Podcasts about five love languages how

Gary Chapman, PhD is an author and radio talk show host. Dr. Chapman has written 50 books in his lifetime, one of which you may be familiar with. In 1992, Dr. Chapman published the book “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.” While working as a marriage and family counselor for his church, Dr. Chapman came to the realization that many relationship issues stemmed from a lack of communication. And thus, he devised the concept of The Five Love Languages as a way for couples to understand each other more. Listen in!   Links: The 5 Love Languages: https://5lovelanguages.com/

In this episode of Sexy Sips, listen to Sex Health Reps Audrey and Tess discuss the origin of love languages and talk about their experiences with them and the influence of the book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate" by Gary Chapman. This episode was produced by Audrey Maloy and Tess Kaplan. This episode was edited by Audrey Maloy. This episode was transcribed by Hana Kebede. ⁠Access the fully transcribed episode here.⁠ To learn more about Tufts Sex Health Reps Visit:  ⁠Sex Health Reps Instagram ⁠ ⁠SHR's Linktree⁠ ⁠Join Our E-list ⁠

Kelly Williams Hale is our host today on Celebrating God's Grace. Today's message continues the conversation on LOVE and how we can activate the extravagant and abundant life God has planned for us. Even when we're frustrated, angry, hurt, or disappointed LOVE never stops. Every day can be a day of love. That's literally our job, assigned by God: to love others. We're in a love relationship with Jesus and He wants us to be abundant. He wants us to prosper.   “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)   ***  Hi there, and welcome to the Women World Leaders Podcast.  My name is Kelly Williams Hale and I'm your host today on Celebrating God's Grace. I'm an author, speaker and coach leading women through inner healing and intimacy work. I teach women how to overcome self-doubt proving their worth and step into the purpose and plan God has for them.  Before I get started on today's message, I have a question… Do you celebrate Valentine's Day? And while I do have some thoughts about the commercialism of this holiday, I do love that (for at least one day) – so many people are intentionally choosing LOVE.  Transparently, I've not been one to plan ahead or make a big deal out of Valentine's Day. In fact, I didn't pick up cards and chocolate for the boys in my family until that evening!  But my husband has always been one to celebrate and I was blessed to wake up to flowers, chocolate and cards. He's actually training Austin, my 11 year old, in the fine art of thoughtfulness. That IS special to me… that my son picks out my cards! (meanwhile, I tend to find a fun card from Austin to Dad and just ask him to sign it.  I know, there's def room for improvement!!  And I realized that I look at EVERY DAY as a day of love. That's literally our job, assigned by God. To be like him. To love others… and I want to add: LAVISHLY. This message is titled: Lavish Love – to illustrate the extravagant, abundant, overflowing love he has for us.  He loved us so much he sent his son to be crucified. To die that horrendous physical death – for us. Giving us the opportunity to be reconciled with the Father himself.  That's LAVISH LOVE.  And so today, I want to dig a little deeper into what that means. What does it mean to be lavishly loved, and… to GIVE lavish love?  LAVISH is defined as:sumptuously rich, elaborate, or luxurious, bestow something in generous or extravagant quantities on.  I love sharing definitions. Often, the synonyms resonate with me and broadens my vocabulary.  So let's look at what Merriam Webster says love means: an intense feeling of deep affection, a great interest and pleasure in something. feel deep affection for (someone).like or enjoy very much.  Now that we have a head knowledge – what Lavish Love means “technically” – how do we apply it?  The questions to ponder and sort of contemplate is: what do we love?  Who do we love? What do we love? How do we show love?  And a very big question: how are we about receiving love? What does the bible tell us about God? He is literally love.  1 John 4:7-8 7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.  The highest form of energy, pure love.  And if we're created in his image, we also have this capacity to BE LOVE. But of course, we live in a world that challenges that mandate. Wondering how we're supposed to love when our situation is less than perfect. When our neighbor is hosting yet another party with the music blaring at midnight and we have a meeting at 8am. Or when someone pulls into the parking spot we were just about to take. I really shouldn't bring the spouses into the mix… but if you're married, you can probably relate to the many “opportunities” to extend grace in our own households!  Thankfully, in spite of the very real “LIFE” we lead – daily… Jesus COMMANDS us to Love one another. AND he gives us instructions on what that looks like.  I'd like to share (1 Corinthians 13:4-8…) – from the Passion Translation.  Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one's achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. Love never stops loving. It extends beyond the gift of prophecy, which eventually fades away. It is more enduring than tongues, which will one day fall silent. Love remains long after words of knowledge are forgotten.  What does this tell us: even when we're frustrated, angry, hurt, or disappointed LOVE never stops… loving. It remains long after those words are forgotten.  We are called to love even when we don't FEEL LIKE IT.  Let's revisit the questions I asked earlier: Who do we love? God has given us people in our lives to love. Our families. Mom. Dad. Siblings. Husband. Children. We also have our church family. Co-workers, maybe. Neighbors. Etc.  What do we love? This is obviously different for everyone. We can love our home. We can love where we live. We can love our garden. We can love our family trips. Or our women's bible study. Many, many things. Which I believe are ALL blessings from God.  How do we show love? This one may be more nuanced. Since God created us so differently – from the tip of our nose to nail on our toes, he's given us all unique qualities, how we think, what we like, our very personality.  And to throw a little wrench in this, most people don't do things the way we do them! Anybody ask your kids to fold the laundry or load the dishwasher – and then go back and do it the quote unquote “right way”?!?!? Ephesians 4:29 2Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.  Did you catch that? So that it will benefit those who listen.  This is important with conversation. But also applicable with how we show love. AND how we RECEIVE LOVE.  There's actually a book about this – related to LOVE. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman.  It was written for couples, but I think we can all benefit from it.  Here are the 5 love languages:  ·         Love language #1: Words of affirmation. ... ·         Love language #2: Acts of service. ... ·         Love language #3: Gifts. ... ·         Love language #4: Quality time. ... ·         Love language #5: Physical touch.  The book is about everybody's different way of receiving love.  Because a lot of times we will show love in a way that we tend to want to receive it.  When we can identify what love language the special people in our life speak, we can show love in a way that will mean more to them.  Now here's the big question: how do WE receive love? How do we feel about receiving in general? As women we're hardwired to be nurturers… We tend to be givers. A lot of times it's our way of loving others.  And so, we love others and find it easy to give.  But how do we receive love. particularly as it relates to God.  He wants to lavish his love on us. But the question is, are we open to receiving that love for him?  Do we REALLY believe that he loves us? a lot of times our humanness, our experience here on Earth is sort of tainted by how we've received love in the past, like in our formative years, how other people showed love to us.  For me, when I went through my second divorce, my son missed his dad. I know his dad loved him. But when we first split up, he would cancel plans to see Dallas. Obviously, it hurt my son. And so, it was very difficult when I would say “But your dad loves you”.  I didn't want him to equate “love” with someone who wasn't around. Or disappointed him.  And so we can view what love is through that lens of abandonment or rejection.  Where we can question if somebody truly loves us, because our experience around love is that, oh, my dad loved me, but he didn't spend time with me.  We can view God this way too.    The enemy of our soul would like nothing more than to deceive us that way. But we have only to look into scripture to read about God's love for us.  So much so that he forgives us when we sin and mess up. That's grace.  When we think of God's lavish abundant love for us, we will find the compassion, forgiveness and grace for the people in our lives.  When we can activate the Holy Spirit and love others lavishly… the abundant life is available. I believe that's what God wants us to experience while we're here on Earth.  To love others, like Jesus says, the greatest commandment is to love God first, and then love others.  Matthew 22:36-40 36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'  And we must love ourselves as well. Now, I don't know about you, but I have girlfriends who are not married, and widows who have lost their sweethearts. And so valentine's day can be very painful. This whole idea about love and gifts and celebrating can be painful when we don't have someone. But what God gave me is that we can love ourselves. It requires us to love ourselves to activate that abundance.  I know for me I lived so much of my life in survival mode. I wasn't even aware of this because of the programming I received as a child.  We can learn how to behave in public and appear like we have it all together. But deep down, we can often feel unlovable. I see this in my son Dallas. Again, because of how people treat us, our experiences, the stories we believe that we're not worthy, even what we've been told. It's very subconscious.  But we can become aware, when we begin to have these voices go through our mind that we are unlovable. We can catch those thoughts and take them captive. The Bible says make them obedient to Christ.  2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.  When we start noticing those thoughts that don't align with the lavish love God says he has for us, we can CHOOSE a new thought. The TRUTH.  That can help us activate abundance. And honestly activating abundance is really activating the Holy Spirit that lives inside each and every one of us, as Christians, as followers of Christ.  We're in a love relationship with Jesus and He wants us to be abundant. He wants us to prosper. Jeremiah 29:11. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.   And so when we can love ourselves the way that God does, unconditionally. Loving ourselves becomes a form of worship to Him.          

