Podcasts about Heteronormativity

What is compulsory heterosexuality, and why is it so insidious?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"Strengthening Love: Building Secure Bonds for Lesbian Couples" https://healthylesbianrelationships.com/This week on the pod: pull up a chair and lean in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal and her fellow coming-out coach, Barbara Rowlandson, unpack all things 'comp het.' Compulsory Heteronormativity (sometimes used interchangeably with 'compulsory heterosexuality) represents the systems in place that keep women from understanding or realizing their needs and desires. If you're just starting out on your coming out journey and have ever asked yourself, "Why the heck did it take me so long to realize I am gay/lesbian/bi/queer?" then this episode is for YOU!

"Strengthening Love: Building Secure Bonds for Lesbian Couples" https://healthylesbianrelationships.com/This week on the pod: pull up a chair and lean in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal and her fellow coming-out coach, Barbara Rowlandson, unpack all things 'comp het.' Compulsory Heteronormativity (sometimes used interchangeably with 'compulsory heterosexuality) represents the systems in place that keep women from understanding or realizing their needs and desires. If you're just starting out on your coming out journey and have ever asked yourself, "Why the heck did it take me so long to realize I am gay/lesbian/bi/queer?" then this episode is for YOU!

This week Derek B Gayle from the Glitterjaw Network joins Luke and Janine as the Simpsons release a solid batch of episodes, and the Straw Hats explore the beautiful deep waters. Covering the One Piece episodes 523-529 Cover art by Mike Patten. Edited by Andie. Links! Itunes – https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dohmance-dawn/id1620557454… Spotify – https://open.spotify.com/show/0iOBMkRGKTz04wJB2kitx7… RSS – https://pinecast.com/feed/dohmance-dawn… Bluesky – https://bsky.app/profile/dohmancedawn.bsky.social Patreon – https://www.patreon.com/lukeherr

Happy Ace Week! This week's ep could not be less about that. It IS, however, about heteronormativity in how we talk about queer sex, and also a Twitter fight Sarah got in. Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

This week on the pod: pull up a chair and lean in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal and her fellow coming-out coach, Barbara Rowlandson, unpack all things 'comp het.' Compulsory Heteronormativity (sometimes used interchangeably with 'compulsory heterosexuality) represents the systems in place that keep women from understanding or realizing their needs and desires. If you're just starting out on your coming out journey and have ever asked yourself, "Why the heck did it take me so long to realize I am gay/lesbian/bi/queer?" then this episode is for YOU!

This week on the pod: pull up a chair and lean in as host Anne-Marie Zanzal and her fellow coming-out coach, Barbara Rowlandson, unpack all things 'comp het.' Compulsory Heteronormativity (sometimes used interchangeably with 'compulsory heterosexuality) represents the systems in place that keep women from understanding or realizing their needs and desires. If you're just starting out on your coming out journey and have ever asked yourself, "Why the heck did it take me so long to realize I am gay/lesbian/bi/queer?" then this episode is for YOU!

Full Episode 9-8-25 - In this episode, friend of the show Fleevs joins us to discuss heteronormativity. 

Host Tara argues that American corporations, including Cracker Barrel, have been taken over by a "woke" agenda that is "erasing" white men and pushing a political narrative. She uses a viral clip of Snoop Dogg expressing discomfort with LGBTQ+ content in a children's movie as a starting point. Tara alleges that Cracker Barrel has adopted a number of policies, including working with the Human Rights Campaign to push LGBTQ+ and DEI initiatives, in order to boost its corporate "score." The monologue claims that this trend is driven by investment firms like BlackRock and Vanguard, which allegedly penalize companies that do not conform to their political agenda. Tara asserts that white men are being systematically removed from commercials and movies because they are a demographic that tends to vote Republican, and she cites a recent Cracker Barrel logo change as evidence of this cultural shift.

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit www.thelesbianprojectpod.comMelanie Chait:https://lesbianhistorygroup.org/2025/06/01/breaking-the-silence/https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0025vb2Melanie's recent film: https://www.primevideo.com/detail/Dance-Me-To-The-End-Of-Time/0G115RFO7LWRA7M3QY7VK61APZFrom Melanie: I would appreciate asking lesbian mothers and their children between the 1960s to 1980s who lost custody/ did n…

Wine and Weed; Current Events; Celebrities Cass Wants to Smoke with; Astrology Segment; the ladies discuss the effects of heteronormativity on themselves and society; Moral of the Story; Shot O'Clock/Toke Time; Songs of the Week; Quotes

Love Is Blind is back for season 8 and we're in Minnesota, where Ibuprofen is considered addictive and Dave is considered desirable. Join us for our recap of episodes 4-6 so you'll be ready to bust out of the pods tomorrow with a new batch of episodes!Subscribe to our Patreon for just $5 a month to get an additional full-length episode every single week! You have found your people. Join us

