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In today's episode, Colleen peels back the curtain on one of the most radical shifts we can make: recognizing that we are not our thoughts—we're the observer behind them. What starts as a reflection on managing the energy in your body becomes a masterclass in emotional authorship, reminding us that our thoughts, not our circumstances, are what create our lived reality. Using the metaphor of a self-driving car, Colleen breaks down how most of us are unconsciously letting outdated programming steer our lives. But it doesn't have to be that way. When you take back the wheel—choosing how you want to feel and filtering your thoughts through that emotional compass—you begin to rewrite the narrative of your life, one aligned action at a time. This episode is both a wake-up call and a permission slip: to believe what feels good, let go of what causes suffering, and trust that healing your inner world is how you change the outer one. If you've ever wondered whether it's really possible to feel free, peaceful, and powerful in your own skin—this is your answer.
In today's episode, Colleen walks us through a high-stakes moment with one of her clients—standing at the emotional fork in the road between old habits and radical self-responsibility. After a tense night at her childhood home, surrounded by triggering family dynamics and judgment, this client found herself spiraling into shame after a single shot of tequila… and a familiar pattern of self-attack. With her sister likely ready to confront her, she reached out for support—not to fix the situation, but to reclaim her power before it got hijacked. What unfolds is a masterclass in nervous system protection, mindset choice, and learning how to stop reacting to the stories in your head (and the ones projected onto you). This episode is your reminder that peace isn't earned through explanation—it's chosen in the moment, with breath, presence, and courage. If you've ever felt like you have to prove, fix, or defend your choices just to feel okay again—this one will show you another way.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a real-life moment of emotional sobriety in action—when an old blog post, a rogue email, and a morning scroll tried to hijack her peace before she even got out of bed. What begins as a minor tech task quickly spirals into a stress response… until she catches it. Instead of reacting from urgency, she pauses, reconnects with her intention for the day, and remembers: just because it feels urgent doesn't mean it is. This episode is a practical, embodied reminder that emotional sobriety isn't about getting it perfect—it's about noticing the pattern before it runs your whole day. If you're done letting false alarms steal your time, energy, and presence, this one shows you how to reclaim control—without rushing to fix anything.
In today's episode, Colleen reveals the sneaky way our own thoughts quietly become emotional abuse—and how to interrupt the habit of thinking things that hurt. From bedtime mirror pep talks to buried beliefs about being “a hot mess,” this episode explores how subconscious thought loops create the feelings that sabotage your confidence, relationships, and self-trust. Colleen explains how your nervous system isn't reacting to your circumstances—it's reacting to your story. And most of that story? It's fiction you've been rehearsing for years. If you're ready to stop bullying yourself with thoughts you'd never say out loud to a friend, this episode is your start to choosing a better script and creating safety in your own mind.
In today's episode, Colleen unpacks why your background alarm is going off—and how to finally turn it off. You're not lazy. You're not broken. And your bedtime resistance, your anxious spinouts, your self-sabotage? They're not random. They. Are. Patterns. Habits formed by younger versions of you who were just trying to stay safe. This episode dives into how childhood beliefs shape your nervous system, why emotional energy gets trapped in the body, and how to reclaim that energy instead of wasting it on panic, shame, or perfectionism. If your anxiety feels like it runs the show, Colleen gives you a way to interrupt the pattern and stop thinking your way out of a feeling problem. Whether you're healing from overdrinking, a divorce, or just trying to move through your day with more peace, this one shows you exactly how to get back into your body and claim your power. Key Takeaways: That “resistance” you feel? It's not laziness—it's a child part of you stuck in a story. Your background alarm (aka chronic anxiety) is often a relic from the past—not a reaction to the present. Trying to think your way through a feeling problem only keeps the alarm ringing. If you're done spiraling, numbing, or wondering why you sabotage the things you say you want—this episode is your wake-up call to stop overriding your body and start listening. And if you're ready to reduce your drinking by 80% and finally trust yourself again? Schedule a discovery call with Colleen or the team- BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
You've probably heard me say the common phrase “the call is coming from inside the house” — but what if every judgment you make about someone else is too? In this episode, Colleen unpacks the concept of The Black Mirror — the idea that your emotional reactions to other people are often projections of the stories, beliefs, and insecurities you hold about yourself. You'll learn how to flip the script when you're triggered by someone else's behavior, turn judgment into powerful self-awareness, and use emotional sobriety skills to stop reacting from fear and start responding from clarity. This is shadow work, made practical. This episode is for the woman who is ready to take her power back… by owning what's hers and releasing what isn't.
Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In Part 2 of Carley's story, we dive into the healing that began once she joined the program. You'll hear how she learned to regulate her nervous system, rewire her brain, and change the story she told herself about who she was. Carley shares how she finally stopped chasing external validation, started putting herself first without guilt, and showed up more fully — not just for herself, but for her kids, her husband, and her work. We also talk about what it means to “be emotionally sober” and why drinking less wasn't the ultimate win for Carley — it was becoming the woman she never thought she could be. This part of the conversation is a celebration of what's possible when you stop trying to get sober and start learning to feel safe in your own body. What you'll hear in Part 2: The skills Carley developed that helped her reduce her drinking by 80% How emotional sobriety changed her marriage, her parenting, and her self-talk Why she now calls herself “unrecognizable” — in the best way What she would say to any woman who's scared to take the first step Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
Most women don't realize how uncomfortable they are with feeling good—until things start going too well. That's when the sabotage creeps in. A snappy comment. A skipped workout. An unnecessary glass of wine. In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the concept of the “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks—and explains how perfectionists and people-pleasers unknowingly block joy, ease, and success by clinging to struggle. You'll learn how your emotional thermostat gets set in childhood, why guilt and discomfort with pleasure keep you stuck, and how to reset your internal baseline so peace and happiness stop feeling unsafe. This episode is a powerful reminder that you don't have to earn your joy. You just have to stop arguing for your limitations.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful one-on-one coaching conversation with a client who was dreading a weekend trip with her judgmental, high-maintenance mother-in-law. What started as a fear of overdrinking turned into something much deeper—a real-time lesson in emotional ownership, boundaries, and what it means to become unfuckwithable. This episode isn't about family dynamics—it's about taking your power back. If you've ever agreed to something just to avoid conflict and ended up feeling resentful, this is for you. You'll walk away with practical language, new scripts, and the mindset shift that will help you stop outsourcing your emotional well-being to other people's moods.
