Latter-day Saints Dealing With Pornography in Marriage

Are you feeling exhausted just thinking about setting New Year's goals? You're not alone. In this episode, Danny dives deep into why traditional goal-setting feels so heavy — especially for high-achievers like doctors and dads who are already carrying a massive load. He offers simple, practical shifts to help you rethink goals so they give you life instead of draining it. If you're tired of the hustle and want to start the year with energy, connection, and peace, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to focus on small, sustainable shifts that lead to long-term transformation along with net energy gains.START WITH THIS: (FREE MINI-COURSE) 5 DAYS TO UNWIND: STRESS REDUCTION FOR DYNAMIC DOCTOR DADS (click here)Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach who helps Doctor-Dads Dealing With: burnout, stress, trauma, unwanted habits, and/or strained relationships To heal, sustain, enrich, and maintain a high level of performance in ALL areas of your life (and change unwanted habits), WITHOUT adding more hustle/exhaustion to the equation. Danny also has years of experience helping guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He originally created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Bryan tells us how he uses Life Coaching vehicle to go from:exhausted, worn out, depressedtoEmpowered, feelings-literate, kinder to self, more positive home-life/relationships, looking forward to things more, healing his mindHe says he looks forward to coaching calls, gains more energy and efficiency in life by taking time to do it, and says"Coaching on the mindset around dread/procrastination of doing patient charts affected 5 other areas of my life that week too."Tune in to get inspired by what Bryan created for himself.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of neuroplasticity—the brain's remarkable ability to change and adapt. Join life coach Danny Poelman as he shares personal insights and scientific research on how believing in your brain's capacity for change can help you break free from old habits, heal from trauma, and achieve your goals. Tune in for 5 actionable steps to start rewiring your mind today.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this inspiring episode, Danny Poelman sits down with Art Hock, a former client turned thriving coach, who shares his incredible journey of overcoming deep-rooted habits and finding true empowerment. Art opens up about his struggles with people-pleasing and a phone sex addiction, amongst other things. At first, he wasn't sure Danny would work well with a "gay man." Art realized quickly after a discovery Zoom call, that Danny absolutely has room for all of him. Through the coaching process, Art was able to completely transform his mindset, embrace his authentic self, and reignite his passion for life. Tune in to discover how you can tackle your own unwanted habits and step into a future filled with power, clarity, and fearlessness. This is an episode you don't want to miss!- if you're interested in Art as a career coach, whether or not you're an academic, email him at apattonh@gmail.com and say you heard him on Danny's podcast and want to learn more- if you're curious to learn more about Art as a career coach for academics, check out https://arthurpattonhock.com/START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Lessons from Camren Harris's story.Rather than only focus on changing porn habit, Camren found it helpful to say, "Let's build Camren into who he wants to be." And that's what took care of the porn habit.Rather than focus on trying to find the "right" way, find what works for Camren.How he turned an unwanted habit from a "monster" to "an ant I can flick off my shoulder."How he saved his marriage.Camren is a Mindset Coach for Young Professionals, find him on Instagram: @camrenharrisSTART WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this insightful episode, we delve into the often complicated relationship with money. Discover how familiar patterns from other areas of life can simplify your financial journey, the profound impact of belief on financial success, and the detrimental effects of self-deprecation. We challenge the myth that making money has to be a grind and discuss the importance of self-forgiveness in achieving financial freedom. Learn practical steps to cultivate a healthy and empowering money mindset. Tune in and start transforming your financial life today!START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

In this episode, host Danny Poelman explores the critical connection between feeling safe around money and achieving financial success.Learn how your thoughts and feelings about money impact your financial results and discover practical strategies to reduce money-related stress. Danny shares effective exercises to reprogram your brain for financial abundance and build a positive, empowering relationship with money.

To change a habit, you need to optimize learning in your brain.To optimize you need to stop bringing so much heaviness, shame, and self-judgment and start bringing more fun and playfulness.Danny is giving you permission to have fun while learning to do life porn-free. Even though you already had it.A few ChatGPT jokes about quitting a porn habit.Common ways seen with clients that make it not fun.Practices/strategies to make it more fun starting now.Listen to full episode now. And click below now for access to this high-value, high-impact free video training.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Don't be so afraid of getting stuck in wallowing, or victim-mode, that you stay even more stuck avoiding your feelings, or wounds.The world has trained many of us to avoid feeling our uncomfortable feelings. To think something has gone wrong if negative feelings are there for “too long.”As if there is some “right” or “wrong” way to do feelings.There is no right or wrong way to do feelings.We're going to talk about real concepts that come up regularly with real clients, that are common stumbling blocks for people wanting to train their brain out of a porn habit.And how you might be so concerned with not being stuck as a victim (or stuck in wallowing), that you actually might be staying stuck longer. Doing it the slower way.How to not stay stuck. How to address the real issues within you more powerfully and efficiently.Listen to full episode now. And click below now for access to this high-value, high-impact free video training.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

