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In this minisode, Colleen distills emotional sobriety into its simplest form: learning to recognize when you're operating from your primal state versus your power state. Most of us spend our lives reacting to the world from old programming—patterns shaped by fear, pain, or the need for control—without realizing that we can pause, interrupt, and return to presence. She explains how to move from being controlled by your mind to consciously using it as a tool, how emotional energy drives every “problem,” and how the act of letting go—physically and mentally—is the real path to peace. This is more than nervous system regulation; it's a full reclamation of agency over your inner world.  

Text Me!In episode 247 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, Courtney Andersen sits down with Heather Lowe—sober coach, podcast host, and founder of Ditch The Drink—for a powerful, real-world conversation about recovery, grief, and the truth about support.Heather shares how leaving a half-full glass of wine behind became the catalyst for transformation, and why free support options aren't always enough to create real, lasting change. Together, they explore the deeper layers of mommy wine culture, grey area drinking, and the emotional and physical factors that keep so many women stuck in the cycle.Through honesty and humor, Heather opens up about how burnout, perfectionism, and alcohol and hormones impact women's recovery—and how accountability, community, and paid sobriety coaching can help women build stability and self-trust faster.What You Will Learn In This Episode: Growing up with Midwest drinking norms and early conditioning When therapy minimizes drinking, and recovery gets delayed The “sober experiments” that led to Heather's final Day One Building Ditch The Drink and ethical alcohol recovery coaching The impact of mommy wine culture and societal perfectionism Overfunctioning, burnout, and how boundaries support healing The difference between free vs paid support and why accountability accelerates successMotivation to stay sober and how to cope without alcohol long-termSuppose you've ever questioned whether free resources are enough or you're seeking real structure and guidance on how to stop relying on alcohol. In that case, this conversation will give you the truth, hope, and clarity you need to move forward.

When I was in my 30s and 40s, I thought health was something you earned with discipline. I ate clean, drank tons of water, ran marathons and swallowed whatever supplements were trending. And even though I appeared to be doing everything right, my stress was through the roof and my body constantly ached. I was always looking for the next thing to fix. But here's what I didn't realize:  I wasn't broken, or even unhealthy. I just wasn't listening to my body. I cared more about how things looked than how they felt.  I thought I had to prove that I was healthy by doing hard shit–taking on more than I could actually handle. I didn't understand that relaxation isn't something you earn after you check all the boxes. It's an essential ingredient to success.  In today's episode, I'm talking with Courtney Townley, host of Grace & Grit and author of The Consistency Code. Courtney helps women navigate the health maze of midlife—when your resilience to stress is naturally lower, and the load you're carrying has never been heavier, and the old strategies you've used to just keep going are no longer working. In this episode, you'll learn: Why doing more often makes you less healthy—and how your definition of self-care needs to change How to identify “integrity pain,” the tension between who you are and how you're living What to do when your motivation disappears and you literally don't have the energy to keep up with your damn self Being healthy isn't about external metrics…it's when you learn how to experience unconditional love for your body. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!    You can find Courtney at Grace & Grit ---> Grab Her NEW Book, The Consistency Code, launching November 5th!   Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc  

In this episode, Colleen introduces “future casting” — a mindset tool that helps you move from emotional reactivity into grounded awareness. She reframes every “problem” as an emotional one, reminding us that what keeps us stuck isn't the circumstance itself, but the stress response and beliefs we attach to it. Through this lens, future casting becomes a way to access perspective: to pause, regulate your nervous system, and imagine yourself on the other side of the obstacle — already having moved through it. From that calmer, wiser version of you, the next right thought and action become clearer. This practice is both deeply practical and profoundly empowering. It invites you to stop fighting your emotions, reconnect with the body, and use imagination not for worry or control — but for possibility and calm.  

Text Me!In episode 246 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I sit down with Melissa McKinney, licensed addictions counselor, artist, and author, to talk about what truly keeps recovery strong, especially as sobriety evolves over the years.Melissa shares what changes from year seven to year thirteen alcohol-free, and we dive into the four most important areas that help you stay grounded, self-aware, and emotionally connected long after you quit drinking.From burnout and art-driven healing to boundaries, trusted circles, and emotional sobriety, this conversation is packed with wisdom, honesty, and hope.What You Will Learn In This Episode: Lessons from 13 years alcohol-free and how clarity replaces chaos Healing a mental breakdown through art, reflection, and self-compassion Boundaries as a form of protection, peace, and integrity How self-awareness helps you recognize triggers, body cues, and old patterns Connection-building and clear, kind communication Accountability without shame using “I” statementsIf you're ready to strengthen your recovery, protect your peace, and continue growing beyond early sobriety, this conversation will inspire you to keep showing up for yourself in new ways.

In this minisode, Colleen reflects on the stories we grew up with — the ones where the lost princess or overlooked heroine is finally discovered and restored to her rightful place. These stories shaped how many of us learned to wait: for validation, timing, permission, or rescue. She'll reframe that pattern through the lens of emotional sobriety. True power isn't something that arrives once circumstances improve — it's a mindset and a way of being that can exist even in the middle of the mess. Transformation doesn't come from fixing yourself or performing worthiness, but from believing in the person you're becoming before your life catches up. You are invited to examine where you might still be waiting for rescue, and to practice showing up today as the version of yourself who already knows she's capable, worthy, and ready.

In this episode, Colleen explores how hidden beliefs quietly shape our choices, limit our vision, and create the illusion of safety at the expense of growth. Most of the obstacles we face aren't outside of us — they're thoughts we've stopped questioning.  Through the lens of her own experience, she illustrates how well-intentioned reasoning can harden into self-protection, keeping us in familiar patterns that feel comfortable but constraining. This reflection challenges listeners to look beyond circumstances and into the conditioning that sustains them — and introduces a single, powerful question designed to reveal what's actually in the way of change.  

Text Me!Feeling anxious after a drink or even the next morning? You're not imagining it. Alcohol might feel calming in the moment, but it actually triggers your body's stress response and keeps you stuck in an anxiety loop.In episode 245 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I break down the science behind alcohol-induced anxiety and share practical ways to soothe your nervous system without reaching for a drink. You'll learn how to replace the alcohol ritual with nourishing, calming alternatives that truly bring relief.What You Will Learn In This Episode: Why alcohol spikes cortisol and worsens anxiety How drinking to relax creates a cycle of stress and poor sleep Calming, healthy drinks that actually help—herbal teas, adaptogenic tonics, CBD seltzers, and electrolyte mocktails Simple daily habits to shift from anxious to grounded How support inside the Sobriety Circle helps you build real calm and confidenceIf you're ready to break free from the alcohol-anxiety cycle and find peace that lasts, this episode will give you the science, the swaps, and the support to do it.Listen now: From Alcohol-Induced Anxiety to Calm: What to Drink Instead of Alcohol for Anxiety Relief.Resources Mentioned:Electrolyte- ReLyte, use code "sobervibes" at checkout to saveIn the Flow Book PODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to save on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Hope this episode helps you today, and thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In this episode, Colleen traces a quiet, familiar fear that surfaces whenever we step into new territory — the fear of becoming “too much.” What begins as a loving message to stay safe or small can become an inherited boundary that keeps us from expansion. Through her own reflection, she reveals how deeply patterned beliefs about worth, service, and visibility shape the nervous system's response to growth. This isn't a story about trauma, but about awakening — seeing how the rules we once followed out of love can quietly hold us back from the life we're ready to create.  

In this episode, Colleen exposes one of the most dangerous lies we tell ourselves: “Whatever. I don't care.” It's the phrase that sneaks in at the very moment you're about to follow through on what matters, pulling you back into autopilot. Habits feel easy not because they're better, but because they're familiar—and this thought is the detour sign that keeps you circling the same old roads. She shows how to catch that phrase in real time, flip it, and reconnect with your real intentions.  It's not about one big breakthrough—it's about interrupting the trance again and again until your brain learns a new path forward.

Text Me!Have you ever tried to quit drinking and thought, “Why is this so hard? Shouldn't it be easier?” You're not alone. Quitting alcohol often feels harder than it should not because you're weak, but because alcohol changes your brain chemistry, your coping patterns, and the way you deal with stress.In episode 244 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I'm breaking down the real reasons quitting feels so challenging and what actually makes it easier. Whether you're sober curious, in your first 30 days without alcohol, or stuck in the stop-start cycle, this conversation will help you see that you don't need more willpower, you need better tools and support.What You'll Learn in this Episode:How alcohol impacts your brain and fuels alcohol-induced anxietyWhy drinking to cope with alcohol and stress makes quitting feel impossibleHow relying on alcohol speeds up alcohol and aging in your body and skin Why trying to stop drinking with willpower alone often fails The freedom that comes when you stop drinking every night and start building new habits How a sober coach can help you break the cycle and finally follow throughIf you've been telling yourself you should be able to do this alone, this episode is your reminder: you're not broken, you just need the right support.Listen now: Why Quitting Alcohol Feels Harder Than It Should (and Real Help to Finally Stop Drinking)PODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.This episode is sponsored by ExactNature, a trusted holistic tool for anyone navigating recovery and sobriety. Use code SV25 at checkout to receive a discount on your order. Click here to shop and save. Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Masterclass when you submit a review on iTunes. Email me sobervibes@gmail.com with a screenshot of the review, and I will send you the code to unlock my Masterclass for free!Hope this episode helps you today, and thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

Your nervous system dictates how you think, feel, and act. The problem? The moments you most need perspective are the very moments your biology shuts it down. A racing mind, tense muscles, and cortisol surges aren't proof you're broken—they're proof your survival system thinks you're facing a predator, when in reality it's just an email, a bill, or a sideways glance at the grocery store. In this episode, Colleen explains how your sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze/fawn/flop) can hijack your focus in an instant—and why the real threat isn't the stressor, but your body's reaction to it. She shows how mindfulness gives you the skill to step into the observer role, notice the storm without fusing with it, and create the space to calm your body so your brain can come back online. True power lies in reclaiming your pause.

