Exploring how we heal and thrive beyond codependency, neglect, and narcissistic abuse.
Why You Chase Love...In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, uncovers the core reason you chase love, tolerate better-than-nothing relationships, and the core self-concept that needs to be shifted for this pattern to stop and your new pattern of loving, available relationships to start.Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work of healing it, this episode will help you stay within your integrity, prevent sabotage of your relationships, and, instead, strengthen these relationships so you both thrive.Marshall's here to help you rewire your mind and body for healthy, satisfying relationships, purpose,, and prosperity.We heal together. We thrive together.Discover more trainings on healing your codependency: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJla54jZTXg&list=PLWKm1n-ulwozJNUsli8jIstwUxPLSal4_***Choose the Pattern, Not The Promise Course Starts May 11, 2025Heal the root cause of your pattern of chasing love and start enjoying deep confidence, worth, and available relationships. Learn more and sign up here: https://cpnp.freetheself.com***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.com***THE CODEPENDENCY TRANSFORMATION SUITE: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://suite.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.comKEYWORDS:codependency, limerence, love addiction, anxious attachment, toxic relationships, relationships, healing, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, healing codependency, codependency no more, codependent relationships, insecurity, people-pleasing, perfectionism, boundaries, capacity, nervous system regulation, overwhelm, disappointing others#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #insecurity #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove
Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It)In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals the core reason you struggle to keep and maintain your boundaries, and what you need to practice to make boundaries feel safer, easier, and empowering for you.Whether you're new to codependency or have being in the work of healing it, this episode will help you stay within your integrity, prevent sabotage of your relationships, and, instead, strengthen these relationships so you both thrive.Marshall's here to help you rewire your mind and body for healthy, satisfying relationships, purpose,, and prosperity.We heal together. We thrive together.Discover more trainings on healing your codependency: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJla54jZTXg&list=PLWKm1n-ulwozJNUsli8jIstwUxPLSal4_***"Keep and Protect Your Healing" Masterclass: Learn how to detect the 5 sabotaging habits that jeopardize your hard-earned healing and progress and what to do to instantly shift out of those habits in my live masterclass happening March 30th, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time. Learn more and sign up here: https://masterclass.freetheself.com***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.com***THE CODEPENDENCY TRANSFORMATION SUITE: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://suite.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.comKEYWORDS:codependency, toxic relationships, relationships, healing, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, healing codependency, codependency no more, codependent relationships, insecurity, people-pleasing, perfectionism, boundaries, capacity, nervous system regulation, overwhelm, disappointing others#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #insecurity #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove
How To Heal Insecurity Correctly****In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the true cause of insecurity, anxiety, and feeling unworthy and unlovable and how to begin feeling actually worthy, secure, and confident within yourself. Whether you're facing anxiety, burn-out, frustration, emotional emptiness, feeling lost to yourself, this episode will help you begin to reverse this and start experiencing a sense of power, connection, and direction in your life.Healing codependency is the work of becoming one's Self-authority. Marshall's work makes you the master of your self-authority by taking you through the 3-phase Self-Authority Journey: Exiting Survival, Healing & Growing Into Your True Self, Mastering Your Reality.We heal together. We thrive together.Discover more trainings on healing your codependency: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJla54jZTXg&list=PLWKm1n-ulwozJNUsli8jIstwUxPLSal4_***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.comLive classes start March 2nd, 2025.***THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://system.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #insecurity #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove
It Isn't About Healing CodependencyIn this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, invites you to explore what healing codependency really is about - your life beyond survival. He shares what he sees is possible for you and how he helps you achieve this, starting with FOUNDATION. We heal together. We thrive together.***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.comLive classes start March 2nd, 2025.***THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to create success and fulfillment in their relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://system.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove #selfauthority #authority #power #selfworth #attachment #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dianepooleheller #disoragnizedattachment #fearfulavoidant
Take Back The Authority Over Your WorthIn this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, shares how essential it is to restore your worth by taking authority over it. Your self-authority is *why* you get to define who you are, establish your worth without seeking permission, and become the person you choose to be. It is what replaces codependency.Use this episode's guidance to heal codependency, restore worth, and build a satisfying life.We heal together. We thrive together.***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.comLive classes start March 2nd, 2025.***THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://system.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove #selfauthority #authority #power #selfworth #attachment #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dianepooleheller #disoragnizedattachment #fearfulavoidant
What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, reveals how attachment orientations, like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment, are part of the codependent strategy of survival and how it is necessary to build capacity in the nervous system so your attachment system becomes nimble and responsive.Use this episode's guidance to help reduce anxiety, loneliness, and pain and increase your worth, belonging, and sense of safety in your daily life.We heal together. We thrive together.Diane Poole Heller's attachment assessment: https://traumasolutions.com/attachment-styles-quiz/***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.comLive classes start March 2nd, 2025.***THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://system.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove #selfauthority #authority #power #selfworth #attachment #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #dianepooleheller #disoragnizedattachment #fearfulavoidant
Why You Fixate On Other People's ApprovalIn this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals a hidden necessity to healing your codependency and experiencing sustainable, fulfilling freedom and prosperity beyond it. Without grasping and embodying this quality, you will continue to seek permission from others to be, do, and have what you desire in your life.Your sense of self, power, and belonging will be defined by the expectations of others, leaving you lost, empty, and frustrated.Learn today the importance of self-authority and how to begin implementing this natural right into your daily life.Healing codependency is the work of becoming one's Self-authority. Marshall's work makes you the master of your self-authority by taking you through the 3-phase Self-Authority Mastery Journey: Exiting Survival, Healing & Growing Into Your True Self, Mastering Your Reality.We heal together. We thrive together.***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Discover the cause and cure of codependency in my free 30 minute training, "The Cause & Cure of Codependency". Get the clarity and direction necessary to successfully thrive beyond your codependency:https://ccc.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or less by mastering your emotional safety, belonging, and independent self-worth:https://foundation.freetheself.comLive classes start March 2nd, 2025.***THE SELF-AUTHORITY MASTERY SYSTEM: Exclusively for the individual that seeks to master their self-authority in relationships, purpose & prosperity:https://system.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove #selfauthority #authority #power #selfworth
How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself****In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the habit that leads us to emotional burn-out, emptiness, and resentment, and teaches you the first essential skill to take back your power, your freedom, and well-being from codependency.Whether you're facing anxiety, burn-out, frustration, emotional emptiness, feeling lost to yourself, this episode will help you begin to reverse this and start experiencing a sense of power, connection, and direction in your life.Healing codependency is the work of becoming one's Self-authority. Marshall's work makes you the master of your self-authority by taking you through the 3-phase Self-Authority Journey: Exiting Survival, Healing & Growing Into Your True Self, Mastering Your Reality.We heal together. We thrive together.***Take my free "Are You Codependent?" Quiz here:https://ayc.freetheself.com***Join the Codependency-To-Creator work here and get the first two essential practices for setting you free: https://clarity.freetheself.com***Liberate yourself from codependency in 15 weeks or lesshttps://foundation.freetheself.comNext live classes start March 2nd, 2025.***Get the entire journey from codependency to creator with the Codependency-to-Creator Suite:https://suite.freetheself.com***Listen to The Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Podcasthttps://podcast.freetheself.com***Follow Marshall here:https://links.freetheself.com#marshallburtcher #breakthroughlifecoach #selfhelp #codependency #codependent #codependencyrecovery #emotionaldetachment #overcomingcodependency #lettinggooftoxicrelationships #bringyouremotionsbacktothebody #mentalhealth #mindfulness #lawofattraction #healingtrauma #traumarecovery #stressmanagement #depression #emotionalhealing #personalgrowth #lifecoach #adultchildrenofalcoholics #anxiety #therapyinanutshell #emotions #tealswan #aarondoughty #detachmentinrelationships #selflove #mindsetshift #healingjourney #selflove
Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, and structure.There are powerful, dangerous misconceptions about codependency that are sabotaging your healing and preventing you from succeeding and healing as fast as you deserve to have. Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, and structure. Today Today, I explore misconception one: Codependency is part of who you are.Learn the truth about codependency and who you are by listening in today.***FOUNDATION starts March 2nd, 2025. End codependency by mastering emotional safety, belonging, and real self-worth through this 15-class live training. This for ALL codependents that are seeking to finally stop being codependent and feel safe enough to stand up for themselves, choose themselves, trust themselves, and love themselves.We start March 2nd, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://foundation.freetheself.com***The Freedom From Codependency SuiteThis is exclusively for the recovering codependent, people-pleaser, or perfectionist that is hungry to create and enjoy satisfaction, success, and peace in…… their relationships… their money and finances… their life purposes… their dreams… their friendships… daily lifeAnd they want the hands-on, live mentorship, guidance, and support to help them achieve this, keep this, and enjoy this.Learn how to become a member here: https://suite.freetheself.com***Start enjoying more peace, freedom, and relief by joining my community here: https://join.freetheself.com
How To Stop People-pleasing: Taking Back Your WorthOne of the key entanglements that drives the people-pleasing impulse has to do with your worth. We are taught a transactional model of worth, meaning we earn it by doing xyz. In people-pleasing, what our worth is dependent on is approval and the avoidance of rejection.This creates massive anxiety, hypervigilance, and insecurity in our sense of self.Shifting this orientation and taking back your worth is CENTRAL to ending people-pleasing.Learn about this shift in today's episode!***People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And PeaceThis 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.Investment: $197Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com***
How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?People-pleasing drives us to over-prioritize and emphasize people's negative feelings towards us and towards other things. This can motivate us to try to fix their feelings, which blinds us to important realities about what is happening, including:1) Incompatibilities between you and that person2) Boundary violations that you've done or they've done3) Ignoring of your intuition and sense of the situation4) Knowing what is real and valid for you in a situationWe end up with damaged senses of self, anxiety, and feeling insecure when we over-prioritize other people's feelings.Yet, properly caring for the emotional impact someone has is essential to clarity and to building secure attachment.So what is the balance we need to walk here?Learn the secret in today's episode! ***People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And PeaceThis 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.Investment: $197Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com***
Are You Blended Up In Them?Codependency and people-pleasing require a high level of vigilance and emotional enmeshment with others in order to feel some sense of safety.This happens because the nervous system and attachment system discovered that regulating others feels safer than living with the chaos created by the toxic relationship's uncertainty. It found that if it can attune and soothe or please the other, the chaos lessens and they even get some breadcrumbs of affirmation, love, belonging, and comfort at times.This is how we become blended up with other people's emotions and take on responsibility for soothing and managing them through pleasing them, avoiding conflict, being "nice", and accommodating their toxic patterns.Anxiety, shame, low self-trust, and depression are the result of this, as your needs are not being seen, heard, or valued to any worthwhile degree.But there is a way out into freedom, peace, and trust.It starts with one of 3 essential transformations the people-pleaser must make.The first is Emotional Sovereignty.Discover this transformation in today's episode.***People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And PeaceThis 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.Investment: $197Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com
The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing...I have done a lot of DIY healing. Some of it was all I had available to me due to finances. Much of it was due to a deep wound in my identity that said, "be needless. do it yourself" and "when they know you this way, they'll abandon you."Being raised to regulate other people's feelings with the promise that they'll take care of me and then being betrayed and abandoned when I was in need created this.Many "needless" codependents have this same struggle.If this is you, I see you and hold great warmth and understanding.And there are 3 things you need to "chew on" if you're in this place and considering bringing on help (mine or others):1) DIY cannot show you the blind spots you have. You need an independent set of eyes to help you see what you're unconscious to in your behaviors, beliefs, and patterns.You *will* repeat your patterns if the blind spots are not made conscious and shifted.You deserve a mentor, a course with community support, or therapist that see you warmly, kindly, and honestly.2) DIY will cost you more in time, emotion, health, and money in the long run. It's cost me over 100K along with many sleepless, stressed nights and days.You deserve to rest, to have returns on your time, energy, and money that bring more to your life.If the money isn't there, I recommend sticking to specific people's youtube, podcast, email, etc that you trust. Do what they recommend. Practice and stay CONSISTENT. Jumping around will interfere more than it will help.3) DIY feeds into the narrative that you don't need others. You do. You know you do.You deserve community, belonging, and supportive reflection.It is time to end the Do-it-Yourself Healing fantasy. We need you. You need us. We heal together. We thrive together.***People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And PeaceThis 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.Investment: $197Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com***Connect with me here: https://links.freetheself.com
Changing our minds is an essential part of being our personal, sovereign authority.And I have changed my mind and made a change.FOUNDATION is rescheduled for later this Spring so I can follow what the energy I feel is directing:People-pleasing Transformed - 6 Weeks To Radical Self-Trust And PeaceThis 6-week journey guides you through unblending from your people-pleasing identity, embodying your Confidence Identity, and have the capacity to tolerate and soothe the discomfort that moves you to override your boundaries, ignore your needs, and tolerate things that hurt or drain you.We start January 26, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time.Investment: $197Click here for more details and to join: https://ppt.freetheself.com***We Heal Together. We Thrive Together.Join the Heal Your Codependency Community and receive Marshall's guidance, tools, and community support in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction. Click here: https://join.freetheself.com
What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?We have motivators that drive what we do.The motivators that drive codependency are very, very different from those that drive our well-being.In this episode, I discuss these two types of purpose and how to detect and shift them so you're coming from alignment with your power rather than the reactive nature of codependency, resulting in more outcomes you want.***CORRECTION: Class starts SUNDAY JANUARY 19th, 2025.FOUNDATION starts January 19th, 2025. Enjoy greater emotional safety, belonging, and real self-worth through this 15-class live training. This for ALL codependents that are seeking to finally stop being codependent and feel safe enough to stand up for themselves, choose themselves, trust themselves, and love themselves.We start January 19, 2025 at 3pm Mountain Time. Register here: https://foundation.freetheself.com***THE EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM IS ABOUT TO GO AWAY FOREVERHave you ever wanted to have access to everything a coach, leader, or mentor offers?Have you wanted to feel the security of knowing when they release their next course, training, or group program, you don't have to come up with the money to attend it?Instead, you get an email saying, “Your membership to the Everything Forever Program has secured your spot in this course! Click here to register so we know you're coming!”That's what the Everything Forever Program is.And it goes away forever January 1st, 2025.Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com***START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com
