The Wildness with Tiff & Manda

What is chosen family? Why is it such an important and very real thing? Why do the gays need it? Why has Tiff taken so long to watch pose? The Wild Ones Chat how to navigate having to create your own loves. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Labels! We all have them, most of us use them but are they helpful or nah? In this episode Tiff and Manda interrogate labels, including whether or not they fit the criteria of being wild! (spoiler alert!! THEY DO) Also have you ever run Cliterfearance? Are you part of the Muffia? The Wild Ones chatted about suss these labels out. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram - the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

What are we naming our collective pu**y? Can you say the word 'vagina' to your parents? What are the myths around vaginas? Is your vagina meat a sexual burrito? And what the hell are meat curtains? Also what is a lesbianic job? The Wild Ones sit down and discuss how we are naming our vaginas and how we speaking A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: IG the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - Caring for your vagina a listicle - holaafrica.org/caring-for-your-vagina-a-listicle/ - African sexualities: A Reader Nkiru Nzewgu Osunality (or the African Erotic) - www.africaknowledgeproject.org/index.php…/view/776 - Celebrating the Taboo: Janelle Monae's 'Pynk' and Why I'm Refusing to Accept That Vaginas are Vulgar -www.okayafrica.com/taboo-janelle-m…dirty-computer/ - How Many Words That Mean Vagina Do You Know? - www.buzzfeed.com/erinlarosa/how-m…wBkK#.rpYR0QEZmX

What actually counts as cheating? Does Manda know how to cheat? Can you cheat if you are poly/in an open relationship? What should you tell yourself after you have been cheated on? The Wild Ones unpack all the different parts of stepping out on your situation. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Is babes OK? Are we asking if our partners are happy? Relationshipping M& E is a real thing. Here is a wild concept...love and relationships are not things that just happen ‘because babes, life isn't a fairytale and your ass aint Cindrella'...whaaaaattttttt!!!! The Wild Ones chat the benefits and importance of relationship monitoring and evaluation, because yes, even the dynamics of your relationships need to be kept up with. Geddit! A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

What is call out culture? Why is it a scam? Who gets the call out culture clap back and how does call out culture happen? Do Tiff & Panda even know how to behave? Has it been four years since the wild ones podcasted? Also shout out to the padded cell. Thanks Ciku for telling Tiff about beauty YouTube. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

How do you get a threesome on and poppin? Should you do a lil research before getting into the vibe? What about a small date inyana? Can it be romantic? Can Tiff & Manda fix the wildness that was the episode with Botho and Sibu? Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

What is the Friendzone? Should be getting a** from folks cause you nice to them? Are people just running a long con by being nice? Why is the idea of the friendzone shady af? The Wild Ones tackle what it means to be getting sad someone ain't trying to sex you. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

All good (and bad) things come to an end. Much as queer want a fairy tale romance and happy ending it can sometimes turn into an all mighty sh*t show and you end up breaking up. So in this episode throw back we are going to chat about breaking up. The Wild Ones chat about them final moments in a relationship. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram - the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge The Wildness Instagram: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: @HOLAAfrica

Valentine's day is here and what better time to figure out if your relationship is doing proper things. It's time to ask: Is babes OK? Are we asking if our partners are happy? Relationshipping M& E is a real thing. Here is a wild concept...love and relationships are not things that just happen ‘because babes, life isn't a fairytale and your ass aint Cindrella'...whaaaaattttttt!!!! The Wild Ones chat the benefits and importance of relationship monitoring and evaluation, because yes, even the dynamics of your relationships need to be kept up with. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge The Wildness Instagram: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: @HOLAAfrica

IT IS SEASON 3 AND THE WILD ONES ARE BACK! For this episode we break down what this here Wildness thing is and also Leon asks us some Teen Vogue type questions. What are the wild ones afraid of? What is their fave thing? Which celeb would the Wild Ones want as squad? Its #20plenty and it's time to get this year on an poppin'! Buckle in Wild Ones, it shall be a bumpy ride. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Its about that time of the year again people! We're wrapping up season 2 by having a little chat about what popped (and didn't) in this year of our Beyonce 2019! And we shall see you all in the year of our Lizzo 2020! WE OUT .... B***CH Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

