19 Year Old Shrink

This episode was definitely a bittersweet one to record. After interviewing my father for my first episode, I had the privilege of interviewing him for my last. Throughout this conversation, we talk about the insecurities that come with the adjustment of college to post grad. He discusses how there is the misconception that the fun ends after college, but mentions that our definitions of fun just change, it doesn't end altogether.  Later on, I had the chance to ask him more personal questions about his own life and the memories that he has created, while being able to wrap things up with my own words about the last three years and what all of your support has meant to me. Highly recommend tuning into this episode if you are a college graduate, or if you would like to hear the conclusion of this show!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode, I reference Merrick Rosenberg's book, "The Chameleon," regarding personality traits and team building. Through his work, he has developed a fun and unique way to have personality research resonate more with readers of his content!I mention the four different birds that he uses to describe the various types of people that exist. Parrot's, doves, owls, and eagles represent our unique society that struggles together as well as thrives together.I incorporate some of my own personal examples of depictions of birds within pop culture, and use experiences from my own life to help crystalize Merrick's points further. If you have ever asked yourself questions regarding your own personality, or want to learn how to communicate better with those with different personalities, I highly recommend checking this episode out!https://merrickrosenberg.com/taking-flight/https://www.amazon.com/Chameleon-Life-Changing-Wisdom-Personality-Someone/dp/0996411003 @19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode, I address the question that all college graduates have been asked recently, which is "What's Next?" It can definitely be an anxiety provoking question, and could be followed with an uncertain answer. Fortunately, for some people, they have a job lined up right after and can answer! But, there are others who might not have their next step sorted out, or might know exactly what they are doing but it's not the traditional path and are a bit worried about how their career choice is perceived by others. I fall under the third category and talk about my struggles with this, as well as give different techniques to shift your mindset. In addition, I talk about those people who don't have it figured out and ways to give yourself more credit for taking action. Lastly, for those who have their job lined up, I give a bit of advice on how to check in with yourself weekly to track your progress with your exciting new job, and be able to go from there. If you are looking for relatable anecdotes along with advice on different stages of the job search process after graduation, highly recommend checking this one out!@19yearoldshrinkpodcasthttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-s6DQrqVHxM- Brene Brown Video

In this one I interview my friend Max about his experience training for a triathlon. He breaks down all of the aspects of preparation from mental to physical to emotional  prep. He brings up his initial experiences with meditation, having good nutrition, and the importance of having an accountability partner when trying to accomplish a goal.Through this talk you'll be able to learn more about the different dimensions that bring success and how to balance your energy in those places. One other important point that was talked about was knowing when to give yourself a break and accept that you won't always be perfect in training. Max gives a specific example of this and why giving yourself that break is necessary. If you're looking to challenge yourself for a triathlon, marathon, or any other goal, tune in for more!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode. I talk about a concept that I discovered through Mel Robbins. She mentions the five second rule as a helpful technique for when you experience anxiety in your life. Whenever an intrusive thought comes into your mind, count down from 5 and then find your way to your anchor thought. This thought can be anything that brings you ease; something funny, memorable, or a happy thought. An example I talked about was Happy Gilmore's "Happy Place" in the movie, when he was getting frustrated. In addition, I mention using the five second rule to act in time sensitive opportunities. Whenever you have some opportunity in your life that won't last long, whether it's introducing yourself to a potential partner or someone in business, these are examples of that. The five second rule can be a useful technique to create that structure in your life where you commit to following through on something unconditionally. We all have been in places where these thoughts come into play, so tune in for more helpful tips!https://wisdom-for-life.com/5-second-rule-for-anxiety/@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

This episode is about all things acting! I interviewed my friend Peter and acquaintance Cole to understand the psychology behind acting and everything that goes into portraying a certain character. From stories of Chex mix urges gone wrong to understanding how to reveal a certain emotion through acting, one can begin to understand all of the intricacies behind the industry. Both Peter and Cole gave such valuable insight into their own experience and skills, which was a pleasure to hear about. Tune in for more, link in bio!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode I talk about how more structure in life can lead to having more freedom. I use an example of waiting until the last minute to do your homework to hangout with friends and then worrying the entire time that you're with your friends to finish that assignment. The idea of anticipating instead of reacting is a topic brought up multiple times where someone takes the time out of their day to plan their schedule out so they can leave time for the things they enjoy. If you sometimes struggle with waiting until the last minute to do something or feel trapped in different tasks because of lack of planning, tune in for some advice!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode, I talk about learning how to become more self reliant and how this allows us to develop more confidence. After reading a valuable article from forbes, I began to learn more about why self reliance is so important. Some of the points it referenced were ones ability to think independently, know ones values, and to use our own references to help make decisions. I added some of my own experiences in addition to the ones in the article. One of these is understanding our own values and motives for life and using a "Filter" to eliminate anything that isn't valuable or best suited for our own development as people. So, an important takeaway is to realize that being self reliant doesn't mean never taking any advice from anyone. But, my opinion about being self reliant is understanding our own core values and embracing the insights of other people if they are making a positive impact on our own lives. But, if they aren't learning to disregard advice is really valuable. Another point about self reliance is realizing that no person goes it alone. Every person that has ever been successful in life has built a team around them to grow themselves out of their comfort zone. But, from my own experience, what impacts this is when someone else wants something for you when you might not want it for yourself. Where your parent wants this job for you, or wants this relationship for you, you may take the steps to pursue these things but it isn't what YOU really want. And when this happens, we sometimes fall victim to relying on other people for what they want for us. This episode talks about all things self confidence, and how we can build a healthy balance of relying on our own intuition while also building a positive and uplifting team around us to become better individuals for ourselves and others. Tune in for more!@19yearoldshrinkpodcastForbes Article: https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2019/10/17/how-self-reliance-builds-your-self-confidence/?sh=5d8d05932e57

In this episode I talk about being helpful without giving advice. This is something I still to this day am learning to do but it can sometimes be difficult.Our friends come to us looking for comfort or to vent, and we always feel like we need to offer answers. This allows us to feel like we are giving them something in return for what they expected, but sometimes they don't necessarily need advice.Maybe they are looking to have an objective opinion, actual advice, or even a shoulder to cry on.  And having a conversation before the conversation about the goals of the talk can be really helpful for having a healthy dialogue. Learning what your friend is looking for and then going from there.If they do ask for advice though, learning to guide them to their own answers through the questions you ask can be a powerful tactic to help them.  For more info in the episode, tune in for more!

In this episode I talk about how we use defense mechanisms in our lives. Didn't really know what defense mechanisms were until I took one of my classes this semester and realized how much we sometimes use them.Basically, defense mechanisms are used as a way to protect our ego and to lessen anxiety that we might experience in life. Some of the defense mechanisms are rationalization, projection, denial, which are all done as a way to keep the negativity off of us. One of the ones I think we see most often is rationalization.We might choose not to study for a test as much as we should or eat poorly, but we say, “It's alright everyone is doing it.” If we were to take the fault for those things ourselves, it would be a lot more uncomfortable to our ego. But when we feel in community with others in our shortcomings, then we feel at peace.Later on in the episode, I talk about different ways we can recognize these defense mechanisms playing out in our lives, and how we can grow from this awareness. Tune in for more!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

We often have a negative bias towards anxiety. In this episode, I explain how we can view anxiety from a positive perspective. In my own life, I look at anxiety as having 3 tiers. Tier 1: A place where we aren't really acting too much and would have too little anxiety. An example of this would be knowing a test is coming up but not paying attention to the material or the deadline. Tier 2: This IS the sweet spot. This is where you have enough anxiety where you are alerted to act, but don't let that idea consume your thoughts with worry. This would be knowing that an exam is coming up, and creating a study guide and plan a couple weeks in advance so that you avoid Tier 3 anxiety. Tier 3: This is where you are worrying too much. I think this is where we often associate the negative connotations with anxiety.  You have reached a place where worry is getting in the way of you acting and being productive. This is where all you are focusing on is the "What if's" of failing the test. And instead of being action oriented, you crumble under pressure and focus solely on the worrying. For the rest of this episode, I focus on how you can use this understanding of anxiety to your advantage in whatever way works best for you! That is up to you to decide and to become aware of in your life. But, if you are someone who has had a difficult relationship with anxiety, definitely tune in today!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode, I talk about the Wayne Dyer Quote, “Be open to everything and attached to nothing.” I think it is such a valuable mentality to have in our lives and embracing all new experiences that come our way.I talk about the movie, “Yes Man” with Jim Carey, which is a perfect example of this. He starts out having a very glass half empty personality, always blowing his friends off to sit home and sulk. But, after being approached by a man who called him out for his negativity, he attended this convention called Yes.He was told that he must say yes to everything and see where life takes him. Of course this is an exaggeration where we can't say yes to everything, but it was a helpful reminder. Carey's character began seeing more excitement in his life and he felt more alive.Then, there's the flip side to it where we need to learn to be open to things and not be attached to them. Allowing ourselves to realize what is in our control and what is not. And from there we can live the most free version of our life and see our experiences transform in front of us. Tune in for more!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

This episode breaks down how we develop our own unique personalities and what domains influence the different traits we develop. Topics of environment, upbringing, biology, and more help dive more deeply into this issue. Tune in for more!

In this episode I talk about overanalyzing situations and how it can lead to us hurting our own feelings. It can become easy to read too easily into other peoples actions and create a story around why they are acting a certain way.We begin reflecting back on every little detail that we said and start worrying whether we might have hurt their feelings. And this might not be everyone, maybe it's just me. But after awhile, we find out that they were upset with something completely unrelated to us, and then we realize how much time we wasted over thinking.Additionally, I will talk about ways in which we might hurt our own feelings by over analyzing and how others have helped me and can help you get to a better place. Tune in for more!

In this episode, Howard Behar talks about how he helped build the Starbucks Empire with Howard Shultz and Orin Smith. Throughout this talk, he alludes to servant leadership as the key to success in this business venture.Recognizing relationships and people as the ultimate factor in creating a successful business, I learned so much about the human factor of life. Howard wrote 2500 letters every month to employees for birthdays and company anniversaries as a way to foster recognition and community in the company.In addition, he coined the phrase, “the person that sweeps the floor should choose the broom.” Sometimes it's difficult for CEOs to let go of the control of their company, but Howard emphasized giving the people power so they can feel they have a say in the company.This talk was such a humbling conversation as someone who is entering the professional world. Understanding that someone who helped expand from 28 to over 15,000 in 5 continents key to success was relationships was a very important lesson that I and others can benefit from.If you want to hear more about the Starbucks history and their steps to make it to the company it is today, tune in for more!Howards Contact Info:hb@howardbehar.com206-972-7776

In this episode I talk with my friend Summer who is currently a marketing data analyst at Deloitte. She breaks down why she began to budget and how she organizes her budgeting in her own life.She talks about the greater amount of freedom she has had because of the structure in her spending habits. Through this talk, I was able to see how much taking the time out of your day to budget can allow you to say yes to opportunities.As the episode continues, Summer talks more about how she has learned to budget her time and different pieces of advice she has for those who may be entering a new chapter of their life after college.  Through this, I learned how everyone has a different meaning attached to money, and her ability to spend the time managing it has allowed her to have such amazing experiences that she can say yes to. Tune into this episode for more information!@19yearoldshrinkpodcastlinkedin.com/in/slee209

With graduation looming, I talk about a feeling that a lot of people have probably experienced at one point in time. You may not have found a job yet or might not even know what to do, and it can be scary.And what we do in those situations is begin measuring ourselves against others, “They figured out in October, they are better than me.” “Why don't I have as many interviews as this person? All of these thoughts trigger negativity and we begin attributing it to our identity.And this doesn't need to be with jobs but with everything in life. Whether it be doing chores around the house, traveling, getting married, we constantly are comparing ourselves to others.There is always these timelines for us to get things done. Get a job after college, get married by 30, the list goes on. But what we can appreciate is that even the most successful people, did it in the most unconventional way.And this episode will break down this struggle and talk about ways to have a different perspective. Being able to appreciate that we all need to go our own path and not get too wrapped up in the expectations of what we are told. If this is something that you struggle with or see close ones struggling with, tune in for more info!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast 

In this episode, I talk about using delayed gratification as a means to build self confidence. Many times, it's easy to watch that extra episode of The Office, or eat that extra slice of pizza, or scroll on Instagram for another hour. We choose to do this instead of the more beneficial and long lasting solution for happiness. And from my own struggles with this, I have realized that it's because we have a better idea of what that pleasure feels like with things in the present moment. We are able to have a greater imagination of what that pleasure feels like because it is more tangible than something that is a year down the line. We won't be able to see and feel the rewards a year from now of running everyday until a year from now. And because of this, we sometimes fail to do the right thing and consequently resort to those immediate pleasures. Throughout this talk, I use meditation as an example of something that makes our future rewards more desirable because we take the time to visualize those rewards. As a result, we are able to bring our less imagined rewards to the present for us to make more sound and beneficial decisions. In addition, I discuss using journaling as a way to record the things we say no to as a way to give us proof we aren't always choosing the easy and convenient thing. All of these habits are used as ways to delay gratification and to build more self confidence in every area of our life. If you struggle to make long lasting decisions towards happiness, definitely tune in!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode, I talk about why we use excuses in so many areas of life. Sometimes we attribute being busy as a legitimate excuse. But when doing this, we need to contemplate whether that thing we are trying to avoid is that important to us. And if it is, then why are we getting consumed with less important things in our life? Those things that we truly value in life should supersede any other tasks on our daily agenda. As the episode continues, I talk about how our excuses can also give us insight into the things that we can learn to say no to in our life. This part recognizes the process of contemplation as a way to narrow in on those things that we value most in our life. If you are someone who finds themselves making excuses consistently or are around people that do, tune in for more information!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode I talk about our mindsets with our friendships at times. Sometimes we feel as though we are reaching out to some of our friends much more than they are to us. And we can get in our head about it and think we are bothering them when we are doing that.But, after a conversation with my dad, he taught me a very valuable lesson about never keeping score in friendships. When we feel discouraged and hesitant about reaching out to people that we have become really close with over the years, that in itself can hurt our friendships.And through this episode, we will learn about ways to reconsider those negative thoughts about our friendships in our life. Tune in for more!

In this episode, I talk about the presence of trauma bonding in our relationships. This type of bonding involves the emotional attachment that we feel to a relationship despite the trauma that we have experienced from it. And this can be with friends, family, romantic partners, etc.We've all seen people and maybe even ourselves keep going back to people that aren't benefiting us in any way, shape, or form. But we keep doing it. And you might be confused as to why people keep going back to relationships that always cause trauma. But, that's not always the case.A lot of times these relationships involve a cyclical nature, where the person is abusive to their partner, they apologize with some sort of grand gesture, and fall back into the same habit as before. This leads the person who is a victim of this treatment to start putting the weight on themselves to help “fix” the other person.Through this episode, we will begin to understand that these relationships are more difficult to let go of than we might think, but with certain tips and tricks provided, we can take the right steps to do it. Tune in for more!https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/trauma-bonding

In this episode I discuss why the future is such a consistent worry in society. Much of the time we spend worrying about the past and the future, which are uncontrollable as we are living in the present moment. We don't take the time out of our day to recognize and appreciate the here and now and use our present to create a desirable future. Some of the things for me that make me worried about the future is excessive watching of the news. There is so much uncertainty in the news and this spills over into my personal life which makes me even more hesitant in my life. This isn't to say never to watch the news, but being aware of boundaries to establish to live a happy and healthy life is important. In order to embrace the future instead of being terrified of it, we can also look at the uncertainty as part of the fun. If we were certain about everything, there would be no mystery! And when we do have those constant worries, being able to talk with someone more experienced and has walked a similar path can be such a huge help in our lives. Tune in for more information!

In this episode, I talk about giving yourself credit through self affirmations. A lot of times, we prioritize the deadlines and assignments we have and put the self help things off to the side. But, these little things that we can do every day can pay huge dividends for our mental health down the road. Something as simple as putting post it notes with great qualities of yourself on the mirror to look at in the morning is one example. Especially using different color post it notes to emphasize the differing qualities that you have in yourself. Or, putting notes inside a book you are often reading . We usually think that these steps need to be monstrous for us to make any improvement, but it really comes down to 10-15 minutes a day. This episode continues to recognize the power of self affirmations and how we can take control of our lives rather than our lives taking control of us. Tune in for more! 

In this episode, I discuss the 5 different types of mentors that I learned about in my management class. These include: traditional, inspirational, step-ahead, peer, and family member mentor. Traditional recognizes one person who has more experience than another and is guiding them in their process of developing more skills in a specific area. Inspirational is someone who you might not see every single day but has such a profound impact on you and your life. This might be someone who wrote a book that you swear by, or have a podcast or show that has guided you during some very difficult times. Step-ahead mentor is someone who is a little further ahead of you in the stages of life. The example I used in the episode was someone who just graduated college being a mentor to a senior in college. Answering questions about social life after college, workplace environment, and the transition from one stage to another are some examples of how a step ahead mentor can guide their mentee. A peer mentor is someone who you are very close with that may be someone that you envy. You admire them as a person and confide in them enough to ask them questions on how to live a better and more meaningful life. They are able to give you the friends perspective to things which is another helpful technique. Lastly, a family member mentor. Many people look up to their parents or older siblings for instilling certain values in them and ways to live out ones life. This is a perfect example of people who are the most similar to you being able to impart their wisdom onto you so that you can evolve into who you're supposed to become. After being given these different mentors, I talk about ways to attract them into your life and discuss the questions you could be asking yourself in order to become the best version of who you are meant to be. Tune in to learn more!

In this episode, I talk about how perceptions influence our everyday life. It is amazing how two people can experience the same event and have two completely different emotional responses to that event! This is where perception comes into play. Through internal factors such as emotions, memories, and values as well as external factors involving media, societal norms, and culture, we see our perceptions influencing the lense at which we view life. Throughout the episode, I also discuss the different filters of perception including; stereotypes, selective perception, projection, expectations, and interests. Through these, we see the individualized impacts of perceptions and how we sometimes fall victim to negative perceptions as well as adopting positive ones. This episode concludes with the discussion of the differing perceptions of all people, and how acknowledging and accepting these can lead to a more positive and harmonious life. Tune in for more!

In this episode, I discuss the evolution of our values in the different stages of our life. We have all heard the cliche phrase, "Enjoy being young, because as soon as you know it you'll be old like me!" And whenever I used to hear this saying, I would become discouraged because I assumed that we would just become victims of our circumstances of being old. But, now I have realized that it's more about how our values will evolve as we become older. When we are young we are so adventurous, trying new things, and exploring what works for us and what doesn't. But, then as time goes on, some individuals want to give back to children and raise a family. They begin to settle down and spend more time with their kids instead of traveling all the time. And this example shows me how it's not always a matter of the decisions being made for you, but what you want out of your life is evolving from stage to stage. If you are someone who wants to learn more about how our values change over time, tune in to this episode!

In this episode, I bring up some tips and tricks about what I learned in my managing yourself class at LMU. When trying to have a meaningful and productive conversation, ensuring that we are focusing our attention on the present moment is vital. Multitasking is one way where we become knocked out of the present moment and keeps us from getting close to others. A couple other points brought up are not using our own experiences to try and make them feel more at ease. Sometimes, this is a successful method, but if we do it too much, we might come off as making their problems seem less than ours. Another concept was being able to have a conversation about the conversation before having it. Ask the person if they want advice, or if they just want to vent. Learning to understand the motives behind the conversation is so important in setting up success for the talk. If you are interested in learning more about the do's and don'ts of a productive conversation, tune in now! 

 In this episode I talk about quiet leadership. A lot of times, we associate the word “leader” with someone who is outspoken and the loudest voice in the room.But, what many people don't realize is how many leaders there are that are quiet. They guide others through the actions more so than their words. Or they might not speak often, but when they do, it always has meaning attached to it.If you are someone who might not think of yourself as a leader because of that stereotype, this is definitely a helpful listen. Hopefully throughout this episode you will begin to see that even if you don't speak much, your impact can be felt greatly.A quote by Maya Angelou I always love is, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” And after listening, you will see how this quote ties into the overall message of the episode. Tune in for more!

In this episode, I talk about something we all do; yawn! According to pbs.org, adults yawn on average 20 times a day! Throughout this talk, I not only discuss why we yawn and why it is contagious. I also mention the idea of empathy in yawning and how it is related to mirroring for other people in our life.  For romantic interests or close friendships, often times we mirror what the other person is doing to establish rapport. And although yawning occurs on a more subconscious level, I can relate to it being a way to establish connection with relationship oriented people. When listening to this episode, you might wonder; why do you care so much about something so little? Sometimes it's important to step back and be curious about the little things around us. By doing this, we can become more appreciative of the human experience and ask ourselves questions about why certain things are the way they are. And wondering about yawning is a perfect example of that. If you are interested in some science behind yawning, tune in now!

In this episode, I summarize Dan Ariely's Ted Talk about how our decisions are subconsciously influenced. He uses the table and rubik's cube example to paint the picture of how visually our mind plays tricks on us. Since visual representation is easier to pick up on than cognitive, he emphasizes that more mistakes are bound to be made when dealing with cognitive influences. Some of the examples he used were the differing percentages of donors across countries and how the phrasing of the DMV form in the corresponding countries led to those percentages. Also, we learn about the effect of the third bad choice being included in our decisions has and what the subtraction of it can do to our future conclusions. I use the "Wife and the Step Mother" painting as an example of illusions visually as well as having to decide between houses as a way to further support Dan Ariely's point. If you are interested in learning more about how our decisions are influenced more than we think, tune in!https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_ariely_are_we_in_control_of_our_own_decisions?language=en

In this episode I discuss ways to start off the new school year on the right foot. Much of the advice came from Ed Mylett and his new book, “The Power of One More.” In this one, he talks about the idea of how many people approach life: as a marathon. They only check in with themselves once or twice a year around New Years to see how they've done with their goals and what they want to accomplish the next year.But he mentions how more success comes from constantly having checkpoints to monitor your success and treating them as little sprints instead of a marathon. When we have little sprints of action, we speed up the urgency of getting things done.He describes his way of doing this as 3 days in one. Instead of saying, “I want to get this accomplished today,” he says, “Day 1 I will do this, Day 2 this, and Day 3 I will do this.” He organizes his days like this: 6 am to 12 pm is day one, 12 pm to 6 pm is day 2, and 6 pm to 12 am is day 3.By doing this, he sees himself accomplishing 3 days of work in one days time, and compounded over time makes an astronomical difference. So, in your life, understanding what your values are and what you want to see more of, start designing your days into different categories to make that come to fruition!@edmylett, The Power of One More Book@19yearoldshrink@wjg23

In this episode I talk about the importance of sleep and the different stages. We learn about how sleep slows down heart rate, breathing rate, lowers body temperature, etc. As we enter the fourth stage of REM sleep, our eye movement speeds up and heart rate increases. As the episode continues, I discuss why sleep is so important and different steps that we can take to make our sleeping our environment better for us. Tune in to learn more! Sources: sleepfoundation.org

In this episode, I discuss the idea of connecting all of our experiences in our life back to our past circumstances. By doing this, we are able to have a better appreciation for the good and bad moments because a silver lining reveals itself later on. I use the example of this summer as well as a struggle from years back with a close person to me to help illustrate the purpose of this episode.Not only can we use this understanding of everything being connected as a hindsight 20/20 idea, but to appreciate the bad moments when we are going through them. If you sometimes struggle with appreciating difficult moments (I do all the time), or want to have a better appreciation for your life experiences, tune in!

In this episode, I recap the interviews I had with the guests this season and what to take away from their talks. In addition, we look at season 3 and what to look forward to for this next year!

In this episode, I discuss what causes frustration that leads to aggression in our lives. The episode starts with understanding Tony Robbins 6 human needs and how having those differing needs can be a root of frustration if we can't learn to accept each others differences. As the talk continues, I discuss topics from the book by Elliot Aronson called "Social Psychology."  I explain the social impact of aggression on others through Bandura's Bobo doll experiment, and the presence of alcohol as a cause for more aggression. As this episode concludes, we explore ways to combat the frustration and urge to hurt others in 3 ways;  Counting to 10, taking deep breaths, and going for a walk. If you struggle with dealing with frustration and finding that you are hurting others, definitely give this one a listen!Social Psychology by Elliot Aronson

In this episode, I discuss the generational gap present between parents and kids. Throughout this, you will hear real life examples of how parents sometimes use their experiences from when they were younger to help give advice to their kids now. In these scenarios, we can see how it can cause disconnect but also can provide useful advice towards helping future generations. Some of the examples include drinking culture, technology, dating, and more. If you are interested in learning more about the dynamic between parents and kids, tune in!

In this episode I interview executive life and leadership coach Hayden Lee. We discuss how he became passionate about life coaching while starting out with helping high schoolers with their schoolwork.As the interview progressed, Hayden breaks down the differences between being a life coach, therapist, consultant, and mentor. By doing this, we are able to understand how these different helping professions play out in a persons life.Later on, I ask him about the three levels of health which are creating health, being sick, and being non-sick. This was interesting because it shed light on the idea that even though we may not feel sick, we not be growing in our life. Hayden also talked about how we can become laser focused on the important things in our life while also accepting that not everything is in our control.Overall, such an enjoyable conversation and highly recommend giving it a listen!

In this episode, I talk about how our dreams that we have when sleeping are related to our experiences when we are awake. Sometimes, it's hard to believe that the crazy, far fetched events while we sleep can have importance in our life. But, they have a great impact on the way we handle different events and also reflect the type of emotions we have at a certain moment. After doing some research from a couple articles, it gave more scientific context to why this happens. A study conducted by Alessandro Fogli and his colleagues tested 24,000 dreams from a Dreambank for clinical patients and found a positive relationship with the anxiety experienced in dreams versus the anxiety in real life. Another idea expressed dreams as being a "Nocturnal Therapist" show them as being important of understanding our worries in real life so that we can become better problem solvers. If you have always wondered about the relationship between dreams and reality, tune in! 

In this episode, I discuss prosocial behavior and what influences us to act for other people. Social exchange  and empathy altruism theory are a couple of many factors that come into play with helping others. In this one, I use the example of the Zegota found in the book "Social Psychology by Elliot Aronson to help illustrate the reasons behind helping. Tune in to learn more about why we help others!

In this episode, I talk about the different attachment styles and how they present themselves in infants as well as adults. Through doing this we are able to see the connections between the two stages of life, but also the capability for people to evolve and for their attachment styles to change.Later on, I discuss some research done by Mary Ainsworth that puts these attachment styles into the context of relationships and how different styles would interact with each other. Throughout this episode, you will gain more awareness into your own attachment styles and understand how you can use them to your advantage and create a happier and fulfilling life.

This episode is a different format! In this one, I take questions that listeners sent in to help fuel the different topics of this episode. Questions ranging from a variety of different topics regarding mental health, self development, and life come up. This episode is unique because it covers such a range of topics, so there is something for everybody. If you didn't submit a question, don't you worry, more episodes like these will be coming soon. Tune in to hear more!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast

In this episode I talk about how the Bystander effect is present in our lives and how we might not even realize it. Through the study by Latane and Darley as well as the case of the murder of Kitty Genovese, we can understand the unfortunate reality of the bystander effect. Through Latanes discussion of the five steps towards helping in an emergency and increasing the likelihood of bystanders intervening, we can bring this further into our own lives. Tune in for more info!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast@wjg23

In this episode, I talk about lessons that I have learned from mentors about how to control having big aspirations for the future while allowing myself to still be a kid and enjoy time with friends. These talks provide context into the idea of anticipating regret and learning to envision how your future self would respond to the decisions you have to make in this present moment. We are faced with these feelings constantly throughout our life, and this episode will allow you to gain more clarity about opportunities you can take advantage of going forward. If you are someone who has felt like they haven't allowed themselves the time to be kids and enjoy youth or want to more, tune in!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast@wjg23

In this episode, I talk with my friend Andrea about the newly released movie, "Everything Everywhere All At Once." After watching it for the first time, I definitely felt confused considering the amount of tiny details that you needed to pay attention to. But, after watching a second time, we both agreed that the true lessons of the movie came out. From conversation about intergenerational trauma displayed through the dynamic between Evelyn and Joy, we can understand this in the context of our own lives. Andrea also includes her favorite scene which involved the ending of the movie and how Evelyn decided that she wasn't going to make the same mistake her father made in letting Joy go like he did to her. Through the googly eyes made by Waymond, the everything bagel, Jubo Takati, and more, we discuss how much appreciation you can gain from the many metaphors of life this movie offers. If you haven't seen this movie, DON'T TUNE IN! Last thing we want to do is spoil it for you! If you find yourself watching the movie and being confused after, listen in to gain a better understanding of the certain hidden meanings and lessons we took away from this film and the psychology involved in it. Instagram@19yearoldshrinkpodcast@wjg23https://screenrant.com/everything-everywhere-all-at-once-ending-explained-real-meaning/

In this episode I talk about the impact of music on our emotions. After doing some research, I learned that our Default mode network is activated much more when we listen to music. And when listening to music we enjoy, there is more frontal activity in the brain. This activity is linked to greater analytical and reflective thoughts in our life.If you have ever really enjoyed a song, it might have brought out a deep emotional influence for you that made you reflect. This is where that activity in the default mode network and frontal area is being experienced. We begin to associate different songs with different memories in our life and begin thinking about those songs in connection to where we are at personally. And through music, we are able to take the time to reevaluate where we are at and make greater strides in our life. If you have ever wondered about how music impacts us and our emotions, tune in!

In this episode I talk about the concept by Ed Mylett, “Separation Season.” These are times where people normally are relaxing and taking it easy, which are opportunities for others to get ahead and gain momentum. Throughout this episode, I talk about different ways that I have learned to get ahead in the summer and how to build momentum!@19yearoldshrinkpodcast@wjg23

In this episode I talk about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. This fallacy is when a person refuses to abandon something because they have invested so much into it already.Perfect examples of this are when you go to sports game and spend a ton of money on seats, and your favorite team is getting smoked, but you want to stay until the end because you payed good money. But, you already spent the money, nothing can change that, and what you don't realize is you could do something more productive with that time.Another example that I've heard a lot about is with relationships. When you have invested a year, two years, five years into a relationship, there's this feeling of the need to stay in it because you've sacrificed so much of your time. And your thoughts of potentially hurting the person make the decision to end things too difficult for you to do.If you have experienced this feeling of sunk cost fallacy in your life, highly recommend tuning in!

This episode is  a perfect metaphor for so many experiences in our life. We have so many times that are worth appreciating, “the little tiles” that make up the bigger mosaic. But sometimes there's one thing that's faulty, “the missing tile” that causes us to lose sight of all of the great things we have going for us. As a result, we have a negativity bias that is based on lack. In this episode, I discuss areas where I have fallen short with this and how we can overcome the Missing Tile Syndrome. Instagram:@19yearoldshrinkpodcast@wjg23

In this episode I talk about all of the learning experiences that have come with staying consistent over the last year with this podcast. Funny enough, I planned on quitting doing the podcast right before putting out the first episode a year ago Tuesday. Im laughing thinking about this but I was scared and worried people would judge me and call me a know it all because I was a 19 year old kid giving life advice.But if I did, I would've missed out on all of the amazing people that I have been able to get to know and have really cool conversations with that I never thought I would. And being able to interview people that I have never met before has been a humbling and great learning experience for me as well.Obviously there have been struggles which comes with anything you want to pursue. Being able to keep this up has been very difficult, and at times discouraging, but worth it. And this episode will explore ways that you can stay consistent with what you are passionate about and overcoming those times where you're second guessing and doubting moving forward. Tune in for more!

In this episode I talk about the importance of persuasion and what causes certain people to be more persuasive than others. The two key factors in this talk are about central route persuasion as well as peripheral route persuasion.Central route focuses on the actual argument that is being made, while peripheral focuses on surface level aspects of an argument. For example, central would be the words of the speech, whereas peripheral would be the attractiveness of the speaker or credibility as well.Another example of peripheral persuasion is commercials that focus so much on the story rather than telling you about the product. Throughout this episode, learn about the basis of persuasion and how one can become more influenceable!

In this episode I talk about the idea of wanting what you don't have. Specifically what I've seen with a lot of my friends and even myself is the idea of losing interest in people that show too much interest.Someone who you were initially interested in starts texting more often, getting to the point where they're asking to hangout a lot more than you are. Or, maybe the situation is flipped. But, at face value, everything looks completely fine. Someone who you are interested in shows a lot of interest in you and you have that certainty, but you start to move away from them. You start distancing yourself, and trying not to reach out as much.I've wondered why that is for years and finally got some insight from an article by Kaitlyn Wylde which attributes this to wanting the unattainable. The feeling of someone being more aloof gives you uncertainty and makes it more interesting, sparking greater admiration for them. This is only the beginning of the reasoning, but if this is something that you've always wondered, tune in!Article: https://www.bustle.com/articles/144865-why-we-lose-interest-in-people-who-show-too-much-interest-in-usInstagram: @19yearoldshrinkpodcast