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 This is the last episode in 2023. Back on Jan. 26, 2024! *Debbie talks to Mary Pipher, a psychologist and bestselling author of 11 books including the ground-breaking Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls.  She was the first psychologist to recognize and articulate why life was difficult for adolescent girls and why so many of them felt bad about themselves.More recently, she has written Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age, about women navigating the transition from middle age to old age (the topic of this podcast!).In 2022, she published a memoir, A Life in Light: Meditations on Impermanence. In her new book, just out in paperback, Mary, now 76, talks about her difficult childhood and her relationship with her parents, the importance of family and community, living in a small town in Nebraska, and what the particular challenges of getting old are. She also talks about forgiveness, about adopting Buddhism and her definition of happiness. Per the title, she's obsessed with light, through trees, on walks, at certain times of day, in certain rooms, and in memories — and how the light makes her feel happy and complete.She says her knowledge about happiness comes from being someone who has struggled with sadness and anxiety much of her life, something that resonates strongly with Debbie.This is a great episode. Mary articulates so well what it's really like to get old and yet still feel so alive.//////////Don't miss the Behind The Scenes essay accompanying each episode in Debbie's [B]OLD AGE on Substack.////////// Mentioned in this episode or useful:MaryPipher.comA Life in Light: Meditations on Impermanence by Mary Pipher (Bloomsbury Publishing paperback edition, Dec. 12, 2023)Reviving Ophelia 25th Anniversary Edition: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher PhD & Sara Gilliam (‎Riverhead Books 2019)Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age by Mary Pipher (Bloomsbury Publishing paperback  2020)Finding Light in Winter by Mary Pipher (Guest Essay for The New York Times, Dec. 11, 2023)This is 74: Mary Pipher Responds to The Oldster Magazine QuestionnaireJane Jarvis, Player of Jazz and Mets Music, Dies at 94 (New York Times, Jan. 30, 2010) Connect with Debbie:debbieweil.comEmail: thebolderpodcast@gmail.com[B]OLD AGE podcast[B]OLD AGE newsletter on SubstackFacebook: @debbieweilInstagram: @debbieweilLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/debbieweil Our Media Partners:CoGenerate (formerly Encore.org)MEA and with thanks to Chip ConleyNext For Me (former media partner and in memory of Jeff Tidwell) How to Support this podcast:Leave a review on Apple PodcastsSubscribe via Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher or Spotify Credits:Host: Debbie WeilProducer: Far Out MediaMusic: Lakeside Path by Duck Lake

Episode Guest: Mary Pipher, Ph.D., speaker and authorEpisode Description: Women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, and loss. Yet as Mary Pipher shows, most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their struggles help them grow into the authentic, empathetic, and wise people they have always wanted to be.In Women Rowing North, Pipher offers a timely examination of women's cultural and developmental issues as they age. Drawing on her own experience as a daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, caregiver, clinical psychologist, and cultural anthropologist, she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to their challenges. "If we can keep our wits about us, think clearly, and manage our emotions skillfully," Pipher writes, "we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and packed properly, the journey can be transcendent if we have good maps and guides." About Mary Pipher:Mary Pipher graduated in Cultural Anthropology from the University of California at Berkeley in 1969 and received her Ph. D. from the University of Nebraska in Clinical Psychology in 1977. She has worked most of her life as a therapist, and she has taught at the University of Nebraska and Nebraska Wesleyan University. She was a Rockefeller Scholar in Residence at Bellagio and has received two American Psychological Association Presidential Citations, one of which she returned to protest psychologists' involvement in enhanced interrogations at Guantanamo. She is the author of ten books, including Reviving Ophelia and her latest, Women Rowing North. Four of her books have been New York Times bestsellers. She is a contributing writer for the New York Times. Get in touch with Mary Pipher:Mary's website: https://marypipher.com/  Purchase Mary's Book, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age: https://revolutionizeretirement.com/womenrowing  Grab our free guide, 10 Key Issues to Consider as You Explore Your Retirement Transition, at https://10keyretirementissues.com/ 

Melanie shares ideas, thoughts, and how-tos for easing up on ourselves.  The conflict between way too much to do and the desperate desire for rest that so many of us are struggling with makes for a toxic soup of stress and anxiety. She dives into a chapter from the book Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing as We Age written by the psychotherapist, anthropologist, and author Mary Pipher. The chapter is "Building A Good Day". (The advice, of course, applies no matter our gender or age.) "To be happy we need to learn how to structure a day that is rich in meaning and joy-producing activities. How we spend our time defines who we are. There is no magical future. Today is our future. Our lives are events that unfurl in real time, minute by minute. Right up there with the need for oxygen, food, and sleep is the need to have a reason to get out of bed every morning." Dr. Melanie Harth's website here Mary Pipher's website here

Pipher, PhD, is the author of 10 books, including #1 New York Times bestseller “Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls” and most recently, “Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age.” In 2013, she published “The Green Boat: Reviving Ourselves in Our Capsized Culture” about environmental activism in Nebraska.