January's live Glacket episode! This time, I'm joined by no co-host for all three competitions but instead joined by six lovely glisteners of the podcast who share their Glacket grievances before we get into their competitions. And yes, there is one insane competition this week so be scared. Songs this episode include: I Feel Pretty/ Unpretty Look At Me I'm Sandra Dee (Reprise) Mercy The Boy is Mine Welcome Christmas Yeah! ---- Become a Patron for exclusive bonus episodes, guest announcements, and access to live episode recordings @ patreon.com/gleekoftheweekpod Rate us five stars on Spotify and Apple Podcasts Buy our Merch! Leave us a voicemail @ (732)955-4098 Follow us on Instagram @gleekoftheweekpod Follow us on Tiktok @gleekoftheweekpod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's keeping your sex life from being more exciting? Panelists discuss limiting beliefs and tips to move past them in this dynamic conversation. Plus Karen's Sermon on the Pubic Mound. From the October 2024 live show.Panel with: Sex coach and pleasure mentor Tazima ParrisTherapist for all things queer and kinky Jake Penrod from  Live OakENM/kink coach Sarah Sloane Host, sex educator, and energy worker Karen Yates The main show sponsor of the October 2024 show was uberlübe, high-performance lubricant. Show sponsor was Rowan Tree Counseling, a therapy practice that is anti-racist | queer-allied | poly-affirming | sex-positive.  Available in Illinois! Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen's free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world!  Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Support the showSupport the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!

In this special Pride episode, hosts Carol and Jeevan talk to Dr. Amin Ghaziani, a professor of sociology and Canada Research Chair in Urban Sexualities at UBC, about his new book Long Live Queer Nightlife: How the Closing of Gay Bars Sparked a Revolution. They speak about the evolution of queer nightlife, the nuances of intersectional belonging, and the importance of intentional allyship.Link ListUBC Profile: Amin GhazianiAmin Ghaziani: LinkedIn / LinktreeAmin's Social Media: Instagram / XAmin's Books: Princeton University PressAmin's NYT Review: Book Review: Long Live Queer NightlifeAmin on JVN's Getting Curious Podcast: Where Have All The Gay Bars Gone?Amin on NPR's Marketplace Podcast: Why Gay Bars Are Closing - And What's Taking Their PlaceTwitter/X: Carol / JeevanCheck out our full archive of episodes here

On today's episode we identify how the Patriarchy and Heteronormativity show up in the world and impact us so we can best combat it and find our much deserved Queer Joy. **for links mentioned in this episode check the original episode**Get your copy of the 21 Late Bloomer Healing & Self Love Journal Prompts Ebook Here. follow us on Instagram here. 

Megan and Michelle dismantle body count, concubines, dirty birds, virginity, wine spritzers, spinsters, and spreading your seed.Your Body Count Is Nobody Else's BusinessThe Double Standards of SexBody counts and the insidious normalization of misogynyThe Average Number of Sexual Partners Across AmericaWhich US States Have the Most SexShould You Care About Your Partner's Body Count?Why We Care About A Partner's Sexual History"Body Count" And Sexual Double StandardsThe Social Construct of VirginityWhy 'virginity' is a damaging social constructWant to support Prosecco Theory?Become a Patreon subscriber and earn swag!Check out our merch, available on teepublic.com!Follow/Subscribe wherever you listen!Rate, review, and tell your friends!Follow us on Instagram!****************Ever thought about starting your own podcast? From day one, Buzzsprout gave us all the tools we needed get Prosecco Theory off the ground. What are you waiting for? Follow this link to get started. Cheers!!

Join us as we recap and chat about Bob's Burgers Season 4 Episode 15 The Kids Rob a Train and Season 4 Episode 16 I Get Psy-Chic Out of You Did you know Linda's birthday is revealed to be June 3rd. Wiki page for the episode: The Kids Rob a Train I Get Psy-Chic Out of You Links, articles, and videos mentioned in this episode: Behind Bob's Burgers Join our Book Club on Patreon Follow us on Instagram Follow us on Tiktok --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/obdykpod/support

Netflix's anti-Trump Hitler doc accidentally reveals the truth about leftism, Biden and Pride. Click here to join the member-exclusive portion of my show: https://bit.ly/3UKm1Ez Ep.1184 - - -  DailyWire+: Get showtimes to see Sound of Hope in theaters starting July 4th at http://angel.com/klavan Unlock your Bentkey 14-day free trial here: https://bit.ly/3GSz8go Get 25% off your DailyWire+ Membership here: https://bit.ly/4akO7wC Save the Klavan by shopping my merch here: https://bit.ly/3hCo8Kw  - - -  Today's Sponsors: Balance of Nature - Get 35% off Your Order + FREE Fiber & Spice Supplements. Use promo code KLAVAN at checkout: https://www.balanceofnature.com/ Beam - Get 40% off for a limited time! Use promo code KLAVAN at http://www.ShopBeam.com/KLAVAN The Perfect Jean - Get The Perfect Jean 15% off with the code KLAVAN15 at theperfectjean.nyc/KLAVAN15 #theperfectjeanpod #ad Roman - For treatment that works fast and lasts long, grab the moment. Learn more at http://www.Ro.co/KLAVAN - - - Socials: Follow on Twitter: https://bit.ly/3B5RI1j Follow on Instagram: https://bit.ly/3D7AzXp Follow on Facebook: https://bit.ly/3TXNt08 Subscribe on YouTube: https://bit.ly/3Rtfifp

Gretchen and Caroline review the third and final official House of the Dragon trailer. It looks cool!! WE HOPE IT'S COOL!!!

“In 2011, Elizabeth Brake first coined the term amatonormativity, to describe the overarching, culturally embedded belief that romantic relationships are essential to well-being.1 Heteronormativity refers to the assumption that all people are heterosexual and does not allow for individuals who hold diverse sexual orientations, including lesbian, gay, bisexual, or asexual, which describes people who experience no sexual attraction to others. Allonormativity describes the stereotype that all people experience some form of sexual attraction. Allonormative makes space for heterosexual attraction as well as alternative attractions including lesbian, gay, and bisexual. However, an allonormative view ignores the existence of asexual individuals.2 Cisnormative expectations refer to the construct of being cisgender, which is holding an identity that matches the sex a person was assigned at birth.3 Cisnormative beliefs do not make space for individuals whose identities reflect aspects of transgenderism. People who believe that individuals should have only a single, monogamous romantic partner at any given time support mononormativity.4 Both mononormativity and amatonormativity address expectations regarding the pursuit of romantic relationships, however, mononormativity is based on the assumption that all people are interested in romantic relationships. Sexual normativity refers to the assumption that all people experience sexual desire and seek opportunities to act on that desire.5 This concept is highly related to amatonormativity as they both create a culture in which the lack of interest in romantic or sexual relationships is seen as abnormal6.” -ChoosingTherapy. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/antonio-myers4/support

Lauren couldn't put the podcast on hiatus without doing one of her favorite kinds of episodes: namely, a REDUX! When producer and writer Jenn Lee (formerly Jenn Lee Smith) was first on the pod in July of 2022, she was celebrating the publication of a book she had co-edited called "I Spoke to You with Silence: Essays from Queer Mormons of Marginalized Genders." Jenn herself was raised in the Mormon religion, and despite having come out in 2008, she had chosen to remain in a monogamous marriage with her husband of twenty-one years, with whom she shares three children. Suffice to say that a lot has changed for Jenn since the summer of 2022. She explains how the book tour for "I Spoke to You with Silence" kicked off a chain of events, and shares how her love for her children has only deepened now that she is finally living as her whole self ("I have been able to love them so much more since feeling right in my own body and skin"). Plus, Jenn describes her experiences on the dating apps as a "little post-Mormon gayby," and Lauren asks Jenn a question that she's been mulling over ever since the day they first met...Connect with Jenn on Facebook at facebook.com/jennlee.smith2, and follow her on Instagram at @bewilderfilm. Also, check out her upcoming documentary at homecourtfilm.com and on Insta at @homecourtfilm!

The Guilty Feminist 383. HeternormativityPresented by Deborah Frances-White and Jessica Fostekew with special guest Mary O'ConnellRecorded 3 November 2023 at Soho Theatre. Released 8 January.The Guilty Feminist theme composed by Mark Hodge. More about Deborah Frances-Whitehttps://deborahfrances-white.comhttps://twitter.com/DeborahFWhttps://www.virago.co.uk/the-guilty-feminist-bookMore about Jessica Fostekewhttps://twitter.com/jessicafostekewhttps://www.instagram.com/jessicafostekewhttps://twitter.com/thehooveringpodMore about Mary O'Connellhttps://twitter.com/marydoesgigshttps://www.instagram.com/marywiththegoldshoesFor more information about this and other episodes…visit https://www.guiltyfeminist.comtweet us https://www.twitter.com/guiltfempodlike our Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/guiltyfeministcheck out our Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theguiltyfeministor join our mailing list http://www.eepurl.com/bRfSPTOur new podcasts are out nowMedia Storm https://podfollow.com/media-stormAbsolute Power https://podfollow.com/john-bercows-absolute-powerCome to a live recording:Kings Place, 15 January 2024: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/comedy/the-guilty-feminist-15-jan/Kings Place, 19 February 2024: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/comedy/the-guilty-feminist-19-feb/Australia 2024 dates coming soonThank you to our amazing Patreon supporters.To support the podcast yourself, go to https://www.patreon.com/guiltyfeminist You can also get an ad-free version of the podcast via Apple Podcasts or Acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/guiltyfeminist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tera Wozniak Stortz, founder of the Queer Divorce Club, remembers one fleeting moment in high school when it ever-so-briefly crossed her mind that she might be a lesbian. For the most part, though, Tera thought that her lack of attraction to men simply meant that she was "broken." Like many in her position, Tera ended up in a long-term heteronormative marriage, and kept herself moving at such a breakneck pace that she never had time to truly examine her identity. But when Tera and her husband became polyamorous and Tera started having experiences with women...the truth that she'd been repressing for decades became impossible to ignore. Tera shares how opening her marriage led to her meeting her current partner, and describes how she and her now ex-husband explained their divorce to their two young children in a transparent but age-appropriate way. We also discuss the unique difficulties (not to mention stigmas) that come with getting "queer divorced," and Tera shares how she created the Queer Divorce Club around the central idea that "we can all get divorced in our own way."Interested in the Queer Divorce Club?? You can check out their website at queerdivorceclub.com, and request to join their private Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/queerdivorceclub. You can also learn more about Tera at terawozniakstortz.com, and follow her on Instagram at @tera.queerdivorceclub and on TikTok at @teraqueerdivorceclub!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5207650/advertisement

After our month-long foray into the disturbing literature from the Evangelical Christian publishing industry, we continue our new series The Sex Ed We Wish We Had. Last month, we interviewed Doug Braun-Harvey, who describes the six sexual health principles that we and many other sexual health providers use as their rubric for co-creating healthy sexual encounters. We begin with a two-part series on consent, which, to quote the Harvey Institute (8:40): “Consent means voluntary cooperation communicates permission to try and reach sexual satisfaction and intimacy with willing partners. Consent transforms the act of sex from invasion, intrusion, or violation into an act of transformation. Establishing consent throughout each step of a sexual interaction provides each sexual partner space for sexual safety and pleasure that's consistent with their sexual desire.” We also address: Consent in Church and the Country (9:50): “Consent in our country has been about folks, primarily men, getting as far as they can sexually while escaping rape allegations or charges. Similar to the church, American culture has given women the responsibility of gatekeeping men's sexuality. While keeping themselves safe from violence,” Jeremiah says. Consent is a tool used by men to absolve themselves from any hurt or crime they may have committed. It is not seen as something that should be intrinsically tied to sex. Julia then makes the connection that, “so often the Christian Church establishes themselves as countercultural. However, in terms of sexuality, the status of so many sexual health principles are quite similar. Within and outside of church walls, we have long taught women best practices for avoiding assault.” The conversation around consent usually centers around the metaphor of wearing a bulletproof vest instead of just banning guns.  The Process of Affirmative Consent (11:55): “Learn that consent is the proactive negotiation of pleasure. To catch onto this concept, a religious university in Ohio was the first to develop a model for affirmative consent.” Julia notes as we give props to a Christian institution on this podcast for probably the first time. They then list the seven principles of affirmative consent:  Explicitness. A yes must be expressed verbally. Voluntariness. The yes must be given voluntarily without pressure or coercion.   Ability to consent. Intoxicated people, people under a certain age are unable to give consent. A shift of responsibility. They mean the person who initiates the sexual act has the responsibility to obtain the consent of all participants in non-coercive ways. Freedom from presumption. Consent must be obtained repeatedly for each new sexual act. Informedness. All participants must know what consent is being given for, in particular, when we think about the role of the receiver, what would it be like to have a sexual experience where the initiator says, hey, this is what I want to kind of work through. Revocability. A previously given consent can be withdrawn at any time.  These seven principles are without nuance, which we will dive into next, but still are a strong framework and guide to affirmative consent. As well as, great starting points and rules for someone to follow.  The Simplifying of Consent (15:40): “Consent is actually very complicated. Even in more progressive circles, I've noticed this impulse to try and make consent as simple as possible. We actually have so many different contextual factors to take into account with each sexual scenario. With each of the seven principles, we can't actually package consent into a simple formula.” Julia adds to the conversation about affirmative consent, saying that even though this is a great framework, consent cannot be distilled into a simple idea. It is okay that consent is nuanced and complicated, and that is what they are exploring today. Heteronormativity (21:00): “Heteronormativity relies on narratives about how men and women enact sexuality differently inside the church. As we talked about in reading the Butler series and in the seven deadly sexual sins according to the church, but also outside of the church, we have the false narrative that men are inherently more sexual and that women have the duty to perform sexuality according to the socialized norms of what men crave sexual,” Jeremiah says. We explore the effects of heteronormativity throughout different episodes, but pertaining to the idea of consent, this heteronormative dynamic affects how consent is given and received. Many women in heterosexual relationships feel the need to say yes, and many men feel the need to initiate sex, even if they do not want to have sex.  Sex Therapist Training and Consent (31): Jeremiah talks about his experience how, in one of his sex therapy training classes, he learned what consent actually looked like, and also how his heterosexual relationship fit into a larger context within society. “I was also so stuck in the emotional cycle of protecting my ex at the time, that I didn't have the wherewithal to realize the larger societal context for our relational interaction. But in this particular class, I internalized this.” He then talks about his experience unpacking much of the ingrained ideology about martial consent within the context of Christianity.  Christianity and Consent (39): “The most heartbreaking part is that we were both trying hard to be the best partners that we could be, and the patterns that developed from our best efforts, which were modeled to us by Christian culture and Christian leaders were strong contributors to our divorce and set the stage for both of us to have years of non-consensual sexual experiences," Julia talks about how Christianity establishes that consent happens only once at the altar, and never again. This has negative repercussions as sex does not equal an enjoyable and safe experience for the people involved, but quite the opposite.  These are hard conversations to have, and next week, we'll talk more about Julia's experience navigating sexuality and consent in her marriage, before concluding with some Relationship 101. Let's heal together!

David joins me to discuss some of the experiences of queer people in Ghana, the proposed anti-lgbt bill, being visibly queer, heteronormativity, and more. Join in on the conversation! Use the hashtag #AsaseBaPod. WEBSITE Check out our official website for podcast transcripts and resources by and for Ghanaians at https://www.asaseba.com/ SUPPORT To support the podcast, you can use e-transfer or PayPal and send to asasebapod@gmail.com. Thank you so much for your support! SOCIAL MEDIA Twitter: https://twitter.com/AsaseBaPod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asasebapod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asasebapod EMAIL asasebapod@gmail.com  GUEST David Twitter: https://twitter.com/DaveRhythm Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nanaqwequ12/ HOST This podcast is produced, edited and hosted by Ghanaian Canadian Michelle (pronouns: she/her). She is also the creator of the theme music. #ghanaian #ghana #podcast #african #africa #culture #ghanaianpodcast #africanpodcast #oraltradition #asasebapod #asaseba #lgbtqia #queerghanaianlivesmatter

Ellington Wells is a writer and stand up comedian who was raised in Vermont and Hamden, CT where her dad, a Neuroscientist, would threaten to be her sex ed teacher when she would misbehave… which is obviously any kids nightmare! In this episode we talk about: Why do we refuse to see our parents or kids as people who have sex? The dangers of Italian men (but just the Italian ones, I guess) Following the heteronormative script If you're not feeling it… DON'T DO IT UTIs! They suck! The rules we make up for ourselves in our heads Astrology and forgiveness Partners reflecting back to you Bioindividuality… it's a thing! Communication is hard, (not) sponsored by Dunkin' Will my mom do my podcast? I believe the children are our future… You can find Ellington on Instagram at @ellingtonwells, on YouTube @ellingtonwells and on their website ellingtonwells.format.com ------- If you're pickin' up what we're putting down please like, Subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! Submit a Sex Ed Pop Quiz question with a 5 star review and I'll give you a shout out! Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube! ------- Want to help raise money for men's mental health, prostate and testicular cancer research? Great! Arielle is the Los Angeles host of the Distinguished Gentleman's Drive happening worldwide on Sunday September 24th and you can make a donation and learn more here: https://www.gentlemansdrive.com/driver/BabesInClassics

KISSIN' Page 7 and Wizard and the Bruiser are going on TOUR! Dates and links to tickets at lastpodcastnetwork.com Support us on our Patreon page and get weekly bonus Patreon-exclusive content! Patreon.com/Page7Podcast Intro song by Green Dreams

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills talk about their experiences with heterophobia. They share what it was like growing up gay in a heteronormative world and how this created fear and anger towards heterosexual people. They also unpack the relationship between internalized homophobia and heterophobia and how taking responsibility for ourselves in new ways can help us overcome these fears. The questions we explored in this episode are: What was life like for you as a young gay boy? When did you first realize that it was not acceptable to be gay? How did you cope with that? In what ways did you/do you fear heterosexual people? How can we overcome heterophobia? Connect with Andre: www.raisingvibrationscoaching.com Linkedin Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show

After our month-long foray into the disturbing literature from the Evangelical Christian publishing industry, we continue our new series The Sex Ed We Wish We Had. Last month, we interviewed Doug Braun-Harvey, who describes the six sexual health principles that we and many other sexual health providers use as their rubric for co-creating healthy sexual encounters. We begin with a two-part series on consent, which, to quote the Harvey Institute (8:40): “Consent means voluntary cooperation communicates permission to try and reach sexual satisfaction and intimacy with willing partners. Consent transforms the act of sex from invasion, intrusion, or violation into an act of transformation. Establishing consent throughout each step of a sexual interaction provides each sexual partner space for sexual safety and pleasure that's consistent with their sexual desire.” We also address: Consent in Church and the Country (9:50): “Consent in our country has been about folks, primarily men, getting as far as they can sexually while escaping rape allegations or charges. Similar to the church, American culture has given women the responsibility of gatekeeping men's sexuality. While keeping themselves safe from violence,” Jeremiah says. Consent is a tool used by men to absolve themselves from any hurt or crime they may have committed. It is not seen as something that should be intrinsically tied to sex. Julia then makes the connection that, “so often the Christian Church establishes themselves as countercultural. However, in terms of sexuality, the status of so many sexual health principles are quite similar. Within and outside of church walls, we have long taught women best practices for avoiding assault.” The conversation around consent usually centers around the metaphor of wearing a bulletproof vest instead of just banning guns.  The Process of Affirmative Consent (11:55): “Learn that consent is the proactive negotiation of pleasure. To catch onto this concept, a religious university in Ohio was the first to develop a model for affirmative consent.” Julia notes as we give props to a Christian institution on this podcast for probably the first time. They then list the seven principles of affirmative consent:  Explicitness. A yes must be expressed verbally. Voluntariness. The yes must be given voluntarily without pressure or coercion.   Ability to consent. Intoxicated people, people under a certain age are unable to give consent. A shift of responsibility. They mean the person who initiates the sexual act has the responsibility to obtain the consent of all participants in non-coercive ways. Freedom from presumption. Consent must be obtained repeatedly for each new sexual act. Informedness. All participants must know what consent is being given for, in particular, when we think about the role of the receiver, what would it be like to have a sexual experience where the initiator says, hey, this is what I want to kind of work through. Revocability. A previously given consent can be withdrawn at any time.  These seven principles are without nuance, which we will dive into next, but still are a strong framework and guide to affirmative consent. As well as, great starting points and rules for someone to follow.  The Simplifying of Consent (15:40): “Consent is actually very complicated. Even in more progressive circles, I've noticed this impulse to try and make consent as simple as possible. We actually have so many different contextual factors to take into account with each sexual scenario. With each of the seven principles, we can't actually package consent into a simple formula.” Julia adds to the conversation about affirmative consent, saying that even though this is a great framework, consent cannot be distilled into a simple idea. It is okay that consent is nuanced and complicated, and that is what they are exploring today. Heteronormativity (21:00): “Heteronormativity relies on narratives about how men and women enact sexuality differently inside the church. As we talked about in reading the Butler series and in the seven deadly sexual sins according to the church, but also outside of the church, we have the false narrative that men are inherently more sexual and that women have the duty to perform sexuality according to the socialized norms of what men crave sexual,” Jeremiah says. We explore the effects of heteronormativity throughout different episodes, but pertaining to the idea of consent, this heteronormative dynamic affects how consent is given and received. Many women in heterosexual relationships feel the need to say yes, and many men feel the need to initiate sex, even if they do not want to have sex.  Sex Therapist Training and Consent (31): Jeremiah talks about his experience how, in one of his sex therapy training classes, he learned what consent actually looked like, and also how his heterosexual relationship fit into a larger context within society. “I was also so stuck in the emotional cycle of protecting my ex at the time, that I didn't have the wherewithal to realize the larger societal context for our relational interaction. But in this particular class, I internalized this.” He then talks about his experience unpacking much of the ingrained ideology about martial consent within the context of Christianity.  Christianity and Consent (39): “The most heartbreaking part is that we were both trying hard to be the best partners that we could be, and the patterns that developed from our best efforts, which were modeled to us by Christian culture and Christian leaders were strong contributors to our divorce and set the stage for both of us to have years of non-consensual sexual experiences," Julia talks about how Christianity establishes that consent happens only once at the altar, and never again. This has negative repercussions as sex does not equal an enjoyable and safe experience for the people involved, but quite the opposite.  These are hard conversations to have, and next week, we'll talk more about Julia's experience navigating sexuality and consent in her marriage, before concluding with some Relationship 101. Let's heal together!

I've been wanting to do an episode on gender and queerness for ages. Hekate provides a safe space for exploring gender and queerness, providing comfort and security for this amazing conversation between me and the fabulous Coyote Mae. Personally, hanging out with Coyote Mae is always healing for me, and I believe you'll concur after this episode. Hekate's long history clearly indicates that, as a Goddess of crossroads, she is especially present for those of us who explore our personal intersections, in this case our gender identities and orientations. Additionally, Hekate's governance over our personal journeys, in her role as Enodia, illuminates our unique journey. Hekate offers the key of reclaiming space from oppressive heteronormative, white male driven dominance. Our discussion touches on topics such as mainstream Christianity, Catholicism's idealized view of Mary, the power of "dark goddesses," Jung's concept of anima and animus, the use of symbols such as the chalice and blade, CIS gendered men and the sacred feminine, and ancient goddesses defying gender expectations. Finding joy and being authentic however we identify deserves self-compassion and respect for others, along with honoring Hekate. "Heteronormativity and traditional gender roles lurk everywhere in our individual psyches and in societal beliefs. Romantic love and sex are entwined with these biases and beliefs." - from Chapter 11: Paionios (The Healer) in Entering Hekate's Cave Take good care of yourself, And Hail Hekate, Goddess of Crossroads, The Journey, and The Marginalized. View with CC and read the transcript HERE.

In this episode, independent dance practitioner and writer Ranjana Dave talks to us about the evolution of Indian classical dance, and what it means for dance to be political.‘In Perspective' is The Swaddle's podcast series where academics reveal little-known facts about Indian history, society and culture. Notes: 00:00:47:09- How do we interrogate the relationship between classical dance and contemporary Indian society? Is classical dance a rigid art form, or is there scope for fluidity and evolution of the form with time?00:05:17:06- What notions of gender and gender roles do we see in these narratives, and do dancers question some of these narratives through the way in which they perform them?00:08:50:04- Are contemporary performers of classical dance bringing ideas of queerness and consent into stories they depict, especially canonical ones? 00:10:39:24- Are there common notions of the perfect ‘ideal' body that are espoused across different dance forms? How are contemporary movement artists questioning these notions?00:13:38:15- Do ideas of transgressive desire percolate in classical dance forms? Are there ways in which contemporary movement artists are making those speak to society?00:17:41:18- Does theIndian classical dance community resist these transgressive narratives and interpretations of canonical stories, because of ideas about the purity of form?00:19:33:16- Has there been a history of resistance through dance in India?00:22:28:02- As the internet becomes central to our content consumption, in what ways is dance interacting with the digital medium, and is this resulting in an evolution of the form?

Aria's sentencing postponement :: The federal system :: Heteronormativity in the United States :: Christians overrunning the United States :: Major Pain's quotes on morality :: Federal Diversity training :: Racism & Microaggressions :: Lie detectors :: The voluntary death penalty :: Aria hangs up on David :: 2023-01-04 Aria, Bonnie, Nikki.

Lankoski, P., Apperley, T., & Harviainen, J. T. (2023). Platform-produced Heteronormativity: A Content Analysis of Adult Videogames on Patreon. Games and Culture, 18(1), 102–123. https://doi.org/10.1177/15554120221084453

On our last episode of Season 2, we speak with two of our producers, Darling and Ben, who both identify as LGBTQIA2+. We talk about gender identity, sexual identity, the many forms of attraction, trauma, and radical love and acceptance. Join us for a conversation on what it means to center and celebrate queer voices.

It's ooky spooky season, and what's spookier than Interview with the Vampire? What about Heteronormativity at the box office? SCARY! We're talking BROS and box office expectations with the hilarious Drew Kraft. Also, The Incomparable Nicole Kidman AMC Ad. Hosts: Billy and Dagny McCartney Guest: Drew Kraft Art: Nina Howard Music: RW Smith

Many people think that you need to come out to be your "authentic self."What does "being authentic" really mean?How is that advice helpful if you're in the closet and have been struggling to come out for years?What if you've been married for decades and are afraid about who you might hurt and what you might lose?If you're in the closet and thinking about coming out, or if you know of someone who's struggling, this episode is about getting clear about your emotional reasons for coming out, and how you can prepare to be as ready — for when it feels "right" for you to come out and freely create a life you love.As mentioned in the episode, if you want to talk with someone about how to come out, or if you're dealing with shame around your gender or sexual identity, let's meet for a private conversation. 

"Until I was 19 (in 1984), and for almost 15 years, I felt a combination of fear, guilt, shame, unrequited desire, silence, isolation, and otherness."Self-examination and knowing the events, the people, the environments, and the conditions that shaped your past are useful information. This is your personal narrative — and you can do with it what you please. In my case, I was determined to live better in the now than I had been living in my past.The complete show notes are published on Queering Self-Mastery. Sign up for practical tips and strategies for queer-thinking creators and change-makers to create a joyful life, accomplish your goals, and make a difference.---------------If you're a creator or change-maker who is struggling to make a difference and create a thriving business that you love, let's meet for a free 90-minute discovery coaching session. I'd like to find out what motivates you and how you want to make a difference in the world.

This week on Sapphic Survival Guide Cheyenne, Sev, and Gina answer your questions about heteronormativity!Submit your own questions by messaging us on Instagram or emailing us at sapphicsurvivalguide@gmail.com.CreditsProduced by Gina Finio, Seven, and CheyenneEdited by Gina FinioCover Art by SevenMusic by PartnerSound Effects by Audio VampireFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok and subscribe to our Patreon for extras!Follow Cheyenne on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTokFollow Gina on Instagram, TikTok, and her websiteFollow Sev on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok

Are you tired of "being straight"? Do you FEEL THE GAYNESS IN UR BONES?? DO YOU FEEL LIKE SOCIETY HAS MADE YOU ADOPT COMPULSORY HETERONORMATIVITY (...and what is that giant word anyway?) ?! Then we've got the pod episode for you! Marlee Liss (sensuality and somatic coach, friend of the pod) and Eva Bloom (Queer-Inclusive Sex-Ed coach) are 2 besties and fellow queers who both came out and RE-came out during the pandemic. After their new arrivals into the queer space, they wanted to know WHAT WHO WHEN WHERE AND WHYYYYY compulsory heteronormativity exists and how they could help others undo what the patriarchy has done...and drumroll...Marlee & Eva created and now run the F*ck Comp Het Support club: https://www.patreon.com/FckComphetSupportClub !!!! And this episode, they're here to tell us all about it!WHAT IS COMP HET? It's the theory that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced upon women & non-binary folk by a patriarchal and cisheteronormative society. The term was popularized by Adrienne Rich in her 1980 essay titled "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence".FOLLOW MARLEE & EVAhttps://www.marleeliss.com/https://www.evabloom.ca/BUY KELSEY'S BOOK! AND SENSITIVE MERCH! OUT NOW!BOOK:https://shopc.at/dfpMERCH:https://shopcatalog.com/shop/tag/kelsey-darragh-collection/Follow Kelsey & Keep Up with her life!https://linktr.ee/kelseydarraghSign up for Kelsey's new company at swapskis.coSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's episode, Chelsee and Christina talk about compulsory heterosexuality, with a little help from a few listener letters. You can find the infamous "Am I A Lesbian?" doc, along with further discussion of compulsory heterosexuality, here: https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf You can find the bird and hand essay Chelsee references here: https://thoughtcatalog.com/zaron-burnett-iii/2013/02/in-relationships-are-you-the-lover-or-the-beloved/ You can sign up to support us on Patreon and get exclusive access to cool stuff here: https://www.patreon.com/thebipod For more bi-weekly content sent right to your inbox, subscribe to The Bi Pod Bulletin. If you'd like to be a guest on the show, fill out our form! The Bi Pod Guest Interest Form You can also leave us a voicemail at (480) 442-1763. That's (480) Hi Bi Pod. You can email us at hey@thebipod.com. You can follow us on Instagram @TheBiPod. Follow us on Tumblr: thebipod.tumblr.com The Bi Pod is hosted by Chelsee Bergen and Christina Brown. This episode was edited and produced by Chelsee Bergen. Our theme song is Coming Home by Snowflake (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/snowflake/61307 Ft: Analog By Nature.

In this episode, we compare notes with LGBTQ bride-to-be Cammie Scott, and discuss how the wedding industry can be more inclusive. Listen to BEING TransGladskin: gladskin.com/sheGet 10% off your BetterHelp membership: betterhelp.com/loving

Happy Saturday! On this week's show, Alex talks about 17-year-old English pro soccer Jake Daniels coming out, and how he's been widely embraced. But is he being embraced because he presents as heteronormative? Alex weighs in on the conversation. Plus, sports broadcaster Megan Barnard speaks out after being outed by a now-fired co-worker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By showing how a wide, and surprising, range of Caribbean writers have contributed to the crafting of a supple and inclusive erotic repertoire across the second half of the twentieth century, the readings in Creolized Sexualities: Undoing Heteronormativity in the Literary Imagination of the Anglo-Caribbean (Rutgers University Press, 2021) aim to demonstrate that a recognition of creolized and pluralized sexualities already exists within the literary imagination. Professor Alison Donnell and I talk about her writing process and inspiration, the importance of place, and the ways this book might help us rethink the queer Caribbean.  Alejandra Bronfman is Associate Professor and Director of Undergraduate Studies Latin American, Caribbean & U.S. Latino Studies at SUNY, Albany. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

By showing how a wide, and surprising, range of Caribbean writers have contributed to the crafting of a supple and inclusive erotic repertoire across the second half of the twentieth century, the readings in Creolized Sexualities: Undoing Heteronormativity in the Literary Imagination of the Anglo-Caribbean (Rutgers University Press, 2021) aim to demonstrate that a recognition of creolized and pluralized sexualities already exists within the literary imagination. Professor Alison Donnell and I talk about her writing process and inspiration, the importance of place, and the ways this book might help us rethink the queer Caribbean.  Alejandra Bronfman is Associate Professor and Director of Undergraduate Studies Latin American, Caribbean & U.S. Latino Studies at SUNY, Albany. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/latin-american-studies

By showing how a wide, and surprising, range of Caribbean writers have contributed to the crafting of a supple and inclusive erotic repertoire across the second half of the twentieth century, the readings in Creolized Sexualities: Undoing Heteronormativity in the Literary Imagination of the Anglo-Caribbean (Rutgers University Press, 2021) aim to demonstrate that a recognition of creolized and pluralized sexualities already exists within the literary imagination. Professor Alison Donnell and I talk about her writing process and inspiration, the importance of place, and the ways this book might help us rethink the queer Caribbean.  Alejandra Bronfman is Associate Professor and Director of Undergraduate Studies Latin American, Caribbean & U.S. Latino Studies at SUNY, Albany. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/gender-studies

Desire is Shaped by our Lived Experiences – The Heteronormative Theory Paper Dr. Sari van Anders is the Canada 150 Research Chair in Social Neuroendocrinology, Sexuality, and Gender/Sex, and Professor of Psychology, Gender Studies, and Neuroscience, at Queen's University. Dr. van Anders has published over 80 papers with research that sets out new ways to conceptualize, understand, and map gender/sex, sexual diversity, and sexuality, and also provides unique tools and theories for feminist and queer bioscience, especially within social neuroendocrinology and studies of testosterone. Can we talk about Gendered behavior for a fast minute – a lot of people – majority people – might not know or believe that they are “socially gendered” – she explains this to us. How does being gendered as a female affect our desire? how some aspects of sexuality widely assumed to be hormonal, might actually be better understood with or alongside a sociocultural lens. Okay – on to the mind blowing paper on “the heteronormativity theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men” – Archives of Sexual behavior 2021. - Why did you write this? - You propose the heteronormativity theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men, arguing that heteronormative gender inequities are contributing factors. - Four Hypothesis o Inequitable divisions of household labor Women have less free time o Blurring of partner and mother roles – its not that mothers aren't sexual – it is that the relationship between mothers and those they mother is not a sexual one. Nurturant experiences decrease testosterone and increase peptides like oxytocin and vasopressin. Thinking sexual thoughts can change testosterone levels How Cortisol affects our sexual response o Objectification of women Proximity to the norm matters for their desire Women's focus on appearance and being sexy instead of sexual Ignorance about the vulva and clitoris negatively impacts desire in women partnered with men o Gender norms surrounding sexual initiation. Discomfort initiating sex contributes to low desire. If women have to say yes everytime a man wants sex – this contributes to low desire. “women's sexual pleasure within heteronormative framings is fraught.” Women's duty for sex or inability to say no. - What do we do now that we know this? - Orgasm coercion is her future research The Heteronormativity Theory of Low Sexual Desire in Women Partnered with Men https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-021-02100-x https://www.queensu.ca/psychology/van-anders-lab/ March's Sponsor is Tabu – to prioritize your sexual wellness www.heytabu.com CODE: YANB for 15% off your kit This Podcast is not approved for credit by CMEfy, however, you may reflect on how this Podcast applies to your day-to-day and engage to earn AMA PRA Category 1 Credit(s)™ via point-of-care learning activities here: https://earnc.me/vKccS5

What if low desire is not your fault? Join me as I drink coffee and read (and editorialize) the best sex research paper to come out of 2021! The Heteronormativity Theory of Low Sexual Desire in Women Partnered with Men. by Sari M van Anders, Debby Herbenick, Lori A Brotto, Emily A Harris, Sara B Chadwick Join me in a few days as my next episode will be an interview with Dr. Sari van Anders Link here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8382213/ CME for this episode here: https://earnc.me/RxoV55

On today's episode we identify how the Patriarchy and Heteronormativity show up in the world and impact us so we can best combat it and find our much deserved Queer Joy. Send a letter of opposition to the Don't Say Gay Bill HERECall/text us on the Queery Line @ 561-781-0696 or email us @ Latebloomersclvb@gmail.com with your questions, comments or advice on queer matters or coming out late in lifeCheck out the Bloom Bookshop here for Audre Lorde's books and other writings by Queer authors Follow us on Instagram here! 

Gillearn promotes Gladys Gailey - Heteronormativity ConsultantPlease rate, review and subscribeIf you dig please DONATE to the podcast: https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=CEXS9K93N7QDACheck out http://www.irishcomic.comThank youSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-promo-code-podcast-with-jason-gillearn/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy