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We're back after a quick hiatus and were inspired by Lydia's current tropical location to cover traveling with friends. We're talking through the trials, tribulations (and joys!!!) of traveling with our friends, and drop our experiences and some helpful tips on how to make the most of a friend trip. This episode we're covering a lot: The FOMO of seeing your friends hanging out with their other friends, how to contribute to a trip, why consistency and commitment is key, navigating budget and points of friction, and picking the right trip for your group. As always, you can find us: Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're coming in hot this week with a very special guest episode! Join us as we sit down with Blake Blankenbecler, a Charleston-based Friend Educator and Licensed Therapist. When we say there's something for everyone in this episode, we mean it! We're covering SO many topics: Boundaries, shame and guilt, dirty and clean pain, friendship myths, how to talk about difficult topics, why you should talk about your friendships in therapy, how to navigate a friend breakup, grounding your friendship in reality, and so much more. Whether this is new information or maybe a timely reminder, we loved Blake's thoughtful guidance around some of the stickiest and hardest parts of friendship, and hope you do too. Obsessed with Blake as much as we are? Here's where you can find and support her amazing work: Website: Blake's Website Instagram: @blakeblankenbecler TikTok: @blakeblankenbecler.lpc The Friendship Deck: Grab your copy HERE Check out her practice: Fig Holistic Psychotherapy And as always, you can find us: Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We promised new guests would be gracing us soon and here we are with a guest we are SO excited about. Meet Samantha, the founder of & the table, a dinner series she started in Amsterdam where six women show up solo to a dinner table for a delicious meal and nourishing conversation. & the Table strives to become the dinner experience to facilitate women to engage with new ambitious women in and out of their city that they have not crossed paths with yet. It's driven by the notion that you can never stop learning from the perspectives of the women around you and helps build connections beyond the casual "what do you do for work" in order to strengthen the foundation of the ambitious women you meet. We're always energized by conversations that stretch our ideas and feelings around meeting new women, showing up wholeheartedly and chasing the joy in connection. And Samantha and & the table is a true embodiment of that. You can connect with Samantha and & the table below: Website: and-the-table.com Instagram: @and.the.table TikTok: @and.the.table Patreon: & the table And as always, you can find us: Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're back after a quick break because sometimes, the inspiration just doesn't hit. But that's not the case today as we talk about Expanders, Shine Theory and all of the good that friendship brings. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Happy Thursday! We're back with a new episode where we're covering how we're approaching some changes in our lives. We're both facing some big shifts with Lydia returning to the office and Lulu moving in with her partner which led us to musing about how to prioritize friendships as we navigate those adjustments and establish new routines. We're covering how we can approach making plans like habit stacking (from our favorite book, Atomic Habits), the 3 parts to making a plan with friends (and where we get hung up), how the pandemic has shifted our approach meeting up with friends, the things that demotivate us from catching up, and why our friends are often the perfect remedy to it. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Inspired by last week's episode, we're keeping it short and sweet by focusing on the three strikes rule. We've talked about boundaries ad nauseam on this podcast, but we loved the simplicity of @heymisskelssey's approach: Giving someone three opportunities to change a behavior. The intention each time is a little different, but this framework offers the opportunity for growth in our friendship while prioritizing respect and boundaries individually. We're covering self-awareness (or lack thereof), reciprocity in our friendships, and how feedback can help you grow in your friendships. Episodes we referenced: I'm being iced out...now what? (the previous episode) Finding meaning and connection through books (feat. Kat Cavano) Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're coming in hot with a a new episode that delves into one of the worst friendship experiences: Being dropped by a friend group. Whew, anyone else cringe just thinking about this? While this is something that we might have experienced more frequently growing up, this dynamic still persists into adulthood and even though we're older and wiser, being left out still hurts just as much. We're covering a lot: Including the stages of being iced out, how to change the script and address it, why someone might get dropped from a group, group dynamics and group think, the myth of the girl group, mourning the loss of a friendship, what to do when you're on the other side of dropping a friend, and how to move forward with your friendships in the future. Past episodes we referenced: Growing within Relationships (feat. Anisa Sudra) Taking Inventory of Our Friendships Questions of the week: What would you say to someone who is going through this right now? What advice would you give to someone who might be considering dropping a friend from a group? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're backkkkk. Did you miss us? In this episode you'll find us chatting about how habits play a role in friendships. Habits? Yes! You have friendship habits too :) We bring in our new favorite book and just shy of 3 quotes to guide our conversation which if you ask Lulu is just about perfect. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're coming to you from hell! That's a joke, well, mostly. We are starting this episode off by addressing the overturning of Roe V. Wade and how we're coping (terribly, thanks for asking!). We're sharing how we're trying to keep some positivity alive, but more importantly make a difference! If you, like us, struggle with feeling that you're not doing enough right now, here are some ideas we shared: Wearing black on the 4th of July Prioritizing your spending towards businesses that align with your values. (A great starting point is the progressive shopper but make sure to do your own research as well). Vote with you hard earned $$$! Check out Girl & The Gov to stay up to informed on getting involved with politics locally and nationally (You can listen to our guest episode with them here) Amplifying stories of brave women and people with uteruses Sharing your gifts! You can use your skills and talents to support those who are experts in this space Donating where you can. This can be amazing organizations like Planned Parenthood but also individual creators and smaller accounts who create content that you get value out of In the second half, we're switching gears and giving a little bit of an escape with a more lighthearted topic. This week we're covering how our friends influence us and vice versa. We've been seeing lots of posts and questions about pressure and influence from friends and we thought it was a great time to address it. We're covering the types of pressure we commonly see and how we try to balance our individual identities with belonging or listening to people whose opinions matter. We're also talking about the things we've been influenced to try or buy along the way thanks to our friends. Question of the week: What are you most influenced to purchase from your friends recommendations? Here are the products that we mentioned (*we're not selling anything, nor do we get commission, we just love these products*): You're the Only One I've Told by Meera Shah Skinfix Barrier+ Triple Lipid-Peptide Face Cream Skinny Confidential Ice Roller GE Opal Nugget Ice Maker And in case you missed it: We're taking a break for the month of July, but will be back and better than ever in August! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're focusing on a lighter topic, just in time for the summer! We're hoping to refocus our priority on friendships during a season that for us is synonymous with fun and quality time with the people we care about most. We're sharing how we're approaching plans this summers and the ways we're pushing our introvert selves to make the most of this season. Question of the week: What's your promise to yourself to bring some summer fun into your friendships? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We've wanted to address the question of "can you really be friends with your mom?" for a while, so we're exploring this unique friendship in today's episode. We're discussing how these relationships change as you get older, the type of friendship we have with our own moms, how we need to drop the idea of "perfection" when it comes to our moms (and ourselves), the ebb and flow of these relationships, and when we value our mom's guidance the most. The mother role can be really challenging and unique – it's not going to look the same for any one person, so we hope that this episode provides some fresh insight – whatever that relationships looks like for you. Disclaimer: We realize this might be a sensitive topic for some, so please only listen if it's right for you Question of the week: What are 3 things your mom instilled in you or that you learned from her when it comes to friendships? Quotes of the Week: “The mother-daughter relationship may be one of the most complex that exists in all of human relations, both more intimate but also at times more fraught with difficulty.” – Jen Doll "I love you, but I don't like you." – The Flight Attendant Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We've talked about finances on the podcast before (check out our "Friendship on a Budget" episode), but we wanted to explore some of the other ways that money can impact our friendships. When it comes to friendship, there aren't always clear expectations or etiquette and we've probably all experienced a scenario where finances or spending has created friction or even resentment. In this episode we're covering the mentality of "I'll get this round," Venmo etiquette, being sensitive to budgets, when you should pay, what to expect if you're hosting, and lending money to friends. At the end of the day, our friends are worth a lot, and we hope this episode provides some actionable tips and strategies to keep finances and friendships harmonious. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're coming in hot with a new episode all around the anxieties we feel in our friendships. If you're like us, we sometimes get a little in our head. We wonder if our friends are mad at us, if something we said was awkward, or generally replay things over and over until they start to well...take on a life of their own. We're covering a lot of things, but here are the key take-aways: Sometimes it's better to cancel! If you're upset, it's your job to communicate, not anyone's job to guess Beware the kitchen sink: Think through (or write out!) what is at the root of the problem and don't pile on grievances in one conversation Acknowledge what people are doing well too If you find yourself in a place where you're making stories and there's something you need to address, follow these 4 steps for better communication: This is what happened, what I experienced (simple, direct, observable) This is what I made up about it (what you imagined) This is how I feel about it (your choices are: joy, pain, anger, fear, shame, guilt, love) This is what you (the other person) could do about it. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This episode was inspired by a quote that resonated with both of us: "Learn to be ok with the fact that you're not for everyone. You shouldn't even want to be." This week we've diving into one those topics that took us some time to "get." We're exploring why we've been predisposed to get along and "fit in" with everyone and how that begins to shift later in your twenties. We both share our own struggles with this topic and the ways in which we're striving to balance being true to our authentic selves with where it's okay to code switch or compromise. Whether this doesn't resonate yet, or this is a timely reminder, we hope this episode provides some insight or validation in showing up as your authentic self. Question of the week: What advice would you give to someone who is concerned with people not liking them? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Inspired by a recent ~solo~ outing and a month spent alone, we're chatting about the importance of being in friendship with yourself! We get honest in this week's episode that maybe we aren't as good of friends to ourselves as we can be and things we're focusing on to value one of the most important relationships we have… the one with ourself. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're keeping it short and sweet with a topic that we think is just * the cutest * and that is creating new traditions in our friendship. Inspired by a video we found on TikTok, we were pleasantly reminded that it's never too late to start something new that allows you to celebrate and explore life with the people you love the most. This episode we are talking about how traditions can elevate our friendships, our favorite traditions we share with friends, and traditions we want to start to create something lasting and meaningful. We want to hear about your traditions! Whether it's one you grew up with or one you want to start, we'd love ideas to share with our amazing community. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

If you're like us, being financially savvy might not be your first nature, but this week we're getting right down to it on a topic that can be * so * awkward to talk about in friendships: Money. This week, we're challenging ourselves to put our friendships on a budget and talk candidly about how we're trying to take charge of our finances. In this episode we dive into how financial dynamics change in your mid-late twenties, discuss why we should factor friendship into our budgets and explore some ways budgeting can encourage trying new things and grow your friendships. We hope this episode makes you more conscious about prioritizing "money well spent" for experiences and time with friends that leaves you feeling whole. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week in honor of two very special milestones (Lulu's birthday and our cool lil' podcast turning a whole year old!), we're keeping it short and sweet with some musings on birthdays and how to celebrate with friends and loved ones. We're dropping some ideas on how to make your friends feel special, our musings about getting older (and hopefully wiser?) and talk about our own birthday traditions. So whether you celebrate birthday, birthday week, or birthday month, this episode is all about having your cake and eating it too. Thanks for the support, friends! We can't believe it's been a whole year of talking about friendships! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we are taking a cue from Spring Cleaning with a longer episode focused on taking an inventory of our time and where we're spending it: In our friendships, relationships, and everything else. This week we're musing about how we're prioritizing friendships, tiers of friendships, resetting boundaries and beginning to start new friendships. Listen along as we share practical tips and questions to guide that reflection and also role play some scenarios around having tougher conversations and setting boundaries in our friendships. Questions to guide taking inventory: Are there things I've been putting up with that I should get off my chest? Are there boundaries I need to set or expectations I need to clarify? What are my core values right now? Who are my top tier and second tier friends? What are me needs and where am I in my life? What do I need more of and less of right now? Question of the week: How would you set a boundary with a friend around the amount of time you're spending with them? Not sponsored, but Lulu makes a shameless plug for her Whoop and we talk through how we're taking alcohol and drinking out of the mix to get better sleep and quality of life (and the challenges/anxieties) that come with cutting back on something so imbedded in our social culture. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're back! And coming in hot with a new episode that covers something new and disturbing that we didn't see coming: Reaching a point where the group of friends you've finally created is...leaving you??? Between exciting new jobs, moving for love, or just wanting something different, we realized that both of us were losing friends left and right to the the natural shake ups that happens in your twenties. Listen along as we talk through how we're handling this recent development (hint: not well!!!), how we're approaching creating new friendships, re-opening our proverbial friendship books, and falling back in love with the cities we currently live in. Do we spend some time wallowing in our feels? Yes, yes we do. Does this involve a poem from Rupi Kaur that really wrecked us? Obviously. Do we also end on a high note that left us feeling excited? Absolutely. And we hope the prospect of all the amazing friends that you haven't met yet gets you feeling excited too! Made a new friend lately? Or moved an acquaintance to a friend? We want to hear about it! DM us, comment, etc. so we can highlight it on our next episode! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We focused on the lighter side of friendships this week, exploring those friendships that may have taken a back seat during the last couple years. We're asking the big question of: How do you rekindle a friendship? On this episode we cover our positive outlook on things (*knock on wood lol*), how to reach out to a friend that you haven't talked to in a while, why effort matters, how certain friendships know different parts of our identities, and what we're doing to rekindle friendships in our own lives. If you've been feeling like it's been a while since you talked to one of your friends, this is your sign to reach out! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Well, well, well, here we are with our first solo episode in a minute. This week we were inspired by one of Lulu's favorite books, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, and a recent podcast she was featured on (listen to that episode here). This week we're diving deep into the difference between wise and idiot compassion, what help-rejecting complainers are and the best ways to offer your friends support. This week's takeaway: Maybe it is about you. This episode is focused around how some self-reflection and awareness on our agency is key to building strong and healthy communication. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we are sitting down with the incomparable Kat Cavano, writer and bookstagrammer over at @whatskatreadingnow. We loved Kat's perspective on why books have the power to bring us together, the beauty of internet friends, the importance of embracing your passions, how to become a better reader, and her thoughts on building or joining a book club. Whether you're an avid reader or want to up your book count, be sure to listen along as we cover everything from cats (hi, Romeo!) to silent book clubs (sign us up!). Anyone else feel inspired to sit down with a book ASAP, or was that just us? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Join us as we sit down with Alandre Parker and hear about the book he's writing, what inspired his focus on men's mental health and self care, how we can show up as our authentic selves, how to navigate tough conversations as we grow, how books can be our best mentors and which habits have supported his growth. This episode had us feeling all the feels, and we hope you connect with the amazing perspective Alandre brings to the conversation too. Be sure to follow Alandre on Instagram to learn more about his upcoming book! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we have two very special guests on the podcast! We sit down with sisters, best friends, and business partners – Hanna and Lea – to learn more about all things entertaining and hosting. Their company, Hauste, provides thoughtful tips, recipes and fully curated guides to elevate the everyday and help you become an expert host without the hassle. Listen along as we discuss their sisterhood and friendship, their company and the story behind it, and resources/strategies to host your friends like a pro. We hope that this episode inspires you to Hauste your friends or yourself (and maybe try the Sunday Series Salmon & Orzo) and to up level your Super Bowl spread (we're looking at you, Caramelized Onion Dip). Whether you're a seasoned host or dipping a toe in the proverbial entertaining waters, we have lots of actionable tips and ideas to make your next gathering one to remember. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we are talking all about language in friendship, specifically how we can better use our language to be supportive and kind to ourselves and others. This week's topic was brought to us by the power of social media, where we noticed a lot of advice around better ways to respond to new or difficult situations. Listen along as we talk about toxic positivity, patterns that we fall into, how our perceptions play into our internal and external dialog and some ways that we're switching up our language to show up better for our friends and authentically for ourselves. Come for our respective sushi recs, stay for the pop culture references and scientific research. And be sure to let us know if you found this episode interesting or helpful. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we are diving into the world of psychology by talking all about attachment theory. If you're reading this description and don't know what attachment theory is and are wondering if you should listen to this episode, the answer is: Yes, yes you should. Attachment theory seeks to explain relationships between people by looking at caregiver relationships established during infancy and early childhood. It's foundational in understanding how we show up in our relationships and why others act they way they do. In this episode, we'll give you the rundown on what attachment theory is, explain the four types of attachment styles and talk through how these attachment styles play out in our relationships (and other relationships too)! Wondering what attachment style you have, take this free quiz to find out! (P.S. If you loved this topic and want to learn more, Lulu recommends the book Attached!) Question of the week: What is your attachment style and how have you seen it play out in your friendships? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Well, well, well, here we are in January friends, and this week we were are being honest about feeling...blah. Between the pandemic, taking time to focus on our own personal growth, and the stress of work, we came into this week wondering why we were feeling so burnt out so early in the year. Listen along to this short and sweet episode as we get real about our current outlook and how we're trying to re-balance our energy to make more time for our friendships. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Every January we talk a lot about what things we personally want to improve in the new year. We're reframing this conversation by asking: How can we support our friends in accomplishing their goals? So much of our behavior is shaped by the people around us, so we're talking about how we can be our friend's biggest cheerleaders for making positive changes and growing in 2022. We read some inspiring notes from our listeners around how they're supporting their friend's goals and yes, we do use a scene from "Selling Sunset" to illustrate how impactful cheering on our friends can be. Listen along to learn more about the goals we're making and how we're planning on showing up for our friends during this aspiration part of the year. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're back! And better than ever with our first guests of 2022 (cue the air horns!), Maddie Medved and Sammy Kanter, co-founders and hosts of Girl and the Gov podcast. That's right, we're getting * political * this week. Tune in as we talk about how Maddie and Sammy met (takeaway here, don't be afraid to slide into the DM's), what they're building at Girl & The Gov and why political discourse and engagement are fundamental. Then we're switching gears and asking the tough questions: What happens when you don't see eye-to-eye with your friends when it comes to politics? Are there some things that can't be reconciled? How do you have a productive conversation if you don't agree? Maddie and Sammy share their tips for keeping conversations productive, drop some wisdom on opinions vs. values and explore how romantic relationships can be the perfect testing grounds for creating healthy boundaries in your friendships around politics. Our takeaway from this week? Diversity in friendship is important, and diversity in political views is no exception! While you're at it, check out their social at @girlandthegov and @girlandthegovpodcast to stay up to date on new episodes, events and join their amazing digital community. And be sure to check out these favorite episodes we mentioned on todays' episode: SexEd Today in the USA with Danielle Bezalel, Anti-Choice Politics of Louisiana with State Rep. Mandie Landry and Photo ID and Access with Kat Calvin. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're keeping it short and sweet with an episode inspired by our favorite reality series (we're looking at you Real Housewives franchises, Vanderpump Rules and Selling Sunset!) that explores loyalty in friendships. Specifically we're looking at the classic reality TV series set up: How deep should loyalty go? If one friend doesn't like another, are you a bad friend for having a different opinion? Listen along to hear our take on if this drama exists IRL and how we're approaching loyalty in our own friendships. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week, we're covering a very pressing topic: To gift or not to gift? We both believe that friendships don't necessitate gift-giving, but we do love finding a thoughtful gift to show you care from time to time. For this episode we rounded up some of our favorite gifts to give and ones that we loved receiving in the past that we wouldn't have thought to give. Listen along as we talk through what we're giving this year, and be sure to check out our gift guide on Instagram for some stoppable links. At the end of the day, we believe in conscious gifting, and recommend putting money towards BIPOC, local, women-owned and brands whose values resonate. LULU'S RECOMMENDATIONS Hand-Picked Ornament: What I love most about ornaments is that they always tell a story. And that you can choose one based on an experience that you've had together. Check out Food52 and Picnic SF for some fun ones! The Laundress Le Labo Santal 33 Detergent: This was given to me by a friend and I always think of her when I use it! It's something I normally wouldn't splurge on, I love the idea of indulging in a product that elevates a mundane task like laundry into something special. Shop through The Laundress or stores like Nordstrom. Crystals: I've been super into crystals lately and I love how personalized they can be as a gift. Try searching for ones that connect to something that your friend might need in their life – like clarity of balance. We have an amazing store called District Mineral here in DC, which you can shop online, or see if you can support a local business instead! LYDIA'S RECOMMENDATIONS Cookbooks: I believe that cookbooks can greatly expand your world, and I love cooking and sharing delicious food with my friends. A few of my favorite cookbooks are Cook Beautiful or anything by Ottolenghi (Plenty, Jerusalem, Simple, they're all great!). They can be a great way to support your local restaurants and chefs and try new cuisines. Nice Liquor or Olive Oil: I'm a sucker for good packaging, and I love stocking by bar cart with unique brands to expand my palette. If alcohol isn't your thing, one of my favorite hostess gifts is a nice bottle of olive oil. It's something we all use, and having one that looks beautiful in your kitchen is such a nice bonus. Self Care Products: Okay, so I realize candles might seem like a cop out, but I do love a unique candle. There are so many amazing black-owned candle companies that you can support too! I also love little gifts like a body wash or a lip product, since they're something most people use and can be a fun way to elevate the everyday if you have a product you love. Check our Cupcake and Cashmere's Black-Owned Brands edit for a great range of products. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Happy Thanksgiving, friends! This week we're focusing on something that feels very fitting for this time of year and for the pandemic in general: Burn Out. Lydia and Lulu are sharing their experiences around burn out, exploring how it can impact your relationships, and some strategies to mitigate it. Listen along as we share some articles that helped us better contextualize this concept and talk through how we're working to maintain balance in our hectic lives. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

If you are like us and speed through life, we're here with an episode to remind you to slow down and take a minute to reflect on the friendships you're grateful for. This week, we were inspired by a question from Lulu's boyfriend that made us really think about the friendships in our lives and how to let our friends know that we appreciate them. In the episode we cover mantras (s/o to @amberfillerup for her insightful thoughts into the value of mantras) to refocus friendship, how to connect with our friends best (love languages we're looking at you!), thoughtful ways to show you care and have some recovered memories along the way. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We're back after a much needed week off! And hitting the ground running with an episode that has been top of mind for us lately: Finding Time for Friendships. In this episode we cover a lot (some things more relevant than others): Strategies for keeping your friends close in your busy life, the best Thanksgiving side, DuoLingo's TikTok account content, and our ideal forms of communication. Listen along as we dive deep into our musings about friendships as we get older and busier, and how to keep the friendships that matter nurtured and thriving through it all. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Since we love "naming the feeling," this week we were inspired by this Refinery29 article that introduced us to something we'd felt before but never had the terminology to describe: Weaponized Incompetence. In this episode we explore how this might be manifesting in your friendships and talk through how you can make sure your relationships are balanced. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

We've talked about making friends in a new city, but what about a new country??? This week we're saying hello to Jonette Engelbrecht (@jonette.engelbrecht), a South Africa native with unparalleled joie de vivre and aesthetic. In this episode, Jonette shares her perspective on taking the leap and making friends in a new country. From sharing her approach to finding new friends, what surprised her most, how you can better support your international friends, and how she's building a new community in Austin, listen along to learn how to build a beautiful life wherever you go. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Inspired by this post from @therapyforwomen (and also Aristotle), we dive into the supposed three types of friendships and how they take shape in our lives. We're curious to know if you agree that there are three types of friendships or more? Or maybe friendships aren't able to be put into a category so simply. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Mercury is in a MAJOR retrograde and so this week we are taking it back to basics with a solo episode about protecting your energy, thinking through when to share heavy things with friends and making actionable plans to follow through. Plus, Lulu has a breakthrough this episode thanks to the actions of a highly evolved friend. It's short. It's sweet. It's filled with banter. We hope you love it. Happy Thursday, y'all! Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're talking with none other than Lydia's husband, Stephen Jordan. In this episode, Stephen talks about why most of his close friends are women, explores if the stereotypes around male friendships are true, and talks about his tips for taking your friendships deeper. We're talking about boundaries, being your authentic self and knowing when it's time to end a friendship in a brand new light. Check out Stephen on Instagram @designxus Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're saying hello to Emily Duong, a full-time creative entrepreneur, podcast host, and digital content creator with a love for mindful living and visual storytelling rooted in meaningful relationships. In this episode, Emily shares unique POVs on finding community and going after what you want which inspired us like no other. Check out Emily on Instagram:  @emilyeduong @whatfulfillsyou PLUS, make sure to check out her card game launching for preorder September 25. Find the details here  Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we're talking to Lulu's mom and reiki healer, Maryliz Burns. She is bringing her mom energy to cover how to show up as your authentic self in your friendships and relationships. Her extensive work with 20-somehings (including Lydia) has prepared her for the crises that, let's be honest, we're all experiencing. She's giving us her tips for showing up as your authentic self, lessons she's learned along the way, and the golden rule that you probably learned but also might have forgotten (or maybe that's just Lulu). You can find Maryliz on Instagram at @maryliz_burns and learn more about her practice here. Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Inspired by #BamaRush going viral on TikTok, we're revisiting our youths as two atypical sorority girls. From what we learned from the Rush process to things we *wish* we had done that we do now, we're taking a stroll down Greek Row through the lens of how our sorority experience shaped our view on friendship.  Question of the week: Name two things that you learned from being in a sorority that's helped your friendships now? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

In this week's episode we're sitting down with lawyer, film devotee, cocktail connoisseur and podcaster Sara Shaw to analyze a fight that almost ended her and Lydia's friendship. This episode has everything: Cringey chance run-ins, toxic traits, intense self-reflection, great story arcs, and fairy-tale friendship endings. Lydia and Sara are dropping some sage advice on navigating conflict and how sometimes fights can lead to the biggest personal breakthroughs. Find Sara on Instagram at @_sarashaw_ and listen to Hitchcock Happy Hour here. Discussion Questions: How did you know something was wrong in the friendship? How did you address the conflict? Tips on how to frame the conversation? What did you commit to change in the friendship? What did the road look like to get back to “normal”? Is our friendship different than before? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week, we were inspired by a post we saw from Nedra Tawwab speaking to noticing how you're feeling in your friendships and when it might be time to walk away. This episode had us thinking, rethinking and finding new outlooks and we hope it does the same for you. Question of the week: We ditched it this week to talk at length about the tips inspired by and added to from Nedra Tawwab's post HERE Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week we dive into a topic covered by our queen and idol, Brené Brown. We explore trust and distrust through the lens of BRAVING, an acronym, which defines about the fundamental qualities needed for trust in a relationship. And our minds. Were. Blown. Listen along as we discuss how these manifest in friendship, sharing some personal stories and getting vulnerable about which ones we're still working on. Definition of Trust and Distrust: Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else Distrust is what I have shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you What Braving Stands for: B boundaries R reliability A accountability V vault I integrity N non-judgement G generosity Question of the week: Which of the seven letters resonates most with you? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week, after we both saw two friends who we hadn't seen in… years, we were sparked to unpack how those friendships are different than friends you see more often. Since this episode is a short and sweet one we'll leave it at that. But we're curious to know what you all think! Question of the week: How often do you need to talk to your friends to feel close? Is it a one size fits all approach? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

This week, we were *surprise surprise* inspired by an amazing quote (with a fun backstory!) that left us thinking about how our friendships shape us into the people we are. We discuss how our friendships help us set new standards for ourselves and explore how the truly elite friendships allow us to grow into our best selves. We cover a lot this week: Letting go of friendships with a lot of history, acknowledging that two truths can exist at the same time, and how we want to make the most of our friendships (and life!). Quote from today's episode: “The people who we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great. We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the best versions of ourselves.” - Matthew Kelly Question of the week: How do we manage friendships to maximize our growth? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Inspired by a Light Watkins quote this week, we dive into our experience with friends who we wish were *just a little different*. From "deprioritizing" friends to setting boundaries and even just learning to let go, we tackle a lot in a quick 28 minutes. Topic: Your friends don't have to change for you Question of the Week: How do you balance your boundaries and expectations with your friends' qualities that you struggle with? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

In this week's episode, we honor the 20th anniversary of Sex and the City by exploring what this iconic series got right, and what we want to leave in the early 2000s. Listen along as we discuss which character we identify the most with, how this series elevated female friendship, and how we want to see friendship represented in the future. At the end of the day, who wants to be a Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte or Samantha when you can be yourself? Topic: Friendships in Pop Culture | Celebrating 20 Years of Sex and the City Question of the week: I couldn't help but wonder, what did SATC get right about friendship and what should we leave in the ‘00s? Quote: “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with." – Charlotte York Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com

Prioritizing yourself isn't selfish. We'll say it again for those in the back. Prioritizing. Yourself. Isn't. Selfish. This week, we talk about how we're coining this summer the Summer of No. That's right, we're tuning inward to look at our priorities and who we're prioritizing to show up genuinely and be okay with being selective with our time. Lydia had a dinner last week that spurred this episode and we can't wait for you to listen and let us know... will you be having a summer of yes? or a summer of no? Amongst some solid advice ~lol~, we share lots of laughs in this one and we can't wait for you to listen. And because it would mean the world to us... if you listen on Apple Podcasts, please give us a rating and if you're feeling up to it, a review. Topic: Prioritizing Yourself Isn't Selfish Question of the Week: How are you going to take what you've learned during COVID and be conscious to leave time for yourself and for the relationships that matter? Get involved! We'd love to hear from you. Instagram: @willyousitwithme TikTok: @willyousitwithmepod Gmail: willyousitwithme@gmail.com