Podcasts about negative nellies

Steps to an Even Better YOU!Life gets messy, right?One minute you're cruising along, and the next, you're drowning in to-do lists, random worries, and that annoying song stuck in your head. But what if there was a little mental “pause” button that could help you feel calmer, more positive, and actually in control of your day?That's where mindfulness comes in.So, what is mindfulness, really? And how can you make it a part of your daily life without much effort while also kicking the Negative Nelly off your shoulder?We will dive into this and so much more to help you achieve your best self!In this episode, you will learn:The Power of Mindfulness in Daily LifeOvercoming Negativity Through MindfulnessThe Transformative Practice of MindfulnessIncorporating Gratitude and Empathy into MindfulnessMaking Mindful Thinking a HabitEveryday Mindfulness: Finding Presence in Simple TasksThe Physical and Emotional Benefits of MindfulnessUnderstanding Bio-Individuality in WellnessWhy One-Size-Fits-All Health Plans Don't WorkRebuilding Your Relationship with Food Through MindfulnessThe Impact of Diet on Gut Health and Well-BeingYou Are What You Eat: The Connection Between Nutrition and MindsetBeyond Food: Nourishing Yourself Through Relationships and CareerThe Role of Love, Worth, and Intimacy in Personal FulfillmentHow Emotional and Social Well-Being Drive Motivation and SuccessAddressing Deficiencies in Emotional and Social Fulfillment... And much more****************************************Get Jumping!! Rebounder Workouts = Cardio without ImpactI loooove my rebounder mini-trampoline workouts. Why? Efficient cardio without high-impact hurting my joints + the bonus of improving lymphatic flow.It's a great 1-2 punch to get a high energy, low-impact sweat on with the added benefit of using the trampoline as a step, bench and other uses to allow for building muscle (especially when you add-on the strength training kit for a true muscle-building workout!).You can even use code: SAMANTHA10 for 10% off fitness trampolines model 250 or higher. Just click HERE or visit:https://www.jumpsport.com/?sscid=41k8_5dt10&utm_channel=affiliate_&utm_source=SAS_&=3244587 ****************************************My Daily Go-To for Detoxing and Fighting Aging

On this week's episode of The Worst. Comic. Podcast. EVER!: The guys gathered their shields to see Captain America: Brave New World last weekend. Don't believe the Negative Nellies out on social media - this is a fun movie that should be seen on the big screen. If you don't see it, well, let's just say you should expect a visit from the Red Hulk.  Jerry went to Missouri Comic Con last weekend and met the legendary comic creator Steve Leialoha. Jerry brought some comics along that created some special moments, and Steve even mentioned Clint's Comics.  Of course, we have our weekly Pick 3 choices sponsored by Clint's Comics. Plus trivia!! We would love to hear your comments on the show. Let us know what you've been reading or watching this week. Contact us on our website, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or by email. We want to hear from you! As always, we are the Worst. Comic. Podcast. EVER! and we hope you enjoy the show. The Worst. Comic. Podcast. EVER! is proudly sponsored by Clint's Comics. Clint's is located at 3941 Main in Kansas City, Missouri, and is open Monday through Saturday. Whether it is new comics, trade paperbacks, action figures, statues, posters, or T-shirts, the friendly and knowledgeable staff can help you find whatever it is that you need. You should also know that Clint's Comics has the most extensive collection of back issues in the metro area. If you need to find a particular book to finish the run of a title, head on down to Clint's or check out their website at clintscomics.com. Tell them that the Worst. Comic. Podcast. EVER! sent you.

Leadership Kryptonite #3: Critical Spirit “‘Scoffer' is the name of the arrogant, haughty man who acts with arrogant pride.” Proverbs 21:24 (ESV) Zero offense intended to all the wonderful Debbys, Nellies, and Carls in our lives. Thankfully, you are not a Negative Nelly, Debby Downer, or Complaining Carl. However, I guarantee you know a few. They go by different names but always seem to work their way into a team. It's known as a critical spirit, and it is a deadly form of leadership kryptonite. At a previous church, we had a member of our team who lived with a critical spirit. He saw everything through a negative lens. He challenged every new idea, doubted every decision, and always expected the worst. Unfortunately, he brought the entire team down. A person with a critical spirit is to a team what water is to a fire. They quench enthusiasm, hinder progress, and create an atmosphere of negativity. To lead effectively, we must recognize and address this destructive attitude. Get The Notes

Workplace conflict is inevitable, but it doesn't always have to be negative. When employees struggle to get along, should you step in as a leader, give them space, or let them navigate the issue themselves? Grab your pen and paper, and learn how to transform disruptive behaviors into opportunities for growth and positive change. 1. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let your employees resolve conflicts on their own. By doing so, you foster their growth both professionally and personally. Rather than jumping in to mediate, provide them with the tools they need to manage the issue themselves. In doing this, you empower them to solve problems, even when you're not there. 2. The “Negative Nellies” who find fault in everything can wear down team collaboration and morale. Though you may hesitate to confront negativity, it's crucial to do so. If left unchecked, this behavior signals to other employees that you, as a leader, are unwilling to address problems, which can lead to a toxic environment that stifles creativity and positivity. Often, these individuals challenge you as a leader to see if you'll step up. To maintain peace and balance, it's essential to address the issue directly and lead by example. 3. Silent saboteurs are those employees who appear agreeable during meetings but then undermine plans by missing deadlines, ignoring feedback, or submitting half-finished projects. They may quietly challenge your authority, but your team notices the disruption. Confronting passive resistance can be tough, but clarity is key. Ensure that these employees know their deadlines, check in regularly on their progress, and when they accuse you of micromanaging, calmly point out their recent behavior and its impact on the team. 4. Overtalkers dominate conversations, steering discussions toward their own agendas and preventing others from sharing their ideas. This can cause the rest of the team to withdraw and stop contributing. To manage this, speak up and remind the overtalker that everyone's voice matters. Some employees may need more time to process before sharing their thoughts, and it's important to create space for those diverse perspectives. Without this balance, collaboration falters. 5. Cliquish collaborators form exclusive groups that gossip, create division, and foster a toxic workplace. As a leader, you might avoid addressing this behavior because you want to be liked, but that shouldn't be your goal. Instead, prioritize fostering an inclusive and healthy team dynamic. Be direct in addressing the cliques and the disruptive behaviors they create, ensuring everyone feels included and valued. Go to https://www.tammyjbond.com/podcast  to change your mindset and behaviors so you can elevate your communication and leadership! We'd love for you to join us for our next episodes by tuning in on Apple Podcast, Amazon Podcast, or Spotify and subscribe to our YouTube channel. This podcast is produced by TSE Studios.

2nd Date Update: Brian had a great time with Jamie but she hasn't returned his calls since and the question becomes can a Negative Nelly get along with a Positive Pauly---you be the judge!

Tiffany reached out and asked, "Hey Mesh, why are these negative thoughts still in my brain?" So we take it apart together! Honestly Tiffany is such a gift. She will make you laugh and at the same time take you to a place that is so real and raw you will be asking if are hearing this right! It is such a gift because it allows you to see your own thoughts from a different angle as we are talking about someone else - it's magic how that happens! Hoping this helps escort you right out of Negative Nellyville!Connect with Mesha Find Mesha on Instagram Check out Mesha's website Click here for a free mini meditation course with Mesha Click here for The Heart Sync Course with Mesha (where you learn heart coherence) Click here for a free heart meditation with Mesha Click here to learn about the power of your heart And you can always email Mesha at hello@myfriendmesha.com

The Toronto Blue Jays are into the final month of the season and the kids have been playing long enough now for Griff and Scotty Mac to play "Realistic Ronnies" (as opposed to "Negative Nellies") and give their opinions on where the young players fit, or don't, on the 2025 roster and beyond. Bowden Francis continues to ascend; and a comment about Chris Bassitt triggers memories of the guys covering R.A. Dickey.

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If you're tired of being Negative Nelly and long to turn your life around to be more productive and happier, discover the power of hypnosis! Worrying and feeling like nothing is going your way can easily get you down, but with hypnotherapy and positive self talk you shift your mindset and outlook! In this episode ... Read more The post How Hypnotherapy Can Enhance Your Spiritual Growth appeared first on Intuitive Edge.

#DateEmOrDumpEm The One with the Negative Nelly

Dustin does not typically respond to negative comments, but he could not help himself this time. He wrote an article for the Buzz in October of 2023 called "Are Appraisers Actually Making More This Year" and as you can imagine, it was fraught with negative comments. Dustin responds, not directed at the negative, but for those who are interested in improving their lives.

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In this powerful episode, Noor will show you how the mind works and why it often brings up negative thoughts even though you're fighting against it. This will show you why you've unconsciously been blocking your own manifesting success!  Get access to the Slay Your Subconscious Podcast series HERE: www.slayyoursubconscious.com 

Sometimes we can get all Negative Nelly. I believe the more you consciously pull yourself out of it, and shift your energy, the less frequent the funks become. In this episode I offer 4 easy to follow steps to shift your energy and perspective to match your highest good. We cover How you set yourself up to failAcknowledging the funkBeliefs, narratives and how you treat yourself and your bodyShifting thoughtsWhat the real you wants to feel and experienceThe power of I'm sorry and I love youThere's more. If you enjoyed this poddy, listen to more and also review and share the poddy. Thanks for listening. Lotsa LoveTommy www.instagram.com/tommykende

Welcome to the BONUS episode of Life With a Wife hosted by Jenna Robinson & Zoe Clifton. In this episode they discuss what their 'hump' of the week, which ends up being their entire week and what annoys them about themselves. They also share some funny stories, answer some fun 'Would You Rather' questions and start an argument over raves versus gigs, who's team are you on?Email: lifewithawife@runbyinfluencers.comInstagram: @lifewithawifepod Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Time for a Friday Flight- our little sampling of the week's financial news and what it means for your personal finances. There are a lot of headlines out there, but we boil them down to specific takeaways that will allow you to kick off the weekend informed and help you to get ahead with your money. In this episode we explain some relevant and helpful stories like: short-term rental smackdowns, Airbnb hosting considerations, zoning's impact on the cost-of-housing crisis, negative nellies, more expensive health insurance, bankruptcy lawyers making bank, pros and cons of a cashless society, donation dilemmas, & proactively giving.   Want more How To Money in your life? Here are some additional ways to get ahead with your personal finances: Knowing your ‘money gear' is a crucial part of your personal finance journey. Start here.  Sign up for the weekly HTM newsletter. It's fun, free, & practical. Join a thriving community of fellow money in the HTM Facebook group. Find the best credit card for you with our new credit card tool! Massively reduce your cell phone bill each month by switching to a discount provider like Mint Mobile.   And please help us to spread the word by letting friends and family know about How to Money! Hit the share button, subscribe if you're not already a regular listener, and give us a quick review in Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Help us to change the conversation around personal finance and get more people doing smart things with their money. Have an awesome weekend!   Best friends out!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being around a Negative Nelly can be a total drag! Especially if you work hard to keep your own spirits high. In this episode, Kassi shares a 6-step process to shift the energy with the Don Downer in your life. You'll learn: >> why humans have a “negativity bias” >> what it looks and feels like to be around this energy >> 6 steps to shift the energy >> a meditation practice to release triggers around a Pessimistic Peter (one of the most effective meditations Kassi has ever done!)  >> when and how to have a conversation with your resident Bummer Bambi   Join Kassi's email list + receive a video guide to her one-minute morning practice for peace of mind, energy, and focus! Click here: kassiunderwood.com/morningpractice   Connect with Kassi: IG: @kassiunderwood TikTok: @kassi.underwood Twitter: @kassiunderwood Facebook: @kassiunderwoodauthor   Interested in working with Kassi privately or in her live group program for women? Book a complimentary consultation here: kassiunderwood.as.me/20minutechat

86 | HunkyDory +Painful Patterns (BOTH) - I don't want to be Negative Nelly and say “hunkydory” isn't okay. It is AND! There are still “Painful Patterns” sitting on the bench outside this beautiful garden you built - on the damn bench WAITING on you! Waiting on YOU individually to acknowledge, to express, to develop rituals and routines so THEY don't have to rear their UGLY head again! Do not ignore them…while playing “HunkyDory” with life and life-force energies and your union! Relationships. Any and all relationships! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theresa-king-podcast/message

“The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act” - Rick WarrenToday Max discusses 5 ways to move your mentality and perception from a “Negative Nelly” to a “Positive Princess.”

It happens to so many freelancers: you want to go for that big client or ask for more money for that huge project, but when it comes to the crunch… you don't. Why? Because of the voice in your head telling you that you're not good enough or that you don't deserve it. But babe, that's bullsh*t! In this episode of Fiercely Freelance, I tell you how to flip the script on your negative assumptions. Today I'm helping you to sort brain fact from brain fiction so that you can challenge your Negative Nelly mindset. At the beginning of the episode, I give you examples of how those negative thoughts might show up in your freelance business. Then I flip the script to demonstrate how different it could be if you lead with evidence! You'll learn how to look for evidence of your brilliance in your daily life and how to create your own Awesome Evidence folder to remind yourself of it whenever you need it. This lesson is a biggie and it might take a while for your brain to adjust to looking for evidence and not assumptions. If you want to talk it over with me, feel free to reach out to me via my Instagram. I'm always happy to hear from you, my love! Timestamps[1:10] Hey love! Today we're flipping the script on your business mindset[2:02] What assumptions might look like in your business[3:18] Lead in life with evidence![4:29] Are you telling yourself “I'm not good enough”?[5:50] How to look for the evidence[6:47] Your Awesome Evidence folder[8:37] Give yourself radical permission to ditch the negative assumptions[10:26] Evidence doesn't have to be huge big numbersFOLLOW ME ON SOCIALSInstagramLinkedInTikTok::JOIN MY LISTSign up for my weekly email series, Peaceful Service Pro – the no-BS guide to making more £££ in business on a chilled AF schedule.::WORK WITH MEOffer Suite Oracle VIP IntensiveOffer Suite Oracle ProgramVisit my WebsiteBook a Disco Call

{Only Two Spots Left!!!} Applications are closing soon for my Exclusive 1:1 Expansion Coaching: Apply today When I made the decision to launch my own business, after 10 years of juggling a side hustle while working in Corporate – I expected support/encouragement from the people around me. The funny thing was…..the more I talked about my plans, and what I was doing…..the more negativity and skepticism I ran into. It dampened my excitement, and made me question my choices (and my sanity!). I was getting comments like:“When it doesn't work out, you can always re-apply for your job!”“What about the benefits?!?! What are you gonna do without the benefits?!?” “What if you run out of clients?!”Friends and family, who had always been my pillars of support….suddenly became the bearers of doubt and negativity. They questioned my decisions, they focused on the risks/challenges associated with entrepreneurship….and I know their concerns were well-intentioned, but I was overwhelmed by the constant stream of negativity!And I'll be honest – this negativity took a massive toll on my confidence, and my belief in myself. There were moments when I wondered – am I making a mistake?!?I had to look at things from a different perspective, and realize that the negativity was coming from a place of fear and uncertainty. Sound familiar? Here's a sneak peek at what you'll hear about, once you hit PLAY: What is a “negative nellie?” No one gets to make us feel any sort of way, unless we give them permission Common traits of unsupportive people Is it vindictiveness, or is it poor communication skills and a desire to keep you safe? Learning to trust your inner GPS Making the choice to love/accept others for where they're at in their journey Repeat after me: “it's not about me.” Key strategies to manage your own energy, and foster an abundance mindset The importance of practicing empathy/understanding Observe don't absorb Setting boundaries and limiting the discussion Surround yourself with like-minded people Don't bother trying to change others (it's not your job) Brenda on Instagram @_brendajohnston Subscribe to my mailing list for more fluff-free, expansive info and insights all things mindset, manifestation and energetics

This week, the positive duo of Rob and David tackle the negativity that indie authors face, whether it is from readers, book shops or even themselves. Don't worry, it's not a downer of an episode. In fact, they discuss how they channel it productively, and offer hints and tips on how to build resilience when tackling life as an indie author.Rob Radcliffe, a 'lad-lit' author, joins the duo for the 'Seven Questions' and to discuss his life as an independent author. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Okay, so today we're getting real. Recently, a coworker shared with me how her friend has long struggled with working as a nurse while also having ADHD. This friend was lucky enough to find a position at a hospital that truly supports and embraces her, but many are not as lucky. And although ADHD is commonplace in the healthcare space, its challenges are often stigmatized and swept under the rug - creating an epidemic of shame that can feel isolating and overwhelming. After all, imagine what it feels like to constantly help others when you yourself are struggling everyday? To help shed light on this subject, we reached out to an Executive Function coach of ours, Beth Malvino, who coaches two social workers, Lina and Cassie. Together, they bravely shared their stories about the difficulties they've faced in managing their own executive dysfunction while supporting others' mental wellbeing. Their stories are powerful and filled with important wisdom around the unique challenges that healthcare workers with ADHD encounter and what can be done to overcome them. We explore self-care, the limitations for neurodiverse people within the systems in which we work and live, and combating that negative narrative that runs through the heads of many people with ADHD. I am sure that anyone listening who has Executive function challenges and works in healthcare spaces will really relate to much of what you'll hear on this episode. NOTE: There is some very light swearing in this episode. If you've got any young kids with you who happen to be super interested in the impact of ADHD on healthcare workers, you might want to give them a heads up.Finally, I also wanted to share that we have a podcast email now! You can reach out to me at podcast@beyondbooksmart.com. Send me your episode topic ideas! I'd love to hear from you.In the meantime, here are the show notes from today's episode: Tips For Nurses Managing Their Attention Deficit Disorder:https://blog.diversitynursing.com/blog/tips-for-nurses-managing-their-attention-deficit-disorderA Day in the Life of a Healthcare Professional with Executive Function Challenges:https://www.worksmartcoaching.com/blog/a-day-in-the-life-of-a-healthcare-professional-with-executive-function-challenges8 Tips For How To Thrive As A Nurse With ADHD | NurseJournal:https://nursejournal.org/articles/how-to-thrive-as-a-nurse-with-adhd/ADHD - Workplace Issues:https://chadd.org/for-adults/workplace-issues/Contact us!Reach out to us at podcast@beyondbooksmart.comIG/FB/TikTok @beyondbooksmartcoachingTranscriptHannah Choi 00:04Hi everyone and welcome to Focus Forward, an executive function Podcast where we explore the challenges and celebrate the wins you'll experience as you change your life by working on improving your executive function skills. I'm your host, Hannah Choi. Hannah Choi 00:18Before I tell you about today's episode, I wanted to share that we have a podcast email now! You can reach out to me at podcast at beyondbooksmart.com Send me your episode topic ideas. I'd love to hear from you. Hannah Choi 00:33Okay, so today we're getting real, not like we haven't been real in the past. Talking about EF challenges is very real. But we're getting extra real today. Recently, our podcast team was having a conversation about how having ADHD impacts people at work. And someone shared that a friend of theirs is a nurse who has ADHD. And she had finally found a position at a hospital that truly supports and embraces her ADHD and all. We wanted to explore the idea of holding a job where you're constantly giving, giving, giving, and often supporting people with EF challenges. While also managing your own EF challenges. We reached out to a coach of ours Beth Malvino, who works as a coach for two social workers, Lina and Cassie. They joined me and Beth to share their stories about the difficulties they face in managing their own executive dysfunction, while supporting others. They'll provide insights into the unique challenges that healthcare workers with ADHD encounter and the work they do to overcome them. You'll hear Beth offer her valuable and rather touching perspective on Lina and Cassie's EF journeys. All three of them share the tools and strategies that Lina and Cassie have found helpful in supporting their executive function challenges. In addition, we explore self care, the limitations for neurodiverse people within the systems in which we work and live and combating that negative narrative that runs through the heads of many people with ADHD. I am sure that anyone listening today who has EF challenges and works in healthcare spaces will really relate to much of what you'll hear today. Hannah Choi 02:29And just to note that there is some light swearing in this episode. If you've got any young kids with you who happened to be super interested in the impact of ADHD on health care workers, you might want to give them a heads up. Okay, now on to the show. Hannah Choi 02:46Hi, y'all. I learned that from Lina. Lina and Cassie and Beth are joining me today to talk about executive function challenges for people who work in healthcare spaces. And Lina is from originally from Texas. And so we were talking about y'all, so I thought I'd try that out today. So, would you guys, would you like to introduce yourselves? Lina, do you want to start? Lina 03:13Sure. Um, hi, I'm Lina. As Hannah said, I'm originally from Texas, but I currently live in Chicago. I work in social work on getting my master's in social work with the concentration in mental health. But I have some background in public administration and policy work, particularly within criminal justice spaces, or like to say the criminal system of injustice just because that's what we have right now. And it's, uh, you know, I work within the realm of mental health and people who've been impacted by that system. So yeah, it's really great to be here with all of you. I'm excited to chat.Hannah Choi 04:01Thank you, and Cassie.Cassie 04:05Hello. My name is Cassie. I am a school social worker slash guidance guidance adjustment counselor. And I don't work at a typical school. I work at a therapeutic day school. So my kiddos have they range our youngest right now is seven. Our oldest is 20. And they range from all kinds of mental health diagnoses trauma backgrounds, emotional behavioral disabilities. So it's funny thinking about kind of our our topic of today is you know, having EF concerns while working in in healthcare but it's like I have EF concerns and I'm surrounded by children who also are very dysfunctional when it comes to EF and also kind of in general. Um, so that was kind of funny to think about that that juxtaposition. Hannah Choi 05:04So yeah, and I really want to get into that today because that is you two are not the only people out there who work in that work and also have executive function challenges. So I'm sure that there are other people who will hear this conversation and be really be able to resonate with or relate to relate with what you have to say. And last, we have Beth, who is, well, Beth, you explain how you know Lina and Cassie, and what your role is in, in the world? Beth Malvino 05:40Sure, sure. So hi, I'm Beth. I've been a licensed clinical social worker for more than 20 years, I have worked in lots of different healthcare settings, mostly hospitals, with different populations of people. I've been in psychiatry, medicine, hospice oncology, I had my own private practice for a while, I ran virtual support groups for grief and divorce during the pandemic. And now I am an executive function coach at Beyond BookSmart. I currently work with Lina and Cassie, they've been my clients for some time now. And so I'm really going to enjoy talking to them today, because they've had such an amazing journey. So I'm looking forward to sharing that and hearing their perspectives from that.Hannah Choi 06:32Yeah, great. I can't wait to hear this too. And Lina, and Cassie, why did you seek out executive function coaching?Lina 06:43Yeah, so I sought out executive function coaching, because I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult in 2021. So it was like a year after the pandemic had started. And I didn't start coaching until last year 2022, like I had waited a while. Just because you know, when you're an adult, and you get diagnosed with something that you've had your whole life and things didn't make sense. And you finally got that, I like to think of it as like the lens that you can see through your life and look at all the pieces that didn't fit together. And now you have this lens of information, that you could see more clearly, all of the challenges and triumphs and really weird stuff in your life. It, you know, it can take a while to kind of like, figure out what you need and unmask yourself. And so I started coaching last year, because I really, you know, I read all the books about ADHD and what it's like, but to put things into practice is what really was hard for me identifying how my brain worked and trying out different things, I didn't even know where to start to do that. And so that's why I sought out coaching just because, you know, putting, like, you can rationally in your head know, all these things, you know, read all the books, but it's a whole other thing to put what you've learned into practice. And that's why I sought out coaching. And it's, you know, greatly improved my mental health to even though it's not a mental health service. You know, it's, you know, just being able to put things in practice and learn more and get more information has improved my anxiety a lot just because I know I have different tools and different strategies than I did before. And so yeah, it's it's worked in conjunction with therapy already. That has improved a lot of things in my life and has helped make my work. You know, both in and out of school and in and out of social work a lot better for me.Cassie 09:10So I went, I think I think we started in winter, like December 2021. I think, recently, I'm like, Oh, well, I have a different insurance. Like, let's see if there is a psychiatrist nearby that can like assess me and like, take over my meds and whatnot. So I'm actually hopefully going to be starting that soon. Which would be great. Because there's a number of things, not just the attention and focus and whatnot. But there's other things that I'm like, Oh, I think I want somebody who knows stuff about this to help me figure things out. And that's kind of the same thinking that got me here as well. I sought out coaching because I was miserable. I was As I felt like I was drowning in work. And I couldn't kind of wrap my head around it because I have always been a smart kid, I've never had to work too hard at school. And even like college was mostly fine grad school was mostly fine. But when I started my first big girl salary job with my MSW, I couldn't manage it. Like I knew how to do the tasks that I was supposed to do. That's, that wasn't the issue, the issue was actually just getting them done, starting them and finishing them. So I was always behind on things, I was staying really late at work. I had already gone to my supervisor who is amazing. And she, you know, had given me some suggestions for what works for her and, you know, tried to get me a new planner, and we're like, move my schedule around to see if that helped. And so it's probably been a good more than six months that I'd been like, really aware of the fact that I was just very unhappy at work. And then I finally was like, a kind of, I had to bite the bullet because again, like, I'm used to just coasting through things. I'm used to just being successful with not a lot of effort. And to be like, Okay, no, like, I need help. I'm struggling really, really bad. It got to the point where I was like waking up in the morning and hoping that I would get a text message that say that there was an actual gas leak on campus. And so I didn't have to go in like, because I worked at a residential campus. And so there were no, like, there were no days off. Like it was Monday through Friday, no matter what, no matter if there was a blizzard, no matter if it was a national holiday, like we, we went in. So yeah, so I was I was very, very unhappy and was like, alright, like, it's not, it's not a matter of not knowing how to do it. It's just actually getting my work done. It's not not not knowing how to do it, it's being able to make it happen. So that's why Yeah, and Lina, you said that it's not a it's not a mental health service. But like, honestly, right now, I feel like I have three different therapists in some way, because I have my actual individual therapist that I speak with, like once or twice a month. And then I have my supervisor at work, who is amazing, and supportive and wonderful. And then I also have Beth, and it's like, it's Yeah, I feel like having all of these supports in my quarter has been like, really, really helpful. Lina 12:36So yeah, I, I want to affirm that, like, I know, you know, they're supposed to be different difference between coaching and therapy. But there have been several times where Beth and I and I'm sure it's the same way for you Cassie word, the coaching session does kind of turn intoCassie 12:54Oh, yeah. Therapy. For five sessions, I was just like, crying to her. Like, I don't know why I do this. I'm Yeah. This is hard to like, why is it so hard to just type words into my computer,Lina 13:12Or even like, when the big feelings show up, because you have some big feelings about something and you're just crying about it, you're just like, I don't know how to emotionally regulate.Hannah Choi 13:22It shows you how closely connected our emotions are with our executive functions, and how it is you cannot separate them. And, and so it's really great that you're that you're working with a therapist as well, because then you're able to take things that you learn in each and, and bring them together. And it was also recommend that to my clients, who aren't seeing therapists already.Cassie 13:50It was also really important to me as I was in the process of like, signing up that like, you know, I am, I am a, an MSW, I, you know, I have my license, I like I want to work with somebody who has similar training, because like, I feel like, you know, I kind of like I've seen behind the curtain, like, I know, like, you know, I'm aware of the different theories and whatever and, and, like, I wanted to work with somebody else who also had that same background.Beth Malvino 14:23I have to say that, I think, and I was thinking about this last night when I was sort of preparing for this podcast today, you know, what, what has been really important in in the coaching relationship with with both of you, and I think there's been an element of relatability that I maybe didn't realize how important that was until we all started working together. Because I'm a social worker. I mean, there's there's that capacity to understand even though we We've all done different things like I've never done any of the types of roles that you both are in. But yet I can still empathize because I know what it's like to have to chart, you know, 50 notes in a week and have to, you know, feel to feel like there's 1000 emails that haven't been responded to, and just the whole concept of giving so much of yourself, because that's what we do, you know, we're helpers, we're healers, and feeling as if there's just nothing left, at the end of the day. And when you throw in things like executive font dysfunction and time distortion on top of that, it's just I can only imagine how difficult that must be. Because I know that I have felt that way, in lots of work settings, and I don't have executive dysfunction. And so I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. So I think there's definitely the the idea of being empathetic to that I think, has really helped us to bond as coach and client. And that's been an important part of the process.Hannah Choi 16:12Can we explore that a little, the idea of what you just said about how you have to give yourself all day to people who really, really, really need you. And also, you're giving yourself as a person who is struggling with executive function. And you're likely supporting someone who is also struggling with exec executive function. So how do you like what does that look like? For you? What is? What is? Is that a struggle? And when what does it look like?Cassie 16:47For me, it looks like being transparent, to some degree with my students, there have been so many times where, because in my role, I go into our classrooms, and I lead like group counseling. So we right now we're working on the zones of regulation. But what it looks like, sometimes for me is, like, kind of being explicit, and like, oh, like, that's a really good question, kiddo. But like, I you note, you know, that I want to hang out and chat with you about anything under the sun, but like, right now, I need to focus on finishing this lesson. Or like a kiddo will ask them like, Hey, Miss, can you know, can you come check in with me later? Or can we work on this thing? And like just being very explicit, like, Yes, I will try to remember or I will write it down. But like, like, just kind of like being honest about like, I this is important, and I want to do it, but like, if an emergency comes up, or if whatever, you know, it may not happen, and asking the kids like, hey, help me remember that next time we have group I want to do XYZ? Or, if you see me in the hallway, ask me about this, and then I can let you know when I find out the answer. So it's kind of in some ways, it's it's being honest, and kind of modeling for the kids. And then and then it's also working with my colleagues. Kind of in a more intentional way, also, one of the big benefits that I've noticed and started coaching is just the change in my kind of thinking patterns or my habits. Right now, I am very lucky that I have an awesome clinical intern who is working on her MSW as well. And so oftentimes, what we'll do is, she'll get there in the morning, and I'll be you know, answering emails or whatever. And we'll kind of sit down and like have like a kind of a planning session. We're like, Alright, so today for group, we're going to work on this thing. I don't think Anthony class has finished their worksheet, so we'll finish that up for them. But Dubois class, they didn't finish. So we're gonna move on to this one, we were kind of just like, make a plan for the day. And then we also were like, Alright, so after groups, like what's our priority, like, we really need to finish this assessment, we really need to finish planning for the next two groups. Like it's been really helpful for me to have that conversation with somebody else. until like, right, these are our priorities for the day. That's been something that's been really helpful for me because it's, you know, I can have that conversation with myself in my head, but it's just it there's no external accountability, which was another thing that I really gained benefit from. So it's, what it looks like is modeling it for the kids and then practicing myself, even when I'm not with the kids.Hannah Choi 19:42That's awesome. And then building in the accountability of having a partner and advocating for yourself that you need that partner and that you you know this like that. building that relationship with her I'm sure is invaluable for both of you. Yeah, what about you, Lina?Lina 20:00Um, so there's a few components for how I deal with it in my work. So right now I am working in substance use just to give some background, I work with adults in the west side of Chicago, who, you know, for various reasons, have used substances to cope with their life and their realities and their pain. And, you know, when I work with a bunch of people like this, especially people who are, you know, mandated to treatment by the justice system, or the criminal system of injustice, system, I, you know, struggle a lot with and just not even that, you know, I don't know how many people are aware of how recovery spaces are, but they're pretty rigid, you know, if you're in recovery homes, there's very, like I work with a lot of patients who are in recovery homes, and the rigidity of certain recovery homes just gives no flexibility for a client to have autonomy in their life and in their treatment, and in their program. And I take a harm reduction approach, where, you know, we look at recovery, and look at how do we manage reducing unnecessary harm without trying to eradicate the issue? Right? Because we know it's going to exist, we know it's going to, you know, it has existed for centuries, you know, people have been using substances for centuries, but how do we reduce unnecessary harm that can come from doing that. And what that also means is defining recovery, and however, the individual defines it, right. And sometimes, if a person comes in with a very rigid idea of what recovery can be, and trying to fit themselves into a box, that doesn't necessarily work for them. I resonate with that, because I tried to do that, my whole life, right, with having undiagnosed ADHD, I was just coping all the time and trying to fit myself into boxes that didn't necessarily fit for me, but I was working so hard. And so yeah, I was just working so hard for so long, in spaces that were never meant to fit me. Right. And so a lot of what I've done with clients, and with patients is just like a lot of validation of being like, yeah, this it's hard. There's no rulebook to how life could be. But we have all these expectations within these systems that we're in to meet, unfortunately, and I'm a very systems based person, I always have been, because I've always noticed, that's like one of my ADHD superpowers, I would say is, I've always noticed how systems really suck. And they don't allow people to have choice and autonomy, to do things that is actually better for them, you know what I mean? And so that's how I see it a lot with my clients and with my patients. And even for me, I have to, you know, I'm still in graduate school, I have all these expectations to meet for school, I have all these expectations to meet within my clinical internship, which is doing the substance use work. And one of the things that Beth and I did was, we broke down all the things that I had to do, like we literally wrote it out, being like, you have to do, CSRS T PRs, individual sessions, group therapy sessions, individual notes, group notes, case management, notes, housing notes, all these things. And when you really break it down, it's like, all these expectations, and for what, right? And for what, it's just so exhausting. And so I, you know, I even started doing that with my patients being like, alright, let's look at your recovery program and being like, look at all these expectations, and you're exhausted, like, there are hard things that add to your life, and there's hard things that don't. And then there's hard things that are a little bit of both, and how do we recognize those things that do add to our life? And try to minimize the things that don't and start making things that work better for you. So it's, yeah, I do it, you know, a lot of validation at my work and my job, especially with the clients who were within the criminal system of injustice, because those expectations are just out of pocket. I'm just like, Why does this have to exist this way, especially for this person that already has so many different systems working against them. And in a lot of ways, we as people with executive functioning challenges, work within systems that are working against us too. And that's really challenging and really hard. Yeah.Hannah Choi 24:56And something that I do I just this talk about systems is so interesting because as a person who has executive function challenges, I mean, all people need to build systems for themselves that they can rely on. And when you are a person with executive function challenges, your system is probably going to look really different, and not fit in well, to the existing systems that are already there, which I think is pretty much what you were just saying Lina. And, and it's, I don't know, it's just interesting that, that, that systems can be critical for success. And they can be really limiting when there is no flexibility. And there's no consideration for the variety of needs, that that people have. And that's what's so beautiful about taking the time and, and, and taking the time. That's what's so beautiful about discovering the aspects of yourselves that are strong, and that you can rely on, and how you can use those to support the areas that are that are more challenging for you, and how you're taking, taking the time to really think about it and to really say like, what do I need? And how can I create that for myself. And when you are spending your whole day, supporting other people and giving and giving and giving and giving? It's probably pretty difficult to stop and just really wait, why do I need? And how do I support myself in this time? So do you what do you do for yourself to recover from a really difficult day or manage executive function? I mean, other than, like what you shared already, like is there maybe self care that you do to, you know, to alleviate some of that pressure that I'm sure that you feel, trying to fit into these systems that that are there.Cassie 27:15Something that I have been doing, that my whole family has been doing, ever since the pandemic started. My, my mom, my dad, and my older sister, and I, just the four of us in my immediate nuclear family. We have weekly family video calls. And that actually evolved from way back when the pandemic very first started, my sister reached out to us and was like, I'm really worried about the state of the world can we just do a video call just to check in with each other. And then we really enjoyed it. So we did again, the next night, and the next night, and the next night. So we we I talked to my parents and my sister every single day for, I don't know, four or five months of the pandemic. And then, you know, once I finished grad school, and once I moved out here for my first big girl salary job, we did cut it down to twice a week. And now we're down to once a week. But because we had that kind of foundation of updating each other on every part of our days, because we talked every single day, we just have a much, I think a much stronger relationship and much more open and comfortable relationship just has a whole family unit. And so we talk about a lot of things like we are much more open about our mental health, about our needs. You know, sometimes my sister will talk about how she, you know, I'm feeling really down today, like my depression is pretty bad. Or, you know, we'll joke with mom about how like mom, like, you have undiagnosed ADHD, even though it's sometimes in a joking way, we're much more open about our own struggles and mental health needs and everything. And I think that's been instrumental. For me, I think it's been really, really helpful, just personally, but I also think that it's improved all of our lives just to have that regular communication and that comfort. So for me, family is a really big part of my self care. I know that that's not the case for everyone. For other for some people, like family creates stress, and that's totally valid. But for me, family time has been a really big part of my self care.Hannah Choi 29:33And hopefully for people that sort of their chosen family can step in, and Lina What about you? What do you do to take care of yourself?29:40Man, we're trying to figure that out to be honest. One of the things that my ADHD loves to do is not let me recognize certain bodily cues like eating because I get so hyper focused during the day am my work that I forget to eat, I legitimately don't get those cues to eat. And then it isn't until like three, maybe sometimes two o'clock to three in the afternoon and I'm like, why can't I focus? Oh, you haven't eaten since seven this morning. Like, like I like, it's those things that, you know, really begin to challenge. So lately, self care has been trying to eat more. And just trying to, you know, find certain foods or certain things that I will eat during the day or have access to or that is easier to manage and sort of time myself. That's been hounding me to set an alarm for lunch. And so yeah, like, that's sort of what comes to mind immediately. But, you know, I think for me, too, lately, I've been recognizing how I can't just push through certain tedious tasks anymore. Like I have to, like, in order for me to do the really hard thing that my brain really don't want to do, I got to do something fun before I do it, you know, so I gotta like, read a chapter of the book that I'm reading, or watch a stupid YouTube video or, you know, do something that I actually like doing before I get into this thing, or use the thing that I really like doing as the reward for doing the really hard thing. So I been trying to give myself space to have more fun. And to have more rest and play, and silliness and laughter and being with people that, you know, make me laugh and understand my humor, because as social workers, we got to very wild spectrums of humor. When you're with people who get that humor, it is the best, it's like wild, you would think work notes or need to go be hospitalized or something. But it's like really a good time being with the people that get it and understand the type of work that we're dealing with all day, every day, because it gets really hard. Like, I'm not going to sugarcoat and say that our jobs are easy, because they're not. And it's very, you know, we're in a profession that is severely undervalued. So we have to be very intentional about taking care of ourselves to deal with said systems. And I'm trying to be a lot better about that I will work working on it. It's always a work in progress, but it's a lot better than what it used to be.Hannah Choi 32:49So we're all work in progress, it works in progress. I just, I just had a wonderful experience. On the other night, I got to go to a presentation by a clinical psychologists called Dr. Allison Roy, and she's out in New Hampshire. And she she works she works in with from a perspective of trauma informed care. And she did a presentation on the brain which I'm a total nerd about so I was just like on the edge of my seat the whole night. And she talked about about how we can get out of our the fear center part of our brain like the you know, like the the fight and flight and freeze part and up into our prefrontal cortex where all of our executive function skills are so our thinking brain so we can use that. And she was talking about how this idea of flocking and how flocking is when you you have a flock you have you spend time with people who get you who understand you, you have social connection and and when you do that you're able to nourish the and support your limbic system the emotional part of your brain which really allows you to access your your prefrontal cortex and your thinking part. And she was just talking about there is so much value in finding a flock and so whatever your flock is, like you said, Cassie, your family is your flock and you get so much value from that and Lina, your you know, your fellow social workers who really get you and get where you're coming from. And so I'm just so glad to hear that you both put that in as an value that as part of your self care because according to the brain research, it's really what you do need to do so. And the other thing that she talked about Lina and I'm so glad you mentioned this was the idea of play. And she said it is so important. Why do we stop playing why do we stop having fun and, and and play is a huge component of As our mental health and of just feeling better about ourselves and, and enjoying our lives, and in staying out of that, like the the kind of like, primal part of our brain, and we're able to stay up higher in the in the thinking part. And so it's just glad to hear that you're too you're doing that too.Beth Malvino 35:22I wanted to just piggyback on what what you just said, because it really resonated with me that, you know, we get so what, regardless of whether or not you have any kind of diagnosable executive function challenges, I think we all get bogged down with things that we think we have to plan, you know, we have work and or, you know, parenting responsibilities or things that we have to do in life that we feel like we have to plan these things. And I think for a lot of us, we forget to plan fun. And sort of bringing that to the to the conscious and really, scheduling fun, I think is so important. And I talk about that a lot with with clients, because I find that they get very wrapped up as we all do and the things that they have to do, and not necessarily the things that they like to do.Hannah Choi 36:25Yeah, and I just I did that a few years ago to it all started where I, my sister in law wanted to go in the water and it was so cold. And I was like I don't want to go in the water is too cold. And she's like, come on just fun. Like, yeah, I need to have more fun. So I decided to try to be a lot more intentional about that. And I and I have noticed a big difference. My kids think I'm crazy. But grownups should not be having that much fun. But I think it really helps. That's a big part of my self care.36:57So I I mean, Lina and I talked about our self care. But I want to hear about from from you and Beth as well.Hannah Choi 37:05That's you want to go first? Oh, wow.Beth Malvino 37:08Self. Yeah, I mean, self care, is something that does have to be intentional for me, I have to remember to do it. Because just, you know, like everyone else, I have things that I have to do. And I try to get those things done. And there are days that go by where I haven't done any self like true self care. And I kind of get mad at myself, like, why didn't I you know, take a moment. And so I do try to be more intentional about the kind of self care that I do. So, recently, we took a trip to Florida, and that we were in Orlando, and they have these electric scooters that you can just kind of, you know, zip around town on and I've never done anything like that. And my kids who are you know, they're teenagers. And so there used to scootering around on different types of machinery. They were all just like jumping on and whizzing down the block. And I was almost like, oh, that I can't do that. Like that's not for me. That's that's not like, that's not okay, why why would I do that I'm not a kid. And then I kind of, I kind of forced myself to do it. The best? Yeah, I had the wind in my hair. And I was flying down the sidewalk and like ringing the bell. And people were stuck on the side. And I felt like a kid again. And that was a very intentional choice that I made to do that. And I'm glad I did it. Now I have those memories too. And now maybe I'm more likely to try that again in a different settings. So I really do try to try to make it an intent, like an intentional decision. Like today, I'm going to do something it doesn't even have to be big enough to be going to a spa like I'm not going to do. But it might be it's a really beautiful day. I'm going for a walk today. I'm just going to make sure that I get some sunshine in today. And I do try to make that intentional kind of schedule that around the other things that I had to plan for that day.Hannah Choi 39:30Yeah, that what I do for myself, though, sort of like main Self Care Act is similar in that I, I practice the strategies that I that I know work for me when I'm in a moment where I'm really having a hard time. So like I have some anxiety so I I make myself practice breathing when I'm not in an anxious state. So that when I am in that state, it's much easier for me to access that and I also Have, I'm working really hard on my negative self talk and, and so I try very hard to talk positively to myself when I'm just doing regular stuff. Like, like celebrating these like super small wins, it doesn't have to be anything big, but just practicing that, that more supportive talk to myself really helps so that when I have made a decision that I'm not happy with or something happens, that didn't go as I expected, it does come a little bit more easily to me to say something nice to myself instead of saying something mean. So that's the practice of it when I don't need it is is a huge thing for me. And then also, spending time with other people is absolutely number like probably like other than the practice, that's the most important thing for me. And exercise to I need to exercise if I don't exercise I always like why do I feel like crap this week? Oh, because I did not prioritize that. So yeah. Thank you for asking Cassie. It's a it's a it's a conversation that more people should have. Because in, I think because in having those conversations, you can really learn a lot from what other people do for their self care. And it doesn't always look like going and getting a massage. Like if I go get a massage, I feel guilty that I went and got a massage. And so now I don't feel good at all. It's yeah, it doesn't always look like bubble baths or whatever. So yeah.41:27Yeah, like I just wanted to piggyback off of that is just like, lately, I've been trying to intentionally remember that I can do things because I can like, and not because I have to justify it. Like, that's been really, you know, I've always felt like I've had to justify everything I do, like justify a feeling or justify needing to do this or just doing that. And I'm just like, No, I can go get an ice cream cake. Because I can I'm an adult, I could make that decision if I wanted to. Like if I want to, and I don't need to justify it, if I want a massage, I don't need to justify getting a massage. If I want to do this, I don't have to, I could do it because I can and not because I have to justify it. So I've been trying really hard to do that more often. And like, you know, if I want to make a nice meal for myself, I can do that and not feel like oh, you have to do it. Because you have to have a reason like, No, I don't have to have a reason all the time to do the thing I want to doHannah Choi 42:31just giving yourself permission to just do it.Beth Malvino 42:35Because you deserve it. Yeah. And that's part of42:40that's another hard part to get your wrap your head around. Because, you know, when you're diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, you know, you were invalidated a lot as a child for things that, you know, you needed. But, you know, by, you know, oh, you're just too sensitive, or Oh, you're just too much or, or you're just this or just that and like, you know, going through this process of like, No, you do deserve good things you do deserve the things you need to play, it gets okay to have your needs met. That's, that's been a big part of this whole journey, I would say,Beth Malvino 43:17Yeah, we talk about that a lot. I think when you're diagnosed, as an adult, it kind of brings another layer of challenges. Because you have, you have to fight some negative narratives. And Hannah, you were just talking about, you know, the negative talk that goes through your head, you have to fight that, you know, sometimes you have to fight years of that, whether it was heard, you know, from other people, or whether it's things that you're saying to yourself. That's, that's really hard, it's hard to change habits, when what's going on in your head is still, you know, that negative loop of I can't or I'm not good enough, or I don't deserve or I'm broken. And so, you know, we talked about coaching versus therapy, sometimes there is that overlap of you know, how do I how do I get past? How do I change that negative loop in my head so that I can, you know, work with the brain that I have and Cassie we weave cast came up with one of the best I don't know if it's a metaphor, or just the best Phrases She came up with one of one of the best phrases and I still use it today with with all my clients is your, you know, part of coaching is rewriting the manual for your brain. And that act just really spoke to me when when she said that and I i still repeat it all the time because it's so true. It's not about fixing what's wrong. It's about working with But you have Yes. And so I think that, you know, it takes an awful lot of courage to ask for help. Yeah, yeah. So, you know, I really give a lot of credit to both Lina and Cassie for reaching out, because it's not easy. And we're, you know, they're both extremely emotionally intelligent women who, you know who work in the field, I think it's, I think that in some ways makes it harder, you know, people in social work, and maybe even in healthcare in general, we're there to help other people, and we're good at it, and maybe not so good at kind of looking back at ourselves or looking at ourselves in the mirror and saying, Well, what do I need help with. So I just want to acknowledge that it really takes an awful lot of courage to do what they've done, and to be on this journey, and to have to have been open to this journey, which both of them really are.Lina 46:07Yeah, I want to say something, too you know, because within the realm of, I don't know how many people know how the intricacies of healthcare works. But, you know, there's this thing called evidence-based practice. And sometimes evidence-based practice can be at odds with us people with executive functioning challenges, because a lot of times the evidence that they're basing their stuff off of doesn't include people like us in the research. So I have a hard time navigating, especially in mental health spaces, that rely on evidence based practices. But we're working with populations that were never included in the research for, you know, and I, as a person with ADHD, and you have challenges working with a lot of people with ADHD and you have challenges that have either gone overlooked, undiagnosed or invalidated. I'm struggle a lot, by even my own peers within the social work and mental health field, because not only do we have to navigate the challenges of working with our patients, but we also have to navigate the challenges of working with peers that don't see that. And just because our approach is different, doesn't mean that it's wrong. And just because it's, yeah, and just because it's, you know, you may not understand it doesn't mean that we are wrong in approaching our work differently in that way. So there's a lot of, there's a lot of complexities with that,Hannah Choi 47:55and you're doing all of that navigating, while managing your executive function challenges. You're not doing that in this vacuum, where you know, where you're just like, skipping around, remembering everything, and not finding anything stressful. So it's, it's a lot, and I commend you, all, all three of you for you know, the work that you've done and continue to do. And it's, it's, I'm just so glad that you are here today and talking about this. And, and, and I really hope that lots of people hear this and are able to really relate and hopefully feel validated, that validation is huge. And it's, it's, it's a right, Lina, I can imagine that maybe if you if someone validated your perspective, and validated where you're coming from, it would probably feel a lot better than Lina 48:57I probably would have gotten diagnosed as a kid instead of an adult. You know, yeah, I probably would have been heard. You know. So there's, you know, there's a lot of challenges and complexities within that. And I don't want to sound like a Negative Nelly, because I do think evidence based practices has its times in place, but, you know, that's where the creativity of meeting patients and clients where they're at, and truly validating their experiences in their life and having that relational approach rather than just purely scientific, purely medical, purely. Whatever bullshit they like to throw up.Hannah Choi 49:48The systems that that exist, exist, partially because there's not enough funding, and there's not enough people and there's not enough attention. There's not enough support. There's not had enough research, there's not enough validation of the troubles that there are out there. And so it is difficult to provide individual support when you are not supported yourself byLina 50:13Oh, yeah. And that's, Hannah Choi 50:15I know we could talk about that for days. Lina 50:17Yeah, as a systems based person, you know, we have the resources to do those things, we just choose as a system not to do it. You know, and that's, you know, I know, I say, I'm in social work, but my first master's was in public administration, and, you know, we have a bunch of the resources to do it, it's just we, politically and power wise choose not to, and that's really, and we're working within that system all the time. I'm sure Cassie see's just how, you know, funding schools and funding children's programs affects her and her job and what she's limited and doing. And I know, I struggle a lot with I work with a lot of people who are on Medicaid, you know, like, it's, and that's, that's severely limiting to what they need, and they have a lot of my needs. So it's, you know, it's a system thing too, and we have to constantly navigate those complexities.Hannah Choi 51:13Yeah, that's a lot. And the people that you work with, I'm sure are so grateful that you have made the choice in your life to do the work that you're doing. And, and that you I'm sure your your work has been so positively impacted by that effort that you have put in, to reach out for help for yourself, and to do the work that you've been doing and will continue to do to support yourself, which just improves the support that you're able to give the people that you work with. So let's explore that a bit. I would love to hear from you, Beth, about your experience working with Cassie and Lina,Beth Malvino 51:53I feel so honored to have been part of Cassie and Lina's journey journeys. And just to me, they're they're huge executive function success stories. They blow me away with how they manage and navigate their lives, their work. And I wanted them to shine. And so I'm glad that I'm here to kind of hear to hear them talk about these things. Because it also validates the fact that they they've done so much work. I mean, I love talking about people's journey, especially when they when they come to the end. And this is by no means the end of a journey, not like they're still on the journey. But just having beared witness to it has been really, really wonderful for me, and I I just, I'm so glad that I could be here to, to hear them to, you know, to talk about it. And I don't know if it's okay with them, I'd love to share some of the things that I've seen just in terms of their coaching journey. Oh my goodness, I mean when I first started working with Cassie, I'll just start there. She She was really struggling, she was emotionally spent. She doesn't didn't understand why she why she was leaving late every day she couldn't plan or prioritize. I think structuring her unstructured time was one of the biggest hurdles she she was experiencing there was a lot of procrastinationCassie 53:57My own brain would distract me, I'd be in the middle of a task of like, oh, I wanted to do this other thing. And then I would do that other thing, and then not finish the original task.Beth Malvino 54:06So there was a lot of that going on. Transitions were also really hard and just getting distracted, doing one thing and being distracted by another. Even just simple things. And you know, this goes back to what Lina was saying about remembering to eat lunch, just basic needs, sleep, food, hygiene, you know, those kinds of things. I think sometimes people forget that without that your executive functioning kind of falls apart. And so you have to kind of go back to basics and say, you know, what do I need right now Why am I feeling this way? Could it be because you haven't had lunch or you didn't sleep well or you stayed up on your phone till three in the morning? Just Doom scrolling, you know, is there. There's there are reasons that these things happen. So It just in terms of Cassie's journey, you know, I've watched I watched her go from sort of this almost despondent person who was really not happy in her role in her life and felt just things were very much out of her control. And then she kind of shifted, she changed jobs. And that shift made a huge difference for her in everything, her demeanor her affect her mood, I mean, it was such a big change, because I saw her finally doing something that she really truly loved. And from that came so many other amazing changes for her. She she was, for a while she had been using a thought collector, you remember the thought collector. So the thought collector was like a is basically a notebook and just a sort of list, a running list of things that she had to write stream of consciousCassie 56:09or even consciousness, it could because like I said, when I would be like, Alright, I need to write this note, I need to summarize a 45 minute individual therapy session, go. But then as I was having like, oh, yeah, my kiddo asked me to reach out to her mom, or my, you know, I have to send this email. And so in the middle of this hard job that I didn't want to do, I would remember a quicker, easier job. And then I was like, Oh, let me just do that real quick. And then I would get distracted by looking for a worksheet related to this topic. And then I would get, so my thought collector was kind of like a brain dump of like, okay, I know, this is important. I don't want to forget it. I'm gonna write it down. And then I'm gonna keep doing I don't want to do.Hannah Choi 56:45Yeah, that's great.Beth Malvino 56:47And a lot of that. I remember even during the early sessions that we had, it was kind of almost reactive, you would look at the thought collector and say, Okay, what, what have I not done, that I should have done this week. And let me get that done first. And so it was very sort of reactive in that in nature. Like, let me let me finish what I haven't done that needs to get done. And then after a while, things kind of shifted where you were, you could take a more proactive stance, and begin to plan ahead and begin to prioritize. So instead of looking back at what you hadn't done, you were able to look forward and look at the thought collector and say, What do I need to do? Going forward? What do I need to do this week? That was a big shift, the way you document and your notes even changed. And it was not a big change. But there was something that you had tweaked, that made it easier to document for yourself. It was the way that you were copying and pasting. Yes, some of your notes and just a small change, like that made a huge difference. Yes.Cassie 57:53Micro optimization. Yes.Hannah Choi 57:56Yeah. And I think that people don't recognize the, the, how that huge, that tiny, tiny, tiny little change can have such a huge impact. It's like, have you guys read Atomic Habits by James clear, he talks a lot about how like, if you just make like 1%, like a boat, if there's a ship, and it's going in this one direction, it makes a 1% change turn or one degree turn, I mean, then it's actually going to end up in like a really huge, different place. But if you never make that change, you'll just keep on going straight. And so that giving value to those small changes that can make a really big difference.Beth Malvino 58:34Absolutely. Yeah, I think just I've also just been really amazed at Cassie's ability, ability to self-regulate, when she because she works with a population that is really not regulated. And so I asked her all the time, I mean, she gets physically assaulted at work. And then she'll come to session and be like, oh, you know, I got hit today. And it's kind of like, just, it's almost like it's not, it doesn't affect her or she doesn't take it in. And she's still able to, to cope and do the things that she wants to do that day, and it doesn't get under her skin. And I've always been amazed by that. Because self regulation is one of the hardest executive function skills to master and especially if you're working with people who are not, not regulated, that can be a really big challenge. So she just has that amazing ability to do that.Hannah Choi 59:38That's great. So tell me all about LinaBeth Malvino 59:40and Lina, Oh my gosh. We, Lina says she's a verbal processor. I struggle because our sessions typically go way over and I did and I'm complete Part of that because, you know, I'm because I love talking to her. And because we end up talking about things that you know, are so relatable. And so it's not uncommon for us to go over our time limit. You know, I think, Lina we have, we have spent a lot of time talking about the inner narrative. Lina, I think I said this before that, you know, she was diagnosed as an adult. And so she, she brought with her some of those negative inner loops that tend to go through your head. And so we do spend a lot of time on that, which does bring a therapeutic component to coaching, but we're always able to relate it back to executive functioning. And so, but that that's all part of it, you know, we only have one brain, right, and the the toll that executive dysfunction takes on a person emotionally, has to be acknowledged, it can't be compartmentalized, you can't just talk about my challenges with EF skills, and also talk about the fact that I'm anxious, depressed and sad, they go together. And so there's a lot of overlap. And so we do talk about that a lot. And one of the things that I think she mentioned it, you know, remembering to eat, for example, it's just a basic need, right? We, I think a lot of us just take it for granted, like, Okay, you could skip lunch and feel fine. But when you have executive function, challenges, skipping lunch, could mean not functioning at all later in the day, and maybe not realizing how much of an impact that that has on you. So we do talk about that a lot. And remembering to put those things into her like scheduling fun, like, I need her to schedule lunch. I tell her, it's as important as breathing as if think of it as you know, medication, or insulin or something that you need. It's not just a nice thing to have, like you're not optional, to fulfill yourself and replenish yourself. So we talk about that a lot. And I'm also blown away by Lina 's ability to self-regulate, because she's working with some people who are seriously traumatized, and have, you know, dual diagnosis and a lot, a lot of stuff going on in their lives. And I'm in all of the fact that she is able to give so much of herself. To them, despite having challenges with with some of those same things like self regulation is is very hard, you know, big feelings are hard to navigate. And as a social worker, it's so much easier to navigate that with other people. Yeah. But not with yourself. And so it's, it's what it's a balance. And so we talk about that a lot, just being mindful of how she's feeling. Because it's very easy to distract yourself with how somebody else is feeling. One of the things that Lina has done in coaching, which is just incredible is she has utilized workspace sessions in a very unique way. And for those of you don't know workspace is one of the it's it's kind of, it's a website that Beyond BookSmart runs, where if you have something to do, and it doesn't matter what it is you sign up for a session and you have a person there, who is there to help pull you through it and to monitor how things are going and to be your cheerleader. And to give you some tips. And it sounds kind of simplistic, but it really does work. Having that external accountability of having another person there is very helpful. And so one of the things that Lina has done and I've talked to other clients about this because it's worked so well for her is she was able to literally master task initiate by scheduling sessions very carefully during her week. So on Sunday, she would use a workspace session to tackle chores or get all her cooking done. Can I talk about Mount Lina, is that okay?Lina 1:04:48I figured it was gonna come up. Yeah, okay, so we'll talk about Mount Lina. Yeah, you want to tell everyone what that lien is? Mount Lina is this corner of my bedroom. Where am I dresser is and you couldn't see the top of the dresser for months, because it's just a mountain of doom. Like just a mountain of doom lay like that's the best I can describe it just of clothes of random things that somehow made its way to the top of my dresser and I couldn't see my dresser for since I moved into this apartment, which was in 2021, up until earlier this year. Hannah Choi 1:05:37Congratulations! Lina 1:05:39Yeah. So Workspace helped me tackle Mount Lena. And it only took like, a day. And I was just like, Why? Why am I like this,Hannah Choi 1:05:48I had a client who, who had the same, she also had a mountain. And it was a desk at the bottom of her stairs in her living room. And so we did that I just sat with her during an entire session, and she cleaned it off. And she did it. And so that's the idea of body doubling, which, which Beth you didn't name but the body doubling is a super effective strategy for task initiation, especially for people with ADHD. And there's, there's like YouTube, you can go on YouTube, and just search for bodily to ebbeling. And they'll be like someone cleaning your closet out.Beth Malvino 1:06:23You know, one of the things with Lina that I've, I've really seen, because a lot of our sessions have been focused on that internet, you know, negative narrative that's been running through her head, is her ability to take risks. And to you know, for example, looking, thinking about relocating and going on job interviews, and just, I mean, it's, it's terrifying to think about moving from one city to another. And that can often be an obstacle to task initiation is fear. And she's really, really pushed past that. And she's, she's doing it,Lina 1:07:05you know, it sucks, having to really examine the things around you, and yourself, and your internal narrative to be like, Oh, this is what I've had. And this is what I know. And it's comfortable, but it's not working anymore, and having to do things differently, and having to really be like, No, this is what I really need. And that being at odds which with what you thought you needed. And there's a grief in that there's a sadness in that. And there's a lot of yeah, just because it's good to make these changes doesn't mean that it doesn't feel shitty, while you're doing it. So it's, there's been a lot of that, tooHannah Choi 1:07:51And, and it can, it can, I know, like for myself, like it can, making doesn't matter the size of the change, just recognizing like, this, this thing that I've the way that I've been doing, it has not been working, whether it's like, I don't know, I used to keep a grocery list on a piece of paper. And now I use any list. Like just recognizing like this system that I that I've been using for so long. It's actually not that great. And admitting that and not beating yourself up over it and saying, Okay, let me be open to something new, and then trying the new thing. Can really that's difficult work to do whatever the size, whatever the size is.Lina 1:08:32Yeah, yeah, like there have been definite things like, I was furious when I discovered that the dictate speech to text tool exists in Microsoft Word this whole time, that could have made my life so much easier if I had just known about it. Now, if I had known that I was a verbal processor, you know, I could have just spoken and wrote all my papers that way. But no, I didn't know that. Or, you know, I am so happy I have a Google Home assistant now because that thing helps me out so much. When it comes to like needing to verbally process I can just say hey, I won't say it now. But I can add this to this list, like when I remember it, and then I have it in my phone because it recorded it like my Costco list or Trader Joe list, my regular grocery list or my Home Depot list or this or that, you know, we're Amazon list like I can just remember. Like, I can just say it, it'll record it and then I don't have to remember it anymore. And I don't have to feel like I you know, because once it's out of the mouth, it just goes poof in the brain. Like it's just gone.Cassie 1:09:41Like, like your Google Assistant is like a digital version of my thought collector.Lina 1:09:46Yes. Yes.Cassie 1:09:50I use my Alexa more often for alarms and time-awareness. Yes, I do that to like, hey, in 30 minutes, remind me to take the stuff out of the washer or I do do that too times so that I can actually go and take the trash out before midnight, you know, thatLina 1:10:05Or remind me to put the wash or the laundry that's in the washer and the dryer so that I don't have to rewash it again, because I forgot. Because yeah, like I, I have to tell myself to do that, or, you know, it helps a lot with you know, I sleep with brown noise at night nowCassie 1:10:24Me too! Brown noise is better than white noiseLina 1:10:28It's so much better. And I it's so much more soothing to me. And so I listen to brown noise and that helps me out a lot. And, you know, I have a hard time waking up in the morning. I am not a morning person, I I've come to accept this fact about myself after years of trying to become a morning person. But what helps me wake up in the morning is turning on lights, like I'm very light sensitive. And so I tell my Google to turn on my bedroom lights at a certain time in the morning, like, Hey, turn on the bedroom lamp at such and such time, like at 6:30. And it'll do that and I'll turn the lights on before I put my alarm so that it's sort of like a wake, go Yeah, like a gradual thing. So it's not as terrible as the way I was waking myself up before getting a really loud alarm clock, putting it in my kitchen. And it it literally sounded like one of those loud school bells, like old 1950s school bells. And it was the worst way to wake up because it was just so abrasive, and it made me get out of bed, which I didn't want to do. And yeah, just like being more gentle with how you do things. Because all the harsh ways that I was doing number four just weren't working.Beth Malvino 1:11:40You know, what you're you're both of you are kind of capturing is that it's sort of the essence of what we try to do. And in coaching to in which both of you have really just navigated beautifully is the idea that it's not about trying harder. It's about trying differently. And I know I say that a lot. I still say that to both of you at times. But I say that just in general, that's sort of like a mantra that I have. Because that's really what it's about. It's, you know, the systems and the tools that you were using or didn't have before. You know, it's it's not about just working harder or putting in more efforts. It's about learning new strategies and new tools and finding what works for you and what works for you may not work for someone else. But that's okay. And to kind of become comfortable with that idea that I just need. I just haven't yet figured out what tools work for me. And both of you have worked so hard over the course of your journey in coaching to figure those things out, which has just been phenomenal and so amazing for me to witness.Hannah Choi 1:12:57Well, I could literally talk about this all day, but I actually have a client 12:30, speaking of being able to eat thank you so much for joining me and having this really really really important conversation. And it was really lovely for me to listen to hear to listen to your stories, and, and I appreciate your honesty and your openness. And I know that, that our listeners will really appreciate that too. And, and Beth, thank you so much for joining us. And then providing the coach perspective. And also social worker perspective. It's, it's been it was really, really enrich the conversation. So thank you so much. Beth Malvino 1:13:40My pleasure. Lina 1:13:40Thank you. Hannah Choi 1:13:44And that's our show for today. I really hope you enjoyed our conversation. As we talked about in this episode validation is a huge part of feeling better about the challenges we face. And we really, really hope that someone out there feels validated after hearing these shared struggles. You are not alone. Listen to what Lina shared about why she wanted to be on the podcast and why she became a social worker.Lina 1:14:11You know, I think it comes down to because I love people and I love creating spaces and holding space for people who don't feel like they belong or who don't ever feel validated just because I think most of my life, I felt that way. And yeah, it's, you know, it's really important, even if it's in the smallest of ways, or in ways that seem insignificant. Nothing is ever insignificant, I think.Hannah Choi 1:14:44If you know anyone who might really relate to Lina's and Cassie's stories, please share this episode with them. Thank you

What is a Negative Nellie? Well, that could be anyone who is intentionally raining on your parade. Whether they are intending to or not. But no matter where they come from, how negative they are being, or even why they are being mean…..the one thing we must always remember is that WE have control over how we react to them. Let them have their negative talk, I wanna spread sunshine everywhere I go!  This episode is brought to you by:FitAid Energy https://www.drinkfitaid.com/droppingintohappinessfor 40% OFF PLUS FREE shipping on your first order of 24 cans of FitAid Energy   Mentions:Maggie Mentioned the THINK methodTrueHelpfulInspiringNecessary Kind  RECOMMENDATIONS-Rachel Recommends:The Three Good Things Technique. Write down three good things about your day, yourself, your family, pretty much any topic.  Maggie Recommends: Walmart Flavored Watershttps://www.makeitmio.com/  Stridekick!One of our fabulous SunDrops (Peggy P) has found us a platform that ALL can befriend, challenge, and engage on. This app is FREE and it is called Stridekick.   Support us on Patreon for exclusive content!!https://bit.ly/droppingpatreon  Watch this episode: https://youtu.be/sh8HRxlpqes  Please rate, review, or subscribe wherever you find our podcast! Thank you so much for listening!!  Let's start some hashtags! #bekindrewind#sprinkles #passthemic#washrinserepeat #sundrops   Maggie's Built Bar code to save you 10%MAGGIETRACKSMAGIC  Talk to us! Submit a topic idea! Ask us a question!droppingintohappiness@gmail.com Maggie's Instagram: maggietracksmagic Rachel's Instagram: balancing_that_life  Find us on:Instagram: droppingintohappinesspodhttps://www.instagram.com/droppingintohappinesspod/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/droppingintohappiness Twitter:https://twitter.com/DroppingPod TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@droppingintohappiness Merch Store!!!https://dropping-into-happiness.creator-spring.com/

Today's podcast guest is Jo Bradshaw, a worldwide adventurer, expedition leader and public speaker. She's currently just one peak away from completing the seven summits and has raised thousands of pounds, and awareness for children's mental health charity, Place2Be.   I hope you enjoy this conversation with Jo as much as I did and if you did, please leave a review and don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to get the next one. If you'd prefer to watch the interview, you can find it on our Youtube Channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@adventurepropodcast/    In this episode we discuss: - Jo's ‘subtle bus' and a lesson in marketing - Taking the leap from a smart suit and shoes to jeans and a pair of walking boots - What it takes to climb the highest peak on each continent - Minimal underwear on expedition - Summiting Kilimanjaro over 34 times - Dispelling myths about climbing big mountains - Negative Nelly and Positive Polly and how to banish imposter syndrome   If you'd like to find out more about Jo and get in touch you can do so here:  WEBSITE: https://www.jobradshaw.co.uk/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-bradshaw-89b13885/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_jobradshaw/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jobradshawadventurer    Here are links to the resources mentioned in the conversation: Jo Bradshaw Website - https://www.jobradshaw.co.uk/  Place2Be Charity - https://www.place2be.org.uk/  Jo's Seven Summit Fundraising Page - https://www.justgiving.com/campaign/JoBradshawMighty90  Dave Cornthwaite Podcast - https://davecornthwaite.com/selfpropelledpodcast  Al Humphries Podcasts - https://alastairhumphreys.com/podcasts/  Sarah Williams Podcast - https://www.toughgirlchallenges.com/  Catie Friend Podcast - https://www.catiefriend.com/podcast  OS Maps App - https://tidd.ly/31y4aZe  About the Adventure Pro Podcast The Adventure Pro Podcast is a collection of wide-ranging interviews, stories and inspiration from amazing people that have made adventure their business. It's where adventure, outdoors and travel professionals come together to learn, share and encourage others to carve their own path in life.    I'll be interviewing guides, photographers, designers, instructors, content creators, YouTubers, sponsored athletes, film makers, shop owners and many others that have made a career, business or side hustle from the outdoors and adventure. If you or someone you know would like to be featured, please email adventurepropodcast@gmail.com and make sure you SUBSCRIBE to get the next one.   If you'd like to support the podcast you can do so here: https://www.patreon.com/adventurepropod    You can also find the podcast here:  https://www.instagram.com/adventurepropod  https://www.facebook.com/adventurepropod  https://twitter.com/adventurepropod 

GLASS OF MARKETING: Have you ever thought… “Should I even bother emailing my database?”  “Will people even read this email or are they just going to auto-delete it with the rest of them?” “What if people unsubscribe from my database?” “I'm already posting on social media. What's the point of emailing?” Well - put on your slippers, pour a glass of (whatever you feel like sipping on), and get cozy. You've officially been invited to join me… in my inbox!  In this episode - we're sticking to the really good marketing that shows up in my inbox, I'm addressing your reservations about email marketing (like the four “Negative Nelly” thoughts I mentioned above), and giving you 7 takeaways to infuse into your own email marketing strategy! Have fun sippin' on today's episode!  MARKETING BAR INSTAGRAM MARKETING BAR SHOW NOTES THE WEEKLY SIP   

In this episode, Sachin emphasizes how the abundance mindset works to attract and create abundance in your life, relationships, and businesses. An abundance mindset is key to your happiness and success. Listen in for tips on getting rid of scarcity and negativity and dwelling in joyful abundance.   Key Takeaways: [1:02] Sachin introduces the topic for today, the abundance mindset. This is one of the most important mindsets to adopt and is crucial and key to your success and happiness and the legacy that you leave behind. Everyone around you, including your kids, is paying attention to your mindset, whether you express abundance or scarcity.   [1:40] Sachin has 14 rules to follow when it comes to abundance. He asks you to pick one, then two, and work your way up to all 14. He promises you will have plenty of opportunities every day to implement all 14 rules. Write them down and be more conscious of whether you are abundant in your thoughts, actions, behaviors, and in your reflection.   [2:17] There is always opportunity for us to find abundance and Sachin has learned that you always find what you're looking for. So if we seek abundance, we become abundance, we embrace abundance, and we act abundantly, then abundance flows in our direction. Our actions act like an antenna to attract the right people and circumstances into our lives.   [3:00] 1. The difference between an extractor and a multiplier. A multiplier takes an idea and multiplies its value. This is like juicing an orange and planting the seeds. If we carefully pluck the idea from a conversation, we can plant a seed and grow it. An extractor has a scarcity mindset. They try to extract every drop of juice but miss the seed. They are always disappointed.   [5:38] 2. The quantum handshake. Think about how you show up to greet and connect with people. Use what's culturally appropriate for them and your relationship with the person. Sachin describes handshakes and greetings from Level 0 (dead fish) to Level 3 (firm handshake, left hand on the shoulder, with a compliment). Or give a heart-to-heart hug with a compliment.   [10:06]  3. Leave people and places better than you found them. Clean up after yourself at a restaurant. Clean up your room at a hotel. Make other people's jobs easier and make them feel appreciated. In a hotel room, leave a generous tip and a thank you note. How would an abundant person act in a situation? They leave people and places better than they found them.   [11:51] 4. Stop playing victim. It's hard to play victim and have an abundance outlook on life and an abundance of opportunities coming your way. Abundance runs away from victims. Victims never take ownership of what's happening in their life. As a result of playing victim, energy and abundance do not flow their way.   [13:29] 5. Trust the journey. Sachin's sister-in-law had a saying, “Everything works out in the end. And if it hasn't worked out, it's not the end.” It's rare when everything goes as planned although we might achieve the outcome. Part of life is trusting the journey. The universe, which is abundant by design, has a plan for you.   [14:49]  6. Never show up empty-handed. Bring a gift when you visit someone's house, especially for the first time. If you're car-pooling, show up with snacks. Pay for gas. It says a lot about you when you show up with an abundance mindset. Sachin loves bringing artwork, that will be part of their lives forever.   [16:24] 7. Empty your cup. If our cup is full, there's no room for creamer. Every day we have to empty our cups a little bit so that others can pour into us; the universe can pour into us. Part of that is having humility.   [17:01] 8. Create a vacuum. Emptying your cup ties into creating a vacuum. Create a vacuum of opportunity so energy comes your way. Clear up your calendar so that you have room for opportunity. Clean up your closet if you want new clothes to flow in your direction. You have to create some lack for abundance to flow your way. The universe hates vacuums.   [17:53] 9. Always send a follow-up. When you interact or engage with somebody, send a follow-up message. Take a picture with them as a reminder in your photo album to follow up with a text message and check in with them. If you're thinking about that person, check in with them. Maintain relationships. You never know when you can help that person or they might help you.   [19:04] 10. Genuinely be supportive. Supporting can be sharing a post or making a referral or an introduction for that person. Sometimes it could be commenting on their social media and giving them an endorsement or writing them a review. Be genuinely supportive of businesses you patronize, entrepreneurs you might know, and your friends and family members.   [19:51] 11. Send them a thank you gift or note. Thank you emails often get lost. Send a text, a voice note, or best of all, send a hand-written card or thoughtful gift. Something like that can go a remarkably long way. There are send-out services you can use to send a note with a gift.   [20:46] 12. Eliminate all the moaners and groaners. Get rid of the Negative Nellies and Nelsons. You don't have to unfriend them but unfollow them. If somebody continually triggers you and takes you out of an abundance mindset, you don't want to see their posts. You can still remain friends. Clean your feed. Abundance loves company. Mirror people with abundance mindsets.   [22:28] 13. Be unusually happy and blissful. When you have a smile on your face, the chemistry in your body completely changes. When you start showing up happy and blissful, it gets people's attention. Pay attention to your energy and how you're showing up.   [23:14] 14. Leave a tip. Be generous with how you acknowledge people. It doesn't have to be exorbitant, but be generous. “Tip fatigue” is for people who have scarcity mindsets. When you give, there's always more. Sachin's mentor Majeed taught him, “It's just money.” Money is energy. It's a representation of how we show up energetically.   [24:28] Sachin hopes these tips are helpful for you. He hopes there is one thing in there that you can identify as a way to show up to be more abundant. He hopes that this gives you an opportunity to be reflective and also to take action. It's not thinking about abundance that counts, but it's the action steps that you put into place that truly matter.   [24:50] Sachin would love to hear how you apply this framework and what you found to be most impactful and beneficial, and how, over the next few weeks and months, how being more abundant in your life has created more abundance for you. Sachin sends you lots of love and gratitude and wishes you abundance, health, and happiness.   Mentioned in this episode Perfect Practice Live Jay Abraham Joe Polish   More about your host Sachin Patel How to speak with Sachin Go one step further and Become The Living Proof Perfect Practice Live sachin@becomeproof.com To set up a practice clarity call and opportunity audit   Books by Sachin Patel: Perfect Practice: How to Build a Successful Functional Medical Business, Attract Your Ideal Patients, Serve Your Community, and Get Paid What You're Worth The Motivation Molecule: The Biological Secrets To Eliminate Procrastination, Skyrocket Productivity, and Get Sh!t Done

So everything feels, well, a bit rubbish. Chances are, there's some good that you can dig out if you look hard enough. We're rebalancing the negative bias and embracing gratitude.  LINKS Follow @thespace_podcast on Instagram    Watch @thespace_podcast on TikTok   Follow @novapodcastsofficial on Instagram    CREDITS Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88 Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloy Executive Producer: Anna HenvestEditor: Adrian Walton  Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.au   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to SEASON TWO of Encouraging the Encouragers!!! Check out our brand spanking new website: www.encouragingtheencouragers.com. We've gotten a LOT of great feedback for Encouraging the Encouragers (thanks to everyone who's left a review or sent us an encouraging email!), but we got some negative feedback from someone recently. He just doesn't get it and he certainly doesn't like it. And guess what? THAT's A GOOD THING! In this episode we talk about why negative feedback can help you to know you're right on track! I can remember a time when I used to be afraid of someone being negative or someone criticizing what I'm doing... but now I take it as confirmation! Let's talk about why... so you don't have to be afraid of the Negative Nellies anymore! Let's goooooooooooo!!!! And hey... let's hang out! Check www.encouragingtheencouragers.com to gain access to our WELL PAID ENCOURAGER'S SECRET TOOL BOX with business building tools for ENCOURAGERS (coaches, speakers and content creators)! I think you'll love it! Find out more (and get free stuff) here: linktr.ee/mitch.matthews Find out more about my other podcast called "DREAM THINK DO: http://www.mitchmatthews.com/podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mitch.matthews.104 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mitch.matthews/ Check www.encouragingtheencouragers.com to gain access to our WELL PAID ENCOURAGER'S SECRET TOOL BOX with business building tools for ENCOURAGERS (coaches, speakers and content creators)! I think you'll love it! #letsdothis #IlovejesusbutIcussalittle #coaching #speaker #lifecoach #motivation #lifecoaching #coaching #love #coach #mindset #inspiration #selflove #life #selfcare #success #lifestyle #mentalhealth #mindfulness #personaldevelopment #entrepreneur #goals #happiness #loveyourself #meditation #healing #motivationalquotes #lifequotes #fitness #positivevibes #motivationalspeaker #businesscoach #personalgrowth #business

Living with a NEGATIVE NELLY almost destroyed me and my soul! The way we speak to ourselves, the way we think about certain things can MAKE US OR BREAK US! This episode is for you if you need a little push in a positive direction.. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/amy-fordyce/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/amy-fordyce/support

“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” ― Alphonse Karr, A Tour Round My Garden Season 1, episode 18 of Everybody Loves Raymond was entitled, "Recovering Pessimist." Debra, Ray's wife, urges him to be more positive after he remains sour post winning Sportswriter of the Year. He enters their bedroom with an enormous trophy that accompanied the award and utters the line, "It has to be too good to be true." Reluctantly, Ray tries to change his natural negative outlook, but his family, ever the Negative Nellies, influence him with their usual lackluster enthusiasm for life. Always at the ready to throw cold water on any good news, Ray's parents thrive on constantly putting people down, including each other! The newspaper where Ray works promote him after the award. He's working hard to become an optimist, but it just doesn't seem to be working until he returns home to the news that his boss wants him to cover the Iditarod in Alaska. A smile breaks out on his face and his wife asks him why he's smiling. "Cause I'm back. I'm a pessimist and I'm back!" ;) Ray so identifies as a pessimist, he's unhappy being anything else. It's easier for him to automatically think of the worst instead of the best. To give a negative connotation to what could otherwise be a good thing. Raymond is like all those people who enjoy being miserable. “The man who is a pessimist before 48 knows too much; if he is an optimist after it he knows too little.”  ― Mark Twain Do you overestimate the likelihood of worst-case scenarios coming true? Twain's quote is interesting because, for some reason, he focused on a very specific age - 48. I was reading a number of journals dealing with mental health and noticed a focus on people between 18 and 35, based largely on the brain development of the pre-frontal cortex. There's also lots of talk (and writing) about our ancient brains being wired to keep us safe. Many theorists love to think about us being on the constant lookout for wooly mammoths and other pre-historic villains. These same folks think the earth is billions of years old. Never mind that the Bible chronology would date the earth closer to 6,000 years old. Last time I looked, our modern culture has plenty of dangers - likely as many, if not more, than our fabled pre-historic counterparts. Our "worst-case scenario" thinking prevents us from making foolish choices. Sometimes. Browse through YouTube and sooner than later you'll encounter some videos (there are entire channels devoted to this) where police behave poorly. In almost every video I've watched, some officers escalated the situation rather than de-escalating it. That's what we do with our "worst-case scenario" thinking. We sometimes escalate it rather than choosing to DE-escalate it. The outcome is never as good as it may have been if only we had chosen to ramp things down - not up. Why would a police officer amp up a situation? Well, it depends. I've watched a video of officers who pull over a group of motorcyclists who have been racing through traffic, popping wheelies, and creating some extremely dangerous situations. A supervising officer amps things up by going off on the cyclists, lecturing them on the havoc they've caused. He's angry. He likely knows how awful this thing could have turned out if his officers hadn't successfully pulled these guys over. He's making a point and I get it. On the flip side is another video where officers approach a man minding his own business. If we can believe what we're told about this encounter, the man did nothing to provoke the police, but they're suspicious of him. He provides identification but refuses to allow them to search his vehicle. He recites his rights and his video irks the officer. Repeatedly the officer demands he turn it off, but he continues, repeating his rights. The officer gets angrier and more animated in his movements and language.

Interviews are complicated. They get further complicated when interviewers ask bad questions which in turn gets exacerbated by job candidates trying to regurgitate interview speak. It's really a stitch except for the part about you needing the new job. Enter your Coach to reassure you we can simplify things. The first thing you'll need to do is listen to this week's podcast as I break down the 11 most common types of interview questions and how to answer them. Then you'll know how to answer everything from the lazy questions to the silly questions to the questions they ask that make you go all Nostradamus. I even threw in the regrettables, the oh-so-ugh Sophie's choice, and a few of my other favs (Negative Nelly, deal breakers, etc.). They're all in there. 17 minutes. Easy peasy. If you'd like to build a great career and lead a rewarding life, check out some of these other places where I share my teachings: 1. Check out the milewalk Academy, my coaching and training site, for freemiums and premiums. 2. I have hundreds of educational and inspirational videos on my YouTube Channel. 3. Grab any of my three books related to interviewing, hiring, and goal setting. All can be found on my Amazon Author Page. 4. Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter. 5. Stay in touch with me in your email inbox by joining my newsletter here!

In a world full of eBay sellers, there are many yardsticks by which to measure success. In this episode of I Love to Be Selling, you'll learn how to determine which is the right way to measure your own success. You'll also find out why it never pays to listen to Negative Nellies or hang out with Debbie Downers. Because as long as you're willing to do the work, you can sell successfully on eBay. Tune in to get motivated, be inspired, and discover ways to follow your passion. You'll also get access to I Love to Be Selling's free weekly Premier eBay Tips. Sign up for your complimentary copy at https://ilovetobeselling.com/ebay-tips/. I'm Kathy, and I love to be selling!  

You're probably all about the law of attraction and manifesting and all the things, like myself, but you want to be vibrating as high as possible so that you can stay positive even when you're around those negative Nellies (I like to call them). So I'm going to cover that today on how you can beat them and just remain positive.If you found value from this episode I would LOVE for you to take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram @rebecca_welstead_greenSave your spot for my 5 day manifesting challenge here (11th September 2022)Are you ready to step into true alignment, remove the abundance blocks holding you back and magically manifest your desires?Join my 21 Days to Magically Manifest Your Desires CourseHappy Manifesting xxx

Are developers too negative? And if so why? This week the Simon's explore the reasons why flame wars exist (React vs Angular anyone?) and if any of it really matters.LinksSayre's LawWant more from us? Find Simon B at All The Code Find Simon G at The Ionic Academy

Pessimism can feel like it's part and parcel of having bipolar disorder. But differentiating how much of your pessimism comes from bipolar disorder and how much of it is just your personality can be difficult. Host Gabe Howard talks to co-host Nicole Washington about his experience with pessimism and bipolar, how (and when) to get help if you're a Negative Nelly, and where to draw the line between the two. Give yourself a little grace — because let's face it, even if we imagine a world where bipolar disorder doesn't exist, there would still be plenty of pessimists. To learn more -- or read the transcript -- please visit the show's official episode page. Meet Your Inside Bipolar Podcast Hosts Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. He is also the host of Healthline Media's Inside Mental Health podcast available on your favorite podcast player. To learn more about Gabe, or book him for your next event, please visit his website, gabehoward.com. Dr. Nicole Washington is a native of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, where she attended Southern University and A&M College. After receiving her BS degree, she moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma to enroll in the Oklahoma State University College of Osteopathic Medicine. She completed a residency in psychiatry at the University of Oklahoma in Tulsa. Since completing her residency training, Washington has spent most of her career caring for and being an advocate for those who are not typically consumers of mental health services, namely underserved communities, those with severe mental health conditions, and high performing professionals. Through her private practice, podcast, speaking, and writing, she seeks to provide education to decrease the stigma associated with psychiatric conditions. Find out more at DrNicolePsych.com.

Well as always, we chity chat the day away until about 25 min. So if you want to skip all that malarky, then please do so. In this episode ya girls discuss: AHS, Quirk, New Stine stuff, Talking in your sleep, Negative Nellies, Crappy Siblings, time rules, and why Kindergarten is the freaking best. 

If you think I'm positive all the time, let me be the first to dispel that notion. Spoiler Alert! No, no, no, no I am not. There is no can of positivity I pop open and have with my morning cup of coffee or tea. Sometimes I gotta work for this positivity! It's not always innate, I became this way and so can you. Whether you tend to be a Negative Nelly or Positive Patty, we're talking positivity and how you choose it even when it doesn't choose you. Tag me on Instagram (@encourageovereverything) with your favorite quote and don't forget to rate and subscribe! Thanks for listening! ENCOURAGE OVER EVERYTHING FB COMMUNITY: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1489875841203235/ ENCOURAGE OVER EVERYTHING INSTAGRAM: https://Instagram.com/encourageovereverything/ SHOW NOTES: https://theshow.encourageovereverything.com/blog/30

Positivity is key. Nobody likes a Negative Nelly. This week, Colton, Jeremy, and Steve talk about their experience dealing with positivity gaps. It doesn't take much to go from a culture with a positively framed mindset to a negative one. Tune in to learn how to keep it positive!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/workharder)

Topics Include: Trust No One, Fox Bite, Teen Gorillas Fixated On Phones, Journey Jams, Toilet Talk, Is Your Partner a Negative Nelly?

Ignoring negativity or use it as motivation in your life.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/appSupport this podcast: https://anchor.fm/petalsofsupport/support

In this episode, you'll hear from Erica Castner, the founder of Castner Consulting, as she shares her best practices on how to deal with “Negative Nelly's”, professionally or personally. What you'll learn: -Examples of Negative Nelly's and what to consider when dealing with them-A book that helped Erica reframe how she communicates with negative people -A journal prompt that allows you to put the Negative Nelly's behavior into perspective and how you can take ownership of the situation. This episode is sponsored by the KNOW Global, membership & community to help you get to the next level of achievement.   Learn more today at bit.ly/podcast-global LINKS: Get In The Room with KNOW Global: bit.ly/podcast-global Download Your Episode Bonus [How to Masterfully Connect Workbook] Here: www.theknowwomen.com/podcast Erica's book recommendation: The Four Agreements FOLLOW ON INSTAGRAM: The KNOW Women – @theknowwomen Sarah Benken – @sarahbenken Erica Castner - @ericaqueeniecastner

We all have our "Negative Nelly" moments.   Sometimes, it feels as if there is nothing positive to embrace but maybe that is not true.   I've perfected being negative in the past, but it is something I am working on to be a better mom, wife and most importantly feel better about me.  For me, negativity breeds guilt and worry leading to emotional exhaustion.     Embrace gratitude.  There is joy to be found everywhere.   Check out my new shop encouraging gratitude and positivity  at http://mom-treading-water.square.site/ To listen to episode 2, Stop The Mommy Guilt, please go to your favorite podcast app or https://www.buzzsprout.com/1787240/8614559 . Please join our Facebook Group, Mom Treading Water: https://www.facebook.com/groups/490411995647295/ Follow Mom Treading Water on TikTok: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMd3dbnxT/

Ok, even two positive ladies can get a little down!!! Today we have a big laugh at the silly things that can get to us. It's pretty average and the tips are questionable besties! Ready to LOL    

Have you become a victim of the Toxic Mummy Culture? In this episode, Cass helpfully highlights 4 mainstream 'personalities' of motherhood that are easy to fall into but not great at giving God glory. Perhaps as you listen, you may find yourself aligning with one or all: Negative Nelly, the 'I Deserve' mum, the 'Hot Mess' mum and the Perfectionist. Wherever you're at, (mum or not!), this is a super helpful conversation to remind us of who we need to be and what we need to exemplify  in our character as a mum.Bible Passages Used:Psalm 127:3-5 Titus 2:7Proverbs 1:8-9Colossians 3:21

Previous guest and musician Robin Hackett returns to share her new book release, “The Creative You; a step-by-step guide to recovering that part in you that wants to express creatively. Robin introduces her Fairy God Muse and how she follows her intuition. She explains how many people, especially women, experience an artistic wound in their childhood. As a result, a rowdy cast of characters, including Negative Nelly, take residence in their heads and hold them back from their creativity. The discussion reviews the importance of being in the action of allowing rather than focusing on the finished product and how “thinking disturbs the flow of creativity.” As an artist, we are in service to others and touching their lives. The podcast ends with Robin's seven-step process; remember, release, reclaim, reconnect, receive, rejoice and repeat. For more information on Robin's albums and books, visit www.robinhackettmusic.com.

Positive Pedro (Jubal Fresh) calls Brandy her new Manager at the restaurant she works at and wanted to let her know the new way tips will be taken care of! She is quite the Negative Nelly about it! Let us know what you think on social!Follow us at: @thejubalshow @jubalfresh @thatdreas @evanontheradioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we discuss “Fucker Shot Me,” and it's fair to say it's the most divided we've been this season. Was it just a transitional episode or will this end up being more relevant down the line? We discuss Carrie and Yevgeny's road trip, Saul's rapidly declining career, and Max's ongoing nightmare. Plus: where can Carrie go from here and will Saul be alongside? (Alternate titles: “Bravo Sara,” “Solar Calculators Are Also Important,” “Reverse Soul Patch,” “The Benefit of the Doubt,” “Oh My God RIP,” “The Negative Nelly of This Podcast.”)

We continue our in depth discussion, including our NNW rating, of both the Netflix documentary and the case it's based on.

Today we're going to talk about how to deal with negative, low-vibe people. My advice just might surprise you! This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn… The two reasons you might be encountering low-vibe, negative people How minding your own business helps you stay in your Vortex Abraham's advice about lining up your energy and leaving your partner alone Why conditional alignment is a trap and the endless loop where you explain that you feel negative because of the negative behavior of someone else What it means about your own vibration if negative people are driving you nuts Why there's no magic formula for getting the Negative Nellies in your life to look on the bight side The excuse you may be using if you self-identify as a highly sensitive person The reason you might want to thank the grouchy sales clerk What's likely to happen with negative, low-vibe people when you start practicing unconditional alignment For all things Law of Attraction, visit Jennifer365.com.