Podcast appearances and mentions of sheila gregoire

Today we're talking about marriage - specifically, how Christian marriages might be missing the mark. I'm sitting down with Sheila Gregoire, a researcher who's spent years studying what actually makes relationships work. And here's something interesting: the biggest threat to marital satisfaction isn't what most people think. It's not sex or money - it's housework. Sheila isn't just another marriage author. She's surveyed 7,000 people to understand the dynamics of healthy relationships. Her work challenges a lot of the traditional evangelical advice that's been circulating for decades - advice that often creates more distance than connection. We're going to explore how Christian marriage books have sometimes gotten it wrong. How messages about leadership, submission, and roles can actually harm the very relationships they're trying to protect. We'll talk about what real partnership looks like, how couples can communicate better, and what it means to truly see each other. This conversation is about reimagining marriage - not as a power structure, but as a genuine partnership that reflects mutual respect and love. So if you're curious about building a healthier relationship, or if you're tired of the same old marriage advice, this episode is for you.Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind BareMarriage.com as well as a sought-after speaker and an award-winning author of nine books, including The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better. With her humorous, no-nonsense approach, Sheila is passionate about changing the evangelical conversation about sex and marriage to make it healthy, evidence-based, and biblical. She and her husband, Keith, live in Ontario, Canada, near their two adult daughters and three grandbabies. Sheila also knits. Even in line at the grocery store.Sheila's Book:The Marriage You WantSheila's Recommendations:The Deep Rooted MarriageBecoming the Pastor's WifeSubscribe to Our Substack: Shifting CultureConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, Bluesky or YouTubeConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link belowShifting Culture Productions Support the show

The pastors' wives chat with marriage and sex guru, Sheila Gregoire again! Sheila is the author of The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better.In this episode they talk about Sheila's newest book and how it is a great resource for church leaders: The Marriage You Want, Moving beyond Stereotypes for a Relationship Built on Scripture, New Data, and Emotional Health.Sheila answers questions like what struggle surprisingly causes a three times greater drop in marital satisfaction than sex or money issues? When does compromise become harmful in a marriage? And how do we uncover underlying issues when we're in conflict with our spouse? Follow along with Sheila: https://linktr.ee/sheilagregoire?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab86eUc5wcH3TEIMnjlUoRotOBalqVrDsaV83f_W_gewikcwBJboiNAO5g_aem_QpsHgoYwmnqAdrPKf2qH8gTo purchase the BOOK, head here: ⁠https://pastorswivestellall.com/book⁠⁠To shop our MERCH, head here: ⁠https://pastorswivestellall.com/shop⁠⁠Want to support the Pastors' Wives Tell All podcast ministry? Become a patron: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/pastorswivestellall ⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE: ⁠Sign up⁠ for our email list and receive updates on new episodes, free gifts, and all the fun! Email sign up ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠!CONTACT US: ⁠hello@pastorswivestellall.com⁠⁠FOLLOW US:Website: ⁠⁠pastorswivestellall.com⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠@pastorswivestellall⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠@pastorswivestellall⁠⁠JESSICA:Instagram: ⁠⁠@jessica_taylor_83⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@come_away_missions⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@do_good_project__⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠Come Away Missions⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Do Good Project⁠⁠Websites: ⁠⁠Do Good Project⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Come Away Missions⁠⁠JENNA:Instagram: ⁠⁠@jennaallen⁠⁠, ⁠⁠@jennaallendesign⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠@JennaAllenDesign⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠Jenna Allen Design⁠⁠STEPHANIE:Instagram: ⁠⁠@msstephaniegilbert⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠I Literally LOL⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠Stephanie Gilbert⁠

❌ Have you ever felt like marriage is harder than it should be? Like no matter how much you give, something still feels off?What if I told you some of the beliefs you were taught about marriage are actually hurting your happiness because they're not the WHOLE story? In this episode, I'm sitting down with Sheila Gregoire to uncover 6 wrong beliefs Christian women bring into marriage—and why they can secretly lower your satisfaction and connection with your spouse.

Sheila Gregoire returns to discuss her transformative book, "The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex". In this guide, Gregoire provides a holistic approach to sexual intimacy that addresses the emotional, spiritual, and physical aspect of marriage. We discuss why she decided to revise it and what mind-blowing takeaways you can learn from her work.  

How did Cru go from little visible participation for women in leadership to now having women serving in the ministry as global 4 of the 7 Global Vice Presidents? This is the Remarkable Judy Douglass Story on this BEST OF episode of The Eden Podcast!Hear her Faith Story, her Ministry Story and her Tru316 Story! Judy is an in-the-book endorser of The Book of Eden by Bruce C. E. Fleming and a welcome advisor to the Tru316 Foundation.Here are Judy Douglass' links:Website: www.JudyDouglass.comPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-you-love-a-prodigal/id1551846569Would you like to go deeper studying the Tru316 Message? ENROLL NOW to be part of the next Tru School cohort. Here's that link: www.Tru316.com/workshopThe Tru316 Foundation(www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner HERE: www.Tru316.com/partnerFor just $3.16/month or more our Tru Partners are spreading the Word that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way. Click www.Tru316.com/partner The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

MOVIE DISCUSSION: Sheila Gregoire: Bare Marriage Podcast / Bare Marriage Blog / Author Page Sheila Gregoire of the Bare Marriage podcast joins Melvin to discuss The Assistant, a hidden gem of pure psychological drama! It's depiction of modern office work in the film industry is understated, dour, and timely, as it tackles a combination of workplace inequality, systematic issues, and the thin line between the complacent and the complicit.Topics:(PATREON EXCLUSIVE) 21-minutes discussing a report finding that bait, controversy, and enragement posting bolstered lucrative engagement on Threads (similar to other social media), and how this negatively impacts the platform, but also demands we utilize them in a healthier way. (PATREON EXCLUSIVE)The Assistant is a bleak depiction of not only workplace abuse but also of human relationships.Although uneventful, the film has perpetual unease and eeriness.Sheila observed how the film depicts food, and the two discuss its non-nutritious showcase of a biological workplace distraction.Medication plays a significant role in the setting of the film, making overt allusions to the film's boss as a caricature of Harvey Weinstein.Exploitation, abuse, and unethical practices in a company are ultimately anti-capitalist, even if the line is going up and to the right.Pondering if abusive hierarchical structures are more common and dangerous in the church than in the workplace.Sheila, “Often we feel like when we are in these situations that we are powerless… but quite often we do.”Is Jane complicit?Recommendations:For Our Daughters (2024) (Short Film)TÁR (2022) (Movie)Bombshell (2018) (Movie)MAILBAG: Send questions with your first name and we'll answer them in future episodes! Support the showSupport on Patreon for Unique Perks! Early access to uncut episodes Vote on a movie/show we review One-time reward of two Cinematic Doctrine Stickers & Pins Social Links: Threads Website Instagram Facebook Group

Zach proposed what so many say about headship in marriage. Bruce answered, "I don't buy any of that." BUT, Bruce says Paul gives three “in the church“ and three “in the family” illustrations in the Jump, Jump, High Jump Pattern of Ephesians 5:15-6:9! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Paul did not require wives to submit to husbands in an over/under way. Paul used Word Patterns, back then, like we use Chapter Headings, today. What patterns? 1) THE PATTERN OF FOURS. 2) THE PARALLEL PATTERN. 3) THE OVERARCHING JUMP, JUMP, HIGH JUMP PATTERN. Go deeper? Get the book Beyond Eden by Bruce C. E. Fleming on Ephesians 5:15-6:9. The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Welcome, Pkarghl! The Pod Ninja saw a church sign that he didn't like very much... If you want to make things REALLY WEIRD for the men at your church, John and Luke can tell you how. Then: God is very mad at librarians... But let John tell you about his conversation with Sheila Gregoire first. Later: If you want the PERFECT GAME for bossy women--may we suggest The Sims? Or Roller Coaster Tycoon? Contact the comedian's family by emailing nextdoor@johnbranyan.com

Welcome, Pkarghl! The Pod Ninja saw a church sign that he didn't like very much... If you want to make things REALLY WEIRD for the men at your church, John and Luke can tell you how. Then: God is very mad at librarians... But let John tell you about his conversation with Sheila Gregoire first. Later: If you want the PERFECT GAME for bossy women--may we suggest The Sims? Or Roller Coaster Tycoon? Contact the comedian's family by emailing nextdoor@johnbranyan.com

Welcome, Pkarghl! The Pod Ninja saw a church sign that he didn't like very much... If you want to make things REALLY WEIRD for the men at your church, John and Luke can tell you how. Then: God is very mad at librarians... But let John tell you about his conversation with Sheila Gregoire first. Later: If you want the PERFECT GAME for bossy women--may we suggest The Sims? Or Roller Coaster Tycoon? Contact the comedian's family by emailing nextdoor@johnbranyan.com

Are women weaker in any way? Is that what 1 Peter 3 teaches? Do they have roles that can be described as weaker? Based on insights from Genesis 3:16 Bruce responds to Lauren's questions in Part 2 of this replay from her livestream to her 20,000 followers.Bruce is interviewed by Lauren who was a Jane Doe in the Bill Gothard lawsuit. Based on a recent survey she asks, How mistranslations and misinterpretations of the key passages on women and men have been weaponized? Should these passages be mistrusted or should those wayward teachings and their proponents by mistrusted? In Part Two of this interview Lauren asks Bruce about more troubling passages. What about 1 Peter 3:1-7? What about Ephesians 5:15-6:9?Go Deeper? Bruce has written four volumes in The Eden Book Series. He refers to Book 4 (on 1 Corinthians 11 & 14 and 1 Peter 3), and Book 2 (on Ephesians 5-6) in this episode. All four are based on his doctoral research and that of Joy Fleming. Available here on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4dhU0LH  The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

What can go wrong in our marriages when people work from beliefs that put women down? Sheila Gregoire from The Bare Marriage Podcast gives her answer in the light of a corrected reading pf Genesis 3:16 on this BEST OF episode of The Eden Podcast from March 16, 2022! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Jo Saxton led a friend to Christ when she became a Christian! As a nine year old! she revealed leadership gifts over and over through the years. Now, she has founded the 'Ezer Collective to encourage women leaders in the church. This is Part One on The Eden Podcast. Join Co-host Christy Gudim and Jo Saxton now!Jo Saxton is a speaker, podcaster, and author. She is the founder of the Ezer Collective, an initiative dedicated to investing in women leaders around the world, equipping them to own their voice, and boldly step into their calling. She currently serves as the Executive Director of The 25 (a leadership development initiative) at Bethel University.Born to Nigerian parents and raised in London, England, Jo now lives in Minneapolis with her husband and two daughters. She loves everyday stuff like good music, good food, and good friends.Links:General Website: https://www.josaxton.com/Ezer Collective: https://www.josaxton.com/ezer-collectiveLead Stories Podcast: https://www.leadstoriespodcast.com/Books: https://www.josaxton.com/booksFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/1josaxtonInstagram: @josaxtonThreads: @josaxtonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josaxton/Links for Jo SaxtonLinks for Christy Gudim:  The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Evangelical megachurch pastors saying cringe things is nothing new, right? However, there's a point when cringe turns destructive and abusive. That's what this episode is about.Dallas/Ft. Worth megachurch pastor Josh Howerton said some very ugly and destructive things, and then doubled down with a weak (plagiarized) apology. Our friend Sheila Gregoire has some powerful, insightful, and important things to say about what Josh said and the culture that is being cultivated in churches like this.We're so grateful for Sheila's willingness to engage with us about this important topic.Cheers!Content note: This episode contains discussion of sex, abuse, and some profanity.=====Want to support us?The best way is to subscribe to our Patreon. Annual memberships are available for a 10% discount.If you'd rather make a one-time donation, you can contribute through our PayPal. Other important info: Rate & review us on Apple & Spotify Follow us on social media at @PPWBPodcast Watch & comment on YouTube Email us at pastorandphilosopher@gmail.com Cheers!

A home schooling Mom and a college student, Bethany has taken The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3. Previously she was tied up in in knots trying to make sure she let her husband lead her and trying not to speak up in church before the men. Then she listened to the Bare Marriage Podcast (Episode #I99) and discovered The Eden Podcast.  She noticed that Dr. Joy Fleming and Rev. Bruce C. E. Fleming highly respected Scripture too and she read The Book of Eden on Genesis 2-3. In her own words learn what she discovered!  The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Today Heather has a candid conversation with author and blogger, Sheila Gregoire. They dive deep into the impact of purity culture on women's body image, self-esteem, and relationships. Although the hearts and motives may have started in the right place -- as a response to the 1960s, there have been some detrimental effects of certain modesty and purity culture teachings on both young girls and adult women. Sheila sheds light on how these teachings can lead to damaging beliefs, body image issues, and vulnerability to abusive relationships. The conversation delves into crucial topics such as the damaging effects of purity culture on millennial women, the intersection of Christian teachings and body image struggles, and debunking harmful beliefs about the male-female dynamic. Sheila and Heather share personal experiences and insights, offering a thought-provoking discussion that challenges harmful teachings and advocates for body acceptance based on scripture. If you're interested in gaining valuable insights into this critical topic, don't miss out on this impactful episode. Here are a few other key topics from the conversation: Purity culture and Christian teachings have had damaging effects on women, leading to lower self-esteem, sexual pain disorders, and an increased likelihood of marrying an abuser. Are men more visual? The data Sheila shares around this may absolutely stun you! Harmful messages around modesty and responsibility for men's behavior have perpetuated damaging beliefs, desensitized girls to relationship red flags, and reinforced harmful dynamics between men and women. Exploring these issues is crucial for promoting body acceptance based on scripture and addressing damaging teachings in order to positively impact women's lives and relationships. Connect with Sheila and learn more about her new book here: She Deserves Better (Amazon affiliate link) Learn more about Sheila's ministry at https://baremarriage.com/ Are you ready for body image coaching or some personalized help? Visit www.improvebodyimage.com for more options and body image encouragement.  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Pastor Terran got the other staff members together. "Guys I think we've got it wrong!" I thought they all would accept  right away what I had found. But they didn't. And they they went to strident people on the other side and read what they had written and I was asking for a sociological miracle.Have you seen him talking with Sheila Gregoire on The Bare Marriage Podcast? Have you watched him correcting a YouTuber's incorrect teaching on women in ministry? Here is Part 1 in our multi-part interview of joyful South African Pastor Terran Williams, author of How God Sees Women, The End of Patriarchy.Terran was an avid surfer who came from a divorced family, and a gay father who was one of the first to die of AIDS. Invited to a surfer camp that was a ministry outreach he heard the Good News of life in Christ and gave his heart to Jesus. Instantly he wanted to tell others this same Good News and he has been doing so ever since!How did he become a pastor of a very large church? How did he take on the challenge to prove women should be kept out of ministry but saw the error of this view? How did his realization cost him his pastorate? What did he put in his book How God Sees Women, the End of Patriarchy.All this and more as we launch into Season 14 of The Eden Podcast on audio and on the Tru316 YouTube Channel! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Support the podcast on Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️A sermon clip posted by "BadSermons" on X, featured Pastor Bobby Leonard, Pastor of Bible Baptist Tabernacle in Monroe, North Carolina saying, "You'll find more women with shorts than pants and dresses combined. If you dress like that and you get raped, and I'm on the jury, he's gonna go free."The clip got a lot of exposure on social media - at the time of this recording, it has racked up nearly 200k views.It caught the attention of several news stations, including the North Carolina NBC affiliate WCNC, who put together a story that ran February 22, 2024. They reached out to me for comment on the clip, and I've linked to the article that features my interview with them in the description of this video.The biggest takeaway I hope people have from reading the article, watching the clip, or listening to this podcast is that this is not an isolated incident or a one-off comment. This is the rotten fruit of a corrupt religious system that has degraded, abused, and victim-blamed women for years.✖️✖️✖️Links referenced in the video:Original Clip: https://twitter.com/BadSermons/status/1760115548573085764My interview with WCNC: https://www.wcnc.com/article/news/local/monroe/monroe-nc-pastor-sermon-outrage-2-22-2024/275-cbfc16ac-073b-4d03-b106-551367fe6b53?fbclid=IwAR0HkTi6qDwX9cnTFFMlZC-O9luU-Fnd-CqjPe8WL9B6VrfN-ruycgRyu3sArticle on abuse at BBT ministries: https://revealnews.org/article/whipped-hit-and-locked-in-closets-life-inside-some-religious-day-cares/Sheila Gregoire tweets:https://twitter.com/sheilagregoire/status/1760489060936601826Bobby Leonard Statement:https://twitter.com/BadSermons/status/1761235414482829544✖️✖️✖️If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, visit courage365.org/need-help✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:- preacherboyspodcast.com- https://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/- https://twitter.com/preacherboysdoc- https://www.instagram.com/preacherboysdoc/To connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you seen him talking with Sheila Gregoire on The Bare Marriage Podcast? Have you watched him correcting a YouTuber's incorrect teaching on women in ministry? Here is Part 1 in our multi-part interview of joyful South African Pastor Terran Williams, author of How God Sees Women, The End of Patriarchy.Terran was an avid surfer who came from a divorced family, and a gay father who was one of the first to die of AIDS. Invited to a surfer camp that was a ministry outreach he heard the Good News of life in Christ and gave his heart to Jesus. Instantly he wanted to tell others this same Good News and he has been doing so ever since!How did he become a pastor of a very large church? How did he take on the challenge to prove women should be kept out of ministry but saw the error of this view? How did his realization cost him his pastorate? What did he put in his book How God Sees Women, the End of Patriarchy.All this and more as we launch into Season 14 of The Eden Podcast on audio and on the Tru316 YouTube Channel! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men.Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdlWould you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partnerThe Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming. Season 1 Episode 1. https://apple.co/3QRBO3zThe Book of Eden, Genesis 2-3 and The Eden Book Series by Bruce C. E. Fleming https://amzn.to/49y817d The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men.Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdlWould you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partnerThe Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming. Season 1 Episode 1. https://apple.co/3QRBO3zThe Book of Eden, Genesis 2-3 and The Eden Book Series by Bruce C. E. Fleming https://amzn.to/49y817d The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Episode 179 // Happy marriages take work. And guess what? They aren't ALWAYS happy. There is still conflict. There are still disappointments.    But let's not forget - God is in it with you, friend. He cares about your marriage and He cares about you. I've spent over 10 years helping couples as a Christian marriage counselor, and I've seen God do amazing things!   Join me today for some encouragement and reality-checks to help you, when you're feeling stuck and discouraged in your Christian marriage.   hugs & blessings, Jess   > > Our February Monthly Challenge in the Faith Fiver Club is focused on biblical marriage habits. Join us! < <   RESOURCES FOR YOU      ❤️ Mentioned Today: FREE Conflict Resolution Checklist, my 40-day Communicating to Connect Devotional, and the online courses for intimacy from Sheila Gregoire        ❤️ Invest in a Fruitful Faith      ❤️ Enjoy your family: Happy Marriage | Joyful Parenting | Home & Family Life      ❤️ Tackle roadblocks: Manage Emotions | Communicate Well      ❤️ Start with a FREEBIE or find the perfect DEVOTIONAL      ❤️ Read the BLOG      ❤️ Grab helpful printables for moms in my ETSY SHOP   * * * * *    Love Your People Well is all about helping you enjoy family life during the long season of raising little ones at home. Together, we're building healthy, happy, and holy family relationships, with Jesus at the center of it all.   You'll find everything at www.LoveYourPeopleWell.com.    * * * * *    SUPPORT THIS MINISTRY   ❤️ Leave a written review to help us grow! Click here in Apple Podcasts, scroll to the Ratings & Reviews and click “Write A Review.” Let me know what you loved most about the episode!    ❤️ Use the 3-dots above and click “Copy This Link” to send this episode to a friend. While you're at it, click “Follow” to subscribe to the show.   ❤️ Join us inside our Patreon community to support the show AND get lots of extra perks and support.   * * * * *  DISCLAIMERS I am a licensed therapist but this podcast is not therapy. Some of my links are affiliate links and I earn a small commission if you purchase through them. Read my full disclaimers here. * * * * *  ✨ Grab tons of resources and biblical encouragement today at www.LoveYourPeopleWell.com ✨ 

