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In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges many of our differences head on and promises that no matter who you are, or what you're into (Bruce Springsteen or Britney), love is love and gay and nongays can be friends. An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Contact us on Twitter, IG or Facebook @gaynongay

James Barr and Dan Hudson


    • Jun 4, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    4.5 from 239 ratings Listeners of A Gay and A NonGay that love the show mention: dan and james, james and dan, like they're, plz, days ago, super entertaining, dealing, friendship, boys, weird, dynamic, hilarious, men, cannot, enjoyable, absolutely love, whole, pretty, guys, perspective.


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    The A Gay and A NonGay podcast is a refreshing and entertaining show that tackles a wide range of topics with humor and honesty. As a mom of two gay children, this podcast has been invaluable in helping me gain perspective and understand the experiences of my own children. The hosts, Dan and James, along with their exceptional guests, have a great rapport and enjoy talking with each other. They don't take themselves too seriously, which adds to the overall enjoyment of the show.

    One of the best aspects of this podcast is how it combines humor with meaningful conversations. The hosts are able to discuss serious topics like relationships, social norms, and personal growth, while still keeping the show lighthearted and enjoyable. The dynamic between Dan and James is fantastic - they have different viewpoints but work perfectly together. They can be serious when needed but also know how to make their listeners laugh.

    While there aren't many negative aspects to this podcast, some listeners may find that the banter between the hosts can be a bit too much at times. However, this is subjective and depends on personal preferences for comedy styles. Additionally, as an American listener, I would love it if they had more episodes focused on experiences outside of the UK.

    In conclusion, The A Gay and A NonGay podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking for an entertaining and informative show. It has helped me come to realizations in many ways and has changed my life for the better. The hosts' honesty, humor, and ability to tackle important topics make this podcast truly special. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking laughter, insight, and a brighter perspective on life.



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    Latest episodes from A Gay and A NonGay

    From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2025 20:16


    On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives. From running marathons… to walking through tunnels, and the awkwardness of attending awards ceremonies. James and Dan also reflect on winning the Webby Award for Independent Podcast and give an inside peak into the celebrations! We'll be back next week with your regularly scheduled programming! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2025 33:18


    Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field. Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine Award. His new book is Deep House, a queer love story set in an era when gay couples faced significant legal and societal challenges. It is released on June 5th. On this weeks episode, James, Dan and Jeremy talk about the importance of gay bars, the significance of the historical and political narratives in the new book, and the resilience and creativity of the queer community. Jeremy shares insights about his relationship, the evolution of LGBTQ rights, and the ongoing fight for equality. Order Deep House now from all good bookstores: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/455205/deep-house-by-lin-jeremy-atherton/9780241629789 Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    We Won A Webby Award!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2025 16:41


    SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠⁠⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠⁠⁠ for tickets now. Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan discuss the idea of gay people eating pot noodles. This inevitably leads to Dan's ongoing attempt to perfect his Shih Tzu lawyer joke... We'll be back next week with another award winning episode of the podcast! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2025 21:23


    SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠⁠ for tickets now. If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by... another Dan... as they talk about the importance of understanding diverse journeys within the queer community, dealing with judgement and the healing process shared through Dan's new book. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Gay Love IRL vs Incest On The White Lotus

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2025 22:33


    SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠ for tickets now. Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance as... keeping it in the family... these are the questions we're left asking! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about the scene that has been on everyone's lips and reflect on their feelings. Later in the episode, we hear about Dan's story of his late mother's breast cancer treatment, and the medical malpractice she faced. Highlighting a severe lack of awareness about the scandal, James & Dan talk about the story and the role that attention can play in changing policy. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    If I Wasn't Gay... Who Would Appreciate This Bum?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2025 25:34


    On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think... James & Dan are talking about how marriage impacts your physical appearance, and the differences in that between gay and straight men. This leads onto a bigger conversation around the societal perceptions of sexuality based on your look. Along the way, they explore the implications of male loneliness, the importance of maintaining individual passions and the necessity of inclusivity in striving for equality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Is Laughter A Privilege?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2025 19:26


    Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making jokes that involve sensitive topics like transphobia. James and Dan discuss whether the power of laughter can sometimes be a privilege and the impact that their identity has on their comedic approaches. Plus, stay until the end to get a teaser of next weeks episode! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Resisting Moving Backwards with Divina de Campo

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2025 36:30


    BFI Flare, London's LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, runs from 19th to 30th March. For more details, visit: https://whatson.bfi.org.uk/flare/ Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    I Identify As Love with  Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2025 28:47


    We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative minds behind the hit musicals Six and Why Am I So Single. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan chat to Toby and Lucy about their journey from university theatre productions to global success - including their motivations and creative processes. They chat about the unexpected success of Six, the autobiographical inspirations for Why Am I So Single? and the experiences with fans. Plus... why does it suck being on dating apps? The theatre stars share their insights! Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    It's Not That We Don't Like You... Criticism Is Important!