2025 brings you and I into a pivot in the work. I will be focusing on leading you to the results that matter to you. This all starts with understanding IDENTITY. And through a 4-step process, you get the results you seek faster and easier than you've thought was possible.I'm calling it, "ACCELERATE". My "Leap The Gap" Training happening December 18th will show you what this is, how it works, and why it will transform your healing work into satisfaction, success, peace, or even surprise for you quickly. Register here: https://leap.freetheself.com***Black Friday Deals: Get notified by going here: https://www.freetheself.com***Jumpstart your healing with CLARITY, my 4-day email course here: https://clarity.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and his healing work here: https://links.freetheself.com***
When you've gone through trauma, the brain tends to amplify it's negative bias, creating negative anticipation towards uncertain things.We find ourselves planning for the worst, as it gives us a sense of power and comfort. It makes sense. The negative thing has happened to us in the past and we want to be prepared.This must be balanced with positive anticipation, especially when facing the mundane uncertainties life brings us.Learn a gentle, two-step practice to start experiencing more peace, confidence, and power in facing uncertainty in today's episode!***Jumpstart your healing with CLARITY, my 4-day email course here: https://clarity.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and his healing work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com***TRANSFORMATION Membership: Wondering what's next after all the healing work you've done? I have the answer: Having what you want. Master your innate power to craft and enjoy experiences you want in your life. Learn more here: https://transformation.freetheself.com***PRIVATE MENTORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES:8-week Alignment Accelerator: Stop trying and start having what you desire. Learn more here: https://www.experiencecrafting.com12-Month 4-QUADRANT Alignment Mentorship: Align and get the results you want in relationship, purpose, prosperity through discovering and mastering your Aligned Identity. Only 5 seats per year are available. Learn more here: https://www.experiencecrafting.com
It will be essential, at some point, to admit to and embrace the authority and power you rightly, naturally possess to direct and govern your life.You cannot exit codependency without this vital step, as it will keep you tethered to the power of other people's approval, rejection, disappointment, and agreement.The anxiety of making your own choice, following your own path, even trusting yourself to choose what's best for you on a daily basis comes from tethering our personal authority and power to the approval and perspectives of others.You don't trust yourself because someone else is being put in the position of authority by your mind.Let's break this spell and put you back in charge of your adult life with today's episode! *** START HEALING BY JOINING MY HEAL FOR REAL WORKSHOPSJoin my monthly Heal For Real workshops where we explore a specific element of healing codependency and put into practice a solution for that element. Click here to learn this month's topic and enroll: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and his healing work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
How a therapist, coach, mentor, support community, or even yourself view codependency and codependents directly influences the outcomes, results, and transformation you experience (or don't) in that relationship.This is why it is crucial you're aware of how prospective mentors, therapists, coaches, and so forth view and understand you and the topic you're working with. Today, I share how I view codependency and codependents. This will help you make a more informed decision about if and when to join my work and allow me to lead you from codependency to your real worth, innate purpose, and satisfaction in your life. Listen in and let me know your thoughts in the comments!*** START HEALING BY JOINING MY HEAL FOR REAL WORKSHOPSJoin my monthly Heal For Real workshops where we explore a specific element of healing codependency and put into practice a solution for that element. Click here to learn this month's topic and enroll: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and his healing work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
The Importance of Gains:What is a gain? It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make. An example: I gained my peace of mind by not going back to the dysfunctional person.Why does this matter? Gains are the benefits we receive with a positive, healthy change. If we let ourselves recognize and magnify the gain, it helps our body adapt and adjust quickly to the new state of affairs rather than linger in the yearning, seeking, or rumination on the positives of the other situation.Gains can be determined by identifying:1) What you gained with the choice2) What you avoided with the choiceYou can amplify them by:1) Adding significance to the gain. "Wow, I really did avoid more pain there. That's really, really important to me and my well-being."2) Adding praise to yourself: "Wow, I really did avoid more pain there. I am so proud of myself for doing that for me."3) Allowing them to take up more emotional space in your body and experience than you normally would. Allow them to be biggerThe key to gains working for you is believing their inherent importance and worth and letting yourself FEEL them.*** START HEALING BY JOINING MY MONTHLY WORKSHOPSJoin my monthly workshops where we explore a specific element of healing codependency and put into practice a solution for that element. Click here to learn this month's topic and enroll: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and his healing work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
Pain vs Your StoryTransformation of a person's pain-filled life to a joy-filled life is the journey of healing and becoming who you truly be. It has three Phases: Survival, Healing, and Creation And in each of these, there is a work we do around identity and one's pain.In the Survival Phase, the pain and the identity are the same. "I am angry!" "I am shameful!" "I am unworthy!" "I am invisible!" This creates the never-ending loop of painful outcomes that drive many of us to seek relief from these things through healing work.Learn the gentle process I use and I take my students through to help end this painful pattern and find real peace and healing in today's episode!*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-DAY CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and The Healing Work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
Burden of CauseWhat is the "burden of cause"? It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they treated you. When we are enmeshed this way, we will internalize people's behaviors as a reflection of some internal flaw or problem that we then must change. This leads us to believe that the other person will change, too, creating a potent fantasy that leaves us hurting, helpless, and confused.Listen in this episode to learn how to detect if you're taking on this burden and how to shed it completely.*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-DAY CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Connect with Marshall and The Healing Work here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish.It is about understanding what matters personally to you while setting aside other people's opinions and perspectives of what you should be centering in your life.They are not the authority, and they do not live with the outcome like you do.You are the authority. You inherent the outcome and consequence of your actions. Thus, you must center yourself if your life is to yield well-being, peace, satisfaction, or whatever else you desire to experience and feel.Centering yourself means asking, "does this option take me where I want to go?"It means saying no deliberately to things that don't take you towards the purpose you have chosen for yourself, even when it means ending commitments, disappointing people, or doing things others may not understand.It means saying yes deliberately to things that do take you towards that purpose, even if it is scary, new, unknown, or you may initially fail. Centering yourself in your life is how you start experiencing what you want as something you have.Learn how to do this in today's episode!*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comTHE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com
Knowledge overwhelm is a primary factor in experiencing freeze, procrastination, and loops of stagnation when you're trying to heal from trauma and instability.The mind's ravenous appetite for knowledge is driven by a fantasy that "if I'd only known better, I could have done better". There's a deep assumption that we're lacking something specific and when we find that specific thing, we will HEAL! What makes this so compelling is that it isn't necessarily wrong. But it is also not useful when you're bombarding yourself with 567869 view points, much less never really internalizing the knowledge into experience (which is where change actually occurs). I know this well. I've done in my own healing, as well as with business, marketing, relationships, book writing, computers, IT work...This is why I have 224+ books on healing and relationships. This is why I spent 10s of thousands on various trainings and memberships. Always seeking the "missing piece that makes it all work."Is this sounding familiar? Learn how to get out of this trap and start actually succeeding in your healing in today's episode!*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comTHE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com
Going Slow - It Is A MustTo heal, we must sloooooow down.To know ourselves, we must sloooooow down.To find direction in our lives, we must slooooooow down.Codependency, trauma, and the culture of "productivity" demands you speed up.You get it done now.Faster! Faster! FASTER! Healing, thriving, having a sense of self, liking yourself, loving yourself, loving others, feeling satisfaction - these all come from first slooooowing down. Slowing down helps us hear our own voice. It helps us step out of the patterns of reaction that re-create the pain we're trying to escape. Slowing down helps us build real safety, real connection, and know ourselves better. Slowing down helps us hear, helps us respond, and helps us heal.Learn how to gently let yourself slow down - just a bit - to accelerate your healing.*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comTHE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com
Being neglected, being abused, being shoved into the world without guidance, care, shelter, or protection wired our attachment systems to be on high alert and braced for danger.Depending on what feels safest, your attachment system may try to control external things, resulting in anxious attachment.Or it may choose to avoid the threat all together and be needless and "independent", creating avoidant attachment.Or, if you're like me, you might experience high levels of anxiety about approaching what you need and strong desires to run away and avoid it, causing you to freeze, and likely fawn.This is because we did not have the essential protection to explore the world, ourselves, and learn how to relate and care and advocate for ourselves.This changes today. Learn in today's episode how to start becoming the protector of the parts within you that need that, and your next step in cultivating real, actual safety in your life.*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comTHE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com
Emotional Perfectionism, Part One: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real thingsI define emotional perfectionism as the rigid habit of feeling what one "should feel" in order to satisfy the real or perceived expectations of others.It is a sub-type of General Perfectionism, where behaviors and expressions are tailored to meet external expectations. This is a codependency behavior designed to help procure safety, belonging, and worth.Emotional perfectionism shows up as:- Ignoring what you actually feel and forcing yourself to feel differently about something - Saying you feel one way, but you actually feel differently- Showing up a particular way so others won't be upset or bothered in some way- Shutting down your feelings and putting on a "happy face"- Trying to heal your emotions so you feel the "right way"What is actually needed:- Meeting ourselves as we are- Understanding and seeing our emotional experiences as how we feel about the thing/circumstance/experience- Believing that what we feel isn't wrong and doesn't really need changing. It needs to be known and valued as it is- Sharing what we feel in clear, kind, direct ways with people that receive it with warmth- Letting ourselves breathe emotionallyA tool: ALI Practice: https://ali.freetheself.com*** START HEALING WITH MY 4-day CLARITY COURSEDiscover what codependency really is and get the two essential practices to help start healing the true cause of codependency in my 4-day email course, CLARITY. Start now for free: https://join.freetheself.com***Learn more about my work and upcoming courses and trainings here: https://links.freetheself.com***Course Links:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comTHE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com
Creation Phase is where you arrive with the ability to determine what kind of experiences you want to have, and then using your personal power, intuition, and skills, go out and receive those experiences.This all depends on knowing what you *actually* want, not what you think you want (which is often a product of trauma controling things rather than a genuine alignment within ourselves).This phase is all about understanding, creating, and following the alignments that lead you to outcomes are what you want.Learn how I make that happen in todays episode!*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE COMMUNITYAre you seeking guidance in navigating your journey through the three phases of thriving beyond codependency (survival, healing, and creation)? Join below to start today.Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com***TRANSFORMATION: Get what you want through alignment with your real identity, power, and purposes in your life. Learn how do this in TRANSFORMATION. Enrollment opens up throughout the year. Get details here: https://transformation.freetheself.com*** UPCOMING ENROLLMENTS FOR JUNE 2024FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.FOUNDATION guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Enrollment is open for the June 30, 2024 Live class start. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
The Healing Phase is the deep work of unbecoming your codependency and discovering who you are beyond your pain, trauma, and survival self. This is where we develop the necessary skills, experience and expertise we didn't get growing up, along with amplifying our safety, our belonging, and deeply embodying our self-worth.Learn how I work with this phase and how you can start to in your life in today's episode.The Tool: https://sir.freetheself.com*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE COMMUNITYAre you seeking guidance in navigating your journey through the three phases of thriving beyond codependency (survival, healing, and creation)? Join below to start today.Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com***The Codependency Healing System: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary expereince to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in. The Codependency Healing System delivers this.Only 100 students are admitted annually.Enrollment opens July and February each year. Get details here: https://chs.freetheself.com*** UPCOMING ENROLLMENTS FOR JUNE 2024FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.FOUNDATION guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Enrollment is open for the June 30, 2024 Live class start. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.com
Survival is the phase we all start in. It is the phase where we realize our codependency and begin the big work of healing that codependency and become who we actually are.This phase is noted by the presents of:- Anxiety- Shame- Freeze and fawn impulses in the body- Feeling depressed, collapsed, powerless - People-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict to keep the peace, and moreLearn what I do with this phase and how to exit it in today's episode!The Tool: https://drp.freetheself.com*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE COMMUNITYAre you seeking guidance in navigating your journey through the three phases of thriving beyond codependency (survival, healing, and creation)? Join below to start today.Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com***FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.FOUNDATION guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Get details and your start your evolution here: https://foundation.freetheself.com*** UPCOMING ENROLLMENTS FOR JUNE 2024FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.FOUNDATION guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Enrollment is open for the June 30, 2024 Live class start. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Quitting - It is necessary in the healing journey.Quitting relationships.Quitting fixing.Quitting chasing fantasy outcomes.Quitting.It makes space for new, healthy outcomes to come into your life.It makes it possible for you to face the pain that needs the loving care of your attention and loving care of community so it can heal.Quitting.That is what we explore in this week's episode.*** START YOUR WORK BY JOINING THE COMMUNITYAre you seeking guidance in navigating your journey through the three phases of thriving beyond codependency (survival, healing, and creation)? Join below to start today.Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency. You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.FOUNDATION guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks. If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here. Enrollment is open for the June 30, 2024 Live class start. Get details and your seat here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Episode: Why you only love yourself when things are going wellWhen we live from a love equation that says "I'm only lovable when...", we are being controlled and manipulated. This leads us to invest precious time, energy, and attention on satisfying these conditions and then *maintaining* them.No wonder we burn out!Learn what do about this in today's episode:*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:WORKSHOP: Actually Love Yourself Workshop. Learn what is preventing you from really loving yourself, learn what to do that quickly gets you the *experience* and feeling of loving yourself, and practice this live with Marshall. This happens May 25, 2024 at 10am-2pm Mountain Time. Unlimited access to the replay is included. Investment: $49.00. Join here: https://aly.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-LoveReally, actually loving yourself is a profound challenge when we come from codependency and love-is-earned relationship and family systems. We are striving to earn the love, earn the permission, become worthy, and demostrate that we deserve it.To break out of this prison, you need to understand the two hidden factors that keep you chasing love.We explore these factors in today's episode!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:WORKSHOP: Actually Love Yourself Workshop. Learn what is preventing you from really loving yourself, learn what to do that quickly gets you the *experience* and feeling of loving yourself, and practice this live with Marshall. This happens May 25, 2024 at 10am-2pm Mountain Time. Unlimited access to the replay is included. Investment: $49.00. Join here: https://aly.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Episode: The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourselfTransaction, earned love teaches us that we must - MUST - seek, chase, and perform for love.This means we have to be "just right" in the eyes of the other or we won't get love.This means that when there are challenges, problems, hiccups, mistakes, love is in jeopardy.This means we start LIVING like we're always just on the edge of losing love.And that results in:- Anxiety about what others feel and think about us- anxious attachment orientation in our relationships- Control, perfectionism, and people-pleasing- Shame when we fail- Pressure to succeed and appear a certain way- Loss of real love opportunities, not being known, friendship failures- Depression, panic, exhaustionAnd all of this is caused by one thing: SIGNIFICANCELearn how to work with this in today's episode!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:WORKSHOP: Actually Love Yourself Workshop. Learn what is preventing you from really loving yourself, learn what to do that quickly gets you the *experience* and feeling of loving yourself, and practice this live with Marshall. This happens May 25, 2024 at 10am-2pm Mountain Time. Unlimited access to the replay is included. Investment: $49.00. Join here: https://aly.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love YourselfWhen you're rewarded with praise, attention, or affection for doing something, your body will see performance and love as the same thing.When you're presence is met with warmth, praise, attention, or affection on a consistent basis, your body will see your existence and love as the same thing. You deserve to know the second form of love.Learn what is really going on and your first step in really, actually loving yourself in today's episode:*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:WORKSHOP: Actually Love Yourself Workshop. Learn what is preventing you from really loving yourself, learn what to do that quickly gets you the *experience* and feeling of loving yourself, and practice this live with Marshall. This happens May 25, 2024 at 10am-2pm Mountain Time. Unlimited access to the replay is included. Investment: $49.00. Join here: https://aly.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com
Codependency And Shame - What's Really HappeningYou cannot become free of your codependency until you break free of what I call "Your Root Identity".Codependency depends on a root identity.What is a root identity? It is an identity that you FEEL and experience as utterly true about yourself.You filter the world through this identity and it controls how you live your life.Learn what this root identity is and what do to about it so you are free from it.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're CodependentDo you often feel: - Empty, frustrated, or used? - Wonder why your life is not fulfilling or satisfied? - Feel lost as to what you want, value, or even need in your life?Codependency has us prioritizing others emotionally, physically, mentally, and even financially or intimately. This happens through acts of people-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding conflict, and even trying to fix their problems for them.We are confusing someone else's world as our own, creating disconnection, depletion, and frustration in our experience.Your satisfaction, fulfillment, peace, or contentment depends on alignment - alignment with people, places, things, and purposes that naturally contribute to and nourish you. This kind of alignment requires that you choose yourself - repeatedly. Choosing yourself means you are prioritizing things that matter to you over that of other people's demands, approvals, disagreements, and expectations.This is where you start feeling more fulfillment, clarity, trust in yourself, and you start to experience life in *your* way.***Get more tools, trainings, and access to opportunities to work with Marshall by joining The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://join.freetheself.comLIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.comFrustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of LoveThe term and concept called "blocks" is prevalent in the self-help and healing world. It is something that sabotaged my healing, satisfaction, and personal alignment with my purposes and joy, as I was drawn to try to fix, eliminate, and overcome these "blocks".This wasted over a decade of energy, time, and money in my life, leaving me highly discouraged and feeling broken.Then I learned what was really happening and began thriving.I share this discovery and how to implement it into your life right now so you aren't wasting time, energy, money, and life trying to get past your "blocks" in today's episode.Listen or watch below!*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start the work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To ThriveCodependency has us blending ourselves with others.What is blending?It is confusing one's self with another's reality. An example: You know their feelings and mistake their feelings for your feelings.This is a common form of being enmeshed with another.In today's episode, I show you three critical things to unblend from others so you experience more peace, confidence, power, and healing in your daily life. This is the path to becoming free of your codependency.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Start your work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And ThriveAbuse and neglect conditioned you to naturally distrust yourself. You learned to discount the legitimacy of your lived experiences, the importance and value of your emotions, to seek your worth through pleasing others and being "good", and so much more.To heal, your distrust must be healed into trust.I share the 3 essential things you must begin trusting again if you're to align and thrive in your well-being, peace, and satisfaction.*** START YOUR WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Join my work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And HealingAdapting to new results because you're choosing different people who behave differently is challenging. It is also one of the more risky parts of our journey, as we may turn to old behaviors to generate a sense of safety or comfort because it is familiar. I share the gentle approach I teach my students that helps them successfully adapt to new experiences and increases one's sense of safety as they grow in today's episode!*** JOIN MY WORKLooking for more guidance, tools, support, in your healing, alignment, and satisfaction?Join my work here: https://join.freetheself.com** CURRENT ENROLLMENTS:LIVE CLASS NOTICE: The Next FOUNDATION Live Series starts April 21st, 2024! 50 Person Limit! End codependency by creating emotional safety, aligning with real self-worth, and building warm belonging. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe EVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM is OPEN! 30 seats are available this year! Get every course I've created, am creating, and will create for a one-time investment. This is ideal for those of you that want to work with me long term. Learn more here: https://forever.freetheself.com** CURRENT WORKSHOP:Frustrated with a lack of results from therapy or self-help? Join my free trainings, The 3 Simple Shifts That Unlock Real Healing, Peace, And Freedom Where Therapy & Self-help Have Failed Workshop and break through today: https://workshop.freetheself.com
What secrets does your emptiness hold?Emptiness is often something we fear and can be really intense to confront if we're not sure why we're turning towards our emptiness.But what if emptiness wasn't something wrong? What if it could add deeply to your healing? What if your emptiness holds the key to more fulfillment and connection?Learn how to work with your emptiness and discover the secrets it has for you in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comEVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM: Get every course I offer and all future courses and never pay another dime. Learn more here: https://efp.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?Needs are somatic - meaning they are experienced in the body, and their fulfillment is found in the body.This makes our needs interdependent experiences - both with you to yourself, you to others, and others to you.A need being fulfilled or nurtured means your body is having experiences that fulfill the desire that need has.Example: I want warm affection. I then reach out to a person who has warm affection for me, and we do things that are warm for me - like a movie, deep talk, making each other laugh. These are fulfilling that need.So, how do you know you have a need?You feel a hunger or yearning for something. It can be very loud or very quiet, usually growing in intensity the longer it goes without nourishment.Learn how needs are recongized and fulfilled in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comEVERYTHING FOREVER PROGRAM: Get every course I offer and all future courses and never pay another dime. Learn more here: https://efp.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
The 3 Sides Of Fulfilling ConnectionFeeling connection and a sense of belonging invovles the interaction of three distinct "movements" we each do towards each other and ourselves.When we understand these movements and deliberately involve them in our relating, we experience more fulfilling connections. What are these 3 movements?- How you relate to yourself (You-to-Yourself)- How you are relating to others (You-to-Others)- How others are relating to you (Others-to-You)Let's dive into each of these in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?First of all, what is "Internalized Loneliness?"It is an enduring, profound sense of being emotionally isolated from others and from yourself.I visualized it as my being in a transparent glass box where I could see others, hear them, and they could see and hear me, but we could never touch emotionally.This box also existed within my internal experience of life. I was in a box within myself, cut off from connecting to and knowing myself. I felt cold, gray, empty, and lost. Another term used is "pathological loneliness". We have been alone and not-known by others for so long that it becomes our habitual, normal state of existing. Feeling lonely is "normal". Feeling like you're on the outside is the daily vibe.This is different from what I call "relational loneliness". Relational lonelienss is the longing to have company, companionship, and even special bonds with others. This is a normal, temporary (sometimes LONG temporary) part of our experience.Internalized Loneliness is a *result* of persistent, deep childhood neglect. Learn more about what it is and how you can heal it in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing OthersDisappointing others is a terrifying thing when we've been rejected, discarded, and harmed by it in the past. Yet, to thrive and enjoy our lives, we must be willing to navigate this, so how do we do that?Today I give you three tips that take the sting, shame, and intensity out of disappointing others.- Tip one: acknowledge the discomfort and allow it to be ok to be there. Use the Pause-Acknowledge-Observe practice to help with this: https://freetheself.com/library/library/the-pause-acknowledge-observe-practice/- Tip two: Practice a bit of trust that their disappointment doesn't put you in danger or make you wrong- Tip three: Release the significance you give to their approval. Use the Releasing Signficance Tool to help with this: https://youtu.be/wKfJF2hmvvI***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
A crucial and often not taught or discussed aspect of healing and growth is valuing, praising, and appreciating our efforts REGARDLESS of the outcome.Growing up, my worth and my confidence were deeply tethered to outcomes. If the outcome was the "right one", I was worthy, safe, loveable, and could trust myself. If the outcome was the "wrong one", shame, self-distrust, and repentence was in order. There was no *actual* room for error, mistake making, or discovery despite all the talk about there actually being room for it.This made my healing work very, very impossible. I was deeply oriented to getting the "right outcome" to please the healer or teacher. I was not oriented to my own discovery.To heal this, I began a practice of praising and appreciating my efforts. Learn how this works in today's episode!***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?In the early days of my healing, I would try tools, concepts, approaches, and practices in hopes they would change things in my relationships, life, or solve my problems.I felt frustrated, discouragement, and even resentment when this didn't happen. This is due to a misunderstanding of what healing is really about and what the tools are actually doing for you.Learn how to use your tools and practices so that you succeed in today's episode.***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 ThingsHealing one's pain is a difficult, nebulous concept until we start to actually get *experience* with it. This makes healing a bit of a catch-22. I've found that there are usually three habits that are keeping the pain locked in a loop in your body, perpetuating it's cycle.Once you can identify which of these is happening in your relationship to your pain, the pain will start to change. Sometimes it gets bigger or more intense first, then begins to gradually drop if you have the right processes in place to help the body do what it does naturally: integrate and bring to rest pain.Learn what these three habits are and what to do with them when they show up so your pain can begin to ease.***FOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And AvailableBeing open and available enables your deepest healing and reconnection to yourself to emerge and become your normal. This allows you to be able to receive and contribute in a holistic, genuine away far outside the transactional, survival nature of codependency and narcissistic systems.Listen today to learn why openness is essential and how to begin nurturing it.***The Daily Regulation Practice (DRP): https://drp.freetheself.comFOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your healing journey here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?I discuss the importance between fixing yourself (something is broken in who I am) and knowing yourself (what is this trying to do for me?) when it comes to our behaviors, codependency, and becoming ourselves.****Join my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com
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