Let's look at the hermeneutical keys that unlock the meaning of the clobber verses in 1 Timothy 2. What they've been telling you - that women are prohibited from teaching men in church - is FAR from the truth!Author and scholar, Bruce C. E. Fleming walks us through the Introduction and Chapter One of his breakthrough book Back to Eden, 1 Timothy 2-3. NOTE the subtitle: Corrected and Restored by Jesus the faithful Word.Go Deeper? Sign up for our Tru School two-week zoom Workshops, including Workshop #3, Back to Eden! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Summary Dr. Nancy Pearcey, author of 'The Toxic War on Masculinity' claimed in a recent podcast interview that women's suffrage was a net loss and that Christian marriages are healthier than their non-christian counterparts. Tim brings on Sheila Gregoire, author of 'The Great Sex Rescue' along with Dr. Beth Allison Barr, author of 'The Making of Biblical Womanhood' to respond. A followup from Dr. Beth Allison Barr Resources - Susan Ware, Why They Marched: Untold Stories of the Women Who Fought for the Right to Vote (Cambridge, MA: The Belknap Press of Harvard University Press) - Anita Anand, Sophia: Princess, Suffragette, Revolutionary (New York: Bloomsbury) - Manuela Thurner, “'Better Citizens without the Ballot': American AntiSuffrage Women and Their Rationale During the Progressive Era,” Journal of Women's History 5:1 (Spring 1993), 33-60 - Hallie Rubenhold, The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper (New York: Mariner Books An Imprint of HarperCollins) - Martha S. Jones, Vanguard: How Black Women Broke Barriers, Won the Vote, and Insisted on Equality for All (New York: Basic Books) Websites - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/07/07/a-century-after-women-gained-the-right-to-vote-majority-of-americans-see-work-to-do-on-gender-equality/ - https://www.womenshistory.org/articles/votes-women-means-votes-black-women - https://www.nps.gov/articles/anti-suffragism-in-the-united-states.htm#_edn33 - https://www.crusadeforthevote.org/naows-opposition#:~:text=Some%20argued%20women%20lacked%20the,By%20Allison%20Lange%2C%20Ph Also - Susan Ware, American Women's Suffrage: Voices from the Long Struggle for the Vote, 1776-1965 (New York: Penguin Random House) - Rosalyn Terborg-Penn, African American Women in the Struggle for the Vote, 1850-1920 (Bloomington: Indiana University Press) - Ellen Carol Dubois, Suffrage: Women's Long Battle for the Vote (New York: Simon & Schuster) Learn more about The Summit For Religious Freedom Check out our website for merch, educational materials, and how to join our community! If you'd like to support our work, you can DONATE here! Follow Us On Instagram @thenewevangelicals  Subscribe On YouTube The New Evangelicals exists to support those who are tired of how evangelical church has been done before and want to see an authentic faith lived out with Jesus at the center. On this channel, you'll see videos from our founder Tim Whitaker and our incredible guests as they react and respond biblically to topics such as Christian Nationalism, church hurt, terrible Christian movies, bad conservative Christian takes, and MUCH more!  We are committed to building a caring community that emulates the ways of Jesus by reclaiming the evangelical tradition and embracing values that build a better way forward. If you've been marginalized by your faith, you are welcome here. We've built an empathetic and inclusive space that encourages authentic conversations, connections and faith. Whether you consider yourself a Christian, an exvangelical, someone who's questioning your faith, or someone who's left the faith entirely, you are welcome here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the Bible prohibit women from teaching men in church? Bothered by 1 Timothy 2:12? Don't be. It turns out that verse 12 is only the second half of a long sentence that starts with verse 11. And these verses are part of a major command Paul gave to Timothy on how to retrain the subgroup of overseers in Ephesus who had gone astray. All this and more is covered in the Back to Eden Workshop on 1 Timothy 2-3! Jean and Mimi are both trainers in our Tru School program and you can go through a 2-week long workshop with them along with author and scholar Rev. Bruce C. E. Fleming.Go deeper! Join the next Workshop offered by Tru School here: Tru316.com/workshop.  #Tru316too The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Episode 178 // Happy Valentine's Day! Let's get into the good stuff today, friend - because I know you want a hot and steamy date night with your man this week.. and every other week too.    Intimacy is usually not a problem while we're dating and in the newlywed stage. But then kids come along, we get busy, the bills pile up… what about date nights??!   I've been a Christian marriage counselor for over 10 years. Yes, I know that date night isn't a magic wand for your marriage. But I also know that it can make a big difference. So I want to share some practical ideas for how to have fun (sometimes for free!) and enjoy more fabulous date nights with your man.   Ready? Let's dive in.   hugs & blessings, Jess   > > Our February Monthly Challenge in the Faith Fiver Club is focused on biblical marriage habits. Join us! < <   RESOURCES FOR YOU      ❤️ Mentioned Today: FREE Conflict Resolution Checklist, online courses for intimacy from Sheila Gregoire      ❤️ Invest in a Fruitful Faith      ❤️ Enjoy your family: Happy Marriage | Joyful Parenting | Home & Family Life      ❤️ Tackle roadblocks: Manage Emotions | Communicate Well      ❤️ Start with a FREEBIE or find the perfect DEVOTIONAL      ❤️ Read the BLOG      ❤️ Grab helpful printables for moms in my ETSY SHOP   * * * * *    Love Your People Well is all about helping you enjoy family life during the long season of raising little ones at home. Together, we're building healthy, happy, and holy family relationships, with Jesus at the center of it all.   You'll find everything at www.LoveYourPeopleWell.com.    * * * * *    SUPPORT THIS MINISTRY   ❤️ Leave a written review to help us grow! Click here in Apple Podcasts, scroll to the Ratings & Reviews and click “Write A Review.” Let me know what you loved most about the episode!    ❤️ Use the 3-dots above and click “Copy This Link” to send this episode to a friend. While you're at it, click “Follow” to subscribe to the show.   ❤️ Join us inside our Patreon community to support the show AND get lots of extra perks and support.   * * * * *    DISCLAIMERS I am a licensed therapist but this podcast is not therapy. Some of my links are affiliate links and I earn a small commission if you purchase through them. Read my full disclaimers here.   * * * * *    ✨ Grab tons of resources and biblical encouragement today at www.LoveYourPeopleWell.com ✨ 

In this episode we walk through a checklist of points to see if your translation is accurate regarding the verses we Tru in our podcasts, workshops, books, and other resources. How does your Bible translation do? Please let us know! The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

It is stunning how slave holders before the American Civil War tried to justify their actions with arguments similar to those used by those who restrict women in the church and the home! Christy is stunned as she and Bruce talk with Rev. Dr. Mike David on this Tru Friend Friday episode of The Eden Podcast!Here are some of books Mike referred to on this episode.The Civil War as a Theological Crisis, by Mark A. NollSlavery, Sabbath, War and Women, by Willard M. SwartleySlaves In The New Testament: Literary, Social And Moral Dimensions, by J. Albert HarrillTheology and Slavery: Charles Hodge and Horace Bushnell. by Dr. David Torbett“Defensing Slavery: Proslavery Thought in the Old South: A Brief History with Documents, by Professor Paul FinkelmanThe Trinity and Subordinationism: The Doctrine of God and the Contemporary Gender-Debates, by Kevin Giles (specifically part 3: The Slavery Tradition  chapters 10-13)“The Religious Defense of Slavery before 1830" (online article),  by Larry R. MorrisonHere's a link to his previous appearance on The Eden Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-eden-podcast-with-bruce-c-e-fleming/id1536987547?i=1000635141113 The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Welcome to this episode where we tackle the tough topic of sexual addiction. Julie Sedenko chats with relationship expert Leslie Vernick, and they dig deep into the emotions and challenges involved. If you or someone you know is dealing with a similar situation, stay tuned for some valuable insights and practical tips. Understanding Anger: Julie discusses the challenges faced by individuals dealing with a spouse's sexual addiction. Leslie emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and addressing anger as a valid emotion in this situation. Part 1: Dealing with Anger Leslie shares insights on how individuals can manage their anger constructively when facing a spouse's sexual addiction. The discussion covers the significance of not suppressing anger and finding healthy outlets for it. Suggestions include venting to a friend, counselor, or support group, as well as engaging in activities like writing, physical exercise, or even crying to release emotional tension. The importance of recognizing that anger is a signal that something is wrong and can provide the energy needed for positive change is emphasized. Retaliating against the spouse's actions is discouraged, and the focus is on constructive ways to handle anger. Part 2: Seeking Help and Making Choices The conversation emphasizes the need for support and the importance of setting boundaries to protect one's well-being. Encouragement is given to the spouse with the addiction to seek help and support. Leslie addresses the question of whether it's possible for someone to truly overcome sexual addiction and explains the need for ongoing support and accountability. The importance of making choices and reframing one's perspective is discussed. A shift from asking, "Why is this happening to me?" to "Why is this happening for me?" is encouraged. The conclusion emphasizes that individuals are capable of handling difficult situations and emotions and encourages seeking support and resources to cope with anger while navigating this challenging journey. Conclusion: Individuals can do hard things, and there are people willing to help them through it. Resources: Leslie's Quick Start Guide She Deserves Better by Sheila Gregoire

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Guest Bios Show Transcript https://youtu.be/hteO426dZ6cMen need sex. And it's their wives' job to give it to them—unconditionally, whenever they want it, or these husbands will come under Satanic attack. Stunningly, that's the message contained in many Christian marriage books. Yet, research shows that instead of increasing intimacy in marriages, messages like these are promoting abuse. In this edition of The Roys Report, featuring a talk from our recent Restore Conference, author Sheila Wray Gregoire provides eye-opening insights based on her and her team's extensive research on evangelicalism and sex. Out of a desire for evangelicals' conversations about sex to be healthy, evidence-based, and rooted in Christ, Sheila and her team have analyzed many popular Christian books on sex. Many teach that men are incapable of not objectifying women. And instead of training men to control their urges, these books teach that women must save these men. If a husband struggles with porn, for example, it's his wife's job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey. If a husband is abusive to his wife, it's his wife's job to pray the abuse away. And if you're a single woman, it's your job to dress in such a way that your body never “intoxicates” a man.With messages like these, is it any wonder that abuse victims often feel like it's their fault if someone hurts them? Is it any wonder that pastors like John MacArthur can convince wives that it's her duty to stay with a man who abuses her and their children? As Sheila explains, the patterns of abuse we're seeing in the church today are a symptom of these toxic evangelical teachings. And to solve the problem of abuse, we need to analyze and challenge these unbiblical teachings. Guests Sheila Wray Gregoire Sheila Wray Gregoire is an author, podcaster, and researcher into evangelicalism and sex. Her goal through Bare Marriage, a popular podcast and ministry, is to change the evangelical conversation about sex to be healthy, evidence-based, and rooted in Christ. She lives in Ontario, Canada, with her husband. They have two adult daughters and two grandbabies. Learn more at BareMarriage.com. Show Transcript SPEAKERSJulie Roys, SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE Julie Roys  00:05Men need sex and it’s their wives job to give it to them unconditionally whenever they want it, or these husbands will come under satanic attack. Stunningly, that’s the message contained in many Christian marriage books. Yet research shows that instead of increasing intimacy and marriages, messages like these are promoting abuse. Welcome to The Roys Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys, and what you’re about to hear is an eye-opening talk by Sheila Ray Gregoire at our latest RESTORE conference. Sheila is an author and podcaster who’s done extensive research on evangelicalism and sex. And what she’s discovered is that many evangelical books teach an unbiblical message that men are incapable of not objectifying women. And instead of training men to control their urges, these books teach that women must save these men. If a husband struggles with porn, for example, it’s his wife’s job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey. If a husband is abusive to his wife, it’s his wife’s job to pray the abuse away. And if you’re a single woman, it’s your job to dress in such a way that your body never intoxicates a man with messages like these. Is it any wonder that abuse victims often feel like it’s their fault if someone hurts them? Is it any wonder that pastors like John MacArthur can convince wives that it’s their duty to stay with a man that abuses them and their children? As Sheila explains in this important talk, the abuse that’s rampant in the church is just a symptom of this toxic teaching so prevalent in evangelicalism. And unless we address this false teaching, we’ll never solve the problem of abuse. So, I’m very excited to share Sheila’s eye-opening talk with you.   Julie Roys  01:57 But first, I want to thank the sponsors of this podcast, Judson University, and Marquardt of Barrington. If you’re looking for a top ranked Christian University, providing a caring community and an excellent college experience. Judson University is for you. Judson is located on 90 acres just 40 miles west of Chicago in Elgin, Illinois. The school offers more than 60 majors, great leadership opportunities, and strong financial aid. Plus, you can take classes online as well as in person. Judson University is shaping lives that shaped the world. For more information, just go toJUDSONU.EDU. Also, if you’re looking for a quality new or used car, I highly recommend my friends at Marquardt of Barrington. Marquardt is a Buick GMC dealership where you can expect honesty, integrity, and transparency. That’s because the owners there Dan and Kurt Marquardt, are men of integrity. To check them out. Just go to BUYACAR123.COM.   Julie Roys  03:02 Well, again, you’re about to hear a talk by Sheila Gregoire on how evangelical teachings on sex promote abuse. Sheila is the founder of BAREMARRIAGE.COM. She’s also the author of several popular books, including The Great Sex Rescue, and She Deserves Better. Sheila’s goal is to change the evangelical conversation about sex to be healthy, evidence based and rooted in Christ. And so, I’m so excited to share this message that Sheila gave at the RESTORE conference.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  03:32 It was a Friday afternoon in January of 2019, and I was sitting on my yellow chair in my living room trying to figure out how to procrastinate. I had a migraine, and I didn’t want to work, and so I was on Twitter. And I was reading a conversation between some women arguing whether or not they needed love or respect. And I thought, well, I’m a woman and I need respect. And so, I started chiming in and we were getting all spicy. And then I thought, I have that book. And I had never read it. So, Love and Respect, written by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, who got his PhD from somewhere, I don’t know. Anyway, it’s based on the idea that women need love. and men need respect. Oh, actually, no, it’s not. The subtitle is, the love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. So, she has desires, and he has desperate needs. But I realized I have that book and I’ve never read it. And so, I thought this is a great way to procrastinate. So, I went, and I got it, and I opened to the sex chapter because I’m kind of the sex lady and that’s what I do. It was only about 12 pages long. And that was when the nuclear bomb went off in my living room. Because I read to my horror, if your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have, and that need is for physical release. So, if he doesn’t get physical release, he will come under satanic attack. And through that chapter, he keeps referring to sex as a man’s physical release. There was not a single word about intimacy. There was not a single word about women feeling pleasure, too.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  04:07 So, I called my team, and we freaked out a bit. And we decided to write a post on our blog about the way that the book handled sex. And that post got so many eyeballs that we spent a whole week on love and respect. And over that week, we had email upon email, and comment upon comment about how that book had enabled abuse in their marriage. Working with me, was a young woman in her late 20s at the time, who has a master’s in epidemiology and is the statistician, but she was home with her baby. And so, she was just working remotely part time for me. And she said, you know what we should do Sheila? we should create a mixed-methods, qualitative analysis of the comments, and we should send it into Focus on the Family, who publishes the book, because maybe they don’t know. Maybe they don’t realize how harmful this is. And so, over the next few weeks, Joanna proceeded to do that. And we sent it to Focus. I knew Jim Daly; I had been on Focus on the Family several times. And we sent a nice letter about how harmful the book had been. And we never heard back. And so, Joanne said to me, “You know what I should do? I should go back and get my PhD so that I could do a study of how messages in the evangelical church are hurting women’s marital and sexual satisfaction. And I said, Joanna, I bet I could get a publisher to pay us to do it. And that is what we did.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  06:59 Until that day, I had never actually read another Christian book on sex and marriage. I mostly just wrote my own stuff. I was really scared of plagiarizing. But then we decided that we needed to open our eyes and see what was really going on. So, we surveyed 20,000 women for our book, The Great Sex Rescue. It’s the largest study of evangelical women’s marital and sexual satisfaction that’s ever been done. Did any of you take that study? Were any of you in mind, thank you. I know that was like half an hour of your life you can’t get back. I appreciate it very, very much. We’re doing a new survey that will be out in about two weeks. So, if you follow me, we will be putting out soon we will have a great need for people to take that one as well. But we surveyed 20,000 women measuring how various evangelical messages affected their marital and sexual satisfaction. And what we found was that there was four big messages in the church that really hurt women. And these messages are not biblical. They’re not from Jesus. They are what we have decided, as a church collectively are true. And we’ve done great harm with them.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  08:20 And so those messages are a woman is obligated to give her husband sex when he wants it. 39% of women that we surveyed entered marriage believing that. All men struggle with lust, it’s every man’s battle. A woman should have frequent sex with her husband to keep him from watching pornography. And boys will push your sexual boundaries and so girls need to be the gatekeeper. The sum total of those messages does great harm. These were all widely taught, widely believed and hugely destructive. We also did a survey of 3000 men a year later, and guess what? The same messages hurt men’s marriages too. These are universally bad. And yet, when we took a look at 13 of evangelicalism’s bestselling sex and marriage books, these are everywhere. There were only three books that we looked at, that actually scored well on our rubric, the vast majority of them of the books that we looked at scored in the harmful category, including Love and Respect, which scored zero out of 48, literally. Even Every Man’s Battle did better, it got nine. Last year, we did a survey as Julie was telling you of another 7000 evangelical women, this time looking at how messages that we give to teenage girls, end up hurting girls long term. And the same messages that we studied before? Yep, they do harm, but we added some new ones, like the modesty message. When we tell girls, you need to be careful what you wear so that you don’t cause one of your brothers to stumble. Well, that makes her feel like her body is a threat to her. Because by no fault of her own, he could look at her and have these bad thoughts. And then because he can’t control himself, he could end up hurting her. And so that message makes us feel like our bodies actually cause ourselves to be put into harm.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  10:42 Research shows that far too many of our common relationship teachings in evangelical culture are hurting us. And I have been trying to sound the alarm on this. And while those in this room are likely to hear it, the powers that be often don’t. This has become a grassroots movement, which I think tends to be the way that Jesus works. He doesn’t tend to talk to the churches, the big places, the big people in power. He sets up 12 disciples and all of the women that were traveling with him, and they go, and they set the world on fire. And that’s what we found in the reception to our books, which are actually selling quite well, is that people want to hear this, even if the powers that be won’t talk about it.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  11:38 We have painted men in the church as being created by God, to not be able to do anything but objectify women, which by extension, means that it is women’s responsibilities to save men. And then we’ve somehow managed to sell the message that this is the way that God intended it. So let me give you a few quotes. And I want to do a big trigger warning here, and I’m quite serious about this is that some of you, it might be good to step out of the room. All I’m going to be doing is reading you things from our bestsellers, but they’re not pretty. And so, if you feel like you need to step out of the room, now would be a good time. But let me tell you what Every Man’s Battle said. If you’re looking for the reason for sexual sin among men, we got there naturally, simply by being male. The same authors repeat, men just don’t naturally have that Christian view of sex. So, I guess women were created with more of the Holy Spirit than men, I don’t know. And how then, are men supposed to quit lusting and watching porn? Well, they have the solution. The book, the original edition of the book, told women when he stops cold turkey be like a merciful vial of methadone for him. It explains that well before when you were lusting, you may have been going to your wife for five bowls of sexual gratification a week. Now you’ll be going to her for 10. And she will be happy about this. I don’t know how you can write a book and know so many little about women, but nevertheless.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  13:37 So, think about that. We are the methadone for our husband’s sex addictions. And what is it that methadone does? Yeah, methadone is basically something which numbs you so that you don’t go after the thing you really want. And that’s how they raised a whole generation of boys and men to think of girls. That book series has sold 4 million copies. Or how about this? This Gary Thomas and Deborah Phyllida echoed their sentiment in their 2021 book Married Sex, where they encouraged women to send nude photos to their husbands so that neurologically his attention will be focused on her and not other women or porn. And they didn’t really ever talk about the problems of revenge porn, and they minimized any concerns that she may have about cementing an objectified view of women in porn. Even if it’s not about sex, we get the message in our best sellers that we’re just supposed to pray the abuse away. Women you have so much power over your man. Don’t you understand that? So, in Stormy Omartian’s book, Power of a Praying Wife, she has this quote, which is echoed throughout the book. You can submit to God in prayer whatever controls your husband, and she lists a number of things, including alcoholism, and abusiveness, and pray for him to be released from it. That book sold 10 million copies of women being told if he’s abusive, you can pray it away. You just need to pray more.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  15:27 I bet John MacArthur likes that one. I think the evangelical version of the gospel too often looks like this. Jesus saves women, so the women can save men. And it’s even in the little things. Last year, the Gospel Coalition put out an Instagram reel, where Ligon Duncan claimed that wives can’t expect their husbands to do risky things, unless their wives unconditionally respect their husbands first. And what are these risky things that a woman can’t expect her Christian husband to do? Pray, read the Bible, think about life from a Christian point of view. You cannot expect your husband to do these risky things that you by the way are already doing unless you first give him unconditional respect. This really quietly puts the wife in the leadership role, while having to pretend that it’s the husband who’s actually the one leading. Honestly, it’s like the bar is so low, it is in the basement, isn’t it? Over and over again, our evangelical teaching tells everybody that it is impossible to expect men to act honorably. Tim  LaHaye, in The Act of Marriage, told a story about Aunt Matilda, and he berates Aunt Matilda for telling her niece how terrible sex was just as her niece was getting married. But then he goes on to explain that on her wedding night, Aunt Matilda’s husband held her down kicking and screaming and raped her and continued to do this throughout the marriage. Then Tim LaHaye talks about Aunt Matilda, and her equally unhappy husband. He called the rapist equally unhappy as his rape victim. That book published by Zondervan has gone through four different editions, and nobody ever took out that anecdote. That sold two and a half million copies. His Needs/Her Needs, which I think has also sold two and a half million copies, has a line in there where a 32-year-old executive complains, I feel like I’m begging her or even raping her, but I can’t help it. I have to make love. And Willard Harley, the author uses that to explain that men just have a really high sex drive, and women need to understand that. And then, of course, there’s For Women Only. Shanti Feldon based her book supposedly on research. Which is why I think people have given these books more credence than they really need to have. I’m going to give you an example of her survey question, which has become fundamental in evangelicalism and for several different books. But Emerson Eggerichs actually based his book Love and Respect on the foundational survey question that Shanti used in her book For Women Only, which came out in the same year, 2004, as Love and Respect. So, Shanti asked, I think it was about 450 men, would you prefer to be alone and unloved or inadequate and disrespected? Okay? So, you could be alone and unloved or inadequate and disrespected. 72% of men said that they would prefer to be alone and unloved than inadequate and disrespected. And so, she took this to say that men want respect more than they want love. And that is what Emerson Eggerichs used to base his ideas on for Love and Respect.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  15:39 They never asked women; think about that. A whole doctrine of how men need respect and women need love. They never asked women. When other people, other survey people asked women the same question, 68% of women chose alone and unloved as well. There is no gender difference. But beyond that, okay, I’m just gonna get a little survey geeky with you for a sec here, okay? Alone and unloved, inadequate, and disrespected. That’s what’s called a double-barreled question where you don’t know whether they’re responding to alone or unloved or inadequate and disrespected. When my son in law looked at that, he said, well, the one that I would hate to be the most is inadequate, because alone unloved and disrespected are all how other people are treating me, inadequate is how I feel about myself. So, I would choose alone and unloved because I don’t want to feel inadequate, because inadequate and disrespected are not synonyms. That is the state of research that evangelicalism based a foundational doctrine, love, and respect, that we hear everywhere. And church, we simply have to do better. That’s not okay.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  21:32 Now, there are many other things and for women only that Shanti Felden, that I find quite problematic. But one of the worst is this line, when she’s talking about the need that men have to feel unconditional respect, she says, If you are wondering if you’ve crossed the disrespect line, watch for anger. So if you’re wondering if you’ve disrespected him, watch if he gets angry. So, your husband’s anger is a sign that you have done something wrong, rather than a red flag of a behavior problem or abuse. And again, her book series has also sold 2 million copies. The worst thing though, is that these messages are not just being given to adults, they’re also being given to children. And for our book, She Deserves Better, where we looked at the messages that were given to evangelical teen girls, we found horrific things that were said to girls as young as eight. And I would like to show you something from the Secret Keeper Girl curriculum by Dannah Gresh. Secret Keeper Girl became an event that was seen by about a million little girls and their moms around North America. It’s now called True Girl. So, they’ve rebranded but a lot of the messages are still the same. And in that curriculum, she encouraged girls to take the Raise and Praise test, okay. So, here’s what you do, you put your arms up in the air. And if any belly shows, that’s bad. And the reason is because bellies are intoxicating. Later in this curriculum, she has a conversation that mothers are supposed to have with their daughters to explain what this means. And you’re supposed to talk to your daughter and explain that to be intoxicated means like being under anesthetic or being drunk when you’re out of control. And God created our bodies to intoxicate men. But you are only supposed to intoxicate one man, your future husband, and so you need to make sure that you’re not intoxicating to anyone else. She told eight-year-old girls, that their bellies have the power to make adult men get out of control. And we did nothing about it. We took our little girls to these events, and they internalized this message. I could go on and on.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  24:40 Whether it’s sheet music by Kevin Lehman, telling women that it’s a good thing to have sex when you feel forced and want to shove him off of you. Or explaining that your period is a very difficult time for your husband. I’m not kidding. And so, it’s important to give him sexual favors during your period or when you’re postpartum so that he’s not tempted to watch porn. I can tell you about Every Man’s Battle, telling women that if your husband demands or coerces sex more than once a day, that’s a bad thing. So, there’s a quote, I guess that’s acceptable of coercion. I don’t know. The abusive messages and our evangelical resources are horrifying, and honestly, it seems endless.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  25:33 But the sum total of these teachings is that men are entitled to women’s bodies. Men deserve unconditional deference free from being challenged for any bad behavior. And men cannot be expected to act honorably, or even safely. So, when men do harm, it’s likely because some woman somewhere hasn’t done her job. It’s not hard to imagine how disastrous this can be. In a survey done by the Institute for Family Studies, about 27% of highly religious men who believe in complementarianism, or believe in male headship, claim that they have been violent with their current partner. Marital rape is more difficult to measure because it depends on the definition of marital rape. But from what we’ve seen in the literature, and in our own results, it looks like a rate of about 10% with a very narrow definition, to about 25% of evangelical marriages if you include things like obligation sex, which lead to trauma. So, this is what’s going on in the pews. One quarter of the women in our churches are currently victims of abuse. And a lot of that is caused by our messages which prop up and enable abuse.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  27:17 And it’s not only abuse. There’s also rates of sexual pain. This is one of our big research areas that we’re trying to dig down deep into. Because it’s been known for about 50 years in the literature that evangelical women suffer from sexual pain. Specifically, a sexual pain disorder called vaginismus, which is when the muscles of the vaginal wall contract and become really tight, so that penetration becomes really difficult, if not impossible. Even things like inserting tampons can become difficult or pelvic exams. And we’ve known evangelical women suffer from this at way higher rates than the general population. But what we haven’t known is why. And it was assumed that it’s just because well, they’re just ashamed of sex. That’s not actually what we found. We discovered two big things that are highly highly correlated with vaginismus. The first is the obligation sex message. So, when women enter marriage, believing in obligation sex, whether or not their husbands do, it's just what you have internalized, your chance of experiencing vaginismus increases to almost the same statistical effect as if you had been abused. Because our bodies interpret obligation sex as trauma. Because abuse says, you don’t matter, he gets to use you however you want. And so does obligation sex. The other big thing that’s correlated with it is the modesty message as a teenager. So, when a girl has internalized that she is at least partially responsible for keeping boys from sinning., she’s also far more likely to experience vaginismus. This is our problem. It’s not nice to talk about it, but this is our problem. We have an incidence rate of about 22.6% of evangelical women and in the broader population is closer to seven or eight. This is what we have done, and it’s largely because of what we have taught people.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  29:32 And that’s why I am so passionate about changing the way we talk about sex and marriage in the church. Because what we have done has had real world effects. It has caused abuse to rise. It has caused actual physical changes in our bodies. And there’s other research which has shown that it actually solidifies porn use and makes it much harder to stop. We need to talk about this in a different way. And what’s been so exciting to me as we have done our work is that people have told me again and again, that when they read our stuff, they start to recognize abuse in other places too. Like, once you start to see, oh, this isn’t okay, in one area, you see it everywhere. One woman told us that it’s like peeling an onion, you know, and you take off one layer. And then you see it again and again. Another woman said, you know, I read The Great Sex Rescue, and I recognized that there was some really abusive patterns in my marriage. And thank God, my husband saw it, too, and we’re on the road to recovery. But it wasn’t just that. I also in that same week, realized that my boss was sexually harassing me, and I stood up to him, and I reported him. And we left our church. Because when you see abuse in one area, you’re able to recognize it in others.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  31:19 This is gonna sound weird to say, I don’t actually care about sex that much. Like, I know, this is my whole life, and I know this is all I write about. I don’t actually care that much. You know what I care about? I care about people thriving. I care about emotional health and wholeness. I care about ending abuse. But there’s a lot of people that are doing that work of calling out abuse, and you know how hard it is to get people to listen to you. You know, it’s like banging your head on the wall, and they just don’t want to hear. And on the other side, there’s a lot of people addressing the theology of men and women in the church, and how harmful that theology has been to many women. And I can’t speak Greek, my husband reads the New Testament in Greek, but I don’t, you know, I can’t tackle it on that side. But you know, the one thing people like talking about? sex. Everybody wants to talk about sex. And so, this has been our way in. We’ve been able to open up that conversation about sex, so that people will listen. Even people who, maybe you’re normally in more fundamentalist spaces, because everybody wants good sex. And when you can tell them, hey, here’s the way forward, here’s what we need, here’s why women need to matter too. When they start to see it in that one area, then they’ll start to see it in others. And I think that’s where we can work together. You know, I know so many of you are recovering from church hurt, and you’re wondering where to go and how to move forward. And I’ve been there. But I believe that as we speak up about this stuff, we’re going to empower others, that they can speak up too, and we’re going to cause a grassroots movement.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  33:27 I spent a lot of years hitting my head against the wall, trying to convince Focus on the Family to change. It doesn’t work. Interestingly, they’re now using all of my talking points in their Instagram reels. They’re just not referencing me. It’s pretty funny. But so, you know, that’s good. You know what? I don’t care if you don’t reference me, as long as you’re actually starting to teach healthy stuff, do not trust Focus for healthy stuff. Okay? They might be saying a few good things. And I’m glad about that. But this is not an endorsement. But you know, things can change slowly from the grassroots. But we’re not necessarily going to get the big things to change. And it used to really frustrate me when I couldn’t get the big organizations to change, when I couldn’t get the megachurch pastors to listen to me, when I couldn’t get the big media organizations to listen to me. When nobody big would interview us about The Great Sex Rescue, even though we did the biggest study that’s ever been done. Even though we spoke at the American Physiotherapy convention because pelvic floor physiotherapists think we’re groundbreaking. And we can’t get  the big names in the church to listen. But maybe that’s because they’re not supposed to. Because Jesus works at the margins. And I think Jesus is working at the margins here. And I know so many of you are hurting and a lot of It is because of this crap that was in so many of the books that taught you that it’s your fault if someone hurts you, and that you’re just not praying enough. And don’t you know that Jesus put up with it? So, what are you to say that you shouldn’t have to put up with this? You should have the mind of Christ. And you’ve heard those messages. But let me tell you that Jesus wants to tell you that you matter, that you matter.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  35:33 One of my co-authors on The Great Sex Rescue said that we could sum up the whole book with just four words, women are people too. And we are. And men are people too too; we all matter. But when we live in a church culture, which is trying to be based on power instead of on love, and emotional wholeness, we’re going to end up with abuse. And we’re going to end up with hurt. And so, as we’re fighting abuse, my plea, if I can make a plea, is that we also fight that which underpins abuse. That we don’t just fight abuse, but we start calling out the teaching that has enabled it. Because when we call out the teaching, we make it far more likely that people will recognize abuse in other spaces, too.   SHEILA WRAY GREGOIRE  36:35 One of the things that so disappointed me in the Mars Hill podcast series, I don’t know how many of you listen to that. Some of you, yeah, they just didn’t go far enough. They treated it like Mark was the problem. Mark was a symptom. All of the things that one episode they did about women, all of the things Mark preached about women, were in all of our best sellers. I could have pointed you to everything he said was in all of our bestsellers that are still our bestsellers. Mark is not the problem; Mark’s awful, but Mark is not the problem. The problem is that we have this whole culture of teaching that enables the Mark’s to get power. If we didn’t have this teaching underpinning it, if we didn’t have these ideas of power and kingdom, then there would not be a Mark Driscoll who would have that kind of power, there would not be a John MacArthur who told Eileen Gray she needed to go back to her abusive husband. And so, as we fight abuse, and I am so grateful to those of you who are out there in the trenches doing that, I pray that you will also join me in some of my mission too, in fighting the teaching that is given about marriage and sex that is underpinned abuse and enabled it to flourish. Because I think, until we can eradicate that teaching, we’re just going to be playing abuser whack-a-mole. Thank you.   Julie Roys  38:12 Wow, such an important message. And I’m so grateful for Sheila’s ministry, and the way that she’s addressing the root of the abuse problem in our churches. And I’m grateful for you too, who listen and support these podcasts and help us get these important messages out. As I’ve noted before, many ministries charge for conference talks, but because of your continued generosity, we’ve been able to make these messages available free of charge. And I’m just so grateful to the hundreds of you who donate to The Roys Report. As I’ve said before, we don’t have any large donors or advertisers, we simply have you the people who care about abuse victims and want to help. If you appreciate this ministry and want to support us, just go to JULIEROYS.COM/DONATE. And in January, if you give a gift of $30 or more, we’ll send you a copy of The Great Dechurching. This is a great resource exploring what’s causing the current exodus out of the church, and what can be done to stop the bleed. So again, just go to JULIEROYS.COM/DONATE. Also, just a quick reminder to subscribe to The Roys Report on Apple podcast, Google podcasts or Spotify. That way you won’t miss any of these episodes. 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Genesis 3:16 had been mistranslated. Many harmful misconceptions had arisen. Many harmful practices had been propagated.In her research Joy opens up the 7-point chiasm in Genesis 2-3 and especially the patterns related to Genesis 3:16. It turns out that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.You can discover these insights and more in her books available from Tru316.com/trubooks The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdl Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Have you seen the literary patterns that speak to us in Ephesians 5:15-6:9? They prevent us from taking these verses out of context.Paul teaches that believers are to be mutually building up one another. They are to teach and correct one another. And they are to submit themselves to what they are receiving fro one another. This is a HORIZONTAL and RECIPROCAL SUBMISSION that is world's away from the vertical submission many people teach about these verses.Christian wives and husbands serve as an excellent example of this functional unity in Christ. These verses are not primarily about marriage. Rather, they illustrate how to be being filled with the Spirit (5:18b). They give us a picture of the unity of the body of Christ that is the central idea of this passage (5:31-32).Go Deeper? Please get a copy of Beyond Eden, Ephesians 5:15-6:9 -- The Great Mystery Revealed: Mutually Submitting in Christ. It is available at Tru316.com/trubooks. Here's the link from that page: https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Eden-Ephesians-5-6-Submitting/dp/0972575936?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1699306961&sr=1-1-catcorr&linkCode=sl1&tag=trubooks-20&linkId=9eba1907d83f278d8773a8640cc38f97&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl    The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdl Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Liz Beyer found Dr. Joy Fleming's book to be a great help. We dive into this and more of her story on this episode of The Eden Podcast.Liz Beyer is the editor of two volumes by CBE International.  They areMutual by Design: A Better Model of Christian Marriage.  https://amzn.to/41idcolCreated to Thrive: Creating Abuse-free Faith Communitieshttps://amzn.to/3RI1a48 You can find books by Dr. Joy Fleming and Bruce C. E. Fleming, and books by other authors featured on The Eden Podcast on our TruBooks page. When you use these links you help the Tru316 Foundation as well! Tru316.com/trubooks The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdl Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Have you noticed the Pattern of Fours used by Paul in the end of Ephesians 5? Have you noticed the Jump, Jump, High Jump pattern in the passage of Ephesians 5:15-6:9? These patterns communicate the message of the passage in addition to the meanings of the words that are used.Go deeper? We are working our way through the book Beyond Eden on Ephesians  5:15 to 6:9. You can get a copy as an eBook, as a paperback or as an audio book on Audible on our Trubooks page on www.Tru316.com/trubooksOther books discussed on The Eden Podcast are also shown on the TruBooks page. Whenever you buy a book using the links here you help the author of that book and you also help support the Tru316 Foundation (wwwTru316.com), which is the home of The Eden Podcast.  The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series. https://amzn.to/48RJqdl Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

This conversation is an evaluation of the work of Sheila Wray Gregoire, host of the Bare Marriage Podcast, and author of many popular books including The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended, She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self & Speaking Up, and, most recently, Fixed It For You: Rescuing and Reframing Common Evangelical Messages on Sex and Marriage Vol. 1. Our review of her work notes that Gregoire represents the last stage in the Evangelical world's “struggle” (a beloved Christian-ese term for failure) to preserve a theological and spiritual grasp of the person. Her view of marriage offers a bare nod toward the Christian telos of that estate. She teaches about sex from the unquestioned assumptions of two decades ago—Christians can have good sex too! God wants you to be happy! Great sex is one of the markers of Christian Flourishing that is essential for what it means to be a healthy, well-rounded person! These messages ring hollow in a post-Christian materialist neverland where young people are happy to identify as “spiritual” but are, ironically enough, not equipped with the tools necessary to understand what the spirit is, nor what the body is for. The spiritual needs of the person are everywhere eclipsed by carnal ones. Absent from Gregoire's work is any discussion of the transcendent, metaphysical spiritual soil that produced the fruit Gregoire is so eager to devour. Discussing sex, especially as a Christian, in exactly the same way as publications like Glamour or Vogue is an assumption of a philosophic framework that, to me, feels like sawing at the very branch one is sitting on. The reason that women and men are both to honor each other with their bodies is because God made men and women in his image and redeemed them to be the Church. The call to sanctification and holiness requires at least an attempt to honor and uphold the spiritual goods of marriage and sex, even while trying to instruct married people how to do it “better.”This Postmodern Realities episode is a conversation with JOURNAL author Anne Kennedy about her online article, “Sex and The Evangelical Girl: A Review of Sheila Gregoire”. Coming Soon!When you support the Journal, you join the team of to help provide the resources at equip.org that minister to people worldwide. These resources include our ever growing database of over 1,500 articles, as well as our free Postmodern Realities podcast.Another way you can support our online articles is by leaving us a tip. A tip is just a small amount, like $3, $5, or $10 which is the cost for some of a latte, lunch out, or coffee drink. To leave a tip, click hereOther recent articles and Postmodern Realities podcasts featuring this author:Episode 353 Women and the Genderless Jesus A Review of ‘Women and the Gender of God' by Amy PeelerWomen and the Genderless Jesus — A Review of ‘Women and the Gender of God' by Amy PeelerEpisode 343 A Review of Beautiful Union by Joshua Ryan ButlerThe Upside-Down Metaphor: A Hermeneutical Critique of Josh Butler's ‘Beautiful Union'

Did God tell the man to rule over the woman? Or was it the man's desire? Did the man righteously rule over the woman when he named her? Or was this another of his disobedient steps away from God's will?This is the familiar yet surprising climax of the chapters on the Garden of Eden! Would you like to get a copy of The Book of Eden? In addition to what we're sharing on The Eden Podcast you'll find in-depth Study Guides after each chapter!Here's the link. https://amzn.to/3Ri4YJo (It's also available as an eBook for just $3.16!)

This is Part 2 of Carolyn Custis James' insights into misread passages on key men and women. The focus is on Deborah, Jael, Barak, Judah and Tamar. Carolyn says: Patriarchy is not the Bible's message. It's the backdrop. The men in these Bible stories weren't following what men are "supposed to do." Instead they were embodying Jesus. Here's her website:https://carolyncustisjames.com. She is the author of numerous books. The latest is Malestrom: How Jesus Dismantles Patriarchy and Redefines Manhood, and she is well-known as the author of Half the Church: Recapturing God's Global Vision for Women. She is also an adjunct faculty member at Missio Seminary and is a consulting editor for Zondervan's Exegetical Commentary on the New Testament. Carolyn Custis James (MA, Biblical Studies) travels extensively as a popular speaker for women's conferences, churches, colleges, seminaries, and other Christian organizations. Her ministry organization, WhitbyForum, promotes thoughtful biblical discussion to help men and women serve God together. Carolyn founded and is president of the Synergy Women's Network. She is a consulting editor for Zondervan's Exegetical Commentary Series on the New Testament and author of When Life and Beliefs Collide and Lost Women of the Bible. Carolyn and her husband live in Sellersville, Pennsylvania. They have one grown daughter.Christianity Today named her in 2013 one of the 50 evangelical women to watch. She speaks regularly at church conferences, colleges, and for other Christian organizations both in the US and abroad and is a guest lecturer at various theological seminaries. She has been interviewed by the Associated Press and National Public Radio. She is the author of numerous books. The latest is Malestrom: How Jesus Dismantles Patriarchy and Redefines Manhood, and she is well-known as the author of Half the Church: Recapturing God's Global Vision for Women.Adjunct faculty member at Missio Seminary and is a consulting editor for Zondervan's Exegetical Commentary on the New Testament. Carolyn serves on the advisory board of Logia—an initiative of the LOGOS Institute at the University of St. Andrews, UK committed to seeing Christian female scholars become more visible and valued in the academy and the church and is on the board of Institute for Bible Reading—dedicated to facilitate and energize a twenty-first century Bible reading movement.

Rev. Dan Boeck tells his stories on this episode of The Eden Podcast! Dan served in pastoral ministry for nearly 30 years before joining the staff of Called to Peace Ministries where he is the Church Partnerships Coordinator. Currently, he consults with churches worldwide, presents at conferences and training events, and supervises a team of liaisons who help churches navigate the complexities of domestic abuse. Dan and his wife, Shannon, live in Georgia and have five daughters, two sons-in-law, and three grandsons.LINK https://www.calledtopeace.org/who-we-help/churches/

What really happened in Genesis 3:16? Not what most would have you believe!1. In Line 1 of Genesis 3:16 God took action in two ways NOT ONE. (1) When God cursed the ground because of the man causing sorrowful-toil, the woman would experience that too. (2) Had God foretold that the woman's offspring would crush the serpent's head?  God confirmed that good news to her personally!2. In Line 2 God explained she would experience psychological sorrow raising children as mother in a world of good and evil.3. In Line 3 God looked into her heart. She had not rebelled. She yet affectionately desired her husband.4. In line 4, the state of her husband's heart is revealed. He had rejected God and His Word. He would sinfully rule over her!The Tru316 Foundation offers four Tru School Workshops for those who wish to go deeper. (Tru316.com/workshop) You can even purchase The Eden Course, presented by Jessica Nagy, and study at your own speed. Work through videos, take the quizzes and access the extra resources and GAIN CLARITY on the POSITIVE message for women and men in Genesis 2-3! (TheEdenCourse.com) 

How can mothers raise their daughters with healthy messages about sex, self, and speaking up? What are some of the toxic teachings that need to be acknowledged and challenged? Barb speaks with Sheila Gregoire, author of the popular book, The Great Sex Rescue, about Sheila's book for mothers of daughters titled, She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self and Speaking Up. During their conversation, Sheila reveals data from her survey of more than 7,000 women about how experiences in church as teens affect women's self-esteem and their relationships today.     RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE tolovehonorandvacuum.com She Deserves Better: Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self and Speaking Up Connect with Sheila on Twitter! Connect with Sheila on IG! Connect with Sheila on Facebook!     ABOUT OUR SPECIAL GUEST Sheila Wray Gregoire is an author, podcaster, and researcher into evangelicalism and sex. The founder of BareMarriage.com, together with her team she has surveyed over 32,000 people for her books The Great Sex Rescue and She Deserves Better. Her goal is to change the evangelical conversation about sex to be healthy, evidence-based, and rooted in Christ. A graduate of Queen's University, she's married to her husband Keith, a pediatrician, who writes and speaks with her.    

From airline flight attendant to in-church Christian counselor. Hearing Corrie Ten Boom changed her life and brought Beth Moorhead to a ministry of healing hearts and lives at Westgate Church in the Twin Cities area. Beth found out about the Tru316 Foundation when the Tru316 Launch Event was held at her church. She now is a Tru Partner as one of the donors who monthly supports the outreach of The Eden Podcast and the Tru School Workshops! (www.Tru316.com/partner) Westgate Church offers individual, pre-marital, and marriage counseling, where Beth reports, "We've seen God reconcile and restore individuals and relationships. We also offer support groups for those grieving the loss of a relationship through death and those who have loved ones dealing with mental health issues. Our counseling group is a team of 20 people with different types of training and life experiences." For more information, you can contact Beth Moorhead at beth.moorhead@westgatemn.church.

How did Cru go from little visible participation for women in leadership to now having women serving in the ministry as global 4 of the 7 Global Vice Presidents? This is the Remarkable Judy Douglass Story on The Eden Podcast!Hear her Faith Story, her Ministry Story and her Tru316 Story! Judy is an in-the-book endorser of The Book of Eden by Bruce C. E. Fleming and a welcome advisor to the Tru316 Foundation.Here are Judy Douglass' links:Website: www.JudyDouglass.comPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-you-love-a-prodigal/id1551846569Would you like to go deeper studying the Tru316 Message? ENROLL NOW to be part of the next Tru School two-week cohort, The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3. Here's that link: www.Tru316.com/workshopThe Tru316 Foundation(www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner HERE: www.Tru316.com/partnerFor just $3.16/month or more our Tru Partners are spreading the Word that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way. Click www.Tru316.com/partner

A Native of Holland, Loes studied in London where she met her husband. They moved to Asia where she found Jesus while attending a Baptist church. Looking for answers to her practical questions she came across the books and materials of Joy and Bruce Fleming and found them to be life changing! Greatly encouraged she wrote down her discoveries and began a website called Ministry to Silenced Women. She has been invited to speak in the Philippines, Myanmar, Hong Kong and more. Her book was translated into the languages of Pakistan. Encouraged by Loes's writings to follow the calling of Christ, 300 Pakistani women became Pastors of house churches during the pandemic!Here is her website: www.ministryto-silencedwomen.com Loes is a regular on the Tru316 FIRST Saturday monthly Q&A Sessions for Tru Partners and friends. She also has continued to study by taking the Tru School Workshops on the key passages on women and men (www.Tru316.com/workshop) Would you like to go deeper studying the Tru316 Message? ENROLL NOW to be part of the next Tru School two-week cohort, The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3. Here's that link: www.Tru316.com/workshopThe Tru316 Foundation(www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner HERE: www.Tru316.com/partnerFor just $3.16/month or more our Tru Partners are spreading the Word that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way. Click www.Tru316.com/partner

Sheila Gregoire and Keith Gregoire are the co-authors of The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: Because Good Guys Make the Best Lovers. On this episode of The Eden Podcast we hear his three stories: His Faith Story, his Ministry Story and his Tru316 Story! Keith Gregoire, MD, married and father of two adult daughters, is a pediatrician who knows how healthy marriages contribute to children's well-being. He is passionate about building great marriages and about equipping couples to parent well. He and his wife Sheila have spoken at scores of marriage conferences, headlined their own signature marriage event all over the United States and most of all do the Bare Marriage Podcast. He is also an avid birdwatcher who loves traveling with Sheila in the RV to chase after hawks.Dr. Keith Ronald Gregoire, Consulting Pediatrician Belleville, Ontario, a longtime Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at Queen's University, Kingston, Ontario, Canada.Keith's Instagram handle: @drbirdnerdThe Bare Marriage blog: https://baremarriage.com/Would you like to go deeper studying the Tru316 Message? ENROLL NOW to be part of the next Tru School two-week cohort, The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3. Here's that link: www.Tru316.com/workshopThe Tru316 Foundation(www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner HERE: www.Tru316.com/partnerFor just $3.16/month or more our Tru Partners are spreading the Word that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way. Click www.Tru316.com/partner  

Vicky has studied the books by Dr. Joy Fleming and Bruce C. E. Fleming for a number of years and has quite a collection of them. She also has taken two Tru School Workshops: The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3 and the Beyond Eden Workshop on Ephesians 5-6! You are invited to enroll as well! Visit www.Tru316.com/workshop. Vicki Cox says she was practically born in the pew of the Churches of Christ where her family has deep roots. She's been married for 33 years and has two children and one grandchild. She lives on a small farm in south-central Missouri. Her preacher husband is now retired from full time ministry. ln 2003, she got her preacher husband fired from a church by asking for a study on women's roles in the church and in the scriptures.You can also study right now online with The Eden Course on Genesis 2-3. Go to TheEdenCourse.com!

Special offer by Rebecca Davis! Check now! https://sendfox.com/lp/m4yqwlRebecca Davis, is a trauma-informed writer, book coach, speaker, compassionate witness, prayer minister, and lover of Jesus who lives in Greenville, South Carolina.She writes so that those who have suffered abuse (spiritual, domestic, or sexual) at the hands of Christians or pseudo-Christians can know that God is still good, He is opposed to the powerful oppressing the vulnerable, and He is mighty to save through the gentle power of the Lord Jesus Christ.Before she wrote about spiritual abuse, Rebecca's missionary stories and biographies (one of which is an award winner) were written for families to enjoy together. In addition to solo books, as an editor Rebecca also writes in collaboration with others who have an important story to tell. You can follow her at her blog, where she gladly untwists Scriptures that have been used against the oppressed, https://heresthejoy.com.Would you like to go deeper studying the Tru316 Message? ENROLL NOW to be part of the next Tru School two-week cohort, The Eden Workshop on Genesis 2-3. Here's that link: www.Tru316.com/workshopThe Tru316 Foundation(www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too.Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner HERE: www.Tru316.com/partnerFor just $3.16/month or more our Tru Partners are spreading the Word that God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way. Click www.Tru316.com/partner

Leslie's special guest on this episode is Sheila Gregoire, author of "She Deserves Better" and "The Great Sex Rescue." Together Sheila and Leslie delve into debunking harmful stereotypes and fostering meaningful connections with your daughters. Segment 1: Harmful Beliefs About Girls and Their Consequences: Sheila discusses (and debunks) the damaging belief that girls talk excessively and its adverse effects on their lives. Explore the potential consequences of buying into this stereotype, including the risk of marrying an abuser. Segment 2: Nurturing Healthy Communication with Daughters: Sheila underscores the significance of parents actively listening to their daughters and allowing them to have a voice. Encourage ongoing and open dialogues, with an emphasis that parents need not be perfect in these conversations. Parents are encouraged to teach their children the art of respectful disagreement and independent thinking. Segment 3: Impact of Toxic Relationships on Parenting: How toxic relationships, particularly abusive marriages, affect parenting. Sheila emphasizes the importance of recognizing and breaking free from authoritarian and harmful patterns in one's life. Parents are urged to treat their sons and daughters equitably, imparting values of mutual respect and shared responsibilities. Delve into setting boundaries and recognizing red flags in relationships. Segment 4: Parenting Daughters in Healthy Relationships and Non-Negotiables: Sheila offers valuable advice on parenting daughters and identifies non-negotiables. Emphasize that daughters should not be instrumentalized to make parents look good but should be recognized as unique individuals. Encourage parents to provide guidance, maintain open conversations, and embrace imperfections. Resources: Register for Leslie's free workshop on October 5th, 2023: "If He Doesn't Hit You Is It Still Abuse?" www.leslievernick.com/freetraining Leslie's website: www.leslievernick.com Sheila Gregoire's website: www.sheilawraygregoire.com  Sheila's podcast: Bare Marriage (formerly "To Love, Honor and Vacuum"):

Author, speaker, and podcaster Sheila Gregoire joins Blake to discuss the impact of toxic teachings in evangelical churches on women's marital and sexual satisfaction. Sheila explains how their research project surveyed thousands of women to examine how these teachings harmed women's experiences and led to harmful beliefs. Joins them as they talk about the consequences of purity culture, the lack of boundaries in evangelical communities, and the importance of teaching girls to have a voice and set boundaries. This episode emphasizes the need for parents to be aware of what their children are being taught in church and to engage in open conversations with them to counter harmful messages.   In this episode, you'll be able to: Explore the impact of toxic teachings within evangelical churches on women's self-esteem, relationships, and boundaries. Gain insights into the research-backed findings about the harmful effects of purity culture and modesty messages. Discover strategies and conversations to help parents empower their children to recognize red flags and prioritize healthy boundaries within church communities. Sheila is the author of She Deserves Better – available everywhere now! To connect with Sheila: Website: baremarriage.com Instagram: @sheilagregoire Facebook: @sheila.gregoire Podcast: Bare Marriage