In this episode, Colleen draws from Keira Bobinet's Unstoppable Brain to unpack how perfectionism wires the brain for shame and shutdown. The real shift isn't about tallying wins and losses—it's about adopting an iterative mindset, where results are just feedback and every moment is a new chance to adjust. When you stop chasing the highs to avoid the lows, you stop living on a scoreboard and start reclaiming your power. One of the biggest mistakes women make when they start changing their drinking is believing early wins mean they've “arrived.” A mindful weekend or a stretch of moderation feels like victory—but if you tie your worth to performance, a setback feels like failure. And that's the trap.

Text Me!Have you ever told yourself, “It's just one glass, it can't hurt”? The truth is, even small amounts of alcohol come with hidden health risks, especially for women. From cancer risk to anxiety, poor sleep, and faster aging, that nightly glass of wine costs more than you think.In episode 243 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I'm pulling back the curtain on the silent costs of “just one glass” and why being honest about alcohol is the first step to real freedom. If you've been bargaining with yourself or stuck in the moderation cycle, this conversation will help you shift your sober mindset and see why quitting for good is worth it.What You'll Learn In This Episode:The link between light drinking and higher cancer riskHow alcohol disrupts hormones, sleep, and increases alcohol-induced anxietyWhy “just one” fuels poor rest and the cycle of alcohol relapse The connection between alcohol and aging, and why your skin changes after quitting The emotional exhaustion of trying to drink less alcohol, but never feeling at peace How a sober coach can give you the tools and accountability to stop bargaining with yourselfIf you're telling yourself “just one glass” isn't a big deal, this episode will show you the truth and remind you that freedom, confidence, and health are waiting on the other side.Listen now: The Silent Costs of “Just One Glass”: Alcohol and Health Risks Every Woman Should Know (and How to Quit Drinking for Good)And if you're looking for help quitting alcohol, that's exactly what I do in my coaching sessions. Together, we'll build habits and tools that actually work so you don't have to white-knuckle sobriety alone.Resources Mentioned:Sober 1:1 Coaching The Sobriety Circle The After-Emotional Sobriety GuideSubscribe to the Sober Vibes Podcast on YouTubeFree ResourcesGhost Mugs In the Flow Book Episode 201 with BriaPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners, sign up HERE and claim our $100 Enrollment Bonus.Grab my Masterclass for Free:Gain access to my Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In this final chapter of her West Virginia series, Colleen shares a mysterious story about her daughter Anna—and what felt like a sign from Laura, reminding them both that their needs matter. Whether coincidence or something more, it revealed a deeper truth: your voice is your lifeline back to yourself. Choosing to name what you need is not selfish—it's how you stop living by others' expectations and start living by your own. When you use your voice, the truths that once ruled you quietly from the shadows lose their power.

Driving away from West Virginia, Colleen realized she no longer needs perfect conditions to feel like herself—because that version of her now lives within her. She explores how emotions are echoes of the past, and how clinging to them corrodes self-trust. Through the story of her sister-in-law Laura, she shares how denying your truth disconnects you from your voice—and how letting it surface is what makes healing possible.

After years of trying to fix her life by rearranging circumstances, Colleen finally stopped—and turned inward. This is the story of how admitting “I'm not okay” became the first real act of self-trust. Instead of solving her life, she began tending to herself like someone worth saving, and discovered that clarity comes from action, not overthinking.

In this continuation, Colleen shares how West Virginia shifted her in ways she didn't see coming. She found herself in a community where image didn't matter, where people belonged by being present, not by performing. That freedom to be—messy hair, bare face, imperfect and real—awakened something deeper: the possibility of self-trust. The relationships and experiences from that time became a compass she carried forward. Even as life evolved, that season revealed what authenticity feels like, and how quickly it disappears when we chase approval instead of honoring ourselves.  

Text Me!Do you reach for a drink at the end of a stressful day, thinking it will help you relax? You're not alone. Stress is one of the biggest triggers for drinking but alcohol and stress are more connected than most people realize.In episode 241 of the Sober Vibes Podcast, I'm breaking down the hidden link between alcohol and burnout, why that “relief” you feel is temporary, and how alcohol quietly fuels anxiety, poor sleep, and exhaustion. You'll also learn what to do instead so you can handle stress in healthy, lasting ways.Here's what you will learn in this episode: Why alcohol spikes cortisol and disrupts your nervous system How alcohol and sleep are connected (and why rest improves without booze) The burnout cycle: stress → drink → poor sleep → more stress → repeat Why emotional avoidance keeps you stuck—and how to start practicing emotional sobriety Simple daily rituals to relax without pouring a drink How support from a sober coach can help you break the stress-drink-burnout cycleIf you've been telling yourself alcohol is the answer to stress, this episode will show you the truth and give you tools to relax without it.And if you're ready for extra support, that's exactly what I do with my clients. Coaching gives you tools that actually work, so you don't have to white-knuckle stress on your own.Resources Mentioned:Sober 1:1 Coaching The Sobriety Circle The After-Emotional Sobriety GuideSubscribe to the Sober Vibes Podcast on YouTubeFree ResourcesPODCAST SPONSOR:This episode is sponsored by Soberlink, a trusted accountability tool for anyone navigating early recovery. Whether you're rebuilding trust with loved ones or want more structure in your sobriety, Soberlink offers a discreet and empowering way to stay on track.Sober Vibes listeners get $50 off their device!Grab your discount here!Hope this episode helps you today, and thank you for tuning in!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book

In this episode, Colleen begins a five-part mini-series by reflecting on a season of life where everything looked perfect on the outside—four children, big career moves, and daily discipline to name a few. But on the inside she was hollow, disconnected, and coping in ways that kept her stuck. The move to West Virginia became more than a change of scenery; it became a field trip into herself. It was here she first began to see the difference between living to perform and learning to be. What felt like upheaval at the time now stands out as a turning point—the beginning of finding her own voice beneath the roles and responsibilities.  

In this episode of Gents Talk (E#,167), host Samir Mourani sits down with sober coach Luc Zoratto for a raw and vulnerable conversation addiction, what life looks like as a functioning alcoholic, how you don't always know who is struggling, blacking out during his own wedding and the long hard journey it took to overcome this and is now nearly a decade sober.

In this episode, Colleen explores the powerful intersection of science and spirituality—from dopamine research and environmental design to Michael Singer, Don Miguel Ruiz, and Bruce Lipton. Drawing on both brain science and lived experience, she makes a simple but life-changing point: reality isn't what's “out there.” It's what your brain chooses to notice. Out of millions of possible inputs, your brain filters just a few—and those choices shape your emotions, your energy, and your life. Truth is not abstract dogma or moral code—it's the felt sense that opens your heart and mind. When you learn to notice what you're noticing, you reclaim the power to create a reality that feels expansive, joyful, and true.    

In this episode, Colleen shares a personal story of missed flights, expired licenses, stolen wallets—and how choosing bat-shit positive over bat-shit negative turned each obstacle into an unexpected gift. With humor and honesty, she reframes setbacks not as evidence that life is against us, but as opportunities to practice trust, adaptability, and creativity. Through this lens, even a canceled car rental or lost wallet becomes training ground for a deeper truth: the problem is never the problem. It's the mindset that labels it as wrong that keeps us stuck. When we shift into curiosity—asking, “How is this happening for me?”—the very circumstances we once resented become portals to wisdom, resilience, and growth. This is more than a pep talk. It's a lived reminder that shit makes the best fertilizer—what looks like a mess today might be the soil for everything you've been waiting for.    

In this follow-up episode, Colleen shares a personal holiday stumble—an experience she originally recorded in late 2024, but one that still rings true as we look ahead to the upcoming season. She names it a “relapse,” not because of how much she drank but because of the disconnect between what she wanted and what actually happened. Instead of hiding it, she walks through the three-question framework from Part One, showing in real time how to turn what looks like failure into data, compassion, and next steps. Through honest reflection, she reframes her week of drinking with family as a learning lab: noticing where it could have been worse, expanding the timeline to see real improvement, and uncovering the lesson that unrealistic expectations set her up to struggle. What emerges is a radically different take on relapse—not as proof you're broken, but as proof you're still learning. This isn't just a confession—it's a model of how to meet yourself in the mess, stay curious, and come back stronger.  

As the holiday season approaches, this episode—originally recorded after Thanksgiving 2024—offers perspective that's just as relevant now as it was then. Colleen pulls apart one of the biggest myths of change: that it's the behavior itself that's hard. The truth? It's the act of change—the moment you take your brain off autopilot—that feels so uncomfortable. From holiday chaos to daily overwhelm, she shows how perfectionism and constant performance keep you stuck, and why setbacks are not proof of failure but invitations to learn. She reframes relapse, stress, and “slip-ups” as tests—opportunities to gather information instead of self-destruct. She makes the case that baby habits can't yet compete with old, well-worn patterns in times of stress, and that setting realistic expectations is the most compassionate, powerful strategy for lasting growth. This is more than a pep talk. It's a playbook for walking through the holidays (and any high-pressure season) without letting setbacks steal your progress—or your self-trust.  

In this episode, Colleen unpacks one of the most common struggles in early sobriety and beyond: bone-deep exhaustion. She shares her own experience quitting alcohol (and much more) all at once, and how the “post-acute withdrawal syndrome” myth left her believing she'd be tired and unmotivated for years. What she eventually discovered is that tiredness isn't just physical—it's an emotional signal tied to how you're thinking, what you're carrying, and how you're responding to your body. She reframes fatigue as a feeling, not a fixed fact. She lays out the calls to action—hydration, movement, thought work, environment shifts—that help you recharge in real time instead of waiting for some mythical “dopamine reset.” This episode will show you how to trust your body as the litmus test for truth and to respond in ways that restore energy, purpose, and hope.    

In this episode, Colleen gives an update on the behind-the-scenes of what happened after being suddenly cut from a program she'd once called home. At first, she carried the weight of unfairness and betrayal, convinced it would take a long time to heal. But what started as a sting that clung to her body and mind turned into something radically different: a live demonstration of releasing the story that was holding her hostage. Through an unexpected NLP exercise with her coach, she revisits the childhood wound at the root of her pain and dismantles the old belief that others get to decide her worth. In real time, you'll hear how her body shifted, her brain rewired, and her story transformed from “I've been wronged” to “I'm free.” What looked like rejection became a clean slate, a wider horizon, and a reminder that freedom comes when you reclaim the pen and rewrite your own narrative. This isn't just an update—it's a case study in emotional sovereignty, showing how quickly you can drop a heavy story and walk away lighter.    

What if the care you needed wasn't one more task, but a radical act of self-trust? In Episode 150, I'm joined by Amy C. Willis, sober coach, speaker, and founder of Hol + Well. Amy works with women and queer folks to explore what's possible in a life free from alcohol—one rooted in rest, boundaries, and real self-care. We explore the concept of mothering yourself—a tender and transformative practice that helped Amy through early sobriety when she didn't yet feel worthy of care. This idea ties beautifully into our Summer of Real Rest series, especially for those who are exhausted from being everything to everyone. In this conversation, Amy and I discuss: Why “mommy wine culture” is predatory, not empowering How sobriety and burnout recovery share similar emotional truths The stigma around choosing to be alcohol-free—even if you don't identify as “in recovery” Why we need to dismantle the binary between problem drinking and “normal” drinking What truly restorative self-care looks like in recovery (hint: it's not what Instagram tells you) One of the most powerful things Amy says in this episode is: “Whatever you're looking for in alcohol, you'll actually find in sobriety.” Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or simply burned out and craving more care—you'll find so much resonance and reflection here. Amy's Resources & Recommendations

In this episode, Colleen pulls back the curtain on a personal “bitch slap from the universe” that arrived in the form of a sudden, unexplained expulsion from a coaching program she once considered family. What could have been a spiral into shame became something else entirely—a masterclass in emotional sovereignty. She walks you through the shock, the grief, and the moment she realized: this wasn't actually about her. Instead of chasing fairness or demanding explanations, she chose action over rumination, redirecting her energy toward opportunities that actually align with her values. With candor, humor, and zero self-pity, Colleen models what it looks like to process hurt without handing away your power—and to see a painful ending as a door swinging wide to something better. This is more than a story about rejection; it's a real-time demonstration of the freedom that comes from owning your emotional narrative and refusing to let someone else's decisions define you.    

In this episode, Colleen dismantles one of the most costly habits we carry through life: the obsession with figuring out whose fault it is. She makes a powerful distinction between fault—the cause of a problem—and responsibility—your power to choose how you respond. The moment you stop waiting for someone else to make things right, you stop handing them your power. With humor, wordplay, and grounded examples, she shows how clinging to blame keeps you stuck, resentful, and drained—while letting go frees you to act from a place of choice, not victimhood. Whether it's waiting on an apology, reimbursement, or just “closure,” the real cost is the energy you lose while holding someone else accountable for your own next move. Colleen invites you to reclaim your response-ability, stop making other people's actions the condition for your own happiness, and give situations “all the attention they deserve—none.” Because when you drop the weight of fault, you gain the freedom to create the life you actually want.    

In this episode, Colleen shares a raw, behind-the-scenes moment from her own emotional funk and breaks down exactly how she worked through it—thought by thought, feeling by feeling. From vacation wine to love-bombing exes to that post-holiday productivity pressure, she shows how even seemingly minor emotional clutter can trigger deep, subconscious beliefs that hijack your nervous system. Instead of bypassing or blaming her mood, Colleen slows down and listens—uncovering the core belief underneath it all: I've done something wrong. What follows is a masterclass in emotional self-leadership. You'll hear how she clears the subconscious “rock in her shoe,” replaces it with a more empowering truth, and reclaims her mental space, energy, and creative flow. This isn't emotional perfectionism. This is radical presence—and it's how you clear the emotional backlog that's actually running your life.    

In this episode, Colleen reframes one of the most misunderstood experiences in recovery: anxiety. Far from being just a diagnosis or a quirk of personality, anxiety is presented as a signal—an embodied alert system that points to the quality of your thoughts. She breaks down the real reason alcohol feels impossible to control: not because you're broken, but because your brain, hijacked by stress, is obsessing over a problem it thinks it must fix. And when that problem is alcohol, you become trapped in a loop of overthinking, guilt, and trying harder—while your body begs for presence, stillness, and care. She offers a radical shift: your anxiety isn't something to be solved. It's something to listen to. Not with your mind, but with your body. This isn't a mindset hack—it's nervous system healing. And it starts by learning how to stop listening to your brain's recycled stories, and start thinking on purpose.    

In this episode, Colleen names the real culprit behind so many evening drinking spirals: not lack of willpower, but an overloaded nervous system weighed down by thought patterns we treat as facts. She challenges the idea that we need to “solve” our problems in order to feel better—and instead offers a radical invitation: what if the problems aren't the problem? What if it's our focus that's keeping us stuck? Through candid stories from her own life, Colleen models what it looks like to let go of the drama we're not meant to carry. From ex-spouses to global politics, she demonstrates the power of conscious disengagement—choosing presence over rumination, joy over justification, clarity over control. This isn't emotional avoidance. It's sovereignty. When we stop trying to manage what was never ours to fix, we finally free up the energy to create what we actually want.    

In this episode, Colleen shares a game-changing reframe about why we actually get stuck—even when we have the motivation, the clarity, and the plan. Building on fresh neuroscience from Dr. Kira Babinet, she introduces us to the habenula, a lesser-known part of the brain that slams the brakes on our behavior when failure is perceived—whether it's already happened or we're just afraid it might. Colleen unpacks how the brain's bias toward failure and loss doesn't just stall action—it can kill our momentum completely. But instead of forcing progress through pressure or willpower, she offers a gentler, radically effective solution: the iterative mindset. One that removes failure from the equation entirely, replacing it with curiosity, experimentation, and self-compassion. No more proving, no more perfection—just real change, one tiny tweak at a time. This isn't about setting better goals. It's about learning how to stop punishing yourself with the gas pedal when your brain's already hitting the brakes.    

In this episode, Colleen shares a quiet but powerful moment from one of her recent coaching calls—where a client celebrated a huge win, and Colleen noticed her own body signaling that something was off. What unfolded wasn't a rupture, but a subtle shift: a reminder that even seasoned leaders can bypass consent in moments of well-meaning reflex. And that noticing the signal doesn't mean spiraling—it means listening. Through her own self-check-in, she unpacks what it looks like to be emotionally sober in the face of mild shame: not resisting it, not fixing it, just feeling it long enough to hear what it's pointing to. Rather than defending her role or projecting the discomfort outward, Colleen models the kind of internal pause that turns self-awareness into relational repair—and deeper self-trust. This episode isn't about coaching techniques. It's about what happens when we make space to feel the moment before we justify it. Because sometimes, the most responsible thing we can do is let the feeling teach us—before we write the story.    

In today's episode, Colleen walks us through a deceptively simple question that came up on a recent coaching call: How do I actually feel my feelings? The answer isn't mindset. It isn't a technique. It's presence. She explores the difference between thinking about emotions and physically experiencing them—without adding a story, a solution, or a label. With grounded metaphors and everyday honesty, she invites you to see emotions as temporary energy—not identity. You'll hear what happens when we resist that energy, and how easily it creates stagnation, self-protection, and shame loops that can shape entire patterns of behavior. If you've been trying to “work on yourself” without shifting how you relate to your emotional state, this episode may open a quieter, more embodied door.    

In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal and refreshingly honest story about her relationship with nicotine—and how emotional sobriety has shifted the way she responds to temporary imbalance. What starts as a candid reflection on sneaky vape relapses becomes a powerful reminder that healing isn't about perfection. It's about how we respond when we veer off course. Colleen takes us through her own journey of regulating her nervous system, loosening old beliefs about addiction, and trusting that balance always returns—especially when we stop making a big deal out of being human. This isn't a story about failure; it's a blueprint for self-trust, grace, and gently coming home to yourself without shame. If you've ever found yourself back in an old habit and wondered, "Did I just ruin everything?"—this episode offers a softer, smarter answer: No. You just forgot for a second how resilient you really are.

