God Money and Purpose

Why did Will Smith slap Chris Rock? Was it because of the darkness inside of him, or maybe because Jada gave him the “off with his head” look? On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian Villacis offer their take on why Smith acted the way he did from a place of understanding rather than judgment. Shownotes: 0:37 Welcome 0:55 Heartbreaking moment 1:50 The warrior mentality 2:16 The king mentality 3:10 Women have power over creation 3:43 Reaction 5:01 Men have gone to war over women 6:00 Women who feel their man should use violence to protect them 7:22 What kind of relationship you have at home is a reflection of your actions 9:27 Every woman wants a man who can protect them 12:49 Know what your marriage should look like 14:04 God is the foundation 15:17 We can't judge people, everyone is human 16:31 We don't know what the aftermath will be like 17:24 Men have darkness 19:46  Wrap up   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian talk about the importance of celebrating your wins. Vivian has recently completed putting on her 6 Day Queens' Challenge, and Raul has recently finished his own Get Your Edge Back Challenge. As teachers, the two have come so far in the years since they started their respective personal development journeys. This would not have been possible without celebrating the base hits along the way, rather than focusing on home runs that are few and far between. Watch this episode to see what Raul and Vivian have been doing since the last episode.   https://edgelink.click/getmyedgeback Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Vivian and Raul discuss the topic of change. A person needs to be in pain in order to change. More specifically, a person needs to face his pain in order to change their habits. Once a person starts on that journey of self-improvement, the question becomes: what can the other person do? The person who has taken steps to change often has a fantasy that his partner will follow the example and magically level up as well. The reality is a little more complicated. You have to change yourself enough and be happy with yourself enough to inspire your partner to change, but not pressure them. It may take a long time, years, even, in order for your partner to face her own pain. But the way to make lasting change is to never focus on the outcome but enjoy the journey together.

In this episode we are discussing what the new normal is like as we see the light at the end of the tunnel for the COVID pandemic. Raul and Vivian have had less romance in their marriage in the past year, partly because of major health scares, and partly because they never leave each other. Not having time apart causes more pressure on a relationship, and for different reasons than you might expect. As businessmen and women, we show a different side of ourselves than the nurturing side that we have at home, and the romantic side behind closed doors. But due to COVID, we never really had a geographic separation that allowed us to mentally shift gears. So we had to shift our personalities in seconds from being the take-no-prisoners sales guru to being the nurturing parent, among other shifts. If even Bill and Melinda Gates can't stay together, what chance do the rest of us have? Raul and Vivian will show you how to bring out the best in yourself and each other.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of the God, Money & Purpose Podcast, Vivian just finished her 6 Day Challenge to Ignite Your Passion, and Raul is about to start his 7 Day Challenge to Get Your Edge Back. These week-long challenges help women and men, respectively, get in touch with their best selves that in some cases has become dormant, leaving them feeling empty inside. Working with a group can lead to much better results than trying to help yourself. Being a group setting can help you realize that things that other people realize are true about themselves are also the case for you. It can also help you to be in an atmosphere where everyone wants to do the work, and it's easier to motivate yourself in that energy-rich setting. Vivian and Raul are going to take the lessons from these challenges and incorporate them into a future workshop for couples. Watch the entire video and be sure to like, subscribe, and click the bell.

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian Villacis reflect on what certainty means. As Raul always says, certainty is not knowing the answers, it's knowing you'll do whatever it takes to get them. Many businessmen have certainty in their business, but no clue to have certainty at home. Their wives end up resenting them for spending all that time in the office and not spending time with them and being emotionally present when they are together. So they become pleasers, which ultimately makes their wives reset them even more for not giving them the male polarity and the certainty they need to feel safe and taken care of. The conversation continues with an examination of what certainty means in the context of faith in God, and how to love yourself and each other in the way that God and Jesus intends you to.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...​ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...​   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla...​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion​   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/​ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode, Vivian and Raul talk about rituals and routines. Life won't give you want you want, it will give you what you're committed to. In a relationship, you have to show up for each other consistently. Not every night is going to be a spectacular date night, often things are quite ordinary. But love is something you do, and in different ways. You have to make time for your partner, and you have to do things that put each other in a “together” headspace. Everything that is worthwhile is not going to be easy. But easy doesn't mean complicated. Show up consistently, put your time and money into a relationship, and it will grow. You can pay the price with time, or with money, or with regret.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...​ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...​   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla...​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion​   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/​ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian Villacis discuss what their takeaway was from the interview that Oprah did with Prince Harry and Dutchess Meghan. As a quick refresher, Meghan, formerly an actress, is American and bi-racial, which caused a lot of conflict between Harry and the rest of the royal family. Harry, who had to grow up without his mother, Princess Diana, decided that the best way to protect his family was to cut ties with the royal family and live a relatively private life. The two had to essentially start their lives over, with each other for support. This is a situation that Raul and Vivian can relate to, as when they were first married, they sold many of their belongings and moved into a house together. To see the other takeaways, be sure to watch this episode of God, Money & Purpose   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...​ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...​   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla...​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion​   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/​ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/  

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian address an issue that comes up in every long term relationship: How to diffuse bombs. The escalation from discussion to disagreement to disaster can go very fast. But it's far from inevitable. When tensions are high, Raul and Vivian suggest doing these things: Give your partner certainty that you are in control of yourself. Be assertive, look to God's vision, listen to your partner for feedback.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...​ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...​   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla...​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion​   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/​ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian discuss what emotional intelligence means, not just in the abstract, but how having or not having it can affect a marriage.   Having control of your money is a form of emotional fitness.   Being able to make intelligent decisions with money, rather than be impulsive, or ignore purchases that “don't count” means you have that emotional fitness.   When you have two people who mix their finances, it can quickly create tension if you aren't on the same page about money, or don't know where the money is going at the end of the month.   Having the emotional fitness to have the awareness of how much you can risk or be able to tolerate a short term loss for a long term gain, can keep your marriage happy.   A person with emotional intelligence takes responsibility, rather than try to assign blame. If you   Whether with money or with your emotions, being able to be truthful with your partner makes the difference between a happy marriage and an unhappy one.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose​ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...​ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...​   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla...​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion​   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/​ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/​ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this abbreviated episode of God, Money & Purpose, Vivian and Raul reflect on what is a gift. In years past, Raul would scrimp and save for weeks to save up for baubles and bags to give his wife, but now he realized the biggest gift he can give is his time and energy. What's more, it's not enough to give gifts one day a year, but you have to give gifts, both material and immaterial, every day of the year. But, it's not enough to give gifts, you have to know how to receive gifts. Again, not just material gifts, but immaterial gifts as well. God is giving you gifts every day, but you must have the mindset of abundance and gratitude to see them: the gifts of health, family, opportunity, and yes, even pain. Pain can be a gift because it makes you see where you need to level up in life. Your life is a mirror of your values: the more you give, the more you have. Happy holidays from Raul and Vivian Villacis.

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian share the lessons they've learned since 2010, and what they're doing to make 2021 their best year yet. Although 2020 was hard, Raul is no stranger to hardship. In 2008, he lost a fortune in his real estate business, and spent the next few years building it back. He came to learn that every struggle is a gift, and that at your weakest moments, that's when you need the greatest faith.    There are three major lessons in this episode: Take some time to review the gifts of the last decade. Don't be afraid to lose everything. Start looking at who you are going to become in the next 10 years. If you have an attitude of abundance and gratitude, no matter how hard things are, you realize that they can always be worse, and that hard times never last forever. If you can do that, the best is always yet to come.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode, Vivian recounts a conflict she had with their son, Alejandro. Alejandro has a habit of leaving work until the last minute. Raul is the same way. But when Alejandro asked Vivian for help with his assignment, his habits triggered her. Should Alejandro have taken his mother's reaction in mind before he asked for help? Or should Vivian have not offered her help in the first place? Vivian and Raul discuss the different courses of action they could have taken in that situation, and also what Vivian actually did to deal with the stress and protect her own energy. Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

Thanksgiving is the beginning of the holiday season. Thanksgiving has been, for many families, a source of stress. If you have a warm relationship with the rest of your family, you sometimes feel guilty that you spend too little time with them. If you disagree with members of your family about important issues, this can lead to simmering resentment or full-blown arguments. And now COVID adds an extra layer of stress on top of that. In this episode, Raul and Vivian discuss how you can develop the emotional fitness it takes to get the most out of your holidays, and how to maintain good relationships with your family all year.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, we begin with a story of Alejandro, Raul and Vivian's son, and the frustration Vivian felt when Alejandro waited until the last minute to finish a homework assignment. The situation offers insight into the relationship between masculine and feminine energy, as well as between parents and children. Alejandro, like Raul, works best under pressure, but the stress of working at the last minute is a double-edged sword. When communicating, you can't rely on anyone else to do what you want them to just because you want it. The best way to make your point understood is to talk about how you feel when someone takes an action. With 2020 nearing its end, it's time to reflect on the “2020 vision” that everyone was excited about in 2019. 2020 has exposed our weaknesses, and it has led to dramatic change, whether we wanted it or not. We can never know what God has planned for us. God always gives us what we need, although we often don't know it until we've learned the lesson. Life punches us all in the face from time to time, and it's up to us to get up; that's how we grow.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Vivian and Raul talk about a subject that is very timely: Stress. Specifically, the stress of the election. It seems sometimes like half the country hates the other half. But the truth is, we have more in common with each other than we think. Raul and Vivian give the audience actionable tips that they can use to deescalate a situation, and relieve built up stress. Those four tips are: Don't argue with reality, own your own happiness, protect your energy, and move your body. It doesn't matter who is in the White House, what matters is who leads in your house.   Follow us Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

The five love languages, a concept outlined by Gary Chapman in his book of the same name. They are: words of affirmation,quality time, giving and receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Raul and Vivian have a lengthy discussion about this concept and how they interact with each other and with their children. The discussion is incited by a listener who submits a question, asking how he can make his partner love herself more. Vivian and Raul's first answer is that you can't make someone else love themselves, but they expand on that idea to show how by respecting your partner, and loving your partner, your partner will learn to value herself. The more you show that your partner has value, the more she will believe in her own value. Use the five love languages to express your love to your partner, and learn how to communicate more clearly by “speaking” the love language that your partner understands best. If you and your partner both express your love for each other in a way that the other can understand, in the process you will show each other how you have value and are worthy of love.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

This is the first episode of God, Money & Purpose since Raul hosted the Next Level Virtual Leadership Summit. The event was a huge success, and the biggest lesson from that experience is to have the emotional intelligence to keep calm when things go wrong. Things did go wrong at first, but within the first hour, everything was flowing. Raul and Vivian discuss the benefits and possible downsides of using technology to work and communicate.   The first question is, “How can I be on the same page as my partner when we discipline our kids?” Vivian and Raul share their experience with “conscious parenting” and compare how the experience they each had growing up has changed so much now that they are parents.   The second question is, “What is the difference between a princess and a queen?” Vivian and Raul explain the difference between the two, using pop culture and religious references.   We hope you enjoy this episode of God, Money & Purpose, and be sure to like and subscribe.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode of the God, Money & Purpose Podcast, Raul and Vivian broadcast the show from their palatial home in Stamford, CT. All the riches in the world don't count for anything if you don't have your health. This is a lesson that was hammered home in March of 2020, when Vivian and Raul both had to fight the Coronavirus. Vivian had a mild case at first, but then Raul came down with a massive fever. As soon as Raul started to feel better, Vivian became so sick that it affected her vital organs, even to the point where doctors considered giving her a liver transplant.   It took hard work and discipline to get better, but Vivian managed to pull through and get back to 100% without drugs or surgery. Now, six months later, the two reflect on the journey from the great depths to great heights. This experience brought them closer together as a couple, and brought them both closer to God. Learn how the two found the gift in the great pain, and how they grew stronger after fighting the hardest battle they've fought yet.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

Coming to you live from Turks and Caicos Island, Raul and Vivian take a break from their anniversary vacation to bring you this episode of God, Money & Purpose. Raul and Vivian have been married for 21 years. Their relationship is more connected than ever. So how did they go from two crazy kids full of hormones and dreams to a King and Queen with a deep spiritual connection? The two share with the audience what it takes to keep a marriage full of fun, adventure, and surprise. This episode also includes a video tribute that Raul made for Vivian to celebrate their anniversary. If you want to know how to keep a marriage going for 21 years and beyond, be sure to watch this episode of God, Money & Purpose.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

Raul and Vivian celebrate 21 years of marriage this week.   After all that time, the two reflect on the mistakes that they made early on in their relationship.   The two were young, and made mistakes that young people make.   Raul admits that his biggest mistake was being possessive of Vivian, who decided to lie about her whereabouts when he wasn't around.   Raul fell in love with a fiery, independent woman, but his own insecurity cooled that very fire.   Raul came to realize the error of his ways and learn to let Vivian be the Amazonian Queen she always was.   Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE... Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion   Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On today's episode of God, Money & Purpose, Vivian takes the gloves off and hits Raul with the three mistakes that men commonly make in relationships. Instead of getting defensive, men should take this opportunity to get feedback from life, and grow from it.   Mistake 1: Confusing intimacy with quality time. Raul admits that when he and Vivian are snuggled together on the couch watching a horror movie, he views it as an intimate experience. But what he doesn't realize is that Vivian isn't taking any of that as intimate, and instead views it as just another activity. Often, Raul will be physically present with Vivian in a romantic setting, but be checking his phone every two minutes. To be truly intimate, go beyond physical intimacy and pay full attention to each other.   Mistake 2: Not understanding your partner's love language. The Five Love Languages is a concept from Gary Chapman in his book of the same title. Each of us speak to each other in one of those languages, and not interpreting what your partner is saying to you is a mistake couples make in a relationship. Communicate with each other what your specific love language is so your partner can be attuned to it.   Mistake 3: Never changing. Raul and Vivian have been together for over 20 years. What worked for them 20 years ago isn't necessarily going to work now. You have to be willing to go beyond your comfort zone to not be the partner you are now, but to continually evolve and become the partner you need to be.   Watch this episode to see a glimpse into Raul and Vivian's home life, and learn a little along the way.   Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCIM... Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE...   Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

It may seem hard to believe, but summer is over, and it's already September. This summer has felt like a roller coaster ride, and it's time to start thinking about how to end the summer strong. If you want to strengthen your relationship, connection with God, and your business, you must learn how to communicate.   0:28 Intro 0:54 How to end the summer strong 1:51 How to send us a question 2:22 How do you communicate? 2:55 What does it mean to “Feed the King?” 4:10 Raul's exercise: what is purpose? 5:06 Vivian's definition of purpose 6:10 The purpose of our lives is to create more energy 7:10 Our mind makes something attainable unattainable 8:12 Success is not enough for the mind 9:25 Keep communication as simple as you can 12:10 Have a “vacation” every day. 15:20 Raul's corporate client dropped him. What did he do to recover? 16:10 16:45 Anticipate the blessings, appreciate how far you've come 17:55 You have to have faith and action 18:11 When fear knocks at the door allow faith to answer it 21:10 The small wins turn into home runs 21:32 Appreciate the small wins 21:42 2020 can be your catapult year 23:36 Feed the king, communication, let go of things that don't bring you energy, celebrate your wins 24:14 wrap up   Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCIM... Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE... Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

On this episode, Raul and Vivian focus on two interrelated points. The first comes from a situation the two were recently in where the family went to the beach. Raul volunteered to get a beach umbrella, but by the time he got to the store, he kept on buying more and more things that were less and less useful. Raul explores the pattern and trigger that led him to take that action, and specifically his need for approval. The second point comes from a question from a viewer. The viewer feels ignored when her husband sits down and becomes a couch potato. Raul and Vivian discuss how masculine and feminine energy play into different methods of sedating yourself when you want to quiet your mind. TV, drugs, and alcohol can be a way of quieting the mind that aren't as healthy as, say, meditation or exercise. What should the woman do to communicate with her husband that she feels ignored, and what can the two of them do together to improve their relationship.   0:42 Intro, welcome 2:00 How do we adapt to post-lockdown life? 2:20 Power days, calibration days, reset/recharge days, and hybrid days 3:25 the more we pile on, the more depleted we feel 3:50 Raul and Vivian went to a hotel in NJ to go to the beach 5:00 Raul buys a sun umbrella. Then he buys something else. And something else. 6:20 ...But did Vivian use it? 8:35 Was it necessary for Raul to do all that? 10:05 You get a hit of dopamine from gratitude 10:50 Question of the day - My husband is addicted to TV and social media 13:15 The lengths Raul went to to watch TV when they first moved in together 14:50 The pattern is that the person is trying to turn down the noise in his mind 15:55 Women want attention all the time. Most of the time. 16:54 Raul recommends finding an alternative to TV that works for both of you 18:09 Ask what's useful or not useful, not good or bad 18:50 You give your all outside the home, so what do you bring back home with you? 21:40 Men can do “nothing,” women are constantly looking for “something.” 22:40 Find what influences her or him 23:42 You can change the energy of the room when someone comes in 24:41 Improvement starts with communication 26:21 Wrap up   Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCIM... Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAE... Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In this episode of God, Money & Purpose, Raul and Vivian are in from the storm. During the recent hurricane that swept Connecticut, a tree fell right into their pool. They were fortunate, because the damage was only property, and no one was hurt, even though they were startled by the crash. So, for the time being, where they lay their head is home, wherever they have each other and their children is home. The storm, in a literal sense, gives them an opportunity to reflect on the metaphorical storms in our life that we face constantly. The storm is strong, and so we must be stronger than the storm. The key to surviving the storm is to have the strong roots. You don't see the roots, and so you may make the mistake of having what looks like strength from the outside, but is really a hollow facade. The episode closes with a question from the audience, and Raul lets us in on the secret to make women happy. 0:44  Intro - We can't do everything 1:20  Women get in their own way 2:00 Men feel guilty that they can't do everything 2:50 Raul's story 4:40 Adapt, adjust, execute 6:25 “What drives you?” 7:22 We're in the middle of a storm 10:05 What did Vivian learn from this experience? 12:55 The storms will cause damage, but you have to let go 13:38  How do you feel about preparation? 16:00 Women have the ability to create a safe environment wherever they go 17:13 Masculine energy gives the certainty 18:35 How many times have we looked good on the outside, but didn't have the proper roots 21:50 The importance of community 23:17 Every storm makes us stronger 23:41  Question for the day 24:23  It's never too late to start taking time to yourself  25:44 Don't be afraid to ask for what you want 27:30 Needy energy repels what you want 29:05 The cheat sheet: What women want! 29:25 No one wants to be needy 30:10 Wrap up Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCIMpTyyvz90MbMagABHYuw?sub_confirmation=1 Follow us: Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/godmoneypurpose Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/047uSAEkLnvGmXlQ6MuuxB Vivian Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion Raul Villacis: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

You've got questions, we've got the answers. This is a special episode of God, Money & Purpose, recorded at a Next Level boot camp in front of an intimate audience. Personal development has a number of unexpected outcomes. The two partners see each other in pain, then later in stages of growth. What can that do to a relationship? How did Raul and Vivian deal with Raul's tunnel, and his “ascendance” as a king? What did she do to grow herself, and how did that in turn affect their relationship again? Raul and Vivian answer these questions and give their insights into relationships on this special episode of God, Money & Purpose.   0:52 Question: If a woman is powerful and alpha, how do you, as a man, gain her respect? 1:11 Vivian's take: You have to show up 3:04 Raul's take: You don't have to make more money to be more “masuline,” you have to have the masculine polarity. Don't let anyone else judge you for what makes you happy. 5:15  Question: what did Raul do when he was going through a tunnel to get Vivian on board with personal development? 5:27 A woman has to grow to meet her partner 9:16 You can't help someone else before you help yourself 11:38 Vivian talks about the experience of seeing a new person in the old person 12:44 Raul's recommendations for increasing intimacy 14:40 Information is not enough  16:51 Question: How do I give my wife more confidence? 16:57 Short answer: You can't. 20:30 Whatever your purpose is in life, don't stop. Live your purpose and she'll grow to meet you 23:14 Three things to do: Praise her, trust her, paint the vision 25:30 Date nights are important in a relationship 28:13  Raul's closing thoughts

Will and Jada Pinkett Smith: Every relationship has its own rules 0:07 Topic of the day: Will and Jada Pinkett Smith. 2:50 We're so quick to judge other people's relationships or character 3:58 Infidelity has no relationship with length of marriage, money, or any other external characteristic. 5:41 Jada's explanation of the incident resonated with Vivian.  6:30 Don't make this mistake in a relationship 7:10 Raul's take on Will - The savior gets crucified 9:47 We're so quick to tell others to leave their partners.  11:41 If Will Smith can't do it, what hope is there for the rest of us?  12:00 Jada was looking for a “project,” and Will was no longer one. 12:28 Emotional insecurity is the reason for cheating in many relationships 13:43 How does a man help a woman going through this emotional roller coaster 15:00 To be in a relationship takes work 16:39 Clean the space between what people say and the truth 17:21 Raul is on Will's side 18:58 We can all learn from someone else's mistake 19:33 Are you taking care of yourself first? 21:32 You can't expect someone else to fix you. 25:10 In your relationship, you will leave the relationship and come back in as a better person.

