Gumball Love Podcast

I didn't realize how low my confidence still was until I began ballroom dancing. Looking back, I was showing up for dates dressed up, with my hair and makeup done, but I still felt heavy and uncomfortable in my own skin.  Until I overcame this, I never knew how obvious this was to others. The day I stepped into the dance studio, I had no idea how much my life was about to change. I had already done a lot of work on myself, but the transformation I experienced was truly a catalyst for reaching the next level and gave me the confidence I needed to feel aligned with the man that became my husband.  I am so excited to offer you a once-in-a-lifetime experience to combine both relationship coaching and ballroom dancing with my World Champion Coach Kairat Algadaev at Danznik Studios in Times Square, New York City.  Even if you think you could never do something like this, take a listen anyway.     Dance into LOVE Registration:  https://www.gumballlove.com/danceintolove BOOK A CALL WITH MELISSA to apply:  https://calendly.com/gumball-love/freediscoverycall What is your type? Take the Gumball Love Romantic Quiz Here:  https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/romantic Take the NON-Romantic Quiz here:  https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/non-romantic-v3 Website:  www.gumballlove.com  Email Melissa:  Melissa@Gumballlove.com      

I am so excited to be back, and I have so much to share.  This podcast is like a phone call between you and me. I tell you what happened, why I stopped podcasting, why I did not want to share my relationship online.  I also have a huge announcement and introducing a project I've been working on for a long time.  It is FREE:  Listen to the podcast and then come back and click the links below!    The Gumball Love ROMANTIC QUIZ: https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/romantic The Gumball Love NON-ROMANTIC QUIZ:  https://gumballlove.outgrow.us/non-romantic-v3 Website:  www.GumballLove.com  Email Melissa: melissa@GumballLove.com  Instagram: @melissajaneroberts Private Facebook Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/GumballLovePrivateVIPClubHouse

Are you nervous to take that step to TRULY be single, totally off the dating apps, and just focus on getting to know and love yourself? My past client Brittany is the perfect example of why doing this is SO important.  Tune in to find out how Brittany went from having no idea who she was, to being secure and confident in herself, plus happily married with two kids! We discuss what drew Brittany to working with me, what things she did during her break from dating, how she knew her husband was the one, advice to offer anyone in a similar position, the different benefits of therapy vs. coaching, and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Courtney was a single mom with two kids, divorced for six years, single for five, who was successful in all other areas of her life like friendships, career, and health...but her love life suffered. Until she met her boyfriend, but he'd never had kids before. Does it work out? Tune in to find out! Courtney worked with me a few years ago doing one-on-one and group coaching. We chatted to see what she learned through that process, and where she's at now. We discuss: What was going on in her life when she decided to work with me How she struggled with self confidence and being triggered after the trauma of her divorce What was different about her new love, Michael How the struggles of her past relationships taught her lessons moving forward How and when she decided to introduce Michael to her 12 and 10 year old kids Michael didn't have kids..was he understanding about her situation? and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down to talk about "Where are things now? and Do the results last?" We also discuss: What was the breaking point when she knew it was time to leave her marriage even though she had a one and a half year old daughter with him How she decided it was finally time to invest in a coach What benefits she got from coaching What she would say to someone considering coaching but on the fence How her life is now, four years later Work with Kristy: www.simplesuccessfinance.com Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Like many women approaching their 40's and still single, Lauren was feeling anxious, lonely, and grieving the fact that she may never get married or have kids. She was stuck in a pattern of dating the same time of guy over and over, always ending up with a broken heart...all while grieving the loss of her father. Until she decided to commit to herself and give herself a year off from dating to focus solely on herself. That's when she started to truly see her worth and value, and now she is in a happy, healthy relationship! Tune in to hear: How Lauren found out about Gumball Love and what made her decide it was time to stop the cycle and work with Melissa The moment Lauren knew it was time for a change The type of Gumball Guy Lauren was going after What Lauren did during her year long break from dating to discover herself and her worth How her relationship now is different from in the past (healthy vs. Gumball Love) What advice Lauren would give to someone struggling to find love and dating later in life How one-on-one coaching and group coaching with Melissa helped Lauren and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

I am officially Mrs. Melissa Roberts!! After 20 years of searching for the right one and the trials and tribulations of dating many WRONG ones, I'm so proud to be a first time bride at 45. So many of you were asking for the wedding details, so here they are! But if you're in a place where it's too painful or sad to hear about someone else's wedding, I TOTALLY get it because I was the same way, so don't press play if you think it'll put you in a bad mood.  It's not just about the wedding though, I also talk about: How to know if he's the right one A successful client case study What it's like to work with me in the 1-1 Level Up for Love program and group coaching Other exciting announcements about where I'm going next with Gumball Love! You also get exclusive access to taking the beta version of the Gumball Love quiz, which will only be released for purchase once it's live! Take it now here! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Are you struggling with self worth, self love, and confidence? Christina Lecuyer was a beautiful professional golfer who seemed to have everything going for her..looks, fame, money, a relationship..but behind closed doors she was struggling far more than anyone knew. By DECIDING to be happier, she turned her life around, and you can too! Christina shares helpful strategies for anyone wanting to up-level their mindset, confidence and life. Today we discuss: How Christina went from professional golfer, hiding an eating disorder, to loving herself and creating an abundant life The falsity of "I'll be happy when.. X happens" What she did in the very beginning to start growing confidence Christina's top tips for growing self confidence Christina's secret to her happy, successful marriage and more! Connect with Christina: Instagram: @bechristina Website Podcast: Decide It's Your Turn Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger  

The right thing to do is often the harder thing to do. I'm celebrating a client this week who decided it's time to choose herself and stop settling. I know making this kind of decision often doesn't feel like celebrating though. There is a lot of grief and heartbreak when letting go of someone you bonded with, and even loved. Today I'm talking about why the grief and tears make you stronger. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

You've likely heard of the three attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant, but we don't hear enough about the fourth: Ambivalent Attachment. If your guy seems really intense in the beginning, pursuing you, showering you with love and gifts, but then can turn cold on a time or seems really needy, but like whatever you give him is never enough...he likely has ambivalent attachment style.  Tune in to learn: What ambivalent attachment style is and what causes it Examples and red flags of this attachment style Why you might fall for someone with this attachment style Your own work you need to do   Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags. In this episode, I'm breaking down: What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective Why, from a physiological perspective, butterflies aren't always a bad thing My personal experience with butterflies and how it's gone both good and bad When feeling butterflies becomes a bad thing How you can distinguish between when the butterflies are a warning sign vs. just excitement   Feeling uncomfortable on dates, like you have to perform, be someone you're not, anxious wondering what he's thinking of you? I help my clients feel totally confident in their skin on dates, and to know how to spot the red flags. You don't have to be currently dating to work with me, in fact, it's great if you're not currently dating! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This episode was inspired by a listener who messaged me about her situation. She says the guy is not a Gumball Guy, he's nice and he loves her, but there's other issues...she noticed he has anxious attachment style and has been unwilling to get the help he needs, their core values are misaligned, and their levels of motivation and work ethic are different.  She's wondering if it's worth it to stick with him, or if he's not the one. I share in this episode what questions to ask yourself to know if you should continue dating someone, even if they're not a Gumball Guy, or if it's best to move on. If you're stuck in this situation, I can help! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Are you dating with a sense of urgency and a timeline?  If you ask any happily married couple if they had a sense of urgency to find the one when they met each other, most of them will probably say no. When you're dating with this mentality, it's like you're starving, and so ANYTHING to eat looks good. It clouds your judgement, and you'll either miss the red flags or rationalize them to keep things moving along. In this episode, we reverse-engineer dating by looking at what causes divorces, and what happy marriages have in common, so you can know what to look for and what to avoid. If you're having trouble moving out of that "urgency" mentality, especially if you're dating after 30, I can help! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster.  We talk about: How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are Red flags to look out for in the initial text messages with a guy so you can filter through the duds faster and save loads of time How soon you should move away from texting and move to phone/video call or in-person meet up How to grow your self-worth so you no longer settle for Gumball Guys Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This episode might sting a little to hear but I'm gonna be that SUPER honest friend right now who just tells it to you straight...here are the things you might be doing that could be a major turn off for people. Do you have bad breath? Bad body odor? Crooked teeth? What kinds of things do you talk about on a date...do you complain, or gossip? These are just a few of the things. Tune in to hear the full list! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Fresh out of a break up? Even if you're months or even years out and still not over your ex, here are my top 34 things to do to get over a break up (non of which include binge drinking or drowning your sorrows in ice cream!) These are healthy, productive methods that actually work to help you move on. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Are you killing it at your professional live, but struggling to find the man of your dreams? Most clients who come to me are much more confident and comfortable walking in to a board room than walking in to a first date, so if that's you, you're not alone! In this episode, I give you the top reasons my clients were struggling to connect with high-quality men, and how I help them stop the cycle of toxic love, discover their worth, and find true love. Work with Melissa If you're done dating man babies and ready to find a lasting, true connection, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, 10 coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

For those of you who geeked out on the Netflix show Love is Blind (season 2), this episode is for you! Yes, it's reality TV which doesn't have the best rep for being...well...real...but we can actually learn A LOT from observing these singles and couples.  In this episode I give my personal analysis of the individuals in the cast, as well as their relationships. Like, why did Nick and Danielle appear so toxic in the dating stages and they ended up being one of the only couples to actually make it even a year later? I fan girl over Deepti and Natalie and what we can learn from both of them as single women. We discuss why Shane is a Gumball Guy (if you couldn't tell already), and why Mallory and Sal appeared like such a cute couple but it didn't work. If you've gained value from this podcast, please share this episode on your social media, and leave a rate and review with what you've learned from this podcast so that more people can find it. Thank you! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

In this episode we're talking about why you're in the cycle of rejection and pain, why that pain of rejection is so great, and how to stop the cycle. If you continue to find yourself meeting guys who seem great in the beginning, and then with no explanation they disappear or they turn out to be not who you thought they were, and then you're stuck in what appears to be a never-ending funk of sadness and anxiety about what the future holds for you, this one is for you! It is all a simple mindset shift that you can start implementing today to immediately feel content about your present moment, no matter the circumstances. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

I'M ENGAGED!! I know how it can kinda stink to hear these engagement stories when you're still single, trust me I was there for a long time. I'm sharing this story with you because I KNOW it's possible for you.  Whether you're single, dating or in a committed relationship, this episode is meant to help you understand what it feels like (for me, and I know for many others) to know for sure that this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I'll also give you the behind the scenes story of how Iain proposed! Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions  Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

He's constantly on your mind...the one in your past who you wonder if he's grown up at all. You day dream about what it would be like to reconnect with him, and if things would be different this time. Should you reach out? Maybe he already reached out and you're wondering if you should revisit the relationship. In this episode, I'm sharing my personal experience with this exact scenario and what you can do to make this decision. Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions  Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Do you ever feel like you're too much, and at the same time, not enough for a guy? If you've ever wondered..."Should I tone it down"? Should I not bring this Michael Kors purse to the date? Maybe I shouldn't wear these heels, I'm too tall..." Girl, this episode is for YOU! The right guy for you will NOT make you second guess, question and doubt yourself. Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

We all love to watch the fantasies and the happily ever afters..but what about the reality that over 50% of marriages end in divorce? Most people know this fact, but have you ever stopped to investigate what actually led to women deciding to divorce?  We're over here thinking single life is terrible and just wanting what those married couples (seem) to have, but then why do so many women choose to divorce or wish they could? They're fantasizing about the single life! In this episode we get in to WHY so many marriages end in divorce. And here's a little spoiler, it's typically not marriage itself that leads to divorce..often it was doomed from the very beginning, long before the "I do's".  Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions Resources Mentioned in this episode: Tanya Zuckerbrot on the Skinny Confidential Podcast Happy Even After with Renee Bauer Mom's Moving On: Navigating Divorce, Single Motherhood & Co-Parenting Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

My love said it best, "If you've got unresolved trauma, you can't be intimate with yourself. And when you can't be intimate with yourself, you can't be intimate with someone else." A lot of people are walking around with unresolved trauma and expecting to find "the One" who will turn their whole life around.  Most people haven't done "the work" to truly heal, and are bringing a lot of baggage in to the relationship that prevents them from being able to connect deeply with someone else. If you suspect this is you, you'll wanna tune in to this episode. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

In this episode, I want to share with you all the things I did to level up my life that I believe prepared me for the love I'm experiencing now.  And I'll let you in on a secret..it has nothing to do with dating, or having the right pictures and words on your profile to attract the right person..it all has to do with going back to YOU and curating your ideal life. Not only did this help prepare me for this relationship, but it also helped me to not lose myself in this relationship.  This is a problem I had in the past, and a theme I see with my clients...losing yourself so much in a relationship that it's so difficult to break out of because you don't know who you are without this person. So tune in for some awesome, practical tips you can start incorporating right away into your life in order to be grounded in who you are and prepare you to meet the love of your life! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

We're bringing back my love Iain Roberts for another episode to give his perspective on Gumball Love, and how so many of us became attracted to Gumball People. When we think about our childhoods and the books we read, the movies we watched, the characters we idolized...a lot of these fantasies weren't very healthy expectations. These expectations are what keeps us in an endless cycle, but we're so IN it that we can't always objectively see the behavior patterns. That's what the Gumball Love Assessment and "Level Up for Love" coaching package is for! We talk all about the assessment and coaching package in this episode as well and exactly what to expect and how it can help you.

On this episode we bring on Khyara, a listener of the podcast, for a LIVE hot seat coaching session

FINALLY! It's here..the moment you've all been waiting for..I am introducing my love, Iain on to the show to share our story and how he has been and will continue to be helping out with Gumball Love moving forward! We get into... How he almost lost me because he cancelled our first date to MC a chicken wing eating contest... What our first two dates were like, how we were both feeling, and why we didn't end up meeting again for another 5 years How we ended up finally getting re-connected 5 years later and fell in love without even being able to see each other in person during the pandemic What Iain's thoughts on Gumball Love were then and now How Iain will continue to be involved in Gumball Love It's a longer episode than usual but I really wanted you to get a sense of our dynamic. NOT that every healthy couple dynamic will look and sound exactly like ours, this is just one example.  If you have any topics or questions you'd like us to cover together on the podcast, please email us at melissa@gumballlove.com . Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Wondering how to tell the difference between anxiety, your gut instinct, and anxious attachment style? This episode is for you! Often times our gut instinct is SPOT ON...telling us to GTFO of a sketchy situation or to not go on the date with that guy. But sometimes, our anxiety or anxious attachment style overruns our instincts.  In this episode, we'll cover: What is anxious attachment style and how to know if you have it How to tell the difference between anxiety, anxious attachment style and gut instinct How to self soothe when your anxieties are taking over Positive signs to look for if you're in a relationship with a guy that mean you (probably) have nothing to worry about Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

You come across a profile online...he's so cute, his dog is cute, you share the same hobbies and interests, you're hitting it off in the DM's, next thing you know you're fantasizing about your wedding and how you'll become bffs with his sister and wondering if you'll have Thanksgiving with his family or yours. Like WOAH that went from 0-100 real quick

