggle you find yourself in. Set aside September 30th-Oct. 2nd in SLC, Utah. Wildflowers are flying in from around the states and even Canada. Come join us! Let's have a groovy healing and productive time together.    amyloganlife.com

Drum roll please......It is my 100th Exmormonology Episode! I am excited to share this particular episode with you. I decided to write an essay and read it to you this time around. As exmembers of the church we often hear the same responses to our faith crisis and leaving the church, over and over again. I have seen patterns in the way members of the church respond to us. I will be addressing these repeated responses in this essay. I poised it as a an essay to members of the church, but it is really for you and all the things we want to say when we hear the same rhetoric over and over. I hope it resonates with you wildflower. www.amyloganlife.com

When is your brain ready to go down the rabbit hole? We each have our own experience and come to our awakening in our own time. I had signs along the way, relating to the church, but my brain was not ready to see it. Much like marketing and needing to see/hear something 7 times or more before we start making connections about certain issues or products or ? I want you to start looking for other areas of your life where you can maybe short cut this process. What are you not believing about yourself that you need a few nudges to see yourself in a different light, just like seeing the church in a different light? What areas of your life can you make similar paradigm shifts? Let's talk about it this week on Exmormonology. 

Pick your favorite musician and think about how many times they have performed the same songs over and over and over. Do you think they want to show up and sing each and every night, EVEN THO they love being in a band? My guess is no, not every time. However, they do it, night after night. What areas in your life are you not showing up, even tho you signed up for it? Let's dig into this topic. How do you want to show up? What matters here, your thoughts and the way you talk to yourself about the areas in your life where you "struggle." Also discussed in this episode...2nd Annual Wildflower Weekend, Airborne Toxic Event, Stake Dances, P!nk,  and all things Exmormonology. 

What a week, lots of feelings, all the feelings. It has been a tough one for most of us. This week on Exmormonology I dive into the overturning of Roe v. Wade and how we desperately need thought work to help us through what will be quite the fight. You will need time to process your emotions and then you will need to figure out how to create new thoughts that help you out of hopelessness. New thoughts that keep you out of stuckville. You are capable of doing this, it is possible. It is okay if right now you are in shock and feel overwhelming depressed and angry. I understand these emotions, we dance together often. I am doing this work too wildflower. I hope you will tune in. This is one of my favorite episodes of Exmormonology. I hope it is helpful for you as you work through all the feelings coming up for you. I love you, you are not alone.

Do you find yourself saying....I need to hurry. I gotta get it done. I am so busy. I never have enough time. I wish there was more time in the day. Wildflower, if you find yourself saying these words, this episode is for you. Our experience growing up in a culture focused on forever and the next life may be playing a bigger part in your life than you know. Let's explore the construct of time and you can slow down and enjoy more moments in THIS life.

We do not back away from hard conversations here on Exmormonology and with the pending reversal of Roe V. Wade, I wanted to talk about Abortion. I have invited Amanda Kingsley to be a guest today. Amanda Kingsley is a Certified Feminist Life Coach and Doula. She is the host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast. And the Author of ‘What I Wish: 100 love notes to help you survive, come alive, and thrive after abortion.' After her own unanticipated abortion as a mother of three, she recognized the need for a wider conversation around the complex emotional landscape of life after abortion. She reminds her audience that it's okay to feel all the feelings after abortion, and that we can honor our decisions by living the life we made our choice for. You can learn more and connect with her at www.amandastarkingsley.com  IG @amandastarkingsley  

Happy Pride Month! I celebrate you and love you so much! This week let's talk about showing up authentically and why it is so hard to do so. Remember the phrase we have heard over and over at church..."I don't know who I would be without the church in my life?" What??? Let's change that verbiage. That thought is not helpful as you navigate this new road. New roads require new thoughts. Let's go!

Have you stopped to think about how the concept of "forever" may be tripping you up? If you have been raised in a religious faith tradition, you know the theology around forever is a regular topic of conversation. Making it back to heaven, to live with God, is the whole point of this life. We are being tested, right? You may have left your religion, but have you examined whether those thoughts you have tied to "forever" may be affecting your thoughts and feelings in subconscious ways, in THIS life? I want to talk all about how the concept of forever may be playing tricks on your brain.

If you have experienced any kind of betrayal, abandonment, manipulation, etc. you may have uttered the words "I have trust issues." I know there is a lot to this topic and your life is very multilayered, but today I want to talk to you about why it may be time to change up that phrase. Every time your brain thinks, I have trust issues and  you believe it, you have trust issues. By doing this you most likely build up a huge wall around your heart and you don't let anyone in and therefore you keep stuck in the round and round of having trust issues. Let's do some thought work around this issue and how you can turn it around and start trusting yourself.

A little bit of tough love coming your way this week via Exmormonology. You hold all the power inside of you to create the life you want, yet your brain is stuck on the hamster wheel of thoughts that tell you you can't. Stop it! Stop believing those thoughts. I am going to tell you exactly how to do that this week. Buckle up!

Grab a beverage of your choice and schooch in really close. Let's get a little bit irreverent today as Jim and I talk about "choosing" the path of the straight and narrow. Was it really a choice? That is the Q, isn't it?! We actually recorded this episode right before Christmas, so when we reference cheersing "balls," we are talking about the balls on the Christmas tree, so you know it is going to be good! HA! 

Feminism After Religion Group Coaching Course is now open for registration! Join me and 8 other amazing humans as we dive into what Feminism is and how your post religious brain is most likely still steeped in all things patriarchy. When we can see your brain on patriarchy we can deconstruct so many areas in your life where you feel stuck. I have 4 spots left and I hope you in one of them! We start class April 11, 2022.

How much power have you given away by blaming someone else for how you feel? Most of us do this all the time. It is so much easier to stay in a constant state of blame, meaning it is everyone else's fault for how we feel. Today I want to talk to you about setting down the blame and leaning into deciding how to take full responsibility for all your emotions.  No other person gets to determine how you think and feel about yourself. Once you learn how to take full responsibility for your thoughts and emotions, you become unstoppable. Before you tell yourself this is too hard, just be open to believing this is possible for you. That is where you start, with the belief that it is possible. This is why what you think about yourself matters way more than what anyone else thinks of you.

Navigating the the world of post mormonville takes a minute (or years). Imma gunna give you a little bit of tough love. I am a bit on fire in the episode, but I ease you into it. I start with a few minutes telling you all about Truman, our new pup! Truth of the matter is it is the Wild Wild West in the world of exmormondom. Proceed with caution. Let's go.

No rush, no race, to your healing journey. I know we do not like the feelings that our religious, spiritual life crisis created, but it is part of the ride. I want to talk to you today about what it really means to shed and release the more difficult parts of this process and why being gentle with yourself is going to help soothe your soul.