Podcasts about carefrontation

No one really likes disagreement, but we need to understand that Constructive Disagreement is a great tool to utilize to drive growth. Give thought to how dissent leads to discourse that leads to results. This episode gives insights on how to lead through and participate in this process.

Senior Pastor Phillip Lee Cedar Creek Church Aiken, SC Like, comment & subscribe to stay updated with the latest content! FOLLOW Cedar Creek Church: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cedarcreek_church/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cedarcreekchurch1993/ Website: https://www.cedarcreekchurch.net

Vet Life Reimagined welcomes, guest, Angela Ramiro, Chief Veterinary Officer at Muttville Senior Dog Rescue. Angela said that she is the only non-veterinarian Chief Veterinary Officer of any organization that she knows of. We need diverse perspectives and backgrounds to come to the table to make a difference in the lives in pets.  Including senior pets like the dogs at Muttville.  In this episode, Angela explains her fascinating career from the front desk at a Banfield veterinary hospital to veterinary assistant to hospital manager, and beyond. We discuss - tips on managing a veterinary hospital especially how to have hard conversations and train veterinary staff. - How to empower veterinary technicians- the unique story behind Muttville, a private non-profit - End-of-life medicine and hospice for dogsSome quotables:The sum of our relationships is the conversations we have and don't have.Real impostures don't get imposture syndrome. "Carefronting" or "Carefrontation"Resources:Muttville Senior Dog RescueBook mentioned: Fierce ConversationsAngela is an Advisory Board Member for Highfive Vet, an AI purchasing assistant for veterinary clinics.Custom 3D Prints Rise 3D PrintingDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Vet Life Reimagined?

This FUBCON Session of Real Estate Team OS features Tom Ferry, the #1 ranked real estate coach. Listen to this episode of Team OS for Tom's insights into: - The desperate need for differentiation and uniqueness in the real estate industry- How and why to let customers guide more of our decisions- What he experienced in 1996 that opened his mind and created excitement about the real estate team model (with a specific example) - One book every real estate agent and team leader should read- How to improve agent accountability and why confrontation should feel more like “care-frontation” (and three frameworks to help)- Why every solo agent thinking about starting a team needs a yin to their yang (and three books to help)- Tips for a solo agent thinking about joining a team (and one point of clarity you need)At the end, you'll also learn why one of his most frivolous purchases isn't very frivolous at all and how creating value for others allows him to elevate his standard when it comes to money.Learn more about Tom Ferry:- https://www.tomferry.com/Follow Tom Ferry:- https://www.tiktok.com/@tomferry- https://www.instagram.com/tomferry/Learn more about Real Estate Team OS: - https://www.realestateteamos.com - https://linktr.ee/realestateteamosFollow Real Estate Team OS: - https://www.instagram.com/realestateteamos/- https://www.tiktok.com/@realestateteamos

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In this episode, Chad Lingafelt interviews Kurt Graves, a Vistage chair with 10 years of experience and over 8,000 hours of private CEO consulting and small group facilitating. Vistage is a group that helps CEOs and key executives improve their leadership skills, decision-making abilities, and business results. Kurt shares five valuable lessons he has learned from working with businesses across various industries, including: Efficiently managing resources such as time and money. Starting the process of change immediately, without delay. Pausing to think before making decisions. Practicing circumspection regularly. Recognizing that unique problems have been solved before, and seeking the help of others to solve them. Check out Kurt's previous conversation on CareFrontation in Ep 21 https://youtu.be/SCgb7SY6MQs

This man does what few men do. If we all did this we would experience incredible spiritual growth. A devotional by speaker and author Vince Miller.

In this episode, we discuss the topic of Carefrontation. We discuss its definition. When to use it and why to use it... Carefrontation is another way to understand confrontation. It is from a place of love. You love yourself so much that with every interaction and space you enter in, you notify those around you of how you want to be treated. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...            

Chad Lingafelt chats with Josh Elmore, Founder of Vision Achievers and a Fractional Integrator on today’s episode. We talk about what a Fractional Integrator does, the differences between a visionary and an integrator, and The Traction Philosophy. We also touch on Leadership Management & accountability in your organization. You don’t want to miss this episode! Follow Josh: Instagram: @thejoshelmore Twitter: @thejoshelmore Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejoshelmore LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejoshelmore/ Buy Traction: https://www.amazon.com/Traction-Get-Grip-Your-Business/dp/1936661837/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1K6BU13DZ9XLW&dchild=1&keywords=traction+gino+wickman&qid=1609184756&sprefix=traction+gin%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 Listen to Eileen’s Episodes on Culture Index: Part1: https://youtu.be/ODLFPh0aUtU Part 2: https://youtu.be/KGKXEquqk7s Listen to Neil’s Episode on EOS: https://youtu.be/XP1mNnKUh8s Listen to Kurt’s Episode on CareFrontation: https://youtu.be/SCgb7SY6MQs

Dr. Bernie Siegel is a hoot! This episode was so much fun to do because Bernie is brilliantly funny and has so many wonderful stories of healing. In 1978, he originated ECaP, Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patients' drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP is based on “CAREfrontation,” a safe, loving therapeutic confrontation, which facilitates personal lifestyle changes, personal empowerment and healing of the individual's life. The physical, spiritual and psychological benefits which followed led to his desire to make everyone aware of his or her healing potential. Bernie realized exceptional behavior is what we are all capable of. Please join Bernie and me for a great episode.Download helpful PDF's and more - please visit www.somuchmorethancancer.comSign up for Denise's email at www.somuchmorethancancer.comPurchase Denise's book and CDs, FROM STAGE IV TO CENTER STAGE: at the Books & Pages tab at www.somuchmorethancancer.comFollow Denise:Twitter: https://twitter.com/DeniseDeSimoneInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/desimone1955/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/reverend2009Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/denise-desimone-061819b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-dltxzD_8ZWzEkhDuTGMwQOther websites: www.denisedesimone.com, www.fromstage4tocenterstage.com 

Join Divya Parekh, Deb Lewis, as well as Scott and Jenny Graham for a panel discussion on the need of having tough conversations whether it be about personal life or work or social issues.Beyond Confidence is broadcast live Monday's at 8 PM ET.Beyond Confidence TV Show is viewed on Talk 4 TV (www.talk4tv.com).Beyond Confidence Radio Show is broadcast on W4WN Radio (www.w4wn.com) part of Talk 4 Radio (www.talk4radio.com) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com). The podcast is also available on Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com).

This week’s Talk Therapy is the second in a two-part series about confrontation. In part one I discussed why the art of confrontation is necessary. You can listen here. In this episode, I’m sharing traits of a healthy confrontation vs. an unhealthy one and offer 5 practical tips for engaging in carefrontation. We cannot control how others will respond to confrontation, but we can approach it with a humble spirit and a healthy end goal. “When you recognize that you need to do something and you’re brave enough to actually do it, the Holy Spirit will be with you.” You can read the full show notes for this episode at RachaelGilbert.com! Connect with Rachael on her website, Instagram and/or Facebook.

Crappy to Happy with Dr. Bernie SiegelDiane interviews a truly inspirational and phenomenal doctor: Dr. Bernie Siegel.  He has dedicated his career to taking medicine outside of the conventional realm of medicine to truly transform healing for his patients.  He has written a multitude of books to inspire transformation and mindfulness.  His books have changed lives from children to adults.  Dr. Bernie shares his powerful story Cycle of Life (A featured story in Sacred Stories Crappy to Happy coming out Oct 2020).  His journey began in 1978 with a new and innovative treatment for Cancer patients called CareFrontation.  Bernie utilized patients’ drawings, dreams, images and feelings to optimize their care.  Bernie shares his inspiration and guidance in his journey caring for patients.  He shares a brief synapse of some of his stories on this episode: Love, Medicine and Miracles and Cycle of Life.  Diane and Bernie truly transform the path to healing by advocating for patients to create a self-loving practice to thrive in life.  They both believe in the power of mindfulness and alternative treatments to shed away the layers of disease and illness from the body. Stay tuned for Bernie on a new interview on October 1st with more stories of triumph over illness through alternative treatments.  http://berniesiegelmd.com/The Truth about IBS and Anxiety: Erasing The Symptoms Effortlessly by Amazon.com Services LLC. Learn more here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0813YZ2BL/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_VzJhEbERG7626Learn more about Diane here: http://dianevich.com

The faithful are urged to "intervene" or give "fraternal correction" for a member of the Church who is obstinate in breaking the moral law. It is an act of charity... CCC 817, 822

In this podcast, Amadon DellErba discusses confrontation vs. carefrontation and effective methods of conflict resolution through deep, meaningful communication. To be a righteous man or woman, we must have the courage and vulnerability to confront others, and be grateful when we receive correction. "Righteousness strikes the harmony chords of truth, and the melody vibrates throughout the cosmos, even to the recognition of the Infinite." ~ The URANTIA Book If we want to grow spiritually, we need others to confront us. We need those elders and teachers to hold us accountable for when we don't live up to our principles and ideals. Material successful people use this technique of surrounding themselves with people who know more than them, pointing out their flaws and weaknesses. Amadon correlates this to having a physical trainer or coach who gives you feedback on your body and how we can use the same technique to promote our spiritual health and well-being. In our modern, politically correct society, no one wants to offend other people. Most want to maintain shallow, surface-deep levels of fakeness. They don't want to get real and meet problems face to face, toe to toe. People don't want to be confronted and they don't want to confront others. They would rather say “I'm okay, you're okay.” Conflict resolution is not just about resolving the outer conflict, but the conflict within your heart and mind. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable. The more you embrace conflict and deal with it, the less inner conflict you will have. Make yourself approachable to others. Ask people to confront you and give you feedback. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/getrealordietrying/message

Are you someone who has a chronic disease, or are you a caregiver of someone who does?  Do you feel helpless within the system and unsure of how to really get the care you need?  Do you feel like your healthcare providers don't listen and this makes you frustrated?  Nancy Gretzinger was also someone like you, but she took charge of her health and partnered with healthcare providers who actually did answer her concerns and questions. Check out one of her books on Amazon: Enmeshed https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0999421808/ref=dbs_a_w_dp_0999421808 Looking for some guidance on how to talk with your healthcare provider? Check out Dr. Wayne Jonas' Resources: http://drwaynejonas.com/resources-old/hope-note/ Nancy also mentioned Carefrontation.  Found more on that here: https://facilitatoru.com/facilitation/transformation-through-carefrontation/ --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/healthcareadvocacy/message

Recently I read an interesting article about how being a people-pleaser is actually a selfish act. Then I found a quote by motivational speaker and life manifestation coach Christine Hassler that lays it down straight. She says, “People pleasing is a terrible investment, because it depletes your most valuable resources: your time and energy. Just think about how much energy you waste by obsessing about what other people think of you or trying to strategize your actions to appease others” I couldn’t have put it better myself! People pleasing isn’t something that works well for real estate investors. That’s because you’re going to have to say NO sometimes. For instance, you’re going to have to say no to some investors. Just because someone has money doesn’t make him/her the right person to invest in your deal. You’re also going to have to learn to say no to deals, to potential partners, to buyers and to sellers. Everything has to be in alignment with your Investor Identity. That’s the secret sauce! As you move forward and do more deals, you’re likely going to become a go-to person. Lots of people are going to want to work with you. You’re going to see all sorts of deals… and they won’t all be right for you. You’ll learn to say no. You’ll learn that you can’t please everyone. What did Abraham Lincoln say? You can’t please everyone all the time? Hey, he’s right! And this is what I talk about in today’s episode of my Cash Flow Diary podcast. It’s the final installment of my 8 Things to Give Up series and you’re going to want to give it a listen. By the end of it you’ll understand why if you are a people-pleaser that you have to stop. It’s bad for your health. Studies show that the behavior actually causes higher levels of stress and debilitates the immune system. So why participate in such a negative behavior? Anyone who has ever seen me give a presentation knows I am definitely not a people-pleaser. In fact, I go the opposite way. I practice what I call Carefrontation™ which is a nice way of saying I tell people things they sometimes don’t want to hear. I tell them the truth. I ask questions that lead them to get to the truth themselves. It’s the only way I know to keep people on the right path in investing… to keep them focused on their Investor Identity so they can be their most successful. Hey, just because you say no doesn’t make you a “bad” person. It’s better that you learn when and how to say no. You aren’t in business to be liked by everyone you meet. Sure, it would be great if you were the hero all the time and well-loved by all, but that’s not life. So stop wasting time and energy thinking about it, worrying about it or trying to get to that goal. I guarantee you that there are lots of other better goals. I have a lot to say on this topic, so grab your ear buds, and say no to outside distractions. LISTEN NOW.

Recently I read an interesting article about how being a people-pleaser is actually a selfish act. Then I found a quote by motivational speaker and life manifestation coach Christine Hassler that lays it down straight. She says, “People pleasing is a terrible investment, because it depletes your most valuable resources: your time and energy. Just think about how much energy you waste by obsessing about what other people think of you or trying to strategize your actions to appease others” I couldn’t have put it better myself! People pleasing isn’t something that works well for real estate investors. That’s because you’re going to have to say NO sometimes. For instance, you’re going to have to say no to some investors. Just because someone has money doesn’t make him/her the right person to invest in your deal. You’re also going to have to learn to say no to deals, to potential partners, to buyers and to sellers.  Everything has to be in alignment with your Investor Identity. That’s the secret sauce!   As you move forward and do more deals, you’re likely going to become a go-to person. Lots of people are going to want to work with you. You’re going to see all sorts of deals… and they won’t all be right for you. You’ll learn to say no. You’ll learn that you can’t please everyone.  What did Abraham Lincoln say? You can’t please everyone all the time? Hey, he’s right! And this is what I talk about in today’s episode of my Cash Flow Diary podcast. It’s the final installment of my 8 Things to Give Up series and you’re going to want to give it a listen.  By the end of it you’ll understand why if you are a people-pleaser that you have to stop. It’s bad for your health. Studies show that the behavior actually causes higher levels of stress and debilitates the immune system. So why participate in such a negative behavior? Anyone who has ever seen me give a presentation knows I am definitely not a people-pleaser. In fact, I go the opposite way. I practice what I call Carefrontation™ which is a nice way of saying I tell people things they sometimes don’t want to hear. I tell them the truth. I ask questions that lead them to get to the truth themselves. It’s the only way I know to keep people on the right path in investing… to keep them focused on their Investor Identity so they can be their most successful.  Hey, just because you say no doesn’t make you a “bad” person. It’s better that you learn when and how to say no. You aren’t in business to be liked by everyone you meet. Sure, it would be great if you were the hero all the time and well-loved by all, but that’s not life. So stop wasting time and energy thinking about it, worrying about it or trying to get to that goal. I guarantee you that there are lots of other better goals.  I have a lot to say on this topic, so grab your ear buds, and say no to outside distractions. LISTEN NOW. 

Kurt Graves from Vistage Worldwide joins us this morning to discuss his experience as a Executive Coach and his excitement of helping people become self aware while accomplishing great things.

If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that “every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. (Matthew 18:15–17) Listen this week as Pastor Kevin explains how people respond to hurt/harm, and that God’s Word gives us ways we can practice “carefrontation” with our fellow believers.

Marcella is off this week, so I invited Kathleen Booth -- IMPACT's VP of Marketing and the host of our Inbound Success Podcast (check it out!) -- to join me once again. Our topic? One of the most powerful communication techniques Kathleen taught me back in the day at Quintain, which also has the worst name in the history of space and time: the carefrontation. Yes, it's a goofy word. But if you work on a team or you're a people manager -- or have any aspirations of the latter -- you need to know how to give and receive carefrontations. So, what is a carefrontation? Why do they work, and how do you have one? That's what we dissect in this episode. Enjoy!

“Our thoughts create our suffering” is not an uncommon idea.  But what does that really mean for our relationships, our past traumas, or the present realities?  In this episode, Rebecca talks with Tom Murray, a sex and couples therapist in Greensboro, NC, about the significance of the present moment, and what it proves about truth and endurance. Tom tells Rebecca about his “carefrontational” approach with clients and how he helps them to see where they’re creating their own suffering.  They discuss the difference between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth, moving with the flow of life versus living in resistance, how our realities disprove the messaging of our default consciousness, and the differences between intimacy and closeness.  Tom and Rebecca exchange thoughts on selficide, monogamy, and the only deep knowing we can ever really have.   Quoted in the Episode: The truth always feels light, without exception.  What we get mixed up on is believing that perfect always feels good.  Perfect doesn’t always feel good.  - Tom Murray I also have to appreciate that my partner’s ability to say No is what gives the Yes it’s meaning.  - Tom Murray This is the mirroring.  It’s not so much that our partners share something about themselves and we share something back about ourselves, but it’s that in the context of the relationship, I learn about me.  - Rebecca Wong    Resources Referenced in this Episode: Byron Katie Esther Perel  University of North Carolina, Charlotte on post-traumatic growth Book: The Art of Intimacy by Thomas Patrick Malone  Jack Moran   Where to find Dr Tom Murray: www.drtommurray.com  Facebook   If you're interested in working with Rebecca Wong, you can find out more about her services here: 1. If you're in New York and would like to schedule a relationship therapy session start here: https://connectfulness.com/therapy/ 2. If you're a therapist and are interested in mentorship with Rebecca, find out more about services offered here: https://www.practiceofbeingseen.com/work-with-rebecca/ 3. To learn more about Rebecca’s Private Couples Intensive Retreats, start here: https://connectfulness.com/intensive-private-retreat/ 4. And if you want to dive in deeply into building conscious relationship with your beloved consider sharing an experiential gift of deeper connection and intimacy over valentines in our Divine Mirrors: A Valentine’s Couples Retreat Rebecca is co-facilitating at Menla.     To join the #POBScast Community practiceofbeingseen.com/community For more information and resources, visit the website at practiceofbeingseen.com. To join the conversation on social media, use the hashtag #POBScast. You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. If you have questions or inquiries, email us at practiceofbeingseen@gmail.com        

Arlene Drake When confronted with an abused child, our first impulse is to drop everything and provide comfort, get him or her out of danger, and find out what the hell is going on at home. It’s obvious that the child is helpless, in trouble, and needs protection. Parents or not, we instinctively know what to do: We take care of the child. But what if the child is you?Pioneer and 30- year veteran in the field of trauma and sexual abuse Dr. Arlene Drake lays out a powerful way to repair the damage of childhood abuse and its lasting effects, by teaching you what your parents couldn’t: an invaluable set of skills and practices that will give you the resources to live as a healthy, happy adult. She’s successfully helped over 1000 adults in their journey to recover from trauma, sexual abuse and endless therapy.With the clear path her book provides, you can finally acknowledge that the suffering and the pain can stop. The destructive patterns can end. You can graduate into a life beyond “abuse victim,” take the power back from your abusers and finally be at peace. Learn more about Arlene Drake: arlenedrake.com

Carefrontation: Breaking Free from Childhood Trauma SHOW GUEST: Arlene Drake “Carefrontation can help anyone who has experienced emotional or physical abuse. Whether you know or suspect you were abused, this book will change your life for the better.” -Bob Beckel, CNN and USA Today commentator You’re stuck. Stuck in anxiety, nightmares, depression, addictions and aggressions that sounds all too familiar for many adult survivors of abuse. You’ve been through countless hours of therapy and nothing has worked. You’ve survived your abuse but you haven’t recovered. You are not alone. Welcome to the end of endless therapy, where’s there’s a beginning, middle and end. In our interview, Arlene details her breakthough technique of working directly with the hurt child inside to get to the root of suffering and heal once and for all. Carefrontation: As Arlene shares, “If we can finally acknowledge that the suffering and the pain can stop, the destructive patterns can end. We can graduate, at last, into a life beyond “abuse victim” and for the first time take the power back from our abusers and finally be at peace.”

Carefrontation: Breaking Free from Childhood Trauma SHOW GUEST: Arlene Drake “Carefrontation can help anyone who has experienced emotional or physical abuse. Whether you know or suspect you were abused, this book will change your life for the better.” -Bob Beckel, CNN and USA Today commentator You’re stuck. Stuck in anxiety, nightmares, depression, addictions and aggressions that sounds all too familiar for many adult survivors of abuse. You’ve been through countless hours of therapy and nothing has worked. You’ve survived your abuse but you haven’t recovered. You are not alone. Welcome to the end of endless therapy, where’s there’s a beginning, middle and end. In our interview, Arlene details her breakthough technique of working directly with the hurt child inside to get to the root of suffering and heal once and for all. Carefrontation: As Arlene shares, “If we can finally acknowledge that the suffering and the pain can stop, the destructive patterns can end. We can graduate, at last, into a life beyond “abuse victim” and for the first time take the power back from our abusers and finally be at peace.”

You're stuck. Stuck in anxiety, nightmares, depression, addictions and aggressions. Stuck in a recognizable pattern of suffering that sounds all too familiar for many adult survivors of abuse. You've been through countless hours of therapy and nothing has worked. You've survived your abuse but you haven't recovered. You are not alone. But, as thousands of today's special guest Dr.Arlene Drake's clients have learned, there is a bright light at the end of the recovery tunnel. Welcome to the end of endless therapy, where's there's a beginning, middle and end.Arlene Drake doesn't just treat people, she graduates them! Arlene Drake is a psychotherapist specializing in trauma recovery and a pioneer in the field of adult survivors of sexual abuse. Her ground-breaking new book, Carefrontation: Breaking Free From Childhood Trauma will walk you through the process that she has used for more than three decades to help thousands of people heal their deepest pain. Every adult who was neglected, insulted, belittled, beaten, sexually assaulted or in any way abused in childhood, continues to carry the trauma inside. Experiences like these leave a lifelong imprint on the body and mind throughout adulthood unless we can learn to repair and reparent, Arlene's special formula for teaching us how to be our own parents and listen, hear, believe and make ourselves feel safe. Carefrontation gives the reader powerful and positive ways to repair the damage of childhood abuse and its lasting effects, by teaching an invaluable set of skills and practices that will give abuse survivors the resources to live as a healthy, happy adult.  

Kathryn interviews psychotherapist and trauma expert Arlene Drake PhD, MFT. Dr. Drake is the author of “Carefrontation: Breaking Free from Childhood Trauma”. Every adult who was neglected, insulted, belittled, beaten, sexually assaulted or in any way abused in childhood, continues to carry the trauma into adulthood. Dr. Drake and her breakthrough technique are featured in People Magazine, USA Today, Newsweek, and ABC World News Tonight. Kathryn also interviews retired U.S. Army Major General Bruce M. Lawlor, author of “When Deadly Force is Involved: A Look at the Legal Side of Stand Your Ground, Duty to Retreat, and Other Questions of Self-Defense”. Lawlor is also a former CIA case officer, former trial lawyer, first Chief of Staff for the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, and former Virginia Tech professor. His book is based on actual incidents and explains each element of the use of deadly force and what happens after a person uses it to avoid being killed or seriously injured.

Kathryn interviews psychotherapist and trauma expert Arlene Drake PhD, MFT. Dr. Drake is the author of “Carefrontation: Breaking Free from Childhood Trauma”. Every adult who was neglected, insulted, belittled, beaten, sexually assaulted or in any way abused in childhood, continues to carry the trauma into adulthood. Dr. Drake and her breakthrough technique are featured in People Magazine, USA Today, Newsweek, and ABC World News Tonight. Kathryn also interviews retired U.S. Army Major General Bruce M. Lawlor, author of “When Deadly Force is Involved: A Look at the Legal Side of Stand Your Ground, Duty to Retreat, and Other Questions of Self-Defense”. Lawlor is also a former CIA case officer, former trial lawyer, first Chief of Staff for the U.S. Department of Homeland Security, and former Virginia Tech professor. His book is based on actual incidents and explains each element of the use of deadly force and what happens after a person uses it to avoid being killed or seriously injured.

Recently I read an interesting article about how being a people-pleaser is actually a selfish act. Then I found a quote by motivational speaker and life manifestation coach Christine Hassler that lays it down straight. She says, “People pleasing is a terrible investment, because it depletes your most valuable resources: your time and energy. Just think about how much energy you waste by obsessing about what other people think of you or trying to strategize your actions to appease others” I couldn’t have put it better myself! People pleasing isn’t something that works well for real estate investors. That’s because you’re going to have to say NO sometimes. For instance, you’re going to have to say no to some investors. Just because someone has money doesn’t make him/her the right person to invest in your deal. You’re also going to have to learn to say no to deals, to potential partners, to buyers and to sellers. Everything has to be in alignment with your Investor Identity. That’s the secret sauce! As you move forward and do more deals, you’re likely going to become a go-to person. Lots of people are going to want to work with you. You’re going to see all sorts of deals… and they won’t all be right for you. You’ll learn to say no. You’ll learn that you can’t please everyone. What did Abraham Lincoln say? You can’t please everyone all the time? Hey, he’s right! And this is what I talk about in today’s episode of my Cash Flow Diary podcast. It’s the final installment of my 8 Things to Give Up series and you’re going to want to give it a listen. By the end of it you’ll understand why if you are a people-pleaser that you have to stop. It’s bad for your health. Studies show that the behavior actually causes higher levels of stress and debilitates the immune system. So why participate in such a negative behavior? Anyone who has ever seen me give a presentation knows I am definitely not a people-pleaser. In fact, I go the opposite way. I practice what I call Carefrontation™ which is a nice way of saying I tell people things they sometimes don’t want to hear. I tell them the truth. I ask questions that lead them to get to the truth themselves. It’s the only way I know to keep people on the right path in investing… to keep them focused on their Investor Identity so they can be their most successful. Hey, just because you say no doesn’t make you a “bad” person. It’s better that you learn when and how to say no. You aren’t in business to be liked by everyone you meet. Sure, it would be great if you were the hero all the time and well-loved by all, but that’s not life. So stop wasting time and energy thinking about it, worrying about it or trying to get to that goal. I guarantee you that there are lots of other better goals. I have a lot to say on this topic, so grab your ear buds, and say no to outside distractions. LISTEN NOW.

Recently I read an interesting article about how being a people-pleaser is actually a selfish act. Then I found a quote by motivational speaker and life manifestation coach Christine Hassler that lays it down straight. She says, “People pleasing is a terrible investment, because it depletes your most valuable resources: your time and energy. Just think about how much energy you waste by obsessing about what other people think of you or trying to strategize your actions to appease others”I couldn’t have put it better myself!People pleasing isn’t something that works well for real estate investors. That’s because you’re going to have to say NO sometimes. For instance, you’re going to have to say no to some investors. Just because someone has money doesn’t make him/her the right person to invest in your deal. You’re also going to have to learn to say no to deals, to potential partners, to buyers and to sellers. Everything has to be in alignment with your Investor Identity. That’s the secret sauce!  As you move forward and do more deals, you’re likely going to become a go-to person. Lots of people are going to want to work with you. You’re going to see all sorts of deals… and they won’t all be right for you. You’ll learn to say no. You’ll learn that you can’t please everyone. What did Abraham Lincoln say? You can’t please everyone all the time? Hey, he’s right! And this is what I talk about in today’s episode of my Cash Flow Diary podcast. It’s the final installment of my 8 Things to Give Up series and you’re going to want to give it a listen. By the end of it you’ll understand why if you are a people-pleaser that you have to stop. It’s bad for your health. Studies show that the behavior actually causes higher levels of stress and debilitates the immune system. So why participate in such a negative behavior?Anyone who has ever seen me give a presentation knows I am definitely not a people-pleaser. In fact, I go the opposite way. I practice what I call Carefrontation™ which is a nice way of saying I tell people things they sometimes don’t want to hear. I tell them the truth. I ask questions that lead them to get to the truth themselves. It’s the only way I know to keep people on the right path in investing… to keep them focused on their Investor Identity so they can be their most successful. Hey, just because you say no doesn’t make you a “bad” person. It’s better that you learn when and how to say no. You aren’t in business to be liked by everyone you meet. Sure, it would be great if you were the hero all the time and well-loved by all, but that’s not life. So stop wasting time and energy thinking about it, worrying about it or trying to get to that goal. I guarantee you that there are lots of other better goals. I have a lot to say on this topic, so grab your ear buds, and say no to outside distractions. LISTEN NOW. 

Today’s episode of my Cash Flow Diary podcast is the start of something a little different. I’m responding to requests by Cashflow Core Members and listeners to do more non-interview episodes where I cover different topics they want me to cover.Today’s episode focuses on overcoming your limiting beliefs, which is something that is critical when you are moving to doing real estate investing and owning a business. There are real steps – physical steps – that you will have to move through, but they are just steps. Letting it be as simple as that is the secret to your success. That means you have to quiet the negative, fear-based, limiting voices in your head.So how do you do that?First, understand that you absolutely CAN do what you intend. Second, you take the steps involved in getting a property under contract, opening escrow and closing the deal. Third, never listen to people around you who are Negative Nellies. You certainly do not need to listen to their psyche-bashing words.If you can’t believe in yourself, let me help you. There is a process to getting you to your destiny. It starts with a thought and building the right habits (thereby breaking unhelpful habits). This is actually called the Process of Manifestation!What holds you back from success are your personal limiting beliefs.For example, I hear all the time from people, particularly real estate agents, that “you can’t do that,” or “that’s not how it works,” or whatever else they tell themselves as to the process of how anyone – literally anyone – can be a real estate investor… even if they don’t have money, credit or experience.I promise you that there is NO excuse that passes muster with me as to why you can’t do well investing in real estate. You’re not “too old, too young, too black, too white, too fat, too thin” or too anything. When I hear that, I also promise you that I’m going to use my best Carefrontation™ approach and get to the root of the excuse.I had heard these things early on myself. Heck, I believed some of those things, but guess what? My experiences burst through my limiting beliefs. I didn’t need a license to invest in real estate investing (neither do you). I could put down a $10 earnest money down payment (because I’ve done it over and over and over again.) I didn’t need a good credit score (neither do you). I could get seller financing all day long (and so can you). I didn’t have to pay a high interest rate to my investors (because there are lots of ways to work with investors and it’s NOT all about the interest rate). I didn’t need to pay people a whole lotta money to get them to work with me (there are lots of ways to get people to work with and for you).I hope you get a lot out of this episode. If the information strikes a chord with you and you have questions for me, guess what? You can schedule a time to chat with me briefly.

Continuing the message that I shared with the live audience at a recent Young Entrepreneurs Event in Irvine, Calif., that I started in the past Monday's episode of Cash Flow Diary, I talk about why and how I entered real estate investing. I also share with you the importance of continuing to gain the skillsto do more and more in real estate investing. When you listen to this episode you will hear why I had to learn how to use other people’s resources to keep hitting my goals and then setting new ones. You'll hear a lot of back-and-forth interactions between different audience members and me. We do a little role play, I answer lots of questions and I help steer a few people in better directions. I absolutely love getting up in front of audiences who are there to learn more so that they can do more in real estate. I always practice a little something I like to call CAREFRONTATION(tm). Maybe you can pick out a few of those moments from this special episode. It's the next best thing to being in the room live with me for the event. (Maybe you can be at one near you soon. If you're involved in a real estate investing group, especially in the Orange County of Los Angeles areas, and you're looking for a little inspiration and carefrontation, let me know. Hit me up through the site. There's a chat link in the lower right of the screen! 

There truly are ways to get money to come knocking at your front door. (Or maybe just call you a few times a month.) It's called "referrals." It doesn't happen immediately for new investors, but it will happen over time if you take the right action steps. In J.'s patented Carefrontation™ approach, he tells audience members at the recent Phoenix investors event, "If you are having trouble Raising Private Capital, there is a reason. You aren't doing something RIGHT NOW that you should be." What makes J. THE go-to person in getting deals done is not some magic dust. What got him to this point is exactly what you need to be doing RIGHT NOW and every day as an investor. You have to make decisions, which means to cut off other paths and options, and take action day after day after day. You have to make calls to lots of people, especially in the beginning. You will call sellers and buyers. You will talk to investors. That's how it works. That's how J. gets to other people's cash and credit. They know that they can trust him to make good decisions that will make their money work for them. That's a whole lot more fun than having to work for their money! Listen to this special Cash Flow Diary podcast episode and hear how J. tells the Phoenix audience they they must stop with the unproductive activities that are keeping them busy but bringing limited results. You want to use your time creating solutions. Listen now and learn!

Audio from the 2014 Synergy Conference: Confident "Carefrontation" with John Wootton.

Audio from the 2014 Synergy Conference: Confident "Carefrontation" with John Wootton.

We return this week with Doug, Jana, and Matt. Josh couldn't make it, he was off "Dreaming". It all about the Carefrontation this week as the group talks about Easter feeling numbers oriented, sweat suits in retirement communities, dealing with your past and it's effects on your current ministry, liability in homes, Tax Time, including other churches in your summer camp, Andy being nicer now that he's moved, cell phones and Quicken. (Yes there was discussion about Quicken the financial software. Luckily it was at the end, so I recommend turning this off when you get there).