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RecoverU is a podcast where we talk about sex addiction, betrayal trauma, mental, emotional and physical health, faith, and anything and everything needed to RecoverU to your most authentic self that God created you to be.

Kylene & Patrick


    • Jun 4, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekly NEW EPISODES
    • 46m AVG DURATION
    • 120 EPISODES


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    117 - 3 Things to Remember When Repairing Your Marriage as a Recovering Sex Addict

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 30:30


    In todays episode, Patrick shares his thoughts on 3 important principles for a sex addict to remember in recovery: It takes time - don't expect your betrayed partner to recover from discovery quickly. There are many factors that play into their ability to heal and everyone's relationship and trauma level is different. Healing and relational reconciliation is a lifelong commitment. Demonstrate consistency so you can create safety for your partner. Be proactive. Make sure your motivation comes internally - your spouse shouldn't have to push you to move through your own recovery.      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    116 - Permission to Divorce: Choosing Health After Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2025 50:13


    Sometimes divorce isn't just admissible, it's beneficial. When a relationship hinders one or both parties from moving forward in health, divorce may be the best choice.   Kylene and Patrick know that there are many reasons that a couple may struggle with this decision including faith based guilt, internalized people pleasing, financial reasons, children etc… This is an nuanced conversation, and one that a single episode certainly will not cover in its entirety.    We are not here to tell you what to do. Instead, we are sharing some situations where divorce may be the healthiest option (outside of abusive situations which we do not focus on in this episode).   We hope this episode takes the pressure off, lets you take a deep breath and know that if you are heading down the path of divorce, there is nothing wrong with you. A relationship takes TWO people fully committed to work.    If you are listening to this episode and struggling with this decision we are sending you so much love.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    115 - Why New Habits and Self Discipline are Crucial for Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 51:18


    In this episode, Patrick explores the critical role that habits, routines, and daily discipline play in deep, lasting recovery. He emphasizes the value of fully engaging with all the tools and resources available in whatever recovery plan or program you're following. Patrick also shares insights on the power of journaling and the importance of being intentional when replacing old, unhealthy patterns with new, life-giving ones.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    114 - Self Confidence vs Self Worth in Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 56:45


    Both the addict in recovery and the betrayed partner may struggle with self confidence, self worth, or both. But are they different?    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick unpack the differences between self-confidence and self-worth, sharing how each has wrestled with these issues in their own lives—Kylene with low self-confidence and Patrick with low self-worth.    They explore how these struggles have shown up in their personal journeys, the healing work they've done, and how anyone can grow in these areas. If you've ever questioned your value or doubted yourself, this episode is for you.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    113 - When our strengths can be a weakness in recovery (and vice versa!)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 45:55


    In this weeks episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss how patterns of thinking and behavior like: compartmentalization, the ability to feel deeply, and being someone who's able to take action and get things done, can be great strengths in recovery, but those same strengths can also be our weaknesses in a different scenario.   They discuss how understanding our wounds, identifying the filters we view life through, and processing our emotions can help us challenge our own perspective so we can choose the healthy middle.     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    112 - Reconnecting and Healing your Relationship after Betrayal with the Raabsmith's

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 43:50


    Meet Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. In today's episode, they share their personal story recovering from sex addiction and betrayal trauma. They share the ups and downs of their recovery and the process of healing they have found to be successful not only for themselves but for hundreds of other couples pursuing reconciliation as well.   Find their book Building True Intimacy here: https://a.co/d/dnwA2rw  Check out their free check-in resource here: https://raabsmithteam.com/free Interested in their programs? Click here: https://raabsmithteam.com See the Intimacy Pyramid here: https://intimacypyramid.com   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    111 - Understanding the Phases of Recovery for a Betrayed Partner

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 45:50


    In today's episode, Kylene walks through the 5 phases of recovery, common things you may feel or experience in these phases, and how to know if you are moving through them into the next phase. She offers some questions to consider and steps to take in order to continue moving forward in your healing process.   WELCOME to the new RecoverU facebook group - if you are a betrayed partner please join us HERE: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8      For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    110 - The #1 Emotion a sex/porn addict must heal in order to truly recover

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 45:30


    Show notes: In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick talk about shame, how it hinders recovery and wreaks havoc in relationships, and how you can begin to move through it to release it as part of your recovery journey.      Interested in joining us for Sexual Integrity 101? Register with the link below! Have more questions? Reach out to PatrickATerhune@gmail.com and we would love to answer them :) SI 101: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelbTVNK2KEFPCecHhBzF0lXVJw1og_aTb1VJPW-p4XaUrn8g/viewform?usp=sharing   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8      For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    109 - Advice that is Helpful in Theory but Not in Practice

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2025 53:25


    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss 3 pieces of advice that are helpful in theory but not in practice when it comes to marriage and reconciliation.   They share how: Don't control your partner Marriage is hard Divorce is not an option ...are often shared with well meaning intent but can actually cause harm and dysfunction in relationships when understood in certain ways.   Interested in joining us for Sexual Integrity 101? Register with the link below! Have more questions? Reach out to PatrickATerhune@gmail.com and we would love to answer them :) SI 101: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelbTVNK2KEFPCecHhBzF0lXVJw1og_aTb1VJPW-p4XaUrn8g/viewform?usp=sharing   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8      For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    108 - The Recovery Process is Hard, but the Outcome is Worth it!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2025 37:23


    In today's episode, Kylene shares how recovery has helped her step into her voice again, culminating in a successful concert where Patrick even sang a duet! They share how sticking through recovery during the hard times really allowed them to feel so safe, happy and relaxed together in a way that years ago would have felt impossible.   Enjoy bits of the concert here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL8Q5jecgJblS1r8-hN8MRoAS20JfkDf40   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8      For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    107 - The Affair Aftermath - Answering Your Questions

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 37:03


    In today's episode, Kylene answers questions submitted by betrayed partners including - how do you deal with the pain of an affair and what happens if he says he loves you, but isn't "in love" with you?   She answers these questions in a very broad perspective but encourages each individual to work with a practitioner 1:1 so that your individual pain points and relational nuance can be taken into consideration.   Sex ThroughRecovery - Year 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/54-sex-through-recovery-year-1/id1674653111?i=1000649141817   Establishing True Intimacy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/55-establishing-true-intimacy/id1674653111?i=1000649843594   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune   --   To your health, Kylene Terhune Betrayal Recovery Coach Host of RecoverU podcast FDN-P, Master NLP life coach, Master QTT practitioner   Are you a betrayed partner? Join my free FB group RecoverU here

    106 - Stress is Inevitable - 3 Strategies to Dial in When it Hits

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 39:49


    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick talk about the reality of stress, how it can impact your body after betrayal, and how stress won't go away after recovery! They share some personal experiences as well as three things you can do today to help you deal with every stressors:  Stay connected in community, determine next steps, and prioritize self care.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune   --   To your health, Kylene Terhune Betrayal Recovery Coach Host of RecoverU podcast FDN-P, Master NLP life coach, Master QTT practitioner   Are you a betrayed partner? Join my free FB group RecoverU here

    105 - Pornography and Gen Z - Protecting the Next Generation

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 52:44


    In today's episode, Casey shares his personal story navigating pornography addiction, how technology played a significant role in his exposure and development of addiction, and throughout hte episode we discuss several things we can do as a society and as parents to support our children in living porn free lives.   Resources:   Gabb Phones - www.GABB.com Needed Navigation (book) - https://a.co/d/aEWD7xE SheRecovery.com - Women's recovery Top Gun (book) - https://puredesire.org/shop/top-gun/       Parent Training Course: https://puredesire.org/shop/parent-training-course-equipping-parents-to-have-conversations-with-their-kids-about-sex/   Good Pictures Bad Pictures: https://a.co/d/8tVHwpz Good pictures Bad Pictures JR.: https://a.co/d/ePArGkG  God Made All of Me: https://a.co/d/cBJujTI      If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    104 - Marriage Questions Answered with Kylene and Patrick

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 66:02


    In today's episode we answer questions ranging from how we met to how we navigate conflict, and how we help each other through tough times. We have included the questions with a link below in case you would like to use them in a conversation with your partner!    Questions in today's episode: https://tinyurl.com/9kjca7m9   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql     Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    103 - Recognizing and Releasing Destructive Patterns for the Addict and Betrayed

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 48:03


    It's always easier to identify negative patterns in someone else. In today's episode, Kylene shares four common patterns that can show up in both the addicted partner and the betrayed partner — but in different ways: Qualifying and Comparing Using Absolutes like “Always” and “Never” Looking Outward Instead of Inward Dehumanizing Thoughts or Behaviors While these patterns may show up very differently, we can all get stuck in them from time to time. In this episode, Kylene discusses healthier, alternative choices you can make to move your healing forward.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    102 - Supporting Your Betrayed Partner: 4 Tools That Will Help You Help Her

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 22:40


    In today's episode, Patrick shares four ways a recovering addict can show up for their betrayed partner while demonstrating consistency, sincerity and healing: Make an effort to understand Focus on your own healing  Practice your responses Don't seek her external validation We often mention the "Help Her Heal" workbook and encourage you to utilize the exercises within the book while personalizing them for your own relationship. Purchase help her heal here: https://a.co/d/6WvocpH   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    101 - 3 Tools Every Betrayed Partner Can Use Today!

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 41:23


    Erin Stretar (pronounced Streeter) shares three powerful tools she recommends to all her clients navigating betrayal recovery in this week's RecoverU episode. Discover how journaling, self-soothing techniques, and building a strong support system can empower your healing journey. Erin provides practical tips and real-life applications you can start using today! Learn more about her work and connect with Erin at estretartherapy.com   As you are setting up your support system, if you have family or friends who want to learn more, we have 2 episodes you can share with them to give them a basic understanding of your experience and what may or may not be helpful to say to you both: Understanding and Supporting the Betrayed Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/51-understanding-and-supporting-the-betrayed-partner/id1674653111?i=1000646231313    Understanding and supporting the Addict Partner: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-understanding-and-supporting-the-addicted-partner/id1674653111?i=1000647371472   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    100 - Using a Polygraph for Recovery - What You Need to Know

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2025 58:20


    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick walk through how to use a polygraph (lie detector test) as part of recovery, reconciliation and trust building after betrayal and discovery.   Some questions they answer are: Why use a polygraph? How to find a polygrapher What to look for in a polygrapher- interview questions to consider  Best practices for creating questions to be asked on the polygraph If you are in Ohio or willing to travel - we recommend Dan Forman for polygraph services: https://www.ohiopolygraphservices.com/about-the-examiner   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    99 - 4 Years After Discovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2025 13:49


    Congratulations to Patrick on 4 years in recovery! I'm so proud of you. In this episode, Kylene briefly shares what it feels like to be hitting the 4 year mark of recovery together, and why the intense and purposeful effort they made has truly been worth it.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    98 - Divorce After Betrayal? You are not alone. How to Navigate it with Strength.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 33:25


    Divorce feels similar to being widowed. You've lost your partner, you've lost the life and the future you thought you had, and you experience a significant amount of grief.   Divorce after betrayal can feel isolating and overwhelming. This is why Kim Hansen Petroni has written her workbook: "Not a Casserole Widow" to provide education and cultivate self confidence in betrayed spouses pursuing divorce.   Learn more about divorce after betrayal, and how Not a Casserole Widow can help you feel more empowered and less alone in today's episode.     Connect with Kim: www.notacasserolewidow.com or, https://www.coachinghope4u.com   Buy the book: https://a.co/d/0FvPXuL   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    97 - Living the Fruit: Why the Fruits of the Spirit are Important During Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2025 49:03


    Life can be stressful on its own, but navigating recovery after addiction and betrayal adds layers of tension, overwhelming emotions, and uncertainty. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick explore how the fruits of the Spirit can serve as a powerful self-reflection tool to guide growth and healing in your recovery journey. By focusing on cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, we create a foundation for lasting transformation. Let's dive into these characteristics and discover how they can support you on your path to recovery.  Join us as we reflect on what it means to live the fruits of the spirit after betrayal. Galation 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against things like this.     If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    96 - Sobriety vs. Recovery, What's the Difference?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2025 54:58


    Is there a difference between sobriety and recovery? Is recovery just a longer version of sobriety?   In this episode of RecoverU Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on the differences between sobriety and recovery and the type of actions and behaviors it takes to move into a life of recovery, and ultimately freedom, after a life of sex or porn addiction!     Please fill out this (short!) feedback survey helping us to know what YOU would like to be in future episode of RecoverU! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflRXKKwyjB_6OkURh-O9cuPll1owZxmAbnsWUMj_3g9g3uxw/viewform?usp=sharing     RecoverU Podcast Episode summary - need to find an episode based on a specific topic? We've got you covered! Click here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflRXKKwyjB_6OkURh-O9cuPll1owZxmAbnsWUMj_3g9g3uxw/viewform?usp=sharing       Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control."    3 Circles Recovery Exercise: https://puredesire.org/blog/tools-for-healing-three-circles/   Patrick Carnes 30 steps to Recovery: https://www.kavodrecovery.com/the-30-tasks.html   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune  

    95 - Choosing Who You Want to be so You Don't Stay Stuck in 2025

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 46:44


    Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward?    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss choosing who you want to be so you don't stay stuck in 2025.   They provide five practical tips and actionable resources to help you align with your values and vision for the future. Their approach emphasizes digging deeper than surface-level goals, empowering you to define your identity and who you want to become as you move forward.     List of core values: https://simplish.co/blog/core-values-list   Visioneering book by Andy Stanley: https://a.co/d/5ew37Np     Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune

    94 - Reflection & Projection - A personal exercise for continued growth at the end of the year

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2024 19:48


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    93 - Feeling Disconnected? A Quick Conversation Starter for Couples During the Holidays

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2024 13:50


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    92 - Having Trouble Declining Invitations? 3 Polite Ways to Say No This Holiday Season

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2024 12:08


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    91 - Feeling Stressed? Three Ways to Support Your Mind & Body Through Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 38:54


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    90 - How can my husband love me, and be a sex/porn addict?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2024 41:50


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    SAST test: https://psychology-tools.com/test/sast   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    89 - I have so much Anxiety - What do I do?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2024 51:38


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    88 - I'm so MAD! When anger is healthy, when it's not, and how to process it!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2024 50:42


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    87 - 3 Lies That Can Keep Us Stuck

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2024 61:57


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    86 - When Will My Spouse Get Over My Betrayal? Living Amends

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2024 44:32


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    85 - 4 Questions to Deepen Intimacy during Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2024 44:28


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    84 - Difficulties and Benefits of True Intimacy after Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2024 43:34


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    83 - Empathy From and FOR the Betrayed and Addicted

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2024 71:37


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    82 - What Now? - FAQs for the Betrayed Partner

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 55:35


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    81 - 4 Challenges to Forgiving After Betrayal - Understanding the Hurdles

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 44:39


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    80 - Renewed by Grace: A Journey of Healing and Leadership with Nick and Michelle Stumbo

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 57:27


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    79 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex with Rodney and Traci Wright

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2024 59:30


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Order the book: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex here: https://puredesire.org/shop/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex/   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    78 - Shattered Trust, the Emotional Landscape of Betrayal

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2024 65:52


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    75 - Love After Healing: A Redemption Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2024 87:41


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    76 - I Feel Stuck - How Can I Make a Decision About Our Relationship?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 45:35


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    75 - The Healing Power of Mentorship as Part of Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2024 62:56


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    74 - Growing Through the Pain - The Benefits that Recovery Can Bring

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 56:45


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    73 - Navigating Integrity and Empathy as an Addict in Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2024 35:44


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    72 - 5 Healthy Mindsets for Recovery from Sex and Porn Addiction

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 25:40


    Thank you for listening to this episode! We hope it was helpful and encouraging.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://linktr.ee/KyleneTerhune   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU   For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    71 - Daily Tools for Recovery: Group and 1:1 Support - PART 5

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2024 55:41


    In this episode we discuss how and why group support and 1:1 coaching or therapy is so helpful for both the betrayed partner and the addict to experience deeper healing.   1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357   2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or coach that works virtually (here are some starting places) www.puredesire.org Additional resources: https://www.drpatrickcarnes.com/getting-help   3) Connect to a local recovery group (we like the conquer group that you can find locally or online both at puredesire.org and soulrefiner.com     For the betrayed spouse:   1) Connect with a trauma therapist or coach who is familiar with sex addiction and works with betrayal trauma recovery  - look for someone who also has trauma processing modalities outside of talk therapy   If you are interested in working with Kylene please click this link and book a free connection call to see if it's a good fit:   https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   2) Connect with local, or online groups: Cosa Sanon Betrayal and Beyond - puredesire.org Infidelity survivors anonymous www.btr.org   Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

    70 - Daily Tools for Recovery: Journaling - PART 4

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 37:36


    Today is part 4, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.    In this episode we discuss the benefits of journaling, how it helps bring awareness to patterns, assists in recovery, and benefits long term health.   5 year journal: https://www.levenger.com/products/5-year-journal?variant=42537377136789&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwpZWzBhC0ARIsACvjWRPLxW3dd9gRHKOhIMUvdJJ-Q-JuSmVDLe1ShxmyVT2Hckvo5LYVR8kaAm-hEALw_wcB   Daily Kairos Journal: https://dailykairos.com   The First Hour Journal: https://www.thefirsthour.com     Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU     For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org  

    69 - Daily Tools for Recovery: Three Circles - PART 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2024 33:17


    Today is part 3, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org    In this episode we discuss creating the 3 circles of sobriety and recovery to further help you define who you want to be, what you non-negotiables are, and what your personal goals are moving forward.   Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU     For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    68 - Daily Tools for Recovery: 10 year letter & Emergency Kit - PART 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 23:45


    Today is part 2, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this resources or join a group at PureDesire.org    In this episode we discuss the benefits of writing a 10 year letter from the perspective a future, recovered you, as well as creating an emergency kit which is a tool to use for travel, or any time you are feeling tempted to relapse.   We mentioned our previous episode "Best Version of You meditation" if you need assistance with the 10 year letter and you can listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru/id1674653111?i=1000611570008      Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU     For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org     Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune   

    67 - Daily Tools for Recovery - PART 1: Blockers, Faster Scale, and Feeling Wheel

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 41:00


    Today we begin a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.   In this episode we discuss technology blockers, a daily scales used to begin identifying sobriety risk and recovery status, and the feelings wheel which assists in expanding our vocabulary around our experiences.   Blockers we personally like: Canopy: https://canopy.us/ Parental controls that come with Iphone   Faster Scale:  https://puredesire.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/faster-scale-check-in-2017-1.pdf   Feelings Wheel: https://feelingswheel.com   Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql   Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU     For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org     Follow Kylene: On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune  On IG: @KyleneTerhune 

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