When you know the real actual problem, you can address the real actual issue, which will allow you to create real, actual, lasting change. This is a sneak peek into Danny's new Free Video Training that he created for YOU. The Fearless Freedom From Pornography Training: How to Achieve Ultimate Victory Over Porn.Porn is not the actual problem in an unwanted porn habit. In the training, Danny goes through the 6 Real Actual Problems behind an unwanted porn habit. In this podcast episode, Danny goes through 2 of those Real Actual Problems.Listen to full episode now. And click below now for access to this high-value, high-impact free video training.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

Hear how Mike Beatty 10x-ed his results compared to previous coaches/therapists/methods he had tried. Live interview with past client.Learn from what worked and didn't' work for Mike. How he created tremendous new success.START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.

How to Release Worry & Achieve Goals More Powerfully (with an Exercise You Can Try while reading)Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Ready to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation by clicking here: Work With Me

Discover practical mindset shifts to reduce pornography cravings and hear Michael's inspiring journey of breaking free from the habit for good. Whether you're struggling yourself or curious about the topic, this episode offers valuable insights and real-life client examples for lasting change. Tune in now to explore some empowering new mindset shifts and reclaim control over your impulses.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Masterclass (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

If you failed recently in your effort to quit a porn habit, and you're telling yourself “Nothing I do will make a difference.” “What I do won't matter anyway.” Then you need to listen to this podcast episode now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.START WITH THIS: Access Free Masterclass (click here) Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

So much of unwanted porn use has to do with escaping feelings. But which feelings?The difference between emotions and an actual stress response.Emotions vs. Physical SensationsTrauma vs Stress ResponseHealing/Processing From Trauma HappensThe 4 F's and How Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Might Show Up For You4 F's Sometimes Helpful and Sometimes Not.Some of the less helpful ways stress responses show up.How to implement this information.How to Apply This Information to an unwanted Porn Habit.Next steps.Oh, and by the way, More Love is never a bad option. Spread the love.Listen to full episode now wherever you get podcasts.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

The following topics help to understand Why Your Brain Overdesires Pornography:-Motivational triad-Upper brain and lower brain-False pleasures vs. natural pleasuresWhy it's important to use upper brain more skillfully for decisions around false pleasures (like pornography).2. If you find yourself in a hurry with your goals to quit porn for good, it probably means 1 of 2 things. And is this really helping?3. What I tell clients is that you don't have a “porn problem” you have a thought problem. How to avoid the unhelpful trap of searching for the “right,” or “correct,” way of thinking.Click link in bio now to listen to full episode number 51.Listen to full episode now wherever you get podcasts.Podcast Title: How to Stop Looking at Porn and Win Back Your Freedom, with Danny PoelmanDanny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

If you stopped measuring your progress toward quitting porn for good based on when you last looked at porn, what would you measure instead?In today's episode, we discuss an example of a process that will help you to:-measure progress more accurately-learn more effectively-accelerate your progress (toward quitting a porn habit for good)Example from a real client session.How to go from shame, self-judgment, and self-punishment to self-compassion, curiosity, science.What questions to ask yourself.What kinds of things to measure.Some pro tips to help you in this process.Tune in now to get the scoop.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

To experience more love, freedom, and empowerment, listen to this episode.If you are not into those things (love/freedom/empowerment), tune out now. This episode is not for you.Reminder: Steer clear of teachers who say they know better for you than you and who foster a continual dependence on them to know what's best for you.We are talking real client examples today.What kind of self-talk actually helps you to reach your goals?What to do when people around you talk to you in unhelpful ways for you to reach your goals (including 3 specific strategies).You deserve to be spoken to, by yourself and others, in a way that starts from a place of worthiness, love, empowerment, belief.Start speaking to yourself the way you deserve NOW. And give yourself grace as you practice, of course.You are WORTH IT.Questions to answer for yourself:-What kind of self-talk is getting in the way of you learning to do life porn-free? (Watch out for shame-producing thoughts)-What kind of self-talk actually helps you to learn, progress, and grow?-Which people that you are around, make it easier to have the self-talk you want to have with yourself after being around them?-Which people make it harder? (Even if you'd least expect it, blind spots)Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com

After listening to this episode, you will know better:-what is creating your current unwanted results-what it takes to create new/wanted results-the difference between the Automatic brain vs. the intellectual part of your brain, with a wild stallion analogy to make it clear-How to make sure your actually retraining your automatic brain and not just playing around in intellectual landTune in now and listen to full episode.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

This week's episode gets more specific about what it is that makes coaching work (to give you ideas what you can aim for even if you don't plan to hire a coach).Also, I'm betting more of you will want to hire a coach after hearing this.And we dive into a client example to demonstrate a more effective way of managing thoughts around masturbating to porn.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Sharing client success stories, including a client saying "Nothing works quite as well as this." And trying to make it more clear what "THIS" actually is.Some of Danny's philosophies on coaching that he uses because it just works.A yoga analogy to describe what it takes to go through a process that works.No matter how long you've had a porn habit, or how old you are, it is never too late to change your brain. Examples of this.People often overestimate what they can accomplish from a few sessions of practice and underestimate what they will accomplish if they keep showing up to practice regularly for 1, 3, or 6 months. The results can be shocking.Are you doing more consuming of awesome information or applying (acting on) of awesome information? Why this question is crucial.Why this coaching process really shines when it comes to acting on/implementing awesome information into your life in a sustainable way.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Real client example today.He thought the problem was that he just "really finds naked women attractive to look at."I asked him why.His response revealed 4 things that are the real issues. Once we address these 4 things, suddenly it's no longer a problem that he finds naked women attractive to look at.Quitting porn for good in a sex-positive way means we don't make it a problem that we are sexual beings, with sexual ideas/thoughts/feelings along the way. Instead, we reprogram our brains to reduce desire for viewing these pixels on a screen. All while embracing our sexuality in a way that allows us to feel great about ourselves.Because the truth is, you are already whole and complete, as you are. You are already worthy. Let's just learn to use your brain in a more skillful way that allows you to live life in line with your values.Tune in to today's episode now to learn some new skills for retraining your own brain.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

“One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity.” -Bruce Lee“Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.” -Antoine de Sainte Exulpery, Pioneer of international postal flight, and author of Le Petit Prince (the little prince)“It is vain to do with more what can be done with less.” - William of Occam, originator of Occam's razorA lot of the guys who come to me for help, are smart, driven guys. They try hard. laziness is not their problem. A lot of them are very productive guys, or at least strive for productivity.The hustle and the value of productivity aren't bad, but the way they are expressed can get in the way of you learning to quit porn for good.Remember, it's not a porn problem, but a mind management problem.Don't try to solve your porn problem by starting with eliminating pleasure and self-care. It doesn't work.Busy-ness is one of the best things to start by eliminating.Watch out for time-filling, in the name of productivity.Become results focused. Learn to eliminate any time fillers that are doing nothing to create the results you want.Learn to say no to others and treat that time you spend with yourself working on this as sacred. Your most important relationship is with yourself.You may need to say no to spending your money on something, in order to direct it toward investing in the help that gets you the results you want.What can you eliminate from your life, in a way that both simplifies, and enhances your ability to create the changes/results you want?Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

One of the lessons being that quitting a porn habit doesn't have to be a big, hard, dark, serious thing.It can actually be fun, easy, light, humorous and completely doable.Tune into the How to Stop Looking at Porn podcast, with Danny Poelman, now to hear what other lessons were uncovered in this real life coaching session.Available wherever you get your podcasts.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

To make decisions powerfully (which is required to learn to quit porn for good), understanding these 4 parts of you that come up in decision-making will make all the difference.We are talking about these 4 parts:-Lower brain-Upper brain-Intuition (body)-Consciousness (you), awareness, power to exercise agency, or willWhen you understand the strengths and weaknesses of the parts of your brain, and learn to become aware of which parts are doing what, you will be enabled to make decisions even more powerfully.Listen to the full episode now (wherever you get your podcasts) and access more power within you right away.

Most people trying to quit a pornography habit for good do it by trying to avoid situations where they may have access to porn or be triggered to have urges to view it.It's time to understand why you should go toward those triggers (and access) for pornography. But only if you want to experience true freedom from this thing called "pornography."Tune in to this episode now to learn more.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

How do you approach a problem if you don't believe there is a solution to it?How to recognize this mentality and the different forms it might show up in.Why Voldemort wanted the Horcruxes to remain a secret.Addressing the roots of the weed rather than just continually cutting the top off, only to find it growing back again and again.What happens when we really clear out these limiting beliefs and lean into believing a solution exists, and staying engaged with solving it.The solution is more readily available than you think it is. Is more doable, more easy, more fun, and more energizing than you might realize.How to identify clear next steps for you to implement a powerful mindset shift, leading to actual solutions.Your KNOWING is the key.The solution is available now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

What chains are we breaking today?The message “I'm bad.” Where does this come from? Does it help to think this way?What helps create forward movement for you?In this episode, I'm talking about a message that, if you are like a lot of us, you have probably internalized (whether on purpose or not).And it just might be holding you back.A couple client examples of transformation/possibility.Some personal experiences of mine.An invitation for you to up level your life in this way, using this lesson, starting today.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Many of us have learned that more shame and self-punishment is what is required to create more power/motivation to change our habits.The truth is, less shame helps us to access even more power/motivation to change our habits.Why do we do this?How do we start picking up on our unconscious patterns?How do we make it easier to access more of your already-existing power to change your habits sustainably. In a way that lasts.Also, Danny vs. A.I.. Danny shares a secret about his new book release, what it took to make it, and something surprising he learned about the advice A.I. has for quitting a porn habit for good.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

I teach guys powerful, useable, practical, hands-on tools for managing their mind.Some of those tools include:-Thought Work-the Self-Coaching Model-Impulse ShiftingWhy is managing your mind important?Because thoughts create results.A lot of my clients first learn about these powerful mind-management tools because they have a porn habit that they want to quit, once and for all - FOR GOOD.So they practice with the mind-management tools and see that it helps (very effectively) with their initial problem.Sometimes, they begin to attach the “need” for using these tools to whether or not they looked at porn recently.This can be problematic. Why?For a few reasons that we are discussing in this episode. Tune in now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Past client updates me, saying:“I am very satisfied with the progress I've made and continue to make. Urges are way down, short lived, and manageable.”Why can habitual behavior around porn feel so automatic?Your lower brain wants to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and be energy efficient.One of the ways your lower brain is energy efficient is by automating patterns that bring you a big dopamine hit (pleasure).It does this by skipping steps for you, and by repeating patterns it has already practiced a lot.Until you have rewired your brain to the point that your porn habit patterns have faded completely, if left unguided, your lower brain will drift toward porn a percentage of the time.It's important to guide your lower brain with your upper brain (prefrontal cortex) when it comes to decisions about porn.Also, tracing back when the decision to look at porn actually occurred, will clarify your power, and give you more power to change your patterns going forward.Listen to this podcast now to learn how to start doing this.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Common ways we have learned to interact with feelings that make it harder to quit a porn habit.The difference between avoiding, resisting, and reacting to emotions.What it means to allow and process a feeling (a skill required to sustainably quit pornography).How to start identifying some of your less helpful patterns around feeling your feelings/urges.Some questions to help you start identifying your learned patterns.Sample thoughts that are helpful to think while feeling your feelings.Signs you are resisting and urge vs allowing.Along with some other favorite/recommended tools and resources.Allowing and processing feelings/urges is something you can do.This is a built in capability that has been trained out of us.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Did you know people hire Danny for General Life Coaching? Not just for quitting pornography?Bruce is a high-achieving, successful, powerful guy in many ways, but was feeling disempowered when it came to relationships, creating space for himself, having boundaries, and saying “no” to loved ones.He shares some of his journey to becoming more empowered in his approach to relationships. He now does it in a way that allows him to feel free and to live life on his terms AND benefit those he loves at the same time.“I'm living the life that I want,” he says.And he's here to share with you some of the wisdom he learned along the way, as well as inspire you with the new results he has created for himself.We touch on the benefits of General Life Coaching.As well as the difference between therapy and coaching (Bruce has been using both at the same time).Why Bruce now is training to become a life coach himself.And why he keeps hiring Danny to help him along the way to his goals.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Instead of the typical self-judgment many guys use when interacting with one of their urges for viewing porn, try this more neutral approach. A concept called "sexual relevance."Also, a real client example of someone learning to interact with their urges in a more empowering way. A way that actually allows for change and retraining his brain to not want porn.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Ben, who is single and an entrepreneur, shares with us how he went from:-a porn habit-some hangups about his past-shame-fear-lack of confidenceTOTotal self-control with PornHealing his pastReleasing shame and fearConfidence in all aspects of his lifeMaking life so good that porn becomes irrelevantOur hope is that Ben's story will inspire you to set your sights high, and never give up on your goals that you believe, or hope, are possible for you. Helping you to create an authentic drive to move forward toward your next steps of creating a porn-free life for you.Ben shares some of the things that helped him to experience breakthroughs every single week we had a call together, and many more breakthroughs in the year since we stopped working together, including doubling his salary in his business.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With MeWebsite: https://www.dannypoelman.com 

Danny's pissed today. But it's a Love-Anger. He's glad to be angry about this.Stop slowing your success with this limiting belief. Stop creating unnecessary suffering for yourself.A more efficient way.You deserve better.More ease with success is allowed.Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, Danny discusses common pitfalls guys run into with the way they are directing their willpower energy when it comes to quitting a porn habit. He covers topics such as:-over-reliance on external locus of control-inefficient uses of willpower energy when focusing on your internal locus of control-willpower is a limited resource-if not all toward fighting directly against the urges/cravings, where to direct your willpower energyAnd he even gives you a strategy you can start experimenting with that will not only conserve more willpower energy for those times you really need it, but also improve the quality of your day to day life in general. Leaving you with more energy to focus on the things you love.Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, Danny interviews past client, Justin Mathews. Justin shares how he went from "stuck" every day to living life porn free and totally in control. It hasn't only helped him leave a porn habit behind, but has transformed him in other areas of his life as well. Even his friends and family have said, "there's something different about you." Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives, and who know deep down there's something "more" for them if they just learn the skill of doing life porn free.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny shares a client win in his chain breaker program as well as methods and lessons he's learned and used to move forward from being results driven, to process driven for a more sustainable path to healing and growth. Listen to the full episode now!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, host Danny Poelman talks about absolute expectations and letting go of the How Hungry mentality. He talks about the benefits of finding a system that works for you when trying to reach and goal, and staying committed to the process instead of the outcome. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, Lindsay Poelman, life coach that focuses on trauma informed coaching methods, dealing with pornography from a woman's perspective, feminism for Christians, and Danny's wife talks about her story and perspective of learning and growing from Danny's porn use. She talks about self advocacy, understanding accountability, and most importantly, showing up for yourself and your partner with grace.Listen to the full episode to learn more and share with someone you think may benefit from this information. Learn more about Lindsay and her work by checking out her website and instagram.Website: https://www.lindsaypoelmancoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsaypoelmancoaching/ Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares wins, successes, and lessons learned from his clients, along with methods and strategies to find the best path of healing for you. He also talks about the need to slow down to move forward and speed up the healing process and what that means and is required from you.  Listen to the full episode now.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

You are worth not giving up on. I hope that this story about the impossible inspires you to do the impossible things. Listen to the full episode to learn more.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares 3 inspiring real life stories of guys you might be able to relate to who felt stuck and were looking for ways to empower themselves or change their habits. His discusses honesty, vulnerability, how to consciously choose, why it's important to prioritizing your health and well being, and dispel shame about pornography.It's ok to be not ok and knowing that you are enough is one of the key pillars in growth and and healing. This is something many of his clients realized and talk about when discussing their personal journeys.Listen to the full episode to learn more.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his group coaching calls with his clients. He celebrates the wins, shares the difficulties that came up, and proves that companionship in your growth journey can be a powerful tool for change. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his coaching calls with his clients. He discusses the importance of committing with freedom, with choice, without fear. He talks about the importance of recognizing why it is you feel bad when you watch porn and how to work around those negative emotions. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode your host Danny Poelman, talks about the lessons he's learned from his new dog about quitting porn and fighting urges. When we are first learning to quit porn, or anything really, like unhealthy food habits, or alcohol, etc. we give in to our urges. It is our lower brain that pushes us to follow through with those urges. We need to be better about activating our upper brain and being in control of those urges. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman discusses the importance of decision making and why deciding when you will make a commitment is imperative to the success of your journey. The brain uses up a lot of energy just thinking about what decision it needs to make, and by pondering on your commitment to change for too long you may fatigue your brain. Listen to the full episode to learn more about why making a commitment to yourself in a timely manner is helpful to your overall journey and how you can start integrating this into your practice. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, your host Danny Poelman talks about the chain breaker process, his new group coaching program, and how that has helped the people who joined. Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode Danny Poelman shares lessons learned from his client Ben, and the successes he has experienced. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work.Listen to the full episode to learn more!Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me

In this episode, Danny Poelman talks about the feelings and thoughts we may experience after watching porn during our healing journey. He breaks down myths about progress being linear, gives actionable advice to continue sustainable progress, and how to adjust your thoughts and confidence during this time. Listen to the full episode to hear Danny break these concepts down even further and help you get on the road to sustainable habit change.Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this podcast to help those who are struggling with porn in their marriage and lives.Check out Danny's Instagram here: @dannypoelmancoachingReady to work with Danny? Schedule a free consultation here: Work With Me