From Surviving to Thriving; Body Inclusive Cancer Care with Tamar Rothenberg   Tamar shares how she connects, collaborates and supports her local dietetic community in LA, becoming an oncology specialist and working with thrivers, why this work is so important to her, mixed messages and weight stigma in the oncology space, how dietitians can help navigate intersecting ideas and address their clients fears around food, how radical acceptance and body trust can support thrivers long-term and how we can work to ensure weight inclusive care in oncology spaces. Here Fi and Tamar speak about:   Living in LA; collaborating and connecting with her local dietetic community and how they support each other.     How Tamar became an oncology specialist (oncology nutrition), her work with thrivers and why this work means so much to her. The mixed messages encountered in the oncology space and how they are being interpreted by people in treatment / post-treatment. Weight stigma, from experience and observation, at screening / pre-treatment, in active treatment and post-treatment.  Navigating the intersecting idea that “I should be grateful that there is now no evidence of cancer” BUT “I feel angry / pissed AND I don’t feel well or at home in my body”. How dietitians can address client fears around food in helpful ways when going through treatment / post-treatment and the power of validation and acknowledgement in this space. How different worlds can collide in healing. Why radical acceptance, body connection and body trust can support thrivers long-term. The importance of understanding and accepting that what might be helpful for one client, may not be helpful for another.  The most important core messages we need to share with our colleagues to ensure weight inclusive care in oncology spaces. As mentioned in the podcast: Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age by Mary Pipher More about Tamar:  Tamar Rothenberg, MS, RDN, specializes in nutrition for breast cancer thrivers in her private practice in Los Angeles. She has a Certificate of Training in Vegetarian Nutrition. She cuts through confusing nutrition information and uses intuitive eating, body trust, and plant foods to get your power back. She’s an adjunct professor of nutrition at Touro College and University. Most recently, she co-authored the study, Coping with Cancer in the Kitchen.   Website: https://www.tamarrothenbergrd.com Instagram: https://Instagram.com/breastcancer.nutritionist FB: https://www.facebook.com/tamarrothenbergRD/  

Please join us for a rare opportunity to be in conversation with Parker J. Palmer, a celebrated author, educator, wise elder, and unique national treasure, as he shares his wisdom about living with both vulnerability and grace as an elder in the age of corona.  For more than five decades, Parker has written and spoken about subjects ranging from contemplation to community, the inner life to public life, education to social change. He is known as one of the nation’s most thoughtful voices, calling us all to ways of being in the world that honor the human heart and promote a humane society. His most recent book is On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old (2018). We will also have the opportunity to hear reflections from Mary Pipher, Nebraska-based clinical psychologist and New York Times bestselling author of several works, including Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age (January 2019), as well as from Prof. Michael Penn, whose remarkable journey -- from childhood poverty to becoming a distinguished Clinical Psychologist and Professor of Psychology at Franklin & Marshall College (all while surviving a near-death experience and focusing research on the pathogenesis of hope and hopelessness) -- is an embodiment of resilience and fortitude in the face of deep uncertainty and adversity. We will invite audience questions and reflections.  Please join us as we collectively probe the challenges and revelations of this unique time in our human unfolding!                  

Join host Elise Marquam Jahns and guest Mary Pipher  - NY Times number one bestselling author of "Reviving Ophelia" and author of her most recent book, "Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age". Mary graduated in Cultural Anthropology from the University of California at Berkeley and received her Ph.D. from the University of Nebraska in Clinical Psychology thereafter. She was a Rockefeller Scholar in Residence at Bellagio and has received two American Psychological Association Presidential Citations. Mary was born in the Ozarks and grew up in rural Nebraska. As a girl she liked reading, writing, swimming, being outdoors and talking to her friends and family. She still enjoys these activities to this day. Pipher is the author of 10 books and is a community organizer and activist for many causes - living in Nebraska with her husband Jim.  Learning Well is sponsored by the Integrative Health Education Center of Normandale Community College. Thank you for your interest in the Edge! Please go to edgemagazine.net to view the latest issue of the Edge. For information on advertising in the Edge please contact Cathy Jacobsen at 763.433.9291. Or via email at Cathy@edgemagazine.net For article submission please contact Tim Miejan at 651.578.8969. Or via email at editor@edgemagazine.net And for further information regarding the Edge Talk Radio contact Cathryn Taylor at 612.710.7720 or via email at Cathryn@EFTForYourInnerChild.com

Older women are the happiest demographic in this country—but you wouldn’t know it based on how our culture talks about them. Mary Pipher, author of _Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age, joins us to set the record straight. If you’re a woman, you’ve probably internalized a million messages about the horrors of getting older: changing bodies, diminished careers, invisibility everywhere. But Mary Pipher wants you to know there’s more to aging than gray hair—there’s also incredible resilience, growth, and even bliss. And the more we build those skills now, the better off we’ll all be. “It’s in everybody's benefit, not just older people’s benefit, to have a new way of redefining older people that is not in terms of loss and diminishment, but in terms of growth.” —Mary Pipher, author of Women Rowing North Whatever life stage you’re in, this interview will speak to you—promise. We talk about: Why ageism is probably a bigger problem for older women than agin. The resilience of older people—and how all of us can bump up our resilience skills now. Why “friendshipping is a verb”—and why building lifetime friendships is “an emotional and mental health insurance policy” for women. Finding gratefulness and joy, even when things are tough. How to transcend our former selves, so we don’t just adapt as we age, but actually savor changes. Handling loss and the power of being with loved ones in their final days. What’s next for Mary: a 25th anniversary edition of her groundbreaking book, Reviving Ophelia, which changed the way we look at adolescent girls. Plus: On our way to a 50-year friendship, caftans on the beach, and why every book needs a launch party with a book cake. (Author photo by Sarah Greder) Links: Mary Pipher Books: Women Rowing North, out now, and the 25th anniversary edition of Reviving Ophelia, out in June The happiness of older women

In the first half hour Patricia interviews Lynn Andrews, bestselling author. She has studied with shamanic women on four continents for more than thirty years. She shares her ancient teachings in her more than 20 books, including the Medicine Woman. Lynn's most recent work, 'The Sacred Vision Oracle. Lynn will discuss The Power Deck; Cards of Wisdom, and how to use the cards to build self esteem and foster empowerment. In the second half Patrica interviews Mary Pipher. Mary is the author of 10 books including her number one New York Times bestseller Reviving Ophelia and her most recent, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age. Pipher will discuss Women Rowing North, a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, and caregiver she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face.

In the first half hour Patricia interviews Lynn Andrews, bestselling author. She has studied with shamanic women on four continents for more than thirty years. She shares her ancient teachings in her more than 20 books, including the Medicine Woman. Lynn's most recent work, 'The Sacred Vision Oracle. Lynn will discuss The Power Deck; Cards of Wisdom, and how to use the cards to build self esteem and foster empowerment. In the second half Patrica interviews Mary Pipher. Mary is the author of 10 books including her number one New York Times bestseller Reviving Ophelia and her most recent, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age. Pipher will discuss Women Rowing North, a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, and caregiver she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face.

In the first half hour Patricia interviews Lynn Andrews, bestselling author. She has studied with shamanic women on four continents for more than thirty years. She shares her ancient teachings in her more than 20 books, including the Medicine Woman. Lynn's most recent work, 'The Sacred Vision Oracle. Lynn will discuss The Power Deck; Cards of Wisdom, and how to use the cards to build self esteem and foster empowerment. In the second half Patrica interviews Mary Pipher. Mary is the author of 10 books including her number one New York Times bestseller Reviving Ophelia and her most recent, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age. Pipher will discuss Women Rowing North, a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, and caregiver she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face.

In the first half hour Patricia interviews Lynn Andrews, bestselling author. She has studied with shamanic women on four continents for more than thirty years. She shares her ancient teachings in her more than 20 books, including the Medicine Woman. Lynn's most recent work, 'The Sacred Vision Oracle. Lynn will discuss The Power Deck; Cards of Wisdom, and how to use the cards to build self esteem and foster empowerment. In the second half Patrica interviews Mary Pipher. Mary is the author of 10 books including her number one New York Times bestseller Reviving Ophelia and her most recent, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing As We Age. Pipher will discuss Women Rowing North, a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, and caregiver she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face.

"I realized that the cultural scripts about older women, first of all, they are often misogynistic, but there are also primarily scripts where are defined by what we no longer have...The real story is this life stage is catalytic for growth. It's a walking into a portal where we have so much opportunity to develop our moral imaginations. our deep sense of gratitude for life, our sense for deep time in the long view, our own authenticity and self-acceptance. So that's what I wanted to do...I wanted to write about what I was actually seeing and experiencing with women my age."   -Mary Pipher    How can we age gracefully in the world today? And, more importantly, how can we age with dignity?   I think a lot about these questions, which is why I’m so elated that I recently got to speak with Mary Pipher, the author of “Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing as We Age.”   Mary wrote one of the preeminent books for teenage girls back in 1994 called “Reviving Ophelia.” Her new book, in her words, is a bookend that provides perspective and wisdom about what it means to be a woman later in life.   Mary called me from her home base in Nebraska to talk about aging, the stereotypes surrounding it, and about how we can find more happiness and meaning as we get older.   I love what she has to say, and I can’t wait for you to listen.   If you’re looking for more inspiration and words of wisdom, then please sign up for my free weekly email newsletter - The Sunday Paper. Visit website mariashriver.com to subscribe. 

Her groundbreaking book, Reviving Ophelia, psychologist Mary Pipher changed the way we looked at girls and adolescence. Now, with her 10th book, she is doing for aging what she did for adolescence, providing a wise and heartfelt guide to happiness in later life. Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age provides an engaging and uplifting examination of how to thrive in life’s later stages and how the struggles we face can help us become the people we’ve always wanted to be.  In this episode you’ll learn: How the end years of life can be the happiest time The role of humor and gratitude in later life Why mercy is a valuable quality to develop

From Mary Pipher, bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia, we now get Women Rowing North, a guide to wisdom and authenticity for women as they age. Cultural therapist Pipher, age 71, understands how women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, grief, and loss. Yet her message is clear and hopeful: most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their very struggles help them let go of stereotypes and grow into authentic, wise, and empathetic women. Pipher's own life and her many roles have schooled her in ways women can cultivate resilient responses to their challenges. "If we can keep our wits about us," she writes, "we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and properly, if we have good maps and guides, the journey can be transcendent." 00:15 Intro to Mary Pipher, author of Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing as We Age 00:50 Other books by Pipher: Reviving Ophelia, The Shelter of Each Other, and Another Country 01:45 Chooses the metaphor of “rowing north” as a bookend to Reviving Ophelia 02:20 Younger and older women all live with cultural stereotypes and scripts 03:30 What does it mean to be old? 04:00 All of Pipher’s books stem from a deep curiosity about her own life 04:20 “Young" old age” vs. “old" old age 05:40 Women 65-75 are the happiest people in America 06:15 Most women deny being old in order to distance selves from cultural script and stories 07:20 Older women tend to be social connectors and experience a time of tremendous growth 08:00 Age can be a source of happiness, bliss, and satisfaction 08:30 Choosing happiness—a skill set often found among women in 70s 10:30 Jane Jarvis, musical prodigy (pianist), had everything she needed to be happy right between her ears 12:00 Age brings changes in body image, social invisibility, and loss of abilities 12:45 How women can reclaim their power 13:00 Story of Michelle Obama’s mother coming to live in the White House 13:45 Exploding the tired, old mother-in-law myth 14:45 "Solutions can’t be legislated; they come from the human heart." 15:15 Female friends give women power and support 15:45 Older women can rescue themselves using decades of practice fighting back against negative messaging 17:00 The power of saying “No” (walking out of any situation we don’t want to be in) 17:45 The power of saying “Yes” (instead of stilling the inner voice) 18:15 Taught to be “good girls” instead of learning to take care of ourselves 19:30 Finding a healthy approach to caregiving, which is very hard work 21:10 Contradictory research on caregiving 21:40 Caregivers need respite and creative strategies for bringing friends into the home 23:50 Keeping connections as lifelines 24:50 True secret of happiness is managing expectations 25:30 Defining happiness on your own terms 26:50 Old age is catalytic for growth 27:00 Suffering increases capacity for bliss, gratitude, empathy, moral imagination, and authenticity 28:30 Stories of resilience, gratitude, and perspective 30:40 How to lean into lessons of suffering without denial 31:20  Taking a gentle approach to our own pain and suffering 31:50 “All of us keep so many appointments we did not make, but we always have choices about how to reframe those experiences.” 32:00 Crafting resplendent narratives: we can’t have a better history, but we can have a better story 32:30 Older women tend to joke around very well and unselfconscious about their bodies 34:20 Time (the most valuable resource of all) = wealth 35:50 Many older women happy because, for the first time in their lives, they can do what they want with their time 36:50 Women becoming intentional moral storytellers for their families 41:00 A great gift of old age: the long view of family and a lifetime 41:55 Blessing of old age: the freedom to be honest 43:30 Small things can bring enormous joy 44:15  Book contains discussions of death, loneliness, and more 44:50 Recommendation: The Trip to Bountiful (1985 movie)   BUY Women Rowing North: Navigating Life’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age MORE BOOKS BY MARY PIPHER BUY Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls BUY The Shelter of Each Other BUY Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of Our Elders RECOMMENDATION  BUY The Trip To Bountiful (movie) Connect with us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit