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Send us a textThis episode guides you into a mindset shift that changes everything.The journey toward secure relationships begins with us becoming loving with ourselves. When we operate from the belief that we're fundamentally broken and need fixing, we erode our self-esteem. Each setback becomes evidence of our failure rather than an opportunity for learning and growth. Imagine approaching your personal growth not as a desperate attempt to fix what's broken, but as tending to a beautiful inner garden. Gardens take time to flourish. Some areas bloom quickly while others need extra attention. The soil might require healing before new seeds can take root. This patient cultivation builds self-trust because you witness positive change gradually over time.As your inner landscape becomes more fertile with self-compassion and patience, your connections with others naturally transform too. You're no longer approaching relationships from fear or lack, but from a centered sense of your own worth and genuine desire for connection.Ready to cultivate your inner garden? Join my upcoming Relationship Revolution training in July or explore the Embodied Relationship Academy launching in August. Let's grow together. Ready to revolutionize your approach to relationships? Save the date for the Relationship Revolution free training beginning July 10th, followed by the Embodied Relationship Academy where you'll practice these skills in a supportive community. Let's grow together into the relationship leaders we're capable of becoming.

Send us a textThis episode dives deep into transforming how we relate to ourselves and others by flipping destructive narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of self-improvement. True self-esteem doesn't come from eliminating uncomfortable feelings but from growing your capacity to be with them while believing you deserve happiness.I share my journey meeting with two touchy experiences in my own relationship dojo: 

Send us a textWe've all been there wondering: "Am I growing and healing, or just reinforcing old patterns?" Whether you're questioning if you should stay or leave, set boundaries or be understanding, there IS a compass to guide you. And I tell you all about it in this episode. So that you can practice what truly builds better relationships (to yourself and others).The path to healthier relationships isn't about following all the social media relationship advice. It's about transforming how you view your challenges. Instead of seeing your attachment insecurities as evidence you've pulled the shortest straw in life, what if they're actually your training ground for becoming exceptional at relationships? COMING SOON: The Relationship Revolution 3-day free event (July) Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in RelationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textReady to transform your relationship triggers into pathways for healing? Join me in this episode to discover how your "crazy" moments are your greatest teachers on the journey to secure connection.Welcome to the Relationship Revolution, where we're flipping the script on emotional triggers in relationships. Your nervous system activation isn't a failure—it's a pathway leading to your core wounds and deepest desires when you learn to follow it down rather than manage it away.In this episode, I walk you through my own triggering moment and how I transformed into gold. You get to meet my three parts:an anxious little girl needing reassurancea "go-getter" needing new leadershipa sensual "lover" needing freedom of expressionBy meeting these needs myself rather than demanding someone else fulfill them, I build self-esteem instead of diminishing it.The difference between emotionally mature and immature relationships isn't the absence of conflict—it's how you move through it together. Conflict either becomes a doorway to deeper intimacy or a cycle of pain, depending on your capacity to hold yourself through it. Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in RelationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textReady to reimagine everything you thought you knew about relationships? Season 3 of the Uncover You podcast turns conventional self-development upside down.For too long, you've told yourself that you need to "fix" yourself to deserve love. You've internalized the belief that success means you've "healed enough" to have a good relationship. This mindset creates endless cycles of shame and self-judgment when relationships don't go as planned.What if your attachment wounds, your sensitivity, and your relationship challenges aren't obstacles to overcome but specialized training for deeper connection? What if people who have consciously worked through attachment trauma actually make better relationship leaders than naturally secure attachers who haven't developed these emotional muscles?This season, I'm sharing my own messy, beautiful journey through relationships. I'm not speaking from some imaginary mountaintop of perfect healing—I'm right in the trenches with you, learning to love my nervous system responses, finding gold in my "crazy episodes," and showing you that relationship growth isn't about reaching some mythical destination of perfection.The Relationship Revolution is about tending to three intertwined gardens: your inner landscape, your partner's inner world, and the relationship itself. It's about rejecting one-size-fits-all dating advice that creates more shame when it fails. It's about recognizing that your unique path to love might look nothing like someone else's—and that's exactly how it should be.Are you ready to rebel against outdated relationship paradigms and discover the leader you're meant to be? Register for my FREE training - From Reactive to Safe in RelationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textHave you ever experienced that you want to do things differently in relationships with yourself or others - but the old programming is strong? Stopping you from doing that new thing.To break old patterns and start doing something new, you need a strong why, a motivation. “I should be doing that” just isn't strong enough to overcome old survival strategies.In this episode, I share how you can tap into rebellion against old conditioning. And stand for love for yourself and your relationships.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationshipsEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp180: From anxious and obsessing to enjoying her relationship, with Kate — Open once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textTwo years ago, after starting the most secure relationship Kate had ever had, she noticed anxiety about being enough or too much. Her system wasn't used to consistency, kindness and support, and her body wasn't sure it could trust it.Kate was often worried Ben would leave for someone “more attractive”. And when her fear and hurt would show up, she feared she was ruining everything.After doing Being Me a second time everything shifted. No more stuck in reactive loops, endless “solving” conversations, and bracing for being let down. Instead, she feels safe in herself, playful and fully enjoying her relationship.In this episode, Kate shares how her relationship and life went from anxiety and obsessing to feeling safe and enjoying.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep97: Releasing shame - live coaching #3 with KateEp178: The hidden piece under our reactionsEp96: “I've done so much work, why am I not healed yet??”Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactionsOpen once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textWe often have this idea that healing means we're NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow.If you're avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has kept you safe) - you need to learn how conflict can open doors to more intimacy and connection.In this episode, I invite you to discover the gift of friction and how to feel safe moving through it.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactionsEp136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactionsEp154: Understanding and practicing honestyJoin my free coaching call on Sunday Feb 2Open once a year: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start February 9th.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textI want to get to the bottom of our reactive relationship patterns and what's driving them. Because when we do we can heal and shift things at the core.One thing that I found hiding behind other emotions or protective patterns - on my own journey and working with a lot of clients - is shame. Shame is not just an emotion, but a full body-mind-emotion, and even soul, experience.In this episode, I uncover shame so you can move that linchpin and have a whole house of cards of protection patterns fall apart. Let's get to the mother of all lies and stop believing it.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this yearEp 136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactionsEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp 164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachmentWatch the full Leading From Love masterclassOpen once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textSince I'm all about embodied, turned-on living and relating, I keep exploring what else can support my body in more aliveness. When I find things that have a big enough impact, I bring them into my programs.In the past year, I've focused on hormonal health and cyclical living and experienced HUGE benefits. Dr Maria Tedim is a female hormonal health specialist who has guided me in having unexpected levels of energy, creativity, and general gusto. (Italian for enthusiasm and vigor.)In this episode, dr Maria shares how women can work with their body's cyclical rhythm instead of against it. So you can unlock confidence, radiance and vigor. And why every man should know this for better relationships with their wives, girlfriends, and daughters.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteLearn more about Dr Maria Tedim on Instagram and her websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep114: What is turn-on?Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this yearEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you long forEp117: The turn-on between your feminine and masculine archetypesWatch the full Leading From Love masterclassOpen once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textGuiding others to real embodied shifts makes me really excited. Because I'm passionate about what works, I also get to see what doesn't work.In this episode, I share where I see us get stuck when working on our relationship patterns, and how those places are opportunities to get the shifts you long for.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep175: What “healed” feels like - and how to get there this yearEp168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationshipsEp118: From heaviness and despair to love, with Shannon and IreneEp139: 3 common obstacles when shifting reactive patterns (and how to get past them)Watch the full Leading From Love masterclassOpen once a year: Join Being Me - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start in February.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textIf relationships have been the source of conflicts, reactive patterns, pain, and confusion for most of your life you might be wondering - how do you know if you're healing and what does that feel like?In this episode, I share a perspective on healing in relationships that will give you laser focus on why you're doing all your inner work. Plus what will get you there in 2025.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteOpen once a year: Join Being Me with an early-bird discount in December - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from thereJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textThe last tale of our Yuletide saga, about falling in love with something you rejected.A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..?Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it.— 

