Podcasts about triangular theory

Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help.  As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is there really such a thing as love at first sight? Which foods can hurt your libido? How do I know if I sleepwalk? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First broadcast: 26/7/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seven Types of Love and Relationship Dynamics: Understanding the Law of Attraction, Part Seven (Hello, Self… Episode 52) Host Patricia Leonard explored the multifaceted nature of love and relationship through the lens of Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory in her series on the Law of Attraction. Here in part seven, she broke down the three fundamental […]

Have you ever wondered why certain patterns seem to repeat in your relationships, leaving you feeling unfulfilled or misunderstood? Many of us carry the hidden scars of unmet childhood needs into our adult partnerships, often without realizing it. These unresolved emotional wounds can create barriers to giving and receiving love, often manifesting as conflicts and struggles in intimacy. Understanding and healing these deep-seated issues is crucial for building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior and relationships. We'll explore how understanding and internalizing these early life influences can help recognize and address the missing emotional elements from one's upbringing. The discussion sheds light on the importance of processing past traumas, engaging in healing conversations, and employing therapeutic techniques like role-playing and letter-writing to reconcile unresolved feelings. By emphasizing the intertwined nature of individual and relational growth, this episode offers practical strategies to help listeners navigate the complexities of maintaining a strong sense of self while fostering fulfilling, intimate relationships. Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that is blocking you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:06 Talia's journey from personal development to professional practice. 11:20 The dangers of tying self-worth to external achievements and goals. 14:45 Understanding the importance of developmental stages in shaping a person's sense of identity and self-worth. 18:56 The role of psychodynamic therapy and reparenting in healing childhood wounds. 29:03 Exploring the benefits of reconnecting with parents to address unresolved childhood experiences. 41:38 The importance of maintaining one's individuality and sense of self within relationships, particularly when faced with disapproval or differing opinions from loved ones. 46:57 Balancing closeness and autonomy: Navigating conflict and personal growth in relationships. Mentioned Rewire Your Relationships (online program) Triangular Theory of Love True self and false self (*Wikipedia link) (article) Eriksons Stages of Psychosocial Development (*National Library of Medicine link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Talia Bombola Websites: taliabombola.com Facebook: facebook.com/taliabombola Instagram: instagram.com/taliabombola TikTok: tiktok.com/@taliabombola Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heal-through-humor/id1657508931 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

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#71: On this week's episode Grace walks us through Psychologist Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. We walk through the 7 stages of every relationship and the 3 components that are necessary for a long and happy relationship. Grace analyzes her own relationship under these conditions and the life lessons learned along the way.

Exploring relationships always intrigues me. I'm constantly fascinated by how each couple's unique story and way of loving shape their present dynamic. In today's episode, we're going to dive into the topic of love using Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love as our guide. This theory breaks down love into three main parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. By understanding these components, we hope to unravel the complexities of romantic connections and shed light on the different forms love can take. I'll also share some personal stories and observations I've gathered from talking to various couples. These real-life experiences will help us explore the diverse ways people express and experience love. Lastly, we'll offer some practical tips and advice based on both research and personal insights.  Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Sternberg Theory: Find out More! Psychologist Explains (Video):  Sternberg Theory Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support

Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help.  As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is there really such a thing as love at first sight? Which foods can hurt your libido? How do I know if I sleepwalk? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. First broadcast: 26/07/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love is without doubt one of the most fascinating and elusive topics in human psychology. You might have wondered at some point just what it is that makes romantic relationships work, and whether there are objective criteria that help.  As we delve into the realm of human emotions and relationships, let's discuss the Triangular Theory of Love. It was proposed by American psychologist Robert Sternberg in 1986, while he was teaching at Yale University. It actually went viral on Tiktok earlier this year, with the Triangular Theory of Love hashtag reaching over 850,000 views Is it anything to do with a love triangle ? What if a relationship has more of one component than the other two ? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: What is the Great Pacific Garbage Patch ? What's the point of flight mode? Is bikini waxing harmful for your health? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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I mention Dr. Chapman's love languages, but I explain a way to use them that you may not have heard before. I also talk about Dr. Sternberg's Triangular theory of love, and how to not use it against yourself. Lastly, I include a few types of love I've experienced in my own life. Expand your thinking of love. Dr. Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love: https://www.hofstra.edu/pdf/community/slzctr/stdcsl/stdcsl_triangular.pdf Gary Chapman: https://5lovelanguages.com/learn

Defining something as complex as romantic love can seem futile. Despite its ambiguity, psychologists have tried understanding the "how" and the "why" of love. One of the most well-known ones is Sternberg's triangular theory of love. It gives us a broad overview of the many faces of love and how it impacts our connections.  Learn about the three components and seven types of love based on Sternberg's triangular theory of love and how it can enhance your experience of loving consciously. 

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Happy Valentine's Day from The Psychotic Break! For this love themed holiday, Madey and Kimi look at Sternberg's Triarchic Theory of Love. Kimi and Madey will deep dive into the different combinations of relationships and their own desires for a partner.Check it out and spread the love!

Which of the seven kinds of love are you experiencing in your relationship today? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains the Triangular Theory of Love and the three core components of love that are the pillars of romantic relationships.

In English, we use the word love to describe a variety of emotional states. Are we talking about passionate love, intimate love, committed love, unconditional love or do you tell somebody that you love them simply as a term of endearment? Some people grew up hearing “I love you” on a daily basis in their family, while others are still waiting for the day that their parent may finally utter those three simple words that they have been craving since childhood. Tony talks about Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, and how not only our interpretation of the word, or concept of love, as well as how we put “love” into action can go a long way in describing our relationships...from where they are now, to what you may long for. (Tony refers to the article https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/consummate-love throughout the episode). Head to tonyoverbay.com/magnetic to be the first to know the start date of Tony's next round of his "Magnetic Marriage" course. This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You'll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you'll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBoTony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4. The book debuted in the number 1 spot in the Sexual Health Recovery category and remains there as the time of this record. The book has received numerous positive reviews from professionals in the mental health and recovery fields.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs, and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ  

This week we discuss "The Triangular Theory of Love', a theory developed by Robert Sternberg in the mid-1980s (ignore Bradford and his blatant incorrectness on the dates during the podcast). If you're keen on psychology and love this is a podcast for you!Special thanks to all of our Discord users! Become one by supporting us on Patreon.As always, thank you for listening.Find us on social media!!!On Twitter @BytheBiPodcastOn Facebook @BytheBiPodcastOn Instagram @BytheBiPodcastOr email us hereWant to help us out? Sure you do!!!Help us out on Patreon and join our Discord chat hereFind sexy couples in your area on the best damn open lifestyle community in the USA: AltPlaygroundWanna get your own prize from Geeky Sex Toys? Head over here!Please help out, and donate to Bi+ Visibility by clicking the link here!Leave some feedback for us on whatever medium you listen to your podcasts on. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Does love got to do with it? This episode is also available as a blog post: http://mediacritiquechic.com/2016/06/05/love-buffet-an-application-of-sternbergs-triangular-theory-of-love/

Kalau ditanya soal hubungan cinta yang ideal dan sempurna, menurut perseners yang seperti apa sih? Spesial di hari valentine, Uti dan Kak Tesya akan ngomongin soal salah satu teori cinta dari Stenberg, yaitu Stenberg's Triangular Theory of Love, dimana ada 3 komponen yang katanya membentuk cinta yang ideal! Ada banyak banget tipe cinta, dari empty love sampai consummate love, alias cinta yang paling ideal, Nah, kalo kamu penasaran dengan tipe cinta yang kamu miliki dengan si dia saat ini, yuk langsung dengerin! Jika kamu memiliki permasalahan yang ingin diceritakan, kamu bisa coba konsultasi dengan Mentor dan Psikolog Satu Persen, caranya dengan klik link ini: https://bit.ly/2SVLk77 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ APA ITU SATU PERSEN? ▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀ Satu Persen adalah startup pendidikan Indonesia yang fokus pada kesehatan mental, pengembangan diri, dan edukasi life-skills. Satu Persen memiliki layanan 1) Konsultasi dengan Mentor, 2) Konseling dengan Psikolog. 3) Webinar, dan 4) Kelas Online. Untuk info lebih lanjut tentang layanan satu persen, kamu bisa akses https://satupersen.net/ ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀ E-Mail: hello@satupersen.net E-Mail for Partnership: partnership@satupersen.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/satuperseno... Podcast: http://bit.ly/satupersenaudio Twitter: https://twitter.com/satupersen_id Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/satupersenof... ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ TIM PODCAST ▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀▀ Host: Gusti Anindya Guest : Kak Tesya Audio Editor: Ananda Luchiano Poster Illustrator: Muhammad Sulton Wahyudi Poster Designer: Ryno Andryano Podcast Officer : Dimas Septian V, Gusti Anindya ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ Satu Persen, Lebih Baik Setiap Harinya #SatuPersen #HidupSeutuhnya #MentalHealth

Dating is one thing, but building healthy long-term relationships is ANOTHER story. That's why Michelle Grosser, facilitator of the SYMBIS premarital course, is the perfect guest for today's topic. Michelle wears many hats. She's also a lawyer, a wife, a mom, and a servant leader. She's incredibly smart, insightful and a total joy to spend time with! Listen to this interview, until the end, there's not a minute to waste. We talked about: Achieving career-related goals while keeping a healthy relationship for so long. Surviving challenges in marriage, including miscarriages and postpartum depression. How to build a strong foundation in your relationship. The formula of love - aka the Triangular Theory of Love. How to transition out of the honeymoon stage. How to identify red-flags in long term relationships. How to know when it's time to break up a long term relationship. The increasing fear of commitment in women. The importance of defining femininity for you and to explore it in your relationship. Remember that you can download your FREE mini course on how to make CONFIDENT choices today. It's time to start moving forward, to start taking action in 2021: http://bit.ly/confidentchoice I can't wait to see you also on the blog: fairlybold.com Make sure to follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eugenia.woo/ –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Track: Moment — Amine Maxwell [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: https://youtu.be/VsRtJMPwkRE Free Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/moment ––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

For titillating Tuesday, Sarah discusses a psychological theory about....love. This short but sweet episode is the perfect mix of of history and mystery. Most definitely titillating.

TAP IN gang dropping a mid week episode. We celebrate Cairo's Birthday. We address men being glorified for getting out of jail over graduating college. Does a man that cheats make him a bad person or just a man who allowed lust to takeover? JT breaks down the levels of love. Romantic vs. Compassionate Love, Triangular Theory of Love (Passion, Intimacy Commitment). And we break down how we all love but may love that person differently than they deserve to be loved. TAP IN!

Teaser: “You’ll have to tell her you’ll be going back to the ranch with me.”  She nodded her head.  “Forever, Cyn.  Not just until the baby’s born.  None of that for us.”  He could tell she was struggling with this.  Her wedding vows, her commitment, hadn’t been made at that little Vegas chapel, but would be made right now, here in this rumpled bed.  He waited.  She glanced away from him.  Chewed her lip, tears filling her eyes.  He felt like every sort of bastard in the world, but he had to be tough, almost cruel on this issue.  They had to commit to each other, one hundred percent.  She nodded her head and he knew he had her.  He wanted her to come to him of her own free will, not because her hand had been forced.  But he'd take her any way he could." Danielle & Kim mock the above hot rubbish and also discuss Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, types of relationships and the history of monogamy. https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/consummate-love https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201407/7-different-kinds-non-monogamy  

Welcome to another podcast at Metaphysical Round Table!!! Here is week 40 with hosts Jennifer, Kat and Rachel! Join us every week for a humorous look at spirituality, lifestyle, healing and anything metaphysical! This week with special guest hostess with the most-est Magalie we talked about Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love, weekly Numerology, Tarot reading for the upcoming week, a Spirit/Medicine Animal, a Crystal reading and much, much more!!! Thanks for listening Round Table Fan’s!! We LOVE you!! Listen to us anytime for free on SoundCloud, YouTube, Podbean, Patreon and iTunes! Metaphysical Round Table is a humorous weekly podcast about spirituality, lifestyle, healing and anything metaphysical! Hosted by psychics, readers and healers, this amusing show centers around issues happening in the world and how it affects us energetically and spiritually. Every show has a tarot card reading for the week, numerology for the upcoming week, a Spirit/Medicine animal, a crystal to use, a moon phase report, discussions about other dimensions, aliens and even talks about sex! Join us every week in a no holds barred discussion that will make you think, make you laugh and hopefully empower you to walk stronger on your spiritual path! Find us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter! Humor, Metaphysical, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Tarot Cards, Oracle Cards, Empaths, Moon Phases, Magic, Crystals, Healing, Astrology, Numerology, Spirit Animals #Humor, #Metaphysical, #Spirituality, #Lifestyle, #TarotCards, #OracleCards, #Empaths, #MoonPhases, #Magic, #Crystals, #Healing, #Astrology, #Numerology, #SpiritAnimals

You’re in a relationship that isn’t working or certainly not as well as you’d like. Maybe there isn’t enough of something that you once had, but you don’t know what it is. You feel a growing emptiness and want to do what you can to salvage this thing. While it takes two willing parties to make a relationship work, we introduce some things that help you at least identify what might not be working and how you might make adjustments to have a happier relationship. In part one of a two-episode series, we explore the concepts of passion and intimacy from Dr. Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love. We address how men get it wrong in these two areas and how they can change their attitudes, actions, and attributes to have a healthier partnership. Questions answered in this episode: What are the factors that create a healthy sense of passion in a relationship? How do you develop intimacy with your partner? What is the role of commitment in good relationships? How do we improve our ability to resolve conflicts in romantic relationships? Other topics discussed: How the non-alpha handles passion The role of fun and humor in creating passion Increasing your attractiveness without overdoing it How arousal works Some differences in sexual fulfillment for men and women Intimacy defined How the average guy messes up intimacy Increasing friendship and conversation How her closeness with her friends and your bonding with your own tribe of dudes improves your sense of intimacy in your romantic relationship Relevant Links: https://alphaquorum.com/ https://tacomoto.co/ https://bradsingletary.com http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/B0007Q1CI6/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2KZOF8U2KR0LL&dchild=1&keywords=sex+books+for+men&qid=1586497276&sprefix=men+sex+books%2Caps%2C278&sr=8-3 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001E2NXBG/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i2 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/080241270X/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tpbk_p1_i0 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/alphaquorum/message

One of the most important decisions anyone can make is who you choose to spend your life with. Marriage impacts us emotionally, socially, legally, financially, and in so many other ways. While the divorce rate in America is dropping, so is the marriage rate. That means married couples understand marriage is important, we might not know exactly where to turn for good advice. Today, I sat down with Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of Marriage Helper, to learn more about the reasons why marriages end and what couples can do to save them. Kimberly explores three broad categories of marriage trouble, details some of the warning signs, and outlines steps that we can take today to be better partners tomorrow.  https://youtu.be/WEPKztSpgE4 The Top Three Reasons Marriages End You’ve probably heard it said that money ends marriages. You might have also heard of people divorcing because they didn’t get along. It turns out that those common explanations aren’t the biggest reasons why marriages end. Kimberly says that research from the University of Washington shows that the main reasons that marriages end can be divided into three broad categories ... not feeling: Liked, Loved, or Respected  So where does money come into play? Often times, financial issues are symptomatic of something bigger. When a couple divorces due to finances, they are not on the same page. As a result, that can often lead to one partner feeling continually disrespected. That’s not to say that money can’t take a toll on someone’s marriage or relationship--it can and it does. In fact, financial problems are often symptomatic of a core issue--like a lack of respect--impacting the couple.  What Does It Mean to Feel Liked? Often times, people treat the idea of liking someone and loving someone interchangeably. Other times, we might think of love as the next step after we already like someone. Not so, says Kimberly. There is a difference between like and love, and partners crave feeling both.  When you feel liked, you have the sense that your spouse wants to be around you and wants to interact with you on a daily basis. Kimberly says that there are ways to evaluate this in your own relationship. Do you like your partner's presence? Do you enjoy spending time together? Do you want to converse and interact with them often? Thinking about how you would answer these questions about your partner and then considering how they might answer should unlock more insight into what it means to feel liked in a marriage. What Does It Mean to Feel Loved? Love is more than day-to-day interaction and wanting to spend time with someone. That is why Kimberly is so quick to point out that feeling loved is different than feeling liked. To feel loved is to feel that your partner puts you first. When we feel loved, we feel that our partner is selfless. They consider our needs before their own. According to St. Sternberg’s Triangular Theory, there are three aspects to love: Intimacy Passion Commitment A couple who is in love is committed to the relationship, even if things aren’t going well. There is a craving to be one, and there is a deep connection between partners.  What Does It Mean to Feel Respected? People often give and believe incorrect advice: men need respect and women need love. Kimberly emphasizes just how inaccurate this is. She says that every human craves to be liked, loved, and respected in their relationship. Kimberly elaborates further, saying that respect is key, no matter the person.  Understanding how finances impact your marriage can help you also understand what it means to be respected in a marriage. For instance, if one person in the relationship wants to save 10% of their income and the other person chooses to spend differently regardless of their partner’s ambitions, this can be a sign of disrespect. Couples don’t have to be in total alignment or agreement with every value and want; instead, it is important to think about how our words and actions complement our partner. Without this consideration, you can end up making your partner feel disrespected, which can start to erode your relationship.  Related Article: My Spouse Doesn't Want to Talk About Money. What do I do? Ways to Avoid Marriage Problems Every couple fights. Disagreements are part of life. But there are ways to avoid or minimize marriage problems.  Get to Know Your Partner Again As a married couple, it is vital to learn what is more important to your partner. Kimberly says couples often start out strong but then stall out. Frequently, couples ask plenty of questions when they are dating and when they are engaged. However, once a couple gets married, it can almost feel like the final level of the relationship has been unlocked. Kimberly says that for many couples, this is when they start to grow apart. They feel like they’ve already achieved what they wanted, so the conversations and the questions slow to a halt.  To remedy this, Kimberly suggests deliberately asking your partner one question each day. She also says not to worry about finding the “right” question. Instead, simply attempt to learn a little bit more about them. Some possible questions include: “Tell me about a trip you enjoyed as a kid.” “What is your favorite restaurant near ____?” “Who was your best friend growing up?” The point is to show your partner a continued interest in their life. Continually asking questions can help you grow that knowledge and interest over time.  Speak Up In addition to getting to know your partner, take time to reveal more about yourself. For instance, let your partner know what you consider to be a sign of love and affection. Of course, there are certain things--flowers, chocolate, or champagne--that people associate with symbols of love and caring. However, it’s really important to know your spouse and to let them know you. If you would much prefer a thoughtful note or a kind gesture over a dozen roses, communicate that. Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader.  Assess and Act Intentionally  In addition to communicating clearly, we need to be more intentional. Ask yourself what you know about your partner and what you don’t. Then, make it a point to start to fill in the gaps.  Kimberly suggests doing a quick self-assessment by asking three questions: Do I want to see this relationship through to the very end? Do I have a craving for my spouse? Do I feel a deep connection for my partner?  If you aren’t answering an immediate yes, don’t fret. One of the most crucial ways to build a stronger marriage is to identify where gaps exist. Kimberly says taking the time to complete this mental inventory provides an awareness of where to start.  Kimberly's Personal Experience  Kimberly isn’t just speaking from a theoretical perspective. She knows firsthand how one experience can make it seem like you and your partner are on two totally different pages. Kimberly recalls the moment she learned that her husband wanted to buy a car at auction. She says she wasn’t actually opposed to the idea of buying the car. The problem was that he had actually already placed a bid for $5,000. She had no idea.  In that moment, she knew she could respond one of two ways: With anger, or With respect Even though she felt justified in her anger, she knew that by being angry and possibly even disrespectful, she would only perpetuate the issue. That is why she chose to focus on what she wanted to happen next time. To her, it wasn’t about buying a truck. She wasn’t trying to question his wants; instead, she needed to communicate to her partner how important it was that she be looped into conversations and decisions, financial and otherwise.  Kimberly Holmes and her family The Importance of Communication When our busyness becomes overwhelming, that’s a recipe for disaster. Or it’s at least a recipe for arguments and strain on your relationship. That’s why communication is crucial. In addition to having daily conversation and interaction with your partner, communicate to take the guesswork out of marriage. Speak up when your partner does something that you don’t like and make sure to tell them what you do like and value.  Additionally, Kimberly says speaking up at the right time can make all the difference. Sometimes, we can feel so attacked or hurt that we speak up out of anger. The problem is that type of communication is rarely productive. Conflict is rarely the emergency that we think it is. Addressing an issue outside of anger almost always yields better and more productive results.  It can be challenging at first, but once we learn to accept that we are not perfect spouses, we can commit to learning and growing alongside our partners. Kimberly recommends asking yourself ... “What do I need to work on?” “How do I work on that each day?” These incremental strides will go a long way.  The Importance of Time There’s no way around this. You have to make time for what really matters. Kimberly’s advice is to focus on how to de-scale your schedules. To know what is truly important, ask yourself what matters right now. Then ask yourself what will matter in 5 years, 20 years or even 50 years. Chances are, your answer is centered on family, not the current project at work that is claiming all of your time or the four different travel sports leagues you signed your child up for.  You don’t have to eliminate everything; instead, make sure that you are carving time out for what really matters to you. Once you identify your priorities, focus on them. Kimberly suggests literally blocking out time on a schedule. No matter what else you do to improve your marriage, Kimberly emphasizes that making time makes the biggest difference.  Incorporating Rituals A key way to avoid marriage problems is to incorporate rituals into your relationship. The ritual does not have to be anything dramatic or over-the-top. Instead, it can simply be a way to underscore what you know about your partner. For example, if you know they loved playing board games as a child, planning monthly game nights can be a fun throwback. If your partner grew up taking a road trip each summer, make it a point to plan some kind of travel together. Related Interview: Why Date Night is So Important in Marriage The point isn’t to recreate the past or live in it. Instead, you simply want to show your partner that you know them and that you value them.  Of course, communicating expectations is key here. It’s impossible for your partner to plan rituals if you never share what is meaningful to you. Finding a way to say what you need from your partner is important.  Continuing to Work On Your Marriage A marriage is always a work-in-progress. If you and your spouse are willing to continually put in the work to make each other feel liked, loved, and respected, you can avoid many of the challenges others face. No spouse is perfect, and no one needs to be. Make a commitment today to reflect, think, and start speaking up. 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Good Morning and Good Coffee! Today we continue with our series on marriage and the third element of the Five Foundations of a Successful Marital Relationship, which is LOVE. Love is often a problematic word in our language because we say we love "everything", but marital love is comprehensive and definitely more than just a feeling. I mention about viewing it as a math formula: Mental Commitment + Emotional Intimacy + Physical Passion = Comprehensive Marital Love. I also reference Robert J. Sternberg and what he calls the Triangular Theory of Love. More information can be found on this at the following links. http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4a0FnoNU68g --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/larry-quicksall/message

Robert Sternberg, professor of human development, describes his triangular theory of love.

If you were to ask a room full of people whether or not they’ve ever cheated on a partner or have been cheated on by a partner, you’d likely get every single person to say “yes” to one or the other, if not both.  Affairs are such a common thing in intimate relationships.  And, so profoundly painful--certainly for the partner who was betrayed by the affair, but also, according to this week’s guest Beth Luwandi Lofstrom, for the offender.   When we cheat, it has a way of really getting at the core of who we are.  We think we know ourselves and where our boundaries lie, but this thing we never thought we’d do has us questioning everything.  Often, by the end of it, we just want peace.     Beth Luwandi Lofstrom has developed her own theory and methodology for working with couples who have experienced an affair and it may go against the usual grain.  As therapists, we of course come into the room with our own biases about infidelity.  Those biases don’t often tend toward understanding of the offender.  And according to Beth, therapists are often focusing on the wrong things in our work with couples working through infidelity.   In this episode, we discuss:   The problem with our usual labels for the person who has the affair in a relationship and what Beth prefers to call them. Why it’s so important that the offending partner is healed properly and why integration doesn’t go deep enough. Why ‘Why’ is the wrong question to work through in the clinical space and what we should ask instead. Beth’s theory, Whole Human Theory, what it means, and how it informs the work she does with couples. Why the mind-body connection is lacking and how it leaves one third of the population out of the conversation. The Gentle Benevolent Observer as the highest part of a person, what it is and why it is often underdeveloped. The differences between good couples counseling and poor couples counseling. Beth’s upcoming book, who it’s for and what it intends to do. Whether humans truly are not wired for monogamy and how Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love applies to this question. The role of “the snake” in the Gentle Benevolent Observer’s existence. Referenced in this episode: Enneagram Personality Typology [Graphic depicting Holistic Human Parts Theory:]     Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love You can find Beth Luwandi Lofstrom online at BethLuwandi.com. And Beth's new book After the Affair; Healing for the offender will be available later this month; you can find it on her new site wholehumantheory.com. You can also connect with Beth on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Are you a part of the #POBScast Community?  If not, join us.  Let’s continue the conversation about this and other favorite episodes there.   If you’re looking for a unique, experiential gift to give your partner this holiday season, consider this upcoming Valentine’s Retreat I’m co-leading at Menla Mountain Resort.