Are you consciously aware of how you want to be loved and shown appreciation for? Until recently Craig and Allison “knew” how to be kind but we didn't really know. After reading The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman we really started talking about how we show and want to be shown love. This week we talk about our journey to discovery and share Gary's Love Languages with you and how knowing other people's languages  can help at work and at home.  Tune into #MWB to learn that and more about working with your spouse/partner not only at home but also at the office!    Links: http://audibletrial.com/BizMarried  https://www.marriedwithabusiness.net/

We were able to get Mikayla to update everyone on her condition, but because we couldn't get her home just yet we have to do another throwback episode. So, in celebration of our anniversary we are re-uploading the 5 love languages episode from our early, early days. After taking The Five Love Languages online quiz, hosts Al and Mikayla discuss their love languages. They also talk about how they can use these meanings to navigate through their marriage, as well as their key friends and family relationships. The Five Love Languages was created by Dr. Gary Chapman and released the book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate in 1992. It profiles five ways to convey and experience love between intimate partners that Dr. Chapman calls "love languages'. In his book, Dr. Chapman stated the five ways to express and experience love areWords of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServiceAnd Physical Touch  

Welcome to The Main Thing Podcast! Today we are joined by a very special guest - my wise and beautiful wife, Lisa Lineberg. Lisa is a gifted communicator. An experienced entrepreneur. She's a confidante to me and countless friends in our community. Lisa is a Jesus follower. She's someone who is adventurous, perceptive and very genuine. A friend to many, Lisa is one of the most gifted, skillful listeners God put on this earth. Born in the southern West Virginia coalfields of Williamson in Mingo County, Lisa Lineberg earned her bachelor's degree in exercise physiology from West Virginia University. She went on to become a certified fitness nutrition specialist and a serial entrepreneur in the fitness - nutrition space. Lisa is mother to two wonderful children, Chloe and Sherman. Without a doubt, Lisa is my “secret weapon” and soulmate. She is my wife of 25 years.  Today, on the 25th anniversary of our wedding, we fired up the microphones to share wisdom for relationships. Buckle up! Get ready to hear from one of the wisest and most dynamic guests, ever to appear on The Main Thing Podcast. Resources Lisa Lineberg on LinkedIn Books discussed in this episode:  Order your copy of “The Five Love Languages - How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Gary Chapman Get your copy of “At Your Best” by Carey Nieuwhof (this is the Red Zones reference) Stay Connected with Us Instagram @themainthingpod Facebook - @TheMainThingPod LinkedIn - The MainThing Podcast Twitter @themainthingpod   Credits Editor + Technical Advisor Bob Hotchkiss Brand + Strategy Advisor Andy Malinoski Public Relations + Partnerships Advisor Rachel Bell Ready to Help Support the Growth of this Podcast? Become a subscriber. Share the podcast with one or two friends. Follow us on social media @TheMainThingPod Buy some Main Thing Merch from our Merchandise Store. Become a patron of the show and support us on Patreon with funding. Buy a book authored or recommended by our wise guests at our online BookShop. Content You Will Enjoy in This Episode [00:00:01] - Intro and welcome [00:01:50] - Brief bio for Lisa Lineberg [00:03:20] - Why we've chosen to celebrate our 25th anniversary with a podcast [00:04:01] - Who can benefit from wisdom on relationships; Parkwood scene-setter [00:05:30] - How Lisa and Skip became connected; God's timing is perfect [00:08:23] - Lisa launches into wisdom nugget number one: Get the Full Story; go deep [00:11:30] - Unpacking the second wisdom nugget: Love Language is No Quid Pro Quo [00:13:34] - The importance of Cave Time; Lisa presents the “She BnB” [00:16:55] - Understanding our Red Zones; avoid heavy conversations during this zone [00:21:30] - Wrapping it all up; reflecting on the relationship wisdom we've gained [00:23:01] - Family, blood and the appeal of quirkiness [00:23:45] - Thank you and happy anniversary! [00:24:02] - Outro  

Michael & Krista explore the 5 Love Languages and practical examples of how these play out in relationships. For reference, you should check out The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. It outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which Chapman calls "love languages".  The love languages are:  Quality Time Words of Affirmation  Gifts Acts of Service  Physical Touch Grab your free gift at: https://expand-your.life/9Sparks Get more from the Expand Your Life Giveaway HERE! Don't forget to follow the Mornings with Michael & Krista show on your favorite podcast player so that you don't miss a single episode. And if you can, please take a moment to write a short review and rate our show. It would be greatly appreciated! To engage more deeply in the conversations, listen to past episodes, and get to know your hosts, go to https://KristaInochovsky.com and follow us on Facebook.

Alyssa is celebrating 100 episodes this week by talking about the five different love languages, first coined by psychologist Gary Chapman.  Learning about the five love languages can significantly improve the relationships you have with partners, friends, and family. To learn more about the different love languages, please see Gary Chapman's book: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma You can also check out Alyssa at www.alyssascolari.com Transcript: Alyssa Scolari [00:23]: Hey everybody. It is your host Alyssa Scolari. Welcome back to another episode of The Light After Trauma podcast and most especially, happy 100th episode. We are officially in triple digits. I don't know how that happened. I have no clue. It has been almost two years since the podcast started and I can't even wrap my brain around it. We are a hundred episodes in, and it has been so much fun every step of the way. I remember being in the pandemic right at the beginning when everything was supposed to shut down for only two weeks. And I remember thinking to myself, I have to do something to help people that are suffering. I have to do something to help people have a greater understanding about mental health. And it sort of just dawned on me like, "Oh, I really want to start a podcast." Alyssa Scolari [01:28]: That is a great way to reach people and to be able to provide people with free access to mental health education. So I remember I get all these reminders on my phone from Facebook, I guess, as my equipment would come in, like my podcast microphone. I would take a picture of it and I would put it on my story. So I keep getting little reminders on my social media from that two years ago and it is mind boggling and I'm really honored to be here. There are times when the podcast has really stressed me out and has felt like a lot. But honestly, for the most part, I have been loving every second of it and I have formed friendships with, I think so many of you. I have amazing friendships right now that I would've never had if it weren't for this podcast, whether it's people who have been on the show, whether it is people who have contacted me after hearing the podcast and we just connected on social media. Alyssa Scolari [02:38]: I just feel like I have friends all over the world and you have been right by my side, listening to me, not just share my story, but be vulnerable. Because I shared my story, but I share my story for the most part, as I'm going through things. And it has been great to feel the support. It has been great to be able to give support in the form of education about mental health. It's just been great. It's all been great. I don't even have any words. I don't have any words. So if you and I have talked and we're friends, thank you. I love you. If you and I have never spoken, but you just listened to the podcast. Thank you. I love you. We are going to keep going until, I don't know when. I don't know, we're just going to keep going. We're going to keep doing it. So thank you so much for all your support. I would honestly never be here without you. Alyssa Scolari [03:46]: And if you are continuing to like what you hear and you haven't done so already, I kindly ask that you please leave a rating or review of the podcast because those ratings really help the podcast to continue to grow and to reach a wider audience so more people can get the mental health education and support and the trauma focused education that they need. That would be great. And without further ado, let's get into it today. So I thought for the hundredth episode, we could talk about something maybe a little bit more fun. Listen, I always think that mental health stuff is fun, but of course it can be very, very serious. So I thought maybe we would just dial it back a notch and talk about something that I think is really cool. So today I wanted to talk about the five love languages, which I always think are interesting and relate to absolutely everybody. Alyssa Scolari [04:42]: The five love languages, I'm sure most of you have heard of this. But if you have not heard of this so far, it's based on a book by a PhD, Gary Chapman, who was a therapist who worked a lot with couples and with people in complicated relationships. And he wrote this book titled, The Five Love Languages, and the book was released in 1992. And basically what this book is it's a collection of his extensive research as a therapist and he takes kind of everything that he has seen throughout his career. And he condenses people's communication patterns and how couples communicate love. He condenses it all into five basic categories and calls them love languages. Now it's important to remember about love languages, that when we talk about it's not just between romantic partners. Love languages, it's quite literally how we express our love to the people in our lives that we want to express love to. But it's also how we like to be loved by the people in our lives who love us. So it is both. So these love languages are not super old, definitely a newer concept. Alyssa Scolari [06:18]: Like I said, it came out in the nineties, 1992 specifically, the year I was born. So it is as old as I am. It is 30 years old, which is not very old. And if you're listening out there and you think 30 is old, we need to talk. I'm just kidding, kind of, ish. Anyway, so what are the love languages? All right, let's break it down. So we have words of affirmation. We have physical touch. We have receiving gifts. Quality time and acts of service. And we are going to get into what that means. So what are words of affirmation? Well, it seems kind of self-explanatory, but basically it's using your language to tell somebody that you love them. And it's not just, I love you. I love you. I love you. It's more like you are verbally encouraging somebody. You are validating them. You are affirming them. Alyssa Scolari [07:16]: You are actively listening to them and giving them feedback and that feedback is really encouraging. This is the person who is a talker, if you need to just talk through things and you need to hear validation, you need to hear reassurance constantly. You might be a words of affirmation person. That might be your love language. Now, I think it's important to note that I think you can have multiple of these. I think that every relationship needs all of these and I'm not a couple's therapist. So don't quote me on that, but I kind of look at all these and I'm like, "I think that all of them are important." So this isn't to say that you only need one for a relationship to survive, but rather there's usually one of these that rings more true for you than it does for any of the other ones. Alyssa Scolari [08:23]: So folks whose love language is words of affirmation, they really appreciate things like handwritten notes. They like cards for birthdays and anniversaries. They love it when you send them a text in the middle of the day, just, "Hey, I'm thinking about you. I love you." They love that stuff. That is how they feel the most loved. Now, maybe this isn't how you like to receive love, because personally, it's not how I like to receive love and I'm not saying words of affirmation are bad. I like them. They're great. I like when my partner tells me that he loves me, but I don't need it. It's not my oxygen, so to speak. But maybe you are somebody who gives words of affirmation and that is how you communicate your love. So you can have one love language that's your way of communicating, love to others and a totally different love language that's your way of liking to receive love. Alyssa Scolari [09:32]: And that's definitely the case for me. I tend to be a words of affirmation person when it comes to giving love, which honestly does that surprise anybody given the fact that I'm a therapist? Is anybody shocked by this? No, I totally show my love and my care and my concern with my clients and my friends and my husband, by words of affirmation. I'm actively listening. I'm encouraging. I'm affirming people all of the time and this is not with my clients, but with the friends in my life, with the loved ones in my life and with my partner. I will make handwritten cards or I will send an unexpected note. I know I used to do those things when David and I first started dating. I don't so much anymore, although I probably should now that I think about it, but that is something I am much more likely to do. Alyssa Scolari [10:33]: But when I receive things like that, I like it, but it doesn't necessarily just do it for me, if you know what I mean. So the next that we're going to talk about is physical touch. When people hear this, physical touch as a love language, everybody's brain jumps, not everybody but most people's brain jumps to the same thing, which is sex. Or like, "Oh, if you're a love, language is physical touch, then you just want to be having sex all of the time." I've had so many people that I've spoken to about love languages who didn't really understand what physical touch meant. When I say my love language is physical touch because that is my love language, people look at me almost kind of sideways. And I'm like, "That's not what it means." Yes. When it comes to physical touch, sex and intimacy can be a part of it. Alyssa Scolari [11:32]: And that is a part of it, but there are other things that are also really important when it comes to physical touch. And it's more just nonverbal body language. So I like hugging. I kind of like kissing, but I'm more hugging is where it's at for me. But also I like when somebody, when I say somebody I'm talking about David. I like when David will play with my hair or just give me a foot rub or just rub my back, whatever kind of physical touch. Again, non-sexual, I love it. It is the best thing ever to me. Now on the same kind of topic, I don't really appreciate, it's not that I don't appreciate it. But I don't show my love through physical time. You will not see me opening my arms and reaching out to hold somebody and initiating any kind of physical contact. Alyssa Scolari [12:47]: I don't do that. I think because it's definitely partially due to my history of sexual abuse. I like touch, but it's somebody that I have to feel really, really safe with. So I'm not likely to go right to physical touch as a love language for friends or acquaintances or anything like that. And again, it's not that my friends aren't safe. People like my friends are incredibly safe people. It's more so just that I feel like there's a different level of safety that's accessed with David. That just sort of makes me really be able to tap into my desire for physical touch, without having my defenses up or my nervous system kind of reactive as a result of my sexual trauma. So physical touch is my number one. That is my love language, but I am not really one to give a whole lot when it comes to, I guess I should say, I'm not really one to show my love through physical touch. Alyssa Scolari [13:59]: I like to receive through physical touch. So the next one is gift giving, receiving gifts. And this one really, again, is exactly as it sounds, it's putting thought into buying things, not even buying things, making things. It could also be like, "Hey, I made you muffins." When David and I first started dating, we would often bond over our love for food, which honestly we still do. That has never gone away. And where I lived with my parents, there was this really great Italian shop with the best cannolis. And so he also loves blueberry and they made blueberry cannolis. We worked together, we first met at work together. So I would often bring him blueberry cannolis to work. Aside from this though, I'm not much of a gift giver to the point where if I have a close friend whose birthday is coming up, or even if David's birthday is coming up, I panic over what I'm going to get somebody for their birthday. Alyssa Scolari [15:10]: It is such an anxiety thing for me. I'm like, "Okay, well I know this person loves, I don't know, plants. So I think I'm going to get this person a plant. But what if I pick the one plant that they hate, or what if I pick the one plant in the world that they happen to be allergic to?" That is just so my intrusive thoughts. I just think about all the ways in which my gift is going to be the worst thing ever. And so gift giving gives me too much anxiety. I don't like it. I, of course, can receive it. I actually get very overwhelmed when people give me gifts. I will cry, happy tears, but I will still cry. I very much enjoy receiving gifts, but it makes me very emotional that somebody would even think of me and be so kind as to give me a gift. Alyssa Scolari [16:08]: So I definitely enjoy receiving this as a love language, but I have way too much anxiety to be able to really give it. And when I say it, I mean any kind of thoughtful gifts or thoughtful gestures. So then there is quality time. And this is really just when somebody spends uninterrupted time with you. Uninterrupted off of their phone, not on social media and it is one on one time. And this is, I think, a big one for a lot of people. And I think, in particularly, a lot of childhood trauma survivors, especially if there was neglect involved. People really tend to love that one-on-one time. And that's not to say that your childhood trauma is going to drive what your love languages are. That's certainly not the case, or at least there's no research to my knowledge that is supporting of that. Alyssa Scolari [17:15]: But I do think that sometimes it can play a factor. So quality time really is creating special moments. Let's go for a walk. We're going to have date nights every week or every other week. We are going to go to the gym together. We're going to ride into work together or Friday nights, our pizza and movie nights. Again, I think that these things are important for every relationship and friendship. I think quality time is, of course, very important for a friendship. But I think the question is that the most important thing to you? This would be probably my second most important love language aside from physical touch. I also really communicate my love with other people with quality time, "Hey, let's hang out, let's do something. Let's go here. Let's go there." Now that I've recovered a lot from my trauma and I don't have as much anxiety around seeing people. I really am somebody who enjoys quality time. Alyssa Scolari [18:32]: So then there's acts of service. That is the last one, that's certainly not the least. And this is just letting somebody know that you want to help them, lightening their load, doing tasks for them. "Hey, I'm going to take your car. I'm going to go get your oil changed." Or, "Hey, I decided to make dinner tonight because I know you had a really long day." Or it can be even something so small like, "Oh, Hey, I fed the dogs this morning, because I know you had a meeting." It doesn't have to be monumental. It can be very minor. "I made you breakfast. I hung a load of laundry." Could be very small things. Acts of service is absolutely the way that my husband likes to communicate his love for me. He is a huge acts of service guy. Alyssa Scolari [19:30]: He does so much for me, whether it's cooking, whether it's cleaning, taking care of the dogs. He will do anything for me and it is really, really awesome. Now I think in terms of how he likes to receive love, I definitely think it's quality time. I think he really appreciates quality time. So those are the love languages. Now here's what's really important about these love languages is, I think for many, many couples and many different kinds of friendships, love languages can be a little bit difficult because we have to learn a lot about the other person and what their needs are. And it's sort of like, "Well, what do we do when our love languages are completely different?" And I think that when you're with somebody and your love language is totally different than theirs. For trauma survivors, a lot of times for childhood abuse survivors, it can be really, really triggering because we may not necessarily see that. Alyssa Scolari [20:50]: I may not see that my mom's showing me love by acts of service, buying me clothes, cooking for me. I may not see that as love and I may be upset and feeling unloved because I'm not getting hugs or cuddles from my mom. That is sort of a miscommunication. I'm not seeing that you love me because you are not loving me in a way that I can see, you are loving me in a way that only you can see. So this is why love languages are so important. Yes, they're fun to talk about, but they're actually really important for the growth of any kind of relationship, whether it's romantic or not. And we have childhood trauma, we are already used to not getting our needs met and our brains are already hypervigilant and extra wired for protection. Alyssa Scolari [21:51]: So as soon as we see that our needs aren't getting met, maybe your love language is quality time and your partner is not making any time for you. They will hang a little laundry and they mow the lawn and they cook, but maybe they haven't planned a date night. Well, here you are triggered feeling abandoned, unloved, maybe worried that something is going wrong in the relationship because your needs aren't getting met. So you are triggered because you can't see that they're expressing love through their way. So I think that it's really important to not only ask yourself, what are my love languages? But to also ask yourself, what are the love languages of those people around me? And you don't even have to ask yourself because if I were you, I would go straight to the source. Go right up to your partner, talk to your friends. What are your love languages? Alyssa Scolari [22:48]: Because once you start to realize, "Oh, Hey, this person never hugs me. I have my best friend. My best friend never hugs me." This is not a true story. "But my best friend never hugs me when she sees me. We see each other twice a year and she never hugs me. She only waves. I feel like she doesn't even want to be my friend." Meanwhile, she might not be hugging you, but she lives in another country and she spent money on a plane ticket, traveled halfway around the world to spend a week with you, quality time or could that be acts of service? Maybe she doesn't hug you when she sees you. But when you guys aren't together, she's texting me all the time, giving you words of affirmation. It is really important to fully assess all of what is going on sometimes when you're feeling triggered or we're feeling unloved. Alyssa Scolari [23:45]: Is it that I'm being unloved right now? Or is this person expressing love to me in a different way? And if that's the case, if somebody is expressing love to you in a way that you don't necessarily receive, that's the time to have a conversation about it. Because I think you have to decide like, "Okay, what do we do and how do we compromise so that we both get our needs met? My husband likes quality time. I like physical touch. So we compromise while we spend quality time together, while we are sitting down on the couch, watching a movie together. I'm getting a foot rub or we're holding hands or he's rubbing my back or he's playing with my hair. How can we compromise on this so that both of our needs get met? Alyssa Scolari [24:42]: It is a really important conversation to have with your friends, with your partners, with your loved ones. But I think one of the really important things here that I also want to say is to not confuse abuse with, "Oh, our love languages aren't the same." Because I see that happens or can happen. Love languages aren't to be thought about when you're in a situation where your partner is abusive or controlling or manipulative. That's not where we want to justify somebody's behaviors based off of love languages. So be careful not to justify abuse based off of somebody's love languages. And this is kind of an egregious example, but just to kind of show you what I'm talking about, it wouldn't be appropriate to say, "Well, when I was a child, we never had any food or hot water in the house, but my mom was always home with us." Alyssa Scolari [26:02]: You don't want to justify neglect. So that is really important because I do think that some people do that, not maybe necessarily with child abuse and neglect, but I do see it happening a lot with romantic partners. "He's mean to me and he talks down to me because words of affirmation aren't his love language. He likes physical touch, or I need to be open to having sex more because his love language is physical touch. Therefore, I can't say no." Those are things to really think about. And I highly recommend talking with a therapist about to make sure, yes, can it be the case that one partner may need to work on their being more intimate, perhaps. But we want to make sure that we talk to a therapist about that and make sure that it's not the case that your partner is pressuring you inappropriately so to have sex. Alyssa Scolari [27:07]: So I hope that makes sense. And I think it's a very, very important takeaway when we talk about the five love languages. So these are really fun. I absolutely love them. And if you don't know what your love language is, there are a gazillion quizzes online that you could take to find out. You can also send the quizzes to your friends, to your partner to be able to find out. And it's a fun way to, I think, get to know each other a little bit more. And again, if you have any questions or concerns like, "Was this abuse? Am I confusing love languages? Is this okay?" Please make sure that you talk to a therapist or to a professional about it. I strongly encourage that. So that was that. That was a wrap on episode 100, which was so fun. Thank you again for being here with me for 100 episodes. I love you all. I am holding you in the light and I will see you next week. Alyssa Scolari [28:17]: Thanks for listening everyone. For more information, please head over to lightaftertrauma.com or you can also follow us on social media. On Instagram, we are @lightaftertrauma and on Twitter it is @lightafterpod. Lastly, please head over to patreon.com/lightaftertrauma to support our show. We are asking for $5 a month, which is the equivalent to a cup of coffee at Starbucks. So please head on over again. That's patreon.com/lightaftertrauma. Thank you and we appreciate your support.

For this Father's Day special episode, we interviewed Julietta's dad, god, Doug Wenzel! A beautiful example of how we are so much more than one thing or role. He is a boy, a son, a man, a father, a brother, a husband, and so much more. Firm and gentle, supportive like a rock, a steadfast guide for inevitable hard stuffs of life. We hope you're as proud of the father's and men in your life as we are of the show's honorary dad.Doug's most influential book: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary ChapmanSocial Media:Facebook: /dougwenzelMuch appreciation to our sponsor Rebecca Schaffer! She is Reiki Master and Kundalini Yoga Teacher, is the founder of High Vibrations Energy Healing located in Boca Raton, Florida.www.HighVibrationsNow.comhttps://www.instagram.com/highvibrationsnow/https://www.facebook.com/Highvibrationsnow#PodMatch #healthandwellness #physicaltherapy #holisticnutrition #mindset #therapy #podcast #books #promotewomen #encouragement #empowerwomen #voicesofthegoddess #circleofgoddesses Subscribe To and Watch The Voices of The Goddess with Julietta Wenzel and Allyson Mancini on Youtube HERE:YouTube: /VoicesofTheGoddessFacebook: /Voices-of-the-Goddess-356165865475415 Instagram: /voicesofthegoddess Voices of The Goddess with Julietta the Magical PT and Allyson the Holistic Nutritionist is a show that  supports modern day goddesses in developing their super powers and acquiring the tools they need to achieve all their desires. Join us each week as we interview amazing women in the community who share their insights and how they use their tools to make their dreams a reality. Allyson, a Michigander, moved to South Florida in 1993 with her fiancé, Nick. Married for 28 years with two children, Nicholas 25 and Lexi 22. A SAHM for 24 years and now an empty nester, she has found her true passion as the Human Resources Director for The Goal Digger Girl and a Functional Nutritionist.Facebook: /AllysonKMancini Instagram: /allysonkmancini/?hl=en LinkedIn : /allysonkmancini/Julietta grew up in Wisconsin and graduated with a Physical Therapy degree from University of Wisconsin-Madison.  When not busy treating patients or teaching Voila Method in the US and internationally, she is making healing crystal art and jewelry, creating spiritual/healing paintings, or planning underground dining experiences. A contributing author in the best-selling book UNSTOPPABLE: Leverage Life Setbacks To Rebuild Resilience For Success. https://bodyandsoul-pt.com   & http://julietta.love  & https://soulcandycrystals.com Facebook: /TheMagicalPT & /soulcandybyjulietta & Juliettalove-108449684234840Instagram: /themagicalpt & /soul_candy_ & /juliettadotloveYour Future in Sales & MarketingA podcast that can help you make great decisions to get the most out of your Sales &...Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify

The hosts discuss the popular The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman.In This Episode of All In-Definitely Podcast:– The hosts take an online survey to find out what is their own love language.– How asking the love language of your spouse may not be the best idea– Exploring the benefits of each of the love languages– How the hosts interpret their love language. Email your questions and comments to: allindefinitely@gmail.comOur sponsor:American Worldwide Academy, a private Florida High School offering the high school diploma and over 150 in-demand career training certificates.If you or anyone you know needs to complete the High School Diploma or are seeking a new career with a Career Training Certificate, call (305) 456-5948 or visit:www.careerhighschool.comAll In-Definitelyhttps://businessinnovatorsradio.com/all-in-definitely/Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/episode-12-love-languages-the-all-in-definitely-podcast-with-anwar-r-sadeek-and-cyana-alvarez

Jennifer Westbrook practiced corporate law for 12 years before devoting her expertise to helping small businesses succeed. Through her writing, web design, and guidance, she gives a voice to other entrepreneurs. She knows everyone she works with defines “thriving” differently and makes it a point to understand their goals from the beginning.A few references you may be interested in reading more about:Jennifer's website: https://www.jenwestwriting.com/The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, book by Gary ChapmanSpirit Controlled Temperament, book by Tim LaHaye Follow along:whenyougrowup.orgIf you'd like to connect on LinkedIn, send me a message to say hello and let me know if you liked this episode: www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlynluboff-pmp.#career #careerchange #webdesign #smallbusiness #entrepreneur #personalgrowth #professionalgrowth #mentor #rolemodel #professionaldevelopment #writing

In this episode, Missy and Chris turn to the wisdom of Gary Chapman from his work "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate".  Finding inner peace involves relationships; relationships with both self and others. Missy and Chris share with us their love languages and the issues they see in relationships when people don't know their love language.  The ideas we talk about revolve around communication skills, expectations, and trust. Check out Chapman's book here. If you like this content please share it with your friends and consider buying a cup of coffee for the creators by clicking here. Missy's website Chris' website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, our sixth love language is murder! HVD, Lit Heads! The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman (1992) vs Devil in the White City by Erik Larson (2003).

Feel your feelings and feel supported with Heather Crewe and her healing energies! Heather is an intuitive empath and facilitates sacred ceremonies with her partner. They curate personalized retreats, private/group ceremonies, and personal/couples coaching. Their process uses sacred sacraments for self-discovery, self-development, and self-healing. Through overcoming her own turbulent challenges in her life, she is able to guide their clients to recognizing and releasing their own limitations. Her goal in life is to support those who are committed to their liberation in knowing that they are worthy so no one ever feels the way she has felt for most of her life. Life is blissful and fulfilling when one adds presence, awareness, and compassion!Heather's most influential book(s): The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz; and The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary ChapmanHeather's website: shamanicananda.com and www.merakitribecollective.directory/united-states/coral-springs/conscious-business-service/shamanic-anandaHeather on Instagram: @shamanicanandaHeather on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/dillyn-hoffman-1764841baMentioned in the show: Gratitude Training: https://www.gratitudetraining.com and ReDesign Trainings: https://www.healing-angels.org  #mindfulness #selflove #mentalhealth #success #meditation #personalgrowth #happiness #loveyourself #healing Subscribe To and Watch The Voices of The Goddess with Julietta Wenzel and Allyson Mancini on Youtube HERE:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJkusUQRFjoRa0oDQpCLAbA/videos Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Voices-of-the-Goddess-356165865475415Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/voicesofthegoddess/ Voices of The Goddess with Julietta the Magical PT and Allyson the Holistic Nutritionist is a show that  supports modern day goddesses in developing their super powers and acquiring the tools they need to achieve all their desires. Join us each week as we interview amazing women in the community who share their insights and how they use their tools to make their dreams a reality. Allyson, a Michigander, moved to South Florida in 1993 with her fiancé, Nick. Married for 27 years with two children, Nicholas 24 and Lexi  21.  A SAHM for 24 years and now an empty nester, she has found her true passion as a Holistic Nutritionist. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthylifestyleinandoutInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/allysonkmancini/?hl=en Julietta grew up in Wisconsin and graduated with a Physical Therapy degree from University of Wisconsin-Madison.  When not busy treating patients or teaching Voila Method in the US and internationally, she is making healing crystal art and jewelry, creating spiritual/healing paintings, or planning underground dining experiences. A contributing author in the best-selling book UNSTOPPABLE: Leverage Life Setbacks To Rebuild Resilience For Success.https://bodyandsoul-pt.com/   http://julietta.love/ https://soulcandycrystals.com/ Facebook: /TheMagicalPT /soulcandybyjulietta/Juliettalove-108449684234840Instagram: /themagicalpt//soul_candy_//juliettadotlove/

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt ... The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which Chapman calls "love languages". ================================================ 00:35 - Introduction 03:12 - Chapter 1 : Love after the Wedding (शादी के बाद प्यार क्यों खत्म होता है) 05:07 - Chapter 2 – Keep Love Tank Full 05:53 - 1 – Words of Affirmation (शब्दों में व्यक्त करना) 08:07 - 2 – Acts of Service (सहायता करना) 09:24 - 3 – Receiving Gifts (उपहारों का आदान -प्रदान) 12:11 - 4 – Quality Time (साथ में अच्छा समय बिताना) 13:18 - 5 – Physical Touch (स्पर्श का महत्व) 14:24 - Conclusion ================================================ Don't forget to LIKE, COMMENT & SUBSCRIBE the Channel ================================================ Buy This Book From Here : https://amzn.to/3B16QLr ================================================ CONTENT CREDIT

Dr. Gary Chapman introduced the 5 Love Languages in 1992 with his book entitled, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. After selling 8,500 copies in the first year, it went on to sit on the New York Times Best Seller list for multiple years. It has been almost 30 years since Chapman introduced the idea of love languages to the world, and millions of people have adopted this more proactive approach to building their relationships. In this episode, Dr. David and Theresa Mabry unpack each of the 5 love languages and make practical suggestions on applying them within your life. As always, they share their weekly update with a new puzzle and offer the verse of the week. Join them as they seek to strengthen marriages for greater fulfillment and impact on the world around them!Check out One Another Marriage at https://www.oneanothermarriage.com/Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/oneanothermarriageYouTube- https://bit.ly/3dc2acyPlease Rate, Review, and Share. Together we can strengthen marriages!

Alrighty, so this is not the hit song by Calvin Harris & Rihanna BUT it is all about the theory of love languages baby!!!! Ahh, love is complex innit. As we try to navigate different romantic and non-romantic relationships, it is important to understand that humans give and receive love in different ways. According to Dr Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, there are 5 different expressions of love: •Acts of Service •Physical Touch •Words of Affirmation •Gifts •Quality Time We both took the quiz to find out how we each give and receive love and divulged all in this episode! Based on our experiences growing up as Asian Australians, we also applied an Asian household lens on the love languages and spoke about how love was present in our homes and why that might be the case. E P I S O D E O U T L I N E ------------------------------------------ •Intro to love languages •Guessing each other's love language •Discussing our results •How love languages have impacted our relationships •Talking about how our results might correlate w/ how we received or saw love as a child •Looking at love languages from a non-romantic perspective •Asian households x love languages T I M E S T A M P S -------------------------------- 02:00 Intro to topic & discussion begins If you'd like to continue the conversation, please message us. We'd love to hear from you, feel free to slide into our dms on instagram: @unapologeticallyazn or send us an email: unapologeticallyasianpodcast@gmail.com We also have a website BABY!!!! Check us out at www.unapologeticallyasian.com.au ✨ Be sure to check out the amazing Asian Australian Mental Health Initiative at https://www.justshapesandsounds.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/justshapesandsounds/. Join the 3 month trial of the Shapes & Sounds Club from the end of April to July and get the first month FREE!!! We'll see you on there! ✨

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!Sooooo, Al's job essentially held him hostage Friday night and we could not record. (WACK) But that doesn't mean we couldn't bring you something special, so we are replaying The Five Love Languages way back from Episode 7! Sit back and enjoy our Valentine's Throwback Special! After taking The Five Love Languages online quiz, hosts Al and Mikayla discuss their love languages. They also talk about how they can use these meanings to navigate through their marriage, as well as their key friends and family relationships. The Five Love Languages was created by Dr. Gary Chapman and released the book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate in 1992. It profiles five ways to convey and experience love between intimate partners that Dr. Chapman calls "love languages'. In his book, Dr. Chapman stated the five ways to express and experience love areWords of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServiceAnd Physical Touch 

Do you know your own love language? Have you ever tried to teach a partner how to love you in a specific way? In this week's episode, we're joined by recording artist A.Z.I to discuss our "love language" based on Gary Chapman's 1992 book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. We all share our thoughts on how love languages have changed our views on relationships and dating. Join the conversation by using #gooduptuesday on social media or tagging @gooduppod.Support the show (http://www.patreon.com/gooduppodcast)

AL + MB discuss The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. AL + MB discuss the 5 love languages, guess one anothers, and how we can leverage these tools in our relationships. Love y'all. @thelooppodcast@allison_loves_you__@marybeth.mcg

After taking The Five Love Languages online quiz, hosts Al and Mikayla discuss their love languages. They also talk about how they can use these meanings to navigate through their marriage, as well as their key friends and family relationships. The Five Love Languages was created by Dr. Gary Chapman and released the book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate in 1992. It profiles five ways to convey and experience love between intimate partners that Dr. Chapman calls "love languages'. In his book, Dr. Chapman stated the five ways to express and experience love areWords of AffirmationQuality TimeReceiving GiftsActs of ServiceAnd Physical Touch 

Today we are Talking Love Languages and we don't mean dirty talk!Based off the best selling book by Garry Chapman the The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, we are unpacking what your love language means and how to navigate your own relationship when your love language may differ from that of your partners.Hint: It all comes down to communication people!If you want to do the Love Languages test for yourself - click hereThrow in some accidentally unfiltered stories and you have yourself one very spice little Life Uncut episode.If you love the episode and love hearing us talk, be a legend and hit 5 stars, leave a review, subscribe and share the love, because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Fresh B.R.E.A.T.H. I will be talking about the book called The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. The book explains five different ways people express and experience love which is called “Love Languages”: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), physical touch, and gift-giving. Do you know your partners Love Languages? Take the quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com.  Follow me on Instragam @patrickrdavis Follow me on Twitter @patrickdavis69 Got Questions? Email me @ freshbreathpodcast@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patdavis/support

HOTTTT TOPIC!!! Can a long distance relationship work? What causes problems in a long distance relationship? I reached out to a former guest on the podcast to get their opinion on the subject and they offered up this advice, “Be prepared for heartbreak”. Is it that simple? “Heartbreak or nothing at all” when it comes to committing to someone long distance? All-in or all out?! Today on the podcast, Dave Glaser dives into the reasons why long distance can work and why it absolutely won't be easy for some! A resource he likes to refer to often is Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. About ten years ago, Dave was in a long distance relationship that was doomed from the start but he wasn't aware of why until recently! Tune in to today's episode on the podcast, subscribe, rate, and review on iTunes or Spotify to be the first to know when a new episode drops! Dave Glaser is the owner of Fit Life Champions and an Enneagram Coach for singles that wish to find lasting love in an authentic relationship. Join our free 3 Day Social Media Detox at www.believeberealbebold.com and receive a complimentary 30 minute consultation now!

Certified Life and Transition Coach, Caroline Large, stops by to chat about relationships (how to find your mate, spice things up, and love yourself). Runner of the Week Christine Schwindt talks about the TMC Sunrise at Old Tucson Trail Run 4M & 1M Walk/Run, and Serena Marie, RD, offers some healthier Valentine's Day recipe options and love-related activities that you and your sweetie can do together. Caroline Large Caroline Large of A La Carte Coaching shares how to find ourselves more and how to build our relationships. Explains what a life coach is and does Helps us learn how to discover our core values and balance our lives Suggests meditation and affirmations for empowerment Recommends acknowledging ourselves more Offers advice on how to rekindle or grow our relationships Discusses the five love languages—gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch (intimacy) based on the book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary D. Chapman Gives guidance for people who are looking to date or find their life partners Can't You Feel the [Jabra] Love Tonight? Jabra, a sponsor of TRLS, is giving away a FREE set of Jabra Pulse earbuds (valued at $199) in February! To win, run over to Jabra.com/TRL and sign up for the TRLS e-mail list at therunninglifestyle.com/join. February's winner will also receive an exclusive thirty-minute call with Kari. Kari loves using her Jabra Pulse earbuds because of their amazing sound and built-in heart rate monitor. Runner of the Week: Christine Schwindt Christine and Kari chat about the TMC Sunrise at Old Tucson Trail Run 4M & 1M Walk/Run together via Periscope audio. Just finished her ninth marathon at Rock ‘n Roll Arizona Previews her upcoming races in Arizona: IMS Arizona Marathon, Desert Classic Marathon, Phoenix Marathon, The Lost Dutchman Marathon, Ragnar Relay Del Sol     Book Club The February Book of the Month is Better Than Before: What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits—to Sleep More, Quit Sugar, Procrastinate Less, and Generally Build a Happier Life by Gretchen Rubin. Make sure to check out gretchenrubin.com for more information and to take the Four Tendencies quiz. Serena Marie, RD Go-to real-food dietitian, Serena Marie, RD, offers some alternate ways to make ourselves feel good (besides diving into that big box of chocolates). She also gives some sweet treat tips if you do want to indulge in a healthier way. Recommends planning a massage, race, or indoor activity (like rock climbing) together Suggests making banana pancakes with frozen berries as a pureed topping or popping popcorn (buy kernels yourself and cook in a paper bag in the microwave and add undutched, unprocessed cocoa powder and a small amount of coconut sugar or Stevia powder) Also recommends 80 percent or greater dark chocolate like the Alter Eco brand that Kari and Serena both love or pitted dates filled with cacao nibs or almond butter Suggests taking organic, grass-fed milk (or almond or hemp milk) and adding some grass-fed heavy cream with some undutched, unprocessed cocoa powder and coconut sugar to make a healthier version of hot cocoa Kari chats about essential oils and her diffuser—using lemon with peppermint (morning) and lavender (night) The most important thing you can do is to love yourself before you can love anyone else! Whitney Houston's “The Greatest Love” epitomizes this, and here are the lyrics: I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows If I fail, if I succeed At least I'll live as I believe No matter what they take from me They can't take away my dignity Because the greatest love of all Is happening to me I found the greatest love of all Inside of me The greatest love of all Is easy to achieve Learning to love yourself It is the greatest love of all Next week, Kari is going to release a special episode with return guest Meb Keflezighi from “Meb Keflezighi—Achieving Your Dreams Through Hard Work (1/2)” (Episode 85) and “Meb Keflezighi—Achieving Your Dreams Through Hard Work (2/2)” (Episode 86). They chat about the U.S. Olympic Team Trials in Los Angeles, CA, and the LA Marathon. Also, please remember to go over to iTunes to review this podcast! Namaste TRLS brothers and sisters! Contact: Caroline Large: Website: ALaCarteCoaching.com Facebook Page Email: mailto:info@alacartecoaching.com   Christine Schwindt: Facebook Page   Serena Marie, RD: Website: www.SerenaMarieRD.com Facebook: /SerenaMarieRD Twitter: @SerenaMarieRD Instagram: SerenaMarieRD   Kari Gormley: Facebook: The Running Lifestyle Show Twitter: @KariGormley Instagram: @KariGormley