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What if the “therapist” you're pouring your heart out to… isn't a therapist at all? In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind Seven Cups Therapy and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support. This isn't just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It's about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they're at their most vulnerable. We dive into how this happens, how to protect yourself (or someone you care about), and how to tell the difference between a real therapist and a clever imposter. If you've ever Googled "online therapy" late at night and clicked on what looked like a trustworthy, affordable platform, you NEED to hear this. Timestamps: 01:43 - What's Really Going On with Online Therapy Platforms 03:44 - Seven Cups Therapy: Behind the Curtain 05:21 - Why You Shouldn't Trust Those Awards and Reviews 07:52 - "Virtual Counselors" vs. Actual Therapists 10:45 - How to Spot Therapy Fraud in the Wild 12:50 - Ethical Gray Zones in the Coaching Industry 14:56 - Red Flags of Fake Support Services 18:48 - The Danger of Marketing Funnels Masquerading as Help 21:22 - How Fake Therapy Can Harm Real People 23:02 - The Truth About Licensing, Credentials & Oversight 25:48 - Behind the Scenes at Seven Cups: A Reporter's Story 28:32 - Inappropriate Chatroom Behavior and No Accountability 37:16 - Free Resources to Help You Make Empowered Choices If you're looking for actual therapy or coaching from trained, licensed professionals—not a chatbot or a mystery stranger in Timbuktu—you can always find help here at Growing Self. We offer real free consultations so you can find a great fit and know exactly what you're signing up for. No pressure, no weird bait-and-switch. Just ethical, expert support that actually works. 

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you're still not good enough? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You've got more to prove”. But what if fear isn't your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose? In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity.  Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the parts of ourselves that try to protect us from failure, and offer a new path forward: one where your gifts and your story become your superpowers. Get ready to look at fear differently, reclaim your confidence, and learn to move forward—not from a place of proving, but from a place of purpose. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why You're Still Not Enough (Even After All the Achievements) 02:01 – Mary's Story: From Single-Wide Trailer to Yale Law 03:55 – Why Fear Isn't the Villain You Think It Is 06:14 – The Power of Owning Your Hard Story 14:15 – When Fear Shows Up, You're Closer Than You Think 18:06 – Creativity, Fear, and the Impostor Trap 24:27 – What To Do With Fear When It Gets Loud 29:23 – Catching Fear in the Act 30:35 – A Totally Different Kind of Coaching 36:01 – Your Inner Critic Isn't Evil—It's Trying to Protect You 39:24 – Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Productivity Traps 45:55 – Underestimated: When They Miss Your Magic (and You Do, Too) 55:58 – Make Art Anyway: Excellence Without Validation 57:02 – Finding Clarity and Confidence If you feel like you're hustling for your worth—trying to prove something to someone, maybe even to yourself—it might be time for a new approach. I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching for exactly this purpose—to support brilliant, driven people just like you in shedding their limiting beliefs, getting clear on their direction, and moving forward into their dream life with confidence.  Clarity and Confidence Coaching is an incredible 8-week journey led by my team of trained therapist-coaches. It's evidence-based, transformational, and wildly affordable — just $49/session right now as part of our practicum program. You'll be guided with depth and care and use life changing coaching strategies to rewrite your inner script and start taking action — from your strengths, not your fear.

What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won't last forever? In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now.  Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn't morbid at all—it's deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and start living for meaning with clarity, courage, and joy. We'll explore identity-based habits, reverse-engineering your values, and how writing your own eulogy (yep, really!) can actually help you build a life you're proud to live. This isn't about bucket lists or productivity hacks—it's about being intentional and making sure your time, energy, and love are going exactly where you want them to. Timestamps: 0:00 – The Problem With To-Do Lists 3:12 – Facing the Funeral Test: What Will They Say About You? 6:38 – Memento Mori: Mortality as a Motivator 15:05 – Identity-Based Habits and Core Values 20:44 – Who Do You Need to Become? 24:18 – A Ripple Effect That Lasts Generations 27:35 – Aristotle's Happiness Formula 32:10 – The Near-Life Experience We Must Escape 36:42 – Your “To-Die” List vs Your To-Do List 40:55 – Creating Daily Habits That Reflect Who You Want to Be 44:00 – What Happens When You Align With Your Core Values 47:26 – The Marble Ritual: Measuring Time With Intention 53:18 – Monthly Reflections and Making This Summer Count 58:01 – Why Fun and Gratitude Are Core Values Too 1:02:20 – It's Not About Death—It's About Life 1:07:08 – How to Start Living for Meaning Now Don't wait for a crisis to wake you up. Choose to wake up now. Live for meaning. Be intentional. Remember that life is short, and that's what makes it beautiful. And if you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed by where to begin, I'd love to help. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching was made for moments just like this one. In this powerful work, you'll reconnect with your deepest values, rediscover your purpose, and learn how to make intentional choices that move you toward the life you truly want. Whether you're navigating a big life transition or simply ready to stop running on autopilot, coaching gives you tools, insight, and support to create lasting, meaningful change. Curious if it's right for you? You can schedule a free consultation with our team. We'll talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how clarity and confidence coaching can help you bridge the gap. Also, come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube — I'm always sharing tips, inspiration, and behind-the-scenes real talk to help you stay connected to what really matters. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If this message resonated with you, think of someone in your life who might need to hear it too. Forward this article to them. Let's keep the ripple going. That's living for meaning, too.  

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don't want to do this anymore”? If that's where you are right now—first of all, I'm giving you a big virtual hug. Second of all, you're not broken, you're not failing, and you're on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that's happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I'll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you're genuinely excited to wake up to. It's time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade. Timestamps: 0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It's Actually a Gift 2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call 5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What's Not Working 8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics) 12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You're Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps 17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything 21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time) 25:33 – When It's More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do 30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy If you're sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I'm ready to change," I want you to know: you don't have to figure this out alone. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We'll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works. The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to get matched with the right coach for you. You'll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck. Oh! And don't forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I'd love to see you there. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything.

Let's be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would've medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you're in the right place. As a therapist and coach, I've worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you.  In this episode, we'll talk about what overthinking really is, how it's different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence. Timestamps: 00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics 01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It 03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here's How to Tell 06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain 09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral 14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind 16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What's Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It'll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world. And if you're ready for real change, you don't have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that's actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who's a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help. Lastly, let's stay connected! I'm always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone whose brain just won't shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today.

There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I've walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I'll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage. Today we're unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life's biggest crossroads. We'll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won't engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go. Timestamps: 00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing 02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone 10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn't Work—and What Does 31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help? 49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step I've put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It's a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they're struggling, and what might be possible. You'll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website. If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we'll help you find the right next step, whether that's discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you. And hey — I'd love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I'm always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who's going through this exact same thing? Maybe they're stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven't told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.  

Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it's been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you're wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you're still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you. I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I'm walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it's not your fault — it's biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom. Together, we'll explore the hidden layers that keep people emotionally stuck after a breakup — and I'll share some of the healing work in my Heal From Heartbreak Program that can help you finally stop thinking about your ex for good. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex? 06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak 14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery 28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur 38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future 48:14 – You're Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex If this episode resonated with you, please know this is just the beginning of what's possible. If you want a full, guided journey through every layer of healing, I created the Heal From Heartbreak Program for exactly this purpose. In the self-paced program, I'll walk you through all nine stages of breakup recovery, with optional group coaching or one-on-one support from our expert breakup coaches — all of whom are licensed therapists trained in breakup recovery. This isn't just about “getting over it”. It's about becoming whole again. You are not alone in this, and with the right support you can turn this breakup into your biggest breakthrough. This program goes live this Friday, 5/16 and you can sign up for the waitlist here: Heal From Heartbreak Program. Once the program is live, you can start healing right away. No more waiting to feel better or trying to figure it out on your own. I'm so excited for you to check it out. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Ready to find out what stage of healing you're in? Take my free breakup quiz to find out and get a free custom report with the next steps to heal your broken heart. And if you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.  

Ever wake up at 3am thinking, “What am I doing with my life?” If so, you are not alone—and you are definitely not lost. In this inspiring episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm joined by bestselling author, NYU professor, and former editor-in-chief of the Harvard Business Review, Suzy Welch, to help you get the career clarity and alignment that you deserve. Suzy shares her personal journey of reinvention and introduces her life-changing methodology from her new book, Becoming You. This isn't just motivational fluff. We're talking concrete tools and research-backed frameworks to help you get clarity around your path, stop second-guessing yourself, and make empowered choices about your life and career—without burning it all down. Timestamps: 00:00 – “What Am I Doing With My Life?" 02:20 – Suzy Welch's Story 05:55 – Discovering Your Real Values 14:57 – What to Do When the Lighthouse Goes Dark 29:35 – The 3-Part Framework That Changes Lives 35:23 – The Value of “Scope”: Big Life vs. Little Life 40:13 – Eudemonia and Generational Differences 43:35 – Aptitudes, Personality, and the Enneagram 47:23 – Don't Quit the Job Yet: Is It the Role or the Culture? 52:45 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts I hope this episode inspired you as much as it did me. And I want you to know you don't have to figure this out on your own. Our Clarity and Confidence Coaching pairs you with an expert therapist trained in coaching psychology to help you uncover your purpose, break through fear and confusion, and take decisive steps toward a fulfilling career.  You can schedule a free consultation to talk to an expert on our team. No pressure, just a warm, judgment-free conversation with someone who truly understands. This is your moment to stop second-guessing and start moving forward — with clarity, courage, and real support. And hey — if you're not already following me on Instagram or YouTube, come say hi! I'm always sharing bite-sized wisdom, clips from interviews with experts, and free resources to support you on your journey to love, happiness, and success. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who's been feeling lost or unclear about their career path—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.  

What if your anxiety, brain fog, or mood swings aren't in your mind... but in your mitochondria? I know—that sounds wild. But in this jaw-dropping episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I'm talking with Dr. Bret Scher about something that completely changed the way I think about mental health: Metabolic Psychiatry. We dive into the cutting-edge (but surprisingly old!) science behind mind and energy psychiatry  that connects mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, ADHD, and even serious psychiatric conditions with how your body uses energy. Spoiler alert: your brain runs on fuel, and what you eat matters a lot more than we were taught in grad school. Together, Dr. Scher and I unpack how ketogenic therapy is helping people reclaim their mental clarity, lift mood disorders, and, in some cases, experience complete transformation. If you've been “doing the work” and still not feeling like yourself, this conversation might be the missing piece you've been searching for. Timestamps: 00:00 The Link Between Metabolism and Mental Health 01:17 Dr. Brett Scher and Metabolic Psychiatry 02:39 The History and Science Behind Ketogenic Therapy 10:36 Exploring the Ketogenic Diet and Its Benefits 17:59 Implementing a Ketogenic Diet 30:32 Patient Transformations and Success Stories 32:23 Impact of Ketogenic Diet on Mental Health 33:35 Inflammation and Brain Function 34:46 Ketogenic Therapy vs. Traditional Approaches 39:11 GLP-1 Drugs and Metabolic Health 42:42 Implementing Dietary Changes in Families 46:01 Ketogenic Diet for Autism Spectrum Disorders 49:27 Comparing Ketogenic and Plant-Based Diets 52:23 Resources and Final Thoughts I learned SO much from chatting with Dr. Scher. I hope you did too. If you're ready for a more personalized approach to start feeling like yourself again—clear, focused, calm, and energized—I'd love for you to check out my Clarity & Confidence Coaching. It's a powerful way to build self-awareness and make meaningful changes in your life while getting expert support and structure from a licensed therapist trained in coaching psychology. You can book a free consultation call to take the next step. We'll answer all of your questions and help you get started.  And hey, let's stay connected! You can find me sharing more science-meets-heart insights over on Instagram and YouTube—where I drop fresh content every week to help you grow, thrive, and live your best life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who's been struggling, or who's always trying to "fix their mindset" but nothing's working—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.  

Ever feel like you've been in therapy forever and nothing's actually changing? Or maybe you have a life coach that loves to just hang out and vibe instead of actually helping you reach your goals?  In this eye-opening episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that has been driving me absolutely bonkers for years—and might be costing you time, money, and progress. If you've ever felt stuck in therapy, underwhelmed by coaching, or just totally confused about which path is right for your growth, this one's for you. I'm talking about the real difference between coaching versus counseling, why one might be the wrong fit for what you actually need, and how to finally choose the right support system that gets results (without wasting another minute or dollar). Whether you're working on your relationship, your career, or your confidence, this episode will help you get clarity around your path forward. Timestamps: 00:00 Unveiling a Hidden Industry Secret 01:35 The Therapy Gap: Why Traditional Methods Fall Short 06:18 Understanding the Different Types of Therapy 23:34 The Rise of Coaching: A New Solution? 24:26 The Wild West of Coaching: Risks and Realities 34:31 Finding the Right Help: Therapy vs. Coaching 38:29 Evidence-Based Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program 45:54 Conclusion and Next Steps If you're nodding along and thinking, “Yes, this is what I've been missing,” I'd love to invite you into our Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is a results-driven, action-oriented coaching experience designed for people who are ready to make real changes—not just talk about them. What makes it different? It's led by licensed therapists who are trained in evidence-based coaching psychology—so you get both the depth and the direction. No fluff. No therapy traps. Just growth that actually sticks. Schedule a free consultation call to see if it's a good fit. We'll talk about what you're working on, where you feel stuck, and how we can help you move forward with clarity and confidence. If you want to keep learning and growing, I'd love to connect with you on Instagram and  YouTube! Come hang out with me and get tons of free insights and encouragement every week. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who's stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by coaching options, or just craving something real? Share this video with them. You might just be the reason they finally find what works.

Ever feel like you're stuck in molasses with zero motivation, energy, or sparkle? Me too, friend. Let's talk about how to get out of a slump.  In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we're diving deep into that “meh” space we all land in from time to time. Maybe your house is a mess, your energy is flatlined, and your dinner for the third night in a row is fried takeout. Here's the thing, slumps happen. And they are 100% resolvable. I'll be unpacking why these slumps sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly—how to actually get out of them. I'm sharing science-backed strategies, personal stories, and the little mindset and habit shifts that truly move the needle. By the end of this episode, you'll have your very own slump-busting plan—and you'll know exactly where to start, whether you need a mindset shift, a behavior reboot, or both.  Timestamps: 00:00 — Slumps are normal (but let's not stay there) 06:18 — How to spot your personal “uh-oh” signs 10:32 — Slump vs. Depression: What you really need to know 24:44 — Why slumps happen: burnout, transitions, and mystery fogs 31:55 — Lifestyle habits that quietly wreck your vibe 33:17 — Why trying to “feel better” first doesn't work 34:24 — What to do instead (this changes everything) 42:51 — Create your personalized slump-busting strategy 52:28 — Quick wins: tiny shifts that make a big impact 57:54 — Your next steps to get back to YOU If you're ready for a real, lasting reset—come join me and my amazing team in the Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is where the magic happens. Together, we'll help you reconnect with your sense of purpose, build habits that actually support the life you want, and shift the unhelpful thoughts that have been keeping you stuck. It's not about a temporary mood boost—it's about creating true, sustainable transformation from the inside out. Schedule your free consultation now and let's start building your breakthrough together. And, I'd love for us to stay connected! Each week, I drop a new podcast episode and share resources to help you create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday on Instagram and Youtube to talk about the topic of the week and answer all of your questions. So check out the full podcast episode and join me on Thursday at 12pm MT / 2pm EST. I'd be so glad to see you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com  

Dating is challenging enough, so why make it harder by hiding your true self and not asking for what you want? This week, we're joined by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, coach and therapist at GrowingSelf.com, who shares powerful insights on building self-confidence and showing up authentically in your love life. She also breaks down attachment styles - how to identify yours and what it means for your relationships. If yours isn't serving you well, don't worry, Dr. Bobby provides practical tools to help you shift toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.>>>To become the most witty, charming, attractive and polished version of yourself, apply to work with Kristen here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠>>>Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni's Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠This week's episode is brought to you by Beducated. Get an additional 10% off at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2510-askwomen⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beducate.me/pd2510-askwomen

Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain's been scrambled and you're not sure why? Maybe you're suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let's be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend. Today, we're pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don't use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again. In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I'm breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of) 01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people 04:51 – Awareness is your superpower 06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you 09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss 18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you 31:36 – Love bombing: It's not just for dating apps 33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries) 36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong 43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise 54:11 – Let's talk about gaslighting (finally!) 01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff If you're realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you've been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don't have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections. Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you're looking for therapy or coaching, we're here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want. And hey—don't be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let's grow together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who's been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they've been waiting for.

Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn't something you're born with—it's a skill you can learn? ✨ In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it's not. Because here's the truth: toxic positivity isn't helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them. We're diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive' backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don't control performance (and why that's great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it's a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you're just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help.  And if you're ready to take the next step, we're here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we'll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity. I'd also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We're building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us. Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I'll see you in the next one! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let's help each other grow.

In this special episode, I'm joined by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby—licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching—to talk about one of the most challenging dynamics we face as CCPTs: supporting children of divorce while also navigating the emotional needs of their parents. While our clinical work is with the child, we can't ignore the impact of the system around them—and parents are often in crisis themselves. Dr. Lisa shares powerful insight into what parents are really going through during separation and divorce, why most therapists (and parents) are not equipped to handle these transitions well, and what we as CCPTs can do to support families more effectively. We explore how to respond when parents are emotionally dysregulated, how to set boundaries while staying supportive, and why having clear, direct conversations is an act of advocacy for the child. This episode is full of practical, compassionate guidance to help you confidently navigate high-conflict family situations while staying rooted in the CCPT model.  Topic Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction & Welcome to Special Guest Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 01:20 – Lisa's Background & Specialization in Divorce and Co-Parenting 02:45 – What We Miss: Understanding Parents in Crisis 05:35 – Helping Parents Feel Seen and Supported During Divorce 09:40 – Practical Strategies for Supporting Parents from a Distance 14:30 – Why Most Therapists Aren't Trained for Divorce Recovery 19:10 – The Importance of Referring to the Right Kind of Therapist 22:55 – How the Parent's Functioning Affects the Child's Outcomes 27:45 – Having Hard Conversations with Parents—With Clarity and Grace 32:20 – Applying CCPT Principles to Work with Parents 36:55 – Ideal vs. Actual Self in Parenting: Giving Parents a Path Forward 40:15 – Final Takeaways: The Child's Well-Being Depends on the Parent's PlayTherapyNow.com is my HUB for everything I do! playtherapynow.com. Sign up for my email newsletter, stay ahead with the latest CCPT CEU courses, personalized coaching opportunities and other opportunities you need to thrive in your CCPT practice. If you click one link in these show notes, this is the one to click! If you would like to ask me questions directly, check out www.ccptcollective.com, where I host two weekly Zoom calls filled with advanced CCPT case studies and session reviews, as well as member Q&A. You can take advantage of the two-week free trial to see if the CCPT Collective is right for you. Ask Me Questions: Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Brenna's CCPT Hub: https://www.playtherapynow.com CCPT Collective (online community exclusively for CCPTs): https://www.ccptcollective.com Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Twitter: @thekidcounselor https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor Facebook: https://facebook.com/playtherapypodcast

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby—a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching—for an important conversation about how our struggles as parents affect our kids, especially during seasons of divorce, separation, or personal crisis. We explore what parents need to know when navigating big transitions, why your own emotional health directly influences your child's, and how to make decisions with confidence and clarity. We also talk about co-parenting with intention, modeling emotional resilience, and why being the parent you want to be starts with becoming the healthiest version of yourself. Whether you're navigating relationship challenges, dealing with personal setbacks, or simply trying to show up better for your kids, this episode is full of insight, perspective, and practical encouragement. You can find Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby's website and FREE resources at: https://www.growingself.com/ Subscribe & Follow Love, Happiness & Success Podcast - Apple Podcast - Spotify - YouTube - Instagram Ask Me Questions:  Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/ My Newsletter Signup: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/ My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/ Common References: Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group.

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we're diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY. I'm joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child's emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process. We're covering: What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!) What really causes tantrums and dysregulation Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent's role in play therapy (and why it's a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what's really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That's why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨

Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship? Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you're not alone—and, spoiler alert, it's not just in your head. There's real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis. In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing? 00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity 01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships 03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity 07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity 24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups 30:27 - Fear of Being Single 32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself 36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion 39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment 44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity 51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE  Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again. And if you'd like to keep this conversation going, I'd love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there!  Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who's struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup.

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you're just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn't always work, and what actually does. If you're tired of feeling like you're trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down: The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!) Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords) The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles Timestamps: 00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!) 00:51 - Why Therapists Aren't Trained in Heartbreak Recovery 02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist 15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck 24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it's NOT what you think!) 26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?) 34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources I know how hard this is. If you've been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can't seem to move on—please know that it's not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don't have the right map, it's so easy to stay lost in the pain.  That's exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It's completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward.  And if today's conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve!  Here's to your healing and growth.

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it's brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what's really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it's not always what it seems). You'll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational. By the end of this podcast, you'll understand: Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story) The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it's not about you) How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.   Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can't Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don't have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I've seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too.  I took all of the information I've learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you'll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You'll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️ Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com  P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.  

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You're living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can't shake the past, don't worry. There are steps you can take to move forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don't want to. We'll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can't Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today's conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help. First, if you're wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It's a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it.  And if you'd like to keep this conversation going, I'd love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We'll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I'll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me. Sending you warmth and support, always. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it's so easy to overlook. In this podcast episode, I'm sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We're talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We're diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don't worry, your sleep helpline is here!  So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let's talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this!

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers! In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you're diagnosed as an adult. Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it's like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive. Timestamps: 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult 00:42 Meet Jesse S.! 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse's Journey 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis 17:06 ADHD and Relationships 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma 26:39 Thriving in School and Work 28:29 Finding Your Zone 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let's be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem.  The good news? Self-esteem isn't a fixed trait—it's something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you're thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It's quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all.  And don't forget to stay connected with me on social media! I'm always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let's thrive together.

Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You're not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever.  Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy. In this podcast, I'll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We'll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever 00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun 01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy 02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship 03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love 04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication 06:12 – Focus on What's Good (And Watch it Grow!) 07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again 09:31 – Leading with Love 12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments If you've been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I've got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication.

  Ever feel like you're at war with yourself? This might change everything… In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth.

Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you're feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don't worry—you're not stuck!  This week I'm joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we're diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we're going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships. ✨ In this episode, you'll learn: - How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don't define it!) - The healing power of contingent communication in relationships - Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth - The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing 02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development 06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication 13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life 14:31 Healing from the Past 20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns 21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality 23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!) 27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth 30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty 35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration 38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you're in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I'm sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you. Together, we'll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You'll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course. Here's what we cover: [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace. If you've ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it's time to walk away, this episode is for you. Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? Also, I'd love for you to join me for this week's YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we'll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I'll see you there! — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions? This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They're on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes. The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That's why I've created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists. In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"—because if we don't, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them. Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/ Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and what's working—or not working—in your relationship. Plus, you'll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win! If you're a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.  In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we're not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we're transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I've got some incredible free resources for you! 00:00 Introduction  01:58 Roots of Anger  08:36 Communication Strategies  18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence  28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts   Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now!

One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa,  https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?" Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today's podcast, I'm diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic. If this resonates with you, stick around because here's what you'll learn today: The common reasons behind feeling unheard. The impact of emotionally invalidating communication. How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy. Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard. For even more insights, read the full article here.

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can! When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time) Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice. How to Participate: Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts. Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email. I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation. Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

When you have an anxious attachment style, it's hard to feel secure in your most important relationships. But learning how to self-soothe anxious attachment and create a stronger relationship with yourself can be the path to emotional freedom.  On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're discussing how you can stop relying on the people around you to regulate your anxiety, and learn to manage anxious feelings internally. This not only helps you have better relationships, it makes you stronger, happier, and more resilient.  My guest is attachment expert Thais Gibson, a counselor, YouTuber, and founder of the Personal Development School. Thais shared some eye-opening insights in this episode that you won't want to miss!  You'll learn:  00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory 08:19 Thais' Background and Interest in Attachment Theory 16:21 Understanding Attachment Styles 28:15 The Danger of Pathologizing Attachment Styles 33:51 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships 39:11 Strategies for Healing Attachment Wounds 41:15 Reprogramming Core Wounds 45:40 The Power of Auto-Suggestion And so much more. I hope you'll tune in! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — Ready to transform your attachment patterns? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

If you've lived through a divorce, or you're going through one now, you know that ending a marriage comes with a lot of regrets. You might regret not trying harder to save your marriage when you had the chance, or, if the divorce was your choice, you might have difficult moments when you regret your decision. You might even regret marrying your Ex in the first place! Whatever flavor of divorce regret you're experiencing, this episode is for you. I'm talking about how you can not only cope with regret after divorce, but how you can use it to start a positive new chapter in your life.  You'll learn:  03:04 The Purpose of Regret in Healing after a Breakup or Divorce 10:10 Regret's and Its Relationship to Grief 11:07 Shifting Your Perspective on Mistakes and Regret 12:21 Learning from Regret to Build Healthier Relationships 13:47 Differentiating Healthy Regret from Shame 16:43 Exploring Regret through Journaling and Therapy 22:19 Creating a Constructive Narrative that Helps You Grow 24:04 Using Regret as a Catalyst for Change   All of that and more on today's episode. I hope you find this conversation helpful and healing, and that it gives you hope for all the positive things that are still ahead of you.    xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want support in healing after a breakup or divorce? Get in touch: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Do you have a habit of giving too much in relationships? Maybe you say "yes" when you really want to say no, or you offer much more emotional and material support than you receive in return.  All of this sounds noble, but overgiving is a habit that will eventually wear you down (and, that will keep you from having truly satisfying relationships based on mutuality). So how can you stop being an "over-giver" and start creating healthy give and take in your relationships? That's what we're talking about on today's episode.  I've worked with many clients over the years who were card-carrying overgivers. They were all smart, strong, competent people who excel at getting stuff done. The flip side of these strengths can be a habit of over-functioning in relationships, which leads the people around them to underfunction. The result is a situation where they HAVE to do it all, because otherwise, everything will fall apart.  At least that's how it feels. In reality, when you stop over-giving, you open up space for the people around you to step up. Some of them may disappoint you, but often, you will be pleasantly surprised at how the people around you rise to the occassion. You can stop feeling guilty, resentful, overwhelmed, and unappreciated, and start having the nourishing relationships you deserve.  This episode will show you the way! You'll learn:   Why overgiving is damaging to your relationships and your wellbeing What overgiving looks like Why you overgive in relationships How to stop being an overgiver  Tips for setting healthy boundaries  Creating balance through the power of vulnerability and authenticity.  All of that and more for you on today's show. I hope you'll join me!  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you want to break this habit once and for all, we should talk. Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Has the sexual intimacy in your relationship dwindled to almost nothing? Or, do you long to feel desired by your partner, but instead feel like you're being rejected? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn why sexless marriages (or sexless relationships of any kind) happen, and how to reignite the spark with your partner and cultivate the physical and emotional intimacy you crave.  When couples stop having sex, it can be a sign that their relationships are suffering in other ways as well. They may be feeling lonely and emotionally disconnected from each other. Often, there's resentment or an old emotional wound that hasn't been healed. Sexuality can be the canary in the coal mine that lets you know your relationship is in trouble.   It takes courage to explore the root causes of a "dead bedroom." But doing so is the path to rekindling the passion you want and deserve.  On today's episode, I'm answering a question from a listener who's feeling adrift in his sexless marriage, and offering some universal advice that will help every couple communicate better about sex, understand each other more deeply, and keep the spark alive for the long haul.  Tune in to learn:  00:00 The Impact of Dead Bedrooms 04:41 The Importance of Addressing Sexless Marriages 19:23 The Difficulty of Talking About Sexuality 23:34 The Process of Restoring a Healthy Sex Life 30:01 The Meaning and Significance of Sexuality in a Relationship 35:03 Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality 41:19 The Process of Creating Lasting Change in Your Relationship   I hope you'll join me!    And, if you'd like to talk with a Growing Self sex therapist about restoring sexual intimacy in your relationship, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

So, you've got a bad boss. If you're lucky, this will be your last... but unfortunately, toxic leadership is not unheard of. Knowing the signs of a toxic boss can help you protect yourself, manage yoru expectations, and move on to a better situation when the time is right.  A toxic boss can stimy your ability to do your best work, which will not only hold back the company, it can damage your career. They can foster work environments where people feel drained, resentful, or constantly at odds with their coworkers. And when it comes to your emotional wellbeing, working for a crappy boss can really take its toll.  But help is here! Today on the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, we're talking about how to navigate a toxic boss and even use this difficult experience to propel your career forward.  You'll learn:  The signs of a toxic boss. How toxic leadership impacts you, your relationships with coworkers, and your ability to be successful in your career.   How to deal with a bad boss.  Growth opportunities that only come from working for a toxic manager.  All of that and more on today's show. I hope you'll join me! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — I have a collection of articles and podcasts designed to help you thrive in your career. Check it out — I made it for you!    

Do you have a tough internal critic? When you are always talking to yourself in a negative, unkind way, it impacts how you feel about yourself, how you show up in your relationships with others, and how much resilience you have to achieve your goals.  Learning how to recognize your inner critic and talk back to it moves you forward. That's what we're talking about on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. You'll learn:  What the inner critic sounds like Where the inner critic comes from  How self-criticism impacts your confidence and self-esteem How to silence your inner critic How to develop an "inner champion" who encourages and supports you.  And more! I hope this episode helps you silence your inner critic and amplify your inner champion. Because you deserve a loving, supportive relationship with YOU! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — Ready to conquer negative self-talk once and for all? Let's talk: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

F the Fairy Tale is an Amazon #1 Bestseller! Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format.  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, marriage and family therapist, joins Damona for National Breakup Month to normalize the stages of a breakup and help you overcome heartbreak. In an exciting twist, she's brought her own Dear Damona questions! The Dating Dish this week is: Dating News Reveals New Study For the Best Places to Meet New People.  Follow Dr. Lisa on Instagram @DrLisaMarieBobby and check out her Breakup Recovery Program by visiting growingself.com/divorce-counseling-breakup-recovery/ The Dating Accelerator Program is back! Break free from the 5 dating loops and to finally find the relationship you imagine for yourself through this self-paced online program. For a limited time, add on one-on-one coaching too at DamonaHoffman.com/course Read the DatingNews.com article for yourself by visiting: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oU9_Ihv_J_fmA6Xw4gyLCxjc9FeGgqgM3ruuBoTKElw/edit#heading=h.9k0gcldkjk0g Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When relationships are in distress, things change. Conflict is more hurtful and less productive. Couples stop seeing each other's points of view, and stop trusting each other's good intentions. But as an experience couples counselor, I know that the biggest obstacle to healing these relationships is something else — the negative narratives that distressed couples start to believe about each other, without realizing that they're both reacting to the dynamic itself, rather than something essential about their partner.  Understanding what a distressed relationship looks and feels like is important. It can help you get help for your relationship when you need it, and it can help you see past these negative narratives, understand where they're coming from, and bridge the divide.  This podcast episode will show you the way! You'll learn why relationships enter the distress cycle, what it looks like, and what you can do if you and your partner are struggling.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  Ready to meet with a relationship expert? Schedule your free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

What are you good at? Where do you shine? And how can you use your natural strengths to build a happy, fulfilling life? These are the questions you need to be asking yourself along your personal growth journey. But all too often, we focus more on the things we're not so good at, beating ourselves up for our "shortcomings" and pouring precious time and energy into correcting them. I hope this episode convinces you that there's a better way. You can get much further in life by focusing on your strengths, and building upon them to magnify your power and potential. Join me to learn how! Love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you would like the support of an expert who can help you harness your strengths, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

Feeling stuck and dissatisfied with where you are in your life is never a place we want to be in. Perhaps you are contemplating a major life change - moving to a new city, quitting your job, leaving a long term relationship - that you believe will be the antidote to your future happiness and fulfilment. Psychology shows that this might not always be the case. Wanting to change something about our environment may reflect that the true change we need to make is internal.  We are joined by Dr Lisa Marie Bobby, host of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast as she talks us through the unexpected ways we can unlock and begin our next chapter in life. Listen now!    Follow Dr Lisa: https://www.instagram.com/drlisamariebobby/?hl=en  Her website: https://www.the-happiness-class.com/?page_id=30819  Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you are a smart, growth-oriented person, the possibilities for your life are infinite. So how are you supposed to choose a life path? Figuring out what you want in life is easier said than done. It takes self-reflection, courage, and a belief in yourself, even when your choices disappoint others.  This episode will help you learn how to figure out what you want in life so that you can live a life that honors your dreams, values, and unique gifts. Join me! Love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you'd like some expert support with finding clarity and direction in your own life, schedule a free consulation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/  

There are few things worse than wishing you could stop ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, and not knowing how. Rumination happens when our minds aren't at peace with not having all the answers. You'll chew on a painful memory, a lost relationship, or an uncertain future, trying to find solve the problem or find “the answer” that will make it all make sense.  Unfortunately, there is no benefit to rumination. It's not productive problem solving. All rumination does is add to your anxiety, drain your energy, and often, make you feel bad about yourself.  So, how can you put an end to the obsessive, repetitive thoughts? This on "How to Stop Ruminating" will help! My guest is Dr. John Delony, a mental health expert, author, and host of The Dr. John Delony Show. He's sharing some of his top tips from his own research and life experience on how to stop ruminating, once and for all.  I hope you'll join us! Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  Start your journey of growth today: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/  

Ready to start your journey of growth? Let's talk: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ What's standing in between you and your most important goals? It might not be what you think.  Our most significant obstacles in life usually come from inside of us, rather than from external sources. This episode featuring Dr. Sophie Mort will teach you how to get out of your own way, stop self-sabotaging, and begin moving toward the life you want and deserve.  I hope you'll join us!  With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  

Ready to transform your relationship? Let's talk: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/  ------ Is low sex drive ruining your relationship? All long term couples experience sexual dry spells, whether it's due to stress, hormonal changes, emotional disconnection, or simply being too tired to get frisky at the end of a long day (pro tip: sex does not have to happen at bed time!).  Luckily, it doesn't matter how often you're "doing it" — what matters is that you and your partner know how to navigate periods of low sex drive while keeping your relationship healthy and strong.  It's totally possible, and this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast will show you the way! My guests are Vanessa and Xander Marin, authors of "Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations that Will Transform Your Love Life." Vanessa is a sex therapist, and along with her partner Xander, she's sharing her top tips for keeping low sex drive from ruining your relationship — and for reigniting your sexual spark. I hope you'll join us! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby https://www.growingself.com/ 

Is it time to have “The Talk?” Getting into couples counseling may be the best choice you ever make for your relationship… but first, you have to talk to your partner about going to couples counseling, and that can be tricky.  This podcast is about how you can approach this conversation in a way that gives you the best shot at getting your relationship the help it needs. I hope you'll join me! With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  

Post traumatic growth is a real phenomenon. After traumatic things happen to us, we don't stay broken forever. We learn and grow from our most difficult experiences and use them to live more meaningful lives.  But all of that can feel out of reach when you're in the depths of a traumatic loss. This episode will help you begin to move in the direction of growth and healing, so you can reap the benefits of post traumatic growth.  With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  

You know that infidelity is survivable… but it doesn't always feel that way when it's happening to you. Being cheated on by someone you love and trust is a profoundly painful experience. You need some practical tools to process what happened, heal your heart, and begin moving forward again.  This episode is about the tools that will help you survive infidelity and come out the other side stronger than before. I hope you'll join me.  With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  

When you feel like you can't connect deeply with someone you love, it's painful. It's common for people in relationships with emotionally unavailable partners to blame themselves, and believe that if they could just be perfect enough, then their emotionally unavailable partner would magically become responsive and available for the kind of relationship that they want to have.  This mindset makes you feel bad about yourself, and unfortunately, it can push your emotionally unavailable partner even further away. So what should you do? That's what we're exploring on this episode of the podcast. I hope it helps you see where your relationship's growth opportunities are, and make choices that are right for you.  With love,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com  

When you struggle to set boundaries at work, it doesn't just intrude on your personal life, it makes it harder for you to achieve your vision of career success. Learn how to set healthy limits with coworkers, achieve work-life balance, and deal with a boss that doesn't respect your boundaries.  All of that and more on this episode of the podcast.  Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby growingself.com