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 27:32


    Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cultural references and critiques, including the importance of criticism. From debating whether we should be offended by the 'war pigs' term, to seeing how the community critiques art (look to Lady Gaga's new album) and the subjectivity of reviews and journalism... should you support art to support a community, even if you think the art itself isn't that good? Plus we test new jokes and complain about old tech woes! Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Open Relationships, Egg Shortages and Adventures Abroad

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2025 19:56


    It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do! James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community? We also tackle a listener's question about the prevalence of open relationships in the queer community and explore what might be causing this trend. Thank you to our sponsors... Secure your privacy with Surfshark! Go to surfshark.com/agaang for 4 extra months of Surfshark. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Let's Talk About Alice with Caroline Litman

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2025 39:36


    Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering. In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care. Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 days when she took her own life. Ever since then, Caroline has fought for trans rights, in an attempt to ensure that the pain her daughter went through never needs to be experienced by anybody else, ever again. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by Caroline to talk about the state of trans rights in the UK, her embarrassment about what she used to believe, whether we should be respectful to transphobic people online and why the gender critical movement is so well organised. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Sex Positivity... Or Has It All Gone Too Far?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2025 24:25


    She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards? In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate, both James and Dan grapple with their own opinions and shed light on the broader implications of sexual freedom and stigma. Plus, before all of this, a Super Bowl prediction... after the Super Bowl! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Revisiting Jack Rooke Live At Edinburgh Fringe

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2025 20:54


    We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys. Recorded live at Edinburgh Fringe in 2019, James and Dan chat all about the acclaimed TV show, plus they talk about dealing with homophobia at school, overcoming internalised shame, redefining mental health within the queer community and the dynamics of their own identities. Jack also highlights the importance of diverse representation and collective support among LGBTQ+ individuals. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    They're A Massive Gay! But What Does That Mean?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2025 29:37


    Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still the same (even if they do speak over each other a bit). Once the hilarious technical bits get ironed out, we're asking: What makes you a 'massive gay'? We're digging into the stereotypes found in everyday conversations and debunking them, one gay and nongay at a time. Plus, James and Dan turn to politics to discussing the implications of President Trump's policies on marginalised communities in the US. Could those corporate Pride initiatives be fading into the background? Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Can Straight Men Do Drag? with Holly Stars

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2025 20:31


    Drag queen, stand-up comic and author Holly Stars is this weeks guest on A Gay And A NonGay! Ever wondered what it takes to conquer the allusive worlds of both drag and comedy? Holly joins James and Dan to share her experiences in both worlds! She also shares her thoughts about why musicals are so alluring to queer communities and how she brings all of this into her smash-hit new drag murder mystery Death Drop! Plus - do straight people still not exist? We'll come back to you on that one... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Who Should Propose? The Great Debate

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2025 16:27


    We're talking all things marriage proposals and gay weddings on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! So... who should propose? James and Dan are breaking down the traditional roles expected in relationships and challenging the patriarchal norms. Plus, what gets James U-turning on his thoughts about weddings? Towards the end of the episode, we take a look at body shaming as we try to embrace our best lives in 2020 Thrive. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    You Hear That? It's Straight Men Being Silent...

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2025 26:55


    Would you ever go gay for hay? Kicking off this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan consider whether pretending to be gay to secure a roof on your head is... ethical? It's kind of complicated. As we dive deeper into the episode, we go into the big topic of straight men's silence on prominent cases of women's abuse, particularly the trial of Gisèle Pelicot. James passionately argues for the responsibility of straight men to be vocal allies, suggesting that guilt or fear of past actions might be reasons for their silence. The episode challenges you to reflect on your role in supporting marginalised communities and encourages open dialogue about difficult subjects. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Maybe God... Made Us This Way?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2025 13:27


    This week is just a quick check-in with our A Gay And A NonGay community as James Barr has an announcement about down under (not like that!), James and Dan reveal the results of a poll about sexual preferences and we chat about negative comments from TikTok! Think of this as a brisk affair lasting just over 8 minutes... you feel light and giddy at the end, and can't wait to come back for more. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Keighley Cougars: The Rainbow-Roaring Rugby Club with Ryan O'Neill & Kaue Garcia

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2025 27:13


    When Ryan O'Neill & Kaue Garcia bought their beloved local rugby club the Keighley Cougars in 2018, they never expected the backlash that would come. Having saved the club from bankruptcy, and making it the only openly LGBTQ-owned professional sports club outside of the US, they sought to make it an inclusive, LGBTQ-friendly space, putting diversity at the heart of the club. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan meet Ryan & Kue to talk about the backlash they have received in response to their transformation of the Keighley Cougars, how owning the club has allowed them to heal from the homophobia experienced growing up, and the importance of making sports more welcoming for LGBTQ+ athletes and fans. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    What's Gay and What's Not?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2025 22:01


    Happy New Year! We're kicking off 2025 how we meant to go on... with an insightful debate around the perceptions of behaviours and items labelled as 'gay' by society. Oh, we're also talking New Years Resolutions (and reflecting on past resolutions) of course! But, seriously, is 2025 the year where people will finally stop calling things 'gay'? Maybe we'll even dismantle societal stereotypes on masculinity and... maybe you'll no longer be able to be "more gay than gay itself"? Time will do it's thing - but what we know for sure is that we're looking forward to spending this year with all of you gays and nongays alike! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Elliot Page, Tia Kofi, Jamie Dornan + More! (Best of the Guests 2024)

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2024 27:05


    It's time! Christmas Day has come and we're serving you some of our finest moments from 2024... all in one neat package, waiting underneath the tree. On topics ranging from coming out to queer joy, beating stereotypes and non-binary identity, we hear from Drag Race winner Tia Kofi, Golden Globe nominee Richard Gadd, Eurovian winner Nemo, Joel Creasey, Reuben Kaye and, of course, Dan's doppelganger Jamie Dornan as James and Dan wrap up 2024 as only A Gay And A NonGay could. They also tease some of 2025's upcoming guests and reflect on the years most heartfelt conversations... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Christmas If You're Queer

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2024 26:37


    It's so nearly Christmas... but what does that mean if you're queer? On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring issues around chosen families and setting boundaries which often come up around this time of year for queer people. How do you ensure your loved ones are respectful during this time of festive cheer? And how much should you care about society's reaction to your supposed non-conformity? All of these reflections are contained within... Plus at the top of the episode, James & Dan address the challenges of dealing with online trolls - particularly when Piers Morgan's fanboys are coming after you! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Ageing Twinks & Gay Cruises with Joe Sutherland

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2024 24:36


    Do you have an imagined feud with a celebrity? Well, this weeks guest certainly has a story to tell! James and Dan are joined by comedian Joe Sutherland for a rousing edition of A Gay And A NonGay. The trio talk about ageing in the gay community (and the concept of 'twink death') and the societal changes impacting how older LGBTQ+ individuals are perceived. How deep does the generational divide go? Plus, Joe shares his experience on a gay cruise and tries to bring the idea to life for Dan! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Getting Into The Holiday Spirit!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2024 23:17


    It's officially the holiday season and we're delving into some of our holiday traditions (and stresses) and how they differ between gays and, well, nongays. From musical theatre (which is surely an LGBTQ+ staple?!) to family expectations, how do the holidays differ based on your sexuality? Plus, following on the internet trend, Dan contemplates organizing a Jamie Dornan lookalike competition, while James reflects on the pressures of having to frequently discuss their sexual orientation... The holidays - you can't live with em, but you can't live without them! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Are Straight People A Hoax?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2024 14:18


    Do you agree with Bob The Drag Queen that straight people are a hoax? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are unpicking the societal constructs around heterosexuality and accepting fluidity in sexual preferences. Whilst James supports Bob's viewpoint, Dan has a more historical perspective on human sexuality and the conversation expands to the nuances of bisexuality and asexuality, and the subconscious influences on sexual identity. If that all sounds very heavy... it isn't! We promise it's funny too... we promise! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Feeling Like A Spare In Your Relationship?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2024 24:24


    This episode isn't about that Prince Harry memoir - no, this week on A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the concept of 'spares' in relationship. A 'spare' is much like a plastic bag drifting through the wind: having a back-up partner ready in case your plastic bag, well, breaks. James and Dan are debating the ethics around 'spares' in relationships and also diving into the controversy surround the enhanced measures for straight men at The Last Dinner Party's concerts, an all-female rock band with a strong queer following, questioning whether these practices are justified or discriminatory. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Shoe Sizes, Bed Sharing & Overhead Lighting

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2024 28:20


    Do you know your shoe size? Well, before we start outrage... on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are tackling some of the top-tier stereotypes that are thrusted upon the community. After all, what do straight men and gay women have in common? Apparently they don't know their own shoe size! Also on this weeks episode: When is it alright to share a bed with your friend? From the complexities of sharing beds with friends of the opposite set to tackling societal norms, James and Dan break through the patriarchy to once again put the world to rights. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    The Triumphant Journey of Tia Kofi

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2024 30:53


    When it comes to the Drag world... you don't get much better than the current Queen of the Mothertucking World, Tia Kofi! Having recently won RuPaul's Drag Race: UK vs The World Tia has been using their reign to shine a spotlight on important matters - from LGBTQ+ rights to the queerest event of the year (other than Pride), the Eurovision Song Contest, where she hosted the Turquoise Carpet. Tia joins James and Dan for an eye-opening conversation about the pressures of drag, how to overcome self-doubt, songwriting as a therapy and, of course, all things Drag Race. Listen to Tia Kofi's podcast The Final FronTia wherever you get your podcasts: https://tiakofi.lnk.to/thefinalfrontia Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    We're Award Winners! (And A Long Story)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2024 18:15


    We're award winners! A Gay And A NonGay recently won the Independent Podcast Award for Best Sex, Love & Relationships and have been shortlisted at the British Podcast Awards! In this weeks episode, James and Dan talk about the importance of awards and Dan tells a not-convoluted story about how he missed the awards! Elsewhere in the episode, they talk about the idea of gay wrestling to determine sexual roles. From 'gay spacho' to 'horse fair', they tackle stereotypes and misconceptions surrounding common myths. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Big Feet, Big... Energy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2024 23:41


    Pubs, they're a British institution. But, in this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are exploring the cultural differences between gay and nongay people when it comes to the drinking hole: cleanliness, atmosphere and even drinkware. In non-drinking news, this week we're tackling the contentious phrase "fannying around" and learning and its offensive, historical context. Does the phrase need to (finally) pass away? Plus, can you guess which country leads to a conversation about big dick energy? It's not the one you're thinking of! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Traffic Cones On Your Head

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2024 19:41


    Have you ever put a traffic cone on your head? On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're starting off with a serious (not) debate about headwear, after a listener questioned if gay people participate in this holy ritual. As the conversation turns more serious, James and Dan are discussing female and Queer aggression towards straight men and the use of comedy as a form of protest. When does it all go too far, and when is it completely justified? Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Humour Is A Great Form Of Therapy with Rob Madge

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2024 25:18


    We are joined by a modern-day icon of the theatre world on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Rob Madge first rose to prominence as a child actor, appearing in the West End productions of Mary Poppins and Oliver!. Rob gained mainstream popularity for the WhatsOnStage Award-winning and Olivier Award-nominated autobiographical show My Son's A Queer (But What Can You Do?) in 2023. Rob joins James and Dan for a theatrical episode of the podcast - talking about the role of supportive families and communities for Queer performers, even through traumatic events such as when the Broadway run of Rob's show was cancelled. But, humour can be a great form of therapy, and Rob's new role in the play Buyer & Cellar is definitely that. From the importance of advocacy and allyship - to the cultural phenomenon of Disney Adults - this week has it all... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    What's Hair Dye Got To Do With It?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2024 18:11


    Why do gay people always bang on about being themselves... and then die their hair? Homophobia to one side - on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about how personal choices like hair styles and clothing can be used to reflect your true identity. Also on this weeks podcast, we dive into gender neutral bathrooms and self-identification laws after a listener says that they feel unsafe in gender neutral spaces due to past traumas. Should safety concerns outweigh the needs of marginalised communities? Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Are You More Than A Gay Best Friend?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2024 14:26


    We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay and this week we're diving into the world of relationships - and all of the complexities that can with them. James and Dan talk about the stereotype of having (or being) a 'gay best friend'. What does it mean, and is it a bad thing? They also debate the idea of ownership between partners, and explore unconventional dating apps like Sniffies and the ethical issues surrounding them. It's all a changing landscape... Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    All It Was & All It Could Have Been

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 15:42


    Now that the Summer seems to be officially over (thanks, weather!), us here at A Gay And A NonGay HQ are reflecting on all it was, and all it could have been. Whilst Dan was flying between London and New York, James was at Edinburgh Festival with his new show. But you know what we all were doing? Reacting to Oasis' reunion! Outside of our Champagne Brat summer discussion, James and Dan also discuss the phrase "fannying around" and explore its gendered connotations. It is just out of date... or also harmful? Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    It's A Lesbian Renaissance with GIRLI

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 25:15


    A Gay And A NonGay is officially back from the Summer break! And we're back with a bang as singer-songwriter GIRLI sits down with James & Dan to talk about the lesbian renaissance in pop culture. We're diving into the history of the term 'lesbian' and the matriarchy, as well as the unique experience of being a Queer woman. Amongst that, the trio talk about the different ways that queer and straight men navigate societal expectations... and we get a sneak peek at GIRLI's upcoming projects and tour plans! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    From Queer Joy to Rage with Reuben Kaye

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2024 26:40


    Looking for unapologetic honesty? This weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay delivers exactly that as James and Dan are joined by Australian singer, writer, performer and comedian Reuben Kaye. The trio dive deep into queer culture - addressing the spectrum from Queer joy to Queer rage, as well as Reuben's experience with homophobia and cancel culture. Along the way, we learn about the importance of faking it until you make it, the difference between social dynamics in Australia and the UK and how Reuben found his home in cabaret. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Dating Whilst Discovering Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 11:53


    Following last weeks conversation about gay stereotypes, this week James and Dan are diving into another myth: that all gay people know each other! Hint: It's, obviously, not true. The question leads onto a conversation about social media habits and the awkwardness that can come with liking people's posts online. This weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay ends with a discussion around polyamorous dating. James and Dan offer their reflections on navigating relationships whilst discovering yourself. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why Do Gays Dance Better? (& Other Stereotypes)

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2024 16:01


    On this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're discussing two unavoidable questions that have been plaguing the community for years: the so-called 'gay voice' and... why gay people are seemingly so much better at dancing? OK, maybe not. Dan and James tackle these subjects through the lens of internalised homophobia and how stereotypes can lead to feelings of exclusion from the queer community. To prove the point, we try to guess people's sexualities based on their voices (hint: it's not straight-forward!). Plus, James shares details about his new Edinburgh Fringe show. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    New York vs London Dating with Bright Light Bright Light

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 24:47


    We have a special guest on A Gay And A Non-Gay this week... it's 4x Top 20 charting artist Bright Light Bright Light! The Welsh-born, New York-based artist talks with James and Dan about the differences in dating cultures between New York and London as well as the importance of self-love and redefining our perceptions of love and relationships, particularly with the pressures put on love in the LGBTQ+ space. Plus they speak about BLBL's collaboration with Elton John! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Hell, Toes and Unasked Questions

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2024 15:14


    Talk about twists and turns... this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay spans spans from the afterlife to unexpected Grindr encounters in Bali. James and Dan kick off by pondering a fear of going to hell before talking about uncomfortable family dynamics and persistent questions from loved ones. They also tackle a listener dilemma about dealing with a non-accepting grandparent. This weeks episode is somewhere between candid, thought-provoking and moments where you will think "wait... what did you just say!". Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Failed Pop Stars & Dating Someone In The Closet

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2024 17:48


    Pride Month might have come to an end... but every month is Pride Month on this show! Looking back at this years Mighty Hoopla, James talks about the relationship between gay people and 'failed' pop stars as well as the importance of safety and inclusivity at festivals. In this weeks advice segment, James and Dan explore the challenges faced by a listener who is out and dating someone who isn't and how to maintain authenticity whilst supporting a partner still figuring themselves out. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: @gaynongay Instagram: @gaynongay YouTube: @gaynongay Facebook: @gaynongay Website: gaynongay.com Email Us: us@gaynongay.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How Do You Know... If You've Never Done It?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2024 24:28


    This week, James and Dan are tackling listener questions around challenging assumptions about sexuality. In this weeks "Non-Gays Can't Say", Josh from Glasgow asks a provocative question around how you truly know if you're gay... if you've never been with a woman. The discussion shifts to recent comments made by the Pope, leading to a conversation around the complexities of religion and homophobia and there's a listener question about flirty behaviour towards a colleague. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Why We Still Need Pride Month

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2024 21:50


    With the pendulum swinging and violence towards the LGBTQ+ community on the rise, this week James and Dan are discussing why Pride Month is still so important. They talk about issues ranging from violence to conversation therapy and discriminatory laws, whilst also delving into James' personal experience with domestic abuse and the challenges of speaking out. Advocates and ally's have never been more important than right now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    When Did "Just Sex" Stop Being Enough?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 11:11


    James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough? Let us know what you think on our socials @gaynongay or email us with your opinions and dilemmas - us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    Some Men In London: A Conversation with Peter Parker About Gay History

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2024 26:00


    Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s. Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    How To Find Gay Friends In Your 30s

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2024 20:40


    How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    A Conversation with Eurovision's 2024 Winner Nemo

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2024 24:43


    James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Can identity exist without labels?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2024 23:45


    James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Is it toxic for gays to be anti-pride?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2024 18:10


    Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here. Get tickets to see James' new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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