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Most women don't realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That's when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine. In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle. You'll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don't have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations.  

In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful one-on-one coaching conversation with a client who was dreading a weekend trip with her judgmental, high-maintenance mother-in-law. What started as a fear of overdrinking turned into something much deeper—a real-time lesson in emotional ownership, boundaries, and what it means to become unfuckwithable. This episode isn't about family dynamics—it's about taking your power back. If you've ever agreed to something just to avoid conflict and ended up feeling resentful, this is for you. You'll walk away with practical language, new scripts, and the mindset shift that will help you stop outsourcing your emotional well-being to other people's moods.    

Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In this raw and relatable conversation, I'm joined by one of my incredible clients, Carley — a driven healthcare professional, mom of two, and former daily drinker who once believed her only two choices were to either quit drinking forever or keep white-knuckling it with shame and regret. Carley opens up about what her drinking looked like behind closed doors and the pressure she put on herself to “keep it together” — until it started to fall apart. She shares how overachieving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing became coping mechanisms, and how alcohol slowly crept in as her off-switch. We talk about the moment she realized her mental math wasn't working anymore, the emotional buildup that led her to finally book a discovery call, and what shifted when she heard someone say: “You don't have to get sober. You just have to feel better.” This is an incredibly powerful episode for anyone who has ever felt stuck between drinking too much and feeling like you can't stop completely. Carley's story is proof that emotional sobriety isn't about rules — it's about freedom. What you'll hear in Part 1: The hidden stressors that led Carley to overdrink (even as a healthcare worker who knew better) The fear of reaching out for help — and what made her finally do it The myth of “just try harder” and why it never works The exact moment she realized she didn't have to choose between chaos and abstinence   Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

Jen Hirst @jenleehirst is a Sober Coach who is empowering women to feel their best in sobriety. Jen Hirst boosts women's confidence from day one by integrating 6 science-backed habits to help them feel their best and make sobriety stick Her sold-out group coaching programs have helped hundreds of women worldwide embrace their sobriety with a GET TO mentality, all within a supportive community cheering them on every step of the way.We chat about that moment so many of us have —THE CLICK— when you just know you're done with booze.We talk about what happens when you surrender to the process of change and how that can be the most freeing, powerful thing. There's so much possibility that alcohol free living generates- better relationships, more energy for your kids, new job possibilities and a sense of peace you didn't even know you were missing. We also get into moderation and why it's not possible for a huge chunk of people. This one is deeply honest and hugely inspiring. Enjoy!Jen is the founder of Lighthouse Sobriety:Lighthouse Journal

In today's episode, Colleen unpacks a subtle but powerful mindset that can completely shift how you experience stress, pressure, and time. Whether it's a packed calendar, an airport sprint, or your own inner critic barking about everything you should be doing, the real problem isn't your to-do list—it's your nervous system. This episode explores how urgency is often just emotional dysregulation in disguise, and why “getting everything done” will never create the calm you're actually craving. If you're constantly on the go, juggling work, family, and the secret shame of overdrinking, this one will help you slow down without falling behind—and start practicing emotional sobriety in the way you move through your day.

Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  We're re-releasing one of our most popular episodes—Episode 13: Did Jesus Drink Wine? With Pastor David—because some truths are worth hearing twice. Or ten times. This episode gets to the heart of a phrase many of us used to justify the habit: “But Jesus drank wine.” It's not just the name of our podcast—it was a story that kept us stuck in a nightly-ish drinking cycle. So today, join us in the studio as they welcome a very special guest: Meade's pastor, David Walters, who joins us as our resident biblical scholar to tackle the burning question: Did Jesus really drink wine—and does it matter? David bravely and graciously unpacks this question and so many more, including: What does Scripture actually say about wine and drinking? What does it mean to “take our thoughts captive”? Why is the heart mentioned over 800 times in the Bible—and what does that have to do with the lies we believe? What are false idols, and how do they relate to alcohol or anything else we turn to for comfort? How do we uncover the deeper truth beneath the stories that keep us stuck? And yes… what do kids and CrossFit have to do with any of this? This episode is packed with spiritual depth, practical wisdom, and powerful applications for anyone on the journey to freedom—from alcohol, or anything else taking up too much space in your life. And don't miss the end of the episode—this week's “tiny TINA” might just be the most brilliant yet. Whether you're new to the pod or you've heard this one before, hit play with fresh ears. Because this might be the replay your heart needs right now. #ButJesusDrankWine #FreedomFromAlcohol #BiblicalTruth #FaithAndFreedom #TheMissingPeace #RenewYourMind #ChristianWomen #ReRelease Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.  

In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection on what it means to stay emotionally sober when things are going really well. When the business is booming, the boxes are checked, and it feels like everything is finally clicking. Most of us assume that emotional work is about learning how to handle hard moments—grief, anxiety, cravings, conflict, etc. Though that's true in it's own right, there is still a catch. ----> If your mood is dictated by external wins, then your nervous system is still being hijacked, and the crash that follows might be more subtle—but it can also be just as dysregulating.

In this episode, Colleen breaks down the difference between thinking your feelings and actually feeling them—and why most high-achieving women get stuck in a loop that keeps them stressed, stuck, and searching for answers in the wrong places. You'll learn a simple, body-based skill that helps you shift out of emotional overwhelm and back into clarity, presence, and personal power—without needing to fix, solve, or overexplain anything at all. Whether you're drinking to numb the noise or overthinking your way into burnout, this episode will show you how to interrupt the loop and finally let go—for real.

Most of us see anxiety as a personal flaw—something to fix, medicate, or avoid. But what if anxiety isn't the problem at all? What if it's the invitation? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the two types of anxiety as explained by Dr. Russell Kennedy—foreground alarm and background alarm—and shares a personal story of how unresolved fears and childhood programming were quietly driving Colleen into burnout... even though her mindset looked great on the surface. This isn't just about alcohol. It's about understanding the real source of your stress, shifting from self-bullying to self-trust, and learning how to work with your nervous system instead of against it. Whether you're drinking to deal with anxiety or simply tired of pushing through life at full speed, this episode will help you stop fighting the wrong battle—and start healing what's actually underneath.

In today's episode, Colleen dismantles one of the most common mindset traps she see's in her clients: the belief that anxiety is something to get rid of. If you've ever said, “I'm just an anxious person,” or used alcohol to calm your nerves before a flight, presentation, or party—you're not alone. But what if anxiety itself isn't the problem? She'll walk you through a real client breakthrough where they shifted the focus away from “less anxiety” and toward something far more powerful: a regulated nervous system. You'll learn why trying to “not drink” or “not be anxious” backfires neurologically, and what to focus on instead.

In today's episode, you'll hear a deeply personal story about the night Colleen's college-age kids brought home a big bottle of vodka—and invited her to join them. Years ago, this would've been the moment she feared the most. But something powerful has shifted. You'll hear how self-trust changes everything, how desire—not discipline—is what drives real transformation, and why the solution to alcohol use disorder has nothing to do with drinking. Whether you're still stuck in the "managing it" phase or wondering how to build a life that feels bigger than your nightly glass of wine, this episode will show you how to trade self-protection for self-permission—and how to begin crafting a new kind of evening ritual, one that gives you energy instead of stealing it.

Text Me!Episode 225 Sober Dating 101: How to Navigate Love Without Alcohol w/ Kate RiosIn episode 225 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Kate Rios to the show, and the ladies discuss dating sober. Dating sober doesn't have to be terrifying, and it might lead to better relationships. Kate Rios shares her eight-year sobriety journey and how she navigated the dating world without alcohol.Kate has been a part of the Sober Vibes community, and this is a listener's story!Favorite quote from the show- "If he can't plan a date, he can't plan a future!"What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to build confidence when dating without alcoholTips for handling the “Why don't you drink?” questionHow sobriety leads to deeper emotional connectionRed flags and green flags in sober relationshipsWhy sober sex can actually be betterKate's personal journey and insights from her sober love lifeThank you for listening! Connect with Kate:Instagram Resources Mentioned:Courtney's Website Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

If the solution to alcohol use disorder isn't a behavior, but a feeling— HOW THE HELL DO YOU PRACTICE A FEELING? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the mindset shift that will completely change the way you think about manifestation. Not the toxic, glittery, vision-board version. But the grounded, neuroscience-backed practice of training your body and brain to feel powerful on purpose—so you don't need alcohol to feel that way for you. Colleen explains why "wanting" and "waiting" energy keeps you stuck, why your thoughts aren't facts (even the convincing ones), and how to get off the mental hamster wheel of self-doubt, disappointment, and shame. If you're ready to stop “trying to change” and start experiencing change in real time—this one's for you.  Key Takeaways: The solution to alcohol use disorder is a feeling—not a behavior. Thoughts are habits. What you believe isn't always true—it's just familiar. Manifestation isn't magic; it's alignment. Feel like the version of you you want to become. Wanting and waiting energy blocks progress. “What's working now” energy opens the path forward. You can only think how you feel. Change your feeling, and your brain will catch up.   Action Step: Get a What's Working Now journal. Start tracking all the tiny signs that your transformation is already happening. Even if you wake up hungover. Especially if you wake up hungover. The more you train your brain to notice wins, the more progress you'll make. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.  Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X: @NotAboutTheAlc   Transcript  

In today's episode, Colleen shares a story about a client who unsubscribed from her email list—and how that one glitch almost triggered a cascade of false assumptions, unspoken tension, and missed opportunity. It's a reminder that the smallest emotional reactions (the ones that barely register) are often the most dangerous. Because they go unchecked. Unquestioned. Unchallenged. This episode will help you stop letting your emotions drive blind—and show you how to reroute your thinking so you can create a different future than your past.

Text Me!Episode 224: Healing as an Adult Child of Alcoholics w/ Margy SchallerIn episode 224 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Margy Schaller to the show, and they talk about healing as an Adult Child of Alcoholics, also known as ACA. Margy shares her story of addiction and recovery and how she started to live loud and proud in her sobriety after 18 years of sober living. Margy Schaller is the Co-Founder of Sober Life Rocks, a community of people who choose not to drink, are sober-ish, sober curious, and sober wingmen. Their mission is to create spaces and initiate conversations that challenge the prevailing drinking culture, offering support to a wide range of individuals including salespeople, speakers, consultants, and other successful businesspeople.What you will learn in this episode:After 20 years of sobriety, Margie discusses hiding her recovery for 18.5 years due to professional pressure.The Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) program helped Margie recognize how childhood experiences shaped her adult behavior.Common traits in adult children of alcoholics include hypervigilance, perfectionism, and the compulsion to "fix" others.Strategies for sober parents to have honest conversations with their children about alcoholThree powerful tips to begin healing: explore ACA literature, understand survival behaviors, and practice self-forgivenessThank you for listening! Connect with Margy:Sober Life Rocks Sober Life Rocks Podcast Episode with Laura Resources mentioned:Courtney's WebsiteAmplify Sober Voices Event, Use code Courtney at checkout to save $29Adult Children of Alcoholics BookLaundry List Book Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Disclaimer: This episode discusses topics including suicide and suicidal ideation, which may be distressing to some listeners. If you are experiencing emotional distress or feel unsafe, please know that help is available. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent support, call 911 (if in the United States) or your local emergency services immediately. For those in the United States, you can reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 (available 24 hours) or 1-800-273-8255. If you're located outside the United States, please consult your local crisis intervention resources or visit https://findahelpline.com for international hotline information. Your well-being matters, and you are not alone. Please consider seeking help from trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals if you need support. Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  In this vulnerable and powerful conversation, we sit down with our dear friend and community leadership team member Heather Dillion to hear her story of stepping out of the darkness of alcohol and into the light of God's grace. Heather is a successful attorney, wife, and mom—but behind the scenes, she was quietly struggling for years. Heather shares how a high-pressure lifestyle and long-standing habits slowly eroded her peace, her joy, and her ability to show up fully in her own life. From early drinking in college to a deeply public rock bottom that led her to seek help, Heather speaks honestly about the unraveling—and the rebuilding—that followed. With the support of her family and community, and a deepening relationship with God, Heather began to heal. She opens up about her time in traditional rehab treatment, how she learned to regulate her emotions in healthy ways, and how community and faith became her anchors in the storm. Her story reminds us that there is zero shame in seeking help.  This episode is for the woman who's silently struggling, the one who's managing everything on the outside but feeling broken inside. Heather's message is clear: freedom is possible, and Jesus is not afraid of your darkest moments. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How alcohol quietly became a barrier between Heather and the life she truly wanted The mental, emotional, and spiritual toll of trying to keep it all together Why hitting a low point became the very thing that opened the door to healing The role of faith, community, and professional support in her transformation Daily practices that help Heather experience peace and presence Encouragement for anyone who feels alone in their struggle Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine   You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.  

In today's episode, Colleen shares a simple and powerful practice that can shift your energy in seconds—and help you stop carrying what your body is desperate to let go of. If you've ever felt like you should stop drinking, overworking, or people-pleasing—but you keep doing it anyway—this episode will show you why resistance doesn't work, and how to reconnect with the wisdom of your body instead. Plus, Colleen walks you through a one-breath nervous system reset called The Sigh—a technique that helps you release emotional pain, shift mental patterns, and return to a state of balance. No willpower required.

Is it time for you to break thecycle! Join us for a Family Constellationsworkshop Sat 10 May in HertsMore info https://www.thesoberclub.com/family-constellations/Sign up for the free 14 days speakerseries - relay this weekend!!!!speakerseries.soberadventurecollective.com/janeyleegraceJaney chats to Toby Ernberg who trained with Janey as a sober coach recently. Toby shares his story from rock bottom and talks about life in Switzerland.If you're interested in coach training join our free webinar 19 May 7.30 pm you do need to register https://www.thesoberclub.com/from-sobriety-to-purpose-2/New to Sobriety? Sober Curious?Check out The Sober Club, for low cost support, accountability, inspiration, connection and a whole host ofcontent on holistic living. Membership includes and online course Get the Buzz without the Booze, our private non judgemental community online and regularzoom meetings, plus a whole library of exclusive wellbeing contentIf you want to support the work goto www.buymeacoffee.com/janeyleegraceThank you for listening! Pleaseshare, rate and reviewIf you're struggling, always reachout, tell someone you're doing this! @janeyleegrace Ditched the Booze and want to inspire others? Janey offers holistic sober coach training, our next course starts October 18-19, email Janey for a chat to see if its right for you – janey at janeyleegrace.com Supplementsfor recoveryThe BEST Magnesium blend ever is the blend from Clive – if you use this ⁠⁠link for everything you buy, a bit goes into ourSober Club giveback fund If you can afford it, also get Vit D3, Amino Acids and Iodine (if you're menopausal) Use this link for everything: ⁠?https://clivedecarle.ositracker.com/315625/11489?⁠ Check out my new Substack, youcan be a free subscriber or paid for some juicy extras Sobriety Rocks…& TheWoo WorksFollow Janey on social media@janeyleegrace You can get a copy of FromWham to Woo - A Life on the mic ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ or message meif you'd like a signed copy and I will add P * P   

Text Me!Episode 223: The Hidden Cost of Your Wine Habit: What Alcohol Is Really Taking From YouIn episode 223 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen chats today about the real, often overlooked cost of your wine habit: from lost energy and time to low self-esteem and confidence. This episode is designed to help you see clearly what alcohol is really doing beneath the surface. Are you telling yourself it's “just one glass to unwind”  but still waking up tired, anxious, and disconnected from the life you want? If you've been stuck in the “I'll cut back next week” cycle and know something deeper needs to change, this episode is your wake-up call.What you will learn in this episode:Why even “moderate” drinking steals your motivation and joyHow alcohol impacts your sleep, confidence, and decision-makingThe hidden toll alcohol takes on your time and self-worthWhy willpower isn't the problem and what to do insteadThank you for listening!Resources Mentioned:Apply to work 1:1 with Soberity Coach, Courtney AndersenCourtney's WebsiteReady to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Today's episode is all about emotional flow—how energy moves through your body and what to do when it gets stuck. Colleen explains how your thoughts can block the natural upward movement of desire, inspiration, and curiosity—reversing the flow and creating emotional heaviness, anxiety, and burnout. You'll learn why it's not always necessary to unpack your childhood or analyze every emotion. Sometimes the simplest shift comes from asking: is this thought opening me up, or shutting me down? Whether you're stuck in your career, your relationship, or your relationship with alcohol—this episode will show you how to unclog your energy, reclaim your creativity, and speak your truth into the world.

Welcome back to the Heads Together podcast! This week, I'm absolutely thrilled to spotlight Ellie Nova, an alumna of The Coaching Business Academy. Ellie is not just a sober coach but also a writer, mentor, and mom., living in Lewes, East Sussex. She's guides women to discover alcohol-free freedom through her very special approach to quitting drinking. In this episode, Ellie shares insights into her personal journey of overcoming alcohol dependence, the emotional triggers behind it, and how she's turned that experience into a mission to help others do the same. We also dive deep into the cultural norms around alcohol, how to navigate social circles when you're sober, and the importance of self-compassion and community. If you're curious about quitting alcohol, this conversation is a must-listen. CONNECT WITH ELLIE: Website: https://www.ellie-nova.com/ Substack: https://ellienova.substack.com/about Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellienovacoaching/ Get Ellie's Self Compassion For Sobriety guide: https://www.ellie-nova.com/newsletter REGISTER NOW FOR ELLIE's FREE MASTERCLASS: Joyful Sober Socialising (Tuesday 20th May 2025, 1PM UK / 8AM EST) https://www.eventbrite.com/e/joyful-sober-socialising-free-online-workshop-tickets-1323572895159 CONNECT WITH GILL: Website: https://www.gillmoakes.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillmoakes/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/gillmoakes/ ***** 00:18 Meet Ellie Nova: Sober Coach and Mentor00:38 Ellie's Journey to Sobriety03:25 The Reality of Alcohol Addiction06:57 Challenging Cultural Norms Around Drinking10:52 Navigating Social Circles Without Alcohol18:16 Embracing Sobriety and Emotional Well-being19:23 Building Your Sober Toolkit20:51 Embracing Silence and Self-Compassion23:26 Transforming Self-Criticism into Self-Love27:37 The Journey of Compassionate Coaching31:22 Upcoming Events and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Dr. Aimee joins Colleen to explain what it really means to have “stored trauma” in the body—and why unresolved trauma often shows up not as flashbacks, but as fatigue, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and habits like nightly drinking. You'll hear how trauma is stored at the cellular level, why cognitive awareness isn't enough to heal it, and what it really takes to feel safe in your own body. Key Takeaways: Trauma isn't defined by an event—it's defined by your body's response to overwhelm, powerlessness, and isolation. Many women don't realize they're stuck in a trauma response because it looks like being “too busy,” “not having willpower,” or “just needing to try harder.” The trauma response shows up biologically, at the cellular level, often causing fatigue, anxiety, inflammation, and shut down. The nervous system doesn't respond to logic—it responds to cues of safety and danger. When your body perceives a threat, you can't use reason to override shame, fear and anxiety. You don't heal trauma by talking about it—you heal it by completing the stress response, regulating the nervous system, and shifting how safe you feel in your body. You can pre-order Dr. Amy's new book Biology of Trauma and get over $400 in bonuses at biologyoftrauma.com.   —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer   —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.   —Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  In this honest and hope-filled conversation, Christy and Meade welcome Jill, a beloved member of the But Jesus Drank Wine leadership team, to share her powerful story of breaking free from alcohol and drawing closer to God. After ten years of trying to moderate her drinking, Jill was inspired by Christy's sobriety story in the summer of 2023 and made the bold decision to stop drinking entirely. What followed was a journey of spiritual renewal, mental clarity, and deeper intimacy with God. Jill opens up about the subtle ways alcohol had taken hold of her life—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. She shares how it consumed her mental energy, fueled guilt and shame, and ultimately stood in the way of the peace and purpose she longed for. Through surrender, community, and daily obedience, Jill experienced true freedom—and now encourages others to do the same. This conversation is especially meaningful for women navigating caregiving, motherhood, and the pressure to “keep it together.” Jill's courage to speak up and step out is a reminder that the cost of honesty is far outweighed by the gift of freedom. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why moderation isn't always harmless—and what it might be costing you How alcohol can quietly become a spiritual and emotional burden What it means to truly surrender a habit to God The role of testimony and vulnerability in personal transformation Encouragement for women in the “sandwich generation” carrying invisible loads How community and faith walk hand-in-hand toward lasting sobriety Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.

Today's episode is all about the practice of being okay no matter what. Colleen shares the mindset shift that changed everything for her—especially while growing her business on TikTok—and how you can apply the same concept to anything in your life. Whether it's tech glitches, traffic, or your partner's tone of voice, there's always an invitation to be bothered—or an opportunity to practice emotional sobriety instead. This episode will show you why true freedom isn't about changing your circumstances; it's about expanding your capacity to stay unbothered in the middle of them.

In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful mindset shift that can make changing any habit feel easier, faster, and more sustainable: stop trying to "get it right" — just focus on getting it better. Inspired by the concept of the iterative mindset from Dr. Kira Bobinet's research, Colleen explains why the old black-and-white idea of relapse and failure doesn't belong in habit change—and how a simple shift in thinking can remove the shame, accelerate your progress, and help you design a lifestyle that actually fits the life you want to live. Whether you're working on your drinking habits, food habits, or just trying to be more intentional about your day-to-day choices, this episode gives you a fresh, more forgiving way to stay motivated without burning out.

On today's episode, Colleen answers a question from a listener who's successfully changed her own drinking habits—but finds herself frustrated by her husband's drinking. If you've ever felt like someone else's behavior is sabotaging your progress, this episode will help you take back your emotional power. Colleen walks through her framework for emotional ownership and teaches how to release the belief that someone else's choices have to hold you back. You'll learn how to shift the story you're telling yourself, meet your own needs, and define success on your terms.  

Join the conversation in our community HERE! In this empowering episode, Christy and Meade welcome author and speaker Laura Smith for a rich conversation about her latest book, Brave Woman, Mighty God. Laura—now a 15-time published author—shares her heart behind the book's message and reminds us that strength doesn't come from “girl power” but from God power. Together, they explore the stories of bold biblical women like Mary Magdalene, Sarah, and others who did mighty things—not because they were fearless, but because they were faithful. Laura unpacks how faith invites us to overcome hustle culture, live out our God-given purpose, and root our strength in Christ, not in performance. Drawing from both Brave Woman, Mighty God and her previous book The Urgency of Slowing Down, Laura encourages listeners to let go of burnout culture and embrace restorative spiritual rhythms. The conversation gets personal as the hosts reflect on their own struggle with hurry, the importance of screen sabbaths, and how true rest is found in presence with God, not productivity. This episode is filled with scripture, wisdom, and compassion for women who want to trust God more deeply—especially in seasons of waiting, struggle, or uncertainty. If you've ever doubted your calling, wrestled with comparison, or felt worn down by the world's demands, this conversation will meet you right where you are. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How biblical women inspire courage through their faith, not their perfection The dangers of hustle culture and the healing power of slowing down How to embrace rest as a spiritual practice, not just a productivity tool Why community is essential in walking out our faith and freedom What to do in seasons of waiting, and how to trust God's timing Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine   You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.

In this episode, Colleen invites you to take your emotional temperature and ask a powerful question that could change everything: How can I make this fun and easy? Whether you're racing through your day with a nervous system stuck in overdrive or stuck in bed with your to-do list haunting you, the solution isn't more hustle—it's ease. But ease isn't a circumstance. It's an emotional state. And you can learn to choose it on purpose. Key Takeaways: • You can't fix overwhelm with more action—emotional ease has to become the goal, not the reward. • Busyness, burnout, and rushing are often signs that your nervous system is dysregulated, not that you're falling behind. • The faster your brain is moving, the more likely you are to be living in your stress response instead of your power. • Your emotions are your early warning system—when you feel tight, rushed, or tense, that's your body telling you to reset. • Ease is an emotional state you can access by managing your thoughts, regulating your body, and doing one thing at a time. Action Steps: Notice when you're rushing, pushing, or spiraling. Instead of trying to do more or fix the problem faster- Pause and ask yourself: How can I make this moment feel fun and easy? Even just asking the question will start to slow the engine of your brain and bring your body back into the present moment. Ease isn't just a luxury—it's your superpower. And the more you practice it, the more you reclaim your energy, your focus, and your joy. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?   Transcript  

Text Me!Episode 222: The Culture of Alcohol In episode 222 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Anderson explores how alcohol has become more than a substance; it's a full-blown culture, belief system, and lifestyle deeply embedded in our society and family ecosystems. What you will learn in this episode:Alcohol culture appears everywhere—from celebrations to grief, rewards to "surviving" parenthood Big alcohol companies have historically destroyed families and health, yet face minimal criticism compared to other industriesThe family dynamic with alcohol creates generational patterns that can be difficult but crucial to breakChildren who grow up with alcohol-dependent family members often develop traits like people-pleasing, codependency, and becoming high achieversMedia glamorizes drinking while rarely showing realistic consequences, creating false narratives about what "problem drinking" looks likeThe alcohol industry has successfully made drinking part of our identities through clever marketing and normalizationThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 127 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Courtney's WebsiteProhibition Documentary Flaked & Loudermilk are on Netflix Codependent No More Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $6/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In today's episode, Colleen shares a raw and relatable story about frustration, tech fails, and the moment she remembered one of the most powerful tools she teaches: making friends with your feelings. You'll hear how a seemingly small trigger (a broken download link before a long workday) became the perfect opportunity to practice emotional sobriety. She walks you through how to recognize emotional inflammation, catch unhelpful thoughts, and redirect your energy—before it hijacks your day. Because the truth is, your emotions aren't the problem.... They're trying to help you. If you listen, they'll show you exactly where you're giving away your power.   Key Takeaways: • What it really means to "make friends with a feeling" • How to recognize emotional inflammation in real time • Why your body is your most accurate bullshit detector • How to flip frustration, helplessness, or resistance into clarity and momentum • A hilariously honest story about tech struggles, pre-coffee rage, and how one shift changed everything Action Steps: Bring awareness to ONE emotional reaction you struggle with—frustration, shame, resentment, overwhelm, etc.—and practice noticing it in the moment. Instead of spiraling into your usual response- Pause. Label the feeling. Then ask yourself "Out-Loud" what your body is trying to tell you. Use the energy of that emotion as fuel to take the smallest next right step. Your feelings are not the enemy. They're the flashlight. Follow the beam and reclaim your power. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?   Transcript  

As the daughter of a high school principal, Jessica felt a lot of pressure to stay in line. She never drank in high school, and even abstained through her freshman year of college. As the persona of ‘principal's daughter' wore off, though, alcohol became a regular part of her life.  This became challenging when Jessica moved back to her hometown and took a job in education. Always worried about her public image, she kept her wits about her when drinking in public and began to prefer drinking at home. As she became a mom and shifted her career to work from home, drinking at home became a nightly habit.  Jessica and her husband moved to a lake home and began to throw regular parties. This ‘‘weekend warrior' phase felt so fun - until it wasn't. She increasingly found herself starting the week hungover and on the back foot.  It was at this moment that Instagram dropped one of Suzanne's videos onto Jessica's feed - a video simply telling her that she was allowed to not drink. This message hit on a feeling that Jessica hadn't been able to voice, and something within her began to shift.  On New Year's Eve it all came to a head and Jessica followed her instinct - she didn't want to drink that night. She felt more present with her family as they celebrated and made a big realization - sobriety was her new path. Sobriety has opened incredible new avenues for her! She is now a certified life coach and has begun to offer focused support to high achieving women interested in sobriety!  Jessica recommends the incredible Casey Davidson if you're looking for further sobriety support Are you looking for community in sobriety? Join us in the The Sober Mom Life Cafe!  For $40/month, you'll get access to 12 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed, our monthly book club and happy hour, the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and even a monthly Bravo chat! For a limited time, get one week free!  The Sober Mom Life Community is also available, for just $5.95/month - In the Community, you'll receive access to the exclusive Community social feed, the exclusive community chat, our monthly book club, and one free weekly meeting.  Check out The Sober Mom Life on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Colleen breaks down how the language you use—especially when it seems neutral or logical—can silently sabotage your ability to change. You'll hear why “I just need to stop drinking” is actually a negative thought (and how it keeps your brain stuck in the problem instead of moving toward the solution). She explains how to recognize these mental error codes, shift into a more empowered mindset, and start generating real momentum—even with something as small as making it to a yoga class.   Key Takeaways:   Your brain can't solve for what you don't want—it needs clear, positive direction. “Stopping drinking” isn't a goal; it's the absence of a goal. It keeps your nervous system in a stress response. Negative thinking often shows up in normal, subtle ways: “I don't know” “I can't" “What if I don't…” Every time you focus on the negative outcome, You Reinforce It. Instead, swap in positive, do-focused thoughts like: “What I do know is...” "What I can do right now is..." "When I do ____, I'll feel ____."   Action Steps:   Notice the hidden “negatives” in your self-talk—especially around alcohol, habits, and percieved identity. When you catch one, pause and ask: "What do I want instead? What's the positive version of this thought?" Practice shifting your language in small, daily moments—like going to yoga, packing lunch, or regulating your nervous system. Remind yourself: Your brain is a powerful problem-solver—but only when you feed it the right kind of input. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?   Transcript  

Text Me!Episode 221: Shedding Alcohol Identities with Aneta MruzIn episode 221 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Aneta Mruz to the show. They discuss shedding old identities from their past drinking selves and creating new ones in sober life. Aneta Mruz is a change coach and energy practitioner. She shares her nine-year sobriety journey and insights of what she has learned along the way with long-term sobriety. What you will learn in this episode: Exploring the concept of false identities we create during active drinking days, like the "party girl" personaDiscussion of how trauma and childhood experiences shape our tendencies to become "chameleons" adapting to othersAnnetta shares her sober journeyThe powerful understanding that "we are not our thoughts" applies to addiction recovery and mental health Three key tips for creating a new identity: awareness, understanding that thought changes chemistry, and recognizing everything is just a storyThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Connect with Aneta:Instagram WebsiteFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection she recorded nearly a year ago—but it's just as relevant now, especially if you're feeling stuck, off-balance, or like a hot mess who should be further along by now. This episode isn't about getting it all together—it's about what to do when you don't. You'll hear how she used the exact tools from the program to navigate the emotional chaos of working too much, losing old routines post-divorce, and telling herself the story that she wasn't making any progress.   You'll learn how to decode those familiar thoughts, and shift out of judgment into grounded, aligned action. Because stuck is a story. Balance is a feeling. And sometimes the most powerful way to move forward… IS TO STOP TRYING SO HARD!   Key Takeaways:   These are just thoughts—not facts. They're how we explain our emotional state, not what's actually happening. “I'm stuck,”  “I'm out of balance” “I'm not making progress”   The real issue isn't imbalance. It's overwhelm. When your output is high but your results are low, you're probably ignoring your body's signals. Emotional sobriety means listening to those signals instead of overriding them.   Remember this: Your brain will find evidence for whatever you believe. So if you keep saying “I'm not making progress,” you'll feel more discouraged and stuck. Flip the script by doing one small thing—and call it progress.   If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?   Transcript  

Come hang out with Kelsey, Christy, and Meade in our community, here:  https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community We are so excited to share Kelsey Green's testimony with you today. Kelsey is a beloved member of the But Jesus Drank Wine leadership team and someone who played a key role in laying the foundation of our community. In this episode, Kelsey shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming alcohol dependency and how her faith in Jesus Christ brought radical transformation to her life. She opens up about the hidden struggle behind her drinking, her early efforts to seek help, and the life-changing moment she discovered this very podcast—a moment that shifted everything. That encounter with faith led her back to Jesus, and into a life filled with peace, joy, and purpose like she'd never known before. As a mom of twin boys, Kelsey's story is a powerful testimony to the difference surrendering to Christ can make in every area of life. This conversation also explores the power of community, the beauty of real-life friendships formed through the BJDW podcast, and how vulnerability opens the door to true healing. If you're seeking freedom—from alcohol, shame, or the weight of trying to keep it all together—this episode is for you.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: How Kelsey's sobriety journey began with honesty and a podcast The role of faith in breaking free from alcohol How motherhood and sobriety have shaped her relationship with Jesus The importance of vulnerability and grace in the healing process Why community and real connection are vital for long-term transformation How the presence of God brings peace, clarity, and lasting purpose Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine   You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.  

In today's episode, we're flipping the script on what it means to “manifest change” when it comes to your relationship with alcohol. Every habit you have was built through attention, repetition, and belief. You already know how to manifest. You've done it before. The question is: can you do it on purpose? If you've ever told yourself “I know better and won't do that again", but you keep doing it anyway, this episode is a must-listen. You'll learn how shame hijacks your perception, why logic won't get you out of a drinking spiral, and the exact method Colleen uses (and teaches) to help high-achieving women build trust with themselves again—starting with the smallest, most overlooked wins. Key Takeaways  Your Brain is Always Manifesting The more you believe it, the more your brain proves it—even if it's outdated. Whispers Matter Thoughts like “I've had enough” or “I could skip it” are seeds of change. You don't need perfection—just awareness. Focus Fuels Change What you pay attention to grows. Focus on control, not brokenness, and your brain will follow. Behavior Builds Belief You don't have to believe in change yet—just act. Repeated small shifts create confidence over time. Use Your Memory Replay your wins and near-wins. Remembering them helps your brain repeat them. Let's STOP trying to figure it out and START feeling our way through. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer   —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?  Transcript: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing 

Text Me!Episode 220: 3 Tips to Get Clean and Sober in Your Twenties w/ Esme In episode 220 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Esme to the show. This is a listener's story! Esme shares her powerful journey of getting clean at 27 after using drugs and alcohol since age 12. She candidly discusses how she navigated her cultural expectations around drinking, rebuilt her social life, and found her own unique pathway to long-term recovery.Esme is 5 years clean and sober. She got clean and sober at 27 after using since I was 12. Esme tried a lot of different meetings NA, AA, smart recovery, EA, and recovery dharma, to name a few. She knew she didn't want to live like that anymore, so she promised to quit. She hasn't looked back since.What you will learn in this episode: Starting drugs and alcohol at age 12 within a culture where drinking was normalized at family gatheringsGetting sober during COVID through virtual NA meetingsDealing with family questioning her sobriety and choosing honesty over making excusesTaking charge of her social life by suggesting alcohol-free activities rather than waiting for bar invitationsExploring different recovery pathways, including NA, Recovery Dharma, and Kaiser's addiction medicine programThree essential tips for getting sober: building a strong support group, practicing mindfulness, and healing generational trauma*If you're a listener who has been sober for at least one year and want to share your story on the podcast, please reach out via Instagram or email Courtney. Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:The Body Keeps ScoreConnect with Esme:InstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In today's episode, we explore a powerful lightbulb moment from inside the Next Chapter program—one that's helping women actually enjoy the mindful drinking experiment and finally feel real momentum. This is for you if you've meant to try mindful drinking but skipped it, overdid it, or didn't enjoy the process. That's not a failure—it's a sign you were missing one critical piece: community support. The breakthrough? Practicing moderation in real time, with real people. Learning how to feel a buzz without slipping into old habits. Releasing perfectionism. And realizing this is about connection, not control. Key Takeaways: ✨ You can't rewire a drinking habit by yourself Habits form in context—and need to be unlearned in context too. ✨ Mindful drinking is about presence, not perfection When the goal is connection, the whole thing becomes lighter and more doable. ✨ There is a therapeutic dose of alcohol—but you have to feel it Alcohol is biphasic: small amounts relax and uplift, but more than that backfires. Finding your line is everything. ✨ You're not failing—you're under-supported If you've tried and didn't follow through, it's not a personal flaw. You just needed more scaffolding.

In today's episode, you'll explore one of the most common patterns that keeps high-achieving women stuck: worrying about what other people might think. Colleen breaks down how the fear of being misunderstood, judged, or perceived a certain way can quietly derail your growth, your boundaries, and your goals. You'll learn why managing other people's emotions never works—and what to do instead when your nervous system wants to retreat. Key Takeaways Fear of what others think is a distraction from your purpose When you're focused on being perceived the "right" way, you're no longer rooted in your own truth. This is emotional disconnection in disguise. Trying to manage someone else's emotions doesn't serve either of you When you avoid hard conversations or withhold your real message to protect someone else's feelings, you rob them of the opportunity to grow—and yourself of the opportunity to lead. Projection keeps you stuck in self-doubt What you think others might be thinking is often just a reflection of your own unhealed beliefs. These projections block clarity and reinforce old stories that no longer serve you.   Action Steps Pause the next time you find yourself adjusting your behavior to avoid being misunderstood. Notice what you're trying to prevent. Ask: What do I know is true, even if someone else doesn't like it? Take ownership of your decisions. If you're wavering, ask: What choice would I make if I trusted myself fully? Stop waiting to be seen as “nice,” “reasonable,” or “agreeable” before you act. What if clarity and alignment are more important than approval? Speak your truth. Not to convince. Not to control. Just to honor the version of you who's ready to rise. Homework Create the time for Self-Reflection. Once you're there, ask yourself: Where are you hesitating to lead or speak honestly because you're afraid of how it will be received? What would shift if you stopped managing their response—and trusted your own? Listen for your response and acknowledge that awareness.

Text Me!Episode 219: Gray Area Drinking: The Hidden Struggle You Need to Know AboutIn episode 219 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen discusses Gray Area Drinking. Courtney breaks down what gray area drinking is, how to recognize it, and how to take back control of your relationship with alcohol without waiting for a crisis.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The definition of gray area drinkingSigns you might be a gray area drinkerThe impact alcohol has on mental and emotional well-beingHow to take steps toward an alcohol-free life (without pressure or labels)Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 127 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Get the Book: Grab Your Copy HereJoin the Sobriety Circle Community: Join HereDownload the Free "Sober Not Boring" Calendar: Get Your Copy Work 1:1 with Courtney: Apply HereJoin the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In this reflective episode, Colleen shares a personal moment from a particularly full chapter in her life—a season of growth, transition, and pushing hard to bring her program to life. What began as a weekend packed with work turned into a deeper realization about brain fog, creative blocks, and the quiet wisdom of the body. If you've ever tried to think your way through exhaustion or override your energy in the name of getting things done, this one's for you. It's a reminder that alignment matters more than output—and that sometimes, the clearest signal you'll get is the moment your mind starts to go fuzzy. Key Takeaways:   Brain Fog Isn't the Problem—It's the Message It's not a sign to push harder—it's a signal to pause and re-sync. Your body knows before your brain catches up. Fear and Perfectionism Slow You Down Overplanning, overthinking, and trying to get it “just right” can block creativity. You can reclaim flow by choosing presence over performance. Creative Energy Comes From Connection Movement, nature, and space to feel are where the best ideas come from. The most powerful content is felt, not forced. Ask the Right Questions to Get the Right Answers “How do I want to feel?” “What can I let go of to feel that way?” Let your body lead—and let your brain follow. Homework: Notice where you're overriding your body in service of “getting things done.” What's one task, story, or expectation you can release this week? And what feeling do you want to invite in its place? Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. If you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober (side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking),You'll walk away from our call with a clear understanding of how to get the skills you need to transform your life.   Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer     —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem?  Transcript: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing  

Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  Stephanie Ziebell shares her personal journey to sobriety and faith, highlighting the transformation that came when she embraced God's grace. A wife, mother of four, attorney, and Christian sobriety advocate, Stephanie knows what it's like to wrestle with addiction and the internal conflict it brings. After years of struggling with alcohol, she found true freedom and now dedicates her life to helping others do the same.  As the founder of Radiant in Battle, an Instagram community with nearly 40,000 followers, Stephanie provides faith-based encouragement and practical tools for those on the path to sobriety. Throughout this conversation, Stephanie opens up about the challenges of being stuck in the over-drinking cycle, the importance of honesty, and how finding a supportive community and turning to God led to a new, more fulfilling life. She discusses the internal battle of wanting to drink, the exhaustion it caused, and how sobriety has given her a fresh perspective on life.  If you're navigating sobriety or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a powerful message of hope, resilience, and divine transformation. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The importance of honesty and vulnerability in overcoming addiction, and how Stephanie learned to let go of shame. How sobriety has allowed Stephanie to rediscover joy and clarity, and how she shifted from selfishness to selflessness. The role of community and support in recovery, and how finding like-minded people can make all the difference. How Stephanie has used her faith to transform past regrets into purpose, and the deep connection between faith and freedom from alcohol.  Stephanie's story is a testament to the power of faith, community, and the strength we all have to overcome addiction and live a transformed life. Connect with Stephanie: Instagram: @radiantinbattle Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  https://a.co/d/fTvdTw6 Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine   You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.  

In this episode, Colleen reflects on a quote that's been echoing in her mind for weeks: “Yes, I'm full of myself. Who else am I supposed to be full of?” — a line from none other than Matthew McConaughey. It's not just cheeky—it's powerful. Because for so many women, being “full of yourself” has been cast as a flaw, a risk, or something to avoid. Colleen shares how a recent, painful experience of being removed from a coaching community triggered a cascade of old programming: shrink yourself, smooth it over, assume you were too much. But instead of collapsing into shame or over-apologizing, she used the moment as an invitation to reclaim her voice and re-anchor in her purpose. This episode is for the woman who's been playing small to keep others comfortable… the woman who second-guesses herself when she starts to shine… the woman who's done everything "right" and still feels like she's holding back.     Key Takeaways:   1. There's Nothing Wrong with Being Full of Yourself Being full of yourself doesn't mean you're selfish. It means you're rooted in your own worth. We've been taught to downplay our confidence so we don't ruffle feathers—but what if your fullness is exactly what's needed? 2. Managing Other People's Emotions Isn't Your Job It's not your job to make everyone feel okay. Your job is to stay connected to your integrity and your purpose. Worrying about how others perceive you steals energy that could be spent building the life you're here to live. 3. Check Your Response Before You Shrink When you feel triggered or called out, ask: Am I abandoning myself right now to make someone else more comfortable? Self-awareness lets you discern between meaningful feedback and misplaced guilt. 4. True Community Is Built on Emotional Responsibility Real belonging doesn't require shrinking. It requires honesty, self-trust, and mutual respect. You can be a safe space for others without taking on their emotional work—and you deserve relationships where that goes both ways.     Actionable Steps:   ✨ Practice being “full of yourself” today. What would it look like to take up a little more space in your own life? To trust your words, your instincts, your bigness?

Text Me!Episode 218: LOTE: Seasonal Depression and Catching up with the Elledge Sisters In episode 218 of the Sober Vibes podcast, the Elledge sisters return with a new episode of Livin on the El-Ledge, a show within a show.Courtney and Kimberly discuss living with seasonal depression, family health crises, and maintaining sobriety through life's most challenging moments. We explore how the Michigan winter blues affect our mental health and share strategies for coping when sunshine feels like a distant memory.What you will learn in this episode:• Seasonal depression hits hard in Michigan winters, with months of gray skies affecting mood and motivation• Kimberly and Courtney both experienced significant health challenges this winter, with pneumonia, flu, and other illnesses compounding seasonal blues• Navigating parent-child relationships as parents age and facing mortality in healthy ways• The importance of being present and showing up consistently in recovery, even when others still view you through the lens of your pastIf you want Kimmy and Courtney to discuss specific topics or answer questions for this season of the podcast, please send a direct message or email and let us know what you want us to discuss!Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Codependent No More Connect with Kim:InstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful fable that illustrates what it really means to rise in the face of difficulty—and why your response to a moment matters more than the moment itself. Whether it's a tech failure, a relapse, a hard conversation, or a sudden life disruption, what defines your trajectory isn't the challenge—it's how you choose to relate to it. Through personal stories of rebuilding her business after major setbacks (including losing everything on Facebook and Instagram overnight), Colleen explains how shifting her perspective became her greatest asset—and how the same principle applies when it comes to changing your relationship with alcohol. If you've ever felt buried by circumstances or stuck in a pattern you can't seem to break, this episode is a reminder that your next version starts with one small shift: how you respond right now. Key Takeaways: 1. Response is Everything The mindset you bring to a problem often determines whether you stay stuck or move forward. It's not about avoiding struggle—it's about how you meet it when it shows up. 2. You Can't Change Your Mind from the Wrong Nervous System State When your body is in fight-or-flight, your thinking will match that frequency. Regulating your nervous system is the gateway to opening your perspective and finding new possibilities. 3. Shame Keeps You Stuck—Connection Sets You Free You don't need to expose your deepest struggles to the whole world, but you do need to be seen somewhere. Healing happens when it feels safe to stop hiding. 4. There's Power in the Pause Before reacting to stress, ask: How do I want to remember responding to this one year from now? That question alone can shift you into a higher version of yourself—one choice at a time. Actionable Steps:

Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community.  In this episode, we sit down with Blake Roberts, a licensed therapist, writer, podcast host, and speaker based in Nashville, TN. Blake specializes in helping men heal attachment wounds, foster healthy relationships, and learn to trust again. If you're looking for ways to support your husband—or any loved one—who is struggling with addiction, this is a must-listen. Blake offers invaluable insights into the healing process, the power of community, and how to move from self-protection to real connection. Blake shares his personal journey, from navigating a complicated upbringing and battling addiction to finding freedom through therapy, 12-step recovery, and faith.  He opens up about key turning points in his life, including an intensive workshop for sex addiction, his decision to quit drinking, and his unexpected shift from pursuing ministry to becoming a therapist. Blake also introduces his latest project, Three Percent, a community he co-founded to help men develop honesty, vulnerability, and deeper connections.  What You'll Learn in This Episode: How family dynamics shape our emotional and relational patterns The role of addiction, therapy, and faith in Blake's healing journey Why honesty and vulnerability are essential for recovery The impact of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy on self-awareness The mission behind Three Percent and why men need safe spaces for authentic connection Connect with Blake: Substack: More to the Story Podcast: Three Percent Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind  https://a.co/d/fTvdTw6 Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/   Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/   Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine   You can find this episode on YouTube HERE.   The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.  

In today's episode, Colleen dives into the balancing act of self-awareness and how it shapes not just our choices, but our fulfillment. She shares her raw personal journey of realizing that she had built a life that looked great on the outside—checking all the right boxes—but left her feeling empty. Instead of blaming external circumstances, she started asking better questions: Am I actually interested in what I'm doing? Am I feeling truly engaged, or just performing? What do I want more of in my life—and what do I no longer need? This episode is about curiosity, not judgment. If you've ever had a nagging feeling that something isn't quite right, but you can't put your finger on it—this conversation will help you explore the real source of that disconnect and how to gently shift toward what actually energizes you.   Key Takeaways: 1. The Difference Between Interest and Obligation Just because you're good at something doesn't mean you actually enjoy it. Being surrounded by people with shared interests is fulfilling—if those interests are truly yours. The more aligned you are with your own desires, the less effort it takes to engage. 2. When You're Not Fully Present, It's a Sign Feeling distracted or disengaged in a conversation? That's useful data. If you often find yourself “playing along” but not actually excited, that's worth noticing. It doesn't mean you have to ditch people—it means you get to explore what you are really drawn to. 3. Self-Awareness Creates More Meaningful Connections The most fulfilling relationships happen when we are fully ourselves. Instead of trying to force interest in things that don't resonate, consider what does spark curiosity for you. Adjusting your social landscape doesn't have to be dramatic—small shifts in how you spend your time can lead to major fulfillment.     Actionable Steps to Tune into Your Own Interests: ✔ Notice when you feel engaged vs. when you're on autopilot. Is this activity (or person) energizing you—or are you just going through the motions? ✔ Shift from judgment to curiosity. Instead of thinking, I should like this, ask: Do I actually like this? ✔ Give yourself permission to explore. What's something you've always been curious about but haven't pursued? ✔ Take small steps toward what excites you. You don't need to overhaul your entire life—start with one simple shift.   Homework:

Text Me!Episode 217: Using House Therapy and Feng Shui to Support Your Sobriety w/ Amy Babish In episode 217 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Amy Babish to the show and the ladies discuss using Feng Shui to support your Sobriety. As well as ancestral patterns beyond the genetics of addiction.Amy Babish, MA, LPC, ATR-BC, is a somatic expert, house therapist (Feng Shui), Alchemical Family & Systems Constellations facilitator, and licensed therapist with over 20 years of experience. She helps people who've plateaued in therapy and mindset work feel at home in themselves, their bodies, homes, lives, and their lineage. Amy guides you to transmute stuck energy and dissolve intergenerational patterns into clarity, alignment, and a sense of profound belonging. She hosts The Soulful Visionary Podcast, where guests receive attuned processes aligning body, space, and legacy.What you will learn in this episode:• Feng shui principles can help remove stagnant energy associated with drinking patterns• The "Taoist trilogy" includes human, cosmic, and earthbound luck—all affecting recovery• Command position bedroom arrangement helps you see challenges before they arrive• Moving 27 things in your space creates significant energetic shifts• Ancestral constellation work uncovers patterns beyond genetics that influence addictionThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Simple Shui BookConnect with Amy:WebsiteInstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Text Me!Episode 216: Why focusing on avoidance can hurt your Sobriety w/ Tim PhillipsIn episode 216 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Tim Phillips to the show and discusses how focusing on avoidance can hurt one's sobriety. Tim Phillips shares his powerful story of going from rock bottom to rehab and discovering what works for him beyond traditional 12-step programs.Tim Phillips is the host of the Sober and Happy Podcast and an advocate for individuals seeking to live a sober, fulfilling lifeWhat you will learn in this episode:Tim's journey from morning bartender to sustained sobriety since 2011Why the 12-step model works for some but not everyoneHow trauma healing fits into recoveryThe dangers of making your world smaller through avoidanceWhy exposure therapy can be valuable in recoveryBuilding confidence by facing fears with proper supportThe importance of developing self-trust in your sobriety journeyThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Get the Book: Grab Your Copy HereJoin the Sobriety Circle Community: Join HereDownload the Free "Sober Not Boring" Calendar: Get Your Copy Work 1:1 with Courtney: Apply HereConnect with Tim:WebsiteInstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Instagram → @SoberVibesWebsite → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Text Me!Episode 215: Thriving in Your First Three Months In episode 215 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen reads the introduction of her book, Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol. If you're navigating early sobriety and looking for guidance, inspiration, and real talk, this quit lit book and this episode are for you.Courtney shares why she wrote Sober Vibes, what to expect in the first 90 days alcohol-free, and how this book can be your go-to guide for support, encouragement, and motivation. Whether you're just starting your sober journey or need a refresher on why you chose this path, this episode is filled with powerful insights to help you not just survive but thrive. The best book for sobriety!What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why the first three months of sobriety are so important What inspired Courtney to write Sober Vibes A reading of the book's introduction How to build confidence and strength in your alcohol-free journeyThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Get the Book: Grab Your Copy HereJoin the Sobriety Circle Community: Join HereDownload the Free "Sober Not Boring" Calendar: Get Your Copy Work 1:1 with Courtney: Apply HereFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Instagram → @SoberVibesWebsite → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book