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"Fantasy isn't just fiction—it's transformation." In this deeply layered episode, J.R. steps inside the world of award-winning author Tricia Copeland, whose creative journey began with personal healing and grew into an epic fantasy universe. From her first YA series about battling anorexia to the magical depths of The Realm Chronicles, Tricia shares how writing became both refuge and revolution.

Meet Tricia Copeland. She is an award-winning author of books for youth and young adults. Mostly she writes fantasy books, but as we learn during this episode, she also does write some romance books.   Tricia says that as a child she hated writing. Even so, she went to school and eventually she went to college where she received a degree in Microbiology. She also attained a Master's degree. She then went to work for a chemical company. After four years she found herself beginning a journey of technical writing and writing patterns and supporting materials.   After a few years Tricia became a stay-at-home-mom for a time. She tells us how she loved to tell stories and entertain her children.   We learn how she wrote her first fiction book series in 2015-16 about her time facing anorexia. In real life, she faced this and overcame it. She then began writing fantasy youth books and realized not only that she could write, but that she did not hate writing at all. She has written several series and has plans for more.     About the Guest:   Tricia Copeland is the critically acclaimed and award-winning author of Kingdom of Embers, To be Fae Queen, Lovelock Ones, and Azreya, Aztec Priestess, and dozens of other titles. She is the host of the Finding the Magic Book Podcast who weaves magical stories about love, courage, and finding your passion.   Tricia began her author journey with a women's fiction series, the Being Me series, which is an adaptation of her experience with anorexia. Afterwards she quickly pivoted to her favorite genre, fantasy. Her young adult fantasy series highlight themes including resilience, perseverance, faith, loyalty, trust, friendship, family, and love. They include the Kingdom Journals and Realm Chronicles series that find witches, vampires, and fae fighting an evil spirit determined to end them all. She tempers the high stakes drama in these books with her fun rom coms in the Perfect romance series.   Tricia Copeland believes in finding magic. She thinks magic infuses every aspect of our lives, whether it is the magic of falling in love, discovering a new passion, seeing a beautiful sunset, or reading a book that transports us to another world. An avid runner and Georgia native, Tricia now lives with her family and four-legged friends in Colorado. Find all her titles including contemporary romance, now penned under Maria Jane, young adult fantasy, and dystopian fiction at www.triciacopeland.com.   Ways to connect with Tricia:   https://triciacopeland.com https://www.facebook.com/TriciaCopelandAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/authortriciacopeland/ https://twitter.com/tcbrzostowicz https://www.tiktok.com/@triciacopelandauthor https://www.youtube.com/@triciacopelandauthor https://www.amazon.com/stores/Tricia-Copeland/author/B00YHN5Q4G https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/14055439.Tricia_Copeland https://www.bookbub.com/authors/tricia-copeland     About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/ https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! 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The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.     Michael Hingson ** 01:17 Well, hello everyone. We're really glad to have you here, wherever you may happen to be listening in from. We're really glad that you're listening to unstoppable mindset. I'm your host, Michael hingson, and our guest today is Tricia Copeland. Tricia is a prolific author. I use that word absolutely without any any concern, a prolific author of children's books, especially in the fantasy world. So she has been doing this a while and and also has an interesting story just of her life to tell. So we're going to go into all of that and delve in and see where we go. So Tricia, I want to welcome you to unstoppable mindset. We're really glad you're here.   Tricia Copeland ** 02:05 Thank you, Michael, I appreciate you having me, and I do want to make a little edit to that intro. Okay, go ahead. My books are young adult to New Adult books, so ages 13 plus mostly, all right,   Michael Hingson ** 02:19 so young adult to new adult. All right, that's fair. So how do you feel that your books fall into the range of things like the Harry Potter series and so on, sort of the same age groups,   Tricia Copeland ** 02:40 right? Genre adjacent, I have a series, The Kingdom Journal series, which includes three witches that have to break a curse on the witch lines. So the witches have to find each other as well as figure out how to break the curse using various forms of magic. So not really the same as Harry Potter, but definitely with with the witches, and the kind of contemporary world that Harry Potter is. But actually, I won't say that, because I haven't I think Harry Potter is mostly in the contemporary world, right? I didn't read all the books. I have to admit that he's   Michael Hingson ** 03:18 somewhat in the contemporary world, but, but I was thinking more of from a standpoint of the same type of age group.   Tricia Copeland ** 03:25 Yes, I think a younger reader. I think people started reading Harry Potter maybe around 10 or 11. And these books have older teenagers to start, age 1718, so 13 Plus is a good indicator. I think the other   Michael Hingson ** 03:42 thing I would observe about Harry Potter is that there are a lot of people who aren't necessarily teenagers or young adults, including me, who have read them and enjoyed them. I think that that Harry Potter certainly brought an interesting dimension to reading for teenagers especially, and hopefully young adults, because a lot of people did catch on to them, and they they had a great theme, and you do some of the same sorts of things by virtue of the fact of what you're writing and who you're writing it for,   Tricia Copeland ** 04:17 right? They definitely caught adult eyes and hearts and minds too   Michael Hingson ** 04:23 well, tell us somewhat about the early Trisha growing up and so on. Love to learn a little bit more about you, and then we can talk about whatever we feel is relevant to talk about the early Tricia,   Tricia Copeland ** 04:35 right? Well, I grew up in rural South Georgia, small town in south Georgia, and always loved reading and hiking and the outdoors, and very quickly, knew that maybe I didn't want to be in a small town forever. So I went to college in Atlanta, and I got a degree in microbiology, and from there, I got a master's. Degree, and I started my career in Central Research and Development at a chemical company, a large chemical company. So I was looking at making chemicals from microbes. And that was very exciting. That was my dream job that I'd always wanted. So that was very cool to be able to achieve that goal, and I actually didn't like writing until I started doing more technical writing with papers and patents.   Michael Hingson ** 05:29 Technical writing can be boring, but people could make it more exciting than oftentimes they do. I would say I've had to do some of it. I understand   Tricia Copeland ** 05:39 well, you have to like the topic, right? If you don't like the topic, you're not going to like the paper,   Michael Hingson ** 05:45 right? But also, I think that a lot of technical writers write and it's all very factual, but I think even in technical writing, it would be better if writers could do some things to draw in readers. And I've always felt that about textbooks. For example, my master's degree and bachelor's degree are in physics, and I've always maintained that the the physics people who write these books, who are oftentimes fairly substantial characters in in the genre, if you will, or in the field, could do a lot more to interest people in science and physics by rather than just doing these technical books, telling some stories along the way, and bringing people in and making people relate more to the topic. And they don't do that like I think at least that they should.   Tricia Copeland ** 06:36 I guess that can be said, maybe for every technical Yeah. Area,   Michael Hingson ** 06:43 yeah, it would be nice if technical writers spend a little bit of time, but of course, then the other side of it is that the industry doesn't want that. So what do you   Tricia Copeland ** 06:54 do? It may be a catch 22 on that one   Michael Hingson ** 06:56 might be, but that's okay. So how long did you stay working at the tech at the chemical companies and so on?   Tricia Copeland ** 07:06 I was in the lab for four years, and then I moved into the patent Legal Group. So I began my career as a Patent Agent, and now that's what I do for a living. My day job is that I help clients draft and file their patent applications.   Michael Hingson ** 07:22 So you have your own business doing that. I do, yes, oh,   Tricia Copeland ** 07:28 well, I write by day and I write by night.   Michael Hingson ** 07:32 Yeah, well, that can be pretty exciting, though. You get all sorts of interesting things to write about. I   Tricia Copeland ** 07:40 do I meet a lot of cool people that are inventing cool things.   Michael Hingson ** 07:44 So here's the question, do you ever find that what you write about during the day influences you, and you want to use some of that, or the general concepts of some of that, at night, when you're doing your your fiction writing?   Tricia Copeland ** 07:58 I haven't done that yet, I did write one dystopian fiction about a viral pandemic, and that touched on a little bit of my background in microbiology and genetics, but not anything that my clients have done   Michael Hingson ** 08:19 well. So you got into the patent field when you when you started doing that initially, were you doing it for a company, or did you just leap out on your own and start to have your own business?   Speaker 1 ** 08:30 Yes, I was doing that for a company. Okay? And how long did you do that? I was at that company   Tricia Copeland ** 08:35 about a year and a half. And at the time, we lived in Pennsylvania and outside of Philly. So then we had a job change, and we moved to Denver, so I took a little time off to be with my kids before I started my business.   Michael Hingson ** 08:53 So how long ago did you start the business?   Speaker 1 ** 08:57 In 2012 so 13 years doing it a while? Wow,   Michael Hingson ** 09:01 okay, and obviously you're having some success because you're still doing it.   Tricia Copeland ** 09:05 I am. Yes, I love helping my clients, and feel like I can definitely give them a value add   Michael Hingson ** 09:14 if you're not giving something away. What's probably the most interesting patent that you helped somebody work on attaining   Tricia Copeland ** 09:24 I will say, I worked with an inventor a year ago, and amazing man, he had had his career in education and teaching, and he developed a set of blocks to help people or Help kids. I should say, learn the parts of speech so you could put the together, the blocks, whether it was a subject, verb, pronoun, noun, adjective, adverb, and I learned parts of speech that I never knew existed from helping them with this application, and I was very excited. To help him get his patent. That's kind of cool.   Michael Hingson ** 10:04 Yeah, I am fair. I'm not sure I know all the parts of speech, but I remember being involved in high school well and in elementary school and diagramming sentences and learning a lot about the different or a number of the different parts of speech. Not sure I necessarily remember all of them extremely well, so I probably split infinitives and well, what do you do?   Tricia Copeland ** 10:28 Yes, I hated sentence structures.   Michael Hingson ** 10:35 Well, so what got you started then, since you were writing patents for people and so on, and helping people in securing patents. What got you then started in dealing with fiction writing, right?   Tricia Copeland ** 10:49 Well, when my kids were very young, I was a stay at home mom, and most of my days were spent chasing them around, occupying them, entertaining them, shuttling them from one place to another. So I realized in the evenings I was bored. I did my mind didn't have enough to occupy it. And I was about, I think it was about 38 and, you know, looking at my 40 year old birthday and thinking, huh, well, and I maybe it was like my 20 year high school reunion. I don't know why it coincide coincided, but I started thinking about my early college years I developed anorexia, and thinking about that time in my life and how poignant it was that I was able to recover from that disease and really gain some life skills from that experience. So I started a story that was a fictionalized account of my experience with anorexia and recovering for anorexia. So my first series, called the being me series, is a four book series about a character named Amanda who develops anorexia and then is able to recover.   Michael Hingson ** 12:01 So what caused if you understand, or, man, I don't know a lot about anorexia, Anorexia, and probably have some misconceptions about what I'm about to ask, but what, what caused it? Why did you develop that condition?   Tricia Copeland ** 12:16 Well, there's a lot of I mean, it happens differently for a lot of people, I think anorexia is a lot about control and having control over your environment. And I got there was a number of factors that I was depressed and not happy about not feeling like I was achieving, maybe what I should be achieving, and instead of someone might have turned to alcohol or drugs to alleviate those stressful feelings. I channeled all that into Okay? Well, if I'm just thin and if I just look good enough, then everything will be fine. And obviously, once your brain starts to get in that cycle, it just compounds on itself. You can't stop yourself from thinking that way. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 13:05 and what helped you get out of doing that? Was it writing or what? What really caused you to realize that ain't the way to go?   Tricia Copeland ** 13:16 Yeah, I almost died. That was it very it was a low point. And really, you know, if I didn't do something different, if I didn't let people help me do something different, I would not have made it. So really, you know, a lot of that is like educating people how serious eating disorders are, as well as how helpless sometimes the person that is experiencing them is in being able to help themselves.   Michael Hingson ** 13:48 And you said that this happened somewhat in your your college years.   Tricia Copeland ** 13:53 Yes, I was 20.   Michael Hingson ** 13:56 Were there a lot of pressures were, were people criticizing you in any way that helped contribute to it, or was it sort of really   Tricia Copeland ** 14:04 internally? Part of it was internally. Part of it was, you know, what I thought people's expectations I was in. I was at a engineering school and I was a biology major, so maybe that wasn't the best place for me. Everybody was very high in performing. Yeah, yeah. There are many, many factors, I think, and just my my brain that was not processing things, maybe as realistically as they could have been processed.   Michael Hingson ** 14:33 But what you eventually did about it was to write a series about it, so clearly you were able to move beyond it, and then, if you will, talk about it,   Tricia Copeland ** 14:45 right, right? So I went into inpatient recovery, and then was able to get the help that I needed with therapist and psycho psychiatrist and support groups, and that was a big help. And then, yes, 20 years later, I. Wrote a series about it.   Michael Hingson ** 15:02 Well, that's pretty cool. And again, it's I'm always one who admires people who are able to and willing to talk about things. I went to an event last year was the Marshfield, Missouri Cherry Blossom Festival, and the Cherry Blossom Festival, which happens every April, is a celebration of American history, and they'll bring people in who have some relationship to an historic event, or who have relatives who were so for example, the great grandson of President Grant was at this event, but one of the people who was there was a former secret service agent who rode in the car behind John Kennedy when he was in Dallas and assassinated, and it took him 45 years to get to the point where he could come out of his experiences enough to start to talk about it, and I just have always admired people who do that. For me, being in the World Trade Center on September 11 and getting out, I never really viewed it as all that traumatic, but I guess it was, but my way to deal with it was, and I realized it much later, but we had so many newspaper reporters who wanted to know about the blind guy who got out of the World Trade Center. I talked about it, I mean, answered everyone's questions. And that was ironically, I love to pick on the media, but ironically, it was the media that really probably helped me move forward from September 11 the most.   Tricia Copeland ** 16:41 Yeah, I can imagine that was a lot of processing that you were able to do, as you talked about it.   Michael Hingson ** 16:48 People asked all sorts of questions, some really good questions, some not so good questions. And we got to observe all sorts of different types of press people. We had one Italian film crew who came to our house, there were 13 people, most of whom didn't really seem to do a whole lot, but they were there. And then there was a Japanese crew that came. And I think there were two people. It's just amazing what you see and what you learn. And for me and my wife, both now my late wife, but both, both of us love to observe and study and really think about what all these people are doing and how they do it, and we use it as ways to help us learn more about things, if you will, studying and being a student. I think of life as always an important thing,   Tricia Copeland ** 17:39 right, yeah, and I guess everybody reacts different to trauma and how you can process that everybody needs a little bit different. But yes, if you could look at things through a learning lens, that can definitely help too.   Michael Hingson ** 17:52 So you wrote the being me series. How many books are in that series? Four books, four books. Okay, and so, how long ago did you write those?   Tricia Copeland ** 18:03 I published them between 2015 and 2016   Michael Hingson ** 18:07 Okay, did you self publish or I do? Yes, you still do. Okay, great. Well, all right, and then what? What made you decide to then continue and start going into sort of teenage and so on, fiction and fantasy and so on, right?   Tricia Copeland ** 18:31 I realized that I just loved writing, and it was something that I didn't want to stop doing. So when I looked around for my next genre to write in, it was very obviously fantasy. For me. I read fantasy from a very young age. I loved Merlin and King authors legends and the Lord of the Rings and all of those books as a young person and a young adult, and that's just what I wanted to write. So my first book, interestingly enough, my editor sent it back to me and said, This is not fantastical enough. You need to make it more paranormal. So it took a minute to make that switch. What   Michael Hingson ** 19:15 book was that   Tricia Copeland ** 19:16 that is drops of sunshine and it is mirrored off an experience I had. I was a camp counselor at a camp for the blind when I was in I guess after my freshman year of college, and the campers in my story have these extra sensory skills where they can read people's minds. That was the paranormal aspect of my book, and that's not known in the beginning the story to our main character, and then she discovers that these kids have this special talent, and that was how my fantasy books started out. Mm, hmm.   Michael Hingson ** 20:00 Then where did it go from   Tricia Copeland ** 20:01 there? Then I jumped into the witches with the kingdom Journal series. I developed a character that was a vampire or is a vampire witch hybrid, and so she has a vampire mother and a witch father, but she doesn't know who her father is. She's never met him. And to make things a little bit harder, vampire witch Hyderabad are not allowed, but either the witch lines or the vampires, so both the vampires and the witches got together and said, these beings are too dangerous. We're not going to allow them in our society. And if she's discovered, then she'll be killed. That was the first character, Alina, and she's and to give her just a little more stress, I put her in a human High School, so now she pretends, you know, can't pretend to be a witch. Can't pretend to be a vampire. She needs to be human too. And, yeah, so that was a really fun book to write, and that's the series where the trinity of witches has to come together, so she has to find the other two witches of the Trinity, and they each get to tell their story in the books too. So that's why it's called the kingdom journals. It's a little bit of a journal format, so each character gets to tell their own story as well as telling the overall plot line of the series. How   Michael Hingson ** 21:19 do you come up with these characters and create these stories? I mean, it's very imaginative. I wouldn't have thought of it. How do you, and I'm sure other people say that, but how do you create the characters? How does all that   Tricia Copeland ** 21:32 work? Yeah, I set out, funny enough, I set out to write a vampire series that was my vampire is my favorite fantasy characters. And I thought, Okay, I'm gonna write a vampire series. It's not you don't want to do it too far out from what most people write or most people think of vampires. But I wanted my vampires to be a little bit different from the other vampires and other series. So I had this idea of making the vampire witch hybrid and her set in a human High School, and what would that look like? And then the challenge? I wasn't sure what I wanted to do with the challenge, but somehow I came up with this curse, and the curse was on the witch line, so it very quickly morphed into more of a witch book and the magical side of things, but the vampire characters are still there, and I explore them a little bit, although not as much as the witches.   Michael Hingson ** 22:27 Do you find that the characters essentially tell you what they want to be and who they are and why they do what they do. How much are the characters involved in your writing process? I've heard other authors say that that in some of the fiction things, the characters really create the story   Tricia Copeland ** 22:47 they do. I feel like my books are very character driven. So how I usually start with the idea for a character and think of their personality, their challenges, what I want, what themes I want to show with that character and then build the world sort of around that character. So it shows those themes and those character traits and what they're overcoming, either in their personal life or in their their physical life, right? But I do have characters that go off script. In the second book, kingdom of darkness. I have a character who we're not sure if he's a good guy or a bad guy. The main character thinks that he may be trying to delude her into thinking he's good when he's not really good. But I wrote him so well, like he was so nice that I couldn't make him a villain. So he became, I rewrote the story a little bit. I'd written it in my mind, I guess, but I rewrote it a little bit. So he did end up being a villain. And then somehow he got his whole own book, so he gets to star in his whole book after that.   Michael Hingson ** 23:54 And does he stay a villain? No, he   Tricia Copeland ** 23:57 didn't stay. He didn't was never, I mean, I kind of wrote it so the main character thought he was a villain, but in the end, I didn't make him a villain.   Michael Hingson ** 24:06 Well, I like books like that. I yeah, I think that most creatures are generally pretty nice.   Tricia Copeland ** 24:14 We would hope so,   Michael Hingson ** 24:16 although I don't know that that bears necessarily are overly generally nice to people, but, you know, who knows? Yeah, that doesn't mean they're evil either. Well, no, yeah.   Tricia Copeland ** 24:27 I mean, they're just living their life, right? That's they need their food sources. Is just like we need our food sources. So   Michael Hingson ** 24:35 I'd rather not be their food source, though, but that's okay, right?   Tricia Copeland ** 24:39 Yeah, and I don't know. I do struggle with, like, evil or antagonistic characters, because I'm, I don't like the idea that there's a character that is purely evil for no reason. So that is, that's always a grapple in an author's mind. I think,   Michael Hingson ** 24:56 well, and you know, I'll go back to Harry Potter. Modern Of course, we have Lord waldemart, who was definitely evil. But even so, the way she created the characters and the way she crafted the books, which probably in some ways, are similar, just in a process of what you do, it's not necessarily overly graphically evil. Even if there's evil, it isn't so graphic that you you you become totally adverse or against it. Evil or bad things are there, but it's all on how you present it. That's why I like books that are essentially puzzles, if you will, because they leave a lot of things to your imagination, and they give you the ability to as a reader, think about it, but as a writer, you also are essentially drawing the reader in to where you want the reader to go, but, but they're puzzles, rather than just some graphic thing, talking about all these horrible, mean, nasty things that a character may do.   Tricia Copeland ** 26:08 That's true, and it's all perspective, right? So the quote, unquote villain in my series is out to destroy all the vampires. But then you meet vampires that are good vampires, right? And you think, Huh, well, maybe this one vampire shouldn't be destroyed, because this vampire is not acting in a mean or hurtful way. So many sides to those questions,   Michael Hingson ** 26:33 yeah. Well, so the Kingdom series. How many books are in that one?   Tricia Copeland ** 26:38 There are four books in the main series, and there's a prequel to that series, okay?   Michael Hingson ** 26:45 And then what happened? What happened after that series?   Tricia Copeland ** 26:48 So in the finale, kingdom of war, my witches were going to have this huge battle against a vampire army that the evil witch created to, you know, battle the good witches. Yeah, she put which souls in the vampires. So that made them sort of like super vampires. But anyway, my witches needed an army, and I thought who would be a good character to be, to have an army that can come help the witches. So, yeah, the beings I thought of were fairies, and I created a queen Titania, is her name, who had an army who would come help the witches battle these vampire witch soul hybrid be. And when I created her, she just kind of took on her own character, and I quickly morphed that into what was her backstory, what were struggles? Where was she living? Where would the spay army come from? And that is what kind of launched my realm chronicle series, that the finale is coming out next month. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 28:10 that's that's pretty cool, and that that answers, again, the question we talked about earlier. The character actually took over, if you will, the writing, which is always cool, because that really shows how deeply you're invested in the characters and you let them have their voices, right?   Tricia Copeland ** 28:26 And I couldn't really give up the characters from my kingdom Journal series. They not, you know, not to give too much away, but they do complete their first quest and but this evil witch who's trying to destroy the vampires is still out there somewhere, so I couldn't completely let them go. So the witches from my kingdom Journal series come into the round Chronicles series, and the fairies and the witches are continuing to help each other.   Michael Hingson ** 28:56 Well, that's cool. Well, it's kind of neat to even though it's a new series, and I assume you can read one without reading the other, but still, it's neat that you, you follow on and help to craft and expand the world.   Tricia Copeland ** 29:11 It's been a lot of fun. And I, you know, selfishly, I didn't want to let go the characters. I felt like they had a little bit of story left in them, and I was able to do that through the round chronicle series. And yeah, it it was a lot of fun for me to   Michael Hingson ** 29:26 write. And now, of course, the question is, will there be a lot more story with them, which is part of the adventure that will come next? Right?   Tricia Copeland ** 29:33 Yes, I'm, I'm thinking of that. I put my characters through a lot. So after I finished the finale, I felt like I just had to let them rest. I'm not really sure if I will continue with those same characters or or either pull out some different characters from that book to have their own stories. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 29:54 well, it's, it's going to be an adventure. No question about. It   30:00 definitely so   Michael Hingson ** 30:04 with your books. Do you have themes in your books? That is, are you? Are you trying to convey messages? Do you have themes and things that you want people to think about as they go through reading your books?   Tricia Copeland ** 30:16 I do. I feel like I like that in the book, and so I kind of embed that in my books too, but it's really more about what is the character grappling with. Not only, like I said in their physical world, maybe Queen Titania is the first female queen in her realm, and some of the old guard, other monarchs are not sure that a female should be able to rule, So that's sort of an out, outside challenge. But she also has inner conflict and challenges where she's not really trusting that she really can do it and she's really supposed to do it, and should she, you know, hand the crown to someone else who may be older or wiser or and so it does she have faith in herself. You know, would sort of be that theme there. And so each of the books have, I mean, it's not like I say, hey, the theme of this book is you need to believe in yourself, yeah, but just showing that the character arcs and how they overcome their challenges.   Michael Hingson ** 31:22 How do you again create those? How do you work those in what? What's the process that allows you to to put those themes in and and add them to the book and bring that value out? Right?   Tricia Copeland ** 31:37 I guess it's just how, the way I the challenges I choose to put in front of my characters and showing them fail at times, and showing them I do write first person, so you're getting a very up close view of what the character is thinking and feeling at all times. So I think that helps with a little bit of that, knowing that the character is struggling with whatever their um, XYZ, inner, inner turmoil that they're struggling with. And then, you know, just having other characters bounce things off of them, because the character themselves might not realize, hey, I I get anxious when I'm not in control of situations. So, you know, somebody might say, Hey, you're doing this again, stop.   Michael Hingson ** 32:29 That's why we have editors,   32:30 right,   Michael Hingson ** 32:33 and other people to help well, so you are you, but you clearly talk with your characters and you let them have a voice, which is, I think, something that adds a really great dimension to the writing that you do. And I think it's very important to do that.   Tricia Copeland ** 32:51 I hope so. I have very detailed character sheets for each of my characters. I create much bigger back stories than, probably, than really makes it into the books, just to be able to know, like, how my characters will react in situations, what their growth needs to be, where areas that I want to show that growth, and what's most important in their values, And how would they react to all the different challenges?   Michael Hingson ** 33:24 What caused you to bring fairies into it again? I think that's pretty imaginative. You were writing about witches of vampire. Fairies are are different. How did that come about?   Tricia Copeland ** 33:34 Honestly, I was at a book event, and a person was walking around with these postcards, and they were trying to get authors to write a short story for an anthology, and it had to be a fantasy genre, and it had to be a character with a mental health challenge. But the image on the postcard was of a fairy, and she was hunched in a meadow in these grasses, and she looked kind of anxious or scared, maybe even a little timid or worried. And I thought, Oh, that's a cool image. It was very striking with the green grass and her fairy wings and just her eyes were like had just a lot of feeling behind them. So it caught my eye. I never thought I'd write about fairies. I was looking for the Army for my witches, and I thought, well, you know, the fairies could be like the characters the witches go to. So it was just kind of happenstance that I happened to see this fairy character on a postcard and think, Huh, I could, you know, the fairies could be the answer.   Michael Hingson ** 34:44 And turns out, they were, they were Yes. So are all fairies girls? No, okay.   Tricia Copeland ** 34:51 I mean, fairies are much like humans in my world, except that my fairies have wings. They in. Middle Earth, which is just below earth. So they share our same bedrock. It kind of mirrors our Earth in my world. And they have rings where they can come back and forth between the fae and the human realm, and they live in our contemporary times. I like those themes of there might be witches, there might be vampires, there might be fairies that walk alongside us every day, and we don't know it.   Michael Hingson ** 35:24 And do they know Bill Bo Baggins, since we're talking about Middle Earth, just   Tricia Copeland ** 35:29 they do, well, they might have read the book. I don't know that they met him personally.   Michael Hingson ** 35:35 Yeah. Well, that's, you know, another, another story, but it's but it's cool. What other kinds of characters are you thinking of for maybe future books, outside of witches, vampires and fairies,   Tricia Copeland ** 35:49 right? So I won't give too much away, but no, in order to perform some of the spells that they need to perform in, I guess in two of my books in this series, to be a Fae legend, which is the third book of the series, and to be a Fae which is the finale, The last book of the series. My witches and fairies need to perform these spells. So they need a great amount of power or energy, and they have to assemble different kinds of beings. And in the finale, they have to assemble 12 different kinds of beings. If you try to make a list of different kinds of being, you actually in ones that the witches and the fairies could find in the human realm, like so I had an elf and the werewolves and nicks and selkies like so the Nicks are shape shifters that shift into fish, and then the selkies are shape shifters that shift into now I'm blanking not walruses seals, sorry. So yeah, I had to go find all these different characters. So all of those characters are in this final book, and I I'm thinking of maybe some of those characters that can form a new series.   Michael Hingson ** 37:11 So are all trolls, mean, nasty creatures, or, do you know yet,   Tricia Copeland ** 37:16 in my series, they are depicted as that? Yes,   Michael Hingson ** 37:21 how about gnomes? I don't have any gnomes. Well, there's another one for you to look at down the line. Might be. It might be interesting to see where that goes. Of course. Yep, so you but you have a variety of characters, and I think it's it's great when you have a rich culture of a lot of different characters. And of course, there are all sorts of potentials for conflict or for different creatures to work learn to work together too,   Tricia Copeland ** 37:56 right? The Fay historically have not worked with other beings or creatures. They very much kept to themselves and had primary purpose. They think their primary purpose is to protect the humans from all the evil spirits. So that has been their focus historically, and they've shunned other groups of beings based on whether they thought they were descended from the Creator, who's sort of like their god or the creator or the evil one, right? So the Fae believed that the vampires and werewolves, for instance, were created by the evil ones, so they shouldn't associate with those types of beings, and there's a lot of learning in there. I guess you could say it, are we going to partner with these beings, and how? What does that look like? And is that really okay? And can we choose a different path than what our predecessors have chosen?   Michael Hingson ** 38:59 And I guess it's sort of pretty clearly, is that they somewhat do that.   Tricia Copeland ** 39:06 Yes, they do. And Titania, our main character, is very much the Herald for that type of behavior and that type of community and that type of acceptance   Michael Hingson ** 39:23 well. So your next year, your book will be out in July, and then where do you go from there?   Tricia Copeland ** 39:31 Yes, so like I said, I'm tossing around ideas for fantasy characters. I also write in the romance genre, so generally, I'll write a fantasy, and then I'll write a romance. I'll switch back and forth between writing those. The past year and a half, I guess I've been focusing on finishing this fantasy series, so I have two romances now queued up that I'm excited about writing, and we'll get to those first. I   Michael Hingson ** 39:58 think, hmm. What romances Have you written already?   Tricia Copeland ** 40:03 So after the being me series, I started the perfect romance series, which the first book was a little bit different from a typical romance. It has five parts, and it's the same main character, but based on decisions at different times in her life, her life goes off in a different way. So you see her go to France and fall in love with the French man, or you see her take a job in New York City and fall in love with a investment banker. And so you see her in different stages of her life, having made different decisions, but still finding happily ever after. So that kind of kicked off that. And somebody, somebody called it speculative romance at one time, and it's more like make your own story or choose your own ending type of book. But from there, I initially thought I would write like a full book showing each of the happily ever afters with that same character, but I wrote one book showing one happily ever after scenario, but then decided that I would look at all of her friends lives so they all met in college, and they were in this one sorority together. And so I write different books showing the different friends love stories. So I've written perfect. Was the first one perfect, always with Chloe. And then Brie book is a close as close to perfect. And this is still set in Lexington, Kentucky. And then the last one is perfect office pack, which is a enemies to lovers, office romance.   Michael Hingson ** 41:51 Now, do you put a lot of sex in your books? I   Tricia Copeland ** 41:54 don't know. My books are what's called closed door or fade to black, so you'll see some kissing, but not much more than that,   Michael Hingson ** 42:03 and that's fine. And the reason I asked that question was to get to the whole issue of so many people when they're writing, just have to make everything so graphic. There's got to be all this sex and all this other stuff that they put in them. And my view has always been, is that really necessary? And I gather you, you're essentially saying the same thing. And again, it's like detective stories. I love to read a lot of detective stories, but I like the detective stories most that are puzzles. That is, I want to figure out who done it. I don't need all the graphics of how somebody got murdered, or what happened. It happens. You don't need to put all that graphic stuff in to get to dealing with the puzzle. And it's the same thing with sex. You really need all that. Like a lot of comedians, it's all the shock stuff. They got to have all these horrible words, swear words, and everything else but the best comedians, I think most people, if they really study it, will agree, are the ones that tell stories without all that dirty and sex stuff in it.   Tricia Copeland ** 43:12 And that's what I like to read and what I like to watch, too. But there are definitely people that enjoy different types of books. Yeah, there are, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 43:21 yeah, I hear you, but I, I would prefer to be able to use my imagination in various things. So one of my favorite detective stories or Characters of All Times is Nero Wolfe, written by Rex Stout, because he he writes in a way where you don't see all the graphic and don't need to see any of the graphic to get the entire picture. He describes enough so you know what's going on, but he doesn't deal with it in a way that would How do I put it? Offend anyone?   Tricia Copeland ** 43:59 Right? And I would probably argue that mystery books are would be the hardest to write, I think, because you have to give enough clues throughout so that the reader doesn't think, Oh, I would have never thought that was the villain, but you don't want to put too much in. So it's so obvious who the villain is, right? So I think it's the ways those authors weave those stories are very intricate and thought out and multi layered and impressive to me   Michael Hingson ** 44:34 well. And the reality is that sometimes, and again, I'll use Rex Stout as an example, when you find out who did it, or who the bad person was, and Wolf explains it clearly, all the clues were there, but it would be really hard for you to put it together. Now, there have been a few times where there were things that he didn't tell you, that if you if he had said those. Because during the book, you might have figured it out, but mostly the clues are somewhat there, but it is so subtle that I doubt very many people would figure it out, which   Tricia Copeland ** 45:14 is, yeah, definitely.   Michael Hingson ** 45:17 It makes it so much fun. When that happens, it is. So you're, you're still deciding what you want to do for your next series of books, or what, what the next realm will be, if you will,   Tricia Copeland ** 45:31 in the fantasy genre, yes, I'm still deciding which way to go with my next characters.   Michael Hingson ** 45:38 Yes, right, but you're going to probably do some romances before you go into those. I   Tricia Copeland ** 45:43 am, yes, I was just writing a newsletter to my subscribers. In the last book, I had subscribers pick names for my characters. And so in this book, I thought, You know what? I don't like this character has has only been introduced and very briefly in one of the books, and so she doesn't have a lot of backstory. And I thought, You know what, I can just ask my readers, where do you think she should live? What are her hobbies? What does she like to do? What's her favorite book genre? I thought that would be a lot of fun for my readers to direct some of that.   Michael Hingson ** 46:18 And what kind of answers did you get? Did you get a lot of feedback?   Tricia Copeland ** 46:22 Like I said, I Well, with the names one when? So I'm just sent out the poll today, new one, but for the name ones, yeah, I would. I got like 100 answers. And then I thought, you know, next time, I won't do the names, because sometimes names are so personal and can vote like a lot of emotion that people get very heated about people's names.   Michael Hingson ** 46:47 Now, do mostly women answer? Do you get both sexes answering your questions? It is   Tricia Copeland ** 46:52 mostly women, but definitely, maybe 10% male, I would think. And actually, I feel like I have more interaction, and that's mostly on the fantasy side, but I feel like I actually have sometimes more interaction. Maybe, I don't know, maybe this get more passionate about fantasy?   Michael Hingson ** 47:13 Yeah, probably so. But you know, there's, there's something to be said for reading a good romance book. I like cozy mysteries as well, and a lot of those are really combinations of mysteries and romance, and the mystery part is oftentimes more straightforward, but it's just the whole book and the putting the entire book together that makes it so much fun.   Tricia Copeland ** 47:41 Yeah, those can be a quick, you know, kind of feel good read. I yeah for that genre, yeah, and   Michael Hingson ** 47:49 there's nothing wrong with that. It's good to have feel good books occasionally,   Tricia Copeland ** 47:54 too. I am all for feel good everything, yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 47:58 Well, when I travel, I like to read on airplanes, and I like not to work and do reading that's really related to work, because going and coming from events is really the time that I get to have the most down time once I get somewhere I am on until I am on the airplane coming home. And so it is the way to relax. So I enjoy reading things that will allow me to relax when I'm going and coming from trips or from events, which is so important, I think, to be able to do and I think people should do more of that. It's always worth slowing down some and really letting your mind just wander.   Tricia Copeland ** 48:38 Yeah, plane trips are my favorite, because that's I do the same thing. I read on the plane, and I listen to audio books mostly if I'm home, when I'm exercising or when I'm doing chores. But to be able to sit down and read doesn't happen that often.   Michael Hingson ** 48:56 What do you like to read most from audio books? What? What genre?   Tricia Copeland ** 48:59 Um, exactly what I write, fantasy and romance.   Michael Hingson ** 49:03 What's your favorite fantasy books   Tricia Copeland ** 49:06 I just finished, and I'm so behind because I don't read fantasy when I'm writing fantasy. So I just finished Holly Black's, the folk of the air series, the cruel prince, I think the cool prince, the wicked king and the queen of nothing. I think they're the three books in that series. So that was really good series. And I'm writing Emily's wild encyclopedia fairies right now. So I just started that get   Michael Hingson ** 49:33 a little bit more information on those fairies for a future book. Right? That's that's kind of important to do. So do you produce with I've asked a number of people this, and I'll ask you, do you arrange for audio books to be produced from your series?   Tricia Copeland ** 49:53 I do both my fantasy series, The Kingdom journals, as well as the realm Chronicles. I have audio books. Four. I'm a little bit behind in the realm Chronicles. My Narrator had some health problems, so I'm switching narrators. But my new narrator, Tina walls, wolsen craft, yes, I think that's how you pronounce her last name, she will be working on the fourth book in the realm Chronicles series in September. So I'm hoping that will come out in October, and that will be my, my eighth audio book.   Michael Hingson ** 50:23 And where can people get the audio books?   Tricia Copeland ** 50:26 So the kingdom Journal series is on all platforms, and then the realm chronicle series, the newest series, is on Audible. Okay,   Michael Hingson ** 50:37 so and again under your name for the author?   Tricia Copeland ** 50:42 Yep. Tricia Copeland, author, the Kingdom Journal series. The first two books are female character, so and now I'm blank. I can't believe I'm blanking on her name. It'll come to me in a minute. Yeah. So I had a female narrator for the first two books, and then the second two books are male Lee main characters. So Dan Delgado did the narration on those and then Jillian Yetter, who was the most amazing narrator for Titania. She even had pink hair, just just like Titania does, a hold of the the cover of the book has Titania is pink hair. So that was really fun to work with her, and we won an award for the second book in that series, to be a fake guardian   Michael Hingson ** 51:26 in audio book. Oh, cool. What was the award? It   Tricia Copeland ** 51:29 was independent book publisher Association, young adult fantasy, Silver Award.   Michael Hingson ** 51:35 Oh, cool. That's exciting. It's always good to have awards. Have you run other awards along the way?   Tricia Copeland ** 51:40 I have several Colorado independent book Publishers Association for the first book, kingdom of embers, in the kingdom Journal series, as well as several the global Book Awards for to remember it to be, to be a fake queen, which is the first book in the kingdom journals and as Ray at my Aztec mythology.   Michael Hingson ** 52:06 So how many books have you written all together?   Speaker 1 ** 52:08 Next month's book will be 23 Wow.   Michael Hingson ** 52:13 That is really exciting. Well, I know we're putting in the show notes, the picture of the book cover for the next book. And as I mentioned earlier, if you want to send us other books that you think people ought to read, we'll put those pictures in the the notes as well. I'm glad to have all the pictures you want to share.   Tricia Copeland ** 52:31 I will definitely share them. Thank you. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 52:34 so is there anything else you'd like all of our listeners and viewers to know or to think about going forward,   Tricia Copeland ** 52:42 right? Well, if you go to my website, which is triciacopeland.com,   Michael Hingson ** 52:47 and Tricia is T, R, i, c, I A, Copeland, C, O, P, E, L,   52:53 a n, d, l, a n, d.com.com,   Tricia Copeland ** 52:56 yes, if you go there, and if you just want to get a trial of my books. If you subscribe to my newsletter, then you can read a free short story fantasy as well as a free short story romance.   Michael Hingson ** 53:07 Oh, okay. If people want to reach out to you, what's the best way to do that,   Tricia Copeland ** 53:13 they can reach out on direct message, on social media, or my email is Tricia T, R, i, c, I a@triciacopeland.com   53:21 too. Okay,   Michael Hingson ** 53:24 then people can, can reach out and and they'll, I'm sure, have all sorts of ideas for you.   Tricia Copeland ** 53:31 I love ideas, and I love talking to readers about my books.   Michael Hingson ** 53:36 Yeah, I I've written three, and I love getting comments and feedback from people, because I get new ideas and new thoughts. And mine are really all about helping to inspire people and so on. So it's it's always good when people have their their observations, whatever they are.   54:01 I agree.   Michael Hingson ** 54:03 Well, anyway, I want to thank you for being here. This has been a lot of fun, and I really value your time being here, and I hope people will reach out and and also, more important, get your books and read your books and review them. One of the most important things that all of us who are authors will tell anyone is, please review the books. Please go to places like Amazon and Reddit and so on and review the books, because those reviews are are viewed and paid attention to by so many people. So giving an author, a great review is always a wonderful thing to do.   Tricia Copeland ** 54:44 We do appreciate those and thank you so much, Michael for having me.   Michael Hingson ** 54:48 Well, it was my pleasure, and I want to thank all of you for listening and watching today. We really appreciate it. If you've got any thoughts, I'd love to hear from you, please email me at Michael H i. M, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I, at access, A, B, A, C, C, E, S, S, i, b, e.com, but also go to our podcast page, www, dot Michael hinkson.com/podcast, you can see all of our podcasts there, but they're also available wherever you're listening to podcasts and and you can find the most anywhere podcasts are available. If you know anyone who ought to be a guest that you think would make a wonderful guest, and you'd like to have them tell their stories and Tricia you as well, I would really appreciate you introducing us, because we're always looking for more people to have on the podcast, and so please don't hesitate to reach out and don't hesitate to provide introductions, but again, give us a five star review here on unstoppable mindset. We value your reviews greatly, and we really appreciate you doing it. So I want to thank you, Tricia again, for being here. This has been fun, and I think it's really important that people do get a great sense of what you're doing, and I think we've done that, and we're really anxious to see where you go from here.   Tricia Copeland ** 56:08 Thank you so much, Michael, I so appreciate it.   Michael Hingson ** 56:15 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. 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This week's episode promises to take you on a journey of personal transformation with MEgan Moseley, a body-mind integration expert. Discover tools and techniques to help you regulate your nervous system and cultivate a deeper sense of calm and presence as a leader. MEgan shares her unique path from physical therapist to body-mind coach and reveals the secrets behind somatic psychology and the subtle art of being a "human being" rather than merely a "human doing." Tune in to learn how to navigate the noise of the world, enhance your leadership capabilities, and create psychological safety in every room you enter. This episode is packed with teasers on micro practices that can bring epic changes in your presence and power.MEgan Moseley is the founder of Bodywise Consulting and the creator of The Art and Science of BEing ME—a transformative framework that blends 35+ years as a physical therapist with deep expertise in somatic psychology, nervous system resiliency, trauma release, and embodied coaching.Through evidence-based somatic practices, MEgan guides leaders, entrepreneurs, and changemakers to harness the wisdom of their bodies, shift from survival into authentic BEing, and cultivate nervous system states that support clarity, confidence, and aligned action.Her retreats, courses, and 1:1 coaching help clients reconnect with their core truth, build embodied resilience, and lead from a place of grounded presence. The result? Greater ease, deeper impact, and a ripple effect of authenticity and wellBEing that transforms not just their work—but their lives, communities, and beyond.Connect with MEgan through her website- www.becomebodywiseconsulting.comMarli Williams is an international keynote speaker, master facilitator, and joy instigator who has worked with organizations such as Nike, United Way, Doordash, along with many colleges and schools across the United States. She first fell in love with transformational leadership as a camp counselor when she was 19 years old. After getting two degrees and 15 years of leadership training, Marli decided to give herself permission to be the “Professional Camp Counselor” she knew she was born to be. Now she helps incredible people and organizations stop waiting for permission and start taking bold action to be the leaders and changemakers they've always wanted to be through the power of play and cultivating joy everyday. She loves helping people go from stuck to STOKED and actually created her own deck of inspirational messages called StokeQuotes™ which was then followed by The Connect Deck™ to inspire more meaningful conversations. Her ultimate mission in the world is to help others say YES to themselves and their big crazy dreams (while having fun doing it!) To learn more about Marli's work go to www.marliwilliams.com and follow her on Instagram @marliwilliamsStay Connected to The Marli Williams PodcastFollow us on Instagram: @marliwilliamsOur Website: www.podcast.marliwilliams.comHire Marli to Speak at your next event, conference, workshop or retreat!

My guest this week is Tricia Copeland. Having experienced anorexia and recovering from that mental illness as a young adult, her first series, Being Me, is a fictionalized account of that journey.Once the series was finished, Tricia realized she still wanted to write but had to figure out WHAT to write.She now writes fantasy fiction and hosts the Finding the Magic Book Podcast, which weaves magical stories about love, courage, and finding your passion.Tricia believes in finding magic. She believes magic infuses every aspect of our lives, and we create our own brand of magic. Whether transforming hearts, lives, numbers, ideas, art, music, or simply enjoying nature, we discover magic daily. She aims to write stories that show what is possible when one commits to finding one's version of magic. With urban fantasy and paranormal young adult titles, you will surely find a magical character and storyline to love within her books.Tricia is an award-winning author of Kingdom of Embers, To be Fae Queen, Lovelock Ones, Azreya, Aztec Priestess, and dozens of other titles. Tricia believes in finding magic. She thinks magic infuses every aspect of our lives, whether it is the magic of falling in love, discovering a new passion, seeing a beautiful sunset, or reading a book that transports us to another world. An avid runner and Georgia native, Tricia now lives with her family and four-legged friends in Colorado. All her titles, including contemporary romance, now penned under Maria Jane, young adult fantasy, and dystopian fiction, at www.triciacopeland.com.https://www.facebook.com/TriciaCopelandAuthor/https://www.instagram.com/authortriciacopeland/https://twitter.com/tcbrzostowiczhttps://www.tiktok.com/@triciacopelandauthorhttps://www.youtube.com/@triciacopelandauthorhttps://www.pinterest.com/triciacopelanda/https://www.amazon.com/-/e/B00YHN5Q4Ghttps://www.goodreads.com/author/show/14055439.Tricia_Copelandhttps://www.bookbub.com/authors/tricia-copeland#anorexia #wellbeing #mentalhealth #letfearbounce #authorslife #writerslife #authorinterviewLearn more about your host, Kim Lengling, at www.kimlenglingauthor.com

Send us a textHave you ever experienced that you want to do things differently in relationships with yourself or others - but the old programming is strong? Stopping you from doing that new thing.To break old patterns and start doing something new, you need a strong why, a motivation. “I should be doing that” just isn't strong enough to overcome old survival strategies.In this episode, I share how you can tap into rebellion against old conditioning. And stand for love for yourself and your relationships.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationshipsEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp180: From anxious and obsessing to enjoying her relationship, with Kate — Open once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textTwo years ago, after starting the most secure relationship Kate had ever had, she noticed anxiety about being enough or too much. Her system wasn't used to consistency, kindness and support, and her body wasn't sure it could trust it.Kate was often worried Ben would leave for someone “more attractive”. And when her fear and hurt would show up, she feared she was ruining everything.After doing Being Me a second time everything shifted. No more stuck in reactive loops, endless “solving” conversations, and bracing for being let down. Instead, she feels safe in herself, playful and fully enjoying her relationship.In this episode, Kate shares how her relationship and life went from anxiety and obsessing to feeling safe and enjoying.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep97: Releasing shame - live coaching #3 with KateEp178: The hidden piece under our reactionsEp96: “I've done so much work, why am I not healed yet??”Ep136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactionsOpen once a year, starting on February 9: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textWe often have this idea that healing means we're NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow.If you're avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has kept you safe) - you need to learn how conflict can open doors to more intimacy and connection.In this episode, I invite you to discover the gift of friction and how to feel safe moving through it.—You find show notes in this post on my websiteCheck out these related episodes:Ep178: The hidden piece under our reactionsEp136: How to get to the bottom layer of our relationship reactionsEp154: Understanding and practicing honestyJoin my free coaching call on Sunday Feb 2Open once a year: Enroll in Being Me - my 5- or 10-month coaching program. Takes you into the embodiment of your authentic, turned-on self and ridiculously good relationships from there. We start February 9th.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textWhat got my clients that experienced deep foundational shifts to their reactive patterns there? Moving through the pillars in my program Alchemy and the turn-on framework in my program Being Me, of course. But there are a few things that I see the clients who are getting the deepest shifts have in common.In this episode, I share three mindset shifts that will help you get the results you look for and experience peace, playfulness and more self-expression where there used to be people-pleasing, protection and loud reactions.—Check out these related episodes:Ep168: From protection and hurt to leading from love in relationshipsEp152: From overcomplicating inner work to embodied shiftsEp139: 3 common obstacles when shifting reactive patterns (and how to get past them)Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself — You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textAs you heal emotional wounds and shift your reactive patterns at the root, there's more freedom. While before you've been operating from protection and fear and automatically reacting to situations in your relationships - you now have other options.In this episode, I'm giving you examples of a different way of moving through conflict, friction and differences in relationships and how to get there.Instead of reacting, collapsing in hurt, blaming the other person, withdrawing, giving the silent treatment or getting the hell out of there - here's how to lead from love.—Check out these related episodes:Ep166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachmentEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textJoin the upcoming embodiment session with Meytal and Eva, by joining the Being Me waitlist. It's free!Have you also tried to fix your physical and emotional pain through exercise and inner work, felt hopeless, given up, or settled for a restricted way of being and moving?In this episode, we explore the freedom and aliveness that's possible when we change how we relate to tension and pain. Listen to find out how you can melt decades of physical and emotional pain.Meytal Blanaru is a dancer, Feldenkrais practitioner and a guest teacher in Being Me 2025. She will share Fathom High movement sessions (based on the Feldenkrais® method) which brings you into your body, regulates your nervous system and melts physical and emotional tension held in your body. You'll experience more freedom in moving and being, and a new relationship with your body.—Check out these related episodes:Ep118: From heaviness and despair to love - conversation with Irene and ShannonEp124: There's no-one you need to become - with Chris BaleEp166: Grow your capacity to have the relationship you wantEp163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itself—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textMany of us have a list of qualities and experiences that we want in relationships - but not many of us dare to look at our own capacity to BE or BRING that which we want.Becoming an inner leader, also in relationships, means shifting out of victimhood and growing your capacity to have what you want. To become that which you long for OR - the match for that.In this episode, we explore how you can bridge that gap between your desire and your capacity to have the nourishing relationship you want.—Check out these related episodes:Ep147: Holding goodness in relationships (part 1)Ep148: Holding goodness in relationships (part 2)Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itselfEp117: The turn-on between your feminine and masculine archetypesEp131: 3 less-talked-about mistakes that keep your relationship stuck – and how to shift them — You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Send us a textAs you're learning about the importance of feeling your emotions and allowing that in yourself - you'd like to be witnessed in your emotional depths. But what to do when your partner or loved one is unwilling or unable to listen to your emotional experience? When they shut down, check out, or belittle what you share? They might support you in doing the work - but “do you have to talk so much about it with them”?It hurts when your partner is unwilling to meet you and touches a core wound that had you cover up and manage your emotions to begin with. So how do you continue doing the inner work and honor your desire to share your feelings with them - when they don't want to?In this episode, we look at your half, your partner's half, and three things to focus on when a partner or loved one gets stressed when you share your emotions.—Check out these related episodes:Ep164: A different look at anxious and avoidant attachmentEp138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep129: 4 signs of an immature relationship with emotionsEp161: “Am I tolerating someone's bad behavior by working on myself?”Ep159: What about the other person's half?—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

On today's episode of Asked and Answered by Soul, Jennifer Urezzio and Alyssa Berthiaume, writing guide, ghostwriter, award-winning author, and founder of The Write Place Right Time, explore the idea of bravery and how we can be more courageous. The first and most powerful act of bravery is to take time to know, like, and trust YOU. Part of your journey here is to become comfortable with who you are and embrace your wholeness - both the light and the shadow.   Listen today as Jennifer and Alyssa share that you are far more than any moment when you felt less than whole, and sharing your experiences can be one of the bravest acts of self-love and self-validation you will ever make. Take time to get quiet, listen, and learn as much as you can about who you are in this lifetime on this earthly plane so you can truly LIVE this experience because you're not going to be living at all if you're not in touch with who you are. About Alyssa Alyssa Berthiaume (known as Ally and published under A.Y.) is a mompreneur, author, ghostwriter, and writing guide with a superpower for hearing between the lines. She guides badass and brilliant, loving, and soulful people in writing their incredible personal stories of grit, hope, and triumph meant to inspire their audience, transform the masses, and change the 'effin' world. She is the CEO/Founder of The Write Place, Right Time, an award-winning author of Dear Universe, I Get it Now: Letters on the Art and Journey of Being Brave and Being Me and the co-author of Do Not Write a Book…Until You Read This One. The Asked and Answered by Soul podcast is dedicated to helping you understand that your Soul is the answer. To learn more about your soul's answers and purpose, access your free guide at www.themythsofpurpose.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textUnderstanding how the attachment style that you developed growing up, is impacting your relationships today, can be very helpful. But as the use of attachment theory in the relationship or dating scene is becoming more popular - so are the misconceptions and conceptualizations that pull us away from the actual experience. Meaning - we are theorizing a very embodied process…In this episode, I want to bring you into your body and nervous system to understand the response behind what's commonly called anxious or avoidant attachment. So we can bring more compassion to BOTH responses and embodied ways of loving on them. And I hope to bust some misconceptions about the holy grail of secure attachment.—Check out these related episodes:Ep163: Activating deeper trust with yourself, your partner, and life itselfEp162: 3 ways your trauma shows up in relationshipsEp153: Understanding and practicing honestyEp147: Holding goodness in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my websiteGet on the waitlist for Being Me for free trainings, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationshipsJoin me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patterns

Please join me as I speak with Baby Scoop Era, domestic adoptee Sophi Richman Fletcher. Sophi shares with us a piece she wrote on the search for her father, what she discovered, and how her discovery has been pivotal in her own self-empowerment. Sophi can be found on Facebook as Sophi Richman Fletcher. Sophi welcomes questions about the search process and on managing expectations in search and reunion. She can be messaged through FB Messenger. Mentioned in the show: No Apologies for Being Me, a blog by The Adopted Genealogist, Lynn Grubb Lynn Grubb (noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com) The Sunshine Boys: Southern Gospel History - Sunshine Boys (sghistory.com) National Adoption Awareness Month was established to promote adoption. Adopted people have been working to reframe the conversation centering the voices of adult adopted people in order to shift the prevailing narrative. There are many resources that people can explore to learn more about the deconstruction of the adoption narrative. We encourage listeners to listen to podcasts produced by adoptees, read books and articles, and visit adoptee produced content on IG, FB, Tiktok and X, as well as blogs on blogspot, wordpress, substack and other platforms. The opinion of the host and their guest are just that, their opinions. The host is not a lawyer, therapist or adoption professional. Thank you for listening!

Send us a textWhen you live your life from a conditioned idea of right or wrong - the mind judges what's happening as good or bad, and you react compulsively to it. On top of that, the ego mind is convinced it's in charge of keeping us safe, figuring things out, and finding the right path to our healed, amazing life and relationship.What gets lost in this exhausting approach is a sense of trust. You don't trust yourself to move through what's painful, your partner to show up for you or do what they said they would, or life to carry you where you need to go. With this sense of internal mistrust, you create more of the experience you least desire.In this episode, I talk about trust and how to activate it to carry you through ups and downs in relationships and life. To feel the ocean of trust underneath the waves of everyday life.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep84: The hidden structure behind mistrusting othersEp66: Do you trust yourself to get the shifts you want?Ep68: Affirmations of trust and easeEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp110: Making suffering your ally — You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textMost of us have trauma. Unprocessed emotional wounds. They show up in our relationships to BE processed, but they will look like a big problem unless we're aware and have the tools to meet them. I truly believe that this is important work of our generation and lifetime.That's why, in this episode, I talk about three common ways that trauma shows up in our relationships, and how we can navigate them in a way that heals instead of re-enforcing the trauma, and all the beliefs and habits that come with it.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOUEp161: “Am I tolerating someone's bad behavior by working on myself?”Ep137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactionsEp134: 3 things to do when triggered in relationships—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textHave you ever-so-nicely asked for what you want in a relationship - just to be met with their wounded reaction and dismissal? Maybe you start to wonder if it's too much to ask for, and if you shouldn't need it to begin with. A typical is-it-me-or-them situation.In this week's episode, I answer a question from a listener who easily feels abandoned. The relationship she is in easily inflames that wound, and she wonders, “What is valid to be upset about?”Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me for bonuses, early-bird perks, and resources on becoming your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep130: Is it me or them?Ep159: What about the other person's half?Ep157; When to stay and when to goEp153: Understanding and practicing honesty—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textBeing embodied is inhabiting all of your being with your attention and awareness. It's feeling and experiencing yourself. Most of us have been conditioned to relate to ourselves and the world through our mind's labeling and storytelling. Moving your attention into your body and your felt sense will shift the relationship to yourself and others.In this week's episode, we explore WHY you would want to become embodied, HOW to do it, and the initial uncomfortableness you'll likely experience.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep48: 3 reasons to prioritize embodimentEp98: Two common lies about feeling emotionsEp129: 4 signs of an immature relationship to your emotionsEp152: From overcomplicating inner work to embodied shifts — You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textSo what about your partner? Are you the only one who should do all the healing and changing - or could you expect a little willingness to work on the relationship from them?In this week's episode, I take you through three of my guiding principles for relationships. So you can navigate what to expect from a partner and create the relationship you long for.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep157: When to stay and when to goEp153: Understanding and practicing honestyEp144: Use your complaining to find your desires—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textWhile gaslighting refers to an intentionally manipulative behavior to have you question your experience or even sanity, it's often thrown around these days to point out the dismissal of our emotional experience. Which is an unconscious epidemic alive in most of us.If you've ever been made wrong for what you're feeling, felt like too much, or been told that you're overreacting, this episode is for you. It explores how to alchemize feeling dismissed and not heard, so you can stand for what you feel and want.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep157: When to stay and when to goEp143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEp141: How to meet your emotional needsEp142: How your reactive patterns keep you from being YOU—You find show notes in this post on my website

Send us a textAfter years of conditioning, it's easy to question our compass on when to stay and when to leave in a relationship. Some of us go too soon, while others remain way past the expiration date.In this episode, we explore why we stay too long or leave too fast, what it says about the love we have for ourselves, and when it's a good idea to move on.Join me in Alchemy where I teach you the four pillars to heal emotional wounds and shift reactive patternsGet on the waitlist for Being Me so you can show up as your authentic self in relationships—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from being YOUEp146: 3 things to help you be yourself around othersEp154: Turn your relationship pain into your spiritual journeyEp155: Heal through separation, loss and heartbreakEp156: Letting go - when parts don't want to—You find show notes in this post on my website

Ally Berthiaume is the founder of The Write Place, Right Time, which is her virtual boutique of book coaching. She is also an award winning author for her book Dear Universe, I Get it Now: Letters on the Art and Journey of Being Brave and Being Me and co-author of Do Not Write a Book...Until You Read This One. In this episode we delve into her story of how she decided to become a writer and then step into the entrepreneurial world. Here is where you can find Ally: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewriteplacerighttime/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ayberthiaume/ Instagram: @ayberthiaume Website: thewriteplacerighttime.com

The safe, joyful, and blissful relationship we all long for, is not something our system is practiced with. Our nervous system might even signal danger when things get good. Or we don't even notice when goodness knocks on our door since we're so caught up in survival state.Part two of Holding Goodness goes all in on re-training your nervous system. The skills and energetic shifts you can implement right now to feel safe to feel good - in relationships and life.Join my free training Holding Goodness (July 10-14 2024)Join the waitlist for Being Me - registration opens July 10My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactions—Check out these related episodes:Ep 147: Holding Goodness in Relationships part 1Ep146: 3 things to help you be yourself around others (New House Series ep 1)Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp114: What is Turn-On?Ep63: Our resistance to Ease and Joy—You find show notes in this post on my website

We all think we want what's good, safe and joyful - but truth is that parts of you have gotten used to struggle and might even feel safe with it. It's the known, while feeling safe and at ease is the unknown.This second episode of The New House series dives into what we need to address to experience goodness in our lives and relationships. Not just to go after the endless pursuit of it - but to hold it once we have it.Join my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep146: 3 things to help you be yourself around others (New House Series ep 1)Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp114: What is Turn-On?Ep63: Our resistance to Ease and Joy—You find show notes in this post on my website

When we have practiced being unsafe, frustrated, vigilant, unmet, and misunderstood for most of our lives - we probably need to practice something else to have a different experience. I call this building the new house (as you're taking apart the old house of conditioning, protective mechanisms and fear).This is the first episode in The New House series in the podcast. It shows you three things to practice if you want to feel more like yourself around others. So you can feel authentic and nourished by social settings and relationships, rather than drained and avoiding them.My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep144: Use your complaining to find your desiresEp116: What I want: From Integrity or Ego?Ep114: What is Turn-On?Ep145: Why we lie in relationshipsEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

There are big lies in relationships, and then there are the small lies. How much we spent on that sweater, that we indeed are on our way (when we haven't left the office), or that their loud chewing isn't bothering us.In this episode, we look at why we lie or hide things from others, how it became automatic, and the hurt it's protecting from. So you can stop using all your energy on invisible protection mechanisms and feel more like yourself around others.Join my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”My 5-week program Alchemy: The embodied art of healing your emotional wounds and shift your automated reactionsJoin the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEP141: How to meet your own emotional needsEp144: Use your complaining to find your desires—You find show notes in this post on my website

Did you know that your complaints are hidden desires? And that when you learn to re-connect with the desire you'll take a lot of personal power back? AND will be able to communicate more clearly with others?In this episode, I share a practice from my recent in-person retreat in Spain that guides you to find the wantings in your complaints. So you can get more of what you want in your relationships.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep143: How to get out of questioning yourself around othersEP141: How to meet your own emotional needsEp73: Do I follow every desire?Ep116: What I want - from integrity or ego?—You find show notes in this post on my website

“I want this but I'm not sure it's reasonable to ask for it.”“Is it me or them?”“I want to be with them but I'm not getting what I want.”When we've learned to doubt what we want, and feel stuck in not having our needs met and constantly being pulled back into a core wound - we're more likely to look for “the right choice” which keeps us in an inner conflict of what that is.In this episode, we check back in with Wey and look at a way to acknowledge all sides of an inner conflict. So that you can empty out the emotions, clearly feel what you want AND heal a core wound all at once.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep142: How your reactive patterns keep you from becoming YOUEp127; Align with your soul - Live coaching #6 with WeyEp73: Do I follow every desire?Ep116: What I want - from integrity or ego?—You find show notes in this post on my website

When we learn to believe the lie that we need to be a certain way to be loved and appreciated, we start to exile aspects of ourselves that don't fit the image. When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions - we've disconnected from a crucial part of ourselves. Our wantings.In this episode, I talk about who you haven't allowed yourself to become when you've been identified with your wounds and protection mechanisms - and that it's not too late to open the doors to all your different expressions.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in AugustJoin my free training: “From struggling and reactive, to peaceful and safe in relationships”—Check out these related episodes:Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp116: What I want - from integrity or ego?Ep73: Do I follow every desire?—You find show notes in this post on my website

If we're the ones to meet our own emotional needs - where do we begin? When we're identified with parts that feel unloveable, broken, rejected or alone, this will feel impossible and confusing. Not to mention the fact that no one ever taught us or modelled it to us.In this episode, I talk about the two big shifts you need to make to start meeting your own emotional needs - so your relationship dynamics can also start to change.Join the waitlist for Being Me - the next round starts in August—Check out these related episodes:Ep138: How to create emotional intimacy (when it hasn't worked before)Ep137: 3 comforting truths about your relationship reactionsEp6: How things in the way of your process actually ARE your processEp109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal wounds—You find show notes in this post on my website

Jessica Gold and Brian Werts are on the #ReadingWithYourKids #Podcast to celebrate Jessica's children's book "The Winner at Being Me." Jessica discusses how the book explores children finding their hidden talents. Brian shares how he brought the characters to life through illustration. Jed reflects on challenges raising two different children and their interests. The guests discuss the importance of finding hobbies to build confidence and self-esteem in kids. Brian emphasizes practicing art daily. Jessica shares her next project with Brian about connecting generations through stickball and technology. They emphasize the value of direct collaboration between authors and illustrators. The conversation concludes with Jessica and Brian promoting literacy and exploring future events together. Click here to visit our website - www.readingwithyourkids.com 

Sometimes a wound can sit at the level of the soul. A sense of your actions and embodiment being out of alignment with a soul purpose, or a heartbreak that had you form beliefs against your true nature.In our sixth session together, Wey takes a journey of remembering why her soul came here and what is important. Listen to find out how you can start to trust in being you - that your desires and skills are exactly what's needed, even when they don't seem logical to the mind.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she's moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.You find show notes in this post on my post

An ego death is a natural cycle of shedding old identities. But sometimes aspects of ourselves seem more stubborn and harder to let go of, even when we want to.In this episode we de-mystify the concept of ego death and look at how you can meet your shadow and loosen the grip of attachment, so you can finally let go of outdated iterations of yourself.If you want to take part of the yearly process of letting go inside Being Me, join the Death/Rebirth process we move through in December. It's open to everyone.You find show notes in this post on my website

We can get so focused on the struggle in “doing the work” that we forget that there's an experience on the other side of healing ourselves. If we've been addicted to struggle, then part of the journey is going to be to grow your tolerance of goodness and make safety, pleasure, and ease your new normal.In this fifth session with Wey, we're spending time celebrating that she's out of the swamp and digesting her shifts so far. Listen to discover how you can let go of your addiction to struggle, tension, and drama, and rewire for goodness.Come join Wey, myself, and the others in the Death/Rebirth process in December, mentioned in this episode.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she's moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.You find show notes in this post on my website

Want to watch the recording of this conversation and connect even deeper with the transmission? Get the video hereFeel stuck in “doing” your inner work or adhering to spiritual concepts, and need a reminder of why you're here? This is it.In this second episode with Chris Bale (ep 64 from a year ago is one of the most listened to) we explore the misconception of having to become someone or do something, while you're missing the fascinating experience of being human. That the lovemaking between spirit and consciousness is happening right inside you and that you're here to be present with it.In this slow-food-for-the-soul conversation, we explore the potency in listening, how uncomfortableness is here to set us free, our fear of death, our addiction to sparkly spiritual band-aids, and more.Chris Bale is a spiritual mentor, intimacy coach, and energy worker and has deeply inspired me to fall in love with my human and feel deeper than ever before.Chris is a guest teacher in my 7-month alchemical program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round, or join the Death/Rebirth process we move through in December. It's open to everyone.You find show notes in this post on my website

Your spiritual journey IS your human journey. In the seemingly mundane, in the obstacles, challenges, heartbreaks, and losses. Waking up, is realizing that and moving through it consciously.In this fourth session with Wey, she's faced with a challenging situation and her protectors have pulled her up in her head and into a survival state of figuring things out. I guide her to speak what's here, to say it all out loud.Listen to discover how you can move from confusion, stress, and stuckness back into your body - and how to move through everyday experiences as your greatest spiritual teacher.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she's moving through my alchemical group program Being Me.For the Black Friday offers mentioned in this episode, head over to my website and drop your email in the Black Friday box!You find show notes in this post on my website

The more you're able to hold yourself in love and awareness (aka the safer all the aspects of you feel about how you treat them), the deeper you'll be invited into your psyche and emotional world. When the core wounds are ready to be met with, the opportunity to do so will show up.In this third session with Wey, she's invited into the full experience of a defining memory that created a core wound. Listen to discover how you can feel safe while you heal your most painful experiences, and the relief that comes from doing so.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Wey as she's moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. It's not too late to join this round of Being Me!You find show notes in this post on my website

24 amazing minutes of affirmations to remember being you. When to stop trying to figure things out and breathe and regulate your nervous system. When to stop thinking and start feeling. When to become present with what's alive in you instead of focusing on things around you.I recorded these affirmations at the end of the last round of Being Me and shared them with the members as a bonus, and now it's here to support you in aligning with yourself and life itself. Let them seep into all the delicious forgotten corners of you.All about my signature program Being MeYou find show notes in this post on my website

Hey love, today's episode is loaded with journaling prompts to help you start being more you. I'll share with you what BEING ME has been meaning to me lately and that it's not as cut & dry as it used to feel. You'll hear about: not being overly attached to your ideas about who you are being kind to yourself along the journey breaking free from those boxes we want to find & fit in COACHING // ⚡️BLOOM: 12 weeks of psychology infused, faith friendly group coaching to activate your next level confidence & step into next level fun, passion & purpose in your life! FALL 2023 ROUND STARTS 10/9 & IS THE LAST ROUND FOR THE YEAR⚡️ MONDAY MORNING JOURNALING PROMPTS // Sign up to get a self love, self confidence, mental wellness boosting journal prompt every Monday morning from me! Sign up here! CONNECT // ⁠ DM me over on IG & let me know what you thought about this episode! ABOUT // Devoney is a therapist, life coach and hosts the Free & Well Podcast. She is obsessed with empowering & equipping women with simple, practical psychology AND spirituality based tools to start knowing they are enough & feeling more confident. She's here to help you stop second guessing yourself & being so hard on yourself so you can start being kinder to yourself, setting boundaries & feeling confident AF. DISCLAIMERS // Recommendations shared in this episode are based on my own personal opinion. No content provided by Free & Well and/or on this show is a substitute for medical or mental health treatment. It is all purely for educational purposes and is not a replacement for medical, legal, or mental health advice. Please call 911 if you are in an emergency, the Access & Crisis Line if you are in a crisis at 888-724-7240 or contact a licensed mental health provider for mental health support. See full disclaimer here. http://www.devoneytaylor.com/disclaimer

The ego mind pushes aspects of yourself into your underworld, your unconscious, to protect you from rejection, pain and even death. Little does it know that this strategy not only keeps the emotion unprocessed and stuck but also makes this aspect of you more likely to explode or seep out while you have no skills to be with it. When met with and felt, this aspect can integrate and you'll feel more whole and free.In this second session with Wey, she discovers and connects with rage that hasn't been allowed to be fully felt. Listen to discover the process of going from divided to whole, by releasing and integrating suppressed aspects of you.I teach the skills of doing this in my monthlong program ALCHEMY.Wey will be in my 7-month program BEING ME. If you also want to fall deeply in love with being you and navigate life from your intuition and turn on rather than the old musts and shoulds…get on the waitlist for Being Me here. We start in October/November.You find show notes in this post on my website

Taken hostage by your to-do list and responsibilities? Not until THIS is done will you be able to enjoy, relax, take care of yourself, or grow. But the end to the list never seems to come and you suspect you're keeping yourself in an endless loop of stress and doing.I'm excited to introduce the new coaching client on the podcast. During the coming months - follow along as I guide Wey into dissolving a protection pattern of doing and control. She longs to get into her body, to be more present, and to trust more.Wey will be in my 7-month program BEING ME. If you also want to fall deeply in love with being you and navigate life from your intuition and turn-on rather than the old musts and shoulds…get on the waitlist for Being Me here. We start in October/November.You find show notes in this post on my website

In our fifth and last session, Kate opens the door to an event that happened when she was a teenager, which created a lot of the social vigilance and unsafety she's experiencing later in life. On top of the actual event, beliefs and shame were created. Unconsciously, Kate took on the responsibility for what happened, and a part of her tries to make sure she's never seen in a similar way again.We give the parts of her a chance to process the emotions that never were felt and give them a more truthful perspective of who was responsible.This episode is part of a series where you get to listen to me coaching Kate. If you're interested in learning the same skills, get on the waitlist for the next round of BEING ME or have a look at other ways of working with me.During June, you can get the FEMBODIMENT bundle with a 30% discount.You find show notes in this post on my website

In this special 100th episode, I talk about how you as the Artist of your life use your desire as a compass, and how your devotion to something greater than your ego becomes the reason behind your actions. Let's look at the way to navigate life on the other side of shoulds and old identification.Celebrating 100 episodes I'm giving away one free spot for the next round of BEING ME.

In our fourth session, Kate goes deep in releasing emotions buried underneath anxious attachment and jealousy. We explore the emotional need that wasn't met and how she can meet it now.This episode is part of a series where you get to listen to me coaching Kate. If you're interested in learning the same skills, get on the waitlist for the next round of BEING ME or have a look at other ways of working with me.During June, you can get the FEMBODIMENT bundle with a 30% discount.

In our third session, Kate finds shame about manipulating others to get their attention and appreciation. From the work she's done, she now has the capacity to feel shame in a healing way, instead of reinforcing the old story. So we take the opportunity and dive in even further and go where a part of her is the most afraid of going. When she does she finds freedom on the other side.This episode is part of a series where you get to listen to me coaching Kate. If you're interested in learning the same skills, get on the waitlist for the next round of BEING ME or have a look at other ways of working with me.You're also invited to the power journey in Teotihuacán in October, where you get a whole week to release fear, shame, and other emotions so that you can experience freedom and deep unconditional love.You find show notes in this post on my website

In our second session together, Kate is invited to get to know and understand the motifs of a protector part that's been very dominant in her life. It's constantly trying to pull her attention away from feeling, and into being likable and flexible. It does not like needs or any emotions that aren't soft or positive. When she connects with it for the first time, she gets to see a completely different side of it. A side that's afraid and hasn't processed the emotion of shame. By relating differently to this part its experience starts to shift.This episode is part of a series where you get to listen to me coaching Kate. If you're interested in learning the same skills, get on the waitlist for the next round of BEING ME or have a look at other ways of working with me.You find show notes in this post on my website

After eight months it's time for the last session with Tina. Such a special episode where we look back at the changes she's experienced and give room for the emotions around ending the sessions to be felt.Tina's also invited into releasing a part that's been feeling so much responsibility for making things happen. The tension of this part has been held in her body and as she puts her attention there and taps into trust in her bones, the muscle tension starts to let go.This episode is part of a series on the podcast where you get to listen to me coaching Tina as she's moving through my alchemical group program Being Me. Get on the waitlist for the next round!Upcoming is also a 6-week intensive that I mention in the episode. You'll get guided out of your head in figuring things out and deep into your body to embody the fierce force that is you. Read more about Fembodiment here.You find show notes in this post on my website

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My guest today, Ronan Levy, is the co-founder of Field Trip Health, the world's largest provider of psychedelic-assisted therapies, with twelve incredible clinics across the globe providing truly life-changing modern treatments. We talk about his journey into psychedelic therapy (and swap tales of our own medicine journeys), go deep on the neurological benefits involved, hash out the complexities of providing these modalities in safe and legal settings, and preview his upcoming documentary, Ordinary Trip. As upside-down as the world seems to be right now, it's truly inspiring to meet people like Ronan who are doing such impactful work, and to see the evolution of alternative therapies like the ones we discuss here.  Whether you're just psychedelic-curious or a well-traveled psychonaut, this dialogue has a lot to offer. And for those of you who find yourself inspired by Ronan's story and are interested in a journey of your own, visit lukestorey.com/FieldTrip to find out how to take advantage of their cutting-edge therapies. DISCLAIMER: This podcast is presented for educational and exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for diagnosing or treating any illness. Those responsible for this show disclaim responsibility for any possible adverse effects from the use of information presented by Luke or his guests. Please consult with your healthcare provider before using any products referenced. This podcast may contain paid endorsements for products or services. 00:04:32 — The Trip Journal The Trip Journal by Ronan Levy Importance of integration and understanding Honoring the psychonaut journey Fear and letting go  00:19:03 — Ronan's Personal Journey  Kidnapping of his brother Failed kidnapping of George Bush Sr. Leaving his work as a lawyer Opening a cash-for-gold store Getting into the cannabis industry  How To Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan Ronan's first mushroom trip Power in empathy and self-awareness 00:38:56 — Launching Field Trip Finding freedom in Jamaica  Fundraising and scaling  A harrowing first ketamine experience  Canada vs. US regulation  Curating the experience  Integration as a lifelong process Describing a typical ketamine journey How psychedelics change your brain The Case Against Reality by Donald Hoffman Exploring at-home ketamine therapy  Luke and Ronan swap concert experiences  01:20:47 — Ordinary Trip (Documentary) Mission behind the project  Tripping around the world Magnitude of 5-MeO-DMT The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. The funniest cosmic joke of all time 01:44:10 — The Future of Psychedelic Therapy Decriminalization and legalization  Field Trip app  Epic failure of the war on drugs Fostering intentionality and connection  Formulating a half-life synthetic psilocybin  Watch the documentary trailer  Erwin Pearlman, Tom Robbins, and Yuval Noah Harari More about this episode. Watch on YouTube. THIS SHOW IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY: BONCHARGE. Good sleep is one of, if not the best, wellness hacks you can leverage. The Bon Charge Blackout Mask is lightweight, breathable, fully adjustable, and provides the perfect blackout experience for deep sleep. Use the code LIFESTYLIST for 15% off at boncharge.com/lifestylist. AND... JOYMODE. Want to spice things up in the bedroom and boost your sexual performance? And do it naturally without nasty prescription drugs? Whether you're happy or unhappy with your performance in the bedroom, why not perform even better? JOYMODE's Sexual Performance Booster is like a pre-workout, but for sex. Go to usejoymode.com/LUKE or enter “LUKE” at checkout for 20% off your first order. AND… SIMPLY O3. Ozone therapy has a long history of use in chronic disease, especially for things like cancer, Lyme, autoimmune infections, and mold toxicity. And now, Simply O3 is bringing expensive ozone treatment directly to your home with their ozone kits. Get 10% off at simplyo3.com/luke. AND… TIMELINE NUTRITION. Mitopure is a breakthrough postbiotic that activates your body's natural defense against aging. Clinically proven to unlock the potent bioactive, Urolithin A. It is the purest form of Urolithin A, a molecule, which is only produced as a by-product when gut bacteria digest specific ingredients found in pomegranates. Go to “LUKE10” for 10% of any 2, 4 or 12-month Mitopure plans at timelinenutrition.com. Resources: Website: Field Trip Health Read: The Trip Journal by Ronan Levy App: Field Trip mobile app  Are you ready to block harmful blue light, and look great at the same time? Check out Gilded By Luke Storey. Where fashion meets function: gildedbylukestorey.com Join me on Telegram for the uncensored content big tech won't allow me to post. It's free speech and free content: www.lukestorey.com/telegram Related: Field Tripping Podcast | The Pain of Being Me with Luke Storey #48