Love Starts Here with Love and Life Coach Melissa Snow

On today's episode, I'm joined by one of my best friends, Jen Lebo, to discuss BODY IMAGE.  If you're a woman with a body, I'm sure this is something you've struggled with at some point in your life.  We're constantly bombarded with messages about how we should look and what size our bodies should be.  Jen is here to tell you that it DOESN'T have to be this way!Tune in to learn:What body image is and how it creates a domino effect in every area of your life How body image impacts your dating and relationshipsThe key to stopping self-sabotage for GOODand SO much more!To get Jen Lebo's free "How to Overcome Self-Sabotage" guide, CLICK HERE. To join Jen's "Take Control of Your Body Image" Facebook group, CLICK HERE. 

Lack of self-trust shows up in many different ways:OverthinkingQuestioning yourselfDoubting yourselfWorry and anxiety When you learn to trust yourself, you're able to go through life, dating and relationships with more clarity, certainty and confidence.  New opportunities are available to you, inner peace is more easily accessible and you have WAY more fun! In this episode I share how self-trust (or lack of) is showing up in your dating and relationships and I give you two simple steps you can implement TODAY to start learning to trust yourself more. Mentioned in This Episode:Want to win a FREE Flare Bracelet?  To be entered to win, leave a review for the Love Starts Here podcast, take a screen shot and either DM it to me on Facebook or e-mail it to me at melissa@lovestartsherepodcast.com.  I will announce the winner on the next episode!Join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women!  We're reading I Love Me More by Jenna Banks and our first discussion is August 23!Keep the conversation about self-trust going, connect with other awesome single women and find exclusive content in the Love Starts Here Facebook group!

In this episode, Sex Coach Danielle Savory explains how sexual pleasure is the key to feeling more alive, more confident and attracting the right kind of man for you!We also discuss the most common obstacles standing women and pleasure and how ambition and perfectionism are stopping you from having more pleasure in your life right now!Danielle believes a pleasured woman is an empowered woman - regardless of your relationship status!Mentioned in This Episode:Work with me 1-1!Join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single WomenConnect With Danielle:DanielleSavory.comFollow Danielle on InstagramIt's My Pleasure Podcast

Are you one of those people who brushes off a compliment quickly or assumes the other person is "just being nice"?   Do you have a hard time seeing yourself the way that other people see you? When you can get to a place where you see yourself as your truly are - a smart, beautiful, confident, capable, successful woman that ANY guy would be lucky to have, things will change for you.  You will show up with a different energy and you will attract a different energy.  You will be more empowered to make decisions without doubting yourself.  You will never again question your worth or settle for less than you deserve.  Mentioned in Today's Episode:Enrollment for the Date Like You Mean It group coaching program is now open!  CLICK HERE for more information!I also have several spots open for 1-1 coaching!  CLICK HERE to schedule a free discovery call and find out more! CLICK HERE to join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women! 

I've learned that attracting the kind of man you want requires about 10-15% knowledge and skill and about 85-90% mindset and foundation. When you only have the knowledge and skill, you're essentially building a house on quicksand.  It may look really pretty for little while, but eventually it is going to crumble.  In today's episode, I share the 3 main areas where you need to build your foundation in order to attract (and keep!) the kind of long-term relationship you want with the kind of man you want it with!Mentioned in Today's Episode:Enrollment for the Date Like You Mean It group coaching program is now open!  CLICK HERE for more information!I also have several spots open for 1-1 coaching!  CLICK HERE to schedule a free discovery call and find out more! 

Today I'm bringing you a replay of one of our MOST POPULAR episodes from back in the day (when the podcast was still called Quest for Love). No matter who you are or how you feel about yourself, there is always room for improvement when it comes to self-esteem, self-worth and self-value. When you believe that you are worthy and valuable just as you are - that you don't have to say the right things to do the right things or be the right things to prove your worth - everything changes, especially your relationships!In this episode, I teach you about negative core beliefs and help you identify some of yours.  I also help you see the ways you are relying on external circumstances (or people) for your self-esteem and how that is working against you.  Finally, I give you tips you can start putting into practice now in order to change your negative self-talk and improve your self-esteem.P.S.  This is the last week to sign up for the Looking for Love Online Dating Challenge and you don't want to miss it!  

What if I could GUARANTEE that the man you are looking for is out there, looking for you too?  What if I could PROMISE you that you will find YOUR person?  How would that change things for you?My guess is, you'd have a lot more fun dating (yes, even on dating apps), it would be a much easier process and you'd be even more likely to find your forever sooner!This episode is all about how to get that guarantee and how it can change your experience.  BY THE WAY...Don't forget to join the Looking for Love Online Dating Challenge!  It's 5 information and action packed days designed to help you find exactly what you're looking for in a way that's simpler, faster and way more fun!

On today's episode, I'm joined by Lindsey Georgoulis from Married at Sight Season 14! She dishes on EVERYTHING including:Why she decided to get married to a stranger on television What she learned about dating and relationships through the process What she's up to now (and exactly what she's looking for in her next relationship)Her best advice for women still swimming in the murky waters of the dating pool Love her, hate her or have no idea who she is - Lindsey tells it like she is and she had some FABULOUS insight for badass single women who want to live their best life AND find love. To connect with Lindsey and learn more about all the awesome things she's doing now, FOLLOW HER ON INSTAGRAM!Also, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group, where she'll be making a guest appearance very soon!  Other MAFS Interviews on the Love Starts Here podcast:Be Unapologetically YOU w/Married at First Sight's Myrla FeriaGetting Off The Relationship Roller Coaster w/Married at First Sight's Rachel GordilloAsk a Man Anything w/Married at First Sight's Johnny Lam

As I'm wrapping up the first round of my new group program, Date Like You Mean It, the ladies I'm coaching keep coming back to ONE piece of advice that has changed everything for them - and today I'm sharing it with you!Whether you're considering jumping back into the dating pool for the first time in a long time or you've been treading water for a while and are starting to drown, this ONE mindset shift could make all the difference!Want more great tips about how to make online dating easier, more fun and more successful?  CLICK HERE to claim your free copy of the Ultimate Guide to Online Dating!You can also CLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group! 

On today's episode I'm joined by The Pleasure Priestess, Erin Berry Bliss, to discuss ALL THINGS PLEASURE. We're digging into:What pleasure really is How to find the things that bring you pleasure Why pleasure is hard for high-achieving womenHow pleasure can increase your confidence and make you feel more empoweredThis episode is SO JUICY! Want more pleasure in your life?  CLICK HERE to book a free discovery call with Erin. P.S. -  Erin will be LIVE in the Love Starts Here Facebook group on Thursday to share more about "Pleasure as Power" so don't miss that!Also Mentioned in This Episode:Erin's Pleasure Seekers GroupThe Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women  Date Like You Mean It Group Coaching Program 

Today's episode is all about jealousy - and you're gonna want to listen even if you think jealousy is not an issue for you. The truth is, jealousy shows up in lots of ways you may not even recognize as jealousy and it can ruin a relationship without you even knowing that's what happened. Today we discuss:The difference between envy and jealousy and how each shows up in relationships Where jealousy REALLY comes from and why it happensThe places you need to heal to make sure jealousy doesn't create problems in your current or future relationshipsMentioned on today's episode:  Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown 

On today's episode, I interview Communication Expert Ali Arena about the four main communication styles:  Captivator, Factor, Director and Listener...Ali explains:How to identify your communication styleHow women and men differ in communication stylesHow communication styles show up in dating and how you can use yours to your advantageWhether you identify more as a "Listener" or as a "Director," Ali has excellent wisdom on little changes you can make today that will help improve your dates and strengthen all of your relationships!To connect with Ali CLICK HERE 

When it comes to dating, there are a lot of things that create anxiety...Will he like me?  Will I like him? Will he call me again? Should I call him?  What if I look desperate?  What if I get my heart broken?The keys to wiping this anxiety out for good are ACCEPTANCE and HAVING YOUR OWN BACK. In this episode, I'll explain exactly what I mean and tell you how you can start doing both of these things TODAY.  When you learn acceptance and how to have your own back, not only will you have more fun dating but you will start attracting a different type of man and you will create stronger, more fulfilling connections.  Mentioned in this episode:CLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook GroupCLICK HERE to join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women  

On today's episode I interview Dedeker Winston, cohost of the Mutliamory podcast.  Dedeker is also a relationship coach specializing in non-traditional relationships and the author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory. We dig into the process of deciding what kind of relationship you REALLY want, not just what you think you're supposed to want. We also discuss the similarities between monogamous and polyamorous relationships and what each can learn from the other. Even if you're committed to being monogamous forever, this episode will help you explore other areas of your relationship and your life to decide what it is is you REALLY want.  CLICK HERE to find out more about Dedeker and how to work with her!Also mentioned in this episode:  What Love Is And What It Could Be by Carrie JenkinsThe Love Starts Here Facebook Group

Last week, in the Love Starts Here Facebook group, I asked what the HARDEST thing about dating is and you told me things like:Men are dumbOnline dating sucksIt's such a waste of timeToday I'm going to lay down some tough love that you need to hear. I'm going to tell you the REAL reason dating is hard for you - and it's probably not what you think (or what you want to hear). The good news is, if I'm right (which I am) then changing your results and making dating easier is totally within YOUR control - and I'll tell you exactly how to do it. Mentioned in This Episode:Join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women!  We're starting "Emotional Unavailability" by Bryn C. Collins in a few weeks!

In Episode # 65, we discussed how to SPOT low effort men.  Today, I'm going to tell you the secrets to becoming a woman who actually repels emotionally unavailable, low effort and low value men.  And the best part about this is that when you become that  woman, you will automatically attract the exact type of man you thought only existed in your dreams. Plus, we chat about why it can be so hard to resist these men sometimes, and how learning to trust yourself plays a huge part in your dating success!Mentioned In This Episode:The Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women Episode #65 - Spotting a Low Effort Man Episode #4 - Emotionally Unavailable Men The Love Starts Here Facebook Group 

On today's episode, I'm chatting with Dating Coach and founder of the Manfunnel Method, Megan Weks!We discussThe #1 mistake women are making in dating right now The difference between linear dating and the Manfunnel Method (and why the latter is SO much more effective!)The criteria you should use when deciding whether to commit to an exclusive relationship with someoneThe art of "nexting" and why it's essential to your dating success and SO MUCH MORE!  If you're new to the dating scene or considering jumping back in, this episode is a MUST listen!  Even if you've been dating for a while but haven't had much luck finding Mr. Right, Megan has SO much wisdom that will help you look at dating in a whole new light!  To learn more about the Manfunnel Method and to connect with Megan, CLICK HERE!

One of the biggest reasons women get burned out on dating (especially online) is because they waste too much time and energy on low effort men!On today's episode I'm sharing some of the key things to look for on the apps, on your first few dates and beyond to help you identify a low effort man much quicker and more easily than before!Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 where we'll discuss why women have a hard time walking away from low effort men and how to become a woman who actually repels and resists low effort men.  P.S.  I still have a few spots open in my new group program, Date Like You Mean It, at an extremely reduced rate!  If you want to know more, CLICK HERE to schedule a call with me!

The topic of overthinking has been coming up a lot lately with my clients and in the Love Starts Here Facebook group.The problem with overthinking is that although it can feel very productive, it's actually not. Overthinking keeps you stuck in indecision, prevents you from moving forward, drains your confidence and zaps your time and energy.  On today's episode, I'll tell you exactly what causes you to overthink - and it's probably not what you think it is! I'll also give you two solid tips for how you can stop overthinking - especially when it comes to dating and relationships!P.S.  I still have a few spots open in my new group program, Date Like You Mean It, at an extremely reduced rate!  If you want to know more, CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult!

In today's episode, I interview the UK's top Celebrity Dating and Relationship Coach James Preece!We discuss:Why now is actually the PERFECT time to find your person (and how to get over your excuses, no matter how true they sound!)Why it seems like there are no good men left (even though there are!)James' #1 tip for dating successfully in the "new normal"And SO much more!Also, the story of how James got into this line of work is AWESOME.To find out more about James, his "Love Machine" podcast and his book "Your Soulmate Is Waiting,"  CLICK HERE or check out www.jamespreece.com

In this episode, I finally get to interview my #girlcrush Alina Rose.Alina is a women's relationship coach and personal power mentor.  She is brilliant, direct, intuitive, witty and passionate about helping women live more authentic, connected and powerful lives. In this episode, we talk about:What masculine vs. feminine energy really isWhy feminine energy isn't weak or anti-feministHow to know if your masculine energy is sabotaging you How to be vulnerable and let go of control even when you're scared of being hurt again AND SO MUCH MORE!To connect with Alina on Instagram CLICK HEREFor all of her other links, CLICK HERE Also mentioned: Join the LOVE STARTS HERE Facebook GroupEpisode #56 - Ask a Man Anything w/Johnny Lam 

On today's episode I'm joined by Breakup Coach Trina LeckieHow going "no contact" helps you get over him 10x quickerWhy even smart women feel tempted to go back to their exThe #1 thing to focus on if you want to heal your heart and find love again Even if you're not fresh out of breakup, there are so many nuggets of wisdom in this episode that will help you stop wasting time and get closer to finding love. Mentioned On This Episodes:CLICK HERE to register for the free "How to Find a Man Worth Marrying" masterclass! CLICK HERE to learn more and connect with Breakup Coach Trina Leckie!

On today's episode, I interview Love Coach Lisa Shield about why even smart, successful women feel tempted to "settle" when it comes to relationships.  We discuss the difference between settling and compromising and Lisa shares some great advice for what you can do when you're feeling like there are "just no good men left."To learn more about Lisa, CLICK HERE and be sure to check out her podcast, "Dating Without Drama."Also mentioned in this episode:CLICK HERE to register for my free webinar, "How Women Who Have Been Dating For More Than Six Months Can Find a Man Worth Marrying" CLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group for ambitious single women ready to find love!

This is my annual pep talk for all you single, dating and "It's Complicated" ladies!This is my reminder that being alone on Valentine's Day doesn't mean anything about you or your ability to find love. This is my reminder not to compare your inside to everyone else's outside. And this is my reminder that you are complete.  You are enough.  You are worthy.  On this day, and every day, regardless of your relationship status.Mentioned In This Episode:CLICK HERE to register for the free webinar, "How Women Who Have Been Dating For Over Six Months Can Find a Man Worth Marrying"

On today's episode I'm talking with Relationship Coach Melissa Ledger - founder of Gumball Love, creator of the Back to You Academy and the host of the Gumball Love podcast!If you've ever had:A man ghost you A man who seemed really into you one day but then pulled away the nextSomeone in your life who always seemed to want something from you People who leave and come back into your life over and overThen this episode is for you!Melissa explains what a "Gumball Guy" (or girl!)  is and why they act the way they do.  We also dive into how to spot a "Gumball Guy" quickly so you don't waste any more time on one-sided, transactional relationships.  For more information about Melissa and Gumball Love, CLICK HERE!Follow Melissa on Instagram HERE and CLICK HERE to check out the Gumball Love podcast!

We all have spoken and unspoken "agreements" we have made with ourselves, other people and the Universe. These agreements tell you who you are, how you should behave, what is possible and what is impossible. They impact our life and our relationships significantly because they become the lens we see everything through.  In this episode, we dig into those agreements and explore the ways they lead to self-sabotage and keep you from the love and life you want.Mentioned In This Episode:CLICK HERE to purchase a ticket to the Virtual Valentine's Day Dinner PartyCLICK HERE to register for the free webinar, "How Women Who Have Been Dating For Over Six Months Can Find a Man Worth Marrying"CLICK HERE to join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women 

It's time for another "Ask a Man Anything" episode and this time I have Married at First Sight Season 13's Johnny Lam answering all your burning questions including...Why men are so bad at talking about their feelings How to spice up a stale relationshipWhy men ghostHow to make a serial dater fall in love And SO MUCH MORE!  I also asked him several of your MAFS questions, including what's REALLY up with him and Myrla!  Also mentioned in this episode:CLICK HERE to join the waitlist for the Virtual Valentine's Day Dinner PartyCLICK HERE to listen to MAFS Myrla Feria's episode - "Be Unapologetically You"CLICK HERE to listen to MAFS Rachel Gordillo's episode "Getting Off the Relationship Roller Coaster"

On today's episode, we're talking about the dramatic stories your brain tells that keep you STUCK in your old patterns.  I tell you exactly why this happens (good news - you're totally normal) and I share the "magic words" to watch for as clues that your brain is being overly dramatic.  I also share the 2 key questions to ask yourself next time you notice your brain doing it's drama thang! CLICK HERE to join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single WomenCLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group! 

If you're tired of repeating the same patterns and attracting the same type of man over and over, there are two key actions you can take this year that will change everything:1.  Goal Setting 2.  Evaluating Your Results Sexy, right?! In this episode, I share exactly what kind of goals you should be setting when it comes to dating and relationships and the three key questions you should ask yourself when evaluating your results.  These are super simple steps that are guaranteed to help you find the one in 2022.Mentioned in this episode:CLICK HERE to follow me on Instagram!CLICK HERE to join the Virtual Book Club for Badass Single Women CLICK HERE to book a free consult and discover how working with me will help you finally find the long-term relationship you want with a man who is your equal!

Hey Everyone!  I'm on vacation for one more week cooking up some awesome things for 2022, including a single ladies virtual book club and my INCREDIBLE Valentine's Day Virtual Dinner Party.  You do not want to miss these things, so make sure you join the Love Starts Here Facebook group TODAY!In the meantime, please enjoy the replay of one of my most downloaded episodes!  Mindset might seem like a boring topic when it comes to love and relationships but it's actually the #1 REASON women aren't finding or keeping the love they want and deserve.Now is the perfect time to listen to this episode again (or for the first time) as we embark on a New Year and you begin setting goals for your love and life,  In this episode, I explain why mindset matters, why it's NOT just a bunch of woo, and the most important question you can ask yourself when making ANY decision.I'll be back next week with a brand new episode so be sure to SUBSCRIBE!  

Today I'm bringing you a replay of one of our MOST POPULAR episodes from back in the day (when the podcast was still called Quest for Love).  In today's episode, I discuss four truths that might be hard for some of you to accept, but you NEED to hear this:1.  Sex is not love.2.  Obligation is not love.3.  Fear is not love.4.  Comfort is not love.And I'm going to tell you exactly what to do if your mind gets jumbled up and forgets everything you know about what love is AND what it isn't.  After this episode originally aired, I received so much feedback from women who had NO idea that they confusing sex, obligation, fear or comfort for love and that THIS is what was keeping them stuck.  This episode is SO powerful that I wanted to make sure you heard it again (or for the first time)!If you love the episode, be sure to leave a review and join us in the Love Starts Here Facebook group for exclusive content you won't find anywhere else!

In this episode, I interview Rachel Gordillo, one of my favorite cast members from Married at First Sight Season 13.Rachel opens up about the ups and downs of her marriage and what ultimately led to her divorce. She also shares what she learned through the whole process and how she became a woman who was willing to say, "I deserve better" and walk away.  We also discuss compatibility, non-negotiables, how to know when your relationship is really over.   Of course, I also had to ask her about the infamous night when she got locked out of her apartment and so much more!-------CLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook Group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free breakthrough call!Also mentioned:  Love Starts Here Episode 47 - Compatibility 

In this episode, I interview Myrla Feria, one of my favorite cast members from Married at First Sight Season 13. Myrla explains how she became so confident and how she remains so unapologetically herself, despite what people say about her.She explains how the people you surround yourself with impact your self-worth and how to create a life that leaves little room for self doubt.  We also discuss the importance of speaking up for yourself, why it's important to never compromise on what you want in a relationship and how to not let other people's opinions define you.And OF COURSE, I had to ask her about her current relationship status, how she handles all the haters and SO much more! CLICK HERE to join the Love Starts Here Facebook Group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free breakthrough call!Also mentioned in this episode:  "Who is in Your Square Squad?" - Brene Brown 

You want to find your person.  You long to find love.  You've waited your whole life for the relationship of your dreams...But are you really willing to do whatever it takes to have it?In this episode, we'll explore your answer to that question and the two most likely reasons you might feel like giving up on love sometimes.  I'll help you identify exactly where your work is so you know exactly what's keeping you from having what you really want.When you're ready to do that work,   join the Love Starts Here Facebook group or apply for my new 3-month program, The Relationship Reset.

Relationships can be confusing but when you love an alcoholic or an addict things are even more complex. On today's episode, I'm joined by fellow Life Coach Deanna Marie who works specifically with women who are in a relationship with an addict. We discuss what to do when you can't get the other person to change their ways and how you can still be happy, live a beautiful life and feel love for him no matter what he does.  Whether you are now or have been in a relationship with an addict in the past, this episode is full of wisdom that will help you along on your journey. For more information about Deanna and how to work with her check out www.DeannaMarieLifeCoaching.com 

Woo Hoo!  We're celebrating 50 EPISODES of the Love Starts Here podcast!In this podcast, I'm counting down the top 5 most downloaded episodes and giving you the highlights from each one.  Even if you've been a loyal listener from the beginning, this episode is full of good reminders and insights your brain may have forgotten!To listen to the full episodes, use the links below and don't forget to leave a review!#5 - Episode 10 - Five Tips For Moving On From Your Ex#4 - Episode 20 - Self Confidence Secrets#3 - Episode 33 - How Mindset Impacts Your Life (and Love)#2 - Episode 14 - What is Love?#1 - Episode 29 - Perfection, Sex-Clubs and Self-Love w/Ashleigh Renard, Author of Swing 

Single, Dating and "It's Complicated" ladies!  I know it gets frustrating putting yourself out there over and over again and never getting the results you want (and deserve!)In today's episode, I'm sharing 3 of the most likely reasons you haven't found love yet and I'll tell you exactly what to do about it. If any of these resonate with you, apply for my new 3-month program, The Relationship Reset today!  Also, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group where we dive deeper into these topics and so much more!

This episode is for anyone who has been cheated on, betrayed by or simply lost trust in someone they love.  It's also for anyone who has ever struggled with the decision whether to stay in your relationship or leave it. In this episode I'm joined by Andrea Giles, a Life Coach who specializes in helping women recover after their partner's infidelity. We talk about how you can learn to trust that person again (and whether you should).  We also discuss how hard it can be to trust yourself again and Andrea shares specific strategies for how you can start to gain that trust back.  Plus, Andrea shares her #1 tip for making a decision whether to stay or go that you can feel good about without second guessing yourself. For more information about Andrea Giles CLICK HERE.  Also, be sure to check out her podcast, Heal From Infidelity.  

Most people think compatibility means liking the same music, having similar hobbies, making each other laugh, etc. but getting along well with someone and TRULY being compatible in a relationship are very different things.  In this episode we're talking about what compatibility REALLY means, in terms of:Negotiables vs. Non-NegotiablesGiving Up Parts of Yourself or Your LifeShared Values Future Goals Love-Ability If you've dated in the past or your dating now and you keep ending up in dead-end relationships,  it could very well be that you are missing key signs that you're not actually compatible for a long term relationship!  This episode will also help you look at past relationships and see exactly why they didn't work out, so you can avoid making the same mistakes again!CLICK HERE TO REGISTER for my FREE Masterclass, "Love Doesn't Have to Be So Hard - 5 Powerful Tips to Have More Fun and Success in Dating" 

Do you ever wonder why you do the things you do in relationships?  Want to know how to stop obsessing and ruminating or why you go from hot to cold so quickly?On today's episode, I'm joined by Life Coach Jennifer Inman to discuss attachment styles - what are they, were do they come from, and how do they impact our relationships?No matter your relationship status, this episode is a game-changer.  For more information about Jennifer and to take a quiz to find out YOUR attachment style, visit www.RelationshipIQ.com 

Vaguebooking. Thirst trap photos. My Facebook post. They all have one thing in common - wanting to borrow other people's thoughts. We all do it sometimes. When we're feeling insecure, unsafe, confused or upset we get stuck on a thought loop that continues to create those crappy feelings. When we're stuck on the thought loop we forget there are OTHER thoughts we could think instead. When we rely on other people to get us out of the thought loop, we throw out bait (like vaguebooking or a thirst trap photo) hoping to catch other people's thoughts so we can borrow them for awhile. Thoughts like:You're so hot!Don't listen to other people!You got this! Everything will be okay!You're strong! He doesn't deserve you!It's totally normal and we ALL do it but you don't have to rely on other people to get you out of the thought loop. That middle step isn't necessary if you continue to ask yourself, "What thoughts am I forgetting to think right now?" It's the quickest way out of a thought loop and it works every time.P.S.  Don't forget to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group, where we dive way deeper into topics like this and support each other every step of the way.  

On today's episode of the Love Starts Here podcast, I'm joined by my fellow Life Coach and client Laura Kelley!We're discussing the power of Life Coaching and how it can transform ALL your relationships, including the one you have with yourself!  If you've ever felt like a "pick me" girl, struggled with feeling not good enough, wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men or felt conflicted about what to do in your current relationship, THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU!P.S.  Laura is NOT a unicorn!  If you want the same amazing results she's had from coaching with me, CLICK HERE to schedule your free consult!  P.P.S.  If your an attorney struggling with burnout  you can get more information about Laura and her podcast, The Joyful Attorney, at www.thejoyfulattorney.com

This week I was reading a thread in a FB group where women were setting each other up with their single, male friends.  Someone commented in the thread "You all need to stop looking for love everywhere and learn to love yourself."  I was bothered by this idea what wanting someone to share your life with might automatically mean that you don't love yourself.  The truth is...YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF AND STILL WANT A RELATIONSHIP.YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF AND STILL WANT SEX.YOU CAN LOVE YOUSELF AND STILL WANT A MAN IN YOUR LIFE.But you do want to be honest with yourself about WHY you want a relationship or you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak.For more, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult!

Have you ever had a great  first date and then spent days obsessing over whether or not he's going to call you again?Do you agonize over what you're going to say next, try to decode what his texts actually mean and then stress out when it seems like he's pulling away or acting flaky?If so, this is the podcast for you!  In today's episode, I interview Dating and Confidence Coach Amber Grubenmann about all things dating anxiety - what it is, where it comes from and most importantly, how to stop it from getting in the way of having the love you truly want and deserve! For more information about Amber and the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast, CLICK HERE.  You can also connect with Amber on Instagram!  

Life is full of triggers.  In order to have the healthy and happy relationship you want and deserve, you have to learn how to recognize them, process them and act on them (or not) in a way that works for YOU.  In this episode, I'll share:-  What a trigger is and what it isn't-  My top 3 strategies for dealing with triggers -  How to tell the difference between a trigger and a red flagFor more, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult!

Today's episode is a little bonus for you - some inspiration to get you through the day and remind you that it's never too late to change how your story ends.  P.S.  Be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group for more exclusive content like this!P.P.S.  If you want help and support changing the way your story ends, CLICK HERE to book a free consult with me!

These are some of the question I hear most from women:How do I know if my relationship is toxic?What is a healthy relationship anyway?How can I make my partner change his toxic behavior?In today's episode I'm answering all three of those question.  Plus, I'll explain WHY toxic people act the way they do and how they use their toxic behaviors to control you.  And, most importantly, I'll tell you how to make it stop!For more on toxic relationships, join the Love Starts Here Facebook group and search for "Toxic Relationships."If you'd like help with your own toxic relationship (or just making sure you never get in another one again), CLICK HERE to book a chat with me!

Last night, we kicked off the Know Yourself Show Yourself Challenge!Don't worry if you're not registered - there's still time!  Just click the link. What I realized during our kickoff party is that the women in the challenge all have one thing in common - they all have THE SECRET INGREDIENT.This is the one thing I've seen over and over again that determines who keeps going until they have the love and life they want and deserve and who gives up and settles for less.  In this episode I'll tell you what the secret ingredient is, I'll show you why it's so important and I'll give you a few really simple steps you can take if you want more of it!  Don't forget to CLICK HERE to register for the FREE Know Yourself Show Yourself Challenge!

When a relationship ends, it's natural to feel sad, confused and lost.  Many women struggle with their identity and their self-worth in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup.On this episode, Divorce Coach Holly McClain will help you feel "normal" - no matter what you're going through.  We cover how to let yourself grieve, why it can be so hard to love yourself after a breakup and Holly shares some super powerful tools you can use to help move beyond where you are now, closer to the love and life you want and deserve. To connect with Holly, go to www.HollyMcClainCoaching.comYou can also download my free "Beyond Breakup Workbook" for more tools to help you feel better right now.    For more info on the FREE 5-day Know Yourself Show Yourself challenge (beginning Monday 8/16/21 click here:  https://lovestartsherecoach.com/the-know-yourself-show-yourself-challenge/

If you're struggling to find or keep the kind of relationship you really want, it may be because you are emotionally unavailable in some way.  In this episode, I'll help you figure out:If you're emotionally unavailable or notIf you're over your ex or notHow your past relationships have created your current beliefsHow to move forward without beating yourself upFor more info on today's topics, check out:Episode #4 - Emotionally Unavailable Men Episode #10 - Five Tips for Moving on From Your ExThe Love Starts Here Facebook GroupYou can also check out www.lovestartsherecoach.com for more info about me, my services, and how to schedule a free consult!

I hear it all the time....ONLINE DATING SUCKS!  But it doesn't have to be this way!In this podcast I share my TOP 5 TIPS for how to make online dating suck less...and the last one will definitely surprise you! After you listen, be sure to CLICK HERE to download my Ultimate Guide to Online Dating for TONS more tips on how to make online dating more fun and more successful than ever before.  Plus, you'll get a link to download my "Pre-Date Playlist"!