What the heck is going on with ghosting?! It's becoming more and more common with my coaching clients so I wanted to address my view on what's really going on behind the scenes when he ghosts. Hint: It has nothing to do with you. You had a great time with him, he's what you wanted, and now he's not texting back at all, or he's coming back every now and again lukewarm. What gives?! In this episode I'm bringing in my own perspective based on my personal experience and the experiences of hundreds of other women I've coached, plus the perspective of a few psychologists to really get the full picture. A quick favor?:) I'm looking to hear feedback on the podcast- what you want more of, what you want less of, I'd love to know! Shoot me a message on IG or leave a review in Apple Podcasts. Thank you! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Do you feel like lacking confidence in your body is holding you back from having success in dating?  Today I chat with Coach Ali, who was literally MADE to empower women in body confidence and self love. Alexandra Sempek, commonly referred to as "Coach Ali", is an internationally certified health coach. She empowers women who struggle with food guilt and negative body image to reclaim their true confidence. Within her private coaching program, Alpha Alignment, Coach Ali changes the narrative with her wellness over obsession approach to health and fitness.⁣ We chat all about her personal journey struggling with obsessive food tracking and dieting since middle school, and how she works with women to fall in love with their bodies AND reach their health and fitness goals. Work with Coach Ali Website: https://www.coach-ali.com/ Instagram: @askcoachali Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

It can be so exciting when the ex or that guy you were talking to comes back around, saying how he's been thinking of you and missing you.  But as soon as you start talking about yourself and what's new in your life, he's bored. Or he starts talking about this other girl he's talking to, or all these problems in his life. As much as he said he's changed, these are very clear signals that things are still the same. In this episode, I talk about exactly what to look out for to see if this guy has really changed or if it's the same old Gumball Guy, and exactly what to say to get rid of him for good. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger  

In this episode, we're diving deep into some questions you guys asked me on Instagram. I'm sharing my take on open relationships and polygamy, can exes be friends, and what to do about dating burn out. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This is the episode for you if you're sick of waiting around for the guy to text you back, or to actually take initiative and ask you out, but you're hesitant to actually cut him loose. This episode is inspired by one of the girls in the community who DMed me a revelation she had where she finally raised her standards and stopped settling. Now, she feels liberated in dating. This episode is designed to show you what your dating life and relationships can look like when you raise your standards and draw those boundaries! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

I used to put up with all the red flags. I'd let things slide because I didn't have the belief that I'd ever actually find a guy...since I'm tall, opinionated and financially successful.  This scarcity mindset hugely backfired! It kept me stuck in the cycle of dating Gumball Guys for years. The ironic thing is, all the things about myself that I was trying to hide, are the things my partner now loves the most. This episode is to give you rapid fire the top things to look out for to know if you're dating or talking to a Gumball Guy, and to also remind you how important it is to BELIEVE. Believe that you are worthy, believe that there IS the perfect guy out there for you, and that you don't have to settle. We also have a brand new workbook available to give you the full breakdown of all the different flavors of Gumball Guys and the red flags to look out for. Get it on the first page at gumballlove.com! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Teenagers these days face unprecedented challenges when it comes to dating and relationships. No other generation before them was raised in the world of social media (and now, social distancing). With "we're just hanging out" and other no-labeling strangeness normalized, it can be hard to know if this guy you've been texting is really into YOU or just using you.  In this episode, I'm breaking down how teens specifically can notice the patterns of Gumball Guys so they can break out of the cycle and save themselves a lot of hurt and heartbreak in the future. So if you are a teenager, or you have one in your life who needs to hear this, please listen and share! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

You have to stop shaming and judging yourself for staying with the wrong guy, even though you see the red flags now. Period! In this episode we answer the question...why do we feel so dumb for staying with a Gumball Guy or having done so in the past? You are NOT dumb, and it doesn't help you in any way to think so. This episode will give you the mindset makeover you need to break out of the blame and shame game, and get on the path towards healing. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Kristina Persson is a Dating & Relationship Coach who specializes in helping millennial women manifest happy relationships, WITHOUT having to spend hours on dating apps. On the Gumball Love Podcast, Kristina and Melissa chat about what they often see millennial women doing wrong in dating that is keeping them from finding true, lasting love. They discuss masculine and feminine energy and how it plays a role in dating, why the thought "I don't need a man, I'm an independent woman" is actually not so healthy, how to balance being a sensual woman with holding off on sex in the beginning stages of dating, and more. Connect with Kristina 22K Followers on Tik Tok: @cantgetatextback Instagram: @cantgetatextback Dream Girl Dating Academy Waitlist: https://colossal-hustler-8039.ck.page/79ecb0381f Manifest Your Dream Guy ASAP Free workbook: https://colossal-hustler-8039.ck.page/73eab0babf  Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

After going through a traumatic relationship, divorce, or breakup, it can be really hard to keep having hope that things will get better and everything will work out in the end. How do we not lose hope after getting beat down? When we have a physical injury, it's clear that we need to take rest and heal. However, when it's an emotional wound, somehow there's this expectation to "move on quickly" and "bounce back."  As we know, it's not that simple. And there are some key things we need to understand before we're truly able to move on and break free. In this podcast episode, I talk about what steps you need to take after a traumatic breakup in order to heal and not lose hope. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

With the Delta variant on the rise, it's been highly requested to do another episode on online dating and how to navigate it, so I'll be answering some of your questions! Online dating can be so overwhelming with endless options of people. A lot of times, we go into it when we're not ready, which can make things even worse.  Not to mention, we're inundated with zero to low effort guys sending nothing but 'how r u' or 'nice smile'.  But don't worry, in this episode I'm breaking down: What questions to ask yourself before going into online dating so you can be crystal clear about what you're looking for How to filter out the low effort guys and focus your attention on high quality men so you don't waste your time Getting your mindset right and your life in order before online dating so that you feel fully confident and ready to dive in Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

You're having a fun night on a date, or maybe a night out, and it's come to that moment when you're wondering whether you should go back to his place or have him come back to yours for sex or not. While I can't make this decision for you and would never try to, I do want to give you a few questions to ask yourself before making the decision and to really think about.  We'll also talk about the real reason why guys ghost after sex-- it's often not having anything to do with you, and everything to do with them. If you're interested to book a 1-1 coaching session with me, check the links below! Please subscribe and share this podcast with your friends❤️ Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Enter the search term "dating advice" on Google or Youtube and you're bound to come across listicles or videos with titles like "10 Things You're Doing that are Turning Men Off" or "The Number One Mistake Women Make in Dating". From this day forward, I want you to STOP consuming content like this. It's crap!! 1. You're never gonna find the holy grail of "what men want" because all men are DIFFERENT just like all women are different 2. This type of advice does not teach you how to have a deep, intimate relationship..it teaches you how to catch the attention of shallow men 3. The pick up artists who sell this advice never speak from personal experience and are almost never in successful, healthy relationships themselves.  Forget it all!! In this episode, I break down how to discern the crap advice from the credible advice that actually helps you find true, committed love. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

When we've dated Gumball Guys in the past, often it's daunting and scary to get back into dating because we've been burned before. We're a bit jaded and skeptical that all guys are jerks. Well, hindsight is always 20/20, but we can try some things during the dating stage to test the waters and see if he's really ready for love and commitment.  Junk "dating advice" will give you a lot of short-term strategies for getting a Gumball Guy. Well, ya got him..and now you wish you never met him. This episode is about LONG-TERM..how to actually find the right guy for you, who will be someone you can lean on in tough times, a teammate to take on life together. Tune in to this episode to find out what type of inner work you should be doing to see if you are ready for love, as well as what you should be looking out for in a guy to see if he has the capacity to love as well. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

In this special interview, I'm interviewing my podcast manager of two years, Dana Drahos! Dana ditched corporate America life in July 2018 for the adventure of a lifetime, moving abroad to Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon), Vietnam. She started out teaching English, and over the past three years has gone on a wild ride of finding her passion, starting her own podcast Creators in Saigon, healing from childhood trauma, and discovering herself. She has just gotten certified as a Holistic Nutritionist and Health Coach and is dedicated to helping women overcome their PMS symptoms like bad cramps, heavy bleeding, acne, migraines, mood swings, etc. through nutrition and lifestyle changes (yes, it's possible!). In this episode, we interview Dana to talk about: What events lead up to her decision to actually quit her job and move to Vietnam Why she chose Vietnam and what steps she took to get there What it was like when she first got there Her path from teaching, to starting her own podcast, to producing podcasts for clients (like Melissa), and now moving into helping women balance their hormones through nutrition Her tips for the first steps women can take to reducing their PMS symptoms Some of her Gumball Guy experiences and how working on Gumball Love for the past two years has personally helped her This episode is for you If you're: Struggling to find what you're passionate about Hating your job but too scared to leave Have always wanted to live abroad Struggling with PMS symptoms (heavy bleeding, mood swings, bad cramps, acne, migraines, etc.) Feel free to message Dana if this story has inspired you or if you have any more questions for her. She also shares a lot about health and wellness in her Instagram stories! Resources Mentioned MyFlo app for period symptom tracking (search for it in your app store) Get in Touch with Dana Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dana.drahos Email: dana@danadrahos.com Podcast: Creators in Saigon Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

How do you know if you are "ready for love"? The depiction of love and romance in Hollywood movies certainly sets the wrong expectations for us around what healthy love, dating and relationships look like. After many years of dating and relationships, learning from the mistakes, and finally meeting the love of my life at age 43, I share how I knew I was ready for love, and what signs you can look out for in your own life. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This is a quick episode where I wanted to talk about a new concept I heard from Dr. Caroline Leaf about thoughts, and how to stop the pattern of negative thinking and sleepless nights filled with anxious thoughts! I share with you a helpful exercise that she explained, and tie it back to how this relates to childhood trauma and our tendencies to date Gumball Guys. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera The Ed Mylett Show episode with Dr. Caroline Leaf Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

We hear a lot about red flags in dating, and often they are centered around what the guy is doing. Whether he's sending d*ck pics, he leaves you on "read" for days, he doesn't have any friends, etc. In this episode, I go through each of the Gumball Guys and give you the subtle yellow flags of how you might feel around these guys, so you can start to catch yourself in these feelings and back away before you get too deep into it. Resources Mentioned How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This episode is dedicated to all you out there who are currently in a relationship, and starting to consider if this relationship is no longer healthy for you and if you should leave. In this episode, I share my top strategies for how to take care of yourself during this time, how to explore your emotions and thoughts around the relationship so you can get some clarity, and how to observe his behavior so that when the time comes, you are crystal clear on your decision and ready to leave. Resources Mentioned: How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50997029-how-to-do-the-work Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

An avid listener of the Gumball Love Podcast, Jolie reached out to me via email after listening to the episodes describing the different flavors of attention addiction. I was so impressed with how she was able to connect each "flavor" to a real life Gumball Guy she'd met over the course of her 51 first dates, I had to get her on the show! Yes, after spending 20 years married to the wrong person, Jolie got divorced and set out to go on 50 first dates. Jolie openly shares this journey through her memoir and podcast titled "Fifty First Dates". She's also an author of several other romantic novels.  This episode is like "casual girl chat meets real coaching session". We totally dig into her current dating situation with a Gumball Guy, and decode his behaviors using the flavors of attention addiction.  We hear about what patterns she saw after going on so many first dates, how she learned to #filterlikeafreak and not just be open to anyone, what advice she'd give to other newly divorced women trying to date, and much more! Connect with Jolie Moore Website: https://joliemoore.com/ Podcast: https://joliemoore.com/podcast/ Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Wondering if it's time to start working with a dating and relationship coach? It can be scary investing in coaching. You might be embarrassed that your situation is such a mess, or worry that I'll judge you, or feel weak for asking for help.  I talked with some of the alumni of my Back to You Academy to see what thoughts were going through their mind when they decided to start coaching with me, and what advice they'd give to another woman considering coaching, but is still unsure. In this episode, you'll hear: What the Back to You Academy Alumni had to say about why they decided to hire a coach, and what they liked about my coaching style specifically The difference between coaching and therapy (both complement each other well!) How I personally ended up deciding to go to therapy and hiring coaches for my business Why your friends can't continue to be your therapists/coaches What you'll gain from coaching and how to know when it's right for you If you're on the fence and want a no-pressure chance to just get to know each other and see if it's right for you, I'm offering 20min complementary calls. Don't worry, I will not try to convince you. It is completely your choice and I want you to feel good about it! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: https://melissa-leger.mykajabi.com/workwithme Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504 Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger