Our Community Listens Podcast

In this episode, Adam J. Salgat and CFCC CEO Misty Janks sit down to discuss company culture and what businesses should keep in mind heading into 2023. They share some new statistics about who employees think is in charge of company culture, how culture has improved after the pandemic, and provide concrete examples of how to enhance connection. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Just like your favorite sitcom, we've put together a compilation episode! Enjoy the key messages from our interviews this past year. Happy Holidays! https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

There are many holiday celebrations on the horizon. This is often joked about as a time of family turmoil. Let's talk about what we can do when a relative starts expressing views that are different than your own. Listen in as Jules Maloney, Wisconsin Regional Director & Director of Virtual Programming, shares many examples of how to move past judgment and into acceptance, even when you don't agree with someone.

Have you ever had trouble getting a co-worker to buy-in on a project? Does it seem as though they don't grasp the importance? Sometimes when we explain things we aren't connecting with them because we aren't saying the way they ‘need' to hear it. In this Skill Snippet, Shara Brice continues our discussion around DISC and explains how style-flexing can help this situation. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Are you new alumni? Did you recently finish the Our Community Listens course and find yourself often checking back to your learning guide? Well, this podcast and its coming episodes are here for you as another form of learning! We'll be reviewing subjects from class, providing more examples and reminders of how to apply the skills at work and at home. In this episode, Adam J. Salgat and Katie Trotter continue breaking down the behavior tendencies of S and C in their purest form. Take the next 30 minutes to learn how to better understand people in your life and how they may prefer to be communicated with. www.chapmancommunities.org/ connect.chapmancommunities.org/page/events

In this episode, Adam Salgat discusses with Jill Wright of South Carolina how she tries to connect with her kids as the school year gets underway. Listen to her personal account of initially having difficulty understanding her son's decision not to join a school club but eventually slowing down and hearing his real concerns. If Jill's listening skills had not come to the surface she might have missed out on something that meant a lot to their relationship. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

In this episode, Adam Salgat, Micki Gibbs, and Mike Desparrois set you up for success as your family goes through the transition of starting a new school year. Listen closely for five tips to bring you closer to your child as they head into a very stressful time of their life. 1. Use door openers 2. Grace and space, don't interrogate 3. Let them lead the conversation 4. Connection before direction 5. Empathize, reflectively listen, and don't problem solve

In this episode, Adam Salgat visits Jenn Rudolph of Michigan Air National Guard who completed her Master's Research Thesis for her course in the Military Arts and Sciences about listening with empathy in the military. Specifically, those that have completed the Our Community Listens course. What challenges did Rudolph face when implementing empathy in their communication practices? What was those indicators that prompted her to view how people in the military communicated? How did she confirm all of this? Tune in to find out how she made this impactful change and her quest to publish her research and findings. Rudolph has been in the military for 13 years and has attended both the three-day Our Community Listens and the marriage course with her husband Jose Tovar. To learn more about their story, go back and listen to episode 063 - Communicating with your partner and military deployment. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Are you new alumni? Did you recently finish the Our Community Listens course and find yourself often checking back to your learning guide? Well, this podcast and its coming episode are here for you as another form of learning! We'll be reviewing subjects from class, providing more examples and reminders of how to apply the skills at work and at home. In this episode, Adam J. Salgat and Katie Trotter take time to talk about the origins of the Extended DISC assessment and begin breaking down the behavior tendencies of D and I in their purest form. Take the next 30 minutes to learn how to better understand people in your life and how they may prefer to be communicated with. Keep an eye out for the upcoming podcast where we look at the S and C tendencies. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/ https://connect.chapmancommunities.org/page/events

Our team is excited to welcome you to the alumni family and share how you can stay connected. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

In this episode, Adam Salgat sits down with Gina Wilson, OCL Alumni, mother of two teens, and Assistant Professor of Educational Leadership at Central Michigan University. Gina discusses using the OCL skills as a parent during the first days of the pandemic. She recalls trying to work with her daughter on her daily routines and how she realized she was instilling learned helplessness in her. This development led to a deeper relationship with her daughter. Moments she once regarded as routine are now rich with connection and purpose. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

“When we went into the course, we were like, ‘What else are we going to learn about each other and about ourselves?'...and it was a lot. So never think that you know enough about yourself or others because there's always more.” -Melanie Pomerville In this episode, Adam J. Salgat sits down with Ryan and Melanie Pomerville, members of the Michigan Air National Guard, to discuss how the OCL skills have impacted their marriage. They share how the two of them try to find ways to connect, even if it is as simple as walking to the mailbox together. They discuss how the DISC assessment has put some quantifiable data in front of them to confirm some behavior tendencies they already saw in each other. As parents of three kids, they discuss how using the five reflecting listening skills has helped them build better relationships with their kids. While at work, using F.B.I. (Feeling Behavior Impact) statements has helped Ryan open up doors he never thought imaginable. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Listen in as host, Adam J. Salgat, talks with Bev Thiel, Executive Director of Kent County, MI Habitat for Humanity. Bev explains why she and her team have found great value in implementing the Our Community Listens skills. She discusses the use of the DISC assessment and how her team uses this knowledge to impact the community members they partner with and serve. Bev also discusses the impact the skills have had in her personal life, including creating a deeper relationship with her son through the power of listening. She explains why these skills are important to her as a female leader in her community and how they provide strength in confrontational situations. Listeners - In this conversation, DISC tendencies are mentioned without a deep explanation. The DISC assessment is a tool we use to identify behavioral and communication styles. Bev refers to herself as having a ‘D' DISC profile. People with ‘D' profiles tend to display characteristics of directness in their leadership and communication practices. If you would like a better understanding of the DISC assessment or simply a refresher, please check out this podcast - https://soundcloud.com/listenfirstpod/epi-038 https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

In this episode, Adam J. Salgat and CFCC CEO Misty Janks sit down to discuss the Great Reshuffle and how the foundational course of Our Community Listens can set up leaders and organizations to handle the changing job market. They also discuss continuing learning opportunities for alumni and the excitement behind hosting community classes again. View learning opportunities - https://connect.chapmancommunities.org/events Contact us at communications@chapmancommunities.org Articles about the Great Reshuffle: https://chiefexecutive.net/its-the-great-reshuffle-not-the-great-resignation/ https://www.shrm.org/executive/resources/people-strategy-journal/spring2022/pages/feature-talent-strategies-shapero.aspx https://www.cnbc.com/2022/02/01/roughly-47-million-people-quit-their-job-last-year.html https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/toxic-culture-is-driving-the-great-resignation/ https://staffmg.com/why_do_people_quit/ https://bit.ly/3jJTZGU

Vacations take a lot of planning and for the most part, that work turns into fun and relaxation. But what happens when something goes wrong and you and your partner are staring at each other with accusations on the tips of your tongues? In this episode, Adam J. Salgat shares a personal story about his recent trip to the "happiest place on earth" and Katie Trotter joins the conversation to break down what the couple was going through in the emotional situation. Use this podcast as a reminder to stay calm this spring break when traveling as there might be times when your emotions are high and logic goes out the window.

If you just recently finished employee reviews and struggled to provide feedback, whether it was good or bad behavior, this podcast is for you! In this episode, Adam J. Salgat has on Jules Maloney to discuss using the Feeling, Behavior, and Impact skill through a leadership lens. Jules breaks down three specific areas we can use this skill, provides examples to bring it into real-life situations, and gives us tips on how to consistently incorporate this skill into our work life. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Register for Virtual OCL - https://bit.ly/3JORWMZ Once you change your behavior and implement the OCL skills, how does that impact your connection with your children and can it help them grow? In this podcast, Adam J. Salgat talks with the mother-daughter team of Micki and Katie Gibbs. They explain how their relationship stayed strong because of Micki's focus on reflective listening during Katie's teen years. Listen close as they share how things could have been very different without the OCL skills.

In this episode, Adam Salgat sits down with newly appointed CEO, Misty Janks, to cover the expansion of programs, including virtual classes happening at CFCC. They also discuss her excitement level moving into her new role and the heritage behind the official name change that took place about one year ago. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Learn more about the Foundations of Leadership course - https://bit.ly/3H84MVK --- You may think you appreciate and recognize your partner, but is it in a way that your partner connects with? In this podcast, you will learn the impact of recognition and appreciation in a relationship, plus tools and skills to truly make your partner feel celebrated. Interested in learning more and interacting with our team directly on this subject? Register for the 'You Don't Appreciate Me!' If you have ever heard this statement, this training is for you." happening on February 23. Click here for the full details - https://bit.ly/3Iz6b7V An article from The Gotman Institute -https://bit.ly/3rOb727

Joining Adam Salgat is Mike Desparrois and one of the newest team members, Micki Gibbs. The three of them discuss logic and emotion in the classroom. They talk about what it's like for students and teachers. Listen close to finding the little tidbits that will help you work with your student or your own child. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

In this episode, Jules Maloney of the Wisconsin Chapter joins me to discuss the 'needs onion'. This layered approach of understanding that every behavior is an expression of a need, helps us become more self-aware and move past judgment. Jules and I take an in-depth look at our needs as a human, discuss real-life real-time examples of identifying our needs and how to manage those feelings and physical changes they could bring on. Our discussion mainly focuses on going through the onion from the inside out - which helps lead us to better self-awareness. In the future, we will work the needs onion from the outside to the inside to help analyze and understand the behavior of others. Jules is also hosting a Zoom Learning Roundtable on needs on Wednesday, October 20th - 7:00-8:30pm EST. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

In this episode, Adam Salgat and Mike Desparrois discuss the nervousness and the feelings we have of our kids heading into two new realms of education. They also talk about acceptance versus agreement and how that applies to working with teachers in this busy time of year. Listen closely as they give examples of what they're going through and how they feel overwhelmed by everything going on. Then think about the things that you do when you feel overwhelmed and how you deal with all of those emotions. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Katie and Jonathan Trotter join Adam J. Salgat to discuss how we utilize our skills when working directly with our children and while co-parenting. Listen close as many real-life examples are shared. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

For those of us that have already been through the communication skills training, it doesn't take data to convince us of its worth. But as the CFCC approaches business, municipalities, and schools to encourage partnerships, backing up the 'feel good stories' with empirical evidence can only strengthen a case to implement the course. In this episode, Adam J. Salgat and Mike Desparrois have a discussion with Gina Wilson from Central Michigan University about the work being done to add this element to quiver for the CFCC team. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

As Our Community Listens, transitions into the Chapman Foundation for Caring Communities, this podcast will continue to be a tool to refresh the teachings of the communication skills course. It will also allow us to learn more about the people inside the organization and the businesses we partner with. In this discussion, Adam talks with facilitators Jonathan Trotter and Jules Maloney about the new training titled Foundations of Leadership. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

As Our Community Listens, transitions into the Chapman Foundation for Caring Communities, this podcast will continue to be a tool to refresh the teachings of the communication skills course. It will also allow us to learn more about the people inside the organization and the businesses we partner with. In this first episode, we set the table. I have a conversation with the Executive Director of the CFCC, Rebecca Buell. She spends time talking about the name change, about how the organization is keeping their core foundation of skills training, all while expanding offerings to make a bigger impact. https://www.chapmancommunities.org/

Our Community Listens in Partnerships - In the following conversation with Our Community Listens national team members, Leader of Education Initiatives-Mike Desparrois, and Senior Leader of Strategic Engagements, Misty Janks will discuss how OCL skills have impacted her life and how she has used them to support her family and raise her two daughters. Listen as she gives real-life examples of how the skills have improved her relationship with her older daughter and how they’ve moved her younger daughter to excel in sports. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

NEW PODCAST ALERT! Join Adam J. Salgat, Mike Desparrois and Shara Brice - Strategic Engagement Leader - as they discuss the four partnership divisions of Our Community Listens. Shara also recounts her 10 years with the organization. As you listen, think about how you could impact your company, community group, or circler of friends by instilling the communication skills training. Visit https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/ for more information. https://soundcloud.com/ourcommunitylistens/epi-066

In this podcast, we will hear from Joe White and how he has built a successful teaching and coaching career in high school based on building and maintaining relationships with other educators and kids. Joe will discuss how he has taken the OCL course and how he uses the skills with the projects he is currently working on. https://www.whitey97consulting.com/ https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Skill Snippet - Empathy & Leadership by Our Community Listens Podcast

Have you ever had a problem and were unsure of exactly what to do? You've created a series of scenarios in your mind only to remain unsure of the best approach. In this skill snippet I will unfold the three options you have when facing a problem.

Change a word that Educators are learning to embrace more and more each day. Listen as Michelle Marshall, a Counselor walks us through the box. "How we process change" through the lens of an Educator!!!!"

Skill Snippet - Acceptance vs. agreement with your child's choices by Our Community Listens Podcast

Skill Snippet - How to handle a young child's temper tantrums or blow ups by Our Community Listens Podcast

What Drives Our Behavior?

Two Tools To Better Understand Our Partner's Behavior

Join Adam J. Salgat as he discusses delivering a confrontation message with Julie Chapman. We tend to avoid confrontation, yet if we don’t choose to confront, will anything change? Examine the value of starting a conversation, exploring both perspectives, and asking the other person for change. Practice listening to understand, rather than listening to reply. Considering the other person's perspective, you may discover something new, which could change the outcome of the conflict. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Join hosts Adam J. Salgat and Katie Trotter as they discuss communication with military couple, Jen Rudolph and Jose Tovar.

Do you know your own values? What happens when the core things important to us are different than those of our partner? Values are at play in everything we do, the decisions we make, the way we interact with others, the relationships we grow. We likely have different values than those around us, which is usually not a problem, yet when we are doing life in close relationships with others, having shared values and a shared understanding of each other’s values is key. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

We are constantly sending messages with nonverbal communication of facial expressions, body posture, gestures, and tone of voice. We might not realize the impact nonverbal has on the integrity of our message. The words we use will have greater influence and connect with our listener if we take the time to consider our nonverbal communication in our messaging. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Adam J. Salgat, Sarah Weisbarth, Mike Desparrois, and Executive Director Rebecca Buell sit down with some hot cocoa and reminisce about Christmases past. You’ll learn who can’t wait for Christmas music to start, what saffron bread is, how giving the perfect wing-tipped boot created a magical memory, and what it is like to celebrate the Christmas holiday in Australia! https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

We all have a lens through which we see things, the world, and others. My perspective is different than yours and yours is different than others. How do we still value people and relationships when we see the differences, people behave in ways we cannot agree with, and we just do not know what to do when people react in ways we do not understand? Listen to Adam J. Salgat, Sarah Weisbarth, and Dr. Gina Wilson Assistant Professor of Educational Leadership at Central Michigan University and facilitator for Our Community Listens. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Our behavior has an impact on ourselves and others, whether it is intended or not. Often, we are unaware of the impact of our behavior. We grow and change when we pause, address OUR OWN behavior and ensuing impact, AND share with others the impact of THEIR behavior. Impact matters. As we wrap up a series on effective confrontation, Impact is a key ingredient of our FBI statement used in recognition and when asking for change. Sarah Weisbarth tells us about the four categories of impact – time, money, fulfillment, energy. She and Adam J. Salgat talk about identifying the impact category that best fits the person you are going to confront. The power of recognition statements is discussed and the sweetness level of sweet potato casserole. :-) HAPPY THANKSGIVING! https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Vulnerability, makes you shudder or shut down just thinking about the courage it takes to be vulnerable with yourself and others. Yet, if we want to grow closer in our relationships, be understood, and create the opportunity to understand others, we have to make the commitment to create a space where vulnerability is strengthening not terrifying. Do you have the courage? https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

“Why does it matter?” Ever get this response from someone when you point out their behavior? Impact matters. Our impact on others AND our ability state the impact of their actions. Jill Wright helps us understand how to motivate others to change by providing meaningful impact statements. Part of a series related to Effective Confrontation, yet insightful information when we consider what motivates others. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Kids want to hear what they are doing well. Giving them praise and recognition in a clear, meaningful format will improve their self-esteem and reinforce positive behaviors. Learn the formula for telling young people what they did well and why it mattered. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

In this episode Mike Desparrois, Teresa Vineyard, and Dr. Gary Morris from St. Edward University in Austin, TX discuss the relationship between the two institutes, how the university has helped students through these tough times, and the development of the Podcast Listening Group...think book club. Dr. Morris teaches physics, astronomy, meteorology & earth science. He held a Dept. of Energy Global Change Graduate Fellowship and a National Research Council Post-Doctoral Fellowship at NASA studying the ozone layer before becoming a research faculty member at UMBC. He began studying ozone pollution while a Weiss Instructor of Physics at Rice (2000 - 2004), where he started his weather balloon project, then taught at Valparaiso U. from 2004 - 2010 before becoming Associate Dean there. During 2008 and 2009 he was a Fulbright Scholar in Japan studying the influence of Chinese pollution before, during, and after the Olympics. Dr. Morris became Dean of Natural Sciences at SEU in July 2014. Plus, Adam thinks he sounds a little bit like Mr. Rogers. :-) https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/ https://www.stedwards.edu/

Our emotional reaction to the behaviors of others can either bring us closer or drive us further apart. Listen to learn more about where our personal perspective or viewpoint comes from and how it influences our behavior and effectively asking others to change their behavior. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

What is behavior telling us about ourselves and others? Behaviors are observable actions tied to needs and values. When we place labels of judgment on someone's behaviors, we create disconnection. Learn how to focus on the behavior of others to improve relationships and ask for change. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

Judgment can cause a lot of hurt and distance with our partner. In this snippet, we explore why it's so easy to judge our partner, the impact it has on our relationship, and what we can do instead. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/

In this episode, Mike Desparrois and Teresa Vineyard, welcome in fellow educator, Dr. Emilie Johnson. Dr. Johnson is a Professor of Education at Lindenwood University in Missouri. She also has 13 years of experience in public school teaching, administration, and teacher training. Dr. Johnson was awarded the St. Charles County 40 Under 40 Award, St. Charles County Ring of Excellence in Teaching Award, and The Missouri Governor’s Award for Excellence in Teaching. In the Fall of 2017, Dr. Johnson became a School Consultant and Coach for CharacterPlus of St. Louis. Dr. Johnson is most proud of her title of “mom” to two incredible young women ages 21 and 18. She is also a dog mom to Piper, Prada, and Murphy who keep her on her toes when they are not warming her feet. Listen close to this robust and powerful conversation as the trio discusses character education, social and emotional learning, and the critical importance of the adult culture at a school. https://www.ourcommunitylistens.org/