Click here to watch the full interview with Carley on YouTube In this raw and relatable conversation, I'm joined by one of my incredible clients, Carley — a driven healthcare professional, mom of two, and former daily drinker who once believed her only two choices were to either quit drinking forever or keep white-knuckling it with shame and regret. Carley opens up about what her drinking looked like behind closed doors and the pressure she put on herself to “keep it together” — until it started to fall apart. She shares how overachieving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing became coping mechanisms, and how alcohol slowly crept in as her off-switch. We talk about the moment she realized her mental math wasn't working anymore, the emotional buildup that led her to finally book a discovery call, and what shifted when she heard someone say: “You don't have to get sober. You just have to feel better.” This is an incredibly powerful episode for anyone who has ever felt stuck between drinking too much and feeling like you can't stop completely. Carley's story is proof that emotional sobriety isn't about rules — it's about freedom. What you'll hear in Part 1: The hidden stressors that led Carley to overdrink (even as a healthcare worker who knew better) The fear of reaching out for help — and what made her finally do it The myth of “just try harder” and why it never works The exact moment she realized she didn't have to choose between chaos and abstinence Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. Want daily updates from me? TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer Twitter (X): @NotAboutTheAlc YouTube: @hangoverwhisperer —Do you want coaching from Colleen on a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
Content Warning: talk of death by suicideDr. Laura welcomes Nick Jonsson, Certified Master Coach, keynote speaker, and author of the best-selling book “Executive Loneliness: The 5 Pathways to Overcoming Isolation, Stress, Anxiety, and Depression in the Modern Business World”, to the show to examine mental health, especially in leaders. Nick shares his personal story of loss of confidence, mental health challenges, and a spiral into addiction in a vulnerable illustration of how he learned the necessity of sharing and support to facilitate recovery. Sober and healthy today, Nick's drive is to share his story so others can find the strength to break out of loneliness like he did. Nick and Dr. Laura dive deep into the truth about loneliness on an executive level, the prevalence of death by suicide among men, and why support groups are vital for a healthy life before we ever hit addiction. Nick is honest about how difficult it is to be vulnerable, but how life-changing it also proves to be. He shares stories from his coaching, his book, and the culture he currently nurtures in his company. His definition of spirituality is “accepting the things we are not in control of,” and he uses spirituality as a way to connect with people and continue to thrive in recovery and assist others to do the same.“I mean, it's uncomfortable to be vulnerable, but we can practice that. And I talk a lot about the vulnerability muscle, and that it's like going to the gym. We train our muscles. We need to do that with vulnerability as well. And it's about starting small. And I was fortunate that I had a drinking problem, because that brought me to the 12-step programs. And over the years, I've been to almost a thousand of these meetings. Perhaps the first 100, I needed the help. The rest of the 900 were for me to give back and help others. And that has kept me on this path of being vulnerable, sharing my challenges, and no matter what is on my mind, I will come in there and I will share what the challenge is and I will leave the meeting feeling better.” Nick JonssonAbout Nick Jonsson:Nick Jonsson's narrative is a compelling tale of success, adversity, and authentic triumph. Initially driven by societal expectations and a desire to meet external standards of success, Nick led major international firms before facing a period of profound adversity. He confronted personal and professional crises, including executive loneliness, addiction, and the loss of a close friend to suicide. This sparked a transformative journey. From these challenges, Nick emerged with a redefined purpose and a commitment to holistic success. He authored the best-selling book "Executive Loneliness: The 5 Pathways to Overcoming Isolation, Stress, Anxiety, and Depression in the Modern Business World," which draws on his personal struggles to guide others facing similar challenges. As a Certified Chief Master Coach (CCMC) and a Certified ICF Coach (ACTP), Nick Jonsson excels in executive coaching, empowering business leaders to enhance their effectiveness and become better leaders in their professional environments. Through life coaching, he helps individuals discover their purpose and craft their legacies, offering comprehensive guidance that addresses both personal aspirations and professional development. Celebrating six years of sobriety, Nick is also an accredited Sober Coach by the Sober Club in the UK, specializing in supporting grey zone drinkers to make transformative lifestyle changes. Furthermore, Nick founded a weekly men's group, creating a supportive space for men to connect, grow, and thrive. He is also the co-founder of EGN, the largest peer network for executives in Southeast Asia. His impact extends through his roles as a coach, speaker, and Ironman Top 2% World Age Group Athlete. His advocacy for mental health, physical wellness, and emotional well-being stems from his experiences and his commitment to helping others achieve holistic success. Today, Nick gives back to society not only through his advocacy but also as a fundraiser and volunteer for a suicide prevention agency. He is actively involved in coaching other business executives to overcome loneliness, addiction, and to find their life purpose and write their legacy. Nick's dedication to mental health advocacy was recognized when he was a finalist for the International Mental Health Campaigner of the Year at the InsideOut Awards in London, in 2021, and he won the Sabre PRovoke Award for Southeast Asia in the same year. Nick is an award-winning keynote speaker and workshop facilitator. He has been featured on over 100 international podcasts discussing his journey to assist others and has appeared in more than 30 newspapers and magazines, as well as on radio and TV. Happily married and with a son aged 15, Nick Jonsson stands as a testament to the power of resilience and the human spirit. His journey from societal-induced success through adversity to a life of authentic achievement offers inspiration and a roadmap for those seeking to find their own path to genuine fulfillment.Resources:Website: NickJonsson.comBook: “Executive Loneliness: The 5 Pathways to Overcoming Isolation, Stress, Anxiety & Depression in the Modern Business World” by Nick Jonsson“The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier” by Kalsey KillamRich Roll podcastLearn more about Dr. Laura on her website: https://drlaura.liveFor more resources, look into Dr. Laura's organizations: Canada Career CounsellingSynthesis Psychology
In today's episode, Colleen unpacks a subtle but powerful mindset that can completely shift how you experience stress, pressure, and time. Whether it's a packed calendar, an airport sprint, or your own inner critic barking about everything you should be doing, the real problem isn't your to-do list—it's your nervous system. This episode explores how urgency is often just emotional dysregulation in disguise, and why “getting everything done” will never create the calm you're actually craving. If you're constantly on the go, juggling work, family, and the secret shame of overdrinking, this one will help you slow down without falling behind—and start practicing emotional sobriety in the way you move through your day.
Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community. We're re-releasing one of our most popular episodes—Episode 13: Did Jesus Drink Wine? With Pastor David—because some truths are worth hearing twice. Or ten times. This episode gets to the heart of a phrase many of us used to justify the habit: “But Jesus drank wine.” It's not just the name of our podcast—it was a story that kept us stuck in a nightly-ish drinking cycle. So today, join us in the studio as they welcome a very special guest: Meade's pastor, David Walters, who joins us as our resident biblical scholar to tackle the burning question: Did Jesus really drink wine—and does it matter? David bravely and graciously unpacks this question and so many more, including: What does Scripture actually say about wine and drinking? What does it mean to “take our thoughts captive”? Why is the heart mentioned over 800 times in the Bible—and what does that have to do with the lies we believe? What are false idols, and how do they relate to alcohol or anything else we turn to for comfort? How do we uncover the deeper truth beneath the stories that keep us stuck? And yes… what do kids and CrossFit have to do with any of this? This episode is packed with spiritual depth, practical wisdom, and powerful applications for anyone on the journey to freedom—from alcohol, or anything else taking up too much space in your life. And don't miss the end of the episode—this week's “tiny TINA” might just be the most brilliant yet. Whether you're new to the pod or you've heard this one before, hit play with fresh ears. Because this might be the replay your heart needs right now. #ButJesusDrankWine #FreedomFromAlcohol #BiblicalTruth #FaithAndFreedom #TheMissingPeace #RenewYourMind #ChristianWomen #ReRelease Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Learn More about Coaching with Christy Learn More about Coaching with Meade Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection on what it means to stay emotionally sober when things are going really well. When the business is booming, the boxes are checked, and it feels like everything is finally clicking. Most of us assume that emotional work is about learning how to handle hard moments—grief, anxiety, cravings, conflict, etc. Though that's true in it's own right, there is still a catch. ----> If your mood is dictated by external wins, then your nervous system is still being hijacked, and the crash that follows might be more subtle—but it can also be just as dysregulating.
In this episode, Colleen breaks down the difference between thinking your feelings and actually feeling them—and why most high-achieving women get stuck in a loop that keeps them stressed, stuck, and searching for answers in the wrong places. You'll learn a simple, body-based skill that helps you shift out of emotional overwhelm and back into clarity, presence, and personal power—without needing to fix, solve, or overexplain anything at all. Whether you're drinking to numb the noise or overthinking your way into burnout, this episode will show you how to interrupt the loop and finally let go—for real.
Most of us see anxiety as a personal flaw—something to fix, medicate, or avoid. But what if anxiety isn't the problem at all? What if it's the invitation? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the two types of anxiety as explained by Dr. Russell Kennedy—foreground alarm and background alarm—and shares a personal story of how unresolved fears and childhood programming were quietly driving Colleen into burnout... even though her mindset looked great on the surface. This isn't just about alcohol. It's about understanding the real source of your stress, shifting from self-bullying to self-trust, and learning how to work with your nervous system instead of against it. Whether you're drinking to deal with anxiety or simply tired of pushing through life at full speed, this episode will help you stop fighting the wrong battle—and start healing what's actually underneath.
In today's episode, Colleen dismantles one of the most common mindset traps she see's in her clients: the belief that anxiety is something to get rid of. If you've ever said, “I'm just an anxious person,” or used alcohol to calm your nerves before a flight, presentation, or party—you're not alone. But what if anxiety itself isn't the problem? She'll walk you through a real client breakthrough where they shifted the focus away from “less anxiety” and toward something far more powerful: a regulated nervous system. You'll learn why trying to “not drink” or “not be anxious” backfires neurologically, and what to focus on instead.
In today's episode, you'll hear a deeply personal story about the night Colleen's college-age kids brought home a big bottle of vodka—and invited her to join them. Years ago, this would've been the moment she feared the most. But something powerful has shifted. You'll hear how self-trust changes everything, how desire—not discipline—is what drives real transformation, and why the solution to alcohol use disorder has nothing to do with drinking. Whether you're still stuck in the "managing it" phase or wondering how to build a life that feels bigger than your nightly glass of wine, this episode will show you how to trade self-protection for self-permission—and how to begin crafting a new kind of evening ritual, one that gives you energy instead of stealing it.
Text Me!Episode 225 Sober Dating 101: How to Navigate Love Without Alcohol w/ Kate RiosIn episode 225 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Kate Rios to the show, and the ladies discuss dating sober. Dating sober doesn't have to be terrifying, and it might lead to better relationships. Kate Rios shares her eight-year sobriety journey and how she navigated the dating world without alcohol.Kate has been a part of the Sober Vibes community, and this is a listener's story!Favorite quote from the show- "If he can't plan a date, he can't plan a future!"What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to build confidence when dating without alcoholTips for handling the “Why don't you drink?” questionHow sobriety leads to deeper emotional connectionRed flags and green flags in sober relationshipsWhy sober sex can actually be betterKate's personal journey and insights from her sober love lifeThank you for listening! Connect with Kate:Instagram Resources Mentioned:Courtney's Website Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
If the solution to alcohol use disorder isn't a behavior, but a feeling— HOW THE HELL DO YOU PRACTICE A FEELING? In today's episode, Colleen breaks down the mindset shift that will completely change the way you think about manifestation. Not the toxic, glittery, vision-board version. But the grounded, neuroscience-backed practice of training your body and brain to feel powerful on purpose—so you don't need alcohol to feel that way for you. Colleen explains why "wanting" and "waiting" energy keeps you stuck, why your thoughts aren't facts (even the convincing ones), and how to get off the mental hamster wheel of self-doubt, disappointment, and shame. If you're ready to stop “trying to change” and start experiencing change in real time—this one's for you. Key Takeaways: The solution to alcohol use disorder is a feeling—not a behavior. Thoughts are habits. What you believe isn't always true—it's just familiar. Manifestation isn't magic; it's alignment. Feel like the version of you you want to become. Wanting and waiting energy blocks progress. “What's working now” energy opens the path forward. You can only think how you feel. Change your feeling, and your brain will catch up. Action Step: Get a What's Working Now journal. Start tracking all the tiny signs that your transformation is already happening. Even if you wake up hungover. Especially if you wake up hungover. The more you train your brain to notice wins, the more progress you'll make. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer X: @NotAboutTheAlc Transcript
In today's episode, Colleen shares a story about a client who unsubscribed from her email list—and how that one glitch almost triggered a cascade of false assumptions, unspoken tension, and missed opportunity. It's a reminder that the smallest emotional reactions (the ones that barely register) are often the most dangerous. Because they go unchecked. Unquestioned. Unchallenged. This episode will help you stop letting your emotions drive blind—and show you how to reroute your thinking so you can create a different future than your past.
Text Me!Episode 224: Healing as an Adult Child of Alcoholics w/ Margy SchallerIn episode 224 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Margy Schaller to the show, and they talk about healing as an Adult Child of Alcoholics, also known as ACA. Margy shares her story of addiction and recovery and how she started to live loud and proud in her sobriety after 18 years of sober living. Margy Schaller is the Co-Founder of Sober Life Rocks, a community of people who choose not to drink, are sober-ish, sober curious, and sober wingmen. Their mission is to create spaces and initiate conversations that challenge the prevailing drinking culture, offering support to a wide range of individuals including salespeople, speakers, consultants, and other successful businesspeople.What you will learn in this episode:After 20 years of sobriety, Margie discusses hiding her recovery for 18.5 years due to professional pressure.The Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) program helped Margie recognize how childhood experiences shaped her adult behavior.Common traits in adult children of alcoholics include hypervigilance, perfectionism, and the compulsion to "fix" others.Strategies for sober parents to have honest conversations with their children about alcoholThree powerful tips to begin healing: explore ACA literature, understand survival behaviors, and practice self-forgivenessThank you for listening! Connect with Margy:Sober Life Rocks Sober Life Rocks Podcast Episode with Laura Resources mentioned:Courtney's WebsiteAmplify Sober Voices Event, Use code Courtney at checkout to save $29Adult Children of Alcoholics BookLaundry List Book Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
Disclaimer: This episode discusses topics including suicide and suicidal ideation, which may be distressing to some listeners. If you are experiencing emotional distress or feel unsafe, please know that help is available. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent support, call 911 (if in the United States) or your local emergency services immediately. For those in the United States, you can reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 (available 24 hours) or 1-800-273-8255. If you're located outside the United States, please consult your local crisis intervention resources or visit https://findahelpline.com for international hotline information. Your well-being matters, and you are not alone. Please consider seeking help from trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals if you need support. Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community. In this vulnerable and powerful conversation, we sit down with our dear friend and community leadership team member Heather Dillion to hear her story of stepping out of the darkness of alcohol and into the light of God's grace. Heather is a successful attorney, wife, and mom—but behind the scenes, she was quietly struggling for years. Heather shares how a high-pressure lifestyle and long-standing habits slowly eroded her peace, her joy, and her ability to show up fully in her own life. From early drinking in college to a deeply public rock bottom that led her to seek help, Heather speaks honestly about the unraveling—and the rebuilding—that followed. With the support of her family and community, and a deepening relationship with God, Heather began to heal. She opens up about her time in traditional rehab treatment, how she learned to regulate her emotions in healthy ways, and how community and faith became her anchors in the storm. Her story reminds us that there is zero shame in seeking help. This episode is for the woman who's silently struggling, the one who's managing everything on the outside but feeling broken inside. Heather's message is clear: freedom is possible, and Jesus is not afraid of your darkest moments. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How alcohol quietly became a barrier between Heather and the life she truly wanted The mental, emotional, and spiritual toll of trying to keep it all together Why hitting a low point became the very thing that opened the door to healing The role of faith, community, and professional support in her transformation Daily practices that help Heather experience peace and presence Encouragement for anyone who feels alone in their struggle Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/ Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/ Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a simple and powerful practice that can shift your energy in seconds—and help you stop carrying what your body is desperate to let go of. If you've ever felt like you should stop drinking, overworking, or people-pleasing—but you keep doing it anyway—this episode will show you why resistance doesn't work, and how to reconnect with the wisdom of your body instead. Plus, Colleen walks you through a one-breath nervous system reset called The Sigh—a technique that helps you release emotional pain, shift mental patterns, and return to a state of balance. No willpower required.
Is it time for you to break thecycle! Join us for a Family Constellationsworkshop Sat 10 May in HertsMore info https://www.thesoberclub.com/family-constellations/Sign up for the free 14 days speakerseries - relay this weekend!!!!speakerseries.soberadventurecollective.com/janeyleegraceJaney chats to Toby Ernberg who trained with Janey as a sober coach recently. Toby shares his story from rock bottom and talks about life in Switzerland.If you're interested in coach training join our free webinar 19 May 7.30 pm you do need to register https://www.thesoberclub.com/from-sobriety-to-purpose-2/New to Sobriety? Sober Curious?Check out The Sober Club, for low cost support, accountability, inspiration, connection and a whole host ofcontent on holistic living. Membership includes and online course Get the Buzz without the Booze, our private non judgemental community online and regularzoom meetings, plus a whole library of exclusive wellbeing contentIf you want to support the work goto www.buymeacoffee.com/janeyleegraceThank you for listening! Pleaseshare, rate and reviewIf you're struggling, always reachout, tell someone you're doing this! @janeyleegrace Ditched the Booze and want to inspire others? Janey offers holistic sober coach training, our next course starts October 18-19, email Janey for a chat to see if its right for you – janey at janeyleegrace.com Supplementsfor recoveryThe BEST Magnesium blend ever is the blend from Clive – if you use this link for everything you buy, a bit goes into ourSober Club giveback fund If you can afford it, also get Vit D3, Amino Acids and Iodine (if you're menopausal) Use this link for everything: ?https://clivedecarle.ositracker.com/315625/11489? Check out my new Substack, youcan be a free subscriber or paid for some juicy extras Sobriety Rocks…& TheWoo WorksFollow Janey on social media@janeyleegrace You can get a copy of FromWham to Woo - A Life on the mic HERE or message meif you'd like a signed copy and I will add P * P
Text Me!Episode 223: The Hidden Cost of Your Wine Habit: What Alcohol Is Really Taking From YouIn episode 223 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen chats today about the real, often overlooked cost of your wine habit: from lost energy and time to low self-esteem and confidence. This episode is designed to help you see clearly what alcohol is really doing beneath the surface. Are you telling yourself it's “just one glass to unwind” but still waking up tired, anxious, and disconnected from the life you want? If you've been stuck in the “I'll cut back next week” cycle and know something deeper needs to change, this episode is your wake-up call.What you will learn in this episode:Why even “moderate” drinking steals your motivation and joyHow alcohol impacts your sleep, confidence, and decision-makingThe hidden toll alcohol takes on your time and self-worthWhy willpower isn't the problem and what to do insteadThank you for listening!Resources Mentioned:Apply to work 1:1 with Soberity Coach, Courtney AndersenCourtney's WebsiteReady to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
Today's episode is all about emotional flow—how energy moves through your body and what to do when it gets stuck. Colleen explains how your thoughts can block the natural upward movement of desire, inspiration, and curiosity—reversing the flow and creating emotional heaviness, anxiety, and burnout. You'll learn why it's not always necessary to unpack your childhood or analyze every emotion. Sometimes the simplest shift comes from asking: is this thought opening me up, or shutting me down? Whether you're stuck in your career, your relationship, or your relationship with alcohol—this episode will show you how to unclog your energy, reclaim your creativity, and speak your truth into the world.
