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A calm, structured, predictable home life is as important for teens and tweens as it is for children. Scientific research shows that the opposite will have a negative effect on adolescent's mental health and overall wellbeing and could lead to behavioral issues.In today's episode I talk about 5 ways you can interject more calm into your home with teens to help alleviate their stress (and yours) and improve their chances of avoiding negative outcomes.These tips will not only help reign in the chaos but will improve the relationship with your kids and teens.Read the related Substack, Creating a Low-Stress Home for Teen Mental Health, dated 9-9-25.Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. If you're listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they'll be ready for you in your app. Thanks so much for listening!The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50! Check out the podcast on YouTube! Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

Being “nice” is not the goal and if you're just trying to be nice, you're lying. You're putting on a fake version of yourself to make people like you. I've said it many times: being important matters way more than being nice. This is a results game, not a nice person contest. Get important first then you can choose to be nice if you want. Show Notes:  [01:40]#1 Being “nice” is a costume.  [09:36]#2 Nice people rather be comfortable than to get to what's real.  [18:26]#3 Nice people cannot be trusted as leaders in any type of relationship. [23:01]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1565: Be Important Now -- And Be Nice Later 3297: Be Important - Not "Nice" 3188: "Dre says 'YOU' Too Much!" Next Steps:

You don't have depression. Just like I said yesterday about ADHD, a lot of people use this label as an excuse for not doing what they need to do. The drug and therapy industries push this so you'll keep needing them. That's how they make money. Today, I'm breaking down why most of what you've heard about depression is not true and why you have more control than you think.  Show Notes:  [03:20]#1 You are much more disconnected than you are depressed.  [09:14]#2 Your brain's turning inward, you're thinking everything's bad.  [17:51]#3 Emotional pain is not a permanent identity.  [21:08]Recap Next Steps:

I don't believe you have ADHD. A lot of us got that label as kids because a teacher or counselor said we couldn't focus like the other students. The truth is, this whole ADHD thing was created by the system and drug companies to give schools and parents an excuse. They just wanted us to sit still, be quiet, and follow boring lessons from people who never actually did what they teach. In this episode, I'm breaking down why you don't have ADHD and why it's time to stop using it as an excuse. Show Notes:  [03:02]#1 You have no structure and thus no discipline.  [07:49]#2 Most of us are wired for consistent stimulation rather than we are wired for completion, discipline or focus.  [15:15]#3 ADHD is an offloading of accountability and responsibility.  [19:21]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1193: Focus: The Force Multiplier Next Steps:

Most people never build a real presence that feeling you give off that makes people notice and respect you without you even trying. I'm not talking about just being in a place, I mean having a vibe and confidence that people can feel anywhere, even if you're just at the grocery store. Presence is self-assurance and the way you carry yourself. In this episode, I talk about why most people never develop it and what's stopping them. Show Notes:  [02:56]#1 Most people chase attention more than they anchor energy. [11:43]#2 Movement and noise addiction [23:44]#3 Most people don't know who they are.  [29:12]Recap Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm talking about the power of showing up first. You've heard me say it before — early is on time, on time is late, and late is forgotten. Being first isn't just about arriving early, it's about being the one who moves, starts, or leads while everyone else is waiting. Whether it's getting up before the world, starting a conversation, or taking action when others hesitate — going first sets you apart. Today, I'll break down why it matters and how to make it part of who you are. Show Notes:  [01:53]#1 When you show up first, you are sending a message to others and you're sending a message to yourself. [10:33]#2 Waiting makes you reactive, whereas showing up gives you power.  [15:06]#3  Showing up first is an identity.  [19:17]Recap Next Steps:

In this special episode of RUNWITHALLI LIVE, I sit down with Devon Lévesque to talk all things Runningman — a one-of-a-kind gathering designed for everyone, not just competitive runners.Devon shares how the festival is about so much more than running:Connection — meet like-minded people and build friendships that last a lifetime.Friendly Competition — choose your distance and test your grit in a supportive, uplifting environment.Wellness & Recovery — enjoy world-class wellness activities, the world's largest sauna, and recovery experiences that bring balance to mind and body.Beyond Running — community, celebration, and memories that carry far beyond race day.Whether you're chasing a PR, looking for a new adventure, or simply craving community, Runningman is a place where everyone belongs. Tune in as Devon pulls back the curtain on the inspiration behind the event and why it's set to be one of the most meaningful weekends of the year.I really enjoyed connecting with Devon and hearing his story and background firsthand. Fitness and wellness are truly for everyone, and I love that he's on a mission to make it accessible to all through this wonderful event!Runningman is a 3-day fitness and wellness festival designed for humans in progress, happening in just about a week, from September 12 through 14, outside of Atlanta in Kingston Downs, GA. From the world's largest sauna to a beer mile around their famous choose-your-distance track, to goat yoga, they've got it all. Check out more info at runningmanfestival.com or at runningmanfest on IG. Use code ALLI10 for 10% off tickets. Whether you're interested in exploring the fitness and wellness world, connecting with like-minded individuals, training for your first race, or chasing a new PR, this conversation will leave you feeling encouraged, equipped, and ready to lace up those sneakers with a purpose!Follow Devon Lévesque & Runningman:WebsiteRunningman's InstagramDevon's Instagram  Shop Devon's workout and recovery essentials, including Blood Flow and Electrolytes, via PromixIf you enjoyed this episode, head to Apple Podcasts and tap the +Follow button to stay in the loop. Your support helps me bring more conversations like this to life. Thank you for being here! Buzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREE Support the show

Mental toughness isn't just a skill you practice—it's who you are. Skills are important, but they're about what you do. Mental toughness is about your identity, your way of being. It's your willingness to keep showing up, doing the work, and putting yourself out there, even when success hasn't shown up yet. Today I'm breaking down why mental toughness is in your DNA, not just in your to-do list. Show Notes:  [01:20]#1 Skills are what you do.  [09:17]#2 Being mentally tough is not something that you practice. [14:55]#3 Do not outsource your toughness to motivation.  [19:10]Recap Next Steps:

This is part four, the final part of my series on killing passive aggression. Today I'm breaking down three more bad habits you need to kill. First, stop being the messenger for someone else's words—let them speak for themselves. Second, don't get others to fight your battles, and don't fight theirs. Third, if you think something might bother someone, talk to them first—or just own what you did and deal with it. At Work On Your Game University, we turn discipline into dominance so you can win in mindset, structure, strategy, and execution. Show Notes:  [00:35]#10 Telling you what someone else said about you instead of owning it.  [05:06]#11 Never get someone else to confront on your behalf.  [13:10]#12 I didn't know it would bother you. [18:43]Recap Next Steps:

Struggling to get your teen or tween to school? You're not alone. If your teen is refusing to get out of bed for school, constantly leaving early, or complaining of physical symptoms like headaches and stomach aches when it's time for school, this isn't laziness or defiance—it's likely school refusal, a real emotional and physical response that affects up to 25% of teens aged 13 to 18. Listen in as I explain the difference between school refusal and truancy, reveal the underlying issue driving this behavior, and provide actionable strategies for parents feeling pressured by schools and unsure of their options. Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. If you're listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they'll be ready for you in your app. Thanks so much for listening!The 5-Day Reboot: From Conflict to Cooperation - receive bite-sized lessons in your in-box for 5 days that will make a huge difference between you and your teen...for under $50! Check out the podcast on YouTube! Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

This is part three of my four-part series on killing passive aggression. Today I'm talking about three specific tactics: withholding enthusiasm, praising someone's competition, and pouting or sulking. These are sneaky ways people avoid saying what's really on their mind. Women often use these methods naturally, but when men start doing them, it's a bigger problem—because as a man, you should be direct and speak up instead of waiting to be prompted. The best way to deal with this behavior? Call it out straight up. Show Notes:  [00:32]#7 Withholding of enthusiasm. [05:54]#8 Praising someone's competition.  [13:43]#9 Instead of sharing that there is an issue, pouting and sulking. [35:45]Recap Next Steps:

This is part two of my four-part series on killing your passive aggression. Today I'm talking about three behaviors you need to stop. First, vague language stops hiding behind unclear words and just says where you stand. Second, convenient memory loss deals with issues early instead of pretending you forgot until it blows up. Third, saying yes with your mouth but no with your actions if you're out of a commitment, say so instead of ghosting on it. Show Notes:  [00:44]#4 Stop using vague language.  [06:29]#5 Convenient memory loss. [10:08]#6 Saying yes in your words, but saying no in your actions.  [18:10]Recap Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm starting a four-part series on killing passive aggressiveness for good, especially in men. Passive aggression is when someone avoids saying things directly, like showing up late on purpose, staying quiet when they should speak, or making a point by doing nothing. I expect that from women sometimes, but when men do it, it makes us weak, soft, and more feminine. I want men to be direct and clear, even if the truth is uncomfortable. If a few guys can change this habit, we can start changing the whole culture. Show Notes:  [06:21]#1 Stop procrastinating on a NO. [13:10]#2 Stop saying you're okay when you're not all right. [21:12]#3 Feigning a lack of understanding to avoid responsibility. [23:29]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3224: Men: Stop Being Pussies [Part 1 of 5] 2457: Identifying Toxic Femininity 2200: The Feminization Of Sports, Part 1 of 6 2039: The Worst Traits Of Feminized Men 3346: How Feminism ENDS Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm talking about why you need to stop explaining yourself so much. When you step into your presence and dominance, you don't have to justify every action or decision you make. Explaining less not only saves you time and energy, but it also makes you look more powerful. The less you talk about why you did something, the more people respect it. Let's break down exactly why this works. Show Notes:  [01:11]#1 Explaining yourself to other people is a sign unconsciously of submission and subordination. [06:58]#2  As a general rule, the more explaining you need to do to a person, the less chance they will get it, no matter what you say. [16:11]#3 Get better at message clarity.  [20:15]Recap Next Steps:

You've probably heard people say you should never burn bridges. They tell you to leave on good terms, be polite, and keep the door open no matter what. But I'm here to flip that. There are times in life when burning the bridge is exactly what you need to do. In this episode, I'll explain why sometimes you need to make it impossible to go back, and why that can be the best move for your future. Show Notes:  [01:50]#1 You never want to go back, you know you never will, and you want to make sure you never do. [08:32]#2 When you want to give yourself no option but to move forward and not allow yourself to slow down or step backwards.  [19:34]#3 When you realize the comfort and ease have been detrimental to you because of the temptation of and your easy access to them.  [22:12]Recap Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm breaking down what true power really is and why most people are scared of it, even though they say they want it. I'll explain what true power looks like, feels like, and the trade-offs that come with it. If you've been listening to me, you know there's no perfect scenario, only trade-offs. Once you understand what power really means and the responsibility it brings, you'll see why most people actually don't want it. Let's get into it. Show Notes:  [01:40]#1 True power comes with an equal amount of responsibility and accountability for all things.  [11:22]#2 When you have true power, you can't point the finger at anybody.  [19:31]#3 When you have true power, you can actually do all the stuff that you have been thinking about and wishing you could do and talking about doing.  [24:32]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 2174: There Are No Perfect Scenarios – Only Trade-Offs 1824: The "Race Hustler": Who, What, Why, And What To Do About Them Next Steps:

Discipline is easy when things are going well, the real test is when it's inconvenient. In this episode, I'm talking about why true discipline shows up when the situation is tough, when it's not set up for you to win, and when showing up is the hardest thing to do. Motivation feels good, but discipline is about doing the work no matter how you feel. This is the secret sauce to professionalism, and today I'm breaking down how to know if your discipline is real. Show Notes:  [01:38]#1 It is not disciplined if it's always easy and is always convenient.  [06:14]#2 The reason people respect discipline is because we all inherently understand that it requires acting in the face of inconvenience.  [13:45]#3 The reason why most people have no discipline is because they will not act in the face of inconvenience.  [18:36]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1025: The Opportunity Is In The Opposites Next Steps:

Thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions. If we don't take time to examine our thinking, we can become stuck in some very unproductive cycles in parenting our teenagers (and in other relationships).Just because we think something doesn't make it true or correct. And if our thoughts are untrue, what does that mean for our emotions and behavior?Today I talk about how cognitive biases, distortions, assumptions and shortcuts in our thinking can keep us in some very negative cycles of emotions and behavior. The more you think about your thinking, the more emotionally aware you become, which leads to greater emotional regulation.Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. If you're listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they'll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

