Divorce Talk With Nicola Beer

Divorce is always a difficult transition. It can be painful, stressful and exhausting for all involved. However the way that parents handle it can greatly influence how well they and their children cope. No parent contemplating, going through or coming out of divorce needs the added burden of worrying about the damage divorce will have on their children. In this I will cover: How to strengthen children through divorce The top 5 ways to best Protect them What to do if you are feeling overwhelmed by divorce Divorce does not need to be a disaster. You do have the power to influence and support yourself and any children through it. “I believe that Healthy families have nothing to do with whether the parents live together or apart. It is all to do with the love, support and life coping skills you provide your children with.” — Nicola Beer Listen in today to get support for you and your children “Children only grow up once; so I believe every effort should be made to help you and your children enjoy it.” #relationshipadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagecounselling #relationships #marriageproblems #coupletherapy #relationshipcounselling #relationshipcounseling #howto savea marriage #saveyour marriage #savemy marriage# #marriageadvice #couplestherapy #cheatinghusband cheatingwife #infidelity #relationship #cheater #sex #sexual #impotency #hypnosis #self-help #self-improvement #counselor #addiction #affairrecovery #affair #angermanagement #depression #codependency #infidelity #affairs #howtogetdivorced #howtostopdivorce #stopdivorce

Radio Interview - where I discuss how to save your marriage and avoid divorce, and actually feel happy again. For more free relationship advice and resources to save your marriage and avoid divorce with Nicola Beer visit www.nicolabeer.com and www.savemymarriageprogram.com #relationshipadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagecounselling #relationships #marriageproblems #coupletherapy #relationshipcounselling #relationshipcounseling #howtosaveamarriage #saveyourmarriage #savemymarriage #marriageadvice #couplestherapy #cheatinghusband #cheatingwife #infidelity #relationship #cheater #sex #sexual #impotency #hypnosis #self-help #self-improvement #counselor #addiction #affairrecovery #affair #angermanagement #alcoholabuse #anger #sexaddiction #alcoholaddiction #alcoholic #marriagesupport #familyadvice #family #divorce # anxiety #stress #chronic #depression #codependency #infidelity #affairs

Today we live in an age that promotes self-awareness BUT when it comes to relationships, most of the advice we are given on how to make the decision to stay or leave, leaves us more confused and feeling alone. here are literally millions of men and women ambivalent about whether to stay in or leave their marriage. If this is you, I will share why you MUST get out of limbo for the sake of your sanity, health and relationship. For more free marriage and relationship, resources contact me on www.nicolabeer.com and www.savemymarriageprogram.com #relationshipadvice #marriagecounseling #marriagecounselling #relationships #marriageproblems #coupletherapy #relationshipcounselling #relationshipcounseling #howto savea marriage #saveyour marriage #savemy marriage# #marriageadvice #couplestherapy #cheatinghusband cheatingwife #infidelity #relationship #cheater #sex #sexual #impotency #hypnosis #self-help #self-improvement #counselor #addiction #affairrecovery #affair #angermanagement #depression #codependency #infidelity #affairs

When people get to the stage of seeking help for the dissatisfaction or conflict in their marriage, they often wonder "Did I marry the wrong person?" or "Did I marry right or well?" These are common thoughts many share with me that they struggle with. So, how do you know if you have? Is there such a thing as 'the one' or the ‘right’ person?

As an entrepreneur or senior executive, the business you run is like your baby and you will do anything to make it a success. This can lead to conflict in the marriage, so avoid this I share my 8 tips for having a thriving business and relationship.

Is your relationship cluttered with negative thoughts or resentment? Do you love your partner but struggle to find time to make the relationship thrive? Has poor organization in your love life, caused you to hurt those you care most deeply for? Is past hurt preventing you from being close to your lover? If the answer is YES you are not alone. Most relationships suffer because of clutter - things we cannot control that occupy our minds and get in the way of our happiness or poor organization. I will share with you how to: 1. Let go of the past once and for all, so you can become close than ever before. 2. Increase the happiness, love and passion in your relationships - with just 15 minutes per day! 3.Motivate your partner to change, so you can grow together rather than apart 4. Stop negative thoughts, resentment and old hurt from ruining your connection and communication 5. 7 Secrets to saving a relationship to ensure you get the love life you REALLY want.

Resentment is a sense of unfairness - that you are not getting enough attention, consideration, affection, reward or appreciation that you deserve for aspects of your life and relationship. It's a mental process of repetitively replaying a feeling, and the events leading up to it, that angers us. It often starts off as a mild form of anger, but overtime build and builds until it reaches an alarming level. It can be far more destructive to health, romance, and happiness than anger though, because it stays with us for longer. Built up resentment can manifest itself in ill-health: headaches, stomach pains, depression, exhaustion, back pain, neck pain and insomnia. Over time, it also kills passion, love, closeness and even friendship. Be sure to listen to the end to get your free bonus, just listening will not help you transform your marriage. www.savemymarriageprogram.com/forgive

Has your relationship changed since your children? Does he not understand? Is she always busy with the children? There is no need for you to loose sight of what made you fall in love. I will share 3 relationship advice tips of how to keep your loving relationship after children... To book your free consultation visit www.savemymarriageprogram.com/consult

A common question for couples after the discovery of an affair is Why did I cheat... here I cover this. If you are struggling in your marriage right now - book a free consultation at www.savemymarriageprogram.com

Healing after an affair is different for everyone. However there are things you can do to help yourself recover faster, I will explain what these are. If you are struggling do book a free Save My Marriage consultation at www.savemymarriageprogram.com/consult

Dr. Ashley is a psychologist, coach, relationship expert and joined me on the show to discuss relationship compatibility success and attraction skills, as well as the psychology behind relationship success. To learn more from Dr Ashley Arn view her webinar here https://goo.gl/FeBfKJ Or book a free dating single to soulmate session click on the below https://goo.gl/D7QZiM

Very few people are willing to talk publicly about their marriage problems and how they solved them. But occasionally someone steps forward to tell their story. It’s always interesting. Click here to listen to Avrohom from New York... Contact Details http://www.simiplex.com

Infidelity and affairs happen more frequently than we like to think about.. The good thing is most women and men who catch a cheating husband or wife want to fight for it and give the marriage a second shot. Similarly cheating wives and husbands who see what they have risked and may lose, often want to make amends' than stay with their new love interest. In both cases the act of research or seeking support and willingness to try the solutions is a strong sign that the marriage can survive infidelity. I'll explain more in this episode... P.S Struggling in Your Marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

Are you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour you have no more to give? Are you at the end of your tether? Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out? We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than not these ultimatums are being issued by a parent to a child. This is a relationship where power and responsibility lie with the parent. It is the parent’s job to ensure that a child grows up knowing what is right and wrong, setting boundaries to ensure safety. The reasons for adults giving ultimatums within a marriage can be a reaction to many types of behaviours. Examples such as your partner having an affair, addiction to food, spending, pornography, alcoholism, drug abuse and obsessiveness about any other aspect of their life. These behaviours will have left you feeling hurt and resentful. It is understandable why you would feel that giving an ultimatum would be your only option. However it can often make things work in this episode I explain why and what you can do to turn this around.

It’s more than likely that you have been on the receiving end of silent treatment, or that you, yourself have used it on your spouse. I doubt that there are many relationships where this hasn’t occurred whether that is in a marriage, other close relationships with family or in the professional environment. This is not surprising, as research has found that it is one of the most commonly used ‘tools’ in a relationship. However, it can be very destructive and detrimental. The silent treatment can actually cause emotional and physical distress to you and your spouse and has even been linked to poor mental health. It is an incredibly damaging scenario for obvious reasons, if you are not communicating then you are not connecting and connection is key for a strong marriage. Learn how to break it now... For more free resources visit www.savemymarriageprogram.com P.S Struggling in Your Marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

It's a confusing statement for sure. The good thing about it is the "I Love You" is it means care, and care is necessary for a healthy happy marriage. So what about the - Not "In Love" The majority of us falsely assume from love stories in tabloids, TV series, celebrity news and movies that once that happens that's it. We are taught that Love is something you find and that's it - The END. That is just not true. I'll address what you can do to save your marriage and prevent divorce if this is true for you. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

What are your spouse's most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune, snore or crack their knuckles? And when was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An Hour Ago? One of the most annoying things about annoying habits is that they can be so small, but still drive you mad. Overtime you may find the list of annoying habits grow. It may not be that your spouse has added more irritating habits as years have gone by, but instead, a sign your "honeymoon period" is over. I'll give you insight on how to tackle this common problem. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

No one ever solved their marriage by talking about their problems. What most of us to is try to talk our partner into our own way of thinking. This always fails! It takes actions to save a marriage, rebuild love, trust and respect. Let me share with you how in this episode. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

There are many reasons why marriages break down and it's rarely just one. Usually it's a culmination of events and behaviors, that stir up negative feelings. In my practice alcohol "issues" come up frequently. Occasionally it is when a spouse doesn't agree with their partners drinking for religious reasons, more often than not though it's about the amount someone drinks, how frequently they drink and their behavior whilst under the influence. So when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship? We will discuss in this episode. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

I'm currently working with a couple in the U.S who are struggling to communicate and connect after their son was born. Like many couples they thought that when their baby was born they would be closer than ever. Instead 18 months later, they feel frustrated with one another and like they are drifting apart. Sadly this is a common occurrence, in fact the highest risk of divorce is when children are between 1-5 years old. I've outlined some of the most common problems and how to get through them united and stronger. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

Time can be a big source of conflict in relationships. When you get married “your time” also becomes “their time” and if you have children then you need to also schedule in “family time” and of course time for family chores and all the other errands you need to run. Many couples I speak to are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled in multiple directions that the quality of the marriage is declining. Perhaps you can relate? Are you both so busy with work, the children and your own interests that you can go for days without having a real conversation? Do you now only discuss financials and children's activities? And what about your physical intimacy? Is bedtime now only for sleeping? Arguments over how time is spent, is fairly common in relationships in this episode I will share 5 good ways to ensure you and your marriage is protected. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

It's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep you feeling good and your energy high. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

As a relationship counsellor who works online with couples all over the world, what I can say from my experience is that infidelity is by far the most common presenting issue I help couples recover— and transform their marriages—from. There are many reasons why people cheat. I believe that focusing on the factors contributing to extramarital affairs is futile; a bleak outlook doesn’t help a couple remain connected or move forward after the fact. As they say, prevention is better than cure, and below I’ve compiled a tried and tested list of critical steps to support you in affair-proofing your marriage. If an affair is already happening in your marriage, these steps can help put an end to a cheating spouse’s need to stray. Looking for more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

Infidelity, Affair Recovery - How Long Does it Take to Recover from a Cheating Wife or Cheating Husband? In this episode I will go through the most common stages of affair recovery.

If you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading some of these tips. Or, if you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating wife or husband unintentionally keeps on hurting you in their attempts to make you feel better, put this episode in their in their hands. Looking For more tips to improve your marriage? Get the FREE Report - 7 Secrets to Saving Your Marriage! And learn: • The 6 Essential Keys to Keeping a Marriage Happy • How to Increase Love, Happiness and Passion in your marriage in less than 2 weeks! • How to Motivate and Inspire Your Spouse To Change • How to Overcome Past Hurt, Resentment, so You can Rebuild Respect & Trust Get the 7 Secrets Now - http://savemymarriageprogram.com/7-secrets

After the honeymoon period in a relationship is over, and our partner raises complaints about us, or does things we don't agree with or is somehow absent, we often start to make or draw slightly negative conclusions about them or the relationship. Typically it starts off as a thought one day, but if their actions continue to match it, we can start to think that way about the relationship or them. Negative thinking doesn't only affect you, it can kill connection, communication and passion, if the thought patterns become habitual.

From the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their children. I've worked with families where children have found out about affairs, been caught up in custody battles and where the parents amicably and peacefully explain that they just don't love each other anymore. In all cases many parents struggle when it comes to knowing what to say and how to explain it. Whilst what to say depends on the circumstances, their age, gender, maturity and culture; over the years I have found it beneficial to use the universal laws to help parents minimize the damage their children experience. Wouldn't it mean the world to you to see the children in your life not only survive but thrive through any marriage problems, separation and divorce? Of course it would. This is possible through teaching them the universal laws. So much has been written about the law of attraction and abundance; rightly so, they are powerful. Yet the other laws are equally beneficial, I cover the best 5 universal laws to use when helping children and their parents through separation and divorce: #1 The Law of Growth #2 The Law of Acceptance #3 The Law of Polarity #4 The Law of Oneness #5 The Law of Relativity I also list engaging exercises for each law you can do with children to demonstrate the law's power. This is part one of two - from my heart to yours Nicola - www.purepeacecoaching.com

Jane Duncan Rogers wrote her memoir Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth 3 years after her husband died and now is passionate about enabling the western world to become more comfortable with the thought of dying and loss. She is committed to guiding people to the relief and peace of mind that comes from having faced up to the impact of loss in their lives, whether it be from death or from divorce. With over 25 years of experience working in the personal growth, psychotherapeutic and coaching fields, Jane is really well-placed to deal with these sensitive subject. Visit her website and download her free Before I Go Quiz http://giftedbygrief.com/

Brian Brunkow is a San Diego-based lawyer, sports parenting coach, and author of Zero Offseason – a guidebook on divorce & effective & “sane” sports parenting. With a background in family law and coaching youth football, Brian’s focus is helping divorced parents collaborate on the “ABC’s of divorce & effective sports parenting.” When time and money is used as a weapon in divorce, the “ABC’s” (Aligning Goals, Following the Best Interests Standard & Controlling Controllables) encourage parents to stay focused on helping kids develop life skills thru positive youth sports experiences Brian may be reached at Brian@ZeroOffseason.com for personal coaching on divorce & effective sports parenting. Nicola Beer is an International Relationship & Divorce Coach, Best-selling Author that supports individuals to minimize the stress and pain of divorce. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com to get your copy of free e-books "Protect Children Through Divorce" and "10 Steps to Creating a New Life After Divorce"

From the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their children. I've worked with families where children have found out about affairs, been caught up in custody battles and where the parents amicably and peacefully explain that they just don't love each other anymore. In all cases many parents struggle when it comes to knowing what to say and how to explain it. Whilst what to say depends on the circumstances, their age, gender, maturity and culture; over the years I have found it beneficial to use the universal laws to help parents minimize the damage their children experience. Wouldn't it mean the world to you to see the children in your life not only survive but thrive through any marriage problems, separation and divorce? Of course it would. This is possible through teaching them the universal laws. So much has been written about the law of attraction and abundance; rightly so, they are powerful. Yet the other laws are equally beneficial, I cover the best 5 universal laws to use when helping children and their parents through separation and divorce: #1 The Law of Growth #2 The Law of Acceptance #3 The Law of Polarity #4 The Law of Oneness #5 The Law of Relativity I also list engaging exercises for each law you can do with children to demonstrate the law's power. This is part two of two - from my heart to yours Nicola - www.purepeacecoaching.com

From the Amazon Best Seller - I read you my chapter which is designed to inspire parents help their children through separation. We all know that marriage breakdown, separation and divorce is stressful and painful time for all involved, especially children. Despite parents best efforts to protect them children may feel confused, frustrated and scared. No parent going through or coming out of divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their children. I've worked with families where children have found out about affairs, been caught up in custody battles and where the parents amicably and peacefully explain that they just don't love each other anymore. In all cases many parents struggle when it comes to knowing what to say and how to explain it. Whilst what to say depends on the circumstances, their age, gender, maturity and culture; over the years I have found it beneficial to use the universal laws to help parents minimize the damage their children experience. Wouldn't it mean the world to you to see the children in your life not only survive but thrive through any marriage problems, separation and divorce? Of course it would. This is possible through teaching them the universal laws. So much has been written about the law of attraction and abundance; rightly so, they are powerful. Yet the other laws are equally beneficial, I cover the best 5 universal laws to use when helping children and their parents through separation and divorce: #1 The Law of Growth #2 The Law of Acceptance #3 The Law of Polarity #4 The Law of Oneness #5 The Law of Relativity I also list engaging exercises for each law you can do with children to demonstrate the law's power. This is part one of two - from my heart to yours Nicola - www.purepeacecoaching.com

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Long-distance children experience many changes. Often, the relationship changes rapidly and dramatically, which can be upsetting and unsettling for children. I have outlined 6 of the biggest changes children experience and some solutions to minimize the stress and change, the absence of a parent can bring. My hope is through awareness you can take measures to strengthen the parent-child relationship, whether it's you, your partner or ex, who is living further away. P.S If you enjoyed reading this you may like the following 3 Free e-books 7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling Protect Children Through Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce 7 Steps to Create a New Life After Breakup & Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/manifesting-a-new-life

7 Surprising Reasons Exercise Can Make You Happier Insomnia, Anxiety, Depression, Low Self-Confidence Are common when a relationship breaks down or ends in divorce Wondering what the future will hold and how things will turn out can send even a healthy, happy person into a state of turmoil and unrest It's in this time more than ever we need to turn to nature and our own bodies natural defense system to help us. I care about your happiness And that's why I'm excited to share with you an Interview with Laila Lallas Managing Director of a Ladies Fitness Center, who has 25 years helping people live healthier, fitter lives In the interview she will explain the 7 Surprising Reasons why exercise can make you happier and how to get started, no matter where your starting from For more free resources including marriage tips and divorce support visit www,purepeacecoaching.com To check out Laila' gym www.inshapeme.com Marriage and divorce support

WHEN PAST HURTS AFFECTS YOUR LOVE RELATIONSHIPS Past hurts from our previous relationships or even our childhood can get in the way of our current relationship happiness. When our partner says or does something we may get triggered and over react as: • We may fear history repeating itself • We may feel like we have been here before and know the score! • We may get angry, bitter and start doubting the relationship • We may want to run It is difficult to stop our past from affecting our current relationships. Bad experiences can make us more suspicious, anxious, jealous, careful and judgmental. I know I have been there. Perhaps you have too? I've worked with countless men and women who have been hurt and become fearful and bitter as a result of their past experiences. However instead of allowing it to cause havoc in their love life, they have used it to embark on a journey of healing and change towards greater happiness. Today I am going to outline 6 steps to help you today, start freeing yourself right now. For more free resources and e-books on relationships and divorce visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

I'm currently working with a couple in the U.S who are struggling to communicate and connect. They like many couples thought that when their baby was born they would be closer than ever. Instead 18 months later, they feel frustrated with one another and like they are drifting apart. Sadly this is a common occurrence, in fact the highest risk of divorce is when children are between 1-5 years old. I've outlined some of the most common problems in this episode and some tips gained from my experience working with couples to save their marriage and supporting individuals through divorce, who shared what drove them to it. I've also included strategies from other relationship experts, so you have a range of ways to strengthen your relationship after children are born. If you like this, you may like my free e-book 7 secrets to saving your marriage http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling

When expectations are not being met on a consistent basis in a marriage it can often lead to disappointment, destruction and sometimes divorce. As our expectations of others, our relationships, our self and how we expect live our life directly impact our happiness it is important to know if our expectations are realistic or too high. Knowing whether your expectations are too high or not, is a tricky one. Here I share 7 questions to know if your expectations are too high. P.S If you like this you may also like my free e-book www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/m…ecounseling

Whether you or your partners hobby is triathlon's, golf, video gaming, sailing, football... many marriages suffer from a hobby that one passionately embraces and the other sees as nothing but an intrusion. If not dealt with, the built up frustration and resentment can lead to explosive rows or distance and withdrawal. So what can you do? Inside this episode you will get my 8 Keys to not let hobbies come between you. So they help the marriage instead of hurt it. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Get your free copy of my e-books here "7 secrets to saving your marriage" or 10 steps to creating a new life after divorce www.purepeacecoaching.com

You can waste your food. You can waste your money. You can waste your clothes... But wasting time is a whole other ball game. I'm not referring to the hour you spent in traffic or 2 hours you spent watching a trashy movie. I am talking about months and years of wasted time people stay in unhappy relationships. Where they either hope things will get better over time or don't want to give up on time they have already invested. One of biggest regrets I hear time and time again is YEARS of wasted time. In this episode you will here 5 tips to really let go of regret and move forward. For more free resources get my free e-books "7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage" or "10 steps to creating a new life after Divorce" www.purepeacecoaching.com

Insecurity is a feeling of general unease that is triggered by perceiving oneself to be inferior in some way or vulnerable. Listening to our inner critic can do serious damage to our self-esteem. It can cause us to feel desperate toward our partner or pull back, get angry and reject them in fear of being rejected. It can also exaggerate feelings of jealousy or possessiveness or leave us feeling unworthy. It's perfectly natural to feel insecure from time to time, especially after an affair or break up. However if you are plagued by it, where you feel like it is getting in your way of getting things done... then I have 8 ways to overcome them listed below. For more free resources check out www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Infidelity Expert

It's extremely challenging to live with a negative person. They may have depression or they may be habitually negative and cannot see how miserable they are making themselves and the toxic effect they are having on others. They may even mock you for being positive or naive when you see the good in things and others. If you have already tried talking to them, asked if they need support and have been met with more negativity this article is for you. I will share with you my 5 secrets to keep you feeling good and your energy high, when living with a negative person. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - Marriage I Infidelity I Divorce Support

When couples come to me saying that "we're only together for the children" I can't help but feel concerned for their future happiness and marriage and like to suggest an alternative plan. You see when couples think, say and believe that there is nothing else but their children holding them together, they destroy their connection. As it implies they have willingly agreed to a life of misery, accepting something they wish they could avoid. If you have begun to associate your spouse and the marriage, with being negative, unhappy and trapped, unfortunately that is what you are likely to experience and this will typically grow worse over time not get better unless you change something... In this episode you will learn what to do if you only believe your together for the children. From my heart to yours Nicola Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach www.purepeacecoaching.com

When will I stop feeling guilty? Is a question that comes up frequently in my private online sessions. Typically it's where after much deliberation and consideration someone has decided to leave their marriage and cannot shake off the breakup and divorce guilt. Some worry about how their ex has taken the news, others are consumed with fears about the impact it will have on their children. Then there are those who feel guilty for causing pain, shame and disrespect to their parents and extended family. Often they will say to me: "I know I've done the right thing, it would be far worse for all concerned if I stayed for guilt alone... BUT When will I stop feeling guilty?" Here my reply and the 7 truths you need to know about Guilt to free yourself.

During relationship challenges and divorce it is common to either overeat or not eat and neither aids recovery. To change your life "All It Takes Is Good Habits" - I borrowed this line from Carol Holditch founder of Good Habits UAE, it’s the slogan for her business which has helped hundreds of men and women change their eating and lifestyle habits. Her philosophy is that switching to good habits should be easy, fun and for life. Curious about how she does that, I jumped at the opportunity to interview her and find out more... Listen to the exclusive interview in this episode. P.S Carole knows the struggles of dealing with weight management she lost 42 lbs 25years ago and has maintained that weigh loss. Which is why I wanted us to have access to her wisdom and tips. As to create a new beginning it takes a tremendous amount of energy and energy comes from our food. For more free resources visit www.purepeacecoaching.com

This episode is for single men and women, looking for love. Want to know why so many people struggle with finding incredible relationships? No… it’s not because there aren’t any good women or men left out there, or because they are in the wrong city, profession, or wrong time in their life. And it’s definitely not because the kind of love and relationship they want doesn’t exist. The 3 main reasons people struggle will be explained in this episode...as well as some tips to help you set yourself up to win when it comes to finding love. to read this article visit my blog www.purepeacecoaching.com/blog

What is Your Reason for Being Together? Do you have a Purpose for sharing a Life with one Another? Gottman in his book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" that has sold over a million copies worldwide, states that in order to have a successful marriage we must create a shared meaning. I have found this extremely useful in bringing couples closer together and want to share this principle with you. Even if you are not in a relationship right now you may find it useful, as it helps to be clear on your values, vision, expectations, when considering potential partners. The more aware you are of what matters most to you, the more likely you will be able to attract the right match and quickly filter out those that won't make you happy long-term. For more resources check out www.purepeacecoaching.com Nicola Beer International Relationship Coach

Of all the challenges, change and stress divorce brings, long distance parenting is one of the most painful and difficult to face. And yet, it is a very real experience for countless numbers of divorced families. In this episode I will explore common reasons for long-distance parenting, the changes long-distance children experience and offer 12 tips for successful long -distance parenting. Whilst this is written for those separated and divorced, many expats living apart from their children have found the tips useful. To protect children further get your copy of my free e-books available at www.purepeacecoaching.com

When it comes to teenagers and divorce, many parents can find difficult to know whether teenagers need space or support. In this episode I cover the 3 warning signs to look out for, so you can decide if extra care or additional help is needed. If you like this, you may also like my free e-book Protect Children Through Divorce http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/help-childrenwithdivorce/

What Do Men Need from Relationships? Well certainly the worst advice you can ever receive when it comes to meeting a man's needs is "treat them mean, keep them keen!" According to Dr Harley's research many of us fall in love with our partners partly because of the compliments they give us. Some of us just love to be told we are appreciated. attractive and admired for being a good worker, lover, parent etc. More men than women in his research had admiration as one of their top 5 needs. Listen to the other top 5 needs for men in this episode... From my heart to yours, Nicola P.S If you liked this you might like my FREE E-BOOKS 7 Secrets To Save Your Marriage - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/services-4/marriagecounseling/ 7 Steps to Create a New Life After Breakup & Divorce - http://www.purepeacecoaching.com/manifesting-a-new-life/

So when does drinking become a problem in a marriage? Is it when the drinker recognizes they have a dependency? Is it when the non-drinker says they have a problem? Is it when the drinking is interfering with the relationship? Alcohol consumption in my coaching has been linked to an increase in angry outbursts, arguments and aggression. It also blamed or used as an excuse for infidelity and being out of control. Others mention how drinking has caused; their sex life to dwindle, a lack of interest in family activities and depression. Is drinking yours or your spouses drinking interfering with your relationship? Or is someone close to you going through this? You may find this episode useful. For more free e-books www.purepeacecoaching.com 7 Secrets to Saving your Marriage 10 steps to Creating a New Life after Divorce Protect Children through Divorce

I don’t believe “Constructive Criticism” works in close relationships, especially between husband and wife. Criticism kill passion, love and closeness Just the same way Self-Criticism diminishes self-esteem, confidence and overall happiness. Even in business surveys and statistical data show that frequent Criticism is responsible for millions of employee sick days, job dissatisfaction and resignations. Which in turn contributes to a decrease in productivity and profits. Ongoing Criticism between parents and children can lead to built up resentment, rebellion, rows, and long-term fall out. Having seen the damaging affect frequent criticism has in a relationship and to a person, where an individual loses their sense of who they are and happiness. I wanted to share some insights and new ways of expressing complaints. Nicola Beer - International Relationship Coach - For your copy of a free e-book 7 Secrets to Save Your Marriage and Post Break Up Support visit www.purepeacecoaching.com