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Asking for help can feel like weakness—but what if it's actually a sign of strength? In this short episode, I get real about the shame and insecurity that bubbled up from a real life example from a client that needed help with a clothes dryer (yes, really). I walk through the wound thoughts, the emotions they triggered, and the powerful reframe that helped her see her courage and resourcefulness instead. If asking for help makes you squirm, this one's for you.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Want to fight less and connect more in your relationship? This episode dives into the secret sauce of better communication: validation.It's the #1 skill I teach couples, and for good reason—most of us skip it completely. When your partner feels seen and heard, defensiveness drops and connection rises.I'm sharing why validation is so hard (hello, nervous system), how to do it without faking it, and a few simple tips you can try today to shift the dynamic.Spoiler: fighting better isn't about avoiding conflict—it's about showing up like you're on the same team.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

We made it to 200 episodes, and we're celebrating with a twist — it's an Ask Me Anything attachment style episode!

In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing something super fresh: I was just diagnosed with ADHD this week. Yep, it's official—and I'm still very much in the thick of processing it all. Join me as I talk about how I got the diagnosis, what it's bringing up in my marriage (yep, we're a double ADHD couple!), and how it's reshaping how I see myself, my past, and my parenting.From the messy car-packing fights to the guilt of passing traits onto my kid, I'm unpacking it all—raw, unfiltered, and with a lot of heart. I'm also sharing how healing my attachment style gave me a head start on understanding ADHD, and why sensitivity and distractibility might just be superpowers.If you've ever wondered how ADHD shows up in adult relationships—or if you're just looking for real talk about neurodivergence, emotional growth, and love—this one's for you.

Who would you be with secure attachment? Would life be a fairytale? Drama-free? Maybe… boring?

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Gentle parenting. Conscious parenting. Attachment parenting. No matter your style, they all ask one thing: get comfortable with big emotions. Easier said than done—especially if you grew up stuffing yours down.In this episode, we talk about what really happens when your kid has a meltdown and your insecure attachment kicks in (hi, anxious fixers and avoidant silencers

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever feel like all hell breaks loose when someone pulls away? Panic. Fear. “Are they leaving me forever?!” In this episode, I answer a juicy question from Instagram about how to communicate your attachment style—especially when you're spiraling. We talk about asking for what you need (even when it feels terrifying), why that tiny request can change everything, and how a hug from my husband and a win with my boss taught me the power of speaking up. Spoiler: It's awkward at first, but it so pays off.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever been on the receiving end of a sudden outburst from your anxious preoccupied partner? Or maybe you are the one who panics and lashes out when you feel someone pulling away?Here's the deal: It's not about anger—it's about fear.When someone with an anxious preoccupied attachment feels rejected or senses abandonment, their nervous system goes into panic mode. The thought of losing connection feels like life or death, and in that desperation, they might use harsh language, lash out, say things they don't mean, or even reject someone's bid for attention before they can be rejected first.The work is about rewiring their fear of abandonment and expanding their emotional tolerance for discomfort—without self-sabotaging.Let's break it all down in this episode. Tune in.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

I used to think that once I became securely attached, life would be smooth sailing—no triggers, no fights, just endless happiness. Turns out… that's not how this works.Every client I work with wants to fix their attachment style—stop being clingy, stop avoiding, stop fearing. But here's the twist: the secret to secure attachment isn't about changing your patterns. In fact, trying to force change can backfire.Tune in to here the answer to creating secure attachment.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Is it intuition or just your attachment wounds talking? In this episode, we're diving into the messy, confusing, and totally relatable struggle of trusting yourself while breaking free from old relationship patterns. From dating dilemmas to parenting choices, cultural expectations to family judgment—it's hard AF to do what feels right when everyone else has an opinion. Whether you're running, clinging, or struggling with trust (hello, FA), this episode will help you tune into your intuition and stop letting attachment wounds call the shots.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Do you feel like you're carrying emotions that aren't even yours? That's codependency in action! Growing up, we were taught to take on other people's feelings—sometimes with real consequences if we didn't. It's a classic insecure attachment trait, but here's the good news: You don't have to keep doing it. In this episode I explore how this trait shows up and how to start letting it go. Imagine how much lighter (and freer!) you'd feel if you let go of emotions that were never yours to hold. Let's get into it!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that's what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they're laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right, then everything will be fine... right?In this episode, we're talking about why embarrassment is particularly cringe for the dismissive avoidant, why ignoring emotions doesn't actually make them disappear (sorry!), and how embracing the uncomfortable can lead to healthy connection. Trust me, you don't want to miss it!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like feedback is just code for "you're not enough"? You're not alone. If you have an insecure attachment style, receiving feedback can feel like punishment—like proof that you're failing, falling out of favor, or just not doing it right. We get defensive, take it personally, and totally miss the growth, care, and connection that feedback is meant to bring.In this episode, I'm sharing my own journey with feedback (yes, even in my marriage!) and how shifting your mindset can turn feedback from a threat into a gift. Tune in to learn how to stop taking it so personally and start using it to thrive—at work, in relationships, and beyond.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

If you thought becoming securely attached meant pretending you have no needs (looking at you, Anxious Preoccupied), never asking for space again (hello, Avoidant), or blindly trusting someone overnight (nice try, Fearful Avoidant), then… we need to talk.In this episode, I break down the biggest misconceptions insecurely attached folks have about “doing the work” and why forcing yourself to abandon your old patterns isn't the answer. Spoiler: You don't have to become a totally different person to be secure—you just need better communication tools. Let's get into it!

Dating can be tricky for anyone, but when you have an insecure attachment style, it can feel like a rollercoaster. Whether you're anxiously chasing connection, avoiding commitment, or stuck in the push-pull of a fearful avoidant cycle, dating often brings out old patterns that just aren't working.In this episode, we're diving into:Anxious daters – Why they ignore red flags, say yes when they mean no, and prioritize being in a relationship over the actual person.Avoidant daters – Why they tend to avoid dating, take forever to commit, and struggle with knowing what they really want.Fearful avoidants – How they crave connection but also fear it, leading to trust issues and a lot of internal conflict.The anxious-avoidant cycle – Why these patterns keep repeating and how to break free.If dating has ever felt frustrating, confusing, or downright exhausting, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to ditch the insecurity and date with more confidence!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Attachment parenting might sound hard, but honestly, it's a mix of deep connection, big emotions, and hoping coffee can get us throught the day. This week, we're diving into the four pillars: setting boundaries (and sometimes being flexible about them), creating space for vulnerability and big feelings (like crying over the wrong color cup—again), modeling how to meet needs (even if it's just five minutes alone in the bathroom), and embracing patience, because if attachment parenting had a slogan, it'd be, “Breathe through the tantrum, yours and theirs.” Join us for laughs, insights, and practical tips on how these pillars can strengthen your parenting game—chaos and all!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Emotions are the original gateway drug—especially guilt and shame. In this episode, we unpack why my 20-year smoking habit wasn't about the bad health effects but instead, it was about the delicious, twisted guilt behind it. Inspired by Carolyn Lovewell's Existential Kink, we ask the big question: Can you actually get off on the reality that you're bringing into your life? Spoiler: gratitude for your inner gremlin might just be the weirdest (and most effective) self-help hack ever. Tune in for laughs, existential dread, and maybe a kink you didn't know you had.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewformLit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.

Join us as we dive deep with Suzanne L'Heureux, Jungian life coach and founder of Diving Deep Coaching, who helps women in midlife uncover their true selves.We explore:What is the Jungian Shadow, and why should you care?How shadow work reveals self-sabotaging patterns in relationships.Sarah and Suzanne's personal journey with shadow work and the power of self-discovery.It's time to shine a light on your shadow and step into empowerment!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Diving Deep Coaching on Instagram: @divingdeepcoachingVisit the Diving Deep Coaching Website: www.divingdeepcoaching.comFollow Sarah Cohand on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit Sarah Cohan's Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Breaking up is rough—yes, even if you're the one who pulled the plug. Now you're left to rebuild, face the cringe-worthy emotions, and maybe (just maybe) figure out what you brought to the chaos. From anxious-avoidant drama to dismissive ghosting vibes, we're diving into what the different attachment styles are bringing to the table. Let's do the work so you can start attracting healthy, secure relationships—and leave those late-night "U up?" texts in the past.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Fights, disruptions, and awkward moments happen in every relationship—but repair is the magic that brings us back together. In this episode, we're diving into how different attachment styles approach repair (or avoid it!). Whether you're an AP people-pleaser quick to fix, a DA avoiding the issue entirely, or an FA stuck between both worlds, we've got you covered. Plus, we'll explore creative ways to repair: from heartfelt apologies to playful jokes, and even the power of a good hug. Tune in to learn how to rebuild connection, no matter your style!Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Sigrid Blom on Instagram: @sigfoot Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we break down the difference between intuition and markers of insecure attachment, like emotional flooding, repeated patterns, self-sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. Learn how to spot the quiet wisdom of intuition—it's soft, surprising, and unattached to outcomes—and why it feels so different from the turbulence of insecurity. Plus, tips to hone your intuition so you can confidently navigate life and relationships. Get ready to trust yourself like never before!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like you're talking to a wall when your partner shuts down? This episode dives into the many ways we emotionally check out—from silent treatments to disappearing into work—and why your partner might be retreating. We'll help you flip the script: What are you making their shutdown mean about you? Learn how to offer support, space, or even a breather (without taking it personally). Plus, tips for keeping your own cool while they take the space they need. Don't shut down—tune in!Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever find yourself spiraling after a fight or overthinking someone's mixed signals? This episode dives into the one question I ask my clients the most: What does that mean about you? Whether it's navigating criticism in relationships (hello, anxious preoccupied!), decoding why someone doesn't want to date you, or understanding the beliefs behind someone else's actions, we'll unpack the stories you tell yourself—and how to rewrite them. Let's figure this out together!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. On today's episode, Sigrid Blom shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant attachment style after a divorce. She used to struggle to set boundaries and have authentic friendships where she was fully showing up as herself. With a slew of diagnoses including autism and ADHD Sigrid always felt like she was the one that needed to fix herself. Now Sigrid is about to embark on her dream of nomad living and has created an incredible group of friends that understand and appreciate her for exactly who she is.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Sigrid Blom on Instagram: @sigfoot Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like there's a sneaky pattern sabotaging your love life? It might just be your core wounds making a dramatic entrance! Join us as we explore how these childhood-rooted emotional wounds shape our relationships and tie into our attachment styles.We'll dive into the anxious attachment style, where you might find yourself constantly seeking reassurance and wondering, "Am I enough?" Then there's the avoidant attachment, where pulling away when things get too close for comfort can leave you feeling isolated. If you identify with the fearful-avoidant attachment, you might be stuck in a push-pull pattern, craving closeness while also fearing it. And let's not forget the secure attachment style—while generally more stable, even secure folks aren't immune to the occasional situational fear.The good news? Understanding these core wounds is the first step to healing and building fulfilling connections. Tune in as we unravel the drama and start making space for love that lasts!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

In this episode, we're taking a playful dive into Love is Blind Season 7 to spot the rarest of all species: securely attached contestants! Join us as we break down what secure attachment looks like (hint: it's steady, calm, and confident) and how it holds up under the wild pressures of pods, fast proposals, and unapproving parents. Grab your popcorn and let's dig into the attachment behind the show's healthiest moments!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like you're dating the same person over and over? It's not just bad luck—it's your brain's subconscious comfort zone pulling the strings! In this episode, we'll explore why your brain loves familiar relationship drama (even when it's not good for you) and how to break out of those old patterns. Tune in for practical tips, a little self-reflection, and a fresh start on building healthier, happier relationships!Credit: The term subconscious comfort zone come from the personal development school.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Sarah Cohan on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit Sarah Cohan's Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Struggling to get your point across or feeling like every conversation is a minefield? Your attachment style might be the culprit! In this episode, we break down why communication is so tricky for the three insecure attachment types. We'll dive into why the Anxious Preoccupied can be overly critical, how the Fearful Avoidant tends to be super sensitive, and why the Dismissive Avoidant just shuts down. Plus, we'll share practical tips to help you navigate tough conversations without the drama! Tune in for insights, laughs, and some "aha" moments about why we communicate the way we do.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Download the free Healthy Relationships Scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/free-toolsIf you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we sit down with someone who has transformed their relationship style from dismissive avoidant to secure while also navigating the challenges of ADHD. We explore the journey of what it takes to shift from emotional distance and self-reliance to building trust, vulnerability, and deeper connections. Our guest shares insights into the challenges of opening up, how past wounds shaped their avoidant tendencies, and the practices that helped them embrace emotional intimacy. Get ready for an inspiring (and fun!) chat full of practical tips to help you create more secure relationships in your own life.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you fell like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever feel like you're riding an emotional roller coaster when someone doesn't text back? You might just be rocking the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style! In this episode, we're breaking down why the fear of abandonment hits so hard for some of us. Spoiler: it's all about craving that closeness but freaking out when it might slip away. We'll chat about how childhood experiences shape this anxiety and—don't worry—we're serving up some tips on how to hit pause on the panic. Plus, we've got free tools to help you ask for what you need without the fear! Join us for a fun, relatable deep dive into the world of love, anxiety, and healthier connections!Download the free Healthy Relationships Scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/free-toolsDiscover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we're diving into the world of dismissive avoidants—the attachment style pros at needing space. Whether it's because they pride themselves on independence, avoid emotions at all costs, or keep their hearts guarded, dismissive avoidants thrive on alone time. Tune in to learn why their need for space isn't personal—it's just their way of staying cool, calm, and in control.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we dive deep into what makes your fearful avoidant so chaotic. It can be really confusing to be with a fearful avoidant, one minute they're charming and adorable the next minute they're probing you with questions and asking for space. It all comes down to a lack of trust, a fear of setting boundaries (and the guilt that follows), and the constant tug-of-war between a fear of abandonment/betrayal and a high need for freedom. If you're struggling to connect with a Fearful Avoidant partner, I'll share my number one tip for improving communication and fostering a healthier relationship dynamic. Tune in to better understand the chaos and how to navigate it.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.Do you struggle with discerning between avoidance or intuition? Do you experience the ick in dating? If so this episode is for you. Jordan shares how she healed her fearful avoidant attachment style in order to stop serial dating, slow down, and actually find someone she wanted to be with. Jordan started this work with a crippling belief that she was behind in her dating life, that she needed a partner to be validated, and that she was defective. Hear how she started to let all of this go and transform the way she was showing up in relationships. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team.Do you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it's a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-avoidant is cut off from their emotions. If you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant this will help you understand why they need so much space and why feelings are so hard for them. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]'s website:Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Do you tend to escape through habits like eating, drinking, video games, watching too much tv, overdoing it at the gym, or get lost in daydreams or fantasies all day? In this episode, I share how escapism and dissociation show up in attachment styles. Then I share the first simple step to changing these habits. It's a juicy one so buckle up!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Are you curious about what motivates you in your relationships? On today's episode of Lit AF Relationships, I talk with Angie Meyer, an enneagram coach. She shares her journey with accepting her own attachment style (she's earned secure now but grew up with a dismissive avoidant attachment style) and how the different attachment styles show up in the enneagram. She also shares which enneagram types often end up in relationships with others. And if you're single, we've got you covered. She also talks about how to use the enneagram in dating.Listen to Angie's podcast: https://www.angiealchemist.com/podcasts/enneagram-ego-death/ Take Angie's enneagram quiz: https://www.angiealchemist.com/EnneagramFreeQuiz Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043If you're interested in one-on-one coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewformLit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect whether you are single or in a relationship.

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Are you constantly thinking about breaking up with your partner? Do you dream of the day you can be on your own and get the freedom you've been so desperately wanting? In this episode I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style fantasizes about breaking up after a fight or triggering moment with their partner. Our brain is dreaming about that 1 bedroom 1 bath in the neighborhood we've been dying to move into. The fantasy can be quite intoxicating but really what it's doing is distracting you from the hurt that you're experiencing in the moment. Tune into learn about this extremely common pattern.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one or couples coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Do you feel like your partner is constantly pulling away and trying to create more space? Or is it the opposite? Is your partner making you feel trapped by their constant text messages and physical touch? In this episode of Lit AF relationships I share more about the common relationship dynamics between the anxious preoccupied and the dismissive avoidant. It might feel like your relationship is doomed but actually it might just be your attachment styles.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Do you struggle with trusting your current or past partners? Are you asking your partner a slew of questions to help get to the truth? Are you constantly on alert because you're convinced your partner (or past partners) will betray you? Or maybe its your partner that has a hard time trusting you? In this episode I share why trust is so hard for the fearful avoidant attachment style. Tune in to understand more about this important attachment style.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. On today's episode I talk about romancing the inner critic. We all have an inner critic and some of us give that voice center stage. In this episode I break down commons things the inner critic says for the different attachment types. I then share the surprising truth about how to quiet your inner critic. No the answer is not to shut it out or tell it to stop talking, that just makes the inner critic way louder. Instead I offer one question to start romancing your inner critic. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewformFollow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]'s website:Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]'s website:Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. In this episode I break down what your anger is trying to tell you. Experiencing and expressing anger can be a really tough emotion. We often judge ourselves or others for being angry. Some of us, like those with the fearful avoidant attachment style, are quick to be angry. In this episode I cover how the different attachment styles experience emotion and then I dive deep into understanding what your anger is saying. Anger comes up when a boundary has been crossed. But what is underneath the anger is usually more tender and more sensitive. Yes, your anger is trying to help. Listen to this episode to understand why.I'd love to help you deeply understand your emotions so you can learn how to process them and communicate them to others. If you're interested in 1:1 coaching apply to book a free 60-minute Healthy Relationship call with me. You can get started here: https://forms.gle/o36VpgEbQKCZ8FfX8Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]'s website:Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-call

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]'s website:Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-callResources Discussed:Do the work podcast with Sabrina Zohar

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and support. Follow [Guest] on Instagram: Visit [Guest]'s website: Follow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discovery call link: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-callResources Discussed:Definition of perfectionism according to Brenee Brown -Perfectionism for dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. Examples: I have been holding on to a bunch of stickers to put them on the perfect place Not wanting to get a nice new journal messed up Thinking there is only one right wayUsually there's a need that's not getting met.I'd love to help you understand and work through perfectionism so you can create healthy loving relationships where you feel like you're on the same team.