Welcome back to the Heads Together podcast! This week, I'm absolutely thrilled to spotlight Ellie Nova, an alumna of The Coaching Business Academy. Ellie is not just a sober coach but also a writer, mentor, and mom., living in Lewes, East Sussex. She's guides women to discover alcohol-free freedom through her very special approach to quitting drinking. In this episode, Ellie shares insights into her personal journey of overcoming alcohol dependence, the emotional triggers behind it, and how she's turned that experience into a mission to help others do the same. We also dive deep into the cultural norms around alcohol, how to navigate social circles when you're sober, and the importance of self-compassion and community. If you're curious about quitting alcohol, this conversation is a must-listen. CONNECT WITH ELLIE: Website: https://www.ellie-nova.com/ Substack: https://ellienova.substack.com/about Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellienovacoaching/ Get Ellie's Self Compassion For Sobriety guide: https://www.ellie-nova.com/newsletter REGISTER NOW FOR ELLIE's FREE MASTERCLASS: Joyful Sober Socialising (Tuesday 20th May 2025, 1PM UK / 8AM EST) https://www.eventbrite.com/e/joyful-sober-socialising-free-online-workshop-tickets-1323572895159 CONNECT WITH GILL: Website: https://www.gillmoakes.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillmoakes/ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/gillmoakes/ ***** 00:18 Meet Ellie Nova: Sober Coach and Mentor00:38 Ellie's Journey to Sobriety03:25 The Reality of Alcohol Addiction06:57 Challenging Cultural Norms Around Drinking10:52 Navigating Social Circles Without Alcohol18:16 Embracing Sobriety and Emotional Well-being19:23 Building Your Sober Toolkit20:51 Embracing Silence and Self-Compassion23:26 Transforming Self-Criticism into Self-Love27:37 The Journey of Compassionate Coaching31:22 Upcoming Events and Final Thoughts
In this episode, Dr. Aimee joins Colleen to explain what it really means to have “stored trauma” in the body—and why unresolved trauma often shows up not as flashbacks, but as fatigue, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and habits like nightly drinking. You'll hear how trauma is stored at the cellular level, why cognitive awareness isn't enough to heal it, and what it really takes to feel safe in your own body. Key Takeaways: Trauma isn't defined by an event—it's defined by your body's response to overwhelm, powerlessness, and isolation. Many women don't realize they're stuck in a trauma response because it looks like being “too busy,” “not having willpower,” or “just needing to try harder.” The trauma response shows up biologically, at the cellular level, often causing fatigue, anxiety, inflammation, and shut down. The nervous system doesn't respond to logic—it responds to cues of safety and danger. When your body perceives a threat, you can't use reason to override shame, fear and anxiety. You don't heal trauma by talking about it—you heal it by completing the stress response, regulating the nervous system, and shifting how safe you feel in your body. You can pre-order Dr. Amy's new book Biology of Trauma and get over $400 in bonuses at biologyoftrauma.com. —Want daily updates from me? Find me on TikTok @hangoverwhisperer and IG @thehangoverwhisperer and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@hangoverwhisperer —Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you're ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking. —Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question. Your name will not be mentioned on air!
Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community. In this honest and hope-filled conversation, Christy and Meade welcome Jill, a beloved member of the But Jesus Drank Wine leadership team, to share her powerful story of breaking free from alcohol and drawing closer to God. After ten years of trying to moderate her drinking, Jill was inspired by Christy's sobriety story in the summer of 2023 and made the bold decision to stop drinking entirely. What followed was a journey of spiritual renewal, mental clarity, and deeper intimacy with God. Jill opens up about the subtle ways alcohol had taken hold of her life—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. She shares how it consumed her mental energy, fueled guilt and shame, and ultimately stood in the way of the peace and purpose she longed for. Through surrender, community, and daily obedience, Jill experienced true freedom—and now encourages others to do the same. This conversation is especially meaningful for women navigating caregiving, motherhood, and the pressure to “keep it together.” Jill's courage to speak up and step out is a reminder that the cost of honesty is far outweighed by the gift of freedom. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why moderation isn't always harmless—and what it might be costing you How alcohol can quietly become a spiritual and emotional burden What it means to truly surrender a habit to God The role of testimony and vulnerability in personal transformation Encouragement for women in the “sandwich generation” carrying invisible loads How community and faith walk hand-in-hand toward lasting sobriety Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/ Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/ Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.
Today's episode is all about the practice of being okay no matter what. Colleen shares the mindset shift that changed everything for her—especially while growing her business on TikTok—and how you can apply the same concept to anything in your life. Whether it's tech glitches, traffic, or your partner's tone of voice, there's always an invitation to be bothered—or an opportunity to practice emotional sobriety instead. This episode will show you why true freedom isn't about changing your circumstances; it's about expanding your capacity to stay unbothered in the middle of them.
In today's episode, Colleen shares a powerful mindset shift that can make changing any habit feel easier, faster, and more sustainable: stop trying to "get it right" — just focus on getting it better. Inspired by the concept of the iterative mindset from Dr. Kira Bobinet's research, Colleen explains why the old black-and-white idea of relapse and failure doesn't belong in habit change—and how a simple shift in thinking can remove the shame, accelerate your progress, and help you design a lifestyle that actually fits the life you want to live. Whether you're working on your drinking habits, food habits, or just trying to be more intentional about your day-to-day choices, this episode gives you a fresh, more forgiving way to stay motivated without burning out.
On today's episode, Colleen answers a question from a listener who's successfully changed her own drinking habits—but finds herself frustrated by her husband's drinking. If you've ever felt like someone else's behavior is sabotaging your progress, this episode will help you take back your emotional power. Colleen walks through her framework for emotional ownership and teaches how to release the belief that someone else's choices have to hold you back. You'll learn how to shift the story you're telling yourself, meet your own needs, and define success on your terms.
Join the conversation in our community HERE! In this empowering episode, Christy and Meade welcome author and speaker Laura Smith for a rich conversation about her latest book, Brave Woman, Mighty God. Laura—now a 15-time published author—shares her heart behind the book's message and reminds us that strength doesn't come from “girl power” but from God power. Together, they explore the stories of bold biblical women like Mary Magdalene, Sarah, and others who did mighty things—not because they were fearless, but because they were faithful. Laura unpacks how faith invites us to overcome hustle culture, live out our God-given purpose, and root our strength in Christ, not in performance. Drawing from both Brave Woman, Mighty God and her previous book The Urgency of Slowing Down, Laura encourages listeners to let go of burnout culture and embrace restorative spiritual rhythms. The conversation gets personal as the hosts reflect on their own struggle with hurry, the importance of screen sabbaths, and how true rest is found in presence with God, not productivity. This episode is filled with scripture, wisdom, and compassion for women who want to trust God more deeply—especially in seasons of waiting, struggle, or uncertainty. If you've ever doubted your calling, wrestled with comparison, or felt worn down by the world's demands, this conversation will meet you right where you are. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How biblical women inspire courage through their faith, not their perfection The dangers of hustle culture and the healing power of slowing down How to embrace rest as a spiritual practice, not just a productivity tool Why community is essential in walking out our faith and freedom What to do in seasons of waiting, and how to trust God's timing Join the conversation in our community at https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community. Join our private, small-group coaching space, The Missing Peace, and get BJDW all-community access for free! https://butjesusdrankwine.com/coaching Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/ Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/ Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.
