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The Psychology of your 20’s


    • Aug 29, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekdays NEW EPISODES
    • 41m AVG DURATION
    • 335 EPISODES

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    The Psychology of your 20's podcast has been a game-changer for me. As someone in their 20's, it can often feel like a time of confusion and uncertainty, but this podcast has provided me with a sense of clarity and understanding. Jemma, the host, creates in-depth and thorough content that is both relatable and insightful. Listening to this podcast feels like having a therapy session, where I can explore my thoughts and experiences knowing that I am not alone. It is incredibly refreshing to hear someone discuss the challenges and triumphs of this decade with such empathy and knowledge.

    One of the best aspects of this podcast is Jemma's perspective. She offers a unique take on various topics related to psychology and personal growth. Her insights have helped me change my mindset and look at certain aspects of my life from a different angle. Whether it's discussing relationships, career choices, or mental health, there is an episode (or 100) for everyone. The research she puts into each episode is evident, as she backs up her advice with evidence from studies and personal anecdotes which makes it feel more relatable.

    While there are many positive aspects to this podcast, one potential downside is that some references may go over the heads of listeners who are not familiar with Australian culture or context. However, the overall content provided by the host is still relevant and applicable to anyone going through different situations in their 20's regardless of their location.

    In conclusion, The Psychology of your 20's podcast has become my favorite podcast for its insightful content and relatability. Jemma's compassionate approach provides comfort, validation, and practical solutions for navigating the challenges of this transformative decade. Her soothing voice combined with well-researched episodes make listening to this podcast both therapeutic and educational. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone seeking guidance during their 20's or interested in psychology as a whole.



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    326. The psychology of nicotine

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2025 46:09 Transcription Available


    Nicotine is everywhere - but not in the way we once knew it. It’s not just in cigarettes anymore. It’s in sleek vapes, tiny pouches, lozenges, gum, even diffusers marketed as 'wellness'. And somewhere along the way, it stopped feeling like a vice and started looking... aesthetic. Clean. Even, normal.In today’s episode, we unpack the ever-present boom of nicotine and what it reveals about our generation’s relationship with coping, craving, and control. Because this isn’t just about addiction - it’s about soothing anxiety, chasing focus, managing overstimulation, and the ways we self-medicate under pressure. We explore: Nicotine as a stimulant and a coping mechanism Levels of conformity and links to the ‘in-group’ How nicotine got rebranded for a new generation The role of dissonance in maintaining the cycle How to break the bad habit loop Whether you’ve used nicotine yourself or just want to understand why it’s seems like everyone has a vape – this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    325. 4 ways I deal with anxiety in my 20s

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2025 30:10 Transcription Available


    We all get anxious at times, but what we forget in those moments is that anxiety is just there to protect us, it's trying to do its job, and the more we lean in and play along, the more we start to feel in control again. In today's episode, we break down the four ways I've made my anxiety work for me, including: Turning anxiety into excitement The certainities list method The personification method Channeling anxious energy into creative energy + more If you're someone who struggles with ongoing anxiety, this episode will hopefully provide you with a new perspective, or at least a refresher on what we do know about the way anxiety effects us. Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    324. Why do we hold grudges?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2025 39:32 Transcription Available


    Why do some things sit heavy in our chest for weeks, months, even years - while others seem to slide right off? In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of resentment, exploring why letting go can feel so hard, and what our grudges might actually be trying to tell us about ourselves. Grudges are often dismissed as petty or immature, but they’re rarely that simple. They’re emotional archives - stories we keep retelling in our minds, not just to stay angry, but to make sense of hurt, to assert boundaries, or to reclaim a sense of control. Whether it’s a betrayal from years ago or a passive-aggressive comment from last week, the feelings linger for a reason. We explore: • The psychological function of holding a grudge• How rumination and memory shape emotional pain• The role of power, justice, and unmet needs in long-term resentment• How resentment harms us more than them• Why forgiveness isn’t the same as forgetting• Tools for emotional processing and (maybe) letting go If you want to get curious about what your lingering anger is pointing to, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    323. The power of breathwork

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2025 47:35 Transcription Available


    Breath work, as a therapeutic technique, is having it's day in the sun. You may be seeing videos about it cropping up everywhere, but the truth is that it's a very ancient and deeply powerful psychological practice... when done correctly. In today's episode we are joined by our expert guest, Jessica Dibb, to break down the true power and science of breath work including: What breath work actually is (and what it isn't) The most common breath work techniques The major science + studies backing up it's legitimacy The breakthroughs people experience The downsides + so much more Jessica's book here: Breathwork + Psychotherapy *The opinions of guests are not necessarily shared by the host. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    322. How to feel like yourself again

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2025 42:00 Transcription Available


    Let's be real...too many of us are struggling with a sense of disconnect between who we are in our daily lives and our true selves. We feel like we no longer do the things that set our souls on fire, we have lost what makes us unique, we are bored, we are stagnant, maybe we don't even like ourselves anymore. Today on the podcast we talk about why that may be, including: The 3 reasons modern society has made us feel detached Why we need to think about our values more The power of daily intention setting The identity inventory The self absorption paradox The best ways to spend you weekend to feel like YOU again Why you need a bucket list + so much more If you want to feel more aligned and alive, this episode is for you :) ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    322. How to feel like yourself again

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2025 42:12 Transcription Available


    Let's be real...too many of us are struggling with a sense of disconnect between who we are in our daily lives and our true selves. We feel like we no longer do the things that set our souls on fire, we have lost what makes us unique, we are bored, we are stagnant, maybe we don't even like ourselves anymore. Today on the podcast we talk about why that may be, including: The 3 reasons modern society has made us feel detached Why we need to think about our values more The power of daily intention setting The identity inventory The self absorption paradox The best ways to spend you weekend to feel like YOU again Why you need a bucket list + so much more If you want to feel more aligned and alive, this episode is for you :) ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    321. The psychology of run clubs

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2025 47:08 Transcription Available


    Running might seem like a solo sport - something we do to clear our heads, hit a goal, or just survive another cardio session. But recently, a new kind of running culture has emerged: one built not on competition, but community. Enter the run club - part fitness, part social ritual, part emotional anchor for a generation craving structure, connection, and purpose. In today’s episode, we explore the quiet psychology of run clubs and why so many of us are drawn to group movement. Whether it’s about healing, identity, accountability, or just having somewhere to be on a Tuesday night, run clubs have become far more than just exercise. They’re spaces of transformation - not just for our bodies, but for our emotional landscapes. We explore:• The rise of run clubs as a cultural and social movement• Connection, identity, and accountability through group movement • Group belonging and the act of completing a challenge• Are run clubs the new dating app?• Run club exclusivity• The social validation of ‘kudos’ Whether you’re a dedicated runner or someone who wonders why their local park is flooded with Hokas (other brands are available) - this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    320. Should I break up with my phone?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2025 44:23 Transcription Available


    Me and my phone are in a toxic relationship, let me explain... ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram (ironic for this episode, I know): @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    319. How does food affect our psychology?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2025 56:27 Transcription Available


    We’ve all heard the phrase “you are what you eat,” but what if it’s more accurate to say “you feel what you eat”? Behind every meal, snack, or sugar crash is an intricate, fascinating connection between your brain and your gut - one that science is only just beginning to fully understand. In today’s episode, we explore the gut-brain axis: the real, two-way communication system that links your digestive health to your mental well-being. From serotonin production in your intestines to the surprising impact of fermented foods, we break down how what you eat influences your mood, focus, anxiety levels, and emotional regulation - and how your emotions, in turn, influence what you reach for in the fridge. We explore:• The gut-brain axis• Why gut microbes might be responsible for your mood swings• Foods that support mental health - and ones that can destabilize it• Cycle syncing, cravings, and emotional shifts• The psychology of emotional eating and comfort food• How food morality and rigid diets can harm your mental well-being• How to find balance in the food noise Whether you’re curious about how to eat for a better mood, or want to feel more connected to your body, this episode is for you. For further resources: https://butterfly.org.au/ ORDER MY BOOK, Person in Progress: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    318. Dealing with uncertainty in your 20s

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2025 37:33 Transcription Available


    Uncertainty is the defining emotion of our 20s. Career paths, relationships, identity, purpose ... so much of this decade is marked by not knowing. Does that have to be as uncomfortable as we think it does? In today’s episode, we unpack the psychology of uncertainty: why our brains fear it, how it triggers anxiety and avoidance, and why trying to “figure it all out” might be doing more harm than good. We explore: The neuroscience behind our discomfort with the unknown Why perfectionism is often a mask for our fear of uncertainty The cultural myths that make us believe we need a step-by-step life plan How to assign meaning to uncertainty and build resilience through it Practical strategies to take action even when the future feels unclear If you've never felt more confused than you do now, and are unsure 'what's next', this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    317. The psychology of OCD

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2025 56:36 Transcription Available


    Have you ever heard someone say they are “so OCD” for simply having a tidy house? Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions, frequently reduced to stereotypes about neatness or organisation. But for those living with OCD, the reality is far more complex - and far more invisible. In today’s episode, we go beneath the surface to explore the lived experience of OCD: the hidden compulsions, the mental spirals, and the exhausting need for certainty. We unpack the psychology behind it, challenge common misconceptions, and explore what recovery and support can actually look like. We explore: The role of the OCD cycle Why intrusive thoughts can feel so threatening Types of OCD beyond cleanliness and order Why compulsions don’t always look like rituals How OCD thrives on shame, secrecy, and doubt Approaches to treatment and the path toward healing Whether you live with OCD, love someone who does, or just want to understand it more deeply, this episode is for you. Treat my OCD: https://www.treatmyocd.com/ Zachary: https://www.instagram.com/ocdestigmatize?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    316. The 20 biggest mistakes people make in their 20s

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2025 42:40 Transcription Available


    Over the past 6 months I've been asking people: what is the biggest mistake you made in your 20s? I've heard from over 5'000 people, some of them 21, some of them 80 and I have combined all their responses to make the ultimate list of the 20 biggest mistakes people make in their 20s, for the people, by the people. From love, to career, to finances, going to college, friendship, taking risks: today we talk through the most common responses we received and what we can learn from these moments and regrets. Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    315. The psychology of trinket collecting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2025 51:09 Transcription Available


    Why are we so obsessed with the tiny, adorable objects cluttering our desks, bags, and social media feeds? From plushies and vinyl figures to keychains and charms, trinket culture has exploded - but behind the cuteness lies something deeper. What do these seemingly insignificant objects reveal about us, our identities, and the times we’re living in? In today’s episode, we explore the psychology of trinket culture: why we love collecting, how these objects shape our self-expression, and what they tell us about joy, nostalgia, and even economic anxiety in our twenties and beyond. We explore: The digital rise of trinkets through TikTok, Pinterest, and aesthetic micro-trends How trinkets offer identity, status, and belonging The role of inner child healing and nostalgia Why scarcity, blind boxes, and “drops” feel so addictive Links between trinkets, impulse spending, and economic uncertainty Using trinkets to spark joy Whether you’re a proud Labubu owner or just curious about why these tiny objects hold such big meaning, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    314. 5 signs they're the 'one'

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2025 41:53 Transcription Available


    "What makes someone “the one”? There is so much pressure tied into that question. Instead, it might be better to ask: how can we focus on recognising the key pillars of long-lasting, fulfilling love? In today’s episode, we explore some fundamental characteristics so you can discern whether they are “the one” for you, while also acknowledging that our soulmates are often built, rather than found. We explore: Unpicking the “one” narrative The difference between initial spark and lasting connection Love as a mutual, ongoing choice The fundamental pillars of long lasting relationships - shared values, emotional proximity, and reciprocal effort The role of intuition vs anxiety The need for authenticity and growth within a partnership If you’re feeling the pressure to pick the ‘right’ person, or want to learn about the fundamentals of deep connection, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. "See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    313. Confidence is a skill, not a trait

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2025 46:43 Transcription Available


    What makes someone “the one”? There is so much pressure tied into that question. Instead, it might be better to ask: how can we focus on recognising the key pillars of long-lasting, fulfilling love? In today’s episode, we explore some fundamental characteristics so you can discern whether they are “the one” for you, while also acknowledging that our soulmates are often built, rather than found. We explore: Unpicking the “one” narrative The difference between initial spark and lasting connection Love as a mutual, ongoing choice The fundamental pillars of long lasting relationships - shared values, emotional proximity, and reciprocal effort The role of intuition vs anxiety The need for authenticity and growth within a partnership If you’re feeling the pressure to pick the ‘right’ person, or want to learn about the fundamentals of deep connection, this episode is for you. Listen to Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    312. Can self improvement go too far?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2025 49:22 Transcription Available


    Does chasing your "best self" ever feel like an endless race? You're constantly striving, optimizing your routines, and learning new skills, yet sometimes a quiet exhaustion creeps in, or you wonder if you're truly any happier. It's as if the very pursuit of perfection leaves you feeling perpetually inadequate. In today's episode, we're diving into the hidden costs of this modern obsession with betterment: when personal growth can go too far. Things we discuss:• The deep-seated desire to grow and reach our potential• The impact of societal pressures and the booming self-improvement industry• Understanding the roles of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation• When toxic over-striving is disguised as discipline• Self-improvement burnout• Actionable ways to cultivate sustainable growth If the non-stop quest for "more" sometimes leaves you feeling depleted, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    311. How to stop ruminating

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2025 48:22 Transcription Available


    Does your brain seem to hit replay on that embarrassing memory, or go over the way that situationship ended in hopes you’ll find some kind of closure? From dissecting past conversations to catastrophising about what might happen, repetitive thinking can feel like a mental trap. In today's episode, we break down the psychology of rumination: why our minds get stuck in these unhelpful thought cycles, and how we can actively disengage to find mental clarity. Things we discuss: What rumination truly is and what it isn't The distinctions between everyday rumination and OCD Metacognition: thinking about our thinking Cognitive diffusion and detaching from thoughts Using mindfulness and grounding techniques to anchor yourself in the present Taking back your attention from thought spirals If you’re tired of your mind rerunning your “best and worst” moments, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    311. How to stop ruminating

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2025 51:55 Transcription Available


    Does your brain seem to hit replay on that embarrassing memory, or go over the way that situationship ended in hopes you’ll find some kind of closure? From dissecting past conversations to catastrophising about what might happen, repetitive thinking can feel like a mental trap. In today's episode, we break down the psychology of rumination: why our minds get stuck in these unhelpful thought cycles, and how we can actively disengage to find mental clarity. Things we discuss: What rumination truly is and what it isn't The distinctions between everyday rumination and OCD Metacognition: thinking about our thinking Cognitive diffusion and detaching from thoughts Using mindfulness and grounding techniques to anchor yourself in the present Taking back your attention from thought spirals If you’re tired of your mind rerunning your “best and worst” moments, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    310. 5 signs you're in the wrong career

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2025 39:10 Transcription Available


    Is your job making you feel drained, disconnected, or just deeply unfulfilled? In today’s episode, we unpack the five major signs that your career may not be the right fit — from emotional numbness and burnout, to identity disalignment and daydreaming about quitting more than staying. We explore: The importance of occupational identity Why boredom is a worse sign than anxiety at work How to find all 10 of your dream jobs The long term impact of hating your job Why starting over is always the right choice + so much more Happy listening! Listen to Mantra here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=949e13c52f194637 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    309. The psychology of parasocial relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2025 49:31 Transcription Available


    Why do we form intense, one-sided bonds with people we've never met? From favourite podcasters and social media influencers to beloved fictional characters, parasocial relationships are a defining feature of modern life – but what do these seemingly non-reciprocal connections truly reveal about our need for connection? In today’s episode, we explore the psychology of parasocial relationships: why our brains are wired for these intimate-at-a-distance bonds, and how they play a surprisingly significant role, especially in our twenties. We explore: Characteristics of parasocial relationships Why our ancient brains are predisposed to form these connections The parasocial relationships spectrum, from casual engagement to pathological obsession The profound positive benefits of companionship and role modelling When parasocial relationships become imbalanced How to cultivate healthy engagement with online personalities Whether you feel like you're best friends with a YouTuber or just curious about the invisible ties that bind us to media figures, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    308. It might get worse before it get's better

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2025 30:06 Transcription Available


    Sharing a little life update with you around my mental health, my physical health, where my minds at, what I've been struggling with and how I'm constantly reminded that life can always get better!!!!! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    307. The psychology of age-gap relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2025 56:05 Transcription Available


    We've all seen the headlines about celebrity couples with significant age differences. We’ve heard the stereotypes, from "trophy partners" and “cougar’s” to "she must have daddy issues". But what is the genuine psychological pull that draws individuals to partners that are much older or younger? In today’s episode, we explore the psychology behind the often speculated age gap relationships. Things we discuss: Why evolutionary perspectives paint an incomplete picture The value of intergenerational platonic relationships Challenging stereotypes and stigma How to navigate different life stages The role of communication and shared values in building healthy age gap relationships If you're in an age gap relationship, interested in understanding them better, or simply intrigued by the nuances of human connection, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    306. Are we addicted to chaos?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2025 38:36 Transcription Available


    Do you feel as though you’re living in a constant whirlwind of deadlines, drama, and endless tasks, yet secretly feel a thrill from the chaos? This episode unpacks the question, ‘are we addicted to chaos?’ and why our brains might actually be drawn to this tumultuous state. We dive into the neurochemical rewards that hook us, how this plays out in our relationships and careers, and the hidden costs of living in perpetual overwhelm. We look at the deeper psychological roots and learn actionable steps to cultivate intentional calm amidst life's inevitable pressures. Things we discuss:• Why dopamine and adrenaline make chaos feel rewarding• The draw of novelty, intensity, and seeking stimulation• How chaos manifests in our lives• The hidden costs of chronic chaos• Psychological roots of our addiction to chaos• Actionable strategies to reclaim calm and redefine productivity in your twenties If your life feels like a constant fire drill, or you suspect you secretly thrive on the last-minute rush, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    305. The psychology of music

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2025 44:51 Transcription Available


    Ever found yourself hitting play on that song, and instantly, a wave of emotion hits you, or you’re transported back to a forgotten summer, a specific laugh, a past version of yourself? It feels like magic, right? But beneath those goosebumps and surges of feeling lies an incredible, intricate psychological dance. In today's episode, we’re diving deep into the psychology of music – exploring why this universal language speaks directly to our nervous system, how it shapes our memories and identity, and critically, how we use it to cope (for better or worse) in our twenties. We explore: Why music evokes a full body experience Music and nostalgia How music develops and shapes our identity When music can act as a coping mechanism How to use music to shift your mood and focus If you've ever felt like your life has a custom soundtrack, or if you can't imagine a day without your headphones, this episode is for you. Listen to Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    304. Why we grieve past versions of ourselves?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2025 51:22 Transcription Available


    Why does personal growth sometimes feel like a quiet loss? Ever look back at an old photo and feel a strange mix of nostalgia and sadness for the person you once were? You're evolving, becoming stronger, wiser, but there's still a strange ache for the person you used to be. In today's episode, we explore the psychology behind this often-unspoken phenomenon of grieving our past selves. Things we discuss: What it means to grieve a former 'you’ The role of disenfranchised grief The ‘nostalgia trap’ Our evolving sense of self and the fluidity of identity Why we romanticise the past How we can integrate past versions of ourselves and embracing growth If you've ever felt that subtle pang for a past version of yourself, this episode is for you! Listen to Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=b6ad5d555c1940e0 Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    303. The psychology of chronic apologising

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2025 51:03 Transcription Available


    "Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remorse, often becomes a reflex, a way to make ourselves smaller, more agreeable, and to diffuse a discomfort that sometimes only exists in our own minds. In today’s episode, we’re exploring chronic apologising - we'll uncover how this seemingly polite habit can actually be a sign of deeper anxieties, impact our self-worth, and shape our experiences in our 20s. Things we discuss: Why apologising goes beyond politeness Ties to self-worth, anxiety and attachment Over-apologising as barriers to true connection Reclaiming your voice in your career Practical steps to break the habit If you’ve ever felt like you're apologising for your very existence, or if "sorry" has become your default setting, this episode is for you. Listen to my NEW PODCAST, Mantra: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ckds0BoJDDpODInN9cWcc?si=ea4a5f5a61e5414a Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    302. Post long-term relationship growth

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2025 51:46 Transcription Available


    Ever wondered why everyone seems to break up just before 28? Or why your friend who was just about to settle down with her boyfriend of 7 years is suddenly single and wanting to go out clubbing again? Or why you suddenly realised your long term relationship wasn't for you, and found yourself in Europe or on 4 dates in a row the next week? It's because of post long-term relationship puberty: a term that describes the rapid personality change that takes place in people who have been in a relationship for most of their 20s, but suddenly find themselves single in their late 20s, ready to make up for lost time. In today's episode we describe the end of long-term relationships in our 20s, including: The 7 year itch Why we suddenly realise someone isn't right for us The growth that happens after a breakup Why people settle in their 20s The pros and cons of single life vs. dating life How to not go back to your ex How to embrace your single era Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    301. Why do we love true crime?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2025 47:17 Transcription Available


    Why are we so obsessed with the dark side of life? From true crime and horror movies to disaster documentaries and haunted house tours, morbid curiosity is everywhere - but what does it actually say about us? In today’s episode, we explore the psychology of morbid curiosity - why we’re drawn to frightening, disturbing, and even grotesque content, and how this strange pull might be more adaptive than we think. We discuss: What morbid curiosity really is, and how it shows up in daily life The four types of morbid curiosity (and which ones you might lean toward) How personality traits like openness and sensation seeking shape our preferences Why some people find comfort in horror, and others find control in true crime The evolutionary and neurological roots of this phenomenon How morbid curiosity can turn maladaptive (and where the line is) Whether you're deep into Reddit rabbit holes or just wondering why you can't look away from crime scene documentaries, this episode is for you. We explore the fascinating science behind fear, survival, and our cultural obsession with darkness - and why it might say more about our strength than our weakness. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    300. How to start a podcast in your 20s

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 41:28 Transcription Available


    It is our 300th episode and 4 YEARS since The Psychology of your 20s first began. To celebrate, I'm releasing one of my most requested topics ever that has nothing to do with psychology: how do you start a podcast? More broadly, why is it a good idea? What do I wish I'd known when I'd started? How much does the gear cost? What happens if no one listens? All your burning questions on my journey and where to start will be covered (along with a few tears of gratitude), thank you for 300 episodes and giving me the best job ever! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    299. The psychology of emotionally immature parents

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 60:01 Transcription Available


    What happens when the people who were supposed to guide and nurture us were never taught to emotionally grow up themselves? In today’s episode, we dive into the psychology of emotionally immature parents - their behaviours, their blind spots, and the lasting impact they can have on our sense of self and emotional well-being. We discuss: How to spot emotional immaturity in parents Where it can come from, and links to attachment theory The impact on your identity, boundaries, and adult relationships Why detaching with kindness can help The guilt, grief, and tension that often comes with this dynamic How to begin healing and reparenting yourself If you’ve ever felt like the parent in your own family, or found yourself stuck in a cycle of seeking validation from someone who just can’t give it - this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    298. How to make your life more fun

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2025 29:52 Transcription Available


    If you're like me, there are always a million things on my 'To Do' or 'Should Do' list and they seem to take up all my time and attention. What ever happened to just having FUN! Being silly. Being joyful. Being delighted. In today's episode we're going to talk about why your life feels boring and exactly HOW and WHY you should be prioritising fun experiences over serious, important ones. We talk about: Why fun is easier to achieve than happiness The real health benefits of having more fun The 3 types of fun 4 tips to have more fun in daily life Why acting like a child may make you live longer + so much more Listen now and have fun! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    297. "Lifelong health begins in your 20s" ft. Dr Mark Hyman

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2025 46:25 Transcription Available


    We often take our health for granted in our 20s, but this is one of the most crucial moments for investing in your long term wellbeing. Despite that, it's often hard to know what to do and where to start, so today we have on Dr Mark Hyman to discuss the best things you can do for your health during this decade, including: The power of sleep How to curb your nicotine addiction When to drink, when not to drink The truth about processed food and how much should we be eating The value of social connection The next wave of mental health treatment Listen now! You can find Dr Mark Hyman here: https://drhyman.com/ Function Health: https://www.functionhealth.com/ Dr Hyman's podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@drmarkhyman/videos Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    296. 5 steps to becoming an assertive communicator

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2025 33:08 Transcription Available


    Being an assertive communicator is so much more than just being demanding or confident, it comes down to our emotional ease, how we hold ourselves, how we make others feel, how we frame even the smallest of questions. It's also not something that is taught to us and if it doesn't come naturally, we have to learn on our own. In this episode I break down the FIVE scientifically proven ways to be a more assertive communicator, including: The power of the pause How assertive communicators use their body Self authoring language Visualisation! Visualisation! Visualisation! How to leverage the Dunning-Kruger Effect Plus 7 rapid fire tips you may or may not know! Happy (assertive) listening! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    295. Why we have vulnerability hangovers

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 48:33 Transcription Available


    Have you ever opened up, shared something real, and then immediately regretted it? That post-overshare spiral—the “why did I say that?” dread—is what we call a vulnerability hangover. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind why vulnerability can feel so physically and emotionally intense, even when it’s necessary, honest, and healing. We explore: The two types of vulnerability hangovers (and why both are valid) Why alcohol, trauma dumping, and people-pleasing make it worse How shame and past betrayals shape our fear of being seen The neuroscience behind your emotional "come down" What to do the day after you said too much How to make vulnerability a tool for connection—not something to fear Plus, we answer listener questions on post-therapy crashes, drunk confessions, and how to stay open even when it’s hard. If you’re sitting with a case of the cringe, this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    294. The psychology of the talking stage

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2025 42:06 Transcription Available


    The dreaded talking stage. A whole new level of complexity that has been added to dating in our 20s. The talking stage is this strange should be about information gathering and date organising, but it's become such a snagging point for so many would be relationships. In today's episode, we discuss: Why we even have a talking stage The 1 month rule for the talking stage Why they are so psychologically intense The 3 signs you're never leaving the talking stage How to find closure How to not get attached too quickly + so much more Listen now when you need a pep talk that you will survive the talking stage once more! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    293. Why are we never happy with what we have?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2025 50:21 Transcription Available


    Why does satisfaction always feel just out of reach? You get the job, then you want the promotion. You buy the item of clothing, then the buzz wears off. There is always something MORE on the horizon. In today’s episode, we explore the psychology behind our constant craving for more - more success, more validation, more things - and why what we already have never feels like enough. Things we discuss: Why your brain is wired for "more, more, more The Hedonic Treadmill The problem with "when...then" thinking The success void that follows meeting our goals The guilt spiral Capitalism, consumerism, and curated online lives What real, sustainable happiness looks like If you’ve ever thought “I should be happy…so why am I not?”—this episode is for you. Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    292. The power of humility

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2025 40:33 Transcription Available


    Sometimes we just need to humble ourselves. We need to tell our ego to take a back seat and let ourselves fail, let ourselves be beginners, be bested, admit we were wrong and in today's episode I'm going to explain the exact psychological power of humility, including: The 3 different definitions of ego Why your ego is sabotaging you and keeping you stagnant 5 subtle signs your ego is taking over Why humility makes us happier, more successful, and better connected How to refocus from self-centeredness to contribution and connection + so much more Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    291. How I wrote a book and how you can too

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 48:46 Transcription Available


    I wrote a book and it's out today! Person in Progress: The Roadmap to The Psychology of your 20s contains everything you need to know about your 20s: how to find your purpose, how to manage relationship breakdowns, fight your self doubt, break bad habits, manage your money, heal your childhood wounds, embrace your authenticity, all from a scientific place! In this episode we break down exactly HOW I wrote my book and all the advice I would give to a new writer, including: How to find your big idea How to find a publisher How to write a pitch My 5 best tips for writing even when it's hard How to manage imposter syndrome and worrying 'will anyone read this' How to deal with writer's block + so much more Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK HERE: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    5 ways to reinvent yourself in your 20s (rerun)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 42:05 Transcription Available


    If nothing else, our 20s are a time for reinvention and transformation. We become clearer and clearer about the version of us we want to be, and hopefully more confident around expressing our authentic elves, but sometimes this is interrupted by periods of boredom, stagnation, isolation and discomfort. These are all signs that something in our lives needs to change, and it needs to change now. In today's episode we break down five ways to reinvent yourself during your 20s, including: Theory of opposites Visualisation and choosing the 'theme' for your next era The timeline for change The power of risk + microrisks Changing 'what if' thinking into 'what else' or 'so what?' + more Listen now when you're ready for transformation. PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Overcoming your fear of being perceived (rerun)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2025 44:54 Transcription Available


    Our fear of being perceived is more than just social anxiety, its a real phobia around being scrutinised, observed and primarily judged by others. It's also greatly limiting your potential and ability to be your true self. But there is a way through, there is a way to escape the constant fixation on what others are thinking about you. In today's episode, we discuss: The origins and effects of scopophobia How our fear of being perceived is both a social and specific phobia Why do we worry about what other people think? Perfectionism and our fear of being perceived The impact of early childhood experiences Three mental shifts to overcome your fear of being perceived Listen now for all that and more! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    It's okay for your friendships to change (rerun)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 45:45 Transcription Available


    In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    The psychology of self doubt (rerun)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 44:02 Transcription Available


    Our self doubts are what is keeping us in our own way. It is the foundation for our inner critic to tell us: you're not good enough, you're not talented enough, intelligent beautiful, hardworking to have the life and success you want. When we let our self doubts take control, it often means that we end up self handicapping or sabotaging before we get to the start line. In today's episode we are going to talk about the psychology of self doubt and how to silence those false beliefs, including: The origin of false beliefs in childhood experiences The impact of bullying on adult identity Overcoming failure and setbacks Imposter syndrome + self sabotage The power of a persona + the batman effect Doubting your own doubts Asking 'why not you?', and so much more Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    How to get your spark back (rerun)

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 39:36 Transcription Available


    We lose our spark and love for life for many reasons: burnout, mental ill health, people pleasing, a breakup. When we do it can feel like life gets very boring, it loses colour, we lose interest and we can become cynical towards all of the small joys and brilliance of being alive and being human. In this episode we break down six tips for getting your spark back: The power of rest Choosing to live light versus live heavy Reconnecting with your inner child + play Seeking inspiration in the mundane and The Alchemist Exercise + the healing power of nature Ignoring the urge to compare Listen now for when you're in a rut or have lost your spark! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    290. The complicated psychology of PMS

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2025 54:15 Transcription Available


    PMS can be a bit of a black box - we know we don't feel right, we know the days and weeks before our period can be sluggish, but we don't really know why because we aren't taught what's actually going on in our bodies. In today's episode, we break down the real psychology of PMS, including: Do you have PMS, PMDD or PME? What's the difference? Why we confuse PMS and depression/anxiety The interactions between PMS & ADHD The role of serotonin, estrogen and GABA The misconceptions about PMS and dealing with the shame Some of the best mental hacks for tackling PMS + more Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    289. The psychology of high functioning depression

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 53:42 Transcription Available


    We are used to seeing depression one way: tears, extreme sadness, never leaving the house, pure misery. But for many of us, we experience depression differently. High functioning depression, a kind of depression where an individuals presents as seemingly 'fine' if not successful and thriving is on the rise. But despite outside appearances, it's just as debilitating as the depression we expect. In today's episode we discuss: The bad vs. sad stigma present in society What we expect depression to look like + why that harms people What HF depression really looks like What factors increase the likelihood The link between overachievers, childhood trauma + hyperindependence How to support a loved one with HF depression How to cope ourselves + so much more Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    288. "Your calling, won't stop calling" ft. Victoria Hutchins

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 56:28 Transcription Available


    So many of us worry about finding a purpose and progressing in our career from an early age, but sometimes our path through life looks different to how we imagine it. The poet Victoria Hutchins is one example of this being the case. In today's episode we break down: How to find your calling When to take risks The best decisions you can make in your 20s The power of vulnerability Why hope is the answer PLUS, her best anxiety tips and more Listen now! Buy Victoria's amazing book of poetry here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755776/make-believe-by-victoria-hutchins/ Follow Victoria here: @thedailyvictorian PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    287. Being a late bloomer in your 20s

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 46:29 Transcription Available


    Some of us take our time when it comes to finding love and dating. For some, that feels like an asset, for others it feels like a burden that they are yet to have experienced a relationship, intimacy, a first kiss, sex. In today's episode we break down the struggle of being a so called 'late bloomer' in your 20s, including: The burden of single + virginity shaming in our 20s Social clock theory Managing milestone anxiety + the emotional consequences Why there's no need to rush My 5 best dating tips for first timers PLUS, stories from the listeners Listen now if you're struggling with feeling behind when it comes to love, relationships and dating in your 20s. PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    286. How to actually FEEL your feelings

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 41:02 Transcription Available


    In a day and age when 7/10 of us are chronically stressed, living in survival mode, too busy intellectualising our feelings to actually feel them, unsure of whether we will ever feel great happiness again, sometimes we need to return to the basics: how do we actually FEEL our emotions. In this episode we break down: What emotional blunting really looks like The root in trauma + stress + childhood Why we intellectualise our feelings The consequences + risk of emotional breakdown How to reconnect to your emotions through the body The emotions-physical sensation map The 90 second rule + so much more Happy listening :) PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    285. Overcoming relationship OCD & anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 54:03 Transcription Available


    Even in the most perfect of relationships we can have doubts; even when everything is happy and wonderful, questions can still linger in the back of our mind like 'is this person really right for me, should we break up, should I be feeling this way?' This feeling is a symptom of relationship anxiety or relationship OCD and it can be debilitating. In today's episode we are joined by the incredible and wise Rebecca Ore to discuss: What is relationship OCD and why does it occur How it differs from typical OCD Anxious attachment & relationship OCD Which doubts to listen to and which to ignore How to manage relationship guilt and regret How to confront an anxious relationship thought + so much more You can find Rebecca here: @rebeccaorecoaching PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    284. Did the pandemic rewrite our 20s?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2025 45:03 Transcription Available


    Today, let's talk about the pandemic skip and the lost years of our 20s that many of us are still trying to catch up on. Covid-19 was such a period of collective trauma, and a lot of us feel frozen in time, having missed out on key experiences, developmental milestones and opportunities during our 20s because of it. In today's episode, we discuss: What is the 'pandemic pause' The 3 ways the pandemic altered us The consequence of missing out How the pandemic impacted dating and friendship Should you take a gap year? The 4 best tips for overcoming pandemic skip Trust me, if you're experiencing grief over your lost years, you're not alone! Listen now! PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    I Trust Myself to Make the Best Decision With What I Know Now

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 13:51 Transcription Available


    I am thrilled to present one of my favorite episodes from my new podcast Mantra! Each week, we unpack an empowering mantra—a simple, powerful phrase to help navigate challenges, find clarity, and unlock potential in daily life. In this special presentation "I Trust Myself to Make the Best Decision With What I Know Now," we explore how to build self-trust, release the pressure of needing all the answers, and confidently move forward with the knowledge we have in the moment. This Mantra will help you embrace decision-making with self-compassion. Please don’t forget to follow Mantra with Jemma Sbeg wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes drop every Monday. For ad-free listening and early access to episodes, subscribe to OpenMind+ on Apple Podcasts. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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