Dating Smash

This is why you keep getting worse and worse results on that dating app you love/hate. (Hint: it doesn't have shit to do with your rizz) Been awhile, gang. But we're back. In this episode... The real reason why you're still single (and hating it) The sinister design of dating apps, how that makes it harder to find real connection, and how to beat the system. Five ways to instantly improve your mood (and massively improve your dating results) The biggest mistake people make when they start searching for love (and/or sex) online. How to become the most attractive person in any room. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/greatdate/support

Thought about just leaving the podcast as it was, but that woulda been wierd. Leaving without saying goodbye. As a special thank you for listening, I thought I'd record a podcast where I taught everything I wish I'd learned the moment I hit 18. Inside... The difference between a steamy vs. platonic date How to stop being so outcome dependent The one thing you must avoid if you don't want dating to get harder over time The step by step on how to rewire your brain to become a fearless risk taker Why most recovering "nice guys" will still get horrible results with women, and what they're doing wrong And of course, a whole lot more... --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode: 1. The no. 1 reason you aren't getting better with women. 2. Why most men get stuck settling for less and how to stop the cycle. 3. How to know if you're thinking like a boy vs. thinking like a man. 4. The biggest thing you need to change today if you're still taking rejection personally. 5. Why self compassion is one of the most, if not THE most important skill you can learn on your dating journey. 6. Two little habits that will immediately improve your dating results. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode... She wants sex! We talk about how to create conversations and environments that help her have sex with YOU. What to do when sex starts to feel like WORK and STRESS Why your fear of rejection is running the show in the bedroom (in the worst possible way) and how to erase it How to create the kind of juicy emotional intimacy that women crave The ONLY mindset that will consistently give way to the kind of juicy sweaty ravishing sex that you both want Why you need to slow down during sex (95% of men get this wrong and women hate it) Sexual tension - what it is, and how to create it And obviously more... If you're looking to connect with Scott for coaching, find him at www.scottpagliaccio.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

You want to date out of your league? This is everything I've learned in the past month about attracting and dating gorgeous women. Once you've listened to this podcast you will understand... The optimal way to structure your profile Absolute dos and don'ts when writing your "about me" The types of women to absolutely avoid when you're swiping online How women assess men for dating and relationship worthiness How to cultivate the REQUIRED mindset to date someone very attractive The trick to stopping when you keep obsessing over a girl How to and why you need to build sexual tension Why ONLY using pro photos for your dating shots is a mistake One huge difference between online dating "game" vs. in-person "game" How to stop being your own worst enemy And a sh*tton more. This is a solo episode. Scott will be rejoining us next week. If you want to connect with us, you hit up www.greatdateguy.com If you want to work with Scott, visit www.scottpagliaccio.com Don't forget to subscribe and rate us if you got something out of this ep. This podcast features profanity, strong opinions, and a male narrative. If you don't like it, GTFO. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Welcome to the horror show that is online dating. Today we cover off on why so many women seem to be so damned skittish and unavailable (there's actually a good reason for that. Surprised? I was, too). And maybe more importantly, what we can do about that. If you're tired of feeling rejected, unattractive, or just plain resigned about your online dating experience, dis one for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

By now you've probably had it drilled into your skull that as a man you need to be more dominant in the bedroom, boardroom, and apparently everywhere else you're expected to show up. While dominance is an important thing, most experts never bother explaining that dominance is what naturally happens when someone is an effective leader. People surrender their power to you. Now there are MANY ways to take this on, but fair warning, many of them are about just trying to force your will on other people through fear and trickery. Fuck that noise. Not only is it unattractive, it will get you in some deep sh*t in the long run. In this ep, Scott and I walk you through what attractive leadership looks like, the skills it requires, how to train those specific skills, and how it looks like to apply them to dating life, business, and beyond. This is not a Buzzfeed article. This is about setting you up to win the long game, not give you a small fistful of "life hacks" / band-aid solutions that will fall apart at the first sign of challenge. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

If you've ever wanted to talk to someone absolutely gorgeous only to choke and have the whole thing go down in flames moments later...this is for you. In this episode... Mary walks us through how to stop self sabotaging (and why it happens) when the stakes are high... A quick, 3 minute exercise to stop approach anxiety and other strong, unpleasant emotions... Why you should be paying more attention to your own body, especially when with someone you're interested in... Why women don't like being around men who feel "misaligned" (and what that means) And a whole lot more Who is Mary-Lucinda Palmieri? I am a licensed clinical social worker that works in private practice in Buffalo, NY. I am formally trained in evidence based practices: trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy, aka TF-CBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, also known as DBT, and currently in the process of being trained in Eye movement desensitization reprocessing trauma model, also known as EMDR. You can reach her at... https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/mary-lucinda-palmieri-buffalo-ny/878987 Instagram.com/marylupalmieri Instagram.com/free2be_dancecommunity --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Today we talk about breaking up with honor. In a world of ghosting and silent resentment, this is how you show up as a goddamn warrior. This is how you break up without living to regret it - AND we'll show you how to do it with the utmost compassion and love for yourself, the other person, and the relationship you shared. Inside... What to do when things get too spicy and you're ready to snap? How to become emotionally bulletproof and non-reactive. The 5 minute practice anyone can learn to immediately begin quenching reactivity. How to fully close the door when you keep coming back and getting hurt again and again. The blueprint to breaking up with honor and examples of how it's done. For those of you who want a refresher on the VEVOOM method... VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10? EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling? VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion? OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully? METHOD - what can I use to recover? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode, we share the exact step by step method to become a conflict breaker. Someone who can halt big ugly fights and confrontation in their tracks - before they cross the point of no return. This is among one of the most attractive skills you can ever learn as a romantic partner. Today we share… 3 skills that will immediately de-escalate conflict The one thing you absolutely need to avoid during conflict if you want to keep your romantic partner Two practices you can start TODAY to become bulletproof when she starts to bring the heat. Scott's VEVOOM system: VOLUME - how loud are my emotions. 1-10? EMOTION - what emotion am I feeling? VIBRATION - where do I feel this emotion? OKAY TO OBSERVE - can I give myself permission to experience this fully? METHOD - what can I use to recover? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

I think by now, most men have learned that being told they're *nice* is the kiss of death. It's almost worse than being told you aren't tall enough... But what does it actually mean to be a "nice guy" and is being a bad boy actually any better? As ye olde adage goes, "women love a**holes"...but is that actually even true? In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of each approach, how to recover from being a nice guy without turning into an insufferable douche, and how to walk the secret third path of the Laughing Warrior to become instinctively and effortlessly attractive to women. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

This episode is for you if… Life feels like Groundhog Day. The problems and challenges won't stop coming, and worst of all, it feels like they're on repeat. You keep dating the same horrible people. You keep getting steamrolled or taken advantage of at work. You keep trying to start a business and they just keep on failing. By the time you finish, you'll get… Two foolproof approaches to breaking the cycle of pain The fastest way to go from thinking like a boy to thinking like a man (and why it matters more than you think) The one and only true key to success (80% of people have got it completely wrong...) Why most people fail when they try to change their life circumstances And how to make yourself insanely attractive with the Warrior Mindset If you're interested in connecting more with Scott, you can find him at... https://www.scottpagliaccio.com/ https://www.instagram.com/scottpags/?hl=en --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

What's up baddies. Got a sizzling hot take from our guest today Ashley Cox. In this episode: What keeps nice guys trapped in a cycle of endless painful relationships? How this relationship dynamic forces women to occupy a masculine role (that they hate!) How to stop your partner from unconsciously manipulating you and ignoring your boundaries The easiest way to shed your nice guy tendencies and start showing up powerfully and attractively masculine in relationships... And more... Ashley Cox helps "nice guys" from the bedroom to the boardroom. She uses neurolinguistic programming and her 10+ year background in trauma and teaching to help ‘nice guys' find and have healthier love and more wealth. In addition to blowing womens' minds, her clients have gone from $40,000 - 100,000 and 3,000,000 - 10,000,0000 in a few months after tackling subconscious blocks of fear, doubt, shame, guilt, anger, self-love deficit disorder and pain with her. Instagram: www.instagram.com/niceguyreformschool Facebook: www.facebook.com/theniceguyreformschool TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@niceguyreformschool Youtube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/AshleyCoxCoaching Private Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/1521917324634479 Schedule a Consultation: https://go.oncehub.com/privateassessmentforme --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Welcome to the sh*tty part of dating. Where we've built up this story in our head of how things are ending happily ever after, only to be greeted by silence, loss of communication, and pain. One moment they're in love with us. The next, they won't call us back. In this episode we discuss exactly what to do.. How to stop the pain.. What causes this behavior.. And what to expect if you continue. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode, Scott gets interviewed on exactly how he gets so many dates just by talking with strangers. This is a skill that mystifies me, too - so we've got almost an hour of content here for you today on the step by step, how to cultivate the proper mindset, and a few examples of how a good approach would look. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

This is a big one for me. Any time I suspect someone might be upset at me it fucks me up in a big way. I'm talking about staying up late, not getting enough sleep, being distracted all day. So in this ep, I'll be talking about how I got through caring too much what other people think – and by that, I mean everything I learned from having my TEDx talk launch and suddenly start getting hundreds of comments from the internet. Scott & I will be breaking down what's going on, and the best ways to approach and nullify this pattern in your mind. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

And this podcast we run through one very simple exercise that will help you stop reacting with anger, hurt, or feelings of rejection when things go wrong. If you've noticed that you've been getting into arguments or very weird head spaces more often than you like, this is the one for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Clean your space. Look at the areas in your home and in your life you have been consciously or unconsciously avoiding. And start feeling everything that comes up. An important distinction here. What do we mean by feel your feelings? Emotions always come with a sensation in the body. That's why we call em feelings. If you want to have emotional mastery, the first place to look is... Can I just observe the physical sensations of this emotion? Can I feel them fully without rejecting them? Once you get good at this skill (doesn't take very long - a few days max), you can begin to deal with some of the reactiveness you experience in life. Theory: The more bottled up emotions we have, the more triggered we get. Most people tend to be defined by 2-3 unpleasant emotions - for me it's guilt or anger. We keep storing up these emotions and putting them under more and more pressure and control, in order to keep them at bay... Until eventually they start to leak out - that is where the self sabotage happens. (Think of anytime you got into a fight with your significant other over something idiotic. Odds are, the process above is exactly what happened) In order to escape this endless cycle of pain... It's important to identify which emotions are showing up on repeat, and begin to empty your cup by feeling them without engaging in the thought patterns around them. Stick with how it feels in your body. Mastering this skill means you get to reach a level bulletproof that most people don't get access to. And when you have this resilience, it means you stop being afraid of rejection. It means you stop worrying about whether or not you made the right choice. It means you stop *needing* that next success, because you're capable of feeling good no matter what happens. Other important notes: Most businesses without huge overhead costs fail because the founders simply gave up. About 50% of businesses fail in 2 years. About 70-80% fail in 5. This is largely the reason why - hustle culture tells us to toughen up and just soldier on. This is a surefire recipe for burnout - it is not sustainable. High level success requires your ability to effectively manage your emotions - OR they will manage you. That goes for business, dating, and any other high stakes venture you can think of. It's also really important to find a way to make each step of whatever you're up to, enjoyable. If you cannot find the joy in what you're doing, if you do not know how to source your own happiness, you will quit and fail because the task in front of you is too punishing. Whether you succeed or fail, your emotions are one of the biggest deciding factors. So clean your f***ing room. Start sorting through all the muck and sludge that you've been trying to avoid. You can thank us in 2022. If you're interested in connecting with Scott, you can find him at: www.scottpagliaccio.com For general inquiries, find us at: www.greatdateguy.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode... How to rapidly advance your social skills with attractive women What pitfalls to avoid if you want to learn to be good as quickly as possible The secret to minimizing your discomfort while maximizing your growth What I do with my eye contact to completely avoid coming across creepy And of course, there's more...   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

How come it's so hard to talk to women I'm really attracted to? How do I stop coming across weird and nervous? How can I get her to chase me, instead of spending all my time trying to convince her that I'm the right choice? How do I stop needing so much social validation from women? In this bonus episode, I answer all these questions and more. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode… What mindsets increase your worth? What mindsets are secretly setting you back? Increasing your earning potential through non-neediness and a step by step on how that's done How to self diagnose (and fix) your money wounds. How much happier does money make us anyway? The real reason why you aren't making more… --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Sup brotherhood, Welcome back to the fold. Today we shed some light on the following: 1. Why our brains get stuck repeating harmful behaviors, even when we know they're bad for us. 2. 3 simple ways to break free the next time you're in a self destructive loop. 3. One thing you absolutely should not avoid when you catch yourself self sabotaging Here are some resources to help you get re-regulated if you're feeling like everything is going wrong. Breathwork https://youtu.be/I578H4VoZiY?t=527 Stress Relief Breathing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJJazKtH_9I Loving-Kindness Meditation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1eLKEuJkggw Intro to Mirror-Work https://youtu.be/VZFcN5qB8yM?t=58 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

What is flirting? When is it okay to simply tell a woman you're attracted to her? What does good flirting look like? How can you tell a woman isn't interested in your advances? When does flirting become creepy? Today, Scott & I answer all these questions (and more) and Joanne keeps us honest. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

The Questions: What's the most embarrassing thing you've ever believed about dating? What lesson are you currently learning about love? What's your greatest dating tip? The Coaches: Liv Pavlov: Liv is a sex and intimacy coach who supports men women and couples to have relationships and love that work for them. She's a tantric healer and is nomadic, so check her Instagram to see her next stop! https://www.instagram.com/theoliviarules/ Ana Ruiz: As a Relationship Coach, Ana helps couples and individuals turn relationship pain and frustration into love and connection. www.anaruiz.life Macy Matarazzo Helping smart, single, creative successful women find “unicorn” love. Featured on the New York Times, NBC, and MeetMindful.Com www.GetSuperLOVED.com Scott Pagliaccio Men's Mentor, transformational coach, and cohost to the greatest podcast on earth. https://www.instagram.com/scottpags https://www.scottpagliaccio.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

For most of my life I was terrible at conversation with women. This is how I fixed that. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this unironically longest episode we've ever done, Scott & Rob talk about what it actually takes to become absolutely masterful in bed and how to become to best she's ever had, without having any technique or being hung like a damn horse. We talk about why porn can actually make you worse in bed, giving and receiving the best orgasms either of you has ever had, and how to start building her desire for you until she can't control herself. You're welcome. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Masculinity lately is almost a 4 letter word. Triggering to many and with every passing day, the rules feel harder and more complicated to navigate. Who are we as men? How do we reclaim our masculinity powerfully? What does it take to respect women, without losing ourselves in the process. We answer all that and more in this episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Back from the dead. I needed to take some time off from this podcast to deal with the other things happening in my life. Among many other things, I was given a chance to deliver a TEDx talk and I took it. That led to some MASSIVE stress and anxiety. With that complete, I've invited my good friend and Men's Coach, Scott Pagliaccio to co-host this podcast with me. Today we talk about sitting in the fire, and being with what comes up when we're stressed...and how that process hacks the nervous system, and has us show up in a more masculine, confident, and attractive way - no matter what. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

I'll be moving my attention to other projects. Thank you so much for being with me for the last 3 odd years. It's been my honor. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

This one's for you if... You find yourself instinctively, or reflexively avoiding women who are "too attractive" You find yourself getting shy, robotic, shut down, or trying too hard when you run into someone you're actually interested in dating You have ever struggled with your worth as a man and have doubts about whether or not an attractive woman would have you --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this podcast... Hacking the rule of 5 to effortlessly become funnier How to stop coming across like you're trying too hard When you should NEVER text her And a secret bonus tip that I typically only give to my private coaching clients --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this final episode of Season 6, we dive into why ghosting can be the greatest boon you get to experience in your dating life - AND how you can get this mindset for yourself without needing to fake it. What does it take to not only shrug off ghosting like it doesn't matter, but actually feel like it's legitimately a good thing? How do we begin showing up in the dating space, bulletproof, beautiful and sexy AF? Joining me this session is Macy Matarazoo, Love Coach on how she would approach taking someone who is having an awful time dating, to having the time of their lives. ---- Macy has been featured on NBC, FOX, Meetmindful, and CBS as an expert. To get in touch, visit her website www.getsuperloved.com To take the Love Quiz and get the definitive guide on your strengths and weaknesses when it comes to dating and relationships, jump to https://www.lovevibequiz.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode I break down what psychedelics and other substances I've tried, how the process looks, what to expect on your first experience, and what each substance can/should be used for. Inside, we cover... Cannabis DMT/Ayahuasca Mushrooms & Acid Kambo And how to use these ingredients to hack and reprogram the way your brain works. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

We've gone ahead and made the least appropriate episode of the podcast, yet. If you want to learn how to have energy orgasms that last for wayyy too long, if you want to learn how to have a happier, more pleasurable experience of life overall, if you just want to have really really great sex, then we gotchu fam. In this episode, I interview veteran coach, and mentor KC Taylor on how he teaches his clients to completely transform the way they see sex, pleasure, and reality. KC Taylor is a personal development coach & mentor based in Austin, TX. Specializing in helping people to move into their greatness and overcome self-limiting beliefs, he utilizes wisdom & insights from his practices on his own path, including Kundalini yoga, insight mediation, energetic & sexual polarity work, quantum physics, and embodiment practices.   Instagram: @kctaylor_coach Website: kctaylor.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Neediness is based off a lack of fulfillment of needs (physical / emotional) In order to effectively combat neediness we need to notice the signs - nervousness, urgency, treating each interaction like it's going to be our last, etc. Understand too that neediness can show up in other areas of life, even if we lack neediness in another area For instance, you can be great with client acquisition, but horribly needy when it comes to dating In general, the solution is look and see - what emotional payoff do I think I'm going to get, if I'm successful? Will I get to feel sexy? Wanted? Attractive? Manly? Etc. From there, look to find ways to create that emotional state for yourself.... WITHOUT needing other people to do it. (exercise in podcast) Once you can successfully do that, you don't NEED anything - and at that point, the process of dating, growing your business, etc. will become VERY easy and straightforward. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

The truth here is that being attractive isn't terribly difficult. But in order to get there you have to understand a few things first. And, if you're an outsider, these are the kinds of things that no one teaches you. In this episode, we talked about what attraction actually is, why anyone can learn to be attractive, and what you can do today to get there. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

A lot of the marketing information out there isn't terrible, but it is only applies to a very specific part of Business Development. If you're at the wrong stage of business, if you're listening to the wrong Guru talk about the wrong type of marketing for your business, then nothing that you do will work or make sense. In this episode I break down exactly what style of marketing works for me, and the psychology behind why it works. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

So, first things first, flirting isn't nearly as complicated as some of these experts would have you believe. Today I'm going to break down a very simple system that explains everything about how flirting works and how you can become excellent at it without being that creepy guy. This Theory will explain to you why some people fall out of attraction, how you can keep the spark alive in any long-term relationship, and one inner work exercise you can take on that will dramatically improve your ability to flirt and your overall satisfaction with dating. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

If you're not getting the results that you want with online dating, first of all that's completely normal. About 80% of men don't get the experience they wanted out of online dating. In general problems can be broken down into three categories. Problem 1: no matches. Problem 2: ghosting / convo breakdowns. Problem 3: platonic face-to-face interactions. And this episode, I'll teach you everything that I've been learning in my online dating journey to disarm each and every step so that you can get a much better, more desirable experience. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Starting up a new business and making it work is often messy at best So today we're going to be talking about the one skill you need in order to make your business work in 2021. Now this goes double if you're starting from scratch and the product or service that you're offering is essentially just you. The biggest factor in whether you succeed or fail is the emotional state that you carry into your business. That is irrespective of whether you're creating content, trying to land a new client, or negotiating for Angel investment. You'll also find that these same rules apply to dating. Basically any time that someone is saying yes or no to an idea that you propose, your emotions play a critical role in their decision. But I think the bigger question here is, how then do I manage my emotions? There are a few different ways to approach this and inside this episode, will explore my favorites. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

What if the secret to having an epic dating life...and all the success that you can manage... all comes down to just one thing. And what if that one thing, didn't involve pushing yourself to talk to people who scare the sh*t out of you, because they're 'out of your league'. What if the secret this entire time...was just a different approach to spending time alone. In this episode, I put forth a new theory that I'm *convinced* is going to change the way you look at dating and success, forever. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Loss is hard under any condition and the last year and a half have been filled with, and utterly defined by what was lost. Friends, family, relationships, jobs, homes... When loss comes, it takes away our sense of the world being a hospitable and welcoming place. And in my experience, simply leaves behind one unanswerable question in the smoldering ruins. Why. In this episode we interview Katie Strand on how to move forward from this devastation, without falling into an inescapable pit of despair. For those of you interested in hearing more from her, and/or connecting, you can find her at: https://katiestrand.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

A few years back scientist at MIT ran a study that allowed them to predict how much someone would be offered at an interview to within $1,000 of their actual offer. The same predictor was used to accurately assess which c-suite executive would win a business plan pitch contest in front of a panel of judges. The crazy part? They didn't even need to know what the executives were saying or hear their presentations. If you want to find out what that predictor is, and how you can put that into play in your own life, this is the podcast for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

There are a few things you need to understand about success, especially when it comes to business. The first piece is understanding that what your brain believes will become the solution to all your problems, is actually just a gateway to new problems. Retiring early won't make you more confident, happier, or make it easier for you to date. Mastering dating, won't fix the patterns that you ran into in every previous relationship that had that relationship stop working. That doesn't make your goal any less important, but I think it's something important to remember. The next pieces to understand that wealth and success are not a function of technique or hard work, or at least they don't have to be. If you want to do things the easy way, letter first you must understand that wealth is all about people. And I don't mean that in the campy Kumbaya kind of way, I mean that in a very literal sense, other people are The Gatekeepers to your success. In this podcast we talk about how to turn that to your advantage. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

The truth is when things are dark it's hard to even get by, much less stay motivated. However what most people don't understand, is that when things get difficult, a hidden function of our brain gets unlocked. In this episode we talked about how to take advantage of it and what conditions are necessary to make your darkest hour into your unfair advantage. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

I think it's one of the more annoying things about modern society that being single is also extremely frowned upon. Because being single for longer than a month has effectively given me dating superpowers. In this episode we talked about how you can transform spending time alone, into the thing that makes you more irresistible than ever. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Howdy y'all. So we typically focus on inner work in this podcast eyes I believe that this is the most straightforward access to becoming naturally and effortlessly attractive. So this episode I want to create some very straightforward and actionable steps for you to immediately level up how attractive you are to women. In the long run, this is a game of making small incremental improvements that gradually add up over time. The first thing you can try, it is literally rolling up your sleeves. I was confused and surprised to find out that women are attracted to men with toned forearms, so by wearing a nice button up and rolling up your sleeves you're emphasizing that particular body part. The next thing that you might consider taking on is wearing grey sweatpants, which again, I was surprised to discover has appeal to women. As it was described, there's a level of mystery and being able to see a hint of your package is something that works for many women. I think maybe the big thing to notice here is that, contrary to popular belief, women do objectify men and there are things that you can do about your appearance or the way that you present yourself that will make you more attractive attention-grabbing to women. Another piece at play here, is recognizing that this information came from women. Often times it doesn't do any good to ask leading male experts about what women want because, simply put this is the kind of thing that only women would know. When in doubt, poll a female friend. Now there are two other tips that you can only get from listening to the podcast, so happy exploring, catch you inside. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

General disclaimer. This podcast (and episodes moving forward are hetero normative and from the perspective of a male. This is not done to exclude but simply because it is the only frame I'm remotely qualified to speak from.) In this episode we're going to walk a the fine line between attractive and the toxic masculine. (If the term toxic masculine offends you, get the fuck out - this isn't the episode or podcast for you.) In general the difference between the two, comes down to selfishness. Am I thinking exclusively of myself without regard for others? Or can I take on dominance, power, authority and leadership in a different way. That different way is where this convo is going. Among the women that I've dated and female clients (especially powerful women) there's a growing demand for the dominant masculine. This is showing up everywhere and a good example of that is the rapid rise in interest in BDSM among women. The tricky part here is that this dominant masculine shouldn't be taken on because it will make us more attractive partners as men. That's people pleasing by a different name and invariably leads to pain and resentment. At the extreme, it's your agency and fulfillment traded entirely for another's. So what's left to do here is explore how to take on this kind of behavior for yourself. For that matter, how do I take on finding fulfillment, joy, and direction in my life from within? We'll call that assertiveness. I believe that assertiveness is best cultivated by beginning to hone intuition. That is, the little voice in the back of your mind that tells you to turn off onto that side road. The little ping that draws you closer to a specific stranger for reasons unknown. The more we begin to roll the dice with that gut feeling, the more we unlock what makes us feel truly alive. Assertiveness is also the willingness to pursue those things at the risk of looking weird, or being judged. Setting aside any recriminations, imagined or otherwise, in favor of honoring your deepest desired and truths. Provided those drives aren't pushing you to hurt others, you're generally never going to go wrong by pursuing what feels alive to you. The pleasant side bonus of all this, is something scientists call positive affective field. That is, people who are normally unhappy, sad, anxious, or depressed begin to inexplicably feel good in your space. That is the essence of Charisma. The ability to meaningfully impact the emotional experience of another human being - and it is single handedly the most attractive trait you can possess. So take a gamble. Set aside the voice that tells you that you can wait til tomorrow, or now isn't a good time, and adventure where your heart tells you. That is how you embody the attractive masculine. And don't let any of those idiots at redpill tell you otherwise. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

Every law has its dark side and the law of attraction is no exception. If you're attracting more unwanted experiences than usual and want to stop, this is the episode for you. Inside we talk about how it works, how to avoid falling victim, and the insider's mindset for attracting more of what you really want into your life - whether it's love, sex, money, health or another type of success. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

In this episode we discuss how it's possible to have a relationship grounded in love that still fails. When is love not enough and why does it happen? The idea itself is simple, relationships break apart when conflict can't be resolved. But is it possible to have a conflict free relationship? Or does something about who we are make it inevitable... And if so, how do we deal with that? We answer all those questions and more in the next 17 min. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support

What are the dangers of fully embracing self help and Hustle culture? How do we avoid sacrificing the very things that bring joy and meaning into our lives in pursuit of the next milestone? In this episode, I talk about overtraining, the significant cost of blind solo focus, and how to avoid falling into the costly pitfall of "just doing it until it works". Photo by Isabella Mendes from Pexels --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/greatdate/support