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In this powerful conversation, Rebecca Zung sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera, bestselling author and founder of The Holistic Psychologist, to explore how childhood experiences continue to shape our emotions, relationships, behaviors, and sense of self in adulthood. Dr. LePera explains the concept of reparenting your inner child, revealing how trauma, people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and emotional triggers are often rooted in early survival patterns. Learn practical tools for nervous system regulation, emotional healing, self-compassion, and breaking generational cycles so you can create healthier relationships, stronger boundaries, and lasting personal transformation. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 02:03 What Is the Inner Child? 06:35 How Childhood Experiences Shape Adult Behavior 11:10 Amygdala Hijack and Emotional Reactions 16:50 High-Conflict Personalities and Survival Responses 24:28 Understanding the Nervous System in Conflict 31:22 The Six Childhood Trauma Archetypes 40:04 Trauma, Emotional Safety, and Childhood Development 46:12 Epigenetics and Generational Healing 53:18 Coping Versus True Healing 01:02:03 Why Childhood Photos Can Unlock Healing 01:09:22 Perfectionism, Achievement, and Self-Worth 01:16:15 Building Awareness Through Conscious Check-Ins 01:22:45 Nervous System Regulation and Breathwork 01:28:10 Why Growth Feels Uncomfortable 01:33:05 Practical Steps to Reparent Your Inner Child 01:38:30 Self-Compassion, Healing, and Personal Transformation 01:42:15 Final Thoughts and Resources

I am delighted to reconnect with Dr. Nicole LePera today. Trained in clinical psychology, she is a holistic psychologist whose work explores the interconnections among the mind, body, and soul, incorporating holistic lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She has written multiple New York Times bestselling books, most recently Reparenting the Inner Child. In today's conversation, we unpack what the inner child really means from a clinical perspective. We explore how understanding your childhood wounds intellectually differs from truly re-parenting yourself at the nervous system level, and how perimenopause and menopause influence the way we view the world. We look at ACE scores and the biology of childhood adversity, how ACE scores measure what happened to us, but fail to measure resilience, protective factors, or the capacity for healing. We examine how reactive parents shape our nervous system, and how that shows up as hypervigilance, emotional scanning, and self-erasure, and how the fawn response can lead to chronic people-pleasing, relentless accommodation, and an inability to say no. We also cover how epigenetics and lifestyles influence behavioral patterns, critical parenting, stress addiction, gut-brain dysregulation, and the disruptive effects of vagal tone gadgets. This is truly one of those must-listen conversations! I love Dr. LePera's grounded and practical approach to helping people work through their childhood experiences and advocate for themselves. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN: How childhood wounds become stored in the nervous system rather than just the mind Why understanding your dysfunctional habits intellectually will not change the emotional patterns that drive them How perimenopause and menopause can magnify unresolved emotional patterns What ACE scores measure and what they fail to capture How reactive parenting can lead to hypervigilance and emotional scanning, even in safe environments Dr. LePera describes the fawn response and explains how children learn to over-accommodate others, suppress their own needs, and avoid conflict. How chronic stress becomes a learned response, and how stress responses can be passed across generations   How chronic stress and a dysregulated nervous system can influence gut function and microbiome balance Why it's essential to return your attention to your body in the present moment to begin healing Connect with Cynthia Thurlow   Follow on X, Instagram & LinkedIn Check out Cynthia's website. Submit your questions to support@cynthiathurlow.com  Join other like-minded women in a supportive, nurturing community: The Midlife Pause/Cynthia Thurlow.  Purchase Cynthia's book, The Menopause Gut. Cynthia's Intermittent Fasting Transformation Book The Midlife Pause Supplement Line Connect with Dr. Nicole LePera Website Social media platforms: @The Holistic Psychologist  Self Healers Circle (Membership community) Purchase a copy of Dr. Pera's latest book, Reparenting the Inner Child.

Hey Revitalized Womanhood listeners! I'm so excited to share this meaningful conversation with Dr. Nicole LePera — holistic psychologist, founder of the SelfHealers Circle, and #1 New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work, How To Meet Your Self, and How To Be The Love You Seek. In this episode, we dive into how healing our inner child shapes the way we parent, especially in the hard and triggering moments with our children. Dr. Nicole shares practical insights on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and breaking unhealthy relationship patterns by understanding the experiences that formed us. If you've ever found yourself reacting in ways you wish you wouldn't as a parent, partner, or person, this conversation will bring both clarity and hope. It's a deeply honest and empowering episode about healing ourselves so we can show up differently for the people we love most. Learn and connect with Dr. Nicole LePera online: Website: The Holistic Psychologist - The Power To Heal Yourself  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nicole-lepera-454b558 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Theholisticpsyc TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/theholisticpsyc/   _______________________ Connect with the Revitalized Womanhood online! https://revitalizedwomanhood.com/ Join other like-minded women in the Revitalized Sisterhood online community today!  https://revitalizedwomanhood.mn.co/feed Follow Revitalized Womanhood online! https://www.instagram.com/revitalizedwomanhood/

This week on The Lo Life, Lo sits down with somatic educator, nutritionist, and Food Therapy author Luis Mojica for a fascinating conversation about the hidden emotional relationship we have with food.As the founder of Holistic Life Navigation and host of the globally recognized podcast of the same name, Luis has become a leading voice in conversations surrounding trauma, the nervous system, stress, embodiment, and conscious eating. His work has been praised by major voices in wellness and psychology, including The Holistic Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera.Together, Lo and Luis unpack how food impacts far more than physical health — influencing anxiety, emotional regulation, stress, mood, and our overall sense of safety within the body. This conversation explores emotional eating, nervous system responses, childhood conditioning around food, and why healing your relationship with food may have less to do with restriction… and more to do with awareness.A thoughtful, eye-opening episode that may completely shift the way you think about what you put into your body.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Nicole LePera is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work and How to Be the Love You Seek, as well as the workbook How to Meet Your Self. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research and studied at the Institute for Modern Psychoanalysis of Philadelphia. She is a holistic psychologist whose work addresses the connections among the mind, body, and soul, incorporating overall lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands. Today on the show we discuss: how childhood patterns silently shape your adult relationships, why awareness without action keeps people trapped in self-sabotage, the connection between nervous system regulation and emotional healing, how overachievement and people pleasing are often survival responses, the dangerous trap of relying on external validation for self-worth, and what it actually takes to build healthy relationships through honesty, boundaries and self-connection and much more. ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to health and mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your health or mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alan and Michelle celebrate Mother's Day with holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on self-healing, emotional growth, and her powerful new book, “Reparenting the Inner Child.” They explore how reconnecting with your past can transform the way you heal, grow, and live. Also, Alan, whose mother was a regular guest on Gurvey's Law, and Nicole will share some special memories of their mothers, who coincidentally passed away within a year of each other a few years ago. 

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} .hero-title { font-size: 46px; } .hero-copy { font-size: 16px; } .card { padding: 24px 20px; } .listen-btn { width: 100%; } .resource-content { padding: 34px 24px; } .book-card, .person-card { grid-template-columns: 1fr; } .book-cover { min-height: 150px; } } Holistic Wealth Podcast Reparenting theInner Child Dr. Nicole LePera joins Keisha Blair for a powerful conversation on healing, resilience, emotional well-being, and building true Holistic Wealth from within. Watch Episode Listen Healing Resilience Resilient Wealth Episode Overview When Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist, first appeared on the Holistic Wealth Podcast with Keisha Blair, listeners around the world connected deeply with the transformative conversation around trauma, healing, self-awareness, and emotional well-being. Now, Dr. Nicole LePera returns to the Holistic Wealth Podcast for a second highly anticipated episode — this time to discuss her latest book, Reparenting the Inner Child, and the urgent global need for emotional healing in an increasingly uncertain world. The conversation follows the momentum of Global Holistic Wealth Month and its 2026 theme, “Resilient Wealth in an Uncertain World,” which continues to resonate powerfully long after April ended. Show More What You'll Learn in This Episode This conversation connects emotional healing, nervous system regulation, inner-child work, and the deeper meaning of wealth in uncertain times. ♡ Inner Child Healing What the inner child is and how early emotional experiences shape adult life. Childhood Conditioning How inherited patterns influence habits, stress responses, relationships, and self-worth. Nervous System Resilience Why emotional regulation is essential for peace, adaptability, and sustainable success. Resilient Wealth How healing helps create a life rooted in wholeness, clarity, and true Holistic Wealth. Self-Awareness How to recognize survival patterns that may be keeping you stuck or disconnected. Healing as Wealth Why inner peace, emotional stability, and adaptability are becoming new measures of wealth. Listen Wherever You Are Watch the full conversation on YouTube or listen on your favorite podcast platform. Apple Podcasts Spotify YouTube Stitcher Explore Resources Used Books and Ideas Featured in the Conversation These resources help deepen the conversation around emotional healing, resilient wealth, inner-child work, and holistic well-being. Reparentingthe InnerChild Featured Book Reparenting the Inner Child By Dr. Nicole LePera. A powerful resource on healing early emotional wounds, reconnecting with the self, and creating healthier inner patterns. HolisticWealth Holistic Wealth Framework Holistic Wealth Expanded and Updated By Keisha Blair. A globally recognized framework for redefining wealth through emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, relational, and financial well-being. Ready to go deeper? Your healing is your wealth. Explore resources, books, and conversations that help you reparent your inner child, build emotional resilience, and create a life rooted in wholeness and abundance. Explore More Resources Why Reparenting the Inner Child Matters Now More Than Ever In this deeply moving episode, Dr. LePera explores the concept of the “inner child” — the emotional self formed through early experiences, conditioning, relationships, and survival patterns. She explains how unresolved childhood wounds often shape adult behaviors, financial habits, relationships, self-worth, stress responses, and even our ability to experience joy and peace. The discussion powerfully aligns with the foundational principles of Holistic Wealth — the globally recognized framework created by Keisha Blair that emphasizes wealth beyond money alone, encompassing emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, relational, and financial well-being. Throughout the episode, listeners are reminded that healing is not a luxury — it is essential infrastructure for a resilient life. The Defining Question: What Does “Resilient Wealth” Mean? One of the most compelling moments in the episode comes when Keisha Blair asks Dr. LePera: “What does Resilient Wealth mean to you in light of the Global Holistic Wealth Month theme?” Dr. LePera's response reframes wealth in a profoundly human way. Rather than measuring wealth solely through accumulation or external success, she speaks about the ability to remain grounded, emotionally regulated, adaptable, and connected to self during periods of uncertainty and disruption. True wealth is the capacity to sustain well-being through change. In a world marked by economic instability, burnout, chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, and rising anxiety, the conversation becomes larger than psychology alone. It becomes a roadmap for modern resilience. Healing as a Form of Wealth One of the most transformative themes in the episode is the idea that healing itself is a form of wealth. For years, society has separated emotional wellness from conversations about success, prosperity, and achievement. But this episode challenges that outdated model directly. Keisha Blair and Dr. LePera discuss how unhealed emotional patterns can silently impact financial decision-making, burnout cycles, relationship dynamics, productivity, nervous system regulation, self-sabotage, and long-term health. By reconnecting with and “reparenting” the inner child, individuals can begin building lives rooted not in survival, but in intentionality, peace, alignment, and resilience. A Global Conversation on Modern Well-Being As the founder of Global Holistic Wealth Day and Global Holistic Wealth Month, Keisha Blair continues to lead an international movement redefining what prosperity looks like in the modern world. This episode with Dr. Nicole LePera expands that conversation even further by bridging psychology, nervous system healing, emotional resilience, and sustainable well-being. Together, they explore a future where resilience is not about “pushing through” exhaustion, but about building internal systems strong enough to support peace, healing, adaptability, and authentic living. Why This Episode Resonates So Deeply What makes this episode particularly powerful is its honesty. There are no unrealistic promises of perfection. Instead, listeners are invited into a compassionate conversation about becoming aware of inherited patterns, reconnecting with the self, and building lives that are emotionally sustainable. The episode serves as a reminder that resilience is built internally, emotional healing is foundational, and the most meaningful form of wealth may ultimately be inner peace. Listen to the Episode The latest episode of the Holistic Wealth Podcast featuring Dr. Nicole LePera is now available. It is a must-listen conversation for anyone interested in emotional healing, nervous system wellness, resilience, personal growth, mental health, sustainable success, and building true Holistic Wealth in uncertain times. Even after the close of Global Holistic Wealth Month, the message behind this conversation continues to resonate globally: resilient wealth begins within. Featured on the Show This episode brings together two powerful voices in healing, resilience, and holistic well-being for a timely conversation on what it means to build true wealth from within. K Host Keisha Blair Founder of the Holistic Wealth movement, host of the Holistic Wealth Podcast, and author of Holistic Wealth Expanded and Updated. N Guest Dr. Nicole LePera Also known as The Holistic Psychologist, Dr. LePera joins the conversation to explore reparenting, emotional healing, and resilience. 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When Dr. Nicole LePera (the Holistic Psychologist), first appeared on the Holistic Wealth Podcast with Keisha Blair, listeners around the world connected deeply with the transformative conversation around trauma, healing, self-awareness, and emotional well-being.Now, Dr. Nicole LePera returns to the Holistic Wealth podcast for a second highly anticipated episode — this time to discuss her latest book, Reparenting the Inner Child, and the urgent global need for emotional healing in an increasingly uncertain world.The conversation follows the momentum of Global Holistic Wealth Month and its 2026 theme, “Resilient Wealth in an Uncertain World,” which continues to resonate powerfully long after April ended. The theme sparked global conversations about what true wealth really means in modern life — especially during periods of uncertainty, burnout, disruption, and rapid change.Resources Used in This Episode:Reparenting the Inner Child by Dr Nicole Lepera Holistic Wealth Expanded and Updated Book by Keisha Blair Why Reparenting the Inner Child Matters Now More Than EverIn this deeply moving episode, Dr. LePera explores the concept of the “inner child” — the emotional self formed through early experiences, conditioning, relationships, and survival patterns. She explains how unresolved childhood wounds often shape adult behaviours, financial habits, relationships, self-worth, stress responses, and even our ability to experience joy and peace.The discussion powerfully aligns with the foundational principles of Holistic Wealth — the globally recognized framework created by Keisha Blair that emphasizes wealth beyond money alone, encompassing emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, relational, and financial well-being.Throughout the episode, listeners are reminded that healing is not a luxury — it is essential infrastructure for a resilient life.What You Will Learn in This EpisodeListeners will gain powerful insights into:How childhood conditioning shapes adult behaviors, habits, and emotional responsesWhy unresolved emotional wounds can impact finances, relationships, health, and career successThe meaning of “reparenting the inner child” and how it supports emotional healingThe connection between nervous system regulation and resilienceWhy emotional healing is foundational to building true Holistic WealthHow to recognize survival patterns that may be keeping you stuckThe role of self-awareness in creating sustainable well-beingWhat “Resilient Wealth” means in a world marked by uncertainty and constant changeWhy inner peace, adaptability, and emotional stability are becoming the new measures of wealthHow healing can transform the way we experience success, relationships, and everyday lifeThe Defining Question: What Does “Resilient Wealth” Mean?One of the most compelling moments in the episode comes when Keisha Blair asks Dr. LePera:Dr. LePera's response reframes wealth in a profoundly human way. Rather than measuring wealth solely through accumulation or external success, she speaks about the ability to remain grounded, emotionally regulated, adaptable, and connected to self during periods of uncertainty and disruption.Her answer echoes one of the central truths behind the Holistic Wealth movement:True wealth is the capacity to sustain well-being through change.In a world marked by economic instability, burnout, chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, and rising anxiety, the conversation becomes larger than psychology alone. It becomes a roadmap for modern resilience.“What does Resilient Wealth mean to you in light of the Global Holistic Wealth Month theme?”

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1358DM Dr. Nicole LePera delves into the importance of interdependency in personal growth and well-being. She emphasizes the idea that no one truly thrives in isolation and highlights the significance of forming healthy, mutually supportive relationships with healthy boundaries. Dr. LePera discusses how interdependence fosters emotional and psychological growth, allowing individuals to lean on each other for strength and resilience. Her insights offer a fresh perspective on the value of connection and collaboration in our journey toward personal development and a fulfilling life. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The anxiety you carry, the way you go silent in conflict, the relentless drive that never quite feels like enough, these didn't start with you. They started much earlier, in relationships and environments your body learned to survive before you had words for any of it. And according to Dr. Nicole LePera, until you understand what your nervous system actually encoded in those years, you'll keep bumping into the same walls, the same patterns, the same exhaustion.Dr. Nicole LePera is a clinical psychologist trained at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research, a New York Times bestselling author, and the founder of the global SelfHealers community. Her new book, Reparenting the Inner Child, brings together neuroscience, attachment research, and epigenetics to explain not just why we are the way we are, but how real change actually happens in the body, not just the mind.In this conversation, you'll explore:Why your childhood adaptations were brilliant at the time, and how they became the patterns holding you back nowWhat the inner child actually is (the science, not the cliche), and why insight alone isn't enough to change itThe neuroscience of emotional flooding: what's happening in your body when you can't just calm down, no matter how much you want toWhy midlife is often the moment these old patterns finally surface, and why that's not regression, it's readinessThe epigenetics of stress: how your ancestors' survival adaptations may be running your nervous system todayWhere to actually begin if you want to do this work without needing to excavate everything that happened to you as a childIf you've spent years doing the work and still find yourself reacting in ways that don't feel like you, this conversation will help you understand why, and what to do next.You can find Nicole at: Website | Instagram | Episode TranscriptNext week, we're sharing our conversation with Jon Acuff about why procrastination is not actually your problem and the surprising permission shift that happens when you finally finish what matters most. Follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss an episode.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode I am joined by Dr. Nicole LePera, psychologist, author, and creator of the Self-Healer movement and a 1/3 Emotional Generator.Nicole has built a global platform by sharing her personal and professional truth at the same time, and her Human Design makes complete sense of that. In this episode I walk through her chart live and we unpack how her design has shaped the way she uses her voice, does her work, and moves through the world. We cover her profile, her Incarnation Cross of Eden, her 57/34 channel of intuition and power, the warrior gates of her nodes, and what it means to have Gate 18 as your core talent. This one goes deep.Nicole's work is rooted in the belief that you are not broken, you are conditioned. Her chart backs that up in ways that gave us both chills.I trust you will get what you need from this episode, and make sure you come let me know how it resonated with you on instagram @the_human_design_coachBig love,MxxDr Nicole's Details:Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/New Book: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/Self Healer's Circle: https://selfhealerscircle.com/waitlist/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologistBodyGraph Chart SoftwareCreate your own Human Design chart tool with BodyGraphChart! Embed a chart tool on your own website, so you can engage with your leads, grow your business, teach Human Design the way YOU want to teach it and create success!Get BodyGraphChart here: https://bodygraphchart.com?via=emmadunwoodyUse the code humandesignpodcast for 30% off for 6 months!OTHER RESOURCESWant more on Human Design? Explore the ways to get involved below:Get Your Free Human Design Chart: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/get-your-chartThe Feminine Success Framework: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/feminine-success-frameworkMaggie 2.0 - Magnetic by Design AI: https://meetmaggie.co/The HDx Collective: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/collectiveHuman Design Unhinged: https://www.humandesignunhinged.com/Secret Podcast: The Human Design Podcast (Unhinged): https://thehumandesignpodcast.supercast.com/Instagram @the_human_design_coachMusic: Spark Of Inspiration by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.comSupport the show

We all carry the imprint of our earliest years. Childhood is brief, yet its impact is lifelong. Some parts of us were met with love while other parts were met with silence, criticism, or disapproval. Many of us still protect the parts of ourselves that once felt unsafe. As adults, we often fall into patterns that feel irrational or out of character – shutting down, lashing out, people-pleasing, or self-sabotaging. Beneath those reactions lies our inner child, a younger part of us still trying to get its needs met the only way it knows how. While we can't change what happened, we can change how it lives within us and impacts our lives today. In this episode of the podcast, Cornell trained holistic psychologist Nicole LePera will guide us through how we can meet our inner child to begin repairing our oldest wounds, and to question the stories we've long believed about who we have to be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how to say what you think without blowing up your relationships. Most of us have been there. A conversation that starts completely normally and somehow ends with you lying awake at 2am wondering how it went so wrong, again. Whether it is a partner, a teenager, a colleague, or someone on the other side of a political divide, the cost of disagreement done badly is one of the quietest, most cumulative kinds of pain there is.Julia Minson is a behavioral scientist and professor at the Harvard Kennedy School who has spent years studying the psychology of disagreement, researching how people handle opinions, judgments, and beliefs that differ from their own, and what it actually takes to navigate those moments without losing the relationship in the process. Her book How to Disagree Better distills that research into a practical, science-backed guide for anyone ready to do the real work of staying connected across difference.In this conversation, you will discover:The single most common mistake people make at the start of a disagreement that almost guarantees it will escalate into a full argumentThe HEAR framework, a four-part behavioral science tool for expressing your view firmly without triggering defensiveness or shutting the other person downWhy leading with facts and data backfires when you are talking to someone who already disagrees with you, and what to use instead that dramatically increases trustA critical practice for building disagreement skills on low-stakes conversations first, so you are not white-knuckling it when the big moments arriveWhy empathy is wonderful in theory but unreliable in the heat of the moment, and what to focus on instead that actually shifts the dynamicIf you are tired of watching important relationships quietly erode one hard conversation at a time, this episode is for you. Press play and let's figure out how to disagree better, together.You can find Julia at: Website | LinkedIn | Episode TranscriptNext week, we're sharing our conversation with Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times best-selling author of Reparenting the Inner Child, about why so many of us feel stuck in patterns we can't seem to escape, no matter how hard we try. And what's actually happening in your nervous system when that happens. It's a grounding, hopeful conversation.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Were you praised as a child for being ‘good', for keeping quiet, or not making a fuss? Psychologist Dr Nicole LePera reckons that praise may have taught you to disconnect from your emotions entirely.In this chat with Fearne, Nicole explains how even well-intentioned parenting can leave us with patterns that run our adult lives on autopilot. She talks through the practical process of reparenting your inner child, starting with something as simple as finding a childhood photograph. We hold our emotions in our bodies, so she also shares ways to tune in with your body throughout the day to release stress.Nicole also explains why your nervous system keeps you stuck in familiar patterns even when you logically know better, and why shame, people pleasing, and perfectionism are all protective strategies we developed to survive childhood.Plus, why does healing require what Nicole calls a return to ‘radical honesty'?Nicole's book, Reparenting the Inner Child, is out now.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:Chiwetel EjioforPhilippa PerryBreak Free From People Pleasing Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pre-Order new book, The Price of Becoming www.LearningLeader.com/Becoming This is brought to you by Insight Global. If you need to hire one person, hire a team of people, or transform your business through Talent or Technical Services, Insight Global's team of 30,000 people around the world has the hustle and grit to deliver My Guest: Dr. Nicole LePera is the creator of The Holistic Psychologist, a platform with over 12 million followers, and the author of three New York Times bestselling books, including her newest, Reparenting the Inner Child. Key Learnings: Nicole was good at everything, so struggling meant failure. Her family's message was clear: success in life meant financial security through academics or athletics. The implicit message: you're worthy when you're bringing home A's, when you're winning the softball game. She quickly learned to identify things she wasn't immediately good at and just not pursue them. She filtered life, staying on the path of comfort. Your childhood adaptations don't leave. Nicole calls it the inner child. It doesn't matter how old you are or how far beyond your childhood you think you've gotten. It impacts you in reactions, in identities, in your way of being. What was once your best attempt at safety, security, or connection still drives behavior today. Not all adaptations are problems. Many continue to benefit us. The question isn't whether the adaptation is good or bad. The question is: are you choosing it, or is it choosing you? Nicole's drive for achievement created opportunities. It led to massive impact. But she still has the overachiever who wants to blow past her limits and say yes when she's exhausted but means no.   The Holistic Psychologist started in 2018, and Nicole had no idea it would explode. She was living in Philadelphia, operating within a private practice model. Within the first year, people from around the world were resonating, joining, and interested in working with her in this new way. But at the beginning, even learning how to speak on camera was such a big challenge. Her partner would say, "Say what you said to me earlier," and Nicole's mind would go blank. Just putting a camera in front of her was near debilitating. Boundaries are about knowing who and when to take feedback from. Sometimes the feedback from a loved one, while uncomfortable, is helpful to hear. Other times, it's a helpful boundary where you're not opening yourself up to the opinion of someone who has a different vantage point or is speaking from their own projection. That's allowed Nicole to create safety in herself, confidence in herself, which translates to flow. Several years in, Nicole's dad sat front row at her book event, crying with pride. In the beginning, her dad and mom would ask, "Why do you have to use us as the example? Why do you have to share about our family?" Nicole would explain: " This is the only experience I can speak from, and our family's experience is so common. To see her dad, who came from a family largely shut down emotionally, crying in understanding and pride, was overwhelming and validating for why she does this work. At 13, Nicole was getting straight A's but unraveling on the inside. She was socially shy, struggled to order food at restaurants, and had very few friends. Then she discovered alcohol and pot made her feel comfortable. That anxiety she lived with suddenly felt freer. She would stumble through the living room at night, her parents already in bed, then wake up at 6:00 AM the next day, pitch a softball tournament, win it, and seemingly be fine. Her parents had no idea. She was very good at suppressing her emotions and coping. By contrast, on the surface, it seemed like she was doing well. They were a family who didn't really talk about emotions, so they had no indication. The drive itself isn't the problem. It's the energy that inspires action. Nicole's dad worked into the night to support the family. Her mom would say, "why not 100?" when Nicole brought home a 96. That translated into drive and ambition. That's not a problem. For a lot of us, it's the energy that inspires action and translates into impact. It can become a problem when we have no limits to our working, where we exhaust ourselves and burn out, where we don't feel worthy in moments of inaction or rest. The marker of a healthy relationship with drive is flexibility. When you're forced to stop because you're sick, exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, or someone else needs you, can you be flexible enough to do that without feeling terrible about yourself? The ability to choose to say, "Okay, contextually speaking, I need to pause," and still feel okay about yourself, that's the marker.   Hold space for both: acknowledging harm and taking agency. Other people have contributed to our discomfort. Maybe parents didn't meet our needs. If we don't acknowledge that, we suppress. But we also can't stay stuck in anger and resentment. A true boundary isn't demanding that someone else be different. That's still giving away your agency. A true boundary is saying: you've hurt me, and I'm gonna take responsibility that I'm allowing it. I'm gonna show up differently now to limit the impact of what you're doing. Talking about trauma can keep it alive in your body. Trauma doesn't live in logic and understanding. It lives in your body. It lives in habits and reactions. Your mind is so powerful that you can think something and feel as if you're living it in that moment. If you're going week after week talking about all the things that are hurting you, you're continuing to keep that alive in your body. Holistic psychology bridges the gap between mind and body. Traditional psychology focused solely on the mind. The CBT model says if we think differently, we produce different feelings, then different actions. But Nicole was missing the body. Our nervous system, our earliest environments, neurobiologically created patterns wired into us. Science now shows we maintain the ability to change throughout our lives. Drop into your body. Where is your attention right now? Are you feeling your muscles, your heels impacting the earth, where you're sitting? Or are you so lost in thought you're disconnected? Jaw clenched? Fists clenched? Shoulders up to your ears? Holding your breath? Breathing short and quick from your chest? These are markers that your body is under stress right now. Once you have that information, make small shifts. Slow and deepen your breath. Elongate your exhale just a little longer than your inhale. If your movements are quick, slow them down. If you're holding tension, release it. Now you're regulating your body so you can show up differently. Meditation is just awareness. It's not sitting cross-legged trying to make your mind quiet. Life can be a meditative experience. Thoughts are helpful. They're where we create things, have insights. The goal isn't a blank, quiet mind. The goal is awareness. Nicole calls it her spaceship. Her protective habit for so long has been to dissociate, to disconnect. She pursued clinical psychology where she can live in her mind. When what she's feeling in her body is too uncomfortable, the quickest path out is to distract herself with someone else, with the next achievement. This work has made Nicole's relationships more real. More authentic. More grounded in vulnerability, messiness, emotion as opposed to curated versions of who she thinks she needs to be. What she's most familiar with is dealing with all her feelings alone. The Harvard study found one thing leads to a happy life: love. Ryan referenced the longitudinal Harvard study that has gone on for 90 years studying what leads to a happy life. At the end of the day, it's love. The ones who live the happiest, longest, most fruitful lives are surrounded by people they love and who love them.  What a gift it is to be loved for all of yourself, not just the perfect parts. When you can show someone all of yourself, your messiness, the things you hid and kept secret, and still be loved. The overachiever gets to show more parts of herself, and people don't abandon her. They stay. That's the love most of us are striving for. We are all a bunch of messy humans trying to figure it out as we go. Nicole's champagne moment a year from now: presence and beingness. Whatever is happening or not happening in her life, she's celebrating the celebration of that moment. Being alive. Feeling the gratitude, the joy. Not focusing on what was produced to give her the opportunity to celebrate, but being present to the life around her. The taste of the champagne, the humans surrounding her in that moment.  Reflection Questions Which childhood adaptations are still driving your behavior today? Are you choosing them, or are they choosing you? When was the last time you actually dropped into your body and checked: am I tense? Am I holding my breath? Am I stressed? Who in your life sees all of you, not just the polished version, and loves you anyway? More Learning #547: Dr. Michael Gervais - Stop Worrying About What People Think of You #140: Dr. Carol Dweck - The Power of a Growth Mindset #229: Dr. Henry Cloud - Be So Good They Can't Ignore You Podcast Chapters 00:00 Book Announcement  01:08 Show Intro and Guest Setup  02:36 Good at Everything: The Hidden Cost  06:47 When Therapy Stopped Working  09:32 How The Holistic Psychologist Started on Instagram  11:20 Purpose, Fame, and Setting Boundaries  15:06 How Her Family Reacted to the Spotlight  19:21 At 13: Straight A's and Self-Medicating  22:12 What Her Parents Missed  23:48 Drive vs. Worthiness: Where It Becomes a Problem  29:20 Why Flexibility Beats Rigidity  31:03 Agency vs. Blame in Therapy  31:57 When Therapy Becomes an Excuse  33:47 What a Real Boundary Actually Is  35:44 The "Bad Therapy" Debate  38:50 What Holistic Psychology Actually Means  41:35 Daily Body Practices, Not Retreats  44:06 How to Drop Into Your Body  46:38 Meditation Is Just Awareness  49:36 Why Vulnerability Makes Relationships Real  52:07 The Harvard Study: Love Is Everything  55:36 The Champagne Question: Being Present  57:33 EOPC  

What if your health struggles didn't start with your habits—but with your childhood? In this episode of The Natural Heart Doctor Show Podcast, Dr. Nicole LePera explains how trauma, stress, and nervous system patterns shape your physical health, emotional reactions, and ability to create lasting change.- - - - -About the Guest:Dr. Nicole LePera is a holistic psychologist trained at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research, and the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She is the founder of the Global Healing Community Self Healer Circle and the author of multiple New York Times bestselling books, including How to Do the Work, How to Meet Yourself, and How to Be the Love You Seek.With over 9 million followers worldwide, she has become a leading voice in bridging psychology, nervous system regulation, and holistic health. Her work focuses on helping individuals understand how early life experiences shape behavior, emotional patterns, and physical health, while offering accessible tools for lasting transformation.Social Handles:Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/- - - - -Jack Wolfson, DO, FACCWebsites: ⁠⁠⁠https://drjackwolfson.com/⁠⁠⁠; ⁠⁠⁠https://naturalheartdoctor.com/⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjackwolfson⁠Ready to move past the confusion and fear of typical heart health approaches? Visit ⁠naturalheartdoctor.com/discovery⁠ to schedule your free discovery call and start your journey toward a 100-year heart with real, evidence-based answers.- - - - -PODCAST Thank you for listening. Please subscribe and share. This podcast is produced by DrTalks.com ⁠https://drtalks.com/podcast-service/

Why do you overreact, shut down, or put everyone else first, even when you know it's hurting you? In this episode, Nicole LePera, breaks down how your “inner child” shapes your behaviors, from people-pleasing to perfectionism to emotional flooding, and how self-abandonment quietly shows up in your daily life. We also cover why these patterns aren't flaws, they're adaptations, and how to actually change them through nervous system regulation, awareness, and small, intentional shifts. If you've ever felt stuck repeating the same cycles in relationships, this will change how you understand yourself and what healing really looks like. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → Why do I self-abandon in relationships? → What is inner child healing and how does it work? → Why do I overreact or shut down emotionally? → How can I regulate my nervous system in real time? → How do I stop people-pleasing and set boundaries? Sponsored By:  → OGEE | Thanks to today's sponsor, OGEE: A higher standard for beauty. Go to https://OGEE.com/BEWELL and use code BEWELL to get 15% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. → Function | Own your health for $365 a year. That's a dollar a day. Learn more and join using my link. Visit https://www.functionhealth.com/bewellbykelly and use gift code BEWELL25 for a $25 credit toward your membership → Hiya | Get 50% off your first order at https://hiyahealth.com/KELLY → Minnow | Shop minnow's new apré-ski capsule collection at https://shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:03:07 - Nicole's Healing Journey   → 00:07:09 - Cry It Out Method → 00:14:28 - Inner Child Work  → 00:18:55 - Inner Children In Relationships  → 00:21:02 - Reparting Steps  → 00:27:37 - Kelly's Experience With Therapy  → 00:30:35 - Emotional Flooding  → 00:35:41 - Handling Stress  → 00:37:27 - Self Abandonment  → 00:41:41 - Selfless Motherhood  → 00:43:44 - Overcorrection + Helicopter Parenting  → 00:47:52 - Snow Plow Parenting  → 00:51:43 - Negativity Bias + Boundaries  → 00:59:13 - Kelly's Experience  → 01:01:12 - You Are Not Broken  → 01:05:31 - Regulation Tools   Further Listening:  → Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn't Exist | Joe Hudson Check Out Nicole: → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/  → Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook

In this episode, Dr. Nicole LePera discusses her book on how to reparenting your inner child can transform your life heal old wounds. She explores how childhood experiences create implicit emotional memories that shape adult behaviors and nervous system responses. Dr. Nicole also introduces her Individual Development Model, covering five developmental spheres, and explains how “parenting yourself” means becoming your own nurturing caregiver. The conversation addresses shame, resilience, and why change feels uncomfortable before it feels better, emphasizing that small, consistent actions build self-trust and create lasting transformation. Exciting News!! My new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available!!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The concept of the inner child and its impact on adult behavior. The psychological and biological basis of childhood adaptations. Implicit emotional memories and their influence on current behaviors. The Individual Development Model and its five spheres of development. The process of “parenting the inner child” and its practical applications. The role of shame in personal identity and its development. Strategies for breaking the shame cycle and fostering self-compassion. The importance of small, consistent actions in personal change and healing. The definition of resilience as the ability to process emotions and adapt to life's challenges. For full show notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Dr. Nicole LePera:  Website | Instagram | LinkedInIf you enjoyed this conversation with Nicole LePera, check out these other episodes: Internal Family Systems with Richard Schwartz How to Find Your Path to Healing and Post-Traumatic Growth with Ralph De La Rosa By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: Alma has a directory of 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Visit helloalma.com to learn more! Brodo Broth: Shop the best broth on the planet with Brodo.  Head to Brodo.com/TOYF for 20% off your first subscription order and use code TOYF for an additional $10 off. Quince: Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to Quince.com/feed for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. Rocket Money Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/feed. Pebl – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at hipebl.ai Hello Fresh – Get 10 free meals + a FREE Zwilling Knife (a $144.99 value) on your third box. Offer valid while supplies last. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You don't feel free, not because of your life, but because of the patterns you learned to survive it." What if the reason you don't feel free… has nothing to do with your circumstances? In this powerful episode of Soul Talk, Kute Blackson sits down with Nicole LePera to reveal how your inner child is still shaping your sense of safety, control, and freedom. You may be doing everything right… yet still feel tense, on edge, or unable to fully relax. This conversation uncovers why: part of you is still responding to life from the past. Through the lens of the inner child, Nicole explains how patterns like overthinking, people-pleasing, and control were learned early on to help you feel safe and how they continue to run your life today. Those patterns once protected you. But they may now be limiting you. If you've ever felt like something inside you won't let you fully feel at ease… or like you keep repeating the same emotional cycles; this episode will help you see it clearly.   Timestamps (00:02:47) – The real issue: why you don't feel free (beyond circumstances) (00:04:12) – How your body learned safety through survival (00:06:05) – Conditioning: how your early environment shaped you (00:08:30) – Living in subtle anxiety (even when life is "fine") (00:10:18) – Why you keep looking outside to feel okay (00:12:41) – Control, hyper-awareness, and nervous system patterns (00:15:06) – The identity you built to survive (00:18:22) – Recognizing patterns vs. thinking your way out (00:22:48) – Awareness as the doorway to real change (00:27:15) – Reconnecting with safety within (closing insight) Questions I Ask What if your lack of freedom has nothing to do with your life? Are you actually safe… or just used to surviving? Why does your body stay on edge even when nothing is wrong? What are you still trying to control just to feel okay? Who would you be if you didn't need life to go a certain way? Are you ready to see the pattern that's been running you? In This Episode, You'll Learn Why nothing in your life will fix how you feel (and never will) The real reason you're still anxious, even when everything is "fine" How your body is addicted to survival mode (and you don't even see it) Why your need for control is actually keeping you stuck The hidden pattern running your life on autopilot What it actually takes to break free (and why most people never do)   Get in Touch: Create a life that is a masterpiece. Join the transformational journey: www.boundlessblissbali.com Email: kuteblackson@kuteblackson.com Website: www.kuteblackson.com Get your free gift on: www.eightlevelsofgratitude.com Nicole lePera https://theholisticpsychologist.com/

OVERVIEW: In this episode of Cheers to Your Success, host Ashley Fillmore sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera to discuss her new book, Reparenting the Inner Child. If you feel like you're constantly starting over with your health, this episode will hit home. In this episode, we talk about what's really driving those patterns. We dive into how early experiences can influence perfectionism, all-or-nothing thinking, and how you respond to and process stress. We also talk about how these patterns show up in your nutrition, your workouts, and your ability to stay consistent. In this episode, we cover: Why so many women feel stuck in cycles of starting over How perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking impact your consistency What “reparenting the inner child” actually means in a practical way How unmet needs and past patterns show up in your daily habits The connection between emotional patterns, stress, and your physical results Why awareness is the first step, but not the only step, to change How to begin shifting your patterns to support long-term results To receive a FREE copy of her book, Reparenting the Inner Child, please tag me:@ashley_fillmore1 and Dr. Nicole at:@theholisticpsychologist with one takeaway from the podcast. We will personally send you a copy of her brand new book. RESOURCES: Click here to view Dr. Nicole's website and buy her new book: www.theholisticpsychologist.com Check out her Instagram here:@theholisticpsychologist Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashley_fillmore1 Email us at: Support@metabolicfix.com Want to see which one of my programs is the best for you? Take my Services Quiz: https://www.metabolicfix.com/services-quiz Take my FREE Metabolic Damage Quiz here: https://metabolicfix.com/md-quiz

Dr. Nicole LePera is the internationally bestselling author of How to Do the Work and How to Be the Love You Seek, as well as the workbook How to Meet Your Self. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research and studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis.She is a holistic psychologist whose work addresses the connection between the mind, body and soul incorporating overall lifestyle and psychological wellness practices. She is the creator of Self Healers Circle, a membership platform where people from around the world join together in community to take healing into their own hands.

PRE-ORDER the upcoming book now: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-bookLuis welcomes back Nicole LePera to the podcast to chat about her new book, "Reparenting the Inner Child." They discuss what it's like being real and messy in the public eye, and the role the fawn response plays in that experience. They explore how the inner child shows up in daily life, how tending to one's capacity expands the work outside of the session or practice space, and how to reparent without merging with the inner child and regressing. They also discuss humanizing others without bypassing themselves — or their own needs — in the process.You can order Nicole's book here: https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250393135/reparentingtheinnerchild/You can read more about, and register for, the Navigating ADHD, Freeze & Overwhelm 6-month program, here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/slow-practice-adhd You can register for the FREE Food Therapy session here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/events/beans You can pre-order the book here: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/the-book----You can learn more on the website: https://www.holisticlifenavigation.com/You can follow Luis on Instagram @holistic.life.navigationQuestions? You can email us at info@holisticlifenavigation.com

Jillian sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera to talk about her new book Reparenting the Inner Child and the powerful ways our past shapes how we think, feel, and relate to others. They explore how childhood experiences live in the nervous system, why so many people feel stuck in patterns they don't understand, and what it really means to heal instead of just coping. Dr. Nicole explains functional freeze, emotional regulation, boundaries, and how reparenting yourself can change the way you show up in relationships, work, and everyday life. Buy Dr. Nicole's new book, Reparenting the Inner Child: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the reason you feel stuck isn't about your job, your partner, or your motivation, but a wound you've been carrying since childhood? In this episode of Mayim Bialik's Breakdown, Dr. Nicole LePera — better known as “The Holistic Psychologist” and author of Reparenting the Inner Child — reveals why your adult patterns are NOT random…and why insight alone will never set you free. Dr. Nicole LePera breaks down the 9 different childhood wounds silently shaping your adult relationships, like: - If you couldn't trust a caregiver → why you're guarded, suspicious, and prone to self-sabotage - If you had too much responsibility → why you're a compulsive caretaker battling burnout and weak boundaries - If you were rejected → why perfectionism and people-pleasing became your survival strategy She also reveals: - Why “inner child work” feels like being pulled into an alternate timeline (how your nervous system literally drags you back into the past!) - Hidden damage of being a parentified child, and the burnout, resentment, and boundary struggles that follow you into adulthood - Shocking prevalence of sibling abuse, and how it fractures the inner child in ways most people never acknowledge - Real dangers of corporal punishment (& what it wires into a child's nervous system) - Why denying a child's emotional reality creates lifelong shame - Shame 101: What it actually is, how it's different from guilt, how it lives in the body - How unresolved emotions block your intuition and keep you from your life path Dr. LePera explains how childhood wounds don't just live in your memories — they live in your body. Chronic tension. Digestive issues. Hyper-independence. Emotional numbness. “Survival mode” that you thought was normal. (It's not.) We also unpack: - Can you truly heal if you can't reconcile with your parents? - How emotionally immature caregivers were shaped by their wounds - Why it's especially hard to admit you need inner child healing when you're a parent yourself - What people are getting completely wrong about boundary-setting - Delicate balance between honesty with kids & preserving parental authority - Why it's never too late to become the parent you didn't have - Shadow work: The unconscious forces driving your projections & sabotaging your relationships And maybe most importantly…How to have grace for yourself while making small, powerful shifts. Because healing isn't about blaming your parents. It's about reclaiming your power. It's about realizing survival mode was adaptive, but it doesn't have to be your forever state. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do I feel shame for no reason?” “Why can't I just change?” This conversation might be the missing piece. On the other side of this work? Clarity. Regulation. Authenticity. Hope. And proof that it's never too late to come home to yourself. Dr. Nicole LePera's latest book, REPARENTING THE INNER CHILD: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/⁠ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason you feel stuck isn't about your job, your partner, or your motivation, but a wound you've been carrying since childhood? In this episode of Mayim Bialik's Breakdown, Dr. Nicole LePera — better known as “The Holistic Psychologist” and author of Reparenting the Inner Child — reveals why your adult patterns are NOT random…and why insight alone will never set you free. Dr. Nicole LePera breaks down the 9 different childhood wounds silently shaping your adult relationships, like: - If you couldn't trust a caregiver → why you're guarded, suspicious, and prone to self-sabotage - If you had too much responsibility → why you're a compulsive caretaker battling burnout and weak boundaries - If you were rejected → why perfectionism and people-pleasing became your survival strategy She also reveals: - Why “inner child work” feels like being pulled into an alternate timeline (how your nervous system literally drags you back into the past!) - Hidden damage of being a parentified child, and the burnout, resentment, and boundary struggles that follow you into adulthood - Shocking prevalence of sibling abuse, and how it fractures the inner child in ways most people never acknowledge - Real dangers of corporal punishment (& what it wires into a child's nervous system) - Why denying a child's emotional reality creates lifelong shame - Shame 101: What it actually is, how it's different from guilt, how it lives in the body - How unresolved emotions block your intuition and keep you from your life path Dr. LePera explains how childhood wounds don't just live in your memories — they live in your body. Chronic tension. Digestive issues. Hyper-independence. Emotional numbness. “Survival mode” that you thought was normal. (It's not.) We also unpack: - Can you truly heal if you can't reconcile with your parents? - How emotionally immature caregivers were shaped by their wounds - Why it's especially hard to admit you need inner child healing when you're a parent yourself - What people are getting completely wrong about boundary-setting - Delicate balance between honesty with kids & preserving parental authority - Why it's never too late to become the parent you didn't have - Shadow work: The unconscious forces driving your projections & sabotaging your relationships And maybe most importantly…How to have grace for yourself while making small, powerful shifts. Because healing isn't about blaming your parents. It's about reclaiming your power. It's about realizing survival mode was adaptive, but it doesn't have to be your forever state. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do I feel shame for no reason?” “Why can't I just change?” This conversation might be the missing piece. On the other side of this work? Clarity. Regulation. Authenticity. Hope. And proof that it's never too late to come home to yourself. Dr. Nicole LePera's latest book, REPARENTING THE INNER CHILD: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/⁠ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the reason you feel stuck isn't about your job, your partner, or your motivation, but a wound you've been carrying since childhood? In this episode of Mayim Bialik's Breakdown, Dr. Nicole LePera — better known as “The Holistic Psychologist” and author of Reparenting the Inner Child — reveals why your adult patterns are NOT random…and why insight alone will never set you free. Dr. Nicole LePera breaks down the 9 different childhood wounds silently shaping your adult relationships, like: - If you couldn't trust a caregiver → why you're guarded, suspicious, and prone to self-sabotage - If you had too much responsibility → why you're a compulsive caretaker battling burnout and weak boundaries - If you were rejected → why perfectionism and people-pleasing became your survival strategy She also reveals: - Why “inner child work” feels like being pulled into an alternate timeline (how your nervous system literally drags you back into the past!) - Hidden damage of being a parentified child, and the burnout, resentment, and boundary struggles that follow you into adulthood - Shocking prevalence of sibling abuse, and how it fractures the inner child in ways most people never acknowledge - Real dangers of corporal punishment (& what it wires into a child's nervous system) - Why denying a child's emotional reality creates lifelong shame - Shame 101: What it actually is, how it's different from guilt, how it lives in the body - How unresolved emotions block your intuition and keep you from your life path Dr. LePera explains how childhood wounds don't just live in your memories — they live in your body. Chronic tension. Digestive issues. Hyper-independence. Emotional numbness. “Survival mode” that you thought was normal. (It's not.) We also unpack: - Can you truly heal if you can't reconcile with your parents? - How emotionally immature caregivers were shaped by their wounds - Why it's especially hard to admit you need inner child healing when you're a parent yourself - What people are getting completely wrong about boundary-setting - Delicate balance between honesty with kids & preserving parental authority - Why it's never too late to become the parent you didn't have - Shadow work: The unconscious forces driving your projections & sabotaging your relationships And maybe most importantly…How to have grace for yourself while making small, powerful shifts. Because healing isn't about blaming your parents. It's about reclaiming your power. It's about realizing survival mode was adaptive, but it doesn't have to be your forever state. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do I feel shame for no reason?” “Why can't I just change?” This conversation might be the missing piece. On the other side of this work? Clarity. Regulation. Authenticity. Hope. And proof that it's never too late to come home to yourself. Go to https://kachava.com and use the code BREAKDOWN for 15% off of your first order. Head to https://www.superpower.com  and use code BREAK at checkout for $20 off your membership. Unlock your new health intelligence. 100+ biomarkers. Every year. Detect early signs of 1,000+ conditions. #superpowerpod Dr. Nicole LePera's latest book, REPARENTING THE INNER CHILD: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Original music composed by Mossbridge Music Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason you feel stuck isn't about your job, your partner, or your motivation, but a wound you've been carrying since childhood? In this episode of Mayim Bialik's Breakdown, Dr. Nicole LePera — better known as “The Holistic Psychologist” and author of Reparenting the Inner Child — reveals why your adult patterns are NOT random…and why insight alone will never set you free. Dr. Nicole LePera breaks down the 9 different childhood wounds silently shaping your adult relationships, like: - If you couldn't trust a caregiver → why you're guarded, suspicious, and prone to self-sabotage - If you had too much responsibility → why you're a compulsive caretaker battling burnout and weak boundaries - If you were rejected → why perfectionism and people-pleasing became your survival strategy She also reveals: - Why “inner child work” feels like being pulled into an alternate timeline (how your nervous system literally drags you back into the past!) - Hidden damage of being a parentified child, and the burnout, resentment, and boundary struggles that follow you into adulthood - Shocking prevalence of sibling abuse, and how it fractures the inner child in ways most people never acknowledge - Real dangers of corporal punishment (& what it wires into a child's nervous system) - Why denying a child's emotional reality creates lifelong shame - Shame 101: What it actually is, how it's different from guilt, how it lives in the body - How unresolved emotions block your intuition and keep you from your life path Dr. LePera explains how childhood wounds don't just live in your memories — they live in your body. Chronic tension. Digestive issues. Hyper-independence. Emotional numbness. “Survival mode” that you thought was normal. (It's not.) We also unpack: - Can you truly heal if you can't reconcile with your parents? - How emotionally immature caregivers were shaped by their wounds - Why it's especially hard to admit you need inner child healing when you're a parent yourself - What people are getting completely wrong about boundary-setting - Delicate balance between honesty with kids & preserving parental authority - Why it's never too late to become the parent you didn't have - Shadow work: The unconscious forces driving your projections & sabotaging your relationships And maybe most importantly…How to have grace for yourself while making small, powerful shifts. Because healing isn't about blaming your parents. It's about reclaiming your power. It's about realizing survival mode was adaptive, but it doesn't have to be your forever state. If you've ever thought: “Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do I feel shame for no reason?” “Why can't I just change?” This conversation might be the missing piece. On the other side of this work? Clarity. Regulation. Authenticity. Hope. And proof that it's never too late to come home to yourself. Go to https://kachava.com and use the code BREAKDOWN for 15% off of your first order. Head to https://www.superpower.com  and use code BREAK at checkout for $20 off your membership. Unlock your new health intelligence. 100+ biomarkers. Every year. Detect early signs of 1,000+ conditions. #superpowerpod Dr. Nicole LePera's latest book, REPARENTING THE INNER CHILD: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/ Follow us on Substack for Exclusive Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠ Original music composed by Mossbridge Music Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the patterns holding you back aren't a character flaw — but a survival response your nervous system learned before you even had words for it? In this episode of the HEAL with Kelly Podcast, Kelly sits down with #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Nicole LePera — known to millions as The Holistic Psychologist — to explore her groundbreaking new book, Reparenting the Inner Child. Dr. Nicole has redefined how we think about healing by weaving together psychology, nervous system science, and the kind of honest self-awareness that creates real, lasting change. Together, they unpack why so many of us keep repeating emotional patterns even when we fully understand them intellectually — and why understanding alone is not enough. Dr. Nicole reveals how our earliest experiences wire our nervous system, shape the roles we play in relationships, and form the deep-seated beliefs we carry through life about our worth, safety, and belonging. You'll learn why your reactions aren't overreactions — they're echoes. The inner child isn't a metaphor. It's emotional memory stored in the body, running protective programs formed long before you had the capacity to choose differently. This episode also explores the profound link between childhood experiences and adult physical health, how modern life quietly overtaxes an already-stressed nervous system, and what it actually looks like to begin reparenting yourself with practical tools. If you've ever felt like you're doing the work but something still isn't shifting, this conversation is your next step. Key Moments You'll Love ✨:

"Trauma isn't just what happened to us. It's more so about the support we may or may not have had to navigate the emotional fallout of what happened." Nicole LePera, Ph.D., is the creator of the worldwide @theholisticpsychologist movement, and the author of multiple bestselling books including How to Do the Work and her newest, Reparenting the Inner Child. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research and studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. Her work has reached tens of millions of people on social media, who are waking up to the idea that healing doesn't happen in a therapist's office alone. 00:00 — How to recognize your inner child 04:05 — Redefining childhood trauma 06:09 — How parenting has shifted over time 10:00 — Safety as a foundation 14:30 — Why children internalize a parent's anger  18:10 — How ownership & awareness can lead to reparenting 20:21 — Epigenetics: when the trauma didn't start with you 22:55 — Why insight alone doesn't create change 24:19 — Embracing discomfort & developing resilience 26:01 — Navigating difficult relationships 29:53 — What acceptance actually looks like 37:03 –– Emotional dysregulation & numbness 40:16 — What you can do to start healing right now Find Nicole LePera on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/  Buy her book here: https://a.co/d/04SVp4tW We hope you enjoy this episode, and feel free to watch the full video on YouTube! Whether it's an article or podcast, we want to know what we can do to help here at mindbodygreen. Let us know at: podcast@mindbodygreen.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're diving DEEP into viral topics from toxic masculinity in the manosphere to the psychological heartbreak of family estrangement (Brooklyn Beckham, anyone?), plus the Oscar's dirty little secret: body image, Ozempic, and why women are still set up to lose. We've got the absolutely brilliant Nicole Lepera (the holistic psychologist herself) and Christina back in the house, breaking down the REAL emotional traps, offering game-changing advice, and helping you reclaim your agency… even when the whole world (or your ex) says you can't. SHOWNOTES Why Women Get Stuck in Toxic Relationships Leaving Abuse: Healing & Choosing Healthy Love Going No Contact: Should You Cut Off Toxic Family? #BoyMom Drama: When Mothers Enmesh With Their Sons Body Image Bombshells: The Oscars, Ozempic & Generational Trauma Parentification: When Kids Get Pulled Into Adult Drama Reparenting Yourself: Practical Ways To Heal, Build Boundaries, And Find Community Thank you to our sponsor:  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa FOLLOW ME & THE SHOW: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're diving DEEP into viral topics from toxic masculinity in the manosphere to the psychological heartbreak of family estrangement (Brooklyn Beckham, anyone?), plus the Oscar's dirty little secret: body image, Ozempic, and why women are still set up to lose. We've got the absolutely brilliant Nicole Lepera (the holistic psychologist herself) and Christina back in the house, breaking down the REAL emotional traps, offering game-changing advice, and helping you reclaim your agency… even when the whole world (or your ex) says you can't. SHOWNOTES Why Women Get Stuck in Toxic Relationships Leaving Abuse: Healing & Choosing Healthy Love Going No Contact: Should You Cut Off Toxic Family? #BoyMom Drama: When Mothers Enmesh With Their Sons Body Image Bombshells: The Oscars, Ozempic & Generational Trauma Parentification: When Kids Get Pulled Into Adult Drama Reparenting Yourself: Practical Ways To Heal, Build Boundaries, And Find Community Thank you to our sponsor:  Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa FOLLOW ME & THE SHOW: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do you overreact in relationships when the situation doesn't match the emotion? Sabrina sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to break down inner child wounds, how your nervous system stores childhood trauma before you have words to process it, and why certain dating triggers send you spiraling. They dive into emotional attunement, generational trauma, shame, and anxious attachment patterns. Dr. Nicole shares reparenting tools from her new book, Reparenting The Inner Child, including how to regulate your nervous system and stop self-abandoning in relationships. If you've ever said "I had a great childhood" but still struggle with dating anxiety or abandonment fears, this one's for you. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Go to Quince.com/SABRINA for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. As an exclusive offer, my listeners can get their choice between organic ground beef, chicken breast or shrimp in every box for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/SABRINA ============================= Chapters: 0:00 Your Reaction Doesn't Match Reality 1:24 Meet Dr. Nicole LePera 3:16 What Is Your Inner Child 5:07 "I Had a Perfect Childhood" 10:00 How Your Nervous System Stores Trauma 14:02 Nature vs Nurture in Attachment 17:32 Body Signals of Inner Child Wounds 19:59 Why Dating Triggers Hit So Hard 23:47 Shame and Self-Sabotage in Love 29:19 Recognizing Triggers in Real Time 36:15 What Reparenting Looks Like 40:44 Nervous System Regulation Tools 46:03 Inner Child Patterns in Relationships 53:24 Healing Is Not a Destination Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever wondered why we lash out, shut down, or spiral emotionally, even when we don't want to? On this episode of Getting Better, JVN teams up with psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera (The Holistic Psychologist) to dive deep into inner child healing, parts work, and the shocking truth behind our nervous system's reactions. Dr. LePera reveals how our past molds our emotions, why connection is our biological imperative, and how to become your own adult parent. JVN opens up about their own "parts," and together they dissect black-and-white thinking, fear, and emotional overwhelm, uncovering real-world strategies to break free! If healing has ever felt messy, scary, or downright nonlinear, this conversation may help you truly "getting better." Dr. Nicole LePera's new book Reparenting the Inner Child: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them is out March 24th. Full Getting Better Video Episodes now available on YouTube.  Follow Dr. Nicole LePera on Instagram @the.holistic.psychologist Follow us on Instagram @gettingbetterwithjvn Jonathan on Instagram @jvn Executive Producer, Chris McClure Producer, Editor & Engineer is Nathanael McClure Production support from Chad Hall Our theme music is also composed by Nathanael McClure. Check out the JVN Patreon for exclusive BTS content, extra interviews, and much much more - check it out here: www.patreon.com/jvn  Curious about bringing your brand to life on the show? Email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, JClay receives an intuitive Double Your Income Energy Scan from Daniel. JClay is a spiritual rap artist and one of the leading voices in the spiritual hip-hop movement. With a background as both a NASA engineer and music producer, his songs carry the precision of a scientist and the heart of a healer. Every lyric he writes is intentional—designed to raise consciousness, release fear, and bring listeners back to peace. His music merges spoken-word depth with mainstream-quality beats, forming a unique sound praised by psychologists, music professionals, and fans alike. Holistic Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera calls his work “remarkable,” and one fan put it simply: “If Jesus rapped, it would be this.” JClay’s critically celebrated debut album, IAMNOBODY, IAMSOMEONE, is widely regarded as a healing tool, with listeners reporting breakthroughs in mental health just by playing it on repeat. His live performances bring audiences to tears, not because of sadness—but because they finally feel seen, heard, and free. His new single Humble Yo Self continues his mission to heal through music, using powerful lyricism and spiritual insight to reveal the truth behind what it really means to humble oneself in the presence of the divine. For More Information ★ For a powerful first listen, experience his fan-favorite song Let Go: https://youtu.be/FQoFUPLLU3o★ To learn more about JClay check out his website: https://jclay.org★ If you enjoyed the show, please leave us a five star iTunes review. Visit Spiritual Rockstar Podcast at https://yoursacredpurpose.com/ for more information!★ I encourage you to join our Rock Your Sacred Purpose Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/246228169428755★ Do you want to Meditate and Make Money? Grab your Free meditation today: YourSacredPurpose.com Show Notes ★ 3:52 – Everyone was like ‘You can’t go to school for music, there’s no money there. You need to get a good job and have that as your backup.’★ 8:26 – I just knew that not enough people are helping the adults.★ 14:50 – We are never alone, help is always here and we can pause for a second and go within.★ 18:55 – You can’t be in a state of fear and love at the same time, it’s just impossible.★ 26:33 – We have to learn to be ok with ourselves.★ 30:25 – When you quiet your mind you can receive that higher guidance.★ 40:25 – When we stop even judging things as positive we realize reality doesn’t need our judgement for it to be and to work on our behalf.★ 47:48 – Daniel tunes into JClay.★ 57:11 – A lot of people are afraid to change because they believe that who they made themselves out to be is who they are.   Listen to the Show The post 503: JClay – The power of your thoughts and words appeared first on Your Sacred Purpose.

Dr. Nicole LePera joins me to explore how our childhood experiences shape the nervous system, emotional patterns, and identities we carry into adulthood. We unpack how many of the reactions, habits, and relationship dynamics that feel automatic today were once adaptations we developed to maintain connection and safety early in life. Nicole explains how emotional attunement in childhood forms the internal “home base” we return to, often recreating familiar patterns even when they no longer serve us.In this conversation, we explore attachment styles, people-pleasing, parentification, and the unconscious roles we adopt in order to belong. Nicole also introduces the practice of reparenting—learning how to meet our own emotional needs through awareness, nervous system regulation, and body-based practices. This episode offers a grounded path toward understanding where our patterns come from and how we can begin to create a deeper sense of safety and home within ourselves.Try LMNT & get a free sample pack https://drinkLMNT.com/KnowThyselfMUDWTR - Up to 43% off sitewide (and a free frother!)https://www.mudwtr.com/knowthyself[Code: KNOWTHYSELF]André's Book Recs: https://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com/book-list___________00:00 Intro03:30 Unearthing What We Buried to Survive09:12 The Childhood Roots of Our Coping Strategies15:59 The Importance of Emotional Attunement19:52 Understanding Attachment Styles28:33 Ad: LMNT30:35 From Seeking Love to Finding Home Within34:54 Meeting Needs With Compassion41:06 Ad: Mudwtr42:29 The Impact of Status-Oriented Parenting51:34 The Body as the Foundation of Healing1:04:19 Simple Practices for Nervous System Regulation1:12:07 Growing When Your Partner Isn't1:26:07 Vulnerability as the Path to Connection1:42:15 Healing the Need to Be Perfect1:50:55 The Power of Inner Child Awareness___________Episode Resources: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologisthttps://theholisticpsychologist.com/https://www.instagram.com/andreduqum/https://www.instagram.com/knowthyself/https://www.youtube.com/@knowthyselfpodcasthttps://www.knowthyselfpodcast.com

Your inner child might still be running the show, whether you realize it or not. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with holistic psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Nicole LePera (also well known as @the.holistic.psychologist) to explore the transformative journey of reparenting the inner child and how our earliest experiences shape the way we show up in life.Nicole shares how many of the habits we carry such as anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, overworking, or shutting down were once brilliant survival strategies that helped us cope with childhood environments. But without awareness, those patterns can continue running our lives long after the original circumstances have passed.Nicole also shares parts of her own story: growing up in survival mode, struggling with anxiety and burnout, and how learning about trauma, the nervous system, and emotional safety changed everything.In this episode, we dive into:✨ What the inner child actually is ✨ What's on the other side of reparenting (spoiler: so much freedom, connection, and self-trust) ✨ How childhood coping mechanisms turn into adult patterns ✨ Why awareness alone isn't enough to create real change ✨ The role of the nervous system in healing and transformation ✨ Practical ways to start reparenting yourself today ✨ Why change is possible at any ageResourcesNicole's latest book, Reparenting the Inner Child, is available for pre-order now — get your copy HERE.Connect with Nicole on Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologistYour host: Anna Svedberg Connect with me on Instagram: @nourishedwithanna

Dr. Nicole LePera joins Dr. Will Cole for an in-person conversation on trauma, attachment, and what it actually means to “reparent” the inner child. They explore how early experiences shape the nervous system, why stress can feel familiar, and how modern life and social media can reinforce dysregulation. Nicole breaks down ACE scores, attunement, and why trauma is less about the event and more about the body's ability to process what happened with support. They also discuss body-based healing tools, including grounding, breathwork, EMDR (and simple forms of bilateral stimulation), and why rest can feel unsafe for many people. For all links mentioned in this episode, visit www.drwillcole.com/podcast.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Sponsors:If you want to find ways to “giveback” to others and fuel your body and your brain, Mosh bars are the perfect choice for you. Head to moshlife.com/WILLCOLE to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on either the Best Sellers Trial Pack or the new Plant Based Trial Pack.Go to DRINKAG1.com/WILLCOLE to get an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle ofVitamin D3+K2for FREE in yourAG1 Welcome Kit with your first AG1 subscription order!Visit eatright.org/everytable to learn more and find a nutrition and dietetics professionalProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1358DM Dr. Nicole LePera discusses her insights into the mind-body connection and emphasizes the significance of mindfulness and self-awareness. She introduces practical techniques for reducing stress, such as grounding exercises and conscious breathing. Dr. LePera also highlights the role of self-compassion and reframing negative thought patterns to improve mental well-being. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you've ever said, “I know my patterns — so why can't I change them?” the answer may not be in your mind, but in your body. On this episode of The Dr. Hyman Show, I sit down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to explore how early experiences become your body's default state—shaping your stress response, your relationships, and your risk for chronic disease. Watch the full conversation on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts. In this conversation, you'll learn: • How to recognize when your body is stuck in stress — even if your mind says you're “fine” • Why people-pleasing, overworking, or shutting down can become your default response • What simple daily practices can calm your nervous system and support long-term health • How creating safety in your body improves sleep, energy, and stress recovery When you create safety in your body, you don't just change your mood. You change your biology, your relationships, and your capacity to heal. Resources mentioned in this episode: Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Questionnaire View Show Notes From This Episode Get Free Weekly Health Tips from Dr. Hyman https://drhyman.com/pages/picks?utm_campaign=shownotes&utm_medium=banner&utm_source=podcast Sign Up for Dr. Hyman's Weekly Longevity Journal https://drhyman.com/pages/longevity?utm_campaign=shownotes&utm_medium=banner&utm_source=podcast Join the 10-Day Detox to Reset Your Health https://drhyman.com/pages/10-day-detox Join the Hyman Hive for Expert Support and Real Results https://drhyman.com/pages/hyman-hive This episode is brought to you by Pique, Timeline, PerfectAmino, Qualia, Paleovalley and BIOptimizers. Secure 20% off your order plus a free starter kit at piquelife.com/hyman. Receive 35% off  a subscription at timeline.com/drhyman. Go to bodyhealth.com and use code HYMAN20 to get 20% off your first order. Go to qualialife.com/hyman and use code HYMAN at checkout for an extra 15% off. Head to paleovalley.com and use code HYMAN20 for 20% off your first order. Head to bioptimizers.com/hyman and use promo code HYMAN at checkout to save 15%. (0:00) Introduction and personal experiences with anxiety (0:23) Nicole LePera's background and the holistic psychology approach (1:10) Tools for nervous system regulation (3:19) Hyman's profound experience with Ibogaine and reparenting the inner child (6:33) LePera's journey and mind-body connection insights (9:32) Impact of childhood environments and ACES (13:20) Attachment disruption, generational trauma, and epigenetics (18:42) Understanding the inner child and adult behavior (22:13) Emotional regulation, parental modeling, and the role of shame (25:36) Reparenting, nervous system practices, and societal influences (29:21) Reframing mental health and attachment frameworks (37:38) The five developmental spheres (40:21) Creating safety and security in the body (43:48) Somatic therapy and stress management (50:00) Progress in habit formation and reconnecting with the authentic self (54:31) Purpose, fulfillment, and relational neuroplasticity (59:09) Dr. Nicole LePera's resources

Hey Heal Squad! February always gets us thinking about love… so today we pulled together some of our favorite relationship moments with incredible experts like Dr. Laura Berman, Dr. Nicole LePera, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, and Danielle LaPorte, the voices who've helped us better understand intimacy, red flags, healing old patterns, and what real love actually looks like. There's talk about keeping the spark alive, why we repeat the same relationship dynamics, how to spot love bombing before it's too late, and the small ways we can start showing up with more honesty, compassion, and self-love. Basically… all the stuff we wish someone had explained sooner. We hope this one gives you something you need right now. Enjoy! HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Heal Squad x Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HealSquad/membership Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: Shop My Macy's Storefront EMR-Tek Red Light: https://emr-tek.com/discount/Maria30 for 30% off Airbnb: https://www.airbnb.com/host AUDIBLE:  https://audible.com/healsquad AG1:  https://drinkag1.com/healsquad  Join In-Person Heal Retreat Waitlist! https://mariamenounos.myflodesk.com/heal-retreat-waitlist   ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER:This Podcast and all related content (published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or http://Mariamenounos.com and http://healsquad.com) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

After five years of transformative conversations, host Eli Weinstein returns with the show that's been changing lives through honest, raw discussions about mental health, relationships, and personal growth.This isn't your typical therapy podcast. The Dude Therapist brings you unfiltered conversations with the biggest names in health and wellness. We have had Dr. John Delony, Dr. Nicole LePera to Mayim Bialik, Mark Groves, Alyson Stoner, Sabrina Zohar and many more. You can find these videos re-released on video and new episodes from a powerful line up of guests!In this New Season this show will coverDeep dives into relationships and parentingReal talk about mental health challengesPractical tools for personal transformationGuest experts sharing breakthrough insights on habit change, subconscious patterns, and relationship masteryIt's a New Season. New Format. Same Authentic Conversations.

In this profound conversation Dr. Nicole LePera — also known as The Holistic Psychologist — and I explore what it truly means to become the love you seek.We talk about how childhood conditioning and nervous system patterns shape our adult relationships, why we repeat familiar dynamics even when they're painful, and how healing begins when we learn to create safety within ourselves.Nicole shares insights on inner child healing, emotional regulation, boundaries, and self-responsibility — and how meeting your own needs is the foundation for secure, healthy connection with others.We dive into:  ✨ Why we repeat the same relationship patterns ✨ How the nervous system influences attachment ✨ Inner child healing and reparenting ✨ Emotional regulation and creating internal safety ✨ Boundaries as an act of self-trust ✨ Becoming the source of love you've been seeking externallyConnect with Nicole on Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist Your host: Anna Svedberg Connect with me on Instagram: @nourishedwithannaThis conversation originally aired as Episode 57.

This is a fan fav episode. New love is easy, staying in love is hard work (believe me!) Today, my homie, Dr. Nicole LePera is joining me for a relationship dive into the complexities that lead to 70% of couples never seeing their 1 year anniversary. Falling in love is a thrilling ride, but what happens when the adrenaline fades and reality sets in? That's where the majority of relationships hit a snag. Does your relationship feel more like a roller coaster than a peaceful journey? As fun as roller coasters are in the amusement park, you may be addicted to the highs and lows of toxic love, and that's not fun or healthy in your grown up relationships. In this two-part episode, Dr. LePera shares valuable tips to help you identify if you're in an incompatible relationship and how to navigate through the emotional minefield. We also discuss why change can be as challenging as squeezing into skinny jeans after Thanksgiving dinner, and how to handle your emotional responses in a healthier way. “To make sure that our needs are met in a relationship, we have to be really clear on what they are and we have to be really clear on what we want…” -Nicole LePera If you're struggling with your relationship or just want to understand love better, this episode is a must-watch. So, hit that play button and make sure you catch part two with Nicole LePera Check out Nicole's latest book, How to Be the Love You Seek: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/0063267748⁠  Original air date: 11-29-2023 Follow Nicole LePera: Website: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a fan fav episode. New love is easy, staying in love is hard work (believe me!) Today, my homie, Dr. Nicole LePera is joining me for a relationship dive into the complexities that lead to 70% of couples never seeing their 1 year anniversary. Falling in love is a thrilling ride, but what happens when the adrenaline fades and reality sets in? That's where the majority of relationships hit a snag. Does your relationship feel more like a roller coaster than a peaceful journey? As fun as roller coasters are in the amusement park, you may be addicted to the highs and lows of toxic love, and that's not fun or healthy in your grown up relationships. In this two-part episode, Dr. LePera shares valuable tips to help you identify if you're in an incompatible relationship and how to navigate through the emotional minefield. We also discuss why change can be as challenging as squeezing into skinny jeans after Thanksgiving dinner, and how to handle your emotional responses in a healthier way. “To make sure that our needs are met in a relationship, we have to be really clear on what they are and we have to be really clear on what we want…” -Nicole LePera If you're struggling with your relationship or just want to understand love better, this episode is a must-watch. So, hit that play button and make sure you catch part two with Nicole LePera Check out Nicole's latest book, How to Be the Love You Seek: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/0063267748⁠  Original air date: 11-29-2023 Follow Nicole LePera: Website: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. New love is easy, staying in love is hard work (believe me!) Today, my homie, Dr. Nicole LePera is joining me for a relationship dive into the complexities that lead to 70% of couples never seeing their 1 year anniversary. Falling in love is a thrilling ride, but what happens when the adrenaline fades and reality sets in? That's where the majority of relationships hit a snag. Does your relationship feel more like a roller coaster than a peaceful journey? As fun as roller coasters are in the amusement park, you may be addicted to the highs and lows of toxic love, and that's not fun or healthy in your grown up relationships. In this two-part episode, Dr. LePera shares valuable tips to help you identify if you're in an incompatible relationship and how to navigate through the emotional minefield. We also discuss why change can be as challenging as squeezing into skinny jeans after Thanksgiving dinner, and how to handle your emotional responses in a healthier way. “To make sure that our needs are met in a relationship, we have to be really clear on what they are and we have to be really clear on what we want…” -Nicole LePera If you're struggling with your relationship or just want to understand love better, this episode is a must-watch. So, hit that play button and make sure you catch part two with Nicole LePera Check out Nicole's latest book, How to Be the Love You Seek: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/0063267748⁠  Original air date: 11-29-2023 Follow Nicole LePera: Website: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is a fan fav episode. New love is easy, staying in love is hard work (believe me!) Today, my homie, Dr. Nicole LePera is joining me for a relationship dive into the complexities that lead to 70% of couples never seeing their 1 year anniversary. Falling in love is a thrilling ride, but what happens when the adrenaline fades and reality sets in? That's where the majority of relationships hit a snag. Does your relationship feel more like a roller coaster than a peaceful journey? As fun as roller coasters are in the amusement park, you may be addicted to the highs and lows of toxic love, and that's not fun or healthy in your grown up relationships. In this two-part episode, Dr. LePera shares valuable tips to help you identify if you're in an incompatible relationship and how to navigate through the emotional minefield. We also discuss why change can be as challenging as squeezing into skinny jeans after Thanksgiving dinner, and how to handle your emotional responses in a healthier way. “To make sure that our needs are met in a relationship, we have to be really clear on what they are and we have to be really clear on what we want…” -Nicole LePera If you're struggling with your relationship or just want to understand love better, this episode is a must-watch. So, hit that play button and make sure you catch part two with Nicole LePera Check out Nicole's latest book, How to Be the Love You Seek: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/0063267748⁠  Original air date: 11-29-2023 Follow Nicole LePera: Website: ⁠https://theholisticpsychologist.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@TheHolisticPsychologist⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/⁠  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lesley Logan reconnects with fat loss and mindset coach Amy Ledin to talk about the habits that actually stick in midlife. Amy shares how she's been navigating stage four cancer while still honoring her values, her energy, and the daily agreements that keep her grounded. Together, they revisit her 5 for 50 habit framework, explore the power of future self scripting, and break down why identity work—not willpower—is what creates change that lasts and helps you become the person who follows through.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How Amy returned to routines and promises after her cancer recurrence.Why she created 5 for 50 and how doing it as a family builds confidence.How choosing a “test habit” and adjusting early makes hard habits feel doable.Why creating a health character and using rehearsal scripts rewires old loops.How changing your environment reduces decision fatigue and supports long-term habits.Episode References/Links:Amy Ledin's Website - https://www.leanbodiesconsulting.comAmy Ledin's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amy_ledinLean Bodies Consulting's - https://facebook.com/leanbodiesconsultingF* It Podcast - https://beitpod.com/fitpodEpisode 5: Amy Ledin - https://beitpod.com/amyledinAtomic Habits by James Clear - https://a.co/d/874dad4Book: Your Big Leap Year by Gay Hendricks - https://a.co/d/ick374uJourney To The Heart by Melody Beattie - https://a.co/d/fT1sQ1cWillpower Doesn't Work by Benjamin Hardy - https://a.co/d/f5KQW2vLove Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant - https://a.co/d/8jKmYAhNicole Lepera - https://theholisticpsychologist.comGuest Bio:Amy Ledin is redefining what it means for midlife women to “look like they train.” As a coach and entrepreneur, she combines strength training, simplified nutrition, and deep mindset work to help women create bodies that reflect their discipline, not their diets. Through her unique tools; the Meal Card Method, Daily Agreement Cards, and Breakthrough Rehearsal Scripts, Amy helps women escape the all-or-nothing loop, rebuild consistency, and sustain results for life.A stage four non–small cell lung cancer fighter, Amy brings a rare blend of resilience and realness to everything she teaches, grounding her coaching in lived experience rather than perfection. She's also a devoted mom of five, a podcaster, and a community leader who believes identity work is the true driver for change. Whether she's guiding her clients or helping them script the actions of their “future self,” Amy's mission is to help women trust themselves again. 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It's after Sarah Blakely. I pretend that I try to show up as her because I'm not as outgoing and as creative and fun and bubbly as Sarah. But when I create that character, my current self doesn't see it as a threat if I just say I'm just playing this role, you know. I'm coming on the podcast, playing a role that helps me show up as my best self. Like, I think a lot of us like forget that we have to, you know, we got to do it enough to become it.Lesley Logan 0:29  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:13  Be It babe, holy moly, this episode is one for the books. I mean, her first one was one for the books. She's fabulous and she's amazing. We cover a lot of topics. You can insert whatever it is that you want to be until you see in for what we're talking about in these ideas. Basically, I wanted to have Amy Ledin back, and she is back, and, like, top notch, better than ever. And the reason is, is because we are going to do a really fun series on habits, and Amy is the queen of how she gets people to create habits that are not torturous and also that allow them to really become the person they want to be. And I mean, every different example is a be it till you see it. So this week, it'll be Amy Ledin plus a recap, and then next week I'll kick off a series on how I help people with habits. There are two different ways, but you then can choose the adventure that works for you. And I'm really excited about it. I believe in what we just discussed in this episode so much, and I can't wait to hear what's coming. And then I want you to let us know, like, how are you doing? Are you able to make the habits to help you be it till you see it? So get ready, buckle up. We have a few weeks to talk about this topic. And first, it's the one and only Amy Ledin. Lesley Logan 2:24  Okay, Be It babe. Holy frickin moly. I can't even believe it. I am so freaking excited to see the woman who's on my screen right now. Like, I have saw it on my day. Like, this, is it two o'clock yet? Is it two o'clock yet? Amy Ledin is back. Episode Five. Can you (inaudible) I don't know what number this is but it's over 600.Amy Ledin 2:44  Wow, that's crazy.Lesley Logan 2:47  I know. I know. And you, oh, I have to tell you this, Amy, my mom heard your episode when it came out. She literally still only talks about that one out of all the podcasts. She's like, that woman with the cards, that woman, and then you had, like, the boss, the boss bitch, and like something else, and she's still Amy Ledin 3:06  Oh yeah, your inner bitch, inner boss. Lesley Logan 3:07  Oh yes, she quotes you to this day. It's been four years. Amy Ledin 3:13  I love it. I love it. Lesley Logan 3:15  So Amy, in case people are new to us, which there's probably a lot of people. Can you remind them who you are and what you rock at? Amy Ledin 3:22  Yes. Okay, so I'm Amy Ledin, as you know, and I am a fat loss and mindset coach, is what I would say. That's my forte. But I'm a podcaster. I'm a mom of five kids, you know, I'm a wife, a homeschool mom, you know, all the things you know, I'm someone that has overcome, you know, I've lost 90 pounds. I am a stage four non small cell lung cancer, you know, fighter. I am now, right now, I've been in remission. I wouldn't call real remission, but no evidence of active disease three times, and this fourth time that it's come back, it's spread to my brain. So I'm on all new medications. So I would say that's the biggest update since the last time I've been on here. But I am, you know, I am a perimenopause, menopause, you know, menopause coach, and that's because my audience is growing up with me. You know, I'm 47 so I'm in the thick of it as well. So I'd say that's who I am.Lesley Logan 4:18  Oh my gosh, Amy, I had no idea it had gone into the brain. That is because Brad and I were like, I wonder how she's doing. I wonder if she's back in remission. That has to be hard. Like, is it hard, I mean, or maybe you just don't want to feel sorry, like, maybe it gets annoying to feel sorry for yourself, like, I just want to, like, do you mind if we chat about it a little bit?Amy Ledin 4:34  It is annoying and no, and you know what? I love that you're just like, you ask it, because people don't. So it's been almost a year since I found out that it had spread, and it was a shock. Like, I was really shocked. In fact, I was coming back to my podcast. I'd already recorded several episodes, and then I got that news, and I just, it really did knock me. I really got this, like, just attitude of just, I was really angry. Like, I'm like, I don't get it. Like, what am I doing wrong, which is just the wrong attitude. But that took me a few months to kind of feel sorry for myself. And then it was like going back to all the things that you know I needed to do to, you know, all the things that I always did before. You know, my keeping my promises and having a routine and building these habits and really living in a future, you know, like living as if I am already there. And you know, that helped me kind of come back. But I will say, you know, it's really only been a couple months of me really feeling like myself again, because I've just been battling a lot of that, you know, loops of just, you know, panic and fear, and am I going to be lucky this time? And you know, all of that, so, you know, it's then I've really had to, honestly, just get into a high gear. And this is what I'm always good at, is when, you know, shit hits the fan. I am someone that does the opposite of what most do, and that is, they, they just crumble. Like I said, I had three, I say three months of, like, feeling sorry for myself. I was still operating at what would probably be someone else's like, 85% I think where mine came in was when I don't believe in myself, like, or if I'm having that fear, I can't do, say, podcasting, because it was one of the areas that I have to be super authentic. So it's the first thing that actually goes off the books, and it's actually the thing that I used to love the most, because it was, like my therapy, so I almost have to be in full alignment for me to come back. So like, right now I'm getting ready to relaunch, and I'm actually excited for the first time, because I'm like, Okay, I'm living it. I can share because, you know, you know this yourself, like it's an energy transfer that you're doing right now with other people, and so it is all about having the right energy to really get into that person. And so that's kind of, you know, where, it has been hard. But you know what, like, what makes me feel the best is showing up at a very super high level, levels that people would say, why are you even trying this? And that is just because I am proving that you can do so much.Lesley Logan 7:04  Yeah, I love what you said, like, you know, living as if I'm there, because that's the whole be it till you see it motto, right? Like, it's just, like, we're just getting there. And I just think, like, it's, I feel you in that, like, when something doesn't go my way, like, I am also very good at hitting, like, hitting the fifth gear. Like, when Covid happened, we were in the air coming back from Cambodia. I was like, okay, hold on, what don't they have? They need this. Oh, I can do that. Okay, there's that, right? And that's how we bought this house. Recently, we had a situation, and we got the worst news in the entire world, and the first thing for me to shut down is like, I have to, we talked about this before we hit record, I have to add value. I have to be on integrity. I have to have integrity with my word like that is such a value of mine. So we're going to even though we weren't allowed, what happened is, we're turning around the border with the right paperwork and the right permit, and they still wouldn't let us in. I was like, we're still going to do the event. We're still going to operate integrity. They're still getting everything that they wanted. They just don't get to hug me in 3d but I'm still going to do it. But the thing that had to go away is I couldn't show up on Instagram because I, like, all I wanted to do was, like, cry and go, like, this fucking sucks. But I'm not that person that I'm not the person who does that this fucking sucks. I'm the person who's like, Okay, this is what I went through, and this is what I did, and this is what I'm doing, right? So not that, like, my situation is all brain cancer. I want to make sure the listeners here, I heard that. I can hear that, but like, I can understand, like having to let go of something you love or that you enjoy doing, or that as an outlet for people to get to know you until you're in a place where you can go, okay, how am I going to operate in this way? Amy Ledin 8:36  Well, and no one wants, I mean, I'm not saying it needs to be like this toxic positivity, but day in and day out of someone just like being boohoo is also not a place that's really going to serve anyone, especially myself. I'm really not a big believer in sitting in it, so even when I'm in pain, my family knows I'm rarely going to tell you that I'm hurting or that I'm tired. Just know that's pretty much always for me. But why would I verbalize things like, I mean, your body goes to the direction that you speak to it, and so I just don't do that. So I'll take on the makeup, and I will do my hair and those things, because I see my reflection all day long. I really believe that's a big superpower that people don't realize. Like, you want to see a reflection of what you want to be feeling like, I don't feel that great. But when I see that other reflection of like, I'm like, oh, okay, yeah, versus man, if I didn't do anything, I think it just make me start to go more downhill. And I mean, everybody's different, but I'm a really big believer you got to show up as the person you want to be. Lesley Logan 9:37  Yeah, I love that, and it's true. Like, I not only do I it's not about toxic positivity. We had a really great episode about, like, happiness, and I was, I interviewed her, like, when there was the fires in California, and I said, you know, like, there's a bunch of people who like, why their houses are burning down. They're like, this is gonna mean something. And I'm like, that's not feeling your feelings. Like, yes, I do believe that everything does happen for a reason. I do believe that like, when doors close, it's because another door is going to open. Like, of course, but in the moment, you are allowed to feel the feeling. Amy Ledin 10:06  (inaudible) time. Lesley Logan 10:07  Yeah, like, feel your feelings. Amy Ledin 10:09  No one needs to tell me as I'm getting the news. Amy, this is because you know what, you can handle it. You know what I'm about ready to like, I'm, you know, that was the biggest thing that I really got tired of people like, oh my gosh, you're so strong. Like, I'm actually tired of being strong. You know what I mean?Lesley Logan 10:25  I do know what you mean. I'm going to say you're so resilient. I don't check on you. I'm like, I'm so tired of being resilient over it. But I do, I do think that, like, at what I also cannot handle is, like, why I can't be the person who's like, going to tell you what I'm going through in the process. I don't want the apologies. I don't want the I'm sorry for you. I don't want any of that stuff, because now I have to respond to that, because now I have to say, thank you.Amy Ledin 10:52  Well, I didn't even actually, and, you know, trust me, I'm going through therapy for this exact thing is, I actually didn't tell my family for a few months. I wanted to get like, several treatments, and my, not my, not my immediate family, like Mike's, like my parents and stuff, because I didn't want to go through that cycle right there. I wanted to already have an answer for, like, this is the diagnosis. This is what we're doing. I've already been doing it, and I've even had XYZ because I didn't, you know, you'll not see anything online about it, you know. You know, in our own private, you know, we have a paid group of women, 550 women, that, obviously I did, because I'd lost a lot between one of our training blocks, and I knew they'd see it in the filming. I film every round, you know, videos, and so I was open with them. But otherwise, I'm not that way, because I don't like the I don't like, to go through the phase of, like, let me give you, you know, I'm, I don't need that. Lesley Logan 11:45  Yeah. Well, also, like, it's, you know, you have to feel the feelings. You can grieve, the things that, like, were what you were expecting. And then it's true, we have to go. So what can I do? Like, what are the actions that I can take? Like, what is gonna what if I'm in pain all day, like, what can I do to make myself feel good and like, I agree, like, my days are better when I, like, Get up and get dressed for the day and put things on and like, go, okay, whoa. You know, we nailed that. Amy Ledin 12:11  Yeah. And I mean movement, like, I've had some really rough times over this last year where I've had to learn that if you get no mobility at all, it actually just increases that, the aches, the pains, you know, I had, I think it was like three days that I actually did not leave the house. And finally, like day three of my goal was just to get to the end of our driveway. And I just started to think, like, I mean, even if it's small, that is so much better than and getting sunlight, and, you know, all the things that just, really, honestly, I think, help our body. We're kind of like a plant that we need to, like, get out and, like, get in some soil, and, you know, so that's something that, you know, really, I think, is important, you know, as well. Lesley Logan 12:55  Yeah, I know, like, a body in motion, like, stays in motion, right? Like, it's easier for me. Yeah, I came home from my tour, and my girlfriend saw me like that next morning at the gym. She's like, wow, you're so good at being consistent. I'm like, first of all, I do have a trainer that will not renew with me if I don't check this off on the app. Second, I paid for it, so we're gonna do it. Third, if I use the excuse, oh, I just got home or I have a trip, I will never have, oh, consistent workout, and then I'm always having to start again, and then that is just like, never gonna feel good.Amy Ledin 13:30  And I say that to clients that I'm like, think about the person that's traveling all the time, like you're taking five days to land back into your life from a trip, and then like, five more days to get, like, recalibrated and like, that's just, you know, wasted time, right? So, yeah, and, I mean, you know this yourself, like, having habits, having routine, having structure, is just one more thing that I think helps, like, even your body feel at peace. At least for me, like, that's the last thing I need to be worrying about, is that. So it just feels good to get right back into like, I need to make sure I'm getting my walks in. I need to make sure I'm getting, like, my sleep routine, you know, like, that's a skill in itself, right?Lesley Logan 14:09  Yes. Well, that that is, I mean, like, everyone's like, how's it gonna be back? You must be tired. I'm like, oh no, well rested. Very behind on emails, because my sleep is going to come before my emails. But thank you so like, I'm well rested, all of my all of my Pilates, all of my weight training, all happened, not the emails, you know, you gotta have priorities. Amy Ledin 14:30  (inaudible) with the self-care. Lesley Logan 14:31  Yeah, so, okay, so you brought it up. So kicking off a habits block, because I hate the new year, new you stuff. It's not my favorite thing. I know you like, I've heard you talk about, like, upgrades. Like, I think that each year is a time for us to reflect. And like, we can think about the change what I'm bringing into the new year, but like, you're still you going into the new year with more experiences and and, and also smarter, because you've hopefully reflected on those and you've thought about these things, you experienced them. So I wanted to help people, like, understand how they can be it till they see it with their habits. And of course, you come to mind because people loved Episode Five. It's probably one of the most cited episodes we've had. It's come up many times. People still talk about it. But what are some of the tools that you use to to have habits? Because, my goodness, like, even with you've got five kids, you've got a business, you home school like you have to have habits or probably nothing gets done.Amy Ledin 15:24  Totally and we actually do it as a family. So I'm a big believer, you know, habits are not sexy because they need to be forever. So I'm a big believer in that you've got to make your habits fun, and you got to get creative around gamifying things that help you, like, level up. So you have your like, daily habits that you want to eventually just become forever things like, for me, it's like a daily walk, you know, three liters of water, like things that I just want to be background noise, but for a season, I mean, I may need to put them, like right front and center. And so we started creating something that we call 5 for 50 and it's five habits for 50 days. And the reason we do this is you pick five habits. But the key is, it's five that you need to do for the full 50 days, and four of them you have to intend to keep long term, like, don't start something for 49 days or 50 days that you don't really think maybe, you know, it might be a smaller version of that, but it's daily things. And so we do it as a family, you know, sometimes twice a year, typically like when mom's going through something hard, and I'm like, hey, you know what? Let's do 5 for 50 as a family. Because I always know, then we push ourselves like we just, I mean, I just feel better about myself. And so. (inaudible)Lesley Logan 16:35  And also it sounds like it gives you something else to focus on. You know. Amy Ledin 16:38  It is and and it's fun to see what the kids do like we so we did four that you wanted to do indefinitely, and the fifth one was some personal growth area where you want to dabble in it to see if it's like something you like. So, like one of my son, my 26 year old, he did that he had to draw for 30 minutes every day for, you know, 50 days. You know, my other daughter did guitar. And it also taught them that, like, wow, when you do, you know the compounding effect of this habit over time. And so I like, you know what I like about a timeline on something again, is that habits aren't sexy. They get boring for people. And so when you gamify, or when you do something where you're like, okay, I have a block, I have a start and a finish, what you're hoping at the finish is to drop those off of like you're right in front of you, writing down, and they just have become part of, like, your identity. They've just they you're now just pulled to do those things, because they've just become automatic. Now I test myself once I take them off, if I see that they're not I might reintroduce that like on say, like my DAC cards that I talked about on Episode Five, where I then write them in a structure of, like, these are the things that I'm keeping promises to during the day, but the Five For HIT 50 is really it's a habit one, there I tell my kids, I'm like, these are things that you know, maybe you're even doing them, but now you want to do them with like perfection, because you know how you do anything is how you do everything. Like, I tell people, I anchor my morning with my bed making. And it's funny, because when I make my bed, I literally take everything off. Like, Eric's like, is it seriously that, you know, necessary, to do? I'm like, yes, because it is a metaphor for how I want my day to go and how I want to treat myself, and that I don't cut corners. I don't I treat it like it's a hotel bed where I want the sheet sure. could I pull, like, we hardly move some nights where I literally could probably pull it back, but there's probably some little scenes down in the bottom. And I do find this. I find that it takes I've set a timer once, it only takes me, like three minutes and like 32 seconds, and I'm like the whole time I say mantras to myself, but I say this is a metaphor for how I want to show up. So I tell my kids, maybe they're habits you're already doing. Maybe you're brushing your teeth morning and night, but maybe it's going to be morning and night for the full two minutes, you know, with intention or whatever it may be, right? And what the kids see is these little things that become measurable really build your confidence. They start to think outside of what those are. And they're like, big fingers, you know, I find that my kids start coming up with ideas of, like, businesses, and that's just because they're believing in themselves. You know, like my daughter, she's like, I'm gonna sign up for soccer. And I'm like, Oh, really. Because she's like, going into high school and she's never played, and this was Leilani this last year, and I'm like, I'm so proud of her. Lesley Logan 19:21  She's going to high school? Amy Ledin 19:23  She's grade nine. Can you believe that?Lesley Logan 19:25  I can't Amy because I thought I haven't aged a bit. Amy Ledin 19:30  Yeah. So she, and she decided that, you know, out of the blue, that she wanted to start that, and I knew a lot of it had to do with doing these types of personal development things, where, when you can start measuring these habits like it's inevitable you're going to feel better about yourself. I mean anything from like Atomic Habits that I learned was when you start to even if it's two push ups a day, it's measuring that and seeing that compound effect over time. And it's not about the push ups. I tell people, it's what it represents that you do what you say you're going to do, and that you do it to the fullest. They're not like, half assed, like, that's why when I say what you write, you respect it, like, when you say you're gonna make your bed every morning. Don't just, like, throw it, because that's really how you're going to show up in all these other areas. Are you going to be the person that cuts the corner? Or are you the person that it's like, when I say I'm doing it till 5:30 it's till 5:30. Do you know what I mean, it's not 5:28.Lesley Logan 20:22  I actually really like the idea of like, one of them can be one, you just like, are testing out. Because I do think that when people are creating like habits that they want in their perfectionist tendencies, it's like, it's got to be all or nothing, and they're not giving themselves this permission. It's almost like, let me see like for right now. So I interviewed a girl who talked about tarot, and I said, I've always wanted to know about tarot because I was like, never allowed to play with tarot and and she's like, she's like, she's like, yeah, tarot actually was in the church. It was a way for you to self-reflect. And I was like, oh, well, tell me more. She's like, yeah, no, it was way to self-reflect, and you can actually use it as a tool to kind of figure out what's going on in your heart and your mind. I was like, oh, what a cool way for me to journal. And I have ever since hearing from like, interviewing her. I'm like, maybe I so I was like, I want to learn this, but then when you go to learn something new, it's like, it's hard, it's hard to take in the new stuff when you got the other stuff. And so I've, like, tried different books, and I was like, okay, here's what I do. I'm going to take this app. I'm going to do it for 30 days, but now I'm going to just put as my five for 50, and I'm going to see if, after 50 days, do I still want to learn this. Because it's also okay for me to say, you know, that was interesting and I didn't do what I wanted to do, and that's okay, you know, we can let things go, but we gave it our full effort.Amy Ledin 21:38  And telling your brain you can stop it at 50. Some of these long term habits that, like, let's say meditation, like, let's say you've wanted to dabble in it, but you're like, the idea of knowing it's something you really should implement forever kind of just seems like daunting. I'll be honest. Like, I'm like, oh crap, something I gotta do forever. Let's just wait to do that. But if you tell me, hey, just dabble in it for 50 days, see how you feel now be 100% for those 50 days, because that's the key. Like, it is crazy what happens when you go all in on anything, even if it's five minutes, if you're like, Hey, I'm going to just for five minutes a day, do this like our kids, because we let them choose the duration, and we did allow them within the first week of once we started it, you could change like, like, my one son, he was like, 30 minutes of drawing every day was just too much. I realized within the first few days that like sitting there with something that I'm not even, like, familiar with yet, because he's, like, he's 26 trying to get into it. So he and me, within the first week, we let them redefine the agreement you don't want to wait too long, because sometimes that's just your voice of compromise going, oh, so that's why it's like a seven day window. We say, okay, you've got seven days to come back to the drawing board. And I think he shortened his by 15 to 15 because he's like, realistically, I'm gonna hate it if I tell myself this, whereas, like my other kid was like, I'm gonna bump mine to 20 minutes, because 10 is not long enough or, you know, but it was really good for them to see what they were doing. But the compounding effect, like, I think we had one kid that decided to do, like the tennis bound like every day, just practice the hand eye coordination, which honestly made me realize, gosh, I need to do this, because my hand eye is not that great. He did this for 50 days. You become like a Michael Jordan, like, it is the compounding effect that people do not realize. Like, all you got to do is do something consecutively and like, over and over to get good, but knowing there's an end in sight, like, it helped me get back into journaling. Because I was like, okay, I just got to do it for 50 days. Let's see if this really is, like, worth doing the rehearsal scripts. And at the 50 days, I was like, holy crap. Like, it's actually making me feel better, you know, but I wouldn't have given it a shot, because I'm like, I don't want to add another thing into my life. Lesley Logan 23:42  I love that you said that Amy, because I think you and I, one of the things that, like, we became fast friends, is like, we are committers. We say we're if we say we're gonna do something, we're gonna do it. We show up for it. We have a lot of habits that we're really good at. Some, because we're humans, we like, go up. But I it's also like, for me, I'm like, hold on before I say I'm gonna do that. Like, where is that going to end in my day? Because I don't want to be like, I didn't do that today, because I hate that feeling like, that is my worst feeling. So I too, am like, okay, hold on. But it's like, oh, for 50 days. Well, then I can really see if I like it, and I can also see if I got good at it. I could also see, like, you know, it didn't really change anything. So I can let it go.Amy Ledin 24:21  Totally. And writing it in a scripting way, like I find, like, even with my DACs, one area that I've changed with myself is the way you say things to your brain really matters, and it really needs to be identity shifting, and that you're like, I want to, I'm going to, you know, practice the guitar for 30 minutes every day for 50 days, because I want to show myself that committing to something that typically I resist because it's hard and there's a learning curve, like, go on with the details to yourself so that sticks more, because every day, like growth is hard, like I, I hate to break it to people. It's the only place, I mean, like, hardness is where you actually grow. And, I mean, it freaking sucks, like, when this came back and people are like, Oh, you'll grow. I'm like, you know, I don't want to, but I actually can appreciate after the fact that I'm like, there's another layer to me that I'm obviously, like, uncovering through this. I don't want to be told that right in the moment. I don't think anyone should, and I think that, you know, just and I really hate when people apologize and go, oh, but you have cancer. It is all relative to you. It's like trauma to your body. It doesn't matter if it's like you tripped over a pebble or you got shot by a gun, it's how your body reacted to that and how it sees it. So I never want to discount that, because I feel like my clients have just as big, they feel like just as big of problems in those moments, especially to their bodies, as it does to me. So it's really like trying to be aware of that and seeing your habits, like, why are you making this a habit? You know, what's the reason behind this? Like, I used to be one of those that like make especially when I, you know, probably around when I first met you, it was like making the list and doing the charts. I mean, I have like, seven different journals I was using and trying to, you know, color code. And it just was too much pause and go. I mean, why am I doing this? What is the long term gain of this habit right here? And really try to tie it to the identity that you're chasing. Like, is it gonna help your health character and you becoming like your best self? Is it, you know, or is this just like an ego booster that you're gonna post on Instagram, that you're doing cold plunges? What's the real reason behind it? Because I find that we are so, you know, geared to be like, now we're doing colostrum, next we're doing greens. And my habits to do 30 days of greens. Lesley Logan 26:45  Oh my God, Amy, thank you so much. Everyone is like, on this colostrum kick. And I like, obviously, it's not human colostrum, but like, my sensitivity chart came back, and she's like, human colostrum. And I was like, that's so fascinating. Like, I'm not having that. But I'm also like, I'm also like, not gonna like, now I'm like, I'm like, all there's this. Everyone is like, and now we're on to this now. And it's so funny, because we have been on the on Instagram for work, and we see our friends, and it's like, I do have a cold plunge. I love my cold plunge. I am not going for 15 minutes. I get in there, and the first thing in the morning it wakes me up. That is why I do it. So for habits, why it's like I get it because I I have the hardest time remembering what day it is and why am I up in the morning. And I love the morning. So I get in and I read three books. They're each daily message books, because I wanted to read them. Yeah, I read, Gay Hendrick says, Your Big Leap Year. So I read one page of that. I read, I think it's Melody Beattie's, like Journey to the Heart, and I read someone else's and it's like I read, and they're often different messages, but I whatever one that sticks with me then I think about that as I go on my morning walk, and that's how I do it. And I found that was taking me a long time to get out on the morning walk, so I have a cold plunge for that, but I find, to your point of the why, why are you doing this? Because it's the end thing to do. It's what they're saying the next perimenopausal woman should be doing or shouldn't be doing, because I have people like, you shouldn't be cold plunging. I'm like, back off. It makes me feel good.Amy Ledin 28:12  It's a crazy world. I mean, I'm even in the industry, and I even say, wow, I feel for females these days. Because you know what? You get really bamboozled. I mean, people even, like they're doing a real they'll even show, over here, like a medical journal study, that they'll pop up and go and according to this, you should, well, now, if you're smart like me, and you want to be, you know, funny, you go check what that is. Well, it'll be like a research study on like, 85 year olds. And I'm like, man, context, please. But because they're like, a white coat doctor, and they're coming, you know, like, and they have 100,000 followers. And trust me, I am guilty of it too. When I was looking for back help, I'm not a chiropractor, so, like, I'm at the mercy of what I find. It's just like a person coming to the fat loss space, right? So I'm looking at, like, oh, they have a million followers. I mean, you see this in the Pilates space. Like, it's really, really scary. I think we're going to get back going full circle. It'll start to be referral. People are only going to trust who has because now everyone's been through something, and they've all had an experience. So now they're like, tell me who you (inaudible).Lesley Logan 29:18  I actually agree with you, because of all the AI stuff. Like, now I'm like, I actually go to Brad and go is this real? Do you think this is real before, like, I share it because, like, it's so easy, and now there's so much marketing that's using chat bots and AI that I think people are gonna stop using the socials to find even though that's where they it's been going that way to start finding things. I think people are gonna stop because it's gonna be referral. Because, like, you do. You know a real human who's acting like a real human, and it's but I agree. I mean, you're in the fat loss space. I'm in the Pilates space. I have so many people going, well, this is Pilates, and I'm like, no, honey, it's not, but no, I'm not going to go around telling people what is and isn't, because I'm not here to be in a fight with people. I'm here to help people. So I'm not going to help with an imitation.Amy Ledin 29:59  We're the same. I don't have enough time in my day to come hate on what you're doing. You if you think what you're doing is working for you, do it. I support you. And I think there's more than one way. Now, I think Pilates and I think even strength training, there are certain biomechanical like things to it. But I am not going to be a person that's a coach that sits and just like trashes everybody else you know, and does videos about them. I don't think that that helps, you know, personally, I think, and maybe it does, but the energy that I would be working in in that space would never make me be a creator in the way that I want to be, because I think I'd just be, you know. Lesley Logan 30:35  Oh, I just think in the industry you have, yeah, and I think so I feel like I love the honesty and like, it's so I mean, like most of the people listening are women, it is so easy to be bamboozled, but what I love about you and your ideas here, it's like, what do you want? Like, what do you want? And then why do you want it? Because I actually don't think that your why has to be something stellar, but you do have to know why. Because I think, like, do you want to run a marathon because you want a habit of running? Well, then we can, we should probably don't have to run a marathon. We can change the habit. Or are you wanting to run because you have a friend that you want to keep up? Or is it because you want to, like, what's the why? So that you can, one, test the habit, and your Five for 50, or two, maybe it's the wrong habit, like, maybe that's not the thing that you should be doing. Once you figure out the why, there might be an easier or more accessible one to you.Amy Ledin 31:29  And make the habit something that long term is going to give you the biggest bang for your buck. Maybe it's not following a macro plan right away. Maybe it's actually meal prepping, like I, you know, I tell people, do you have to earn the right to lose fat? So like my daughter Kamele, this last year wanted to go on like, her first diet, and she's 22 and so I said, well, before I'm even going to give you a meal plan that has macros on it, you need to prove to me that you're actually going to live the identity of the fit person. Fit people, they prep meals. Fit people have a fridge full of stuff. They don't come home and have like, I mean, that's just not how they live. They fuel themselves, right? So I said, what I want you to do is just set some meal times improve over the next few weeks that you're going to pack meals. I don't even care if it's I don't care what it is that you're packing. It's the habit of the identity of that person. And then I broke down the macros, and it's great, because she doesn't associate, like being a fit person, because she's lost 20 pounds, because she just dialed in and titrated those meals. But it was all about the identity of that fit person and how now she's like, I don't associate it. She goes, it's funny. In fact, everyone at my work, she works at Lulu, and they're like, wow, Kamele, you started eating more, and now you're like, 20 pounds lighter, because she was, like, packing her meals and being on a set, you know, routine with it, and fueling herself, right? And so, plus, it taught her too, this was it's not about your macro breakdown, honey, because she even lost weight, even just packing the meals and, like, living that way. I said, it's because you were intentional. You were prioritizing protein. You were eating on on a, on a, on a routine, like set times your leptin and ghrelin, like that, like, so find those five like in those habits. Maybe it's something that's going to get you the bigger you know, the lower hanging fruit. And honestly, to the brain, meal prep sounds a lot easier than follow my macros 100% for 50 days. That can seem really daunting to the person that's like, struggled, maybe they've had food issues or binge issues and all that. Lesley Logan 33:26  I think this is I will always highlight. I love when, like, all my friends who are coaches of this space, most people are just not eating enough, and they're not eating intentionally. And so, like, I just, like, want to highlight, yes, well, you can often eat more and lose weight, if that's the journey you want to go on, most people start eating enough or not eating the right things. But I love, you brought up, this a couple times, so let's just break it down. Identity, like the identity of the person. So it's like, it's beyond the why. It's like, who you want to be and what do they do, and then doing that now.Amy Ledin 33:59  Yes, it's totally around your Be It, it's like you need to write. I mean, it's like, we make our clients create a health character. What does she look like? What is she wearing? What does her daily routine look like? What's her fridge look like? What's her closet look like? What size is she wearing? Not that those matter, but they do to your brain to start to really see and paint the picture, because they've done too many studies in all these areas, whether it be, I mean, lottery winners, big, huge studies on why do almost 95% of them go bankrupt after we're talking like tens of millions of dollars if they win. Because, you know what, their identity is, still of a poor person. Right? So fat loss, 95% of people that lose it actually regain, it's already hard enough to lose it, so you work so hard to get there. So I don't, it's why that's such a big part of the component for our clients is the last thing I want to do is see you in two years from now, because you just got really good at disciplining yourself for a season. I want this to be who you are, and you got to commit to who that person is, and what does that look like for that person. You know what I mean?Lesley Logan 35:02  Yeah, yeah. So I think that's, it is totally Be It. It's just like, it's like, I want to start a business. Like, well, what does that person do with okay, the business is working. It's rolling. It's all the things you thought it would be like, how do they get up? What do they wear? What is their schedule like? What is that happening? And then, because you start to do the things or thinking like that. It makes it so much easier to step up the next thing, yeah, no, the macros thing like. Amy Ledin 35:25  It's not a threat. And look at it from a brain standpoint, your brain does not see it as a threat. It comes back to like, it's like the Sasha Fierce with Beyonce, like that was a create a character she created. My business character, I named her Amy Blakely. It's after Sarah Blakely. I pretend that I try to show up as her because I'm not as outgoing and as creative and fun and bubbly as Sarah. But when I create that character, my current self doesn't see it as a threat. If I just say I'm just playing this role, you know, I'm coming on the podcast, playing a role that helps me show up as my best self. Like I think a lot of us, like, forget that we have to, you know, we got to do it enough to become it, right?Lesley Logan 36:05  Yes, yes. Well, I think, like, so many people go, oh, this is like, I don't want to fake it till I make it. You're not because, like, I have found, you know, like, you have a bad, let's just say you have a bad night's sleep, but you have a presentation that day. You don't go and go, guys, I'm so tired, and give you a presentation. No, you step up to the person who could be the person who believes that does a presentation nine times out of 10. You actually feel better when the presentation is over, because you you are acting as if you're the person who was doing a great presentation and became that person. That is what's happening. Yes, yeah.Amy Ledin 36:38  And epigenetics shows us like, you know, if you follow Nicole LePera, I've got to give her credit, she's been doing these, what they call Future Self Journaling, where she believes that every day you should script out your day. We do a version of it in our community where I want them to even script out like their their day as a as their health character. And because of what we've seen in the brain is that the more that you wire that future of like it sure, it's not who you are yet, but it's who you want to be. Your brain actually doesn't see the difference, and they're now seeing that the brain wires that way. So if you're in your 40s, 50s or older, I always say if you have struggled with fat loss, and you are already at this age, you have a rewiring issue that you need to address. Because if 95, 91% of your thoughts every day are the same, statistics will show me, you will continue to come back to this old person that you say you are and talk about and believe in. So if you're trying to become like a business owner and become like owning a Pilates studio or whatever it may be, you have to start scripting. And the older you get, and I just say it's (inaudible). Lesley Logan 37:40  So like, do you just like script out like, 5 a.m. 6 a.m. or do you like go, I am so and so doing this, like, what does it look like?Amy Ledin 37:46  It's doing this, it's more of a behavior like you'll have an outline of, like, I, you know, as I wake up today, I effortlesly, you know, keep my small promises in the morning. And you might at first detail them out, because the whole point is to this doesn't change very often, your script stays the same because you're trying to work on an area of your life, like in therapy. It's like, if you're an overreactor, if you're struggling with worthiness, it's it's a daily thing, because you're trying to show that you can change who you are, and now epigenetics is proving it, which is positive. Because here's the thing, you may have been born into someone because now they're showing with epigenetics, like it's connected even in the womb. So that really was hard for me, because when I got pregnant with Leilani, I was in a really, you know, I it was broke up my family, you know, I'd had an affair. So my pregnancy came in a place where it was a very unwanted pregnancy, and I talked, probably very negatively to myself. Well, this next book that Nicola is coming out with talks all about how they're showing and so those children can actually already be born anxious and have like attachment styles based on just the way that you have talked. So at first I was like, man, what a depressing thing to hear. But her whole point is to teach us like we're all broken humans, like we've all come from some sort of crap. And so the power of this book was to teach us that our brain is actually the neuroplasticity and our ability to change. If you're an introvert, you can become an extrovert. If like you are, you know, you say you're one way, you really can actually change. And it's doesn't take long, you know, it's 50. It's kind of similar to habits. It's about that 60 day mark we're we've tested it out with clients. I've done beta testing, and now we make it a part of our program where for 60 days, I have to do this journaling, because I'm so tired of women grunting their way to reaching their goals. I want it to pull you. I want your identity to pull you to become that. And a lot of them are starting to go why is it suddenly feeling easier to meal prep stuff that I like my lazy self, you know, is always fighting. I'm like, because you're scripting about a new person, and your brain is just seeing that is the place I need to go. It's like, it doesn't even know the difference. It just thinks it needs to do it. So less resistance. So same thing with these habits. Try to find, you know, some connection to that identity, the way you write it because you want to have less resistance. You don't want to be like you know, otherwise you will try to use motivation to do it and it never is lasting. Lesley Logan 40:09  Motivation is this interesting thing that everyone thinks they need. Once I'm motivated, and it's like you just, and we'll talk about this in the habit series I've got coming out. Like motivation is one of the worst things you can it will help with something really hard. Like, if you have to do something that's really difficult, motivation is very helpful to, like, it's like the starter in the car. It only works to start the car, right? This is as far as my car metaphor is gonna go, because that's all I know about cars. And then it's like all the others. It's the gasoline. It's you putting the gas, putting your foot on the pedal, all that stuff. So but people think it's gonna, it's gonna show up every day. I cannot wait to be motivated to do anything. I would get nothing done. Nothing would none of the things I built would have have been built because of motivation. Amy Ledin 40:51  Yep, yep. And it's kind of aligned with willpower. I will say a book, I don't know if you've read it, but you would love it, and he'd be a great person to have on because I think he's a small author. It's called Willpower Doesn't Work, and it is a whole book on he's got studies in there, charts that show essentially that it is all about your environment. Like that is the key that most people it's it's everything, whether it be friendships, it be your actual physical environment, that that is way better than because willpower is finite, and like, you can't count on that. It's why, in the morning the cupcake is less tempting than, say, like, at night. So like, instead of, like, having the willpower of having that cupcake here all day, why is it at night? I want it. You need to see that your environment is more powerful. Hey, decision fatigue at the end of the night, I don't need to have things out that I'm already weak to or, anyways, you would just love it, because it's just made me stop shaming myself for stuff that I'm like, seriously, I need to change the environment. You know, I've even said to clients, the best time to really change a big habit, like a bad habit, like, I had a client, she's like, every night we sit on the couch, we eat a snack. I said, Hey, when's your next time you're out of town? Because having a break from your environment and then coming back into it is the best time to shift into a new habit. Now for the next several days, don't even sit on the couch like let your brain completely because it is all about connection and loops, you know, for most of us at this age.Lesley Logan 42:16  It's true. It's true. This year that I'm doing we talk about how to unravel a habit you don't like, and it's one of the things, and I'll dive deeper in the episode, but it's like, how what is the prompt that starts the sitting down on the couch? There is something that starts that, and if you don't know what that something is, you can get rid of your couch, and you're still gonna find something to sit on, because there's a prompt there. Amy Ledin 42:39  It's true. And yes, because it's it started earlier. I have a client right now that we've realized her overwhelm with work makes her go to any like, highly palette. It doesn't have to be chocolate chips. At first, she's like, it's the chocolate chips. I'm like, girl, no, tomorrow will be something different, but it's not about the pantry. I'm like, it starts earlier. And that you start to see failure in your day and overwhelm, and that loop is when I'm failing okay, this is kind of like my coping mechanism, you know, so much, and so it's interesting. I'm like, man, I feel like we're therapy one on one. But even in, you know, someone that wants to have a business, they're all parallel, all of it, because it's a personal development journey.Lesley Logan 43:18  Everything, whatever it is, like, that's why I like that identity and like you can see yourself in like different things. Anything that you want to do, and how it's like it, it we, it works the same. You, it's you have to prepare the environment. You have to know why you want to do it, and then you have to tell you have to believe that you can. And I think like because like you, you cannot shame yourself into something you want. It will not work. And you talk about, like, the clients, like, grit themselves to getting there, and then they're just be back in two years, because nothing changed, and they didn't become who they wanted to be on that journey. Oh my gosh. Okay. I mean, I, obviously, I could talk to you forever about this, because, like, this is just something I like to nerd about. But I just love that we think the same way on this, because it's really, it's really easy, I think, for people to, like, want to start 17 new things at the same time, or like, they, you know, and like, it's an I have to do it for an hour, and it's like, hold on, like, let's, you know, we got to adjust the timeline of what it is. And I really think, you know, making sure you know why you want to do it. The script thing is a really cool thing to add to it. I have to say, like, I kind of like the idea of like writing yourself a script for the day and how it's gonna go, that's a be it till you see it, and also, like a manifestation and a drawing in, I think that's really beautiful, Amy. Well, we're gonna take a quick break, and we're gonna find out where people can find you, follow you, work with you, and then we're gonna do your Be It Action Items. Amy Ledin 44:36  Okay. Lesley Logan 44:37  All right, Amy, where do you hang out? Where can they stalk you in the best way? Amy Ledin 44:42  I am, I'm on Instagram, you know, under amy_ledin if you are, like, still a Facebook person, though, I will say that is, like, where our business really lands. So it's under Lean Bodies Consulting. I post daily there, and then, you know, by the time this episode's out, my podcast, you know, which is called F* It! so you can find me there.Lesley Logan 45:00  I love your podcast. It's so great. I also want to say, like, I admire that you take pauses when you need to with it, because I think you are so good at podcasting. You're so wonderful at it. All of your episodes I've ever listened to are so good. And you're also allowed to be a human and take time for yourself. You have given us so much already, but you know how the show goes, we need Be It Action Items, bold, executable, intrinsic or target steps people can take to be it till they see it. I mean, the whole episode kind of was one, but anything you want to add or remind us.Amy Ledin 45:29  Well, you know what? I actually tied it to your acronym, to the DACs, and it's like, bold, one agreement that matters, like, pick one, like, maybe you need to start just with one. Executable is your E, you know, like, write it in real words, not vague. So be specific on what you're really shooting for. The intrinsic is link it to how you want to feel, not just like, how much you want to weigh, how much money. Like, how do you really want to feel there? What's the money? What's the scale going to give you? And then targeted, today, not someday. Like, be very specific.Lesley Logan 46:01  Oh, my God, that's brilliant. You're so good. I love it so much, you guys. I can't even wait to hear how this episode goes. It's just so fun to have you back and see what you're up to, and also just be reminded of, like, how powerful we all really are. Our minds are really powerful. And I love the science behind that. That book sounds amazing. I can't wait to read it. I'll have to have it on. You know what, before I go. And I'm gonna say this, because, in case anyone knows this person, I'm trying to get hold of them, there's a book called Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. And I'm gonna, I'm gonna do a little series on, like a self like, a week long series on self-love. Because everybody who talks about, I burnt out, I'm this. And the book the author, he says, You'll never burn out if you actually love yourself. Because if you truly loved yourself, you wouldn't say yes, when you mean no, you would actually, like take time for yourself. And that's so like, I think those two books sound like a nice little bookend, but also, like everything we're talking about here today, it's, it's all part of it, you know, it's all like holistic it's, we're not little compartments. So thank you for being you, Amy. You guys, make sure you check out her Instagram, her podcast, her Facebook. Tell her what your favorite takeaways are. You can tell me, I love it, but also tell her these words of affirmation are our love language also lets us know what your favorite parts are. Share this with a friend who needs to hear it. You know, it's actually kind of difficult to go through all these like 5 for 50 alone. Sometimes it's kind of nice to have some friends to do it with, or your kiddos to do it with. And until next time, Be It Till You See It.Lesley Logan 47:27  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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