Podcast appearances and mentions of Lori Gottlieb

We talk to Lori Gottlieb—psychotherapist, bestselling author, and co-host of the “Since You Asked” advice podcast—about what she wishes she could tell her patients. We discuss questions like why patients lie to their therapists, how to know if you’re the toxic friend, how to handle a challenging holiday gathering, and how to end rumination. Resources & links related to this episode: Request bookplates now to get them in time for the holidays! Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (Amazon, Bookshop) Elizabeth is reading: The British Are Coming by Rick Atkinson (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: A Weekend in New York by Benjamin Markovits (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you know if someone’s really right for you? Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong? Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally. Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Confidence Through Body Language How to Date Without Burning Out How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing 09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes 13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle 16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love 21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships 22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life 24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People? 26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner 27:49 Are Your Standards Too High? 29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost? 30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want 32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s FutureSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We talk about why immersive experiences are so energizing and interesting. We also explore how we can know ourselves better by considering what the algorithm reflects back to us about our interests, and we talk about the satisfaction of clearing clutter. Resources & links related to this episode: Masquerade Viola's Room Life in Five Senses Titanic Virtual Experience Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone? Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare? In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen. Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism. This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Performing for Love How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable How to Build Connection Through Acceptance How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time” How to Love Without Trying to Fix Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection 03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early 06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability 11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself? 13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship 20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More? 25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too? 28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session 44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions 47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict 51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love 57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met? 01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube Lori Gottlieb | Instagram Lori Gottlieb | Website Dear Therapists Podcast Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you know when you’re ready to commit? Do you think love alone is enough? Marriage isn’t a destination, it’s a daily practice. It’s the ongoing choice to show up, grow, and recommit to each other through every season of change. In this special compilation, Jay brings together powerful insights from Jada Pinkett Smith, relationship coach Sadia Khan, psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, and his own reflections with Radhi. Together, they explore how lasting love isn’t built on fleeting chemistry, but on emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the courage to evolve, side by side. Jada shares how marriage can be a spiritual journey, where your partner reflects both your light and your flaws, guiding you toward unconditional love and deeper healing. Sadia reveals the often-overlooked truths about infidelity, self-control, and discipline, reminding us that love cannot thrive without trust. Lori highlights the power of honest communication, from setting boundaries with in-laws to having the tough conversations about money, marriage, and children before it’s too late. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Emotional Resilience in Marriage How to Heal and Grow Through Partnership How to Spot Signs of Emotional Distance How to Create Space for Emotional Openness How to Recommit as Your Partner Evolves Every relationship faces challenges, but those moments can become powerful opportunities for growth when met with compassion and openness. The true beauty of love lies in the willingness to listen, to learn, and to keep building something real, together. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:28 The Cornerstone of Family Life 03:58 When Divorce Feels Like the Only Option 08:44 The Power of Unconditional Love 14:14 Valuing How People Show Up 18:13 Every Marriage Looks Different 20:14 Rethinking Traditional Marriage 24:13 Do Women or Men Get Cheated on More? 26:19 Choosing a Man with Self-Control 27:59 Why Sexual Discipline Matters 29:45 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags! 32:35 Staying Attuned to Your Partner 34:28 Talk About Marriage Before the Proposal 37:43 Why a Baby Won’t Fix a Marriage 40:41 When Your Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for You 46:36 Building a Safe Space for ConnectionSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Description: In this episode of the Matriarchy series, we explore how deeply ingrained patriarchal narratives can create a policing effect on the behavior of women.  Author, Elise Loehnen, discusses her book "On Our Best Behavior" which examines how concepts like the seven deadly sins have historically been used to restrict women's behavior and police their adherence to an idealized form of "goodness." Loehnen unpacks the insidious ways women are culturally conditioned from a young age to suppress normal human drives like anger, ambition, and sexuality. And how disrupting rigid gender stereotypes is important when raising the next generation in order to build a more compassionate world.  … Thought-provoking Quotes: ★ “Women are trained for goodness; men are trained for power.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “Patriarchy isn't just out there in systems and structures — it's in us. It's the air we breathe.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “A ‘good woman' never needs anything. She has no wants, no anger, no appetite. She exists to meet everyone else's needs — and calls it virtue.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “We are so conditioned to police ourselves that we end up policing each other.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “I hold everything I think with loose hands. This is what I know now. But I'm open to the me who might think differently later.” – Jen Hatmaker Resources Mentioned in This Episode: ➤ On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen - https://bit.ly/44tz41D ➤ Goop - https://goop.com ➤ For the Love of Being Seen and Heard ft. Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/4b8YT9C ➤ Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/3JO7FOn ➤ Evagrius Ponticus (Fourth Century Christian Monk) - https://bit.ly/4b7zEV5 ➤ Pope Gregory on the 7 Deadly Sins - https://bit.ly/3y1J1XK ➤ Harvey Weinstein Abuse Cases -  https://bit.ly/4b5ktM5 ➤ Carol Gilligan - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_G... ➤ In a Different Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3JQ9IBh   ➤ Human Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3UQ1Rcn ➤ Andrew Tate - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_... ➤ Order, Disorder, Reorder (An idea Developed by Richard Rohr) - https://bit.ly/44xzHqK ➤ For the Love of The Enneagram ft. Richard Rohr - https://bit.ly/3QzzZaW ➤ Loretta Ross - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loretta... Guest's Links: ➤ Website: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/ ➤ Facebook:   / eliseloehnen   ➤ Instagram:   / eliseloehnen   ➤ Twitter:   / eloehnen   ➤ LinkedIn:   / elise-loehnen-b867523   ➤ Podcast: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes ➤ Blog: https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/ Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We discuss why a weekly "Saturday Synch-up" can reduce squabbling and make coordinating schedules much easier. We also share happiness lessons learned from six months of living with a puppy. Plus, we answer a listener question about the best way for an Obliger to ask questions of a Questioner without causing resistance. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Check out the new Happiness Project tools Take the Four Tendencies quiz: Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Elizabeth is: So busy that she's not reading anything right now Gretchen is reading: Millions by Frank Cottrell Boyce (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We discuss why investing in the right tools can boost both happiness and productivity—when it's worth spending money, and when it’s not. We share an easy happiness hack for finding accountability and community to keep up a good habit, and talk about a startling calculation that may change the way you read. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Ep. 548 Put your money where your mouth is Join Secrets of Adulthood on Substack Elizabeth is reading: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: All Passion Spent by Vita Sackville-West (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear the first episode from Since You Asked. After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the more episodes and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We discuss the value of taking the trip. We also reveal something very valuable that is available for free, if you know where to look, and we share listeners’ thought-provoking responses about the “one big thing” they’ve successfully tackled. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Use NewsBank, PressReader, or the Libby app to get access to digital newspapers Elizabeth is reading: War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: Swimming Studies by Leanne Shapton (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re revisiting my conversation with the author Gretchen Rubin, since we could probably all use a little more light these days. Gretchen has spent years trying to understand happiness, the ways she can access it herself, and how to bring others in on the wisdom she’s gained. Gretchen also has a new podcast, Since You Asked, with bestselling author and psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb. The two of them team up to take on the everyday problems we all face. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they'll address it all with warmth, humor, and insight. Follow Since You Asked wherever you get your podcasts or head to https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd Follow me on Instagram at @davidduchovny. Find more video podcasts on our YouTube channel. Stay up to date with Lemonada on X, Facebook and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our shows and get bonus content. Subscribe today on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. For a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this and every other Lemonada show, go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stories of people who try simple mind games on others, and then find themselves way in over their heads. Visit thisamericanlife.org/lifepartners to sign up for our premium subscription.Prologue: Host Ira Glass interviews Lori Gottlieb about the time she sent a letter to a writer in a magazine, a letter packed with white lies. (5 minutes)Act One: Lori Gottlieb's story continues. One complication led to another, and before long, the writer seemed to be lying to her. Or maybe he wasn't. It was hard to tell. Years later, she still isn't sure what happened. (8 minutes)Act Two: A group called Improv Everywhere decides that an unknown band, Ghosts of Pasha, playing their first ever tour in New York, ought to think they're a smash hit. So they study the band's music and then crowd the performance, pretending to be hard-core fans. Improv Everywhere just wants to make the band happy—to give them the best day of their lives. But the band doesn't see it that way. Nor does another subject of one of Improv Everywhere's "missions." (31 minutes)Act Three: Scott Carrier and his family live in the same Salt Lake City neighborhood as Elizabeth Smart, the fourteen-year-old whose 2002 kidnapping made international news. Though Smart's picture was plastered everywhere throughout Salt Lake City and thousands of volunteers searched for her, her captors brazenly brought her back to the very neighborhood from which she'd been taken. They walked freely through the streets with her in broad daylight, yet no one recognized her. Scott talks with his neighbors and his son Milo—who had attended grade school with Smart—about what was going through their minds that prevented them from seeing what was right there in plain sight. (12 minutes)Transcripts are available at thisamericanlife.orgThis American Life privacy policy.Learn more about sponsor message choices.

Introducing my new podcast: Since You Asked! This is the first episode of my new show with my friend, the therapist and author Lori Gottlieb. Each week, we tackle the daily problems of living—the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you just can’t solve. If you enjoy this episode, follow Since You Asked to get future episodes in your feed. Resources & links related to this episode: Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Living meaningfully with the time we've got. Join Rabbi Brous and Lori Gottlieb in a sermon-dialogue on the intersection of Jewish and therapeutic wisdom on issues of deep concern for us today: how to stay in relationship with people whose ideas break your heart, confirmation bias and how minds are changed (can they be?), how to overcome psychic numbing and stay centered and empathic, even when we're hurting, how to hold hope and grow resiliency, and more. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over one million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times “Ask the Therapist” advice column and is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast and the advice podcast Since You Asked. A contributing writer for The Atlantic, she also wrote The Atlantic's “Dear Therapist” advice column for six years. She is a sought-after expert appearing on Oprah, The Today Show, The Daily Show, Good Morning America, CBS Mornings, CNN, and NPR's “Fresh Air” and her TED Talk was one of the Top 10 Most Watched of the Year. She is also an IKAR member, and mother of the wonderful Zachary Gottlieb, IKAR teen extraordinaire.

We talk about why asking for clarification is so important—yet it’s an easy step to skip. We also mention a listener’s great hack for nudging her kids to unclutter, and we discuss the urge to “use it up.” Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Elizabeth is reading: A Bad Day for Sorry by Sophie Littlefield (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: The Farthest Shore by Ursula K. LeGuin (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stories help you make sense of your life — but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links:TEDNext: ted.com/futureyouTEDSports: ted.com/sportsTEDAI Vienna: ted.com/ai-viennaTEDAI San Francisco: ted.com/ai-sf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are about 100 days left in the year, and we discuss why starting your 100-day countdown can make you happier. We also explore a hack that will help you read, learn, and get entertained, and we share interesting responses from listeners about the power of engaging. Resources & links related to this episode: For the Happier Podcast Book Club: All the Way to the River: Love, Loss and Liberation by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop) Joshua Rothman's New Yorker article "A.I. Is Coming for Culture" Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Happier in Hollywood Substack Secrets of Adulthood Substack "Fall in Love with Your Next Novel" Quiz Elizabeth is reading: Actress of a Certain Age by Jeff Hiller (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: The Secret Commonwealth by Philip Pullman (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We talk about why it can be very valuable to question our assumptions, and we also share hacks for helping a child moving into a college dorm. Plus we discuss a listener’s feelings of Obliger-rebellion due to the unacknowledged work she does for her family. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Love Life by Rob Lowe (Amazon, Bookshop) Four Tendencies quiz "Clear the Decks” bingo card Elizabeth is reading: We Might Just Make It After All: My Best Friendship with Kate Space by Elyce Arons (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Duas mulheres aceleradas dão nisto: a conversa mais longa que tive neste podcast, e que – e sou suspeita – fez jus ao nome: vale(u) a pena.Falámos de muita coisa mas, sobretudo, sobre (muitos) livros. Espero que gostem.Os livros que a Mariana escolheu:A Educação de Eleanor, Gail Honeyman;Sou Um Crime: Nascer e Crescer no Apartheid, Trevor Noah;A Guerra dos Tronos, George R.R. Martin.Outra referências/recomendações:A Vida Invisível de Addie Le Rue, V.E. Schwab;O Senhor dos Anéis, J. R. R. Tolkien;Juliet Marillier;A trilogia da Leila Slimani:O País dos Outros;Vejam como Dançamos;Levarei o Fogo Comigo.O Rouxinol, Kristin Hannah;Eliete, Dulce Maria Cardoso;Tudo é Rio, Carla Madeira;Os policiais do Lourenço Seruya;Tati Bernardi:A Louca sou eu;Você nunca mais vai ficar sozinha.Talvez devesses falar com alguém, Lori Gottlieb;Homem-Objeto e Outras Coisas sobre Ser Mulher, Tati Bernardi.Recomendei:Joe Abercrombie;As mensageiras da esperança, Jojo Moyes;Lições de Química, Bonnie Garmus;O Ano do Sim, Shonda Rhimes;Jogos dos Deuses, Abigail Owen;O que ofereci:Há Mães Muito Piores do que Tu, Glenn Boozan, ilustrações Priscilla Witte;Corte de espinhos e rosas, Sarah J. Maas.Podcast que recomendou:What now? with Trevor Noah.Os livros aqui:www.wook.pt

On this episode, the perfect hair and the perfect donor. This episode was hosted by Dan Kennedy. Storytellers: Diavian Walters has a relationship with hair that is shear madness. Lori Gottlieb searches for the perfect donor and the whole package. Podcast # 537 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this Roundtable discussion, we explore the role of romance in fiction and real life. Author and political leader Stacey Abrams explains how she weaves it into her suspense novels by focusing on authentic human connection, while therapist Lori Gottlieb brings her perspective on love off the page. Together, we look at how romance is imagined, experienced, and sustained today. Resources & links related to this episode: Stacey Abrams Lori Gottlieb Gretchen Rubin Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Show notes / Free Audiobook / Discover the life-changing insights from Lori Gottlieb's "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone" - a raw, honest look at therapy from both sides of the couch. Learn why even therapists need therapy and how healing truly happens.

Therapy is in session! We have incredible therapist and author Lori Gottlieb join us for a third time to discuss sibling relationships and dynamics – competitiveness and jealousy in adult siblings (especially around milestones), growing up with totally different experiences in the home, favoritism from parents, and even estrangement. And we dive into the hot topic of not liking/not getting along with a sibling's partner and how to navigate these situations and approach tough conversations. Before Lori joins us, Rayna has a dating update only true GGE fans will understand, and Ashley had an unexpected encounter at a gay bar (plus, catch us in Denver this weekend). Enjoy!  Follow Lori on Instagram @lorigottlieb_author, check out her NYT column Ask the Therapist, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Warby Parker: Try on any pair of glasses virtually at https://warbyparker.com/gge.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge. iRestore: Get a huge discount on the iRestore Elite at https://irestore.com with code GGE. Cort Furniture: Build your own furniture rental package today at https://www.cort.com/podcast. Simply Pop: Go to https://cokeurl.com/simplyPOP to find out where you can try Simply Pop.

This is a Fan Fav episode. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb just brought her absolutely game-changing wisdom to Women of Impact, and trust me, this is one you don't want to miss. We dove deep into why you're not as “stuck” as you think, how your old stories are shaping your current reality, and the really wild truth about what it actually takes to change (spoiler: it's not “just knowing” better!). Lori gets radically honest about pain, envy, self-sabotage, and even how to love well. She shares her own breakthroughs as both therapist and client, and lays out tangible hacks to rewrite your life story—one real, imperfect step at a time. Get cozy, get ready—and get real with yourself—as we unpack the tools for authentic transformation, genuine connection, and the habits that will finally help you step more fully into your power. SHOWNOTES Why you must give up the hope of having had a better childhood to move forward Unreliable narrators: How your perspective can trap you in a limited life story Feeling vs. knowing: Why insight alone won't change your life Idiot compassion vs. wise compassion: How to actually support yourself and others The uncomfortable truth about change—and why losing the familiar is so hard Pain vs. suffering: How we create unnecessary suffering and what to do instead Why following your envy is the secret to unlocking your true desires Breaking free from “comparison traps” and focusing on your own growth One small step at a time: The real path to transformation and purpose How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns and finally experience true connection FOLLOW LORI GOTTLIEB:Website: https://lorigottlieb.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_authorTwitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1Listen to Lori's Podcast, “Dear Therapists”: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-dear-therapists-68511527/Read her Dear Therapist Column (The Atlantic): https://www.theatlantic.com/author/lori-gottlieb/TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/speakers/lori_gottlieb CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we react to an atrocious column in the New York Times by therapist Lori Gottlieb, where a woman asks if she should be honest with her children about their father's cheating and the resulting divorce. Gottlieb shames the woman for even considering speaking of her betrayal and defers to the man's narrative instead. (You drove him to it.) Sarah and Tracy weigh in. 

Today on The Queen of Pep Talks Podcast, Jessica is chatting about her experience seeing Jay Shetty LIVE in Washington, DC with relationship expert Lori Gottlieb.  She's sharing intimate details about the experience, as well as her most powerful takeaways from the conversation.  If you're looking to be a better communicator in your relationships, this is an episode you don't want to miss.Ready to wake up every day and ask yourself: "who do I want to be today?" and then take intentional steps towards becoming that woman? -- Join Embody!

Former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, former Rep. Patrick J. Kennedy (D-R.I.) and Arthur Brooks join a special edition of Meet the Press on America's mental health crisis. Lori Gottlieb, Nedra Glover Tawwab and Jean Twenge join the Meet the Press roundtable.

Judith Joseph: High Functioning Judith Joseph is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and the founder of and chief investigator at Manhattan Behavioral Medicine, New York City's premier clinical research site. She's also a clinical assistant professor in child and adolescent psychiatry at NYU Langone Medical Center in Manhattan, and chairwoman of the Women in Medicine Board at Columbia University's Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons. She is the author of High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy*. When we think about successful leaders, we often admire those who are loving towards others, can tolerate painful times, and know how to delay gratification. Those are all such important traits – and when we overindex on them, can become counter-productive. In this conversation, (Judith and I explore) when it's no longer working and how to find the joy again. Key Points Many people who are experiencing high-functioning depression don't realize it. High-functioning depression is often triggering by trauma. That can can be major trauma, but it can also be more common forms of trauma like divorce, workplace conflict, legal issues, and many more. Anhedonia is one of the most common ways high-functioning depression reveals itself. It looks like not seeking out joyful activities and also not experiencing joy in activities that used to bring joy. Masochism is the other common way high-functioning depression shows up. It manifests as a pattern of self-defeating, people-pleasing behavior. The “superpowers” that come with high-functioning depression are viewed by others and society as strengths. However, over-indexing on being loving, tolerating pain, and delayed gratification are counter-productive over time. Validation is a starting point for healing. Each person is unique and sometimes it's helpful to begin with movies or other creative works that help you recognize yourself. Resources Mentioned High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy* by Judith Joseph Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes What to Do With Your Feelings, with Lori Gottlieb (episode 438) The Mindset Leaders Need to Address Burnout, with Christina Maslach (episode 608) Transcend Leadership Struggles Through Your Strengths, with Lisa Cummings (episode 692) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

In 2018, ‘toxic' became Oxford's word of the year. You've likely fallen victim to toxic behaviors in different relationships in your life. Even more shocking, is that you've even been toxic at varying times in your life. We all have. Whether the word is overused and completely misunderstood, this episode will help you think through toxic relationships and behaviors that may be costing you more than you know. After this episode, you'll be able to identify some of the relationships that are no longer serving you and start examining the options you have for letting go of toxic people. Learning to set boundaries and identify language that you can use to spot red flags will serve you for many years to come. [ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 8-18-21]. SHOW NOTES: Vilify Toxicity | Don't Vilify Toxic People with Sara Jakes Roberts [2:36] Complainers | Avoid Complaining About Them with Amy Morin [6:30] Vulnerabilities | Be Thoughtful About Sharing Vulnerabilities with Matthew Husssey [12:02] Stand Up | Stand Up For Yourself with Nedra Glover Tawwab [16:12] Empathetic | Reconsider Your Relationship With Them with Lori Gottlieb & Dr. Ramani [19:39] Boundaries | Create Clear Boundaries with Vanessa Van Edwards [24:33] Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Dr. Ramani: http://doctor-ramani.com/ Follow Amy Morin: https://amymorinlcsw.com/ Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/core-confidence/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Lori Gottlieb: https://lorigottlieb.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to https://bioptimizers.com/impact and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co  Kettle & Fire: Get 20% off at https://kettleandfire.com/lisa with code LISA Netsuite: Download the CFO's Guide to AI and Machine Learning at https://NetSuite.com/women LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:  apple.co/womenofimpact FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, is helping us answer burning questions from our MBB audience like: “Am I in love or just attached?" “How do you know if you're in love?” “How do I build trust in a relationship?” From relationship red flags and how to communicate better with your partner to knowing when you've found "the one," Lori uncovers why we stay in toxic relationships, the truth about vulnerability, and how to fix your relationship after betrayal. Plus, get expert advice on setting boundaries, identifying red flags & narcissistic behavior, finding the right therapist, and how to move on after a break-up. Don't miss her tips on keeping love alive and making relationships work. Plus, stay tuned for some surprising red flags from Mayim and Jonathan. This is the ultimate guide to unlocking your healthiest connections!Lori Gottlieb's Book, MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE: https://a.co/d/gDLLpsdLori's TED TALK: https://www.ted.com/talks/lori_gottlieb_change_your_story_change_your_life?language=enLori's Advice column, Ask The Therapist @ New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/ask-the-therapistLori's Podcast, DEAR THERAPISTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists/id1523340696 BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

This week, therapist and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins us to talk about change, loss, self-examination...and when you should really talk to someone. If you've ever wondered what your therapist was thinking, this is a conversation you'll want to hear. Lori and Katy discuss everything from what you should look for in a therapist to what your therapist is listening for—and why it's often not what you tell them the problem is. Lori explains how patients often try to impress their therapists (and even strive to become their favorite) and how this can lead to not being fully honest with them. Lori reveals what happens when the therapist herself realizes she too needs therapy, and how sometimes, it's the therapist who learns from the patient. Her book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed, covers topics that make people think differently about themselves and the world around them: love and loss, meaning and mortality, gender and culture, parents and children, female appearance, regret and redemption, hope and change. It's a New York Times bestseller, and is currently being made into a television series with Eva Longoria on ABC. Find Lori Gottlieb on Instagram or at her website. ***The Bittersweet Life podcast has been on the air for an impressive 10+ years! In order to help newer listeners discover some of our earlier episodes, every Friday we are now airing an episode from our vast archives! Enjoy!*** ------------------------------------- COME TO ROME WITH US: For the third year in a row, we are hosting an intimate group of listeners for a magical and unforgettable week in Rome, this October 2025! Discover the city with us as your guides, seeing a side to Rome tourists almost never see. Find out more here. ADVERTISE WITH US: Reach expats, future expats, and travelers all over the world. Send us an email to get the conversation started. BECOME A PATRON: Pledge your monthly support of The Bittersweet Life and receive awesome prizes in return for your generosity! Visit our Patreon site to find out more. TIP YOUR PODCASTER: Say thanks with a one-time donation to the podcast hosts you know and love. Click here to send financial support via PayPal. (You can also find a Donate button on the desktop version of our website.) The show needs your support to continue. START PODCASTING: If you are planning to start your own podcast, consider Libsyn for your hosting service! Use this affliliate link to get two months free, or use our promo code SWEET when you sign up. SUBSCRIBE: Subscribe to the podcast to make sure you never miss an episode. Click here to find us on a variety of podcast apps. WRITE A REVIEW: Leave us a rating and a written review on iTunes so more listeners can find us. JOIN THE CONVERSATION: If you have a question or a topic you want us to address, send us an email here. You can also connect to us through Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Tag #thebittersweetlife with your expat story for a chance to be featured! NEW TO THE SHOW? Don't be afraid to start with Episode 1: OUTSET BOOK: Want to read Tiffany's book, Midnight in the Piazza? Learn more here or order on Amazon. TOUR ROME: If you're traveling to Rome, don't miss the chance to tour the city with Tiffany as your guide!

My guest is Lori Gottlieb, MFT, a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people build strong relationships by first understanding themselves and the stories they've internalized about themselves and others. We explore how our parents, wounds and unique strengths—both consciously and unconsciously—influence our partner choices and how we show up in relationships, as well as how to avoid and break free from destructive patterns. We also discuss the impact of texting, social media and dating apps on partnership. Lori shares which signals to follow to become the best romantic partner possible and how to make choices that lead to greater vitality, happiness and fulfillment in all areas of life. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Helix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman David Protein: https://davidprotein.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Dr. Lori Gottlieb 00:02:01 Patient & First Question; Talked Out of Feelings 00:06:15 Self-Regulation vs Co-Regulation, Tool: Pause & Perspective 00:10:04 Sponsors: Helix Sleep & BetterHelp 00:12:36 Relationships, Childhood & Unfinished Business 00:17:13 Unconscious Mind, Hurtful Parent & Familiarity, Role of Therapy 00:26:35 Excitement & Chaos, Cherophobia; Storytelling, First Date & Sparks? 00:36:27 Tool: Awareness of Death & Living Fully; Vitality; Fear vs Acceptance 00:47:27 Sponsors: AG1 & David Protein 00:50:35 Activate vs Energize; Tool: Technology, Numbness & Overwhelm 00:54:50 Numb or Calm?, Gender Stereotypes, Tool: Mentalizing 01:00:51 Feelings, Projective Identification, Tool: Owning Your Feelings 01:03:25 React vs Respond; Space, Tool: Face-to-Face Conversation vs Text 01:10:16 Behavioral Change, 5 Steps of Change, Tool: Self-Compassion & Accountability 01:15:38 Sponsor: LMNT 01:16:54 Deadlines & Rules; Idiot vs Wise Compassion, No Drama & Assumptions 01:26:27 Silent Treatment, Crying & Manipulation, Shame vs Guilt, Self-Preservation 01:33:01 Self-Reflection, Individual & Couples Therapy, Transference; Agency 01:38:56 Texting, Conflicts, Breakups, Pain Hierarchy, Tool: Move Forward 01:46:42 Relationship Breakups, Daily World & Loss 01:53:30 Bank of Goodwill; Talking About Partner, Focus, Comparison 02:01:13 Infidelity, What If vs What Is, Attention & Appreciation 02:04:56 Gut Instinct, Change Behavior, Danger, Productive vs Unproductive Anxiety 02:15:27 Knowing Oneself, Relationships, Flexibility, Shared History 02:20:30 Romantic Relationships & Teens, Social Media, Privacy 02:27:09 Online Apps & Choices, Maximizers vs Satisficers, Tool: Identify Your Weakness 02:33:09 Fixing Issues Early, Tool: Self vs Partner Lists & Character Qualities 02:41:51 Feeling Toward Partner, Calm, Content; Tool: Operating Instructions 02:46:48 Help-Rejecting Complainers; Relationships, Love & Core Wounds 02:51:22 Stories & Unreliable Narrators, Editing, Tool: 5 Senses 02:59:04 Young Men, Masculinity, Confusion 03:07:03 Grief, Making Sense of Loss 03:09:54 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Workbook; Ask The Therapist, Choosing a Bigger Life 03:20:26 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Lori Gottlieb – a psychotherapist, an Ask the Therapist Columnist for The New York Times, and a bestselling author. Together, they answer questions about being honest with a friend about their mental health, how to politely turn down an offer of friendship, and getting family to understand and respect boundaries during a divorce. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This week's podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guest Prudie Kristen Meinzer is joined by Lori Gottlieb – a psychotherapist, an Ask the Therapist Columnist for The New York Times, and a bestselling author. Together, they answer questions about being honest with a friend about their mental health, how to politely turn down an offer of friendship, and getting family to understand and respect boundaries during a divorce. Want more Dear Prudence? Subscribe to Slate Plus to immediately unlock weekly bonus episodes. Plus, you'll access ad-free listening across all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts by clicking “Try Free” at the top of our show page. Or, visit slate.com/prudie-plus to get access wherever you listen. This week's podcast is produced by Maura Currie, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Daisy Rosario. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lori Gottlieb believes we all have an inner narrator. In this episode, she explains why the story you tell yourself is key to your happiness (or lack thereof). She also discusses the stages of change, why relationships are a dance, and the steps to finding a good therapist that can help you edit the story of your life. Lori is a therapist, the bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and a co-host on the Dear Therapists podcast. She was once also an executive at NBC, overseeing shows like the hit medical drama ER. It's through these varied experiences that she's realized the power of being aware of your personal narrative and being willing to edit your story.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This new season of How To is a collection of our favorite episodes from past seasons—a best-of series focused on slowing down, making space, and finding meaning in our hectic lives. This episode, from our first season, How to Build a Happy Life features host Arthur Brooks and the psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb in conversation about how the first step in making room for more joy in your life is learning how to identify it. Write to us at howtopodcast@theatlantic.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this engaging podcast episode, John Miles, high-performance coach and host of the award-winning Passion Struck podcast, shares his transformative framework for unlocking personal purpose and achieving extraordinary growth. Kicking off the Live Life Better Author Series at Book + Bottle, co-hosted by Nanette Wiser of Radio St. Pete, John delves into the power of intentional living.He emphasizes saying "yes" to opportunities that align with your true self and "no" to distractions. Drawing from his journey as a Navy officer and Fortune 50 executive, John explains how real fulfillment comes from serving others and pursuing your own dreams. He introduces practical tools like the importance versus urgency matrix to help prioritize what truly matters.John also shares personal stories, including a life-changing moment that pushed him to embrace his calling and help others find their purpose. He encourages listeners to build their "courage muscles" by taking intentional steps toward their goals and surrounding themselves with positive influences.The episode inspires listeners to pursue their passions, embrace reinvention, and recognize that the path to an extraordinary life is within reach for everyone willing to take the leap.Link to the full show notes:   https://passionstruck.com/reinvent-yourself-the-journey-to-extraordinary/In this episode, you will learn:The significance of mindset shifts, behavior shifts, and the psychology of progress in personal development.The concept of living intentionally versus living on autopilot, illustrated through the metaphor of a pinball life.The role of courage muscles in pursuing your passions and overcoming self-limiting beliefs.The value of surrounding yourself with positive influences and recognizing toxic relationships, referred to as "mosquitoes."The importance of self-control and intentionality in achieving your goals.Personal anecdotes from John Miles about his journey and the transformative events that led him to write "Passion Struck."Practical exercises, such as the importance versus urgency choice matrix, to help prioritize actions in life.Sponsors:Babbel: Master a new language with Babbel's comprehensive learning system. Get 60% off at babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Get your free online visit at hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSION.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Special Announcement:Join us for the Passion Struck 50-Week Challenge! This year-long journey is designed to help you unlock personal growth, fulfillment, and self-discovery through weekly challenges that push your boundaries and enhance every aspect of your life. Join a supportive community, benefit from expert guidance, and start your transformative journey today. Learn more and sign up here.Tune In:If you found this episode insightful, please share it with others who might benefit from these powerful lessons. Don't forget to join the conversation on social media using the hashtag #PassionStruck and connect with John R. Miles on Twitter and Instagram at @John_RMiles.Catch More of Passion Struck:Check My solo episode on The Power of Choice — Why Our Choices Are PowerfulCatch my episode with Emile's good friend Jamil Zaki on how hope can conquer cynicismWatch my interview with Alex Edmans on Critical Thinking in a Post-truth WorldCan't miss my episode with Jeffrey C. Walker On The Criticality of Collaboration in Systems ChangeMy episode with Lori Gottlieb on Embracing Self-Compassion for a Better LifeIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don't forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles and on Instagram at @John_R_Miles. Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel here and to our YouTube Clips Channel here. For more insights and resources, visit John's website.Want to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!

In today's episode, John R. Miles explores the concept of choice bracketing, a powerful framework that shows how the seemingly small decisions we make every day can compound over time to significantly impact our future. Drawing on the real-life examples of Jeff Bezos and Warren Buffett, we discuss how big-picture thinking helps avoid reactive, short-term choices in favor of intentional actions that align with long-term goals.The episode breaks down the science of decision-making, focusing on how balancing short-term comfort with long-term success requires shifting from narrow, isolated choices to a broader, portfolio of choices approach. You'll learn how Bezos applied the regret minimization framework to launch Amazon and how Buffett's investment philosophy is rooted in viewing life through a long-term lens.Link to the full show notes:  https://passionstruck.com/choice-bracketing-portfolio-of-choices/In this episode, you will learn:How choice bracketing helps shift from reactive to intentional decision-making.The compounding effect of small, daily choices over time.How Jeff Bezos used the regret minimization framework to make life-altering decisions.Warren Buffett's long-term approach to balancing short-term comfort with future gains.The importance of viewing your life as a portfolio of decisions.Practical strategies for aligning your choices with long-term goals in your career, health, and personal growth.How to balance immediate gratification with sustainable success through big-picture thinking.Sponsors:Babbel: Master a new language with Babbel's comprehensive learning system. Get 60% off at babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Get your free online visit at hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSION.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Special Announcement:Join us for the Passion Struck 50-Week Challenge! This year-long journey is designed to help you unlock personal growth, fulfillment, and self-discovery through weekly challenges that push your boundaries and enhance every aspect of your life. Join a supportive community, benefit from expert guidance, and start your transformative journey today. Learn more and sign up here.Tune In:If you found this episode insightful, please share it with others who might benefit from these powerful lessons. Don't forget to join the conversation on social media using the hashtag #PassionStruck and connect with John R. Miles on Twitter and Instagram at @John_RMiles.Catch More of Passion Struck:Check My solo episode on The Power of Choice — Why Our Choices Are PowerfulCatch my episode with Emile's good friend Jamil Zaki on how hope can conquer cynicismWatch my interview with Alex Edmans on Critical Thinking in a Post-truth WorldCan't miss my episode with Jeffrey C. Walker On The Criticality of Collaboration in Systems ChangeMy episode with Lori Gottlieb on Embracing Self-Compassion for a Better LifeIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don't forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles and on Instagram at @John_R_Miles. Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel here and to our YouTube Clips Channel here. For more insights and resources, visit John's website.Want to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!

In this episode of Passion Struck, host John R. Miles dives into the groundbreaking work of cognitive neuroscientist Emile Bruneau, who explored the psychological roots of conflict and how our brains can be rewired to foster empathy and peace. Discover how cognitive biases like in-group favoritism and dehumanization fuel division and learn actionable strategies to cultivate empathy, bridge divides, and resolve conflicts—whether in your personal life or on a global scale.John connects Bruneau's insights to intentional living, showing how we can apply these lessons to transform our relationships and live more purposefully. If you're looking to understand human conflict on a deeper level and find ways to create more meaningful, peaceful connections, this episode is a must-listen!Link to the full show notes:  https://passionstruck.com/a-tribute-to-emile-bruneau-neuroscience-of-peace/In this episode, you will learn:How cognitive biases like in-group favoritism and dehumanization drive conflict and division.The role empathy plays in bridging divides and resolving conflicts at personal, societal, and global levels.Actionable techniques to cultivate empathy, including shared storytelling and perspective-taking.How Emile Bruneau's groundbreaking research reveals the psychology behind conflict escalation.Ways to challenge your own biases to foster understanding and create more meaningful relationships.Practical applications for reducing conflict in everyday life and large-scale disputes.How to integrate empathy and intentionality into your personal growth journeySponsors:Babbel: Master a new language with Babbel's comprehensive learning system. Get 60% off at babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Get your free online visit at hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSION.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Special Announcement:Join us for the Passion Struck 50-Week Challenge! This year-long journey is designed to help you unlock personal growth, fulfillment, and self-discovery through weekly challenges that push your boundaries and enhance every aspect of your life. Join a supportive community, benefit from expert guidance, and start your transformative journey today. Learn more and sign up here.Tune In:If you found this episode insightful, please share it with others who might benefit from these powerful lessons. Don't forget to join the conversation on social media using the hashtag #PassionStruck and connect with John R. Miles on Twitter and Instagram at @John_RMiles.Catch More of Passion Struck:Check My solo episode on The Power of Choice — Why Our Choices Are PowerfulWatch my interview with Alex Edmans on Critical Thinking in a Post-truth WorldListen to Robin Steinberg on Humanizing Justice Through CompassionCan't miss my episode with Jeffrey C. Walker On The Criticality of Collaboration in Systems ChangeMy episode with Lori Gottlieb on Embracing Self-Compassion for a Better LifeCatch my solo episode on 7 Reasons Why Acts of Kindness Are More than Meets the EyeIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don't forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles and on Instagram at @John_R_Miles. Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel here and to our YouTube Clips Channel here. For more insights and resources, visit John's website.Want to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!

In this episode of Passion Struck, John explores the powerful and often overlooked influence of Mean World Syndrome. This psychological phenomenon shapes not only our perception of the world but also the choices we make every day. Born from the relentless stream of fear-driven media, this syndrome skews our reality, convincing us that danger is everywhere. But it goes deeper than fear; it affects how we interact with others, our decisions, and our lives. Join John R. Miles as we uncover the profound impact of Mean World Syndrome on your mind and behavior and discover how to reclaim control over your thoughts and choices. Are you leading your life, or is Mean World Syndrome leading you?Link to the full show notes:  https://passionstruck.com/how-mean-world-syndrome-shapes-mind-and-choices/Key Takeaways:Understand the Impact of Mean World SyndromeDiscover how constant exposure to negative media skews your view of the world, leading to unnecessary fears and skewed decision-making.Design Your Day for SuccessLearn how to set clear, positive intentions each day to counteract the effects of Mean World Syndrome and align your actions with your true goals.Challenge Your Negative Inner DialogueJohn provides practical techniques for identifying and challenging the fear-based thoughts amplified by media, helping you reprogram your mindset.Reconnect with Your CommunityFind out how engaging with your local community can ground you in reality, rebuild trust, and counteract the isolation and mistrust fueled by Mean World Syndrome.Sponsors:Babbel: Master a new language with Babbel's comprehensive learning system. Get 60% off at babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Get your free online visit at hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSION.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Special Announcement:Join us for the Passion Struck 50-Week Challenge! This year-long journey is designed to help you unlock personal growth, fulfillment, and self-discovery through weekly challenges that push your boundaries and enhance every aspect of your life. Join a supportive community, benefit from expert guidance, and start your transformative journey today. Learn more and sign up here.Tune In:If you found this episode insightful, please share it with others who might benefit from these powerful lessons. Don't forget to join the conversation on social media using the hashtag #PassionStruck and connect with John R. Miles on Twitter and Instagram at @John_RMiles.Catch More of Passion Struck:Check My solo episode on The Power of Choice — Why Our Choices Are PowerfulWatch my interview with Alex Edmans on Critical Thinking in a Post-truth WorldCan't miss my episode with Jeffrey C. Walker On The Criticality of Collaboration in Systems ChangeMy episode with Lori Gottlieb on Embracing Self-Compassion for a Better LifeCatch my solo episode on 7 Reasons Why Acts of Kindness Are More than Meets the EyeIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don't forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles and on Instagram at @John_R_Miles. Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel here and to our YouTube Clips Channel here. For more insights and resources, visit John's website.Want to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!