Get A Room Podcast

Anyway, here's Wonderwall. On this episode we talk about a recent trip we took to the Great Salt Lake and what was good about it, and what went wrong and how that could have lead to hard feelings between us due to frustrations. We also laugh for several minutes straight over an unintended sexual innuendo, which I am still laughing about as I write this synopsis.

On today's episode we give a quick update on our last episode about how we have implemented our plans and if they're working. Then we get a little more light-hearted this week and get into our topic, which is advice we would give to our newlywed selves to make our marriage a little bit easier. We discuss things like school, work, money, Roseanne (the TV show), and sex with the lights on. We hope you enjoy!

On this episode we get deeply personal as we share a real discussion we had with each other over our sex life. We recorded our discussion just in case, and now we're being our bravest selves and posting it for all to hear the process as we communicate our concerns in a loving way and try to come up with solutions. Be prepared to hear more than you ever wanted to about the one problem that has plagued our relationship for almost its entirety. Listener discretion is advised.

On this weeks episode we talk about getting a new cat, an ER visit with our 12 year old daughter with a heart condition, and having a meltdown over not wearing a mask in a public place. Eventually we make our way to this weeks topic and discuss mom and dad shaming and unsolicited parental advice. We talk about what it means to shame other parents and give some examples of times when we've been shamed. We exchange some facts from studies about what people in your life are more likely to shame you over parenting choices, and we offer some tips and tricks to to let the shame slide off your back and not ruin your day. So if you've ever been shamed in the past for your parenting choices, or you enjoy telling others' what they're doing wrong, this episode is for you.

On this episode we talk about our year in review. We discuss how we managed to get through a tough year and why we had to rely on each other more than ever, what we learned while being stuck at home, and the things we have come to appreciate. And for some reason we also explain why Die Hard is apparently an aphrodisiac , so you'll definitely want to tune in to hear that.

On this episode we discuss our feelings about the Christmas tradition of the Elf on the Shelf and whether or not it is time to move on from it. By the end of the episode we actually make a definitive decision about if we will continue suffering over it, or finally let it go, so listen for that.

On this episode we talk about the gratitude that we have for each other, not only during the current pandemic, but especially during it. We tell each other specific things the other does for our family and our house that we appreciate. And finally we express our gratitude for the situation we are in, in which we are fortunate enough to get to stay home with our family all the time to try and protect our daughter from Covid-19.

On today’s episode we talk about how homeschooling is going, and Halloween costumes past and present. We discuss at length why we love having “couple” friends, and tell the story of an attempt to make friends while living in Boise. And finally we talk about why we love the relationships we have with our current group of friends and why it works for us. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (2:00) Our lives are very stressful right now. (4:30) We are trying to understanding of the struggle of our kids with homeschool because it’s not something we dealt with as kids, but we are all having a hard time. (6:15) We spent so much money on Halloween costumes. It should be a crime how much Halloween costumes cost. We switch off every other year with making costumes and buying costumes. (10:45) We reminisce about how costumes worked in our houses while growing up, including an awesome homemade costume Rochelle’s aunt made, and an embarrassing homemade pumpkin costume Scott threw together, plus our favorite childhood costumes. (14:45) Scott talks about fake Halloween blood being forbidden from at his house. (18:00) We discuss couple friends and why we love them. (20:00) We talk about how some of our couple friendships developed, and how we all have done stuff together for over a decade. (23:00) We had a few years while we lived in Boise when we couldn’t see our friends as much, so we had to try and make new friends, with disastrous results. (26:15) We explain why we were nervous to meet our friend’s soon to be wife, because there might not be chemistry with her, even though there was with him, and what ended up happening. (31:30) We think trying to find another couple to be friends with is similar to dating.

On this episode we briefly discuss Ivy’s clinic adventures, before diving into birth control. We talk about 12 different forms of birth control and how they work, and how well they work. We also talk about which ones we’ve had personal experience with. Obviously this episode gets into some things that may be offensive to some listeners, so listener discretion is advised. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) We had a long week due to our daughter going to the hospital every single day. (2:00) We explain some of the things Ivy had to do over the last week and some of the bittersweet results of the tests. (7:00) We talk about the one pretty shocking thing that came from all the tests. (12:40) This week we talk about some of the birth control options available. (13:15) IUD (inter uterine device), which is 99% effective. It can stay in place between 3 and 10 years. We actually got pregnant while on this form of birth control. (16:15) Scott is actually an IUD baby too! (17:20) Implant, which is also 99% effective and stays in place for up to 3 years. (19:00) Depo shot, which is 99% effective and lasts for 3 months. (20:15) Vaginal ring, which is 99% effective and is inserted in the vagina for 3 weeks out of the month. (20:55) Patch, which is 99% effective, and must be changed every week. (21:15) The pill, which is 99% effective, must be taken at the same time every day. We have experience with this one as well. It messed with Rochelle’s hormones, and we ended up pregnant because we couldn’t get the prescription filled. (24:15) Condoms, which are 98% effective, used each time you have sex. (25:15) Female condoms are 95% effective and works similarly to the regular condom. (26:10) Emergency contraception is either a pill or a copper IUD which prevents ovulation. It is not the same thing as an abortion. The effectiveness varies. (27:00) Spermicide is 82% effective, and is placed into the vagina immediately prior to sex. (27:35) Fertility awareness/family planning or the rhythm method is 76% effective and involves women tracking their cycle and figuring out the least and most likely times they would get pregnant. (28:00) The pull out method, which is only 73% effective and involves pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. (31:45) Rochelle goes on a mini rant about why birth control involves so much jumping through hoops for women and why “that shit’s crazy, man.”

On this episode we talk about celebrating our youngest child’s birthday, our daughter, Ivy’s clinical appointments at the children’s hospital, and the overwhelming and tough time we have been having this year. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) We talk briefly about Ivy’s clinical appointments. (5:45) Our youngest child is no longer a baby. We talk about all the great things about him. (10:30) We talk about a failed IUD, having a 5th kid when we weren’t quite ready and other shenanigans surrounding Rochelle’s final pregnancy. (14:00) We also discuss Rochelle’s tubal ligation and why Scott didn’t get a vasectomy. (15:15) Kids are the best, but simultaneously also the worst. (20:30) We are depressed over the death of Ruth Bader Ginsberg, and we have a hard time joking about this shit show of a year. (22:15) The silver lining of 2020 is Rochelle getting to quit her job at a local mechanic shop. (25:30) We talk about Rochelle’s meltdown due to being overwhelmed. (29:30) We talk about Echo asking us what a “Karen” is and other weird cultural references.

On this episode we discuss the 5 Love Languages, based on the book by Gary Chapman. We talk about what each love language means, and we talk about which one we believe the other person has. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Scott is getting sick of being with the same ol’ people. But we went on a quick socially distant vacay. (3:15) School is all consuming of Rochelle’s life. (4:20) Rochelle doesn’t understand 6th grade math. (8:20) What are the 5 love languages? (9:45) Love language number one: Physical Touch (10:30) Love language number two: Gifts (11:10) Love language number three: Words of Affirmation (11:50)Love language number four: Quality Time (12:15) Love language number five: Acts of Service (14:00) Scott thinks Rochelle’s love language is acts of service. Rochelle thinks it is quality time. (16:00) Scott’s love language is physical touch. (22:00) We talk about our kids’ love languages, the ones we can actually see. (27:00) We discuss whether zodiac signs have anything to do with the love languages. (30:30) Are hugs good for your soul, or stress relieving. (31:45) Who of the two of us would get remarried if the other died…. (34:00) Go read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

On this episode we get really fired up about allowing our kids to be themselves and choose their own path through life, and how allowing them to do that, isn’t about your own happiness, it’s about your child’s happiness. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:30) Spoiler Alert: We preface this episode by talking about Schitt’s Creek and the episode where Patrick tells his parents he is gay. (5:00) We talk about parents being able to accept their children for who they are, whether or not they make the decisions they would make. (11:15) We don’t understand why some parents force their will on their kids, or put their happiness on the decisions kids make. That is a lot of pressure, and that shouldn’t be how it works. (17:15) As a parent we go from being a coach to a cheerleader. (19:50) It doesn’t hurt to love our kids for who they are. (22:00) We talk about Scott’s experience with quitting wrestling. (25:30) Every kid has their own roadmap and we should respect that. (30:30) We discuss what jobs the kids talk about having when they’re older and why we support them, even when they don’t seem like great jobs to us. (34:30) Scott couldn’t be a rock star because John Denver cheated on his wife. Rochelle can’t stop laughing about it.

In this bite sized mini episode we talk about whether or not having children can save your marriage. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:20) School started this week. It hasn’t been horrible. (6:15) Will having a baby save your marriage? (8:15) When tv characters have a baby, they complicate the task of recording a tv show, just like in real life, but in real life you can’t pretend the baby doesn’t exist. (10:00) Babies are hard and complicate everything, and the likelihood of them saving your marriage is slim. (13:00) We are out of the baby phase, because our kids are all growing up. Time flies when you’re old.

On this episode we discuss another marriage myth that states that happy couples don’t fight. We talk about why it’s important how you fight in order to work through problems without making things worse. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) School is about to start. We spent our summer working on our yard and house, with no vacations. But we’re down to our last weekend. (7:30) Do happy couples fight? (10:30) Even the happiest of couples fight sometimes, but the important thing is the way you fight. (12:30) Couples should avoid name calling when fighting. (13:45) They should stay focused on the present. (15:15) They need to learn to compromise. (16:30) They keep fights between themselves. (18:15) They work through it the right way. (21:10) They accept apologies. (23:10) They avoid interrupting each other while fighting. (24:30) They admit when they are wrong. (27:10) They avoid generalizations. (28:30) They respect when the fight is over. (31:00) Rochelle is currently considering going to online therapy. (32:00) Scott compares himself to George Costanza.

On this episode we get back to our marriage myths and discuss whether married life can be boring. We also talk about Schitt’s Creek, going back to school, and family vacations. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) The kids created a variation of tag called Corona tag. (2:20) We are currently watching Schitt’s Creek as a family and loving it so far. Rochelle in particular really enjoys it. We talk about why it’s so good. (9:30) We finally got back to marriage myths. Today’s myth is married life is boring. (10:30) Life is mundane sometimes. Family life thrives on routine, which can make things boring after a while. (12:00) Life is what you make it. If you do boring things, it’s going to be bored. You need to do the work to make your life exciting. (14:45) You can do things to make life more exciting. But they require work and effort and planning. (18:50) Married life can be boring, but it doesn’t have to be. And we’re all stuck in the same boring boat right now, but you take what you get and make do. (21:30) We talk briefly about school in the age of coronavirus with kids and the differences in high school, middle school, and elementary school.

On this episode we discuss mistakes we’ve made as parents as well as some things we might be doing right. We also talk about asking the kids what they do and don’t like about our parenting. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:15) We’re all going to get through this crappy school year together. (3:00) We talk about weird language trends. (4:45) We’ve never made a parenting mistake. (5:15) We asked our kids what our mistakes were, and they couldn’t think of anything real. (6:40) They also told us the good things we do. (8:30) Let’s be honest, curfew is for parents, not kids. (10:30) We are all figuring it out as we go when it comes to being a parent. (11:45) We are afraid that we’re too good of friends with the kids, which people say is bad. (16:30) Everyone is non-confrontational, so things don’t get heated often. (18:45) Scott recalls hearing that he had to cut off the fun part of a father/son relationship when they become teenagers, and getting super bummed out. (21:00) We only have 2 teenagers, so we have a long way to go. (27:00) We talk about losing Corbin when he was a baby. We later found him on the roof of our hotel. We also lost Echo on a beach several years later. Both were super panicky and stressful situations that still cause anxiety to this day. (32:00) We recount Ivy getting stung by a bunch of wasps immediately following her arrival home after open heart surgery. Scott later killed them all like he was Liam Neeson (39:40) Rochelle doesn’t want the kids to feel about her the way she feels about her own parents. We just hope that every generation does better than the last. (43:15)Our advice is don’t be a dick.

On this episode we talk about our 17 years of marriage, and give some advice (kind of). We also reminisce on our stupidity in the early years, and surviving the suburbs with animal neighbors. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:20) We recorded this episode on our 17th wedding anniversary. We discuss some random details from our wedding day. (5:00) We still like each other after all this time. (6:00) We talk about low points in our marriage, including flunking out of college, and squandering jobs, and getting pregnant before we were ready. (11:00) We tell the story about finding out we were pregnant and how it forced us to grow up really fast. (16:30) Sometimes you have to go through stupid things to force you to turn into who you’re supposed to be. (17:30) We talk about all the mice in our apartment in Ogden, Utah. (26:00) We talk about a hawk that lives in our yard, and other nearby animals (including cougars) even though we live in the suburbs. (33:00) We joke about how we don’t have advice, and then we give a little advice on surviving 17 years of marriage and 5 months of quarantine. (39:00) Our secret cure to having a boring marriage. (40:00) You need a lot of good things to overshadow one bad thing. So celebrate the good.

On this episode we discuss the weird Utah holiday that Scott didn’t realize was a Utah thing until he was near adulthood. We also discuss the arrival of Taylor Swifts new album and why it’s the best thing to come out of 2020 so far. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) It’s a Utah holiday – Pioneer Day. (4:00) Scott thinks pubes equals being full grown. (9:00) We talk about Midvale Harvest Days from Rochelle’s childhood. (11:30) Echo looks forward to fireworks even though she has sensory issues with sound. (17:30) Instead of wasting on money on fireworks, you gotta waste it on things that matter, like alcohol, hot tubs, and Taylor Swift albums. (18:00) Rochelle freaks out about Taylor Swift because her new album is the only good thing that has happened so far this year. (21:30) Rochelle gives her theory that you have to listen to a music album 7 times before you can decide if it sucks or not. (27:00) We talk about hating country music and 90s R&B, but being able to enjoy pretty much all other styles of music, and how it makes life livable. (31:30) Husbands have a thing where they sit in the car in the driveway after arriving home from work. (34:30) We discuss why life seems so difficult for single parents, and we are so grateful that we don’t have to experience it. Our love goes out to the single parents out there.

On this episode we talk about date night again, with more details than our old date night episode. We talk about a date we had a few years ago where one of us ended up in the emergency room, but we still had a great time. We also update with some at home date ideas since many people can’t go out right now. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) We used to have an interesting life, not anymore. (1:50) John Lithgow on Conan said sweet stuff about his wife, and everyone should watch it. (4:00) We wanted to revisit an episode we did early on in the podcast that was really short. (6:30) We actually used date night to finally make our podcast consistent. (9:30) We can’t make nighttime plans because we always have to search for toys for our youngest child to sleep with. (11:00) If we can do regular date nights while having 5 kids, we think you can do it too. (12:00) We give suggestions for connecting during date nights. (14:00) We giggle about a miscommunication over “code brown”. (15:30) We discuss why everybody loves poop stories and why they’ll always be funny, no matter your age or maturity. (18:00) We talk about trying to maintain a schedule during summer, weekends, quarantine. We don’t want chaos to break out. (20:00) Our family motto has changed from “It’s Fun Being Weird.” to “What’s the Point?” (21:30) We discuss tips and tricks for at home date nights. (25:30) Board games are fun, but not monopoly, because that causes divorce. (28:00) We recommend everyone watch Palm Springs on Hulu. (29:00) Date nights we get ready in the morning with it in mind, like wearing more risqué make up, and our funnest underwear. (30:00) We talk about a past date we went on, where we ended up in the emergency room. (33:30) Rochelle mentions the parts of Coronavirus culture that she hopes stays around after it goes away. (36:30) Life is stressful and it’s hard to “get it up”.

On this episode we talk about making sacrifices in order to keep our family healthy. We also discuss in ridiculous detail why Rochelle believes in ghosts, while Scott believes in UFOs. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:45) We didn’t have a festive 4th of July. (2:00) We are still social distancing and it feels like it is never ending. (2:30) It is Ivy’s 8th anniversary of her last heart surgery. (4:00) We had to tell Scott’s family that we aren’t able to attend the family reunion. (5:20) We are stuck at home, but at least we have stuff to do. It is a first world problem to not be able to go on vacation. (8:00) We are willing to make all the sacrifices to make sure we don’t have to lose a child. (10:00) We aren’t sending our kids to school this year. (12:00) Stress has caused so many things to be harder, like sleep, sex, etc. The world is not “turned on” right now. (18:15) Waiting for the Coronavirus to go away is like watching paint dry. (19:00) Unsolved Mysteries is back on Netflix! We binged it so fast. (24:30) We discuss how Scott likes UFO stories, and Rochelle likes ghost stories. (27:15) Rochelle tells a ghost story about a baby mobile going on its own. (30:00) Scott is only afraid of ghosts when he’s in the shower washing his face.

On this episode we discuss being called child abusers and why we don’t let other people’s opinions get us down. We also discuss the hot button issue of having to wear masks in public and why you should just shut up and do it. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Random discussion involving gravel, stepping stones, and murder podcasts. (3:00) We discuss comments calling us child abusers. (5:15) We talk about not giving a shit about other people’s opinions of us. (7:45) Rochelle talks about how she decided to stop caring what other people think. (9:30) Scott tells his story about how he stopped caring what his peers thought. (13:15) You gotta get a thick skin, especially if you’re a public figure. (15:45) Rochelle talks about unfollowing people on social media that become toxic to you. (21:30) Other people’s opinions about you are none of your business. (22:30) Let’s avoid turning into Gilead. (23:45) Masks have become mandatory where we live. We are fired up about it. (25:30) Scott wants the whole world to see his junk. (28:00) Wear your damn masks!

On this episode we discuss teaching our kids to do chores and giving them an allowance and why we’re not super good at it, but we’re trying. We also talk about learning to do chores when we were kids, and some memorable moments. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:45) Scott’s getting good at Photoshop. (1:45) Having a chill summer that includes free online courses from Harvard University. (3:45) We got gravel, and now we have tons of work ahead of us. (4:30) We rant about our crappy neighbors who park on our grass, leave garbage everywhere, etc. (9:45) Teaching your kids how to work. We reminisce about the chores we did as we were growing up and Scott’s moto for cleaning bathrooms for the neighbors, “Any weather, I can get there.” (13:30) We try really hard to make sure we don’t make our kids feel like they never do a good enough job, even though they kind of suck at some of the chores. (16:50) It’s not about the job they do, but it’s teaching them how to work. (18:00) Rochelle talks about getting her feelings hurt by her mom and killing her crafting spirit for years. (23:00) We talk about working in the yard on weekends with our families. (27:30) We discuss allowance, which we started for the first time recently.

On this episode we discuss grown up play dates, getting old, and jealousy after Scott is openly hit on 3 times. We hope you enjoy this light-hearted episode in times of extreme tension everywhere. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Rochelle got to have a social distant play date. (1:40) Scott had a birthday and is skirting the line of old man-ness. (3:00) We talk about our one of our kids getting braces. (5:00) Summer is less stressful, except that vacations probably won’t happen. (7:00) We’re talking about jealousy because Scott got hit on right in front of me. (11:00) 3 compliments towards Scott is Rochelle’s limit when it comes to having to throw down. (13:00) Rochelle talks about being jealous of Scott’s social life. (16:30) Scott experienced (justified) jealousy while we were still dating over a dude that I was friends with. (21:00) Men get better looking as they get older while women go downhill, which is super bullshit.

This week we discuss how we spent Memorial Day, school finally being over, and saving our elderly neighbor. We also get into our 10th marriage myth to find out if sex gets boring after years of marriage. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:40) We spent Memorial Day at a ghost town in Utah. (4:00) School is officially out for Summer for us and we’re planning to do a more chill annual summer kick off than usual. (7:20) Rochelle saves our elderly neighbor again. (13:45) Myth #10: Sex gets boring after years of marriage. (15:00) Sex can get boring, but if you work on it, it can get better. (16:30) Boring sex is better than no sex, but spicy sex is the best. (18:00) Boring sex is like eating McDonalds, it’s not bad, but sometimes you want something a little fancier. This is a reference to a podcast Rochelle listened to 5 years ago, and we can’t figure out what it was. We apologize. If you happen to know what we’re talking about, shoot us an email and let us know. (20:00) Sex is like everything else, there are peaks and valleys. (21:00) There could be underlying factors contributing to boring sex, and connecting with your partner could help. (23:00) Practice, practice, practice and things will get better. (24:30) Put in an effort if you don’t want sex to be boring. (26:00) Scott’s birthday is coming up, and we discuss the best gift I ever gave him from a few years ago.

As we are feeling extra anxiety this week and not sleeping well, we decided to do a light-hearted episode about our daughter Echo in honor of her birthday. We talk about her wild side, her short fuse, and why we call her an animal whisperer. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:35) Do you feel like quarantine has got you down? (01:15) Spoiler alert: Echo didn’t turn into a mermaid last week. (6:30) Echo is delightful, but has a short fuse. (9:30) Echo writes letters to us, similar to the letters I used to write to my own mom. (11:30) She is the animal whisperer of our family. (15:00) Echo’s nickname since birth is Gecko, and it’s the only nickname in our family that has stuck. (19:00) She can be a challenge because she has a little bit of ADD and needs to move, and it’s hard to keep her attention. (22:00) Echo is the queen of magnificent flip-outs. (26:00) We needed a chill episode this week because Rochelle is stressed out and not sleeping. (29:00)Rochelle does not want to send the kids back to school in the fall if there’s isn’t a vaccine. (29:30) Scott is just a few weeks away from his 39th birthday. (31:00) Scott has a kind heart and tells a story of feeling sadness for a pizza delivery boy.

On this episode we talk about being in quarantine for 60 days and why Rochelle had a breakdown and cried twice in one day. We also discuss our next marriage myth to decide if your in-laws have to love you, and other difficult things with parents. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:50) Two months worth of quarantine for us. (1:20) Rochelle cried because the stress and frustration of everything caught up with her. (5:45) Rochelle cried again while watching a TV show that brought up hard feelings from childhood. (7:30) Good news? The Anti-body study maybe? Last day of new school work. (9:00) Marriage Myth #9: Do your in-laws have to love you? (10:30) We discuss the relationships we have with each set of our parents. (13:30) Rochelle discusses the difficult relationship she has with her parents, especially her mom. (17:00) We talk about how we both have a better relationship with Scott’s parents than Rochelle’s, even though we disagree on religion and politics. We have somehow learned to appreciate the other parts of the relationship to make it okay. (23:00) In-laws don’t have to love you, and you don’t need them to in order to be happy. Your relationship with your spouse is more important than the one you have with your in-laws and even your parents. (25:30) Rochelle’s parents didn’t like Scott because he didn’t marry her right out of high school. (29:00) We talk about what kind of in-laws we hope to be. (30:30) Our daughter, Echo wants to be a mermaid so we did some steps with her to become one. We’ll let you know how it all went down next week.

On this episode we discuss our 8th marriage myth where we decide whether or not one can be lonely within their marriage. We also discuss our plans for Mother’s Day and why we are grateful we don’t have toddlers or babies during the Coronavirus pandemic. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Scott got his very first hat ever is our big news for the week. (4:00) We played a ton of basketball this week and we’re pretty good for a couple of fat people. (6:50) We did Mother’s Day chalk art for Scott’s mom with homemade sidewalk chalk/paint. (10:00) Marriage Myth 8: You’ll Never Be Lonely Again. (10:45) 40% of people have reported being lonely within their marriage. (11:45) Loneliness doesn’t just mean in a physical sense, but can also take on an emotional form. (13:30) Three things that make you feel lonely: Humor doesn’t come easily, when idiosyncrasies aren’t endearing anymore, and your emotional needs aren’t being met. (16:45) The good news about loneliness in marriage is that it can be reversed. (17:45) Do small things together to create connection. (19:00) It takes work and time and effort to fix. No one is immune to loneliness. (22:00) We give examples of loneliness within our marriage. (25:30) We empathize with parents of toddlers and babies during the age of Coronavirus. (26:45) Myth definitely busted. (27:45) Coming up next week: In-laws have to love you.

On this episode we discuss virtual birthday parties, wearing a bikini to a funeral, and whether or not you can change your spouse. Join us to find out if we’ve changed together or separately, and if we’ve tried to change each other in the last 17 years. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Highlights of the week: shaving our cat, moving our bunnies, and attending a virtual birthday party. (5:00) Rochelle ruins a funeral by wearing a bikini. (8:00) Marriage Myth #7: Can you change your spouse? (9:00) People can change in a marriage, but can you manipulate the way they change? (10:40) People have to be willing to change themselves because people won’t change unless they want to change. (11:45) It’s better to accept your partner for who they are, than try to change them into what you want them to be. (13:10) There’s nothing wrong with wanting your partner to grow and improve. (14:10) You have to take the good with the bad when it comes to a partner. (16:00) You can’t put in the work for the other person. (19:10) With our kids, Rochelle wants to be in charge and do things her way. But she is not trying to change who they are. (20:30) We are on a different path than our families, and we are okay with our kids choosing a different path from the one we’re on. (23:45) You can’t do these things, Nemo. (27:00) You can’t change your spouse, you can’t change your kids, you can’t change anybody but yourself. (28:30) Do seasonal allergies include coughing? (31:50) Stinger or cliffhanger: marriage myth #8: Marriage means you’ll never be lonely again?

On this episode we get back to discussing marriage myths with our number 6 myth about the 7 year itch. We talk about whether we believed in it, and how after doing a bunch of research on it, we may have changed our minds. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:50) We talk about bringing our friend a gift after she had a traumatic injury. (4:30) Scott has a weak stomach talking about graphic injuries. (6:00) Scott misses trivia night at the Lucky 13 bar in downtown SLC. (7:30) We review the movie Downhill because it was fun to analyze the marriage aspect. (16:00) We updated our website, getaroompodcast.com (17:00) We talk about whether we believe in the 7 year itch, and then we discuss where we were during our 7th year of marriage. (18:40) The average length of marriages that end in divorce is actually 7 years. (21:00) Just because the average is 7 years, doesn’t mean it will only happen at 7 years. And it can happen for any reason. (22:25) Nobody wants to fall into a rut. (23:00) Some marriages aren’t worth saving. (23:45) Tips to avoid the 7 year itch. Keep up the good communication. (25:00) Therapy is good for everyone and it’s a safe space. (25:45) Continuing to have sex will help you connect with your partner. (26:15) Remember the things that made you fall in love with your spouse and try not to take each other for granted. (27:15) Spend time together and maybe do things that you don’t love but that your spouse loves. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices and compromise within your marriage. (28:45) Laugh it off. It’s okay to not take life so seriously. (31:30) The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever, and eventually life evens out. It’s not as fun, but it’s deeper and important.

On this episode we discuss some of the stuff we do to stay sane and not flip out on each other and the kids during the crappy Coronavirus situation we are all living in right now. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Just finished our 4th or 5th week of quarantine. (2:15) We fantasize about the day when we don’t talk about the Coronavirus. (4:00) School was announced to be online for the rest of the year. We almost cried. (6:00) This is our generation’s “Great Depression”. (7:45) We had to go to Home Depot to get a new lawn mower. Is that essential? (12:45) Surviving the apocalypse without killing each other. (14:15) There are a million things that get your blood boiling. (19:00) We talk about what we do when we get on each other’s nerves. (20:30) It’s okay if our kids are getting too much screen time right now, and every other time. (22:45) We do punish the kids when they abuse their screen privileges. (24:00) We need to come out of this experience still loving our family and being sane. (25:30) Find your happy place (Rochelle’s is doing nothing while listening to music.) (27:15) Rochelle fantasizes about what it would be like to be a couple with no kids during quarantine. (28:45) Scott did the most amazing thing ever while Rochelle was in the shower. (31:20) We talk about some of the funny things Echo says. (33:00) Our family is definitely going a little stir crazy. (37:45) It’s important to maintain your mental health during hard times.

On this episode we talk about how we spent our spring break and breaking the news about the truth of the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus. We also talk extensively about our parenting style and what has worked for us, being the parents of 5 children between the ages of 7 and 15. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:20) Spring break adventures including cleaning and making jam. (4:00) Missing my sister and talking through the window. (5:00) The Easter Bunny is quarantined, so we’re doing a half-assed Easter. (6:30) We had to reveal the truth about the Tooth Fairy to our 11 year old. (7:45) Though we have talked about the Tooth Fairy with our 3 oldest children, we have yet to have the Santa talk. (8:30) We go on a huge tangent about Santa Claus. (12:15) We are parenting pros. (14:00) We have a laid back parenting style, with a huge sense of responsibility. (16:00)Dexter taught us to be better parents. (17:20) We try to have a sense of humor with each other and with the kids. (21:00) Our family thrives with routine. (24:15) Punctuality is a passed down attribute from Rochelle’s parents, which she then passed down to her kids. (26:30) We never yell or scream at our kids. (27:30) We tell stories about a few problems we have had with the kids and how we’ve dealt with them. (34:45) We have a form of family time every single day by watching a TV show with our kids every evening. It has turned into the best bonding experience ever. (43:20) Love your kids for who they are and accept their talents and interests because no one wants to live a life where they think they’re not good enough.

On this episode we discuss April Fools Day, homemade masks, and helping each other out during these difficult and uncharted times. We talk about how we have been helping ease the burden and how we are surviving the quarantine that we have been under for 3 weeks. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Brought our friends a gift, while keeping distant. (2:00) We gotta figure out a mask situation. (2:40) April fools has arrived, and is always the worst “holiday”. (4:00) We discuss Malcolm’s prank, and Scott’s previous pranks from childhood. (7:30) Rochelle has a cough, but pretty sure it’s not the coronavirus. (11:15) What is a priority for us right now? Helping each other out while the going gets rough. (13:45) Scott has gotten good at recognizing when Rochelle has hit the threshold of patience so he can help out before she breaks down. (17:00) We had to plan out bathroom breaks today, and that is new for us. (18:45) Scott set up an outdoor office for Rochelle so she could work outside. It was amazing. (22:15) Scott tells a story about a former coworker and his arrangement for “me time”. (25:00) We like to make time away from the family equal as much as possible. (29:00) Having a dinner schedule is good, but the kids are sick of the same meals over and over. (33:00) Scott takes things too far joking about death and funeral potatoes. (34:30) Rochelle couldn’t get Google Meet to work and Scott helped get it done. (37:30) In the future we’re all going to look back at 2020 and be amazed we got through it.

Our second oldest child is about to celebrate his 13th birthday while our family is under quarantine, due to the Coronavirus outbreak. We discuss Dexter’s difficult toddler years, and how much things have changed since those hard years. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) New term of homeschooling is starting, we’re trying not to stress. (1:45) Our plans to go to Yellowstone for Spring Break, and what happened to them. (3:45) Our second oldest child is about to be a teenager. (5:30) Rochelle told Dexter we could watch It: Chapter Two for his birthday. (7:00) Dexter is the funny one in our family. (8:30)Age 2 to 7 for Dexter were hard on us because he was so strong willed and drove us crazy. (9:30) How we managed a difficult toddler by trading off duties. (12:30) Ivy became the peacemaker because of Dexter’s temper tantrums. (14:45) One on one time with Dexter was always pleasant, even when he was at his worst time of toddlerhood. Scott tells a story about making his parents take Dexter for a week to give us a break. (18:00) Rochelle tells a story about Ivy having a medical procedure and taking a bunch of crying kids to the doctor, and wanting to break down as well. (21:00) Luckily Dexter grew out of his pain-in-the-ass-ness. (23:00)Dexter is super smart, sort of athletic, and just awesome these days. (25:15) Dexter taught me to be a better mother by forcing me to be more patient and loving. (27:00) We think that part of the reason why Dexter is so great is because he was so hard when he was younger, and also why we like him so much now. (27:30) He used to have ticks that he would do over and over again for several months, then it would switch to a new tick. (29:00) He no longer has ticks, but now he says certain phrases or words over and over for months, then switch to a new phrase or word. It’s much less annoying than his other ticks. (31:15) We are so grateful that Dexter turned into who he is, because he is really so great.

On this episode we discuss being quarantined in our home, homeschooling, and if every conflict has a solution. We also bring up celebrity marriages, and Jeopardy, so you don’t want to miss this episode. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Rochelle loves our cheesy intro, Scott does not. (1:40) Longest week of our collective lives as social distancing efforts increase. (2:30) Homeschooling 5 kids is really hard. (4:30) We know we are more fortunate than most with our work from home jobs. (5:10) Good things from this week to keep the mood light. (6:40) Marriage Myth #5: Every Conflict Has a Solution (7:15) This myth is more complicated, and harder to decide on if it’s true or not. (8:30)There are complications with the solution to the Coronavirus, making it a difficult situation to figure out. (9:30) Some problems have harder solutions, or take more time to solve. Patience and compromise help. (10:45) We decide the myth is plausible since it has such a big grey area. (13:00) Have you ever had to eat humble pie? (13:45) Rochelle gives a weird example about being wrong about a pop culture reference, and then not telling Scott about it. (17:00) We discuss Jeopardy and how much we would suck at it. (19:00) Ken Jennings can’t be funny and smart! Stupid Ken Jennings. (20:00) We’re so good at quarantine date nights and we didn’t even know. (21:00) Rochelle tries to entice Scott to be better a Jeopardy trivia.

On this episode we interrupt our regularly scheduled marriage myth to bring you a light hearted break from the uncertain state of the world to joke about disaster movies and loving music our parents forced us to listen to when we were kids. We will return to our marriage myth episode next week, so look out for that. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Podcasting while social distancing and freaking out about the Coronavirus. (2:00) Shopping for a long stay at home during a pandemic is a nightmare, as most American’s learned this week. (3:30) We are good at staying home. We’ve been preparing our whole lives for this. (4:30) Good opportunity to binge our podcast. (5:00)Doing a lighthearted episode to keep things positive and better. (6:00) What movies have you seen that are post-apocalyptic? (8:00) Our experience watching The Day After Tomorrow. (9:44) Why is The Rock in every disaster movie? (10:30) We discuss 2012, Armageddon, Independence Day, and zombie movies. (12:30) Watching Adventure Time with our kids, which is a post-apocalyptic cartoon, which is fun for adults and kids. (16:20) With schools being cancelled, we talk about what our kids (and we) are excited about. (17:45) Finding the positive (daffodils) in a rough time in life. (18:30) Rochelle gets stuck in a chair. (20:00) Scott still has to get up for work, but the rest of us get to sleep in. (21:00) Post Malone is fun wake up music and Scott admits to loving it. (24:00) We don’t restrict what music the kids hear, even when it might have questionable music. (26:30) We both admit to enjoying music our parents loved when we were kids. (29:00) What little things will enjoy while you are social distancing? We talk about what we’re going to do to entertain ourselves.

On this episode we talk about the Corona Virus, missing our babies, and puberty. We also discuss our 4th marriage myth about whether or not a good marriage comes naturally. We talk about why we believe that certain aspects of marriage can come more naturally, but overall a good marriage, or any marriage for that matter, requires work. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:45) Low key week staying home to avoid CoronaVirus. (2:30) Ivy had her maturation program this week. (4:30) Women got the short end of the stick of life. (7:00)Rochelle almost cried over an old video of our babies. (9:45) Marriage Myth 4: A Good Marriage Comes Naturally. (10:30) We don’t have a lot of conflict within our marriage, but it still requires work to be good. (11:45) There needs to be some natural chemistry, but that isn’t all you need. (13:00) You have to learn to pick your battles. (16:30) Scott spills the beans on how Rochelle used to load the dishwasher wrong, and he had to set her straight. (21:00) We work well because we are able to work together on each other’s needs (OCD, anxiety, and punctuality). (23:15) We work together for the good of our family. We always help each other out in whatever situation in which it is necessary. (24:45) Malcolm talked Scott’s ear off, and Rochelle didn’t save him. (27:15) “What if” questions from the kids will be the death of us, and a relatable meme with Post Malone.

On this episode we discuss Marriage Myth #3: Kids needs should have priority over marital needs. We discuss both sides of the topic since we disagree, and try to fairly figure out who’s needs should come first. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:45) How we felt about the Pompeii exhibit in SLC. (4:00) We spent a bunch of money on a furnace and water heater. (6:25) The high school we met at is getting torn down, so we visited it during the week and thought other’s would be there too. But we had the place to ourselves. (9:00) We talk about our upcoming 20 year high school reunion. (10:00) We discuss my paranoia regarding the Coronavirus. (11:30) Parent teacher conference week is always a good week. (12:45) Should kids needs have priority over marital needs. (14:00) Scott and I disagree on this topic and we discuss our reasons. (15:00) Scott compares Rochelle’s thoughts to that of putting an oxygen mask on during a flight. (16:30) Putting your relationship on the back burner while kids are in the house is detrimental to your marriage. (17:45) You have to put a ton of effort into supporting your kids and raising them right. (19:00) Our relationship is good, and kids will learn from our example. (20:15) Parenting and marriage is a balancing act, and we are all just trying to figure it out. (22:15) Scott hopes that our children will want to have a marriage similar to ours. (23:45) Constant fighting or threatening divorce will screw up kids more than if you make your marital relationship a priority over your relationship with your kids. (24:30) Marriage Myth number 3…busted? (26:00) We discuss our poor math skills and TI-85’s. (29:00) Walking and our podcast are Rochelle’s therapy.

On this episode we discuss the second marriage myth in our series, which is Never Go To Bed Angry. We talk about the pros and cons to going to bed angry, and if we consider this myth busted or not. We also tell stories from our own marriage that relate to the subject. We hope you enjoy this episode, and let us know if you agree with our conclusion. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Scott apologizes for his use of the word “like”. (2:45) Echo broke her glasses and it turned into a struggle due to insurance. (3:30) Echo’s high index glasses prescription makes getting her glasses difficult. (4:45) High index lenses cost twice as much as regular lenses. (7:00) Scott is a ghetto engineer. (8:00) Myth #2: Never go to bed angry. (8:45) This myth was split almost 50/50 in listener opinions. (9:50) Pros for never going to bed angry. (10:30) Scott tells a story of us having to resolve an issue before going to bed. (12:15) Some problems are not solvable in one night. You are more likely to say things you don’t mean and cause more problems. (14:45) Getting your thoughts together and being deliberate in what you want to say is a good reason to go to bed angry. (16:00) The word “never” makes this one a myth. (17:00) We think the better advice is to be rational and sometimes go to bed angry. (19:00) Rochelle tells me a story about a time when she went to bed angry. (22:15) Our unspoken rule of arguing: If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, 5 months, or 5 minutes from now, what is the point of arguing about it? (23:15) We reminisce about a ridiculous fight we had early on in our marriage. (25:25) Scott tells a story about accidentally hurting himself during an argument. (28:15) We don’t ever let anything stain our marriage.

On this special episode that starts out our series of episodes about marriage myths, we discuss the first myth, all you need is love. We talk about the survey we did on Instagram and some of the responses we received from our listeners. We talk about some of the things that you have to have in a marriage besides love, and tell a few stories from our own experiences. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:15) We talk about the survey people took on Instagram for us. (3:00) Marriage myth number one: All you need is love. (3:35) Scott said, “all you need is love” to his parents while we were dating. (5:01) You need so much more than love in a marriage. We list off several from comments on our Instagram survey. (7:15) Compromise is very important. (7:50)Our number one choice is communication because it is so important in a marriage. (10:00) Rochelle doesn’t think religion and political affiliations have to be the same, but does think you have to be on the same page when it comes to parenting style. (12:00) We were both the rebellious kids in our own families. (14:15) We talk about our own feisty kids and challenges. (17:00) We explain the difference between sacrifice and compromise. (18:00) Rochelle tells a story about Scott sacrificing his happiness working at a job he hated to be able to support our family. (24:00) We tell a story of how we had to compromise over the house we ultimately bought in Utah. (27:45) First marriage myth officially busted with 100% of people responding the same way. (29:05) Movie recommendation of the week: The Lion King (2019). Rochelle predicts that it will give her nightmares, because she is afraid of lions.

On this special Valentine’s Day bonus episode we talk about the smalls things that we do that help the other feel loved. We hope you enjoy this special bonus episode on this beautiful day of love. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Today’s episode is about love on the day of love, Valentine’s Day. (1:30) 10 Things My Spouse Does That Makes Me Feel Loved. (1:50) Rochelle’s #1: Scott teases me relentlessly. (3:10) Scott’s #1: Rochelle wears thongs. (4:15) Rochelle’s #2: Scott brings me coffee and vitamins. (4:30)Scott’s #2: Rochelle brings me breakfast at my desk. (5:10) Rochelle’s #3: Scott helps make dinner and doesn’t complain. (6:20) Scott’s #3: Rochelle gives me random back and head tickles. (7:10) Rochelle’s #4: Scott gives me head and back tickles. (8:00) Scott’s #4: Rochelle lets me geek out on my things. (8:55) Rochelle’s #5: Scott does dishes or laundry when I’m at work. (10:10) Scott’s #5: Rochelle makes us dinner every night. (10:35) Rochelle’s #6: Scott gives long and frequent hugs. (11:45) Scott’s #6: Rochelle knows what I like, and goes along with it. (12:30) Rochelle’s #7: Scott kisses me every night, and offers chapstick. (13:40) Scott’s #7: Rochelle works 3 jobs to help out. (14:10) Rochelle’s #8: Scott supported me when I took a part time job that I hate, and listens to me while I complain about it. (15:25) Scott’s #8: Rochelle sticks around through the tough stuff. (17:00) Rochelle’s #9: Scott watches scary movies with me, and doesn’t make me watch sci-fi movies. (20:35) Scott’s #9: Rochelle let’s Scott sleep in and then playfully tries to kill him. (22:10) Rochelle’s #10: Scott does this podcast with me, even though he feels weird about it. (23:40) Scott’s #10: Rochelle says it every day. (we both do). (24:40) We have never threatened divorce, except when we joke about Googling it. (28:10) We hope you get laid for Valentine’s Day. (29:30) Movie recommendation of the week: Jojo Rabbit.

On this episode we talk about trying to focus more on finding positives in situations, and over the course of 30 minutes, we continually find negative things. So we obviously need more practice being positive, and we hope you will practice it in your own life as well. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Our cat, Gunter, finally learned to love us. (1:10) Big storm causes a snow day and the kids destroyed our house. (2:45) Didn’t have to go sledding. Phew. (3:35) Big snow storm in 1993 gave us a snow day, but we had to make up the school day on a Saturday. (5:40) Rochelle has 2 super weird dreams. (6:15) Malcolm gets a “CEO” award. (7:45) Ivy had middle school orientation, and Rochelle almost cried. (9:30) We talk about not dwelling on the negative, or over-thinking things. (10:30) Does negativity bring on more negativity? (11:30) we talk about some effects of rumination,(repetitive negative thoughts). (14:15) How rumination can hurt a marriage. (15:20) Its better to look for the positives of situations, but it’s easier to find the negatives. (16:45) Positivity: The miracle hangover cure. (18:30) Scott hits his goal of making Rochelle laugh daily. He always avoids confrontations and tries to always be positive. (19:30) Rochelle has a tendency to get feisty, while Scott is reserved, but we even each other out. (22:00) We are still dwelling on a negative situation after 11 years (justifiably), so we still need practice. (26:15) Too much time in your own mind makes you crazy. (28:00) Rochelle struggles with the state of the United States that makes it hard to stay positive, and wishes Scott was Canadian.

On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss why there was no episode last week, because we were on a couples only retreat in the snow, and couldn’t tear ourselves away to do a podcast. We discuss why we don’t normally do winter activities, and what it’s like to crash a snow mobile. We also discuss why we think little, frequent romantic gestures are more important than big ones. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Missed an episode because we were on vacation without children. (1:30) Yearly vacation with our friends and kids is a lot of work, so we thought it would be fun to go without the kids (3:10) We get to do whatever we want when the kids aren’t around. (3:35) We went on a winter adventure that I never thought I would do, and promptly crashed. (7:15) Thought I was okay after the crash, but my left arm ended up hurting for days. (9:10) We aren’t good navigators, but we still had a great time. (10:45) Should we have done a podcast with our friends? Or maybe in the car ride? (12:30) Malcolm gets a CEO (citizenship) award. Does every kid in the school get the award by the end of the school year? (15:00) Grandma sits Rochelle down to tell her what is wrong with the kids. (17:45) Do we have a topic today? How the little things turn into big things. (18:45) We both hate traditional romance. (19:45) Our non-romantic engagement story. (21:25) Scott does the dishes, since Rochelle made dinner. Little things add up to big things. (22:30) Doing small things is a good way to show your love for your spouse. (25.00) Little things might be bigger than a big gesture.

On this episode we discuss an article that says insulting your partner everyday could be good for your relationship. We talk about how this has been true in our relationship and we believe it’s the key to our longevity. If you would like to read the article discussed in this episode go here. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (1:00) Go over the reason we have a tie breaker question from last week’s episode. (1:45) If we won the lottery, what frivolous thing would you buy first? (2:45) Why Scott would get a big ass RV. (4:05)Why Rochelle would get a family trip to Samoa. (6:15) If you roast your spouse you will have a stronger relationship. (7:10) Why roasting helps keep things light and fun, which keeps your relationships better. (8:15) Having a roasting type relationship with your kids can open up the deeper conversations. (11:05)Scott’s sister’s family also roasts each other, and it made us like them more. (12:30) We have always had a teasing relationship that included nicknames like Puke-ahontas and Stinky Pete. (13:30) Neither of us can think of a time when we’ve actually been offended by the teasing. (15:00) This kind of relationship may not be for everyone, so be gentle when attempting to tease your spouse. (16:15) Don’t take life too seriously.

On this episode Scott and Rochelle go through 10 questions in the style of the newlywed game to see how well they actually know each other after 20 years together. You may be surprised by the final score. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:40) We got a little tipsy for this new episode in honor of our 20th anniversary. (1:15) The (Not-so) Newlywed Game (2:20) What is your favorite homemade meal? (3:10) Least Favorite meal? (6:30) Celebrity crush? (9:15) Spouses favorite physical attribute of yours? (11:30) Name a movie that we messed around during. (13:40) Dream job (besides the one you have now)? (17:30) Favorite movie? (19:15) Biggest fear? (22:15) What is your ideal date night? (24:30) Your spirit animal? (26:45) Final score. Who is the winner of our Not-so newlywed game? (29:15) The kids are back in school, so we can miss them again. (33:00) Rochelle goes on strike over making dinner. (35:00) We hope you can do this game with your own spouse.

On this special new year’s episode we discuss the 10 best things that happened for our family in the last 10 years, and why they were significant for us. They include everything from moving back to Utah, to super fun vacations and even leaving the LDS church. We also challenge our listeners to come up with their own list of awesome things from the last 10 years as we all prepare for lives in this new decade. Specific topic discussed in this episode: (0:30) Happy New Year! (1:05) Our 20 year anniversary approaches and makes us feel old. (2:10) The 10 Best Things in the last 10 Years. (2:50) Moving back to Utah. (5:25) Leaving the LDS church. (6:40) Ivy eating a chicken nugget. (10:30) Getting our dream yard. (12:15) Vacations without the kids. (14:10) Grand Canyon vacation with the kids. (15:45) Getting comfortable in my own skin. (17:00) Getting the band back together. (20:35) Date night. (23:05) Starting our podcast together. (24:30) Fun facts about us for our 20th anniversary. (25:00) Grew up near each other and could have crossed paths several times in childhood. (27:30) We were a real life pretty in pink scenario, sort of…

We are a week behind schedule because of Christmas festivities, but we hope you enjoy this episode about why everyone has different feelings around Christmas time, and everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. We reflect on losing Scott’s sister just before Christmas 11 years ago and what it was like to attend her funeral with a baby who was released from the hospital the day of her viewing. Specific topic discussed in this episode: Christmas can be a tough time for some people. (:50) Treat everyone with respect even if you believe differently. (1:50) Scott’s sister, Stacy, passed away 4 days before Christmas in 2008. (2:40) Ivy was released from the hospital the day of the viewing for Stacy. (4:00) Having a dog be baby Jesus in a nativity reenactment. (4:30) “Where’s your Christmas spirit?” isn’t a nice thing to say. (5:40) Raw emotions get tied to this time of year when something hard happens, so treat everyone with kindness. (7:00) No celebrity couple of the week. Merry Christmas! (8:00)

On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss how they have come to financial stability after years of living paycheck to paycheck. They discuss the differences in their childhoods that may have lead them to be more financially responsible even when money was tight. Specific topic discussed in this episode: We got a hot tub! (1:05) Checking off items on our bucket lists. (2:30) This week’s topic: Financial stability (3:15) Living off of chicken noodle soup we were given as a gift and being able to ask for help when we couldn’t afford milk. (4:00) Ivy’s expensive formula taking all our money. (6:00) Living off Little Caesar’s Pizza, feeding our whole family with a $5 pizza. (7:10) Not being able to afford any luxuries and enjoying the little things. (8:00) How Rochelle growing up poor makes it hard for her to make big purchases. (9:15) Scott’s grew up more well off, but his parents taught him very well about finances. (11:45) We were taught by Scott’s dad about mortgages when we were newlyweds, and that knowledge has always stuck with us. (13:15) Always telling each other about every purchase since the early days of our marriage. (15:00) Paying a mortgage and having two kids while making $7 an hour. But at least we’d had help with the down payment from Scott’s grandparents. (16:00) Growing up and becoming responsible adults when we got pregnant with our oldest. (17:30) The struggles from the economy going down in 2008 or 2009 when Ivy was still a newborn. (19:30) Buying a hot tub is Scott’s midlife crisis. (21:00) Celebrity Couple of the Week (Nick Offerman and Megan Mullaly) (21:45)

On this episode Scott and Rochelle discuss an article we recently read that gives 1950’s relationship advice, and whether or not they think any of the tips are still relevant today. To read the article click here. Specific topic discussed in this episode: Having a better week, getting a new Christmas tree (0:50) Lying to the kids about the demise of Taco Bell (2:00) Reuniting the bunnies after being neutered. (4:10) Finally recovered from pneumonia round two. (5:15) 7 tips for keeping your man from the 1950’s. (6:20) Tip 1 - Don’t talk. (7:10) Tip 2 - Bad cooking will drive your man to seedy saloons. (8:45) Tip 3 - Be the hot steak, not the cheap pork (wild in the sack instead of boring.) (10:15) Tip 4 - Don’t be a sexual vampire, or frigid Frannie. (11:45) Tip 5 - Pink panties are a must. (13:30) Tip 6 - Let him have a little fun now and then (it’s okay if he cheats, it means he loves you). (15.25) Tip 7 - Remember your husband is the boss of you. (16:40) Our grandparents were newlyweds in the 50’s and we wonder what their relationships were like. (18:00) We have traditional marital roles, but are not very traditional people. (19:45) Women are better and more organized (in Rochelle’s opinion). (20:45) Scott is the more tech-savvy person in our relationship. (22:45) The only tip we think is still applicable in our relationship. (24:00) Celebrity Couple of the Week. (Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson) (25:00)

On this episode we discuss why the recent Holiday and the activities that go with it triggered the anxiety that Rochelle has struggled with for the last 20 years. We also discuss how Scott can support her when things get overwhelming and give everyone a few examples of what not to say when someone you love has an anxiety attack. We also give suggestions of things you can do to help ground yourself when an attack occurs, and discuss the difference between an anxiety attack and panic attack. Specific topic discussed in this episode: No date night, but still trying to get the podcast done. (0:35) More sickness including pneumonia going around our house. (1:10) Anxiety around the holidays. (1:30) Feeling overwhelmed with family obligations. (2:30) Learning to support someone with anxiety issues. (3:50) How Rochelle manifests an anxiety attack with anger. (5:15) Anxiety is real. (6:15) Things not to say to someone with anxiety. (7:15) “Just cheer up and be happy.” (9:30) How to stop or prevent an anxiety attack. (10:20) My first ever anxiety attack. (13:00) Five things to do during an attack to ground you. (14:30) The difference between an anxiety attack and a panic attack. (15:50) Scott’s final thoughts on dealing with a wife with anxiety. (17:45) Celebrity Couple of the Week. (20:20)

With Thanksgiving on the horizon we talk about traditions that we’ve kept from our childhoods, and the one’s we’ve decided to toss to the curb where they belong. We also discuss some of the random, everyday crap we are grateful for. Happy Thanksgiving. Specific topic discussed in this episode: Recent news, Thanksgiving coming up, etc. (0:45) Planes, Trains, and Automobiles yearly tradition with friends. (1:00) Main topic, Traditions. (4:00) Keeping the good traditions you grow up with, tossing out the garbage ones. (5:00) Discussing Thanksgiving traditions before the upcoming holiday. (7:00) Discussing T. Hanks-Giving with Rochelle’s family. (9:20) Christmas and Scott’s brother’s birthday traditions. (11:00) Kick off to Summer party and more birthday traditions. (13:15) Mother’s Day nightmare tradition that we threw out. (15:20) Things we’re grateful for this week. (18:00) Road trip movies and Jonathan Taylor Thomas. (20:00) Scott gently annoys for more love! (21:30)

On today’s episode we talk about the upcoming birthday of our oldest child, an discuss having to have the sex talk with our 11 year old and 8 year old daughters, and how it went. We talk about getting advice from friends through social media, and subscribing to parenting podcasts. Specific topic discussed in this episode: Parents of a 15 year old who is getting a learners permit. (0:45) Why we needed to have a sex talk with some of our kids. (5:10) Getting advice from people on Instagram. (6:50) Ivy was nervous about having this talk, Echo was not at all. (7:50) Echo has ADD and couldn’t keep on topic, but understood it all. (8:30) Being honest and opening the door for future conversations with our kids. (10:30) Rochelle felt really good about previous sex talks with Dexter. (11:35) Neither Scott or Rochelle had the sex talk with our own parents. (12:30) Echo’s brain moves faster than everybody else. (17:00) The sex talk will never be easy. (19:15) Things we’re thankful for: weekends, having a nice teenager. (20:00) Thanks for all the help from those who gave their advice and ideas! (23:45)