Podcasts about avoidants

Avoidants often need space because conflict never felt safe growing up. They want peace, so when tough conversations come up, they shut down and exit fast. If you are the one opening up, it can feel like abandonment. They take space without explaining it and often skip the repair.This pattern can change. It starts with owning your emotions, understanding your needs for space and autonomy, and upleveling your beliefs about yourself. From there you can use healthy communication to say you need space and still commit to coming back to repair.Join me for the Healthy Relationships Roadmap Call Week to start creating the healthy relationship you want - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewformDiscover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-30-25&el=podcast Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants sometimes seem distant or unresponsive isn't about blaming them; it's about uncovering the subconscious fears and patterns that shape their behavior.  Recognizing these dynamics is key to setting boundaries, communicating your needs, and fostering healthier, more secure relationships. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the unseen issues Dismissive Avoidants face when you give them space. You'll understand what's happening beneath the surface, respond constructively, and know whether your relationship can move toward a healthier place. You'll learn: ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants often operate in a “functional freeze” due to nervous system dysregulation ✅ Why their need for space isn't about you, but about unresolved trauma and subconscious fear of closeness ✅ How attachment styles influence reactions to intimacy and distance ✅ Why closeness can trigger old fears of neglect, shame, or feeling trapped ✅ Practical strategies to find the middle ground: honoring their pace while respecting your own needs ✅ How to encourage partners to work on themselves and address trauma around love ✅ How to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and recognize patterns of pursuit or withdrawal ✅ When to step back and protect your emotional well-being if healthy reciprocity isn't happening Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:34 – Overview of the AttachmentStyles 01:33 – Why Avoidants Chase You When You Pull Away 03:36 – 1. Walk the Middle Ground. 04:30 – 2. Encourage that Person to Work on Themself. 05:36 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 06:15 – 3. Help Them While Setting a Deadline 07:33 – 4. Communicate Directly 08:21 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=uF12gKGWOtM&utm_content=pod-10-28-25&el=podcast Fearful Avoidants don't walk away because they're indifferent — they walk away because fear overwhelms them. Understanding why they leave suddenly can help you respond with clarity, protect your emotional well-being, and navigate the aftermath of a breakup. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why Fearful Avoidants may regret leaving relationships and how their subconscious mind drives their intense shifts between anxiety and avoidance. You'll gain insight into their behavior and learn how to respond in a healthy, empowered way. You'll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants rapidly shift between anxious and avoidant states, and what triggers these swings ✅ How the subconscious mind stores emotional “warehouses” of past trauma that influence present relationship behaviors ✅ Why breakups often happen as a protective strategy, not a reflection of true feelings ✅ How unmet needs and poor communication can push Fearful Avoidants to pull away ✅ How recognizing triggers and past imprints can help you avoid taking their behavior personally ✅ Practical strategies for communicating your needs and setting boundaries in challenging relationships ✅ How insight and self-work can transform relationships and prevent repeating painful cycles Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:46 – Fearful Avoidants Shift From Feeling Anxious to Avoidant 06:08 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 07:01 – 1. They May Threaten to Leave to Get Away From the Pain 09:42 – 2. They Are Not Good at Communicating Their Needs 13:02 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

You're doing “the talk wrong and I'll help you fix it.First, think - an avoidant brain is not a secure brain. You can't talk to it like it's an emotionally healthy brain.We think we have to soft talk an avoidant but they are really looking at you thinking - “ I got this exactly where I want it.”I spoke kindly and softy for decades and that got me nothing but breadcrumbs and disrespect.ps: these tips are only for the emotionally immature.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-25-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants have a habit of resurfacing after breakups — sometimes weeks, sometimes months later — leaving their partners wondering why. But the real reason they come back runs much deeper than nostalgia or loneliness. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the true emotional mechanics behind why Dismissive Avoidants return after a breakup. You'll discover how delayed emotional processing, fear cycles, and subconscious associations drive their behavior — and how to respond in a way that protects your boundaries and emotional wellbeing. You'll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants process relationship pain on a delay ✅ How “feelings minus fears” influence their pull-back and return cycles ✅ Why distance can temporarily dissolve their fears and reignite feelings ✅ What to look for when they reach out between genuine reconnection vs. surface contact ✅ How to protect your boundaries and avoid getting stuck in an emotional loop ✅ The key to truly healing from a breakup is meeting your own needs and rewriting painful stories Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:20 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Don't Process Their Hurt Around Relationships in a Normal Way 01:41 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are in Their Feelings Minus Their Fears 02:35 – Other Surface-Level Reasons 02:59 – Step 1: Are They Willing to Do the Work to Reconnect? 03:37 – Step 2: Heal the Needs That the Person Represented 04:43 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-23-25&el=podcast When your birthday comes and your Dismissive Avoidant partner barely acknowledges it, it can feel like they just don't care. But what's really happening underneath that silence isn't usually indifference — it's emotional conditioning and self-protection at play. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants seem to ignore birthdays or special occasions, and what's actually going on in their subconscious mind and nervous system. You'll discover the neuroscience behind emotional suppression, how early experiences shape avoidant reactions, and what you can do to respond with both compassion and self-respect. You'll learn:  ✅ The 5 key psychological reasons Dismissive Avoidants pull away on important days  ✅ How childhood emotional neglect shapes their response to celebration and intimacy  ✅ What brain studies reveal about emotional suppression, empathy, and joy  ✅ Why Avoidants minimize birthdays, and what it really says about their attachment wounds  ✅ How to communicate your needs clearly without triggering defensiveness  ✅ When to stay compassionate and when to recognize a pattern that won't change Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:09 – 1. Emotional Intimacy Feels Unsafe for Dismissive Avoidants 03:34 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Often Feel a Sense of Learned Helplessness  04:23 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Detachment 06:01 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 06:48 – 3. They Think Emotional Neediness is a Sign of Weakness 08:03 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation  08:54 – 5. They Never Experience Consistent Emotional Celebrations 09:50 – If You're on the Receiving End  12:13 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Emily Bradbury is a relationship and empowerment coach specializing in attachment theory and growing your emotional intelligence and regulation tools. She's uniquely equipped in masculine/feminine energetics and polarity. Emily helps her diverse client base across the world, with different ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. In this interview, we discuss rewriting your identity and personal stories as a part of the healing journey from anxious attachment to healthy secure attachment. Emily describes what the process looks like, how it worked for her, and why it's such a powerful tool when combined with coaching. Healing anxious attachment is a process Avoidant + Anxious attachment relationships Rewriting your personal story Masculine/feminine polarity Social links Instragram: emily.bradbury.coaching TikTok: @emily.bradbury.coaching Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

It can be intoxicating when two avoidants meet. There is chemistry and calm. But what happens when there is too much chemistry and calm for two people who are used to chaos? They may become bored and distant until there is a disconnect. And what happens after the disconnect? One or both can flip into their anxious state and seek reasons to stay connected- like a business venture on this case. This episode highlight how the brain works in the background to cause us to self-sabotage long before the relationship has a chance. We also talk about the red flags you don't want to miss during the first meetup. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-22-25&el=podcast If you've ever felt like you're speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you're not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You'll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met. You'll learn: ✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring ✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up ✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high ✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both ✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum ✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words ✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way 04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly 07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection 09:06 – 3. State Your Needs  09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended 11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something 13:46 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

In this powerful new episode of You're Probably Right, MCM unpacks one of the most painful and misunderstood relationship dynamics: why deeply feeling empaths are often drawn to emotionally avoidant partners — and how to finally break free from the cycle.Through raw storytelling and emotional insight, MCM explores:The emotional chemistry between empaths and avoidants.Why love feels like both home and heartbreak.How self-betrayal happens in the name of “patience.”The hidden addiction to emotional inconsistency.What real healing and emotional sobriety look like.If you've ever felt unseen, over-giving, or trapped in the push-pull of someone who can't meet you halfway — this episode will hit home. Learn how to let go without hardening your heart, reclaim your peace, and finally choose love that feels safe.

Have you ever noticed that every time you get closer to someone, emotionally or physically - they suddenly pull back?.If you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel like a nightmare. You start wondering: Did I do something wrong? Were they just avoidant? Did I scare them off?.In this episode, I'm breaking down the truth about why they pull back after intimacy - and how this pattern has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you, but not in the way you think. .You'll learn:✨ What's really happening when avoidants distance after intimacy✨ How your inner state creates that push-pull dynamic✨ Why anxious attachment gets triggered when things feel good✨ The mindset shift that stops the cycle - so intimacy brings you closer, not apart.This one's raw, honest, and deeply freeing - because once you see that you hold the power to change it, you'll never fear vulnerability again..Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live..Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. .⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now.Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠.Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT™ Ebook, Where You'll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=0gluagmi2_c&utm_content=pod-10-14-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants don't chase — but that doesn't mean they don't care. Often, their withdrawal comes not from indifference but from deep-seated fear and subconscious self-protection. Understanding why they pull away is the first step to seeing the truth behind their behaviour. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what it really means when a Dismissive Avoidant doesn't chase, why vulnerability feels unsafe for them, and how their subconscious beliefs shape their decisions. You'll gain clarity on their withdrawal patterns and learn how to respond in a way that preserves your emotional health. You'll learn:  ✅ Why vulnerability triggers fear in Dismissive Avoidants  ✅ How subconscious beliefs block them from pursuing connection  ✅ The self-protective thought patterns they rely on when feeling threatened  ✅ Why “it's easier to be alone” becomes their default choice  ✅ How shame wounds influence their ability to sustain closeness Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:27 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Are Terrified of Vulnerability 01:42 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are Constantly in Their Feelings, Minus Their Fears  03:03 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Believe That It's Easy to Be Alone 05:06 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 06:00 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Lack Healthy Modelling of Healthy Relationships 06:57 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Have a “Defectiveness” Core Wound 08:07 – Initiate the Conversation, Set a Deadline, and Vet the Person 08:52 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=UZURew1Gr4o&utm_content=pod-10-13-25&el=podcast Have you ever been dating a Fearful Avoidant and everything seemed to be going great — until suddenly, they pulled away and lost interest? Or maybe you are a Fearful Avoidant and can't understand why you sometimes go cold, even when things are good. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 key reasons fearful avoidants suddenly lose attraction — and what you can do to prevent it from happening, whether you're dating one or healing as one. You'll learn: ✅ Why broken trust instantly shuts down a Fearful Avoidant's connection ✅ How anxious pressure or crossed boundaries trigger loss of attraction ✅ The “expectation overload” that makes them pull back fast ✅ Why feeling trapped activates their powerful flight response ✅ How unmet needs and emotional burnout lead to sudden detachment Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:47 – Reason 1: Their Trust is Broken 01:43 – Reason 2: Violated Their Boundaries 02:53 – Reason 3: Unreal Expectations on Them 03:40 – Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course 04:21 – Reason 4: Feeling Trapped 05:05 – Reason 5: They Feel It's a One-Sided Relationship 06:43 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Struggling with anxious attachment and tired of avoidants pulling away?This episode is not what you think. And it's exactly what you need to hear..If you've ever spiralled after being ghosted, obsessed over why they suddenly pulled away, or questioned whether you're too much, this is your wake-up call..But be warned:This isn't the same surface-level advice telling you to “just act cool” or “don't double text.”.This is the truth that will set you free..In this raw, no-BS episode, I reveal 7 tough truths about avoidants that most people will never tell you - because they haven't lived it, or they're still stuck in the same patterns..Inside this episode:The real reason they pulled away (and how your energy shifted first).Why it's not about them abandoning you - it's about you abandoning yourself.How anxious attachment manifests as self-rejection, not just “neediness”.Why even when you stop texting… you might still be energetically chasing.What it actually takes to stop attracting avoidants - for good.Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live..You'll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that's subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love..⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠⁠.Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠.Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Have you ever been infatuated and start acting crazy? Well, do I have a story for you! I talk about my pattern of doing too much and how I am learning to slow down and trust myself. We'll get into how you subconsciously communicate your worth, why being “too nice” too soon can kill attraction, and what it actually looks like to show up grounded and calm instead of overselling. Plus, I answer a listener's question about whether people really change, why we chase the same patterns even years later, and what to do if you're struggling with intimacy in avoidant relationships.Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/Chapters00:00 Handling Infatuation & Communicating Your Value Better36:39 Can They Actually Change?48:16 Avoidant Went and Dated Someone Else After Breakup52:33 Physical Intimacy Issues with Avoidants

✨ Build Amazing Connections With Our 7-Day All-Access Course Pass and Keep Our “Key Pillars to Secure Attachment” Course Fully Free for Life (Valued at $250!). Claim this free gift before they run out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-pillars-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-pillars-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-29-25&el=podcast Fearful avoidants often struggle to trust love fully—not because they don't want it, but because their subconscious mind has absorbed painful stories from childhood and past relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the 5 most common lies fearful avoidants tell themselves about love, why these beliefs feel so real, and how to reprogram them for secure, lasting connection. You'll discover the hidden fears beneath these lies, how they silently sabotage relationships, and what practical tools you can use to recondition your nervous system and subconscious to open up to love without fear. You'll learn: ✅ The false beliefs fearful avoidants carry about being unworthy of love ✅ Why they expect abandonment and betrayal—even in healthy relationships ✅ How self-protection strategies become self-sabotage ✅ Tools to question and reframe these painful lies into empowering truths ✅ How nervous system regulation makes love feel safe again ✅ The key mindset shifts that unlock secure and fulfilling relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Why do avoidants come back after no contact? Most people assume it's because they miss you or realize your value—but the truth runs much deeper.In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia explains the Black Hole Effect: the powerful psychological pull that happens when you stop chasing and give an avoidant the space they need. You'll learn why avoidants don't miss you while you're still reaching out, the stages they go through after a breakup, and the two main reasons they eventually return—even if it takes longer than you'd like.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay Hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #BreakupPsychology #EmotionalUnavailability #FearOfIntimacy #GetExBack #NoContact

Are you stuck in your comfort zone, waiting for someone or something to rescue you from yourself? You're not alone. So many of us live in what Tracy calls "the box"—that familiar prison where we feel safe but never truly alive. We tell ourselves we don't need approval. We act like we don't give a shit what anyone thinks. But deep down? We're still waiting. Waiting for the right person to make it safe. Waiting for the universe to send a sign. Waiting for someone else to take the emotional risk first. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why seeking approval keeps you trapped in avoidance patterns * How "safe" actually means familiar (and why that's dangerous) * The difference between avoiding life and living in flow * Why emotionally risky action is the only path to freedom * How to break free from your own fucking prison, one small step at a time "You have to create your own safety. And stepping forward and taking an emotionally risky action is the only way that you live a life where you feel it's full of joy and happiness." ~ Tracy Crossley

Spin to Win is Back! Spin Now to Win Handpicked Prizes By Thais Herself—Including $250 Courses, Free Trials & More to Start Healing Your Attachment Style. Promo Ends Soon! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=youtube&utm_campaign=spin-to-win&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-08-13-25&el=youtube Dismissive avoidants often keep their deepest thoughts and fears completely hidden, even from their closest partners. But in counseling, once trust is built, surprising truths emerge. In this episode, Thais Gibson pulls back the curtain on five confessions dismissive avoidants have shared in private sessions, insights that explain their distance, hesitation, and hidden needs. From the belief they're “not cut out” for relationships to the way conflict can rattle them for days, you'll see the avoidant attachment style in a whole new light. More importantly, you'll learn how to build trust, communicate effectively, and create a connection where their needs (and yours) can truly be met. You'll learn: ✅ The hidden belief that they're “better off alone”—and why it's a learned defense, not the truth ✅ Why emotional closeness can feel unsafe, even when they crave love ✅ How childhood emotional neglect plants deep shame that's triggered by even small feedback ✅ Why conflict overwhelms them—and how they can learn healthy resolution skills ✅ The surprising reason they often feel their needs aren't met (even with a loving partner) ✅ How to meet each other halfway through clear, safe communication ✅ Access to a free course on the 5 key pillars of secure relationships Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Were you broken up with or had to walk away from an avoidant? Do you wonder if they miss you and regret to break up? Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares what happens when someone with avoidant attachment realize they lost someone irreplaceable. Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #BreakupPsychology #EmotionalUnavailability #FearOfIntimacy

Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-08-01-25&el=podcast Why do avoidant partners seem distant—yet strangely attracted to certain people? And why do they finally connect with people who do one surprising thing? If you've been chasing avoidants or caught in a cycle of overgiving, this episode will change everything. Thais Gibson reveals the psychological root of why avoidants fall for people who prioritize themselves—and how your relationship to yourself creates the attraction blueprint. You'll learn about the shadow self, how repressed traits influence attraction, and what makes avoidants feel safe, intrigued, and emotionally engaged. You'll learn: ✅ Why avoidants are drawn to people who own their space and set boundaries ✅ How people-pleasing is really self-abandonment (and how to stop) ✅ What the “relationship shadow” is—and why it shapes your patterns ✅ Real examples of how repressed assertiveness attracts avoidant partners ✅ How to transform your inner relationship and attract emotionally available people ✅ Why secure people are also drawn to self-connected individuals ✅ A free resource to start shadow work and healing today Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Think avoidants aren't affected by no contact? Think again! In this episode, dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the 3 things they secretly hope for when you leave them alone after a breakup.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram#AvoidantAttachment #NoContactRule #AttachmentTheory #BreakupRecovery

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Have you ever felt completely consumed by someone who seems emotionally distant? Do you chase closeness, only to be met with withdrawal? If that sounds familiar, you're not alone — and there's a psychological reason for it.Let's break it down.@01:42.88 Understanding the Players@10:29.91 The Push-Pull Dynamic@11:53.30 Why the Attraction Feels So Strong@12:41.86 Can This Dynamic Work?

Learn Your Relationship Needs & Build the Best Relationships of Your Life with our COMPLETELY FREE Discover Your Needs Course. When You Sign Up for a 7-Day Trial, You Keep This Course for LIFE! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-needs&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-07-14-25&el=podcast Have you ever wondered what's really happening when a dismissive avoidant partner withdraws? Why do they need so much alone time—and what does that time actually look like? In this powerful solo episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the misunderstood reality of dismissive avoidant behavior in their free time. Far from restful or emotionally fulfilling, much of that alone time is spent simply surviving—numbing out, self-soothing, or unconsciously avoiding emotional needs. If you're trying to understand (or heal from) a relationship with a DA, this episode is essential listening. You'll learn: ✅ Why DAs crave time alone—and what's really happening beneath the surface ✅ The difference between solitude and self-connection ✅ How unmet emotional needs in childhood shape adult self-neglect ✅ What “creature comfort” behaviors are actually regulating ✅ Why intellectual growth often replaces emotional growth for DAs ✅ The connection between emotional suppression and nervous system dysregulation ✅ How to shift from survival mode into healing, growth, and connection Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

Why do avoidants run away from someone they claim to love?  Why do they sabotage the love they crave?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why avoidants prefer to be with someone they're not in love with.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

14-Day All-Access Trial: Transform Your Life with Expert-Led Mental Health & Personal Growth Programs https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/mha-month?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=mha-month&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Dismissive avoidants may seem confident on the outside—but is that really the full story? In this revealing episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores why dismissive avoidants often struggle deeply with self-esteem issues—even when they outwardly appear strong, independent, and unaffected. You'll learn the hidden emotional patterns behind dismissive avoidant behaviors and gain critical tools for healing from within.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidants often battle hidden shame despite seeming confident ✔️ How early emotional neglect leads to internalized feelings of being "defective" ✔️ Why strong boundaries can sometimes be a mask for emotional pain ✔️ The role of low-level sympathetic nervous system activation (fight/flight/freeze) in daily life ✔️ How living out of alignment with emotional needs damages self-esteem over time ✔️ What emotional suppression costs avoidants—and how to start reconnecting with feelings ✔️ Practical strategies to accept vulnerability, listen to emotions, and build authentic self-worth   If you've ever wondered why you—or someone you love—seems "fine" but struggles with deep disconnection or self-sabotage, this episode offers eye-opening clarity and actionable healing steps. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leading authority in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, Thais has helped more than 70,000 people build emotional resilience and secure relationships. Helpful Resources:

Relationship coach and podcast host Sabrina Zohar joined me to explore about what really matters in modern dating. We got into growth-minded partners, emotional regulation, nervous system work, and why self-awareness isn't the same as actually doing the work. We also unpacked how to spot narcissists (hint: it's not just someone who doesn't text back), the misuse of trauma talk, and the pitfalls of dating advice culture. If you care about relationships with depth, not drama, this one's for you. Read more about Sabrina here: sabrinazohar.com ------------------------------------------------------ Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach renowned for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a clear, no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, Sabrina's podcast has resonated globally, ranking in the top 0.05% of all podcasts. Each episode features practical tips backed by board-certified and licensed psychologists, aimed at helping listeners improve their dating lives by fostering self-worth and personal growth. ------------------------------------------------------ See the Feral Philosophy YouTube channel HERE  Support the Feral Philosophy mission by donating through Crowdfunder  Want to become a certified embodiment coach? More details about CEC Join Mark for in-person workshops Join free coaching demo sessions with Mark  Find Mark Walsh on Instagram

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Everything was going great—so why did your fearful avoidant partner suddenly pull away? In this insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the 5 surprising reasons fearful avoidants can seem deeply connected one day… and emotionally checked out the next. Whether you're on the receiving end of this dynamic or struggling with it yourself, this episode brings clarity to the confusion and empowers you with tools for change.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why broken trust, even in subtle ways, can instantly shut a fearful avoidant down ✔️ How boundary violations and anxious pressure cause withdrawal and overwhelm ✔️ Why high expectations or feeling trapped can spark a sudden loss of interest ✔️ The internal burnout that happens when a fearful avoidant suppresses their own needs ✔️ How to stop this cycle with better communication, boundaries, and emotional awareness   Thais also shares a key takeaway for fearful avoidants: if you're consistently losing feelings “out of nowhere,” it's a sign that your needs have been unmet for too long—and it's time to speak up before you shut down.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and expert in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With over 13 certifications and a Ph.D., Thais has helped more than 70,000 people rewire their relationship patterns for good.   Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Does your dismissive avoidant partner actually care—or are they just keeping you around? In this emotionally insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down 6 clear signs that a dismissive avoidant partner has developed real feelings for you. From subtle shifts in communication to the moments they begin to open up and meet your needs, you'll learn what to look for—and what it means. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to tell when a dismissive avoidant is thinking about you all the time ✔️ Why they might feel the urge to pull back when things get close—and how that changes when they care ✔️ Signs of emotional vulnerability and gradual opening up ✔️ The unexpected moments of protectiveness that reveal affection ✔️ What it means when they begin accommodating your needs—despite internal resistance ✔️ Why the thought of losing you may be the biggest clue of all This episode isn't just about recognizing signs—it's about deciding whether the connection you're in has long-term potential and whether your needs are truly being met. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 05:06 – 1. If You're Thinking About the Person All the Time 09:41 – 2. You Might Feel the Need to Retract 18:15 – 3. You Notice Yourself Opening Up Little by Little 27:16 – 4. You Start Feeling Protective Over the Person 30:55 – DA's and Words of Affirmation 45:34 – 5. You'll Try to Accommodate Them by Meeting Their Needs 52:26 – Bonus — The Thought of Losing the Other Person Hurts Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and emotional healing. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she's helped thousands shift subconscious patterns and build lasting relationships. Helpful Resources:

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Do avoidants really fall in love—or are they just emotionally unavailable? In this eye-opening episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais answers one of the most frequently asked questions in attachment theory: Can dismissive and fearful avoidants truly experience love? The answer might surprise you. Through personal stories and client insights, Thais explains how the depth of love an avoidant can feel is directly tied to their ability to be emotionally vulnerable. Learn why some avoidants may only feel infatuation or superficial connection until they've done the deeper work—and how healing their attachment style can unlock the potential for lasting, unconditional love. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why vulnerability is the gateway to deeper love ✔️ The difference between infatuation and emotional intimacy ✔️ How love evolves across the 6 relationship stages ✔️ What holds avoidants back from deep emotional connection ✔️ How to support your partner (or yourself) in building secure attachment ✔️ Why doing the work changes how love is experienced and expressed Whether you're dating an avoidant, recovering from a relationship, or healing your own patterns, this episode is your compassionate guide to love through the lens of secure connection. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and an expert in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience in the field, Thais has helped over 70,000 students worldwide create empowered relationships and emotional freedom. Helpful Resources:

Episode 43: What Avoidants Really Need (But Struggle to Ask For) APPLE | SPOTIFY In this episode of Psychotherapy Central, host Jennifer Nurick delves into the often misunderstood world of avoidant attachment. While avoidantly attached individuals may appear self-sufficient and distant, they harbour deep emotional needs that they often find challenging to express. In this episode Jennifer explores: The internal experience of avoidant attachment Core emotional needs of avoidant individuals, including: Emotional safety without pressure Acceptance for who they are Connection on their terms Freedom and autonomy within relationships Reliability and consistency from partners Non-verbal understanding Validation of their feelings and boundaries The reasons behind their difficulty in expressing these needs Steps toward healing and fostering healthier relationships Resources Mentioned: Book: Heal Your Anxious Attachment by Jennifer Nurick. This holistic guide offers a trauma-informed approach to help individuals feel more secure, cultivate self-worth, and build healthier relationships. Insight: Esther Perel emphasizes the importance of maintaining mystery and surprise in relationships to counteract routine and sustain desire. Related Episodes: Episode 2: Avoidant Attachment Explained – A comprehensive overview of avoidant attachment, its development, and its impact on relationships. Episode 25: 9 Tips for Dating When You Are Avoidantly Attached – Practical advice for navigating the dating world with an avoidant attachment style. Episode 31: Understanding Avoidant Attachment Behaviours – Delving deeper into the behaviors associated with avoidant attachment and strategies for change. Episode 40: Why We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective – Exploring the unconscious patterns that draw individuals to avoidant partners. Connect with Jennifer Nurick: Website: psychotherapycentral.health Instagram: @psychotherapy.central Facebook: Psychotherapy Central YouTube: Psychotherapy Central For further resources, insights, and support on your journey toward secure and fulfilling relationships, visit Psychotherapy Central.

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and FREE lifetime access to our Attachment Styles & Sex course with a 7-day free trial! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Why is vulnerability so difficult—but so necessary—in relationships? Many people, especially those with avoidant attachment styles, struggle to open up and express their emotions. Yet, vulnerability is what transforms infatuation into love, strengthens bonds, and deepens emotional connection. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore why vulnerability is challenging, how to communicate it effectively, and why it's the key to building lasting, fulfilling relationships. If you've ever struggled with expressing your emotions, setting boundaries, or feeling safe enough to be your true self in relationships, this episode will give you the tools to overcome fear, deepen intimacy, and create authentic connections. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 01:48 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Mike's Story) 05:24 - Vulnerability in Childhood (Thais' Story) 10:26 - 7-Day Free Trial 11:16 - Misconceptions About Vulnerability 17:31 - How to Approach a Dismissive Avoidant with Vulnerability 26:54 - Vulnerability Allows You to Be Loved & Fall in Love 33:10 - Rocket Money 35:02 - When You and a Loved One Have Opposing Views 41:01 - If You're Afraid to Share Vulnerably With Others 52:26 - Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in personal development. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and more, Thais has helped thousands transform their relationships and emotional well-being. Helpful Resources:

Embarrassment? Nope, never heard of it. At least, that's what the dismissive avoidant would love you to believe. But deep down (like way deep down), they have a huge fear of being shamed or criticized. As natural perfectionists, they're laser-focused on how others see them—because if they just get everything right, then everything will be fine... right?In this episode, we're talking about why embarrassment is particularly cringe for the dismissive avoidant, why ignoring emotions doesn't actually make them disappear (sorry!), and how embracing the uncomfortable can lead to healthy connection. Trust me, you don't want to miss it!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Send us a textThis podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good. Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym (Doors OPEN) Becoming Secure (Starting Feb 2025) FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-02-05-25&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike break down the most common protest behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style—the subconscious coping mechanisms that can sabotage relationships, even when they're meant to soothe. Drawing from personal experiences, Thais and Mike share valuable insights into how Fearful Avoidants may push their partners away while yearning for deeper connection. They discuss:

Start the New Year with a Fresh Start! Discover who you truly are, what you need in life and relationships to feel fulfilled, and how to get them with our Needs Course—yours for FREE for life. Begin your journey to transformation with our All-Access Pass Membership, FREE for 7 days this New Year! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-free-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-years-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-22-25&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we explore the unique behaviors of individuals with a fearful avoidant attachment style. From hypervigilance to a high need for control, we discuss the root causes of these patterns, how they impact relationships, and actionable insights for creating healthier dynamics. Co-hosts dive into personal experiences, share relatable anecdotes, and offer tips for both fearful avoidants and their partners. Whether you're navigating your own attachment style or supporting a loved one, this episode provides a compassionate and educational lens on these quirks. Episode Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:40 - Hypervigilance 17:20 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 18:11 - A High Need for Control 25:46 - They're Easy to Trigger 29:53 - "If You Love Me, You Should Know What I Need” 37:34 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification 38:41 - Asking a Lot of Questions 42:26 - They Won't Ask for Help 47:16 - They Can Be Extreme 52:45 - They Can Be Very Competitive 54:56 - They Often Personalize Things 1:00:58 - Conclusion Tune in for valuable insights, self-discovery tips, and practical advice to enhance your relationships and personal growth journey. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoidants are love being independent and autonomous.  Is it possible to make them miss you if they're broken up with you?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares her secrets on how to get an avoidant ex to miss youGet coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Start the new year with purpose! Experience personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-01-02-25&el=podcast Struggling to reconnect with a fearful avoidant partner after a fight? Learn the three game-changing steps to rebuild trust, resolve conflict, and bring you closer than ever before. In this episode, Thais Gibson outlines the three essential steps fearful avoidants need to reconnect after conflict. Discover why validating feelings, offering transparency, and creating preventative strategies are key to rebuilding trust and deepening your bond. Watch now to learn how to transform conflict into a powerful opportunity for connection and lasting harmony. 00:00:00 - Introduction: 3 Steps Fearful Avoidants Need After Conflict 00:00:25 - Step 1: Why Validating Feelings is Critical 00:01:08 - How Validation Helps Fearful Avoidants Let Their Guard Down 00:02:00 - The Difference Between Validating Feelings vs. Behaviors 00:02:21 - Step 2: The Importance of Transparency and Context 00:03:42 - Why Understanding ‘Why' Behind Behavior Builds Trust 00:04:00 - How Fearful Avoidants Use Hyper-Vigilance to Feel Safe 00:05:01 - Step 3: Strategies to Prevent Recurring Issues 00:05:50 - Why Preventative Strategies Create Reassurance 00:06:32 - Taking Action to Improve the Relationship 00:07:03 - How Conflict Can Bring You Closer, Not Drive You Apart 00:07:20 - Final Tips for Building Trust and Connection Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcast It's time to transform your career, life & future with our Live Relationship Coaching Program! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-19-24&el=podcast Why do fearful avoidants sometimes pull away from relationships when things seem to be going well? In this episode, we uncover the four core triggers that cause fearful avoidants to run and explore the psychology behind their reactions. Whether you're navigating these dynamics yourself or supporting a loved one, you'll learn actionable strategies to address these challenges, communicate effectively, and create healthier connections. Join us to understand how to rewire painful patterns, balance emotional safety with vulnerability, and transform relationships through mindful tools rooted in neuroplasticity. Listen, reflect, and take a step closer to secure attachment and fulfilling connections. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take advantage of our Boxing Week Sale! Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for FREE for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week-7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-12-07-24&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and cohost, Mike DiZio, dive deep into the world of fearful avoidant attachment styles. Together, they explore the triggers that often arise in relationships for those with this attachment style, such as trust violations, unmet expectations, and feelings of emotional overwhelm. Thais, a former fearful avoidant turned secure, shares invaluable insights from her personal journey and professional expertise. Listeners will gain a better understanding of: The internal world of a fearful avoidant. Why small incongruities can feel like major trust breaches. How childhood experiences shape hypervigilance and relational patterns. Practical strategies to foster trust and communication in relationships. Whether you're navigating these challenges yourself or supporting a loved one, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable tips to create healthier, more secure connections. Tune in for a candid conversation filled with relatable stories, expert advice, and the tools to transform attachment patterns. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 01:58 - FA Triggers: When Trust is Broken 03:57 - Developing Hypervigilance as a Coping Mechanism 11:20 - Sharing Phone Access with Your Partner 22:00 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 24:28 - FA Triggers: People Having Expectations for Them 28:41 - Finding Comfort in Chaos 34:52 - Feeling Seen and Less Alone 39:44 - FAs and Rights of Passage Fears 43:26 - Reassuring the FA When They're Feeling Afraid 47:26 - FA Triggers: Feeling Unimportant or Like They Don't Matter 52:35 - Conclusion  Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a conversation with Sabrina, Mark Manson shares insights on navigating relationships from the perspective of an avoidantly attached individual. Drawing from his 12-year marriage, Mark emphasizes the importance of open communication and realistic expectations, especially in long-distance relationships. He advises having clear end goals and intentional conversations about logistics and contact frequency to maintain connection.  Diving into Mark's own avoidant tendencies, he and Sabrina explain how avoidance often stems from fear rather than lack of care or feelings. Mark highlights the significance of allowing space in relationships and how his wife's patience helped him transition from avoidant to secure attachment. For anxious partners, they stress the need to become comfortable with an avoidant partner's need for space, noting that healing happens through gradual trust-building.  Sabrina and Mark agree that understanding different standards and managing expectations are crucial for relationship success. Mark also touches on societal pressures, self-improvement, and the importance of addressing negative self-talk through journaling and mindfulness. Ultimately, they emphasize that thriving in life and love is about embracing challenges and fostering meaningful connections through honesty and self-awareness. Get Mark's book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life Get Masha and Sabrina's new course, the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknown in Early Dating HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free episodes HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Get free shipping and 365 Day returns on Quince.com HERE! Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase HERE! Also try the new LMNT Sparkling — a bold, 16-ounce can of sparkling electrolyte water. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-03-24&el=podcast Are you confused about why your partner keeps avoiding commitment? Learn the hidden fears driving dismissive avoidants and what you can do to create clarity and deeper connection in your relationships. In today's episode, Thais Gibson delves into the psychology behind why dismissive avoidants prefer casual relationships over-committed ones. Learn how fears of vulnerability, emotional neglect, and subconscious conditioning contribute to their behavior, and discover actionable steps to navigate these dynamics effectively. Listen now to uncover how communication and self-awareness can transform your approach to relationships. Timestamps 00:00:00 – Why Avoidants Prefer Casual Relationships 00:00:33 – The Frustration of Feeling Stuck in Limbo 00:01:01 – The Three Core Reasons Avoidants Avoid Commitment 00:01:22 – Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant's Fear of Vulnerability 00:02:05 – Emotional Neglect and its Long-Term Impact on Attachment 00:03:37 – How the Subconscious Mind Drives Avoidant Behaviors 00:05:12 – Misconceptions About People-Pleasing in Relationships 00:06:16 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Fear Feeling Trapped 00:08:44 – The Role of Self-Sabotage in Avoidant Dynamics 00:10:01 – Avoidants' Search for Perfection to Avoid Conflict 00:13:15 – How to Break the Cycle: Communication and Inner Work 00:15:25 – Final Thoughts: Finding Closure and Certainty Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Free Cyber Monday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/cyber-monday-14-day?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=cyber-monday&utm_content=mg-12-01-24&el=podcast In this episode, we dive deep into the dismissive avoidant attachment style and uncover why they often seem cold and unaffected after a breakup. Hosts Thais Gibson and Mike DiZio share personal insights, real-life examples, and professional expertise on attachment styles, discussing the intricate dynamics behind dismissive avoidance post-breakup behavior. Learn about the emotional boomerang effect, the role of subconscious conditioning, and how different attachment styles cope with breakups. They also explore key strategies for healing, whether you're navigating a breakup or working toward secure attachment. If you've ever felt confused or hurt by a dismissive avoidant partner's behavior—or wondered how to move on effectively—this episode provides both clarity and actionable tools. Listen now for a compassionate, insightful conversation that sheds light on attachment styles, personal growth, and the path to fulfilling relationships. Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 01:35 - Going through a Break Up (Mike) 04:33 - The Break Up Boomerang Effect 20:48 - 14-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 21:39 - How DAs Feel After a Break Up Over Time 38:05 - Opening Up and Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone 41:24 - Making Deeper Connections 45:24 - Why DAs Don't Appear to Struggle After a Break Up 51:28 - If You're on the Receiving End 55:28 - Conclusion  Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your ex is an avoidant and they dumped you, you probably think they fell out of love.  But you'd be wrong.  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the real reason most avoidants pull away or break up with you.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Is your ex an avoidant?  How do you know for sure?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares 5 phrases people with an avoidant attachment style will use when they're dating someone.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App:  iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-07-24&el=podcast In this insightful episode, we dive into the addictive cycle of attachment to avoidant partners. If you've ever found yourself caught in the emotional highs and lows of a relationship, where one day you're close and the next they're distant, this episode is for you. Host Thais Gibson, a coach and counselor with over a decade of experience in attachment theory, unpacks the psychological mechanisms that keep people hooked on avoidant partners. By exploring groundbreaking studies, Thais reveals how intermittent reinforcement affects our brains similarly to gambling or substance addiction, creating an emotional dependency. Listen in to understand why these dynamics feel so hard to break, and learn practical steps to regain control of your emotions and move toward secure, fulfilling relationships. Stick around for tools on reprogramming core wounds and identifying your own unmet needs, empowering you to break free from self-abandonment and avoid the breadcrumb relationships. Tune in, take back your life, and discover how to move towards authentic connection. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-11-04-24&el=podcast Join Thais Gibson and Mike in this deep-dive discussion into attachment theory, where they unpack why dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles may struggle with future planning and commitments. They reveal the significance of co-regulation in relationships, especially for individuals with avoidant tendencies, and how it can foster comfort in deeper connections. The episode also explores how anxious attachment styles intersect with avoidant partners and shares tools for each attachment type to work towards secure, fulfilling relationships. Listen in to understand why attachment dynamics influence relationship behaviors and to gain actionable advice on building trust and intimacy through vulnerability and self-awareness. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 03:16 - Planning for the Future: FA 15:32 - 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 16:22 - Planning For the Future: DA 24:03- Expectation for Intimacy 26:12 - Signs of Healing 28:30 - Co-regulation 38:17 - Hello Fresh 39:45 - YouTube Question: Mike (DA) & What Led Him to Change 53:07 - Integrated Attachment Theory Certification 54:17 - YouTube Question: Thais (AP) 1:00:47 - YouTube Question: Thais (FA) 1:03:04 - What Led Thais to Change 1:09:07 - Victim Mentality & Accountability 1:16:49 - Conclusion  Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethais Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-24-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-24-24&el=podcast In this episode, we dive into a common struggle faced by avoidant attachment styles: the feeling that they might be better off alone. Avoidants often question whether their fear of vulnerability and emotional connection outweighs the value of meaningful relationships. We explore four powerful questions that can help avoidants shift their mindset, break the cycle of self-sabotage, and foster deeper, healthier connections. Whether you're the avoidant or the partner of one, these insights offer practical tools to strengthen your relationships and avoid emotional withdrawal. Tune in to discover how to create lasting change and stay connected even when fears arise. Let's connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices