Anlaşabiliriz

Life has changed considerably since we are no longer living in agrarian societies. While fertility rates are falling everywhere, people also live longer thanks to advances in medicine. What does this extended lifespan mean for people's conflicts later in life? In this episode, Sara Barnes explained the types of disputes that fall under elderly conflicts, how mediation can help resolving those and how their practice is shaped by the needs of the elderly.

Simel Sarıalioğlu, kısa bir süre önce hem kendisi hem Türkiye adına kısa bir zaman önce büyük bir başarıya imza atarak, ICC Milletlerarası Ticaret Odası Tahkim Divanı'na seçildi. Onunla ICC'ye seçilme sürecini; ICC'nin nasıl bir kurum olduğunu; ICC'de daha önce yüklendiği görevleri; bu göreve dek neler yaptığını ve hakemlik yapmak isteyen genç meslektaşlarına yönelik önerilerini konuştuk.

The war in Gaza led to many student protests in university campuses in the US and beyond. Many universities that were involved in the protests had ombudspersons for handling conflict in campuses. Yet, we did not see them getting involved and helping stakeholders. In this episode, we discussed the reasons for that; and whether ombudspersons really cannot do anything about these protests; what issues they were talking about among themselves in order to find entry points to handle the situation.

In this episode, we delve into Turkey's unique approach to mediation in its foreign policy. Our discussion uncovers how historical traditions, regional ambitions, and contemporary challenges have shaped Turkey's role as a mediator. From its initial engagements in Iraq and Iran to its involvement in the Balkans, Central Asia, and Africa, Turkey's mediation efforts have evolved significantly. We explore the influence of the Ottoman Empire's negotiation practices, the impact of the 1990s geopolitical shifts, and Turkey's strategic positioning as an honest broker free from colonial baggage. The episode also highlights the personalistic turn in Turkey's mediation under the Justice and Development Party, examining both the successes and limitations of this approach. Join us as we discuss Turkey's mediation in Bosnia, Kosovo, Somalia, and Somaliland, and the broader implications for its foreign policy and international standing. This episode also offers a comprehensive understanding of the human capital involved, and the ongoing challenges in achieving sustainable peace.

Sivil toplum kuruluşları ve diğer kuruluşlar anlaşmazlık yaşadığında yokmuş gibi mi yapar; biriktirip üstüne mi yatar; hiyerarşiden mi medet umar? STKlar için kapasite geliştirme, çatışma çözümü, değişim yönetim sistemleri gibi konularda çalışan konuğum STKlar hangi konularda öz yardıma ihtiyaç duyuyor; kuruluşlarda kutuplaşma ve çatışma yaşandığında beraber varolma adına ne yapılabilir; derin demokrasi, derinlik ve balıklar, sosyokrasi gibi kavramları konuştuk.

After the war in Bosnia was finished in 1995, there were many projects about the war where soldiers, journalists and politicians told their story. However, for those who were children at the time, there was none. The invitation of Jasminko Halilovic who decided to create a platform for children to tell their story, first turned into a book project. Then, people started to send their childhood objects from war. Suddenly, the book became the greatest museum Project for War Childhood. Based on storytelling, the museum not only created a platform but also an opportunity for healing and studying peace. It also went beyond its own borders to even Japan, Syria and Ukraine.

In this episode, I spoke with Gael Cochrane who works at Community Justice Scotland as a Learning, development and innovation Lead. She explained what it means to have a trauma-informed practice involving issues such as safety; choice; collaboration; empowerment and trust. She also said why this is needed; how someone working in the criminal justice system or in any mediation can realize that someone has trauma; and the relationship between trauma, criminal behavior and shame. These can also help those working in any people facing capacity to handle situations humanely.

In this episode, I spoke with Ilan Bass from UK who is a community mediator. He explained what community mediation is; how he got involved in it; and gave examples of community mediation cases in neighborly disputes such as noise; life style clash; pets and boundaries while also taking about how public institutions can support mediation.

Müzakere ve arabuluculuk eğitimi almak, bir kişinin kariyerinde ne tür farklı imkanlara kapı açar? Süleymanoğlu kendi kariyerinden çeşitli örnekler verdi. Türkiye'de son on yılda arabuluculuk kanunu sayesinde neler başarıldığına değindi. İlerleme gösterilmesi gereken alanlar arasında eğitimler; ekonomik sıkıntıların işin nitelikli yapılması ile uyuşmaması; interdisipliner olunmaması ve arabuluculuğa meraksız yaklaşılması; yapay zekanın vaatlerinin anlaşılmaması; ve en önemlisi kullanıcıların görüşlerine önem verilmemesi gibi konuları ele aldık.

Bu bölümde kolaylaştırıcılık nedir ve çok katılımcılı süreçlerde ne işe yarardan başladık. Şirket olsun apartman toplantısı veya işyeri olsun bir kolaylaştırıcı eşliğinde toplantı yapmanın nasıl katılımcı ve daha kolay uygulanan, kavgasız sonuçlar yaratabileceği konuşuldu. Türkiye'de çevre konusunda devletle toplum arasında başvurulmuş bir projeden kolaylaştırıcılık örnekleri verildi.

Released on the Centenary of the Republic of Türkiye, in this episode I spoke with Alper Koç who is an entertainment media lawyer. He talked about the different approaches taken to conflicts in the entertainment media business whether it is between talent and business or business to business. He also gave examples of platforms such as Netflix and others and discussed what they value in conflict and how the business is changing. Lastly, he talked about the dispute involving Disney series of Atatürk also released on the centenary of the Republic of Türkiye.

In this episode, my guest was Belinda Hopkins who is the director of Transforming Conflict. We discussed how a restorative approach through circles can help students build relationships and values at schools. This would hence help with conflicts at school whether with fellow students or teachers but also among members of the administration. Belinda is a provider of training and consultancy in the field of restorative approaches in schools, residential care and other youth settings.

For over 100 years, the Canadian government in cooperation with the churches has taken away indigenous children from their families never to return them. They assimilated them, changed their religion and did much more. My guest Nergis Canefe explained how this was done and after all the pain and loss for the indigenous communities, there can be reconciliation between the aboriginals and Canadians of all sorts including those who arrived in the country recently. We discussed whether the adoption of the National Day of Truth and Reconciliation and similar measures can be examples and how society can play its part in healing.

Sanatçı ve hoca Işıl Eğrikavuk, toplumsal sanat işleri yapıyor. Bunlar başkalarıyla işbirliğine ve üretime dayanıyor. Ama ne sanat eğitimi ne de piyasa mekanizmaları anlaşmazlığa açık değil. Yıllar içinde başkaları ile bu süreçte neler yaşıyor; ortaya çıkan anlaşmazlıkları çözmek için neler yaptığını fark ediyor ve bu anlaşmazlık çözme kaslarını nasıl geliştirmek gerekiyor konuştuk. Photo: Işıl Eğrikavuk, Response Performance: A Fairytale on Benefits on Apple, 2016, Photographer: Nazlı Erdemirel.

In this episode, I interviewed the Anglo-German artist Angela Findlay who with her amazing book 'In My Grandfather's Shadow" talked about her German grandfather who was a general in the German army. She described how trauma, guilt and shame get transferred inter-generationally; how to forgive parents; what needs to be done to understand trauma better.

My guest in this episode is David Faro. He and I talked about crisis management and especially what happens in a crisis that may lead to conflict; how to improve communication and learning from a crisis. He explained how time pressure and high stakes can cause curse of knowledge especially when experts communicate with the public during a crisis. He also talked about hindsight bias and outcome bias that make crisis even more difficult to handle leading to conflicts when the crisis is over. He suggested what kind of policies can be developed to handle these behavioral tendencies.

Andrea Kupfer Schneider is a Professor of Law and Director of the Kukin Program for Conflict Resolution at Cardozo School of Law. She taught ADR, Negotiation, Ethics and International Conflict Resolution for over two decades. She co-authored several textbooks and books in the field. She explained how negotiation skills were needed in everyone's life and why law schools needed to teach negotiation. She talked about her work on gender and negotiation and what skills women have in negotiation. She also explained that as times changed, men also needed to up some of their skills in negotiation. Lastly, she described how workplaces can be better equipped if they have more women in managing positions.

Depremlerden sonra kaçınılmaz olarak sorumlu arayışı başlıyor. Ancak bu sürecin mahkemelerde yapılması halinde, hem sonuç almak yıllara yayılıyor hem de ispat meseleleri gündeme geliyor. Oysa depremzedelerin bir de bununla -hele avukatsız- uğraşacak takati olmuyor. İşte bu nedenle başka ülkelerde örneği görülen komisyon fikrini ele aldım. Sadece depremzedeler değil bu süreçte rol oynayan yerel ve merkezi yönetim ve inşaat sektöründen kişilerin de birbirini dinlemesini sağlayacak bir mekanizma toplumsal öğrenme için gerekli. Programda Ken Feinberg'ün görev yaptığı 11 Eylül Komisyonu'ndan bahsetmiştim. Komisyona dair Netflix filminin traileri burada: https://youtu.be/OOAemeB9CAw. Feinberg ile yapılan podcast mülakatının linki de burada: https://gimletmedia.com/shows/without-fail/5who4m/the-tragedy-expert.

Emily May is the co-founder of 'Right To Be', an NGO that works to fight against street harassment. They designed a bystander intervention program for people that want to help anyone who is being harassed. These tactics are called 5Ds: delay; document; distract; direct and delegate. They are being consulted by many governments and transportation authorities. The picture of this episode was taken on London Underground. If you go to this link (www.gov.uk/enough) on their website, you can see similar tactics there for people who want to help someone who is being harassed and how to do so safely. Emily describes how they have been cooperating with the rest of the world in combating street harassment and harassment in all its forms. She also describes how L'Oreal supported them.

Donna Douglass Williams is the Head of Ombuds at Pinterest, one of the first Ombuds programs in the tech sector. Ombuds is a confidential, impartial, informal resource that provides support to the workforce in navigating work challenges, developing constructive resolutions to conflicts, and aims to promote an inspired workplace culture. Donna described what led to the development of the ombuds program and how work places shifted from fighting conflicts to another culture. She described what kind of issues arise as conflict at work and how ombuds programs will evolve in the future.

What is a restorative walk; why was this needed; what is about walking that is repairing people; what kind of walks are asked for and does it also work for special groups

In this episode, my guests were two women from the Parents Circle. This is an organization comprised of more than 600 Palestinian and Israeli bereaved families who believe in non-violence and reconciliation. Robi Damelin and Layla Alsheikh talked about the importance of reconciliation and seeing the other as human and developing empathy despite the ongoing occupation and warfare in their countries.

Citizens' assembly is a deliberative democracy model especially for talking about contentious issues in society. It worked in Ireland to resolve a never ending contentious issue like abortion. How was this model developed; how did it work; how were citizens selected, on the basis of which criteria; what were the principles employed during the process; can it be used in other countries?

After teaching at Harvard, Bob Bordone started a You Tube channel where he discusses negotiation principles in many new spheres in life. He explained what kind of projects he worked on as a clinical professor of negotiation and mediation at Harvard; how he decided to focus on public policy issues in negotiation; how he started his YouTube channel; and his ideas/initiatives about using negotiation in the most contentious issues in politics in the US.

In this episode, I present two persons whose countries are in conflict. One is Ukranian and she stayed. The other is Russian and he left. This episode presents their different stories and perspectives. Photo: Taken by me, in Odessa's Potemkin Stairs in 2005.

What are the conditions that make an encounter with someone who killed your dad possible; what are the reactions from people surrounding one to such an initiative; how can one overcome their sense of fear and betrayal; what can help the peoples of conflicting countries?

What is conflict coaching; why is it needed; the necessary conflict competencies needed for people in management; how can a manager's style of conflict effect new generations and more.

Figen Murray, Manchester Arena bombalamasında oğlu Martyn Hett'i kaybetti. Bundan çok kısa bir süre sonra katili bağışladı. Kendisi ile bağışlamak ne demek; niye bağışlamak istedi; bu karara nasıl tepkiler aldı ve teröre karşı neler yaptığını konuştuk. Murray çalışmalarıyla hem ödül aldı hem de İngiltere'de bir kanun değişikliğinin yolunu açtı.

Ailbhe Griffith explained how the restorative justice mediation process helped her; why the criminal justice system failed her; her needs after the incident and her expectations from the process and how women can support each other.

Devletin ceza yargılaması yapmasının toplumlarda yarattığı sonuçlar neler? Suç mağdurları açısından ne tür sorunlar bulunuyor? Failler bakımından ne gibi sorunlar var? Onarıcı adalet mekanizmaları buna karşın ne sağlayabilir? Bir çok ülkede nasıl ortaya çıktı? Türkiye'de ceza davalarındaki uzlaştırma niye onarıcı adaletle ilgili değil? Bosna'da toplumlar arasındaki iyileşmenin nasıl sağlanabilir?

Geçiş dönemi adaleti nedir; nasıl ortaya çıkmıştır; yargı varken böyle bir adalet arayışı niye lazımdır; farklı ülke örnekleri nelerdir; geçiş dönemi adaleti Türkiye'de nasıl uygulanabilir; hangi konulara öncelik vermek gerekir?

Dönüşüm koçluğu nedir; kişinin kendi değerlerini fark etmesinin, dinlemesinin ihtilaf çözümü alanında ona nasıl bir faydası olabilir; özellikle ilişkilerde anda kalmak nedir gibi konuları ele aldık.

Kampüs veya öğrenci ombudsluğu nedir; Türkiye'de nerede ve nasıl başladı; öğrenciler ombudsluğa hangi sorunlar için başvuruyor; Türkiye'de bu kurumun geleceği nedir?

What is hostage negotiation; why is it needed; how does stress effect our decision making; how can a police negotiator help a hostage taker to make rational decisions; how does a hostage negotiation course look like; when does most hostage taking occurs?

Türkiye'de aile arabuluculuğu sık sık gündeme gelmesine rağmen konuyu çocukların yüksek yararı veya refahı üstünden konuşmuyoruz. Florida'da çocuk korumada arabuluculuktan nasıl faydalanılıyor? Hizmet planı nedir? Çocuk koruma alanında arabuluculuk yapmak için hukuk okumak veya vatandaşlık niye gerekli değil? Arabuluculuk etik kurallarının amacı nedir?

What is forgiveness? Is it an act of condoning? What is the power of storytelling? How can forgiveness apply in communal conflicts? How can it help to transform the cycles of harm, transform relationships and build hope?

How were ombuds programs initiated in the US; how the changing university student profile is contributing to the adoption of these programs; what can ombuds programs do to help; how are medical schools unique settings for ombuds’ services; what is the future of ombuds as an institution internationally?

What led to the development of online dispute resolution systems (ODR)? How can ODR fit the different types of e-commerce businesses? How can the satisfaction of customers be measured? In which areas can further ODR develop? How to ensure ethics of ODR? Can ODR ensure access to justice?

How was the largest list serve about conflict resolution established; what can mediators do to respond to emergencies like 9/11; why is conflict coaching needed; can mediation work in the police force?

What is an organization ombudspeson; why the UN implemented an ombuds policy and the trend towards organizational ombuds; what does an ombuds’s office do; and what is the easy opt out system in mandatory mediation?

Why use principles of mediation when looking into problems of public services? Should a mediator take a stance about political issues? How should mediator neutrality be understood? What about a green pledge for mediators?

What is the best way to start a court ADR program? How did one of the top ranked court ADR programs in the US come about? What are the challenges to run an international Court ADR program during a pandemic? What is dispute system design? What can a mediation clinic do?

What is public policy mediation? What does it entail? Why is it needed?How does negotiated rule making and single text negotiation work? How did she facilitate abortion talks or "talk with the enemy"? What is civic fusion?

Barış çalışmaları nedir; çatışmalarda niye diplomasi dışı araçlar da lazımdır ve bunlar nelerdir; sivil toplumun barışa katkısı nedir; yoğun şiddet yaşanmış çatışmalarda travmaların etkisi nasıl aşılır; uluslararası yapılarda giderek daha çok görülen kurum içi ihtilaf çözme mekanizmaları niye gereklidir?

What is transformative mediation? Can it be helpful in ethnic, religious and international conflicts? How is transformative mediation different than facilitative or evaluative mediation? When we work about relationships, how do we know we can have positive outcomes/solutions?

What is work place mediation? How is it different than labour disputes between employer and employee? What are the most common disputes at the work place? How will COVID effect performance issues, personality clashes, resource allocation, competition, bullying, harassment at the work place?

Çatışmanın kişiler ve devletler arasındaki sonuçları yanında toplumsal etkileri de olur. Bu bölümde alanın yeni podcast'i olan DEMOS'u, çatışma alanına getirdiği bu bakış üstünden konuştuk. DEMOS'tan Güley Bor ve Yasin Sunca, geçiş dönemi adaleti, hafıza gibi konuları içeren demokrasi ve barış çalışmaları alanından, yaptıkları araştırmalar ve kendilerinin konuya toplumsal cinsiyet temelli yaklaşımlarından bahsetti. Konuklar, aynı zamanda niye podcast'i seçtiklerini ve ekiplerini de anlattı. Anlaşabiliriz ile şiddetsizlik, kazan-kazan çözümler yaratma gayreti gibi konularda ortaklaştığımızı ama onların çatışmaları toplumsal yanlarıyla daha barış çalışmaları alanına odaklı ele almaları bakımından da ayrıldığımızı fark ettik.

What is the difference and similarities between acting as an arbitrator and as counsel? What are the benefits of med-arb? How can the Singapore Convention be just as popular as the New York Convention?How did the small arbitration community in Turkey change? Michele Patocchi answers many more questions like these.

İstanbul'un tahkim merkezi olması için mevzuat, vize kolaylığı ve lojistik avantajlar yanında başka ne yapılmalı? İSTAC'ın uluslararası tahkim kurumlarından farkları/benzerlikleri nedir? Kadın hakem sayısını artırmak için taraflar ve kurumlar ne yapabilir?

Üç programlık tahkim serisinin başında tahkim nedir; hangi uyuşmazlıklarda daha çok işe yarar ile başladık. Tahkime iş dünyasının, yargının, kamu sektörünün bakışı nasıl değişti? Türkiyeli iş insanlarının riske, ihtilafa, yatırıma bakışı nasıl değişti? Kurumsallaşma, yabancı yatırım, küreselleşmenin etkileri bakımından ihtilaf çözümüne nasıl bakıyor?

Evde kapalı kalmanın cezaevinde kapalı kalmakla benzerliği nedir? Kapalı kalındığında rutinler niye önemlidir? Bu kadar belirsizlik arasında kontrol hissi nasıl sağlanır? Kadınlarla erkekler, evde kapalılıktan aynı şekilde mi etkileniyor? İlişkide pasif agrasif sözler kullanmadan kendinizi nasıl ifade edebilirsiniz? Kapalılık ilişkileri nasıl etkiliyor?