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We're back with another Q&A episode this week! Today we'll be discussing some listener questions about using the word "love" in a relationship, polyamorous identity, and talking about non-monogamy with friends and family who think it's all about the sex. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Join our amazing community of listeners at . We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by . Follow us on Instagram and visit our website . We are a proud member of the network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to recognize which one is showing up for yourself, and discuss some ways to disrupt the pattern and create new choreography with your partner(s). Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at https://prettylitter.com/multiamory prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Join our amazing community of listeners at https://multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand https://joshandanand.bandcamp.com/music. Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/multiamory_podcast/ @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website https://www.multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're discussing cognitive reappraisal, or the notion of thinking your way out of a negative emotional response to a given situation. We'll be going over research available on cognitive reappraisal, what it looks like in real life, and whether or not it's just gaslighting yourself into feeling like your relationship is better than it actually is. Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Join our amazing community of listeners at https://multiamory.supercast.com We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by https://joshandanand.bandcamp.com/music Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/multiamory_podcast/ and visit our website https://www.multiamory.com We are a proud member of the https://www.pleasurepodcasts.com/ Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're getting into the nitty gritty details of ending relationships, whether it's by breaking up or de-escalating. We'll be discussing all the different ways relationships constantly change, defining some terms for uncoupling, how to navigate the challenges of separating, and some practical ways you can make these transitions smoother, healthier, and a more positive experience for everyone. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about a universal human experience: wanting to feel better after a relationship ends. However, a lot of us end up seeking the wrong type of closure, and we can stay stuck in pain for even longer. In this episode we're going to discuss the difference between searching for answers and wanting to feel true acceptance, the science behind our need for closure, and of course, some practical tools to figure out what kind of closure you might need. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3, &4. Get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets with code: MULTI Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're answering some more listener questions! We'll be tackling some questions about moving too fast in relationships, relationship hierarchy, and primary versus non-primary relationships. Want your question answered on a future Q&A episode? Become on of our Supercast subscribers at multiamory.com/join on a sliding scale! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3, &4. Get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets by using code MULTIAMORY. Pretty Litter keeps your house smelling fresh and clean. Save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy with code Multiamory at https://PrettyLitter.com/multiamory We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about metamour relationships with Alex Alberto. Alex is a queer author, publisher, and filmmaker. Last year, Alex published their memoir, “Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home” through Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors they co-founded. This year, Alex is producing a short film called “Coming Out Polyamorous for Thanksgiving,” which is based on an essay from Entwined. Alex also leads writers' retreats and courses at Scrappy Literary, and some of their classes focus on helping writers of all levels write about non-monogamy and unconventional relationships. Alex is originally from Montreal but lives in Upstate New York with their partner, metamour, and kids. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. The Seattle Erotic Art Festival is May 2, 3, &4. Get 10% off select festival passes at seaf.art/tickets! We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're excited to welcome Diana Adams and Brett Chamberlin back to the show to discuss advocacy, relationship rights, and more. Diana Adams (they/them) is an international legal leader in advocacy for queer family forms beyond the romantic dyad. Diana is the Executive Director of Chosen Family Law Center, a nonprofit advocating for diverse family structures, & runs a boutique law firm providing mediation services nationwide for those hoping to negotiate intentional or polyamorous families. Diana's TED talk ‘Why US Laws Must Expand Beyond the Nuclear Family' explains their expansive vision of family. Find them on all socials @DianaAdamsEsq. Brett Chamberlin (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experience building a more just and joyous future. He is the founder and Executive Director of OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Prior to launching OPEN, Brett worked in the environmental movement as the Director of Community Engagement at The Story of Stuff Project and the co-founder of the Post Landfill Action Network. Check out the legislative toolkit from OPEN for ways to help further local legislation in your area: harvard.turtl.co/story/polyamory-legislative-toolkit. Download the 5 calls app to contact your representatives and hold them accountable: https://5calls.org/. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with another Q&A episode! Today we're answering some questions from our Supercast subscribers about organizing local polyamory meetups, how to handle guilt you feel even when a partner is telling you not to feel guilty, and strategies to deal with missing a partner you don't live with. If you want to have your question answered on a future Q&A episode, visit multiamory.com/join to become one of our Supercast subscribers! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're tackling a heavy topic: denial. Most of us have dealt with this at one point or another, especially when it comes to relationships, whether it's denial that that relationship is over or whether or not someone is attracted to you. We'll be doing a deep dive into why we often fall into denial, whether or not denial can be a helpful force in our lives, and how to know if you're in denial. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about equity, equality, and fairness in all relationships, but particularly non-monogamous ones. We'll discuss the differences between equity and equality, perceived fairness, equity among multiple partners, and more! As always, we'll have some practical takeaways at the end of the episode to help you be more aware of equity and fairness in your relationships and how to communicate about it better. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textHiatus Week 11: Self-Care, Self-Work, and Somatic Healing Playlist for Personal GrowthEven while I'm taking some time off, I want to continue showing up for you and pursuing my passion, which is to help people break free from societal norms and rethink everything they know about relationships. I truly believe there's a new paradigm for relationships being birthed, one grounded in the concept and foundations of relationship diversity.So, to keep the conversations alive, I've taken a look back at my two years of episodes and noticed some exciting themes emerging. Each week, during my hiatus, I'll post a specially curated playlist of episodes centered on a specific topic. Then you'll find links to those episodes in the show notes to help you dive deeper into areas that might resonate with where you are in your journey.Let's continue exploring, growing, and embracing the expansiveness of relationship diversity together. This week's theme is focused on self-care, self-inquiry, and self-work. The highlighted episodes cover a range of topics including the essentials of self-care, the benefits of somatic therapy, tackling the inner critic, holistic healing and generational relationship wounds, finding tenderness during relationship challenges, self-care as self-advocacy, and understanding fear in relationship exploration and growth. Each episode is designed to help listeners navigate and embrace relationship diversity while focusing on personal growth.Episode 20: Self-Care is NOT a Luxury!Episode 81: Your Body Never Lies: How Somatic Therapy Can Catapult Your Diverse Relationship Experience with Dedeker Winston and Orit KrugEpisode 89: Dismantling Your Debilitating Inner-CriticEpisode 90: Uncovering Generational Relationship Wounds and Holistic Healing with Jayden AubrynEpisode 106: Finding Tenderness While Facing Relationship Challenges with Molly ReaghEpisode 111: Self-Care as a Form of Self-AdvocacyEpisode 116: Fear's Role in Relationship Exploration and GrowthThis is Relationships Reimagined.Join the conversation as we dive into a new paradigm of conscious, intentional and diverse relationships. ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity GuideConnect with me:WebsiteGet my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Guide to Overcome HeartbSupport the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

Today we're chatting about romantic relationships, friendships, and the ways we often treat the two differently. Why do we think of our romantic partners as our most intimate and important connections, and yet sometimes don't treat them with the same respect and kindness we do our friends? We'll be talking about why we tend to do this and how we can foster more understanding in romantic relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Get 10% off our private, discreet STD tests at https://www.stdhero.com when you use promo code MULTI10 Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about attention and attentiveness as a relationship resource. It's natural for us to want to feel loved, important, and listened to, especially by our partners and family. But distraction happens, particularly nowadays in a digital age, and if your partner is distracted by work, their phone, other partners, or just other life priorities, it can be really distressing to feel like there's a lack of attention. We're going to be discussing why this can be so upsetting, the most important things to know about attentiveness, and how to cope if you're feeling that lack of attention. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're answering some more listener questions, and we're also being joined by Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project to get their perspectives on non-monogamy and parenting. We'll be discussing some questions about parenting, meeting like-minded people, guilt, and missing non-nesting partners. Abbey and Liam have been together for over twelve years and non-monogamous for over a decade. Together they started the Evolving Love Project which hosts monthly conversation nights for non-monogamous or curious folk in Canberra and Sydney, Australia and co-host the acclaimed podcast Evolving Love. Abbey also publishes weekly on Substack with her musings on non-monogamy, parenthood & sexuality. They believe that by removing the stigma from these topics, collectively we can push the culture in a positive, caring and more loving direction. If you want one of your questions answered on a future Q&A episode, consider joining our exclusive community at www.multiamory.com/join! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about the need for approval many of us feel every day and the impact it can have on our relationships. We're discussing what approval-seeking and people-pleasing are, whether seeking approval is always harmful in a relationship, pros and cons of seeking approval, and more. As always, we'll also share some actionable tools at the end of the episode to increase self-esteem, reduce anxiety, and keep relationships healthy and happy. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're focusing on solo polyamory! We'll be covering what solo polyamory is, its variations and the different forms it can take, and why you might want to be solo polyamorous. We'll also go into detail about criticism of solo polyamory and what its implications might be on your romantic relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about romanticization and its role in our relationships, our lives, and more. We all idealize something, whether it's a place, a person, or a choice, but what happens when our idealized version clashes with reality? We'll be discussing whether romanticization is helpful for us and our life choices or if it ultimately hurts us in the long run. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiamory Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions for this week's Q&A episode include: - Any tips for long distance polyamory? - How do you deal with guilt over having a stronger romantic connection with one partner? - Could space away from a partner calm down polyamory related anxiety attacks? - How to deal with conflict of NRE when your partner takes so long to process feelings? - Any tips for people opening up after eight y ears together? How to deprogram systemic monogamy? - Why is there such a negative sentiment/stigma towards polyamory? Why all of the disapproval? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. ⁠Sign up today⁠! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

We're back with another Q&A from our lovely subscribers! Today, we're discussing mono-normativity, metamour relationships, and polysaturation as we answer some questions posed by our listeners. Visit multiamory.com/join to become part of our excellent community! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textHiatus Week 4:Relationships and Healing: Curated Playlist for Growth, Self-Awareness, and Breaking PatternsSponsor for this episode: Poly Healing Retreat with Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug~APPLY HERE Even while I'm taking some time off, I want to continue showing up for you and pursuing my passion, which is to help people break free from societal norms and rethink everything they know about relationships. I truly believe there's a new paradigm for relationships being birthed, one grounded in the concept and foundations of relationship diversity.So, to keep the conversations alive, I've looked back at my two years of episodes and noticed some exciting themes emerging. During my hiatus, I'll post a specially curated playlist of episodes centered on a specific topic each week. Links are provided below.Let's continue exploring, growing, and embracing the expansiveness of relationship diversity together.  The theme for this week is centered on relationships and healing. The playlist features episodes on topics such as wounded versus healed expression in relationships, the non-linear healing journey, navigating the Bardo after a breakup, understanding relational discomfort, and breaking free from relationship patterns. These episodes offer tools and insights for deeper self-awareness and lasting relationship fulfillment. Highlighted episodes include: Episode 3: Wounded Vs. Healed Expression in Diverse RelationshipsEpisode 19: There Is No Magic Finish Line with Your Healing Journey Episode 54: Navigating the Bardo: Embracing Personal Growth and Healing After a Breakup Episode 82: The Hidden Message Beneath Relationship DiscomfortEpisode 121: Break Free from Relationship Patterns: Tools for Deep Healing and Lasting GrowthThis is Relationships Reimagined.Join the conversation as we dive into a new paradigm of conscious, intentional and diverse relationships. ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity GuideConnect with me:InstagramWebsiteGet my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Guide to Overcome Heartbreak for GoodPodcast Music by Zachariah HickmanSupport the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

We're bringing back a special conversation between Dedeker and Orit Krug! Orit is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Orit helps individuals & couples expand their capacity for self-love and intimacy in relationships by processing past trauma stored in the body. Orit is polyamorous, partnered, and a parent to a toddler. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Get 10% off our private, discreet STD tests at stdhero.com when you use promo code MULTI10 Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone always wonders if it is possible to be monogamous to polyamorous person successfully. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Looking for a way to better connect with your emotions? Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist Orit Krug are leading a somatic therapy retreat for polyamorous folks in Crete from March 31st to April 3rd, 2025. Sign up today! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 10% off your first month. Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Send us a textHiatus Week 3:Polyamory Insights: Curated Playlist of Stories, Challenges, and Relationship WisdomSponsor for this episode: Poly Healing Retreat with Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug~APPLY HERE In this week's episode, I continue my hiatus series by reflecting on emerging themes from two years of episodes.  This week's theme: Polyamory. I introduce a curated playlist focusing on polyamory, featuring selected episodes that cover various aspects of polyamorous relationships, including foundational concepts, challenges, and personal stories. Notable episodes include discussions on relationship dynamics, wisdom from polyamorous elders, and the concept of solo polyamory. Episodes mentioned include: Episode 13: Let's Take a Deeper Look at Polyamory Episode 93: What Makes Polyamory Work (Part 1) with Libby SinbackEpisode 94: What Makes Polyamory Work (Part 2) with Libby Sinback Episode 96: Wisdom From Our Polyamorous Elders with Susan Bratton Part 1 Episode 97: Wisdom From Our Polyamorous Elders with Susan Bratton Part 2 Episode 101: Exploring the World of Solo Polyamory Episode 109.5 Is Polyamory an Identity or a Lifestyle Choice? With Rich and Siobhan of The Poly (Pod) Cast This is Relationships Reimagined.Join the conversation as we dive into a new paradigm of conscious, intentional and diverse relationships. ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity GuideConnect with me: YouTubeInstagramWebsiteGet my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Guide to Overcome Heartbreak for GoodPodcast Music by Zachariah HickmanSupport the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

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Today we're going back to some polyamory 101 basics and talking about opening up previously monogamous relationships. We'll be talking about some helpful things to consider before opening up your relationship, what to do during the critical period where things are shifting, and how to maintain your partnership(s) after the initial opening up. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.

Send us a textHiatus Week 2: Cultivating a Healthy Relationship with Self – Playlist on Self-Awareness and Self-Understanding Sponsor for this episode: Poly Healing Retreat with Dedeker Winston and Orit Krug~APPLY HEREEven while I'm taking some time off, I want to continue showing up for you and pursuing my passion, which is to help people break free from societal norms and rethink everything they know about relationships. I truly believe there's a new paradigm for relationships being birthed, one grounded in the concept and foundations of relationship diversity. So, to keep the conversations alive, I've taken a look back at my two years of episodes and noticed some exciting themes emerging. Each week, during my hiatus, I'll post a specially curated playlist of episodes centered on a specific topic. Then you'll find links to those episodes in the show notes to help you dive deeper into areas that might resonate with where you are in your journey. Let's continue exploring, growing, and embracing the expansiveness of relationship diversity together.  In the second week of hiatus, I share a curated playlist focused on the theme of 'relationship with self.' Emphasizing the importance of cultivating a healthy self-relationship, the playlist includes episodes discussing self-awareness, self-acceptance, and the balance between selfishness and selflessness.  Episodes mentioned: Episode 5: Your #1 Relationship ~ Relationship with SelfEpisode 6: How Do I Get to Know MyselfEpisode 14: Is It Selfish to Love YourselfEpisode 118: Let's Be Real with Our Relationship Experiences – Wisdom from Evita LaVitaloca Sawyers This is Relationships Reimagined.Join the conversation as we dive into a new paradigm of conscious, intentional and diverse relationships. ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️ ✴️Get Your Free Relationship Diversity GuideConnect with me: YouTubeInstagramWebsiteGet my book, “Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? The Ultimate Guide to Overcome Heartbreak for GoodPodcast Music by Zachariah HickmanSupport the show Please note: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor, or social worker. I am not attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental, or emotional issue, disease, or condition. The information provided in or through my podcast is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. Always seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific circumstance.

Happy New Year! We're starting back up again this year talking about negativity bias, how it affects our media landscape, and in turn, how it affects our wellbeing and relationships as well. We'll go over some research about how consuming negative or fearful news can bleed over into your relationships, and share some ways to combat the effects so you can stay informed but also have happier partnerships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 10% off our private, discreet STD tests at stdhero.com when you use promo code MULTI10 Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.

Today we're talking about the green-eyed monster...envy! We've talked a lot about jealousy in the past, but this time we're focusing on envy, which is often conflated with jealousy. Sometimes we feel inadequate or resentful in our relationships, but it doesn't quite feel like jealousy. You might be dealing with envy! For today's episode we're going to talk about the difference between envy and jealousy in non-traditional relationships, why you might be feeling envious, and as always, and as always, we'll discuss some practical tools for transforming envy into personal growth and stronger connections. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're welcoming back writer, director, actor, and producer Frank Arthur Smith to talk about non-monogamy in queer media.Frank is a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston. He was most recently staffed on children's comedy OCEAN EXPLORERS on YouTube. Previously, he wrote on Disney Channel's RAVEN'S HOME. He also starred in Episode 5 of Emmy Award-nominated TIDYING UP WITH MARIE KONDO on Netflix.His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, OPEN TO IT, in which he stars, writes, directs, and Executive Produces, debuted at Outfest, the largest queer film festival in the world, and received over 1 million views online, before being acquired by OUTtv, a Canadian cable channel available in over 15 million homes, and US streaming service with over 1 million subscribers. The show can be seen worldwide at opentoitseries.com and features RUPAUL'S DRAG RACE stars Manila Luzon, Laganja Estranja, Honey Davenport, and Pandora Boxx, as well as Deaf drag queen influencers, Deafies in Drag. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI.Get 10% off our private, discreet STD tests at stdhero.com when you use promo code MULTI10 Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're discussing conflict spirals, or what happens when you're arguing with a partner and it's no longer productive, you're exhausted, and you just want things to be over with. We're talking about how to stop that spiraling conflict, soothe yourself, and get back to a place where you can co-regulate with your partner instead of getting trapped in the same spiral again and again. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.From 12/13-12/18 get Free 2-day shipping on orders $150+ and an additional 10% off when using our promo code MULTIAMORY10 at OSEA vegan skincare with our #oseapartnerThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're joined by Jaime Gama of the popular Instagram account Gotitas de Poliamor. We'll be discussing non-monogamy, identity, community, and much more with him. Jaime is a psychologist with a master's in Gestalt psychotherapy who specializes in ethical relationships, both monogamous and non-monogamous. He uses his account to share his experience and journey deconstructing the ways he connects with his partners. At the moment he offers webinars, on-line sessions and is working on writing his first book. Find more about Jaime at www.gotitasdepoliamor.com, or follow him on Instagram @gotitasdepoliamor. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 10% off of OSEA vegan skincare with our #oseapartner promo code MULTIQuality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're back with a Q&A episode! We're answering some questions from our listeners and talking about balancing relationships and a burgeoning career, asking a partner to be more visible in their life, and how to reconcile with decisions others make that affect you. If you want a question of yours answered on one of our future Q&A episodes, consider becoming a member of our community! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're revisiting the topic of marriage and non-monogamy, talking about why you might want to get married, why you might NOT want to get married, and some considerations you might want to discuss with a partner if you're non-monogamous. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get a free month of Feeld's Majestic membership and explore open-minded online dating with our link: multiamory.com/feeld This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For today's episode, we're joined by Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love for a spectacular conversation about polyamory, intersectionality, colonialism, hierarchy, and much, much more. Millie Boella (she/they) and Nick (he/him) are a polyamorous couple from Toronto, Canada, who have been together for 14 years. Millie, of mixed Kenyan and diverse heritage, has always embraced polyamory, influenced by her Maasai background. She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC group in 2017 and is a professional writer. Nick, of Italian and Greek descent, is a healthcare consultant. He works on various community causes, including projects that help men unlearn toxic masculinity. In 2021, they co-founded Decolonizing Love, advocating for polyamory through a decolonial lens. Their work aims to make polyamory accessible and intersectional. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For this week's episode, the Multiamory crew is taking a much-needed break, and featuring episode 308 of Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark! Hosts Emma and Fin talk with Bru and Mark about their guests' relatively recent journey of opening up their long partnership. For Emma and Fin, life is all about seeking out adventure, embracing the chaos, and meeting amazing people along the way. They are in their mid thirties, met in seventh grade, and have been together since their freshman year of college. A year or so into their relationship it was obvious that exploring everything life had to offer was part of who they were as individuals, and as a team. They were very young at the time and neither had really experienced the world of dating, so they created a way to explore aspects of the dating world without ending their relationship, through non-monogamy. Fast forward about 11 years and they decided to start a weekly podcast called Normalizing Non-Monogamy in 2018. They absolutely love meeting new people and hearing their stories and through this podcast they get to interview people from all over the world who are exploring non-monogamy on their own terms. The hope is that if they can get enough of those stories out into the world that it will provide a resource for anyone who is considering non-monogamy. They also want to show that non-monogamy is more common than most people think and that it can be done in an ethical and consensual way. Overall, the mission is to inspire people to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.Find more about them and Normalizing Non-Monogamy at https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we answer some questions posed by our lovely listeners! Today we're discussing different levels of sexual attraction among various partners, what to do when a relationship seems like it's going TOO well, and how to communicate to a partner that you want to shift away from hierarchy. If you want your question answered on a future episode, consider joining our awesome community at multiamory.com/join! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiGet 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage joins us today to talk about love, sex, non-monogamy, commitment, and much, much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows.“Savage Love,” Dan's sex-advice column, first appeared in The Stranger, Seattle's alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated worldwide. Dan has published seven books.In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in, sex advice podcast. It has 600,000 unique monthly downloads and 20,000 paying subscribers for premium “Magnum” content. It ranks consistently in the top ten Sexuality podcasts on Apple Podcasts.He created and curates the HUMP! Film Festival, a sex-positive showcase of dirty short films, now in its 18th year. HUMP! has become a national phenomenon selling tens of thousands of tickets, screening in over 50 cities across the United States and Canada and streaming worldwide.In 2010 Dan and his husband Terry Miller founded the It Gets Better Project. The IGBP has gathered tens of thousands of videos from people all over the world offering hope to LGBT kids. The book—It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living—was a New York Times best seller. In 2012 the It Gets Better Project was awarded an Emmy.Dan's graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about sex, monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're celebrating 500 episodes of Multiamory! Ten years after the first episode, we're telling the story of the beginning of the podcast, revisiting topics from episode 1, and talking about the exciting future of the show. Visit multiamory.com/join to become part of our amazing community! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're joined by writer Andrea Zanin to talk about their upcoming books. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a white, nonbinary, middle-aged queer whose writing focuses on queer sex, nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. They have written for the Globe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections, and they are the author of Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond and, with Eve Rickert, the co-author of More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity. Andrea blogs sporadically at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the ten rules for happy nonmonogamy and coined the term “polynormativity.” If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is another Q&A! We'll be answering Patreon questions about whether or not your first relationship should be a non-monogamous one, dealing with a partner's NRE with someone else, and if it's possible to limit one's expansion of feelings for another. If you'd like your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do if you can't stand the people your partner dates or dislike how they date? Today, we're discussing all the different ways these situations can play out, any research available about the topic, and how you can get to the crux of what's really going on, along with ways to cope with it. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORY Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rachel Krantz is back to talk about her experience with monogamy after being non-monogamous. Rachel is a journalist and the author of OPEN: One Woman's Journey Through Love and Polyamory. She was the namer of Bustle, and one of its three founding editors. She's the recipient of the Robert F. Kennedy Journalism Award, the Investigative Reporters and Editors Radio Award, the Peabody Award, and the Edward R. Murrow Award. You can follow her on Instagram @rachelkrantz, and subscribe to her podcast, Help Existing, wherever you get your podcasts. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Treat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiPractice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at paired.com/MULTI. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For today's episode, we're examining anger from a slightly different perspective: how it relates to anxiety and vulnerability in your relationships. We're going to be talking about the science behind why anger and anxiety are often closely linked, debunking common myths about what these emotions look like in relationships, and giving you practical tools to break free from the cycle of reactivity. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiamory Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're back with another Q&A episode in which we discuss one penis policies, labels and identities, and intimate friendships. If you want one of your questions answered on an upcoming episode, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/multiamory! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want the same milestones and journey that the relationship escalator provides, so today we're talking about what can happen if you're someone who wants to move up the escalator with a partner or partners. We'll be going over some pros and cons of the relationship escalator, some research about how quickly people tend to escalate in relationships, and how to navigate your journey if the relationship escalator is something you want in your life. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYTreat yourself to some stories to turn you on or help you drift off to sleep with an extended 30-day free trial at DipseaStories.com/multiGet access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're diving into workaholism and its effect on relationships. A lot of us in western (American) culture pride ourselves on working hard and never taking a break, but how effective is this mentality, really? Often, things like our relationships may suffer without a healthy work/life balance, and so today we'll be discussing why some of us work so hard and so much, some habits to look out for that may be causing more harm than good, and how to shift workaholic tendencies so your relationships can thrive. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're welcoming guest Owen Ever to the show to discuss insights they have learned from researching the animal queendom's social-sexual dynamics. Ever is a community-oriented artist and educator committed to wonder, history and healthcare justice. They were previously a curator and historian at the New Orleans Pharmacy Museum, worked in HIV support and prevention at a community clinic and were a research associate with the CDC's national HIV behavioral health survey. They are a theatre maker, therapeutic medical clown and find queer joy in birdwatching. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with another full-length Q&A episode where we answer questions from our Patreon supporters. Today we'll be discussing cPTSD and over-analyzing, resources for polyamory support, and non-hierarchical polyamory and plus ones. If you'd like your question answered on the next Q&A episode, consider joining our Patreon community! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin from OPEN! Brett (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experience building a more just and joyous future. He is the founder and Executive Director of OPEN, the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy. Prior to launching OPEN, Brett worked in the environmental movement as the Director of Community Engagement at The Story of Stuff Project and the co-founder of the Post Landfill Action Network. He lives in the California Bay Area.We'll be chatting with Brett about progress for non-monogamous folks over the past few years, from securing rights to overall awareness of non-monogamy as a relationship style. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Midwest Love Fest is a brand new all day conference about relationships, identity, community, and non-monogamy coming August 17th to Indianapolis, Indiana.Get 10% off tickets with promo code MULTIAMORY at swlovefest.com/midwestGet access to “What's Your Jealousy Trying To Tell You?” a workshop by the author of Polysecure, Jessica Fern. Head to heyplura.com/multiamory and enter the invite code “Multiamory” during onboarding Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices