Podcast appearances and mentions of Lori Gottlieb

What do you do with the mess inside your mind?In this reflection on Psalm 102, John Ortberg explores how the Psalms can become a kind of divine therapy, teaching us to bring our actual thoughts, emotions, fears, and beliefs honestly into the presence of God.Drawing from Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, the ABCDE framework associated with Martin Seligman, and insights from Walter Brueggemann and Dallas Willard, John shows us a practical way to process what's happening inside us with God.Psalm 102 doesn't clean up the mess.The psalmist pours it out.Fear. Despair. Exaggeration. Loneliness. Anger.And then comes the turn:"But You, Lord..."We bring God what we're actually thinking and feeling, then allow the truth of who He is to reshape the way we see our circumstances.In this episode:- Psalm 102 and lament- What "divine therapy" might look like- Why our inner lives rarely match what we present publicly- Lori Gottlieb's Maybe You Should Talk to Someone- The ABCDE framework- Why lament Psalms use exaggeration and hyperbole- Walter Brueggemann on Psalm 102- Bringing truth to our thoughts- Dallas Willard's "Eternity is now in session"- Walking through an ordinary day with the Eternal GodScripture: Psalm 102#psalm102   #JohnOrtberg #Psalms #Prayer #MentalHealth #SpiritualFormation #ChristianFaith #BibleStudy #DallasWillard #Lament

This is a special compilation devoted to reinvention: how to shed an identity that no longer fits, decide on a new chapter, navigate uncertainty, and commit to what's next.This episode is brought to you by:Shopify global commerce platform, providing tools to start, grow, market, and manage a retail businessMomentous high-quality creatine for cognitive and muscular supportIn this episode: Matthew McConaughey explains why he stopped making romantic comedies, turned down $15 million, and waited nearly two years for Hollywood to see him differently.Steve Young talks about losing the identity that had defined him and the advice another legendary quarterback gave him.Lori Gottlieb explains how listening to a quiet inner voice led her from Hollywood to medicine, then to journalism, and finally to psychotherapy.Suleika Jaouad describes rebuilding her life after cancer when going back to her old life was no longer possible.Samin Nosrat on walking away from a wildly successful food business that was making her miserable, and making room for the writing career that ultimately became Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat.Martine Rothblatt tells the remarkable story of teaching herself biology and starting a pharmaceutical company to save her daughter's life.Finally, Debbie Millman gives you a simple exercise for imagining—and creating—the life you truly want.Timestamps:00:00 Intro from Tim01:43 Matthew McConaughey14:35 Steve Young17:16 Lori Gottlieb24:38 Suleika Jaouad36:47 Samin Nosrat45:04 Martine Rothblatt56:51 Debbie MillmanShort bios: Matthew McConaughey is an Academy Award-winning actor—whose career spans 40+ feature films—a cofounder of the Just Keep Livin' foundation, and the bestselling author of Greenlights.Steve Young is a Pro Football Hall of Fame quarterback, Super Bowl MVP, and co-founder and chairman of private-equity firm HGGC.Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist, the New York Times “Ask the Therapist” advice columnist, and the bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.Suleika Jaouad is an Emmy Award-winning journalist, artist, and bestselling author of Between Two Kingdoms and The Book of Alchemy.Samin Nosrat is the James Beard Award–winning author of the New York Times bestseller Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat—also the title of her acclaimed Netflix series.Dr. Martine Rothblatt is the founder, chairperson, and CEO of United Therapeutics—a biotechnology company she started to save the life of one of her daughters—and a pioneer of satellite radio.Debbie Millman is one of the most influential designers working today, according to Graphic Design USA, an author, an educator, and the host of the pioneering podcast Design Matters, now celebrating its 21st year.*For show notes and past guests on The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast.For deals from sponsors of The Tim Ferriss Show, please visit tim.blog/podcast-sponsorsSign up for Tim's email newsletter (5-Bullet Friday) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Discover Tim's books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissYouTube: youtube.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/timferrissSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Relationships have always required compromise and patience. But dating apps, social media and therapy-speak can make ordinary human flaws feel like reasons to walk away. So, when is it right to leave and when are we giving up on people too quickly?Host Megan McArdle talks with psychotherapist, author and New York Times “Ask the Therapist” columnist Lori Gottlieb about ghosting, going no-contact, unrealistic dating standards and what actually makes relationships last. They also discuss how to tell the difference between settling and choosing wisely, why the perfect partner does not exist and how giving people grace can make us less lonely.Subscribe to The Washington Post here.

Plus: How your envy can be useful, why you're an unreliable narrator of your own life, and why you keep choosing partners who echo the unfinished business of your childhood. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over three million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times "Ask the Therapist" advice column and is co-host of the popular "Dear Therapists" podcast and the advice podcast Since You Asked.  In this episode we talk about: Why insight alone doesn't change anything, and what "idiot compassion" gets wrong Whether you actually need to like your therapist Why there's no such thing as a hierarchy of pain How to spot a help-rejecting complainer, including in yourself What envy is actually trying to tell you Why a real boundary is a bid for connection, not a cutoff Why we're all unreliable narrators, and how to edit the story you tell about yourself Why we keep choosing partners who echo our unfinished business Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Workbook Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Journal Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here! This episode is sponsored by: Function Health: Join at functionhealth.com/happier or use the gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

We are all unreliable narrators of our own lives. The story we tell ourselves about why a relationship ended, why we have not met the right person, or why someone else needs to change before things can get better may feel completely true. But it is still only one side of the story. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist, bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, New York Times advice columnist, and host of the podcasts Dear Therapists and Since You Asked. She has spent years listening to the stories people tell about their lives, while also being honest about her own experience on the other side of the couch. In this special episode of Real Love Ready, recorded live at the Global Love Conference in New York City, Robin and Lori explore what changes when we become willing to question our own version of events. Together, they talk about why the most dangerous story in a relationship is that everything was the other person's fault, what flexibility can tell us about someone's capacity for partnership, and how to know whether someone is genuinely ready for love. They discuss ghosting, rejection, chemistry, and the conversations we are often afraid to have early on in a relationship. They also look at how AI and texting are changing intimacy, what many of us have been taught about vulnerability, and what it takes to make room for someone new after divorce, loss, or a whole life lived before them. This is a conversation about becoming a more honest narrator of your own life, not by taking responsibility for everything, but by getting curious about the part that belongs to you. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. When life feels overwhelming, therapy can help. Sign up and get 10% off at betterhelp.com/loveready. IN THIS EPISODE (00:00:00) Introduction (00:06:52) The Stories We Tell Ourselves (00:10:20) Unfinished Business & Flexibility (00:14:38) Are You Actually Ready for a Relationship? (00:17:19) Ghosting, Rejection & Taking It Personally (00:22:37) The Cement Is Still Wet: Speak Up Early (00:25:51) The Conversations Couples Need to Have (00:29:28) AI, Texting & Real Connection (00:38:02) Starting Over & Making Room for Someone New (00:45:34) Situationships, Infidelity & Audience Questions QUOTES “It's not that people aren't telling the truth; it's that they're telling the truth as they see it.” – Lori Gottlieb “The stories we tell ourselves often shape the way we love.” – Robin Ducharme “Relationships are like cement. In the beginning of a relationship, the cement is still wet.” – Lori Gottlieb “It's so much about communication. It's so much about just being honest. It's scary to have those hard conversations, but you have to have them.” – Robin Ducharme “The easy part of a relationship is: we are both really interested in each other. The harder part is, how do we deal with difficulties that come up?” – Lori Gottlieb ABOUT THE GUEST Lori Gottlieb is a licensed psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold more than three million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. She writes The New York Times' "Ask the Therapist" advice column, co-hosts the podcasts Dear Therapists and Since You Asked, and spent six years writing The Atlantic's "Dear Therapist" column. Her highly acclaimed 2019 TED Talk, "How Changing Your Story Can Change Your Life," has been viewed more than 7 million times and was named one of the year's 10 Most-Watched TED Talks. Lori is a frequent guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Today, CBS Mornings, CNN, and NPR's Fresh Air. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ GET THE REAL LOVE READY BOOK Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy is a clear, compassionate guide to the knowledge, skills, and daily practices that help us love with greater intention, truth, and heart. https://geni.us/RealLoveReadyBook Follow Us: @realloveready  @robinducharmeofficial  @soulprintmediaco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guy Winch: Mind Over Grind Guy Winch is a psychologist and bestselling author who advocates for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. His TED talks have attracted over 35 million views, and his books have been translated into more than 30 languages. He is co-host of the Ambie-nominated Dear Therapists podcast and the author of the book Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life (Amazon, Bookshop)*. Some of our parents got to work in the morning, put in a full day, and then by dinner time, didn't think about work or do it until the next morning. That's not reality for a lot of us today, so in this conversation, Guy and I explore what you can do to take back your evenings. Key Points Most work stress isn't experienced at work. Healthy thinking is intentional and leads us somewhere useful. Unhealthy thinking (rumination) isn't intentional and tends to repeat the same script. It feels more like unpaid work. To interrupt rumination outside of work, first label it and then associate it with disgust, disdain, and annoyance. Treat it like you would a skunk sitting next to you on the couch. Rituals help our brains make a distinction between time to work and time to recover. Rituals are most powerful when they invoke one or more of our five senses to signal a shift to our brains. Often we think of relaxation and recovery the same way our grandparents did who often did more manual work. Work today tends to be more mental and emotional, so indexing on ways to engage physically during recovery times is helpful. Rather than just assuming that doing nothing, sitting on a beach, or seeing the sights is the best vacation, consider engaging in the things you love that you normally don't get to do. Resources Mentioned Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life by Guy Winch (Amazon, Bookshop)* Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Align Your Calendar to What Matters, with Nir Eyal (episode 431) What to Do With Your Feelings, with Lori Gottlieb (episode 438) How High Achievers Begin to Find Balance, with Michael Hyatt (episode 522) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

Welcome back to part 2 of this FIREEEEE conversation with the amazingggg psychotherapist and best selling author, Lori Gottlieb. And she's not holding back as we talk more about how to stop dating the wrong men and:  Why you need to understand the difference between compatibility and having things in common How the misconstrued idea of feminism is setting women up for failed relationships How dating changes for women as we age  What green flags and red flags to look for when learning about someone new  And so much more!! Trust me, homie, you don't want to miss out on the final part of this convo with Lori!! And if you're loving Women of Impact, please take a moment to leave us a review or rate the show. Your feedback is incredibly valuable! Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: ⁠https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu⁠  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to part 2 of this FIREEEEE conversation with the amazingggg psychotherapist and best selling author, Lori Gottlieb. And she's not holding back as we talk more about how to stop dating the wrong men and:  Why you need to understand the difference between compatibility and having things in common How the misconstrued idea of feminism is setting women up for failed relationships How dating changes for women as we age  What green flags and red flags to look for when learning about someone new  And so much more!! Trust me, homie, you don't want to miss out on the final part of this convo with Lori!! And if you're loving Women of Impact, please take a moment to leave us a review or rate the show. Your feedback is incredibly valuable! Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: ⁠https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu⁠  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Lisa Bilyeu and this episode of Women of Impact is going to open your frikin' eyes to the dating and relationship mistakes that keep attracting the wrong type of men, and what you can do to fix your approach and find someone actually sincerely interested and good for you! Today I'm joined by the unbelievable Lori Gottlieb – she's a psychotherapist, NYT best selling author, and podcast host and she is SPILLING THE TEA on all things DATING & RELATIONSHIPS, including: - Why you can't find genuine men and what you need to do to find a real “love match” instead - How online dating & the paradox of choice is actually keeping you single - Why you SHOULD have high standards, but not about what you THINK  - The differences in how men and women approach dating, relationships, and marriage & how that causes problems down the line - Why it's actually best that all sales at the “husband store” are FINAL - And sooooo much more relationship wisdom!! Seriously guys, this woman has sooooo much wisdom into life and relationships and what you need to do to avoid ingenuine a-holes and pivot your life and have an amazing, healthy relationship! Listen close cause there's SO much to learn, and this is one you're gonna want to gossip with your homies about! Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: ⁠https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu⁠  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Lisa Bilyeu and this episode of Women of Impact is going to open your frikin' eyes to the dating and relationship mistakes that keep attracting the wrong type of men, and what you can do to fix your approach and find someone actually sincerely interested and good for you! Today I'm joined by the unbelievable Lori Gottlieb – she's a psychotherapist, NYT best selling author, and podcast host and she is SPILLING THE TEA on all things DATING & RELATIONSHIPS, including: - Why you can't find genuine men and what you need to do to find a real “love match” instead - How online dating & the paradox of choice is actually keeping you single - Why you SHOULD have high standards, but not about what you THINK  - The differences in how men and women approach dating, relationships, and marriage & how that causes problems down the line - Why it's actually best that all sales at the “husband store” are FINAL - And sooooo much more relationship wisdom!! Seriously guys, this woman has sooooo much wisdom into life and relationships and what you need to do to avoid ingenuine a-holes and pivot your life and have an amazing, healthy relationship! Listen close cause there's SO much to learn, and this is one you're gonna want to gossip with your homies about! Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu:  Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu  X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu  If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: ⁠https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu⁠  Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I share a conversation I recently had with award-winning audiobook narrator and voice actor Brittany Pressley, who has also been a friend of mine since high school. Alongside my BFF Courtney Wait as co-interviewer, I ask Brittany all (or at least some) of the questions I've been wanting to ask her since I started listening to her books (e.g. Katharine Smyth's "All the Lives We Ever Lived," Piper Weiss's "You All Grow Up and Leave Me," Lori Gottlieb's "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone") several years ago. (In the episode I say "at least ten years ago," but that might not be accurate.) Brittany has recorded over 700 audiobooks! Voice acting is such a fascinating job, and she is so good at it. Courtney and I had tons of fun asking her stuff and laughing with her. What a delight. At the end of the episode I share the recording that Brittany made (so kindly at my brazen request) of herself reading some of my own writing.

