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Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Dismissive avoidants can seem emotionally shut down—but there is a way in. If you've ever felt stuck in a relationship where the other person won't open up, especially if they're dismissive avoidant, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast is for you. Thais shares the top 3 proven ways to gently support a dismissive avoidant in letting down their emotional walls—without pushing, overgiving, or losing yourself in the process. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How asking specific—not general—questions creates space for meaningful sharing ✔️ Why emotional safety and non-judgment are essential to helping a DA open up ✔️ The power of validation, empathy, and simply remembering small details ✔️ How to express your needs without sounding critical or shaming ✔️ The role of acceptance and consistency in building long-term trust ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often test the waters before becoming emotionally vulnerable If you've ever wondered, “What can I do to connect with a dismissive avoidant partner—or know if it's even worth it?”, this episode will offer clear, actionable tools to deepen emotional intimacy and assess relationship alignment. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Dismissive avoidants can be hard to read—but the signs are there. Dismissive avoidants often hide their feelings, leading many to assume they aren't interested at all. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down 7 subtle yet clear signs a dismissive avoidant actually DOES like you, so you can finally stop second-guessing their behavior and understand the true indicators of interest. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants may seem distant even when they're into you ✔️ How consistency is one of the first hidden signs of interest ✔️ Why clearly communicated needs—especially stated in the positive—get results ✔️ How and when dismissive avoidants actually do open up emotionally ✔️ Why they need more space—and how asking for it can be a sign of care ✔️ The real meaning behind “I enjoy spending time with you” ✔️ When they start including you in their inner circle and introducing you to friends If you've ever been left wondering, “Do they like me or not?”, this episode will help you confidently read between the lines and understand how avoidants express genuine interest—even if it's not always in the most obvious way. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast What does a relationship look like with a dismissive avoidant partner? Dismissive avoidant attachment styles often struggle with emotional closeness, vulnerability, and expressing needs, which can create unique relationship challenges. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or you identify with this attachment style yourself, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast explores why dismissive avoidants behave the way they do—and how to navigate these dynamics in a healthy way. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The core childhood experiences that shape dismissive avoidant attachment ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants struggle with emotional connection and communication ✔️ How to support a dismissive avoidant partner without triggering them ✔️ The most effective ways to build trust and closeness over time ✔️ How dismissive avoidants self-soothe—and why they withdraw during conflict ✔️ Key strategies for overcoming avoidance and building a healthier attachment style If you've ever felt frustrated in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or struggled with opening up, trusting others, and maintaining deep emotional connections, this episode is for you. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why is vulnerability so difficult—but so necessary—in relationships? Many people, especially those with avoidant attachment styles, struggle to open up and express their emotions. Yet, vulnerability is what transforms infatuation into love, strengthens bonds, and deepens emotional connection. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore why vulnerability is challenging, how to communicate it effectively, and why it's the key to building lasting, fulfilling relationships. If you've ever struggled with expressing your emotions, setting boundaries, or feeling safe enough to be your true self in relationships, this episode will give you the tools to overcome fear, deepen intimacy, and create authentic connections. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:48 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Mike's Story) 05:24 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Thais' Story) 10:26 - 7-Day Free Trial 11:16 - Misconceptions About Vulnerability 17:31 - How to Approach a Dismissive Avoidant with Vulnerability 26:54 - Vulnerability Allows You to Be Loved & Fall in Love 33:10 - Rocket Money 35:02 - When You and a Loved One Have Opposing Views 41:01 - If You're Afraid to Share Vulnerably With Others 52:26 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Can you save a relationship with a dismissive avoidant partner? Dismissive avoidant women often struggle with emotional expression, vulnerability, and receiving love, which can create unique challenges in relationships. If you're wondering how to rebuild trust, repair emotional distance, and reconnect, this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast will give you the key strategies to make it work—while ensuring your own needs are met. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why female dismissive avoidants leave relationships and build resentment ✔️ How to rebuild emotional trust and create safety in communication ✔️ The importance of boundaries and expressing your needs clearly ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants struggle to ask for support, connection, and intimacy ✔️ How to approach reconciliation with patience and emotional balance ✔️ The critical mistake most people make when trying to win back a dismissive avoidant If you've ever asked yourself, "Can this relationship be saved?", this episode will help you understand dismissive avoidant needs and take the right steps—without sacrificing your own self-worth. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast How do you reconnect with a dismissive avoidant partner? If you've grown apart in your relationship or want to rekindle the spark after a breakup, it's important to understand how dismissive avoidants connect and what makes them feel safe in relationships. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down six key strategies to help you rebuild closeness and strengthen emotional intimacy with a dismissive avoidant partner. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to meet a dismissive avoidant where they are without overstepping boundaries ✔️ The power of acknowledgment and appreciation in rebuilding trust ✔️ Why lightness, humor, and playfulness foster emotional safety ✔️ How to create connection without pressure or emotional overwhelm ✔️ The most meaningful ways to show support and selflessness in a relationship ✔️ Signs that a dismissive avoidant is actually healing and opening up If you've ever wondered, “How do I get my dismissive avoidant partner to engage more?”, this episode will give you practical steps to create a deeper connection—while maintaining your own needs and boundaries. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:01 - 1 — Meeting Them Where They Are 14:27 - 14-Day Free Trial 15:20 - 2 — Acknowledgment and Appreciation 20:47 - 3 — Incorporate Lightness and Humor 28:04 - 4 — Absence of Pressure 35:43 - Rocket Money 37:36 - 5 — Supportiveness 41:03 - 6 — Selflessness 47:09 - Signs of Healing 50:40 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are they a dismissive avoidant or a narcissist? Many people struggle to differentiate between dismissive avoidant attachment and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) because both can involve emotional distance, self-protection, and difficulty with vulnerability. However, these are fundamentally different psychological profiles. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we break down the key differences between a dismissive avoidant attachment style and narcissistic personality disorder, explaining how to recognize each and how to navigate relationships with them effectively. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ The core traits of dismissive avoidant attachment vs. narcissistic personality disorder ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants seem emotionally detached but aren't narcissists ✔️ How narcissists manipulate vs. how dismissive avoidants withdraw ✔️ The role of childhood experiences in shaping each personality type ✔️ How to protect your emotional well-being in relationships with either If you've ever asked yourself, “Is my partner emotionally distant or actually narcissistic?”, this episode will help you distinguish between the two and provide tools for healthier connections. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are you dating someone secure—or dismissive avoidant? In the early stages of dating, dismissive avoidants can appear secure, making it tricky to recognize attachment patterns until real feelings are involved. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down key differences between secure and dismissive avoidant partners, including early red and green flags to look for in relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How dismissive avoidants can mimic secure traits early in dating ✔️ The biggest communication differences between secure and DA partners ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants avoid deep emotional conversations ✔️ How to tell if someone is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship ✔️ Signs that someone may struggle with emotional vulnerability and connection If you've ever wondered, “Are they actually secure, or will they pull away later?”, this episode will help you spot the differences and date with clarity. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:22 - 1 — DA's Speak More Logically 09:45 - 2 — Secure People Are Comfortable Saying What They're Looking For 16:22 - 3 — Secure People Are Comfortable Talking About the Relationship 25:26 - 4 — Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion 26:25 - 14-Day Free Trial 26:53 - Secure People Will Want to Resolve Conflict in a Timely Fashion (Cont'd) 31:52 - 5 — Secure's Can Laugh at Themselves 34:39 - Rocket Money 35:58 - 6 — DA's May Have High Self-Consideration 38:44 - 7 — DA's and Secure's Handle Adversities Differently 41:56 - 8 — A Secure Person Will Introduce You to Family and Friends 49:33 - 9 — Secure People Will Express Unmet Needs 52:15 - Conclusion Helpful Resources:
Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are you dating someone who seems emotionally distant, withdraws when things get serious, or struggles with intimacy? Understanding dismissive avoidant attachment can completely shift how you navigate these challenges in your relationship. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into what it's really like to date a dismissive avoidant—why they behave the way they do, the root causes of their fear of intimacy, and how to create a healthier, more secure connection. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often struggle with commitment and emotional intimacy ✔️ How childhood experiences shape their avoidance patterns ✔️ Common triggers that cause them to shut down in relationships ✔️ How to communicate effectively and build trust ✔️ What dismissive avoidants actually need in a relationship If you've ever asked yourself, “Why does my partner push me away?” or “Can a dismissive avoidant ever change?”, this episode will give you the insights and tools to better understand and navigate your relationship. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Claim your 14-day Free Trial and transform your relationships this Valentine's Day! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/valentines-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=14-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Are you dating or in a relationship with someone who seems emotionally distant, avoids commitment, or struggles to open up? In this episode, The Thais Gibson Podcast breaks down the 40 key traits of the dismissive avoidant attachment style, shedding light on why some individuals fear deep emotional connection and how to navigate these relationship dynamics. Dismissive avoidant individuals often struggle with vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and long-term commitment—sometimes without even realizing it. This episode will help you identify the signs, understand why they act this way, and explore strategies to foster healthier relationships. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to recognize dismissive avoidant behaviors in dating and relationships ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often seem distant, cold, or emotionally unavailable ✔️ The role of childhood emotional neglect in shaping attachment styles ✔️ How dismissive avoidants react to conflict, vulnerability, and deep emotional connection ✔️ How to build a healthier, more secure relationship dynamic If you've ever asked yourself, "Why does my partner pull away?" or "Why do I struggle with emotional intimacy?", this episode is for you. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:
Welcome to episode 106 of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast with Venus O'Hara. In this First Quarter Moon episode, we discuss attachment styles, relationship dynamics and masculinity. We speak with Danny Salinas, a relationship coach for men. I also review the mockumentary ‘Cunk on Life' on Netflix. The episode ends with a guided meditation with affirmations for healthy attachment styles.
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-02-03-25&el=podcast Ever had an avoidant partner suddenly pull away, even when things seemed perfect? Discover the hidden fears and subconscious patterns that cause avoidants to leave good relationships—and how to navigate these challenges. In today's episode, Thais Gibson uncovers the real reasons why avoidants leave even the best relationships. From their deep-seated fear of intimacy to struggles with commitment and vulnerability, learn what truly drives their pullbacks. Listen now to gain key insights into how to communicate, break through their walls, and create a stronger, lasting connection. Timestamps 00:00:00 - Introduction: Why Avoidants Leave Good Relationships 00:00:22 - Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant's Inner Conflict 00:01:05 - How Childhood Shapes Avoidant Attachment 00:02:12 - The Avoidant's Subconscious Fear of Vulnerability 00:03:32 - The Role of Flaw-Finding in Avoidant Relationships 00:04:35 - Reason #1: Fear of Intimacy and Emotional Closeness 00:05:08 - Reason #2: Fear of Commitment and Feeling Trapped 00:06:02 - Reason #3: Struggles with Healthy Vulnerability 00:07:01 - Reason #4: Unrealistic Expectations and Avoiding Conflict 00:08:01 - How to Communicate and Support an Avoidant Partner 00:08:57 - Turning Expectations into Needs for Relationship Stability 00:09:55 - Final Thoughts and Relationship Repair Strategies Follow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Thank You to Our Sponsors! Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and use code 'THAIS' at checkout. Cancel unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster at RocketMoney.com/THAIS Get a $75 sponsored job credit to boost your job's visibility at Indeed.com/THAIS Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code THAIS and you'll receive UP TO $300 off air purifiers Visit http://makeheadway.com/thais for fun & easy growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-02-02-25&el=podcast Understanding dismissive avoidant attachment can transform your approach to relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson explores what a healthy relationship looks like for a dismissive avoidant, highlighting their core needs—such as autonomy, consistency, and feeling unconditionally accepted. She also breaks down common misunderstandings, how to communicate effectively with a dismissive avoidant partner, and strategies for fostering deeper connection while respecting their boundaries. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant or want to understand yourself better, this episode offers powerful insights for navigating love and intimacy. Follow Us for Daily Relationship Insights and Breakthroughs on Our Social Channels! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Thank You to Our Sponsors! Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and use code 'THAIS' at checkout. Cancel unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster at RocketMoney.com/THAIS Get a $75 sponsored job credit to boost your job's visibility at Indeed.com/THAIS Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code THAIS and you'll receive UP TO $300 off air purifiers Visit http://makeheadway.com/thais for fun & easy growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-29-25&el=podcast In this insightful episode, we delve into the five common protest behaviors displayed by dismissive avoidant attachment styles, offering listeners practical strategies for healthier communication and deeper understanding. Join us as we break down stonewalling, emotional withdrawal, flaw-finding, numbing out, and relationship-threatening behaviors, exploring their root causes and effective ways to address them. Whether you're a dismissive avoidant, in a relationship with one, or simply curious about attachment theory, this episode provides essential tools to navigate and improve these dynamics. Don't miss our tips for co-regulation and fostering meaningful connections. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:14 - 1 — Stonewalling 01:55 - Why Do DA's Stonewall? 05:56 - Core Themes in DA's and Stonewalling 11:07 - How to Communicate Healthily 16:26 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 15:37 - 2 — Threatening to End the Relationship 16:53 - Changing Your Persona vs Adjusting a Behavior 18:12 - Do They Actually Want to Leave the Relationship? 20:40 - If You're on the Receiving End 28:17 - Rocket Money 30:09 - 3 — Withdrawing When Emotionally Overwhelmed 36:05 - DAs and Co-Regulation 40:54 - 4 — Blaming, Deflecting, and Flaw-Finding 43:31 - Flaw-Finding Stories 53:35 - 5 — Numbing Out and Soothing Through External Comforts 59:31 - Conclusion Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever wondered why your past relationships seem to follow similar patterns? In this episode, we explore the power of attachment theory and how understanding your unique attachment style can be a game-changer in your breakup recovery journey. We'll delve into the different attachment styles (Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant), and how they impact your dating life and relationship dynamics. Discover how to identify your attachment style and gain valuable insights into your past relationship patterns. This episode will equip you with the knowledge and tools to heal, grow, and build more fulfilling connections in the future. Tune in and unlock the secrets to your own love story! Take the free quiz to discover your Relationship Attachment Style >>Click Here
Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_id=VIDEOID&utm_content=mg-01-15-25&el=podcast In this episode, we dive into the unique quirks and challenges of dismissive avoidant attachment styles in relationships, from their unexpected affection for pets over partners to struggles with planning and eye contact. Join our hosts, Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio, as they share personal experiences and expert insights into how these behaviors stem from childhood patterns and how they affect relationships with friends, family, and romantic partners. We'll explore actionable strategies for navigating these dynamics, including how to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and foster secure attachment. Whether you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant partner or simply curious about attachment theory, this episode offers valuable tips and a deeper understanding of these behaviors. Tune in for relatable anecdotes, enlightening discussions, and practical advice on building healthier, more connected relationships. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 03:58 - They're More Affectionate with Animals 09:11 - They Might Seem Selfish 14:30 - They Can Be Frugal 24:53 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 25:44 - They Don't Like Making Social Plans Ahead of Time 39:18 - They Don't Make a Lot of Eye Contact 42:07 - They Can Seem Aloof or Apathetic 47:03 - They Don't Ask You to Meet Their Needs 54:05 - They May Not Be Present in Conversations 1:36:09 - Conclusion Don't miss this insightful and engaging conversation! Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 33: The Dismissive AvoidantIn this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley dives deep into the attachment style that many find both fascinating and frustrating—the dismissive avoidant (DA). While the DA is often seen as the most perplexing of the insecure attachment styles, Dr. Hensley explains that their behaviors are actually the most predictable.The episode begins with an exploration of two common childhood experiences that shape the dismissive avoidant attachment style. Many DAs report having a “good” childhood—parents who stayed married and supported instrumental needs like attending events. However, upon closer examination, it becomes clear there was little to no emotional support. From a young age, DAs learned that suppressing emotions kept them safe, as big emotions were unwelcome or even punished.Dr. Hensley then explains the infamous 4-6 month “bait and switch” often seen in DA relationships. In the early stages, they appear open and even vulnerable, but as the relationship deepens, they start to deactivate. These deactivation behaviors—feeling smothered, doubting the relationship, or fearing a loss of independence—are often unconscious yet highly predictable.The discussion moves to the DA's core wound: defectiveness. Growing up, their emotions were invalidated, leading them to believe they were inherently flawed. In adult relationships, when their partner expresses intense emotions, the DA subconsciously feels responsible, thinking, “I must be bad if I made you feel this way.” Unfortunately, they lack the capacity to hold space for those feelings, perpetuating the cycle of disconnection.Dr. Hensley also tackles the topic of sex and intimacy in DA relationships. For some, sex feels like another expectation they're unable to fulfill emotionally or physically. Others use sex as a way to meet their limited need for emotional and physical connection.A key highlight of the episode is Dr. Hensley's explanation of the DA's trauma responses, particularly their tendency to live in a state of functional freeze. They're either “on,” constantly busy with tasks to avoid emotions, or “off,” dissociating from the important things in their lives.Midway through, Dr. Hensley addresses a small subset of DAs who experience severe trauma within the first five years of life. In these cases, the brain shuts down to protect itself, resulting in even deeper emotional challenges, through disconnection, later in life.The episode concludes with a path to healing for both DAs and their partners. Dr. Hensley provides actionable strategies for recognizing DA patterns in the dating phase and practical interventions for those in long-term relationships or marriages. Through her programs, she has witnessed countless transformations, with DAs finding genuine connection and their formerly anxious partners moving toward secure attachment.Additional topics include:• Why DAs are the attachment style most likely to cheat.• The motivations behind a DA's decision to heal.• How the tools and strategies in Dr. Hensley's coaching program enable true healing for DAs and their partners.This episode offers hope, clarity, and a practical roadmap for navigating relationships with dismissive avoidants and fostering secure attachment.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkoutTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @the_dating_decoderFacebook: The Dating DecoderYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.
We continue our look into how Attachment styles develop with a close look at Avoidant Attachment. Join us live online every Thursday for a Dharma talk and extended sit. More info at https://www.mettagroup.org/services Find out why attachment repair is the easiest mind blow on the planet. Sign up for our free video resource at https://www.mettagroup.org/start-here Join our signature intensive Meditation x Attachment. New cohort begins Jan 4. Sign up at https://www.mettagroup.org/meditation-x-attachment-level-one
Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.SHOW NOTES:Personal Development School Attachment QuizPersonal Development School YouTubeDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=youtube It's time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-10-24&el=podcast Have you ever wondered why dismissive avoidants often struggle with long-term commitment? Learn about their relationship history, common challenges, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful connections. In today's episode, Thais Gibson delves into the relationship history of the dismissive avoidant attachment style, highlighting patterns shaped by childhood experiences and emotional neglect. Learn why dismissive avoidants struggle with vulnerability and long-term commitment and discover actionable steps to bridge these gaps for healthier connections. Listen now to uncover insights into attachment theory, emotional healing, and building fulfilling relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Exploring Relationship Patterns 00:01:10 – How Childhood Shapes Relationship Expectations 00:02:03 – Emotional Neglect and Repression of Feelings 00:03:37 – Understanding Emotions as Feedback 00:05:10 – Impact of Independence vs. Interdependence 00:07:17 – Misconceptions About Compromise in Relationships 00:09:03 – Patterns of Short-Term Relationships 00:10:27 – The Six Stages of Relationship Development 00:12:15 – The 6-Month and 2-Year Breakup Patterns 00:14:30 – Importance of Vulnerability and Communication 00:16:30 – Vetting Partners and Personal Growth Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-03-24&el=podcast Are you confused about why your partner keeps avoiding commitment? Learn the hidden fears driving dismissive avoidants and what you can do to create clarity and deeper connection in your relationships. In today's episode, Thais Gibson delves into the psychology behind why dismissive avoidants prefer casual relationships over-committed ones. Learn how fears of vulnerability, emotional neglect, and subconscious conditioning contribute to their behavior, and discover actionable steps to navigate these dynamics effectively. Listen now to uncover how communication and self-awareness can transform your approach to relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships 00:00:33 – The Frustration of Feeling Stuck in Limbo 00:01:01 – The Three Core Reasons Avoidants Avoid Commitment 00:01:22 – Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant's Fear of Vulnerability 00:02:05 – Emotional Neglect and its Long-Term Impact on Attachment 00:03:37 – How the Subconscious Mind Drives Avoidant Behaviors 00:05:12 – Misconceptions About People-Pleasing in Relationships 00:06:16 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Fear Feeling Trapped 00:08:44 – The Role of Self-Sabotage in Avoidant Dynamics 00:10:01 – Avoidants' Search for Perfection to Avoid Conflict 00:13:15 – How to Break the Cycle: Communication and Inner Work 00:15:25 – Final Thoughts: Finding Closure and Certainty Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting.Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In episode 25: “It's a Capacity Issue,” Dr. Hensley takes listeners on an in-depth journey into the concept of building capacity, emphasizing that true change and healing require more than just awareness and understanding. She explains that building capacity is about bridging the gap between intellectual understanding and actionable change, which requires specific mediators between the pathways of knowledge and behavior.Dr. Hensley begins by discussing the psychoeducation she provides in her group coaching programs to help participants develop this capacity. She underscores that awareness alone doesn't create transformation; instead, certain mental and emotional tools are essential to support lasting change. One of the first components she covers is self-regulation, which she describes as the ability to bring the nervous system to a place of safety. This can be challenging, she notes, particularly for those carrying attachment wounds from childhood, which shape their responses in adulthood.Using the dismissive avoidant (DA) attachment style as a key example, Dr. Hensley delves into how attachment wounds are formed and how those with DA tendencies can build capacity for change. She discusses how early experiences of suppression and dismissal impact the DA's brain, leading them to default to a freeze response during conflict. This response reflects the limits of their nervous system's capacity at that moment, which, though protective, often cuts off connection to their partner.At the midpoint of the episode, Dr. Hensley introduces the tools she provides in her hybrid group coaching program, highlighting metacognition as a crucial skill. She teaches clients to recognize and dismantle their trigger cycles, tracing the journey from trigger to trauma response. By giving the nervous system new, healthier experiences, clients can begin to build new neural pathways that reinforce these changes, helping them gradually shift their patterns.Dr. Hensley explains the science of neuroplasticity, emphasizing that everyone has the power to rewire their brains and reshape their behavior. However, she reminds listeners that the journey from awareness to actual change requires specific guidance and support.In the episode's conclusion, Dr. Hensley explores the concept of radical self-acceptance. She encourages listeners to meet themselves where they are to start creating a sense of safety within their nervous system, which is foundational to building capacity. She also shares more about her coaching services, explaining how each program can support individuals or couples in their journey of growth, healing, and connection.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visit the links below and follow her on social media.Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkoutTik-Tok: the_dating_decoderInstagram: @the_dating_decoderFacebook: The Dating DecoderYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyWhat is covered:. What it means to build capacity.·The difference in having awareness and knowledge versus true integration of changed behavior. ·The psychoeducation taught in Dr. Hensley's group services.·Self regulation and what it means..The example of the Dismissive Avoidant and how they can start to build capacity. .Metacognition and what it means. Consider/Ask Yourself:· Is your nervous system ready to start building capacity? . Have you had time to process your wounds, build awarness and knowlege around them so that you can start to change the behavior associated with them?. Are you practicing self regulation practices when triggered?. How can I start recognizing my triggers and the trauma responses associated with them?. How can I start attuning to my basic human needs and practicing radical self acceptance so that my nervous system can feel safe and I can start building better capcity for change?
Send us a textIt can be heartbreaking when we are rejected when making an attempt to be physically close to a partner. In this episode, I answer one of your questions on if sexual desires differ as per attachment style, and what to do when a partner rejects your initiations for physical intimacy. Don't forget to follow me across social media for more on attachment styles. Support the show
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcast Have you ever found yourself or someone close to you pulling away in a relationship? Is it disinterest, or could it be rooted in attachment style? In this episode, we dive deep into two common insecure attachment styles: Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant. We explore their key differences, surprising similarities, and how these patterns can influence love, friendships, and family dynamics. Learn how these attachment styles form, the emotional struggles they face, and how to recognize these behaviors in yourself or loved ones. Plus, we'll share insights into how you can heal from these attachment styles to cultivate healthier, more secure relationships. Whether you're on a journey of self-discovery or seeking to better understand others, this episode offers actionable tips to support relationship growth and emotional healing. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Struggling to get your point across or feeling like every conversation is a minefield? Your attachment style might be the culprit! In this episode, we break down why communication is so tricky for the three insecure attachment types. We'll dive into why the Anxious Preoccupied can be overly critical, how the Fearful Avoidant tends to be super sensitive, and why the Dismissive Avoidant just shuts down. Plus, we'll share practical tips to help you navigate tough conversations without the drama! Tune in for insights, laughs, and some "aha" moments about why we communicate the way we do.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Download the free Healthy Relationships Scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/free-toolsIf you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-14-24&el=podcast It's time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-14-24&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and Mike dive deep into the common expectations that dismissive avoidants bring into their relationships and how these can sabotage connections. They explore three major unhealthy expectations that dismissive avoidants often hold: wanting unconditional acceptance of flaws, avoiding criticism, and desiring excessive alone time without negotiation. Through personal stories and insights, Thais and Mike share strategies on how to reframe these expectations and foster healthier compromises for secure, balanced relationships. This episode is packed with actionable advice for both dismissive avoidants and their partners on building deeper, more meaningful connections. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:49 - Welcome back to the podcast 00:01:06 - Unhealthy expectations for dismissive avoidants 00:02:35 - Mike and Thais share their journey from attachment styles 00:03:39 - Dismissive Avoidant's unconscious expectations 00:06:29 - Comfort-seeking vs. growth 00:10:19 - Personalizing criticism and acceptance 00:14:18 - 7-Day Free Trial 00:17:13 - Learning to communicate and compromise in relationships 00:27:12 - Criticism vs. Feedback 00:31:46 - HelloFresh Promo 00:35:00 - Positive friction in relationships and workplaces 00:42:22 - Honoring alone time as a dismissive avoidant 00:50:00 - Healthy compromises in relationships 00:53:53 - Fall IAT Promo 00:53:00 - Outro Get FREE breakfast for life at HelloFresh: https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethais Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Connect with us: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we sit down with someone who has transformed their relationship style from dismissive avoidant to secure while also navigating the challenges of ADHD. We explore the journey of what it takes to shift from emotional distance and self-reliance to building trust, vulnerability, and deeper connections. Our guest shares insights into the challenges of opening up, how past wounds shaped their avoidant tendencies, and the practices that helped them embrace emotional intimacy. Get ready for an inspiring (and fun!) chat full of practical tips to help you create more secure relationships in your own life.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you fell like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we're diving into the world of dismissive avoidants—the attachment style pros at needing space. Whether it's because they pride themselves on independence, avoid emotions at all costs, or keep their hearts guarded, dismissive avoidants thrive on alone time. Tune in to learn why their need for space isn't personal—it's just their way of staying cool, calm, and in control.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
Dr. C has an engaging discussion with Dr. Thais Gibson who discusses the dismissive avoidant attachment style. She explains there is a distinct difference between someone who has a history of reluctance versus a covert narcissist who is being manipulative.A best-selling author, Thais Gibson has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She has nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice and engaging with over 30,000 clients through individual sessions, workshops, and an educational platform. This diverse background has culminated in creating Gibson Integrated Attachment TheoryTM, an innovative framework uniting traditional attachment theory, developmental psychology insights, and potent subconscious reprogramming techniques that are woven throughout the course material within The Personal Development School, taught within our innovative coach training program and in her most recent book, Learning Love. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter's NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the Team Healthy community HERE: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/subscribe/ Check out videos, articles, quizzes, and more at our website: https://survivingnarcissism.tv You can follow Surviving Narcissism on: Twitter: @SNarcissism101 Instagram: @survivingnarcissism101 Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101 Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful: Free to Be: Reclaim & rediscover your uniqueness https://survivingnarcissism.tv/free-to-be-course/ This Is Me: Setting boundaries with the controllers in your life https://survivingnarcissism.tv/this-is-me Dr. Carter's personal website: http://drlescarter.com/ Dr. Carter's other YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/drlescarter Bookstore: https://survivingnarcissism.tv/books-on-narcissism-surviving-narcissism/
Send us a textC4 Leaders – the ONLY nonprofit to utilize the pizza making process to create space for our companions to be seen, heard, and loved. We also write children's books, host this podcast, and use the most amazing handmade, hand-tossed, sourdough pizza to bring out the best in each other. Please check out PIZZADAYS.ORG to support our important work. Season 4 Episode #13 Bev Mitelman (inform, inspire, & transform)You can find Bev via her website securelyloved.comAbout our guest: Bev is a Certified Attachment Practitioner and Founder of Securely Loved. Securely Loved is a company comprised of Relationship and Attachment Trauma Practitioners who work internationally to guide their clients through life's odyssey. As a child, Bev lived in a very unpredictable and chaotic environment where she never knew if she could rely on her parents to meet her emotional needs. This led her to absorb unhealthy relationship ideas based on what she was witnessing: she believed relationships were supposed to be unbalanced, uncertain, and overall chaotic. Prior to her current work, Bev was an Executive Leader, University Lecturer and published author. She has dedicated her entire career (25+ years) working with adults in the realm of personal growth and professional development.Bev, thanks for sharing your many gifts with the world and for being our guest on Life's Essential Ingredients, Welcome to the show!TOTD – “Change is the end result of all true learning.” Leo BuscagliaBuild a habit - to create intention - to live your purpose! In this episode:What was life like growing up?What are your life's essential ingredients?To generalize… what do you think are the top 5 essential ingredients of life? What are we all searching for?...Emotions we experience and how we develop and understand them as we grow up and then the effect on our lives as we move thru our odyssey…Emotional Attunement and actions parents can take to help their child understand and experience emotional regulation…. PERMISSION TO FEEL… Skill that is learnedValidation of being seen, heard, and loved… and what happens when that doesn't happen…Confidence and Self-Worth…Jane Goodall…TRUST that was role modeled by her mother….What is attachment?Attachment TheoryAttachment Trauma?Attachment Styles: Secure, Anxious Preoccupied, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant – offers free quiz…Codependency….Behaviors, Coping Strategy?Fight or Flight mode and living in that space… self-awarenessOnline Courses, Workshops, Free eBook, FREE ConsultHow would a listener know they need the services you offer…where should they start…The importance of self-awareness and self-love…Communicating our needs….Finding fulfillment in life? How do you define fulfillment?Great coaches and mentors…Last book or books you recommend?Legacy
Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process over the years to becoming more secure. We talk about:-How our hypermasculine society reinforces the dismissive avoidant attachment style characteristics and behaviors.-The importance of normalizing male emotionality.-Common dismissive avoidant fears hindering them from commitment.-What makes a “safe partner” and motivates them to change.-Debunking the misconception that dismissive avoidants don't have feelings and don't want relationships.-Why avoidants are subconsciously attracted to anxious attachers (and vice versa).-How avoidant and anxious attachers can actually serve as catalysts for each others individual growth and healing.-How to best determine when to stay or leave your relationship with an avoidant attacher.-Strategies Patch has used to overcome his avoidant attachment style and earn secure attachment.Contact Patch:www.talktopatch.comInstagram: @talktopatchAttachment Coaching with Jessica:One-on-one Coaching (10 weeks)My Secure Self Group Coaching (12 weeks)Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In today's episode of the Balancing Chaos Podcast, we're joined by the brilliant Thais Gibson, an author, counselor, and best-selling expert in the field of attachment theory. Thais is the founder of The Personal Development School and has dedicated her career to helping people understand their attachment styles and the ways these patterns shape their relationships, behaviors, and confidence. Her mission is to empower individuals to heal from past traumas and transform limiting beliefs by understanding the deeper workings of their subconscious mind. Through her work, Thais offers practical tools and insights that enable people to build more secure and fulfilling connections with themselves and others.During Kelley's conversation with Thais, she dives into her groundbreaking Integrated Attachment Theory, which combines elements of spirituality, science, and psychology to promote deep healing. They start by exploring the development of belief systems from early childhood and discuss how these impact our attachment styles in relationships. Thais explains the characteristics of the four different attachment styles (Anxious, Dismissive, Fearful and Secure) and how to recognize and heal perceived abandonment wounds. She shares techniques for reprogramming the subconscious mind and reveals the power of our memories in shaping who we are. The episode covers key topics like overcoming limiting beliefs, addressing people-pleasing behaviors, and the steps to set healthy boundaries. Whether you're new to attachment theory or seeking a deeper understanding for how to have a better relationship both with yourself and others, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable strategies to help you on your journey to self-discovery and relationship healing.To connect with Kelley click HERETo connect with Thais click HERE
This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and how that can affect our relationship with our therapist. She also discusses how we can tell if we are doing something because of our depression or not, and if being on antidepressants long term can change our brain function. She then talks about alternative treatments for PTSD like magic mushrooms, ketamine, and others. Finally, she explains whether or not our body can recognize our stress before we do, and she digs into how post traumatic growth works. Ask Kati Anything, episode 233 audience questions: 1. Hi Kati! I have a dismissive avoidant attachment style, likely due to childhood emotional neglect, which makes me highly independent and even counter-dependent. I am wondering, what can I do to foster a healthy attachment to my therapist? I have been seeing my therapist for years and she's great, but I still get nervous to share things with her. I don't want to get “too” attached, but I think I need my therapist's help with processing trauma. What should I do? 01:55 2. My psychiatrist tells me I have a strong internal focus of control and that I tend to attribute everything to my own doing. My question is, I'm trying to let myself off the hook sometimes but I have trouble differentiating when I'm NOT doing something because of my depression and when I'm not doing something because I'm just lazy and letting myself off the hook as an excuse. I feel like I may just go to the complete opposite and... 28:35 3. I've been on antidepressants since I was 19. I am now 47 and my entire life is completely different as it once was growing up, obviously…Is it possible that staying on antidepressants too long may change your entire brain function? Will I have to depend on them for the rest of my life? I am afraid that I've been on them so long that I may not know who I really am and this bothers me! 32:47 4. I recently had a breakthrough with magic mushrooms. It completely stripped away any thoughts I had about myself and I was able to forgive and have self compassion towards myself. It's been helping me work through my traumas in therapy. I have major depression, CPTSD, and anxiety. Can you please talk about the benefits of ketamine and mushrooms and can you talk about your thoughts on the integration of therapy and psychedelics? 39:57 5. I was wondering if your body could know that you are stressed or anxious before you realized it yourself? These questions come from the last few weeks because I have been having a lot of physical symptoms of stress and anxiety but I don't usually feel more stressed than usual. I have been picking at my skin, especially on my face which sucks, I have had acid reflux which I should have because I take medication for, my stomach has been upset, I've been clenching my jaw, and... 49:30 6. Hi Kati I was wondering if you could talk about post traumatic growth?!? How do I recover from PTSD after years of trauma abuse and neglect?!? 57:07 PUBLISHED BOOKSTraumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) SOCIALX https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton YouTube https://www.youtube.com/katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/askkatianything/support
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Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team.Do you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it's a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-avoidant is cut off from their emotions. If you're in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant this will help you understand why they need so much space and why feelings are so hard for them. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
In this compelling episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives deep into the intricacies of dismissive avoidant attachment styles. Exploring how this challenging attachment style manifests in relationships, Brianne dissects the behaviors and underlying fears that drive dismissive avoidance. From the initial love-bombing phase to the eventual emotional withdrawal, she explains how dismissive avoidants prioritize independence and suppress their emotions, making it difficult for partners to connect on a deeper level.Brianne also contrasts dismissive avoidants with fearful avoidants, highlighting the distinct ways they handle intimacy and relationships. She provides valuable insights on recognizing the red flags of dismissive avoidance and offers advice for those entangled in such relationships. Tune in to understand the complexities of dismissive avoidant attachment and learn how to navigate these emotionally taxing dynamics.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Dating Decoder with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice. Episode 9 (announced as Episode 8 in audio): "Settling the Confusion between the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant." In this enlightening episode Dr. Hensley delves deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment styles, focusing specifically on the Fearful Avoidant (FA) and the Dismissive Avoidant (DA). While their names suggest similarity, Dr. Hensley reveals the significant differences in the behaviors and motivations underlying these two styles. Dr. Hensley meticulously describes how the Fearful Avoidant (FA) exhibits both anxious and avoidant behaviors due to a complex mix of fear and anxiety, often oscillating between seeking closeness and sometimes pushing away when they feel betrayed. This oscillation can be heavily influenced by various factors, including the attachment style of their partner. In contrast, the Dismissive Avoidant (DA) maintains distance primarily as a means of preserving independence and autonomy, showing little interest in emotional closeness. Through vivid examples and detailed explanations, Dr. Hensley highlights the typical dynamics seen in FA/DA partnerships. These relationships are often marked by one partner's pursuit of intimacy and connection, which can manifest as anxious behaviors or even aggression, while the other partner retreats further into avoidance. This push-pull dynamic creates a cycle of misunderstanding and frustration, leaving partners feeling perpetually out of sync. Drawing from her extensive experience in relationship coaching, Dr. Hensley shares how she navigates these complex dynamics in her hybrid group coaching program. She provides actionable tools and strategies to help couples achieve a balance that honors both the DA's need for autonomy and the FA's desire for intimacy. Through structured guidance and support, she helps partners break the vicious cycle and cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling relationship. Join Dr. Hensley in this episode as she unpacks the intricacies of these attachment styles and offers practical solutions for creating lasting change and deeper connection in romantic partnerships. Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley's services please visist the links below and follow her on social media. Dr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/group-coaching/ Book one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: https://www.thedatingdecoder.com/book-appointment/ Purchase Dr. Hensley's online course: https://dating-decoder.mykajabi.com/offers/PpEPKnsM/checkout Tik-Tok: the_dating_decoder Instagram: @the_dating_decoder Facebook: The Dating Decoder Youtube: @Dr.SarahHensley What is covered: · The behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant. · The behaviors of the Dismissive Avoidant. · The subconcious wounds that each attachment style expereinces and why. · The Fearful Avoidant/ Dismissive Avoidant romatic relationship dynamic and why it is one of the most complex. · Ways in which the FA/DA romatic relationship dynamic can make it work. Consider/Ask Yourself: · Are you more Fearful Avoidant or Dismissive Avoidant? · How have your childhood expereinces and relationship to your caregivers influenced your attachment style? · Based on which attachment style that you relate to the most, are there ways in which you are willing to change to help with the outcome of your romatic relationship? · How committed are you to make the changes necessary to heal your attachment style?
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In this episode of “Can This Be Fixed” on The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais is joined by co-host Mike to answer a range of questions from the audience about relationships. What happens if you're dating someone who's constantly speaking negatively about you, either to you or to others? How can you tell if someone is a narcissist or a dismissive avoidant with a few narcissistic characteristics? And what it's like to date a fearful avoidant? Tune in to get the answers to these questions and hear interesting personal dating stories from your hosts. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/
Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Are you constantly thinking about breaking up with your partner? Do you dream of the day you can be on your own and get the freedom you've been so desperately wanting? In this episode I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style fantasizes about breaking up after a fight or triggering moment with their partner. Our brain is dreaming about that 1 bedroom 1 bath in the neighborhood we've been dying to move into. The fantasy can be quite intoxicating but really what it's doing is distracting you from the hurt that you're experiencing in the moment. Tune into learn about this extremely common pattern.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one on one or couples coching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you're growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform
In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais goes over key needs for dismissive avoidants in romantic relationships. From being supported for their autonomy to consistency acceptance of their character. Tune in to get helpful insights into what's needed to create a safe and nurturing environment for partners with this attachment style. Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast-audio&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=podcast-freebie&utm_content=yt-06-13-24 Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/
What happens when a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style realizes they've lost you? This episode covers the unique ways that Dismissive Avoidants process breakups, the timelines for experiencing different feelings throughout their breakup, what exactly they feel when they recognize that you're long gone, and what you can do to heal from a breakup with this attachment style. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/
Hey everybody - Travis here - today I am excited to dive into a foundational concept in psychology that's pivotal for personal growth and relationships - Attachment Theory! While we don't have a guest on today's episode, I will guide you through this enriching topic.In this episode, we're going to explore some fundamental areas:1. **Origins and Founders of Attachment Theory**: We delve into the mid-20th century work of British psychologist John Bowlby, often regarded as the father of attachment theory. Bowlby focused on the bond between the child and caregiver and how these early relationships impact emotional and psychological development throughout one's life. Plus, we'll discuss how Mary Ainsworth expanded on Bowlby's work with her famous Strange Situation experiment, which classified different attachment styles.2. **Types of Attachment Styles**: Understanding the four primary attachment styles - Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized) - and how each style manifests in relationships and personal behavior. We'll also touch on how these styles influence conflict resolution and mental well-being.3. **Impact on Relationships and Mental Health**: How your attachment style affects your interactions, conflict management, and overall mental health. Securely attached individuals tend to have better stress management and healthier conflict resolution, while those with insecure attachment styles may struggle more in relationships and mental health scenarios.Challenge Question: Reflecting on your personal relationships, can you identify any patterns that point to a specific attachment style you may have? How do these patterns influence your interactions and conflict resolutions with loved ones?So grab a notebook, because you're going to want to take notes as we navigate this complex yet crucial aspect of personal development. And remember, understanding your attachment style can be the first step towards healing, growth, and more fulfilling relationships.SUPPORT THE SHOW:CLICK HERE!JOIN THE MAILING LIST & GET INVOLVED!CLICK HERE: MAILING LISTWATCH ON YOUTUBE:WATCH HEREConnect and Support Travis:YouTube: Travis GoodmanInstagram: @integratedmanprojectCheck out the Website: TBD
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication. ——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In today's episode, I discuss if a dismissive avoidant will return after a period of no contact. Transform Your Relationship and get 50% off your quarterly membership! Embrace Confidence, Control, and Fulfillment with Our Tailored Programs for Your Unique Journey. Save 50% On a Quarterly Membership to The Personal Development School Boost Your Relationships by 50% in Just 7 Days: Unlock Your FREE All-Access Pass to PDS Courses Today! https://bit.ly/7-day-trial-podcast Discover What Your Attachment Style is and How It Could Be Holding Your Relationships Back … Take Quiz Here
In today's episode, I discuss the secrets of the dismissive avoidant and the 3 things they do to rekindle love.Boost Your Relationships by 50% in Just 7 Days: Unlock Your FREE All-Access Pass to PDS Courses Today!https://bit.ly/7-day-trial-podcast Discover What Your Attachment Style is and How It Could Be Holding Your Relationships Back … Take Quiz Here
In today's episode, I discuss why a dismissive avoidant fears compromise and what to do!Get 60% OFF Our All-Access Pass and Start Creating the Best Relationships of Your Life! ⬇️https://bit.ly/pds-lasting-love-podcastDiscover What Your Attachment Style is and How It Could Be Holding Your Relationships Back … Take Quiz Here
In today's episode, I discuss why a dismissive avoidant pulls away when interested!Boost Your Relationships by 50% in Just 7 Days: Unlock Your FREE All-Access Pass to PDS Courses Today!https://bit.ly/7-day-trial-podcast Discover What Your Attachment Style is and How It Could Be Holding Your Relationships Back … Take Quiz Here
In this episode, we delve into the complex world of dismissive avoidant attachment styles. Join us as we explore the psychology behind this attachment style, characterized by a tendency to avoid emotional intimacy and maintain independence in relationships. Drawing from both research and personal experiences, we uncover the underlying reasons behind dismissive avoidant behavior and its impact on interpersonal connections. From childhood influences to adult relationship dynamics, we discuss how individuals with this attachment style may struggle with vulnerability, intimacy, and commitment. In this episode, we provide practical insights and strategies for individuals navigating relationships with dismissive avoidant partners or grappling with this attachment style themselves. Whether you're seeking to understand yourself better or improve your relationships or your leadership, this episode offers valuable perspectives and guidance for fostering healthier connections in your life. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of dismissive avoidant attachment and learn how to cultivate more fulfilling and secure relationships. Contact us at: info@travishall.net travishall.net Catch Pastor Travis Hall on... Instagram: @pastortravishall Enough Book Purchase Here: https://a.co/d/7UCi1Ug Seven Deadly Thoughts Book Purchase Here: https://www.amazon.com/Deadly-Thoughts-Conquer-that-Limit/dp/1662806566 Stop Arguing and Start Communicating Book Purchase Here: https://amzn.to/3Hxov1J