On this week's episode of God, Money, and Purpose, Raul and Vivian discuss the case of a man who cheats on his wife, but only in his heart. He constantly tells her how he is interested in other women, and he feels guilt and shame. They've been stuck in this cycle for years of him looking at other women, telling her about it, and asking for forgiveness.  Raul and Vivian try to piece together why a man would constantly fantasize about being with other women, and whether it is good or bad that the man tells his wife. How will this couple move forward in their relationship? What lessons can we learn from the bible that still hold true in 2020? Find out on this episode of God, Money, & Purpose.

On this episode, Raul and Vivian answer the question, what do you do if you want to change and improve, and your partner doesn't? This is an issue that Raul and Vivian had to deal with in their relationship when Raul started his personal development journey. At first, Vivian was content to just watch him, but eventually, he set an example for her to follow, and she began to take a deeper interest in personal development in her own way. Does this advice scale, or did it only work for Raul and Vivian? The only way to know for sure is to watch this show.

On this episode of the God, Money & Purpose Podcast, Raul and Vivian answer a viewer question: Does going through the tunnel mean you have to break up with a partner?  Relationships can be bad at times, and that can be a result of one or both partners being a bad partner, or it can be a result of the two just not being a match for each other. What happens, then, when a partner decides to take steps to improve himself? Does he have to push the partner out, or is this an opportunity to bring his partner closer to him? If one partner is working on self-development, and the other is not, what is their responsibility to each other, if any?  Plus, on this episode, Vivian answers the question we all wanted to know: Was she a ride-or-die chick? It's another one you don't want to miss.

On this episode of the God, Money & Purpose Podcast, Raul and Vivian are here to discuss negativity and negative energy. Although there is plenty of negative energy in the world, it's important to protect your energy, especially at home and with your partner and family. Raul and Vivian share another story of how their interactions with their children can relate to the topic of the week. The episode ends with a mailbag question: How can you resolve an argument when one partner is giving the other the silent treatment. It's another episode you don't want to miss.

We are in the middle of a time of introspection. After Covid kept us home, the death of George Floyd inspired us to take to the streets. How can we learn to love each other the way God loves all of us? How can we best connect with and learn from people who are so different from us? Is there really a gift in this pain? As always, Raul and Vivian are here to talk frankly with each other about their experiences with discrimination, the insights they gained from raising children in this uncertain time, and what we can still learn from Jesus nearly 2,000 years after he was killed for threatening the social order of his day.   Timecode   3:04 Intro: We're talking about silence today. 4:17 2020 is a hell of a year 5:17 Change doesn't look the way we want it to look 6:57 Abigail's take on it: We need love 8:55 Social media doesn't change as much as it exposes more 10:40 How does God see all of this? He created us the same way. 12:00 The world had to be shaken in order to expose the truth 12:50 Don't be ashamed to have genuine curiosity about another person 13:31 You get in life more of what you tolerate 15:33 Everyone can make a change 16:51 We have to take ownership of the situation 18:37 What is the good news in this bad situation? 21:25 You just need to be aware that there's a problem 23:22 We aren't looking for peace, we need to be uncomfortable in order to grow 26:06 Outro and thanks

On this episode of the God, Money & Purpose Podcast, Raul and Vivian talk about the difficult subject of the death of George Floyd at the hands of Minneapolis Police. The purpose of this episode is not to get political or to weigh in on the news, but to help you be part of the solution in your daily life. Can we fight fire with fire? Can we beat hate with more hate? The answer is no. But accepting that truth makes us feel helpless in the face of a cruel world that is slow to change. Raul and Vivian are here to help you process the sad news and teach you how you can balance protecting yourself from negativity in the world and facing it head on to stop further hate and violence.

Raul and Vivian are still going strong through the quarantine. On today's episode, the two discuss ways to create a deeper connection in a relationship. A partner has the power to uplift or bury the other, but what is the point where you should be dependent on your partner and where should you be able to stand on your own? Raul talks frankly about one of his lowest points in his life, and how Vivian's reaction to bad news shaped him for years to come. Raul and Vivian close with three things you can do to forge a deeper relationship with your partner.

The pandemic has impacted everyone. But not everyone has been impacted the same way. In this episode of The God, Money, and Passion podcast, Raul and Vivian discuss the ways in which the pandemic has affected them individually, as a couple, and as business owners. Both Vivian and Raul came down with COVID-19, and are still recovering from the illness. Vivian has had ongoing but mild symptoms, and Raul went through a severe case, but has recovered fully.  The crisis has reminded them of or brought into focus many things that we take for granted or don't pay enough attention to. In this episode, you will learn what this crisis has exposed for Raul and Vivian, and how they are taking this opportunity to come back even stronger. The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvillacis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion/ Website: https://www.godmoneysexpodcast.com/subscribe.    

The pandemic has impacted everyone. But not everyone has been impacted the same way. In this episode of The God, Money, and Purpose podcast, Raul and Vivian discuss the ways in which the pandemic has affected them individually, as a couple, and as business owners. Both Vivian and Raul came down with COVID-19, and are still recovering from the illness. Vivian has had ongoing but mild symptoms, and Raul went through a severe case, but has recovered fully. The crisis has reminded them of or brought into focus many things that we take for granted or don't pay enough attention to. In this episode, you will learn what this crisis has exposed for Raul and Vivian, and how they are taking this opportunity to come back even stronger.

On this episode , Vivian and Raul give you a peek into their bedroom as they reveal the secret to the best sex in your life: Having a great connection with your partner. The best way to have a great connection with your partner is to start by being in touch with the different personalities within yourself.   The side of yourself that you choose to show someone else is your persona. At the office, you can have the dark warrior persona, at the dinner table, you can have the King and Queen persona or the Mother and Father persona. In the bedroom, you can have many personas, from the temptress who takes charge to the schoolgirl who approaches cautiously then lets go of her inhibitions and immerses herself in the moment.   You can explore these different sides of yourself if you have a partner who is accepting of who you are and is able to communicate his or her needs.   By watching this episode, you'll learn how to tap into the different sides of yourself and make a deeper connection than you've ever had before.   If you have questions for Raul and Vivian to discuss on an upcoming episode, email Raul@nextlevelexperience.com. Thank you for your kind support in this difficult time. The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion/ Website: https://www.godmoneysexpodcast.com/su...

GMS Podcast returns after a break due to technical glitches in order to unpack a serious issue: The death of Raul's father, “Papi” Raul. Papi Raul had lived with muscular dystrophy for twenty years, and was told he would likely die young. At the age of 54, Papi Raul suffered a heart attack and was rushed to the hospital over Thanksgiving weekend. Papi Raul's heart stopped beating and started again over 15 times in the emergency room, something the doctors there had never seen before. But, although he had his entire family cheering him on, and his wife literally begging him not to go, Papi Raul taught Raul his final lesson: Fight as hard as you can, but know when it's time to finally give up.   On this episode, Raul and Vivian talk about their experience saying goodbye to Papi Raul, and looking back fondly on the impact he made in the lives of those around him. Raul lets the audience in on how the pain of his father's loss has already made him stronger, and how he plans to deal with that pain for the rest of his life. If you have questions for Raul and Vivian to discuss on an upcoming episode, email Raul@nextlevelexperience.com. Thank you for your kind support in this difficult time.   The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivianvilla... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vivianpassion/ Website: https://www.godmoneysexpodcast.com/su...

After taking a week off so Raul could teach a boot camp, the God, Money & Sex podcast is back. In this episode, Raul and Vivian discuss how difficult it is for men to be vulnerable. As men, we have been conditioned to not ask for help, and to armor yourself in order to go into battle. But that armor becomes isolating, and ends up becoming a barrier to connecting with your partner, with your friends, and with God.  Men have a tendency of overcompensating for being a strong lion at work, by being a weak pussycat at home because they don't know how to balance their own needs and their partner's needs. Women also have a tendency to stay in a nurturing, mother energy, even in situations when it's appropriate to bring out the temptress state and let loose. As a result, a relationship can get stale and an unspoken frustration seeps in. The best way to deal with this is to have clear conversations to set a strategy to meet an expressed (not tacitly understood) goal. Both partners have to take responsibility, but there is no upside in complaining or blaming. 1:55 Let's get started 3:05 What happens when one partner decides to grow 4:55 Men put on emotional armor 6:10 Vivian gives advice for men who walk around with armor on 7:34 Why do men wear armor? 9:45 Do you want to win a game? 11:06 You can't just wing it in a relationship 11:25 Take ownership  12:22 It's easier to be mad at someone who wronged you than to be mad at yourself for making mistakes 13:50 The Warrior wants to go to battle. The King wants what's best for the kingdom. Which one are you at that moment? 14:55 The different feminine energies: the mother, the temptress,  17:11 When we become aware of what our energy is, can you change your state? 17:48 Parents and pet parents have less sex because parents are in the nurturing energy 21:35 If it isn't a dog, it will be some other distraction 22:24 How to win back your wife 23:10 The biggest lesson of this episode 24:27 No one prepares us for relationships and marriage 25:33 The best is yet to come  

Marriage Success Tips: Gratitude v.s. Positivity Gratitude is different from positivity. In this episode of the GMS Podcast, Raul and Vivian give their definition of what the difference is between positivity and gratitude. Gratitude is a part of your brain that needs to be exercised. You can do this by taking a moment every day to journal what you have and what you're grateful for. Another way to do this is to volunteer and help other people who have less than you. Positivity can mask a lot of emotions. It's only on the outside, so you put on a brave face or you tell yourself that everything will work out later, but you aren't doing the inner work that it takes to appreciate what you have. So positivity always runs out. The inner work starts when you focus on yourself what what you can change.

Why do men and women argue? Is it possible to have conflict but still have a good relationship? Do men and women really argue differently? This podcast will answer all of those questions and more on this episode of God Money & Sex. Raul and Vivian Villacis discuss conflict in relationships as they break down in detail an argument from early on in their marriage. The argument, a miscommunication about what Vivian wanted from Raul when they were running late for a party, encapsulates everything that leaves men confused and women still angry long after the inciting incident has passed. They revisit the incident in in spirit knowing now what they have learned in their twenty years of marriage. >> Subscribe to the Podcast Here https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-money-and-sex/id1389276630 https://soundcloud.com/godmoneysex Remember, if you have any questions that you want us to answer on next week's show, you can reply to this email or leave a comment on the video with your question, and maybe we'll read it on the show!

My wife and I have started our second season of the God, Money & Sex Podcast. To set your mind at ease, I will tell you right now, that we are not going to be preaching about how you should love God, talk about getting rich, or go into graphic details about our sex life.   Instead, I want to explain what each of these words mean for us, which should give you an entry point into our show.   God, for us, means acknowledging that there is something out there beyond your understanding. It can be God, it can be the universe, it can be vibrations, energy, anything you want it to be. I've been in the same room with the Dalai Lama, I've meditated with monks and have been in church for years. It doesn't matter what you believe in as long as you believe in SOMETHING GREATER than YOU.   GOD for me is PURPOSE and LOVE.   Money is the exchange of value you bring to the marketplace.  It gives you the opportunity to create an IMPACT.   Being an entrepreneur is not easy. You have to motivate yourself, otherwise your business will fail. The money is the byproduct of success, but it rarely is a motivator.    And sex, for us, means connection. Like everything else in life, a good relationship doesn't mean it's easy, it means it's worth it. We struggle all the time, but when we do, we always find the next level in our relationship. That connection gets deeper every day, but only if you work at it.   GOD, MONEY and SEX are what drives most of our ACTIONS.   Our intention in this podcast is to share our experiences so we can create and IMPACT through our mistakes and insights.   I hope you join us.

Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships. You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In today's episode of God, Sex, and Money Raul and Vivian are joined with Alison Armstrong, a writer of many life changing books and a relationship expert. Since 1991 she has been studying men and relationships. Today we try understanding both men and women's perspective when it comes to men going through a midlife crisis or a tunnel in their lives.   Topic: Going through a tunnel as a man can be difficult. The journey has to consist of healing, communicating, standing up and that's what men have to stand for.   (6:14) A midlife crisis is a sacred time not a terrible one. Men get made fun of because it is so misunderstood. Going through the tunnel is sacred, everyone goes through it. (9:49) There is a certain cultural view on men that sees them as defective, broken, or that they misbehave. They are seen to not be trusted with anything precious or with delicate things. With that view on them people begin to think that the world would be a better place if it were run by women. (10:25) Back in the day there was this impression that women had to have a man but she doesn't need him. You have to have someone but also need to be dependent on yourself and self sufficient. That was reality then. (11:33) What if women were trying to attack men and they are on the defense? What if by trying to reveal the con-artist women think men are what they really do is just provoke men enough to see the real person they are. It's like kicking down a dog and then being surprised when getting bitten by the dog or when it ran away. (13:45) A lot of times what's seen is women are emasculating men and they get to the point of not wanting to be in a relationship anymore and they see being single as a lot easier. (14:05) Women are emasculating men so much that they don't realize what they are doing or even when it's happening. It's become so normal that women aren't aware of it. (14:35) A woman who fails to put a man in his place is viewed as a slacker to other women. They think you aren't doing your part and you shouldn't allow those things to happen. (15:19) Our culture makes us believe that men should just be given enough power to be handy, and not powerful. (17:06) What if a man is like a Ferrari they look good, they're strong, finely tuned, well designed but they have flat tires and no gas, then it would do nothing for you. That's how we relate to the empowerment of men, not giving it. You have the looks but not the power you want. (18:00) Women don't want to be out of control. It's an instinct to want to control what the result is and how the result is produced and that's when they disempower men. Women do the same thing to themselves and other women. What happens if in a partnership, the person who needs something is also controlling the person giving it? If you're getting everything you need is that enough power for you or do you need to control how it's given to you? Is it enough to let them give you something in the way that's empowering for them and works for them. (20:04) You need to trust each other enough to communicate what you want but let the other person do it the way they need to. An element of partnership is accepting not to have huge expectations and having clear communication of what your partner wants from you. Don't have the expectation of being disappointed because they gave you what you wanted but in a way you weren't planning on. (22:20) Are women resistant on having to change themselves when they see their partners have changed? Do women want to control because they want to dictate how fast their growth is? Is it wrong to assume that women are resistant with change because they don't want to be left behind. (23:35) Human beings experience safety depending on our mental state. When we feel safe there is confidence and awareness that we are getting the best from a person. The access to being productive is being trusted and respected. (25:29) Gathering mode is being open biologically, it allows an experience for connectivity. We feel what other people feel in that state. For women in gathering mode their safety seems to be dependent on being connected with someone. Being disconnected would be seen as being left behind and that's terrifying for women. (26:36)  When men are in this tunnel it's terrifying for both partners because it's a midlife crisis for the man and a disconnection for the woman. (27:07) Going through the tunnel is a right of passage and only men can help themselves in that time. When men are in the tunnel they have to disconnect from everyone because no one else can help them, that's apart of the process. When women try to comfort and help them, it doesn't help because men need to figure out what is happening with themselves and how to fix it. Women a lot of times take it personally and feel like it's their faults and not their partners. But what they need to realize is it's not them. It's a journey they both need to go through. (28:04) What happens after a man goes through the tunnel and sees the light at the end of it? After this tunnel men see what they just went through they are more open and aware of what they want. They have a higher value of appreciation for their family, business, and relationship. They want to have different standards in their relationships. (29:13) How do you battle the gap of when a man goes through a tunnel and sees a higher purpose and wants his relationship to go to a higher level? How do you push through without invading or having to push your partner to get on board with you? (31:57) Be clear on who you are and who you're not when you go through your tunnel you become a king. There has to be this clarity on who you are. A man's definition of success is when his external world is an expression of his internal self. When men's values are represented in the world, for a woman it's disruptive because before that place, men are much more adaptable and easy to manipulate. When you don't know who you are you have such a strong endurance in the relationship. When you are clear you can't betray yourself anymore. It's terrifying when you get everything as a woman and when that changes it's hard to adapt to. (36:32) How do you interact from a different perspective? Women find it nearly impossible to appreciate or value a man. Women have to appreciate and see the greatness of a man. The moment a man can see that his partner is seeing them as this new person or as who they have become then they are unstoppable. See the roots, the work, and results. Your partner has to honor the transition and honor who you were and are now. (40:19) What if your partner refuses to appreciate the journey or doesn't see their partner as a changed person? A women believes if they can manipulate you and can get their way the man isn't strong enough to protect them. When you are being a worse version of yourself you need protecting from yourself. Men have to stand their ground because it shows your strength and it makes you feel safe. (44:16) A lot of men don't want to stand up in their relationship because they think it's too hard or too much work. They rather make money if they can't stand up for themselves at home they rather control the business. If you can stand up to your partner and stand your ground it creates the polarity that you need, even if she doesn't get her way she will trust you. (46:36) As human beings we are compelled to conclude responses, all of our strategy is in our conclusions because we can't live with just wondering. The conclusion makes you feel safer even if it's a negative conclusion because then you can strategize. But what happens overtime is you get a wound and you train your brain to drive into that conclusion. (47:35) To get your partner to appreciate the journey they need healing. Healing from anything you've done to make them believe that you did it because there's no love, respect, or care for them. As women they believe if you felt the right way you'd act the right way. (50:49) Men deal with the history of hurt feelings and until women are fully healed they can't appreciate or admire men because that is an expression of their hearts. A lot of thoughts women have is why their partners do what they do. They give too much credit for good intentions and too little credit for the bad intentions. (52:16) The journey has to consist of healing, communicating, standing up and that's what men have to stand for. They have to be willing to fight for their woman and business. Raul Villacis is a family man, entrepreneur, investor and mentor to fellow entrepreneurs.  He is the founder and driving force behind the Next Level Experience. He has designed a system that helps men get The EDGE back in their lives.  Through his program, they find clarity and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives. He is also a sought-after public speaker, owns his own real estate company, has held over 20 Next Level Boot Camps and has created the Inner Circle, an elite network that fosters connection and accountability amongst successful businessmen.   Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex  podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships.  You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website:  https://raulvillacis.com/

In today's episode of God, Sex, and Money, Raul and Vivian talk about the importance of knowing why you want to either start a marriage or a business, and making sure if it's for the right reasons. Finding the good in all the pain you experience in life and praying to become a stronger person in life. Raul and Vivian speak from experiences, not to tell you what to do, and hope you take awareness from the topics they mention. Topic: Why do you want to start a business or marriage? Pain is strength. (4:35) Why do you want to be an entrepreneur? If it's because you want more freedom, or you want to be your own boss it's the wrong reason. In reality you won't have freedom you have to invest money and all of your time. If you don't have the right mindset going into the business, and journey of being an entrepreneur you will fail. (5:22) People think your marriage will change for the better, you think you'll have more time for each other. But it won't you have to realize how much time and work it will take. (5:44) Business is not a fairytale, a glamorous lifestyle isn't always reality. When you go from an expensive lifestyle to something you're not used to it causes a mental shift. (6:03) Losing all your money as an entrepreneur is not uncommon. If you make the money as an entrepreneur it always goes up and down the market shifts, you take risks, and if you don't have the stomach or wisdom for it you'll fail. (6:38) When men lose in business they beat themselves up, and when they go home and your partner beats you down it hurts your ego. It kills your relationships, health, and self-esteem. (7:40) When you're in a relationship and you lose money your partner isn't waiting for the money to comeback, they're waiting for you and your purpose to be fulfilled. It can't be just about the money. (8:07) Why should you get married? Marrying an entrepreneur a lot of times is seen with different expectations. You get married to someone because you love the person. Same thing with a business you start it because it's your livelihood something you enjoy and your purpose. (8:47) Find a business that makes you happy and gets you excited to wake up. If it drains you and you aren't excited to wake up and go you have to shift your dreams and find your purpose. (9:30) A happy marriage is far from a fairytale a lot of people have the wrong expectations about it. How do you shift and get excited to wake up to the same person every day? Everyday you find something new to love in the other person and continue to grow in your relationship. Find the beauty in your partner. (10:38) You start a business because you are fighting for freedom not because it's going to give you freedom. You marry someone because you can't live without the person not because you expect them to make you happy. (11:17) When you have high expectations you end up feeling like you can't handle what's been given to you. (11:47) Don't make marriage so complicated, don't have high expectations. Give everything you have and expect nothing. It's so simple to have good communication and get a long. (13:15) When someone brings more pain than pleasure sometimes you can't stick around. A lot of people don't know whether it's something that's worth sticking around for. How do you know if after the pain it will get better? A lot of people deal with the pain they get accustomed because it's not as bad. After not being able to deal with it anymore you have to go out and seek help. Fix it and find the root of it then things will change. (14:55) Talk to your partner either in business or marriage, if they can't take the pain anymore or you can't tolerate it anymore communicate with them look for change. Let them know if you aren't happy anymore, and if you think there is a chance it'll work you need to be clear on what you need.   (15:52) People pray for God to make the path easier and to have him mold the path, or give you instructions on what to do. Don't pray for life to get easier but pray to get stronger. Raul realized he was asking for something that he was not ready to receive. If you don't have the capacity to handle situations you won't succeed. (17:05) Don't ask for more, ask for strength to manage what you have. If you can't handle what you have right now how can you handle more? Having pain helps you expand so many lessons come from pain. (17:44) Find other ways to communicate instead of yelling or hurting each other. Find other ways to speak to your partner. (18:10) Consume more knowledge on what you need help in. Tolerate the pain until you cant anymore, find help if you need it. (18:45) Spend time and money in your relationship or even on your health. How much time are you investing into the people you love? (19:06) Pain is a gift use your pain as fuel. There is a gift behind pain you won't see it in the moment because it's hurting you but it will be there. (21:13) When things happen you think about the worst case scenarios but you need to realize that grace saves you from those worse scenarios. The gift is to realize that we aren't promised tomorrow. (21:55) There is always a gift if you get away from the negative and if you can look with a grateful heart and step away from the negativity you'll see it. (22:11) First thing to take away is know why you're starting a business or a marriage and know its not going to be easy it's going to take time, money, and effort for things to be able to work. Secondly, stop praying for things to be easier, start to pray for you to become stronger. Nothing that is worth while is ever easy. (22:44) Lastly ask yourself what the gift is behind the pain? If you're looking for what's wrong in life you'll get it, but ask yourself whats right, what's the blessing or gift. What is God protecting you from what is his grace saving you from? Take the time to give God the glory or whoever you believe in and everything else will fall into place. Raul Villacis is a family man, entrepreneur, investor and mentor to fellow entrepreneurs.  He is the founder and driving force behind the Next Level Experience. He has designed a system that helps men get The EDGE back in their lives.  Through his program, they find clarity and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives. He is also a sought-after public speaker, owns his own real estate company, has held over 20 Next Level Boot Camps and has created the Inner Circle, an elite network that fosters connection and accountability amongst successful businessmen.   Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex  podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships.  You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website:  https://raulvillacis.com/      

In this episode of God, Sex, and Money, Raul and Vivian share the three tools to help strengthen your marriage. Vacation, creativity/connection, and communication. Learn how with these three tools it will help you build a strong foundation in your business and your marriage. A top priority as an entrepreneur is to make sure you have a strong foundation, because your foundation is your kingdom and the relationship with your family and God. Topic: Vacation, creativity, and communication. (2:00) We need to all take time to really stop and view the beauty of life. (5:34) How slowing down can be a good thing, you will actually be present in what's happening in front of you instead of always worrying about work. (5:50) What's the hardest job as an entrepreneur? (6:20) How to be an entrepreneur but also how to keep your marriage alive. (7:04) Learning how to see the different roles you need to play as an entrepreneur. As you mature and grow you have to know your roles in your marriage and business. (8:57) If more people put as much attention to their marriages as they do into their businesses, their lives could be completely different. (10:10) Paying attention to both your marriage and business will help them grow. It may not be at the same time but there is a season for everything. (10:54) What if the day you pay attention to your family it's too late then? You get the success you want but what is the price to pay if the people you care about are gone? (12:14) Communication is important in any relationship. Telling your partner that you need time and attention is okay. Spending time and venting about your feelings will make you feel better and liberated. Learning that just having to listen and not giving feedback is fine to do. (14:50) To be a good leader you need to have good communication. Being able to communicate with your team in their way. Understanding how to work with them using an approach that doesn't just benefit you. (15:40) In a relationship you can not be each other's coaches but your lovers. You can't fix each other, but you can learn from one another. Help each other see different perspectives but make sure your roles are in order. (16:26) Be creative experience things that you have never done before. Go visit new places on your vacation, be open minded. Create connections within your family, and within the moment. (17:29) When businesses and marriages stop being creative and stop innovating that's when things go downhill. (18:27) If you don't invest in yourself you'll never grow and the same goes for your marriage. (18:55) If there is no commitment to what you're doing and who you are, it's very easy to walk away and find something else that makes you happy. But you make a vow to love this person and that's commitment. (20:54) How committed am I? To seeing the results that I want, or committed to what I'm saying I want? If you don't invest, communicate, or create then it shows the commitment you actually have. (21:22) Most important job for an entrepreneur is to keep your marriage together because your marriage is a reflection of your business. (22:27) Your foundation isn't your business it's your body and purpose, the relationship you have with God, your kids, and your wife. If you don't have that you won't be able to grow within your business, or a purpose. (23:50) Who are you becoming during your journey and are you enjoying the process? People get caught up in the goal but need to realize the beauty in the process and experience. (24:18) Focus on progress you're always one percent better than you were the last time. It's something you build in your marriage and business. (24:37) If you think you'll have a perfect business and marriage that isn't reality. Things will always evolve and change. (25:00) Don't forget about the journey. See what you need to give you the desire to continue but don't stay stuck on dreaming, or the what-ifs. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In this episode of God, Money and Sex, Raul and Vivian discuss some of major problems they face in an entrepreneur marriage. They emphasize that the most important job for an entrepreneur is to keep their marriage together and alive, because their marriage is a true reflection of their business. With the three main pillars: communication, creativity and commitment, an entrepreneur can strengthen their foundation and continue to evolve in their marriage as well as their business. Raul Villacis is a family man, entrepreneur, investor and mentor to fellow entrepreneurs. He is the founder and driving force behind the Next Level Experience. He has designed a system that helps men get The EDGE back in their lives. Through his program, they find clarity and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives. He is also a sought-after public speaker, owns his own real estate company, has held over 20 Next Level Boot Camps and has created the Inner Circle, an elite network that fosters connection and accountability amongst successful businessmen. Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships. You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In this episode of God, Money & Sex, Raul and Vivian discuss sexless relationships. They both explain the seasons of relationships (some being better than others) but most importantly is the ability to choose what season to be in and for how long. Vivian offers some essential advice to women on how to love themselves in order for their partner to then love them. Raul will also be keeping it real and demand that men take responsibility and realize that in order for their partner to follow they must first lead.   (1:10) Topic- Sexless relationships (2:30) What happens when sex is no longer a priority? (4: 20) Everybody goes through a season, both in a business and in your marriage (6:40) Have the uncomfortable conversation about being too comfortable and perhaps even unhappy. Unless your willing to get out of your comfort zone, shit will not change. (9:05) If you don't put work into your marriage then you might lose the polarity. (10:00) Ask yourself, why are you tolerating anything less than a passionate relationship (12:35) Women have the power to either build or destroy a man (15:15) Nothing more attractive for a man when a women loves themselves (17:29) The faster you build eachother up instead of destroying one another, the quicker you will get out of a season (18:34) Men- Take responsibility because a women will level up as quickly as you will level up (19:49) Ladies- Think of yourself first and ask yourself what brings you pleasure. Try to remember what makes you happy. (21:21) Switching Roles (21:33) Ladies- Stop trying to be the mother and give your man some praise. Tell him what he did right. (24:05) Men- Allow your woman her time, the feminine lives in freedom and needs time to grow. Have fucking patience. (26:29) Every marriage and business has a season, nothing lasts forever. If you put in the work, you'll get to the next level.   Raul Villacis is a family man, entrepreneur, investor and mentor to fellow entrepreneurs.  He is the founder and driving force behind the Next Level Experience. He has designed a system that helps men get The EDGE back in their lives.  Through his program, they find clarity and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives. He is also a sought-after public speaker, owns his own real estate  company, has held over 20 Next Level Boot Camps and has created the Inner Circle, an elite network that fosters connection and accountability amongst successful businessmen.     Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships.  You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis   The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website:  https://raulvillacis.com/  

How to identify your partner triggers In this episode of God, Money & Sex, Raul and Vivian talk about filters. They are not referring to the filters we use on our favorite social medias but instead about the personas we put in order to hide who we truly are. They will explain the importance of being aware of your feelings in your marriage because when you learn to love yourself and your progress then you allow the person in front of you, to fall in love too.  (00:50) Topic: Are we using filters to create a persona for ourselves?  (2:00) People's reality are different than the one they portray on social media  (4:00) In the beginning of the relationship, a woman and man filter themselves however when both find out who they truly are, then there's chaos (6:21) Boys are conditioned to choose the path of least resistance when shit hits the fan. You are taught to not express your feelings  (8:19) When we talk about authenticity, we do not know how to process our own feelings. Our parents just never taught us to do otherwise so now we choose to filter it  (10:07) “Her pain is not my pain” Man must hold a space to allow their partner to be crazy, without being crazy themselves (Vice versa)  (13:00) Figure out who you are in this very moment. If you don't know what you want then you're going to let everyone around you influence you.  (14:12) What does a woman looking for? Certainty. On the other hand, men are looking for significance.  (15:48) Framework  1. Being authentic is being aware of what your going through and your emotions.  2. Stand up and face whatever it is your running away from  3. Let it go. There's some fights that just are not worth fighting for  (17:37) Methods that allow you to truly let go  (19:00) If you are not innovating in your marriage and in your business then eventually it is going to get boring  (20:00) Filters could be positive. For example, sometimes you have to show up according to your audience and consider using filters in the bedroom (20:50) You being authentic, is the matter of you choosing what version you want to show up in that moment. The end result is progress and falling in love with the person you are.  Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships. You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In this episode of God, Money & Sex, Raul and Vivian are spicing things up and talk about important issues that take place inside the bedroom. They will explain how different sex is for men versus women and how much work is required to understand this. You don't want to miss their framework on how to have a better sex life and ultimately a happier marriage and life. (1:30) Caution: Listen to podcast at your own risk, will be touching upon explicit language and ideas (3:09) Sometimes when your in a marriage for a long time, sex can become boring (4:30) Sex for a businessman might not be a top priority (5:20) For women sex is much more than just physical, it is also spiritual and emotional.. It can be a lot of work. (7:03) What is sex for a woman? (8:45) Pornography is made for men because they are so visual but none of it is real (11:18) Not being fully present during sex is cheating yourself and your partner from the full experience (12:24) Couples need to have the sex conversation, ask questions and as a result have a different framework of what is sex for one another. (15:18) Sex exercise: Pick one thing your partner likes and make it better. Give your partner some direction (17:10) Criticism is poison. We criticize ourselves so much, you don't need that in the bedroom. (17:27) Framework (18:10) Have a conversation with yourself- find the answers to the questions that you would want to ask your partner (18:21) Play the game that you can win, don't criticize yourself or your partner (19:20) Practice how to please your partner, this doesn't just mean intercourse. (21:37) There is always light and dark in a sexual relationship, role play to find the multiple versions of your partner (23:40) If your in a relationship where you both love each other, then your in the best place to explore and innovate (25:24) Sex is a lot of work but it so rewarding and the longer you wait to have this conversation, the harder it will be Raul Villacis is a family man, entrepreneur, investor and mentor to fellow entrepreneurs. He is the founder and driving force behind the Next Level Experience. He has designed a system that helps men get The EDGE back in their lives. Through his program, they find clarity and achieve balance in their personal and professional lives. He is also a sought-after public speaker, owns his own real estate company, has held over 20 Next Level Boot Camps and has created the Inner Circle, an elite network that fosters connection and accountability amongst successful businessmen. Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God, Money & Sex podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships. You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you. Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/ Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex. Follow Raul online here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/

In today's episode we share with you the biggest Takeaways from Alison Armstrong's conference on keeping a successful partnership in business and life. Raul and his wife Vivian Villacis host the God Sex & Money podcast, a business and relationship focused discussion forum that shares insights into what it takes to be a successful businessman while maintaining balance in your intimate relationships. You can have it all and Raul is the man who can help make it happen for you.   Make sure you stay tuned to this YouTube channel as Raul and his guests discuss key topics about God Money & Sex.   Follow Raul online here:   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RaulVillacis The God Money and Sex Podcast: https://raulvillacis.lnk.to/godmoneysex The Daily EDGE Podcast- http://www.raultheedge.com/subscribe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raultheedge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RaulTheEDGE/ Website: https://raulvillacis.com/   Email: raul@thenextlevelexperience.com