In this episode, Colleen invites you to take your emotional temperature and ask a powerful question that could change everything: How can I make this fun and easy? Whether you're racing through your day with a nervous system stuck in overdrive or stuck in bed with your to-do list haunting you, the solution isn't more hustle—it's ease. But ease isn't a circumstance. It's an emotional state. And you can learn to choose it on purpose. Key Takeaways: • You can't fix overwhelm with more action—emotional ease has to become the goal, not the reward. • Busyness, burnout, and rushing are often signs that your nervous system is dysregulated, not that you're falling behind. • The faster your brain is moving, the more likely you are to be living in your stress response instead of your power. • Your emotions are your early warning system—when you feel tight, rushed, or tense, that's your body telling you to reset. • Ease is an emotional state you can access by managing your thoughts, regulating your body, and doing one thing at a time. Action Steps: Notice when you're rushing, pushing, or spiraling. Instead of trying to do more or fix the problem faster- Pause and ask yourself: How can I make this moment feel fun and easy? Even just asking the question will start to slow the engine of your brain and bring your body back into the present moment. Ease isn't just a luxury—it's your superpower. And the more you practice it, the more you reclaim your energy, your focus, and your joy. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
Text Me!Episode 222: The Culture of Alcohol In episode 222 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Anderson explores how alcohol has become more than a substance; it's a full-blown culture, belief system, and lifestyle deeply embedded in our society and family ecosystems. What you will learn in this episode:Alcohol culture appears everywhere—from celebrations to grief, rewards to "surviving" parenthood Big alcohol companies have historically destroyed families and health, yet face minimal criticism compared to other industriesThe family dynamic with alcohol creates generational patterns that can be difficult but crucial to breakChildren who grow up with alcohol-dependent family members often develop traits like people-pleasing, codependency, and becoming high achieversMedia glamorizes drinking while rarely showing realistic consequences, creating false narratives about what "problem drinking" looks likeThe alcohol industry has successfully made drinking part of our identities through clever marketing and normalizationThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 127 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Courtney's WebsiteProhibition Documentary Flaked & Loudermilk are on Netflix Codependent No More Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $6/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
In today's episode, Colleen shares a raw and relatable story about frustration, tech fails, and the moment she remembered one of the most powerful tools she teaches: making friends with your feelings. You'll hear how a seemingly small trigger (a broken download link before a long workday) became the perfect opportunity to practice emotional sobriety. She walks you through how to recognize emotional inflammation, catch unhelpful thoughts, and redirect your energy—before it hijacks your day. Because the truth is, your emotions aren't the problem.... They're trying to help you. If you listen, they'll show you exactly where you're giving away your power. Key Takeaways: • What it really means to "make friends with a feeling" • How to recognize emotional inflammation in real time • Why your body is your most accurate bullshit detector • How to flip frustration, helplessness, or resistance into clarity and momentum • A hilariously honest story about tech struggles, pre-coffee rage, and how one shift changed everything Action Steps: Bring awareness to ONE emotional reaction you struggle with—frustration, shame, resentment, overwhelm, etc.—and practice noticing it in the moment. Instead of spiraling into your usual response- Pause. Label the feeling. Then ask yourself "Out-Loud" what your body is trying to tell you. Use the energy of that emotion as fuel to take the smallest next right step. Your feelings are not the enemy. They're the flashlight. Follow the beam and reclaim your power. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
As the daughter of a high school principal, Jessica felt a lot of pressure to stay in line. She never drank in high school, and even abstained through her freshman year of college. As the persona of ‘principal's daughter' wore off, though, alcohol became a regular part of her life. This became challenging when Jessica moved back to her hometown and took a job in education. Always worried about her public image, she kept her wits about her when drinking in public and began to prefer drinking at home. As she became a mom and shifted her career to work from home, drinking at home became a nightly habit. Jessica and her husband moved to a lake home and began to throw regular parties. This ‘‘weekend warrior' phase felt so fun - until it wasn't. She increasingly found herself starting the week hungover and on the back foot. It was at this moment that Instagram dropped one of Suzanne's videos onto Jessica's feed - a video simply telling her that she was allowed to not drink. This message hit on a feeling that Jessica hadn't been able to voice, and something within her began to shift. On New Year's Eve it all came to a head and Jessica followed her instinct - she didn't want to drink that night. She felt more present with her family as they celebrated and made a big realization - sobriety was her new path. Sobriety has opened incredible new avenues for her! She is now a certified life coach and has begun to offer focused support to high achieving women interested in sobriety! Jessica recommends the incredible Casey Davidson if you're looking for further sobriety support Are you looking for community in sobriety? Join us in the The Sober Mom Life Cafe! For $40/month, you'll get access to 12 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed, our monthly book club and happy hour, the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and even a monthly Bravo chat! For a limited time, get one week free! The Sober Mom Life Community is also available, for just $5.95/month - In the Community, you'll receive access to the exclusive Community social feed, the exclusive community chat, our monthly book club, and one free weekly meeting. Check out The Sober Mom Life on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As the daughter of a high school principal, Jessica felt a lot of pressure to stay in line. She never drank in high school, and even abstained through her freshman year of college. As the persona of ‘principal's daughter' wore off, though, alcohol became a regular part of her life. This became challenging when Jessica moved back to her hometown and took a job in education. Always worried about her public image, she kept her wits about her when drinking in public and began to prefer drinking at home. As she became a mom and shifted her career to work from home, drinking at home became a nightly habit. Jessica and her husband moved to a lake home and began to throw regular parties. This ‘‘weekend warrior' phase felt so fun - until it wasn't. She increasingly found herself starting the week hungover and on the back foot. It was at this moment that Instagram dropped one of Suzanne's videos onto Jessica's feed - a video simply telling her that she was allowed to not drink. This message hit on a feeling that Jessica hadn't been able to voice, and something within her began to shift. On New Year's Eve it all came to a head and Jessica followed her instinct - she didn't want to drink that night. She felt more present with her family as they celebrated and made a big realization - sobriety was her new path. Sobriety has opened incredible new avenues for her! She is now a certified life coach and has begun to offer focused support to high achieving women interested in sobriety! Jessica recommends the incredible Casey Davidson if you're looking for further sobriety supportAre you looking for community in sobriety? Join us in the The Sober Mom Life Cafe! For $40/month, you'll get access to 12 weekly peer support meetings, the exclusive Cafe social feed, our monthly book club and happy hour, the chance to share your story on The Real Sober Moms, and even a monthly Bravo chat! For a limited time, get one week free! The Sober Mom Life Community is also available, for just $5.95/month - In the Community, you'll receive access to the exclusive Community social feed, the exclusive community chat, our monthly book club, and one free weekly meeting. Check out The Sober Mom Life on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In today's episode, Colleen breaks down how the language you use—especially when it seems neutral or logical—can silently sabotage your ability to change. You'll hear why “I just need to stop drinking” is actually a negative thought (and how it keeps your brain stuck in the problem instead of moving toward the solution). She explains how to recognize these mental error codes, shift into a more empowered mindset, and start generating real momentum—even with something as small as making it to a yoga class. Key Takeaways: Your brain can't solve for what you don't want—it needs clear, positive direction. “Stopping drinking” isn't a goal; it's the absence of a goal. It keeps your nervous system in a stress response. Negative thinking often shows up in normal, subtle ways: “I don't know” “I can't" “What if I don't…” Every time you focus on the negative outcome, You Reinforce It. Instead, swap in positive, do-focused thoughts like: “What I do know is...” "What I can do right now is..." "When I do ____, I'll feel ____." Action Steps: Notice the hidden “negatives” in your self-talk—especially around alcohol, habits, and percieved identity. When you catch one, pause and ask: "What do I want instead? What's the positive version of this thought?" Practice shifting your language in small, daily moments—like going to yoga, packing lunch, or regulating your nervous system. Remind yourself: Your brain is a powerful problem-solver—but only when you feed it the right kind of input. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
Text Me!Episode 221: Shedding Alcohol Identities with Aneta MruzIn episode 221 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Aneta Mruz to the show. They discuss shedding old identities from their past drinking selves and creating new ones in sober life. Aneta Mruz is a change coach and energy practitioner. She shares her nine-year sobriety journey and insights of what she has learned along the way with long-term sobriety. What you will learn in this episode: Exploring the concept of false identities we create during active drinking days, like the "party girl" personaDiscussion of how trauma and childhood experiences shape our tendencies to become "chameleons" adapting to othersAnnetta shares her sober journeyThe powerful understanding that "we are not our thoughts" applies to addiction recovery and mental health Three key tips for creating a new identity: awareness, understanding that thought changes chemistry, and recognizing everything is just a storyThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Connect with Aneta:Instagram WebsiteFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
In today's episode, Colleen shares a personal reflection she recorded nearly a year ago—but it's just as relevant now, especially if you're feeling stuck, off-balance, or like a hot mess who should be further along by now. This episode isn't about getting it all together—it's about what to do when you don't. You'll hear how she used the exact tools from the program to navigate the emotional chaos of working too much, losing old routines post-divorce, and telling herself the story that she wasn't making any progress. You'll learn how to decode those familiar thoughts, and shift out of judgment into grounded, aligned action. Because stuck is a story. Balance is a feeling. And sometimes the most powerful way to move forward… IS TO STOP TRYING SO HARD! Key Takeaways: These are just thoughts—not facts. They're how we explain our emotional state, not what's actually happening. “I'm stuck,” “I'm out of balance” “I'm not making progress” The real issue isn't imbalance. It's overwhelm. When your output is high but your results are low, you're probably ignoring your body's signals. Emotional sobriety means listening to those signals instead of overriding them. Remember this: Your brain will find evidence for whatever you believe. So if you keep saying “I'm not making progress,” you'll feel more discouraged and stuck. Flip the script by doing one small thing—and call it progress. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript
Come hang out with Kelsey, Christy, and Meade in our community, here: https://butjesusdrankwine.com/community We are so excited to share Kelsey Green's testimony with you today. Kelsey is a beloved member of the But Jesus Drank Wine leadership team and someone who played a key role in laying the foundation of our community. In this episode, Kelsey shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming alcohol dependency and how her faith in Jesus Christ brought radical transformation to her life. She opens up about the hidden struggle behind her drinking, her early efforts to seek help, and the life-changing moment she discovered this very podcast—a moment that shifted everything. That encounter with faith led her back to Jesus, and into a life filled with peace, joy, and purpose like she'd never known before. As a mom of twin boys, Kelsey's story is a powerful testimony to the difference surrendering to Christ can make in every area of life. This conversation also explores the power of community, the beauty of real-life friendships formed through the BJDW podcast, and how vulnerability opens the door to true healing. If you're seeking freedom—from alcohol, shame, or the weight of trying to keep it all together—this episode is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How Kelsey's sobriety journey began with honesty and a podcast The role of faith in breaking free from alcohol How motherhood and sobriety have shaped her relationship with Jesus The importance of vulnerability and grace in the healing process Why community and real connection are vital for long-term transformation How the presence of God brings peace, clarity, and lasting purpose Order Christy's book now available! Love Life Sober, A 40 Day Alcohol Fast To Rediscover Your Joy, Improve Your Health and Renew Your Mind Learn More about Coaching with Christy https://www.lovelifesober.co.uk/ Learn More about Coaching with Meade https://meadehollandshirley.com/ Connect with us on Instagram! @imnotsoberimfree @lovelifesoberwithchristy @butjesusdrankwine You can find this episode on YouTube HERE. The creators, hosts, and producers of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast are not healthcare practitioners and therefore do not give medical, psychological or professional advice nor do they intend for the podcast, any communication on behalf of BJDW or otherwise to be a substitute for such. Additionally, the views and opinions expressed in any mention of and/or linked resources are those of the authors/owners of those resources and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the But Jesus Drank Wine podcast team or guests of the show.
In today's episode, we're flipping the script on what it means to “manifest change” when it comes to your relationship with alcohol. Every habit you have was built through attention, repetition, and belief. You already know how to manifest. You've done it before. The question is: can you do it on purpose? If you've ever told yourself “I know better and won't do that again", but you keep doing it anyway, this episode is a must-listen. You'll learn how shame hijacks your perception, why logic won't get you out of a drinking spiral, and the exact method Colleen uses (and teaches) to help high-achieving women build trust with themselves again—starting with the smallest, most overlooked wins. Key Takeaways Your Brain is Always Manifesting The more you believe it, the more your brain proves it—even if it's outdated. Whispers Matter Thoughts like “I've had enough” or “I could skip it” are seeds of change. You don't need perfection—just awareness. Focus Fuels Change What you pay attention to grows. Focus on control, not brokenness, and your brain will follow. Behavior Builds Belief You don't have to believe in change yet—just act. Repeated small shifts create confidence over time. Use Your Memory Replay your wins and near-wins. Remembering them helps your brain repeat them. Let's STOP trying to figure it out and START feeling our way through. If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL. Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you're struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen's NEW Q& A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air! Find me on: TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer —Click here to TAKE THE QUIZ: Do you have a drinking problem or a thinking problem? Transcript: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/12lE8GIoZE3tDkUIOR-v85MpHSAOQAP7j?usp=sharing
Text Me!Episode 220: 3 Tips to Get Clean and Sober in Your Twenties w/ Esme In episode 220 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Esme to the show. This is a listener's story! Esme shares her powerful journey of getting clean at 27 after using drugs and alcohol since age 12. She candidly discusses how she navigated her cultural expectations around drinking, rebuilt her social life, and found her own unique pathway to long-term recovery.Esme is 5 years clean and sober. She got clean and sober at 27 after using since I was 12. Esme tried a lot of different meetings NA, AA, smart recovery, EA, and recovery dharma, to name a few. She knew she didn't want to live like that anymore, so she promised to quit. She hasn't looked back since.What you will learn in this episode: Starting drugs and alcohol at age 12 within a culture where drinking was normalized at family gatheringsGetting sober during COVID through virtual NA meetingsDealing with family questioning her sobriety and choosing honesty over making excusesTaking charge of her social life by suggesting alcohol-free activities rather than waiting for bar invitationsExploring different recovery pathways, including NA, Recovery Dharma, and Kaiser's addiction medicine programThree essential tips for getting sober: building a strong support group, practicing mindfulness, and healing generational trauma*If you're a listener who has been sober for at least one year and want to share your story on the podcast, please reach out via Instagram or email Courtney. Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:The Body Keeps ScoreConnect with Esme:InstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
In today's episode, we explore a powerful lightbulb moment from inside the Next Chapter program—one that's helping women actually enjoy the mindful drinking experiment and finally feel real momentum. This is for you if you've meant to try mindful drinking but skipped it, overdid it, or didn't enjoy the process. That's not a failure—it's a sign you were missing one critical piece: community support. The breakthrough? Practicing moderation in real time, with real people. Learning how to feel a buzz without slipping into old habits. Releasing perfectionism. And realizing this is about connection, not control. Key Takeaways: ✨ You can't rewire a drinking habit by yourself Habits form in context—and need to be unlearned in context too. ✨ Mindful drinking is about presence, not perfection When the goal is connection, the whole thing becomes lighter and more doable. ✨ There is a therapeutic dose of alcohol—but you have to feel it Alcohol is biphasic: small amounts relax and uplift, but more than that backfires. Finding your line is everything. ✨ You're not failing—you're under-supported If you've tried and didn't follow through, it's not a personal flaw. You just needed more scaffolding.
Text Me!Episode 219: Gray Area Drinking: The Hidden Struggle You Need to Know AboutIn episode 219 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen discusses Gray Area Drinking. Courtney breaks down what gray area drinking is, how to recognize it, and how to take back control of your relationship with alcohol without waiting for a crisis.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The definition of gray area drinkingSigns you might be a gray area drinkerThe impact alcohol has on mental and emotional well-beingHow to take steps toward an alcohol-free life (without pressure or labels)Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 127 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Get the Book: Grab Your Copy HereJoin the Sobriety Circle Community: Join HereDownload the Free "Sober Not Boring" Calendar: Get Your Copy Work 1:1 with Courtney: Apply HereJoin the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
Text Me!Episode 218: LOTE: Seasonal Depression and Catching up with the Elledge Sisters In episode 218 of the Sober Vibes podcast, the Elledge sisters return with a new episode of Livin on the El-Ledge, a show within a show.Courtney and Kimberly discuss living with seasonal depression, family health crises, and maintaining sobriety through life's most challenging moments. We explore how the Michigan winter blues affect our mental health and share strategies for coping when sunshine feels like a distant memory.What you will learn in this episode:• Seasonal depression hits hard in Michigan winters, with months of gray skies affecting mood and motivation• Kimberly and Courtney both experienced significant health challenges this winter, with pneumonia, flu, and other illnesses compounding seasonal blues• Navigating parent-child relationships as parents age and facing mortality in healthy ways• The importance of being present and showing up consistently in recovery, even when others still view you through the lens of your pastIf you want Kimmy and Courtney to discuss specific topics or answer questions for this season of the podcast, please send a direct message or email and let us know what you want us to discuss!Thank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Codependent No More Connect with Kim:InstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
Text Me!Episode 217: Using House Therapy and Feng Shui to Support Your Sobriety w/ Amy Babish In episode 217 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Amy Babish to the show and the ladies discuss using Feng Shui to support your Sobriety. As well as ancestral patterns beyond the genetics of addiction.Amy Babish, MA, LPC, ATR-BC, is a somatic expert, house therapist (Feng Shui), Alchemical Family & Systems Constellations facilitator, and licensed therapist with over 20 years of experience. She helps people who've plateaued in therapy and mindset work feel at home in themselves, their bodies, homes, lives, and their lineage. Amy guides you to transmute stuck energy and dissolve intergenerational patterns into clarity, alignment, and a sense of profound belonging. She hosts The Soulful Visionary Podcast, where guests receive attuned processes aligning body, space, and legacy.What you will learn in this episode:• Feng shui principles can help remove stagnant energy associated with drinking patterns• The "Taoist trilogy" includes human, cosmic, and earthbound luck—all affecting recovery• Command position bedroom arrangement helps you see challenges before they arrive• Moving 27 things in your space creates significant energetic shifts• Ancestral constellation work uncovers patterns beyond genetics that influence addictionThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Simple Shui BookConnect with Amy:WebsiteInstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Website → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join the Soberity Circle today with a 4-day Free trial. Ready to thrive in your alcohol-free life? Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol is your step-by-step guide to navigating early sobriety with confidence.Grab your copy today!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book
Text Me!Episode 216: Why focusing on avoidance can hurt your Sobriety w/ Tim PhillipsIn episode 216 of the Sober Vibes podcast, Courtney Andersen welcomes Tim Phillips to the show and discusses how focusing on avoidance can hurt one's sobriety. Tim Phillips shares his powerful story of going from rock bottom to rehab and discovering what works for him beyond traditional 12-step programs.Tim Phillips is the host of the Sober and Happy Podcast and an advocate for individuals seeking to live a sober, fulfilling lifeWhat you will learn in this episode:Tim's journey from morning bartender to sustained sobriety since 2011Why the 12-step model works for some but not everyoneHow trauma healing fits into recoveryThe dangers of making your world smaller through avoidanceWhy exposure therapy can be valuable in recoveryBuilding confidence by facing fears with proper supportThe importance of developing self-trust in your sobriety journeyThank you to our Sponsor:As a show listener, you receive 20% off your order with EXACT NATURE. Make sure to check them out and support the show. Click here to shop and save 20% off with code "SV20. Free shipping on all orders! Listen to episode 129 with Thomas White to learn more about CBD.Resources Mentioned:Get the Book: Grab Your Copy HereJoin the Sobriety Circle Community: Join HereDownload the Free "Sober Not Boring" Calendar: Get Your Copy Work 1:1 with Courtney: Apply HereConnect with Tim:WebsiteInstagramFollow Courtney for More Inspiration:Instagram → @SoberVibesWebsite → www.courtneyrecovered.comRemember: You are strong. You are capable. You are not alone. Keep thriving! Thank you for listening!Join Sober Vibes Patreon for exclusive content. (Just $8/month!) Thank you for listening! Help the show by Rating, Reviewing, and/or Subscribing to the Sober Vibes Podcast. Connect w/ Courtney:InstagramJoin the Sobriety Circle Apply for 1:1 CoachingOrder the Sober Vibes Book