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GROW Greatness Reached over Oppression through Wisdom I am still in the Game, I will stay in the Game and Run the Ball up and down the Court for God the Rest of my Life!  The Spiritual Warfare had me Spinning in the Worst way!I laid down my life for God in Love, Mercy and Gratefulness and I am therefore Devoted to You

Recorded February 28, 2021Have you ever said “Yes” to something you should have said “No” to, then proceed to hate doing the thing you agreed to do? “Yeah. Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt.We know how this started. As kids our parents often volunteered us to do stuff and we couldn’t say no. Now, as grown @$$ women, we still don’t like to tell our well-meaning parents, “No”. Fortunately, we both have parents who have done so much good for us, we choose to honor them by doing what they want us to do when we can. But let’s be honest,  we have trouble saying “No” to perfect strangers trying to sell us stuff we don't want.Ladies, why do we say “Yes” when we mean “No”?People pleasing – Wanting people to be happyProtecting image – Want people to think well of usLack of will – Allowing another’s will to overcome our ownLessons: Saying NO and setting boundaries is really about self care.Even if you started something you should have said no to, you can still walk away.Don’t overdo the good stuff such that it becomes a burden.You don’t have to convince anyone that your NO is sufficient.Offer a firm NO otherwise you leave the door open for them to ask again.Create and follow budget with your time, money and energy. Nuggets – Fun ways to say NO that we want you to try with us:Them: Girrrl, will you [insert something you don't want to do here]?You:No thank you.I wish I wanted to.I’d rather not.“No.“ (Because it’s a complete sentence)                                 Mastering this skill is a process  Quotes:“When I was 40, I realized I had the right to do it [say no], now that I am out of my 40s I know that I have the right and I’m getting much more comfortable with the idea of just saying no with as little explanation as possible.” – Rhumel“I want less regrets in my life.” – Twanda“If it is something you are volunteering for it should make you feel good.” -Rhumel“On the phone, I reserve the right to hang that %!+(# up.” – Rhumel“I said No. I mean no and I don’t owe you any explanation. I don’t have to tell you why I said NO. I don’t have to convince you to agree with me.” -T“People say ‘Don’t Quit’ (humph) that’s bullshit. Quitting is not always and a bad thing. – TPlease support our podcast:Please rate/review, subscribe and share!!Cashapp:$GirrrlPodcastDonate: PatreonHave a question or topic you want us to talk about? We want to hear from you!!Twitter: @girrrlpodcastInstagram: @girrrlpodcastFacebook: @girrrlpodcastEmail us: Talk2Us@girrrlpodcast.com

The Gospel is Offense. Many Turned back.Do you want to go away as well? (I suppose I do a little bit...)Peter does the Math: To what? To who? To where?Peter puts his stake in the ground: We have believed and come to know you are the holy one of God!!!!Then he looks up after pounding his stake of belief in the ground, that there is a much bigger, more permanent, more trustworthy, ancient stake, the size of the Empire State Building pounded into the ground next to him. Did I not choose YOU?No doubt about it, the Good Lord asks us for a CHOICE. But wait a second, He gets one too. Did I not choose you? Listen and chose.

Brandon Handley 0:03 Do you like that? Ah, yeah. Did you know about that? Hey guys, this is Brandon Handley I am on today with Dave. Gisela Dave is gonna be my very, very first guest and a podcast that hasn't even been introduced or released anywhere yet. We're calling it spiritual dope. I've kind of subtext lines. Let me know how that gets your hit, right get your hit, get your dose or get your hit. I'm still kind of up in the air with Dave Gieselman 0:28 a hit. I like calling it dope and you get treated. If we're calling a medicine, you might want to bolus or a dose Brandon Handley 0:38 not an analysis because like I've already I've got I've got artwork being done. I'm just all about this, this thing. So Dave Gieselman 0:46 as a doe as an ex dope head, if it's dope, I'm gonna get my head right so I'm gonna get my fix. Well, Brandon Handley 0:54 yeah, now fixes a little too bright past the border. I'm gonna stick with get your hit right like I think that That's my demographic. Those are my people. That's who I'm talking to. I don't think I can talk to the people that get their fix. Those are beyond my health, right? I mean, honestly, right? Like, I mean, I'm just gonna call it the way I see it. So yeah man and and the premise is like, you know, people you know, there's going to be like the spiritual hit conversations like the, you know, my one on ones or my, my one offs were like, I'm just speaking from the dome sharing my you know, I won't call it wisdom, but I'll say, Share, share, whatever it is, is coming through me to you. Right. And then, and then have some conversations with some with some really awesome entrepreneurs. Or even like, you know, professionals who have, you know, figured out how to live spiritually in alignment with themselves and be successful in the world. And I think that Dave, you know, you you you fit that mold, right and you also fit you fit the eye, you know, this this kind of ideal piece where I don't know, you know, what would you call it when you were? Let's just tell us what you're about where you're from what you're doing. Dave Gieselman 2:09 Let's see, let's let's start it. Let's start easy. You know, my name is Dave giesemann. I am from, from Los Angeles, California still live here I am, I'm a unicorn, I'm actually from LA. And I am the coach and the founder of become limitless. It is it is my coaching organization. And I work with I work with mostly women, but I work with with men and women who who are looking to uplevel. Right, who, who want who want more and for the most part I work with I work with leaders, I work with professionals and work with CEOs who people who are have achieved achieved level of success and are ready to go to the next one and they're running In the upper limit problems, they're running into, I, I, I don't know how to take the next step for myself, I don't know what it looks like, and, and I don't know, if I have the capacity for it, I know I'm being pulled in that direction. But I got some stuff that I need to get sorted out in order to get there. And, and so this is where because our in our businesses light, right, our shit always shows up in our business, you know, your, your business is a is a is a very, very clear indicator of your life. The problems in your business are a very clear indicator of the problems that are probably in your personal life. Because it's all it's all it all shows up in the same way. Brandon Handley 3:49 Look, I mean, there's there's no separation between business and your life, right? I mean, they're both your life. I mean, right? You can't I mean, you really can't separate it and, you know, as we're, you know today Today, we're going to be talking about Spiritual stuff or as I like, you know, that's what you call life. I mean, if you took away the life that's within within you, you you drop to the ground right like I mean, I got no other name yet so whatever you know you could call it Jimmy right whatever whatever's whatever's got your whatever's got your boat humming but whatever is inside of you it's gonna show up outside of you one way or another right? So if you don't have your shit together, if you're a hot mess at home, you're a hot mess at work, right? You're a hot mess and even if you don't look like it, you are Dave Gieselman 4:35 right. If If, if you lack communication skills in your home, if you lack the ability to empathize if you lack the ability to connect with with your family, with your with the people around you, that is going to seep into your business and you will lack the ability to to connect with clients, colleagues, employees You're potentially your employer. And yeah, whatever is on the inside is, is inevitably going to show up on the outside. Yeah, Brandon Handley 5:09 yeah. So your story, I think is one that, you know, I can't share enough of right because I just love the journey. I love kind of where you've come from where you and I were talking a little bit about this before we've known each other for about three years now, three years ago, right? I still remember catching God driving down the highway, you're given a motivation talk. And just, you know, it was talking to me like almost directly, right. And then a little bit later you you you gave a talk just talking about like the the dog whistle, right? Like there's certain people they're going to hear your message because they're at that point, right. And then, you know, you also talk quite a bit about like, you know, the universe unfolding just kind of like the next step that you're asking for, like whatever it is that you're asking for. Yes, right. Universe is gonna stamp approved, right? If, and and it's true if that's how you decide to live, right? And I think that that's, you know, when people talk about the power of choice, that's where it gets to. Right. It's a choice. It's a life choice to live that way. Right. So, let's talk. I mean, I don't know the pre Dave's story so well, so what? What led you to start believing in that? Right? What led you into that? Dave Gieselman 6:31 You know, the just because I want to talk about what what's current and relevant but just to give you guys the Cliff's notes on it. Yeah, like I said, I grew up here in Los Angeles. And while all the other little boys and girls on the playground, were developing healthy, healthy coping mechanisms, I was developing numbing mechanisms. And it went from it went from food, to caffeine to cigarettes to masturbation to sex to, to, to, to alcohol to drugs. By by 22 years old, I was completely homeless drug addict and alcoholic on the streets of of, of LA I was in Pasadena and and at 24 I got sober 24 years old I got I got sober and and my journey kind of began there I was, I was I was homeless, I was a mess, I was completely feral. And, and kind of had this starting from scratch place where, you know, like, I had no clue who I was. And, you know, I had no clue about anything. And what I basically had was the opportunity if I could build it anyway, I wanted to build it. How did I want to build it? How did I want to build this man? How did I want to build who I was how did I want to build a life And so I just I began making conscious very conscious decisions about how I wanted to treat myself how I wanted to treat others, how I wanted to engage with with the world around me and, and I made some, in those first few years I made some very, very strong decisions, I made some decisions about, you know, the way that I would I would interact with with my fellow men like never again, would I engage in that sort of bullshit like chop fight or or you know, you know, you know, they call you know, cutting, you know, in in in some areas, you know that that running verbal battle between men where we sit there and tear each other down, for fun and for sport. And I decided that I was never I was never going to participate in that again, like, like my brothers have a have enough. We have enough coming at us. Just just in this room like I don't need to tear my brothers down. I will build my brother every single time. Guaranteed, I don't care what the world thinks to me, I'm the very first person that I'm gonna I'm gonna tell one of my brothers that he's, he's handsome, He's good looking. He's, you know, he's, he's smart, he's articulate and has something to offer the world. I'm going to be the first person to tell one of my brothers that, that, that he has absolutely everything he needs inside of him to be an amazing husband and amazing father, an amazing employer, a good moneymaker. If If those are the things that he decides to incorporate in his day to day behaviors, rather than the fearful, selfish, self centered son of a bitch, then we all kind of are on the inside. You know? Brandon Handley 9:50 Yeah, look, man, I think we all had the propensity for that. And I think that that's really I think that's the environment that most Most of us end up growing up and right, like we've got to get what's ours, we've got to make sure that if somebody's better than us, we need to make or you know, if somebody is showing talent or skill or in some way, superior to you got to cut them down, bring them down to size, you're not being humble. Where's your pride? You know, you're way too prideful. Right, and that and that type of thing. So, you know, was it right after, you know, you kind of you sober up that that's when you make that decision that you decided that that was where you're going to be or, you know, did you kind of, was it it? Was it a pass into that Dave Gieselman 10:40 the path into that was, you know, first off I you know, like, like I said, I was I was homeless when I when I first started, and about a year and some change into my, you know, into sobriety, you know, I met I met a girl, and you know, she thought I was cute and I was not in a position to argue with her. And, and so, my, my first experience there was, you know, this this person really liked me and, and, and I wouldn't what I what what I, I wanted was I didn't want her to find out that I was just feral as I was, but, you know, and, and so I began making decisions lately What? What is the guy that she deserves act like? What is the guy that she deserves? What does that guy behave like how does he show up in the world? How does he know how does he act? What does he do? How does he act around the house? And, and you know, and she bought it you know and and and I did, I did the actual I behaved right in a way that that I wanted to be like I and like I like I coach now, you know, if you want to be something else, you got to behave in a different way. And you know, it's just like making your bed in the morning, right? Somebody told me You know, early on, make your bed every day and I'm gonna go we're gonna have to do a sobriety because nothing, just do what I told you to do. And so I consciously made my bed every day. And at some points, I stopped consciously making my bed every day and I shifted, I transformed into a guy who just made his bed every day without without thinking about and I would no more, you know, leave the house, I'm making my bed and I'd leave the house, brushing my teeth, or anything else for sure. Right. Right. And, and so I began behaving in the way and the way we the way we behave in the way we speak, will alter our brains, right? And so I began thinking like the guy, like a guy who acted the way I was acting. And I began using language in the manner of the guy that I wanted to be. And so I literally started acting like the man I wanted to become, and I don't know when it happened, but at some point I transformed into the man that I wanted to be Rather than acting like the man I wanted to be. Brandon Handley 13:03 Now I love the 100% because your audio is got a massive video, right? And it doesn't even happen on purpose. It doesn't happen on purpose because you're acting in such a manner for so long. Right? That it just that's who you become. Right you right? You, you, you spoke it into existence, as they say, Dave Gieselman 13:26 right, right. Right. You, you you act it into existence, you speak it into existence, you know, like, Look, whether you are whether you're doing it consciously, but if you are, if you are acting, if you are in all of the behaviors of a guy who takes care of his body, who goes to work every day, who shows up on time, who pays his bills, if you are in all of those behaviors are you not are you not that person, right? And whether you whether you need to remind yourself to be in those behaviors or not. You know, at some point, it just becomes, it becomes your habit, your routine, your subconscious, that that's running that program. But regardless of whether, you know, you're, you know, deep down, you're, you're this just just frightened, selfish, self centered, you know, piece of work. But what I want to do is is, is I want to be something greater than that, right, your, your behaviors will always dictate, you know who you are. And so, when you become this thing when you begin acting this way, it's, you know, it becomes a yard and so and so we can, you can literally act your way into into a better life a better, a better, you know, a better life better health better, whatever, like, because, because you're actually taking the actions of the person who does those things. Brandon Handley 14:59 No I totally agree, man. And And the funny thing is, is I think that a lot of us we've been told that before, right, that's not new, you've gotta you've got to be before you can do before you know you can have or something like that, right? I forget that I forget the line hundred percent. Okay, so, you know you're going through that journey, you get married, you're a chef, Dave Gieselman 15:20 get married, had a kid, right? I got married, had a kid and it was the same way. Right? Like, what is the best father that I can be? What does that guy behave like? What is what are the actions of that man? Right? And I'm just gonna be in those actions. Yeah, yeah, at the time. I'm a chef. I'm working in an eye on hotels and restaurants in Los Angeles. And, you know, and I'm working with a lot of drug addicts and alcoholics because, you know, of I was just I was giving back what was so freely given to me. It was things I was sponsoring, I was in 12 step 12 step recovery and, and that's kind of the deal with 12 step. Recovery is like the minute you get back on your feet, your feet back underneath you, not when you get your shit back in your life back, you start making money again, and you're kind of established and have some free time. Now, the second you have your feet back under you, you turn around and you reach back into the hole and you start pulling other people out like that. That is the deal. And that was that is what was impressed upon me is that the only way that I'm ever going to get better is to help other people get better. And, and that was a such a fundamental piece and continues to be such a fundamental piece of who I am now and working as a working as a chef. Like I always wanted the people around me to get better. I always wanted to them and so I got into mentor I got into a lot of personal development. I got into a lot of mentoring. I got into a lot of stuff. And what I found was that I actually enjoyed helping people develop into better versions of themselves. I actually enjoyed that more than I enjoyed, you know the kitchen life. For sure, and in. And so I've been and so I've been coaching now for coaching for about 17 years in one capacity or another. And in 2017, I retired from professional kitchens. I opened my I opened my coaching business as a business about a year before. And in 2017. I retired from professional kitchens to coach speaking right full time. Brandon Handley 17:29 I love that, you know, wasn't just sitting there, I was like, you know, we want people to be better versions of themselves not I don't wonder if, you know, it's the same thing. It's the same thing just said differently. It's like, help them uncover who they truly are right like that. You know, your, your best version of you has been, you know, put in jail. Right. Your best version of you has been locked up, right. Your best version of you has been Um, Miss fucking lead. Dave Gieselman 18:04 Yeah, and the and the best version of me is informed by all of these things is informed by a violent that is informed by finding yourself on the on the wrong end of a firearm or a, you know cops billy club or you know, like, like any number of things, you know the the best version of me is in the best version of me is also informed by but teaching my son how to ride a bike and and learning what we're learning what like what true like, like patience and, and persistence like from persistence, consistency and patience looked like and which I didn't know until you know until my son was sick and and you know we can't shake a toddler for not feeling well nurtured them you know he and and just the same way You know you, you can't, you cannot be raped another man into being a better version of himself, you nurture them, you know, and the best version of you is always inside you. And that's why I say the best version of you because who you are the very best version of you the very very best know that if you want to if you want to get spiritual with it, the The, the, you know, everything that God ever wanted you to be without all the dumb cheap, lame, bullshit aftermarket shit that you stuck on with like duct tape and bio, you bought right about the big dumb spoiler on the back of the Corolla? Brandon Handley 19:43 Right? You got three badass rims? Dave Gieselman 19:46 Yeah, you know, and, you know, like it was it's all bunch of cheap, dumb bullshit aftermarket stuff. And the best version of you doesn't need any of that, you know, like, and so we asked the question, right. If you woke Tomorrow as at 100% of God's potential for you, what would that guy be like Brandon Handley 20:07 talking on real, right? It's unreal. Because I'll tell you, I'm reading. I'm reading way too much. I'm filling my head way too much stuff. And I love it all though like I am. There's actually a person called spiritual junkie, I'll have to talk to her. But uh, it's, it's unfathomable. Right, your potential, right. It's on fathomable limitless is indeed it so I want to go to that place where you found that for yourself and talk about that for me Dave Gieselman 20:43 you know it a lot of it came from you know, it came from my journey with with with my own with my own body right so you know, in in sobriety, I first of all, I got I got sober I got off the streets. I never thought I could Do that, you know, then I found I found love and I never thought I could do that. Right. Then then along comes my son. I never thought I could do that. And, and, you know, I never thought that I could I could like show up and be responsible, you know, a responsible human being for age someone just want to be with me be someone want to make a baby with me, you know and and Brandon Handley 21:24 the BMA like maybe nobody wanted to, but then they did and then they decided you could stick around and still be the dad. Dave Gieselman 21:30 Right? You know, like, like, yeah, that was like best case scenario. Right? And, you know, and so and so all of these things, I kind of came to this place where you know, I I began to question every single limitation I believe I had, you know, and and my son was about four and we got it we can I got into Brazilian Jiu Jitsu together. And I you know, and through this process through this art, you know, I've been voted for for 12 years I you know, I, I start training I watch my body change, I watch my belief in myself change I watch my son grow up without any fear of other human beings. I watch I watch it transformed him into into the young man that I need them to be today. I started competing and finding out that I had strength and capability beyond whatever I thought, what what else I thought was possible. I got into Spartan races and tough motors and began going okay, so if, if I can do this, what else can I do? Right? And I'm going to start I'm gonna start beating up the body as hard as I can. And just finding finding limits and and I I didn't find any I and so and so then I start opening up to the is there is there something more for me? Is there something greater for me and that's where become limitless came from is is I at one point I ceased to believe not only in my limitations, but in the limitations of others. Like I just I simply stopped believing in them. And you know, and I was leading a group of women last night, and I told me the exact same thing I go, I don't believe in your limitations, I don't believe in them. And I am going to stretch you beyond everything that you believe you're capable of. Because if there's one thing that human beings have shown, is that they are piss poor at understanding their own limitations. Right? Every time we think we understand the limits of human potential, somebody else throws a rocket, you know, into the, into, into outside the solar system. You know, we thought we could never fly until we flew. We thought we could never. We thought we could never, you know, go into space until we went into space without we could never explore other planets until we explored other planets. You No, we thought we could never live underwater until we lived underwater. And every single time. We think we have a limitation. There's always some dude just like me or just like you send the back one. You want bet? Brandon Handley 24:14 For sure. For sure. I mean, I'll throw this out at you. I mean, do they say that, like, 85% of our DNA is junk DNA? And I got to ask myself the question, you know, to, you know, the god universe, anybody give me something that I can't use? Right, right. I ain't got no junk DNA. I just don't know how to use that other 85%. Right. Yeah, right. Right. Like, I haven't had that yet. And it's like, what, what's it gonna take for me? To figure out how to turn that on. What's it gonna take for me, you know, to make the decision of Yeah, I can do that. I just got to go try it. Dave Gieselman 24:49 Right. Right. And so when I decided to do this, I leapt into it. I leaped into a brand new career I'd spent 30 years in professional kitchens, I leaped into a brand new career you know and I made the leap and and you know just like the matrix nobody nobody makes me Brandon Handley 25:09 well listen I mean here's the other part right like I'm reading I just finished this book called The path of the initiator initiates path one of the two right? And you know, one of the one of the things in in that and you read it in like almost all the other religions are like all the other like you know coming of age enlightenment things is like Unknown Speaker 25:30 you have to get rid of everything Brandon Handley 25:35 that you had in order to become who you are right in order to accept this new path for yourself in order to you know, you you went all the way in for it and you the price that you paid, was was giving up everything to become who you are today, right? The semi fair like I mean look nearly every you your whole life. Since you and I have met Dave Gieselman 26:03 radically different, oh, yeah, no. So when I Brandon Handley 26:06 said sorry, and that's just in three years, Dave Gieselman 26:08 right when I when I leapt into that new career late cost my marriage, you know, it cost me every dime I had it cost my retirement. It literally cost you know everything and I ended up you know, getting divorced liquidating my retirement, you know, you know, doing doing 1000 other things. And you know, they say that, you know, your new life is waiting for you. It is going to cost your old life though. You know, and that is true. And but, you know, for everybody who's like, you know, right now just kind of sweating bullets, right. Let me save it. There is absolutely nothing. I have had to let go of that I lament losing there is absolutely nothing. That my life right now cost me Do I regret letting go of Brandon Handley 27:03 it? That was all I mean, look, I mean, I was thinking about it like if you know if you're kind of run like I think of anime for some reason, I think like, you know, you know somebody is always running there's like 100 hooks coming at you right those hooks that are hooking on to you, that's all the shit that you just can't let go of, right? That's all the shit that's keeping you from moving forward. Maybe not, you know, maybe not 100% keeping you from moving forward but each one of those hooks that gets released from you allows you to move that much freer. Dave Gieselman 27:31 Right, you know, and I'd like to give everybody who's listening to this permission right now. The your life The your life today does not need to look anything like your life three years from now, or that your life today doesn't need to look anything like your life a year from now. Look, you are welcome to change anything at any moment. And, and completely reinvent yourself. Yes, right. And so You know, the what happens is a lot of people in it, and here's the limitation, right? Well, what if I, what if I do this and it's the wrong decision? What if I do this and it's the wrong move? And the question I asked every single person is how will you know? I will you know, if it's the wrong decision, I made the decision. It literally cost my marriage and every Sunday and every cent to my name. And and now less than, less than three years later, right, less than three years later, I'm living in a beautiful house with with an amazing woman who is absolutely the love of my life. Who who had you know, I you know, I got my, my, my, my, my little blue house with a white picket fence, you know, in, in, you know, here in northeast Los Angeles, with a woman who, who, who I love more and more every single day. My life is exciting. Ordinary and I will tell you that it cost every single bit of my old life. The one thing it did not cost me was my relationship with my son right now as the one thing that it did not cost me. And as a matter of fact, my son respects me now more than he did then, because he saw that it was time for that for that situation. And he understood it. And what he saw was his father make a conscious decision to do something he wanted to do. It he saw what it costs. He saw the way I suffered for what I believed, and now he has seen me build a life that is that is incredible. Brandon Handley 29:48 Yeah, no, it's it's super powerful. That's why I love the story, man. That's why I super love the story. And, and let's keep talking about the types of things that like That the universe provides right like, because here's, here's one of the things that happened to me recently was, uh, you know, I was always kind of worried about the job that I had, right one of the jobs I have because I got paid really well. And I was spending all my money because that's what I do as an American, I just spend all my money and then some So, so, you know, got to the point and then and then I was down in Louisiana. And, you know, this, you know, Puerto Rican guy picked me up from an Uber ride and we got to chat and he's like, yeah, make like $2,000 a week driving Uber. I was like, so my worst case scenario is I drive Uber Okay, I'm good. So whatever happens happens like i think you know, Tim Ferriss calls it fear setting now I'm not gonna sit there and focus on the biggest worst possible thing that could ever happen my life because needs to spend their time thinking about that. But I mean, yeah, you did. You you you ended up you living at home, time to list and I'm sure there are some people that were like what the fuck do you think you're doing days? Dave Gieselman 31:06 Oh, I'll tell you right now, there's still people. There are still people who've known me for years and years and years who believe that I'm experiencing maintenance experiencing a midlife crisis. There are still people, like, members of my own family are still a little bit curious about what I'm going to go back to my job and my wife, like, like they they are still curious. And I'm like, I, I made. I made more in the first quarter of this year than in my best year of any kitchen ever. You know, if I made more in the first quarter of this year than I made in a year, in any kitchen I've ever been in. My life is richer and fuller than it has ever been in my life. Ever. My life, my life is better. And you know, there will always be the BBC when we Worry, right? What what we're doing is we are we are literally putting energy into, we are imagining scenarios that we don't want. Right? That's what we do when we worry. And one of the things that I had to do, and I would encourage anybody who's listening to do this was looking at at taking a lever or making a shift, like I had to, I had to change my relationship with failure. Like, you know, what, what would failure look like for me? You know, and for me, right for me, you know, failure like going back to kitchens, literally, you know, you talk about your goes bad. I started driving, I start driving Uber and yeah, and I drove lift for a minute. All right. What what was new kitchens. So true abject catastrophic failure for me looks like a six figure job. Right? Like, for sure going, you know, right, going, going back to hotels and, and high end restaurants. That's what but Brandon Handley 33:21 so that's a scenario though, right? Where you're working for money versus working for something that you believe in, right? Am I right or wrong in that? Dave Gieselman 33:30 Absolutely. You know, yeah, I was working for money and I was making and I was making decent money, and I hated it. I was hiding behind what at what will I do? Will my family do without the money? Right? And the truth is, is that the money, the money went anyway, it didn't matter. I made it because I made it work. Brandon Handley 33:49 Sure. Well, you know, I think that there's a so I mean, I don't know you listen, I'm not trying to get too far out there. But like, you know, the same source is taken care of Mi is taking care of everybody else. Dave Gieselman 34:02 Absolutely. And when we connect with it and whether you call that God Allah Buddha, Yoda, the the universe spirits source, Mitch like what what, like whatever it is you call that is irrelevant. Right the fact the matter is is that that there is a there is a universal intelligence to to energy. Right, you know, and energy has an intelligence of its own. And it's an intelligence and energy has an intelligence that can be harnessed it can be, it can be directed. And, you know, and it's and it's funny because, you know, people, people struggle with believing it until they have to until they have to. And once they and once they're there, they're in a position where they have to use them. They're like, Oh, that's how it works. Brandon Handley 34:54 Well, we were talking a little bit about this in the beginning here, right. It's the choice to believe in it. Right once you once first of all once once you have that conversation with somebody it rattles around in your brain for a long time. Like he breathed this motherfucker said he said universe Mitch he said Mitch had my back and you know what I encourage people to do is look for evidence of it right don't you don't need hey don't don't start big you know you don't have to make that leap you don't have to make that leap so much that you're gonna fall and hit your face and you know potentially die take a couple of years was crawl walk around man you know crawl walk run Dave Gieselman 35:39 right well, the first the first step to achieving an impossible goal is to set one sure right. Yeah. You know, set an impossible goal and and stretch or stretch yourself this much Mike. Like my my introduction to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Was was this look, I took myself Son this little community Jiu Jitsu program because he was foreign it's time to like get in doing something on on a Saturday morning and and whether it was you know chasing with chasing a soccer ball with a bunch of other four year olds or or throwing you know throwing a baseball or or figuring out how to how to how to catch or whatever run now we checked out this this this Jiu Jitsu program and because a buddy of mine was in it and and he recommended it and and so I'm like watching the kids out on the mat do their thing. And, and one of the parents came up to me and said, so you're gonna do adult classes right after this. You can do the adult class. And I looked at this one I'm like, like, I'm a 265 pound chain smoking chef. No, no, I'm not. I'm not taking the adult class, right? I'm not I'm not doing that. And she's like, that's cool. So when you're saying Son, you know, is a 15 year old black belt and, and you think he should clean his room and he thinks you should go piss up a rope? Like, what exactly do you intend to do about that? I'm like, Okay, well, maybe one class, you know, for sure, you know, you know, and maybe maybe I'll just take one, you know, and I and I took this class and i and i and i did this thing, and I got on the mat, and these guys tied me into 100 million knots. Like it was. It was a completely hopeless situation I couldn't when I had a little hundred 50 pound girl who could throw me off her and choke me unconscious at will, right like and there was nothing I could do to, to like to like stop that from happening. And, you know, at the end of the class, I was I was breathing heavy. I wanted to throw up, I wanted to die. I'd been humiliated about 150 times, you know, in the last 30 minutes. And, and, you know, three or four of the guys in the class came up to me. And like, by the way, that's what everybody's first day looks like, right? I'm back. Right I you know did did you enjoy it and I and I did. I like being physical I like, you know that that that thing I enjoy that and they're like that's what everybody's for. It's what your first aid you do. Brandon Handley 38:24 Thank you for that. Yeah Dave, you're the one who got me into that and, man, it's not happening right now. And, you know, we talked about like, you know, that is part of my spiritual practice, right that that's like those are like kind of my moments of flow. When I go in. I'm participate in jujitsu, but you're dead, right, man. I think I broke my rib. On my very first day, couldn't sleep for a month and my girl is 115 pounds. She's purple belt and just like, what made it even worse was she was the girlfriend of the badass jujitsu instructor. And she's like, you know, he's like, all right. Go Russell, my girlfriend's like, What the fuck is this? weird girl brother? Yeah, right, right. It was weird. That made it weird, but like, you know, she kicked my ass for like the next six months. And it wasn't until like, she didn't put me into you know, she didn't. She didn't choke me. Like, in one round that I felt like I'd accomplished something. But, you know, to your point, like I mean, we go in there and we start at the bottom and we stretch ourselves just a little bit more every day right and i think that kind of that's the takeaway for anybody who who maybe they don't believe that they can accomplish this big dream you you you as a coach, what do you what do you help them do with these big dreams? Dave Gieselman 39:42 You know what look I start saying yes shit. It doesn't matter what it is start saying yes to shit your you know, your your super and Brandon Handley 39:54 I don't even know what to do. I don't even know how to say no, I'm terrible. Dave Gieselman 39:58 Right? But just start seeing Is your super athletic homeboy? He goes hey do you want to you know do you want to go you'll run a thing with me and instead of going like no that sounds horrible just say things sure you know your your you know your girlfriend who wants to to introduce you to some you know type of music like see yet just are saying yes but they say yes to stuff and I understand that there are people who say yes to too much right and and so they get overwhelmed because they're people pleasers or whatever I'm not talking about people pleasing right i mean stretch beyond your Brandon Handley 40:38 say say yes to new say yes to new experience, say Dave Gieselman 40:42 yes to new experiences, and like and say yes to new experiences like the same new experience, like three times before you make a decision on it. Oh, yeah. Like just start saying yes to stuff right you know, and and and, you know, This is gonna bring up a whole conversation about, about boundaries and whatever. And that's not what I'm talking about. Sure, you know, you know that's not that's not Brandon Handley 41:09 to say say yes to stretching yourself in in a meaningful kind of intentional what else is out there for me in my life kind of way that's that's right what you're saying Dave Gieselman 41:18 what would happen if you know what's the worst that could happen if I if I if I said yes to this thing that sounds like inconvenient and I don't want to and will Brandon Handley 41:28 take me you said just to get up on stage we'll call C's right like I mean, that was a big thing for you. Wasn't it like being up on stage with him? Dave Gieselman 41:35 Yeah, I see that. See, that wasn't the plan. I you know, I you know, he asked for he asked for like input on something. And I didn't know he was going to put me on stage. But what I but what I did was like not, not go run in front of him like Okay, so, so we're going to do this and so that's, that's kind of the big thing is go like move in the door. directions the energy in your life is moving. Sure. I'm gonna do this. Okay, so here, here we go, you know, he asked, he asked who like, like who, you know, we did an exercise because all right, who just had a profound experience? Like I did he goes, we watch come tell me about it. So I started shouting and he's like, no, no come up, come up on stage. So now I'm on stage with Kyle sees in front of 1500 people 16 1600 people, and and I get to have, you know, I get to a get introduced to the world as a coach on fallacies of stage and have a profound experience about myself, where I realized that I could literally write my own. write my own story. And it was funny because if you go if we go back to that, to that thing, and it's, you know, it's been all over the internet and wherever we go back to that moment, like at literally everything that I was afraid of happening when I made my leap happened. Sure. I literally every thing that I described as, as the thing that I was afraid of like actually happened. And when all those things happened, and I and I actually called Kyle I, I, you know, I had his cell phone number at somebody and I'm and I literally called him and I'm like, I'm like, Okay, so here's I need to tell you this. So literally everything that I told you I was afraid of actually happened. Right everything I was afraid of happening happened. I did. I did what I said I was gonna do everything I was said I was afraid of happened. And so I am now literally standing at the bottom of the pit of my own worst nightmares having come true, the thing that the things that I was absolutely afraid of most, they are all alive and well in my life in this moment, right. And I have never felt so purposeful, so alive, so energized and so absolutely certain that I was doing the right thing for sure. Right. And so the All of the metrics that I had given myself for what catastrophic fail would look like, like yeah, I mean, I literally ticked every single box, right, of what catastrophic failure would look like. I gathered all of those things into my life at the exact same moment. And when this is the best I've ever felt, I've never felt more useful, more energized, and are more connected with the why, with with the reason I've been placed on this planet than I do right now. Yeah. And, once again, my idea of my own limitations. You know, my, my concept of what, what failure would look like what my own limitations were, once again, just like the rest of humans, like like, complete, like garbage, like complete nonsence my idea of what my limitations were, was absolutely laughable. Brandon Handley 45:06 We look I mean, that that's, that's the very thing, right? We put ourselves in the tiniest box, right we put ourselves into the tie is like we think that we think that like our boundaries are so far out there and when we hit and we're like, that was exhausting. But that's like really this tiny little box right? I mean, be gone to explore the entire fucking universe, right? Like, I mean, it's, it's, it is limitless, there are no limits. Let's talk just talk to me a little bit about though. Again, I want to I want to just you're you're serving, right, you're doing this in service of others. And to me, I think that that is kind of the ultimate driver of like, you know, spiritual, you know, you're driven spiritually so that you serve others like that. That which is inside of you, keeps coming through more and more powerfully, because you were giving it to others, you have to be that that fully charged. Dave Gieselman 46:11 Absolutely. And, you know, and I am I am what I described as I'm a prime, I am a prime nurturer. Right. And, and I did it with food for a long time. Like I fed people like that's what it was, what it was what fed me was, was feeding people making food. So, like, at the, at the bottom, like the base level food is is nurture. Right? The first thing your mother does is feed you like that's like the, you know, the first thing that that that you know, the way that you identify, you know, the people in your families is because they feed you you know, when So, you know and, and, and so, and I am a I am a prime nurturer. My first instinct is to nurture and And is absolutely the reason that I am here is absolutely and, and what I, what I discovered was I found a way that felt more that felt even more authentic and and was actually more efficient than food. And it's literally by crawling into somebody's psyche with them. And, and like, and like, you know, so they're showing me around they go Yeah, this is this is what I built and this is what I believe and and here are my limitations and I'm like, wait, and I tear it down like a backdrop. I'm like, yeah, it's bullshit, right? Yeah. It's that bullshit. Story. That's the story story. That's the narrative, right? That's, that's the thing that you have told yourself so that you can give yourself permission to stay small. Right? Brandon Handley 47:52 Well, and you know, that's, that's the whole point of, you know, getting a coach as a coach. You as a coach. You don't give a shit about their backstory. Dave Gieselman 48:00 Okay, not only not only do I not give a shit about your backstory, right Wait, Brandon Handley 48:05 you're not gonna get permission like I love the line that too like you're not there to give somebody you know, you're like you're not there to argue for their limitations. No, Dave Gieselman 48:16 no, no no. Like Not only do I not care about your backstory, I don't care about your fears like I don't care about your i don't i don't care about the the the the narrative that you've told I don't care about the meaning that you have placed on you know this that the other, I am here. expressively to I'm going to find out what it is that you want. Right You tell me what you want, which by the way is going to come from the deepest place in you what I wanted this right what I what I want is to serve the world at a at a very high level. What I want is to create a company that enables people to teach children everywhere what I you know, what I wanted to, you know, is you know, Whatever it is, whatever it is, your thing is, and by the way i don't i don't work with low level people. I don't you know, I don't work with people whose whose like, like, like deep and personal dream is to own a Wendy's. Like, that's not you know what's wrong with that? Um, I get what you're saying is it's just not what work was it Brandon Handley 49:18 was it's not it's, you know, we'll talk about it's not who you are it's not who you are so that's not who you attract to you right? Like you can law of attraction you can call whatever you want that's just how the shit works. Right, right. Like I mean, you have knobs and whatever and, you know, you twist and turn and you tune into like, you know who you are people are attracted to who you are, you know, today, and, you know, most of the times the people that you're helping is people that have been where you were at one point Dave Gieselman 49:54 well, there are people who literally have all of my shit and and you know, this you, you know, you spend some time and Personal Development and you know, you, you work with people and the truth is, is that absolutely every single one of my clients, like has a has a deficiency of mine and me working with them is really me healing myself and and and that's that's the bottom line I love that too, you know, like I you know I'm not some I'm not a you know some guru I don't I don't have any sort of special wisdom what I what I have is the our absolute willingness to be like vulnerable and in breakdown at the public level like I am absolutely willing to to learn with you as as we grow right you know, and and you know, Lisa Sasa has called it lift as you climb, right? So as I'm climbing, on lifting, you know, and and so I am absolutely willing to To learn as I, as I, you know, as I grow and continue to believe that the people are placed in my life to teach me something for sure. Brandon Handley 51:11 Every man is a lesson, every person's lesson. I got asked this, this comes kind of from Joseph Campbell, you know, hero's journey. Right? You know, there there was that point where you made that decision to become a coach like full time, right? That was a call. Right. That was that was a call and there was a little bit of hesitancy, I'm guessing, to heed that call, right. Oh, yeah. Yeah. So, you know, if you didn't heed that call, like, if you don't, I would, I would call that the heroes call. Right and and if you don't accept that, what happens if you if you disregard that heroes Call Dave Gieselman 52:02 what happens is if you get it you get called again. And and you get called again and the and here's the problem as you get called again and again, the universal use more and more persuasive language every single time, which means saying no disregarding it, pushing it aside, will get more painful every time you do it. Brandon Handley 52:31 Amen. So, and and I liken it to I liken it to, you know, you're gonna grow whether or not you want to right and i think about it like as a seashell right like I mean you're you know, you're you're the seed inside this shell and like you're gonna pierce through like you got it that little that little sprout that like I could go by, you know, has enough energy and life force within it to crack a hard shell. I mean, that's what's happening. I think humans are you know, you're There's a seat right and you're unfurling and there's no you can resist as much as you want. Dave Gieselman 53:08 Right? Well, here's the here's the fact of it that absolutely every single organism on earth understands its purpose and and knows that it is supposed to fully grow and fully expressed before and before passing on, you know, and to use your example you know, like, like, all the information for that for the, you know, hundred foot oak tree in that acorn, you know, and the acorn hits the ground and the moment that acorn hits the ground, it knows what it's supposed to do, okay. It knows the roots go down, trunk goes up, branches go out, leaves are green, it knows this. And it has all the energy all the information all and all the the will it needs to do the tree and it knows that it's supposed to fully tree right and Everything, everything fully expresses flowers fully, fully open, you know, you know, plants, you know, they fully express, you know, dogs fully that never in the history of dogs has a dog ever half assed being a dog dogs fully dog, right? Like humans are the only organisms on earth that doubt or debate whether they are supposed to fully express what is inside them before they pass on. Right some of them Yeah, but know who you know what why am I that special? Why is the OIC that special that it gets to take up that much space, right why you are take up your take your space, take your space in the universe, take your space, you know, there's plenty of room Brandon Handley 55:01 And you got to think about like this too, like there's never any more or less mass in the universe. So there's also that I'm just saying I'm putting out there right? Like, what you decide to do. Yes is going to have an impact but it's not going to have a don't limit yourself there's you're not gonna you're not gonna you're not gonna damage I think the world because you decided to believe in yourself. Dave Gieselman 55:25 Right? Right. And that's and that's, that's the whole thing is is that that thing that's inside you that thing that won't shut up the thing that won't let you sleep? Think like that is your purpose. Like, make no mistake, that thing was put there by something because you are supposed to follow it. So like just again, Brandon Handley 55:47 right? Like I mean, like all right, so so is like, well, that's fucking great day. But what's my purpose? Right? Well, go start to explore it right? What's your answer? What's your answer? Like? I mean, Dave Gieselman 55:59 what are your passion? It's okay your interests are a breadcrumb trail to your passions. your passions are a breadcrumb trail to your purpose. Right What? What do you fucking love? Like what do you love I'm not telling you right now. I love serving humans. You've known me long enough that you know this to be true. The thing that will get me out of bed every single day is Hey, you want to go be a service to somebody you want to you want to you want to go shift somebody's life. You want to shift somebody's perspective. You want to you want to go stand next to somebody well, while they watch their you know, while they watch, you know, a parent die, you know, do you want to do you want to go like, be somewhere you want to stand up? Do you want to go show up for another human? Yes, yes, I absolutely do every day, every day, my life in my dream in every way I can. Yes. What I want to do is to show up for other human beings. Brandon Handley 57:01 That's your spiritual dope. Right? You know, that's your that's like that's your spiritual life Hi. Like, I know that like, a couple years ago, somebody's been like, you know, dude, I just get half alive. I feel like you can go fuck yourself. But now like, you know, let's let's talk about that spiritual life Hi, right like living a life that is complete and being excited to keep waking up and I hate on asleep because I don't want my day to end like I love I love you know, learning more about what it is like give right and what else can I you know, you know Dave Gieselman 57:37 how all the Brandon Handley 57:40 information I'm taking in I know is going to be in service for others, not just myself, but you know, there's going to be someone that comes along tomorrow that needs the information that I just put my head yesterday. Dave Gieselman 57:53 Right. Right. And, and, and showing up showing up powerfully so you know, yeah, I What I don't know my purposes bullshit you know just like you talked about the DNA percent of his crap DNA and there's there's no reason it wouldn't be there if it didn't serve you take that thing that you love that thing that you're obsessed with that thing that you know everything about the thing that you can't let go by the way that's your thing that's like that that thing that you've been thinking about since since you were a child Yeah, that is your thing don't Brandon Handley 58:25 try mascot like I'll tell you man that's what you know i think you know so for those of you that are joining this first interview on spiritual Do you know I got done doing about a year series on you know, prosperity practice where I had this all this same feeling but like I was trying to mask it with something else right? Like I was like, let's let's see if we can mask it some way again, like it was like, Hey, you come in enjoy the prosperity practice. I want you to come check out this thing because what actually wants you to see is over here, right? Like, come check out this prosperity thing. But what I really want to do is, you know, connect you with all who you truly are. Right? Right. I think that that's what you do, right? Like you help someone to see all of who they truly are. Because you been in touch with that for yourself. Dave Gieselman 59:13 Right? You know and and to, to live at full volume right to not right not like stifle like any piece of me and not, you know to not drown out or mask or or you know or anything of any single piece of me to to live life exuberantly right and and and so you know you know we've talked about this we've had this conversation like like I'm not putting anything pretty in a box man like when i when i at the end of my row, dude, I want to go skidding in sideways. No rubber left on the tires. Brandon Handley 59:54 Yeah, look, man, look, I want it all used up. I don't want nothing left. You Dave Gieselman 1:00:00 Yeah, I don't want I don't want any like, I don't want I don't want to leave. Like, I want to leave a thing on the table, right? I don't want to I don't want anything left. Like, I don't want another mile left on that machine. Like, I'm not putting anything. And, and and that's just that's just the way it Brandon Handley 1:00:20 is. But that's truth. Right like I mean and I think that that's true and and you know, talks about like the dog whistle thing but like when you hear somebody speaking their truth you know it like it is it is it is it is resonant. I hate resonance, but it is resonant. Right like it there is a true vibration in the room a true sensation that you receive when you are around someone who's speaking their truth. Right. Right. And, and that to me, you know, that is life coursing through somebody else that is That is allowing that to happen, right like it is. It's not forced. You can tell when somebody's trying to force that shit. Dave Gieselman 1:01:06 Right. Right. But yeah, it sounds funny. It sounds like they don't believe it. It sounds like they're saying it. But once again, the audio has to match visual audio Brandon Handley 1:01:16 video has to listen and it will. That's the thing. So with that, that's a, you know, coaching, I think is awesome for that. podcasting, I think is awesome for that anything that you do that you begin to express who you believe you are in any way, shape or form. You don't have a choice but to become who you keep calling. Unknown Speaker 1:01:39 Right. Right. It's great. Yeah, that was good. Dave Gieselman 1:01:42 Look at that. Look at the people that you continue to attract into your life. Right, right. Yeah. By the way, that's, that's how you're showing up just so you know. People you you call in your life that has a better stop. Brandon Handley 1:01:55 No, it's so true. It's so true. It's on level every time why Listen man always love you man what you know what is what's like a parting blow man like you know what's been your you know? I don't know I have a segment yet that says like what's been your like most spiritual hi do you chase a spiritual high do you does it tell them to you like yeah what's your What is your spiritual Hi Dave Dave Gieselman 1:02:21 you know what the the spiritual part of this deal right is like the water part of the ocean right is like it's the god part of of life is like the god part of it is like the water part of the ocean like it's all God part it's all spiritual part of it right like all of that there's no part that isn't there all or nothing Brandon Handley 1:02:47 all or nothing Dave Gieselman 1:02:48 You know, there's no part that isn't spiritual part even the stuff that that you don't think is is a lesson in everything that you're pushing with That's nonsense. It's full That's not for me. That's what that's that's lessons. That's lessons and and it may be a lesson in setting boundaries and maybe a lesson and tolerance and maybe a lesson and empathy and maybe like, I don't know what the lesson is, but I am absolutely certain that everything in my life is here for me. Okay, if nothing happens to me, everything happens for me for sure my and my job is to is to live is to live this life as as an expression of the universe just just through me. Brandon Handley 1:03:34 Yes, Can I get an amen? Amen brother Can I get a what what awesome brother. Where should I send everybody to go find Dave easily? Dave Gieselman 1:03:45 You know you get I am easiest to find Dave use on my personal profile on Facebook or become dash limitless comm www dot become dash limitless calm but I am most easily Found Dave giesemann go to my bush roaming profile you know, shoot me a private message. Dave you summon you know and and and find me there everything I do. Eventually everything I do. Facebook is kind of the portal for that so Brandon Handley 1:04:23 I know awesome Transcribed by https://otter.ai

Adapting to Changes In today's episode Jeffrey Hayzlett talks about How To Adapt To A Changing Speaking Industry. Jeffrey Hayzlett is a CPAE Speaker Hall of Fame inductee and now primetime television host of C-Suite with Jeffrey Hayzlett and Executive Perspectives on C-Suite TV. He is the author of four best-selling business books including his most recent with Entrepreneur Press: The Hero Factor: How Great Leaders Transform Organizations and Create Winning Cultures. Please SUBSCRIBE ►http://bit.ly/JTme-ytsub ♥️ Your Support Appreciated! If you enjoyed the show, please rate it on YouTube, iTunes or Stitcher and write a brief review. That would really help get the word out and raise the visibility of the Creative Life show. SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW Apple: http://bit.ly/TSL-apple Libsyn: http://bit.ly/TSL-libsyn Spotify: http://bit.ly/TSL-spotify Android: http://bit.ly/TSL-android Stitcher: http://bit.ly/TSL-stitcher CTA link: https://speakersu.com/the-speakers-life/ FOLLOW ME: Website: https://speakersu.com LinkedIn: http://bit.ly/JTme-linkedin Instagram: http://bit.ly/JTme-ig Twitter: http://bit.ly/JTme-twitter Facebook Group: http://bit.ly/IS-fbgroup Read full transcript at https://speakersu.com/sl061-how-to-adapt-to-a-changing-speaking-industry-with-jeffrey-hayzlett/ James Taylor Hey, there's James Taylor and I'm delighted today to have on the show Jeffrey Hayzlett. Jeffrey Jeffrey Hayzlett is a CPA speaker Hall of Fame Inductee, and now primetime television host of C-Suite with Jeffrey Hayzlett and executive perspectives on C-Suite TV. He is the author of four best selling business books, including his most recent with entrepreneur press, the hero factor, how great leaders transform organizations and create winning cultures. Our frequent television business commentator, you might see him telling it like is on networks, including MSNBC, Fox Business, Bloomberg and CNN. You might even recognize him from his numerous appearances as a judge on NBC as Celebrity Apprentice shares my great pleasure to have Jeffrey with us today. So welcome, Jeffrey Hayzlett guys, thanks so much for having me. I appreciate it. This is awesome. James Taylor So share with us what's happening in your world at the moment. Jeffrey Hayzlett Right now um, you know, we I leave the C suite network which is the world's largest trusted network for executives and we're building out our C suite radio which are Podcast Network, we're building out C suite, TV C suite Academy, you name it anything with C suite, we just launched C suite loans. We're about to launch C suite supplies, we got c Suite Marketplace coming down the pike. I'm in the middle of three acquisitions. So you know, it's been a pretty busy time for me. James Taylor So take us back a little bit, because you have that you've had this entire other career, which a lot of people in the speaking industry don't necessarily know about, which was your role in a CMO of a very well known business. So take us through the transition, because I know there's a lot of people that listen, watch this, who are maybe in the corporate world and I've always gotten interested in maybe in making that that transition into what a professional speaking Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, I was actually a speaker before I went into the corporate world, you know, I was an entrepreneur and then became a speaker. I joined the National Speakers Association back when I was 26 years old, you know, sitting around the table with Zig Ziglar. And oh, gosh, Brian Tracy, and, you know, some of the greatest speakers in the world I got a chance to sit side by side niba need an E with over the years and then went into the corporate world I bought and sold over 250 businesses about 25 billion in transaction became the chief marketing officer of a fortune 100 company served in a number of capacities in in the C suite mostly always as a chief sales or Chief Marketing Officer, but also CEO of my own companies and now of course chairman of a number of companies serve on about 14 boards today. Three of them are have been publicly traded companies so a little bit of everything you know, you've moved so I mean treats. This always blows my mind for a lot of speakers are just kind of coming into it. They haven't heard name necessarily like Zig Ziglar Brian Tracy, some of the some of the names that you mentioned, get out, get out more often they should be the greatest speakers of all time, right. James Taylor I remember I remember interviewing a while back guy, Jim Kiska, we were just talking about some of these needs. But years ago kind of being introduced some of these but one I'd never really checked out before this was going back to Betamax or VHS. I guess I could never get them was augmon Dino and through the power of YouTube now I went on a complete augmon Dino binge Of what? Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, you should as well you should I mean, the author the book, the salesman, probably one of the greatest all time motivational books of all time. love to read it Have I have a signed copy of it? leather bound edition right here in my, in my office, you know, the same thing like with Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich, Aye. Aye. I'm reading chapter 10 of that book right now, because of our mastermind work that we do in the C suite network. We have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of members in various groups that are what we call councils or masterminds in the C suite network. And of course, Napoleon Hill was the the, you know, the originator of the mastermind, of course, now I think it's been bastardized by a bunch of people. People don't know what they're doing. But nonetheless, you know, it's a great way and the right way to do it. But yeah, there are some of those names skip Ross. You know, augmentee know, Bill Brooks, who's now past former coach at Syracuse, and, you know, used to lead the fighting padres. I laugh about that, because he was a football coach of the fighting padres things. I mean, imagine what do you I mean, would you really get pumped up? What do you do? Just take a knee and pray, I guess is what you do. But, you know, he was, but I used to sit with those folks. You know, when I was 26 years old, as a member of that Association, and there used to be like, 200 people as part of NSA back then it wasn't a lot of people. You know, it would go to a convention and you'd be in the room with those people. Right? And I say those people meaning some of the greatest speakers of all time now in the Hall of Fame, but you know, yeah, go just go look at some of the greats you should be googling those people you should be understanding and learning and going to the archives to listen to to Norman Vincent Peale. You No power positive thinking, you know, I, when I'm in New York and my home in New York, I live across the street from his church, you know, marble church, and of course, Michael Brown has been the pastor there since Dr. Peale passed. And then Michael Brown took over and has been the pastor there for 30 some years and, you know, one of the greatest oranges of our time, but you'll never hear about that name, of course, but he learned in the shadow of Norman Vincent Peale. You know, my daughter sings at that church, you know, in New York, so it's just, yeah, it's amazing when you but you know, but there's older folks who haven't heard some of the young names, right. Yeah. So I guess it goes both ways. But if you're good at what you do, okay, and especially the speaker, you should be looking at what other speakers do good and bad. So you can say, Yep, I like to learn that I can learn from that, you know, you know, to take apart some of the great masters of today like Mark Sean Brock, who's a Polish famer, you know to watch him do his craft. Now what he does isn't what I do, but to see him pick apart and how he meticulously does his craft. I love that to watch a good preacher. And then watch what they do to watch a good politician. Watch what they do to watch a good actor or a good comedian. I love to watch you know different things or even listen to old records, you know, or if your tapes or shows like Jerry clower mouth of the South, which you will never even you've never heard of James I'm sure no. James Taylor You would just mentioned this to my wife the other night, my wife's a jazz singer. And, and I remember coming coming to Florida speaking obviously, was watching all these great videos from some of these incredible speakers. But then also watching people like Frank Sinatra and seeing about how they use their body, their posture, how they could command the stage and tell a story. And and there's a lot of people like that I remember kind of looking at it. I'd love to be able to take that, that string down Power on stage and there's a playfulness on stage and translate that into the world of speaking as well. So we can learn, Jeffrey Hayzlett How do you take? How do you take something that's, you know, 8000 people you might be performing to or speaking to, and then pause in such a way that 8000 people become so silent, that you can hear a cough in the back of the room, you know, to and then what's the technique that you would learn from you know how to do that what to do or when to stand so close to the stage that you're almost falling off that everyone's in unison, right. Or that I can tell you there's a moment of when I used to take a video camera and show it on stage and and throw it in a pitcher of water with it live and people would scream because I thought I just ruined the video camera when it's a waterproof video camera, and then proceed to then take it out and pour a glass you know the entire pitcher of water. water on it on stage making this mess, you know, and think, you know, just doing different things like that. The techniques that you learn so some of those things I quite frankly, just do, you know, and just try, right. I don't think of them ahead of time James Taylor when we're now obviously in a time the whole idea of doing virtual presentations, obviously really accelerated. Lots of organizations have talked about it for years. Lots of universities have talked about going online for years. And finally, overnight, they've had to do they've had to make that transition very quickly. What are some as your I know, you obviously with things like C suite network, and your your online, kind of presentations that you do as well, you can relatively early into this. Yeah, for those maybe those speakers are watching this just now. And I'm going to say not just younger speakers or new into but maybe the speakers who are very, very comfortable going up there and speaking on stage in front of 500 people or 5000 people, but now I have this screen screen to what we're communicating in with this slightly to medium, what advice would you give them on how to create that same energy? Same kind of power that same transformation audience online? Jeffrey Hayzlett Well quit quit Quit whining. So Quit whining that you you can't do it like you used to do it and start to say, what how can I do it? How can I make that square? so interesting that they only want to look at me? What background Can I put in? What graphics Can I add? What animation must I do? That will get garner the attention of one of you know, 120 screens or so filled with 1215 people on each screen or whatever the number is? how can how can you be that person that's so intriguing that they don't want to leave their desktop, right? And so it's really about it's doing the same thing you were doing before, but just in a different tiny size point a thumbnail, right? And that's the difference that I think it's a mindset of saying, look, look, I can't help right now with what's going on with COVID I can't I'm not a doctor. I'm not a nurse, I can't even sew a frickin mask right? But what I am is a business first responder. So what I am is someone who can help I can motivate I can inspire I can educate, I can show empathy I can do I can give you a kick in the ass I can I can bring you through when you can't do it. I will calm you down when you need to be calm down. That's my job. My job. All right, my, my mission is to do that. So rather than sit there and say, Well, my I used to do it this way. Do it this way. Change, adapt or die. Go. That's it, folks. That's your choice. So rather than sitting around as a speaker, bemoaning the fact that you're not your your, your gigs are canceling got it. Okay, while your gigs are canceling. I'm doing five a day. And I have never been busier. You hear my voice right now cracking because I literally am so tired from speaking all day every day. And I'm making money with it without question. Okay. More than I have made in lots of years, okay? Because I'm adapting to a new norm. And, and so I'm not sitting back complaining, I'm not gonna make my one K, forget the one K, I'm looking to buy my own jet now. All right. I'm not saying I will. But my point is or bigger, a bigger computer screen and better mics at board graphics for animation, right? Because I'm doing what I'm doing and I don't have to wear pants. You know, if that's the case, right? You know, but unless you want to stand up and you want to get that experience, which you certainly can do, you figure out the things that make it more interesting. Even as you and I are talking, we're talking over a visual medium, right in the background. There's my logo for TV. There's my green screen with the beautiful background got proper lighting, looks like I'm sitting in a studio, right? So there's ways in which you can start to do it in different make it making exciting, that's our job. James Taylor And one of the words you mentioned was this what adoptability there was a there was a natural kind of history program on TV. Last night here in the UK on the BBC, when there's going to Attenborough type programs, and it was all about primates, like baboons, monkeys, chimpanzees, and the narrator said something interesting. He said adaptability and resilience are the hallmarks of primates is of us of what we you know, kind of what we're about. So you can have that that first part is the adaptability piece you were talking about when it comes to because you've obviously you've had this life on the stage as a presenter of ideas and inspiring people. But you've also spent a lot of time doing that kind of small screen as well. Now, in the same way, we say I was watching a Michael Caine masterclass, and he's talking about difference between acting on stage as opposed to acting on screen. There's different ways you use your eyes, your physicality. What did you learn from all those years of whether it's a CNN in front of camera or being up there doing one of your C suite network? of recordings as well, that you think something you may want to pass on to other speakers but how they communicate in this medium? Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, their performances. First of all, thanks for thinking me with primates. That was great. It was a great absolutely we're all come from the same same genre jeans have. But the and by the way, relentless is one of my keywords just being relentless. You know, I don't always do it, right. But I will be relentless in getting there. You know, and I will make a lot of mistakes, you know, people talk about fail, fail, you know, fail fast, bullshit, win fast. That's what I want to do. I don't want to fail fast. I want to win fan, I'm going to fail. Trust me, I will fail. But I'd much rather win fast. But yeah. So when you talk about performance, talk about those screens in the different genres and what how would you? How do you act? How do you present? Well, it's a performance. So whether it's performance on stage or performance in on screen or a one to one performance, don't you want to be prepared, don't you want to be ready and I I've actually found that on television, you have to anticipate, how do you grab? How do you grab the mic? You know? Who was it? Diana Ross once told Michael Jackson when they give you the mic, never let go, right. And I've learned, you know, those are some of the things you want to be able to do understand the cadence of that discussion on TV, that it's a give and take, and you have to give them a chance, you know, just like in a podcast, and you have to give them a chance to ask you the right kind of question because you're here as a guest, but I'm here to perform. I'm here to help you get that message across and be the best so people can say, Oh my gosh, did you hear Oh, James had on the show, right? And so what you want to do is anticipate those questions and understand and have responses ready. And especially if you're doing it for small screen, they have to be memorable kinds of responses because what you want to do is have those clips those quotes, those those things that they'll pull out those little tiny nuggets, were in the small screen, especially for you know, like an interview or for television interviews or for that type of presentation, you only have those short burst, you can't tell the story, you don't have the luxury of the story as if you are on stage and you can act it out and you can be sometimes more animated. So you have to be animated with the oral, okay. And the face, okay, as opposed to the body leaning in leaning out pausing. If you pause in television, they will jump in with another question, right? So you have to you have to learn how to do those kinds of things and understand that that cadence, that energy that you have in each of those genres is different. James Taylor And how do you use humor? Because I always find this is, this is hard. I was I was speaking, doing an event last week and it was for a client, the client was in India was a telecoms company. And so there's obviously the cultural thing you can thinking about because primarily the audience was in India, but then I'm also thinking about how I want to use humor on some of it because I know What might work on stage when I can roll up jokes in line? I don't have the ability sometimes to do. So how do you kind of find using humor on these different media, Jeffrey Hayzlett I find that with humor, it has to be directed at you when it's on that small screen. It has to be about you can't be about them because they don't have a way to fight back or give it back. In an audience setting of a group. I can not only be self deprecating, but I can make fun of the audience. I can say when they don't laugh, I can say Oh, come on. That was frickin funny, you know? Do you you know, like or when no one laughs Come on. People don't have cable TV. I mean, come on, you get out more often. You can have fun with the group because you can build it up. You can't do that one to one. It's much more personal because they don't see the other people they just see you and them. And so there is that connection as opposed to that group kind of occurred in the crowd. Where they can they can kind of, you know, feel safer. You can't feel a safe When you're one to one, you get more and more, it's more much more emotional This way, you would think it's less emotion because it's so detached. Oh, but there's more, you know, watch chat rooms. I've watched people who've gone on, you know, on these do events. And there's people carrying on an entire chat about other things not related to the speaker at all. Like, can you believe they don't have more women speaking? Bah, bah, bah, bah, bah. I was. That was one of the other you know, things I was watching about somebody the other day they were, I was waiting in the wings. Right. And, and then I'm watching the chat going on. And, and yet the speaker didn't address it at all. It just kept going. And I thought, ooh, so I addressed that when I got there. And now, you know, I might so they were talking about not having enough women. I said, I can't believe you out your heart. You got this big white guy, you know, to come and speak to you, I guess, you know, and so I just had some fun with that right? Boom. To pull them in right away. James Taylor You've got the interactivity happening, which you can it's almost like you know, looking at the eye of the audience, you can pick up certain things that's your your eyes, you're kind of looking at that, Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, you have to so so I always have a staff person or to who's in the audience and watching that stuff and then over to the right or left, they're feeding me that information. In real time, Jeff, watch out, this is being said this, this, this, and I can address it right there. And that shows that I'm paying attention. Now normally, if I were on TV, I've got IBF right here in my ear, and I got a producer talking to me, and you know, give me countdowns times. key questions, key points that I can bring up about you. The fact that you broke your leg when you were 13 Baba, whatever it might be that you know that she knows or he knows, I don't have so in this in a stage you don't do that in the stage, right. You're, you're presenting, it's you it's that it's the it's live, it's gritty, but in the TV and or online, I can get those kinds of pieces and it's interactive and I think that's a better way of doing it these days. I mean, I like that I hey, you just ask a question. I think this is a great time to take a pause. And let me get to that question because I've it's very important. And I think it's very relevant to the point that I just talked about, you know, that shows I'm paying attention to them, James Taylor you know, so you've been told by obviously, some speakers are still like deers in the headlights just now. You can like figure out what about when it comes to the bureau side, when you're having conversation with your bureau partners? Where are they at? Are they still Jeffrey Hayzlett They've been stopped, they've been down, they've been stopped and they have they're still they're still working on the old model. And I think some of them are starting to get the new model. I just got another booking, you know, for half my fee, but I don't care. It's half my fee and I got the time I'm taking it right. That you know, because it's inventory, your time is inventory folks as a speaker so if you're not using the inventory, okay, then your inventory gets discounted. That's what happens. Okay. So way business works. And so, but I'm filling it up and I'm taking it. But if it's an interactive presentation online, I can't remember how many people but yeah, we're we're doing a lot more of those. But so some viewers are getting the new model. And this is going to be a new model. But let's be clear, it's going to be a new model. Doing this isn't going to go away. James Taylor And then when it comes, I mean thing always fascinated me about but what you do is you, you have that kind of public persona with the, you know, the keynote speaker that the speaker world knows you about. There's a persona that you have, which is very much for the consumer when you're on CNN and things like that. And then you have this whole C suite network. And I find that really fascinating because so many speakers would maybe just go down the route of let's say, maybe online courses or maybe some training thing they they have some certification, for example, but you went in a slightly different way. So because I think Jeffrey Hayzlett this is actually an evolution so so where you're what you were talking about with the traditional model is most speakers are what we call one two or three trick pony. So you have your speak, then you might have a product. And then you might have a service or subscription. I've just taken the subscription on steroids and I just haven't had 350,000. And then on top of it, I have 170 podcast shows which other authors and speakers and thought leaders are part of. I have other television shows that other speakers authors, so I'm monetizing that and then monetizing the community and monetizing the content. So all I did was take what my my audience my tribe was, increase it and say who else is relevant in this tribe that would like to come and play? So the C suite network is very much like a giant sequoia tree, you know, big Redwood. And if you've ever been in a redwood forest or a big forest with these massive old trees, well, there's a canopy and underneath the canopy is this very lush ecosystem? That's the C suite network. Well, who else has done that? Facebook LinkedIn, Salesforce, Amazon. And so what we're doing is building a platform. And so I started early on, I said, Look, I can have fame or I can have fortune, I'd rather have fortune. And if I'm really good at what I do, I'll get the fame for free. And if not, I can afford to pay for it, if that's what I want, right? So what we're doing is building a platform for people to operate underneath that canopy of the C suite in that environment of a trusted ecosystem. And then how can we all help each other, but because if we learn, you know, together, if we share we learn, then we cheer. And then of course, we care. And so for me, it's always about you know, the, the really the relevancy of us together, what's relevant. So that's the C suite, the business community, then it's about our reach, combining my reach which is big, huge, I admit that and then the, then your reach, you know, might be a little bit less but together with you and all of these thousands or hundreds of other thoughts. leaders, it's massive. And then it becomes about reciprocity, and how do I help you and you help me. And if we can get that that's a win win. And that's what that's what I'm about. James Taylor You're always reminding me now of your lady Oprah of the of the C suite, because it's not about just your brand, or your what you're one of brands. But I always thought what Oprah was amazing at doing with Harper and her business was kind of building other brands, whereas Dr. Phil, or you know, the other brands around her as well. And when you start working with maybe some of those other brands, thought leaders, experts, and when you help them understand that C suite, that subscriber to your C suite network, what are some of the key things you try to impart upon them to really help them understand that mindset or that the how Jeffrey Hayzlett how to leverage that IP and then how to build their own community. So I'm teaching them we have a slide that I call the thought value chain and it teaches them all along The 2030 points of products and services and things that you could, you know, give time for and giving time for you can get get more revenue for. And most of us are way down in the lower left hand portion of that of that value chain. And we only speak or we only have a book or we only have a podcast, or we only have a course or training. Well, what about the alumni group? What about the courses? What about the academy? What about your council? Your mastermind? What about a supergroup? What about me? I can keep going of what about enablement, tools? All the things that you can do that you're missing out on as a result of just saying I'm a speaker, right, rather than a real thought leader? And then what does that thought leadership mean? And then with that, how do you then operate inside or under that in that ecosystem or under that canopy? And by doing so we can add zeros, we add zeros to what they do. And we have hundreds of these folks that are part of this network that are doing that every day. Now You know, I, I promote myself and my brand well, because that's what I got. Right. But I'd much rather promote hundreds of others because I can get a lot bigger, you know, James Taylor that almost reminds me of the way an investor like Ray Dalio would go and build a would build investment. He has the all weather fund, where it has 40% are in low risk bonds, which is like subscriptions, essentially all memberships, but 30% are in stocks, high risk stocks, which is kind of at the keynote side, you know, it's when the economy is really good, it's really good when it's not good. And then he has like the, you know, the consulting and then and so, it is almost like regardless of where the economy goes, he's winning in that as well on the Jeffrey Hayzlett the on stage James the onstage model only is a dying model, you know, you know, post post Corona, those people who will make it will be a very low in the very high end What I mean by that, so those willing to basically do it for free. And then those who get paid a lot of money for like myself another who are very professional, but they have to be a, they have to be a professional athlete, a celebrity, they're going to have to be a subject matter expert, or they're going to have to be an unbelievable entertainer. Right. And some of us are a little bit of all that, right. And, and so those folks are going to continue to thrive in what we're doing. Those that just follow them the marketplace of I'm a keynote speaker, I'm just a speaker, right? It's going to be very tough as events go away, right? As they do things in different ways, but those at the low end will make it because they do it for free. Right. So they'll continue to do the TED talks and the you know, the free stuff and the little stuff that really doesn't matter. And you know, or you know what I'm talking about in terms of your pocket book. They'll still do it, they'll still do it. But if you unless you're a subject matter matter experts and entertainer you know a notable a well known and really good at what you do it's going to be a tough so you should be building a community you should be looking at the value chain and how you want to increase it and do it differently and you should be joining every damn group you can get your hands in you know get into and put your feet first and and just and don't always look for what's in it for me look at what can I do to enhance this group and get something out of it? That's the way to think about it. You know if you're going in with a servant mentality it's awesome if you go into it with well what am I going to get? Well then when I hear people come to our C suite network and they asked me Well, what am I going to get? I say you know this isn't for you. This isn't for you. I think we're talking about the wrong thing so they go No no no I want to be know if you're if your primary reasons just to come in here and to rape and pillage so to speak, then and just sell sell sell. Nope, not interested. Don't don't, I don't want that. If you want to come and say, Tell me what you can give how you can add more value to this community, then you'll get the more you give, the more you get. And that's the way that's the new this new economy. That's the way to look at it. James Taylor So what role then does the bureau have in this new economy? Because you think, well, if what you're kind of talking about in terms of those, essentially the superstar thought leaders, which that lends itself very well to I already company entertainment industry, so like a Live Nation model, 360 degree model wraps around the speaker, they do the merchandise, the live the publishing everything. They're like the CEO, the concealing Aires of those thought leaders, businesses, so I want to I can see that in the speaker management companies. But then what role does the bureaus have now? Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, that's so they'll start changing the model has to change for them. The bureau I love bureaus, I mean, we do about 35% of our business to bureaus and I And I love bureaus we have great relationship with bureaus, but bureaus don't work for me. bureaus work for the client. So bureaus are representing their amalgamating. They're there, they're consolidating, they're looking at all the things that are available and then present that up to their client, their client being the person that's hiring the speaker, not the speaker. There is no bureau that works for the speaker. Now, I know we work in a partnership. And I don't want to say but if you really look at what bureaus, do, they they're working for the client, and they're helping to be a demand aggregator of what they need and how they need it, and then deliver that experience and pick the best person and saying, well, we need all this stuff out and do that, but they're working for the client. So yeah, if they're going to look at different models, and by the way, I don't know that even the speaker management model is going to work unless you get some big speakers with some big fees, right? Yeah. Because it's just gonna be you know, it's just going to be a little bit different. So, you know, a lot of people say, Well, I want somebody to manage me, well, you got nothing to manage. You're paying somebody James Taylor 00 Yeah, exactly. So yeah, Jeffrey Hayzlett you know, there's lots of things to look at it, but I, you know, there, there will always be, I mean, for really great businesses, and there are some bureaus that are really great at what they do. Well, that's what you're gonna see they're gonna survive, they're gonna be they're the ones that that aren't as good. You know, that don't have that value that don't have the, the servant mentality that don't have the client base and the relationships because it's always about relationships. That's what's going to carry them through. And so they're going to have some difficult. James Taylor So as we start to finish up here, just a couple of final kind of quick questions for you. We were talking about the augmon dinos and Brian Tracy's earlier on as well. If you were to recommend one book to our audience, maybe it could be a book about how to adapt now to this new age, this new time that we're in or it could be an absolute classic. We just had these essential principles and Neil, you know, time doesn't really change them. What would the book be that you'd recommend? Jeffrey Hayzlett The easiest book I can suggest How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, I read it every single year, it's still tested, it still passes the test of time, you know, just no different than the Bible, no different than certain types of books there. I'm not saying they're comparatively the same. But my point is, there are certain books that are grounded in what we do. You know, I would also, you know, give a self plug but to push my hero factor book about how to set your how to how to build a company that puts people but prophets, and how do you build hero cultures? And I think we're at we're at some turning points. Right now in our, in our society, I think this isn't going to make us friendlier. It's just going to make us more human. And, and I this entire experience is going to really lay us out a little bit for a while. And I think it's been a good pause a good you know, permission to pause for us to say, what's what's important, and that's so now we're taking the time to look at sunsets now. We're taking the time to fly you know, To bake a little bit more, cook a little bit more, to be with family a little bit more to have, like, you know, have kids across from you at the desk going to school that you're helping with school, when you should have been doing that anyway. Right? That, you know, I got my brother in law living with me, you think that I want that I want that. Well, now it's turning out to be a really nice thing. So those are the things that you want to look at, I think and say, yeah, these are the right things to do. James Taylor And actually, essentially, you mentioned that book, How to Win Friends and Influence People I was looking at the other day, because I was looking at old books had been written during the Great Depression. And that was actually one of the books had been written during a depression and and you would think it was very dark time. But there was actually a lot of amazing businesses that were started a lot of amazing books are written a lot of amazing films that were created by Marx Brothers fan, what the great Marx Brothers movies were created during that time as well. So there's gonna be a lot of very good things. They're going to come out this time. Jeffrey Hayzlett Well, there's going to be great businesses. Look at the last, the last the last recession. Bond, Arab Airbnb spawned Uber, go back even further and look during other downturns, some of the greatest business, you know, there's a saying don't waste a good crisis. Don't waste a good crisis. So the question for each speaker that's sitting here listening right now is, what are you doing to make sure that you don't waste the time? And I think that's a key question for you. What are you doing that you could then up your game and change it exponentially to be something bigger and better to take the message that you have and exponentially? You know, make it more relevant for today and make it greater in terms of its reach? That's, that's a good question for people. I'm doing my best. I've never worked harder. I have absolutely never worked harder during this entire time. This this last seven weeks that we're into this already as part of this thing. Not to not make this evergreen but I don't care whenever it is, what do you don't let a day go by without saying I'm going to make a difference or doing a different way? I wouldn't Do that. James Taylor Now one question, kind of final question I asked all my guests is, imagine if you woke up tomorrow morning, and you had to start from scratch. It's an interesting question. This time we're living in just now as well. So, Jeffrey, I want you to imagine tomorrow morning, you wake up, you have to start from scratch, you've got all the knowledge, you've acquired all the expertise, but no one knows you. And you know, no one, what would you do? How would you resolve things? Jeffrey Hayzlett I, first of all, I would do it faster. And I would do it with greater intensity, I wouldn't care so much about what other people think. That's the first thing. So and and I think by the way, the closer you get to who you really are in your intensity of that authenticity, the better it is. So that's what I would do it and by the way, I gain it and do it one fan at a time, one friend at a time. And then by and I did that's what I would do. I wouldn't change much more than that. And I would do it every single day just like that. You know, listen, if you grow 1010 people on your LinkedIn a day at the end of the year, you got to 3650 new people you never knew before. If you if you did you know, 10 of this, or 10 of this are just simple things that builds it up and it's real. It's not fake. It's not bullshit. It's real. And I built my entire career on just doing that. And I'm going to continue to do that because you know why? Because I can and that's why I want to do it though. James Taylor Well, Jeffrey, thank you for continuing to do that and cutting coming on shows and sharing your knowledge in this way as well where especially for people to go to learn more about your speaking bolts or to learn things about C suite that would be Yeah, Jeffrey Hayzlett just go to Hayzlett.com. H A Y Z L E T T .com or go check me out on C-Suite, look up anything with C-Suite, C-Suite network or C-Suite, TV C-Suite, radio C-Suite, book club, C-Suite TV, that we own them all, and you can come find us. James Taylor Well, Jeff, thanks so much for coming out today. I wish you and your family all the best. Stay safe, stay healthy, and I'm sure that you are going to use this time you're going to create some amazing things. Jeffrey Hayzlett We're going to have some fun and thanks so much James. Oh, It's a pleasure to be on your show. Thank you More of Jeffrey Hayzlett Learn More About SpeakersU #speakerslife #speakersU

GREETINGS FROM MARGATE!Welcome to episode 14 of Buddy’s Buddies!Enough about that - how are YOU? No, really? And how much? You are KIDDING. Well I must say I’m lost for words. I didn’t expect that. I mean I’d better get on with this episode but we’ll get back to this okay?Bless your heart for checking in folks, it’s a true pleasure to find you here. Much obliged. You are for SURE going to adore this one and I’m so excited to be able to present it to you, as it’s someone who I’ve been a legit card-carrying fan of since way back in the 00’s. If you haven’t caught him on record or in person at a show, you’ve surely heard his works on the big and marginally smaller screens - ladies and gentlemen, please be loud in welcoming ADEM ILHAN to the episode!You may know him as Adem of course, and I’m sure more than a few of you will be fortunate enough to have some of his music in your collections (digital or physical), and ALSO you might be familiar with his earlier work in a band called Fridge (alongside Kieran aka Four Tet and Sam). If more bells need to be rang, perhaps you’ve seen the films ‘Yesterday’ or ‘In The Loop’, or partaken in the very awesome HBO series ‘Avenue 5’. If not, my friends, may I insist you avail yourself of some of the above at your nearest convenience! At any rate - familiar or not - it was a true honour to join Adem for a chunk of time in the homestead to get in deep on the subject of songwriting and lyrics, band days, production perspective, scoring for screen, Margate life (sorry, MARG8 LYF), breakthroughs, shaking everything up and the broader subject of “hopeful melancholy”. So much to be enjoyed here and certainly a perfect intro to a beautiful musician and truly lovely human. Please, share and love!ADEM SPOTIFY PLAYLIST FOR THIS EPISODE!(originals of his covers album and the Social Singing Choir EP, and more!)ANOTHER COMPREHENSIVE ADEM SPOTIFY PLAYLIST!EPISODE LINKS:ADEM on TWITTER!ADEM on THE INTERNET!YESTERDAY!AVENUE 5!IN THE LOOP!REFERENCES:LANGLEY SCHOOLS MUSIC PROJECT • TENORI-ON • THE ANGEL AND DANIEL JOHNSTON • VASHTI BUNYAN - From Here To Before excerpt • ITCHY TEETHBUDDY'S LINKS:MARGATE MERCURY!

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Gretchen Foster discusses shame with Claudia and Allie. Talking through how Jesus engages with our shame. Bible verses we'll be in today: 2 Samuel 13:1-22 2 Samuel 19-20 John 8 Breaking Free - Beth Moore Application: Fill in the blank from last week. "I heard you and I was afraid because I __________; so I hid" Add Jesus' response as a conversation. Jesus = “Has no one judged you guilty, (your name here)?” You = “No one, Lord.” Jesus = “Then neither do I judge you guilty. Go now and leave your life of sin.” Do this as many times as you need to till it sticks and sinks in. Quiet yourself and listen. Listen to Jesus’ message. A message He wrote in His own blood: NOT GUILTY Please comment below and share your thoughts with us. Please like this video and subscribe to this channel, so you can watch the latest videos in this series. You can follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/in.the.becoming/ Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inthebecoming/ Subscribe to us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/inthebecoming Subscribe to us on iTunes. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/in-the-becoming/id1449521760?mt=2 Subscribe to us on Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/matt-foster/in-the-becoming We're also on Spotify podcast. Thank you so much for spending this time with us, we'll be praying for you. Have a great day! God bless you...

You: Ok Plank! Plank: Yes? You: Play Episode 65 of Get Sidetracked! Plank: Ok! Playing Episode 55 of Ghetto Tracks! You: No! Shit! PLAY EPISODE 65 OF GET SIDETRACKED! Plank: Ok! I heard it's pretty good! This week on the podcast the boys are joined by the very funny Anthony Tomic (no relation to Bernard). They delve into such things like smart planks of wood, like a Google home but its a plank of wood. Sunny talks about how he uses ASMR to go to sleep and Florez debates with Anthony's Instagram questions, plus much, much more! For more information and tickets to Anthony's comedy shows please click the links below: Canberra Comedy Festival March 22, 23: http://canberracomedyfestival.com.au/event/anthony-tomic-believe-it/ Melbourne International Comedy Festival April 9-20: https://www.comedyfestival.com.au/2019/shows/please-pray-for-me If you want some advice or have any questions you would like the boys to answer please email them at wearegetsidetracked@gmail.com! Don't forget to like, rate, review, follow on Facebook, Instagram, Soundcloud, Google Podcast, CastBox, Spotify and iTunes or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Intro music credited to M.O.P. Ft ft. Busta Rhymes, Teflon, Remy Martin "Ante Up Remix" Boogie Break music credited to IRONTOM "Be Bold Like Elijah" Outro music credited to Pep Love "Needs & Things"

Ryan Estis was the catalyst for Doug's speaking career and this podcast. Hear the story on The Nice Guys today.    Reach Us Here: Doug- @DJDoug Strickland- @NiceGuyonBiz Ryan- @RyanEstis On Facebook: The Nice Guys Community page   Become a patron and support the podcast at www.Patreon.com/NiceGuys   Show Notes by Production Assistant - Anna Nygren   Intro Ryan's favorite part of his career are the live events - focused on leadership development and sales performance Every day is a sales day   The Blend of Humility and Hustle In any entrepreneurial journey, you start with nothing Create balance and perspective for yourself to avoid burnout You start at the bottom and you don't know what good is There's only one way to go... Up. Our brains are hardwired to keep us safe, which is why we're afraid of failure Don't get comfortable. Stay in the learning lane. The world is changing so fast that you've got to continue to reinvent yourself Go all in on YOU No plan fuckin' B   Closing Lines Patreon Patreon   http://ryanestis.com/   Proud to be affiliated with the C-Suite Radio Network   Doug and Strickland's Stuff: Amazon #1 Best selling book Nice Guys Finish First. Business Building Bootcamp (10 Module Course) Need Podcast Production? www.podcastproduction4you.com   Partner Links: Amazon.com: Click before buying anything. Help support the podcast. Sign up for Sanebox free and get a $10.00 credit on us: The best way to get a handle on your E-Mail. Interview Valet:  Get interviewed on top podcasts and share your message. Acuity Scheduling: Stop wasting time going back and forth scheduling appointments   Survey: Take our short survey so The Nice Guys know what you like.   Nice Guys Links Subscribe to the Podcast Niceguysonbusiness.com You can text Doug anytime at 410-340-6861, of if you just want to leave us a message or record an intro to the show, call 4242 DJ DOUG (1-424-253-3684)   Promise Statement: To provide a learning experience that is entertaining and adds value to your life. Don't underestimate the Power of Nice.

The Bitches celebrate the podcast's 1st anniversary with highlights from the past year! Join Big L and Maxini as they play a rousing game of celebrity guess whom and debut new segment "YOU GO!!/YOU NO!!" This episode also features November movie fun time and a New England sports roundup 

You know that scene in anime, 2 people agree to meet for a date, and one turns up really early and anxious, the other turns up a little late? Yeah I like to think this is what happened with the release of the podcast Podcast : Sorry I'm late, were you waiting long? You : No, it's okay I just got here (In reality you arrived and waited almost 2 weeks) Joining our ranks is the Deadly….Fatalis!! In this spoilerific episode ready to ruin your enjoyment of shows you've never seen (though since the release of this episode is a little late, hopefully it won't!) We picked shows that we really enjoyed at the start of the summer season, which made a great impression on us with the few episodes we had seen at the time. Only then for us to think back of previous shows which had achieve a similar feat of astounding us personally in their first few episodes. This is the part where you listen to the podcast and then forgive me for being late because you had a blast with the podcast. If not then let me again say sorry for being late! Chapters Intro: 00:00 - 3:55 Sabagebu - Survival Game Club: 3:56 - 12:37 Invaders of the Rokujyoma: 12:38 - 24:00 Ao Haru Ride: 24:01 - 35:09 Barakamon: 35:10 - 49:45 Ending of Segment One: 49:46 - 51:45 Open Topic: 51:46 - 52:37 Richard's Picks: 52:38 - 1:10:43 Kevin's Picks: 1:10:44 - 1:19:50 Fatalis' Picks: 1:19:51 - 1:39:30 David's Picks: 1:39:31 - 1:48:05 Ken's Picks: 1:48:06 - 1:56:46 User Comments: 1:56:47 - 2:07:55 Outro: 2:07:56 - End