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This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit learnwithdremily.substack.comIf you're parenting an autistic child or teaching an autistic student, you have likely felt unsure about what motivates them to learn. Autistic individuals tend to be more motivated by their interests than by pleasing those around them. Understanding this changes everything!Join me this Friday to learn how autism impacts learning and how to effectively motivate autistic learners both inside the classroom and at home.In this workshop you will learn:* What developmental milestones for autistic children look like compared to non-autistic children* Why autistic kids and teens struggle with extrinsic motivation* How to use extrinsic motivation briefly to jump-start intrinsic motivation for an autistic child* How to help autistic children engage with learning through incorporating interests and supporting executive functioning weaknesses* Questions parents and teachers can ask to best collaborate when autistic children struggle to learnHow to watch:Workshops are available for paid subscribers. Just click play in the video above to access the workshop replay. Become a paid subscriber at the link below. ($18/mo)Want to watch just this workshop without becoming a paid subscriber? Click the link below. ($37/workshop replay)Why I host workshops:As a child psychologist, former school psychologist, and parent, I've spent the last two decades working with neurodivergent children and teens alongside their families and teachers.There is so much information out there, but you are ultimately the decision-makers of the next best step in your child's journey. I want to help you to feel more capable and experience more joy on this parenting journey.If you're ready to learn how to reduce the stress in your home, help others understand your kid, and find more joy, you are in the right place.Let's do this together,~Dr. Emily**All content provided is protected under applicable copyright, patent, trademark, and other proprietary rights. All content is provided for informational and education purposes only. No content is intended to be a substitute for professional medical or psychological diagnosis, advice or treatment. Information provided does not create an agreement for service between Dr. Emily W. King and the recipient. Consult your physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to you or your child's symptoms or medical condition. Children or adults who show signs of dangerous behavior toward themselves and/or others, should be placed immediately under the care of a qualified professional.**

Welcome to video Q&A! A few times a month I'm going to answer the questions you send me on video for all to hear. I know that many of you have similar questions so why not share the love!Today's question: We are getting ready to start the school year, and we really struggle with getting out the door in the morning. The only time my son has been ready is when he is really excited about traveling or Disneyland. Never for school or even camp. His twin sister is type A and gets really upset with him in the morning when he is behind and makes her late. I have tried several timers, lists, schedules, and nothing seems to stick. I was researching reminder watches to see if that would help, and they did not have great reviews. He is 10 years old and doesn't currently wear a watch. We have tried a few different ones, and he isn't a big fan.Listen in for my response and drop your questions in the comments!Let's stay connected,Dr. EmilyI'm Dr. Emily, child psychologist and former school psychologist, and I'm on a mission to help parents and teachers be the best adults we can be for the neurodivergent kids and teens in our lives. This isn't about changing the kids, it's about changing us. Learn more with my resources for parents, teachers, and schools at www.learnwithdremily.com.**All content provided is protected under applicable copyright, patent, trademark, and other proprietary rights. All content is provided for informational and education purposes only. No content is intended to be a substitute for professional medical or psychological diagnosis, advice or treatment. Information provided does not create an agreement for service between Dr. Emily W. King and the recipient. Consult your physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to you or your child's symptoms or medical condition. Children or adults who show signs of dangerous behavior toward themselves and/or others, should be placed immediately under the care of a qualified professional.** Get full access to Learn with Dr. Emily at learnwithdremily.substack.com/subscribe

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Hey, y'all!The hilarious and uber-talented Kim and Penn Holderness (YouTube) just released a new book, ADHD is Awesome, and they're on the show to tell us all about it!In this episode, we explore, • Reframing ADHD as a superpower • Uncovering strategies like visual cues • Using timers • Setting boundaries  • Emotional aspects of ADHD • Gender differences in expressing emotions • Personalized teaching methods for neurodivergent students Learn with Dr. Emily is edited and produced by Earfluence.Helpful Resources or teachers:Dr. Emily created these two resources so teachers can get to know how their students emotionally regulate themselves and how to support them when emotional dysregulation happens.Learn on-demand of bring Dr. Emily to your school for professional development with your staff!Helpful Resources or parents:One Friday a month join Dr. Emily and fellow parents on this journey of raising neurodivergent kids and teens for live virtual workshops! The next parent workshop is April 5th and we'll talk all about anxiety.New to this journey? Organize your referrals as you build your child's team with this resource! Get full access to Learn with Dr. Emily at learnwithdremily.substack.com/subscribe

Hey, y'all!I've received a lot of feedback from parents in my monthly workshops to talk more about supporting a child with a PDA profile. To all of those parents: TODAY is your DAY. Today, Dr. Casey Ehrlich joins me on the podcast to unpack why understanding PDA and nervous system responses starts with supporting children's drive for autonomy and equality.PDA most commonly stands for Pathological Demand Avoidance.  But Dr. Casey Ehrlich prefers to call it Pervasive Drive for Autonomy or Protective Demand Avoidance.  Today, Dr. Ehrlich unpacks why understanding PDA and nervous system responses starts with supporting children's drive for autonomy and equality.She and Dr. Emily also discuss the alarming issue of burnout in children, and the transformative power of play therapy in regulating emotions.If you're looking to create a safe, inclusive, and supportive environment for neurodivergent children, this episode is a must listen.Welcome,~Dr. EmilyCasey Ehrlich, Ph. D. (she/her) is a social scientist, parent coach and educator, and the CEO and founder of At Peace Parents, LLC.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.Helpful Resources or teachers:Dr. Emily created these two resources so teachers can get to know how their students emotionally regulate themselves and how to support them when emotional dysregulation happens.Learn on-demand of bring Dr. Emily to your school for professional development with your staff!Helpful Resources or parents:One Friday a month join Dr. Emily and fellow parents on this journey of raising neurodivergent kids and teens for live virtual workshops! The next parent workshop is April 5th and we'll talk all about anxiety.New to this journey? Organize your referrals as you build your child's team with this resource! Get full access to Learn with Dr. Emily at learnwithdremily.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to another Q&A podcast! Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.Today we have two questions I get all the time: When should you pursue a diagnosis for your child, even if they're not having trouble at school? I'm concerned that my ADHD child doesn't show empathy. What can I do? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Today I have a special treat for the educators who follow me. A few weeks ago I offered a free webinar for teachers in Pre-K through 8th grade where I talked about what's going on behind the behavior, and how to stay curious and figure out what students are struggling with so we can shift our mindset from thinking these students are giving me a hard time to these students are having a hard time.So on today's episode, I'm releasing the full recording from that webinar. At the end of the webinar, I talk a little more in depth about some of the teacher training that I offer. Today this is just a snippet of that information.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

As parents, we are all are working toward the same goals: Raise a human that is independent and kind. Many of us start with goals like “successful” and ”happy,” but because these are such relative terms, I find it more helpful to define goals within the framework of independence, which is my definition of success anyway. I also don't think I know any kind people who aren't also generally happy people so that brings us back to the goals of raising independent and kind humans.But what happens when your child is growing up with skill weaknesses and mood dysregulation that make them struggle with independence and present at times with some very unkind behaviors? I have lived this parenting experience and counseled many families along this anxiety-provoking path.Parents raising neurodivergent teens ask themselves: Is my child ever going to drive? Will they be able to go to college? Will they be able to have a job? Will they be able to keep a job? Will my child be able to live on their own? Will they have friends?Let's see if we can answer these questions.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Welcome to another Q&A podcast! Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.Today we have three questions: How would I advise middle school parents who are having a hard time getting their child started with homework? How can I tell if my child is actually not able to sit at the dinner table or if they're able to control it? How can I get my neurodivergent child to do chores? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

As a parent or teacher, what should we do when our child is in the middle of a meltdown? Today we welcome Dayna Abraham, a National Board Certified educator, parent of three neurodivergent children, and an ADHD adult herself. Dayna introduces her Calm the Chaos framework, which consists of four key principles: Connection, Understanding, Empowerment, and You (the parent as a calm presence). These principles form the foundation for effective parenting and helping children thrive, especially during difficult moments.Dayna Abraham is the bestselling author of The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day, and her new book Calm the Chaos: A Fail-Proof Road Map for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids is available now!---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

I'm just going to say it: Homework is a thorn in the side for most parents raising neurodivergent kids. In case you haven't experience it, let me explain:You wake up in the morning ready to implement your well-crafted morning routine that includes the most efficient way to get your child clothed, fed, packed up, and in the car with the fewest moments of frustration, tears, and conflict with siblings. Because school is hard for your child, making it through the morning routine and into the school building is your child's first triumph of the day.During that school day, your child is faced with challenging tasks. There will be spoken language to process, pencils to grip, bodies to keep still, transitions to initiate, social interactions to understand, and non-preferred academic work to complete. Your child will be exhausted when they get to you at pick-up. This is understandable. They have just “left it all on the field” of the classroom. They need time to recover, to engage in preferred play, and to rest and reconnect with you. But before they can rest, some days your child will have a therapy appointment to work on emotional regulation, language skills, motor skills, or sensory needs.But, what happens when they get home? There is homework. Your child does not yet work independently so you are now their teacher, except you don't have a degree in special education. Not only do you not know how to teach your exhausted child, you are also trying to cook dinner, pick up a sibling from dance, and return a work call because you left work early to be home with your child after school. You are exhausted, too.So, why are we giving homework to our most worn-out students? There are many costs, but are there any benefits?---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Are you facing the dilemma of whether homeschooling is the right choice for your neurodivergent child? Are you concerned about the challenges it might bring, such as college admissions or socialization? Today, we sit down with Amy Langston, an autistic self-advocate, to explore her remarkable homeschooling journey. Discover how she and her family tackled the decision to homeschool, overcame obstacles, and reaped the benefits of this unconventional approach to education.Amy shares insights into the world of homeschooling, addressing the very concerns you might have. From tailoring the curriculum to your child's interests to ensuring a smooth transition to college, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how homeschooling can be a viable (and likely rewarding) option. Amy Langston is an autistic self advocate, diagnosed at the age of 10. Her special interest is in world religions and she holds a bachelor's and a master's degree in religious studies. She delivers training sessions to religious organizations and others on autism inclusion. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.This episode of Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence, and recorded in the Earfluence Podcast Studio in Downtown Raleigh.

As parents and educators, we know that children often experience a “honeymoon” the first day (or week) of the new school year. It's a time when many children are blissfully distracted by their new outfit, their new backpack, their new teacher, their new pencil, or their new classmates so they often make it through the first few days or weeks just fine.But at some point, many children begin to settle in, look around and think: “What exactly is going on here? You mean, I come here every day, away from my parents, and learn new, hard things?” It's at this point that many children begin showing their anxiety because they have just starting feeling their anxiety. It's also at these moments when parents and teachers begin seeing some resistance to getting out of the car at drop-off, getting into the car to go, getting dressed in the morning, or even getting into bed the night before.So what can we do about it?---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Today we unpack the sense of interoception, responsible for conveying vital information about our body's internal condition. What is its role in recognizing hunger, emotions, discomfort, and more? And, how can interoceptive awareness be derailed or heightened in neurodivergent kids and teens? Teachers, parents, and caregivers - tune in for a better understanding of how neurodivergent children navigate their internal sensations and how to create a nurturing environment where every child's unique experience is celebrated and supported. Kelly Mahler is an Interoception Groupie and Occupational Therapist, and creator of The Interoception Curriculum.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Welcome to my very first Q&A podcast! Full disclosure, I can't answer complex or detailed questions about dynamics between kids, or teachers and kids, or parents and kids, when I don't know the full story. But what I can answer is general topics that keep coming up with parents, teachers, and kids, whether it's a clinical topic, an educational topic, a child psychology question, or just a general parenting question.Today we have three questions: How do I choose a provider to test my child? How can elementary administrators work best with anxious parents whose children seem to be pretty well adjusted at school, but the parents' anxiety and angst are affecting the children? How do we support a teen that doesn't want our help? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

It's back to school time, which means one of the most important topics I love talking about is so relevant right now - the parent teacher partnership. As you might know, I can get on my soapbox about all of us trying to come together to help all of our kids, but especially our neurodivergent kids who have more conflict, more ideas, and more brainstorming that needs to happen when we are trying to teach and parent a child who is not always aligning with the expectations that are right in front of us. They are on their own path. They're on their own timeframe, and we have to be the ones that adapt to that.So today I'm walking you through how a trusting parent-teacher partnership helps your child. Let's find out what to do to build that relationship. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

As someone who was in school from age 4 through 26, August is my New Year. But August can be a mix of emotions for many. Some want to squeeze out the last drops of summer and some (often many) are out of money and out of ideas, so we all start yearning for that school-week routine. Does your family's school routine need an upgrade?---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Today, Penny Williams shares her personal journey as a parent of a neurodivergent child, starting with her son's ADHD diagnosis at age six and his subsequent diagnosis of autism spectrum and learning disabilities. The challenges she faced led her to become a passionate advocate for neurodivergent families. Dr. Emily and Penny discuss the importance of understanding the biology-behavior connection when parenting neurodivergent teens, emphasizing the need to prioritize mental and emotional health over academic achievements, providing support and flexibility in a way that best suits each individual's needs. They challenge traditional expectations surrounding high school, college, and social interactions for teens, encouraging parents to embrace the uniqueness of their neurodivergent children and focus on building strong, supportive relationships. In the ever-changing world of parenting your neurodiverse child, this episode offers very real, practical advice from two people who are living that world on a daily basis.About Our GuestA parenting coach for neurodiverse families, Penny Williams is the award-winning author of four books on ADHD, including Boy Without Instructions, host of the Beautifully Complex Podcast, host of the annual Neurodiversity Summits, and co-creator of The Behavior Revolution Program, a parent training program designed to change the narrative on behavior and help parents celebrate and support their kids with ADHD or autism through neuroscience-backed insights, hard-won strategies, compassion, and guidance.  Penny empowers parents to help their neurodivergent kids — and families — thrive.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

When a child is first identified as autistic or receives a diagnosis of ADHD, a learning disability, or sensory processing differences, parents can feel both overwhelmed by the information and relieved to have a plan. Yet, sometimes the plan is even overwhelming. As a former school psychologist, I was trained to identify concerns and recommend solutions. The more solutions the better, right? Not always.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

Our children are growing up in schools filled with neurodiverse learners. While this gives me hope for normalizing the presence of neurodiversity, inclusive mindsets don't just appear out of thin air; they evolve when we stay open to learn about our differences. We make this evolution of inclusivity possible when we teach ALL children how they learn best, not just those who need something extra.For some children, they already know they are a visual learner or that they are great at reading. For others, we have to rely on educators and psychologists to help us figure out how our kids learn best. Either way, we need to teach all kids about their brain so they can understand that there is no one best way for everyone to learn. The best way to learn is the way that works best for YOU. Once children understand themselves, they begin to realize that everyone has their own constellation of abilities, and when we work together as a group, classroom, or community, we can accomplish things we cannot do alone. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence.

In my work with parents of young children, many come to me after noticing some concerns with their child's developmental milestones. While all children develop at their own pace, some young children experience challenges with emotional regulation, language and motor milestones, and/or sensory processing that leave their parents wondering if an evaluation is needed. Most parents already know that children need an evaluation to receive support services at school or a clinical diagnosis for insurance to cover therapeutic services. But some parents who pay “out-of-pocket” for therapy services or enroll their child in private school wonder: Is a diagnostic evaluation really necessary? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

Parents, we're in the thick of it. Summer.I don't know about you, but this summer is already feeling more hectic than any in recent memory. Is this the first full-out summer since the pandemic? Am I just running low on parent stamina? Or is it just that driving my kids to activities feels like an additional part-time job? Whatever the reason, I'm here to commiserate with you. I'm also here to encourage you to do less. Yep, less. Do less and teach your kid what to do with that free time.If you are raising a child with ADHD and have to plan every second of their summer for them, you're already getting tired of hearing, “but I'm so bored!” And, if you are raising a child who hates playing outside and is happy as a clam inside the house, you might be worried about their vitamin D levels. Summer is about balance. Let's build some social and independence skills but not wear ourselves out so much that we don't reap the rewards of rest.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

When I talk to parents and teachers of neurodivergent kids and teens, especially those raising and teaching autistic children, I often hear, “I can't figure out what motivates her,” or “He only cares about video games” or even, “I can't get them to care about anything.” Here's the thing: I've never met a kid without interests. As the trusted adults raising and teaching neurodivergent kids, we may have to listen a little harder and look a bit closer, especially if a child's interest doesn't fit into society's norm of “expected.” ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

Simply put, children don't do everything we ask them to do when we ask them to do it. As adults, we often assume this is because they are not understanding what we said so we try communicating the same expectation again by repeating ourselves, sometimes in a louder and more frustrated voice. If that doesn't work, our own frustration grows, which can stop us from remaining emotionally regulated and problem-solve what to do next.We are never our best selves when stressed. Yet, the way we respond in the moment a child doesn't do what we have asked them to do can do one of two things: either it creates a safe connection for the child to trust us as we align with them to solve the problem or we trigger a defense response in the child if we inadvertently disregard their need for more support.So, what does this look like in a classroom? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

Teachers, you made it. It's summer! As you pause to take a breath and recenter yourself, I want you to know that I see all you are doing. You are asked to do so many things with too little time and energy.This week, I'm here to remind you that you CAN find time for yourself, even during a busy school year. The most important thing to know is that a little bit of time will go a long way. As you reflect on this past school year, I'm here to share some new ideas for setting yourself up for resiliency in the fall.A few months ago, I created a FREE video series for elementary educators to learn how to beat burnout during the school year. You'll only need to set aside about 15 minutes a day to watch the four videos full of actionable ways to radically take care of yourself. Today's episode is a sneak peek. Let's get started!---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

If you are an elementary educator, you are already teaching a neurodiverse group of learners. So there are gonna be things that come up that you feel like you don't know how to do, or you need to consult with colleagues.So, I want you to know you don't have to have a special education degree, but there are three things that I do believe are key to your mindset as an educator of neurodiverse learners.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

Today we dive into why school is so hard for neurodivergent students, and the messages and feedback that I get from teachers on what they need to make school better for our students.This topic is always on my mind this time of year as we go into testing season, which as we all know, if you're listening to this podcast, you have a child in your life that testing probably does not work for.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

Educators, it's time to shift our mindset by understanding what polyvagal theory, the importance of brain-body connection, and how we can better support our children. We all know that the fields of psychology and education still haven't fully integrated the wisdom we're learning from research and neuroscience, and often rely on methods that seek to alter kids behavior through rewards and consequences. Once we acknowledge that behaviors, though, are meaningful and protective adaptations to a child's internal experience, we can create a whole new range of compassionate and individually tailored options that surpass just managing behaviors. So today, Dr. Mona Delahooke explains polyvagal theory and the paradigm shift that could be so helpful for parents and educators to make.About Our GuestDr. Mona Delahooke is a best-selling author and child psychologist who aims to reduce suffering and increase resilience for children and families. Her paradigm-shifting model offers a new way of understanding emotional and behavioral challenges, incorporating the latest neuroscience and resilience research to support relationships. Dr. Delahooke is challenging the education system to update its practices from focusing on behavior to promoting relational safety. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

I know you all come here to read my thoughts on raising and teaching neurodivergent kids and teens. But, I'm taking a little detour today because this topic is for all parents.I was talking to a good friend the other day. We were exchanging stories about how our kids are starting to ask questions about puberty and I was pretty sure that I had grossed out mine by talking about body hair. My friend admitted that our conversation was causing her to break out into a sweat. She's not alone. Most parents I talk to shutter at the mention of their child being ready for the “sex talk." Here's the thing: This talk is not just one conversation and it's not just about sex. Kids deserve to accurately understand their sexual and reproductive health. No more putting this off; our kids need us. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

Social-Emotional Learning is a term that gets thrown around a lot. Schools can see it as something that needs to be taught in a very scripted way. However, therapists often think of Social-Emotional Learning as something we are always practicing as it's integrated into our everyday experiences. So what exactly is Social-Emotional Learning, and how can we utilize SEL to help our neurodivergent kids manage emotions and regulate their anxiety?About Our GuestDr. Elizabeth Sautter is the author of Make Social and Emotional Learning Stick! Practical Strategies to Manage Emotions, Navigate Social Situations, and Reduce Anxiety. She is a collaborator and trainer with the Zones of Regulation Team and a Co-Author of The Zones Storybook Set Tools to Try Card Decks and Navigating the Zones Game.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

As a child psychologist working with families for over 20 years, here are the top three most common issues that get in the way of kids getting good sleep and my tips for getting back on track.All parents know that sleep is important. No one knows sleep deprivation like a new parent with an infant who wakes every two to three hours to be fed or changed. I recall five hours of sleep being my personal threshold for feeling human in those early days of parenthood. Less than five hours of sleep and I was nearly non-functional. That's because sleep is the great regulator. Without it, we struggle to maintain our attention, regulate our emotions, and manage our energy.This is why the first thing I ask parents before we dive into figuring why a child might be struggling with something new is this: “How are they sleeping?”Everyone has their own threshold for sleep, kids included. In case you're wondering, here are the daily sleep amounts for kids and teens recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics. Many autistic children and teens are even more sensitive to the emotional and sensory impacts of not getting enough sleep. Children and teens with ADHD can struggle to wind down and fall asleep which often impacts family dynamics at bedtime. And, of course, children who are anxious may experience their most intense worries when the lights go out.We've all read about the negative impact of not enough sleep for kids and teens. And, we all know that when children are well-rested, they are better able to remain emotionally regulated when things don't go their way, they are able to access learning by remaining engaged in the classroom, and they are generally happier. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your SchoolSummer Workshops

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson joins us today to discuss parent-child attachment (it's more than just rocking your baby), disciplining with empathy, connection, and regulation, and the 4 S's for raising the whole-brain child.Dr. Tina Bryson is a psychotherapist and the Founder/Executive Director of THE CENTER FOR CONNECTION in Pasadena, California. She's a NY Times Bestselling author and has written several books including The Bottom Line for Baby.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

One of the most heart-breaking things a parent can hear is a child being mean to themselves. Some children get so overwhelmed at times that they call themselves names, or even worse, hit themselves when they are upset. As adults, we can feel helpless in these moments and are quick to say something to negate our child's statement like “Of course you're not stupid” or “Don't say that; it's not true” But, responding with comments opposite of a child's thoughts can feel dismissive and leave them feeling emotionally alone. In this week's episode, I'm going to walk you through what is happening for many of our kids in these moments and share a few ideas on how to support them.[Note: These ideas are for informational purposes only. If you have concerns about your child's safety due to physical self-harm or verbal self-criticism, please talk with their medical or mental health provider.]---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

When we hear neurodiversity, most of us think of ADHD and autism. But neurodivergence simply means a difference in brain functioning - and that impacts gifted children too.  So how can we better understand and support our gifted kids?  Today, Dr. Matt joins us to talk about brain differences, emotional roller coasters, social anxiety, and the "Twice Exceptional" profile.Dr. Matt Zakreski is the Founder and Lead Psychologist at The Neurodiversity Collective.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

Spring break is here, which means taking a break from school and spending time with family and friends. It also often means traveling, later bedtimes, and sometimes more sugar for our kids. But for neurodivergent children, those with ADHD, anxiety, or who are autistic, traveling for spring break also means different schedules, unknown routines, and often more dysregulation. Many families I work with create vacation routines that differ from home and school routines, but are consistent enough to keep children regulated while experiencing new things during their travels. For more traveling strategies, be sure to check out my blog post: How to Teach Your Neurodivergent Child to Travel. Many families have found success with the strategies I mention in that post, but today's episode is all about supporting your child when they come home. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

Growing up, Penn Holderness knew he was different than his friends. He had tics. He was called a spazz. He would cry really easily.  In basketball practice, he would nearly chew through his shirt if he wasn't running around enough.  If he was growing up in the 2020's, he'd be treated for ADHD pretty quickly. But back in the 80's, ADHD information wasn't widespread, and it wasn't until college that he was officially diagnosed.On today's episode, Penn talks about growing up with ADHD, finding his passion for music and performing arts, learning how to accept his limitations and lean into his superpowers, and how he would design a school for ADHD minds.You don't want to miss this vulnerable and hilarious episode. The Holderness Family YouTube | Instagram | TikTok | Facebook | Podcast---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

When I work with parents who are raising neurodivergent kids, I often ask, “What was school like for you?” We all have an answer to this question, but it's hard to sum up 13 years of learning in a conversation. I'm really just interested in a parent's gut reaction. Some freeze, some appear overwhelmed and give me a look indicating, “How much time do we have?” and some wonder how this question is even relevant to raising their child. The reason I ask parents what school was like for them is this:1) What worked (or didn't work) for us in school informs how we feel about parent-teacher collaboration now, and2) I want parents (and teachers) to realize that the child in front of them is living their school story right now. How we respond to their needs and encourage their strengths become a part of their story.So, what was school like for you? I'll go first.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

When Debbie Reber and her husband figured out that they were raising a neurodivergent child, they were a little caught off guard - it wasn't exactly the vision they had in mind for their parenting life. For years, they felt "otherized" by other parents and completely misunderstood.  They didn't have much of a community to help them - until Debbie decided to create one.Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author (Differently Wired), podcast host (Tilt Parenting), and speaker who has been inspiring and sparking conversations for parents, women, and teens for twenty years.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path CourseOnline Course for Elementary TeachersBring Dr. Emily to Your School

As spring break approaches and summer plans are being made, I begin hearing travel anxiety from many parents raising neurodivergent kids. Some can't fathom going to a restaurant without causing a scene so an extended vacation seems out of reach. Many are surprised when I say, “Your child can totally do this! Maybe not yet, but just like any other skill you have taught your child, traveling takes practice.” In this episode, learn how you can teach your child to travel.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path Course

If you've been following me for a while now, you know that I have been on both sides of the diagnostic feedback session. I've been the psychologist reviewing evaluation results with parents and I've been the parent on the receiving end of evaluation data that confirms what I already knew was unfolding before my eyes. As a parent, I remember feeling overwhelmed and scared. As a psychologist, I've seen many parents process the news that their child needs something different to succeed; it can be such an emotional experience for some while others jump right in and embrace the journey. Today, I'll be sharing common worries I hear from parents raising neurodivergent kids and teens. I want you all to know that you are not alone.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path Course

All parents and educators want what is best for the child. But when it comes to supporting a child with a complex constellation of strengths and needs within a group of children who also have their own constellation of strengths and needs, it gets complicated. Here's how to break through.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path Course

If you are raising a child diagnosed with autism, ADHD, or anxiety, the uncertainty of their future can feel very anxiety-provoking. Will they learn to drive? Will they be able to live on their own? Will they be happy? One gift of parenting a child developing on their own path and timetable is that you learn quickly to let go of any plans beyond about a school year's span of time. You learn to remain present in solving the problems and celebrating the wins of today. You appreciate even a small milestone because you have watched your child struggle to do things and you notice the relief and pride on their face when they are finally able to do it. The flip side of this experience, of course, is not knowing if and when your child will become independent with various skills.Honestly, no parent knows for sure what the future holds for their child, but when your child struggles developmentally, making predictions for tomorrow based on your child's skills today is very hard to do. What we can do is financially plan for the future and focus on nurturing skills today. In today's episode, I'm sharing tips on how to motivate neurodivergent kids who might have a short attention span, narrow (but deep) interests, and are not motivated by what other people think of them.---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path Course

One of the most common questions I receive from parents is this: How do I know if my child's behavior is due to their disability or if they are doing it on purpose? Because our neurodivergent children present with skill weaknesses that occur internally, like those related to emotional dysregulation and executive functioning, when they are asked to do something they don't have the capacity for at the moment, the first sign of distress is often avoidance or an emotional meltdown. But consider this: We would never discipline a child with a broken leg for not running a race. So, once we understand that our child's behavior is not a choice, but rather a stress response related to the overwhelm of the situation, we support them rather than discipline them. But, there are still times when children need limits to learn how to stay safe and become independent. So, how can we tell the difference? ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Parenting On Your Own Path Course

One of the hardest decisions parents make for their child is when to begin Kindergarten. A generation ago, parents didn't think about this much. If your child was five years old before the cut-off date for your public school district, then it was time for Kindergarten. However, as Kindergarten has become less play and more academic in the last 20 years, and as we learn more about the importance of a child's ability to self-regulate before any learning can happen, parents are thinking twice about this decision. ---Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Join the waitlist for my online course for parents who are raising neurodivergent kidsMore information on virtual in-service trainings for schools

Children lack the life experience to fully embrace the delayed gratification needed to believe that mistakes are helpful. Every child goes through a developmental period where they must learn the arc of change that comes with being faced with something that is too hard, needing the motivation to keep coming back to try again, and then the satisfaction of mastering a skill. Most children are able to face these attempts to try again, which not only lets them practice their skills but also helps their brain experience disappointment when making mistakes and the reward of working hard to yield a better outcome. But what if your hard work does not yield a better outcome? Let's view this through the lens of a neurodivergent child with skill weaknesses due to a diagnosis of autism, ADHD, anxiety, and/or a learning disability. Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.comThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com.Learn with Dr. Emily is edited by Earfluence. ---Join the waitlist for my online course for parents who are raising neurodivergent kidsMore information on virtual in-service trainings for schools

One of the most frequent questions I get from parents is this: How do I tell my child about their diagnosis? This task feels daunting because no one wants to tell someone that something is “different” about them, especially when that someone is our precious child. You don't want to hurt them and you don't want them to ever think they are “less than.” I believe that we, the adults, are actually the ones with the baggage about “different” meaning something negative. While “different” might mean that something is harder for your child, “different” never means “less than.” So I prefer to not even use the word “diagnosis” and instead focus on abilities and needs for support. We all have abilities and we all have needs, so let's understand them and support one another.Sign up for Dr. Emily's weekly newsletter at www.learnwithdremily.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com

The Neurodiverse Classroom is HERE! The Neurodiverse Classroom is a professional development online course created for passionate elementary teachers in need of up-to-date training to better understand the neurodiverse and mental health needs of their students.I have always wanted to create an easy way for teachers to get all the information they need so they can create classrooms where everyone feels safe, nurtured, and celebrated.  Parents: If you know a teacher who would want to hear more about this, just tag them or share!Teachers: Join me as we merge my knowledge of child psychology, neurodivergence, and mental health with your knowledge of elementary education so we can help spark learning for every student.This week only, you can enroll in the professional development self-study course. Inside The Neurodiverse Classroom, you will have access to pre-recorded video lessons beginning November 4th and delivered to your email inbox each Friday before Thanksgiving. Each lesson will help you reframe your thinking about teaching a neurodiverse group of learners, arm you with strategies to support them, and help you strengthen your self-care tool-kit as you learn to take care of yourself along this teaching journey. When you enroll in The Neurodiverse Classroom, you will get:+Life-time access to the online course (including any future revisions)+Life-time access to the STUDENTS ONLY Facebook group where you can learn from like-minded colleagues+Certificate of completion of 6 hours of professional development To learn more here: https://www.learnwithdremily.com/teachers This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com

Teachers, you are busy. You are asked to do too many things with too little time and energy. I'm here to remind you that you CAN find time for yourself. The most important thing to know is that a little bit of time will go a long way. Join me this week inside my FREE video series for elementary educators to learn how to beat burnout this school year. You'll only need to set aside about 15 minutes a day. Today's blog post is a sneak peek. Let's get started! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com

I love education and helping children, teachers, and parents work together. I am so grateful for my experience working in public schools. It taught me that nothing is simple. There are no simple solutions, only complex solutions that involve staying curious and cultivating collaboration. Every child's brain is different so how can this be straight-forward? If we try to make things uniform, we fail someone. The complexity is actually the part that I love to help sort out. But working as a therapist with the most complex emotional and behavioral concerns is intense work. As therapists, we are trained to recognize compassion fatigue in ourselves and set boundaries to manage our energy. You know who else needs to know how to do this? Educators.Teachers, if you're ready to learn more about managing your energy and beating burnout this school year, I have created a free video series for teachers available the week of October 17th. You can sign up for this free resource here: https://www.learnwithdremily.com/beatburnout  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit learnwithdremily.substack.com

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