In today's episode, Colleen lifts the veil on a common self-sabotage mechanism that often flies under the radar: worry. What begins as a moment of genuine joy and success quickly dissolves into anxiety—and not because something actually went wrong, but because her nervous system quietly panicked at how good it all felt. Using a relatable personal story and the concept of the “upper limit problem,” Colleen explores how we unconsciously block positive emotions the moment they start to expand. Whether it's a burst of pride, creative momentum, or a deep sense of peace, many of us unknowingly kink the hose of our own emotional flow—defaulting to worry as a way to shut it all down. This episode offers a practical and empowering reframe: your worry isn't a warning—it's a signal that something good is trying to get in. If you're ready to stop letting anxiety pull the plug on your joy, this one's for you.

In this heartfelt narrative, Kate Vitela shares her raw and unfiltered experience with addiction and her initial struggles with sobriety. She describes a poignant moment of clarity at a support meeting, where she felt a deep sense of belonging for the first time. Acknowledging the importance of personal responsibility in recovery, this story encapsulates a critical point in Vitela's journey that led her to find the strength and self-worth needed to overcome her addiction. This insightful reflection offers a glimpse into the emotional and transformative experiences that define the path to sobriety.

In today's episode, Colleen peels back the curtain on one of the most radical shifts we can make: recognizing that we are not our thoughts—we're the observer behind them. What starts as a reflection on managing the energy in your body becomes a masterclass in emotional authorship, reminding us that our thoughts, not our circumstances, are what create our lived reality. Using the metaphor of a self-driving car, Colleen breaks down how most of us are unconsciously letting outdated programming steer our lives. But it doesn't have to be that way. When you take back the wheel—choosing how you want to feel and filtering your thoughts through that emotional compass—you begin to rewrite the narrative of your life, one aligned action at a time. This episode is both a wake-up call and a permission slip: to believe what feels good, let go of what causes suffering, and trust that healing your inner world is how you change the outer one. If you've ever wondered whether it's really possible to feel free, peaceful, and powerful in your own skin—this is your answer.    

In today's episode, Colleen walks us through a high-stakes moment with one of her clients—standing at the emotional fork in the road between old habits and radical self-responsibility. After a tense night at her childhood home, surrounded by triggering family dynamics and judgment, this client found herself spiraling into shame after a single shot of tequila… and a familiar pattern of self-attack. With her sister likely ready to confront her, she reached out for support—not to fix the situation, but to reclaim her power before it got hijacked. What unfolds is a masterclass in nervous system protection, mindset choice, and learning how to stop reacting to the stories in your head (and the ones projected onto you). This episode is your reminder that peace isn't earned through explanation—it's chosen in the moment, with breath, presence, and courage. If you've ever felt like you have to prove, fix, or defend your choices just to feel okay again—this one will show you another way.

In today's episode, Colleen shares a real-life moment of emotional sobriety in action—when an old blog post, a rogue email, and a morning scroll tried to hijack her peace before she even got out of bed. What begins as a minor tech task quickly spirals into a stress response… until she catches it. Instead of reacting from urgency, she pauses, reconnects with her intention for the day, and remembers: just because it feels urgent doesn't mean it is. This episode is a practical, embodied reminder that emotional sobriety isn't about getting it perfect—it's about noticing the pattern before it runs your whole day. If you're done letting false alarms steal your time, energy, and presence, this one shows you how to reclaim control—without rushing to fix anything.

In today's episode, Colleen reveals the sneaky way our own thoughts quietly become emotional abuse—and how to interrupt the habit of thinking things that hurt. From bedtime mirror pep talks to buried beliefs about being “a hot mess,” this episode explores how subconscious thought loops create the feelings that sabotage your confidence, relationships, and self-trust. Colleen explains how your nervous system isn't reacting to your circumstances—it's reacting to your story. And most of that story? It's fiction you've been rehearsing for years. If you're ready to stop bullying yourself with thoughts you'd never say out loud to a friend, this episode is your start to choosing a better script and creating safety in your own mind.

In today's episode, Colleen unpacks why your background alarm is going off—and how to finally turn it off. You're not lazy. You're not broken. And your bedtime resistance, your anxious spinouts, your self-sabotage? They're not random. They. Are. Patterns. Habits formed by younger versions of you who were just trying to stay safe. This episode dives into how childhood beliefs shape your nervous system, why emotional energy gets trapped in the body, and how to reclaim that energy instead of wasting it on panic, shame, or perfectionism. If your anxiety feels like it runs the show, Colleen gives you a way to interrupt the pattern and stop thinking your way out of a feeling problem. Whether you're healing from overdrinking, a divorce, or just trying to move through your day with more peace, this one shows you exactly how to get back into your body and claim your power. Key Takeaways: That “resistance” you feel? It's not laziness—it's a child part of you stuck in a story. Your background alarm (aka chronic anxiety) is often a relic from the past—not a reaction to the present. Trying to think your way through a feeling problem only keeps the alarm ringing. If you're done spiraling, numbing, or wondering why you sabotage the things you say you want—this episode is your wake-up call to stop overriding your body and start listening. And if you're ready to reduce your drinking by 80% and finally trust yourself again? Schedule a discovery call with Colleen or the team- BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.    Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!  Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer  X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc  Transcript  

You've probably heard me say the common phrase “the call is coming from inside the house” — but what if every judgment you make about someone else is too? In this episode, Colleen unpacks the concept of The Black Mirror — the idea that your emotional reactions to other people are often projections of the stories, beliefs, and insecurities you hold about yourself. You'll learn how to flip the script when you're triggered by someone else's behavior, turn judgment into powerful self-awareness, and use emotional sobriety skills to stop reacting from fear and start responding from clarity. This is shadow work, made practical. This episode is for the woman who is ready to take her power back… by owning what's hers and releasing what isn't.    

Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In Part 2 of Carley's story, we dive into the healing that began once she joined the program. You'll hear how she learned to regulate her nervous system, rewire her brain, and change the story she told herself about who she was. Carley shares how she finally stopped chasing external validation, started putting herself first without guilt, and showed up more fully — not just for herself, but for her kids, her husband, and her work. We also talk about what it means to “be emotionally sober” and why drinking less wasn't the ultimate win for Carley — it was becoming the woman she never thought she could be. This part of the conversation is a celebration of what's possible when you stop trying to get sober and start learning to feel safe in your own body. What you'll hear in Part 2: The skills Carley developed that helped her reduce her drinking by 80% How emotional sobriety changed her marriage, her parenting, and her self-talk Why she now calls herself “unrecognizable” — in the best way What she would say to any woman who's scared to take the first step   Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

Most women don't realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That's when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine. In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle. You'll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don't have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations.  

In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful one-on-one coaching conversation with a client who was dreading a weekend trip with her judgmental, high-maintenance mother-in-law. What started as a fear of overdrinking turned into something much deeper—a real-time lesson in emotional ownership, boundaries, and what it means to become unfuckwithable. This episode isn't about family dynamics—it's about taking your power back. If you've ever agreed to something just to avoid conflict and ended up feeling resentful, this is for you. You'll walk away with practical language, new scripts, and the mindset shift that will help you stop outsourcing your emotional well-being to other people's moods.    

Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In this raw and relatable conversation, I'm joined by one of my incredible clients, Carley — a driven healthcare professional, mom of two, and former daily drinker who once believed her only two choices were to either quit drinking forever or keep white-knuckling it with shame and regret. Carley opens up about what her drinking looked like behind closed doors and the pressure she put on herself to “keep it together” — until it started to fall apart. She shares how overachieving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing became coping mechanisms, and how alcohol slowly crept in as her off-switch. We talk about the moment she realized her mental math wasn't working anymore, the emotional buildup that led her to finally book a discovery call, and what shifted when she heard someone say: “You don't have to get sober. You just have to feel better.” This is an incredibly powerful episode for anyone who has ever felt stuck between drinking too much and feeling like you can't stop completely. Carley's story is proof that emotional sobriety isn't about rules — it's about freedom. What you'll hear in Part 1: The hidden stressors that led Carley to overdrink (even as a healthcare worker who knew better) The fear of reaching out for help — and what made her finally do it The myth of “just try harder” and why it never works The exact moment she realized she didn't have to choose between chaos and abstinence   Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!   

Text Me!Episode 225 Sober Dating 101: How to Navigate Love Without Alcohol w/ Kate RiosIn episode 225 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Kate Rios to the show, and the ladies discuss dating sober. Dating sober doesn't have to be terrifying, and it might lead to better relationships. Kate Rios shares her eight-year sobriety journey and how she navigated the dating world without alcohol.Kate has been a part of the Sober Vibes community, and this is a listener's story!Favorite quote from the show- "If he can't plan a date, he can't plan a future!"What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to build confidence when dating without alcoholTips for handling the “Why don't you drink?” questionHow sobriety leads to deeper emotional connectionRed flags and green flags in sober relationshipsWhy sober sex can actually be betterKate's personal journey and insights from her sober love lifeThank you for listening! Connect with Kate:Instagram Resources Mentioned:Courtney's Website Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book