Send us a textOur Yuletide saga continues, with gratitude for extraordinary men and the gift of feeling.A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..?Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it.— 

Send us a textThis episode continues our Yuletide saga with the edgiest episode yet, on clearing old relationship energy.A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..?Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it.—

Send us a textThis episode starts our Yuletide saga with the invitation to explore all your puzzle pieces, instead of self-developing yourself away.A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..?Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it.— A song to listen to with this episode: Björnen, by Sarah ParkmanRelated episodes:Ep170: Yuletide Tales: This Year's Love Better LastYou find show notes in this post on my websiteOpen once a year: Join Being Me with an early-bird discount in December - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from thereJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textA series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..?Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and protection while celebrating the fuck out of it. Show you that BEING you is your greatest piece of art. That BEING the relationships you longed for is what's always been waiting for you.This episode introduces our Yuletide saga and connects you with the love you've been longing for.—The song I'm referring to: This Year's Love, by David GrayYou find show notes in this post on my websiteOpen once a year: Join Being Me with an early-bird discount in December - my signature coaching program that takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from thereJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textWhat got my clients that experienced deep foundational shifts to their reactive patterns there? Moving through the pillars in my program Alchemy and the turn-on framework in my program Being Me, of course. But there are a few things that I see the clients who are getting the deepest shifts have in common.In this episode, I share three mindset shifts that will help you get the results you look for and experience peace, playfulness and more self-expression where there used to be people-pleasing, protection and loud reactions.—Check out these related episodes:Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationshipsEp152: From overcomplicating inner work to embodied shiftsEp139: 3 common obstacles when shifting reactive patterns (and how to get past them)Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself — You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textAs you heal emotional wounds and shift your reactive patterns at the root, there's more freedom. While before you've been operating from protection and fear and automatically reacting to situations in your relationships - you now have other options.In this episode, I'm giving you examples of a different way of moving through conflict, friction and differences in relationships and how to get there.Instead of reacting, collapsing in hurt, blaming the other person, withdrawing, giving the silent treatment or getting the hell out of there - here's how to lead from love.—Check out these related episodes:Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachmentEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textJoin the upcoming embodiment session with Meytal and Eva, by joining the Being Me waitlist. It's free!Have you also tried to fix your physical and emotional pain through exercise and inner work, felt hopeless, given up, or settled for a restricted way of being and moving?In this episode, we explore the freedom and aliveness that's possible when we change how we relate to tension and pain. Listen to find out how you can melt decades of physical and emotional pain.Meytal Blanaru is a dancer, Feldenkrais practitioner and a guest teacher in Being Me 2025. She will share Fathom High movement sessions (based on the Feldenkrais® method) which brings you into your body, regulates your nervous system and melts physical and emotional tension held in your body. You'll experience more freedom in moving and being, and a new relationship with your body.—Check out these related episodes:Ep118: From heaviness and despair to love - conversation with Irene and ShannonEp124: There's no-one you need to become - with Chris BaleEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textMany of us have a list of qualities and experiences that we want in relationships - but not many of us dare to look at our own capacity to BE or BRING that which we want.Becoming an inner leader, also in relationships, means shifting out of victimhood and growing your capacity to have what you want. To become that which you long for OR - the match for that.In this episode, we explore how you can bridge that gap between your desire and your capacity to have the nourishing relationship you want.—Check out these related episodes:Ep147: Holding goodness in relationships (part 1)Ep148: Holding goodness in relationships (part 2)Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itselfEp117: The turn-on between your feminine and masculine archetypesEp131: 3 less-talked-about mistakes that keep your relationship stuck – and how to shift them — You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textAs you're learning about the importance of feeling your emotions and allowing that in yourself - you'd like to be witnessed in your emotional depths. But what to do when your partner or loved one is unwilling or unable to listen to your emotional experience? When they shut down, check out, or belittle what you share? They might support you in doing the work - but “do you have to talk so much about it with them”?It hurts when your partner is unwilling to meet you and touches a core wound that had you cover up and manage your emotions to begin with. So how do you continue doing the inner work and honor your desire to share your feelings with them - when they don't want to?In this episode, we look at your half, your partner's half, and three things to focus on when a partner or loved one gets stressed when you share your emotions.—Check out these related episodes:Ep164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachmentEp138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep129: 4 signs of an immature relationship with emotionsEp161: “Am I tolerating someone's bad behavior by working on myself?”Ep159: What about the other person's half?—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textUnderstanding how the attachment style that you developed growing up, is impacting your relationships today, can be very helpful. But as the use of attachment theory in the relationship or dating scene is becoming more popular - so are the misconceptions and conceptualizations that pull us away from the actual experience. Meaning - we are theorizing a very embodied process…In this episode, I want to bring you into your body and nervous system to understand the response behind what's commonly called anxious or avoidant attachment. So we can bring more compassion to BOTH responses and embodied ways of loving on them. And I hope to bust some misconceptions about the holy grail of secure attachment.—Check out these related episodes:Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itselfEp162: 3 ways your trauma shows up in relationshipsEp153: Understanding and practicing honestyEp147: Holding goodness in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textWhen you live your life from a conditioned idea of right or wrong - the mind judges what's happening as good or bad, and you react compulsively to it. On top of that, the ego mind is convinced it's in charge of keeping us safe, figuring things out, and finding the right path to our healed, amazing life and relationship.What gets lost in this exhausting approach is a sense of trust. You don't trust yourself to move through what's painful, your partner to show up for you or do what they said they would, or life to carry you where you need to go. With this sense of internal mistrust, you create more of the experience you least desire.In this episode, I talk about trust and how to activate it to carry you through ups and downs in relationships and life. To feel the ocean of trust underneath the waves of everyday life.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep84: The hidden structure behind mistrusting othersEp66: Do you trust yourself to get the shifts you want?Ep68: Affirmations of trust and easeEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp110: Making suffering your ally — You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textMost of us have trauma. Unprocessed emotional wounds. They show up in our relationships to BE processed, but they will look like a big problem unless we're aware and have the tools to meet them. I truly believe that this is important work of our generation and lifetime.That's why, in this episode, I talk about three common ways that trauma shows up in our relationships, and how we can navigate them in a way that heals instead of re-enforcing the trauma, and all the beliefs and habits that come with it.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOUEp161: “Am I tolerating someone's bad behavior by working on myself?”Ep137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactionsEp134: 3 things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textHave you ever-so-nicely asked for what you want in a relationship - just to be met with their wounded reaction and dismissal? Maybe you start to wonder if it's too much to ask for, and if you shouldn't need it to begin with. A typical is-it-me-or-them situation.In this week's episode, I answer a question from a listener who easily feels abandoned. The relationship she is in easily inflames that wound, and she wonders, “What is valid to be upset about?”Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep130: Is it me or them?Ep159: What about the other person's half?Ep157; When to stay and when to goEp153: Understanding and practicing honesty—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textBeing embodied is inhabiting all of your being with your attention and awareness. It's feeling and experiencing yourself. Most of us have been conditioned to relate to ourselves and the world through our mind's labeling and storytelling. Moving your attention into your body and your felt sense will shift the relationship to yourself and others.In this week's episode, we explore WHY you would want to become embodied, HOW to do it, and the initial uncomfortableness you'll likely experience.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep48: 3 reasons to prioritize embodimentEp98: Two common lies about feeling emotionsEp129: 4 signs of an immature relationship to your emotionsEp152: From overcomplicating inner work to embodied shifts — You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textSo what about your partner? Are you the only one who should do all the healing and changing - or could you expect a little willingness to work on the relationship from them?In this week's episode, I take you through three of my guiding principles for relationships. So you can navigate what to expect from a partner and create the relationship you long for.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep157: When to stay and when to goEp153: Understanding and practicing honestyEp144: Use your complaining to find your desires—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textWhile gaslighting refers to an intentionally manipulative behavior to have you question your experience or even sanity, it's often thrown around these days to point out the dismissal of our emotional experience. Which is an unconscious epidemic alive in most of us.If you've ever been made wrong for what you're feeling, felt like too much, or been told that you're overreacting, this episode is for you. It explores how to alchemize feeling dismissed and not heard, so you can stand for what you feel and want.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep157: When to stay and when to goEp143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEp141: How to meet your emotional needsEp142: How your reactive patterns keep you from being YOU—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textAfter years of conditioning, it's easy to question our compass on when to stay and when to leave in a relationship. Some of us go too soon, while others remain way past the expiration date.In this episode, we explore why we stay too long or leave too fast, what it says about the love we have for ourselves, and when it's a good idea to move on.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from being YOUEp146: 3 things to help you be yourself around othersEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp155: Heal through separation, loss and heartbreakEp156: Letting go - when parts don't want to—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textMost of us have been there. The relationship is over and we KNOW we should let go, feel grateful for the lessons, and move on. But in reality, we hurt, long, and want things to have played out differently. How do we navigate this inner conflict while healing - so we don't repeat the same dynamics?In this episode, I reply to the question: “How do I let go, while giving love and attention to the part of me that can't accept that it's over?”Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns—Check out these related episodes:Ep155: Heal through separation, loss and heartbreakEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp 27: The Acceptance trapEp11: What is a Spiritual Ego?—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.Most of us fear or check out from the most painful experiences in relating - like divorce, losing a loved one, and having your heart broken. But what if those experiences push us into a wound wanting to be healed?In this episode, I share how to alchemize a painful experience of loss in a way that heals past wounds and reclaims your power.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns.—Check out these related episodes:Ep154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp110: Making suffering your allyEp136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactionsEp123: Use everyday challenges to healEp126: How to let parts of your Ego die —You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.This is the bomb. When you go from looking at your relationship patterns as something wrong or “not healed yet” to realizing them as the journey you're here to take - everything changes. Not only will they finally start shifting, but you're much closer to the truth. That your challenges are here to initiate you into more love, if you're willing.So are you ready to take on the journey your soul is here for? To step into your power, just like Luke Skywalker, Moana and Harry Potter before you? Or will you stay victimized and small?—Check out these related episodes:Ep110: Making suffering your allyEp153: Understanding and practicing honestyEp123: Use everyday challenges to healEp126: How to let parts of your Ego dieEp136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactions—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.Ever wondered what level of honesty is helpful, kind or required? Should we say everything on our mind or is it more loving not to? And what about when we hide behind honesty to offload on our partner or give our reactions a free pass?In this episode, we take a look at honesty underneath the reactions. Listen to find the truth underneath the reactions we usually call honesty.Join my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep145: Why we lie in relationshipsEp138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEP141: How to meet your own emotional needs—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.Feeling overwhelmed with all the information on inner work, personal development and what to focus on? Many of my clients have done a lot of other work without seeing the shifts they long for when they come to me.In this episode, we look at what real freedom from your reactive patterns is, and how to get there.—Check out these related episodes:Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of your relationship reactionsEp 133: The place to start (when changing reactive patterns in relationships)Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactions—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.The third and final episode in our relationship to money series gives you three steps to become a match for money and start to magnetize it, instead of chasing or rejecting it.For three weeks, you're getting one new podcast episode weekly, all on changing your relationship with money.I'll share the practices I do myself to shift from recoiling when seeing a price tag, increased heart rate when paying the electrical bill, or not admitting to myself I want something (because not being able to afford it = disappointment) - to feel financially supported in my growth and what I want.Which will also clear old reactions around money in your relationships…Join Being Me - next round starts in FebruaryMy 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep 149: From lack to abundance - having money to invest in growthEp 34: How to change your relationship with money, time and attentionEp119: “Why is it so expensive?”Ep 147: Holding Goodness in Relationships part 1Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desires — You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a Text Message.The second episode in our relationship to money series, guides you to look at your worthiness of receiving and any unprocessed pain related to receiving, support, and money.For three weeks, you're getting one new podcast episode weekly, all on changing your relationship with money.I'll share the practices I do myself to shift from recoiling when seeing a price tag, increased heart rate when paying the electrical bill, or not admitting to myself I want something (because not being able to afford it = disappointment) - to feel financially supported in my growth and what I want.Which will also clear old reactions around money in your relationships…Join Being Me - next round starts in February'My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep 149: From lack to abundance - having money to invest in growthEp 34: How to change your relationship with money, time and attentionEp119: “Why is it so expensive?”Ep 147: Holding Goodness in Relationships part 1Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desires—You find show notes in this post on my website

A penny for every time I hear “I want to join your program - but I can't make the investment right now”?Let's play. I want you to have the money needed to invest in what matters - your growth, healing and the life you want to live. And without knowing it, you're likely standing in your own way.For three weeks, you're getting one new podcast episode weekly, all on changing your relationship with money. I'll share the practices I do myself to shift from recoiling when seeing a price tag, increased heart rate when paying the electrical bill, or not admitting to myself I want something (because not being able to afford it = disappointment) - to feel financially supported in my growth and what I want.Join Being Me - next round starts August 3rdMy 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep 34: How to change your relationship with money, time and attentionEp119: “Why is it so expensive?”Ep 147: Holding Goodness in Relationships part 1Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp114: What is Turn-On?—You find show notes in this post on my website

The safe, joyful, and blissful relationship we all long for, is not something our system is practiced with. Our nervous system might even signal danger when things get good. Or we don't even notice when goodness knocks on our door since we're so caught up in survival state.Part two of Holding Goodness goes all in on re-training your nervous system. The skills and energetic shifts you can implement right now to feel safe to feel good - in relationships and life.Join my free training Holding Goodness (July 10-14 2024)Join the waitlist for Being Me - registration opens July 10My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep 147: Holding Goodness in Relationships part 1Ep146: 3 things to help you be yourself around others (New House Series ep 1)Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp114: What is Turn-On?Ep63: Our resistance to Ease and Joy—You find show notes in this post on my website

We all think we want what's good, safe and joyful - but truth is that parts of you have gotten used to struggle and might even feel safe with it. It's the known, while feeling safe and at ease is the unknown.This second episode of The New House series dives into what we need to address to experience goodness in our lives and relationships. Not just to go after the endless pursuit of it - but to hold it once we have it.Join my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep146: 3 things to help you be yourself around others (New House Series ep 1)Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp114: What is Turn-On?Ep63: Our resistance to Ease and Joy—You find show notes in this post on my website

When we have practiced being unsafe, frustrated, vigilant, unmet, and misunderstood for most of our lives - we probably need to practice something else to have a different experience. I call this building the new house (as you're taking apart the old house of conditioning, protective mechanisms and fear).This is the first episode in The New House series in the podcast. It shows you three things to practice if you want to feel more like yourself around others. So you can feel authentic and nourished by social settings and relationships, rather than drained and avoiding them.My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp116: What I want: From Integrity or Ego?Ep114: What is Turn-On?Ep145: Why we lie in relationshipsEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

There are big lies in relationships, and then there are the small lies. How much we spent on that sweater, that we indeed are on our way (when we haven't left the office), or that their loud chewing isn't bothering us.In this episode, we look at why we lie or hide things from others, how it became automatic, and the hurt it's protecting from. So you can stop using all your energy on invisible protection mechanisms and feel more like yourself around others.Join my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEP141: How to meet your own emotional needsEp144: Use your complaining to find your desires—You find show notes in this post on my website

Did you know that your complaints are hidden desires? And that when you learn to re-connect with the desire you'll take a lot of personal power back? AND will be able to communicate more clearly with others?In this episode, I share a practice from my recent in-person retreat in Spain that guides you to find the wantings in your complaints. So you can get more of what you want in your relationships.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEP141: How to meet your own emotional needsEp73: Do I follow every desire?Ep116: What I want - from integrity or ego?—You find show notes in this post on my website

“I want this but I'm not sure it's reasonable to ask for it.”“Is it me or them?”“I want to be with them but I'm not getting what I want.”When we've learned to doubt what we want, and feel stuck in not having our needs met and constantly being pulled back into a core wound - we're more likely to look for “the right choice” which keeps us in an inner conflict of what that is.In this episode, we check back in with Wey and look at a way to acknowledge all sides of an inner conflict. So that you can empty out the emotions, clearly feel what you want AND heal a core wound all at once.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOUEp127; Align with your soul - Live coaching #6 with WeyEp73: Do I follow every desire?Ep116: What I want - from integrity or ego?—You find show notes in this post on my website

When we learn to believe the lie that we need to be a certain way to be loved and appreciated, we start to exile aspects of ourselves that don't fit the image. When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions - we've disconnected from a crucial part of ourselves. Our wantings.In this episode, I talk about who you haven't allowed yourself to become when you've been identified with your wounds and protection mechanisms - and that it's not too late to open the doors to all your different expressions.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp116: What I want - from integrity or ego?Ep73: Do I follow every desire?—You find show notes in this post on my website

If we're the ones to meet our own emotional needs - where do we begin? When we're identified with parts that feel unloveable, broken, rejected or alone, this will feel impossible and confusing. Not to mention the fact that no one ever taught us or modelled it to us.In this episode, I talk about the two big shifts you need to make to start meeting your own emotional needs - so your relationship dynamics can also start to change.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactionsEp6: How things in the way of your process actually ARE your processEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

The possibility for suffering is right here, inside of you, and so is the possibility for joy, healing, and ease. For me and my friend Paul Grant, it took a few power journeys to Mexico, among other things, to experience the truth in that statement.In this episode, I have a conversation with Paul about that first journey to Mexico, the problem with being at war with your mind, and other important discoveries from our inner journeys.Join the waitlist for Beyond the Mind to enter the giveaway and get the discount for the next round.—Check out these related episodes:Ep 44: The direct experience of your true self​​Ep 45: How I got my mind on board with accessing consciousness​​Ep 16: What is DreamingEp 30: What you experience on a Power Journey—You find show notes in this post on my website

Since your reactive patterns have been kept in place out of protection, it's only natural that objections show up when you start to take them apart. If you know what they are, you can seize the opportunity to meet with them and finally get further in healing than you've gone beforeThis episode walks you through three common obstacles - and how to navigate them.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp6: How things in the way of your process actually ARE your processEp133: The place to start (when changing reactive relationship patterns)Ep134: Three things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Many of us long for nourishing connection with another human being, but end up feeling misunderstood, rejected, or reactive when we try. Our previous attempts have ended up in more conflict and pain, and we might have been called cold, crazy, or needy.This episode gives you the courage to be vulnerable, and to create true intimacy and connection. So that you can love and be loved, even if it didn't feel safe or possible before.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”Join Alchemy - my 5-week program that heals emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns—Check out these related episodes:Ep133: The place to start (when changing reactive relationship patterns)Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp134: Three things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Ready to let go of the lies about your reactions in relationships? And discover that they might have been the ones holding the whole structure in place?In this episode, I give you 3 different perspectives on how to relate to your relationship loops. Try them on and keep them if they feel better than your current ones!Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep134: Three things to do when triggered in relationshipsEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

Most of us are being dragged around in the surface layers of the reactions in relationships. The anger, the withdrawal, the blame, the hyper-vigilance and the victimhood. By ourselves, our partner and most often - the dynamic between both.It's not until we can get present and move through the surface layers of our reactions, that we're able to express from a place that creates understanding AND heal the wound that shifts the pattern.In this special episode, I take you through one of my own recent reactions and break down the layers I found. So you can look for the layers and the root in your own patterns.Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep39: Understanding survival response and how it's running your inner workEp110: Making suffering your allyEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website