In the second instalment of the BDSM series Tiff and Manda are chatting with the Chido about being a sub. So what is a sub? What is a dom...actually what is a tech dom? Where do you find one? Does everyone have to be covered in leather? Do we have to be snaaxxing or nah? Did Leon clean the stu? And what does Tiff being a war journalist have to do with all of this? Join us in a conversation about consent, creation, communication and a dive into sub and dom relationships. Chido social medias: On Twitter @etanaPatra and on Instagram @etanapatriot Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Is there a sexy poem at 14:00 mins in to the podcast? Yes. Did the wild ones have a guest? Was there an erotica anthology released? Also what is a muse and are they naked. This podcast will answer these questions. Also Chinue Igwe drops us a poem. A sexy erotic poem. Chinue on instagram: @chi.nuanced Dark Juices can be downloaded here – Mobile version: https://drive.google.com/open?id=1WOSfoF60UkbizeV5btRdr7ZElgTu3ZWw Double page spread: https://drive.google.com/open?id=10GAGaMqGmABVQvrraMnzyox1wP9qGTs5

Abuse in LGBTIQ relationships is something that we are silent about. We not trying to speak about it and just hiding it. Manda and Tiff speak about abuse in queer relationships, the second closet and how abuse is different in queer spaces. The Wild Ones return with part II of abuse in queer relationships and spaces. If you have not listened to part I go back and listen to it. We recap some of the previous episode. The podcast breaks down different types of abuse because abuse is not just physical. Also how do you recognise the signs of abuse? Your ‘drama' could be abuse. Tiff is also still unpacking how her old relationship and how there was signs of abuse in ways. Sometimes you need a podcast and a Panda to figure things out. Links to check out: Querying the cloak, Queering the solution: Dealing with violence and abuse in our own feminist spaces - http://holaafrica.org/querying-the-cloak-queering-the-solution-dealing-with-violence-and-abuse-in-our-own-feminist-spaces/ In the Absence of Accountability: A queer woman's rape in feminist spaces- http://holaafrica.org/in-the-absence-of-accountability-a-lesbian-rape-in-feminist-spaces/ 'Who's Going to Believe Me?'—Why It's So Hard to Talk About Domestic Abuse in LGBTQ Relationships - https://www.self.com/story/why-its-so-hard-to-talk-about-domestic-abuse-in-lgbtq-relationship

TW: Mention of physical abuse and sexual violence Abuse in LGBTIQ relationships is something that we are silent about. We not trying to speak about it and just hiding it. Manda and Tiff speak about abuse in queer relationships, the second closet and how abuse is different in queer spaces. The hosts discuss how abuse in queer spaces can take different forms and how to recognise it. Myths in intimate partner violence in queer relationships. Recognising intimate partner violence, the hosts share stories and not wanting to show our mess to the heteros. The hosts also break down types of abuse. Activism and abuse. When your loved on/ someone you know has been accused of abuse. Speaking about a feminism that can account. P.s Shout out to Feminist in India and South American Feminists who set the world on fire. Links to check out: Querying the cloak, Queering the solution: Dealing with violence and abuse in our own feminist spaces - http://holaafrica.org/querying-the-cloak-queering-the-solution-dealing-with-violence-and-abuse-in-our-own-feminist-spaces/ In the Absence of Accountability: A queer woman's rape in feminist spaces- http://holaafrica.org/in-the-absence-of-accountability-a-lesbian-rape-in-feminist-spaces/ Not all queers want to be queens: The dominant to precarious queer spectrum- http://holaafrica.org/not-all-queers-want-to-be-queens-the-dominant-to-precarious-queer-spectrum/ 'Who's Going to Believe Me?'—Why It's So Hard to Talk About Domestic Abuse in LGBTQ Relationships - https://www.self.com/story/why-its-so-hard-to-talk-about-domestic-abuse-in-lgbtq-relationships The autonomy project CAL- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sm_fuScArIU

What is asexuality? Can you be sex positive and asexual? Why do people want to fix asexual people? How do you know you are asexual? Can you date and be asexual? Panda and Tiff learned ALL the things during this podcast. Some people ain't f*cksing with the fuxxing and they are not broken. Come learn how. Links to check out: What is asexuality - http://www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/ The Asexual Spectrum – Huff Post - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/asexual-spectrum_n_3428710

The Wild Ones discuss heteronormativity in this episode and it is well… wild. Tiff is off on a tangent. Panda says she is having someone else's baby. Someone walks out the stu. Leon says listen with caution. Despite the chaos we actually manage to drop some wisdom on heteronormativity and what it be. (it's a little longer than the average but love us). Links to check out: What Is Heteronormativity – And How Does It Apply to Your Feminism? Here Are 4 Examples- https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/what-is-heteronormativity/ Heteronormativity: What It Is and Why It's a Problem- https://www.entitymag.com/heteronormativity-meaning-problems/

Why is faking orgasms more complex than a few moans and eye rolling for a little while? Why are people faking orgasms? Why did Tiff snitch on herself about faking? Does Manda's vag*na twerk? And Manda has faked COUNTLESS orgasms with men. Where does Leon keep going whilst in we the stu? Tiff and Panda were trying to turn it up in the studio to New Jack Swing *it's a party* Links to check: The Real Reasons women are faking orgasms - EveryDay Feminism https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/05/women-fake-orgasms/ What A Fake ‘Female Orgasm' Statistic Says About Gender Bias - https://medium.com/the-establishment/what-a-fake-female-orgasm-statistic-says-about-gender-bias-591985f8d68c

Are you high key cheating? Is Tiff trying to engage properly with polyamory? Had Manda grown in her polyamory? Did the Wild Ones answer a series of questions about polyamory and how to do it? Yes. Are those jungle sounds in the backgrounds? Make sure you listen to polyamory 101 episode (episode 6): https://soundcloud.com/thewildnesstiffandmanda/the-wildness-ep-6-the-wildness-chats-polyamory

'Do The Homie! Do The Homie!' Hooking up with squad exes. Are we having the convo of ‘does they do that thing?' It is a hard to detach? Should you centre yourself? How did they end? How long were they together? Who is deserving of love? *boxing commentator voice* Comrades, feminists, activists and esteemed Wild Ones...Are you reeeaaaddddyyyy to ruummmmbbbblllleeee!!! This episode Tiff and Manda almost come to blows over whether or not it's cool to date your friend's ex, or your ex's friend. It. Got. So. Real Spoiler alert...we're still together

Is Panda using lube? How are people finding that person to grind up on a Friday night or love forever as a queer person on the continent? What is Tu? Why is data so expensive sometimes? What are the inclusive apps? How can apps be used against you within your own country? Accessing the internet is also exclusive. In this podcast we break down dating, the continent and the digital space. Shout out to APC and Xeernah and Coding Rights. The Wild Ones speak about how to find love and sex and how the online space is helping and hurting queer folks to find love, community and snaxing. Also people go to conferences to get LAID! *We see you* A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life.

Labels! We all have them, most of us use them but are they helpful or nah? In this episode Tiff and Manda interrogate labels, including whether or not they fit the criteria of being wild! (spoiler alert!! THEY DO) Also have you ever run Cliterfearance? Are you part of the Muffia? The Wild Ones chatted about suss these labels out. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram - the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out:

Is masturbation always political or can it be just to get off? What are some of the messed-up myths around masturbation and women? Also do you HAVE to have candles when I rub one out (can masturbation not take all day please?) Why is Leon drink shaming us? And why has Manda got ANOTHER best friend? We teach you how to say Botho's name? The Wild Ones chatted about that self love and doing the snaxing solo. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: IG the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - 13 reasons masturbation is a feminist act - Bustle https://www.bustle.com/articles/81994-13-reasons-masturbation-is-a-feminist-act - Orgasms are good for you - Bustle https://www.bustle.com/articles/109181-5-surprising-ways-orgasms-are-scientifically-proven-to-make-your-life-better - 7 Myths About Women and Masturbation It's Time to Unlearn Right Now – Everyday feminism https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/myths-women-masturbation/ - So many ways to come so little time: Types of orgasm you should know about (Repost) http://holaafrica.org/10667/

Where does everyone get their sexy things? Should Panda pay for rent or pay for feminist p*rn? Is Tiff watching the whole p*rn clip or just the snax? Also womxn really like p*rn and spend more time on adult sites on average than their male counterparts. The Wild Ones are discussing sexy times. Shout out Tlangi! Panda and us love you! And do we need to put a tiny tampon in?

‘A girl crush is a non-sexual, non-romantic admiration that one woman has for another.' What is that anyway? Are the straight women outchea thinking people is cute? When you say it are you secretly saying ‘no homo'? The Wild Ones discuss the phrase girl crush and whether you need #WCW in your life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: IG the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - It's Time We Reevaluate The Phrase "Girl Crush"-https://www.refinery29.com/2014/03/64071/girl-crush-lesbian-homophobia?bucketed=true&bucketing_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.co.za%2F - What's More Annoying: Spirit Animal or Girl Crush? https://www.manrepeller.com/minor_cogitations/spirit-animal-girl-crush.html - Girl crush: why the queer and lesbian community is http://fashionista.com/2014/03/girl-crush-why-the-lesbian-and-queer-women-community-is-fashions-major-blind-spot/ - Politically I choose to only date women - http://holaafrica.org/politically-i-choose-to-only-date-women-say-what-now/

Is being sex positive mean you are constantly Down To F**k? Do you have to be constantly be looking to get a finger in your butt randomly? Are period snacks a real thing? Also how have we never done a sex positivity podcast? The Wild Ones sit down and chat about how to do this sex positive thing. Shout out to our white girl Casey who pole dances! Also we met a Sexy Lexy! Links to check out: - Oh Joy Sex Toy: What does it mean to be sex positive?- https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/oh-joy-sex-toy-what-does-it-mean-be-sex-positive - 8 Ways To Be Positive You're Sex Positive - http://www.thefrisky.com/2012-05-09/8-ways-to-be-positive-youre-sex-positive/ - 5 Myths Sex-Positive Feminism Can Perpetuate About Women Who Don't Do Casual Sex - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/05/sex-positive-casual-sex-myths/ - 7 Myths About Sex-Positive Feminists (Bustle )- https://www.bustle.com/articles/113037-7-myths-about-sex-positive-feminists

The Wild Ones chat about them final moments in a relationship. Follow The Wildness on Instagram - the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge Tiff on Twitter: tiffmugo and Instagram: kagsmugo HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: @HOLAAfrica

Where have the wild ones been? How do you send your naked body over the interwebs? Why is revenge porn a scam? And we're baaaaaaaccccckkkkkkk!!!! Welcome to Season 2 Wild Ones. Tiff and Manda have been plotting away in the stu coming up with awesome episodes for season número dos. This episode we do a young recap of what the wildness is for baby Wild Ones who will be joining us this season and jumping straight into the art and complexity of sending segzy pics through the innanets. We delve into revenge porn and if that name is legit or nah. Grab your wine, take a sexy snap of your knee (listen, it'll make sense lol) and lets get it popping for 20-FINEteen A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: Revenge porn: 5 Important reasons we should not call it by that name - https://www.genderit.org/articles/5-important-reasons-why-we-should-not-call-it-revenge-porn How to send safe nudes without ruining your life - https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/safe-sexting-how-to-send-nude-photos-watermark-not-ruin-life-annika-simons-facebook-a7785311.html 10 sexting tips that will protect your nudes and take dirty talk to the next level - https://hellogiggles.com/lifestyle/technology/10-sexting-tips-that-will-protect-your-nudes-and-take-dirty-talk-to-the-next-level/

What popped with Tiff & Manda in TwentyGAYteen? Moving, heart breaks, studying, starting podcasts, violence in the community and movement, f**ky politics, good friendship and showing up for people, why folks aint s**t and being on NGO boards. The Wild Ones count down their top things that happened, chatting the high lows of 2018. Grab your last glasses of wine and join them. This the last episode of the year and of Season One. But do not worry we shall be back in the new year. Come back to us in Jan 2019! @QueerWoc have the DOPEST intro song! And we stay fan girling. Follow The Wildness on Instagram - the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: @HOLAAfrica

What should you do when the family are stressing you? Do you have to turn up for EVERY family event? Is Netflix and hide a real thing? What should you do when being around loved ones are triggered? Not everything is your circus and not everyone is your monkey. The Wild Ones give this extra special Christmas episode to help you navigate the holiday times, because we know these aren't always easy. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: When you're not welcome home for the holiday - https://www.afterellen.com/people/465849-youre-not-welcome-home-holidays - Queer and heading home for the holidays - https://thebrag.com/out-about-queer-heading-home-holidays/ - LGBT and heading home for the holidays- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/gay-and-lesbian-well-being/201411/lgbt-and-heading-home-the-holidays - 6 ways queer people can practice self care over the holiday - https://www.bustle.com/p/6-ways-queer-people-can-practice-self-care-over-the-holidays-26009

What IS 16 Days of Activism? Should there be a queer feminist critique of the campaign? Is this s**t working? What are the different types of violence we need to look out for outside of putting your hands on someone? Also we ask @QueerWoc on a podcast date! The Wild Ones chatted about 16 Days of Activism and how it needs to thought of in different ways. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: @HOLAAfrica

How do we define bisexuality? What are the myths of bisexuality? Does sleeping with a woman for 8 years disqualify you as being bisexual? Are you a monosexual? So what if I want sleep with errbody? Did Tiff see Sheena and Shaka in Nepal? How has Amanda been charging her phone whilst Tiffy was aware? Can you pay your rent off foot fetishes? The Wild Ones chatted about bisexuality and the myths and misconceptions behind it. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - 5 things to stop asking bisexuals: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/06/stop-asking-bisexuals/ - Bi sexual erasure: http://www.glaad.org/bisexual/bierasure - 9 Lies People Tell You When You Come Out as Bisexual – And How to Heal From Them-https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/09/lies-tell-you-when-bisexual/ - 30 Bisexual Women Discuss Their Long-Term Relationships With Men http://www.buzzfeed.com/ashleyford/32-bisexual-women-discuss-their-longterm-relationships-with#.lkg5y03LJ

How well should you plan? How many carbs should you eat? How much drama should you pack in your luggage? There are a whole host of wet and wild things to ensure you live your best baecation life! The Wild Ones chatted after Manda went on a fuck-cation and has returned to give us all the juice and the do's and don'ts of snaxxxing (also known as sexing) on vacation! A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

What do you do with your tampon when reading naked? How can naked reading help with loving your body? And why is Facebook such a hater? Also New hashtag: #Censortivity The Wild Ones sipped vino with Sibongile and Alicia from Naked Girls Reading Johburg and discussed what it's like to read with no clothes on. Could they do it? Who knows. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - Naked Girl Reading: Pop Art : https://popartcentre.co.za/events/naked-girls-reading/ - What is Naked Girls Reading (New Zealand): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJhYoAEFi1M

What are we naming our collective pu**y? Can you say the word 'vagina' to your parents? What are the myths around vaginas? Is your vagina meat a sexual burrito? And what the hell are meat curtains? Also what is a lesbianic job? The Wild Ones sit down and discuss how we are naming our vaginas and how we speaking A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram: IG the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - Caring for your vagina a listicle - http://holaafrica.org/caring-for-your-vagina-a-listicle/ - African sexualities: A Reader Nkiru Nzewgu Osunality (or the African Erotic) - https://www.africaknowledgeproject.org/index.php/jenda/article/view/776 - Celebrating the Taboo: Janelle Monae's 'Pynk' and Why I'm Refusing to Accept That Vaginas are Vulgar -http://www.okayafrica.com/taboo-janelle-monae-pynk-refusing-to-accept-that-vaginas-are-vulgar-pussy-power-dirty-computer/ - How Many Words That Mean Vagina Do You Know? - https://www.buzzfeed.com/erinlarosa/how-many-words-that-mean-vagina-do-you-know?utm_term=.adz6jgwBkK#.rpYR0QEZmX

What is squirting and what is the biology behind it? Can you learn to squirt? What does squirting have to do with the rivers in Rwanda? Did Tiff need to squirt or did she need to pee? What countries are searching squirting on the internet? And why is Amanda but naked on the couch? We kept catching feelings about Coachella even if it happened ages ago. This episode of The Wild Ones poured some wine and chat about squirting and the logistics. The Wild Ones also introduce Whats Poppin' With Chu? Where they break down what good and bad thing is going down in their lives, cause they love you knowing their lives. Also cause The Wild Ones A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - Kunyaza: African secret to female orgasm: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/kunyaza-african-secret-to-female-orgasm?page=28 - 6 Women Discuss What It's Really Like to Ejaculate During Sex- https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a34652/sex-talk-realness-squirting/ - Let's talk about squirting: Why is it important, and what does it feel like? - https://medium.com/clued-in/lets-talk-about-squirting-why-is-it-important-and-what-does-it-feel-like-8637651d40da - Everything you need to know about squriting - https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/how-to-make-a-girl-squirt-what-is-a-squirting-orgasm - This Sexual Activity Is Giving Women Space To Do The One Thing Patriarchy Hates- https://www.youthkiawaaz.com/2016/04/bdsm-and-feminism/

Should I hide my poly lifestyle from my new squeeze? What do you do if your partner knows new things in bed without learning them with you? What do I do when my girlfriend sexually hurts me? Fear not because The Wild Ones are here to help by tackling these questions on this episode of The Wildness, answering your burning questions so life doesn't show you flames. Trigger warning: Sexual violence. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Will you eat edible panties if they come in the form of a thong? Our fave feminist farmer (NOT Criminal Minds things doe!) is back on the podcast and this time we're chatting Food and Sensuality. Fam did you know that such a thing exists beyond edible undies? We chat about whether or not women who do not like to eat can be trusted, the awesome chef skills of our guests, how nourishing food can be both sexual, sensual and spiritual, luxurious water, and should you really be eating yogurt to balance out the PH of your vagina or is it just a capitalist scam?? The Wild Ones sat down with Fadzai to chat about sex, food and the body. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge Fadzai on Twitter @inorangemoon and Instagram: @vhunzemoto HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Is babes OK? Are we asking if our partners are happy? Relationshipping M& E is a real thing. Here is a wild concept...love and relationships are not things that just happen ‘because babes, life isn't a fairytale and your ass aint Cindrella'...whaaaaattttttt!!!! The Wild Ones chat the benefits and importance of relationship monitoring and evaluation, because yes, even the dynamics of your relationships need to be kept up with. Geddit! A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

How do you deal with homophobic tendencies whilst being queer? How do you ask to be spanked in bed? How do you deal with having feelings for your friend? Fear not because The Wild Ones are here to help by tackling these questions on this episode of The Wildness, answering your burning questions so life doesn't show you flames. Follow The Wildness on Instagram the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

How did the convo go from masturbation to having threesomes? Why wont Botho and Sibu be in a group event? How do you just FALL into a threesome? Why is Tiff trying to watch people have sex? Also Manda flashes us in the studio. Conferencing is also a mess. A whole mess. The Wild Ones sat down with Botho Maruatona and Sibu Malunga. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow Botho on IG: bkmaruatona and Sibu on IG: sibusiso_malunga Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - 10 Ways To Have A Sexy, Intimate Threesome - https://www.refinery29.com/2017/02/141781/how-to-have-a-threesome-sex-tips - 24 Threesome Tips From Women Who Have Had Them - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a46943/threesome-tips-from-women-who-have-had-them/ - Threesomes Part 1: Gettin' it on and poppin' - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mv2nA6WUnmQ&t=23s

What can white people do to be better? How do you navigate sexuality and being a gay Indian? Does Haji like sex during the day? Why was Manda a sad panda? Also Haji joined a cult. A whole cult. The Wild Ones sat down with Haji, author of the awesome 'Sorry not Sorry experiences of a brown woman in a white South Africa', a book that explores the often maddening experience of moving through post-apartheid South Africa as a woman of colour. We chatted family, sexuality, writing, mental health, being with a white woman and also… sneakers. Jordans to be exact. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow Haji on Twitter and Instagram: @sage_of_abusrd Follow The Wildness on Instagram IG: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: Get the book on Kindle and paper back: https://www.amazon.com/Sorry-Not-Experiences-brown-Africa/dp/177609266X Book Extract: Sorry, Not Sorry – experiences of a brown woman in a white South Africa - https://www.dailymaverick.co.za/article/2018-04-10-book-extract-sorry-not-sorry-experiences-of-a-brown-woman-in-a-white-south-africa/#.WvmUgYiFPIU South Africans of colour don't really write what we like says Haji Mohamed Dawjee says in her book Sorry Not Sorry: Experience of a brown woman- http://www.thedailyvox.co.za/haji-mohamed-dawjee-writes-what-she-likes-in-sorry-not-sorry-shaazia-ebrahim/

This week the Wild Ones have a sit down with an awesome guest to chat Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Masochism (BDSM). What's in a name? Does all kink have to be called BDSM? Does it have to hurt? What the hell is a hard no and a soft yes? Also consent my people...C.O.N.S.E.N.T. Grab your homies and a glass of wine and lets chat kink and BDSM. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge Fadzai on Twitter @inorangemoom and Instagram: @vhunzemoto HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - 25 Facts About BDSM That You Won't Learn In "Fifty Shades Of Grey"- https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/ultimate-guide-to-bdsm?utm_term=.fu5bK89Ed#.vnZ5PN92X - How to Make Sex and Relationships Work When Only One of You Is Kinky - https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/avy9d4/how-to-make-sex-and-relationships-work-when-only-one-of-you-is-kinky - What It's Like to Be a Black Woman Into Kink - https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/3b4qkn/what-its-like-to-be-a-black-woman-into-kink

*Warning: this podcast had ALL the technical issues, we shall get our Skype game right.* Through first-hand accounts, She Called Me Woman challenges us to rethink what it means to be a Nigerian ‘woman', negotiating relationships, money, sexuality and freedom, identifying outside the gender binary, and the difficulties of achieving hopes and dreams under the constraints of societal expectations and legal terrorism. “We decided to put together this collection of thirty narratives to correct the invisibility, the confusion, the caricaturising and the writing out of history.” The book's editors and creators were inspired by similar books such as Bareed Mista3jil by the organisation Meem about Lebanon; Facing the Mirror: Lesbian Writing from India edited by Ashwini Sukthankar; and Tommy Boys, Lesbian Men and Ancestral Wives: Female Same-Sex Practices in Africa edited by Ruth Morgan and Saskia Wierenga about Kenya, Namibia, South Africa, Swaziland, Tanzania and Uganda. The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and sat down to chat about Azeenarh Mohammed, one of the editors of the anthology and asked how exactly did they make a plan about this thang. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter manda_hodge and Instagram: manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: The publishers, Cassava Republic speak on their works: https://www.cassavarepublic.biz/products/she-called-me-woman She Called Me Woman on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/She-Called-Me-Woman-Nigerias/dp/1911115596 Ms Afropolitan chats on her site about the book: https://www.msafropolitan.com/2018/03/she-called-me-woman-cassava-republic.html Brittle Paper Review of She Called Me Woman: https://brittlepaper.com/2018/03/review-cassava-republics-called-woman-queer-nigerian-women-speak-cisi-eze/ The editors of She Called me Woman speak https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ej24VOjaBgo&feature=youtu.be

What do you do when cheat on every woman I date with a man even though I hate the sex? Or you have now caught feelings for the married older woman you were having an affair with? And what do you do if you have a crush on your (potentially straight) roomate? Fear not because The Wild Ones are here to help by tackling these questions on this episode of The Wildness, answering your burning questions so life doesnt show you flames. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram IG: the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter: manda_hodge and Instagram: IG: manda_hodge Fadzai on Twitter HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica

Is Polyamory giving you stress? You're not the only one love. With tricky terms such as triads, truplets, primary partners and main partners, menamors and metamors, who can blame us for having a minor ‘system cannot compute' moment? Also is it really just highkey cheating? Are there sister wives involved? Is it a tiny competition? The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda, sat down, threw back some wine and chatted Polyamory 101! A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - Polyamory 101: A Super-Sweet Beginners Guide- https://mytinysecrets.com/polyamory-101-a-super-sweet-beginners-guide/ - 8 Things to Consider in Polyamorous Dating Before Committing to Another Partner - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/polyamorous-dating-consider/ - 5 Dangerous Mistakes I Made When I Started Practicing Polyamory - https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/09/mistakes-made-practicing-polyamory/

Is it about how much sex you have or is it how you DO the sex? Also what if you are having no sex? Or too much sex? How do you chat to your partner about the fact that you do not want to see them butt naked? Can tantric sex fix your relationship? The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and chatted about getting some from your significant other. Amanda was only turned down once for sex in 10 years. Once! That p***y must be flavoured. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. *Note in this podcast we still did not know what to call this vibe! The Wildness as a name clearly came later. Clearly. Still one of the original ones before it all became official'.* Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter @manda_hodge and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter and Facebook: HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - 5 Sex Topics You and Your Partner Must Discuss - https://www.essence.com/2012/01/09/5-sex-talks-you-and-your-partner-must-have - You Need Help: Let's Talk About (Having More) Sex - https://www.autostraddle.com/you-need-help-lets-talk-about-having-more-sex-159387/ - Pillow talk the key to good sex -http://holaafrica.org/pillow-talk-the-key-to-good-sex/ - 5 Great Tips to Make Talking with Your Partner About Sex Easier- https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/04/how-to-discuss-sexual-desires/

This one is a little of a throw back, the wildness BEFORE the wildness. This was how it all begun. The one where Tiff proposed and Manda said yes. Do you have sex with other women? Do you use dental dams? Is there SUCH as thing as safe sex between two women? Should you go down on your partner when they menstruating? How do you eat ass safely? Can a lesbian have Aids? Also you can get gonorrhea of the eyes. And we call you HOLAArites. Know this. The Wild Ones, Tiff and Manda poured a glass and sat down to chat about safe sex, Amanda's fear of gonorrhea, how we outchea drinking Moscato, chilling and having wine and making sure guests interview themselves. A podcast by two queer African girls trying to get through life. Follow The Wildness on Instagram @the.wildness and Facebook: The Wildness with Tiff & Manda Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: @manda_hodge HOLAAfrica: www.holaafrica.org IG: @insta_holaa Twitter: @HOLAAfrica Links to check out: - HOLAAfrica safe sex and pleasure manual: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B9fxJySbT5pxYTlMdloxc1BEdjg/view?usp=drive_web - 13 Tips For Women Having Safe Sex With Other Women - https://www.buzzfeed.com/skarlan/xx-things-women-need-to-remember-about-having-safe-sex-with?utm_term=.pnV7YZbj4D#.tkeavLnOqg - Lesbian Safe Sex 101: The Doctor Is In (Also, the Cartoonist) (autostraddle) - https://www.autostraddle.com/safe-sex-for-lesbians-45382/ - On hot, safe lesbian sex- http://holaafrica.org/on-hot-safe-lesbian-sex/

The Wild Ones give advice on leaving a relationship, polygamy problems and going down on an ex girlfriend whilst not going down on your current one. HOLAA in A Hot Spot, Answering your burning questions so life doesn't show you flames! The Wild Ones share some wisdom and answer questions that have been submitted via HOLAAfrica. Catch these answers on the Wildness as well as on the HOLAA site and YouTube channel. Find Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: @manda_hodge and Tiffany on @tiffmugo and IG: kagsmugo The Wildness is on instagram with the.wildness Check out HOLAAfrica on: Twitter: @HOLAAfrica Facebook: HOLAAfrica Instagram: insta_holaa Sites: HOLAA in A HotSpot on the HOLAAfrica website: http://holaafrica.org/category/holaa-in-a-hot-spot/

The Wildness pulled Botho Maruatona into the studio to chat about LEGABIBO, the right to d**k and she also gave us a slice of PAI (Pan Africa ILGA) which is being held in Botswana this year! Check out this semi -serious but not really) episode. Find Amanda on Twitter and Instagram: @manda_hodge and Tiffany on @tiffmugo and IG: kagsmugo The Wildness is on instagram with IG: the.wildness Check out HOLAAfrica on: SoundCloud: @HOLAAfrica Twitter: HOLAAfrica Facebook: HOLAAfrica Instagram: insta_holaa About the PAI conference: http://panafricailga.org/pai-regional-conference-2018/about-the-conference-2/ LEGABIBO: https://legabibo.wordpress.com/