A Note from James:I've been in therapy for more than three decades.Different therapists. Different kinds of therapy. Different crises.And one question has always fascinated me: What is the therapist actually thinking while I'm sitting there talking?Are they bored? Are they judging me? Are they secretly Googling me?My guest today, Lori Gottlieb, knows the answer—because she's both sides of the story.She's a psychotherapist, author of the bestselling book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and the writer behind the popular advice column “Ask the Therapist.”But what makes Lori unique is that she's willing to pull back the curtain on therapy itself: what therapists think, what patients hide, and why people keep repeating the same patterns in relationships and life.This episode originally aired several years ago, but the ideas still feel incredibly relevant—especially now, when conversations about mental health are everywhere.So if you've ever wondered what's really happening on the other side of the therapy couch, this conversation is for you.Episode Description:Psychotherapist and bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins James to discuss what really happens inside therapy—and what both therapists and patients often misunderstand about the process.Drawing from her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, Lori explains why therapy isn't just about venting problems but about understanding the patterns that drive them.James shares his own experiences as a long-time therapy patient, raising questions many people quietly wonder: Do therapists judge their patients? Do they get bored? Do they Google the people they treat?Lori answers candidly, discussing the hidden dynamics of therapy, the emotional complexity therapists carry home with them, and why the most important conversations in therapy are often the ones people hesitate to bring up.The conversation also explores relationships, secrets, childhood experiences, and why many people keep repeating the same life patterns—even when they know better.What You'll Learn:Why therapy isn't just about discussing problems—it's about understanding patternsThe difference between content and process in relationshipsWhy therapists rarely get bored—even when problems seem trivialThe surprising ways therapists think about their patientsWhy the hardest topics in therapy often show up at the end of a sessionTimestamped Chapters:[00:02:00] Lori Gottlieb on Therapy as “Editing Your Life Story”[00:03:00] Introduction to Lori Gottlieb[00:04:16] Inside the Book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone[00:05:02] Why Therapists Need Therapists[00:06:17] Are Therapists Bored Listening to Problems?[00:07:00] Content vs Process: The Real Work of Therapy[00:09:00] Why Pain Has No Hierarchy[00:10:23] James's “Statistician” Theory of Therapy[00:11:00] Why Every Patient's Story Is Unique[00:12:00] Finding Something Likable in Every Patient[00:12:45] The Hollywood Producer Patient[00:15:12] The Most “Boring” Therapy Patients[00:16:03] Labeling What's Happening in a Conversation[00:18:00] Building Trust Without Oversharing[00:20:00] Judgment vs Protectiveness in Therapy[00:23:04] What Therapists Wish Patients Knew[00:24:11] Do Therapists Care What Patients Think of Them?[00:25:00] Different Styles of Therapy[00:29:00] Advice vs Understanding in Therapy[00:32:51] Do Therapists Ever Google Their Patients?[00:36:00] Why Patients Googling Therapists Can Backfire[00:38:00] The Awkward Beginning of Every Therapy Session[00:41:00] Working With a Patient Facing Terminal Cancer[00:44:00] The Emotional Impact of Therapy Work[00:46:00] Handling Suicidal Patients[00:47:30] When Therapy Ends[00:50:00] Why Saying Goodbye Matters in Therapy[00:53:00] “Doorknob Disclosures” — The Secrets Patients Reveal LastLinks and Resources:Check out Lori's website and sign up for her newsletter at Lorigottlieb.comAsk the Therapist is the column Lori writes for the New York Times. You can submit a question for Lori hereRead Lori's book, “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed.”Also check out Lori's book from 2011, “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” (This book is not about settling! She says “I didn't win the title battle with the publisher. And I still get letters from people who say the book has helped them.” A lot of it has to do with saving your marriage or setting standards. And she wrote a column about this once, too.)“Dear Therapist” is the column Lori wrote for six years for “The Atlantic.”Follow Lori on Twitter and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we're diving into a topic we haven't covered in 8 years of this podcast: Non-fiction! We aren't experts on the genre, so we asked our listeners about their favorites, too, and wow, did they have some books to share!    Becca's Favorites Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Open Book by Jessica Simpson I'll Have What She's Having: How Nora Ephron's 3 Iconic Films Saved the Romantic Comedy by Erin Carlson Edie: An American Girl by Jean Stein No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNichol   Olivia's Favorites A Marriage at Sea by Sophie Elmhirst  Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb 1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg Not My Type: One Woman Vs. a President by E Jean Caroll  I'm Glad My Mom Died by Janette McCurdy   Listener Favorites Cue the Sun! The Invention of Reality TV by Emily Nussbaum We Might Just Make It After All by Elyce Arons People Who Eat Darkness by Richard Lloyd Parry Tranquility by Tuesday by Laura Vanderkam  Disney High by Ashley Spencer Farenheit 182 by Mark Hoppus with Dan Ozzi  Homeschooled by Stefan Merrill Block  Running Memoirs Solito by Javier Zamora   Obsession Becca - Love Story Olivia - Jessie Buckley   What we read this week Macmillan - Lady Tremaine by Rachel Hochhauser, read by Bessie Carter, is available wherever you listen to audiobooks!  Olivia - Lady Tremaine by Rachel Hochauser Becca - Lina & June by Genevieve Wheeler (out 12/8), Games: A Love Story by Anna Maria Volkova (out 6/2), Play it Again by Georgia Clark (out 6/16)   March's Book Club Pick - So Old, So Young by Grant Ginder   Sponsors Quince - Go to Quince.com/bop for free shipping and 365-day returns. Wayfair - Head to Wayfair.com to shop all things home.   Join our Facebook group for amazing book recs & more!  Buy our Merch! Join our BFF Group! Preorder Olivia's Book, Little One, and order Such a Bad Influence! Subscribe to Olivia's Newsletter! Order Becca's Book, The Christmas Orphans Club, and preorder Back Where We Started!   Subscribe to Becca's Newsletter!  Follow us on Instagram @badonpaperpodcast. Follow Olivia on Instagram @oliviamuenter and Becca @beccamfreeman.  

 There's some crazy mental health advice online. Sometimes you can scroll across a little nugget that helps your anxiety or depression or changes the way that you approach life, but a lot of what is out there is BS.  So today, I am joined by the absolutely iconic Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and bestselling author of one of my all time favorite books, to rank therapy advice from the internet from the superior advice to the advice you should ignore.

Is self-help actually helpful? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle speaks with Gretchen Rubin, #1 bestselling author and co-host of the Since You Asked podcast. Danielle and Gretchen unpack some big questions when it comes to the rampant self-improvement era we’re living in now. Questions like: Can people ever really change? How do you make better decisions when every option comes with regret? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why getting enough sleep is the most underrated habit for happiness and productivity How your chronotype can impact your daily energy, mood, and life Why reunions and old friendships are a key to connecting with others, but also another version of ourselves Why self-help is not a one-size-fits-all approach to life The science behind how digital vs. IRL friendships impact the quality of our life What psychology tells us about how behaviors ultimately dictate the quality of our lives How to make tough life decisions without chasing “perfect” choices Practical strategies for reframing setbacks and career transitions Follow Gretchen on Instagram @gretchenrubin Check out Gretchen’s podcasts, Happier with Gretchen Rubin and Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen RubinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Status Check with Spivey, Dr. Guy Winch returns to the podcast for a conversation about his new book, Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life. They discuss burnout (especially for those in school or their early career), how society glorifies overworking even when it doesn't lead to better outcomes (5:53), the difference between rumination and valuable self-analysis (11:02), the question Dr. Winch asks patients who are struggling with work-life balance that you can ask yourself (17:58), how to reduce the stress of the waiting process in admissions and the job search (24:36), and more.Dr. Winch is a prominent psychologist, speaker, and author whose TED Talks on emotional well-being have over 35 million combined views. He has a podcast with co-host Lori Gottlieb, Dear Therapists. Dr. Winch's new book, Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life, is out today!Our last episode with Dr. Winch, “Dr. Guy Winch on Handling Rejection (& Waiting) in Admissions,” is here.You can listen and subscribe to Status Check with Spivey on ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠. You can read a full transcript of this episode with timestamps here.

What if the shame you carry isn't just from one event, but layers of experiences that typical healing approaches can't touch?Dr. Zoe Shaw reveals why some people remain trapped in patterns of shame despite outward success, and shares a revolutionary framework for healing what she calls "complex shame" from her book "Stronger in the Difficult Places: Heal Your Relationship with Yourself by Untangling Complex Shame." Learn why traditional advice about vulnerability sometimes falls short, how shame lives in your body, and practical steps to transform your relationship with yourself and others.You can find Zoe at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode, you'll also love the conversations we had with Lori Gottlieb about understanding your emotional narratives and rewriting the stories you live by.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode, you're going to learn the root cause of why you feel stuck. Whether you feel trapped in self-doubt, overwhelmed by anxiety, or find yourself in a dynamic that keeps repeating, this conversation will show you how to break free. Joining Mel today is Lori Gottlieb: world-renowned therapist, writer of the “Ask the Therapist” column for The New York Times, author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” which has sold 3 million copies, and host of the podcast Since You Asked. Lori is here to help you change the most powerful force shaping your life: the story you're telling yourself. What she shares today will change the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your past. In this episode, you'll learn: -How to identify the story that's keeping you stuck -What emotional trauma has to do with your inner dialogue -How anxiety is fueled by the way you talk to yourself -The simple tools to calm anxiety and stop spiraling -The biggest questions people bring to therapy and what they all have in common -How to reclaim the author role in your life and stop being defined by your pastIf you've ever felt like you missed your shot, like you're too much or not enough, or that it's too late to feel better, this conversation is for you. You are not the story you've been telling yourself. You are the author. And today, with Lori's help, you'll learn how to write something new – starting now. For more resources related to today's episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: The Truth About Anxiety & ADHD: Life-Changing Tools From a Renowned PsychiatristConnect with Mel:  Get Mel's newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration.Get Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

It's time for the male version of therapy .... podcasting!!! In Episode #502 of 'Meanderings', Juan & I discuss: Lori Gottlieb's book 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone', the emotional burden therapists carry plus the mirror-like role they play in helping people surface what's unsaid, my own brief stint with therapy as a late teen, why men seek therapy less, what they tend to talk about (anger, identity, intimacy, parenting), whether gym time/mates/modern tools like AI can substitute for a human therapist and how to decide when an external guide could reveal the real question behind the problem you're trying to solve.Huge thanks to Petar & The Late Bloomer Actor for the support, much appreciated! Stan Link: https://stan.store/meremortalsTimeline: (00:00:00) Intro(00:00:36) Book setup: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone (Lori Gottlieb)(00:04:22) Is talk therapy an "easy job"?(00:07:34) Personal histories with therapy(00:13:37) When would you go?(00:19:35) Male substitutes for therapy and why some need a neutral listener(00:24:13) What therapists really offer: safe disclosure and third-party perspective(00:31:03) Introspection vs understanding; overthinking and feeling understood(00:35:05) Boostagram Lounge(00:39:56) What Aussie men discuss in therapy(00:47:15) Low affect: numbing vs regulation(00:51:15) When does therapy end? Termination, success metrics and vagueness(00:55:02) Therapy as a business, niches and the rise of AI/text-based care(00:59:12) The value of a well-formed question and paid accountability(01:03:11) Risks: authority, bad guidance and incentives(01:06:54) Wrap-up: Meanderings as free therapy and support links Connect with Mere Mortals:Website: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/Discord: https://discord.gg/jjfq9eGReUTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/meremortalspodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meremortalspodcasts/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meremortalspodcastsValue 4 Value Support:Boostagram: https://www.meremortalspodcasts.com/supportPaypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/meremortalspodcast

We talk to Lori Gottlieb—psychotherapist, bestselling author, and co-host of the “Since You Asked” advice podcast—about what she wishes she could tell her patients. We discuss questions like why patients lie to their therapists, how to know if you’re the toxic friend, how to handle a challenging holiday gathering, and how to end rumination. Resources & links related to this episode: Request bookplates now to get them in time for the holidays! Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (Amazon, Bookshop) Elizabeth is reading: The British Are Coming by Rick Atkinson (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: A Weekend in New York by Benjamin Markovits (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We talk about why immersive experiences are so energizing and interesting. We also explore how we can know ourselves better by considering what the algorithm reflects back to us about our interests, and we talk about the satisfaction of clearing clutter. Resources & links related to this episode: Masquerade Viola's Room Life in Five Senses Titanic Virtual Experience Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Description: In this episode of the Matriarchy series, we explore how deeply ingrained patriarchal narratives can create a policing effect on the behavior of women.  Author, Elise Loehnen, discusses her book "On Our Best Behavior" which examines how concepts like the seven deadly sins have historically been used to restrict women's behavior and police their adherence to an idealized form of "goodness." Loehnen unpacks the insidious ways women are culturally conditioned from a young age to suppress normal human drives like anger, ambition, and sexuality. And how disrupting rigid gender stereotypes is important when raising the next generation in order to build a more compassionate world.  … Thought-provoking Quotes: ★ “Women are trained for goodness; men are trained for power.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “Patriarchy isn't just out there in systems and structures — it's in us. It's the air we breathe.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “A ‘good woman' never needs anything. She has no wants, no anger, no appetite. She exists to meet everyone else's needs — and calls it virtue.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “We are so conditioned to police ourselves that we end up policing each other.” – Elise Loehnen ★ “I hold everything I think with loose hands. This is what I know now. But I'm open to the me who might think differently later.” – Jen Hatmaker Resources Mentioned in This Episode: ➤ On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen - https://bit.ly/44tz41D ➤ Goop - https://goop.com ➤ For the Love of Being Seen and Heard ft. Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/4b8YT9C ➤ Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/3JO7FOn ➤ Evagrius Ponticus (Fourth Century Christian Monk) - https://bit.ly/4b7zEV5 ➤ Pope Gregory on the 7 Deadly Sins - https://bit.ly/3y1J1XK ➤ Harvey Weinstein Abuse Cases -  https://bit.ly/4b5ktM5 ➤ Carol Gilligan - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_G... ➤ In a Different Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3JQ9IBh   ➤ Human Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3UQ1Rcn ➤ Andrew Tate - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_... ➤ Order, Disorder, Reorder (An idea Developed by Richard Rohr) - https://bit.ly/44xzHqK ➤ For the Love of The Enneagram ft. Richard Rohr - https://bit.ly/3QzzZaW ➤ Loretta Ross - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loretta... Guest's Links: ➤ Website: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/ ➤ Facebook:   / eliseloehnen   ➤ Instagram:   / eliseloehnen   ➤ Twitter:   / eloehnen   ➤ LinkedIn:   / elise-loehnen-b867523   ➤ Podcast: https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes ➤ Blog: https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/ Connect with Jen!Jen's Website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy.  To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We discuss why a weekly "Saturday Synch-up" can reduce squabbling and make coordinating schedules much easier. We also share happiness lessons learned from six months of living with a puppy. Plus, we answer a listener question about the best way for an Obliger to ask questions of a Questioner without causing resistance. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Check out the new Happiness Project tools Take the Four Tendencies quiz: Are you an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Elizabeth is: So busy that she's not reading anything right now Gretchen is reading: Millions by Frank Cottrell Boyce (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We discuss why investing in the right tools can boost both happiness and productivity—when it's worth spending money, and when it’s not. We share an easy happiness hack for finding accountability and community to keep up a good habit, and talk about a startling calculation that may change the way you read. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Ep. 548 Put your money where your mouth is Join Secrets of Adulthood on Substack Elizabeth is reading: All the Way to the River by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: All Passion Spent by Vita Sackville-West (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear the first episode from Since You Asked. After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the more episodes and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We discuss the value of taking the trip. We also reveal something very valuable that is available for free, if you know where to look, and we share listeners’ thought-provoking responses about the “one big thing” they’ve successfully tackled. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Use NewsBank, PressReader, or the Libby app to get access to digital newspapers Elizabeth is reading: War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: Swimming Studies by Leanne Shapton (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re revisiting my conversation with the author Gretchen Rubin, since we could probably all use a little more light these days. Gretchen has spent years trying to understand happiness, the ways she can access it herself, and how to bring others in on the wisdom she’s gained. Gretchen also has a new podcast, Since You Asked, with bestselling author and psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb. The two of them team up to take on the everyday problems we all face. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they'll address it all with warmth, humor, and insight. Follow Since You Asked wherever you get your podcasts or head to https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd Follow me on Instagram at @davidduchovny. Find more video podcasts on our YouTube channel. Stay up to date with Lemonada on X, Facebook and Instagram at @LemonadaMedia. Joining Lemonada Premium is a great way to support our shows and get bonus content. Subscribe today on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. For a list of current sponsors and discount codes for this and every other Lemonada show, go to lemonadamedia.com/sponsors.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stories of people who try simple mind games on others, and then find themselves way in over their heads. Visit thisamericanlife.org/lifepartners to sign up for our premium subscription.Prologue: Host Ira Glass interviews Lori Gottlieb about the time she sent a letter to a writer in a magazine, a letter packed with white lies. (5 minutes)Act One: Lori Gottlieb's story continues. One complication led to another, and before long, the writer seemed to be lying to her. Or maybe he wasn't. It was hard to tell. Years later, she still isn't sure what happened. (8 minutes)Act Two: A group called Improv Everywhere decides that an unknown band, Ghosts of Pasha, playing their first ever tour in New York, ought to think they're a smash hit. So they study the band's music and then crowd the performance, pretending to be hard-core fans. Improv Everywhere just wants to make the band happy—to give them the best day of their lives. But the band doesn't see it that way. Nor does another subject of one of Improv Everywhere's "missions." (31 minutes)Act Three: Scott Carrier and his family live in the same Salt Lake City neighborhood as Elizabeth Smart, the fourteen-year-old whose 2002 kidnapping made international news. Though Smart's picture was plastered everywhere throughout Salt Lake City and thousands of volunteers searched for her, her captors brazenly brought her back to the very neighborhood from which she'd been taken. They walked freely through the streets with her in broad daylight, yet no one recognized her. Scott talks with his neighbors and his son Milo—who had attended grade school with Smart—about what was going through their minds that prevented them from seeing what was right there in plain sight. (12 minutes)Transcripts are available at thisamericanlife.orgThis American Life privacy policy.Learn more about sponsor message choices.

Introducing my new podcast: Since You Asked! This is the first episode of my new show with my friend, the therapist and author Lori Gottlieb. Each week, we tackle the daily problems of living—the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you just can’t solve. If you enjoy this episode, follow Since You Asked to get future episodes in your feed. Resources & links related to this episode: Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Living meaningfully with the time we've got. Join Rabbi Brous and Lori Gottlieb in a sermon-dialogue on the intersection of Jewish and therapeutic wisdom on issues of deep concern for us today: how to stay in relationship with people whose ideas break your heart, confirmation bias and how minds are changed (can they be?), how to overcome psychic numbing and stay centered and empathic, even when we're hurting, how to hold hope and grow resiliency, and more. Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over one million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times “Ask the Therapist” advice column and is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast and the advice podcast Since You Asked. A contributing writer for The Atlantic, she also wrote The Atlantic's “Dear Therapist” advice column for six years. She is a sought-after expert appearing on Oprah, The Today Show, The Daily Show, Good Morning America, CBS Mornings, CNN, and NPR's “Fresh Air” and her TED Talk was one of the Top 10 Most Watched of the Year. She is also an IKAR member, and mother of the wonderful Zachary Gottlieb, IKAR teen extraordinaire.

We talk about why asking for clarification is so important—yet it’s an easy step to skip. We also mention a listener’s great hack for nudging her kids to unclutter, and we discuss the urge to “use it up.” Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Elizabeth is reading: A Bad Day for Sorry by Sophie Littlefield (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: The Farthest Shore by Ursula K. LeGuin (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we’re popping in your feed to tell you about a new show from Lemonada Media, Since You Asked. Who doesn’t need advice—and who doesn’t love giving advice? Since you asked, we’re happy to answer. Each week, two friends—Gretchen Rubin, a happiness researcher, and Lori Gottlieb, a therapist—tackle the daily problems of living with all of you. Whether it’s the pet peeve that’s annoyed you for years, the question you’re too embarrassed to ask, or the dilemma you can’t solve, they’re here to talk it through. They’ll also shake things up with a rotating mix with special segments that offer a fresh approach to tackling the problems of everyday life. We invite you to weigh in yourself, so get ready to bring your best advice. Whether this podcast changes your life or just makes you laugh, we’re glad you’re here. You’re about to hear a clip from the first episode from Since You Asked After you listen, head to: https://lemonada.lnk.to/SinceYouAskedfd to hear the full episode and follow the show.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Stories help you make sense of your life — but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links:TEDNext: ted.com/futureyouTEDSports: ted.com/sportsTEDAI Vienna: ted.com/ai-viennaTEDAI San Francisco: ted.com/ai-sf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are about 100 days left in the year, and we discuss why starting your 100-day countdown can make you happier. We also explore a hack that will help you read, learn, and get entertained, and we share interesting responses from listeners about the power of engaging. Resources & links related to this episode: For the Happier Podcast Book Club: All the Way to the River: Love, Loss and Liberation by Elizabeth Gilbert (Amazon, Bookshop) Joshua Rothman's New Yorker article "A.I. Is Coming for Culture" Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Happier in Hollywood Substack Secrets of Adulthood Substack "Fall in Love with Your Next Novel" Quiz Elizabeth is reading: Actress of a Certain Age by Jeff Hiller (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: The Secret Commonwealth by Philip Pullman (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We talk about why it can be very valuable to question our assumptions, and we also share hacks for helping a child moving into a college dorm. Plus we discuss a listener’s feelings of Obliger-rebellion due to the unacknowledged work she does for her family. Resources & links related to this episode: Listen to the new podcast Since You Asked with Lori Gottlieb and Gretchen Rubin Love Life by Rob Lowe (Amazon, Bookshop) Four Tendencies quiz "Clear the Decks” bingo card Elizabeth is reading: We Might Just Make It After All: My Best Friendship with Kate Space by Elyce Arons (Amazon, Bookshop) Gretchen is reading: Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb (Amazon, Bookshop) Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode, the perfect hair and the perfect donor. This episode was hosted by Dan Kennedy. Storytellers: Diavian Walters has a relationship with hair that is shear madness. Lori Gottlieb searches for the perfect donor and the whole package. Podcast # 537 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this Roundtable discussion, we explore the role of romance in fiction and real life. Author and political leader Stacey Abrams explains how she weaves it into her suspense novels by focusing on authentic human connection, while therapist Lori Gottlieb brings her perspective on love off the page. Together, we look at how romance is imagined, experienced, and sustained today. Resources & links related to this episode: Stacey Abrams Lori Gottlieb Gretchen Rubin Get in touch: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Visit Gretchen's website to learn more about Gretchen's best-selling books, products from The Happiness Project Collection, and the Happier app. Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Therapy is in session! We have incredible therapist and author Lori Gottlieb join us for a third time to discuss sibling relationships and dynamics – competitiveness and jealousy in adult siblings (especially around milestones), growing up with totally different experiences in the home, favoritism from parents, and even estrangement. And we dive into the hot topic of not liking/not getting along with a sibling's partner and how to navigate these situations and approach tough conversations. Before Lori joins us, Rayna has a dating update only true GGE fans will understand, and Ashley had an unexpected encounter at a gay bar (plus, catch us in Denver this weekend). Enjoy!  Follow Lori on Instagram @lorigottlieb_author, check out her NYT column Ask the Therapist, and listen to her podcast Dear Therapists. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Warby Parker: Try on any pair of glasses virtually at https://warbyparker.com/gge.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge. iRestore: Get a huge discount on the iRestore Elite at https://irestore.com with code GGE. Cort Furniture: Build your own furniture rental package today at https://www.cort.com/podcast. Simply Pop: Go to https://cokeurl.com/simplyPOP to find out where you can try Simply Pop.

Former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, former Rep. Patrick J. Kennedy (D-R.I.) and Arthur Brooks join a special edition of Meet the Press on America's mental health crisis. Lori Gottlieb, Nedra Glover Tawwab and Jean Twenge join the Meet the Press roundtable.

Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, is helping us answer burning questions from our MBB audience like: “Am I in love or just attached?" “How do you know if you're in love?” “How do I build trust in a relationship?” From relationship red flags and how to communicate better with your partner to knowing when you've found "the one," Lori uncovers why we stay in toxic relationships, the truth about vulnerability, and how to fix your relationship after betrayal. Plus, get expert advice on setting boundaries, identifying red flags & narcissistic behavior, finding the right therapist, and how to move on after a break-up. Don't miss her tips on keeping love alive and making relationships work. Plus, stay tuned for some surprising red flags from Mayim and Jonathan. This is the ultimate guide to unlocking your healthiest connections!Lori Gottlieb's Book, MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE: https://a.co/d/gDLLpsdLori's TED TALK: https://www.ted.com/talks/lori_gottlieb_change_your_story_change_your_life?language=enLori's Advice column, Ask The Therapist @ New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/ask-the-therapistLori's Podcast, DEAR THERAPISTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists/id1523340696 BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

My guest is Lori Gottlieb, MFT, a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people build strong relationships by first understanding themselves and the stories they've internalized about themselves and others. We explore how our parents, wounds and unique strengths—both consciously and unconsciously—influence our partner choices and how we show up in relationships, as well as how to avoid and break free from destructive patterns. We also discuss the impact of texting, social media and dating apps on partnership. Lori shares which signals to follow to become the best romantic partner possible and how to make choices that lead to greater vitality, happiness and fulfillment in all areas of life. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Helix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman David Protein: https://davidprotein.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Dr. Lori Gottlieb 00:02:01 Patient & First Question; Talked Out of Feelings 00:06:15 Self-Regulation vs Co-Regulation, Tool: Pause & Perspective 00:10:04 Sponsors: Helix Sleep & BetterHelp 00:12:36 Relationships, Childhood & Unfinished Business 00:17:13 Unconscious Mind, Hurtful Parent & Familiarity, Role of Therapy 00:26:35 Excitement & Chaos, Cherophobia; Storytelling, First Date & Sparks? 00:36:27 Tool: Awareness of Death & Living Fully; Vitality; Fear vs Acceptance 00:47:27 Sponsors: AG1 & David Protein 00:50:35 Activate vs Energize; Tool: Technology, Numbness & Overwhelm 00:54:50 Numb or Calm?, Gender Stereotypes, Tool: Mentalizing 01:00:51 Feelings, Projective Identification, Tool: Owning Your Feelings 01:03:25 React vs Respond; Space, Tool: Face-to-Face Conversation vs Text 01:10:16 Behavioral Change, 5 Steps of Change, Tool: Self-Compassion & Accountability 01:15:38 Sponsor: LMNT 01:16:54 Deadlines & Rules; Idiot vs Wise Compassion, No Drama & Assumptions 01:26:27 Silent Treatment, Crying & Manipulation, Shame vs Guilt, Self-Preservation 01:33:01 Self-Reflection, Individual & Couples Therapy, Transference; Agency 01:38:56 Texting, Conflicts, Breakups, Pain Hierarchy, Tool: Move Forward 01:46:42 Relationship Breakups, Daily World & Loss 01:53:30 Bank of Goodwill; Talking About Partner, Focus, Comparison 02:01:13 Infidelity, What If vs What Is, Attention & Appreciation 02:04:56 Gut Instinct, Change Behavior, Danger, Productive vs Unproductive Anxiety 02:15:27 Knowing Oneself, Relationships, Flexibility, Shared History 02:20:30 Romantic Relationships & Teens, Social Media, Privacy 02:27:09 Online Apps & Choices, Maximizers vs Satisficers, Tool: Identify Your Weakness 02:33:09 Fixing Issues Early, Tool: Self vs Partner Lists & Character Qualities 02:41:51 Feeling Toward Partner, Calm, Content; Tool: Operating Instructions 02:46:48 Help-Rejecting Complainers; Relationships, Love & Core Wounds 02:51:22 Stories & Unreliable Narrators, Editing, Tool: 5 Senses 02:59:04 Young Men, Masculinity, Confusion 03:07:03 Grief, Making Sense of Loss 03:09:54 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Workbook; Ask The Therapist, Choosing a Bigger Life 03:20:26 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures