Get Out of Your Head podcast

This episode is all about self care!  In it, we talk about the real reasons you need to have a self care practice (starting yesterday!) We talk about what self care is not (and consumer culture gets it all wrong) We talk about what self care is And finally, we discuss how different times in our lives will call for different types of self care and how you can categorize them based on your need. Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website https://www.spiritmindbody.one/shop (this is where you can view and purchase your self care package)

In this episode, we talk about how stress turns us into the worst versions of ourselves and how chronic stress may be undermining your efforts to awaken, evolve, or align. We discuss 4 contributors to chronic underlying stress that you may have never considered: Your story Being physically uncomfortable Your stuff (having too much) A lack of autonomy Mentioned Episodes: Ego stories, subconscious programming and Stress: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-stories-subconscious-programming-and-stress The inner victim: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-2-the-inner-victim    Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one

The 4 commitments are: Allow their souls to flourish Grant them permission to “follow their bliss” Model a larger soul-driven life Recognize your own fears and heal your own wounds, so that they don't become shackles for your children   Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one 

This episode covers generational wounding patters that may have been passed onto you by your own parent. These include: The overbearing (controlling) parent The overly permissive parent The manipulative parent The emotionally neglectful parent Then, I discuss, how these may be showing up in your life today, regardless of the wounding pattern in the way: You may still be in service to their agenda You may be in service to the opposite of their agenda Though self-numbing or self-soothing in unhealthy ways Mentioned Resources:Silently Seduced - Kenneth Adams Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one 

This episode is all about the positive shadow. Your positive shadow contains your full potential and a call to a larger, more meaningful life. In this episode we cover: - Positive shadow archetypal messages - Character traits of the positive shadow - What you can do to be more receptive to your positive shadow Enjoy!   Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one  (this is where you can view and book coaching!)

This week, we are talking all about projections In order to understand projections, first I cover a few different ways to understand projections, both through straightforward examples and through understanding the energy behind a projection Then, I talk about what to do when you're the object of someone's projection as well as how to identify what a projection looks like for you Enjoy!   Mentioned resources:Power vs. force chart: https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c7072f_807b750f232a43f1bf9d32fbd6b12518.png Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one (this is where you can view and book coaching!)

This episode is all about shadow work. We discuss some practical ways that you can have the right mindset to confront your own shadow. These include: Radical responsibility Dropping absolutism See things symbolically Lean into the struggle Then we talk about some things that you can do to cultivate your shadow work practice. These include: Feel it to heal it Open a dialog with your shadow Write it down Return to feeling  Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.one 

In this episode, we talk all about some things that you can use to initiate your shadow work practice I talk in detail about: Unsuccessful attempts to break a bad habit or start a good one Feeling divided against yourself or some version of inner conflict Feeling triggered Then, I talk about 3 contributors to a mindset that will work against your shadow work practice: Blaming Criticizing or judging Any level or avoidance/denial Mentioned episodes: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-2-the-inner-victim Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

This episode is all about the little unconscious tricks that your ego uses to avoid facing your shadow. These include: Denial Rationalization Avoidance Distraction Repression Suppression Twisted humor   Chronic searches for gurus Altered awareness (getting high or drunk) Dissociation Projection Transference   Mentioned episodesDenial episode: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-denial Shadow 1 link: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/the-shadow   Mentioned resources Author: Robert Augustus Masters Author: James Hollis David Richo - Shadow Dance Carl Jung - Memories Dreams and reflections Mollie Birney on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/molliebirney/ Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

This is the first episode in a series on the shadow. More to follow. While the shadow and the unconscious are similar, many times they are interchanged.  The unconscious can be addressed by the question, “how do I know what I don't know”, while the shadow can be addressed by the question, “how do I know what I don't know and don't want to know”. I sort all of this out and more including: > What is the shadow? > Some analogies and visual representation > Some major ways the shadow can manifest in our day-to-day and how we can identify them on a conscious level Enjoy!! Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

In this episode I talk all about New Year's Resolutions and habit shifting Namely, I address why it is so hard to stop a bad habit and start a good one. Then, I discuss 5 things as food for thought to help you address some of the deeper, unconscious mechanisms at play that undermine your efforts to change your habits for the better. These are: You manifest who you are, not what you want Find a way to like it (the new habit) Letting go by determining how your bad habit is still serving you  Find a way to be repulsed by your bad habit Surround yourself with positive influences Mentioned episodes:Practical manifesting: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-5-practical-manifesting-part-1 Scarcity https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-scarcity-in-time-and-relationships  Reading Recommendations: Atomic Habits - James Clear Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

In this episode, we talk about a few different visions of how “taking things too personally” shows up in our lives. You might identify with this if you: Usually assume something is all your fault Have a hard time taking a compliment  Assume that someone's unsolicited advice is a judgement of you Are unable to say “no” for fear that you might “rock the boat” Want to become a creator, but find yourself paralyzed by the potential judgements of others Enjoy! Mentioned Episodes: Boundaries: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/boundaries Donate: https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A  

In this episode, we talk about how we truly are the center of own universes - that's not the problem. The problem is that sometimes we think that we are the center of the Universe at large. This blocks us from doing risky (but worthwhile) things, taking chances, learning something new, or truly connecting with another. We put our self-worth into the “marks” that others give us, rather than relying on our own internal compass and self-esteem. Denial: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-denial  The inner victim: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-2-the-inner-victim  Donate:https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

This episode is a continuation of last week. This episode directly addresses how fear and separation shows up in our personal relationships, due to our survivalist mindset and consequent behavior. Specifically, this story manifests: - In the way we start to force our agenda or beliefs (resisting the present) - Our need to be hyper-controlling - The way we get defensive - Our inability to ask for help - When we assume the worst in others Mentioned episodes: Keeping your center while navigating the media: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/keeping-your-center-while-navigating-the-media PART 1: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/fear-and-separation-part-1-0 Donate: https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us   

In this episode, we discuss how fear and separation are the breeding grounds for the unhealthy ego - our inflated sense of self. When we see the world through the lens of fear and separation, it appears to be hostile and unkind, which leads us into displaying defensive and self-protective behavior, ultimately leading us into a state of survival. This shows up in so many different ways, but in this episode, I talk about how it shows up in the way of our inability to be grateful, our inability to notice signs and synchronicities, and our tendency to chase, grasp and hoard. Next time, we talk about how this story shows up in our behaviors that directly impact our relationships. Mentioned episodes Scarcity: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-scarcity-in-time-and-relationships https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/scarcity-part-2  Donate: https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us

In this episode, I talk about how our scarcity mindset shows up with our belongings and with our money. Specifically, I ask some thought provoking questions and give you some actionable steps that are intended to help you define what is really important to you in the way of your belongings.  I also talk about our scarcity mindset around money and discuss some energetic concepts that are intended to help us overcome some of our fears around money. Disclaimer: I am not a financial expert. This information presented is intended to educate about the energetics of money, not to provide financial advice.  Part 1: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-scarcity-in-time-and-relationships  Donate: https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us   

In this episode, we talk about the ego story of scarcity. Ego tells you that there's just not enough to go around and the only one who will look out for you is you. I discuss how we can't deny that some things in life do have limits (ex. There are only 24 hours in a day, my salary is a certain amount, my house can only hold so much), but there are other things that do not. Often, our scarcity mindset confuses things that actually do have limits with what is not.   This is a two part series (next week is released as a bonus episode) where I talk about how scarcity shows up our lives. This week, I discuss the scarcity mindset around: Time Relationships (Envy + Jealousy)   Next week (16 NOV) I'm talking about our scarcity story around: Our belongings Money Abundance is the antidote for scarcity, but abundance is sometimes confused with excess. When we step into true abundance we let go of the fear that we won't be provided for and we can start living a life lead by spirit and in true alignment.   The process of overcoming this ego story: Identify and separate things that actually do have limits from the things that don't. Re- define your relationships with time, money, things, and people Create more scarcity in order to identify what's a priority - this allows you to be intentional about how you want all of those things to show up for you Ask yourself: is this still serving me - which is a moment to moment process Re-aligning with true abundance - having faith Letting go - this is the true mindset shift Detaching from the excess/scarcity belief system. Donate: https://linktr.ee/spiritmind.body (click the “support me” tab!) Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk about an ego story that is probably one of the most difficult ones to spot. This is the ego story of denial. Denial is likely the most effective story that your ego uses to defend your shadow. Because it works though ignorance, this story will keep us in an ego state, preventing us from realizing and confronting our own limiting beliefs, shame triggers, projections, and wounds. I discuss some things that we do that you can use to indicate a state of denial, but really the first step is asking yourself the question and then giving yourself the space and attention you need to be completely honest with yourself. Lastly, I talk about how to deal with someone you know or care about who is in a state of denial. As frustrating as it can be when someone won't admit something that is so apparent to you, force is not the way. A state of love and total acceptance are. Ego story 1 episode: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-7-ego-story-1 Recommended reading: Loving What Is by Byron Katie Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us

In this episode, I talk about how to get out of your rut. I propose an idea that the feeling of being in a rut is biologically explained by a decreased amount of dopamine in our system. Dopamine is the neurochemical that is responsible for the motivation to see yourself to a better future. It's often referred to as the “want” hormone. It makes us pursue, get excited about possibilities, and dream big.  When you're in a rut, you have a hard time getting excited or motivated, as your life feels like it's on one big repeat, which parallels closely with the feeling you get when your dopamine (along with other feel-good neurochemicals) are low. When we're in a rut, we can often find ourselves unconsciously trying to stimulate dopamine artificially, in order to bring us back to a state of excitement and motivation. This most often comes in the form allowing yourself some retail therapy or binge watching TV. Substances such as sugar, alcohol, and cocaine are known to hijack the dopamine circuits in our brains, which explains the all too familiar scene in our lives where we find ourselves on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry's, promising that we'll make more of our day “tomorrow”.  All of these unhealthy habits will make you feel better in the moment, but ultimately contribute to your stress and further entrench you in your rut in the long-run. I propose here that the answer isn't to come to grips with our dopamine deprived state, rather it's to embrace it and find healthier ways to release dopamine. In this episode I offer 6 healthy alternatives to increasing our dopamine and getting out of your rut. Recommended reading: The Molecule of More by Daniel Lieberman and Michael E. Long Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk about embracing uncomfortable situations in life. During painful situations, we often tell ourselves this story of, “It'll be better when…” (we get a new car, we're in a relationship, we have a new job, we get settled into our new house…). This story prevents us from living in the present moment, while our sights are honed in on a better and brighter tomorrow. When we leave this present moment, we forget about all of the gifts that it holds for us. It isn't the situation that is the problem, it's our judgement of the situation that makes it painful. In this episode, I talk about 6 things to consider when going through hard times that can help bring your attention back into the present moment and harness the power they bring. Recommended reading:The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Connect with me!Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode we discuss 5 things that can help you keep your center when navigating through the trigger minefield that is the media (social, mainstream and otherwise). These things include: Check your energy Check it early and check it often. This really is the process of coming back home to yourself. When you do this often, you become more in tune with your intuition and your “bullshit” detector becomes much more sensitive. Question everything: is it true? This is the day and age where people often say whatever they want with little factual basis for doing so. I know you know this, but not everything you read is true. “Credible” news sources stretch the truth to make headlines more jaw-dropping. When you question everything and are tapped into your energy, you become less likely to be swept away by the craziness that goes on in the world. Work through triggers When something pulls you out of your center, work through triggers that are worth working through. The basis of the trigger will always be something that comes back to you (either it's about you, it's something that you stand for, or it's something that you haven't accepted within yourself). Set boundaries Boundaries are important because without boundaries, we can get detracted from our path. When you're constantly working through triggers, it's difficult to make progress in the direction of your choice. Set boundaries to avoid triggers that you're not ready to work through quite yet. Perspective, perspective, perspective Here is a reminder that you (and everyone else on this earth) are a spiritual being living a human life. There are aspects to this physical existence that are very compelling illusions, but they are just illusions. Take a breath. Remember who you are. Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk all about boundaries within two-person adult relationships. We tend to have the hardest time implementing and respecting boundaries between the people who are closest to us in our lives such as parents, romantic partners, siblings, or close friends. However, these are the relationships that can benefit most from good boundaries, as they are a part of our every-day lives. I give a 5-step suggestive “how-to” when it comes to setting boundaries. This list is not all-inclusive. When you really “get” boundaries, you don't need these steps, but it's a good place to start. These 5-step are: Set boundaries when you're not emotionally flooded. Let your decisions not be reactionary, but one that is mutually beneficial to both parties. Run through the alternative. When your ego tells you that it'd be more comfortable to avoid the difficult conversation, consider what happens if you don't set your boundary (spoiler alert: usually someone you love suffers). Use empathy. Have faith that if they were in your shoes and knew your story that they would set a similar boundary. Understand that people do things for good reasons and their breach of boundary was probably not malicious. Be vulnerable. Speak your truth with compassion Accept that you are not responsible for their reaction. Reading recommendations: Boundaries by Henry Cloud Loving What Is by Bryon Katie Connect with me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk all about how the ego loves to look to the external world for answers, validation and approval.  This pattern of thought surfaces in the way we: Find ourselves in the perfectionism trap Compare ourselves to others Seek approval from others  Become self-conscious  Take advice without question Form attachments to material things for comfort Announcement: I am pausing my podcast for the summer to spend some time connecting with myself, prioritizing my family, and working on some creative projects that have taken the back seat for a while. Thank you to all of you who join me for every episode. I totally dig your support. You guys are the best. I'll be back at it in the fall - I can't wait to see you then! xx Sarah

In this episode, I talk about a pattern of thinking that our unhealthy ego gets trapped in. This pattern is characterized by ONE. There is only one line of thinking, one option, or one right belief system. This is the world of black and white, right and wrong, good and bad. This ego story hard-lines everything and attaches to absolutes.   You may have experienced this ego story if you have found yourself: In looping thought patterns Needing to be right  Getting defensive Engaging in power struggles Saying “I told you so” Resistant to change  As always, the first step is to become aware that you are in this thought pattern. Secondly, the point is not to overcome the ego entirely, but to make the ego work for you. When you get outside of the “one option/one line of thinking” mindset, then you can consciously make new decisions from several different possibilities, instead of getting trapped into thinking there is only one. Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, we talk about how there are two major parts to manifesting Calling in the life you want Removing subconscious blocks that prevent you from getting it While many sources will focus on techniques that address the former, the second part (which is equally as important) is often overlooked.  I also discuss several different methods to add to your manifesting practice: Start in gratitude Use language and affirmations Surround yourself with positive influences The power of writing Surrender Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk about what manifesting really is. There are components that are “magical”, but it's way more practical than we're led to believe. Manifesting is really just bringing things into existence, which is explained in one of two ways  You change your focus (you notice more of what's good that already exists in your life) You change your actual reality (either you can do it or the Universe can set you up) I talk a tiny bit about quantum physics (on which much of this is based) But more importantly, I highlight the importance of becoming your own source of joy. When you stop needing things from your external environment, then that's when you're free to be. Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, I talk about the prevailing schools of thought around body image. The first one is that we need to strong arm our bodies into being the body we see on TV (diet culture). The second is that we need to love our bodies just the way they are (body positivity).  The problem with both of these is that they can be seen as two sides of the same coin. Both leave us looking to the outside world, wondering "how". Everyone has their opinion on what diet is right for everyone (spoiler alert: there's no one size fits all). And body positivity culture leaves us asking, "How do I love my body when deep down, I really don't?" I address 3 things that we can do to show our bodies love and arrive at the middle ground between these two extremes. 1. Set boundaries with your body 2. Respect and listen to your body 3. Establish how you want to feel about your body and use that as a guidepost when your plans don't work for you anymore. Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us 

In this episode, we discuss why we should re-evaluate our striving for perfection.  Perfection can appear in many facets of our lives, not just work. It shows up in the ways we try to be perfect parents, have the perfect relationship, strive for the perfect body etc.  There are 3 things I bring to light in this episode: 1. Perfection is external and we get it from the world around us. Thus, as we're striving for this image of perfection, it's inauthentic to us, as it's a re-creation of an external image. Perfection also an ever moving target: when we get close to achieving it, a new and better goal will be our next endeavor 2. In the context of creation, perfection tends to paralyze because there will always be ways to make it better. Instead of just "doing it", we will hold out for the more perfect product.  3.. Perfection, on the whole, is not achievable. There will always be something that we're doing "imperfectly". And so instead of recognizing those things in ourselves to self-correct, we tend to project imperfection onto others, which shows up in the form of judgment and criticism.  Images of perfection can be used to inspire, but perhaps we can hold these images a bit out of focus, so that we have room to let our process take on a life of its own that is unique and authentic to us. Connect with me:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Website spiritmindbody.us Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A

In this episode, we talk all about the inner victim. Your inner victim is the part of you that says, "it's not my fault", while blaming someone or something else for being in a disadvantaged state. While your inner victim makes you feel better for a moment, ultimately this is a story that will keep you powerless and stuck.  You can learn to identify when you're in a victim story by the common character traits of all inner victims by the phases the victim uses, both of which are covered in this episode.  The inner victim has lessons for us: empower yourself, keep good boundaries, and make your pain into your purpose. With these lessons, we can learn that it is safe to move out of the victim state and become more of our authentic selves.  Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us   

In this episode, I discuss what this podcast will be all about and why I decided to start this podcast. We all have stories that we tell ourselves that prevent us from living out the life that we really want. They are stories like, "I'm not good enough", "what will they think", "I don't deserve", "I'm not capable". They are stories that are rooted in anxiety, guilt, shame, fear, and comparison. They are subtle and only barely detectable. When we believe these stories, they keep us stuck in the past and prevent us from creating the life we want and living out our soul's purpose. I also cover: My background and experience with these stories  Why we need to start calling these stories out What many of these stories are like How subconscious programming is written and how it plays into our limiting stories Why your subconscious program isn't the authentic you How stress will keep us looping in a subconscious program If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, or share it with a friend.  Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritmind.body/  Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9ENlUL8b3zCtJj-orjuF_A Website spiritmindbody.us