In this episode, I'm talking about why you need to know people in low places, not just high places. We all know the saying about knowing people in high places with status, resources, and connections. But sometimes, the people who can really help you aren't at the top. They're the ones in positions that may not seem important, but they can get things done in ways high-level folks can't. I'll break down why these relationships matter just as much—maybe even more—in certain situations. Show Notes:  [01:28]#1 Not everything in life is shiny and sometimes you need some dirty work done. [08:32]#2 There is no downside to more people knowing you and having a positive opinion of you, regardless of who those people are.  [17:41]#3  There are more average people than there are higher achievers. [22:40]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3287: You MUST Know People In These Spaces 3359: The 3 Socially Accepted Black Men 3360: Why White America Does Not Prop Up Athletes & Entertainers Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm talking about “ring culture”, the idea that you're only as good as your ultimate results. I use basketball as the frame, but this applies to everything in life. In sports, people judge players based on championships, even though some legends never won one, while others with rings were just role players. The same happens in real life. Some people get credit because they were in the right place at the right time, not necessarily because they were the best. I'm breaking down why this mindset matters and how it affects the way we judge success. Show Notes:  [04:24]#1 Life is a results based business.  [11:52]#2 Your circumstances only matter if you end up turning those circumstances into success. [17:43]#3 Being that you're ultimately judged by your outcomes.  [21:12]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3311: How To Be A "High Value Man" [Part 1 of 2] 3312: How To Be A "High Value Man" [Part 2 of 2] 3332: How To Be A "High Value" Woman [Part 1 of 2] 3333: How To Be A "High Value" Woman [Part 1 of 2] Next Steps:

Every man is different, but deep down, we all want the same three core things. In this episode, I'm breaking down what those three things are and why they matter no matter your background, interests, or current situation. These are general truths about men, things we all want on some level, at some point in our lives. Let's get into it. Show Notes:  [01:17]#1 The physical capability of doing things that most other men cannot do.  [07:34]#2 We want to have things that other men cannot have.   [16:34]#3 Men want access to women. [25:43]Recap Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm talking to the entrepreneurs who want to grow beyond just “getting by.” If you want your business to be an entity that runs without you like Walmart, Apple, or Amazon you've got to get certain things locked in first. I'm sharing the three key elements every business needs in place before you even think about scaling. These are the foundations that keep a business running strong, no matter the industry or current size. Let's break it down so you can build something that lasts. Show Notes:   [02:23]#1 Communication.  [09:53]#2 Organization. [19:11]#3 Process. [26:40]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 2995: How To "Scale-Up" Your Life 2088: Do Things That Don't Scale 1101: Codification Of Your Knowledge Next Steps:

I keep hearing people say “America is a country of immigrants.” I don't agree with that. We are a country of citizens. People come here because they want to become Americans, not just to visit. The whole “country of immigrants” thing is an emotional argument that leaves out the real point: the goal is citizenship. I made this episode to set the record straight. Show Notes:  [01:41]#1 We are a country of citizens.  [09:21]#2  People want to become Americans. They want to actually be a part of what we have going on here.  [14:37]#3 They are trying to make this argument about us being a country of immigrants as an emotionally swaying argument when it's a nonsense frame.  [18:30]Recap Next Steps:

This is part two of my message to the old heads specifically the men 35 and up. Stop trying to fit in with the younger generation. You ain't supposed to dress like them, talk like them, or follow their trends. Your job is to set the standard, not chase theirs. Be the example they want to live up to, not the peer they want to hang with. Age with pride and give the next generation something worth aiming at. Show Notes:  [00:49]#4 Stop trying to relate to your younger generations [10:09]#5 Be a standard bearer for the next generation.  [14:52]#6 Age gracefully. [20:22]Recap Next Steps:

In this episode, I'm talking directly to the old heads of men 35 and up, especially those of y'all who interact with younger dudes. I explain what “old head” means and where the term came from, at least from my experience growing up. If you're 40+, you definitely qualify. This is part one of a two-part message, so if that's you, tune in today and tomorrow. I got something real specific y'all need to hear. Show Notes:  [02:21]#1 Past stories are unwanted. [05:22]#2 Nobody wants to hear about your past, what you used to do, who you used to be, what you used to have going on. [15:48]#3 Keep doing things that matter.  [22:02]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3102: Give Advice ONLY If... Next Steps:

Neurotypical teens, teens without any mental health disorders at all, experience emotional dysregulation from time to time (some more than others). This is simply a byproduct of their changing brain and an oversensitive threat detector (the brain's amygdala).But teens with ADHD, certain mood disorders, and personality disorders are much more likely to experience intense mood swings and even more pronounced emotional dysregulation. And that's not the only symptom overlap between these disorders. As you can imagine, this can cause real issues for a professional diagnosis and for parents trying to find an answer and help for their teens and tweens.Today I'm going to talk to you about the problem with getting a definitive diagnosis. Plus, I want to tell you about one seldomly mentioned symptom of ADHD that only adds to the confusion and baffles many mental health professionals.It's critical for you to be aware of these confounding issues so you insure your teen receives the proper treatment.Free parenting Guide - "Giant Book of Parenting ADHD Teens"Free parenting guide - "Your Teen and Anxiety"Free parenting guide - "Emotion Coaching"Free parenting guide - "Understanding Your Teen's Brain"Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. If you're listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they'll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

I'm talking about why you can't be dangerous if you're playing it safe. I got the idea from watching a clip from Breaking Bad where Walter White says, “I am the one who knocks.” In the show, Walter starts as a boring chemistry teacher but becomes one of the most dangerous men out there because he stops playing small. If you want to have real power and impact, you can't tiptoe through life; you have to be willing to step into the danger. Show Notes:  [04:30]#1 Danger is bold energy.  [15:31]#2 Danger means controlled, directed aggression. [19:59]#3 The dangerous person is the most powerful person in the room.   [27:44]#4 Danger creates freedom.  [35:45]Recap Power Presence Protocol

In this episode, I break down how clarity is not just a nice-to-have, it's a must-have if you want to make real money. When your thoughts, actions, and intentions are all aligned, you move faster and with more purpose. I've seen it with high school athletes and six-figure entrepreneurs alike. If you're unclear, you're stuck. Clarity answers the big questions before they even become problems, and that's what puts you in position to actually earn. Let's talk about how getting clear can start putting dollars in your pocket. Show Notes:  [02:21]#1 Confusion is costly. [09:19]#2 Clarity accelerates decision making.  [17:23]#3 Clarity is a confidence builder.  [21:43]Recap Power Presence Protocol

If you've ever found yourself giving away your expertise for free this episode is for you. I'm breaking down why you need to stop "helping" people without charging, especially if you're in a service-based or intellectual property business. A lot of us do it out of kindness or because we know the person could really benefit, but that's not a good enough reason to keep doing it. Whether it's a friend, family member, or someone who just “can't pay right now,” I'll tell you why that habit has to end today. So let's get into it. Show Notes:  [01:59]#1 People do not appreciate what they have not invested in.  [17:13]#2 You are devaluing your help and devaluing yourself when you give people help for free.  [28:07]#3 Professional level help demands professional level investments. [39:28]Recap Power Presence Protocol

This is part three of my series on High Income Skills vs High Income Systems. Today, I break down points 7 through 9. Skills take discipline, you've got to show up and keep doing the work. But systems? They take vision. A good system can make you money even when you're not working. Skills get clients; systems keep them. Skills give you an edge, but systems turn that edge into an asset that pays you whether you're active or not. So let's get into it. Show Notes:  [00:58]#7 Skills require discipline. Systems require vision.   [14:10]#8 Skills attract clients. Systems keep them around.  [21:49]#9 Skills create an edge and systems create assets.  [24:33]Recap Power Presence Protocol

This is part two of my three-part series on High Income Skills vs. High Income Systems.In this episode, I break down how skills are like the engine but systems are the whole vehicle. Skills will get you paid, but systems are what build real wealth and freedom. Most entrepreneurs stay stuck doing all the work because they never build systems and that's why they never level up. Show Notes:  [01:01]#4 Skills are the engine. Systems are the vehicle. [08:17]#5 Skills get you started and systems generate wealth. [20:19]#6 Skills feed you and systems free you.  [27:56]Recap Power Presence Protocol

In this episode, I break down the difference between high income skills and high income systems. A lot of people build their business off of personal skill—something they can do and sell—but that's just one level. This is part one of a three-part series where I'll explain how skills and systems each play a role in your success, whether you're a solopreneur, a seasoned entrepreneur, or somewhere in between. You'll start to see where you currently operate and how you can grow from one space to the next. So let's get into it. Show Notes:  [03:23]#1 A skill pays one execution at a time or every time that the skill is delivered. [14:06]#2 Skills create value, systems create scale.  [22:36]#3 Skills are for performance.  [30:25]Recap Power Presence Protocol

You've heard the phrase “operate like a CEO,” but what does that actually mean? In this episode, I break down the real mindset and actions behind CEO-level leadership. Whether you run a business or you're the only person in it, you are the CEO. And even if you work a job, you can still move like a CEO. Today I show you exactly how to make that shift, no fluff, just straight strategy. Let's talk about it. Show Notes:  [01:33]#1 Your presence sets the tone for the entire organization on a daily basis.  [06:58]#2 Operate from and maintain a vision of the future.  [15:18]#3 Your approach is a system, it's not a mood or a feeling. [18:15]Recap Power Presence Protocol

I talked about parenting out of fear in the very first episode of this podcast. Because my own fear is what led me down such a long hard path with my son, I wanted to make sure you were aware of the issues it causes. Now that I've been able to work for a couple of years on refining this message, I'm back to share again why we must not let our anxious thoughts derail our parenting.This issue comes up over and over in the Speaking of Teens Facebook group and in Parent Camp. Fear for our Teenager's future, about how they're messing up, and screwing up their life, etc. - it's something so many of us have dealt with at one time or another. And that fear causes us to feel like if we don't do something major or do something right this minute, we're going to lose our child, let them down, allow them to mess up everything and ruin their life.And guess what happens when you start thinking that way? You question, assume, lecture, snoop, track, yell, punish, and overreact. That behavior, in turn, builds an impenetrable wall between you and your teen and increases their negative behavior.In this episode, I'll help you figure out if you are parenting out of fear, explain how it impacts the relationship with your teen and their behavior. Most importantly, I'll explain how to turn things around if your fear has already caused a backlash with your teen.Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I discovered it!" Speaking of Teens Listener^If you feel the same way, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps people know the show is worth their time to listen. Tap here, to go to Apple podcasts, and scroll down until you see the STARS to tap on the last star, then tap on “Write a Review” and let me know what you love about the show. If you're listening in Spotify, you can also rate the show by going to the main episode page and tap the 3 dots to the right of the follow button, tap rate show and tap the 5th star!Thank you in advance for helping me help more parents!I drop new episodes every Tuesday and Friday so please tap Follow on the main episode page, so they'll be ready for you in your app. You can reach out to me with ideas for the show or guest suggestions here. Thanks so much for listening!Email Ann at acoleman@speakingofteens.com Check out PARENT CAMP - a cohort-based, 10-week experience that includes a virtual course, in-depth exercises and tools, and weekly live meetings with Ann, where you will learn how to strengthen your relationship and decrease the conflict with your teens and tweens (while improving their behavior.)Connect with us on Facebook or Instagram Read Speaking of Teens weekly articles on Substack Join our Facebook Group for Free Support for Parents and others who care for Teens (and get easy access to all the parenting guides above!)See My Recommended Books For Both You And Your Teen

A lot of smart people listen to this show and that includes you. But here's the thing I've noticed: smart people are often the slowest to take action. Today, I break down why intelligence doesn't always lead to execution and why overthinking, perfectionism, or too much analysis can actually keep you stuck. If you've ever wondered why you know so much but still don't move, this episode is for you. So let's get into it and solve that problem. Show Notes:  [02:30]#1 When you're smart, that means you know a lot of stuff. And knowledge sometimes disempowers you just as much as it empowers you.  [08:35]#2 The key to wisdom exists on a higher plane and knowledge is understanding and knowing which knowledge to use and which knowledge to ignore at certain times, in certain contexts and why you are doing so. [18:07]#3 You must be choosy with your intelligence and knowledge.  [23:54]Recap Power Presence Protocol

Today I'm breaking down why context is everything when it comes to communication. I've talked a lot about the importance of being able to communicate whether you're talking one-on-one, speaking to a group, or writing something down. But the key part most people miss is context. You can say the right thing, but if the timing, tone, or situation is off, it won't land. I explain exactly what context means, why it's just as important as the message itself, and how mastering it changes how people receive what you say. Show Notes:  [02:53]#1 The exact same material presented in a different context lands very differently with the exact same person or the exact same audience.  [10:43]#2 If your message is not landing and you are 100% sure that your message is good and useful, then the problem is not the material.  [15:48]#3 Context equals packaging.  [19:04]Recap Power Presence Protocol

In this episode, I talk about how all real success is earned in private before it ever gets seen or celebrated in public. A lot of the work that leads to big results happens behind the scenes, with no applause and no spotlight. I'm reminding you that no matter how much tech we get or how fast the world moves, the process of success never changes. You still gotta respect the grind. The shine only comes after the sweat. Show Notes:  [01:37]#1 If it's not yet working for you, that means it is currently working on you.  [07:48]#2 Despite all of our technological advances, there is still no shortcut to doing the fucking work.  [16:22]#3 You don't get to skip the seasons. [20:17]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 2806: The Law Of Entropy 2769: Hard Work STILL Matters 2096: The 3 Seasons Of Your Work (And How To Manage Them) Power Presence Protocol

In this episode, I'm talking about the most common copes of mediocre people. I got the idea from a viral post showing a flashy Black rapper and a plain-dressed white entertainer sitting front row at a game. The post—and the reaction to it—revealed how folks justify mediocrity and avoid facing hard truths. Hopefully, none of these apply to you… but if they do, it's time to ask why. Let's break it down. Show Notes:  [01:44]#1 “Wealthy people don't display their wealth” cope. [09:06]#2 Physical- appearance cope. [17:50]#3 All people who have money are either dishonest, scamming, or you're doing some sort of grift.  [22:02]Recap Power Presence Protocol

In this episode, I'm talking about what it really means to master “the job”. Being a true professional isn't about what outsiders see or think they understand. It's about the stuff that happens behind the scenes, the deeper details that only people in the game really know. If you don't get a handle on those things, you won't last long in your profession. Today, I'm breaking down exactly what that mastery looks like.  Show Notes:  [01:24]#1 What's the job?  [11:27]#2 If you're going to be a professional, you better find out what the job is in any industry before you get into it.  [19:15]#3 Pick an industry in which you are okay with the job and you are willing to do that job on a consistent basis throughout the length of what you expect to be your career. [22:25]Recap Next Steps: 1663: Your Favorite Flavor Of "Shit Sandwich" Power Presence Protocol

Today I'm breaking down why a lot of podcasts out there are just plain trash. I've been a guest on over 500 shows, I check out what people are doing, and I've seen a lot of garbage. These shows aren't bad by accident; they're missing key stuff. If you're listening to a trashy show, or you're thinking about starting one, I'll help you understand what's wrong and how to fix it. And no, my show ain't trash. I've been doing this every day since 2016, and I got the track record to prove it. Show Notes:  [04:06]]#1 There is no thought or structure behind it.  [08:55]#2 There are no takeaways of substance or any post show use for visitors.  [16:18]#3 There's no real work behind what they are doing.  [20:48]Recap Next Steps: Power Presence Protocol

Today I'm talking about the easiest and hardest situations to win in. Life is a performance-based game, and as professionals, we're expected to show up and get the job done. But not every situation gives us the same odds of success. In this episode, I break it down into three main types of situations: some set you up to win easily, while others make it a lot harder. Once you understand how to spot them, you can adjust your approach and boost your chances of winning. Show Notes:  [01:20]#1 The impossible one is when you have no game, you can't win. [09:37]#2 Easiest way to win is when you're really good, but nobody knows who you are because there are no expectations.    [22:37]#3 The hardest way is when you're really good and everyone not only knows you, but they expect you to win.  [28:02]Recap Next Steps: Power Presence Protocol

Today's topic is how to avoid ever getting hit with a sexual assault allegation. I'm placing a futures bet right now that it'll never happen to me and in this episode, I break down how you can make sure it never happens to you either. Most of the time, it's men with status whether that's in a company, an industry, or the whole world who end up with these accusations. If you're a man with power, money, or attention, even on a small scale, this episode is for you. I'm giving you the real game on how to protect yourself before anything even has a chance to happen.  Show Notes:  [03:00]#1 Show me the Carfax.  [08:42]#2 Land the plane safely.  [17:44]#3 Careful mixing sex with power. [27:00]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3338: Things The Disciplined Man Does 3324: The Male Lack of Discipline Epidemic Next Steps:

Today's question is simple but real: would you follow you? If you're trying to be a leader, this is something you've got to ask yourself. Based on how you show up, the energy you bring, and how you carry yourself are you someone you would trust to lead? In this episode, I give you some key questions to help you figure that out. Because if the answer isn't a clear “hell yes,” then you've got some work to do. Show Notes:  [01:40]#1 Do you trust that having you as a leader would lead to success?  [07:45]#2 Can other people rest assured that because you are the leader, you will solve all the problems and fill all the gaps. [15:44]#3 Are you willing to assume leadership in a situation that does not have clear solutions or easy answers yet it has a ton of problems? [22:48]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 1217: My Virtual Mentors, Vol 5: Michael Jordan Next Steps:

Sometimes, you look around and nobody has any energy; nobody feels like showing up, practicing, or performing. I saw this a lot back when I played sports, and as the leader, I had to be the one to bring the energy anyway. In this episode, I talk about how to get yourself ready, mentally and physically, to show up strong even when nobody else does. Because no matter what team you're on, the group moves as the leader moves and that leader is you. Show Notes:  [02:18]#1 Power in leadership is ownership, responsibility, and accountability.  [17:16]#2 The essence of competition is you have to beat who's in front of you.  [21:41]#3 You are the support system for everybody else. [28:58]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3310: "Blame" Is Not In Your Repertoire Next Steps:

Today I'm talking about how to make strong first impressions. You've heard the saying—“you never get a second chance to make a first impression”—and it's true. Most people will lock in that first image of you, and no matter what happens after, that's how they'll keep seeing you. Even if the first thing they saw was fake, they'll still treat it like it's real. So in this episode, I'm breaking down how to take control of that moment and make sure the first impression you give is the one you actually want people to remember. Show Notes:  [02:25]#1 How you walk in is also how you walk through and is also how you will walk out.  [08:46]#2 Ask yourself better questions. [15:32]#3 Always be ON.  [22:13]Recap Next Steps:

Today I'm talking about one of the worst habits people have—saying “I'm thinking about it.” Most of the time, we're not actually thinking. We're just stalling and making excuses for not taking action. The truth is, you don't have time to waste like that. Every day you're getting older, and you don't get those days back. In this episode, I'm giving you the fix so you can stop hiding behind that phrase and start doing what you said you would. Show Notes:  [02:22]#1 Put a limit on your thinking time. [07:21]#2 Say No and Move On [15:34]#3 Adding time to situations is akin to committing suicide because you only have a certain amount of life remaining.  [19:27]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 196: Hell Yeah!!! Or No Next Steps:

Today's episode is about who's really in charge - you or your feelings. Your mind is the one that makes the deals, not your body. Your flesh doesn't get a vote. I'm breaking down how discipline, determination, willpower, and clear decision-making drive everything. If you want to start following through, it starts with giving your mind direct, absolute orders and cutting out the maybes. Show Notes:  [02:52]#1 Your mind makes the decision, your body doesn't get a vote. [02:46]#2 Your mind and body are not equal partners.  [17:45]#3 Talk to anybody who works in training or coaching.  [24:21]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 2449: "Group Decision" Is An Oxymoron 2349: You Need ABSOLUTES – Not Maybes Next Steps:

Today I'm talking about why “educated” people—yes, they can be annoying. I got this idea from X (formerly Twitter), where folks love acting like they're smarter than everybody just because they went to certain schools. I break down this false frame people use to act morally superior, especially around politics and topics like Trump. This ain't really about Trump though it's about how fake intelligence gets weaponized online. You'll want to hear how I unpack all this. Show Notes:  [03:01]#1 I qualify as an educated person. I am educated.  [14:01]#2 Build a resume of achievement, not a resume of consumption.  [23:26]#3 Wake up and look around.  [25:38]Recap Next Steps:

Today I'm talking about why violence is actually a great thing. Yeah, I said it violence is useful, necessary, and in many cases, the right response. You hear people, especially those with a lot of feminine energy saying stuff like “violence is never okay,” and that's just nonsense. In this episode, I break it down logically and rationally so you can understand exactly why that mindset is wrong. By the end of this, you'll see why violence has its place and why you should stop feeling bad about acknowledging that truth. Show Notes:   [01:36]#1 Violence is the bottom line of all human communication. [14:43]#2 Violence keeps everybody in line.  [22:50]#3 No one has a problem with violence when it's used for your protection or if you see a justified reason for using it.  [25:49]Recap Next Steps:

Today I'm asking you what would your clone do? Remember those old “WWJD” bracelets that said, “What would Jesus do?” Well today, I'm flipping it: what would your clone do if it was here to handle all the stuff you're not doing? Imagine a version of you that doesn't get tired, doesn't make excuses, and just gets things done exactly how and when you tell it to. That's what this episode is about what your life would look like if you actually did everything you know you're supposed to be doing. I'm painting that picture for you today. Show Notes:  [02:32]#1 Imagine that you clone yourself and you could boss that clone around on what to do.  [09:54]#2 What excuses or weaknesses would you not tolerate from your clone that you are tolerating from yourself?  [13:16]#3 What mental head trash would you not accept as an explanation for something unstarted, unfinished, or done unsatisfactorily?  [19:45]Recap Episodes Mentioned: 3260: Speed Of Outcome 2778: The 3 Levels of Speed / Fast 2744: Speed-Increasing Habits [Part 2 of 2] 2743: Speed-Increasing Habits [Part 1 of 2] 2683: There Are Only TWO Speeds 2542: How To Slow Down To Speed Up 2481: How To Execute With Speed Next Steps: